Everything boils down to what we truly want in life and we need to appreciate others for choosing a way of life that suits them. Our mind creates a gratifying illusion of our memories from the past, so we need to keep realistic expectations of how our life is going to be after the move :) I saw a comment in which it was mentioned that relatives are not immortal. This cracked me up because, elderly people would have been gone, but siblings and cousins of our age will still be there in our old age. Moreover, isn't the fact that nobody is immortal the reason why we need to make the most of our time with them, rather than saying nobody is going to live forever? Coming to the part where kids future is important and being so selflessly striving for them, as the generations progress, the amount of responsibility kids take up towards their parents declines in the name of individuality. Our parents did more to their parents than what we are doing to our parents now and the same situation occurs in the future to us. If we sacrifice all of our simple pleasures, when we get older we will be left with a bag full of regrets. When we are not emotionally connected to family, we should not also expect our kids to move mountains for us in the future :) I know life in India is not easy, especially without good savings and security issues are a concern for everyone. If you can afford to live in a good community and be a little extra cautious then life in India will be more fulfilling than what you get abroad.
Thanks brother. l am living in Australia since 19 years and decided to move back very soon. Happen to watch this video and little dilemmas are vanished and you have boosted my confidence that I made a right decision.
Thanks appreciate it, I am just sharing my feelings but I am indebted to many people who supported me through this journey. I am just trying to make it easy for other folks if possible 🙏
Hello mr sashi kanth. Since you mentioned au, what did you decide to come back? Currently going through the same dilemma though I haven’t lived in au for that long.
As an Indian living in the US, this boils down to what you said at the start the sense of belonging. India is good if you have the social network and connections along with the financial support. If you don't have those then you tend to immigrate. This is seen throughout the history of humans. My family left India when our financial and family situation got worse. My dad still has a sense of belonging to India but he can't justify his belonging after being mistreated by his family in India. I think if the financial situation was better my dad would have never agreed to move to the USA. My perspective I never had a strong connection with family so I would have left India regardless. I do finally feel a sense of belonging in the USA now after few years of acclimation.
That is another reality . I see many ppl taking the same . Especially in india family - middle class , over a period of time ppl especially relative try to talk nonsense esp for those who r making less and sad part is it’s starts from our immediate family members with lame comparison and that is why also many ppl think money and relationships goes hand in hand . If u have money ppl wil salute u in india otherwise no matter how good r u with family and friends u r nothing . That’s my opinion
@@deepikasharma1704 I will agree with your statement that money plays a huge role in Indian status. I also believe your upbringing dictates a lot about the union of the family members. In India I think people don't necessarily understand what is morally right and wrong. For example, some people cheat others but they get away with it under the guise of this is the Indian way or this person is of high status,... Lastly, people in India devalue the essence of a neighbor or person or brother. There is a lack of empathy with most of the people or people with power. My family was on the receiving end of this reality in India. For 15 years before leaving India.
Here in the US.. empathy plays a huge role in society. People are taught to respect people. Everyone is treated with respect and equally. There are social pressures to maintain this decorum which is severely lacking in India.
@@nealrutgerskid you are so true . Not many ppl think on the same lines. In today world also , I feel our parents and families are conditioned in such a manner that they feel what they have seen in their days is right or what they did right is good for evryone . They just want to impose . It’s happens in many Indian families . I so many times tell my parents and in-laws so that at least they get the reality check and do not act wierd . I see them also comparing 2 ppl life which is not good . That creates problems amongst sibling when they grown and start loving independently . Relationships get changed no matter how strong the blood is 😊. That’s the irony of life. Hope today generations parents change their mind and not do the same mistake which our parents or their parents have done acted like a dictator .
Hats off to you taking such a bold decision. I believe money is important be it India or any other country but life is precious and people around you’re for certain time.
What I would say is when you are young like 23 24 move outside and stay for like 15 to 20 years make some money then move back to India when U have enough savings to buy nice house car and stuff in India and just save enough to retire soon.. then start exploring and enjoying Ur life.. instead of working working working in India for 60 years then U don't have energy to explore or enjoy since half of energy U will lose in traffic and pollution.. this is my honest opinion to young people out there.. and this is what we are doing..we visit our family 2 times in a year since we live in Australia so they or we don't miss each other a lot🤗
i think infrastructure is the biggest factor. In US, if you plan to go to point A to B within certain frame, you will certainly make it. But social life is completely gone. Everybody is working their butt off to make thing going. I completely agree USA or any European country personal life is mess.
Very well said! especially, 'Let's make India great'. We need to speak proudly about our nation at home for our kids to imbibe that little bit of patriotism, at least. And, Bharat Desh is progressing big time.
India is in the growing stage now esp form The last 10-12 years . If anyone thinks they get better their and they r going to. Be happy they should go back . But make sure they they should be financially sound as when. Immigrants go back , they will start comparing the life again . So if not the best they would be able to better lifestyle and hat ever they missed out in america while making america dreams 😊
I feel it’s hard for ppl these to be satisfied at any stage of life , no matter what they achieve they still want to achieve more, we should learn to be feel content . If we are contended we will tend to have a good personality and eventually our destiny/goals/life/self esteem is good to be the best and we would never be in the stage to compare or go in the rat race .
Thank you for this , I am a fresh Dentist and was just so fascinated by everything moving abroad it's overwhelming this perspective was much needed..very few videos are this genuine
Purvi the happiness of service is true happiness the more u give more u get..... It is not money always that's what life teaches at the very end... Serve with what u know and life will b well lived.... V require ur service much more so serve the nation irrespective of what hardships r thr ur father nd thr fathers have done that and the nation has bestowed education so that it is useful for its citizens the not so prevailaged.. So rise nd do what u can that's essential........ Everyone requires a ur hands of deed so never hold it back
I must say Sir this was a direct and emotional appeal. I was struck by your honesty. It was important for me to hear this. Leaving US is more difficult decision. And I admire your clarity.
Hi, I have worked in USA and UK as software engineer and finally got my Australian PR and settled in Melbourne. If you are an extremely social person/couple who cannot live without family/friends in India, then go to India … there are high paying jobs now and you will live a good life. Me on the other hand love living abroad cause of freedom, cars that I drive, the houses we live in, fresh air and good infrastructure. But I guess I will move to India later on in life because of Amazing healthcare in India (yes, I mean it). And because of aging parents, we have to move to support them.
