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Your video is great as always, but I suppose the German title shouldn't say: "How to scare / chase a man AWAY"... cuz that´s what it shows to me: "Wie man einen Mann verjagt" :D Better: "5 Wege, wie du einen Mann dazu bringst, dir hinterher zu jagen" Title translation is locked for me. Maybe u should change that, because I'm sure I'm not the only German viewer. ^^
I think I needed this video many dating failures before 😩 I've actually watched few of those and oh mehn it's an eye opener. I needed to hear this. I've spent past few years finally working on myself, putting my needs first, building the high quality life for myself. And already noticed I've started attracting higher quality men... BUT! I am still working on my emotional levels to ensure that I don't become this needy self obsessed possessive woman that drives them away... Your videos provide great insight into men's world and not only - they help me become a better woman. Thanks Mark!
hey Mark! Can you do a more detailed video on how to restrain from giving him bf benefits if he's not your bf? I've been consistently going out with this guy for a couple months and very recently his dog died. He came over that day and we cooked dinner and talked and I comforted him... basically I gave him all the boyfriend benefits that evening. How does a high value woman be warm and supportive while still reserving these special things for a man who's committed to her?
Mark, you said judge a man only by the way he acts to you. But what if he is quite horrible to other girls but is very nice to me? If I was to judge him only by the way he acts towards me, I should think he is a good man. But how he has been to other girls makes me wonder if i should be alert. He says he had been selfish in the past but with me, he has changed. Thoughts?
1. Build a high quality exciting life men want to be a part of. 2. Raise your standards for love. 3. Don't give him boyfriend benefits until he's your boyfriend. Not about sex! About all the unique benefits you give him as a gf. 4. Judge him only by his actions towards you. 5. Be willing to walk if he drops the ball. ☺
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this made me cry, no woman was ever taught to value herself this way, this is exactly where our strength lies and what keeps him in love, not just the whole between your legs
I should’ve calmed my hormones before it got me into trouble. Thank goodness it was just a long distance crush / fwb type with just sexting and not having real sex yet. I started to develop feelings for him hoping it would turn into something more. Eventually didn’t work out because he chose his ex over me. Painful to finally let it go but it taught me to value myself.
+Mark Rosenfeld hi mark I like this guy who works in my local store he always trys to make convocation and I always catch him looking at me he said hi to me when he wasnt working i said hi and walked out the shop of embarrassment I always catch him lookin at me I rely like him and wana get to no him how do I this ??
1. Build a high quality exciting life men want to be a part of 2. Raise your standards for love 3. Don't give him boyfriend benefits until he becomes your boyfriend 4. Judge him only on his actions relative to you 5. Be willing to walk away! ✨💫ULTIMATELY, your self respect has to come before your feelings.✨💫
Mark Rosenfeld how can I grow identify the right guy for her when all she's previously dated are dirtbags and losers except for two guys that were really sweet
Mark Rosenfeld how can a girl attract the right guy for her when she's previously dated losers and Dives and men who just wanted to treat her like dirt so how can she tell the difference between the right guy and I loser that won't be right for her
such great advice. I fell in love with someone that started abusive narcissistic behavior out of nowhere on our 6th month. having my own life and routine made it easier to walk away. I believe these steps are on point as long as the man is "healthy"... because on the flip side you have to love yourself enough to walk away.
I like the way how you remain yourself. You are not trying to sell or anything like that. You are just being the genuine you, and that's what hits us. You are in your fild. Thank you so much. Love from Norway ☺
THANK YOU! I've been dating this guy for a few months but he did drop the ball and I walked away. I was having second thoughts but you are absolutely right. I kind of neglected my own life for those months and this stranger suddenly became a priority without earning it. Thank you so much, I feel much more confident in my action now :)
That's so great Anihihi - congrats on having the strength. Many don't. I know from personal experience how tough that is, so you should be crazy proud of yourself :)
I agree Hawa Fuseini. Even kissing on the first date is too soon. I think if you’ve raised your standards, you definitely won’t have sex with someone on a first date. I personally believe that sex is a special and intimate bond that I would like to have with my husband only. I’m aware that not everyone shares this view, however, ladies do not buy into this that you need to have sex early on, after all you are not there to satisfy a sexual craving he has before a man has proven himself and his commitment to you. Know your worth and value as a woman and do not settle. Why have sex with someone if you’re even uncertain about his love for or commitment to you, especially where sexual diseases, STDs are rampant because we live in a society that promotes sexual promiscuity and tries to belittle chastity and sexual purity. I know quite a few people who are still virgins and even those who were sexually active before, but decided to stop and live a chaste life until they’re married, because it wasn’t working out and they wanted something better and different. Please don’t be pressured into having sex before time. If a man really cares for, loves and is committed to you, he will treasure you and wait for you. Know your worth ladies and set and maintain your standards.
#5 sooooo true. When you are lacking you are more likely to put with crap. BUT when you life together you are less likely to put up with mediocre and especially being treated like crap.
Mark Rosenfeld please help me I feel so depressed and I want him back in my life but by keeping my self respect and dignity maintained plz help me u r my only and last hope
Princess Se in my opinion ;if you want him back to you dont show him that you are so hungry for him to come back ,show him that you dont care and you are strong enough ,show him that you are so happy enjoy your time ,so he will wonder and will come back to you ,mostly men they dont like a lady when she shows that she care about him when they disappear , they like and also become crazy when she become stronger enough and happy with out him.
All these are great but number 5 is the most important. Even if you marry, always keep in the back of your mind "what happens if he leaves you". Keep on obtaining your personal life goals. Keep a pot of cash just for you... nothing sneaky... but keep the you that is you.
Eh don't underestimate men simply falling in love. I am a lunatic with a life full of stress, work, study.. minimal friendships/social life... AND I'm going through a divorce. A really good guy fell for me last year... he is well adjusted compared to me, in way better financial situation, way better looking and fitter than me. I did everything "wrong". Told him all my problems, pried into his personal life/feelings, chased him at times, freaked out on him a few times, stressed him out, confused him... but he still fell in love with me and now he can barely go a day without asking to see me. So I am really not sure how that works.
That was your very interesting article, here are a few more tips on how to get a guy to like you: Know yourself - Many people don’t attract what really fulfils them because they don’t really know what they want and like. If you don’t really know yourself, you won’t recognize your soul mate. Get honest to yourself about what you really value and appreciate in your life. The more honest you are about your values, principles and beliefs, the more you will open yourself up to attracting the life partner who's also a soul mate. Be yourself Live your true resonance - To attract your soul mate, it isn't enough just to be yourself. You need to surround yourself with what you love and do, and participate in activities that reflect your authentic self. Go to places that really interest you and bring you joy. We attract by resonance. The more resonance we have in our lives, the more we attract people who “match us,” our likes, activities and lifestyle. Be a whole person (I read about these and more on Avyanna attract tactic website )
Bye Bye Belly I love what you said.....!!!! I'm a work in progress!! Separated with two opinionated teens....!! When the right man comes along, that man will take you as you are....By all means, one must strive for the best version of themselves ( a very healthy mindset and setting oneself goals is attractive), but sometimes life hands one lemons and it's up to one to make lemonade...
You're a freaking life saver, man! I'm crying like crazy over here, I've been abused for years without even realising how wrong it is. I can never thank you enough for opening my eyes!
Yeh it really is lukn4perfection - writing an article about this at the moment actually. It really is true. There always has to be a line in the sand no matter how much you love someone of what you won't accept if it came down to it. It's how men always have that little, and natural, fear of losing you, that makes them always want to work to keep you.
your videos are really helping me. i litterally had no standards at all.. Til I realized "I" had a choice. I'm no ones puppet anymore ❤ keep up the great work
Thanks doll....you def resonated with me....I recently was asked by an idiot to be fwb's bc he quite liked me but didn't feel he could be emotionally available.....I had such conflicting feelings bc he seemed so great in every aspect....but in the way he treated me by only wanting part of me....I see....he wasn't so great after all. And now I don't second guess myself and just walk away when I hear that line of bs😂
Best channel I've subscribed to! You've turned the dark depressing cloud over romance and love to a euphoric feeling! This video has made me think I'm not going to be an old maid at 26 years old. You have a gift, Mark! ✨✨✨
Very sound advice! I am addicted to “ romantic interplay” at the onset but when you come to certain crossroads-I totally agree that “self respect” should be most important.
