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What is, when no totally unusual childhood and trauma is to find, but the school of believes around them? The believes of competion, being low value or high value, to have or to have not, to be in power or to be excluded, to get value out of comparison of value ideology>status scaling. There you do not need to be low in value, you are a junkie for the feeling of winning, admire the higher value, suppressing. It is a game kick, tat is really usual at games by the way to give such a kind of kick, as long no special perspective was developed. Emptyness is here a sideeffect a result, one of the reasons. Reason: They have the believes as orientation, meaning of life, most is about. It needs a underdevelopment in intellect, interest, depth. It is emptyness beside this or fake interest, fake intellect+. Emptyness throur the erasing of shame guilt processing as it is "not useful, limiting" and not feeling nice. So how could in these cases Kernberg, Kohut and co say, proclame: No, it is a insecurity, a low value, just a trauma determinism? Even when masses have more worse experience and do not have these orientation, believes, fun etc. Biology is btw. always a good answer for gaps. And yes, these trauma+ people do exist, but it is not causal anymore in socialization dynamics, mind schools and clear society input - output expires. Sorry, it is a lack of arguing in psychology to narcissism, it is so widely a postulation versus cognitive science and somtimes in cases being right, but at cases. Justifications happen so weird as persuasions should be just the justifications of inner coping mechanisms. This for example is religious topic, issue coping...
I'm a retired clinical psychologist, and I have to point out that there are two pathways to narcissism - not just the underlying shame/insecurity path he describes, but also a path where the person is over-indulged, pampered, treated like a prince/princess from an early age and develops a sense that he/she is better than others. That's important to recognize because otherwise we end up feeling sorry for narcissists, thinking they're all just wounded people who are overcompensating. Some are not! Some are just "spoiled," to put it simply. This isn't just my opinion but present in some of the best writers on personality disorders (e.g., Theodore Millon).
Thanks, but it is as well the life strategy belive system. To normalize the value-status scale is a great mistake by western socialized psychologists, philosophs. When you jump into this believe system and are too consumed by as the meaning and way of life it is a consequence. When something happens, that gives you the chance to get cold and more invested in, you escalate more and more in it. You lose a being free, basic and wise. Just as the input to the critics of this determinism believes and pro socialization and cognitive science, the world of the mind in connection to the world and some imature starting points as support.
@@remypascal4872 I agree culture plays a role. Western cultures are more individualistic and so more prone to narcissism. Eastern cultures are more collectivist and prone to their own issues, though. All things being equal, I'll take the individualists over the collectivists. :) But you're right, cultural beliefs definitely do play a role in the prevalence of narcissism in the West.
I was scapegoated by a mob of narcissists at my former workplace and it was awful…silver lining: I’m now privy to what narcissistic wounding and rage is, and how to identify a narcissist. I’ve learned more about discernment, my codependent habits, boundary setting, my own narcissistic traits…I’m learning about all of the traits and habits that placed me in resonance with attracting abuse and drama, and I’m healing it. I’m certainly not excusing their behavior….absolutely NOT, but rather than be the victim I’m taking responsibility and therefore my power back. And imo that’s the answer to this dilemma, is to take the time you need to heal your trauma, and learn how to individuate. ❤
@kristinanderson1983 my "no muscle" is very strong, too. I'm very independent and have a good sense of how to set and respect healthy boundaries. My biggest problem is that I'm too forgiving and give too much grace. But is that really a bad thing? I mean, I understand it greatly contributes to my appeal to narcissists, but I don't want to lose that part of myself in order to counter sick people. The very notion of that is pretty sad. I'm still trying to work through the best way for me, personally, to navigate these people. I refuse to believe that becoming more like them is the answer, but I think the world would have you believe that is the solution.
@ I’ve wondered about this too, and I think you are onto something about finding your own way. Maybe it’s like learning how to dance, when you learn a technique you integrate all the steps to improvise in a satisfactory and unique way.
The goal is to turn you New Age while you heal. It is religious terrorism to force that on groups such as Christians just to see if it will work or destroy them.
I hate to tell you Dr. Drew….but narcissism won’t be dialed down now that social media consumes everyone. This informative conversation itself is on a platform of social media. People can’t even do acts of kindness without posting it for attention and “likes” anymore. The rise of narcissism will only get worse, and it is scary.
Do not attempt to practice empathy and compassion with a cluster B. They will absolutely leverage it against you, and by the time you realize this, it will be too late.
That's not true for bpd, stop spreading lies and hurting people, and bpd is in process of being reevaluated because it's more similar to trauma responses and emotional regulation, which with help gets better. People with bpd can be empathetic, compassionate and when they hurt someone they feel deep pain and regret over it and do apologize. It's different for some, unique individuals that might unfortunately have several conditions at once but on its own bpd is not like narcissism disorder. The wonderful lady that created a program to help with bpd decades ago, Marsha Linehan, had it herself and only disclosed that a few years ago when it was safe to do so because it's the most misunderstood and stigmatized mental condition. Just because you came across one example and are frustrated, doesn't mean it's fair to unjustly stereotype.
It's interesting how he responded to "How do I know if I'm a narcissist?" He actually describes in his answer how victims in constant contact with narcissists might feel. Narcissists know how to find their victims, and most victims have been groomed to be narcissistic supply. Narcissists are unfair, they make you feel empty, you long for a better relationship with them or long to get away from them, you can't connect to them and they won't allow you to properly connect to others because they triangulate and manipulate which wreaks havoc in your relationships with others, and they cause people to feel anxious with their crazy making. Narcissists systematically make their victims feel like they're the ones with the problem. My answer to that question of "How do you know if you're a narcissist?" You never wonder if you are. That's how you know.
Not even close. Do you think narcs either confirm or deny it to themselves if confronted? 95% percent of them don’t wonder if they are, being perfect in every way.
I've recently experienced severe vandalism related to envy from a person who posed as a friend for 20+ years. I didn't think highly of this person when I met them in '98-'99. I didn't want to be prejudiced. I tried giving him a chance. I learned a lot from him, he is a few years older than me. In '08 I out performed him in a measurable arena. And I didn't know we were competing. They didn't try harder, their actions just became covertly vindictive, destructive, and dangerous. Some people can't stand to see someone, who they believe is beneath them, succeed.
The way I heard it was "weird, wild, and wimpy." Pejorative and simplistic, but it captures the clusters a bit better. Mad/bad/sad doesn't really work for many of them. Schizoids and schizotypals are not "mad." Borderlines and histrionics are not "bad." Obsessive-compulsives and avoidants are not necessarily "sad;" they're more likely anxious. But of course, any simple mnemonic device like that will miss a lot.
When I was young, we had "counter culture". We had no desire to eliminate of delete anybody. We just wanted to be left alone to live our lives. There were no Karens and people weren't offended by every single word.
@@CyanCoopernot necessarily. You can identify a problem without having said problems yourself. You can see the dangerous path that cancel culture leads to, where it becomes a witch hunt based on feelings
When I was 12 or 13, I went with my best friend and her dad to play miniature golf (crazy golf) and I was really poor at putting. About halfway through the round, I got frustrated and hit the golf ball way too hard and it rolled down towards the edge of the road. I humped down with a dour expression and when I looked back up at my friend and her dad, I saw that they were enjoying themselves, not really caring if they sunk the putts or not. And, a major realisation came to me. I knew I was not as good at this game as my friend, but suddenly I knew that wasn't the point. I decided right then and there that there were always going to be people who excelled at some things and it was alright. I made a conscious decision to stop being jealous or envious of other people. It served no good purpose. I knew in that moment, as I observed my friend and her dad laughing and bonding that it was much better to try my best but have a good time, even if I didn't play all that well. I resumed playing with a light heart. I took that lesson to heart ever since, and my life has been so much better for it. As I grew up I celebrated my friend's achievements and victories, and also my own with equal vigor. Life became much more fun, less competitive, and joyful. I feel blessed to have reached that awareness when I was young. Nowadays I have multiple friendships that have lasted decades. I delight in the fact that even in my 50s I have so many friends of all ages. I love when children joke with me that I'm "old" but still relish playing silly games like tag and shoot hoops with 12 year olds. Life is so wonderful when we chose to be happy and accept our limitations without reproach. I firmly believe that people can change their outlook if they change their self-perception. And, funny enough, years later, I became a great golfer, too! Be happy and grateful for what you have and live with love in your heart. ❤
Thank you for sharing. I, too, had several opportunities when I was young to choose acceptance of my limitations (and of others) instead of jealousy and envy. I remember vividly that I made a choice. Thinking about the golden rule guided me. I've stumbled over the years but always come back to making a choice about how to view and act on a situation.
Both of my parents were narcissists. Chaos was normal to me. My childhood sweetheart found her perfect victim early. I finally realized a few years ago after 30 years, what she was. Infidelity was never an issue. But everything else was on the table. The real dangerous narcissists hide everything behind closed doors. They would never talk to you around friends like they do at home without witness. I have learned how to use this knowledge to keep her at bay. They are truly like children
@@annjames1837, if we look at the history of Protestantism, where does the Christian culture end and post-Christian culture begin? To which point in time or between which preachers or denominations can you draw the line, on average?
A lot of these people are damaged in childhood from entitlement and being spoiled feeling like they weren't important enough for their own parents to care and spend the time to instruct, guide and discipline them properly.
Boom. I am witnessing this firsthand. It often start with their parents. The failures of their parents. Why I think we are seeing such an uptick of Narcissism these days. Often, parents of who fall under the Millennials umbrella, didn't care, didn't "parent". So they grew up doing whatever they felt like doing with little to no consequences. This scenario is unfolding right in front of my eyes. In one way it's sad, in another way it is infuriating as now my own child is forced to deal with it, in a 3rd generation way. So I am on this channel to educate myself as much as possible, in order to help my own child navigate these often nightmarish individuals.
