I Used To Be Needy, Until I Changed This...
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- Stop chasing a specific person and instead do this... This video highlights the #1 thing that makes you needy!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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I Used To Be Needy, Until I Changed This...
How to raise your self esteem and build self confidence! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the root cause of low self-esteem and how you can improve your self-esteem today... A clear-cut, easy-to-follow process!
Discover the root cause of low self esteem and how you can improve your self esteem today!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
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Thanks for the speech! It's helping me A LOT more than my therapists are 😂
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So essentially, the process of becoming whole is to sit, introspect what is running you, introspect what did you disown and reown those parts daily?
And while you do that daily, you make it easier for yourself to take action and even accelerate the letting go process?
And then you decide what it looks like 5 years from now and align yourself with that goal without self-sabotage?
Awesome video as always Julien!!!
Actually, regarding "introspect what did you disown and reown those parts daily", there are some aspects that I'm aware that I disown, which I still think I don't have power to let go of them. Admitting those in let's say public is the darkest, scariest thing for me. Logically I know that owning those in public would mean ego death which is the goal but it's just feels too overwhelming. 😢
It goes A LOT deeper than that... I'd suggest applying for online coaching if you're serious about doing the work: application.julienhimself.com
I think this is one of your most valuable videos, at least to me. The way you break it down gives me something to work with and really puts into perspective that I've still been going in circles of self-inflicted suffering and how to end it effectively.
The more I listen to you. The more I realize I’ve been deceived by upbringing, expert level marketers, ignorance, and my own biochemistry (feeling, emotions and dopamine).
Glad my content has been so insightful, and congrats on starting to WAKE UP! 🙌
was in the same spot u are 2 years ago. this is just the beginning of a journey u call ur life. juliens content was and still is life changing for me
love you @@JulienHimself
This segment is really good and clear, im gonna hear this a couple of times! Thx
Crazy how you mentioned the kyballion when its in my pocket and im reading it while i work
Whole sprituality in one video😮❤
Living in solitude is the most relaxing
Thanks, you help a a lot, you talk lots of sence, its gold information, thanks Julian, keep that good work. 😊
can you ENJOY sitting with yourself 10 minutes
Yo thanks Julien, god bless.
How do you fix the lack of trust within yourself?
What is it than if you were never wanted from you parents and only abused even as an infant ?
There were so many needs that were were not met, e.g. breast feeding !
That i never can never catch up again. Also all the physical, emotional and psychological trauma that limits my fine motor skills.
When people come close to me, I often feel pain. so I'm happy when people leave. When the pressure on the dream goes away.
So then i am always alone. I do all kinds of energetic releasing but it seems endless
Oh yeah i was born underdeveloped in the mothers body ! 😅 Sorry Julien
Totally bought that shirt from goodwill 😅
God the more I watch julian talk about these things, the more it all makes sense. However for me it feels a lot like I'm getting the why but not the how...if that makes any sense. Ever since I've started watching Julian's videos it's gotten me thinking...A LOT. But I feel like I'm still missing something coz I can't seem to let go and let live and accept or whatever...I probably have a long road ahed of me. I wish I was a rich @ss mf who could be like bloop! Here's a million bucks...teach me everything up close and personal. I wanna do every exercise workshop seminar and give 1000% of myself in doing so. Rich ppl got it so damn easy. In my personal experience ive always had a really hard time teaching things to myself. Especially when it comes to self love or self healing. Blahh...idk. Im gonna keep on keeping on and maybe one of these days it'll click and things will start to fall into place. And if they dont...then it won't be for a lack of trying at least.
When you talk quietly you sound like Trevor from GTA 😂
11:07 I fukhen loled😂
I love this ❤now I understand why I acted like I acted and felt like crap 💩
Your shits HILARIOUS!!! HAHAHAHA!
Fantastic thanks
If I am good enough, why I don't have the results that I want now???
You aren't evil enough!
10:16 Sadly true.
I will follow this mans religion 100%
ive watched 1000s of videos on self help but this guy is something else
Agree, this is the only guy In watch because its no bullshit
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I get too attached to everyone too soon and then miss them for years
Damn, my unconsciousness has started commenting on TH-cam 😂
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Now you don’t!
