How to Use Toxic People to Your Advantage (Biblically)
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Nono no we’re NOT expecting any hope other than what your Title say !
If we try to manipulate those that are manipulative, then haven't we just lowered ourselves to their level of toxicity
Amen. Praise God for the space, to be able to focus on Godliness. I love your biblical application, to dealing appropriately with toxic people!!
How I can get this book? 😊
Respected! I said about theolocal education
When the toxic people are nice to others and not me, the others don't believe me.
This is exactly what my husband does to others except me! And I let him know that 😢
In this case,I bluntly call people out and expose their true color for what it is.
They'll find out after you leave because someone else will take your place in the dynamic
Amen 🙏
What do you do if they turn your relatives against you?
Misery loves company. I`d rather be lonely than miserable.
Yes! GOD bless you Burt….✝🕎🛡⚔🪔⚖🩸🔥👑👑👑🕊
Me too..thats why i went no contact ..and 90 % in isolation.
I am convinced we put the focus on how others "make us feel" because we care way too much about how they think about us. It doesn't matter what they think about us, it only matters what God thinks of us.
If someone loves you, they would NOT intentionally do things to hurt you, trigger you, they would not try to set you up for failure, and they would not put you or set you up in scenarios to provoke and instigate negative reactions from you. They will love you, encourage you....
Amen 🙏
Exactly. My “mother.”
This is gold! As soon as I let go of the toxic relationships in my life, new doors for my purpose started opening. I now focus on God's plan for my life instead of venting. I took the lessons for the next level🙏
Amen!!! U put into perfect words my sentiments exactly!!! God bless u beautiful sister❤️🥰🙏🏻
Same 🫶🏼
Can you have a purpose. Two big bloopers. Job and marriage. I would like to use huge bloopers to grow. Battling future and age 65
Can you have a purpose? After marriage job disasters
I love this instead of venting focus on God's plan 🙏
“Toxic people are users” idk why that hit so hard 😞
Deeply in my heart
It is very painful when you open your eyes and realize your true situation. But thanks be to God that now we can be empowered to change our circumstances, even if the growing pain are difficult during the process.
Especially when it’s your adult child and your spouse can’t say no. It hurts in many ways.
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Spot on! We need to know when it's time to leave. Are you in a relationship for their good or for yours? Prayer is important, so that you know what to do next. You will not feel guilty if it's God who has said to leave.
Just started watching on utube. I’m sure the Lord directed. Great teaching and insight. Raised by narcissists parents. I’m 72 and just now being healed by God of my triggers. Praise God. Thank you Kris
Amen! I’m 64….same! Hi Kay…😜✝🕎🤭
Will be 71 in July. Had a narcissistic father with quite a few character traits, a Mother who was empathetic as a healer, cook, clairvoyant and intuitive woman. Both had a very high IQ, but my father was raised by a Bible thumping Mother, while my Mother was raised by her Aunt & Uncle, after her Mother died days after her birth of preeclampsia toxic state, common in those early 1900’s but prevented today. Father’s father died of toxic lead poisoning in the hospital where he got pneumonia on top of it, which caused his inability to recover. Penicillin had not been invented yet… Father blamed God, for taking his Father, and could never believe in any “Word” in the Bible. He had a hardened heart towards God. He was only 10 when this happened. He learned to be very charming and charismatic which became his power, other than the fact that he had deep sea blue eyes and was very attractive to women. He married 3 times with 2 divorces. His 1st wife proposed to him, and they had 3 children, after their divorce, he slept with 1 woman who had a child from him without his knowing, as he decided instead to marry my mother as his second wife. My mother had 1 son, from her prior marriage and wouldn’t cheat on him, like his prior wife had or the other woman who he knew had slept with another man too.
The other woman married a man who thought he was the father of their son and they had a 2nd son.
