2nd is over the top, first she bends herself over then he bends himself over . cockoo. id run away from the 2nd situation too, even faster than from the first.
I honestly always thought it was obnoxious to talk about myself when getting know someone, so I'd ask lots of questions as I thought that was the polite thing to do. I had no idea that I was shooting myself in the foot this whole time! Thanks Mark, applying your tips in some chats right now 😊
I absolutely agree with you! Asking questions IMHO shows that you're interested and want to learn more about him! If I was chatting with someone and all he did was talk about themselves.......I'd be gone in a heartbeat!
All these years I used to think that questions was a way to show interest and attention and I thought guys actually wanted that in order to feel valued etc. Same for me, I thought the more questions from a guy, the bigger his interest was for me since by asking questions he would want to know more about me by giving me the chance to expand on a subject/story.. Whole new perspective now here, thanks Mark 🙂
@@Hanatsuki27 I mean, if I'm not asked enough questions, I automatically think that the guy is not interested in getting to know me. So I was like, okay no problem - next! 😄 Probably because I'm not used to just start talking about myself.
“Don’t beat a dead horse, don’t even go towards an injured one!” 😂😂 I definitely subscribe to this! If a guy doesn’t escalate off an app to a phone call after a few text exchanges, I get bored and I’m out! 🏃🏻♀️
This video is so underrated. I have watched so many dating advices videos from many different coaches and this one by far is the most interesting one that none of the other coaches has ever spoken about. Great job Mark!
Hands down best learning video for this generation. I mean, life changing,almost surreal. Anyone who dates online or who main form of communication is texting needs to watch this video. Sensational!
OH JEEZ. WHERE HAS THIS VIDEO BEEN IN ALL MY LIFE 😂 Mark + Team, thank you for excellent content, as always. A few months ago, I started connecting the dots and have set a limit on myself of issuing no more than two questions in a row without the guy asking one. I wish your specific advice had been out there a year ago! Really liked the break down that showed the investment.
You just validated me!!! I have always been thinking when others are chatting....wow that person is getting interrogated😂when someone asks too many questions!! You're on point!!!
I so much love to see you acting with this wig and OMG, done all this wrong because I wanted to be "nice" and "interested"! Also, I thought it is disinterest when a guy talks about himself so much and asks nothing but now I can see some have maybe just been sharing. So helpful to know the difference now! (A bit late, though, but better late than never...)
Thanks for the video. It really opened my eyes to what it must feel like to my boyfriend when I text him. I'll keep in mind what you said. Next time I'll try to give him more things he can "grab on to". 😊 Thank you and have a lovely day. Yours Grace from Germany
This was so good! The roll play is genius you really get so much more out of this understands so much better. I’ve applied this to my texting and let me tell youuuuu lol huge difference!
omg this is sooooo interesting and so true!! the most fun text convos i've had are where we're both sharing stories and bantering. i went back to look at my convo with a guy who asked me out, and while we were both sending statements, he was the only one asking questions!! no wonder he was a little shy on the date.
I agree. What if i'm not 'high energy' all the time , i mean that's not my natural personality. I like adventure , i think i'm interesting ..i'm just not high energy. And 99.9% of the men i meet aren't so i dont see why it has to be so important that i am.
im so bad at texting, mostly because I take ages or forget to reply, not because I do it intentionally but because Im usually busy, sometimes airheaded and forgetful lol
This is so great, I never knew! I couldn't help myself but relate with a story or statement here and there (not too much) and always felt a little "selfish" by doing so. Good to know I am doing OK after all. 😆
Great video Mark I picked up great tips on how to make better statements about myself and how not to be boring on those statements. Super excited to put them work on my next statements with guys. Thank you
Mark, I was ruminating about how to seem interesting in the next text, looking at this clip a couple of times. I went "Let's see what he wrote, maybe only about himself again?" (my prejudice) Hours later I finally got the courage and strength after work to look at it. "let's get to this task, how can I share more about me?" Seems I had already got the hang of what you are explaining and he found me more interesting. It was a long text about his day, long part asking about my math/mechanics stuff, with a date invitation too. (He told me a few days ago to name the time, then he would name the place. But since I was chicken and held back, he suggested a place today anyway) So there we go, thanks to watching you and Jermia I'm now more enticing in my texts. Who would have thought? (Grateful also for your interviews with HG Tudor, on narcissism. This dateguy is empathic though. I know him from 20 yrs ago)
"Bragging fest" One problem, Mark. Some guys see this statement sharing as a One Upping show, so they reflect everything the girl says to themselves, instead of asking more about her, I have noticed. So the convo goes: Statement/anecdote about her, statement/anecdote about him, statement/anecdote about her, statement/story about him rather tiresome, I guess we need to phrase it in a fun way which makes them ask us out or ask about that thing we mentioned. And find a guy who's more fun, maybe.