Me too!!!😢
I'm an 80 year old TH-camr and I wear corduroy pants from Gucci.
You the man🤘
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Does Gucci count as consumerism?
lol@@JulienHimself
@@NoobDominusyep lol
Criminally underrated video. Deep, useful stuff.
This whole message is my struggle. I don’t love myself, I know how to but I don’t. I understand this roots in childhood. I’m trying my best to beat these inner demons. It’s so hard. So I listen to these and journal. I try. Spot on message.
Same, God has helped tremendously. Idk if your a believer or not. But Jesus has helped me heal, piece by piece. Blessings
transformation mastery and letting go helpedet me tremendously. u can have all the knowledge in the world, if a part of u deep down still believes its this way or that way u cant change that with knowledge. u have to dive deep and let go of ur trauma.
Thank you Julien for everything you do!! You helped me climb out of an apethetic hole. I remember the first time I came across your content I lt really impacted me. It was the first time I'd seen anything this real, and made me realise that I can't fix myself by exercising, or going on a long nofap streak or whatever, that I have to work on myself from the inside. I first really began processing all my trauma and suppressed emotions after coming across your content. And I'm much freer now because of that. Thank you.
That's amazing to hear! Congrats on your progress! 🙌
Who’s watching this at 12 mid night
Morning 6 am 😊
I will never forgive people that hurt me on purpose. That doesn't mean i can't sleep about it and live an unhappy live because i won't or can't forgive. I can put it easily away in a drawer in my mind. I learned that through the years. It is all about learning to have the right mindset for yourself at all times, to feel really powerful and have great self esteem, without being an ignorant low value @sshole. Like Superman. I am Superman's twin brother.
I'm 30 years old and have never been in a relationship, but I honestly don't know if a relationship will make me happy or make my life better. Maybe a relationship will make my life worse, and he's right, so many people cannot even be happy with who they are, let alone with someone else.
Same here, I'm 31 and I've never been in a relationship. It feels very risky at times, especially as a female. The possibility of meeting someone toxic, abusive, or straight up murderous is frighteningly real.
Quit porn
Just try it guys, you can always end the relationship, yeah sometimes they throw a rock at your car but who cares? It's worth it.
I'm 25 and had more normal relationships then i was expecting, currently with a very nice girl and at least 3 other girls i was involved were life changing expiriences(for better). Btw i speak portuguese, so forget my english.
Same here. I’m in my mid-30s. I’ve never been in one because of my confidence and self-esteem issues related to my physical disability. But Julien’s work-even just binge-watching these videos-has been extremely helpful in undoing this for me.
@@haileynichelle8343You definitely aren’t alone in feeling this way. Thank you for sharing. It helps me know I’m not alone.
Julien out here changing lives 🔥
Thanks for your hard work getting all this stuff out there!
Your words are exceptional I never manged to find anyone else that speaks about these deep topics it always stays on the surface and feels incomplete but you on the other hand take a deep dive into the human psychology
I'm from syria and I live so far away that I feel so lucky to still have the access to such powerful and meaningful content
For those who find it hard… The only time you can be with yourself all alone (NO
PHONE) is when taking a shower or poop and see to it what’s going on inside.
This is so beautiful...brought tears to my eyes😢
Thank you for bringing to light I'm standing in my own way to happiness.
Thanks man, I just broke up with my gf today and this really helped as a refresher
No practical steps in this video
I remember as a kid being around 10 and having a recurring dream that felt like a nightmare I was in a dark place on a floating rock and had to count to infinity.
Nice. Very scary. Sounds like my average Saturday night alone in my bathroom 😅
Julien have an amazing 2024!!
Bros and sis in the path of selfhealing and improvement too, let's hecking go!!
Thank you! Same to you! 🔥👊
I absolutely love how you add vocal performance in your speaches. I would love to do what you do at some point. ❤ its very inspiring.
"Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content."- Philippians 4:11
damn your content is crazy... this is the second video im watching from your page and i can see my past-me in different situaions youre talking about... great content... from where u have got your knowledge?