Father had 9 children, total. With my mother, he had a 1st born that died as a baby and they buried him then moved to a different State, south of his prior home, where we would visit later. Next he had twins, then myself. We lost our home in a flood, so moved higher up on a hill, to start over. My mother decided they needed counseling but that doesn’t work with a narcissist. He smear campaigned her and told his truth, and provided an attorney for her that full of lies about her situation in court, divorced my mother with his best attorney and one of his twins lies about our Mother. Pride was the ways of my father and his sons. They took me away from my mother at age 10, where I was put in my mother’s position to be head of the household. My mother would never want to see his face again, had further trauma with her job, another man, and loss of her children through further manipulation. Life is hard and trauma can beat down children to where they lack a controlled environment as well. In the end, only the golden child, his youngest daughter from 1st marriage thrived with that last wife. She was narcissistic too. All three of my half siblings suffer in their own ways, except that middle golden girl, born on “Daddy’s” birthday, but the favored 1st Son took advantage of that 3rd wife, financially so was axed from his life. The 1st born daughter had long before separated from her father for remarrying and got removed with her brother and put into care by Grandmother, when they moved away.
Narcissist do not recognize boundaries. They get fuel from overstepping others boundaries. There is a lifetime full of education about toxic people. Just Pray that you will never be like them, get out and stay out. If you return, like I did, you will find that this personality never changed. There is hope for children who were removed while they were young enough.
Amen. Praise The Lord! Im 51 and still struggling with my my Mother... BUT i know Our God is working on me. Its a struggle with a toxic parent
Amen and praise God
"stop trying to change them"
It took me 15 years through a divorce, 2 engagements, and 3 kids to learn this lesson😢 but I have arrived 🎉I am narc free and thriving 😊
Two out of three says allot
Definitely for me! I've been in a 46 year marriage and have decided to get a divorce. Thank You, Lord for freeing me!
Check the scripture before you make that decision.
Good for you. I got out after 30 years of mental and emotional hell. Thought I was losing my mind. God never intended for us to live with abusers of any kind
@@DJH97 Exactly!
@@tatie7604 You don't know what you don't know.
Congratulations ✌️ 👍 🙏 😎 🐝 🌻
This is the best video I have ever found, I have been in a unyoked marriage with narcissist for 7 years but together for 14 years. She doesn't hit me or any physical violence but the mental abuse is scary and no one believes me. They have seen my reaction to her abuse so every one of her friends and family think im the problem. My therapist told me about reactive abuse and it is what she has been doing for years. I do believe God is showing me that I need to learn self control when being provoked. Your video is a God send thank you
I'm in something similar not married though his constant put downs and hate and all abuse except for violence and sex..
It's horrible waking up each day knowing Something will ruin the day it got that bad it nearly killed me, so he's backed off a bit my health was failing me so bad he's realized I'm more useful alive so he's stopped a lot of the verbal it's just the financial now ..
I react I try not to be a cowering victim I hate living like this and I'm well aware I've maybe come across as the problem I can shout back loud and I know it makes me look bad ..
@@happyhermit931 Hearing you guy's stories makes me happy I left. I'm lonely sometimes. But atleast I'm not living with manipulation, gaslight and drama.
I literally sing every day and my kids went from saying "Mommy is sad all the time" to "Mommy always tells jokes."
I say pray on it. I had to stay for a season. I'm glad God have me left when I did. Because I did every I could so my conscience is clean.
I wish you well, and people totally understand.
Come here a rant if ya need. I'll believe you!
My mother is a narcissist, i left home at 15 she had me going crazy. I only allowed short visits as i got older. She now has cancer and im helping her
I loved the message and you for revealing such amazing way of handling the problem. But still am in doubt
I began listening to these due to the condition my son lives in from his wife. Also, for me. She works in the field of psychology. Never sees the damage done. I not only believe you, I have witnessed the toxic behavior.
This confirms my personal testimony. I have grown closer to God because of my marital 17:13 challenges. And as I have grown closer and more intimate with Him, He has shown light in the dark areas of my life that also needs to be transformed. To God be the Glory. Truly what the devil meant for evil, the Lord turns it around for good.