@@amyteurlife9408 Do you mean materially spoiled but emotionally neglected? Entitlement is typically a result of coddling (excessive attention) combined with a lack of structure/discipline.
My ex was a covert narcissist. I played the role of caretaker in a codependent relationship with her. I was 25 when I married and feel that I lost a lot of personality to her. Right out of the gate, everything was a negotiation, I confused this for give and take. Her narcissistic rage occurred when I tried to set boundaries, I gave and gave and gave to keep the peace, It got dangerous and I still could not see her for who she was. We went to therapy together and individually, she could never share her trauma's with her therapist. Therapy was an education for her, she weaponized what she learned in therapy. It has been 2.5 years since I left her and though my life has gotten immensely better the scars still feel fresh. Influences that I learned of that I think cultured her narcissism, Serious acute trauma and not having a safe environment to grow up in. A matriarch that ruled the roost who she idolized like a Deity, the power aspect that she was drawn to. Codependence in the family unit as a child, love was not free.
I was married to a narcissist. Abandoned by her father, sexual abuse. I made the mistake of thinking that loving her enough would make her better. I never gave up on our marriage and she divorced me after 20 years. She never had the courage to seek counseling or therapy.
"Virtue signaling" is usually a human being expressing moral disgust toward a Dark Triad, often toward a Dark Triad who engages in projection and confession through comments on You Tube.
He's right that we are in the midst of a narcissism epidemic. However, he couldn't be more wrong about the nature of narcissism. Narcissists don't have a deep-down sense of shame. They are too shallow to have anything deep down, and they feel no shame. Shame is the feeling that goes along with being in a subordinate social position, which narcissists refuse to occupy. Narcissists are people who are trying to occupy a higher rung on the social ladder than they can successfully defend. If they perceive that someone is challenging their social rank, they can become enraged. The so-called narcissistic rage is just dominance aggression. Dominance aggression is something that occurs in animals that are too primitive mentally to recognize themselves in a mirror, so it can exist even without a sense of self. The "narcissistic supply" that narcissists so desperately crave is just expressions of fawning submission from subordinates. The difference between "grandiose narcissism" and "fragile narcissism" is merely the absence or presence of a perceived challenge to their social rank. Narcissists can go from grandiose to fragile in a nanosecond if they encounter someone who is unquestionably superior to them in some way or if someone simply refuses to fawn on them. I correct other people's grammar for a living. As a result, I have seen far more raging narcissists than most psychiatrists have.
@lauriethomas6187 I agree with your comment. My life has largely been destroyed by a covert malignant narcissist. Dr. Drew is a narcissist. He rails against protesting college students as though that diverse group is the embodiment of narcissism. College students protest because they learn about grave injustice throughout human history caused by Dark Triad narcissists (manipulative predators) like Dr. Drew.
I love Dr. Drew ! There isn't a more self reflective, wise, intelligent, and caring professional in our public media out there. Every time i had the pleasure to accidentally come across him speaking....on what ever topic...i always learn something. Such a great man ❣
@craigathonian I also admire reflective, wise, intelligent, and caring people. But please look deeper at what Dr. Drew is saying. He is a narcissist masquerading as a non-narcissist so as to confuse the public into accepting false ideas about moral people. Note that rather than call out bastards like Trump, a foul human being who is quite obviously a narcissist, Dr. Drew chooses to claim that college students protesting one evident injustice or another represent the narcissistic problem.
Many would say, IMO, that that is exactly how we got into this mess of narcissism in our youth on up in the present day. Too much supporting of our children's emotions and needs. We need discussions / debates on how to attend to those needs in healthy ways that gird children with a thicker skin ( not implying that sensitive temperaments become calloused, not in the slightest ). Jonathan Haidt has spoken on this for years, i.e. to not coddle children into fragile souls that become quite riddled with narcissism, IIRC. The pendulum towards feelings has swung too far, as much as I do embrace feelings and are grateful for them!
You're confusing coddling of children and outsourcing parenting to all kinds of support systems and tools like ipads, phones, tv, Xbox, babysitters, schools, family members, day care for babies vs before for toddlers that are almost ready for school. All of those outsourced support systems and material goods, cannot replace or be good enough for children's emotional and mental needs directly from their parents, their primary caretakers. Parents are generally even more checked out and detached today than they were decades ago and with all the distractions they take the easier way out and give in to their kids demands, while also listening to random modern day advice of not saying no to your child, with all of that kids end up confused, unsupported, anxious, detached et cetera On the other hand you have parents that are not just distracted and disinterested but those that are emotionally and mentally immature so they project that onto kids and create codependency, enmeshment, parentification and sometimes emotional incest so that the parent fills their holes instead of working on themselves through therapy, having healthy age appropriate friends, working on their relationship with their spouse and family, getting a hobby and so on.
7:28 This! This is, unfortunately, the kind of narcissistic behavior my mother and grandmother and aunts take. I’m so glad to hear this kind of narcissistic behavior called out. Too often it is overlooked or even rewarded, and that’s how it continues to persist in the culture.
1:32. It makes sense. This might not be correct at all but this was 1 generation after Vietnam, PTSD was only just beginning to be recognised, symptoms were still untreated and one of the symptoms of that can be narcissism. This was a time when physical and emotional abuse was still considered a normal parenting strategy and was to an extent institutionalised especially with the Cain, so we now have around 3 generations (ww1-vietnam) if not more essentially raised in undiagnosed PTSD. Surely that has to cause a spike in Narcissism
My ex was picking her nails when we went to therapy and the therapist was literally talking to us while kind of motioning towards her with his hands while still being completely engaged because I really loved her and wanted it to work. She was 35, I was 36 when we met and she said at one point she could get any guy she wants and that was an eye opener because I knew there were certain behaviors that no one would be able to deal with some of the behaviors I was seeing. Hardest thing I have ever done is leave her. She was beautiful and very charming, great smile, great sex, etc but she got jealous of my ex wife because she was pretty to but I assured her I was in love and honestly was. Know it’s not my fault but I literally felt stupid for wanting her to love me or wondered why I still loved her after some pretty horrible things were said.
I am wondering if there is a link between the narcissism epidemic and the opioid epidemic because in y life they were very related. My ex husband was a diagnosed sociopath. (aspd/npd) and he was a nightmare as a husband and father. My sons and I had pronounced CPTSD. The family mobbed me and my kids also. My son died at 20 years old from an accidental overdose directly related to his father's abuse and the lack of empathy in the family overall.
Egotism, narcissism, sociopathy, psychopathy, 4 steps downward inn insanity!! Egotists/narcissists are not necessarily socio/psychopaths but ALL socio/psychopaths are narcissistic!!
Yes, ironically they are often narcissist because projection is a tactic that they often default to in defense of their pathology or they may have trauma from narcissist which is why they anticipate it everywhere.
"Il Papa" was occasionally used to refer to Mussolini in fascist propaganda and by his supporters, drawing on the paternal connotations of the word. Guess what historical tragedy this channel is trying to associate itself with?
In my experience some of the most openly religious people are narcissists. They do that obnoxious "I'll pray for you" when someone disagrees with them. They think they alone get to preach God's plan.
Control. manipulationn, lying, faalse aaccusations, projection & gaslighting. Detroyed my family. Our triune God & yes living in His Word is the only hope & way to survive & choose to thrive though all has been stolen from you. Pray for them til your dying day.
You forgot they never apologize , admit anything, and never take responsibility. They only have excuses. I'm sorry about your family. It destroyed mine, too. I allowed my wife to walk over me, but my parents were narcissists, too. It's what they did and didn't do that hurts. I had to go no contact with both of them eventually.
Correct. I am literally fleeing at this point while being held by the hand of God. I have no ill will towards this individual but i cannot tolerate this behavior with no accountability for the rest of my life. Thats crazy .
@@mariaacolonn May the sweet, miraculous blessings overflow for you, as Elohim has never failed me over these 20 years, and now I experience True, faithful, dependable Love &; >
The one narcissist (really more of a sociopath) I had the displeasure to be a business partner with seemed to have no ability to self reflect, no empathy circuit. I wasted so much time trying to get him to "learn" from his fuckups, how his behaviour hurt me, the people around him, our customers, our business, but soon realized he just lacked that ability altogether, lacked the ability to care about anyone outside of him, including his own family. I would have just as much luck trying to talk to a brick wall. So glad I cut my losses from that businesses and ended the relationship. Consider yourself lucky to meet someone like this earlier on in life so you can run away like hell next time encountering this personality type. Never worth it to avoid those early red flags, don't rationalize it, just disengage altogether.
Vampires appear very domineering and formidable (and scary), but inside they're very weak and pathetic when exposed to the sunlight. Don't ever invite and give permission to a vampire to enter your house and cross the threshold, it's your first line of defense.
Yes real life vampires of time energy love sympathy who melt in the truth of the light. They also hate christianity and spirituality. Obsess over the destruction of others in a sadistic manner.
Your presentation is so full of worthy content, presented in a cohesive and grounded , usable way, with such nicely given , put together way, with such a nice voice. Thank you! You are a polished and relatable content provider.
I entered this world through a narc birthing canal. She died when I was 65, so I've had a lifelong education from living it. She's not the only one in my family or in my life. I think I may know one of the BIG things that could cause narcissism. I've mentioned it to a few professionals with channels here, but nobody will address it. I see what I see.
@@johngaulding3710 that is true & there is a discussion online about folk who have a soul but no spirit & these folk are really "unsalvagable" & when they die they live no more!!
Narcissism hadn't changed. It's become a scapegoat. When people look out for their own interests, less capable people will pull out the narcissist card. There are psychopaths, but it's too easy to call somebody a narcissist who doesn't let you get away with screwing around.
