hah yes thats so true,when i dont like someone very much i actually act like this as i am ,have selfrespect etc,but when i like someone im pretty acting like an idiot. :D
1. Don’t seek his approval 2. Talk about friends, you have a social life 3. Challenge him playfully 4. Communicate that fear doesn’t stop you 5. “Your family is so much cheekier than you” fit into his family 6. Be grateful for your life 7. Don’t put him on a pedestal, see who he really is 8. Have your own opinion
11. Be polite to other people 12. Be confident. "ill handle it" 13. Date with no agenda 15. Learn to say no without being a btch. Don't be afraid to say your own preference
It's about flirting and demonstrating your self esteem Shirley :) Challenging a man, making him think and bringing that awesome energy to his life that makes you unforgettable
Mark Rosenfeld, wow u reply. Thanks :) I have seen almost all ur videos for a couple hours. I'm going to apply ur dating advice to my crush very soon.. hope it works :D
You don't have to play hard to get in order for a man to chase you. Let the chase be alive by being responsive about his thoughts and ideas because nothing is more attractive than a girl who is able to express herself without any hesitations.
This game can only be played for short period of time. After a while all the true personalties and traits will come out.. do you think you shall meet someone with masks on or just with authenticity? It’s very shallow to me to pretend you are independent but actually you are needy, pretend you are a jealous person but has to act like you are cool .. when more emotions get involved, shit can come out.. so get to know yourself first, embrace your own uniqueness, and heal your wounds.. don’t pretend, just be real, then you attract the real person who really appreciates you as an unique person that he truly sees himself in you.
Agree go - though I think many of the things in this video ARE coming from a place of many people 'best selves'. Fear often covers these types of carefree, high standard attitudes, and emotions can sometimes lead us astray.
1. If a guy doesn’t like me that’s his choice 2. I’m hanging out with friends 3. Challenge him competition 4.yeah it was scary anyway. Don’t let fear stop you 5. Fit into his family 6. Be grateful for your life 7. Don’t put him on a high level 8. I disagree and have opinions 9. Playfully make fun of him 10. Being polite to other people 11. It’s going to be tough but I’ll handle it, you are confident 12. Play your cards right and you might be able to see me again 13. It’s not my thing! Give men a firm no sometimes
I remember being fun. Then I married a guy who is so serious it stressed me out and turned me off of both the thought of men and sex. I look forward to healing.
Lisa Cunningham In my group of peers the same. Incredibly insulting to their “masculine energy”. I tried twice and since then stopped. Even with guys that are only friends.
Thats in every age group, I would never offer to pay for myself. It's not only insulting but embarrassing if he agrees, who'd want to go on a date with that guy.
I always offer to pay and I'm more than happy to go 50/50. In the end of the day, I work and im capable of paying my way. I also value myself too much to allow a guy to pay all the time. My time is not more important than his time and I feel that's something everyone should realise
I‘m 23 and typically date guys in my age (25-30). I always offer to pay the first round (and end up paying it 9/10 times). Never had anyone not like me for it or feel insulted. Helps me with my consciousness too, especially when I know I don’t wanna see this guy again 😅
Dear Mark, I politely disagree on „woman like a man without an agenda“. When I hear a man say „just seeing where it leads to“ to me it sounds he‘s not interested in fully committing just playing and I avoid contact 🤷🏼♀️
Great video. I'm wrote these down as I listened. I was married for 10 yrs to a extreme covert narcissist. Kids I and do regular mental health counseling for it. I'm 35 yrs old and learning to date again. Two teenagers and very busy schedule. I date men in their early to mid 40's in same situation as I. So I have binged your videos and a few other online coaches. Compiled all the advice and go for it. Trial and error; working on self respect and self love. There as so many of us women. I really feel were being missed over. Our walk is very different on some levels of reading situations. So as I'm listening to your video; I Starred the ones I have already done without ever seeing a video like this, just from respecting myself and prioritizing. I starred 8 that I naturally done and 4 that I just put in my pocket of tools. So amazing video. For my dating demographic, I do think its worth mentioning that #9 and #10 should only be used based on the man in front of you. #9 for a sensitive recent divorced middle aged man that is done with whatever he had just went through with marriage and dating, that man could easily take this as rejection enough to move on. I would and a few men I have dated would have as well. In our area, our children, length of marriage and how recently divorced. Its brought by date 2, even if a few seconds and quickly. It determines if the person in front of us truely know if they are ready to date. That stuff takes time, trial and error. That's a sensitive topic in our trend. #10; The age of men I date are on the line of "old school dating". Meaning a women offering to pay for herself can be taken very offensive and can be hard of a situation to judge. I have found it's best to ask up front if he believes in old school dating. He simply will say yes with pride or look perplexed. If its pride, he already knows why your asking and you need to say no more. It was your unspoken offer to pay 50/50. Men have a natural instinct to feel they can provide for a women. Paying for the date makes him have that feeling. If he is perplexed. You say, I was checking before hand so it doesn't get awkward. He will laugh and make a joke about changes in dating that leads into conversation that will quickly change topic once the waitress approaches for drink orders. You can have a comfortable conversation without thinking of the check and awkwardness. He respects that you ask before hand and you dont get brushed off after first date based on paying or not.
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LOL most of these phrases/one liners are absolutely ridiculous. I mean, just be confident and yourself. This phrases will only attract one type of guy: a guy who likes the chase. Once he gets you ( which he WILL if you already like him and he is chasing), it's game over. He's gone. He'll get board, start seeing the real you ( which you hid from him at first behind these one liners), and move on to the next chase. You're better off actually working on yourself; as opposed to hiding behind silly one liners. For example, actually work on being confident on the inside, and that will shine through without you having to use these lines.FYI-please don't use that line should a guy ever trip and fall in front of you lol! At least ask him if he's okay haha!
Wow, you actually make dating (and flirting) sound so easy. Like it's some kind of language that is possible to learn. I've never seen such a simple and clear breakdown of all these strategies before, and yet I see other women (who have more success with men than me) apply them all the damn time. I could never quite grasp what kind of magic was that, and now I'm finally coming to understand. I can't wait to start practicing this stuff :D Thank you!
