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We love Allison and we love to tease David about loving Allison more. :)
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I think Allison is the perfect comic relief that your channel needs 😂 I already enjoyed your channel before, but whenever it's the two of you I enjoy it even more.
“I feel seen and heard”
I truly enjoy the banter between you two 😂
Me too!! I’d rather have a partner that can have this type of banter than one that has no sense of humor 🤷♀️
Right?!?! They are hilarious
I think if your relationship is what it looks like on this podcast, it works so well and is entertaining because neither of you laugh at each other's expense as much as you laugh at yourselves meaning she laughs at herself and he laughs at himself and I believe that's what makes it work. There is humility and respect their and I so appreciate this rare kind of relationship.
As a pharmacist, we use the word
Contraindication when
one drug is not compatible (offers side effects) with another 😊
I come from a sarcastic/humorous family also. I so enjoy when all my boys are family get together. The sarcasm flies! Sorry if we offend…not sorry
I’m on team Dave!! My husband flirts with me like that too, plus I think Allison has balls and bites back and it’s hilarious
Your wife is a delicate lady. Everyone feels protective of her. Just love her like you've done so far.
Delicate lady? Bit behind the times in your choice of descriptors
She is not delicate. She is obviously strong AF
I don't find her to be delicate. I see her as being honest, vulnerable and intuitive ... and funny.
Please please please do a daily podcast 😂!!!! I would say talk show but this isn’t 1999 😂. For the record I didn’t think you were mean David 😂 I can recognize sarcasm and sweet banter between partners ❤
David I think I you are always so sweet to Allyson! I have never thought you were mean to her! Actually you look at her with soooo much love and it is so clear you adore her!❤
Love you Dave!! You always give me a giggle, but your content is ‘gold’ and your love for Alison is so evident..
This is helpful. Thank you. I have a contraindicated family member. She has depressive episodes and is hard to be close to. She refuses to see anyone or start any medications. I feel burnt out.
I haven't watched your last podcast. However, I've seen nothing but mutual love, respect, and admiration for one another's point of view. I love the playfulness between you. I also love the word contraindicated!
It was VERY different because of what he stated here with 2 cameras, sitting across from each other ... headphones I think.
Family member had BPD and is undiagnosed and refuses any help. I find boundaries are a must! Learning what is best for yourself and any reflection of a person has nothing to do with me.
I have major depressive disorder and am in a therapy program four hours a day to try to overcome it. This makes me feel like I should isolate more so I don’t drag the people around me down and hurt them. I don’t want to be toxic.
Please don't isolate more. Maybe speak with your treatment provider about the label toxic vs contraindicated.
That's your "disorder" talking. You should be around people.
Lol team David 😂 (I hear the ego is important ) but man I’d tune in every day just to listen to you two chat…we need to see David make his cake 🙂 and did Allison just get out of the pool or something or is that a design on her shirt? Things that distract me today 😂 AND using big words…contraindicated now I have to google
One of my fav videos. I cannot see any person as 'toxic' or 'a throw away'. However, Contraindicated is perfect! It is honest but doesn't degrade or label. No need to heap blame or shame!!
You guys are my favorite distraction... thank you for the continuous smile on my face
Would you please do a podcast on how to deal with a narcissist during a divorce? Child custody etc? Thank you.
OMG! I went through this. It was a nightmare….. I am so grateful that it’s over. It’s been years now and still, any memories of that time period triggers me…
@@audreyannelanfranchi6642 I'm so sorry and I'm so happy you're on the other side of it. My daughter is going thru it and this man is vicious. He's also an attorney and thinks he's god. We just don't know how to deal with him. I'm hope therapy works help with the PTSD.
I call the Erors in my life Energy suckers, not toxic. If I feel like the life is being sucked out of my soul, I avoid them. Unfortunately, I tend not to see that until it's too late. Sometimes, it's a cumulative effect.
Energy vampires
I wish you guys would take anonymous (or if the user wants to give their name) stories from viewers and give tips on how to deal with the situations!