You're a narc yourself, you're ignorant on the topic, or you never were targeted by a narc. Which is it? And remember, the truth doesn't need your awareness or permission to be true.
@angelbulldog4934 Why would I let myself be targeted by a narcissist? It's just an excuse for being a gullible victim. Sometimes I wonder if those who are blaming their woes on "narcs" are the narcissists... but it's one of those words that has come to mean whatever the speaker thinks it means.
@@elgringoecMost people dont look out for their own interests at the expense of others. This is known as machiavellianism and is one of three interrelated personality traits that make up the dark triad (the other two are narcissism and psychopathy).
My husband's late mother was an envious person. She was So negative and always complained. She even went after some of her own grandchildren out of envy. It was really sick.
Man, this really speaks loudly what I've been trying to talk to people about but getting pushed away or minimized for in many relationships. I truly think Narcissism is one of our biggest road blocks in North America.
I would add that narcissism is not only about people thinking that your feelings don't matter but that their feelings are all that matters. We have a lot of that in the woke movement today.
We all need therapy and healing 7:59 now. We’ve suffered months of narcissistic abuse just by listening to some of the political candidates who think they are right, and tell us that they know everything. Narcissists don’t change.
I suffered from many narcissistic traits and behaviors. I managed to reform my disposition and make life livable. If you want to recover from narcissism, you can. But you have to want to. There are a few cases of irredeemable narcissism, but that number is exaggerated. Don't feel like you're doomed to suffer from narcissism for life.
@@embraceit21 Yep. We've got unicorns and we've got trolls. Welcome to the land of legends. No, I don't have NPD. One can have N traits and behaviors WITHOUT it amounting to an immutable personality disorder. Look before you leap.
As someone who was more self destructive in their tough learnings, the people who I see are more narcissistic are absolute controllers of the people around them. Meaning the moment someone around them is doing something that strikes them as insecure, they will immediately stonewall/minimize the issue, while projecting blame and false narratives. The ego is very fragile and unwilling to see own fault in ones actions, therefore carrying a distinct level of arrogance. You can also observe how their is a proclivity to overlook the morals of "treat others the way you would like to be treated", and have a hard time placing themselves in other shoes, how their actions would affect others.
Here are my observations on this from the last 20 years of experience. Im bonafide, not certified.... From what ive gathered some of the main causes of narcissism stems from trauma, ofcourse. I think trauma needs to be explained a little better. Its a broad term, a little complex. Though I understand that ultimately it basically has the same effects. I believe narcissism can come from neglect, often from birth. A child has to be manipulative to have their basic needs met. Whether the mother has some post partum depression or is forced to go directly back to work to pay the bills. A few things could factor in here. Like not holding and comforting your baby when they cry and not breast feeding even. When I had a child in 2005 I would read articles saying not to do these things, which I now know is absolutely ridiculous nonsense. Infants, babies, toddlers all need specific attention and care at certain stages of their life that is crutial for healthy development. None of us are perfect and do the best we can. We are also unaware and misinformed sometimes too. Or overwhelmed and stressed which our children pick up on as well. The child that has to manipulate to have basic needs met, the baby thats left to cry until they go to sleep all the time, for example. Babies cry because theyre communicating something. They dont just cry for no reason. This to me morphs into the child who needs attention and stimulation, interaction but doesnt get that. They are always told no, go play and so on. Those are the kids who act out in order to get attention. Because attention is what they need and want and somewhere they no this and if negative attention is all they receive its still attention. I dont think people see this as trauma. The parents who do this or the children who grew up with this being the case. But it becomes to me, understandable how a person (in their adult years) could be so deeply manipulative, lie, cheat, whatever they had to do to get their needs met. Theyre childhood programming would be survival mode. Surviving the only way they know how. All of our adult lives, i believe are shaped by our childhood programming. There is a man whos name is Robert Burney. He has a website "joy2meu.com" and he also wrote a book "Dance of the Wounded Souls" that I found during a time in my life that made so much sense to me. And he talks of the childhood programming. Finding him was truely a blessing for me in my life at that time. These days with all the drug use. All the children born to addicts that grow up without a parent present. Many parents choosing drugs over their kids. I personally know far too many grandmothers and grandfathers mostly but aunts and uncles raising their children or siblings kids as well as knowing many of the kids being raised by family members. I live in a small community and its very sad how many people I know in this situation. Its great that these children are raised by family. But it doesnt help the kids that grow up thinking somethings horribly wrong with them because their parents didnt want them. Children believe everything is their fault. They only know their own little worlds. That doesnt always raise healthy confident adults. They feel like something is wrong with them. In teenage years their trying to figure out who they are and want to be probably is a little more difficult than the average teenager. We all go through this throughout our lives. So they i believe, hold a deep sense of feeling unworthy and shame when its not their fault at all they just arent aware. Another thing Ive observed and in my head made a connection to a potential cause of narcissism is deeply held and engrained expectations of parents placed on their children from very young ages. One example would be what I noticed older friends of mine who had children in the 90s for example, where dad would toss a nerf football to his 15 month old son who happened to move his arms up at the right moment and half way catching the ball. From that moment on the kid is going to be a football hall of famer who is going to get a full scholarship and be in the NFL taking care of ol' mom and dad when hes a rich and famous football star. As soon as he is old enough he is enrolled in a football program and all throug out his schooling his life is football. Now of course parents want the best for their kids and arent aware the long term damage this can do to a kid. Especially when the kid starts to develope his own sense of self and all this football great just doesnt live un him. Never did but he didnt know that he just wants to do what he is told. None of us want to disappoint our parents. So he continues playing football throughout his high school years even though he doesnt really want to hes just doing what is expected of him. He gets out of high school and we'll say starts working construction. Making really good money and really enjoys the work and chooses not to go to college. This could be many things like a family of doctors and the kid is expected to follow those foot steps, an artist because the parents were artists and the little kid was a "protege" at 6 years old having art exibits of his work and newspaper articles written about him but he didnt go to college, etc, etc. That kid will carry a deep sense of shame and disappointment for many years if not the rest of his life. A deep sense of shame that he is such a disappointment. Wherher the parents truely are disappointed or not. Shame seems to be something that we carry deep inside of us that we dont want people to know or see. Expectation is the root cause of disappointment and it comes in many forms. Now days what Ive observed seems to be a fussy child, very young even, wanting attention and the parents are so sucked into their smart devices and social media that they dont pay any attention to their child. Except maybe a photo opp for them to post on social media that theyre the best parent ever and their happy perfect family life..... Or they hand the child a smart device to shut them up.... Parenting in 2024, theres an app for that. YIKES!!! I hope people see where Im going with that one
I was in therapy and my therapist never identified my husband has nurses despite my giving her every single identifying characteristic, namely, that I was exhausted trying to communicate the most basic things. She never gave me an article or book to read, she gave me no strategies to respond rather than react and so I continued to feed the cycle.
You’re absolutely right narcissist are very difficult to deal with. And to top it all off not only was my husband the nicest, but so was his mother and his younger sister. I guess it runs in families.
Important note: while you should not rescue kids from every problem, that doesn't mean you shouldn't help them when they ask or show compassion when they fail. If you constantly walk ahead of them and clear all obstacles, that's terrible for them. But if you swing the other way and refuse to help or comfort them when they are disregulated or asking for your help, they will learn that their emotions are an obstacle to overcome through denial and suppression, and they will also learn that needing help is shameful and weakness. So please. Do not try to fix every problem your kids have the moment it happens. Let them try to figure it out. But do not turn a cold shoulder when they come to you for help or comfort.
Failure as a gift today doesn't work when there's so many new things that make old things no longer practical, such as how everyone needs a cellphone on them at all times to have opportunities. I don't believe it's narcissism for someone to be able to see that they're disadvantaged against their own choices yet face the responsibility. Eventually some of these issues will be extremely consequential on society, such as the declining birth rate and increasing excessive death rate.
I can see the argument here that a tiny fringe of people are woke right fascists, but unlike the woke left, we largely just ignore the far right fringe.
Some of what bugs me about cancel culture is how it seems somewhat accepted by the leftist media, but most of the population is clearly against it and knows how immature it is. Such as getting rid of mascots that were used for decades, where no one complained about them and if you do, you're seen as crazy. And it makes the leftists look pretty bad too. Why should a minority of the population get their way when the average American thinks this so called offensive thing is harmless? And often times, they really do look and act crazy. There's way too much of these kinds of people on college campuses who want to act like they suddenly know what's best for the rest of the country. You especially see the behaviors in their protests, such as protesting on a freeway. These kinds of people, it honestly looks like they waste their time looking for something to be offended by or invent new reasons to find something offensive and trying to get the liberals on their side. And I do think they could get better if they wanted to since they often are college students. Since they like to brag how educated they are, they shouldn't have much problem looking for books that explain their mental health if they are open to it.
10:27 “Healthy Narcissism” = Esteem, while “Unhealthy Narcissism” = Ego, which is projected separation leading to empathic failure and envy towards destruction.
H esaID IT WRONG TOO.. jEALOUSY IS "i LIKE YOU i WANT TO BE LIKE YOU DRESS LIKE YOU SMILE, HAVE ENERGY LIKE YOU, envy is "I dont like you, but I want you to become me, to be and act like me."
He's wrong about jealousy. Jealousy is the feeling one experiences when something you have is threatened by someone or something. Example: your spouse's love or attention, by their friend, work, schooling. Or your daughter's affection for another mother or father figure. Or your teacher's favorism toward another student (after favoring you). Envy is coveting what someone else has that you don't have: a spouse, wealth, good grades.
No, he's not wrong. There is a healthy jealousy where you want to protect what's yours and what you have a right to protect. What you're saying is veering into unhealthy jealousy with the examples of a daughter's affection or favoritism from a teacher. Those are based on insecurity.