This is the first of your videos I have seen, and yes, it is certainly a good one to start on! It makes perfect sense to me, and thank you for explaining it this way!
That's great Hilary... welcome to the channel. It was a good one to start on. Great to have you on here and I'm super excited to bring more out for you in the future.
I could relate so much the #3 on the list. I used to be like this before to someone who I used to love. And then I decided to stop because I realized he was taking advantage of my weakness and that he doesn't have any plans on taking what we have into the serious level. So girls, you should know your worth and don't settle for less. Agree?
Cool. I’ve Never heard another dating coach say that men love relationships. I hope that’s true because that gives me more faith in the gender it’s self
thank you very much. it's not only what you say (and what you say is gold and every woman should hear it) it's also that there's something special behind your words..it's your beautiful spirit...you were born to do this. i thank you on behalf of women. keep up the good work. blessings to you.
Wow! This is inspiring advice. I watched a few videos like this in the past, so these dating advice videos keep popping up in my recommended videos. This is the first video I've seen that really hits the mark and gets to the root of the issue. Thank you! I'm subscribing!
Thanks so much Judith - wow really appreciate that comment. I'm all about getting rid of the rubbish games in this area and giving real advice that works in the long term, so awesome to hear you enjoyed :)
"The power of love lies to those who care less..." This quote from a movie is kind of similar to this. It's really about bluffing. Like you said similarly, "have your own lifestyle he/she likes..." And "show him/her that you can always get back to your normal life" and "walk away if he/she drops the ball..." Don't get me wrong, love is a wonderful thing and yes, men love being in a relationship as much as women do. This discussion is at the tip of the iceberg of what it means of "liking" someone. But love is really when that bluffing stops and he/she is no longer willing to get back to his/her normal life and is willing to live the life for the both of you... Relationships are like diving into the pool; you dip your feet into the water to test your comfort but never really dive into the deep end. It always starts at a narrow end (attraction) and then you go slowly to the deeper end (understanding, consistency, compromise, and patience).
I'm on a learning journey to be the best woman I can be and I've started studying your teachings. I'm here to testify they work! I just got this text message "I don't know what it is about you, but I just can't stop thinking of you. You're like no women I've ever met."
Hey Mark, I have not ever felt the need to leave a comment to a youtube video....Until today. I really appreciate you using your influence as a good-looking, relationally intelligent man to encourage and guide women. I agree with what you're saying. Thank you for this.
Carlos Palada well for me personally if I like a guy. I can't run to him and say im interest like that.. I could try to. make conversation with him and pretending I want to invite him for a movie or something's. or anything fun so we both could spend together. .thorn if his a man enough. he will ask me out next time so by going out.. .basically if we both feel same way something's will happen if not then ill not waste my times
Carlos Palada look some of my friends does all the times. its just not me .. I grew up in a family very privates strick I barely go out .. I barely know guys by the times a guy really take me out i was 19 something. .. *so I I don't know I grew up very inside home wasn't aloud to dates before graduate so I couldn't ever dare me talk to guys ... so basically my point is i always either think ill get reject or he won't like my color or my me .. or sometimes Im still thinking Im living back home. so that kind if hold me back. .. in my country girls can't do that. .. guys have to go in their way to ask your parents for you . or they try to ne friends first they can get to you ... here its totally different. .. Im who Im I can't change it now. .. Maybe someday I might change. .. but from my culture in point of view I feel better when a man as courage to come to me ....I feel better. .. at the same times I love when girls do i be like you brave girl... but Im brave in my own thing we all have our styles ....
Can you give advice on Men who pull away but when you start to pull away too then they wanna get mad or question you for doing the same thing they are doing?
You'd have to be more specific with the situation Tralyn. If they're pulling away and not putting in the effort you don't really give them the time of day? I mean they can feel however they like, but if they're pulling away and not investing, it's not really your problem.
omg you're the realest dating coach i have come across in the last years..... hurtful but real. everybody and really everybody else sugarcoats the whole things.
All of this is true, BUT when you get so pissed with your boyfriend because he’s constantly putting his friend first and not having time for you you’re not exactly gonna wanna MAKE him chase you. I’m currently ignoring him because he’s got 0% time for me.
Hi Mark. I have seen allot of video's from different people and just wanted to say i love your video's. You are straight to the point and fun to listen to. Also informative. I feel like you really know your stuff. Greetings from Rotterdam! (the Netherlands)
Hey mark, I recently read an article about how we tend to put relationships or the people we're interested in on pedestals. I've never thought of it before and thought it's an interesting perspective. Would love to see your view on it :)
Mark Rosenfeld great, here's one www.scienceofrelationships.com/home/2013/11/22/the-dangers-of-putting-your-partner-on-a-pedestal-relationsh.html And this is another, with a different view/result. www.glamour.com/story/want-your-relationship-to-work/amp I agree with the first article about how we should not over idealise relationships but was surprised that the second article had a completely different result. I think this is could be a topic for a whole video hahaha, but please do share your insight :)
Cheers! I'll have a read of these when I've had more than 2 hours sleep of a night and see if I can answer your question in a short ask-mark vid. If not, I'll make a full vid on it! Thanks J J!
Mark, you can't imagine it's my first time visiting your TH-cam channel and I'm obsessed with every video xx It has helped me so so much. ThankYou Mark X Stay Blessed and keep making us smile xx
wow. what a treaure trove. you are spot on mate. been feeling a bit heart broken at the moment. this video just made me feel a ton better. thank you so much.
What if you're totally comfortable NOT having a big exciting life and Prefer being low key happy? Or can't afford to go out and do things JUST to make yourself Seem a certain way when that's not who you are? I'm a great woman with Standards but I'm not a Huge fan of being out n about when I could be working in or on my home or relaxing. Does that make me Uninteresting?? or Unworthy of a Good Man?
my native language aren't english (if there is something wrong with the text). for me; i don't like men chasing, it scares me some how, feeling trapped, even the slightest hint of interest can scare me, and its hard for me to fall in love. i just like when things just happens, if so (i like when a relationship creeps on, just being friends first - with out feeling love). and i feel i want a "spiritual" relationship, if so) like; not much sex at all, but a very deep/close profound relationship, (i know, i don't think many are like that), but lucky me i don't feel sad living alone, in fact i feel blessed, and partly due since 80% lives in bad relationships, 70% ends their relationships (not in all countries cus of traditions/religions), 10% stays cus of various reasons, "only" 20% finds their so called soulmate (its what i read), and its true; many have told their problems with in their relationship/marriage to me. what makes me feel/think the way i do abt a relationship, is partly because of born specific characteristic traits, i just recently got to know having the term: HSP (highly sensitive person, with the version of being both strong and sensitive/brittel (others are more "only" sensitive), and of course upbringing contributes.
*Mark Rosenfeld* I'm sorry, i haven't been able to thank you for your comment until now!, thank you so much Mark! I was new to your channel - and this was the first video i saw that i commented on. And after that i saw a couple of more. You are caring, profound, grounded, gentle, also sensitive and strong, and lighthearted. I have watched some other guys relationship channels, and i think yours was the best!, due to your insights personality/character. Take care! hope to see you in heaven one day! :)
hi again, yeah i think you are really good Mark!... . i have used a wrong word in my former message (i can't edit it, technical problem), the word; lighthearted (i'm not the best at english, but i think the word; easygoing is the right word instead, i'm sorry (my native language is swedish). p.s i also like your genuine style when talking, being kind, serious, and very respectful, i like that very much!. :)
You are speeeeeeaking! I literally just made a video similar to this... for the longest I couldn't figure out why guys were always so intrigued w/ me in the beginning & then all of a sudden it just stops & it's because I don't make a man work for my love. It's not even about sex because this has happened w/ guys I've never even had sex with... one of my guy friends told me "never trust what a man tells you, only what he shows you." You are so on point.
I my self believe that sex is something special and should be shared with someone you care about or more importantly love. I agree you should have your own life when your seeing someone and if a month or two down the road sex happens it because you have feelings for each other. You shouldn't with hold sex but it shouldn't be given away as if it means nothing. Sorry just my opinion and everyone has one.