Living in US for last 12 years I echo what you are saying. A bit correction - You mentioned schools are free in US. Its not the case always, if one buys a house in US he needs to pay $900 per month as School taxes. Moreover kids do not have luxury of going for swimming, martial arts, sports etc without shelling $250 per month for just 8 classes. I remember while in Kendriya Vidyalaya I used to go for region level debates, extempore, youth parliament, science exhibitions etc. But here its rare to find public schools with such facilities. Anyway God bless you for such video, bottom line is in your statement "Let's make India a better place than anywhere else" . Jai Hind
I am from KV in India and have been in US for 34 years. India is not what it was when I grew up. My understanding of politics and freedom prevents me from living in other parts of the world. The whole world was like a concentration camp during Covid-19 and I was traveling and eventually moved from MI to FL.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 I feel Indian cities are far better than Many parts of USA except New York, Washington. Reasons 1) everything affordable in india 2) good medical care 3) salaries are pretty high in india than in America (comparing PPP) 4) INDIA is changing to tech and Pharma industries due to IITs/IISER/IISC. 5) peaceful life (no struggle of immigration process) 6) Now a days Indian Universities are doing phenomenal in research. IISC bags no.2 rank in Citation ratio. Right now , I'm in Florida Going back to India this June and serve as an assistant professor in IIT Tirupati.
Hi Arvind ji , I haven’t taken down any post. Please feel free to share your views. We are all adults here and as long as we are sharing views respectfully no issues at all. We can learn from each other 🙏
I live here in USA and yes, I sometimes think about moving back to India. But air, water and food quality is much more better here in USA. Your video was informative . Thanks.
Hey Pawan, the most important topic to touch upon (which is often ignored) is the impact on mental health due to the weather and light. Issues like anxiety and depression which take a toll on a lot of people.
Thanks Raghu, appreciate your comments and suggestions. I completely agree about anxiety and depression are often ignored. I will cover them in future videos.
That's a great video. We are living in the US for the last 5 years and planning to go back to India in the next couple of years. However, I feel that the US H1B visa (and later Green Card) is quicksand and the more you stay here, the more you drown in this, and it becomes more and more difficult to come out of it. If you can share your entire process of moving from the US back to India, that would certainly help people like me who are planning to move back. Thanks again for this video and god bless you!
@@no-oneknows9236, Yeah, that's what I mentioned in my comment - "If you can share your entire process of moving from the US back to India (step-by-step), that would certainly help people like me. So, what I am requesting here is, if you can create an Excel sheet where you put every step (like a To-Do list) that one can go on checking as one moves forward, that would be of so much help to us. Thanks in advance buddy!
After listening your speech, I can analyse few things about you 1. You can not live without neighbors/realtives/belongings. 2. You do not prefer to live within boundaries. In US, they make you live with rules, however in India, you get more freedom. This is what you like.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 lol. In LA there is more shit than many indian cities. And second highest slum after Mumbai. In india some states are backwards like up, bihar etc. Bt u can't troll all states and cities for that same reason.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 u said Susu on road side. Bt in LA also people do shit and Susu on footpaths. And in usa more crimes happen than india. In india most people kill people on the name of Revenge. In usa many gun crimes especially are done just as a fun. So there is no way there is more freedom in usa than india. In india there is no freedom to speak against businessman, politician and celebrities due to vip culture.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 ur saying most indians live in safe areas of usa. Bt in usa most crimes are happening against indians than any countries' immigrants. U can check data also. If they live in safe areas how most indians get killed by Americans.in usa Indians face most racism than any community.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 lol. Google is saying. Most crimes happen against indians. Just check gun crimes. Indian Immigrants get killed most. And indians don't go there for education. They go for nationality and lifestyle. That's why there are zero "indian immigrants"(not indians) who won nobels. The Indian immigrants who won nobel they completed their basic education in india. Only PhD done in usa. Even in sports and movies also there are no indians. Only one indian won Oscar till now that is shyamlan. And in Olympic also zero indians won Olympic. Indians becoming ceo. Bt when it comes to business. There are zero indian businessman in Forbes billions dollar buisness list. Ya in motel, restaurant and retail indians are there. Bt those business are not scalable nor creative. And hence rarely there are any community who support hate and violance against indians there. Cuz Indians are doing nothing there except doing jobs unlike asian, Latin, afrikan, Jewish, Italian, middle east immigrants.
Folks living in india is not as glorified as it is made to appear especially in metro cities . I live in Bsngalore . House help is becoming increasingly difficult resource. Because of dust and other living style we are extremely dependent on them. They frustrate you to no end beciz of lack of sincerity and commitment. As far as social life goes I feel people in USA have better social life than in Indian metro cities . Poor traffic laws , clogged roads and poor infrastructure restricts you severely. Neighbours hardly know each other or interact with each other. So , guys do your homework before you decide to come back. Don't put your kids into trouble . If they have citizenship you would definitely want them to go back for higher education when the whole india is flocking there . Your relatives here are not immortal. You will be left lonely in old age while your kids wd have gone back. Don't mess up your kids life . This I am speaking out of my siblings experience, who moved to USA 3 decades back . Some came back , some came and went back and one person is on her way back to UK becoz now her only child is going to UK for studies. Your social life in jndia and your relatives here are not permanent fixture but your kids are .
And the worst is that kids are not independent like here. Terrified to send them out at night. No decent public transport in most places for them to independently hang out and socialise. If you have kids, please do your homework.
All the N.R.I. have always one famous song on their lips sung by late Kishore Da KUCH PAKAR KHONA HAI KUCH KHOKAR PANA HAI JEEVAN KA MATLAB HAI AANA OURJANA HAI .
My Friend, What you need is to raise your consciousness. Every place in the world will be a heaven if you are blissful inside. Just like your username, if you know "one" and live as no one, you will "be" there. That being said, Indians have it hard due to visa uncertainties in the US and missing family / events due to that is is not worth it. For ingraining cultural and family values in kids and for being with relatives and family, its worth it. We cannot compare two different lands, both have their +ves and -ves, In America enjoy the American freedom, In India enjoy the Indian culture. No matter where you go, your contentment is from inner peace not from external circumstances after a certain base line that human being needs to thrive.
