The day after me and my girlfriend parted ways, this is recommended to me. this is by far the hardest breakup I’ve ever gone through because I lost myself trying to keep her happy. I love her still so so much and it wasn’t a messy breakup which hurts that much more .
@@victoriaasiepet229 I have struggled all my life with abandonment issues, anxiety, and depression. I had gone to therapy after my previous breakup where me and my child’s mother parted ways and it really messed me up. I thought I had taken care of that trauma to a point where I could healthy get back into a relationship. Than I met her, and it was amazing. She made me feel ways I didn’t think I would be able to feel again. It felt so good that I ignored every rule I’d set in my head for future relationships and we absolutely speeded through it all super fast. We went from being anxious messes around each other to sleeping in the same bed day after day in less than a month. It felt perfect and to an extent it was. But over time she would do things differently and because I overthink severely I notice it all and to me it felt like the world was ending when to her she still felt the same but just wasn’t trying as hard anymore. I think I began to self sabotage the relationship by asking way too much from her and always questioning her love. It would lead to confusion and conflict because she would say she did love me over and over while continuing to grow distance between us which only expedited my feelings that I was losing her. In the end I was right, she was going through so much in her head and she didn’t feel safe talking to me cause she thought I would get upset with her. I had scared the relationship and it absolutely broke me to pieces because all I wanted was her. In the end she started avoiding me, saying I was changing her as a person and making her feel empty. Out of love. I had to do the hardest thing I have ever done and let her go. My body was screaming at itself fighting me every second telling me I am making a mistake and I still think I did. But I didn’t do it for me, I did it for her. I could see how I was affecting her and I couldn’t keep hurting her. I think that is what love is. Sometimes it really hurts but that’s what is beautiful about it. So raw and powerful and can make even the calm people feel crazy. It will forever be a regret of mine hurting her by self doubt and overthinking. I pray that I and she can get the help we need individually to become stronger and come together once again in the future to do it right. I truly believe she was the one and me being able to do the hardest thing in the world to help her really confirmed that for me. I hope you can sit down with your partner and try and discuss how it is you feel. I tried and I poured my heart out to her and got so overwhelmed I threw up but in the end it was already too late. I wish you the best and I hope you can achieve some insight from my story.
Im growing through something similar like this now. It’s been the hardest decision of my life and it hurts every day I am moving slower but enthusiastic about the future It was a peaceful let go of a relationship of 6 years
no way. i swear God’s timing is immaculate… was literally about to call my girl and talk about this same exact topic… relationships are beautiful but can get draining if you’re putting the other persons wants/ needs before your own. make sure you’re filling your own cup before you’re filling others!
This is so true and I learned this the hard way and been single for 4 years because of it. Hopefully I can have that healthy balance with the right woman someday
@@jaysouthmusic8230 all that’s left for you to do is be.. if you know you’re pouring into your own cup and taking the steps necessary to become the best version of you, the universe will bless you with the person/ opportunity you need, RIGHT when you need it. evolve and love yourself for the right reasons and blessings will find YOU king.
Being in a relationship means you have to give your all to be able to make this all work towards the end. However if we give too much and our partner (for example) does the bare minimum, chances are you're gonna lose pieces of yourself that you may not be able to receive back in time.
I have done this exact thing. Now all of these years later i am trying to get out of regret mode. I relaized it when i made 40. So many valuable years wasted loving and caring for who did not want what that aspect of me.
Been there before and that’s why it’s important to know yourself whole heartedly before you get in a relationship that way you will never lose yourself within the relationship or if/when the relationship ends. I had to learn this the hard way it took me 4 years to fully love myself again and knowing what I like to do
tbh i fully agree but disagree w u !! u never r gon kno urself fully bc u always growin up & theres always challenges tht r gon make u choose diff things everytime yk? so in my opinion, u can heal urself & discover things uve never discovered from urself bef while in a relationship. But, ofc u need to have boundaries to maintain that & know how to communicate w ur partner 100%, bc u dont have to stand up or tolerate everything ur partner does or wat u do !