This was so incredibly helpful and confirmed what God has shown me as well. The Lord is growing me, healing me, changing me and restoring me. It is impossibly hard but worth it.
I have been a doormat for years and with God's help I am working through it. I want to do what pleases God.
@@lunarae8037 God bless, you too.
Same here become a doormat then you get frustrated speak up and your the bad guy. 🙄
give thanks to the almighty God
Hello. I'm Alexander Hamilton, How are you doing...?
Exactly I feel like it’s a spiritual warfare I have been involved in
@@indianagirl500 it is
If someone is making you miserable because of their treatment towards you forgive them but move on- distance yourself or cut them out of your life. I can’t begin to imagine how painful being married to someone like this must be. Accept that you can’t change a person like this. Peace of mind comes w/ending contact & moving forward. Love the info in these videos.
Absolutely 💯
The first thing we should always do before moving or doing anything is our life is to go to God and ask him what it is you want us to do
Pray for me!! Amen
I'm in this situation at this moment, but I'm making progress.. I started avoiding the man that I believe God placed him in my life to find my path back to Him(God).
And how crazy it is that just 2 days ago I told this man that I'm turning my life over to God , and I tried to talk to him to where maybe he'd want to follow but
he doesn't have the interest in knowing
It is painful. Pray for me please.
We must look at the part we play in so many situations. That's what I have to work on. I am so glad to see this taught in biblical way. It is so helpful to me.
The hard part for me, is when the people at church behave like my narcissist family system and then scapegoated. I have also noticed that a lot of the people in church are the most unsafe people to share your story with. I don't share my story or my testimony anymore. I agree people can help you to grow and so forth and so on, so long as most of it is growing right out of that relationship, especially if the abuse doesn't stop. We have a right to protect ourselves.
I only choose share with people who grew up in a home with the narcissist vibe. They get it. And I feel we cam learn from knowing others have dealt with it or seeing that it is a thing with similar aspects, bigger than my experience. Those things help healing. I don’t take it to church. I focus on the shared experience of growing in Christ. Wish you a clear path to healing.
@@anneparrish2247 Church is just another place to be on guard because it is open to anyone with any agenda.
The enemy can only operate through people.The bible says to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.I see wisdom in your comment.😊
@@elizabethash4720 thank you. I just attributed it to the extreme deception time that we're in. Yeah I don't want to make it seem like all people at church are bad, because they're not. Especially the bigger the church the more opportunity to run into this type of deception. Smaller churches it's a little bit harder because everyone really knows everyone. My husband and I have learned over time, that smaller churches can be safer but that's not always the case.
@@anneparrish2247 That's a wise idea not to take it to church. I woke up that I was letting narcicist in my family drag me down. It's just when I'm new and people aren't convinced of my faith and sincerity in attending church, that I fall into explaining myself. It's as though they are blocking me from praise and worship until they feel comfortable. I don't really understand that, and it's not easy as a single person . I'm finding safer people as I go. Please pray for me.
My 26 yr old daughter was in the most toxic relationship for 6 months .. I was really proud how she handled it … he was a blessin & lesson / blessing she got out unscathed and mentally aware and a life lesson that she needs stronger boundaries and she’s aware that he was a toxic narc w no accountability for anything . Thank God for this lesson , , sometimes we need toxic situations too wake us up .. and now she’s in a beautiful relationship ❤❤
I like that you said toxic narc with no accountability. Such a huge truth.
And what a gift it was to have you support her as she made the changes she needed to make to get out of this toxic relationship!
@@deb9784 I was proud of her that she made this toxic experience as a 6 months a life lesson .. Beware of Hobo Sexual narc carrying black garbage of clothes , that lays down Pipe better than a plumber 😂
Agree 100%
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My favorite thing I've learned in this is that God can help us to use what triggers us to show us what needs healing inside of us. Bam!!!!! Spot on baby that's so beautifully said thank you so much!!!!!!!!!