“Gratefulness is attractive to men” Well I know some examples which are opposing... and I am always freaking grateful and still no man who respects me 😂 but I am grateful that I’m not falling for anyone and I enjoy my own busy great life Only that sometimes I’m sad and fed up with this whole thing that I am lame at this whole relationship thing and feel awkward around guys and I have high standards also
This video is gold. It popped up in my suggestions and I watched again and enjoyed just as much as the first time. Thank you for all your work, Mark! You've helped me a lot in raising my self esteem & standards!
I totally agree with Marks reasoning. I've spoke to my best male friends and they say the same thing. If you're smoking hot and are not that interesting, they will sleep with you. But, if you can't keep up with that non-physical attraction side, he will realize he can't connect with you and leave you. I think women think attraction from men is all physical but that's not the case all time. Non-physical attraction needs to be cultivated and work on by yourself. Find your hobbies and passions in life. Be yourself and be honest. You are worthy and good enough.
Yeah i dont like this! as a girl if a guy said that i'd say sarcastically " No pliz date me Im dying" Or if it came plafully i'd just think in My head oh boy he is kinda childish Or have an unrealistic outlook. and i assume guys would feel like me too so i'd never say that!
Nirvana Odin I think it sounds differently when it’s coming from a girl than from a guy. Guys don’t mention dating, girls do. You know, when male coaches tell guys to criticise girl’s appearance a bit to make her like them more (i.e. signalling “I could never have sex with you”), that’s the male equivalent of “I could never date you”.
Do you really want to make a man chase you or have it happen organically...if it’s this much work then he’s not the one. A guy who wants you will make the effort and put in the time ...and ladies you deserve a guy who puts the effort in and keeps putting the effort in the whole time even a year later.
I think the first one is not only essential for the man but a woman really needs to believe this otherwise she will have heartache whether it is short term relationship or a long term relationship where the man falls out of love. It is my goal not to take a man's disapproval or moving on as something personal.
OMG! Mark......it's working...You're words are gold. Living my life for myself and prioritising my life has been amazing for myself and... secondlt my for my relationship. Crazy glad I stumbled across your clips.. Legend👊
I don't get dating. I'm just being myself. But I believe that I have to stop caring so much and wearing my heart on my sleeve. I want to be married. Don't know why it's taking so long.
I have found this Chanel and I am enjoing it because the way you explain things and the way you talk match with my way of thinking. I'm glad to see the tips and notice that I 'm already that type of woman doing those things naturally
This technic works only for guys who like like-minded women, who can play games with words. But I do not want to deny that there are women who are shy, non-talkative, traditional ladies can attract certain guys too. But these are very good tips, thanks for that!
Mark Rosenfeld may be but not in my case.... bcz i tried all to get him back....n yes ofcourse used ur videos too....only in vain But ppl who r hvng new relationships n a little prblm in it.... can b saved thrwgh ur videos sir
thats not always the case my dear, men who say they love you dont love you at all :) they dont leave you. the once who leave you were not so into you in the first place, theres no love here,
im glad you understand, im being honest. guys find it difficult to say they love you, when they arnt sure of their feelings, but they show their feelings in a different form, like take care of you, buy you presents, being there for you, message you and call you even buy you flowers, help you in your future studies or jobs situation thats a guy who loves you, you dont need him to say he does, he will one day thats for sure be patience
Thank you for encouraging good character and healthy boundaries. Most dating advice is utter crap. They tell people to act like manipulative jerks and then men are leery of good women because they have been screwed over too many times but game playing manipulators. Your channel is refreshing. You are a rare dating advice person that I respect. Good job.
Loved this, great video! You don't just point out the phrases, but also the traits and behaviour behind them. As much as you encourage having a standard in dating, I love the fact you always give people aspirations to set standards for themselves personally, for example self respect and confidence etc.
Yeh I love that Emily - thanks for noticing :) I think it's SO important to point that out, otherwise I'm just teaching women to 'act' - which is all BS if it's not backed up with real actions and positive life change.
I was talking to a guy and when he found out I had different opinions he would get upset because he thought we were 'arguing'. We were literally just discussing each other's views. I'd even end each discussion with 'I don't agree with you, but I do respect your views.' He couldn't handle it. 1 month of no contact and he just emailed me a couple days ago asking how I was. Before we stopped talking I asked him to respect my decision to not talk. He said okay but has now broken that. He doesn't respect me.
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MsJeesus I think that line works only on players, regular guy would feel insulted to hear that because he doesn’t have a bunch of side chicks. It’s like telling an attractive but shy girl “other people met constantly say how pretty you are, but you’re not”, like wtf?
I am 63 and looking for dating advice (go figure! need to do things differently). I found that your channel offered much more help than ones aimed at older folks. So--thanks!
Great video Mark 😍😍😍😍 you saved my life. I was so dependent that made every one run away. After watching your channel, since then I have tried my best to change my way and attitude. So many thanks 😇😇😇
Dang! Instead of being myself, just as you've described, I've been going about this all wrong. Shoot! I'm going to be ME! from now on. No wonder my guy friends love me so much and the men I really want to date me don't want me! Time to back up and be ME! No more faking it and trying to be what they want. Hell fire!
13 is totally true - I can vouch for that! But it can also have the reverse affect 😬 you can get attention you don't want. I was using a "meet people" app & straight out told everyone I opened chat with, that I was just looking for friendships & one guy I had a few things in common with, thought he was in. What annoyed me most about this particular app, was not knowing that it told him I was only 200 meters away from him, until he told me I must live close to him. That was creepy. Then after a while, he kept asking if he could come over & I was of course hesitant, because I lived alone & I really didn't know him. If he knew where I lived & things went south, I wouldn't feel safe in my home. I took a risk & met up with him for a coffee, at a park near both our houses, when many people were there, playing sport. I was just being me, not flirting, well not intentionally. After this meet up, he thought we were dating & was "jokingly" telling me he was going to ride around the neighborhood on his pushbike, to find my car, where I lived. I had to clear the air. I asked him what he thought this was? He got serious & I had to remind him I was only looking for a friend. He got shitty at me, accused me of flirting my arse off & being a dick tease 😳 Then I was worried about what kind of vibes, being myself, was putting out there. So I asked a friend & he said, "Well, you're charismatic! He probably confused that with flirting. But I've seen you flirting & there's clearly a difference." Right. So I either had to tone down being myself or end the "friendship". I ended the friendship. I can't & won't stop being who I am, because it might be attractive to someone I'm not attracted to. I don't live for that reason.
