this video hits too close to home. my partner gave me a break from a relationship so I can heal and come back to fix the relationship. i can't believe i went from standing up against abuse to becoming abusive with the person I love
I am exactly where you are in this comment. He wants to take a break and I'm scared that I have already caused too much damage to him and to myself. I know you made this comment five months ago, but if I may ask for a sense of hope, how has it been going?
I see myself copying my parents emotionally abusive patterns with my little brother, and I need to stop, I want to stop. Useing the same excuses, (stress, frustrated ect) makes me feel disgusting
at least you are recognizing it! speaking as the abused younger sibling/scapegoat that is a meaningful first step. of course, apologies without change become manipulative so it is important to focus on healing to end those patterns
As others have said, thank you so much for doing this. I’ve always been aware of my behavior and always feel like sht and regretful once I’ve said all the wrong things to people I love. I try to apologize sincerely trying to be better but I always fall back into the behavior especially when I am in under a lot of pressure.
Andrea, I strongly identify with you. My dad was abusive to me and I picked it up from him and now I am abusing my mother. It’s so scary. I don’t want to do this to her. I need help!
@@Sometheinuhuh I have. She tells me that I am not. She didn’t think my father was abusive either, though. Still I know I can be this way. I am working on my behavior now, though, and I have seen some improvement
Thank you so much for this, this is a topic not really spoken about in public spaces which people NEED. I needed this, i’m very grateful there’s people out there who have grown from this and are able to help guide others.
“If the abusive person is remorseful and wants to change, that is a path that’s valid”. This really hit home. I’ve been struggling for so long feeling like I’ll always be a bad person because of what I’ve done so what’s the point in changing? Thank you so much for this video. You’re so brave for this
This is the most courageous work I’ve seen on the internet. Thank you!!! TH-cam needs more of these to counter all the creators marketing blaming others for our choices as a business strategy. Thank you for countering an unhealthy message!
I have big issues these videos are awesome is there any way we can talk some more I feel so lost in my life with my kids and now my daughters dad left me about a month ago 😩 my life seems to be falling apart yet again
this video hits too close to home. my partner gave me a break from a relationship so I can heal and come back to fix the relationship. i can't believe i went from standing up against abuse to becoming abusive with the person I love
:( me too
I am exactly where you are in this comment. He wants to take a break and I'm scared that I have already caused too much damage to him and to myself. I know you made this comment five months ago, but if I may ask for a sense of hope, how has it been going?
I see myself copying my parents emotionally abusive patterns with my little brother, and I need to stop, I want to stop. Useing the same excuses, (stress, frustrated ect) makes me feel disgusting
at least you are recognizing it! speaking as the abused younger sibling/scapegoat that is a meaningful first step. of course, apologies without change become manipulative so it is important to focus on healing to end those patterns
As others have said, thank you so much for doing this. I’ve always been aware of my behavior and always feel like sht and regretful once I’ve said all the wrong things to people I love. I try to apologize sincerely trying to be better but I always fall back into the behavior especially when I am in under a lot of pressure.
Andrea, I strongly identify with you. My dad was abusive to me and I picked it up from him and now I am abusing my mother. It’s so scary. I don’t want to do this to her. I need help!
you're not alone ! i think us recognizing it is the first step to heal
Say that to her, I think it would mean a lot
@@Sometheinuhuh I have. She tells me that I am not. She didn’t think my father was abusive either, though. Still I know I can be this way. I am working on my behavior now, though, and I have seen some improvement
Can you please tell us steps and behaviours you are applying to improve and break the abuse cycle? @@freshmanna4678
Thank you so much for this, this is a topic not really spoken about in public spaces which people NEED. I needed this, i’m very grateful there’s people out there who have grown from this and are able to help guide others.
“If the abusive person is remorseful and wants to change, that is a path that’s valid”. This really hit home. I’ve been struggling for so long feeling like I’ll always be a bad person because of what I’ve done so what’s the point in changing? Thank you so much for this video. You’re so brave for this
This is the most courageous work I’ve seen on the internet.
Thank you!!!
TH-cam needs more of these to counter all the creators marketing blaming others for our choices as a business strategy.
Thank you for countering an unhealthy message!
Thank you for such honesty. It's so hard to find videos like this, and I really appreciate it !
I have big issues these videos are awesome is there any way we can talk some more I feel so lost in my life with my kids and now my daughters dad left me about a month ago 😩 my life seems to be falling apart yet again
Try Dr Daniel Fox's content on BPD, very helpful
Great videos. Thank you for making them.
Thank you for sharing this q
Thank you for making this videos please don't stop you don't know how much of a revelation you brought to my life ❤
thanks