I agree Kim, and the most important thing is to do it on your terms when it's comfortable for you. I suppose the hard part is, for the most part in todays dating, it's probably unrealistic to expect to only have sex with people you 'love' because the reality is love takes a long time to develop, much much longer than sexual chemistry. A lot of women (sadly) are raised with a lot of shame as it relates to sex and are taught (conciously or subconciously) that it's 'bad' or 'dirty' to enjoy sex for sex itself. My aim is to help women feel empowered as it relates to sex, so they can have it when they want at a time that is comfortable for them and never feel 'ashamed' of themselves afterwards for it.
Kim Sikorski my opinion as Chelsea Rodham I think sex is better when you are both virgins and you are married then do it cz I have seen my friends hurt but thanks for your comment but I believe one should not just give in like u said u know girls have to know they are expensive me ik am expensive and ya anyone should know that she is giving it to the right person cz dem niggas are on hit and run 🏃 nowadays
Mark Rosenfeld Just want to say that not having sex with someone that you just met has nothing to do with shame. It has to do with morals. And if more woman would not just sleep with men because there horny or to think if they do the guy will like them more or for what ever reason might be going through there heads, the point is women need to respect them selves and men also. Because as long as women have sex with men they don't know or even hardly know is why women can't find a man that actually wants a relationship. You know why? Because of the stuff people like your self put out there about sex don't mean nothing. Actually sex is beautiful and should be with someone you love. Just think lady's if most of you wouldn't give it away like a phone number then one of those men might actually stay around to get to know you and what makes you the special person that you are and it has nothing to do what is between your legs. It's actually what is in your heart, you smile, your laugh. It's all the special things that makes a man fall in love with you and when you give him sex the first night and only think of it as sex and nothing more then that is how and what he actually thinks about you....nothing.
Mark Rosenfeld could I question? how attitude is important in a relationship or meeting someone, but they said, if you really love someone, you'll accept them from who they really are. coz no one's perfect, I met someone, I always see some red flags at the beginning and along the way, but then, I always ignore it, coz I love him, and right when yoh love you accept the whole him, but it's alwags the reason why I always cry because of it. do we need to consider an attitude of a guy? or rather accept him wholy?
It completely depends what the red flags are Hana! He leaves the toilet seat up. You love him through it. He beats you. You do not love him through it. It's about what you're willing to tolerate and where you draw the line. Do you love someone unconditionally? No. Not if they're beating/threatening/controlling/violent etc etc etc
I'm so glad i found your Channel. It Makes absolute sense!!! I like how u motivate women to raise their selfrespect and own Self-perception instead of just giving some lines to know off by heart Keep it up! Lots of love
Thanks Lola! Definitely what I'm going for. with this channel I think the only 'real' and permanent dating coaching has to be done this way. While lines can be fun, they need to come from a real place of authenticity and self improvement or it all just falls apart.
oh wow! this is so awesome. I really need to follow up on the chasing my dream and raising my standards on love. I realize that the pining that I've been having over this guy at my work is because I'm treating him like he's the only man on the planet. I need to focus on what I want to create in my life and not compromise what I want in a boyfriend just because I don't want to be single. Thank you!
Hey bro I am a guy. My sister likes your content, and I got to know of you through her. I had a question. I don't go to the gym or anything, so i don't have a muscular body. Neither am I fat. How does the body matter in getting a girlfriend?
Tornado Vill1, Hey, I'm not him, but even though he might have done great incite, I'm pretty sure he's just a woman's coach. First off, there are coaches in here for men, but since I'm here now and I'm a woman, I'll give you some input. Hope it helps! Muscles pretty much always ate a good thing when it comes to women, but they aren't everything. Personally, I have a hard time getting into some guy if he doesn't have at least some kind of definition. That doesn't mean he had to work out - which can be done at home, look for other how-tos in yt. But muscles just from carrying things, or doing a few cos around the house here and there. But still, you don't need to do that much, but I'd still strongly advise doing something like that much. And muscles can be overdone, but without any it will make your endeavor to get a lady even harder, plus you'll probably feel better about yourself. OK, physical out of the way, even more important is being nice. Having a sense of humor. Smiling. And, I hate to say it, but feeling good about yourself is a proven attractant. So what makes you feel good? Figure it out and do it. Have your own life, too. Have some aspirations, and work towards getting them met. Be active somehow, like don't just sit at home on a couch, do something once in a while that makes you feel good. Then flirt. We love guys who play with us! We love to be chased and won over, like we have that value and worth in your eyes. But there are so many tips on yt to help you with the whole courtship, but watch the ones that so show her respect, and yourself, too! Check out Dr. Aziz, and Vanessa Van Edwards - for body language. And if need be, listen to some positive affirmations and/or subliminals. Good luck! But be open, honest, and respectful to her, too! We get our feelers hurt very easily!
Cheers for the question buddy. Say hi to your sister for me! I used to coach men so am happy to chat to guys who are looking for help. Good reply by Ex Lexi too, great to hear a woman's perspective and thanks Lexi for really going into such depth/effort with that! My thoughts mate? I've always been muscular. Like, even when I had crippling social anxiety. So on their own, they mean nothing. My past and the plenty of terrified fit men I've coached have proved that. However they do come in handy when you build up more confidence. The best metaphor I can think of for muscle is the nitrous oxide speed boost thing they use in street race cars. Muscles are like that. If your car is always flying, adding nitrous (muscles) will turn it into a beast. However, if your car is barely moving, or worse, stationary, nitrous will either do very little or nothing at all and you'll be far outpaced by other fast cars despite the nitrous. Fitness and muscles is not a free pass, and anyone who tells you it is has reasonable social skills already and is kidding themselves, however it is a big bonus once you get comfortable talking to people, and when you get a lot of confidence really gives you an edge meeting the women you want and getting them into a relationship.
Mark Rosenfeld well I do. know that 😂😂😂im not asking for anyone's wait that long is their body they do what they want to do .. I will not dare even stop my own future kids from what I believes now. .. *I GUESS ME IM LIKE THAT BECAUSE IM A PASTOR DAUGHTER &I HAVE A REAL WITH GOD. but at the same time ill not judges whoever does. .. BUT EVEN TOUGH IT SHOULD TAKE A MONTH FOR A MAN TRULY KNOW THAT WOMAN TO ASK FOR RELATIONSHIP THAT'S MY OPINION WHICH EVERYONE'S WONT AGREE &some will.. 😊
Hi Witza, I am waiting to have sex as well, I am catholic and want to get married first and it's hard sometimes to like a guy and wonder if he'll be the type that waits for you, but I guess we should keep trusting God that he'll send just the right person :)
Kim Wold absolutely 💖look GOD KNOWS WHAT WE NEED .DON'T GIVE UP . *I m a vigirn I grew up in a Christian family. my dad his a pastor. so in not allow to have sex before marriage each man I met they can't wait guess what .I said bye so you should d the same pray and have faith the right one will come .. at the right time.. *YOU SHOULD DATE A SAVE MAN IF YOU DATE UNSAVED MAN TRUST ME THEY WILL NOT WAIT FOR YOU YOU'LL WASTE UP YOUR TIMES FOR YEARS ONCE THEY TIRED THEY WILL DUMP YOU
I have been doing this for the past year. I am now getting amazing results. When you start doing this, you become much more confident, and strong and high-value. These are the best tips. Thank you Mark. I have been watching you for over 4 years now. 🙏✨
A woman is unstoppable when she realizes she deserve the best .such a positive vibes just by watching you and interesting video .keep up the Great work handsome :)new sub
Amber Nichole Sure it can. Don't jump when he says how hi. Stay busy with and or creating your quality life. Be fun whenever you see him but not needy. I'm sure Mark can tell you more ways it still can work.