@petrasworld913 you make an interesting point (although i didnt hear his definition of jealousy as you did)... i.e. "illicit" jealousy: is it jealousy? Gonna have to look into his!
Truly, Dr. Drew, it's not fair to others to be attacked and called anti-Semitic for having a different opinion that doesn't happen to support their view. Everyone is fed up with it. It's a dirty tactic.
I have emotional and physical scars from a marriage of over 30 years ago to a narcissistic husband. He was violent, cruel and sadistic. The only good that came from that Union were my children
Robert J Lifton researched the ideology behind a cultural revolution. Is this what happens in authoritarian dangerous high control groups/ideologies which create pseudo-personality (M. Singer) overlays?
This video is very f'king manipulative. I'm a victim of a covert malignant narcissist and aware that human civilizations have ended when the larger population fails to keep their Dark Triad (consisting considerably of wealthy extreme conservatives) out of leadership positions.
Feelings don't matter - reality matter. If a boy feels he is a girl, and mutilates himself - his feeling is irrelevant. What's important is that he is insane. Reaffirming invalid feelings is a path no narcissism.
thats a very insightful interview!! some years ago i realised for myself 'we are living in the age of the self' well, i better replace 'self' with 'narcissism'
I have no problem with the compassion for narcissists. It's the behavior and attitudes and destruction of even a generation of a family. I had a family member who paid with his very life. Love from a distance and run for the hills! I had one of the most traumatic, horrifying childhood experience that almost any mental health professional ever heard who I worked with. I am not a narcissist. I received a lot of help. Wanted to not be what I saw. Was willing to do anything in order not to live like I was raised. There is a heritable part, environmental and then enabling by others through their fear and not wanting to look at themselves. I walked out of unhealth. Prayed. Cried. Talked. Determined to be better. I can't spend time worrying about narcissists and their intentions, ability to change or their future. I keep a distance and keep walking!
I blame a lot of this on the law of attraction stuff. I've read a few books and generally it's about you, you, you, you. flush all the people that need help and force only on you. Life is about balance, and it ain't all about you!
@@kni9ght You are definitely correct on that! Most wont/ever see that tho, because their heads are so far up their own butts. I see it every day. Kindness to each other is pretty much gone unfortunately.
Nahhhh, law of attraction is about self love, it’s just being misused as a main character tool. Its a self love hack that reminds you of your core self so that you can become solid in your morals/values and not let another person, no matter how close they are to you, especially narcissistic people, take over your own autonomy. Life IS about balance and the law of attraction is about manifesting who you are into form. You can clearly see what someone is about by what where why and who they are surrounded by and how they use this tool. Scapegoating LofA is not it.
It's not only USA... sadly i'm speaking of experience and very ill, it took ages (NOT ONE doctor...) to discover this myself, thanks to good wise people online who inform us... hugs from Beligium
at 12:57 Dr Drew said that Narcissistic personality disorder wasn't as common in the 1800's. That would concur with the bible's prediction in 2 Timothy chapter 3 that in the end days men would be "lovers of their own selves"... sounds like narcissism to me! Here's the rest of the passage..
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Tools Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was.
Step one: survive. Step two: make life easier, pursue happiness Step three: everyone is narcissistic and directionless Step four: medicate everyone until happy
Yes. This is good information. My gf is a narcissist. I've been with her 2 years now. But she's deceitful and doesn't care if she hurts my feelings or not. She talks to me as if there's no other man for her. Then I catch her saying 'I love you' to other guys. I've had my fill of this. Just a few more steps and I'm gone. I've already met someone else but holding back because I love my gf first.
Mine used to come to do damage control by gaslighting the therapist..s. If there’s an increase in narcissists then there is also an increase in psychopaths . Do psychopaths feel that deep level of shame I don’t think so
Egotism, narcissism, socio & psychopathy, 4 steps downward of insanity!! Egotists/narcissists are not necessarily socio-psycho, but all 100% of socio/psychopaths are narcissistic-FYI!!
I live in California and I agree. Way too much ridiculous laws and pandering to people who don't deserve it. California used to arguably be the best state in the U.S. to live in.
Thanks again. Gotta be a nerd on the Dr.'s description of Jealously (I have a bit of a Greek Frenzy generated imparitives to object). His description of Envy is splended, and resonates to the Envy spiral of Socialists. I often liken it to Aphrodite's Girl from Iponema effect on the mob. Jealousy is harder to speek impeccably on. Coveting of what is already yours. In light of Yahweh's reputation, I ask if "he" wants to be known, or works against it. Very Melpomene. Keep up the great work.
Blaming it on genetics or trauma is a red herring since not all siblings in one family will become narcissistic. You can easily find a person who is a narcissist but his siblings are not even though they lived in the same household and experienced the same 'trauma' - a grossly overused word. Genetics is wrong because your genetics aren't fixed. They are dynamic & result from interaction with environment & lifestyle.
Trauma how some woke people use it has become overused and trivial. Actual trauma from a bad childhood, from emotional neglect, from absent parents, from parents fights, from overly strict disciplining and similar - those are real trauma examples, they profoundly change the child's development and they carry that burden with them into adulthood usually until they manage to get some proper help. Genetics is a smaller component to behavior and the environment in which the child grew up in has more of an impact on how they turn out. It goes for both physical and mental health.
Love thy neighbor as thyself. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Modern Christianity has turned into doing the exact opposite of what Jesus said in order to "go along to get along". Professing Christians think it's Godly to justify the wicked and condemn the just, even though God said those who do that are an abomination to Him. People don't read the Bible. They just imagine whatever they want it to say then persecute anyone who actually follows the Bible because they are "judgmental bigots". Those same "judge not" people always say "judge not" right after falsely accusing you of nonsense. You can't have a rebuttal. They accused you so you're guilty, even if what they accuse you of is literally physically impossible. People try to force you to live the narc's delusions so the narc isn't "offended" or "upset". They don't give a damn how much damage the narc causes. It's all your fault anyways. You made them do it! Judge not!
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found the emotionally stunted white supremacist. Your parents emotionally neglected you in a profound way.
As Lasch told us long ago in his excellent paper, Capithellism insures a population must become victims and narcissists. We suck.
What is, when no totally unusual childhood and trauma is to find, but the school of believes around them? The believes of competion, being low value or high value, to have or to have not, to be in power or to be excluded, to get value out of comparison of value ideology>status scaling. There you do not need to be low in value, you are a junkie for the feeling of winning, admire the higher value, suppressing. It is a game kick, tat is really usual at games by the way to give such a kind of kick, as long no special perspective was developed.
Emptyness is here a sideeffect a result, one of the reasons. Reason: They have the believes as orientation, meaning of life, most is about. It needs a underdevelopment in intellect, interest, depth. It is emptyness beside this or fake interest, fake intellect+. Emptyness throur the erasing of shame guilt processing as it is "not useful, limiting" and not feeling nice.
So how could in these cases Kernberg, Kohut and co say, proclame: No, it is a insecurity, a low value, just a trauma determinism?
Even when masses have more worse experience and do not have these orientation, believes, fun etc.
Biology is btw. always a good answer for gaps.
And yes, these trauma+ people do exist, but it is not causal anymore in socialization dynamics, mind schools and clear society input - output expires.
Sorry, it is a lack of arguing in psychology to narcissism, it is so widely a postulation versus cognitive science and somtimes in cases being right, but at cases. Justifications happen so weird as persuasions should be just the justifications of inner coping mechanisms. This for example is religious topic, issue coping...
Dr Drew is simply another TV doctor. No one credible was available?
Doctor Drew lost all credibility when he started promoting V Shred
I'm a retired clinical psychologist, and I have to point out that there are two pathways to narcissism - not just the underlying shame/insecurity path he describes, but also a path where the person is over-indulged, pampered, treated like a prince/princess from an early age and develops a sense that he/she is better than others. That's important to recognize because otherwise we end up feeling sorry for narcissists, thinking they're all just wounded people who are overcompensating. Some are not! Some are just "spoiled," to put it simply. This isn't just my opinion but present in some of the best writers on personality disorders (e.g., Theodore Millon).
Thanks, but it is as well the life strategy belive system. To normalize the value-status scale is a great mistake by western socialized psychologists, philosophs. When you jump into this believe system and are too consumed by as the meaning and way of life it is a consequence. When something happens, that gives you the chance to get cold and more invested in, you escalate more and more in it. You lose a being free, basic and wise. Just as the input to the critics of this determinism believes and pro socialization and cognitive science, the world of the mind in connection to the world and some imature starting points as support.
They should've asked you. Dr Drew is a TV doctor with no credibility.
@@remypascal4872 I agree culture plays a role. Western cultures are more individualistic and so more prone to narcissism. Eastern cultures are more collectivist and prone to their own issues, though. All things being equal, I'll take the individualists over the collectivists. :) But you're right, cultural beliefs definitely do play a role in the prevalence of narcissism in the West.
@@mkshouse Thanks. I actually have respect for Dr. Drew, but I disagree with his characterization of narcissism here.
I agree wholeheartedly..I have a child just like that. Spoiled rotten. 😢
I was scapegoated by a mob of narcissists at my former workplace and it was awful…silver lining: I’m now privy to what narcissistic wounding and rage is, and how to identify a narcissist. I’ve learned more about discernment, my codependent habits, boundary setting, my own narcissistic traits…I’m learning about all of the traits and habits that placed me in resonance with attracting abuse and drama, and I’m healing it. I’m certainly not excusing their behavior….absolutely NOT, but rather than be the victim I’m taking responsibility and therefore my power back. And imo that’s the answer to this dilemma, is to take the time you need to heal your trauma, and learn how to individuate. ❤
Boundaries are one of my best friends. My "no" muscle is very strong.