Amen🙏🏾
Thanks for yr godly advice Kris. He pushed all my buttons, triggered me often even without words. I know I'm not perfect, asked God repeatedly what is my lesson to learn here. I feel at peace knowing God wants to heal and deliver me so there's no explosive material left in me. Thanks for helping me to take my eyes of the abuser and focus on God instead. I'll keep on walking, no looking back.
"Let the toxic interactions reveal what's going on inside you"
Count it all joy when you encounter various trails....
It is a pity that when you are young you don't know how to deal with those people. So it messes up our minds and we are unable to be our best. Children should be educated very early in their lives especially when you are preparing for marriage. I'm 72 now and I could relate to the behavior, but it is only recently I was told about the week word narcissist. Fortunately I was always close to Jesus so I was able to weather the storm. Besides, being a silent warrior the narcissist e was not successful in destroying me. I am a strong woman!
The Bible calls them "serpents" and "workers of iniquity"....
Thank you for sharing this sentiment. It’s encouraging me to consider how to arm my own children for this exact arena. Very grateful. God bless you! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
"Take your focus off from them" wow she's talking to me
You can’t explode without explosive material, so their constant triggering doesn’t set you off 🤯. What a giant pearl of wisdom here, truly.
Thank you Kris, these videos are a true answer to prayer.
I love that. God uses people to help people.
This is my biggest takeaway from this video. Not the only takeaway, but the biggest takeaway.
A true women of God pray. This is one of the most powerful messages I've ever heard in my life at 39. Thank you ❤..
I know some very nice toxic people I just wouldn’t have a relationship with one, you are correct toxic triggers toxic, love this thank you. ❤
You just helped me beyond belief! It’s 2 of my kids so it’s been heartbreaking but I just take them to prayer. My heart has been crushed and I’ve blamed myself but now I get it all! God is doing work in my heart and mind so I can only handle myself and not try to change them. You are so smart and thank you!
Narcissist are definitely skilled at manipulation and will use you as long as allowed. Once we put the brakes on their behavior they start seeking new supply or try to find new manipulation techniques. I also agree, we need to work on allowing God to heal and change what’s broken in us.❤🙏
Amen I’m excited about how to use people as tools instead of victimizing myself and avoidance
I'm learning so much from your videos, and the fact that they are shown through a biblical lens is so God honoring. Thank you so much. ❤
This is so accurate and so good to hear. God has definitely used my husband and family members to reveal ugly things that I slowed in my heart. Lots of self examination has taken place over the years and it’s so beautiful to allow God to change us ❤
I was recently introduced to a new mommy group. I live in the country, and we are 30 minutes from town. It’s been nice not having to drive so far for get togethers. Unfortunately one of the mothers who introduced me to this group is showing a lot of toxic behaviors. She is also a Christian. But my God given intuition is telling me to separate myself. I hate this because my child has developed a friendship with her child. After healing from a relationship with my narcissistic mother it’s very easy for me to see the red flags 🚩Thank you for this video ❤
But they are NOT born again holy spirit changed believers! You will know them by their fruits!! Stay away!!
@@AmandathePandaBooks and by what the Holy Spirit tells u when u are in their presence...
You don’t want your child to be affected by her in the coming years.
@@genxx2724 agreed, best to separate now instead of letting any bad root grow.
Anyone can call themselves a "Christian" but that doesn't mean they ARE ONE. Jesus said you will know them by their fruits. If they act like a serpent, they are a SERPENT not a Christian.
You are so right…I never blamed them. I just started like you said to identify my triggers. I found out that I didn’t always have to be right didn’t care if I was right anymore 😅. And I did get excited when I found out this person was a tool for me. I actually started examining me., every Spirit I exhibited I led myself through self deliverance of that spirit. If you are dealing with the Spirit of Offense that has to go. We are all raised by people who are not perfect. So if you can walk away from whatever people do to trigger you it’s so powerful. I realize my reaction was like gasoline to their fire. It’s so powerful not to do that toxic dance anymore. I have my life back, my power back. It did take about two years to get where I am today…once I found out what I was dealing with. Thank you for this. Because I went to my Heavenly Father and he delivered me from my triggers. And I can now help others with what they are going through. You also have to realize these people have no empathy or sympathy. They need deliverance from their demons. DON’T TAKE THE BAIT!🙏🏾
Finding this very helpful. Thank you for following your purpose and for your heartfelt encouragement.