Hey Amber - yep, if you get this right, sex is irrelevant. The best example I can think of was my ex, who slept with me the night we met and whom it then took *months* of dating for me to 'sell her' on the idea of a relationship with me. Not that she wasn't chasing me too (it was definitely reciprocal), but you get the idea. As luulips says, if you're having sex for the right reasons (for you, because you want sex, no expectations) then you get back on the train with everything you've been doing, he'll chase and chase hard for benefits of having you (this incredible woman) as a girlfriend. Let me give you a practical example just so this is clear, because it starts in very small ways. Let's say you sleep with him on date #2 and date #3 he stays over for sex again. You have a breakfast/brunch with the girls and stayed up a bit too late having sex. You wake. He's there. He's hot. You're tired. Morning sex is really tempting. You get into it. By the time you're done, you've missed brekky. You don't have much else on that morning, so you end up staying at his until the afternoon, and you guys just chill inside all day. Or another example. You've slept together a couple of times in the second week of dating him. You're starting to really like him. That Thursday, you have some study you know you *need* to get done. It's not due til next week, but you really need to do it. He was already over Sunday and Tuesday, and you get home from work 5:30pm Thursday thinking about how good the sex has been. He messages about 6 - it's spontaneous but he's grabbing dinner and asks if you'd be keen for some delivery from a hot guy. You know you said you'd study but you are also hungry and now horny too. You figure you can do the study tomorrow or over the weekend right? Have him around for the third time that week. You get some of the study done that weekend, but not near as much as you were hoping before the following week. Little scenario's like these build into big reductions in his want to chase. He's getting a VIP ticket up to the top of the priorities list he hasn't earned. He is slowly but surely becoming more important than that life he was so attracted to. It stops being cultivated and loses its appeal. Again, I want to emphasise this isn't playing hard to get. It's maintaining healthy priorities over a man who is essentially still a stranger. So yes, get this right and sex has no importance at all to his chasing. TL;DR? This *absolutely* can still work if sex if part of the equation, however you need to be cultivating your life, making yourself happy and keeping your healthy priorities that you've worked hard to build.
Mark Rosenfeld thank you for the past 37 years been doing it all wrong. no wonder i been single all b my lifr. thanks Mark for your honest and professional advice. wish I have found you earlier...hmmmm you weren't born back then.
Boyfriend benefits include sex so, no, you can't have sex on the first date if you want a relationship. There's a multitude of movies about this topic and the lack of trust that is created by this mistake. It only works out in the movies...not in real life.
Mark, I can get what you're saying, but please wld you answer my comment. Thx for your vids. 1. A super woman, isn't all that attractive to most men. 2. A perfectly balanced life is so hard achieve these days... 3. As a good man, being the provider and protector, such a man can't find his 'spot' with a woman who 'has it all'. Do you get what I mean? She sldn't be in the gutter, ok, but oh sooo many successful women, with great lives looking for a man can't find him. Coz he's way too scared to be with such a woman. The only type of men that will be there, are users and players. My experience, and so many women say the same. What do you think? 🤗
Pausing this video at 1:45 and going to take time to reflect and journal on this precious phrase you said: "if you were going to date you, would you be excited at the prospect?", and then what can do about it. Thank you already!
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Your video is great as always, but I suppose the German title shouldn't say: "How to scare / chase a man AWAY"... cuz that´s what it shows to me: "Wie man einen Mann verjagt" :D
Better: "5 Wege, wie du einen Mann dazu bringst, dir hinterher zu jagen"
Title translation is locked for me. Maybe u should change that, because I'm sure I'm not the only German viewer. ^^
I think I needed this video many dating failures before 😩 I've actually watched few of those and oh mehn it's an eye opener. I needed to hear this. I've spent past few years finally working on myself, putting my needs first, building the high quality life for myself. And already noticed I've started attracting higher quality men... BUT! I am still working on my emotional levels to ensure that I don't become this needy self obsessed possessive woman that drives them away...
Your videos provide great insight into men's world and not only - they help me become a better woman. Thanks Mark!
hey Mark! Can you do a more detailed video on how to restrain from giving him bf benefits if he's not your bf? I've been consistently going out with this guy for a couple months and very recently his dog died. He came over that day and we cooked dinner and talked and I comforted him... basically I gave him all the boyfriend benefits that evening. How does a high value woman be warm and supportive while still reserving these special things for a man who's committed to her?
Mark Rosenfeld love this
Mark, you said judge a man only by the way he acts to you. But what if he is quite horrible to other girls but is very nice to me? If I was to judge him only by the way he acts towards me, I should think he is a good man. But how he has been to other girls makes me wonder if i should be alert. He says he had been selfish in the past but with me, he has changed. Thoughts?
"Your self-respect has to come before your feelings"... that hurt... because it's true.
Hey Janet. Thanks so much for watching and commenting. I hope even though it hurt that it helped you xx
Relearning that at the moment
@@Markrosenfeld Mark I need help please 😭😭😭😭
Janet Pelua I need to apply this lol
1. Build a high quality exciting life men want to be a part of.
2. Raise your standards for love.
3. Don't give him boyfriend benefits until he's your boyfriend. Not about sex! About all the unique benefits you give him as a gf.
4. Judge him only by his actions towards you.
5. Be willing to walk if he drops the ball.
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Thanks Llenahsiful.
Winner of a video, I've been looking for "is a good man" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you heard people talk about - Kenora Panameron Eradicator - (do a google search ) ? Ive heard some awesome things about it and my m8 got cool success with it.
thank you
Llenahsiful thank u
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I don't usually comment on anything, but I have to say that you are probably the best dating coach I have ever seen
Thanks so much Kalina - wait until you seeing the video I'm posting soon on "How To Judge Dating Advice"
Mark Rosenfeld I have a question about my ex-boyfriend, where could I message you? 😇
Kalina Tsaneva he is
Yes he is ..
Kalina Tsaneva and a handsome one too lol
"Be willing to walk." Such great advice. Walking into the beautiful sunset alone 👌
this made me cry, no woman was ever taught to value herself this way, this is exactly where our strength lies and what keeps him in love, not just the whole between your legs
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I should’ve calmed my hormones before it got me into trouble. Thank goodness it was just a long distance crush / fwb type with just sexting and not having real sex yet. I started to develop feelings for him hoping it would turn into something more. Eventually didn’t work out because he chose his ex over me. Painful to finally let it go but it taught me to value myself.
You are just speaking the truth and things that women need to hear.
Thanks so much Chayanee - that's a really lovely comment. Find comments like your super inspiring.
I already like a kid that's nerdy but he's nice to me and listens to me
+Mark Rosenfeld
hi mark I like this guy who works in my local store he always trys to make convocation and I always catch him looking at me he said hi to me when he wasnt working i said hi and walked out the shop of embarrassment I always catch him lookin at me I rely like him and wana get to no him how do I this ??
Chayanee Wacheewichit hear and do
Thanks for the video I really enjoyed the information you've provided
Tip One: build a high quality life that someone wants to be a part of. That is the best advice I've heard in a long time.
1. Build a high quality exciting life men want to be a part of
2. Raise your standards for love
3. Don't give him boyfriend benefits until he becomes your boyfriend
4. Judge him only on his actions relative to you
5. Be willing to walk away!
✨💫ULTIMATELY, your self respect has to come before your feelings.✨💫
"Your self respect has to come before your feelings".
I'm 31 and this just woke me the hell up. You're bloody gorgeous also ;) Jackpot.
Thanks Megan. SO so important xx
Happy being Alone.
Finally know the word NO
Nice Mary
I wish can do the same..
I support that🎀
Well said, living your life to the fullest is attractive
Thanks Sylph - appreciate that
Mark Rosenfeld how can I grow identify the right guy for her when all she's previously dated are dirtbags and losers except for two guys that were really sweet
Mark Rosenfeld how can a girl attract the right guy for her when she's previously dated losers and Dives and men who just wanted to treat her like dirt so how can she tell the difference between the right guy and I loser that won't be right for her
Mark is full of wisdom... if i ever have a daughter i'll show her this channel
:) That means a lot to me Lisa
such great advice. I fell in love with someone that started abusive narcissistic behavior out of nowhere on our 6th month. having my own life and routine made it easier to walk away. I believe these steps are on point as long as the man is "healthy"... because on the flip side you have to love yourself enough to walk away.
Thanks so much Kristy - really appreciate this comment
I like the way how you remain yourself. You are not trying to sell or anything like that. You are just being the genuine you, and that's what hits us. You are in your fild. Thank you so much. Love from Norway ☺
Sometimes, you just fall in love, there's a rare Spiritual Bond!which is unbreakable and Unbelievable...
THANK YOU! I've been dating this guy for a few months but he did drop the ball and I walked away. I was having second thoughts but you are absolutely right. I kind of neglected my own life for those months and this stranger suddenly became a priority without earning it.
Thank you so much, I feel much more confident in my action now :)
That's so great Anihihi - congrats on having the strength. Many don't. I know from personal experience how tough that is, so you should be crazy proud of yourself :)
Anihihi - Did he simply ask you to have sex or did he try to convince you to have sex, and how many times?