This was very casual behavior. Not every woman has this type of personality. Some of us can be a little shy or nervous especially on a first date. But I get it!
Wonderful Mark, I'm a senior who by absolute sheer chance got in contact with what seems by all aspects about him, is an upstanding, strong, honest man we are separated by half of this world, he is a high rank militaty stationed in Pakistan, we can hardly beleive how serendipitous we got in touch on Tweeter, he is 6 years younget than me, which I brought to his attention to keep honestly as a priority, he said age was just a number, wether I was younger or older it didn't matter one bit, after that my response was a text saying "still" to wich I followed with " we can always be friends ", he'd said to me before that he wanted a short relationship and if things were good formalize it, I didn't react to it and just casualy continue a comunication, keeping it light and never seeming clingy Now I had been out of trying to find anyone for years, getting in touch like he says and I aggre, seemed some special plan we didn't control I look for something which.could help me learn several things, like How to use text, does and don'ts Things to say when a budding relationship is bery long distance I'm sure you being an expert are getting the gist of my situation By a couple.of his profile, he is physically what I like as far as how he looks, he'd tell me beautiful things and most of the time I pass no response other than going to any other thing we were already talking about even when it is great what he id telling me. Is this senior woman wrong or am I in the right track to advance this, I think he travels back to the US, as often as he can, and told me several times he looks forward meeting me. Now I live in Southern California he in Florida, and still keeps im touch, is kind of difficult with a little over 12 hours 30 minutes difference in our schedule, anyway today at about 2:30 am his time, I sent a tiny naughty (not graphic) message, kind of a funny tease after that I included a picture where all is missing are my feet, I'm fully dressed, just standing in a cute kind of flirty outfit, saying " so you see more or less how I look " I hope I hadn't done anything which will himder something rhat has put wings in my being and to use the correct balance between I'm really interested and yeah this is nice I already subscribed to your account and listen to a few of your tapes, I think you are hansome interesting and brilliant a powerful communicator, with all my semior heart thank you and stay blessed. I'm not going to read proof my message therefore I hope you can forgive them. A respectful cyberhug from Ce Ce To be comtinued:
Thanks so much for sharing your situation with me myfurrykid. If you do want comprehensive answers you'd need to email me/book in. I so appreciate you subscribing to my channel!
Ladies and gentlemen, yet another successful video with Jermia!! Love the two of you on camera together :) Mark, thanks for the list of 15 things to say. Definitely see how a confident and secure woman would naturally say these things...and that is the state of mind we are aiming to being.
Everytime I offer to pay they make it so awkward..like I just challenged their manhood or something... its like these tactics only work on men who are good men...and its hard to find good men...really hard
You lost me at 10. I do always offer to pay if I'm out as friends with a guy, however too many men are being instructed to act like women and women like men. I come from a home of strong patriarchs who are offended by such behavior. Women may not want to admit it these days but our instinct is to seek out a good provider and protector, a strong patriarch. Many men seek to meet those need. I wish dating coaches would stop telling women and men to go against their gender roles u are confusing people and making dating harder. Yea it's not fair that a man pay for dinner but it also isn't fair that women he to carry a child in their womb for 9 months and push s child that is the size of a watermelon out of their private area. Please stop teaching men to feel like victims because they are expected to be gentlemen and pick up the tab. I'm floored at how many men actually emasculate themselves willingly these days
Thanks for the comment Lindey! Have a look at this video and I explain all about this. It's not the end of chivalry - it's about expectations and standards :) th-cam.com/video/0fd4Bgp3r5U/w-d-xo.html
Completely agree. Paying for dinner is nothing compared to what he wants from us or what we are expected to do. For Christ’s sake as a man pay for a woman’s dinner that you are trying to get to know and don’t pay for the women that you feel are using you. It’s that simple.
Not sure why I keep watching these dating videos to see if there's advice that feels helpful with my marriage. I feel like so much of this is tricky to apply properly in a relationship where I've had 5 of his kids. "I'll handle it" when it's something crazy hard to handle with our kids is setting me up for failure.
Yes cuz some guy really broke up with a girl for not being needy at all m being independent 😶 through text I found pic of it on insta idk who relationship was tho
really? so a woman needs to ridicule a man in order to make him chase her? what if he is the type of man who gets kind of hurt or offended by that...he might be strong and mighty at the same time, but some quite can have their egos wounded by that, no? I mean, If someone told that to me, I would be a bit disheartened. :/ lol slong the "oh you are such a worry thats why we can never date" lines.
I have social anxiety and have said the opposite of almost every last one of these. and the pay for yourself line, i got stuck with the guy who said OK. Years later, I got treated like crap so bad by him I dont even remember how to be playful. Im screwed.
Sorry I couldn't joke about a guy falling in a hole or something it isn't in me. I would be are you ok in a super feminine voice. When someone gets hurt it is about the only time my super feminine voice pops out.
#5 and #9 I take a little issue with. "Here's why..." lol ...#5 I get the gist, but what she says is kinda mean (like Pickup Artist-style). She could say "Your family gave up all your secrets. I've got material for DAYS!! haha" would still be funny, endearing and communicates that his family sees HER as "in" enough to tell her stuff. #9 Communicates he's in the friend zone. Maybe she could say "Remind me to watch my toes if we ever go dancing!" Funny and makes him envision dancing with her. And she does still communicate "IF we ever". My 2 cents. ;-)
Make sure you're being your full, high value self jing jing and let him come to you and I'm sure he'll find himself wanting to be involved in your life :)
nikol paraskova been 2 months talking and building connection with him..then, last week, he told me he wanted to be my boyfriend. I freaked out, he freaked out, haha. I was honest enough to tell him that it needs a lot of work when it's a long-distance relationship. He wanted to try and see what happens but still not sure about doing the work (like, real dates, planning for getaways, etc.) it seems like he's fine chatting. I did tell him I like him, too and I'd like to try it with him, but I also told him that we really need to spend time together in person as much as we can and don't just settle for casual chatting. Then he went quiet. I panicked and told him I miss him. He got worried too, he thought I was upset. Everything went awkward until Friday. I sent him a message last Saturday, then he just read and not reply sometimes. Then he now tells me he's really busy, but somehow he's always active online. I feel like I scared him off because I told him what I need out of the relationship he's willing to try. So, I feel like I messed up at #13, maybe I was too much of a pressure to him, too much of a chore. I'm trying no-contact rule and see if something happens in the next few days..at the same time, doing what I can to move on I guess..