I had completely lost myself in relationships, and this video was so needed. I'm creating boundaries in my new relationships so I can focus on myself, and that way I can be fully present with my friends and partner.
Three years ago my first true relationship ended. It was a long and codependent relationship that truly and utterly destroyed me. Took me a long time, but I was finally happy on my own. Recently I've been started dating again with this girl I'm crazy about, but I was in constant fear and anxiety. I discovered your channel yesterday, but I can't think of words to thank you for this video. You can't possibly imagine how much I needed this. Your vibes are immaculate, thank you so much.
This couldnt have come at a better time. Just out of my first serious relationship. Dumped. I had lost myself during the relationship and lost my personality. She tried to make it work but who wants to be with someone uninteresting, without a personality? So I dont blame her. This was exactly a month a go. The break up made me realize that I need to work on myself, find myself again and find my values and Hindz was my go-to channel for this stuff. Although the first video I thought to myself "Nah i am not that desperate to watch some hippie drink tea" But then I gave the channel another chance and fell in love with the way he thinks and speaks and felt bad for judging so fast. Thank you. And to everyone dealing with break heart, since you are here then you are on the right track, it gets better, dont take shortcuts. Goodluck.
This is exactly what happened between me and my partner two days into our breakup and i find myself wondering who i am what are my ideas? What are my interests? And my goals ? Its been a difficult few days but i know something beautiful will come from it and i admire him for doing the hard thing for me and for himself
Self love is the best love 🙏🏼 although it is easy to lose sight and focus of what you truly value in life when in a relationship, it is important to always remain true to your character. Thank you for the reminder that it is never too late to make time and create space for yourself again. I’m ready to take on this journey with grace, whatever is meant for me will follow✨
I love how you brought up phone use and using technology to enhance the relationship, and beyond that to put it down...Definitely need to learn how to implement that more effectively. Lovely video Hindz, thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! Two Individuals who prioritize themselves are always better off for each other when they are choosing to be the best versions of themselves. At the end of the day, if you can truly be yourself and continue to grow and evolve yourself together, that’s a beautiful and thriving relationship!
Me and my ex are thinking about trying things again, and I know I have a problem with losing myself in someone else, so I’m so glad you posted this today!
hey listen to your heart, truly. i know what its like for your love with someone to be misunderstood and doubted but ive also experienced 3 years of a lot of misguided effort, dont get lost in the sauce your time is precious, peace love light and healing goddess
What you are saying actually reminds me of my partner. We’ve been together for 2 and a half year, and they have lost their identity. they haven’t grow as a person. and I’m actually losing interest in this relationship. I love them so so much, but it’s like they don’t have an identity. I don’t know who I am with! I cannot be proud of them, I can’t support them and all this stuff when they don’t do anything meaningful!
Exactly what I needed to hear, that metaphor was beautiful. Two strong trees standing side by side provide better shade than one tree leaning over the other. Thank you ✨🫶🏻
This video is so important, because I’ve been struggling a lot with this. It comes from earlier trust issues in my relationship. And it’s been hard for me to see if I’m too needy or if it’s my partner that doesn’t prioritize me enough, because he used to not prioritize me enough. I still don’t exactly know, But I know that all my focus is on him, and that I don’t prioritize myself because of this, and I think that is the reason I feel like he is not prioritizing me enough. I spend most of my time making time for him, instead of having my own life. And he is simply just busy and also doing the things he loves, and I think I need to do the same, so I don’t have so much time to feel unprioritized. So Thank you for helping me realize I need to focus on me, And that it doesn’t mean that he don’t love me just because he has his own life outside of me.
It's the first video that im watching of him and i never watched someone express so well what i've been trying to put in order in my head. After my last breakup, I've been reflecting on the negatives that i brought in my past relationships and it was all due to my codependency on people, more specifically in love relationships. I've been reflecting on where it comes from, but i equaly been reflecting on how to eventually avoid that, and thia video gave me a clarity that i thought i would never get. Thanks a lot for the video Hinz !