@@devonike he was using up her time, without any momentum going forward
You are a GENIUS! EVERYTHING U SAID MAKES 200% SENSE!
I needed to hear this! When I start liking someone, everything goes out the window!
Hahaha that's super common Tephra. Great you're aware of it and am glad you enjoyed
so true " Don't give him boyfriend benefits, until he's you're boyfriend"
Soooooooo true Fasting!! Women have no idea how much men value these benefits!
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IAM Candace well I just did! Delete and block!
I agree Hawa Fuseini. Even kissing on the first date is too soon. I think if you’ve raised your standards, you definitely won’t have sex with someone on a first date. I personally believe that sex is a special and intimate bond that I would like to have with my husband only. I’m aware that not everyone shares this view, however, ladies do not buy into this that you need to have sex early on, after all you are not there to satisfy a sexual craving he has before a man has proven himself and his commitment to you.
Know your worth and value as a woman and do not settle. Why have sex with someone if you’re even uncertain about his love for or commitment to you, especially where sexual diseases, STDs are rampant because we live in a society that promotes sexual promiscuity and tries to belittle chastity and sexual purity. I know quite a few people who are still virgins and even those who were sexually active before, but decided to stop and live a chaste life until they’re married, because it wasn’t working out and they wanted something better and different.
Please don’t be pressured into having sex before time. If a man really cares for, loves and is committed to you, he will treasure you and wait for you. Know your worth ladies and set and maintain your standards.
@Hawa Fuseini it seems like you didn't watch the video. He clearly said he was not talking about sex.
@@elizabethd112 seems to me like you think the video is the word from “god”, she’s giving her opinion and it’s a worthy one
#5 sooooo true. When you are lacking you are more likely to put with crap. BUT when you life together you are less likely to put up with mediocre and especially being treated like crap.
Absolutely Burnette. Thankyou
I love it...... it's really true ....... the more they see u happy and have high standard in life the more they are interested to know you.....
Absolutely Monaliza - thanks for commenting
Monaliza Alvarez high standard meaning you're loaded?
This is SO GREAT! Especially the last tip: willing to walk away! So TURE! Thanks for the video!
Thanks Tina - so glad you enjoyed the content!
I honestly think he is the best coach i've seen so far.And this pieces of advice are so useful it's ridiculous
Thankyou so much Glitterereea - wait until you seeing the video I'm posting soon on "How To Judge Dating Advice" - should be a ripper!
Mark Rosenfeld you've got another fan here😉can't wait
Gold !!! You're good! Next video topic "how to create an interesting exciting life" ?!!
I love this! And everyone else seems to aswell. Will answer this next week in Ask Mark! Thanks iana.
iana Neubig hahahahaha!!!!! love it
Mark Rosenfeld please help me
I feel so depressed and I want him back in my life but by keeping my self respect and dignity maintained plz help me u r my only and last hope
Princess Se he will come back men are funny
Princess Se in my opinion ;if you want him back to you dont show him that you are so hungry for him to come back ,show him that you dont care and you are strong enough ,show him that you are so happy enjoy your time ,so he will wonder and will come back to you ,mostly men they dont like a lady when she shows that she care about him when they disappear , they like and also become crazy when she become stronger enough and happy with out him.
All these are great but number 5 is the most important. Even if you marry, always keep in the back of your mind "what happens if he leaves you". Keep on obtaining your personal life goals. Keep a pot of cash just for you... nothing sneaky... but keep the you that is you.
Thanks Cool - yep! VERY important right
Eh don't underestimate men simply falling in love. I am a lunatic with a life full of stress, work, study.. minimal friendships/social life... AND I'm going through a divorce. A really good guy fell for me last year... he is well adjusted compared to me, in way better financial situation, way better looking and fitter than me. I did everything "wrong". Told him all my problems, pried into his personal life/feelings, chased him at times, freaked out on him a few times, stressed him out, confused him... but he still fell in love with me and now he can barely go a day without asking to see me. So I am really not sure how that works.
That's so awesome to hear bye bye. Sometimes love just has a way, right? Great to hear he's investing in you in that way :) Great channel btw
Bye Bye Belly ❤️that!! 👏😀
That was your very interesting article, here are a few more tips on how to get a guy to like you:
Know yourself - Many people don’t attract what really fulfils them because they don’t really know what they want and like. If you don’t really know yourself, you won’t recognize your soul mate. Get honest to yourself about what you really value and appreciate in your life. The more honest you are about your values, principles and beliefs, the more you will open yourself up to attracting the life partner who's also a soul mate.
Be yourself
Live your true resonance - To attract your soul mate, it isn't enough just to be yourself. You need to surround yourself with what you love and do, and participate in activities that reflect your authentic self. Go to places that really interest you and bring you joy. We attract by resonance. The more resonance we have in our lives, the more we attract people who “match us,” our likes, activities and lifestyle.
Be a whole person
(I read about these and more on Avyanna attract tactic website )
Bye Bye Belly so crazy to see you here I used to watch your videos all the time! Hope you are doing well and wish you the best
Bye Bye Belly I love what you said.....!!!! I'm a work in progress!! Separated with two opinionated teens....!! When the right man comes along, that man will take you as you are....By all means, one must strive for the best version of themselves ( a very healthy mindset and setting oneself goals is attractive), but sometimes life hands one lemons and it's up to one to make lemonade...
The last part was the most important. Know your worth ladies. You are important too💕
Thanks Partice - appreciate that
You're a freaking life saver, man! I'm crying like crazy over here, I've been abused for years without even realising how wrong it is. I can never thank you enough for opening my eyes!
That's so beautiful. Thankyou so much Black xx
the last part where you said- self respect before feelings ❤ so true n important
Yeh it really is lukn4perfection - writing an article about this at the moment actually. It really is true. There always has to be a line in the sand no matter how much you love someone of what you won't accept if it came down to it. It's how men always have that little, and natural, fear of losing you, that makes them always want to work to keep you.
your videos are really helping me. i litterally had no standards at all.. Til I realized "I" had a choice. I'm no ones puppet anymore ❤ keep up the great work
That's so fucking great Sarah! So lovely to read xx
Thanks doll....you def resonated with me....I recently was asked by an idiot to be fwb's bc he quite liked me but didn't feel he could be emotionally available.....I had such conflicting feelings bc he seemed so great in every aspect....but in the way he treated me by only wanting part of me....I see....he wasn't so great after all. And now I don't second guess myself and just walk away when I hear that line of bs😂
That's awesome Tera - glad to hear you're proud of yourself and the way you acted, putting your standards in place.
Best channel I've subscribed to!
You've turned the dark depressing cloud over romance and love to a euphoric feeling!
This video has made me think I'm not going to be an old maid at 26 years old.
You have a gift, Mark! ✨✨✨
Lol arrrw thankyou Devin
Very sound advice! I am addicted to “ romantic interplay” at the onset but when you come to certain crossroads-I totally agree that “self respect” should be most important.
Thanks Stella - appreciate the comment! Mark xx
Last words.. Respect yourself first!
100x Momina
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You're the best! I love your last message, very on point ! That's what I did to my ex
Thanks so much Stelena appreciate you saying that a lot
love this advice! always remind me to be strong as a woman,, strong inside..
Thanks so much Shyrel :)
It makes alot sense and most of these aren't mention as often in this sort of videos. Thanks for this!
This is the first of your videos I have seen, and yes, it is certainly a good one to start on! It makes perfect sense to me, and thank you for explaining it this way!
That's great Hilary... welcome to the channel. It was a good one to start on. Great to have you on here and I'm super excited to bring more out for you in the future.
That was fantastic, opened my eyes, thanks for sharing!
My pleasure Kat - really glad you enjoyed
I could relate so much the #3 on the list. I used to be like this before to someone who I used to love. And then I decided to stop because I realized he was taking advantage of my weakness and that he doesn't have any plans on taking what we have into the serious level. So girls, you should know your worth and don't settle for less. Agree?
Abso-friggin-lutely truelove. Thankyou for sharing your comment!
Thank you for sharing your helpful and awesome thoughts too Mark. Your time and effort are very well appreciated. :)
Cool. I’ve Never heard another dating coach say that men love relationships. I hope that’s true because that gives me more faith in the gender it’s self
This guy speaks the truth like seriously.