We will - send your questions! DavidColarossiphd@gmail.com
I think we have become a throw away society..
Even people, we throw them away because they don’t have the same energy as we do..
I think we choose to either let someone we think are toxic to us drain us or we rise above and try to uplift that person..
JMO
I love being on Team Allison, and I have some sort of hilarious pride in being a founding member of this phenomenon. But I simultaneously totally appreciate David. You two are like the magic of Reese's Pieces, the brilliant combination of chocolate and peanut butter.
I lived in a pre-Reesies world. This world is better. Ditto you guys, bringing the love and laughter.
I guess im in the minority but i never feel like david is mean to Allison. To the contrary
This is a good video and excellent advice! I have a problem with a controlling in-law and I have distance myself from that person. She is dying from cancer, but has been verbally and emotionally abusive for years and I finally stopped communicating with her. It's the best thing for me.
Thank you I love that term. I have a coworker who this describes perfectly. I find her unprofessional, crude, and very unaware of her own behaviors and how they impact others.
I have found that if I can limit our interactions and avoid sharing tasks, if possible, I enjoy my job so much more. Luckily I am able to do this most of the time.
Listen, we love Allison. Everyone loves her, so we like her to be treated kindly ❤. Its always an Allison army and Dave you sound perturbed about that instead of loving that( which you should) Dave you need to reflect I agree 😆. The airport story was brutal on your image man. That left much to be desired of you 😆
Allison should not be on camera. My husband is a highly respected Nephrologist and no body wants to hear about my views on Kidneys
It’s great to see that David has apologized to Allison, and that he back to his old self again. You both bring such valuable insights to the show. My vote is for team Colarossi!
How about the person is “draining” instead of toxic?
I loved your sister wives videos and learnt today Janelle Brown's son has taken his own life. I'm so so sad by it
I originally thought Allison’s shirt was boob sweat. lol I was thinking you two had just returned from working out. lol I guess not everyone looks like me after a work out. Lol
I did as well....
Also if you get caught in traffic on the way down the mountain you can use those 8 hours to listen during the trip.
I love you guys and your playful banter.
As a woman, I am offended by the idea that we are perpetual victims, delicate like flowers. When people become offended watching a couple playfully joke around it demonstrates that our notions of women are antiquated.
As a side note, not related to this video. Women can and should be taught to stand up for themselves in discussions. The problem isn't our ability to do that. The problem is society's perception of women who are loud and forceful.
Anyways, don't change. I love your content.
My mother is contraindicated for me! I have learned that her opinion of me belongs to her and I can’t control that. She is 81 and is a very hard person to like. I placate her constantly so that there isn’t friction. I would buy that shirt Alison!
Omg thank you. Title alone. I do feel the two of you are extremely non toxic.
Oh my, i loved this topic!!
I just think the Allison love is louder. I'm definitely on team David for most things. Definitely enjoy both of you together too.
i think id have more of a problem with David's comments to allison if it appeared that this was damaging to her mental health. Allision seems to be fine and we shouldnt treat her like she cant advocate for herself. Everytjing ive seem so me that she advocates very welk for herself. There does not appear to be an imbalance of power here and no one is perfect. David lacks the her perspective because he isnt her and she pushes back on his ignorant perspective very consistently. I really respect their willingness to so us their interactions. I also love that allison doesnt just assume that his opinion is better than hers just because of his education. Im a therapist and im not knocking the value of his education, just that in a marriage you dont want a power imbalance there.
Just don't! Walk away! Sometimes saying nothing... is the loudest, most direct, important thing you can say! ❤
In my woo woo world we would say to shield your energy centres from any negative energy every day and cut the energetic cords after your interactions with that person.
You hit nail on head, when so many character's it is hard to listen to! I started reading that book too but just started , I am waiting till summer toread since I am a teacher. Or maybe Netflix?????? lol.