ok he wanted you to be his girlfriend, ok then why did you freak out ? the reason he went quiet because you gave him to much information guys dont like that, many dont, explaining yourself about there is gonna be a lot of work in a long distance relationship thats wrong DONT DO THAT! dont panick because things might not seem the way you think they are from my perspective, its not always good when you panick, i know that feeling when you panick happens to me and this make guys go quiet. dont say you miss him, when you dont know the guy very well, please. its went awkward because you freaked out, and started explaining yourself what you want from him in the relationship,i dont think he got worrried. guys tend to not reply because they either dont know what to say to you, you did make him run away because of to much details.. ok if he says hes busy , i believe he is busy, but if keeps saying he is busy constantly to avoid the conversation with you, he just doesnt want to talk to you right now, dear. if he active most the time and doesnt respond he just doesnt want to talk to you!!!! you did a lot of mistakes here. do you know the six sense, if its developed enough your intincts will be strong and you will listen to your intincts, if you dont have that you will rely on your intincts. listen to your feelings /intincts okay in this situation you shouldve not freaked out, you shouldve said to him, ok i will think about me being your girlfriend but its best we met in person, and get to know each other better :) other thing, you must met this guy get to know him ,try and see what he wants , most importantly what you want and if you meet the same needs then things will work out :) im sorry but im trying to give you tips and help you out :) im very honest and hope you not upset :)
Love the video Mark! The only one I have to disagree with is #10, don't get me wrong I've offered to pay for myself in the past, but certain cultures find that very rude. My current BF has made it very clear that the man pays and finds it demasculating if the woman even offers to pay.
So much easier to do if you don’t actually like him.
Bri Crossley YES!
omg why is that?! how do you make it stop?
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hah yes thats so true,when i dont like someone very much i actually act like this as i am ,have selfrespect etc,but when i like someone im pretty acting like an idiot. :D
Bri Crossley oh gad. U walk in my shoes
1. Don’t seek his approval
2. Talk about friends, you have a social life
3. Challenge him playfully
4. Communicate that fear doesn’t stop you
5. “Your family is so much cheekier than you” fit into his family
6. Be grateful for your life
7. Don’t put him on a pedestal, see who he really is
8. Have your own opinion
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Mark Williams, seems legit.
11. Be polite to other people
12. Be confident. "ill handle it"
13. Date with no agenda
15. Learn to say no without being a btch. Don't be afraid to say your own preference
I've always done all these and the only guys who chase me are married arse holes.
9. Tease him and say that whatever he failed at is why you couldn't date him
when you realize you already do most of these things and yet you are still alone.
Lol so true
So me 😂😂😢
The bottom line is just acting like you don't want him as a lover but as a friend
It's about flirting and demonstrating your self esteem Shirley :) Challenging a man, making him think and bringing that awesome energy to his life that makes you unforgettable
Mark Rosenfeld, wow u reply. Thanks :)
I have seen almost all ur videos for a couple hours. I'm going to apply ur dating advice to my crush very soon.. hope it works :D
AH... , I see.. 🤔😁
You don't have to play hard to get in order for a man to chase you. Let the chase be alive by being responsive about his thoughts and ideas because nothing is more attractive than a girl who is able to express herself without any hesitations.
Exactly!!
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This game can only be played for short period of time. After a while all the true personalties and traits will come out.. do you think you shall meet someone with masks on or just with authenticity? It’s very shallow to me to pretend you are independent but actually you are needy, pretend you are a jealous person but has to act like you are cool .. when more emotions get involved, shit can come out.. so get to know yourself first, embrace your own uniqueness, and heal your wounds.. don’t pretend, just be real, then you attract the real person who really appreciates you as an unique person that he truly sees himself in you.
Agree go - though I think many of the things in this video ARE coming from a place of many people 'best selves'. Fear often covers these types of carefree, high standard attitudes, and emotions can sometimes lead us astray.
agreed... 👍🏼
Cannot agree more!!!
1. If a guy doesn’t like me that’s his choice
2. I’m hanging out with friends
3. Challenge him competition
4.yeah it was scary anyway. Don’t let fear stop you
5. Fit into his family
6. Be grateful for your life
7. Don’t put him on a high level
8. I disagree and have opinions
9. Playfully make fun of him
10. Being polite to other people
11. It’s going to be tough but I’ll handle it, you are confident
12. Play your cards right and you might be able to see me again
13. It’s not my thing! Give men a firm no sometimes
I remember being fun. Then I married a guy who is so serious it stressed me out and turned me off of both the thought of men and sex. I look forward to healing.
I'm in my 50s and would never offer to pay my way, especially on the first date. In my age group, that'd be insulting to a man.
Lisa Cunningham In my group of peers the same. Incredibly insulting to their “masculine energy”. I tried twice and since then stopped. Even with guys that are only friends.
Thats in every age group, I would never offer to pay for myself. It's not only insulting but embarrassing if he agrees, who'd want to go on a date with that guy.
I always offer to pay and I'm more than happy to go 50/50. In the end of the day, I work and im capable of paying my way. I also value myself too much to allow a guy to pay all the time. My time is not more important than his time and I feel that's something everyone should realise
I‘m 23 and typically date guys in my age (25-30). I always offer to pay the first round (and end up paying it 9/10 times). Never had anyone not like me for it or feel insulted.
Helps me with my consciousness too, especially when I know I don’t wanna see this guy again 😅
I agree I would never offer to pay
YOU CANT MAKE A MAN CHASE YOU IF HE DOESNT WANT TO IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO IF HE DOESNT WANT TO CHASE HE WONT
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Yes I agree. It's either there or it's not
@Holli Would lol im crying
Exactly.