Struggling to make compromise in a relationship I been in for 3 months so far. He feels strongly for me and loves me but is pretty assuming in the worse, put me through a test to see how loyal I was through someone else/jealousy and doesn't always hear me out when I try express my viewpoints/feelings We're living together and I care about him, especially in his conditions But I'm afraid on whether this relationship is turning toxic or not and whether I should stay and continue to find a way to work things out or go It's both easy and hard to communicate with him and he's both made me feel loved yet hurt And it's been getting intense/intimate lately..
I’m in the same place , it confusing and hard because you love them dearly . Especially if the partner is also causing self-harm on themselves. Yes , it can grow into toxicity but you both need to have that uncomfortable conversation. And you’ll have to squeeze the “realness” out setting boundaries and instead of making demands on these boundaries ask how your partner feels about them. And if its comprisable. If not stand your ground “hey i dont want to let this go because it means more to me”.
Great advice. Can be cross-referenced toward friendships as well. Just curious about the "boundaries" discussion, wondering if anyone has found that these are best stated during the courting stage, reiterated if need be, while in the relationship and maybe upgraded to "preferences" once you're in the committed relationship. It also should be mentioned that the boundaries will change over time and the partners can expect this and be willing to talk when boundaries change. Just my humble 2cents. Thanks again for this.
I needed to hear this. My boyfriend and I have been in long distance relationship for a 1 1/2 years with visiting. We are finally making that step to move in together we both been independent for so long, having our own hobbies. New territory for me. 😂Thank you Hindz! 💯🙏🏾🦉🙌🏾
I still haven't finished the video yet but I just wanted to say that you talking about this in a calm soothing chill vibe helped ease the panic that yet again I lost myself "forever" and all the overthinking...thank you♡♡♡
Damn, I needed this…especially since I’m going into a new emerging relationship with a wonderful guy I matched up with on Tinder. Our conversations flow. We feel comfortable around each other. We have a lot in common. And we both find each other attractive. And I don’t wanna ruin any of that so knowing how that I can and should make myself a priority as well-especially since it’s so new and I tend to be codependent in any type of relationship romantic or platonic-I think it’ll help me tremendously. Things are looking up and this will help me stay that way!
Thank you for this video, I will most likely be dating a girl soon, but the most interesting thing is that I added this video to the playlist long before that. When I communicated with her, I cheated on my interests to please her, but I realized that this was a bad decision for both of us, because if you cheat on yourself, then how can the person you are dating rely on you?
I am saving this video for my morning tea but this is a journey that I have been walking a long time! So exited to see the video tomorrow ❤. Thank you so much
Hi Hindz. Today is my birthday!😊 please could you do a birthday video for this community. My birthday feels like i am having reboot in life. A video we can come back to watch every year. Thank you for all your good work. Love you💖🙏🏾🙏🏾
As always, beautifully on point, thanks @HINDZ my bro for such mindful, useful and truly essential content. I've been coming to this chill spot for years and it has always brought me Light and support. Really, thank you. May you and all of us here and elsewhere remain blessed🙏📿♥️
So in my case, I am 32 and I have been with my now husband since I was 15. Yes, 17 years together and 10 years married. I'd like to think I never knew who I was coming into the relationship at 15. Therefore, how do people like myself start over or perhaps even start finding self when being wrapped up into another individual is all you've known?
Set aside time strictly for you and start asking your innerchild what were the things that excited you when u were younger tap into those activities of creativity
Thanks Hindz for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated. Question though, why aren’t your episodes on Apple Podcasts updated 😩? Some of us (me), prefer audio podcasts to reduce the distractions from TH-cam please.
I’m in a relationship of 3 years and it has been rocky because we did everything opposite of this. Is it too late to change into this and better our relationship or is it a relationship already ruined? ):
its never too late when u love/like someone !! start healin :) try building up more trust in each other & once u do that u r goin to start communicating more & learn all the other things he said so as to not lose urself
My boyfriend says he needs space from me because I have drained him, at this point, should I just end the relationship or give him space and time to come back to me? Im so sad and confused. It’s been 3 years and he has been feeling like this for a year.