I really liked your video ….yours views and opinions are honest very true observation you have said and that Kids point you have highlighted is very true and its really happening its too late for parents in later stage once kids grow they are American fully Americans totally lost pride and sense of belonging to India and than we call them ABCD ….unfortunately not everyone will understand it and really its depends on each and every person situation and their thinking …..I see lots of People from India who were doing great in India has moved to America just for Comfort and greed to earn more money …I am saying people who were Doctors ,engineer,Scientist and name it who can earn in India very high Incomes they still has came to America just because they hate India ….its all depends on persons mindset
I have observed most of the people who move back after 10-20 year , you made enough savings. At this point, it's easy to say all this. You crossed 40 or close to that and now if you want to have an easy life, just move back to India. I completely support your strategy.
Thanks , but to be honest with you saving numbers keep changing like date to return to India .. It is n+1 syndrome. When I moved to USA I was just looking to save 10 lacs down payment for flat in Mumbai. Few of my friends have magical number of saving 10cr before moving back to India and they are no way close to it and neither I am :D
My husband nd me nt interested to send my sons abroad in the pretext of career building In my opinion if u r debt free nd healthy then u r the most happiest man in this world.
This is what I want, No Indian Festivals, Away from judgemental Indians, Cool life without kalesh and corruption. People here dont know how to respect others. Tried so many times going abroad and will keep trying
I am in a weird situation. I left india when I was 10 so I always think about india but grew up here. You are right about the $$ factor and career that in USA one thing and only one thing people all over the world move here because of money and career and better opportunities . You can take that away from here. Parents left because there were more opportunities. I think Yes it's the people who make a life here but as they get older they feel lonely here. However, India has changed a lot. I assume that old cities are the same india but main cities they are like here. People are westernized I feel and they are trying to be western. The point of view you are giving is for people like us , who were able to afford to come here. A average struggling indian will come here to make a better life. Another issue is that if you are in USA for a long time, relatives there don't connect with you that much and same with you, unless you try to be in each other lives.
I agree with you that in metro cities the westernization started decades ago. Unless one is living under a rock one clearly see people moving and independent and nuclea4 families and western life style is here to stay. Of course despite this change we do have family values and connections. Individual situations vary but big city issues in India are more challenging than what you see abroad unless you are someone lucky to earn in big city and have a family home in small town. Cost of living is going up everywhere - the days of Rs 20 Chai are gone years ago and if you are an NRI who hasn't been to India I last ten years believe me big cities are more exp3nsive for domestic salary earners, so be prepared for a slightly lower pay, modest lifestyle and you need to have a home or big corpus of savings before you execute your Swadesh dream. There are challenges in western nations too, so d3cide that works for y9u after good research - dont fall for mere emotions rather have a plan and backup too - grass is always appearing green on other side.
Well said , I think everyone everywhere is the same . It’s just money relationships . Few people understand the meaning of keeping some humanity alive .
I am also in dilemma whether to move back to India or not. Heard many thoughts, but you were the first person to talk about corruption. I used to think, if I am the only one who feels corruption as one of the main issues to continue staying abroad.
Corruption is everywhere. India is way behind due to reservation, Nepotism and Overpopulation. Due to Overpopulation businesses have millions of choices to choose employees for non or less skill jobs. Due to Nepotism we don't see politicians, actors and CEOs who can change the system and can give good service. And no need to tell anything about reservation. 49% people in india getting fees, seats' reservation in colleges.
This purely depends on every individual. How much financial independence you have. Travel every year or 6 to 8 months to visit the family. Everyone is busy in India as well these days. Family members are all busy. Parents are the connecting roots for people living in abroad. You have no driving force to visit India often once you loose your parents. And it will happen eventually. If you are blessed, you will find a well connected, loving and caring Indian communities in abroad. People celebrate festivals together. Stand by you in your tough time. You return the same when needed. You create a new world as an immigrants. And again this is not true for everyone. Many people living in india struggle around relatives and friends. It can happen in abroad as well. Never move back to india thinking that you raise your kids in your culture. It’s bad there as well. You can practice your culture wherever you are living and kids will follow you.
Thanks appreciate your comment. Each Individual have different perspective and life goal and based on that decision making happens. Some carve for relatives and family around them even having fights and disagreements.
There is fundamental difference and its not at all about low level traffic police corruption. Its the lack of process and law everywhere. If you are able turn blind eye every nonsense around then fine else I will guarantee you will return back. Grass is always greener on other side. The impact of carelessness and irrationality and lack of genuine functional system is such that whatever you do one day you or near one will be victim. And make a note you won't be able to change or make it better only you will change and repent. Remember those pandemic days citizens wondering with mad and sadness trying to buy oxygen and some baba trying commercialise the fear and pain with some baseless and unproven stuff and union health minister standing beside to promote launch. All you need may be frequent and bit long holidays to India
I really liked your video. Good to know that you are from Indore. I am from Indore too. Currently, staying in USA from past 15 years and planning to return to India soon. Is there a way to contact you directly on social media for any personal questions?
@Nisha Appreciate you checking . I am in India ; got little busy with life , I will post few videos in coming weeks. If you would like me to cover anything, please let me know. Thanks 🙏
I’m from Indore too and have been living in USA since 2005. Would like to know how you made the switch. One of my friend recently moved back but he lives in Mumbai so it might be easier for him in terms of jobs etc. I would like to know how it is possible in Indore in IT field.
Hi Niranjan Indore IT job market is getting better (TCS, Infy, Accenture, Persistent and others) but you probably wont find similar compensation as you would in other cities like Mumbai , Bengaluru, Pune, Hydrabad. But Indore is Indore man, nothing like hometown.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 Do you think same about yourself and your family members bcoz you too are included in what you said...how many people do you include nikammapan...USA is ahead bcoz usa citizens/activists found the solution to treat or punish nikamma people that is by making above laws a long ago...while we didnt do that..however a group of some people are working to bring above said laws...you can google or fb..
All my close friends are in USA and I attended many social gatherings from birthday party to marriages in USA. Our social life was very fun in USA but again it come down to what you want from life.
Pls dont include yourself in corruption unnecessarily...why take such burden...we do corruption bcoz we have lot of other things to do..we need to move on...so it has to be done...question should be how to reduce corruption in india.
Be very careful about moving back anywhere. The world continued to change since you left your home country. People are only interested in you for what they can get. If you have nothing or refuse to give, you will find they disappear. Leave your money in foreign banks, especially if you are planning to return to India.