Thank you for this information! I have been practicing in introductory conversations on a dating site. I am careful to make more statements and only ask a few relevant questions. I am also better able to determine how invested in getting to know me the men are. So again, thanks!
Great video! Very funny! And you're a good looking guy, Mark, but a Very unpretty woman...which is actually a plus! 🤣🤣🤣 Wishing you all a Happy New Year!🎉🎊🎉
I have fallen into a pattern of asking open ended questions because men pretty much always just sit there like a bump on a log and don't come back with any info/share/ask about me....nothing. So, yes, I become the freaking Riddler. And I hate it; it's boring AF. I've tried to just do my part and not say "and you?" etc. Know what happens? Absolutely nothing. I have to end the conversation because it just totally stalls. I know that these men aren't really invested, but they are literally ALL like this. And, I sometimes feel that some just aren't good texters/online communicators. So then I try to move to phone conversations quicker than usual and that's come back to bite me in the ass as well. Had two men recently who would NOT shut up. Could not get a word in edgewise and it was the most boring ramblings that they were spouting (one man went into an exhaustive history of his ex-wife's family...why on earth would I care about that?) I'm so exhausted from trying to communicate with these men.
My god I was so boring in the conversation I had with this boy I just met, I was practically doing a pop quiz 😭😭 that’s the end, can you bring it back to not look so boring?
Like Staci’s hair. her role play was good. Just too much info was exchanged at the beginning of the conversation. Many women don’t usually say their name in the beginning of a conversation. Cause a lot of times we are scared to be a caught up with a weird person talking and then they got our name. And could follow us yelling our name out loud. As we feel safe in the conversation then we say our name.
Stacey: “Nice shirt you’ve got there!” Enthusiast stranger: “Oh, thank-you. I actually (Proceeds to share his life story starting from his earliest memory.)
WOW! I have really bored with the text exchanges I have had on dating apps. This looks like so much more fun than I have been having! And, when I realize this is a much more realistic way that people have conversations. I am going to start practicing it. I have been waiting for the man who asks me a real question about myself because I want a man who wants to know me. Are you saying him being interested enough in me to ask questions develops over time? Now you're saying it's boring because I ask a question? I always respond first to his statements, then ask a question back. Is this the wrong approach? As I watch this, I am wondering if it's a male thing to make statements and not questions? I have been feeling more and more bored and irritated with the way guys text on a dating app. So many things in my profile they could ask about or now, I realize remark on! I am wondering if it's a female thing to ask questions and a guy's thing to make statements. #AskMark
I am very good at in person conversations. I don't feel like I can connect with a person over text. Then I over think what I am writing to men. I figure they don't want to hear what is really happening in my life.
Modern Guide To Chatting Up The Ladies: Stacey: “Nice shirt!” Enthusiastic Stranger: “Oh, thanks! Yeah, no, I do actually really like this shirt, I appreciate that. I picked it up in, it’s actually a funny story…New York…Covid…(Awkward silence.) Stacey: (Stares down at her phone while scrolling through dating apps.) “Sorry. Somebody commented on my photo pic. Can I text you later?” 😐
Would you say this works the same when writing a letter? I’m sending a letter to an influencer that I have a crush on to try to get to know him/each other better lol.