I agree with all the ideas you presented. However, it's important to be careful when we try to sit with ourselves because it can be too overwhelming (there is a reason why we distract ourselves). Honouring the pace of our nervous system and not pushing it too far too soon is a must because if you feel overwhelmed, especially if you feel alone in that state, you can go into deeper states of dysregulation instead of "moving up". Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Really appreciate your videos Julien! Very inspirational 🙏❤️
Thank you so much!
Man these teachings are so profound... it's by letting go that you get that feeling of coming back home
Just some food for thought…at 12:35 when you said we’re not born needy. We actually are, which is where Erikson’s Trust vs. Mistrust phase comes into play.
Man, thank you, this is so empowering.
It has never been hard for me to be alone, because I have this well oiled enormous think machine preventing me from being alone when alone. Learning to switch it off and be just myself I had to do to survive. To phase out my thoughts, fantasies, urges and just BE. To feel the reality of it all. It is really a trance.
My biggest takeaway? I just realized that on my path to my "dreams" (ie. getting a life partner), when I left behind the big bully (Church) , i made this pacman figure out of my wannabe life partner. When you are imprisoned in life you are somewhat forced to be in contact to survive - when you finaly start making paces toward your goal, you can easily start worshiping it. So I'm in a way gratefiul for my priestly years because they have thought me to be with myself, thought to survive. I know I allways have the "fallback place". And that it maybe isn't a fallback grim hole, but my joyous existance. To stop undervaluing my present, but embrace it. Because feeling that it is only a half life until you have a partner - it is destructive.
that's basically me now lol, and the needy energy kinda increases with years
Hey julien i notice when i ask myself shadow questions i find myself yawning alot then after i start feeling sleepy
Thank you Julien! Could you do a video where you apply this same concept specifically to weight loss? In the past I lost 70 lbs and it felt amazing, my confidence was through the roof. Now that I've gained weight, I feel inferior and unhealthy. I'm still eating fairly healthy and exercising sustainably, but I am trying to do the inner work too. I can't accept this excess body fat as part of myself. How can I feel good enough inside when I physically feel uncomfortable in my own body? How do I untether my self-esteem from the way my body looks?
Seriously a wonderful lecture. Thank you J
Thank you! And you're welcome!
My only criticism to this no ego approach to chasing, doesn't it make your pursuit of something less potent?
Often the energy and striving for not good enough goals gives you the power to chase them. It gives you energy, if you are just zen about everything then you would may live a pretty degenerate life.
Although as I write this, it has occured to me that perhaps living a mediorce or degenerate life is the best goal for yourself and this constant need for more success is the toxicity.
Sometimes being average is the best goal you can attain.
It actually makes "the pursuit of goals" more potent AND enjoyable... There are other healthier and more sustainable sources of motivation beyond "this will complete me" 👉 It's also the difference between INTENTION and DESIRE.
@@JulienHimself Hey Julien, I didn't expect the man "himself" (pun intended) to reply to my comment today. I do love your work and you inspire me to be more authentic in my everyday life.
I would agree that the "this will complete me" goal might be not enjoyable to pursue but you will generate energy to pursue it. Even if it is anxiety or fear, it is still powerful energy that can be very helpful.
I struggle to see your point on how being zen around your goals makes your purusit of them more potent.
If you feel complete and whole, what is the need to pursue the goal in the first place?
Thanks again for your content and keep it up. Also, I wish you well with the diagnosis about your throat, I pray it turns out to be nothing and it clears up for you.
I was wondering the same, but you dont need to be forced to get things done. Inspiration is the best motivator, not fear, anger or anything else. And the way inspiration leads you depends mostly on your goals.
You are amazing man, huw relatable you are, you are really awesome ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Plus Hilarious!!!!!😂 And serious. For the curious.
I really needed to hear this today! 🙏
The why trails is working form me so much.
Thankyou so much Julien.
Amazing! You're welcome!
Love from India 🇮🇳 your explanation is really changing the youth i have learnt so much from u and really very useful in my job in my meeting and relationship as well thanks for creating knowledgeable content i have only u r providing authenticated other just teaching how to be fake u r really true and real 🎉🎉🎉
This video is something I did not know I needed to watch (if that makes sense)
i want juliens shirt!!