I was in a similar spot. I’m so sorry that you’re hurting right now, I know it can be scary and confusing. I used to be so codependent when it came to my boyfriend (to a toxic degree) . It drained the life out of him, and no matter how much attention he gave me it was never enough. I was so unhappy within myself. We used to live together, but eventually he got his own place. We stayed together, but I knew creating space was important for us. I went on my own journey, and realized the problem wasn’t him or the relationship, but the problem was with me. You must unravel your own psychology, explore your own hobbies, and be in solitude more often until you gain better insight within yourself. It is hard, but with time the problem took care of itself. Our relationship has been renewed, and we’re stronger than ever. I stopped putting so much pressure on the relationship and what he was doing, checking in on him constantly, etc and started focusing on what I needed to do, how I was feeling, and getting clear with myself/goals. Me backing off of him allowed him to flourish, as I grew genuinely more happier this attracted him to me. But remember: it’s not about reeling him back in or improving yourself for him, it’s for YOU
Give him some space and time, some time to come back would be pretty good. Especially for you all both to refresh, if its meant to be it’ll be. But 3 years is alot, I think you should keep fighting for it if you really want that true love between you too.
def give him sum space so he can figure out stuff yk? i’d say probably 2/3 weeks or wat works for yall… but im sure tht if u guys have sum space for each other everything is gon b aight & later u can talk abt it :) time heals a lot !!
Personally, I don't think space away from each other for x amount of times is going to get to the root of the issue. There sounds like some communication barrier here, there is a balance issue on needs being met. That's a tough one, I hope it works out for you guys. Giving space, and coming back to the same issue without actively working towards the root of the problem will get you back to the same point you are at.
Hi Hindz, I'm rewatching your videos. Could you bring back WE CARE WEDNESDAY? You've had so many ideas for content. I wonder if you still remember them all. They're all great. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. This never gets old. I'm taking notes❤ Ooh and I miss you drinking a cup of tea with us🫖🍵🙏🏽
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The day after me and my girlfriend parted ways, this is recommended to me. this is by far the hardest breakup I’ve ever gone through because I lost myself trying to keep her happy. I love her still so so much and it wasn’t a messy breakup which hurts that much more .
Shed more light on your feelings I often wonder if I make my partner feel like this... That is if you're comfortable
Ur not alone I just went through the same thing
@@victoriaasiepet229 I have struggled all my life with abandonment issues, anxiety, and depression. I had gone to therapy after my previous breakup where me and my child’s mother parted ways and it really messed me up. I thought I had taken care of that trauma to a point where I could healthy get back into a relationship. Than I met her, and it was amazing. She made me feel ways I didn’t think I would be able to feel again. It felt so good that I ignored every rule I’d set in my head for future relationships and we absolutely speeded through it all super fast. We went from being anxious messes around each other to sleeping in the same bed day after day in less than a month. It felt perfect and to an extent it was. But over time she would do things differently and because I overthink severely I notice it all and to me it felt like the world was ending when to her she still felt the same but just wasn’t trying as hard anymore. I think I began to self sabotage the relationship by asking way too much from her and always questioning her love. It would lead to confusion and conflict because she would say she did love me over and over while continuing to grow distance between us which only expedited my feelings that I was losing her. In the end I was right, she was going through so much in her head and she didn’t feel safe talking to me cause she thought I would get upset with her. I had scared the relationship and it absolutely broke me to pieces because all I wanted was her. In the end she started avoiding me, saying I was changing her as a person and making her feel empty. Out of love. I had to do the hardest thing I have ever done and let her go. My body was screaming at itself fighting me every second telling me I am making a mistake and I still think I did. But I didn’t do it for me, I did it for her. I could see how I was affecting her and I couldn’t keep hurting her. I think that is what love is. Sometimes it really hurts but that’s what is beautiful about it. So raw and powerful and can make even the calm people feel crazy. It will forever be a regret of mine hurting her by self doubt and overthinking. I pray that I and she can get the help we need individually to become stronger and come together once again in the future to do it right. I truly believe she was the one and me being able to do the hardest thing in the world to help her really confirmed that for me. I hope you can sit down with your partner and try and discuss how it is you feel. I tried and I poured my heart out to her and got so overwhelmed I threw up but in the end it was already too late. I wish you the best and I hope you can achieve some insight from my story.