I find this very biased. It is up to the individual as to what their priority is and what their life circumstances are. People who move back to India are not living in Sooraj Barjatiya movie style homes and being all sanskari. Love for your family is not dependent on distance, so many people lead tough lives abroad so their families in India can live a better life. India has more crime and corruption than US, unless you live in those NRI gated communities. It is more difficult for women and girls who face sexual harassment. There are so many pros and cons on both sides. Ultimately do what works for you and your family, don't attribute morals to your decision. You moved to India because it worked for you - or maybe you lost your job or your visa expired. Whatever the reason may be .. good for you that you are happy, don't put others down to justify your decision.. just stick to your personal experience.
Thanks for your comments. What I shared here definitely wont be able applicable to everyone but what I learned and gathers from my friends and social network. Home is where the heart is ..
The only reason why i like america is you can buy legalized marijuana 😁. Unlike in India where you need to take lot risks to get poor cheap qualityless shit.
@UAT HD Indians always seem to be in this constant dilemma to stay or not to. Make up your mind, or else do not leave India at all. They miss India, festivals, family, food, weddings....if you have decent prospects in India, just stay there, no issues, no complaints.
Don't move back to India becase basic things like cooking, cleaning, laundary is cheap, and you can buy that. Those are the basic things every human should know how to do and should do....
The fact of the matter is the people who post these videos must ensure that it is accompanied by English scrolls otherwise these mono talks are not interesting.
India has a very poor work life balance. No respect for your personal/ family time. Kids spend most of their time in tuitions. Hardly any bonding over chores and chatter.
I agree to some extent but it is improving and many multinationals are making associate experience and work life priority. Covid made that change possible also even flexibility is there now a days. Indian Kids spending time in tuitions is parents ambitions to make their kids best of the best in education but again it is their personal choice. This can’t be generalize. I know many of my friends kids who go to many tuitions like classes in USA and even kids don’t have time to play specially middle school and high school kids. Some High school kids life is SAT preparation , going to school early morning around 6am and then back to classes after school. Thanks for comment.
Reservation is just a minor problem in front of corruption done by top politicians beaurocrats etc...due to this corruption millions suffer from problems in daily life and overall...but the media blames it to reservatio so that citizens never ask for real solutions.
@@no-oneknows9236 do you believe that USA is better in tech and many things bcoz it has Right to recall, jury system etc good laws...? Baaki har desh me local cultural level pe kuch acha kuch bura to hota hi hai..par better envt, safety, tech innovation me they are ahead and thats why we want to go there for work and better future...
LOL. Obviously you missed the great author and book...The Continent of Circe. Maybe 2 generations have missed its view and analysis. This commentary is so banal. Tell us something we dont know.
He never mentioned that he didn't like the US. He just preferred India over US. People idealize the west and think it is always a one way street which is not the case. It is a very subjective and a different journey for you as well as how connected to the place you are.
I am no one to advice people what to do with their lives. It very personal decision. Just sharing my feelings and I could be 100% wrong here as i am human.😊 I love US and will always be thankful for the opportunities provided and people were really nice also. It is just that I feel my time was over in USA and was longing to be back to India. Thanks for your comments.
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Everything boils down to what we truly want in life and we need to appreciate others for choosing a way of life that suits them. Our mind creates a gratifying illusion of our memories from the past, so we need to keep realistic expectations of how our life is going to be after the move :) I saw a comment in which it was mentioned that relatives are not immortal. This cracked me up because, elderly people would have been gone, but siblings and cousins of our age will still be there in our old age. Moreover, isn't the fact that nobody is immortal the reason why we need to make the most of our time with them, rather than saying nobody is going to live forever? Coming to the part where kids future is important and being so selflessly striving for them, as the generations progress, the amount of responsibility kids take up towards their parents declines in the name of individuality. Our parents did more to their parents than what we are doing to our parents now and the same situation occurs in the future to us. If we sacrifice all of our simple pleasures, when we get older we will be left with a bag full of regrets. When we are not emotionally connected to family, we should not also expect our kids to move mountains for us in the future :) I know life in India is not easy, especially without good savings and security issues are a concern for everyone. If you can afford to live in a good community and be a little extra cautious then life in India will be more fulfilling than what you get abroad.
Thanks for your comment and providing perspective.
I agree India has lot to offer in terms of fulfilling life and experience.
Thanks brother. l am living in Australia since 19 years and decided to move back very soon. Happen to watch this video and little dilemmas are vanished and you have boosted my confidence that I made a right decision.
Thanks appreciate it, I am just sharing my feelings but I am indebted to many people who supported me through this journey.
I am just trying to make it easy for other folks if possible 🙏
Hello mr sashi kanth. Since you mentioned au, what did you decide to come back? Currently going through the same dilemma though I haven’t lived in au for that long.
Surprised how this video doesn't have many views. Every word is absolutely true.
As an Indian living in the US, this boils down to what you said at the start the sense of belonging. India is good if you have the social network and connections along with the financial support. If you don't have those then you tend to immigrate. This is seen throughout the history of humans. My family left India when our financial and family situation got worse. My dad still has a sense of belonging to India but he can't justify his belonging after being mistreated by his family in India. I think if the financial situation was better my dad would have never agreed to move to the USA. My perspective I never had a strong connection with family so I would have left India regardless. I do finally feel a sense of belonging in the USA now after few years of acclimation.
That is another reality . I see many ppl taking the same . Especially in india family - middle class , over a period of time ppl especially relative try to talk nonsense esp for those who r making less and sad part is it’s starts from our immediate family members with lame comparison and that is why also many ppl think money and relationships goes hand in hand . If u have money ppl wil salute u in india otherwise no matter how good r u with family and friends u r nothing . That’s my opinion
If u r making money and good emotional and family support , do to leave them or else leave and do what makes u happy financially and emotionally
@@deepikasharma1704 I will agree with your statement that money plays a huge role in Indian status. I also believe your upbringing dictates a lot about the union of the family members. In India I think people don't necessarily understand what is morally right and wrong. For example, some people cheat others but they get away with it under the guise of this is the Indian way or this person is of high status,... Lastly, people in India devalue the essence of a neighbor or person or brother. There is a lack of empathy with most of the people or people with power. My family was on the receiving end of this reality in India. For 15 years before leaving India.