Julien you're helping me so much, just bcoz of you i finally got courage to talk to people who doesn't even speak my language i always wanted learn to speak english and now i am seeing progress and I'm getting confidence
Nice! Congrats on your progress! 💪
@JulienHimself thanks buddy😁
Brilliant. My go to video talk from now on.
Thanks for helping me. God bless you brother
BEST video on the face of internet
DISAGREED. If you think you're not good enough, YOU ARE NOT. Get better. If you think you're good enough, you're right.
When it comes to your inner you You'll never be good enough even if you reach all your goals , so you must give yourself love in order to fulfill that incomplete part caused by your ego !
Thanks for weekly video's
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I’m amazed ❤
Awful shirt
Love you Julien
You really helped me
Glad to hear it! 🙌
This all takes soo much work!!! I feel I am going backwards at the moment. I hope this is normal or I am doing it wrong!!
I'd have to know more in order to properly answer this... Let me know if you'd like my help: application.julienhimself.com
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Julien, I think you're totally right. What do you think of guys like Rollo Tommasi saying neediness, even approach anxiety, are for purely evolutionary biological reasons?
Hey man I’ve been struggling with awful depersonalization to the point where I get scared to even move my body because I don’t know if it’s me. Any help or advice you can give me? My mind keeps making it worse and worse and I don’t know what to do.
What does being whole mean?
Re-owning what you previously disowned within yourself... 👌
Every time I watch your videos I think “damn, you nailed this”
Thank you so much and keep it up
I just discovered your videos and I love how you explain concepts. Thank you so much for all you do! ❤
Brilliant video. I can really resonate with neediness and am going to taking on board all you're advice. I wish i had this advice a lot sooner.
You're a huge inspiration. Thank you very much, you help so many people. Greetings from 🇸🇪
You're so welcome! Glad my content has been impactful for you! 🙏
If you knew. No, but seriously. I started in a folk high school for young adults. After many years of being homebound, I had completely lost my social skills. I didn't know how to make eye contact, my voice trembled when I spoke, and I personally felt that my social behavior was very awkward, I didn't even have the courage to go to the grocery store, it was that destructive. But thanks to stumbling onto this channel, courage has made its way back. It actually feels unreal. During the first 3 months, I sat like a tragic statue while listening during our group work sessions, which happen twice a week. Two weeks ago, I thought the following: "Am I really going to live like this? I must damn well find my way back to myself." This week, it was ME who initiated the group work, I took the command, and I chimed in, asking my peers what could be improved. I feel like a completely new person. Absolutely incredible. It's not "you gotta wait and it will work eventually", no YOU have to do the work. Have the courage to get in and out of hell until you get used to it. That's how I did it! ✌️
🙏 Thanks Julien!!
You're welcome!
Bei der Übung „what if you were to never been in a relationship? Could you be okay with that?“ hat sich seltsamerweise in meinen Körper innerlich etwas völlig ausgedehnt in die Breite, mit dem Gefühl der Erleichterung 😄
Very good
Thanks!
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Thanks man....i needed this one even tho i know these things sometimes u need to hear it in depth
Yes! You're welcome! 🙏
@@JulienHimself this Julien padawan appreciates your teaching jedi 🤘🙏
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Love the kybalion.
I'm not sure.
Really good
Is trauma curable when the cause is still there? Say the cause of your trauma is still there and it's doing exactly what traumatized you before.
yes. u can heal trauma totally by your own cause its yourself doing it to you.
of course there is a balance u have to keep and if somrthing keeps traumatizing u and takes away all your energy and will yes its a good first step to set up a boundary and stop them from triggering u. but its still in your own control meaning YOU have to do it. nobody can do it for u.
u could say when your trauma gets triggerd thats the best time to let it go and cure yourself from it because its coming closer to the surface.
but if u feel like its too much or not toleratable for u stop it for now.
"curing" your trauma (or letting it go) is getting to the cause within yourself. not the cause in the external world (because what triggers u in the external world isnt the "cause" its what you make out of it within yourself that triggers u
I used to feel pretty complete on my own until I started doing things I didn’t want to do. (I don’t know why either!) I’m sooo needy now
Will you be coming to London I’d love to attend one of your sessions
I love Julien!
Can I? 😂❤