Take care of your heart. No matter how difficult it is, put yourself first for now.
Im growing through something similar like this now. It’s been the hardest decision of my life and it hurts every day I am moving slower but enthusiastic about the future It was a peaceful let go of a relationship of 6 years
no way. i swear God’s timing is immaculate… was literally about to call my girl and talk about this same exact topic… relationships are beautiful but can get draining if you’re putting the other persons wants/ needs before your own. make sure you’re filling your own cup before you’re filling others!
This is so true and I learned this the hard way and been single for 4 years because of it. Hopefully I can have that healthy balance with the right woman someday
@@jaysouthmusic8230 all that’s left for you to do is be.. if you know you’re pouring into your own cup and taking the steps necessary to become the best version of you, the universe will bless you with the person/ opportunity you need, RIGHT when you need it. evolve and love yourself for the right reasons and blessings will find YOU king.
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I completely agree with this message, self love is important before any relationship
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Being in a relationship means you have to give your all to be able to make this all work towards the end. However if we give too much and our partner (for example) does the bare minimum, chances are you're gonna lose pieces of yourself that you may not be able to receive back in time.
I have done this exact thing. Now all of these years later i am trying to get out of regret mode. I relaized it when i made 40. So many valuable years wasted loving and caring for who did not want what that aspect of me.
Been there before and that’s why it’s important to know yourself whole heartedly before you get in a relationship that way you will never lose yourself within the relationship or if/when the relationship ends. I had to learn this the hard way it took me 4 years to fully love myself again and knowing what I like to do
tbh i fully agree but disagree w u !! u never r gon kno urself fully bc u always growin up & theres always challenges tht r gon make u choose diff things everytime yk? so in my opinion, u can heal urself & discover things uve never discovered from urself bef while in a relationship. But, ofc u need to have boundaries to maintain that & know how to communicate w ur partner 100%, bc u dont have to stand up or tolerate everything ur partner does or wat u do !
@@moripiepenbrink4502 you don't know me and I know myself fully by taking time for myself and i said what i said but to each it's own
I had completely lost myself in relationships, and this video was so needed. I'm creating boundaries in my new relationships so I can focus on myself, and that way I can be fully present with my friends and partner.
Three years ago my first true relationship ended. It was a long and codependent relationship that truly and utterly destroyed me. Took me a long time, but I was finally happy on my own. Recently I've been started dating again with this girl I'm crazy about, but I was in constant fear and anxiety. I discovered your channel yesterday, but I can't think of words to thank you for this video. You can't possibly imagine how much I needed this. Your vibes are immaculate, thank you so much.
This couldnt have come at a better time. Just out of my first serious relationship. Dumped. I had lost myself during the relationship and lost my personality. She tried to make it work but who wants to be with someone uninteresting, without a personality? So I dont blame her. This was exactly a month a go. The break up made me realize that I need to work on myself, find myself again and find my values and Hindz was my go-to channel for this stuff. Although the first video I thought to myself "Nah i am not that desperate to watch some hippie drink tea" But then I gave the channel another chance and fell in love with the way he thinks and speaks and felt bad for judging so fast. Thank you. And to everyone dealing with break heart, since you are here then you are on the right track, it gets better, dont take shortcuts. Goodluck.
This is exactly what happened between me and my partner two days into our breakup and i find myself wondering who i am what are my ideas? What are my interests? And my goals ? Its been a difficult few days but i know something beautiful will come from it and i admire him for doing the hard thing for me and for himself
Self love is the best love 🙏🏼 although it is easy to lose sight and focus of what you truly value in life when in a relationship, it is important to always remain true to your character. Thank you for the reminder that it is never too late to make time and create space for yourself again. I’m ready to take on this journey with grace, whatever is meant for me will follow✨
“Embrace the change” that was so simple but needed
I love how you brought up phone use and using technology to enhance the relationship, and beyond that to put it down...Definitely need to learn how to implement that more effectively. Lovely video Hindz, thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! Two Individuals who prioritize themselves are always better off for each other when they are choosing to be the best versions of themselves. At the end of the day, if you can truly be yourself and continue to grow and evolve yourself together, that’s a beautiful and thriving relationship!