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@kristinanderson1983 my "no muscle" is very strong, too. I'm very independent and have a good sense of how to set and respect healthy boundaries. My biggest problem is that I'm too forgiving and give too much grace. But is that really a bad thing? I mean, I understand it greatly contributes to my appeal to narcissists, but I don't want to lose that part of myself in order to counter sick people. The very notion of that is pretty sad. I'm still trying to work through the best way for me, personally, to navigate these people. I refuse to believe that becoming more like them is the answer, but I think the world would have you believe that is the solution.
@ I’ve wondered about this too, and I think you are onto something about finding your own way. Maybe it’s like learning how to dance, when you learn a technique you integrate all the steps to improvise in a satisfactory and unique way.
The goal is to turn you New Age while you heal. It is religious terrorism to force that on groups such as Christians just to see if it will work or destroy them.
I hate to tell you Dr. Drew….but narcissism won’t be dialed down now that social media consumes everyone. This informative conversation itself is on a platform of social media. People can’t even do acts of kindness without posting it for attention and “likes” anymore. The rise of narcissism will only get worse, and it is scary.
Nice word of the decade, next to over used Nazi or conspiracy. Lifhten up you tight assed dunces
Yup. It is terrifying.
Dr Drew being a notorious narcissist… 😂
@Kdizzy ja zo is het.
Waarheid!
@@BlammoGer, why do you find that wonderful?
Do not attempt to practice empathy and compassion with a cluster B. They will absolutely leverage it against you, and by the time you realize this, it will be too late.
Amen!
Too late in which way?
@@seriouscat2231 In the way that they will have the power to destroy you.
That's not true for bpd, stop spreading lies and hurting people, and bpd is in process of being reevaluated because it's more similar to trauma responses and emotional regulation, which with help gets better. People with bpd can be empathetic, compassionate and when they hurt someone they feel deep pain and regret over it and do apologize. It's different for some, unique individuals that might unfortunately have several conditions at once but on its own bpd is not like narcissism disorder. The wonderful lady that created a program to help with bpd decades ago, Marsha Linehan, had it herself and only disclosed that a few years ago when it was safe to do so because it's the most misunderstood and stigmatized mental condition. Just because you came across one example and are frustrated, doesn't mean it's fair to unjustly stereotype.
What a terrible thing to say. Shame on you
A narc pushed my father to suicide and almost took me out too. These people are incredibly dangerous.
Its almost as if it is their goal. Sadistic to drive someone to madness
So very true
@@wunderdoggy It's what they do best.
It's interesting how he responded to "How do I know if I'm a narcissist?"
He actually describes in his answer how victims in constant contact with narcissists might feel. Narcissists know how to find their victims, and most victims have been groomed to be narcissistic supply.
Narcissists are unfair, they make you feel empty, you long for a better relationship with them or long to get away from them, you can't connect to them and they won't allow you to properly connect to others because they triangulate and manipulate which wreaks havoc in your relationships with others, and they cause people to feel anxious with their crazy making. Narcissists systematically make their victims feel like they're the ones with the problem.
My answer to that question of "How do you know if you're a narcissist?"
You never wonder if you are. That's how you know.
Narcs are drawn to empaths like me. They mistake my kindness for weakness. BIG mistake!
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Sure…
Seek therapy
Not even close. Do you think narcs either confirm or deny it to themselves if confronted? 95% percent of them don’t wonder if they are, being perfect in every way.
"Seek therapy"
Spoken like a true narcissist. I see you.
I've recently experienced severe vandalism related to envy from a person who posed as a friend for 20+ years. I didn't think highly of this person when I met them in '98-'99. I didn't want to be prejudiced. I tried giving him a chance. I learned a lot from him, he is a few years older than me. In '08 I out performed him in a measurable arena. And I didn't know we were competing. They didn't try harder, their actions just became covertly vindictive, destructive, and dangerous.
Some people can't stand to see someone, who they believe is beneath them, succeed.
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So True
They will sabotage everything they can. Even a smile on your face.
Cluster A personality disorders are the "mad". Cluster B are the "bad". Cluster C are the "sad". That's how psychiatrists refer to them in shorthand.
TY
Gosh how intelligent to simplify such complexity to that...😮
The way I heard it was "weird, wild, and wimpy." Pejorative and simplistic, but it captures the clusters a bit better. Mad/bad/sad doesn't really work for many of them. Schizoids and schizotypals are not "mad." Borderlines and histrionics are not "bad." Obsessive-compulsives and avoidants are not necessarily "sad;" they're more likely anxious. But of course, any simple mnemonic device like that will miss a lot.
Thank u, that is helpful. After years, I keep learning more.
😂😂😂😂😂 asinine
He’s saying what we’re all thinking about cancel culture but are afraid to say publicly
When I was young, we had "counter culture". We had no desire to eliminate of delete anybody. We just wanted to be left alone to live our lives. There were no Karens and people weren't offended by every single word.
Let's be honest, the democratic party. Many of us flew the coop when we realized we were cohabitating with narcs.
This is the rotten fruit of rejecting Biblical values
Being triggered by the idea of cancel culture is a massive red flag you have skeletons in the closet.
@@CyanCoopernot necessarily. You can identify a problem without having said problems yourself. You can see the dangerous path that cancel culture leads to, where it becomes a witch hunt based on feelings
When I was 12 or 13, I went with my best friend and her dad to play miniature golf (crazy golf) and I was really poor at putting. About halfway through the round, I got frustrated and hit the golf ball way too hard and it rolled down towards the edge of the road. I humped down with a dour expression and when I looked back up at my friend and her dad, I saw that they were enjoying themselves, not really caring if they sunk the putts or not. And, a major realisation came to me. I knew I was not as good at this game as my friend, but suddenly I knew that wasn't the point. I decided right then and there that there were always going to be people who excelled at some things and it was alright. I made a conscious decision to stop being jealous or envious of other people. It served no good purpose. I knew in that moment, as I observed my friend and her dad laughing and bonding that it was much better to try my best but have a good time, even if I didn't play all that well. I resumed playing with a light heart. I took that lesson to heart ever since, and my life has been so much better for it. As I grew up I celebrated my friend's achievements and victories, and also my own with equal vigor. Life became much more fun, less competitive, and joyful. I feel blessed to have reached that awareness when I was young. Nowadays I have multiple friendships that have lasted decades. I delight in the fact that even in my 50s I have so many friends of all ages. I love when children joke with me that I'm "old" but still relish playing silly games like tag and shoot hoops with 12 year olds. Life is so wonderful when we chose to be happy and accept our limitations without reproach. I firmly believe that people can change their outlook if they change their self-perception.
And, funny enough, years later, I became a great golfer, too!
Be happy and grateful for what you have and live with love in your heart. ❤
This is such a nice story. Thank you for sharing.
2 Timothy 3
Thank you for sharing. I, too, had several opportunities when I was young to choose acceptance of my limitations (and of others) instead of jealousy and envy. I remember vividly that I made a choice. Thinking about the golden rule guided me. I've stumbled over the years but always come back to making a choice about how to view and act on a situation.
TY for sharing your experience and good lesson.❤
What a wonderful story! I‘m sure I would have had a far more fulfilling life if I had had such an epiphany at an early age. 😢
Both of my parents were narcissists. Chaos was normal to me. My childhood sweetheart found her perfect victim early. I finally realized a few years ago after 30 years, what she was. Infidelity was never an issue. But everything else was on the table. The real dangerous narcissists hide everything behind closed doors. They would never talk to you around friends like they do at home without witness. I have learned how to use this knowledge to keep her at bay. They are truly like children
Selflessness was replaced by entitlement and vain post-camera self-idolatry.
Post Christian culture now
@@annjames1837, if we look at the history of Protestantism, where does the Christian culture end and post-Christian culture begin? To which point in time or between which preachers or denominations can you draw the line, on average?
A lot of these people are damaged in childhood from entitlement and being spoiled feeling like they weren't important enough for their own parents to care and spend the time to instruct, guide and discipline them properly.
Boom. I am witnessing this firsthand. It often start with their parents. The failures of their parents. Why I think we are seeing such an uptick of Narcissism these days. Often, parents of who fall under the Millennials umbrella, didn't care, didn't "parent". So they grew up doing whatever they felt like doing with little to no consequences. This scenario is unfolding right in front of my eyes. In one way it's sad, in another way it is infuriating as now my own child is forced to deal with it, in a 3rd generation way. So I am on this channel to educate myself as much as possible, in order to help my own child navigate these often nightmarish individuals.
That explains my disfunction
@@amyteurlife9408 Do you mean materially spoiled but emotionally neglected? Entitlement is typically a result of coddling (excessive attention) combined with a lack of structure/discipline.
@@gabeo9474 Yes exactly. They get what they want but because they are so young they feel out of control because no one will guide them.
My ex was a covert narcissist. I played the role of caretaker in a codependent relationship with her. I was 25 when I married and feel that I lost a lot of personality to her. Right out of the gate, everything was a negotiation, I confused this for give and take. Her narcissistic rage occurred when I tried to set boundaries, I gave and gave and gave to keep the peace, It got dangerous and I still could not see her for who she was. We went to therapy together and individually, she could never share her trauma's with her therapist. Therapy was an education for her, she weaponized what she learned in therapy.
It has been 2.5 years since I left her and though my life has gotten immensely better the scars still feel fresh.
Influences that I learned of that I think cultured her narcissism,
Serious acute trauma and not having a safe environment to grow up in.
A matriarch that ruled the roost who she idolized like a Deity, the power aspect that she was drawn to.
Codependence in the family unit as a child, love was not free.
I used to think that I was narcissistic but now I know I’m amazing.
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I was married to a narcissist. Abandoned by her father, sexual abuse. I made the mistake of thinking that loving her enough would make her better. I never gave up on our marriage and she divorced me after 20 years. She never had the courage to seek counseling or therapy.
They never never ever change. A beat my head against a wall for years.