Here in the US.. empathy plays a huge role in society. People are taught to respect people. Everyone is treated with respect and equally. There are social pressures to maintain this decorum which is severely lacking in India.
@@nealrutgerskid you are so true . Not many ppl think on the same lines. In today world also , I feel our parents and families are conditioned in such a manner that they feel what they have seen in their days is right or what they did right is good for evryone . They just want to impose . It’s happens in many Indian families . I so many times tell my parents and in-laws so that at least they get the reality check and do not act wierd . I see them also comparing 2 ppl life which is not good . That creates problems amongst sibling when they grown and start loving independently . Relationships get changed no matter how strong the blood is 😊. That’s the irony of life. Hope today generations parents change their mind and not do the same mistake which our parents or their parents have done acted like a dictator .
Hats off to you taking such a bold decision. I believe money is important be it India or any other country but life is precious and people around you’re for certain time.
What I would say is when you are young like 23 24 move outside and stay for like 15 to 20 years make some money then move back to India when U have enough savings to buy nice house car and stuff in India and just save enough to retire soon.. then start exploring and enjoying Ur life.. instead of working working working in India for 60 years then U don't have energy to explore or enjoy since half of energy U will lose in traffic and pollution.. this is my honest opinion to young people out there.. and this is what we are doing..we visit our family 2 times in a year since we live in Australia so they or we don't miss each other a lot🤗
or better option have a passive international business at young age and stay wherever you want
What a wonderful analysis..I agree..India is India
i think infrastructure is the biggest factor. In US, if you plan to go to point A to B within certain frame, you will certainly make it. But social life is completely gone. Everybody is working their butt off to make thing going. I completely agree USA or any European country personal life is mess.
Very well said! especially, 'Let's make India great'. We need to speak proudly about our nation at home for our kids to imbibe that little bit of patriotism, at least. And, Bharat Desh is progressing big time.
India is in the growing stage now esp form
The last 10-12 years . If anyone thinks they get better their and they r going to. Be happy they should go back . But make sure they they should be financially sound as when. Immigrants go back , they will start comparing the life again . So if not the best they would be able to better lifestyle and hat ever they missed out in america while making america dreams 😊
I feel it’s hard for ppl these to be satisfied at any stage of life , no matter what they achieve they still want to achieve more, we should learn to be feel content . If we are contended we will tend to have a good personality and eventually our destiny/goals/life/self esteem is good to be the best and we would never be in the stage to compare or go in the rat race .
Thank you for this , I am a fresh Dentist and was just so fascinated by everything moving abroad it's overwhelming this perspective was much needed..very few videos are this genuine
Thanks for your comment.
Purvi the happiness of service is true happiness the more u give more u get..... It is not money always that's what life teaches at the very end... Serve with what u know and life will b well lived.... V require ur service much more so serve the nation irrespective of what hardships r thr ur father nd thr fathers have done that and the nation has bestowed education so that it is useful for its citizens the not so prevailaged.. So rise nd do what u can that's essential........ Everyone requires a ur hands of deed so never hold it back
@@roshanmathew9443 true thank you
I must say Sir this was a direct and emotional appeal. I was struck by your honesty. It was important for me to hear this. Leaving US is more difficult decision. And I admire your clarity.
❤ thanks
Hi, I have worked in USA and UK as software engineer and finally got my Australian PR and settled in Melbourne. If you are an extremely social person/couple who cannot live without family/friends in India, then go to India … there are high paying jobs now and you will live a good life. Me on the other hand love living abroad cause of freedom, cars that I drive, the houses we live in, fresh air and good infrastructure. But I guess I will move to India later on in life because of Amazing healthcare in India (yes, I mean it). And because of aging parents, we have to move to support them.
Thanks for comment, different recipe for different people .
Living in US for last 12 years I echo what you are saying. A bit correction - You mentioned schools are free in US. Its not the case always, if one buys a house in US he needs to pay $900 per month as School taxes. Moreover kids do not have luxury of going for swimming, martial arts, sports etc without shelling $250 per month for just 8 classes. I remember while in Kendriya Vidyalaya I used to go for region level debates, extempore, youth parliament, science exhibitions etc. But here its rare to find public schools with such facilities. Anyway God bless you for such video, bottom line is in your statement "Let's make India a better place than anywhere else" . Jai Hind
I am from KV in India and have been in US for 34 years. India is not what it was when I grew up. My understanding of politics and freedom prevents me from living in other parts of the world. The whole world was like a concentration camp during Covid-19 and I was traveling and eventually moved from MI to FL.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 I feel Indian cities are far better than Many parts of USA except New York, Washington.
Reasons
1) everything affordable in india
2) good medical care
3) salaries are pretty high in india than in America (comparing PPP)
4) INDIA is changing to tech and Pharma industries due to IITs/IISER/IISC.
5) peaceful life (no struggle of immigration process)
6) Now a days Indian Universities are doing phenomenal in research. IISC bags no.2 rank in Citation ratio.
Right now , I'm in Florida Going back to India this June and serve as an assistant professor in IIT Tirupati.
@Ramanpal ji Thanks for sharing details and correcting.
motherland is motherland.
Hi Arvind ji , I haven’t taken down any post. Please feel free to share your views.
We are all adults here and as long as we are sharing views respectfully no issues at all.
We can learn from each other 🙏
Thanks Minesh ji for your comments.
I feel world including India and USA is constantly changing.
I live here in USA and yes, I sometimes think about moving back to India. But air, water and food quality is much more better here in USA. Your video was informative . Thanks.
Thanks for your comment and it is good that you are clear on priorities.
All the best.
Hey Pawan, the most important topic to touch upon (which is often ignored) is the impact on mental health due to the weather and light. Issues like anxiety and depression which take a toll on a lot of people.
Thanks Raghu, appreciate your comments and suggestions.
I completely agree about anxiety and depression are often ignored.
I will cover them in future videos.
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Hats off to you sir
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Most sane video about this topic on TH-cam. I can attest to all the things you said as someone who has spent over 3 years in Europe.
Thanks Pratik. Appreciate your comment.
That's a great video. We are living in the US for the last 5 years and planning to go back to India in the next couple of years. However, I feel that the US H1B visa (and later Green Card) is quicksand and the more you stay here, the more you drown in this, and it becomes more and more difficult to come out of it. If you can share your entire process of moving from the US back to India, that would certainly help people like me who are planning to move back. Thanks again for this video and god bless you!