Thankyou Raquel xx
thank you very much. it's not only what you say (and what you say is gold and every woman should hear it) it's also that there's something special behind your words..it's your beautiful spirit...you were born to do this. i thank you on behalf of women. keep up the good work. blessings to you.
Thankyou so much Aida. That's such a beautiful comment xx
Wow! This is inspiring advice. I watched a few videos like this in the past, so these dating advice videos keep popping up in my recommended videos. This is the first video I've seen that really hits the mark and gets to the root of the issue. Thank you! I'm subscribing!
Thanks so much Judith - wow really appreciate that comment. I'm all about getting rid of the rubbish games in this area and giving real advice that works in the long term, so awesome to hear you enjoyed :)
"The power of love lies to those who care less..." This quote from a movie is kind of similar to this. It's really about bluffing. Like you said similarly, "have your own lifestyle he/she likes..." And "show him/her that you can always get back to your normal life" and "walk away if he/she drops the ball..." Don't get me wrong, love is a wonderful thing and yes, men love being in a relationship as much as women do. This discussion is at the tip of the iceberg of what it means of "liking" someone. But love is really when that bluffing stops and he/she is no longer willing to get back to his/her normal life and is willing to live the life for the both of you... Relationships are like diving into the pool; you dip your feet into the water to test your comfort but never really dive into the deep end. It always starts at a narrow end (attraction) and then you go slowly to the deeper end (understanding, consistency, compromise, and patience).
Really cool thoughts Tina. Thankyou
You are 1000% right!
Thanks Rose!!
I'm on a learning journey to be the best woman I can be and I've started studying your teachings. I'm here to testify they work! I just got this text message "I don't know what it is about you, but I just can't stop thinking of you. You're like no women I've ever met."
Hey Mark, I have not ever felt the need to leave a comment to a youtube video....Until today. I really appreciate you using your influence as a good-looking, relationally intelligent man to encourage and guide women. I agree with what you're saying. Thank you for this.
Hi Laura :D Well thanks for sharing your insight! I'm so glad you enjoyed the video. Have a terrific day!!
I love this. Thanks for telling us the truth Mark.
Thanks for watching luulips
Hello from San Diego!! This is exactly what I needed to hear! you just gained a new subscriber with this video alone. Thank you!
Thanks so much Sinned - really glad you enjoyed it and great to have you on here
Mark Rosenfeld loved
Oh my gosh! Love it. I thought it'd be the usual "be confident, smile more blah blah blah" but this made so much sense! A million thank yous! x
Gosh what a lovely comment! Thanks so much Kerry x
This is great advice. To be happy in yourself and want the best for yourself, before you look for someone.
Appreciate that, thanks Lilth
Yes, a high quality lifestyle helps if there's a breakup! I've had it with breakups! don't want any breakups anymore!! 😣
The thing is if he's interested in you then you won't need any "Phrases to make him chase you" He will already be chasing you!
Jocelyn Eva Seagreen not tue at all. Real men waste v little time chasing. Debunked
if he ignore you delete his #
well great for you.
that's the best things you can do moves on
Carlos Palada well don't be a jerk too
you should chase your woman
if you chase and she seem not interest then you walk away
Carlos Palada well for me personally if I like a guy. I can't run to him and say im interest like that.. I could try to. make conversation with him and pretending I want to invite him for a movie or something's.
or anything fun so we both could spend together. .thorn if his a man enough. he will ask me out next time so by going out.. .basically if we both feel same way something's will happen if not then ill not waste my times
Carlos Palada look some of my friends does all the times. its just not me ..
I grew up in a family very privates strick I barely go out ..
I barely know guys by the times a guy really take me out i was 19 something. ..
*so I I don't know I grew up very inside home wasn't aloud to dates before graduate so I couldn't ever dare me talk to guys ...
so basically my point is i always either think ill get reject
or he won't like my color
or my me ..
or sometimes Im still thinking Im living back home.
so that kind if hold me back. ..
in my country girls can't do that. ..
guys have to go in their way to ask your parents for you .
or they try to ne friends first they can get to you ...
here its totally different. ..
Im who Im I can't change it now. ..
Maybe someday I might change. ..
but from my culture in point of view I feel better when a man as courage to come to me ....I feel better. ..
at the same times I love when girls do i be like you brave girl...
but Im brave in my own thing
we all have our styles
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Can you give advice on Men who pull away but when you start to pull away too then they wanna get mad or question you for doing the same thing they are doing?
You'd have to be more specific with the situation Tralyn. If they're pulling away and not putting in the effort you don't really give them the time of day? I mean they can feel however they like, but if they're pulling away and not investing, it's not really your problem.
omg you're the realest dating coach i have come across in the last years..... hurtful but real. everybody and really everybody else sugarcoats the whole things.
Thanks Kristina - I really appreciate you saying that
I love the last one “be willing to walk away “ that’s what I just did it hurts but I have to agree (maybe )
Yyeh it can really suck at times j f - and it's never easy. But sometimes something you have to do
Great video! My goodness you are 🔥
Why Thankyou Kandus - am glad you enjoyed :)
All of this is true, BUT when you get so pissed with your boyfriend because he’s constantly putting his friend first and not having time for you you’re not exactly gonna wanna MAKE him chase you. I’m currently ignoring him because he’s got 0% time for me.
Phh F*** that Bethh! You deserve better. Might need to have some serious reconsideration of your relationship...
Best video ever on the topic! I don't need to watch any other video after this! You said it all, thank you! :)
Wow - thanks so much M. la Fee!
Love that your videos are short and to the point!
Thanks Maggie - I'm never sure about the length but I think keeping them shorter seems generally to keep people happier.
I appreciate the straight forwardness in your content.
Cheers Andrea. Appreciate you saying that.
Hi Mark. I have seen allot of video's from different people and just wanted to say i love your video's. You are straight to the point and fun to listen to. Also informative. I feel like you really know your stuff.
Greetings from Rotterdam! (the Netherlands)
Oh wow - thanks so much Ari. That's lovely of you to say.
Hey mark, I recently read an article about how we tend to put relationships or the people we're interested in on pedestals. I've never thought of it before and thought it's an interesting perspective. Would love to see your view on it :)
That sounds cool JJ. Do you have a link to the article?
Mark Rosenfeld great, here's one www.scienceofrelationships.com/home/2013/11/22/the-dangers-of-putting-your-partner-on-a-pedestal-relationsh.html
And this is another, with a different view/result.
www.glamour.com/story/want-your-relationship-to-work/amp
I agree with the first article about how we should not over idealise relationships but was surprised that the second article had a completely different result. I think this is could be a topic for a whole video hahaha, but please do share your insight :)
Cheers! I'll have a read of these when I've had more than 2 hours sleep of a night and see if I can answer your question in a short ask-mark vid. If not, I'll make a full vid on it! Thanks J J!
haha oh boy, I guess it's going to take awhile then. Nonetheless, I'll still be looking forward to it! Appreciated :)
Why I didn’t see this video 2 years ago !! 😭😭 now prince harry is already taken
Mark, you can't imagine it's my first time visiting your TH-cam channel and I'm obsessed with every video xx It has helped me so so much. ThankYou Mark X Stay Blessed and keep making us smile xx
Thanks so much Liza - is great to have you on here!
wow. what a treaure trove. you are spot on mate. been feeling a bit heart broken at the moment. this video just made me feel a ton better. thank you so much.
Wow, thanks so much Miracle Fish :)
you look great in pink Mark 😊
Thaaaankyou Limani :)
What if you're totally comfortable NOT having a big exciting life and Prefer being low key happy? Or can't afford to go out and do things JUST to make yourself Seem a certain way when that's not who you are? I'm a great woman with Standards but I'm not a Huge fan of being out n about when I could be working in or on my home or relaxing. Does that make me Uninteresting?? or Unworthy of a Good Man?
Awesome question NotAGamePlayer - will pop it into Ask Mark today!