Contraindicated LMAO perfect
I love watching you guys together ❤️ 😂 you are a beautiful couple
Having had to set up boundaries with family because I was getting dragged into lots of drama. I realised the problem for years was me . I am a people pleaser. I wanted a different dynamic but not have to deal with the fall out of being seen as mean or have them talk about me badly to other. I totally agree that a relationships dynamic can be toxic doesn't mean the people are.b
The only way to deal with a narcissist is to stop feeding them. You are right you cannot change them.
You two are the best! 😂
She's the cutest thing ... unfortunately, the only reality show I ever watch is Sister Wives ... and I know you're not doing videos on that show, presently. So, I'm not watching much anymore, but I saw this video with Alison so I stopped in for a bit, David you're good, too. Keep it up ... when SW returns I will return.
Definitely want a shirt!
We like you David, you are very cool, and funny and smart. But Allison is sweet, and adorable - in addition to being all the things you are. We just adore Allison. 🤣❤❤ The two of you together? *Chef's Kiss*
The TV show is amazing! I also have Daisy Jones and the Six and haven’t listened yet, but the TV show is fantastic.
I have never bought TH-cam merch but I will buy the “ I love you but….” Please do it!
Allison cracks me up!! Allison the term is "Debby downer."
I really liked the movie Daisy Jones and the six. It will make so much more sense when you can see the different characters.
You love them from a distance! If you can’t do that, keep conversation short and shallow/ surface level. Warn the toxic person, you only have a minute because you need to go do cycle and z ( time crunch)
To me, 'toxic' means someone is purposely hurtful to you. Someone that is just low and negative all the time doesn't necessarily mean to hurt you. I call them 'emotional vampires' because they unwittingly suck the life out of you and the fun out of life. I've cut someone out of my life because they've made almost every interaction into a depressing and negative experience. She's generally a nice woman but she just has an unhealthy view of life.
Like a group of friends who just get stuck in a rut. The negativity just spins.
I like the term Energy Vampire
@Pop Psych....
What news do you have on Garrison Brown?
My heart is breaking for his family.
I would buy that mug/shirt!
I’m more comfortable labelling behaviour as toxic vs people. The word toxic feels like garbage.
I worry I’m a drag because I have a psychotic boss and an addict son .. I’m not a pessimist person at all my glass is always half full .. so much stress in my life is causing me to complain… I gotta stop that I don’t wanna be toxic
I will absolutely buy the Contra Indicated shirt!!!!!!!!!!
Could you do a video about being traumatized by parenting? I’ve only seen one video ever that talks about it and I’m curious on the topic. Meaning the affects of parenting a child with behavioral issues, mental health issues, drug abuse. TIA
It’s a show with like 10 episodes. 😊 it’s really good and the book too. Fun fact Daisy Jones is played by Elvis Presley’s granddaughter (Riley Keough)
And yes, it’s an energy thing
I am a on team Allison!
Toxic to me is ongoing! Contraindicated is just like a debbie downer!
You say toxic, I say toxic also 😂
I am in Colorado!
I have learned some people including family members can only be loved from a far
Allison Rocks!
I love Allison she’s so sweet and funny you two are a lovely couple
I felt the vibe lol. it micro stressed me.
love Allison
The last podcast was the first time I had the reaction.
What if my child is a toxic person to me and her sister? She is just like her father, a narcissistic SOB that I divorced years ago and I don’t know what to do anymore. She also still lives at home as she can’t afford to live on her own. I am heartbroken. Please help?
You're both right 😅😊
Dave had to know so it wasn't him. 😂
People are probably being extra watchful because of the Observe divorce situation
Greetings from the Faroe Islands 🇫🇴
Are you not talking about an >Energy Vampire< ?
Contraindicated 🧠
i.e. “we don’t jell well?”
Could it be defined in this way too?🤓
I didn’t think David was mean. Toxic = energy vampire. At 17:15, I agree.
Did you hear the news about Harrison Brown's death? So sad
How about toxic behaviors!
