I remember my mother (diagnosed narcissist) saying she put all her painful memories in a box and then put the box on a shelf, and she was never going to take it down and open it. That's what she does. All the $hitty things she's done to her own children. All the horrible things that happened to her as a child (and it's a heartbreaking story, indeed). She puts it all in boxex, puts each box on the shelf, and never deals with it. Ever. Narcissists are the uber-compartmentalists. I think my eye started twitching a bit when I was first listening to this. lol I've been no contact since 2004.
Ah! You are right about narcissists being uber-compartmentalists. (So sorry, by the way!) Hopefully how this technique is different came through. I've also recently started a number on narcissists... I wish you health and healing.
My container is a beautiful engraved white satin lined coffin and I barfed in it and put it into the Violet flame furnace. Gone! Transmuted into the light. I don’t want to ever open that lid again. No need. Bc I trust my Violet flame! It’s what my mind did. I’ll get back to you about the success. I know the idea is to take each one out but maybe you don’t have to if you Trust in Your vision.
Hi Karen: Can you check again? It seems to be working - the button then asks you to input name and email, and then you'll get an email with a download button. The PDF will go right into your download folder on a mac, so check there if you don't see it. LMK!
Sometimes it is helpful to use this exercise if you have unwanted thoughts - it is a visualization to help "compartmentalize." It doesn't work for everyone, however! Also, it is sometimes helpful to do when working with a professional.
@@BarbaraHeffernan it was with a professional Thank you fir your reply.. I just pondered about it for days not understanding what it is for or how it works
@tanyawieczorek6603 wow it's been 2 years. I highly recommend EMDR therapy. Meditation and breath work. Also I trained my brain to understand my triggers and how to be present and know what's real what's not. Learning the body holds trauma memories helped me a lot.
Sign up for a Free Trial on Virtual EMDR - bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr Use Promo Code: AWAKENJOY20 for 20% off. The program code must be put into the promo code box when you checkout for the discount!
My client has extreme difficulties imagining and visualising... if I ask him he gets really triggered. So although it would be useful he just isn't able to at the moment.
Thank you for your feedback. The mention of my free resource was after the visualization exercise - I would never put it in the middle! I am sorry you found it disruptive, truly. Yet producing the amount of free content I produce is challenging, and it is necessary to sometimes bring in something that links to business. I appreciate your understanding and hope you find my material helpful!
I CAN NOT IMAGiNE. Give me the annser and I will continue. No Visuliztion no fantasise. You give. people hope but you have none and get more depressed.
This is a very helpful exercise. I do this with my therapist. Thank you for describing it so well.
Wonderful that you are already doing this with your therapist, and thank you for the feedback that you found it helpful!
I am so happy I have found your resources! Thank you for this a million times :)
Welcome to the channel :) So happy this was helpful for you!
I remember my mother (diagnosed narcissist) saying she put all her painful memories in a box and then put the box on a shelf, and she was never going to take it down and open it.
That's what she does. All the $hitty things she's done to her own children. All the horrible things that happened to her as a child (and it's a heartbreaking story, indeed). She puts it all in boxex, puts each box on the shelf, and never deals with it. Ever.
Narcissists are the uber-compartmentalists.
I think my eye started twitching a bit when I was first listening to this. lol I've been no contact since 2004.
Ah! You are right about narcissists being uber-compartmentalists. (So sorry, by the way!) Hopefully how this technique is different came through. I've also recently started a number on narcissists... I wish you health and healing.
Thanks for this resource, virtual emdr. Its a great option.
Thank you Barbara. I'm going to try this technique. I will start EMDR therapy this month with a trained EMDR therapist. I love your videos.
Wonderful! I hope this is helpful and I truly believe in the healing power of EMDR! Good luck with it!
Thank you for your vedios. I am a Therapist and I can use it for myself and others. God bless you.
You are so welcome! I'm so glad you find it helpful and that you can help others!
Thank you for this. I am going to try this.
Awesome. I hope it is helpfuL!
Thank you
You are very welcome! I hope this is helpful!
My container is a beautiful engraved white satin lined coffin and I barfed in it and put it into the Violet flame furnace. Gone! Transmuted into the light. I don’t want to ever open that lid again. No need. Bc I trust my Violet flame! It’s what my mind did. I’ll get back to you about the success. I know the idea is to take each one out but maybe you don’t have to if you Trust in Your vision.
How are you doing now?
It must have worked because I don’t remember 🌟
It worked out the imagination. I have none. Any ideas on working on that would be liked and used. Thank You.
Beautiful 😍
Thank you! 😊
❤
I started this with my therapist but I am struggling with it because I have become emotionally numb/disconnected/disembodied in the last few years,
How's it going now?
The problem I have with this is that the emotions seem to have an autonomy, a life of their own, so cannot be contained as they are a part of me.
I was unable to download the PDF Guide on Transform your Negative Core Beliefs. The link opens but the button there doesn't work. Any ideas?
Hi Karen: Can you check again? It seems to be working - the button then asks you to input name and email, and then you'll get an email with a download button. The PDF will go right into your download folder on a mac, so check there if you don't see it. LMK!
I envisioned putting it in a safe with a lock. 😢
I tried this . I have PTSD. So I just couldn't see me putting anything in it. Like what to put in it or why?
Sometimes it is helpful to use this exercise if you have unwanted thoughts - it is a visualization to help "compartmentalize." It doesn't work for everyone, however! Also, it is sometimes helpful to do when working with a professional.
@@BarbaraHeffernan it was with a professional
Thank you fir your reply.. I just pondered about it for days not understanding what it is for or how it works
Yeah I'm not sure this works for me and my therapist just explained it to me.
@@sandstone1997 I have PTSD too.
Did you find anything to help? How are you doing now?
@tanyawieczorek6603 wow it's been 2 years. I highly recommend EMDR therapy. Meditation and breath work. Also I trained my brain to understand my triggers and how to be present and know what's real what's not. Learning the body holds trauma memories helped me a lot.
No links 😮
I would really like the discount code please
Just added the link and discount code! (Sorry - lost track of time and had it scheduled to be released at noon 😂)
Sign up for a Free Trial on Virtual EMDR - bit.ly/bhvirtualemdr
Use Promo Code: AWAKENJOY20 for 20% off. The program code must be put into the promo code box when you checkout for the discount!
My client has extreme difficulties imagining and visualising... if I ask him he gets really triggered. So although it would be useful he just isn't able to at the moment.
A dumpster with a lock on a lake beach in a town near me.
Love it!
Please leave your advertising to the very end of your presentation otherwise it is disruptive 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for your feedback. The mention of my free resource was after the visualization exercise - I would never put it in the middle! I am sorry you found it disruptive, truly. Yet producing the amount of free content I produce is challenging, and it is necessary to sometimes bring in something that links to business. I appreciate your understanding and hope you find my material helpful!
I CAN NOT IMAGiNE. Give me the annser and I will continue. No Visuliztion no fantasise. You give. people hope but you have none and get more depressed.