I mean yes, (IF he even reads it) but your odds with any influencer are SO small. And honestly, many of them don't make good partners anyway and I see so many women just use them as avoidant fantasies to stop any man in real life getting too close to them.
oh my god you are right.............fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.im SO UNBORING, but even i TEXT boring on dating apps. damn. its true. i always wanna get the anwers sucked out of the nose of a guy and i dont SHARE. i dont even know why. oh oh. THANKS Mark
I believe the truth is that it was Matt that was uninteresting. If Stacey had ventured out with a story I don't think Matt would have reciprocated. She should have shot him in the Butt with some quick witted thing about how he was a great conversationalist and she couldn't wait to do it again, just as she left him standing in his own boorishness.
What do you think of Stacey in this one? Please share your thoughts and questions below and don't forget to #AskMark to have your question answered!
No question am just amazed every single time I watch your videos,thank you for this amazing work Mark
She's fun and it takes a lot of courage to act her part!
Love her plays her part to the T...Stacy is great😃
@@cindycinn2724 hahah thanks Cindy!
2nd is over the top, first she bends herself over then he bends himself over . cockoo. id run away from the 2nd situation too, even faster than from the first.
I honestly always thought it was obnoxious to talk about myself when getting know someone, so I'd ask lots of questions as I thought that was the polite thing to do. I had no idea that I was shooting myself in the foot this whole time! Thanks Mark, applying your tips in some chats right now 😊
I was always told it's better to ask the other person questions than just talk about yourself. Guess you need to do both.
I absolutely agree with you! Asking questions IMHO shows that you're interested and want to learn more about him! If I was chatting with someone and all he did was talk about themselves.......I'd be gone in a heartbeat!
@@debzdestiny1 Yeah, hence why you do both.
@@theprousteffect9717 I do all 3.......ask question, listen and share my thoughts!
All these years I used to think that questions was a way to show interest and attention and I thought guys actually wanted that in order to feel valued etc. Same for me, I thought the more questions from a guy, the bigger his interest was for me since by asking questions he would want to know more about me by giving me the chance to expand on a subject/story.. Whole new perspective now here, thanks Mark 🙂
Exactly. A total mindblow
@@Hanatsuki27 I mean, if I'm not asked enough questions, I automatically think that the guy is not interested in getting to know me. So I was like, okay no problem - next! 😄 Probably because I'm not used to just start talking about myself.
@@Hanatsuki27 same here!!! Eye opening for sure
“Don’t beat a dead horse, don’t even go towards an injured one!” 😂😂 I definitely subscribe to this! If a guy doesn’t escalate off an app to a phone call after a few text exchanges, I get bored and I’m out! 🏃🏻♀️
haha some of my best ad lib work right there!
If it‘s a horse, I’d do everything to help it. But if we’re speaking about male humans, bye.
This video is so underrated. I have watched so many dating advices videos from many different coaches and this one by far is the most interesting one that none of the other coaches has ever spoken about. Great job Mark!
Hands down best learning video for this generation. I mean, life changing,almost surreal. Anyone who dates online or who main form of communication is texting needs to watch this video. Sensational!
Great video! Haven’t heard this advice from anyone else but it makes so much sense.
OH JEEZ. WHERE HAS THIS VIDEO BEEN IN ALL MY LIFE 😂
Mark + Team, thank you for excellent content, as always.
A few months ago, I started connecting the dots and have set a limit on myself of issuing no more than two questions in a row without the guy asking one. I wish your specific advice had been out there a year ago! Really liked the break down that showed the investment.
Accurate! You have to have convictions and opinions of your own. Your life is not mundane to someone else not living it.
Share more.
The pearl bracelet was a nice touch :)
You just validated me!!! I have always been thinking when others are chatting....wow that person is getting interrogated😂when someone asks too many questions!! You're on point!!!
Hahaha Right, Angela! Glad you liked it. Thanks for watching! x
I so much love to see you acting with this wig and OMG, done all this wrong because I wanted to be "nice" and "interested"! Also, I thought it is disinterest when a guy talks about himself so much and asks nothing but now I can see some have maybe just been sharing. So helpful to know the difference now! (A bit late, though, but better late than never...)