Gods way is the best way
Oh my gosh. You are so right! Recently something happened & I went off at the person. I then went into self reflection. What FATHER revealed to me about me is how selfish I am. I then realised that it's me needing change. However, it doesn't stop me from praying & desiring my neighbour to be healed.
FATHER'S Blessing on your message & Ministery. It is essential.
I've been abused, exploited and manipulated all my life.
Same
@@valpal_0112 it's hideous isn't it . Had insomnia for years over it all. CPTSD
My Parish Priest did say in his homily "you cannot it alone, you have to call upon the Holy Spirit."
God is Go! Do! God Can Only Do for You What Can Do For You!
This is some of the best teaching that I have heard on this subject.
Very encouraging.🙏
I don’t usually comment, but I found it necessary to express how deeply grateful and blessed I feel to have come across your video. I’m currently in a toxic situation that I find I can’t get out of. But now I’ve gotten clarity and hope because of your video.
Get out! Even if you have to live in a storage unit or a car!! Millions do it. Just get out, rent a po box, etc.
Good for you 🙏
Soooo happy for you!!! I'm working on my situation as we speak!
I started learning about narcissism less than a year now, I've been in an abusive marriage with a narc for about 13 years now all these while I couldn't understand what was going on until I stumbled on the word 'narcissism' on facebook and began to listen and watch videos on the subject, my next challenge was 'what do I do now considering that I am a Christian and we have 2 kids'? Listening to you today has given me a new perspective into the situation and I must say a very big THANK YOU to you.
I have been married in such a relationship for 47 years. This teaching is the most revealing ever. While I am listening, I recognise that I have anger and I defend. I see forward to find what my Godly purpose is the part of my life that is left. Thank you. God is blessing your teaching.
For sure
Darling 47 years you have stayed to long so be kind to yourself and go solo be kind and find the love you deserve.
@@estellewadsworth4187ho are you to tell her that? Do not be deceived by thinking you are being helpful. She will be rewarded by God for sticking to her vows. We answer to Him not to our flesh.
Used by Family, Husband, Friends & Now Coworkers I’ve been alone for Over 10 years Now because I seem to be a magnet for Narcissists, users and abusers!!!
Our greatest battle is with SELF
Great advice! We need to use the toxic people in our lives to improve ourselves (become more like Christ). Thank you Kris!
Yes I take accountability
Yes I Thank God for the lessons
I've become the person God can use any time and any place.
So true Kris I suffered for 47 years not knowing he was a toxic man. He fits in 100 per cent. I finally chased him out.
Yes has had the manipulation of a toxic person. I pray for this person alot. This is for me
Thank you and thank God for my narcissistic husband who is teaching me how to learn to not be argued about him thinking I’m wrong in every way. I feel I can rise above this. Yep it’s on him. I turned him over to God to show him his truth in himself. Focusing on myself and Gods purpose for me. Loving myself more and more daily. ❤ to you for everything you are doing.
Lord my narc has passed,may I know how to live beautifully for Jesus amen
May God bless you abundantly!! I never saw toxic people as a gift from God. To help us pull out what is not great in us and to purify us.
It's very hard when it is a toxic family member. I have suffered years of abuse but now I am finally finding a way through this. Thank you Jesus 🙏❤️
Thank you Lord for sending this man into my life. May we both learn our toxic behaviors through this relationship. Help me to overcome my insecurities and strengthen my love towards the life you have planned for me. I know I am a sinner and am unworthy of your love and guidance but I believe your word and hold deeply in my heart your love and mercy to cover my weaknesses. Please heal me completely over the hurt they've put in my heart and help me to be stronger in those areas.