Wanna bet? Lol no I agree
Dear Mark, I politely disagree on „woman like a man without an agenda“. When I hear a man say „just seeing where it leads to“ to me it sounds he‘s not interested in fully committing just playing and I avoid contact 🤷🏼♀️
In my experiences, men who say that are after flings only. I avoid them too
He's saying men like women without an agenda. But I agree, women need to set the standard.
Great video. I'm wrote these down as I listened. I was married for 10 yrs to a extreme covert narcissist. Kids I and do regular mental health counseling for it. I'm 35 yrs old and learning to date again. Two teenagers and very busy schedule. I date men in their early to mid 40's in same situation as I. So I have binged your videos and a few other online coaches. Compiled all the advice and go for it. Trial and error; working on self respect and self love. There as so many of us women. I really feel were being missed over. Our walk is very different on some levels of reading situations. So as I'm listening to your video; I
Starred the ones I have already done without ever seeing a video like this, just from respecting myself and prioritizing. I starred 8 that I naturally done and 4 that I just put in my pocket of tools. So amazing video.
For my dating demographic, I do think its worth mentioning that #9 and #10 should only be used based on the man in front of you. #9 for a sensitive recent divorced middle aged man that is done with whatever he had just went through with marriage and dating, that man could easily take this as rejection enough to move on. I would and a few men I have dated would have as well. In our area, our children, length of marriage and how recently divorced. Its brought by date 2, even if a few seconds and quickly. It determines if the person in front of us truely know if they are ready to date. That stuff takes time, trial and error. That's a sensitive topic in our trend.
#10; The age of men I date are on the line of "old school dating". Meaning a women offering to pay for herself can be taken very offensive and can be hard of a situation to judge. I have found it's best to ask up front if he believes in old school dating. He simply will say yes with pride or look perplexed. If its pride, he already knows why your asking and you need to say no more. It was your unspoken offer to pay 50/50. Men have a natural instinct to feel they can provide for a women. Paying for the date makes him have that feeling.
If he is perplexed. You say, I was checking before hand so it doesn't get awkward. He will laugh and make a joke about changes in dating that leads into conversation that will quickly change topic once the waitress approaches for drink orders. You can have a comfortable conversation without thinking of the check and awkwardness. He respects that you ask before hand and you dont get brushed off after first date based on paying or not.
basically: be unbothered
We've been searching all over to find a channel that makes similar videos to us and im glad I came across this guy. He deserves to be bigger
Glad you enjoyed the video tripple threat. Cool channel!
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LOL most of these phrases/one liners are absolutely ridiculous. I mean, just be confident and yourself. This phrases will only attract one type of guy: a guy who likes the chase. Once he gets you ( which he WILL if you already like him and he is chasing), it's game over. He's gone. He'll get board, start seeing the real you ( which you hid from him at first behind these one liners), and move on to the next chase. You're better off actually working on yourself; as opposed to hiding behind silly one liners. For example, actually work on being confident on the inside, and that will shine through without you having to use these lines.FYI-please don't use that line should a guy ever trip and fall in front of you lol! At least ask him if he's okay haha!
Wow, you actually make dating (and flirting) sound so easy. Like it's some kind of language that is possible to learn. I've never seen such a simple and clear breakdown of all these strategies before, and yet I see other women (who have more success with men than me) apply them all the damn time. I could never quite grasp what kind of magic was that, and now I'm finally coming to understand. I can't wait to start practicing this stuff :D Thank you!
“Gratefulness is attractive to men”
Well I know some examples which are opposing... and I am always freaking grateful and still no man who respects me 😂 but I am grateful that I’m not falling for anyone and I enjoy my own busy great life
Only that sometimes I’m sad and fed up with this whole thing that I am lame at this whole relationship thing and feel awkward around guys and I have high standards also
This video is gold. It popped up in my suggestions and I watched again and enjoyed just as much as the first time. Thank you for all your work, Mark! You've helped me a lot in raising my self esteem & standards!
Awww that's a beautiful comment, Goddess. Thank you! Glad to know my content has helped. Thanks so much for watching! x
These rules only apply if you're dealing with a man that has standards, which I don't think exists.
He is cute and his way of explanation is clear and simple that makes everyone understand. Love him and his videos.
I don't know how I lived before I started binging on your videos, Mark. You're a blessing! :D
Thanks for watching and commenting Andjela. I'm glad you liked my videos. keep watching!
I totally agree with Marks reasoning. I've spoke to my best male friends and they say the same thing. If you're smoking hot and are not that interesting, they will sleep with you. But, if you can't keep up with that non-physical attraction side, he will realize he can't connect with you and leave you. I think women think attraction from men is all physical but that's not the case all time. Non-physical attraction needs to be cultivated and work on by yourself. Find your hobbies and passions in life. Be yourself and be honest. You are worthy and good enough.
"This is why We could never date" would make just me doubt myself and think twice.
Has to be delivered very playfully that one haha
Yeah i dont like this! as a girl if a guy said that i'd say sarcastically " No pliz date me Im dying" Or if it came plafully i'd just think in My head oh boy he is kinda childish Or have an unrealistic outlook. and i assume guys would feel like me too so i'd never say that!
I would also just exit the scene quickly. No matter how playful it was! I don't like players.
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I think it sounds differently when it’s coming from a girl than from a guy. Guys don’t mention dating, girls do.
You know, when male coaches tell guys to criticise girl’s appearance a bit to make her like them more (i.e. signalling “I could never have sex with you”), that’s the male equivalent of “I could never date you”.
Do you really want to make a man chase you or have it happen organically...if it’s this much work then he’s not the one. A guy who wants you will make the effort and put in the time ...and ladies you deserve a guy who puts the effort in and keeps putting the effort in the whole time even a year later.
I think the first one is not only essential for the man but a woman really needs to believe this otherwise she will have heartache whether it is short term relationship or a long term relationship where the man falls out of love. It is my goal not to take a man's disapproval or moving on as something personal.
Yeh absolutely agree Life
OMG! Mark......it's working...You're words are gold. Living my life for myself and prioritising my life has been amazing for myself and... secondlt my for my relationship. Crazy glad I stumbled across your clips.. Legend👊
I don't get dating. I'm just being myself. But I believe that I have to stop caring so much and wearing my heart on my sleeve. I want to be married. Don't know why it's taking so long.
