Inspired by my recent trip to Japan, I would like to share with you one of my favorite poems: O snail! Climb Mount Fuji -- but slowly, slowly. Like many haiku, there is a substantial amount of wisdom contained within these three lines, much of which pertains to the best that life has to offer. If you don't see it yet, allow me to offer three lessons contained therein to edify you. Find your Fuji, and climb it as slowly as possible. Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: th-cam.com/video/WrXBzQ2HDEQ/w-d-xo.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: th-cam.com/channels/SduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw.htmljoin Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #wisdom #psychology #japan
An Old Silent Pond... A Frog Jumps Into The Pond, "SPLASH!" Silence again. ~ Harry Behn (translation) Furuike ya kawazu tobikomu mizu no oto ~ Bashō (1686) This is my favourite: Thank you for sharing yours, it's tremendously good as well. I tend to like the absolute momentary nature of Haiku as an end to their meaning in themselves, but 'one' can impose one's own intellect and take things a little beyond that, such that the above Haku by Basho to me captures the experience of momentarily being alive, indirectly in this vast, vast reality in such a small vignette. As said I tend to disavow intellectual meaning in Poetry/Haiku as best. But it can be done if needed. When we were kids, we made camps/bivouacs in the woods and learnt the building was the fun part, more than the actual using. Although if we'd built a house in a tree (aka a full and functional tree-house) it might have been the other way around: Friends, Beers, music, camp-fire and stories in the dark and more! Hope you had a very good trip to Japan. Thank you for your work.
In an Era where both men and the family unit has become almost obsolete, it’s almost paramount that you fellas find some sort of purpose or meaning in life. Most of you will never get that lovely family that you so wish for, those days are gone. Upgrade and push yourself fellas, you don’t have a choice, or risk drowning in depression.💯
Is a family something you "wish for"? Or is it a socially constructed or culturally created expectation that becomes a behavior pattern within a society that we are simply expected to follow or are "trained" to perform (per social expectations, religious teachings or cultural values, etc.)?
@@randalfordit's a side effect of succeeding and having enough prosperity to want to share it with others. But, your definition works very well as well :)
@randalford if you think wanting to procreate and have a familial structure is creates by societal pressure and then you've fallen too far down the Woke rabbit-hole. It's not a social construct anymore than wanting food is a social construct... though woke SJWs would have you believe you're only hungry bc society has told you you are hungry 🤣
@@randalfordIt can be both. It is both a societal expectation, but also something that a lot of us want. Nowadays, societal expectations are changing and less people are getting married and having kids. I’d argue that the expectation has shifted to that, so by your own logic, people who aren’t getting married and aren’t having kids aren’t doing that out of personal choice, but because they feel pressured by society to not get married and not have children.
Mr. Taraban! I’ve been listening to you for a while and I must say your ability to meld logic with emotional awareness is *chefs kiss* immaculate. Keep doing what you’re doing! Highly inspirational
As my father told me as a young man, “you can only go as fast as you can go.” When you try to go faster you end up making mistakes that end up costing you more time and you end up going slower. I didn’t understand as a kid. I get it now.
"Because this my friends, is where happiness and fulfillment lie. Not in the gaining. Not in the achieving. But in the climbing. If you ever actually achieve then either the whole journey ends or you have to suffer the decline that inevitably follows" What a great analysis for a great poem 🗻
@@kimsmith7212 Nobody said anyone is taking our “control” away. Our purpose is the only thing we can control as that is the only thing that we can do to improve our lives. No one will save us
@@kimsmith7212 we control plenty , it’s just keeping it many times can be out of our control. Our partners could leave and take half of everything, our boss could fire us, society can just active hate men (like the past 2-3 decades). I don’t agree with the point but there’s lots of evidence for this arguement.