Msg me ur no I will connect may b v can discuss something common
Best of luck! Please let me know if I can be of any help.
@@no-oneknows9236, Yeah, that's what I mentioned in my comment - "If you can share your entire process of moving from the US back to India (step-by-step), that would certainly help people like me. So, what I am requesting here is, if you can create an Excel sheet where you put every step (like a To-Do list) that one can go on checking as one moves forward, that would be of so much help to us. Thanks in advance buddy!
This video cleared lot of my dilemmas
Thank you sir
Need more patriots like you ! Its a fashion to demean Indians and Hindus these days
After listening your speech, I can analyse few things about you
1. You can not live without neighbors/realtives/belongings.
2. You do not prefer to live within boundaries. In US, they make you live with rules, however in India, you get more freedom. This is what you like.
freedom means you can bend the rules :)
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 lol. In LA there is more shit than many indian cities. And second highest slum after Mumbai. In india some states are backwards like up, bihar etc. Bt u can't troll all states and cities for that same reason.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 u said Susu on road side. Bt in LA also people do shit and Susu on footpaths. And in usa more crimes happen than india. In india most people kill people on the name of Revenge. In usa many gun crimes especially are done just as a fun. So there is no way there is more freedom in usa than india. In india there is no freedom to speak against businessman, politician and celebrities due to vip culture.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 ur saying most indians live in safe areas of usa. Bt in usa most crimes are happening against indians than any countries' immigrants. U can check data also. If they live in safe areas how most indians get killed by Americans.in usa Indians face most racism than any community.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 lol. Google is saying. Most crimes happen against indians. Just check gun crimes. Indian Immigrants get killed most. And indians don't go there for education. They go for nationality and lifestyle. That's why there are zero "indian immigrants"(not indians) who won nobels. The Indian immigrants who won nobel they completed their basic education in india. Only PhD done in usa. Even in sports and movies also there are no indians. Only one indian won Oscar till now that is shyamlan. And in Olympic also zero indians won Olympic. Indians becoming ceo. Bt when it comes to business. There are zero indian businessman in Forbes billions dollar buisness list. Ya in motel, restaurant and retail indians are there. Bt those business are not scalable nor creative. And hence rarely there are any community who support hate and violance against indians there. Cuz Indians are doing nothing there except doing jobs unlike asian, Latin, afrikan, Jewish, Italian, middle east immigrants.
Extremely convincing. I am in a dilemma presently whether to take my daughter back from Canada though we came 2months ago only.
Go abroad work,earn for some years may be 10 -15 yrs come back relax n do things which you love or passionate about, what you did is ideal situation 🙏
5 yr is enough i can't live more then this
I am in the US and 40 now, as I am getting older I don’t like doing all the house chores and cooking.
Same feeling! Don’t feel like doing the daily chores anymore. Crave for some help and relief!
Folks living in india is not as glorified as it is made to appear especially in metro cities . I live in Bsngalore . House help is becoming increasingly difficult resource. Because of dust and other living style we are extremely dependent on them. They frustrate you to no end beciz of lack of sincerity and commitment. As far as social life goes I feel people in USA have better social life than in Indian metro cities . Poor traffic laws , clogged roads and poor infrastructure restricts you severely. Neighbours hardly know each other or interact with each other. So , guys do your homework before you decide to come back. Don't put your kids into trouble . If they have citizenship you would definitely want them to go back for higher education when the whole india is flocking there . Your relatives here are not immortal. You will be left lonely in old age while your kids wd have gone back. Don't mess up your kids life . This I am speaking out of my siblings experience, who moved to USA 3 decades back . Some came back , some came and went back and one person is on her way back to UK becoz now her only child is going to UK for studies. Your social life in jndia and your relatives here are not permanent fixture but your kids are .
And the worst is that kids are not independent like here. Terrified to send them out at night. No decent public transport in most places for them to independently hang out and socialise.
If you have kids, please do your homework.
All the N.R.I. have always one famous song on their lips sung by late Kishore Da KUCH PAKAR KHONA HAI KUCH KHOKAR PANA HAI JEEVAN KA MATLAB HAI AANA OURJANA HAI .
Very heartfelt, relatable and genuine 🙂
Thanks
My Friend, What you need is to raise your consciousness. Every place in the world will be a heaven if you are blissful inside. Just like your username, if you know "one" and live as no one, you will "be" there. That being said, Indians have it hard due to visa uncertainties in the US and missing family / events due to that is is not worth it. For ingraining cultural and family values in kids and for being with relatives and family, its worth it. We cannot compare two different lands, both have their +ves and -ves, In America enjoy the American freedom, In India enjoy the Indian culture. No matter where you go, your contentment is from inner peace not from external circumstances after a certain base line that human being needs to thrive.
I can't believe you just said that. Do you even know how India is in general for a person who needs to do job day to day basis?
I really liked your video ….yours views and opinions are honest very true observation you have said and that Kids point you have highlighted is very true and its really happening its too late for parents in later stage once kids grow they are American fully Americans totally lost pride and sense of belonging to India and than we call them ABCD ….unfortunately not everyone will understand it and really its depends on each and every person situation and their thinking …..I see lots of People from India who were doing great in India has moved to America just for Comfort and greed to earn more money …I am saying people who were Doctors ,engineer,Scientist and name it who can earn in India very high Incomes they still has came to America just because they hate India ….its all depends on persons mindset
Good information thanks you .every place has its pros and cons .
Bharat z bharat that is really right n yes the decision shud b n tym else its nt good fr the kids or rather unjust
Its not organic .. u r so right .. thank you for saying that
Thanks for your comment.
I have observed most of the people who move back after 10-20 year , you made enough savings.
At this point, it's easy to say all this. You crossed 40 or close to that and now if you want to have an easy life, just move back to India.
I completely support your strategy.
Thanks , but to be honest with you saving numbers keep changing like date to return to India .. It is n+1 syndrome. When I moved to USA I was just looking to save 10 lacs down payment for flat in Mumbai.
Few of my friends have magical number of saving 10cr before moving back to India and they are no way close to it and neither I am :D
Pretty good video. Gives reality
My husband nd me nt interested to send my sons abroad in the pretext of career building
In my opinion if u r debt free nd healthy then u r the most happiest man in this world.