Author Janae Marie girl I feel you
I have found this Chanel and I am enjoing it because the way you explain things and the way you talk match with my way of thinking. I'm glad to see the tips and notice that I 'm already that type of woman doing those things naturally
That's great Tamires. So good to have you on the channel as a subscriber :)
you were born to do this ....and u handsome too
Arw thankyou Blessing. That's a super lovely comment xx
This technic works only for guys who like like-minded women, who can play games with words. But I do not want to deny that there are women who are shy, non-talkative, traditional ladies can attract certain guys too. But these are very good tips, thanks for that!
Anywyz if he dnt love u he will leave u.....
Certainly people who fall out of love do often end up calling it quits rahmayhunnisa
Mark Rosenfeld may be but not in my case.... bcz i tried all to get him back....n yes ofcourse used ur videos too....only in vain
But ppl who r hvng new relationships n a little prblm in it.... can b saved thrwgh ur videos sir
thats not always the case my dear, men who say they love you dont love you at all :) they dont leave you. the once who leave you were not so into you in the first place, theres no love here,
nikol paraskova agreed completely
im glad you understand, im being honest. guys find it difficult to say they love you, when they arnt sure of their feelings, but they show their feelings in a different form, like take care of you, buy you presents, being there for you, message you and call you even buy you flowers, help you in your future studies or jobs situation thats a guy who loves you, you dont need him to say he does, he will one day thats for sure be patience
Thank you for encouraging good character and healthy boundaries. Most dating advice is utter crap. They tell people to act like manipulative jerks and then men are leery of good women because they have been screwed over too many times but game playing manipulators. Your channel is refreshing. You are a rare dating advice person that I respect. Good job.
Arw, that's so sweet of you Heather Anne. What a lovely comment! I'm glad you're enjoying the videos, I hope you got something out of it. Cheers! xx
Loved this, great video! You don't just point out the phrases, but also the traits and behaviour behind them. As much as you encourage having a standard in dating, I love the fact you always give people aspirations to set standards for themselves personally, for example self respect and confidence etc.
Yeh I love that Emily - thanks for noticing :) I think it's SO important to point that out, otherwise I'm just teaching women to 'act' - which is all BS if it's not backed up with real actions and positive life change.
I was talking to a guy and when he found out I had different opinions he would get upset because he thought we were 'arguing'. We were literally just discussing each other's views. I'd even end each discussion with 'I don't agree with you, but I do respect your views.' He couldn't handle it. 1 month of no contact and he just emailed me a couple days ago asking how I was. Before we stopped talking I asked him to respect my decision to not talk. He said okay but has now broken that. He doesn't respect me.
He respects you, he just wants to be validated and have control.... Run... You'll never get along. Trust, I know from experience.
This is exactly what I was looking for great timing
That's great! Thanks Emma :)
Me too. :-)
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The production quality of your videos just keep getting better and better - so good! And excellent tips, of course :)
Thanks Anahata - we'll do our best to maintain that. Hah!
That's such fantastic feedback! Thanks for being on the channel with us! x
If you have to be told to be kind and polite to people, you are not ready for any kind of relationship.
What a lovely video! It's very helpful when there are scenarios performed!
Keep up the good work!❤️
Cheers Bahari. I'll aim to do more like these for you x
Thank Mark . I am so glad you agree with me. I used most of this rules!! They never fail!!!
Tried number 7. He stopped taking to me.
💀 Im deaudddduhhhh
Damn
Hahah! It was a really stupid one. They are lot of men who are very insecure and have never ever felt like they'd be a "God" to any woman.
lol
MsJeesus I think that line works only on players, regular guy would feel insulted to hear that because he doesn’t have a bunch of side chicks.
It’s like telling an attractive but shy girl “other people met constantly say how pretty you are, but you’re not”, like wtf?
omg i really cant tell how much i looooove when youy make diffreent scenes with what youre trying to say!! love the effort :)))
jimin in ur pfp uwu
Simple, clear, to the point. Love it! And really helpful.
Thanks Iris!
I am 63 and looking for dating advice (go figure! need to do things differently). I found that your channel offered much more help than ones aimed at older folks. So--thanks!
Aww such level headed and sound advice, without any added drama or hard sell!
Thanks Thea :) Am glad you liked the video!
Great video Mark 😍😍😍😍 you saved my life. I was so dependent that made every one run away. After watching your channel, since then I have tried my best to change my way and attitude. So many thanks 😇😇😇
Solmaz that's so beautiful... thankyou!!
Gratitude is my favourite trait in others too!
Dang! Instead of being myself, just as you've described, I've been going about this all wrong. Shoot! I'm going to be ME! from now on. No wonder my guy friends love me so much and the men I really want to date me don't want me! Time to back up and be ME! No more faking it and trying to be what they want. Hell fire!
Boom! Nice work Roxann!!
You've really been doing that???
How pathetic, I'm so sorry for you
13 is totally true - I can vouch for that! But it can also have the reverse affect 😬 you can get attention you don't want.
I was using a "meet people" app & straight out told everyone I opened chat with, that I was just looking for friendships & one guy I had a few things in common with, thought he was in.
What annoyed me most about this particular app, was not knowing that it told him I was only 200 meters away from him, until he told me I must live close to him.
That was creepy.
Then after a while, he kept asking if he could come over & I was of course hesitant, because I lived alone & I really didn't know him.
If he knew where I lived & things went south, I wouldn't feel safe in my home.
I took a risk & met up with him for a coffee, at a park near both our houses, when many people were there, playing sport.
I was just being me, not flirting, well not intentionally.
After this meet up, he thought we were dating & was "jokingly" telling me he was going to ride around the neighborhood on his pushbike, to find my car, where I lived.
I had to clear the air. I asked him what he thought this was?
He got serious & I had to remind him I was only looking for a friend.
He got shitty at me, accused me of flirting my arse off & being a dick tease 😳
Then I was worried about what kind of vibes, being myself, was putting out there. So I asked a friend & he said, "Well, you're charismatic! He probably confused that with flirting. But I've seen you flirting & there's clearly a difference."
Right. So I either had to tone down being myself or end the "friendship".
I ended the friendship.
I can't & won't stop being who I am, because it might be attractive to someone I'm not attracted to.
I don't live for that reason.