Mark Rosenfeld Awesome, thank you 😊
NotAGamePlayer Summerlin what was the answer??
my native language aren't english (if there is something wrong with the text).
for me; i don't like men chasing, it scares me some how, feeling trapped, even the slightest hint of interest can scare me, and its hard for me to fall in love. i just like when things just happens, if so (i like when a relationship creeps on, just being friends first - with out feeling love). and i feel i want a "spiritual" relationship, if so) like; not much sex at all, but a very deep/close profound relationship, (i know, i don't think many are like that), but lucky me i don't feel sad living alone, in fact i feel blessed, and partly due since 80% lives in bad relationships, 70% ends their relationships (not in all countries cus of traditions/religions), 10% stays cus of various reasons, "only" 20% finds their so called soulmate (its what i read), and its true; many have told their problems with in their relationship/marriage to me.
what makes me feel/think the way i do abt a relationship, is partly because of born specific characteristic traits, i just recently got to know having the term: HSP (highly sensitive person, with the version of being both strong and sensitive/brittel (others are more "only" sensitive), and of course upbringing contributes.
Sounds like you're doing it in a way which makes you happy, which is great Rare Person
*Mark Rosenfeld*
I'm sorry, i haven't been able to thank you for your comment until now!, thank you so much Mark!
I was new to your channel - and this was the first video i saw that i commented on. And after that i saw a couple of more. You are caring, profound, grounded, gentle, also sensitive and strong, and lighthearted. I have watched some other guys relationship channels, and i think yours was the best!, due to your insights personality/character.
Take care! hope to see you in heaven one day! :)
Wow, what an amazing complement. Only drives me to make it even better. Thankyou so much xx
hi again, yeah i think you are really good Mark!... .
i have used a wrong word in my former message (i can't edit it, technical problem), the word; lighthearted (i'm not the best at english, but i think the word; easygoing is the right word instead, i'm sorry (my native language is swedish). p.s i also like your genuine style when talking, being kind, serious, and very respectful, i like that very much!. :)
I can’t say how many times I have listened to this and still enjoying and learning. Thank you 😊
Aww thanks so much, Sheema Tran! Hope you get heaps from the video. Really appreciate the ongoing support! 😊
You are speeeeeeaking! I literally just made a video similar to this... for the longest I couldn't figure out why guys were always so intrigued w/ me in the beginning & then all of a sudden it just stops & it's because I don't make a man work for my love. It's not even about sex because this has happened w/ guys I've never even had sex with... one of my guy friends told me "never trust what a man tells you, only what he shows you." You are so on point.
Thankyou so much SlowClass - really appreciate that!
I my self believe that sex is something special and should be shared with someone you care about or more importantly love. I agree you should have your own life when your seeing someone and if a month or two down the road sex happens it because you have feelings for each other. You shouldn't with hold sex but it shouldn't be given away as if it means nothing. Sorry just my opinion and everyone has one.
I agree Kim, and the most important thing is to do it on your terms when it's comfortable for you.
I suppose the hard part is, for the most part in todays dating, it's probably unrealistic to expect to only have sex with people you 'love' because the reality is love takes a long time to develop, much much longer than sexual chemistry. A lot of women (sadly) are raised with a lot of shame as it relates to sex and are taught (conciously or subconciously) that it's 'bad' or 'dirty' to enjoy sex for sex itself. My aim is to help women feel empowered as it relates to sex, so they can have it when they want at a time that is comfortable for them and never feel 'ashamed' of themselves afterwards for it.
Kim Sikorski my opinion as Chelsea Rodham I think sex is better when you are both virgins and you are married then do it cz I have seen my friends hurt but thanks for your comment but I believe one should not just give in like u said u know girls have to know they are expensive me ik am expensive and ya anyone should know that she is giving it to the right person cz dem niggas are on hit and run 🏃 nowadays
Mark Rosenfeld true
Mark Rosenfeld Just want to say that not having sex with someone that you just met has nothing to do with shame. It has to do with morals. And if more woman would not just sleep with men because there horny or to think if they do the guy will like them more or for what ever reason might be going through there heads, the point is women need to respect them selves and men also. Because as long as women have sex with men they don't know or even hardly know is why women can't find a man that actually wants a relationship. You know why? Because of the stuff people like your self put out there about sex don't mean nothing. Actually sex is beautiful and should be with someone you love.
Just think lady's if most of you wouldn't give it away like a phone number then one of those men might actually stay around to get to know you and what makes you the special person that you are and it has nothing to do what is between your legs. It's actually what is in your heart, you smile, your laugh. It's all the special things that makes a man fall in love with you and when you give him sex the first night and only think of it as sex and nothing more then that is how and what he actually thinks about you....nothing.
Kim Sikorski believe me u guys are saying the same thing, just different wording ,
OMG! you just woke me up. :((
Ummmmm. I'm... sorry?
Mark Rosenfeld could I question? how attitude is important in a relationship or meeting someone, but they said, if you really love someone, you'll accept them from who they really are. coz no one's perfect, I met someone, I always see some red flags at the beginning and along the way, but then, I always ignore it, coz I love him, and right when yoh love you accept the whole him, but it's alwags the reason why I always cry because of it. do we need to consider an attitude of a guy? or rather accept him wholy?
It completely depends what the red flags are Hana! He leaves the toilet seat up. You love him through it. He beats you. You do not love him through it.
It's about what you're willing to tolerate and where you draw the line. Do you love someone unconditionally? No. Not if they're beating/threatening/controlling/violent etc etc etc
Me too ! Bit late i hope i can fix it
Don't open your legs for anyone unless you gonaa pee
Chelsea. Rodham. 😂😂😂
Lmbo 😂😂😂
nice
but don't pee when you ...need to open them for your right guy...😅😅👍
unless he asks for it.. :)
Chelsea. Rodham. Lol 😂
I'm so glad i found your Channel. It Makes absolute sense!!! I like how u motivate women to raise their selfrespect and own Self-perception instead of just giving some lines to know off by heart
Keep it up! Lots of love
Thanks Lola! Definitely what I'm going for. with this channel I think the only 'real' and permanent dating coaching has to be done this way. While lines can be fun, they need to come from a real place of authenticity and self improvement or it all just falls apart.
oh wow! this is so awesome. I really need to follow up on the chasing my dream and raising my standards on love. I realize that the pining that I've been having over this guy at my work is because I'm treating him like he's the only man on the planet. I need to focus on what I want to create in my life and not compromise what I want in a boyfriend just because I don't want to be single. Thank you!
That's so good Edith - really really glad you enjoyed
I don't know if you've already made a video on how women can deal with rejection. Because trust me most of us feel that we're not good enough.
A couple of my older videos are on this topic Edith :)
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Hey bro I am a guy. My sister likes your content, and I got to know of you through her. I had a question. I don't go to the gym or anything, so i don't have a muscular body. Neither am I fat. How does the body matter in getting a girlfriend?
Tornado Vill1, Hey, I'm not him, but even though he might have done great incite, I'm pretty sure he's just a woman's coach.
First off, there are coaches in here for men, but since I'm here now and I'm a woman, I'll give you some input. Hope it helps!
Muscles pretty much always ate a good thing when it comes to women, but they aren't everything. Personally, I have a hard time getting into some guy if he doesn't have at least some kind of definition. That doesn't mean he had to work out - which can be done at home, look for other how-tos in yt. But muscles just from carrying things, or doing a few cos around the house here and there.
But still, you don't need to do that much, but I'd still strongly advise doing something like that much. And muscles can be overdone, but without any it will make your endeavor to get a lady even harder, plus you'll probably feel better about yourself.
OK, physical out of the way, even more important is being nice. Having a sense of humor. Smiling. And, I hate to say it, but feeling good about yourself is a proven attractant.
So what makes you feel good? Figure it out and do it. Have your own life, too. Have some aspirations, and work towards getting them met.
Be active somehow, like don't just sit at home on a couch, do something once in a while that makes you feel good.
Then flirt. We love guys who play with us! We love to be chased and won over, like we have that value and worth in your eyes.
But there are so many tips on yt to help you with the whole courtship, but watch the ones that so show her respect, and yourself, too!
Check out Dr. Aziz, and Vanessa Van Edwards - for body language.
And if need be, listen to some positive affirmations and/or subliminals.
Good luck! But be open, honest, and respectful to her, too! We get our feelers hurt very easily!
Cheers for the question buddy. Say hi to your sister for me! I used to coach men so am happy to chat to guys who are looking for help. Good reply by Ex Lexi too, great to hear a woman's perspective and thanks Lexi for really going into such depth/effort with that!
My thoughts mate? I've always been muscular. Like, even when I had crippling social anxiety. So on their own, they mean nothing. My past and the plenty of terrified fit men I've coached have proved that. However they do come in handy when you build up more confidence.