Thanks for your comment Sasmita, I agree with you , it is not wise to spend life saving on immigration based education.
This is what I want, No Indian Festivals, Away from judgemental Indians, Cool life without kalesh and corruption. People here dont know how to respect others. Tried so many times going abroad and will keep trying
All the best Kapil, hope you find the opportunity soon.
Away from Indians?? wtf man you yourself is a fucin indian
@@rhit1712 unfortunately Indian...
@@kapilgulati can't change it though you should move away asap from India if you don't like your identity best of luck my brother
@@rhit1712 Thank you. I wish leave this country as soon as possible
Sir would have better had u spoken in hindi..speak hindi for more subscriptions. Nice telling ...fact is true..
Yeh angrej ban gaya hai....
Good decision 👏. Explore and come back 🙂👍
Great insights.
I am in a weird situation. I left india when I was 10 so I always think about india but grew up here. You are right about the $$ factor and career that in USA one thing and only one thing people all over the world move here because of money and career and better opportunities . You can take that away from here. Parents left because there were more opportunities. I think Yes it's the people who make a life here but as they get older they feel lonely here. However, India has changed a lot. I assume that old cities are the same india but main cities they are like here. People are westernized I feel and they are trying to be western. The point of view you are giving is for people like us , who were able to afford to come here. A average struggling indian will come here to make a better life.
Another issue is that if you are in USA for a long time, relatives there don't connect with you that much and same with you, unless you try to be in each other lives.
I agree with you that in metro cities the westernization started decades ago. Unless one is living under a rock one clearly see people moving and independent and nuclea4 families and western life style is here to stay. Of course despite this change we do have family values and connections. Individual situations vary but big city issues in India are more challenging than what you see abroad unless you are someone lucky to earn in big city and have a family home in small town. Cost of living is going up everywhere - the days of Rs 20 Chai are gone years ago and if you are an NRI who hasn't been to India I last ten years believe me big cities are more exp3nsive for domestic salary earners, so be prepared for a slightly lower pay, modest lifestyle and you need to have a home or big corpus of savings before you execute your Swadesh dream. There are challenges in western nations too, so d3cide that works for y9u after good research - dont fall for mere emotions rather have a plan and backup too - grass is always appearing green on other side.
Well said , I think everyone everywhere is the same . It’s just money relationships . Few people understand the meaning of keeping some humanity alive .
This is so true 💯
Thanks appreciate your comment and appreciation.🙏
Very thought provoking analysis..
Nice 😊
Thanks a lot 😊
Great speech sir.
I am also in dilemma whether to move back to India or not. Heard many thoughts, but you were the first person to talk about corruption. I used to think, if I am the only one who feels corruption as one of the main issues to continue staying abroad.
Not that america doesn’t have corruption lol
One should try to implement good systems of USA in India as well...so that india can also become better..
Corruption is everywhere. India is way behind due to reservation, Nepotism and Overpopulation. Due to Overpopulation businesses have millions of choices to choose employees for non or less skill jobs. Due to Nepotism we don't see politicians, actors and CEOs who can change the system and can give good service. And no need to tell anything about reservation. 49% people in india getting fees, seats' reservation in colleges.
Lack of household help is a huge huge issue. Also, cost of childcare is huge in western countries.
I agree specially when you are in need like new born or sick family member.
In India everything available at vicinity.
This purely depends on every individual. How much financial independence you have. Travel every year or 6 to 8 months to visit the family. Everyone is busy in India as well these days. Family members are all busy. Parents are the connecting roots for people living in abroad. You have no driving force to visit India often once you loose your parents. And it will happen eventually. If you are blessed, you will find a well connected, loving and caring Indian communities in abroad. People celebrate festivals together. Stand by you in your tough time. You return the same when needed. You create a new world as an immigrants. And again this is not true for everyone. Many people living in india struggle around relatives and friends. It can happen in abroad as well.
Never move back to india thinking that you raise your kids in your culture. It’s bad there as well. You can practice your culture wherever you are living and kids will follow you.
Thanks appreciate your comment.
Each Individual have different perspective and life goal and based on that decision making happens.
Some carve for relatives and family around them even having fights and disagreements.
Agree
I m from sikkim and lived in au for 18 years and yes I do have the dilemma of living here : missing out on something
Nicely explained
Living abroad lifestyle is good but life is not
This is what youtube is meant for!
Thanks I agree , sharing views and leaning from others
loved the video
Thanks Devesh bhai
Well said 👏👏
Thanks appreciate your comment and appreciation.
There is fundamental difference and its not at all about low level traffic police corruption.
Its the lack of process and law everywhere. If you are able turn blind eye every nonsense around then fine else I will guarantee you will return back.
Grass is always greener on other side. The impact of carelessness and irrationality and lack of genuine functional system is such that whatever you do one day you or near one will be victim.
And make a note you won't be able to change or make it better only you will change and repent.
Remember those pandemic days citizens wondering with mad and sadness trying to buy oxygen and some baba trying commercialise the fear and pain with some baseless and unproven stuff and union health minister standing beside to promote launch.
All you need may be frequent and bit long holidays to India
I really liked your video. Good to know that you are from Indore. I am from Indore too. Currently, staying in USA from past 15 years and planning to return to India soon. Is there a way to contact you directly on social media for any personal questions?
Thanks @Desi , sure we can connect. nooneknowsr2i@gmail.com and let’s go from there.
Indore is super clean. 👌
Yes, true
Agreed
Why no updates coming from u ? R y still in India ?
@Nisha Appreciate you checking . I am in India ; got little busy with life , I will post few videos in coming weeks.
If you would like me to cover anything, please let me know. Thanks 🙏
I’m from Indore too and have been living in USA since 2005.
Would like to know how you made the switch. One of my friend recently moved back but he lives in Mumbai so it might be easier for him in terms of jobs etc. I would like to know how it is possible in Indore in IT field.
Hi Niranjan
Indore IT job market is getting better (TCS, Infy, Accenture, Persistent and others) but you probably wont find similar compensation as you would in other cities like Mumbai , Bengaluru, Pune, Hydrabad.
But Indore is Indore man, nothing like hometown.
@@no-oneknows9236 hahaha that last line… 😅 ab ye logic lagaya hai to phir to kuch bhi chalega. 😊
Hi is there way I can connect with you one o one? I am from Indore and currently in USA and in similar journey. Thanks!