@@wunderdoggy, it depends on your definition of they. So a person can get better until someone declares him a narcissist?
@@seriouscat2231 Narcs of course.
@@wunderdoggy, you didn't read what I wrote.
8:18 he’s talking about what is often called “Virtue Signaling”
"Virtue signaling" is usually a human being expressing moral disgust toward a Dark Triad, often toward a Dark Triad who engages in projection and confession through comments on You Tube.
The victim role gives them power over others.
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He's right that we are in the midst of a narcissism epidemic. However, he couldn't be more wrong about the nature of narcissism. Narcissists don't have a deep-down sense of shame. They are too shallow to have anything deep down, and they feel no shame. Shame is the feeling that goes along with being in a subordinate social position, which narcissists refuse to occupy. Narcissists are people who are trying to occupy a higher rung on the social ladder than they can successfully defend. If they perceive that someone is challenging their social rank, they can become enraged. The so-called narcissistic rage is just dominance aggression. Dominance aggression is something that occurs in animals that are too primitive mentally to recognize themselves in a mirror, so it can exist even without a sense of self. The "narcissistic supply" that narcissists so desperately crave is just expressions of fawning submission from subordinates. The difference between "grandiose narcissism" and "fragile narcissism" is merely the absence or presence of a perceived challenge to their social rank. Narcissists can go from grandiose to fragile in a nanosecond if they encounter someone who is unquestionably superior to them in some way or if someone simply refuses to fawn on them. I correct other people's grammar for a living. As a result, I have seen far more raging narcissists than most psychiatrists have.
@lauriethomas6187 I agree with your comment. My life has largely been destroyed by a covert malignant narcissist. Dr. Drew is a narcissist. He rails against protesting college students as though that diverse group is the embodiment of narcissism. College students protest because they learn about grave injustice throughout human history caused by Dark Triad narcissists (manipulative predators) like Dr. Drew.
I love Dr. Drew ! There isn't a more self reflective, wise, intelligent, and caring professional in our public media out there. Every time i had the pleasure to accidentally come across him speaking....on what ever topic...i always learn something. Such a great man ❣
@craigathonian I also admire reflective, wise, intelligent, and caring people. But please look deeper at what Dr. Drew is saying. He is a narcissist masquerading as a non-narcissist so as to confuse the public into accepting false ideas about moral people. Note that rather than call out bastards like Trump, a foul human being who is quite obviously a narcissist, Dr. Drew chooses to claim that college students protesting one evident injustice or another represent the narcissistic problem.
Very good! Thankyou for the video 😊 sharing it now 🙏
Wow, thanks for your videos and lectures as well Richard
Until our culture can go back to supporting the emotional/relational needs of children, all mental health issues will continue to rise. IMHO
Many would say, IMO, that that is exactly how we got into this mess of narcissism in our youth on up in the present day. Too much supporting of our children's emotions and needs. We need discussions / debates on how to attend to those needs in healthy ways that gird children with a thicker skin ( not implying that sensitive temperaments become calloused, not in the slightest ). Jonathan Haidt has spoken on this for years, i.e. to not coddle children into fragile souls that become quite riddled with narcissism, IIRC. The pendulum towards feelings has swung too far, as much as I do embrace feelings and are grateful for them!
Necessarily, true
You're confusing coddling of children and outsourcing parenting to all kinds of support systems and tools like ipads, phones, tv, Xbox, babysitters, schools, family members, day care for babies vs before for toddlers that are almost ready for school. All of those outsourced support systems and material goods, cannot replace or be good enough for children's emotional and mental needs directly from their parents, their primary caretakers. Parents are generally even more checked out and detached today than they were decades ago and with all the distractions they take the easier way out and give in to their kids demands, while also listening to random modern day advice of not saying no to your child, with all of that kids end up confused, unsupported, anxious, detached et cetera
On the other hand you have parents that are not just distracted and disinterested but those that are emotionally and mentally immature so they project that onto kids and create codependency, enmeshment, parentification and sometimes emotional incest so that the parent fills their holes instead of working on themselves through therapy, having healthy age appropriate friends, working on their relationship with their spouse and family, getting a hobby and so on.
Until our culture goes back to Biblical values, it will only worsen
@@annjames1837 You may be surprised at how similar they are.
7:28 This! This is, unfortunately, the kind of narcissistic behavior my mother and grandmother and aunts take. I’m so glad to hear this kind of narcissistic behavior called out. Too often it is overlooked or even rewarded, and that’s how it continues to persist in the culture.
1:32. It makes sense. This might not be correct at all but this was 1 generation after Vietnam, PTSD was only just beginning to be recognised, symptoms were still untreated and one of the symptoms of that can be narcissism. This was a time when physical and emotional abuse was still considered a normal parenting strategy and was to an extent institutionalised especially with the Cain, so we now have around 3 generations (ww1-vietnam) if not more essentially raised in undiagnosed PTSD. Surely that has to cause a spike in Narcissism
My ex was picking her nails when we went to therapy and the therapist was literally talking to us while kind of motioning towards her with his hands while still being completely engaged because I really loved her and wanted it to work. She was 35, I was 36 when we met and she said at one point she could get any guy she wants and that was an eye opener because I knew there were certain behaviors that no one would be able to deal with some of the behaviors I was seeing. Hardest thing I have ever done is leave her. She was beautiful and very charming, great smile, great sex, etc but she got jealous of my ex wife because she was pretty to but I assured her I was in love and honestly was. Know it’s not my fault but I literally felt stupid for wanting her to love me or wondered why I still loved her after some pretty horrible things were said.
Easy brother she did things you liked.
Missed the point. She *could* gte any man she wanted, and obviously did in her 20s. Giant red flag, a may-day parade even.
I am wondering if there is a link between the narcissism epidemic and the opioid epidemic because in y life they were very related. My ex husband was a diagnosed sociopath. (aspd/npd) and he was a nightmare as a husband and father. My sons and I had pronounced CPTSD. The family mobbed me and my kids also. My son died at 20 years old from an accidental overdose directly related to his father's abuse and the lack of empathy in the family overall.
Egotism, narcissism, sociopathy, psychopathy, 4 steps downward inn insanity!! Egotists/narcissists are not necessarily socio/psychopaths but ALL socio/psychopaths are narcissistic!!
Has anyone ever met someone, whom thinks everyone else is a narcisist?
Yes, ironically they are often narcissist because projection is a tactic that they often default to in defense of their pathology or they may have trauma from narcissist which is why they anticipate it everywhere.
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@@josefheinz5309 Good points.
Worthwhile discussion. Thanks, Dad.
"Il Papa" was occasionally used to refer to Mussolini in fascist propaganda and by his supporters, drawing on the paternal connotations of the word. Guess what historical tragedy this channel is trying to associate itself with?
In my experience some of the most openly religious people are narcissists. They do that obnoxious "I'll pray for you" when someone disagrees with them.
They think they alone get to preach God's plan.
Blasphemy 🙏🏽
@@ExecutiveZombieRofl 😂
That’s blasphemy. You can hate religious people all you want but that doesn’t make you right.
@@Rscottphillips maybe you should pray for...
Interesting. I haven't experienced that, although I've heard of people doing that. I'll pray for you. (sorry, I had to add that).
Control. manipulationn, lying, faalse aaccusations, projection & gaslighting. Detroyed my family. Our triune God & yes living in His Word is the only hope & way to survive & choose to thrive though all has been stolen from you. Pray for them til your dying day.
You forgot they never apologize , admit anything, and never take responsibility. They only have excuses. I'm sorry about your family. It destroyed mine, too. I allowed my wife to walk over me, but my parents were narcissists, too. It's what they did and didn't do that hurts. I had to go no contact with both of them eventually.
Correct. I am literally fleeing at this point while being held by the hand of God. I have no ill will towards this individual but i cannot tolerate this behavior with no accountability for the rest of my life. Thats crazy .
@@mariaacolonn May the sweet, miraculous blessings overflow for you, as Elohim has never failed me over these 20 years, and now I experience True, faithful, dependable Love &; >
@ AMEN GOD BLESS YOU ❤️
The one narcissist (really more of a sociopath) I had the displeasure to be a business partner with seemed to have no ability to self reflect, no empathy circuit. I wasted so much time trying to get him to "learn" from his fuckups, how his behaviour hurt me, the people around him, our customers, our business, but soon realized he just lacked that ability altogether, lacked the ability to care about anyone outside of him, including his own family. I would have just as much luck trying to talk to a brick wall. So glad I cut my losses from that businesses and ended the relationship. Consider yourself lucky to meet someone like this earlier on in life so you can run away like hell next time encountering this personality type. Never worth it to avoid those early red flags, don't rationalize it, just disengage altogether.
I think that the school system encourages narcissism right through college. America, in the last 100 years, has been built on a narcissistic concept.
Capitalism
Vampires appear very domineering and formidable (and scary), but inside they're very weak and pathetic when exposed to the sunlight. Don't ever invite and give permission to a vampire to enter your house and cross the threshold, it's your first line of defense.
Yes real life vampires of time energy love sympathy who melt in the truth of the light. They also hate christianity and spirituality. Obsess over the destruction of others in a sadistic manner.
Your presentation is so full of worthy content, presented in a cohesive and grounded , usable way, with such nicely given , put together way, with such a nice voice. Thank you! You are a polished and relatable content provider.
I love this podcast and how much effort you have invested into production quality. Seriously deserves more views.
The only way a narcissist could ever change is if circumstances "force" him to change. It's the only way. Forget words, because he'll lie his ass off!
I entered this world through a narc birthing canal. She died when I was 65, so I've had a lifelong education from living it. She's not the only one in my family or in my life. I think I may know one of the BIG things that could cause narcissism. I've mentioned it to a few professionals with channels here, but nobody will address it. I see what I see.
@@angelbulldog4934 please share here if you don't mind. I'm intrigued.