You're slowly (slowly :)) becoming terrific at presenting these ideas. Thanks for the consistently great content. Fellow psychologist chiming in: in a lecture on self-compassion a few years ago the lecturer made a clear distinction between goals and directions - and he referred to something very akin to the latter part of this video. Goals are good...they provide meaning for some time. The problem comes when you achieve them: now what? Directions are better. They provide meaning, endlessly. Being completely honest could be a direction. Being hard-working. Being kind to yourself and others. You can develop traits like these tremendously in a year or two - but you'll never be "done." You'll keep failing, now and then, and probably keep discovering new roadblocks that you weren't aware of. Or you'll become pissed, depressed, or give up, and start all over again. Find a direction, or a few directions that align with each other. Don't choose something that you can ever be completely done with.
Quite possibly my favorite of all the episodes. It really resonates with me because I am a very very slow climber, and part of the reason is, well, I like to enjoy the view on the way up and don’t want to miss anything. Thank you Dr. Taraban for bringing some much needed Eastern knowledge, wisdom and perspective to a world that simply moves too fast.
Thanks for the upload. I like this because in a way it’s contrary to the ideals ingrained in a lot of us, especially in the states. It’s common to hear that “life’s too short” and so we need to make things happen, which creates haste. And often times the speed at which we can make things happen is seen as valuable. Hustle-culture, for example. It’s a status quo that I think gets ingrained so deeply, that the all value is taken out of the journey and only placed in the end goal. It also reminds me of another belief held amongst many in Asia that’s similar: the idea of “happiness”. In the states, it sometimes feels like happiness is the only truly acceptable emotion - not always, but it’s almost like “it’s bad to be sad” (toxic positivity) maybe not in an extreme/literal sense, but being happy, seeking happiness, and avoiding sadness and distancing yourself from anything that doesn’t make you happy is a concept I’ve seen pushed a lot in my life. And a lot of us will make big, life-altering decisions chasing happiness, even if we’re unsure happiness will be the outcome of the decision. Whereas in a lot of Asian countries, I think happiness and sadness are seen as equals, like yin and yang. Sadness is embraced, rather than avoided or buried - because really they can’t exist without the other - and even on a biological level, sadness as an emotion wouldn’t exist if it didn’t serve a purpose. I’ll disclaim, this is anecdotal, and I could probably be mistaken on a lot of it. Hell, I think this is the premise of the Pixar movie ‘Inside Out’. Regardless, great video as always!
Climbing slowly also means you won’t make slide down from rushing up the mountain too quickly. Climbing slowly will make you surpass almost everyone you encounter, living life with a steady foot.
This reminds me of my favorite poem ever, learned in high-school and still remembering it now at 38. It's written by Lucian Blaga, a Romanian writer and philosopher, in 1964. Here goes the original in Romanian (my English translation will follow): == Întrebare și răspuns == Ce ne va tine totdeauna tineri? Adu o jertfa zi de zi zeitei mari, paginei Vineri! Hraneste cald, oricare-ar fi, un vis ce nu se va-mplini! And here goes my (almost literal) English translation since I'm not aware of any: == Question and answer == What will keep us forever young? Make a sacrifice, each passing day To grand goddess, pagan Friday! Nurture slowly, whichever it might be A dream that will never come to be! Above, "nurture slowly" would be "nourish warm" in the original, but I don't think that conveys the intended meaning too well in English. Also, the part about the pagan goddess Friday took me a while to understand, but in old Romanian tradition this goddess would forbid women from doing house chores on Fridays. So I presume what Blaga intended that verse to mean was: forgo some of your daily chores or obligations (which is a kind of sacrifice if you end up with a less than clean house or clothes, or eating unhealthy food maybe?) and dedicate the time to that burning passion of yours. I love it so much because in just 5 verses it manages to touch on a lot of important issues in life: you'll feel young and motivated if you have a passion; a passion will require some sacrifices; you have to cultivate that passion, but not too hastily or so much that it either dies of malnutrition or of being overfed and then you're left out without a dream to pursue. A small objection here is that one might then switch to another passion, to which someone might object that if you burn through a passion so quickly, you don't get to explore its full potential, its full richness of pleasures that it can reward back to you. Anyway, it's a poem I love :)
Slowly, slowly also means: focus, concentrate to now moment and do climbing at the best you can. It not only destination is the measure of traveller's spirit, but also quality of effort to present task extending your quality qualification.
Thank you Orion, I love this so much. Progress in my life has been so painstakingly slow, and I never feel like it’s fast enough. This is great perspective.