Illumination of your (my) shortcomings doesn’t eliminate the shortcomings of others… what a blessing from this lesson!
Thank you, Lord, for showing me my shortcomings so that I can grow closer to you. Praise God. I pray the Father will reveal His purpose for me as I struggle with a narcissistic person at work.
How Blessed I am to have found you!!!!!!
....be careful where you hang your hope...
Hallelujah!!
Wow. I truly needed this. I’m currently dealing with a toxic supervisor and I often feel sad and afraid when I’m around her. She’s trying to set me up to fail. I really need my job and don’t know what to do but pray. 🙏🏽
Pray and journal so you recognize God's voice from your own feelings. when you do your journal you will begin to recognize your own flaws and might help you to recognize why is she acting that way towards you.
Observe don't absorb
@@sisterfaith2616 ok thank you 🙏🏽
@@TruthInspector ok thanks for the great advice. 🙏🏽
@@jeanellreynolds7291 I've been in this situation at least three separate times. Its spiritual warfare. Most likely you won't be able to appease this person and be firm, but reasonable and don't let her walk over you and remember, when you look back on this situation you're going to want to look back on it and say I don't regret anything I did. My biggest regret is is I could not process things quick enough in the moment to stop what was happening or address it. I was so used to being abused at home that this was just more of it. If I could do it over again, I would not have let these people frazzle me to the point of absolute anxiety and neurosis. It's not worth it whatsoever and I think because I feared man more than God although I fear God, so don't get me wrong, but I let men put fear into me instead of just trusting God to get me through it without the fear of man. It's very hard because it was part of my earlier upbringing and the way I was programmed just to put up with it. I think I regret most not standing up for myself and valuing myself enough to not be treated like that. Or thinking that these people were better than me or more capable because they werent. I wish I could be there to help you through the situation and whisper instructions in your ears to what to do when she treats you a certain way because it's much easier when you're not emotionally reacting to it yourself to help somebody else. Part of my issue is I was emotionally overwhelmed because you know when they're setting you up to fail and I think if you know that, I've been there and I remember my ex-fiance telling me the demons behind those people know who you are in Christ and I'm assuming you're a Christian. Anyway I hope things go better for you and I'll pray for you
God is going to bring more people to this lady she got the gift by God to help his children who’s been suffer for long time from narcissistic people 🙏🙏
Amen! You are right, I feel deeply hurt damaged, in 1 1/2 year, I was having compassion for him, thinking he had lot of pressure, until my friend told me, He was abusing me,I was grieving few deaths when I met him, he was a wolf😭I really want him to have consequences , I need help
Thank you, the warefare was so intense, you have no time to process, he wasn’t only taking freeeloading, he was filling my garage and storage with junk, stealing from me, the whole time
Were you with my ex? A hoarding narc who's out to drain your resources. I ditched mine in 2010.
I agree, Self-examination should be a constant task for believers. Thank you!
Hallelujah yes the narcissist that was in my life for 12 years believe it or not was a complete blessing and opener🙏💯💯
This is so profound. I started seeing that my curt, snappy and sarcastic replies was a pointer to my lack of patience and anger issues. That didn't take it away that the person is toxic but my answer laid the foundation for further triggering from them
Yes toxic people are users the one i encountered always asked for money and when I stopped giving it became super abusive
It always amazes me how people who are close to God have such an intelligence.
Absolutely 🎉 and what you actually say, evil comming against us, Hod can turn it around to become to the good for you”…. Just pray and let him show you
Oh my goodness, now I understand what triggers do and I need God's healing power to overcome.
give thanks to the almighty God
Hello. I'm Alexander Hamilton, How are you doing...?
Me too
If the "worst" came out it was already there. I can see God using that situation as a tool to take back responsibility over oneself.
A million times, thank you. This was God ordained.