Wow Mark! This was awesome info
People have to watch out they don’t talk about themselves too much or they come off as self absorbed and arrogant
Stacey is boring but she is beautifull and seems into bodybuilding 😂
Lol! 😂
This is rather excellent. I’m back to dealing with a potential guy for the first time in a decade. Cheers.
that's good advice however I have found that when I send a statement instead of a leading question the thread dies.
Thanks Mark! Good to know that this Stacey has been doing something right! 😂
Thanks for the video. It really opened my eyes to what it must feel like to my boyfriend when I text him. I'll keep in mind what you said. Next time I'll try to give him more things he can "grab on to". 😊 Thank you and have a lovely day.
Yours Grace from Germany
This was so good! The roll play is genius you really get so much more out of this understands so much better. I’ve applied this to my texting and let me tell youuuuu lol huge difference!
I love the outtakes 😂😂
omg this is sooooo interesting and so true!! the most fun text convos i've had are where we're both sharing stories and bantering. i went back to look at my convo with a guy who asked me out, and while we were both sending statements, he was the only one asking questions!! no wonder he was a little shy on the date.
Great info Mark! Kinda looking good in the wig too! 😁
Happy New Year Love! 🥂🍾
Thanks Rose! haha I do enjoy it when Stacey comes out occasionally.
Totally makes sense about statements! I learned a valuable lesson. Thank you Mark!!
Glad to hear that, Deb! Thanks for writing in! x
Ughhh I'm hardcore cringing right now... Like I must've seemed hella boring. And I always wondered why I'm the only one investing by asking questions
I know right?!😭
I love your pink flowers that you have got behind they are beautiful
Thank you, Mary! Hope you got something form the content. 😊
Women have to constantly be show ponies. While men breadcrumb their way through. We're not boring 🙄
I agree. What if i'm not 'high energy' all the time , i mean that's not my natural personality. I like adventure , i think i'm interesting ..i'm just not high energy. And 99.9% of the men i meet aren't so i dont see why it has to be so important that i am.
im so bad at texting, mostly because I take ages or forget to reply, not because I do it intentionally but because Im usually busy, sometimes airheaded and forgetful lol
This is so great, I never knew! I couldn't help myself but relate with a story or statement here and there (not too much) and always felt a little "selfish" by doing so. Good to know I am doing OK after all. 😆
Yassssss, Stacy’s back! 🤣
Thanks Mark😊
You are what you believe!
This was so useful, thank you so much! 😊
perfect timing, having that problem right now:D. im horrible at sharing and statements
Great video Mark I picked up great tips on how to make better statements about myself and how not to be boring on those statements. Super excited to put them work on my next statements with guys. Thank you
Thank you, Arlene! 🙂
Omg this is so true! Brilliant
Omg i was all of these 😭 thanks for enlightening me ❤️
Cheer up, at least you now have the awareness to know what to do next time. Thanks for sharing, LJ! x
This video came out right when I needed it!!
Jermia is back!!!
You are such a good actor 😂😂
Mark, I was ruminating about how to seem interesting in the next text, looking at this clip a couple of times. I went "Let's see what he wrote, maybe only about himself again?" (my prejudice) Hours later I finally got the courage and strength after work to look at it. "let's get to this task, how can I share more about me?"
Seems I had already got the hang of what you are explaining and he found me more interesting. It was a long text about his day, long part asking about my math/mechanics stuff, with a date invitation too. (He told me a few days ago to name the time, then he would name the place. But since I was chicken and held back, he suggested a place today anyway) So there we go, thanks to watching you and Jermia I'm now more enticing in my texts. Who would have thought?
(Grateful also for your interviews with HG Tudor, on narcissism.
This dateguy is empathic though. I know him from 20 yrs ago)
"Bragging fest"
One problem, Mark. Some guys see this statement sharing as a One Upping show, so they reflect everything the girl says to themselves, instead of asking more about her, I have noticed.