Please share ! ❤
What is it?!
Excellent video! I’m so impressed with the variety of guest you have on.
It’s a spiritual disease.
I tend to agree with this in some respects.
The top tier narcissists do not have a spirit. They are just full of cogs and gears inside. Everyone in their lives just serve a purpose.
@@johngaulding3710 that is true & there is a discussion online about folk who have a soul but no spirit & these folk are really "unsalvagable" & when they die they live no more!!
Yep
Narcissism hadn't changed. It's become a scapegoat. When people look out for their own interests, less capable people will pull out the narcissist card. There are psychopaths, but it's too easy to call somebody a narcissist who doesn't let you get away with screwing around.
A narcissist is someone who looks out for their own interests at the expense of others.
You're a narc yourself, you're ignorant on the topic, or you never were targeted by a narc. Which is it? And remember, the truth doesn't need your awareness or permission to be true.
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Why would I let myself be targeted by a narcissist? It's just an excuse for being a gullible victim. Sometimes I wonder if those who are blaming their woes on "narcs" are the narcissists... but it's one of those words that has come to mean whatever the speaker thinks it means.
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That makes sense. That kinda describes all of us, the difference being when and where to draw the line.
@@elgringoecMost people dont look out for their own interests at the expense of others. This is known as machiavellianism and is one of three interrelated personality traits that make up the dark triad (the other two are narcissism and psychopathy).
My husband's late mother was an envious person. She was So negative and always complained.
She even went after some of her own grandchildren out of envy. It was really sick.
Watched a lot of videos on narcissists and this one is really interesting!
Man, this really speaks loudly what I've been trying to talk to people about but getting pushed away or minimized for in many relationships. I truly think Narcissism is one of our biggest road blocks in North America.
I would add that narcissism is not only about people thinking that your feelings don't matter but that their feelings are all that matters. We have a lot of that in the woke movement today.
We all need therapy and healing 7:59 now. We’ve suffered months of narcissistic abuse just by listening to some of the political candidates who think they are right, and tell us that they know everything. Narcissists don’t change.
I suffered from many narcissistic traits and behaviors. I managed to reform my disposition and make life livable. If you want to recover from narcissism, you can. But you have to want to. There are a few cases of irredeemable narcissism, but that number is exaggerated. Don't feel like you're doomed to suffer from narcissism for life.
Not true. Narcissism is pretty set. NPD cannot be moved. Either you aren’t doing as well as you think, or you are a unicorn
@@embraceit21 Yep. We've got unicorns and we've got trolls. Welcome to the land of legends. No, I don't have NPD. One can have N traits and behaviors WITHOUT it amounting to an immutable personality disorder. Look before you leap.
This needs hundreds of millions of views. It's that good.
Envy CAN destroy. Dont let it! Jealousy is a valid feeling within boundaries.
Amen
Absolutely ❤ Pride and Envy are terrible and lead to very bad things. Pride is the gateway drug to even worse behavioral problems.
As someone who was more self destructive in their tough learnings, the people who I see are more narcissistic are absolute controllers of the people around them. Meaning the moment someone around them is doing something that strikes them as insecure, they will immediately stonewall/minimize the issue, while projecting blame and false narratives. The ego is very fragile and unwilling to see own fault in ones actions, therefore carrying a distinct level of arrogance. You can also observe how their is a proclivity to overlook the morals of "treat others the way you would like to be treated", and have a hard time placing themselves in other shoes, how their actions would affect others.
Here are my observations on this from the last 20 years of experience. Im bonafide, not certified....
From what ive gathered some of the main causes of narcissism stems from trauma, ofcourse. I think trauma needs to be explained a little better. Its a broad term, a little complex. Though I understand that ultimately it basically has the same effects.
I believe narcissism can come from neglect, often from birth. A child has to be manipulative to have their basic needs met. Whether the mother has some post partum depression or is forced to go directly back to work to pay the bills. A few things could factor in here. Like not holding and comforting your baby when they cry and not breast feeding even. When I had a child in 2005 I would read articles saying not to do these things, which I now know is absolutely ridiculous nonsense. Infants, babies, toddlers all need specific attention and care at certain stages of their life that is crutial for healthy development. None of us are perfect and do the best we can. We are also unaware and misinformed sometimes too. Or overwhelmed and stressed which our children pick up on as well.
The child that has to manipulate to have basic needs met, the baby thats left to cry until they go to sleep all the time, for example. Babies cry because theyre communicating something. They dont just cry for no reason. This to me morphs into the child who needs attention and stimulation, interaction but doesnt get that. They are always told no, go play and so on. Those are the kids who act out in order to get attention. Because attention is what they need and want and somewhere they no this and if negative attention is all they receive its still attention. I dont think people see this as trauma. The parents who do this or the children who grew up with this being the case. But it becomes to me, understandable how a person (in their adult years) could be so deeply manipulative, lie, cheat, whatever they had to do to get their needs met. Theyre childhood programming would be survival mode. Surviving the only way they know how. All of our adult lives, i believe are shaped by our childhood programming. There is a man whos name is Robert Burney. He has a website "joy2meu.com" and he also wrote a book "Dance of the Wounded Souls" that I found during a time in my life that made so much sense to me. And he talks of the childhood programming. Finding him was truely a blessing for me in my life at that time.
These days with all the drug use. All the children born to addicts that grow up without a parent present. Many parents choosing drugs over their kids. I personally know far too many grandmothers and grandfathers mostly but aunts and uncles raising their children or siblings kids as well as knowing many of the kids being raised by family members. I live in a small community and its very sad how many people I know in this situation. Its great that these children are raised by family. But it doesnt help the kids that grow up thinking somethings horribly wrong with them because their parents didnt want them. Children believe everything is their fault. They only know their own little worlds. That doesnt always raise healthy confident adults. They feel like something is wrong with them. In teenage years their trying to figure out who they are and want to be probably is a little more difficult than the average teenager. We all go through this throughout our lives. So they i believe, hold a deep sense of feeling unworthy and shame when its not their fault at all they just arent aware.
Another thing Ive observed and in my head made a connection to a potential cause of narcissism is deeply held and engrained expectations of parents placed on their children from very young ages. One example would be what I noticed older friends of mine who had children in the 90s for example, where dad would toss a nerf football to his 15 month old son who happened to move his arms up at the right moment and half way catching the ball. From that moment on the kid is going to be a football hall of famer who is going to get a full scholarship and be in the NFL taking care of ol' mom and dad when hes a rich and famous football star. As soon as he is old enough he is enrolled in a football program and all throug out his schooling his life is football. Now of course parents want the best for their kids and arent aware the long term damage this can do to a kid. Especially when the kid starts to develope his own sense of self and all this football great just doesnt live un him. Never did but he didnt know that he just wants to do what he is told. None of us want to disappoint our parents. So he continues playing football throughout his high school years even though he doesnt really want to hes just doing what is expected of him. He gets out of high school and we'll say starts working construction. Making really good money and really enjoys the work and chooses not to go to college. This could be many things like a family of doctors and the kid is expected to follow those foot steps, an artist because the parents were artists and the little kid was a "protege" at 6 years old having art exibits of his work and newspaper articles written about him but he didnt go to college, etc, etc. That kid will carry a deep sense of shame and disappointment for many years if not the rest of his life. A deep sense of shame that he is such a disappointment. Wherher the parents truely are disappointed or not. Shame seems to be something that we carry deep inside of us that we dont want people to know or see. Expectation is the root cause of disappointment and it comes in many forms.
Now days what Ive observed seems to be a fussy child, very young even, wanting attention and the parents are so sucked into their smart devices and social media that they dont pay any attention to their child. Except maybe a photo opp for them to post on social media that theyre the best parent ever and their happy perfect family life..... Or they hand the child a smart device to shut them up.... Parenting in 2024, theres an app for that. YIKES!!!
I hope people see where Im going with that one
"In crowds it is stupidity and not mother wit that is accumulated."
Gustave Le Bon, on explaining narcissism and modern woke culture
I was in therapy and my therapist never identified my husband has nurses despite my giving her every single identifying characteristic, namely, that I was exhausted trying to communicate the most basic things. She never gave me an article or book to read, she gave me no strategies to respond rather than react and so I continued to feed the cycle.
You’re absolutely right narcissist are very difficult to deal with. And to top it all off not only was my husband the nicest, but so was his mother and his younger sister. I guess it runs in families.
Important note: while you should not rescue kids from every problem, that doesn't mean you shouldn't help them when they ask or show compassion when they fail. If you constantly walk ahead of them and clear all obstacles, that's terrible for them. But if you swing the other way and refuse to help or comfort them when they are disregulated or asking for your help, they will learn that their emotions are an obstacle to overcome through denial and suppression, and they will also learn that needing help is shameful and weakness. So please. Do not try to fix every problem your kids have the moment it happens. Let them try to figure it out. But do not turn a cold shoulder when they come to you for help or comfort.
Great information, thanks to you and Dr Drew !!!
I agree with everything the Doc said. Great questions and thanks for the interview.
Failure as a gift today doesn't work when there's so many new things that make old things no longer practical, such as how everyone needs a cellphone on them at all times to have opportunities. I don't believe it's narcissism for someone to be able to see that they're disadvantaged against their own choices yet face the responsibility. Eventually some of these issues will be extremely consequential on society, such as the declining birth rate and increasing excessive death rate.
I really enjoy old loveline reruns, and it’s so fun to see Adam Carolla and Dr Drew in stuff these days.
Dr. Drew is great, so intelligent.. I used to watch him on Celebrity Rehab n he helped me through my addiction n am now sober for 13 years now..
I can see the argument here that a tiny fringe of people are woke right fascists, but unlike the woke left, we largely just ignore the far right fringe.