Thank you for valuable content ❤ I have done so much self work to restore my Joy. I realise I can be Kind And Protect My Joy. After 41 yrs of trying to support and build him up from being so negative, I started the process to leave. I have decided to 'Live Happily Ever After'.❤
I Love The Way You Use The Bible ! 🙏🏼♥️✝️♥️🙏🏼
I was led to your platform right after another toxic conversation with my son's father and I couldn't feel more inspired and hopeful. I am implementing and taking action amd notes to finally work my way out of this and not be controlled by my emotions. 🙏🏻
Mother is a user, she used her toxicness to get what she wants. Thank God for you.
Their behavior have pushed me closer to my Lord, Jesus, whom I always wanted to be close to from my youth.
This is so comprehensive, practical and yet also soooo Scripturally based…quite possibly the best advice I’ve ever heard!!!!! 👌🏾
This was very helpful and eye opening. Thank you for this video.
Yes that's true about nargis. They just want to take over your life. I like helping but I have be bounded by toxic people. They want you to be the problem. It's is my need to help or impress people because I like them to like me. I had to learn to' walking away from these people. They made me feel like an outsider. I learned to like myself more and care for myself. Care about my family more. Your words are great. Examining your self it's a great opportunity.
AMEN! The reward I received for staying, as the Lord told me to do, was a SUPERNATURAL PEACE and JOY. An amazing, unexplainable power to get me through the tough spots.
Wow. I would love to hear about this. I need help as I am in a very unique situation.
This is for me.
He isn't dangerous, unless I try to leave, or push my viewpoint.
I'm focusing on healing myself and on my purpose.
If I can't leave, I can shift my focus.
It's leaving him feeling unsure. Not sure what will happen, but I'm leaving it to God.
Thank you.
All good infirmation ,your videos gave me understanding . I like that all things work together for my good and he is a beliver. I wish him the best of God
@@audreycooper163 who is a believer?
If you mean my husband, he's not a believer. He says he believes in God but he doesn't have a relationship with Him. He is being used by Satan.
This is not a war of flesh but in the spirit.
Satan wants to destroy Christian believers.
But my God, Jesus is stronger.
In all honesty ..... you are very right , I and I and myself was instrumental to all I got myself in. I'm in the stage of working on myself now ...... I'm on it , no denial. God will continue to bless you .
I just realized this was posted a year ago.😮. Wow, wow, wow. All this time I thought it was from a day ago. Talk about divine appointment. See my previous comment. Thank you Jesus for this. You are working. I am going to make it thr with a powerful testimony. Amen. Praise the Lord.
I agree with all you are sharing and thank you for this great video! There are some circumstances however where there is abuse, very abusive family members that we need to walk away from..too much toxicity can contaminate anyone... maybe that is why the Word of God tells us to be careful to not be around angry people or the immoral lest they corrupt us. God bless you!
Amen. You are right on, Sister! I'm 68 and I've had my share of these people A LOT in my life. Thanks to Jesus, my Lord, my God...i can smell them when they come around me. Only God reveals to me and warns me. It's my duty and responsibility to act accordingly. I trust no one but Jesus! He has gotten me through many many situations. I mean where I was close to losing my life and didn't even realize until I was rid of that person. It's hard to recognize when someone dresses up in sheep's clothing and sugar coating themselves when you are so vulnerable.
God has taught me lessons from my own mistakes. Amen!
I am 63, and have to move away from my narcissist mother. I prayed to get clarity on our relationship when the narcissist information
has shown me the answer.
I didn’t have a “biblical” release from my marriage, but saw that through the abuse that was my release. I just had to come to terms that I was being emotionally mentally verbal abused. My mental was fracturing. I had to leave after 8 years. I have a 2 year old with him. Still correcting, praying daily ❤
This channel has helped heal and bless me sooo much! There’s nothing like turning the mirror to yourself! This message changed me for the better forever! ❤ 💯 ❤️
GOD knew I needed this!🙏🏽
YES! This is cutting edge. It is advanced. God does give us relief from our shortcomings. This is an opportunity to grow. Where I need to be careful is my non reaction to them escalates their rage. When God heals us, we don't have the same reaction to their toxic jabs. In their desperation they may resort to false accusations. This could wind me up with legal problems. I still think it is safer to get away if at all possible and work on my inappropriate reactions in hind site.