So the convo goes:
Statement/anecdote about her,
statement/anecdote about him,
statement/anecdote about her,
statement/story about him
rather tiresome,
I guess we need to phrase it in a fun way which makes them ask us out or ask about that thing we mentioned.
And find a guy who's more fun, maybe.
Thank you for this information! I have been practicing in introductory conversations on a dating site. I am careful to make more statements and only ask a few relevant questions. I am also better able to determine how invested in getting to know me the men are. So again, thanks!
Thanks for sharing, Lisa! Hope you got heaps form the video! x
Great video! Very funny! And you're a good looking guy, Mark, but a Very unpretty woman...which is actually a plus! 🤣🤣🤣
Wishing you all a Happy New Year!🎉🎊🎉
LOVE the examples love you Mark taught me so much this year thank you Happy New Years !!
These are actually good advice!! Where were youu in my life😭
Great information, thanks! I’ll be using this😊
Nice video, your wig is funny 😅😅😅
Great video Mark and advices. I love Stacey’s hair (😂😂) and the bracelet too😉
This is actually a good video! Keep it up!
I have fallen into a pattern of asking open ended questions because men pretty much always just sit there like a bump on a log and don't come back with any info/share/ask about me....nothing. So, yes, I become the freaking Riddler. And I hate it; it's boring AF. I've tried to just do my part and not say "and you?" etc. Know what happens? Absolutely nothing. I have to end the conversation because it just totally stalls. I know that these men aren't really invested, but they are literally ALL like this. And, I sometimes feel that some just aren't good texters/online communicators. So then I try to move to phone conversations quicker than usual and that's come back to bite me in the ass as well. Had two men recently who would NOT shut up. Could not get a word in edgewise and it was the most boring ramblings that they were spouting (one man went into an exhaustive history of his ex-wife's family...why on earth would I care about that?) I'm so exhausted from trying to communicate with these men.
My god I was so boring in the conversation I had with this boy I just met, I was practically doing a pop quiz 😭😭 that’s the end, can you bring it back to not look so boring?
I love your vids! On point.
Awesome video Mark! Thx! And you're soooo funny with the cute wig!! Loved it 😄💖
Excellent, very well illustrated
Brilliant, thanks Mark!
You're welcome, Rachel! Glad you liked it! x
Thiz is excellent! Thanks!
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I think this video will step up my chatting skills a LOT!!! THANKYOU💫
Wow! Great to hear that, Jessy. Thank you for watching! x
Great video, great view and great Mark.
When you hear the examples & one of them are yours from when you were coached by Mark! 😆☺
Thank you for this! It helped! 🤗
I hate texting. I normally ask men to talk, video call too if they are from a dating app.
Great content Mark😊😊
He always does.. He just wants women happy and genuinely satisfied with they're lives. 💜💜💕💜💕🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗💜💜💕
Thank you so much for this! Couldn't agree more!
Nice top btw! :) Love all your videos! Sending xoxo all the way from Singapore:)
Thank you, Andre! 🙏
Like Staci’s hair. her role play was good. Just too much info was exchanged at the beginning of the conversation. Many women don’t usually say their name in the beginning of a conversation. Cause a lot of times we are scared to be a caught up with a weird person talking and then they got our name. And could follow us yelling our name out loud. As we feel safe in the conversation then we say our name.
Amazing perspective.
Off topic...How does he always have such amazing backround
LOVE your videos
Awww glad you liked the background and loved my videos, Cheri! Made my day! 🙏
Stacey: “Nice shirt you’ve got there!”
Enthusiast stranger: “Oh, thank-you. I actually (Proceeds to share his life story starting from his earliest memory.)
Great advice
WOW! I have really bored with the text exchanges I have had on dating apps. This looks like so much more fun than I have been having! And, when I realize this is a much more realistic way that people have conversations. I am going to start practicing it. I have been waiting for the man who asks me a real question about myself because I want a man who wants to know me. Are you saying him being interested enough in me to ask questions develops over time? Now you're saying it's boring because I ask a question? I always respond first to his statements, then ask a question back. Is this the wrong approach? As I watch this, I am wondering if it's a male thing to make statements and not questions? I have been feeling more and more bored and irritated with the way guys text on a dating app. So many things in my profile they could ask about or now, I realize remark on! I am wondering if it's a female thing to ask questions and a guy's thing to make statements.