Thanks for sharing AndriArt
Lovely video. I really enjoyed it. Greetings from Mexico!! Xx
Thanks Laura! All the way from Australia
This was very casual behavior. Not every woman has this type of personality. Some of us can be a little shy or nervous especially on a first date. But I get it!
Love your channel! Such a class act! Thank you!
Wonderful Mark, I'm a senior who by absolute sheer chance got in contact with what seems by all aspects about him, is an upstanding, strong, honest man we are separated by half of this world, he is a high rank militaty stationed in Pakistan, we can hardly beleive how serendipitous we got in touch on Tweeter, he is 6 years younget than me, which I brought to his attention to keep honestly as a priority, he said age was just a number, wether I was younger or older it didn't matter one bit, after that my response was a text saying "still" to wich I followed with " we can always be friends ", he'd said to me before that he wanted a short relationship and if things were good formalize it, I didn't react to it and just casualy continue a comunication, keeping it light and never seeming clingy
Now I had been out of trying to find anyone for years, getting in touch like he says and I aggre, seemed some special plan we didn't control
I look for something which.could help me learn several things, like
How to use text, does and don'ts
Things to say when a budding relationship is bery long distance
I'm sure you being an expert are getting the gist of my situation
By a couple.of his profile, he is physically what I like as far as how he looks, he'd tell me beautiful things and most of the time I pass no response other than going to any other thing we were already talking about even when it is great what he id telling me.
Is this senior woman wrong or am I in the right track to advance this, I think he travels back to the US, as often as he can, and told me several times he looks forward meeting me. Now I live in Southern California he in Florida, and still keeps im touch, is kind of difficult with a little over 12 hours 30 minutes difference in our schedule, anyway today at about 2:30 am his time, I sent a tiny naughty (not graphic) message, kind of a funny tease after that I included a picture where all is missing are my feet, I'm fully dressed, just standing in a cute kind of flirty outfit, saying " so you see more or less how I look "
I hope I hadn't done anything which will himder something rhat has put wings in my being and to use the correct balance between I'm really interested and yeah this is nice
I already subscribed to your account and listen to a few of your tapes, I think you are hansome interesting and brilliant a powerful communicator, with all my semior heart thank you and stay blessed.
I'm not going to read proof my message therefore I hope you can forgive them.
A respectful cyberhug from Ce Ce
To be comtinued:
Thanks so much for sharing your situation with me myfurrykid. If you do want comprehensive answers you'd need to email me/book in. I so appreciate you subscribing to my channel!
Ladies and gentlemen, yet another successful video with Jermia!! Love the two of you on camera together :)
Mark, thanks for the list of 15 things to say. Definitely see how a confident and secure woman would naturally say these things...and that is the state of mind we are aiming to being.
Yeh that's it Steph! It's obviously not just about saying them, but about being the type of woman who would say them naturally and authentically
Thanks so much for watching and commenting! It's fantastic having you on the channel!
You are just speaking the truth and things that women need to hear.
Everytime I offer to pay they make it so awkward..like I just challenged their manhood or something... its like these tactics only work on men who are good men...and its hard to find good men...really hard
I totally agree. Ive done it without knowing and dont know how i even got a guy lol... now i know... thanks. Ill keep these all.in mind
In other words be confident and that you are not "glingy" and that you have a life and goals of your own. It works!
Love love love the video. Love the tips & singleness of it, love the short clips, love the concise descriptions from you. The format is perfect.
10 minutes in 2 words: be positive and independent
He is saying men like woman with confidence but I feel they are intimidated by confidence! This is in my experience.
can you do a video on dating a youtuber?? what does that entail, concerns, opinions...thoughts? you are the best mark!
You lost me at 10. I do always offer to pay if I'm out as friends with a guy, however too many men are being instructed to act like women and women like men. I come from a home of strong patriarchs who are offended by such behavior. Women may not want to admit it these days but our instinct is to seek out a good provider and protector, a strong patriarch. Many men seek to meet those need. I wish dating coaches would stop telling women and men to go against their gender roles u are confusing people and making dating harder. Yea it's not fair that a man pay for dinner but it also isn't fair that women he to carry a child in their womb for 9 months and push s child that is the size of a watermelon out of their private area. Please stop teaching men to feel like victims because they are expected to be gentlemen and pick up the tab. I'm floored at how many men actually emasculate themselves willingly these days
I agree with everything else u say but men are acting too much like women these days
Thanks for the comment Lindey! Have a look at this video and I explain all about this. It's not the end of chivalry - it's about expectations and standards :)
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Completely agree. Paying for dinner is nothing compared to what he wants from us or what we are expected to do. For Christ’s sake as a man pay for a woman’s dinner that you are trying to get to know and don’t pay for the women that you feel are using you. It’s that simple.
strongly agree
OH MY GOD that is the most stupid comment I have ever read
Not sure why I keep watching these dating videos to see if there's advice that feels helpful with my marriage. I feel like so much of this is tricky to apply properly in a relationship where I've had 5 of his kids. "I'll handle it" when it's something crazy hard to handle with our kids is setting me up for failure.
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Yes they like an independent woman but they also like a woman to need their help.
Yes cuz some guy really broke up with a girl for not being needy at all m being independent 😶 through text I found pic of it on insta idk who relationship was tho
I’ve been dating wrong for so many years 😩 I’m glad I came across this channel!
15 things to take off his shirt.
Hahahaha
basically be friend them first; I think; and be someone who is up for a challenge;
I really enjoyed this video
Fantastic to hear! xx
Thank you so much! actually helpful tips that we haven't heard a million times.
Great!! As always🙏🏼Thank you
Thanks Miche!
Great one Mark!!
Thanks for sharing 👍
Mark is a genius. Do you guys know if he has a podcast? 🤔
I don't Ana - perhaps something for the future? Thanks for enjoying my content :)
The Dachshund is simply adorable!
Awesome video!! You guys have really good chemistry 😁
Emily Fan so glad you enjoyed the video! 😊😊
Love this! Youre great Mark! Always.
really? so a woman needs to ridicule a man in order to make him chase her? what if he is the type of man who gets kind of hurt or offended by that...he might be strong and mighty at the same time, but some quite can have their egos wounded by that, no? I mean, If someone told that to me, I would be a bit disheartened. :/ lol slong the "oh you are such a worry thats why we can never date" lines.