God showing me what needs healing
This is a fresh way of seeing things.
Thank you. I needed this guidance. 🥰💞 I would like to add, one can pray for another many miles away. Also, how often do you pray(thinking about this other). God is not deaf. Pray, turn your energy on self like the lady says. Also, what Triggers me, may be a person's treatment of me, that I once allowed, which hurt me and my self esteem, and I was quiet about, and now I am strong enough to set a boundary and KEEP it, or get away from said person. For me, triggers are my friends now. They help me to decern my next steps. 💗
I really thank God for them because as I said in another comment, I am drawn closer to my Lord with whom I always wanted from my youth, to be in A close relationship.
Thank you Kris for giving me the tools to make changes in my own life. I need to examine myself so that I can grow as a person. Not to be a better wife but to be a better child of God for His glory.
If we deal with acessing ourselves after dealing with a toxic person...we are learning how to heal ourselves from our toxicity. And to learn descernment quicker and go on living our Christian healthy lives. Accepting our bad and good qualities. Praying for ourselves and toxic people to change and grow. No victim mentally here after 5 years of healing from a toxic covert narcisstic person that i tried for 32 years to get him to come to God. Finally realized it wasnt my job anymore.
You’re ministry is of Great blessing!!! So many suffer in silence and try to endure relationships rather than enjoying their relationships!
Exactly!!
Yes, I was and am being used. My covert narcissist late MIL probably saw me as her favorite toy because I spent decades bending over backwards to try to measure up. I had no idea we would never be good enough.
Now I'm realizing my husband may be a covert narcissist as well. At the very least he's a massive manipulator. He's constantly lying and future faking me to get what he wants out of me.
I hear you, I’ve been there! Self care and self awareness is the way to move along even when they still in the picture. Yellow rock is one of many methods that help me heal and thrive. God bless! 🙏🏻
@Jay Kay, my heart goes out to you. Even though your MIL is no longer physically with you, the legacy of damage and disfunction she's left behind is plenty for anyone's plate. PRAYING for you in this extremely difficult dynamic.
@@amandamilobooks you're so right. We've to overcome the damage of their abuse longer than their presence. I used tapping therapy to snap out of depression. And I thank God for this therapy.
My story as well. Absolutely demonic; remembering that she was in deep bondage helps me work through the forgiveness I need to show ( even though she’s no longer alive).
😮....self-examination 😢...
This is a literal God send and direct answer to prayer for help. Exactly what I needed at this stage of this challenging, painful journey. Thank you!
Granted, I now personally that dealing with toxic people are one of the greatest soulish tribulations that believers can experience relationally. We can overcome and grow through Him. because He has overcome all. (John 16:33). Don't circumvent the process or ignore it, or should one want to if one sincerely desires God's best for your life. He will be with you and never forsake you in the process and in paying the price endured for your healing! The process Kris Reese is teaching here is the Truth. It's progressive take at your pace. Don't give up God never gives up n us. 🏆✝
The absolute best video for me out of hundreds that I have listened to across the board on dealing with narcissism!!!
Thank you for this talk. I had a lot of aha moments from this. Your channel has been a great guide, I have only recently accepted Jesus as my lord and saviour. Thank you God. Amen 🙏
Sitting in the park listening to this as it appeared just when I needed it and god. I will now work on myself more as this is the only way forward for me. 😊
Sometimes saying good things as 'Jesus Loves me and you' has broken curses over both of us and changed the whole atmosphere. The Word of God is a mighty weapon, It gives us strength and wisdom to Say the right things at the right time and defends us from saying the wrong things.
Amen. I have played the victim so long. I've missed my opportunity to grow. I will watch this again and again. Thank you for your understanding and enlightening words that are renewing my mind and encouraging my relationship with God. I have been bonded by trauma, and I know it now. It makes sense of the insane choices I have made over and over.