Oh just give him the middle finger. lol
Do you have a video about people who always run late?
That would be Intesesting. I have had confrontations with 2 friends over this. They were always approx. 20 min. Late. That’s a waste of MY time - waiting for them.
@@4craycray yes! I have this with coworkers, friends and family. To me- it feels like they don’t care about my time (selfish behavior). I wake up early or avoid something I may want to do to keep commitments and be on time or early. I feel like it’s about respect.
Those 2 friends are no longer in my life. It’s a total lack of respect for the time of others.
Maybe part of it is a girl thing that you were criticized in the last video. I like both of you but I still think you (David) were a little too critical of her. It’s great that y’all can talk things out and that you are both willing to apologize when you’re wrong or hurt the other person’s feelings. Communication is so important in a relationship, as you know. 😊❤
Eeyores are "negative" IMO. Toxic people are more than negative. They're drama seekers, likely overly angry, etc.
I didn’t think he was mean
1 Allison + 1 David = 3 joy,
Regarding the last video, I think you were just doing too much of the piling on Alison. A little is fine but one hit on top of another feels a little much snd unnecessary and verging on mean-teasing. Plus, what is the gain in doubling down in a call-out of her online? That doesn't feel fair.
Nonetheless, props for acknowledging people's feedback to you. Only problem is chalking it up to people being "Team Alison" rather than viewers having a possibly valid observation of behavior.
So yall call David out but not Allison ? She’s always mean to David . I prefer when they are mutually loving to each other .
Is Allison's sweatshirt wet?? 😂🤔or is that a heart?
I thought the same thing! They both look like they just completed a workout, and she has sweaty boobs! 😂❤
I felt like the last shrink wrap was Allison being mean to David.
She constantly cuts him off mid sentence, He can’t get a thought out before she knows better, she answers David with Ummmm, yeah.
She seems to be a Debbie downer.
I’m sure Allison is a lovely lady but I prefer David all on his own.
There are those out here that are on your side David.
LOL I think she is peppy, articulate and so openly creative. Maybe she and you are contraindicated. I think they are so cool.
Allison, are you wearing a wet bathing suit under a sweatshirt 😳or is that a heart shape design on your sweatshirt? If a person is dreading meeting up with someone and wishing they had found an excuse not to because they do not like the feelings and emotion that person brings to the fore, deep six them. Spend as little time as you can with them if you can’t cut them out entirely. That’s what I think. Toxic is a pretty strong word but I guess some people can be toxic.
Allison “contraindicated” perfect 👍🏼
I know she didn’t just have a baby but all I could think was her milk just came in
Or has she not done laundry in 4 days?
Haha. I thought that too for a brief moment. Silliness aside, aren’t they great together
To me last episode came across as David having a lot of digs at Alison and I felt badly for Alison. That's just me.
It made me feel awkward.
You can't watch a movie, it's not the same.
I cannot decide if the sweatshirt Allison is wearing I supposed to be a heart or if she just worked out and it's sweat 😅
Or her milk just came in.
I thought she just came in from the pool and her shirt was wet from her bathing suit. 😅
David, why are you contaminating Allison's tea with your cough? Didn't we learn anything with covid? I'm not trying to be mean but my husband has been down with covid for the past 3 weeks and I'm thankful we never share a drink. Hope your cough is better soon and that your beautiful wife doesn't catch it. ❤
It’s getting hard to take you seriously. I liked your earlier videos with great analysis. It feels like you are trying to create content for too many shows.
I feel like you’re always having to address people who don’t like something about an interaction with Allison. Whyyyy is this a thing?? I’ve never seen something that looks unhealthy. I think you’re very pragmatic and approach things accordingly, so whether it’s an eye roll at sappiness while Allison thinks it’s sweet, is just more of a reflection to why y’all are a good match!!
Allison seems soft spoken but NOT meek, she isn’t being victimized by you. She seems quite capable of holding her own with you, as evidence by many of your videos.