Proud Slav ok yes cause he needs to learn not to be disrespectful
Even if I don’t have anything going on I have to lie n say I’m with friends lol
If a guy says it’s a date but doesn’t offer to pay.. is that concerning? (2nd date)
Check this video out Porcelain - should help you x
Which video...?
I have social anxiety and have said the opposite of almost every last one of these. and the pay for yourself line, i got stuck with the guy who said OK. Years later, I got treated like crap so bad by him I dont even remember how to be playful. Im screwed.
Helpful video. Love it. 👍👍❤
Shankyou Dayna
The best thing about these tips is that they could totally also work on women.
Indeed! Thanks for watching xx
Mark you're the best
Arw shankyou Miss Sunshine x
Are you ever at a loss for words? This is a great!
Sorry I couldn't joke about a guy falling in a hole or something it isn't in me. I would be are you ok in a super feminine voice. When someone gets hurt it is about the only time my super feminine voice pops out.
Hahahah that's a bit cute ;)
I’m the same way ...
Yeah I’m a special needs teacher, so the teacher in me would definitely say “ are you ok?” And be overly concerned lol! 😂😂😂😂 it’s hard to control
Excellent Video Mark!
Hi Mark your so amazing wish if all men Could be like you
Amazing video 😍😍😍😍and thus your dad wow
Thanks Dianaah - hahahah yeh he's pretty frickin awesome
Thus why your handsome 😍😍😂😂😂😂
Hello Mark! you are so wonderful to give wonderful tips.Started to like you DEAR!Take Care.
Hey Mark! I had to watch this one several times. Very good list and Jermia did wonderful as always.
Yeh that's such a great line. Sooo much power, playfulness and value in it. Ahhhh I love it :D
Denise Campbell family? Thank you none of them involve, work hard to save them instead
Basically be positive and kind while respecting your tastes and standards...
Thanks for your thoughts Caroline. Glad you like the video xx
#5 and #9 I take a little issue with. "Here's why..." lol ...#5 I get the gist, but what she says is kinda mean (like Pickup Artist-style). She could say "Your family gave up all your secrets. I've got material for DAYS!! haha" would still be funny, endearing and communicates that his family sees HER as "in" enough to tell her stuff. #9 Communicates he's in the friend zone. Maybe she could say "Remind me to watch my toes if we ever go dancing!" Funny and makes him envision dancing with her. And she does still communicate "IF we ever". My 2 cents. ;-)
That's cool!! I like it :) Obviously #5 has to be delivered VERY playfully
Rina Shaffer shes mean
Get lost
Wow such a useful and fun presentation!! ... More of these please..
Hey congrats on your vid surpassing 1m views, that's nuts!
Thanks Sydney - pretty cool huh?!?
thanks mark i am indian and here nobody discusses this topic ..love u
My pleasure Neeta - so glad you enjoyed the video :)
Your video helps me reclaim my crown. Thanks a lot!
That's great EvilQueen :)
I've watched most of your videos over and over again. I some how know where to put my feet next time. big up Mark
I messed up at #13 😔 now I think he doesn't wanna see me and talk to me..can it be repaired?
Make sure you're being your full, high value self jing jing and let him come to you and I'm sure he'll find himself wanting to be involved in your life :)
self respect!! as mark says ! :)
jing jing may i ask where did you go wrong, i can guide you from there
nikol paraskova been 2 months talking and building connection with him..then, last week, he told me he wanted to be my boyfriend. I freaked out, he freaked out, haha. I was honest enough to tell him that it needs a lot of work when it's a long-distance relationship. He wanted to try and see what happens but still not sure about doing the work (like, real dates, planning for getaways, etc.) it seems like he's fine chatting. I did tell him I like him, too and I'd like to try it with him, but I also told him that we really need to spend time together in person as much as we can and don't just settle for casual chatting. Then he went quiet. I panicked and told him I miss him. He got worried too, he thought I was upset. Everything went awkward until Friday. I sent him a message last Saturday, then he just read and not reply sometimes. Then he now tells me he's really busy, but somehow he's always active online. I feel like I scared him off because I told him what I need out of the relationship he's willing to try. So, I feel like I messed up at #13, maybe I was too much of a pressure to him, too much of a chore. I'm trying no-contact rule and see if something happens in the next few days..at the same time, doing what I can to move on I guess..
ok he wanted you to be his girlfriend, ok then why did you freak out ?
the reason he went quiet because you gave him to much information guys dont like that, many dont, explaining yourself about there is gonna be a lot of work in a long distance relationship thats wrong DONT DO THAT! dont panick because things might not seem the way you think they are from my perspective, its not always good when you panick, i know that feeling when you panick happens to me and this make guys go quiet. dont say you miss him, when you dont know the guy very well, please. its went awkward because you freaked out, and started explaining yourself what you want from him in the relationship,i dont think he got worrried. guys tend to not reply because they either dont know what to say to you, you did make him run away because of to much details.. ok if he says hes busy , i believe he is busy, but if keeps saying he is busy constantly to avoid the conversation with you, he just doesnt want to talk to you right now, dear. if he active most the time and doesnt respond he just doesnt want to talk to you!!!! you did a lot of mistakes here.
do you know the six sense, if its developed enough your intincts will be strong and you will listen to your intincts, if you dont have that you will rely on your intincts.
listen to your feelings /intincts okay
in this situation you shouldve not freaked out, you shouldve said to him, ok i will think about me being your girlfriend but its best we met in person, and get to know each other better :)
other thing, you must met this guy get to know him ,try and see what he wants , most importantly what you want and if you meet the same needs then things will work out :) im sorry but im trying to give you tips and help you out :) im very honest and hope you not upset :)
Love the video Mark! The only one I have to disagree with is #10, don't get me wrong I've offered to pay for myself in the past, but certain cultures find that very rude. My current BF has made it very clear that the man pays and finds it demasculating if the woman even offers to pay.
Thanks appreciate. Good food for thought. Appreciate you sharing that x
Your so damm handsome man...so pleasant to watch while listening to your advice.haha..so lucky the woman you are with 😂😁😊
I like your videos before watching it! So much profession! Thank you! 💓
Thanks again, Bogi F! Great to have you on here! 😊