Me and my ex are thinking about trying things again, and I know I have a problem with losing myself in someone else, so I’m so glad you posted this today!
hey listen to your heart, truly. i know what its like for your love with someone to be misunderstood and doubted but ive also experienced 3 years of a lot of misguided effort, dont get lost in the sauce your time is precious, peace love light and healing goddess
@@NostrilNuisance thank you so very much kind soul. I pray I can be open and accepting to the love he has to give, and give it back as well.
This morning I realised that I am sacrificing myself for this person and it's not even working 😭 I'm glad I found this video today.
this guy just radiates sunshine energy
What you are saying actually reminds me of my partner. We’ve been together for 2 and a half year, and they have lost their identity. they haven’t grow as a person.
and I’m actually losing interest in this relationship. I love them so so much, but it’s like they don’t have an identity.
I don’t know who I am with!
I cannot be proud of them, I can’t support them and all this stuff when they don’t do anything meaningful!
Exactly what I needed to hear, that metaphor was beautiful. Two strong trees standing side by side provide better shade than one tree leaning over the other. Thank you ✨🫶🏻
i was literally just helpin a friend deal w this today. it's amazing how god's timing is perfect when it comes to your uploads. i needed this.
This video is so important, because I’ve been struggling a lot with this. It comes from earlier trust issues in my relationship. And it’s been hard for me to see if I’m too needy or if it’s my partner that doesn’t prioritize me enough, because he used to not prioritize me enough. I still don’t exactly know, But I know that all my focus is on him, and that I don’t prioritize myself because of this, and I think that is the reason I feel like he is not prioritizing me enough. I spend most of my time making time for him, instead of having my own life. And he is simply just busy and also doing the things he loves, and I think I need to do the same, so I don’t have so much time to feel unprioritized. So Thank you for helping me realize I need to focus on me, And that it doesn’t mean that he don’t love me just because he has his own life outside of me.
Be your peace so you know what it looks like.
It's the first video that im watching of him and i never watched someone express so well what i've been trying to put in order in my head. After my last breakup, I've been reflecting on the negatives that i brought in my past relationships and it was all due to my codependency on people, more specifically in love relationships. I've been reflecting on where it comes from, but i equaly been reflecting on how to eventually avoid that, and thia video gave me a clarity that i thought i would never get. Thanks a lot for the video Hinz !
The timing of this is immaculate 🤞🏽✨❤️
This message was right on time
I agree , I luv how you put it . Don’t sound cancel .
Self reflect. I love doing just that . Thank you for reminder , don’t forget your tools 🧰 ❤️🙂
Struggling to make compromise in a relationship I been in for 3 months so far.
He feels strongly for me and loves me but is pretty assuming in the worse, put me through a test to see how loyal I was through someone else/jealousy and doesn't always hear me out when I try express my viewpoints/feelings
We're living together and I care about him, especially in his conditions
But I'm afraid on whether this relationship is turning toxic or not and whether I should stay and continue to find a way to work things out or go
It's both easy and hard to communicate with him and he's both made me feel loved yet hurt
And it's been getting intense/intimate lately..
Sending you love and clarity 🙏 The trust needs to be there.
I’m in the same place , it confusing and hard because you love them dearly . Especially if the partner is also causing self-harm on themselves. Yes , it can grow into toxicity but you both need to have that uncomfortable conversation. And you’ll have to squeeze the “realness” out setting boundaries and instead of making demands on these boundaries ask how your partner feels about them. And if its comprisable. If not stand your ground “hey i dont want to let this go because it means more to me”.
Great advice. Can be cross-referenced toward friendships as well. Just curious about the "boundaries" discussion, wondering if anyone has found that these are best stated during the courting stage, reiterated if need be, while in the relationship and maybe upgraded to "preferences" once you're in the committed relationship. It also should be mentioned that the boundaries will change over time and the partners can expect this and be willing to talk when boundaries change. Just my humble 2cents. Thanks again for this.