Indore is cleanest city
Can you make a video, how much money required to go back to India?
Thanks for comment and suggesting a topic. I will try my best to collect the data and make video on same.
Absolutely agree! This is why I came back from Australia in just 3 months. And I would never go outside India in future
It's not about going out ... but it's about leaving your country completely.... and then taking about there problem on social media ....
USA is ahead due to Right to recall laws, Jury system, referendum, guns, good tax system than india...this is the difference.
@@arvindparthasarathy2862 Do you think same about yourself and your family members bcoz you too are included in what you said...how many people do you include nikammapan...USA is ahead bcoz usa citizens/activists found the solution to treat or punish nikamma people that is by making above laws a long ago...while we didnt do that..however a group of some people are working to bring above said laws...you can google or fb..
I may have missed or you didn’t mention about relatives, our school/college friends and social functions which we are missing in USA….
All my close friends are in USA and I attended many social gatherings from birthday party to marriages in USA.
Our social life was very fun in USA but again it come down to what you want from life.
Getting into IITs is tough given limited seats but if one is studying in good schools of tier 2/3 towns, chances are great.
in India people get respect if they have money
Yeah it is there but not sure how it changes someone feeling about returning back to India.
Pls dont include yourself in corruption unnecessarily...why take such burden...we do corruption bcoz we have lot of other things to do..we need to move on...so it has to be done...question should be how to reduce corruption in india.
Be very careful about moving back anywhere. The world continued to change since you left your home country. People are only interested in you for what they can get. If you have nothing or refuse to give, you will find they disappear. Leave your money in foreign banks, especially if you are planning to return to India.
I find this very biased. It is up to the individual as to what their priority is and what their life circumstances are. People who move back to India are not living in Sooraj Barjatiya movie style homes and being all sanskari. Love for your family is not dependent on distance, so many people lead tough lives abroad so their families in India can live a better life. India has more crime and corruption than US, unless you live in those NRI gated communities. It is more difficult for women and girls who face sexual harassment. There are so many pros and cons on both sides. Ultimately do what works for you and your family, don't attribute morals to your decision. You moved to India because it worked for you - or maybe you lost your job or your visa expired. Whatever the reason may be .. good for you that you are happy, don't put others down to justify your decision.. just stick to your personal experience.
Thanks for your comments.
What I shared here definitely wont be able applicable to everyone but what I learned and gathers from my friends and social network.
Home is where the heart is ..
What about life after your parents are no more or have less people you could connect with in India? Would you still go back to India?
One of the best question .. Thanks for it.
I personally thought about it .. Let me make another video on this and share my thoughts.
The only reason why i like america is you can buy legalized marijuana 😁. Unlike in India where you need to take lot risks to get poor cheap qualityless shit.
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Hi brother, does you kid speak you native language?
Yes elder one used to but younger one was not but she picked Hindi like anything now 😀
You should never ever leave India to start with, so there is no need to discuss these issues. Your desires eventually become your problems.
not really...go out expierance and come back with perspectives
@@piyushdas079 not sure then why the issues are even discussed? The root cause is Indians go abroad and whine...if no one left, no discussions....
What a lopsided response
@UAT HD Indians always seem to be in this constant dilemma to stay or not to. Make up your mind, or else do not leave India at all. They miss India, festivals, family, food, weddings....if you have decent prospects in India, just stay there, no issues, no complaints.
Not sure. Sometimes it helps to go away to appreciate your motherland.
One threat is Horrible incidence of School firing & killings happen in America, that is what sound serious??
Thanks for your comment. Gun laws needs to be more strict in US for sure given so many incidents.
should be Videsh vs Swadesh
Don't move back to India becase basic things like cooking, cleaning, laundary is cheap, and you can buy that. Those are the basic things every human should know how to do and should do....
Every one is on his own to decide...do what which suits best
Moving to india is best solution. India is 1000 times better and good life, good fruits vegetables, lot of sun
I agree , thanks for your comment.
The fact of the matter is the people who post these videos must ensure that it is accompanied by English scrolls otherwise these mono talks are not interesting.
India has a very poor work life balance. No respect for your personal/ family time. Kids spend most of their time in tuitions. Hardly any bonding over chores and chatter.
I agree to some extent but it is improving and many multinationals are making associate experience and work life priority. Covid made that change possible also even flexibility is there now a days.
Indian Kids spending time in tuitions is parents ambitions to make their kids best of the best in education but again it is their personal choice. This can’t be generalize.
I know many of my friends kids who go to many tuitions like classes in USA and even kids don’t have time to play specially middle school and high school kids.
Some High school kids life is SAT preparation , going to school early morning around 6am and then back to classes after school.
Thanks for comment.
Remove reservation and entitlement then we talk
That wouldnt happen in India in our lifetime :)
Reservation is just a minor problem in front of corruption done by top politicians beaurocrats etc...due to this corruption millions suffer from problems in daily life and overall...but the media blames it to reservatio so that citizens never ask for real solutions.
@@no-oneknows9236 do you believe that USA is better in tech and many things bcoz it has Right to recall, jury system etc good laws...?
Baaki har desh me local cultural level pe kuch acha kuch bura to hota hi hai..par better envt, safety, tech innovation me they are ahead and thats why we want to go there for work and better future...
LOL. Obviously you missed the great author and book...The Continent of Circe. Maybe 2 generations have missed its view and analysis. This commentary is so banal. Tell us something we dont know.
😀 thanks for your comment.
Wow! This guy lived 15 years learned hell from the US and he don't like the US and he is advising people🤔
He never mentioned that he didn't like the US. He just preferred India over US. People idealize the west and think it is always a one way street which is not the case. It is a very subjective and a different journey for you as well as how connected to the place you are.
I am no one to advice people what to do with their lives. It very personal decision.
Just sharing my feelings and I could be 100% wrong here as i am human.😊
I love US and will always be thankful for the opportunities provided and people were really nice also.
It is just that I feel my time was over in USA and was longing to be back to India.
Thanks for your comments.
Are u a fuckwit Indira??
You are comparing India or the US what are you saying is India is best... There is saying sour grapes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I am just sharing my experience, sorry if I hurt your feelings.
Neat and clean roads you dont have to lick it.
Anyone Intrested to connect pls msg v can reach others and find something common to do