#AskMark
I am very good at in person conversations. I don't feel like I can connect with a person over text. Then I over think what I am writing to men. I figure they don't want to hear what is really happening in my life.
When I was little people always said to ask questions. To show your interested. When did this change ? 😂
I am Brazilian 🇧🇷👏👏👏
Modern Guide To Chatting Up The Ladies:
Stacey: “Nice shirt!”
Enthusiastic Stranger: “Oh, thanks! Yeah, no, I do actually really like this shirt, I appreciate that. I picked it up in, it’s actually a funny story…New York…Covid…(Awkward silence.)
Stacey: (Stares down at her phone while scrolling through dating apps.) “Sorry. Somebody commented on my photo pic. Can I text you later?” 😐
I mean, if the guys answer the question that long like you, it would be easy. But sometimes they’re also dry. :”)
Great video! This all clicked with me, love watching your videos and great advice!
Great video Mark, plus we need the humor 😆 Stacey is proof that not everyone looks good as a blonde - sorry bro 😭
I've been guilty of asking too many questions. :/ I try to make sure I don't blab, but then I can go too far into making the other person talk.
I want to buy your shirt collection, any chance!!??
lmao @ the wig
LOL
Don’t beat a dead horse. Don’t even go near one 😂😂
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i love your video
Thanks so much, Houlma! 🙏
@@Markrosenfeld most welcome Godbless
Hi Mark how to reply to a guy you really liked that has come back into your life
Would you say this works the same when writing a letter? I’m sending a letter to an influencer that I have a crush on to try to get to know him/each other better lol.
I mean yes, (IF he even reads it) but your odds with any influencer are SO small. And honestly, many of them don't make good partners anyway and I see so many women just use them as avoidant fantasies to stop any man in real life getting too close to them.
U can tell.matts body is immediately reacting to the beard he s leaning away
Tough for adhd people... I often don't even remember my weekend
F&*$# this shit! XD I'm staying single forever. This is worst than math!
So, if U make a statement and it doesn't start a conversation at all, do U simply move on thinking that your boring?
#askmark But mark what if you haven’t ever met the guy face to face and you’ve been together for four years
Then it’s time to cut him lose ! Been there done that ! He’s using you ... sorry
@@tammytammy8631 but he says he never left me and to not listen to what people think.
You aren’t with him if you have never met him face to face. If he’s not willing to meet you/hang out face to face, you need to move on.... run!
You’re being catfished.
I’m sorry 4 years Hes not yours ! He’s using you! And of course he will
Say don’t listen to others ! Smh !
oh my god you are right.............fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck.im SO UNBORING, but even i TEXT boring on dating apps. damn. its true. i always wanna get the anwers sucked out of the nose of a guy and i dont SHARE. i dont even know why. oh oh. THANKS Mark
What if you don’t have a huge range of experiences
No way I’m giving my phone number to a guy I’ve only been texting to a couple of times. Too many weirdos out there!
It takes two seconds to block any number. And you can always download a Google voice phone number.
I used a google voice number until I “vetted” him and made sure he wasn’t a psycho or murderer, lol
Well I hope it pays off from the look at of your friends
The question is: Why are you wearing a wig when you got long hair?
Yes whywear a wig u have beautiful long hair a d alsso u are so handsome a d goid looking
As a Stacy, I hate that you used the name Stacy 🤣🤣🤣
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I am such a boring conversationalist 😭
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Thank you, Janis! 🙂
I believe the truth is that it was Matt that was uninteresting. If Stacey had ventured out with a story I don't think Matt would have reciprocated. She should have shot him in the Butt with some quick witted thing about how he was a great conversationalist and she couldn't wait to do it again, just as she left him standing in his own boorishness.
So the secret to standing out it is sharing more stories about yourself?