Literally just had this talk with my partner on yesterday! We discussed solutions but this was just perfect timing anyhow!
This is the one 🙌 #staytruetoself
needed this, love my new tribe...such a vibe
Love you hindz ❤️🩹 keep being you and making videos that keep others like myself motivated and happy after every episode 🫶🏻
I needed to hear this. My boyfriend and I have been in long distance relationship for a 1 1/2 years with visiting. We are finally making that step to move in together we both been independent for so long, having our own hobbies. New territory for me. 😂Thank you Hindz! 💯🙏🏾🦉🙌🏾
Finishin my job shift with this video
I genuinely thank you for this video, you have inspired me to be my authentic self and be able to vibe and meditate to your content.
Exactly! Yes sometimes nothing works the way you want it but at the time you need it most sometimes you just have to do it at the time.
I still haven't finished the video yet but I just wanted to say that you talking about this in a calm soothing chill vibe helped ease the panic that yet again I lost myself "forever" and all the overthinking...thank you♡♡♡
You’re always right on time Hindz 🎉
This was right on time! I haven’t even watched yet but I know you’re about to help me in advance! ✨✨✨
Damn, I needed this…especially since I’m going into a new emerging relationship with a wonderful guy I matched up with on Tinder. Our conversations flow. We feel comfortable around each other. We have a lot in common. And we both find each other attractive. And I don’t wanna ruin any of that so knowing how that I can and should make myself a priority as well-especially since it’s so new and I tend to be codependent in any type of relationship romantic or platonic-I think it’ll help me tremendously. Things are looking up and this will help me stay that way!
Just finished the gym and sauna n now enjoying a blunt to this video cheers hindz ✌️
Thank you Hindz
Awesome Video Hindz
❤Thanks for being you
Hindz out here giving us free therapy 😩
I really needed to see this, thank you
Congrats on 800k Hindz! 🎉👏
This was so calming. It’s been a while I haven’t felt so calm.
For sure needed this. Listening and writing in my journal 📔. It feels great❗️❗️
Right on time brother
Helpful. Sharing with my partner. 🙏🏽
I needed this..
Sometimes we lose ourselves as parents with our children and responsibilities.
needed this today
perfect timing - thank you !
Loved this🫶🏾
thank u for this so so much
Thank you for this video, I will most likely be dating a girl soon, but the most interesting thing is that I added this video to the playlist long before that. When I communicated with her, I cheated on my interests to please her, but I realized that this was a bad decision for both of us, because if you cheat on yourself, then how can the person you are dating rely on you?
I love the last part!
This was great timing
I am saving this video for my morning tea but this is a journey that I have been walking a long time! So exited to see the video tomorrow ❤. Thank you so much
Hi Hindz. Today is my birthday!😊 please could you do a birthday video for this community. My birthday feels like i am having reboot in life. A video we can come back to watch every year. Thank you for all your good work. Love you💖🙏🏾🙏🏾
This video was on time 💯
OMG THIS VIDEO OMGGGGG
As always, beautifully on point, thanks @HINDZ my bro for such mindful, useful and truly essential content. I've been coming to this chill spot for years and it has always brought me Light and support. Really, thank you. May you and all of us here and elsewhere remain blessed🙏📿♥️
So in my case, I am 32 and I have been with my now husband since I was 15. Yes, 17 years together and 10 years married. I'd like to think I never knew who I was coming into the relationship at 15. Therefore, how do people like myself start over or perhaps even start finding self when being wrapped up into another individual is all you've known?
Set aside time strictly for you and start asking your innerchild what were the things that excited you when u were younger tap into those activities of creativity
@@stopit9085 Okay, thank you!
NEEDED. 💯🤙🏾
😭 thanks for this
Really needed this 😢
After watching the Barbie movie, this is something I really needed to watch. 😌
Ha ha ha how to not lose myself in a relationship? Avoid them!!!
This dude so smooth.
Spirit knew to bring me this video , thank you!