The best metaphor I can think of for muscle is the nitrous oxide speed boost thing they use in street race cars. Muscles are like that. If your car is always flying, adding nitrous (muscles) will turn it into a beast. However, if your car is barely moving, or worse, stationary, nitrous will either do very little or nothing at all and you'll be far outpaced by other fast cars despite the nitrous.
Fitness and muscles is not a free pass, and anyone who tells you it is has reasonable social skills already and is kidding themselves, however it is a big bonus once you get comfortable talking to people, and when you get a lot of confidence really gives you an edge meeting the women you want and getting them into a relationship.
Thanks for the detailed answer Lexi and Mark.
Lexi, my physique is like that of Dr. Aziz :D I will try my best to find my true love with your advice.
My pleasure bud
So true ua tips r uselful... dy say women r complicated but actually mens r more complicated😩😝
Hehehe we certainly can be Nikhat!
i think it is wrong for any men asking for sex or girlfriend after 1month. ..
for me 3 months minimum
but sex after marriage or bye
I guess everyone has different beliefs relating to that Witza
Mark Rosenfeld well I do. know that 😂😂😂im not asking for anyone's wait that long is their body they do what they want to do ..
I will not dare even stop my own future kids from what I believes now. ..
*I GUESS ME IM LIKE THAT BECAUSE IM A PASTOR DAUGHTER &I HAVE A REAL WITH GOD.
but at the same time ill not judges whoever does. ..
BUT EVEN TOUGH IT SHOULD TAKE A MONTH FOR A MAN TRULY KNOW THAT WOMAN TO ASK FOR RELATIONSHIP THAT'S MY OPINION WHICH EVERYONE'S WONT AGREE &some will..
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Hi Witza,
I am waiting to have sex as well, I am catholic and want to get married first and it's hard sometimes to like a guy and wonder if he'll be the type that waits for you, but I guess we should keep trusting God that he'll send just the right person :)
Kim Wold absolutely 💖look GOD KNOWS WHAT WE NEED .DON'T GIVE UP .
*I m a vigirn I grew up in a Christian family. my dad his a pastor.
so in not allow to have sex before marriage each man I met they can't wait guess what .I said bye
so you should d the same pray and have faith the right one will come ..
at the right time..
*YOU SHOULD DATE A SAVE MAN IF YOU DATE UNSAVED MAN TRUST ME THEY WILL NOT WAIT FOR YOU YOU'LL WASTE UP YOUR TIMES FOR YEARS ONCE THEY TIRED THEY WILL DUMP YOU
Kim Wold and I'm so proud of you too to find a woman like me who wantto wait ..
it will worth it for your future husband please don't give up.
I have been doing this for the past year. I am now getting amazing results. When you start doing this, you become much more confident, and strong and high-value. These are the best tips. Thank you Mark. I have been watching you for over 4 years now. 🙏✨
Thank you, Naroa! That's such a beautiful comment. Really glad to hear the way you've empowered yourself. Thanks for the support! xx
Hey dear it works for me I got back my ex within 48 hours
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A woman is unstoppable when she realizes she deserve the best .such a positive vibes just by watching you and interesting video .keep up the Great work handsome :)new sub
Thanks so much Tifa!!
You're a fkn genius 😭😍😍😍
Thanks Sarah. Really glad you enjoyed :)
He's full of shit. I'm a man, I know what they like and don't like. He's singing your songs on purpose.
You nail it!👍🏼❤️
Thanks Sakuna :)
can this still work if sex was already part of the equation?
Amber Nichole Sure it can. Don't jump when he says how hi. Stay busy with and or creating your quality life. Be fun whenever you see him but not needy. I'm sure Mark can tell you more ways it still can work.
Hey Amber - yep, if you get this right, sex is irrelevant.
The best example I can think of was my ex, who slept with me the night we met and whom it then took *months* of dating for me to 'sell her' on the idea of a relationship with me. Not that she wasn't chasing me too (it was definitely reciprocal), but you get the idea.
As luulips says, if you're having sex for the right reasons (for you, because you want sex, no expectations) then you get back on the train with everything you've been doing, he'll chase and chase hard for benefits of having you (this incredible woman) as a girlfriend.
Let me give you a practical example just so this is clear, because it starts in very small ways.
Let's say you sleep with him on date #2 and date #3 he stays over for sex again. You have a breakfast/brunch with the girls and stayed up a bit too late having sex. You wake. He's there. He's hot. You're tired. Morning sex is really tempting. You get into it. By the time you're done, you've missed brekky. You don't have much else on that morning, so you end up staying at his until the afternoon, and you guys just chill inside all day.
Or another example. You've slept together a couple of times in the second week of dating him. You're starting to really like him. That Thursday, you have some study you know you *need* to get done. It's not due til next week, but you really need to do it. He was already over Sunday and Tuesday, and you get home from work 5:30pm Thursday thinking about how good the sex has been. He messages about 6 - it's spontaneous but he's grabbing dinner and asks if you'd be keen for some delivery from a hot guy. You know you said you'd study but you are also hungry and now horny too. You figure you can do the study tomorrow or over the weekend right? Have him around for the third time that week. You get some of the study done that weekend, but not near as much as you were hoping before the following week.
Little scenario's like these build into big reductions in his want to chase. He's getting a VIP ticket up to the top of the priorities list he hasn't earned. He is slowly but surely becoming more important than that life he was so attracted to. It stops being cultivated and loses its appeal. Again, I want to emphasise this isn't playing hard to get. It's maintaining healthy priorities over a man who is essentially still a stranger.
So yes, get this right and sex has no importance at all to his chasing.
TL;DR? This *absolutely* can still work if sex if part of the equation, however you need to be cultivating your life, making yourself happy and keeping your healthy priorities that you've worked hard to build.
This is soo good mark, its exactly what all the other dating coaches miss out, PRACTICAL useful examples lol. Big thumbs up :)
Thanks G G! Big smile after reading that comment
Mark Rosenfeld thank you for the past 37 years been doing it all wrong. no wonder i been single all b my lifr. thanks Mark for your honest and professional advice. wish I have found you earlier...hmmmm you weren't born back then.
I like that your advice is legit and you haven't told me to buy one thing so far!
Cheers Tom - appreciate that mate and you supporting my channel.
I LOVE how you're switching the focus onto the women themselves - this is a must. Same for men!
Thanks man - really appreciate that hey. It's a much more empowering attitude.
Agree - change your attitude towards yourself and people will see you differently :)
I watch for your face❤️
Hahah thankyou Roseal
Boyfriend benefits include sex so, no, you can't have sex on the first date if you want a relationship. There's a multitude of movies about this topic and the lack of trust that is created by this mistake. It only works out in the movies...not in real life.
Hehe - agree to disagree on this one Necc!
Mark, I can get what you're saying, but please wld you answer my comment. Thx for your vids.
1. A super woman, isn't all that attractive to most men. 2. A perfectly balanced life is so hard achieve these days... 3. As a good man, being the provider and protector, such a man can't find his 'spot' with a woman who 'has it all'. Do you get what I mean? She sldn't be in the gutter, ok, but oh sooo many successful women, with great lives looking for a man can't find him. Coz he's way too scared to be with such a woman. The only type of men that will be there, are users and players. My experience, and so many women say the same. What do you think? 🤗
Pausing this video at 1:45 and going to take time to reflect and journal on this precious phrase you said: "if you were going to date you, would you be excited at the prospect?", and then what can do about it. Thank you already!
Thanks La Soumaya - great to have you on here x
You make it sound so simple, it makes a lot of sense... gosh why do I always fall for the difficult ones and can't seem to leave them😕😕
my boyfriend chased me like a tiger trying to smooch me until i die
cute!
I’m tired of all this chasing game. I just want to run to the mountains and be a hermit.
I wish that too at times
omg this gunna make me cry . cause i really always had this feeling sex isnt all this important. Im a virgin
It's really not JayKay!
I like you!!!! At the end of the day LOVING YOURSELF IS ULTIMATE WAY TO KEEP AND ATTRACT A GREAT GUY
I usually think these types of advice videos are riddled with sexism, but your video really struck a note and is on point. Stellar job :)
Thanks so much Elena - I know what you mean. Really appreciate that.
Your Aussie accent is super hot!
Hahaha thannk you blumoonification. Cheers mate! x