This was very helpful, thank you
Some of what bugs me about cancel culture is how it seems somewhat accepted by the leftist media, but most of the population is clearly against it and knows how immature it is. Such as getting rid of mascots that were used for decades, where no one complained about them and if you do, you're seen as crazy. And it makes the leftists look pretty bad too. Why should a minority of the population get their way when the average American thinks this so called offensive thing is harmless? And often times, they really do look and act crazy. There's way too much of these kinds of people on college campuses who want to act like they suddenly know what's best for the rest of the country. You especially see the behaviors in their protests, such as protesting on a freeway.
These kinds of people, it honestly looks like they waste their time looking for something to be offended by or invent new reasons to find something offensive and trying to get the liberals on their side. And I do think they could get better if they wanted to since they often are college students. Since they like to brag how educated they are, they shouldn't have much problem looking for books that explain their mental health if they are open to it.
10:27 “Healthy Narcissism” = Esteem, while “Unhealthy Narcissism” = Ego, which is projected separation leading to empathic failure and envy towards destruction.
The Golden Rule SO SO SO relevant and important Thanks Drew
Our culture is rejecting Biblical values at record speed.
Great conversation! Thank you for this video
Finally someone clarified envy versus jealousy. People mislabel envy as jealousy constantly.
H esaID IT WRONG TOO.. jEALOUSY IS "i LIKE YOU i WANT TO BE LIKE YOU DRESS LIKE YOU SMILE, HAVE ENERGY LIKE YOU,
envy is "I dont like you, but I want you to become me, to be and act like me."
You can see it in the justice system or should i say, vengeance system.
The Just Us system.
I’d like to read the book you mentioned, THE GIFT OF FAILURE. Who authored it?
He's wrong about jealousy.
Jealousy is the feeling one experiences when something you have is threatened by someone or something.
Example: your spouse's love or attention, by their friend, work, schooling. Or your daughter's affection for another mother or father figure. Or your teacher's favorism toward another student (after favoring you).
Envy is coveting what someone else has that you don't have: a spouse, wealth, good grades.
No, he's not wrong. There is a healthy jealousy where you want to protect what's yours and what you have a right to protect. What you're saying is veering into unhealthy jealousy with the examples of a daughter's affection or favoritism from a teacher. Those are based on insecurity.
@petrasworld913 you make an interesting point (although i didnt hear his definition of jealousy as you did)... i.e. "illicit" jealousy: is it jealousy? Gonna have to look into his!
Truly, Dr. Drew, it's not fair to others to be attacked and called anti-Semitic for having a different opinion that doesn't happen to support their view. Everyone is fed up with it. It's a dirty tactic.
I have emotional and physical scars from a marriage of over 30 years ago to a narcissistic husband. He was violent, cruel and sadistic. The only good that came from that Union were my children
Don't be part of a mob. You can be a unique beast!
Yup. Mobs are never in the right.
Except the protests he is referring to arent mobs. Just cant see past his own identity politics.
Rage + aggression = hangry (metabolic dysfunction)
Food not therapy… 👍
Idk my guy, I have known some marines that kick people through a wall with a full belly lmao.
Robert J Lifton researched the ideology behind a cultural revolution. Is this what happens in authoritarian dangerous high control groups/ideologies which create pseudo-personality (M. Singer) overlays?
The differentiation between jealousy and envy is very important and well done.
I like this video.
Excellent information
13:48 Rape, Slavery, Murder.
This video is very f'king manipulative. I'm a victim of a covert malignant narcissist and aware that human civilizations have ended when the larger population fails to keep their Dark Triad (consisting considerably of wealthy extreme conservatives) out of leadership positions.
Feelings don't matter - reality matter. If a boy feels he is a girl, and mutilates himself - his feeling is irrelevant. What's important is that he is insane. Reaffirming invalid feelings is a path no narcissism.
thats a very insightful interview!!
some years ago i realised for myself 'we are living in the age of the self'
well, i better replace 'self' with 'narcissism'
They called the 70s "the Me Decade." I think they were premature.
I have no problem with the compassion for narcissists. It's the behavior and attitudes and destruction of even a generation of a family. I had a family member who paid with his very life. Love from a distance and run for the hills! I had one of the most traumatic, horrifying childhood experience that almost any mental health professional ever heard who I worked with. I am not a narcissist. I received a lot of help. Wanted to not be what I saw. Was willing to do anything in order not to live like I was raised. There is a heritable part, environmental and then enabling by others through their fear and not wanting to look at themselves. I walked out of unhealth. Prayed. Cried. Talked. Determined to be better. I can't spend time worrying about narcissists and their intentions, ability to change or their future. I keep a distance and keep walking!
I blame a lot of this on the law of attraction stuff. I've read a few books and generally it's about you, you, you, you. flush all the people that need help and force only on you. Life is about balance, and it ain't all about you!
That’s a good point and main character syndrome is rampant, we’re all a side character in other people’s story
LOL OK 😂😂
@@kni9ght You are definitely correct on that! Most wont/ever see that tho, because their heads are so far up their own butts. I see it every day. Kindness to each other is pretty much gone unfortunately.
Nahhhh, law of attraction is about self love, it’s just being misused as a main character tool. Its a self love hack that reminds you of your core self so that you can become solid in your morals/values and not let another person, no matter how close they are to you, especially narcissistic people, take over your own autonomy. Life IS about balance and the law of attraction is about manifesting who you are into form. You can clearly see what someone is about by what where why and who they are surrounded by and how they use this tool. Scapegoating LofA is not it.
@ yeah, everybody talks about investments and such but kindness is the only one you can 10x to get back a hundred fold with no taxes
Wonderful interview, so well done
It's not only USA... sadly i'm speaking of experience and very ill, it took ages (NOT ONE doctor...) to discover this myself, thanks to good wise people online who inform us... hugs from Beligium
Go back decades ago, the subject of narcissism was not allowed on the mass media of the day, print, radio, tv!!
at 12:57 Dr Drew said that Narcissistic personality disorder wasn't as common in the 1800's. That would concur with the bible's prediction in 2 Timothy chapter 3 that in the end days men would be "lovers of their own selves"... sounds like narcissism to me! Here's the rest of the passage..
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
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Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,
Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.
For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,
Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.
But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was.
Step one: survive.
Step two: make life easier, pursue happiness
Step three: everyone is narcissistic and directionless
Step four: medicate everyone until happy
My own father is mad as a piece of shyte, like a child, a complete knob head, quite possibly a sociopath such is the level of his delusions
Yes. This is good information. My gf is a narcissist. I've been with her 2 years now. But she's deceitful and doesn't care if she hurts my feelings or not. She talks to me as if there's no other man for her. Then I catch her saying 'I love you' to other guys. I've had my fill of this. Just a few more steps and I'm gone. I've already met someone else but holding back because I love my gf first.
Mine used to come to do damage control by gaslighting the therapist..s.
If there’s an increase in narcissists then there is also an increase in psychopaths .
Do psychopaths feel that deep level of shame
I don’t think so
Egotism, narcissism, socio & psychopathy, 4 steps downward of insanity!! Egotists/narcissists are not necessarily socio-psycho, but all 100% of socio/psychopaths are narcissistic-FYI!!
What happens when narcissm spreads? It turns into California.
LOL!
Partially true. Overpopulation and a mentally ill society of materialism, mental illness breeds mental illness
Good one
I live in California and I agree. Way too much ridiculous laws and pandering to people who don't deserve it. California used to arguably be the best state in the U.S. to live in.
@Dj.D25 I agree...but what I find fascinating, with regard to laws, is the need to constantly create new ones.
THANK YOU SO MUCH. I LEARNED A LOT.
Dr. Drew, God sees everything!
Perhaps it is the understanding of narcissism that has improve rather than the rates per se.
I can tell you they certainly know how to pretend to care about people, but watch out for the rage monster 👺
Thanks again.
Gotta be a nerd on the Dr.'s description of Jealously (I have a bit of a Greek Frenzy generated imparitives to object).
His description of Envy is splended, and resonates to the Envy spiral of Socialists. I often liken it to Aphrodite's Girl from Iponema effect on the mob.
Jealousy is harder to speek impeccably on. Coveting of what is already yours. In light of Yahweh's reputation, I ask if "he" wants to be known, or works against it. Very Melpomene.
Keep up the great work.
Blaming it on genetics or trauma is a red herring since not all siblings in one family will become narcissistic. You can easily find a person who is a narcissist but his siblings are not even though they lived in the same household and experienced the same 'trauma' - a grossly overused word. Genetics is wrong because your genetics aren't fixed. They are dynamic & result from interaction with environment & lifestyle.
Trauma how some woke people use it has become overused and trivial.
Actual trauma from a bad childhood, from emotional neglect, from absent parents, from parents fights, from overly strict disciplining and similar - those are real trauma examples, they profoundly change the child's development and they carry that burden with them into adulthood usually until they manage to get some proper help.
Genetics is a smaller component to behavior and the environment in which the child grew up in has more of an impact on how they turn out. It goes for both physical and mental health.
Thank you for inspiring me to pursue a career in healthcare, Dr. Drew. ❤
Thank you Dr Drew!
What is the golden rule?
Love thy neighbor as thyself. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Modern Christianity has turned into doing the exact opposite of what Jesus said in order to "go along to get along". Professing Christians think it's Godly to justify the wicked and condemn the just, even though God said those who do that are an abomination to Him.
People don't read the Bible. They just imagine whatever they want it to say then persecute anyone who actually follows the Bible because they are "judgmental bigots". Those same "judge not" people always say "judge not" right after falsely accusing you of nonsense. You can't have a rebuttal. They accused you so you're guilty, even if what they accuse you of is literally physically impossible. People try to force you to live the narc's delusions so the narc isn't "offended" or "upset". They don't give a damn how much damage the narc causes. It's all your fault anyways. You made them do it! Judge not!