I like that you try a new theme here. Thank you for sharing ❤
i still miss him so much
Needed this 2 years ago
You better know how to Segway into your endorsements without losing yourself ! 😉That’s all I came to say, thank you ❤
Goldmine 🙏 Would love more videos like this
Congrats on the 800k subs!🎉
Thanks Hindz for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated. Question though, why aren’t your episodes on Apple Podcasts updated 😩? Some of us (me), prefer audio podcasts to reduce the distractions from TH-cam please.
they'll come back soon , just had to rebalance as I was juggling alot at once 🙏🏾
Oh dear, I hope things settle down soon for you. Thank you for responding, I’ll look out for them ☺️
Thank you for sharing this
Chiiiiilll 🧘🏻♂️💯✌🏻
❤ this is what I needed today . I get emotionally constipated!
What camera are you using in this video brother? Amazing work, wow
Awesome vid avoid codependency
glad to be first!
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Hindz❤ which translation of The Tao do you have? There are so many.
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I’m in a relationship of 3 years and it has been rocky because we did everything opposite of this. Is it too late to change into this and better our relationship or is it a relationship already ruined? ):
If you both want it bad enough, it doesn’t matter what anyone else says. If you love them, keep fighting (:
its never too late when u love/like someone !! start healin :) try building up more trust in each other & once u do that u r goin to start communicating more & learn all the other things he said so as to not lose urself
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My boyfriend says he needs space from me because I have drained him, at this point, should I just end the relationship or give him space and time to come back to me? Im so sad and confused. It’s been 3 years and he has been feeling like this for a year.
I was in a similar spot. I’m so sorry that you’re hurting right now, I know it can be scary and confusing. I used to be so codependent when it came to my boyfriend (to a toxic degree) . It drained the life out of him, and no matter how much attention he gave me it was never enough. I was so unhappy within myself. We used to live together, but eventually he got his own place. We stayed together, but I knew creating space was important for us. I went on my own journey, and realized the problem wasn’t him or the relationship, but the problem was with me. You must unravel your own psychology, explore your own hobbies, and be in solitude more often until you gain better insight within yourself. It is hard, but with time the problem took care of itself. Our relationship has been renewed, and we’re stronger than ever. I stopped putting so much pressure on the relationship and what he was doing, checking in on him constantly, etc and started focusing on what I needed to do, how I was feeling, and getting clear with myself/goals. Me backing off of him allowed him to flourish, as I grew genuinely more happier this attracted him to me. But remember: it’s not about reeling him back in or improving yourself for him, it’s for YOU
Give him some space and time, some time to come back would be pretty good. Especially for you all both to refresh, if its meant to be it’ll be. But 3 years is alot, I think you should keep fighting for it if you really want that true love between you too.
def give him sum space so he can figure out stuff yk? i’d say probably 2/3 weeks or wat works for yall… but im sure tht if u guys have sum space for each other everything is gon b aight & later u can talk abt it :) time heals a lot !!
Personally, I don't think space away from each other for x amount of times is going to get to the root of the issue. There sounds like some communication barrier here, there is a balance issue on needs being met. That's a tough one, I hope it works out for you guys. Giving space, and coming back to the same issue without actively working towards the root of the problem will get you back to the same point you are at.
Is he still married??? I haven’t seen her on his channel lately
still in my relationship yes lol.
@@HINDZSIGHT Yes, this gives me hope…God bless…I see so many ppl separating and I felt doomed
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Hi Hindz, I'm rewatching your videos.
Could you bring back WE CARE WEDNESDAY?
You've had so many ideas for content.
I wonder if you still remember them all.
They're all great.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. This never gets old.
I'm taking notes❤
Ooh and I miss you drinking a cup of tea with us🫖🍵🙏🏽
🫶🏽MERRY CHRISTMAS HINDZ🫶🏽
What if your partner isn’t a family type how would you manage to make that work ?
family type as in like wantin to have a family? or as in like not wanting to meet ur fam & vice versa?
More like not wanting to be around them, since they don’t really be around their own family 🤷🏽♀️