This is great, Orion… it’s not in the achieving, it’s in the doing! Takes care of “fear of failure resistance” & self- condemnation for “failure” to reach goals. Thank you!
great episde. For me the important part is also to recongnize that Mount Fuji isn't just about status, or money or job title. It can and should also be about being the best husband/ wife, father/ mother/ and friend etc... The quest to be the best person you can be in ALL the relationships that matter to you is never ending and the goal perhaps even higher than Mount Fuji.
You have set very limited goals. Listen to the video again. Orion as talking not only about family, relationships, love, but also something that is called different names in the various wisdom traditions: Attainment of Buddhahood Union with the Godhead The ATMAN, or "Self' The Oversoul etc. etc. These are the highest goals one can conceive. Embracing these puts all mundane objectives into perspective, and makes their attainment much easier. Check out the AQAL chart (Google it) to work out where you are and what is the next concrete step.
This video reminds me of the tales involving alchemists or wizards turning lead into gold. It's not about base metals. Really a metaphor for a man's life. Thank you for this video.
Thank you Doc Orion, you've nailed exactly what I needed, what was disturbing my mind and my life lately. It's such a relief! I have always been very goal and purpose orientated, but lately, particularly after experiencing a family loss + other issues, I had lost my drive, meaning, purpose and excitment for my goals. Also the time they're taking me to achieve was causing discouragement....Everything is crystal clear now. And I feel so much peace after watching carefully your video. . My joy is coming back. At last. Thank you again Dr Taraban🎉.
As you have said it in your other videos, that why there are so few people watch your channel even your content is so valuable, full of knowledge and so easy to understand. It amazes me that few people noticed your wonderful content.
I'm kind of a late bloomer and I think I do pretty well for myself, but after recently turning 34 I can't help having a 60 second or so existential panic every other morning I wake up and feeling like I'm so far behind other people. Maybe I'm just inside my own head too much. I don't know. Not sure what the answer is, but this episode helps a lot. Thanks Orion.
Wow, I like all of your videos, but I really needed to hear this right now. It's spot on for me. Thank you for sharing your ideas with us and please keep on doing!
Spot on from my personal experience. Quantum computing is a difficult subject I have tackled. It demands enlisting all my faculties to make learning progress.
I'm glad that I encountered this video a month ago. In my case, the purpose that gives me a smile on my face every day, that makes me want to be a better person every day is my love for a specific man. I'm grateful that God brought this man into my life. I've never felt this before. In my heart, that person comes before me. It really doesn't feel as good when I only think about myself and act on my own interest.
So, the answer is God, the only infinite and eternal Goal... But, of course, that means that, within yourself, the road is also infinite, the road to perfecting yourself in virtue and knowledge (of self and God). And, also, that means generosity to your fellow men, because,vyou don't advance, if you disregard them. Finally, if you are a working person in the world, with a family, you need to set yourself to achieve in the family and professionally, also, because it's a road to attaining virtues and good things for the people you love. GREAT VIDEO, I learned a LOT, thank you
My wife and I fought a lot. We made difficult life choices. But we stayed for the sake of attaining the highest possible goal we could think of because we shared the same. We haven't achieved it yet, but only the micro-steps needed to get there. The process itself is what bound us together in fulfillment and continues to make that bind stronger. We would've felt nothing if it was just given to us on the spot.
I love real talk. Love is anxiety. Attachment is suffering. Life is suffering. In the end nothing matters. Enjoy today and live how you choose. Tomorrow is not promised. Tomorrow does not exist. We have limited time. Once you hit mid 40’s you are on borrowed time
Doc i have been following your channel for a couple months and the way you simplify the concepts is amazing. I am lost in my life, i dont really feel joy in anything. I feel so desparate that i can not focus on one goal for even a week. I dont know what to do. But anyway your videos are great. Keep going
Hi AmeerHamza, you're brave. Keep fighting : follow therapy, even different kinds at the same Time. Go all in. Start for instance with psycho-energetic therapies like EMDR, EFT, MASSAGES, or ACCESS 32 BARS. They're really efficient. They will help you heal from past traumas, wounds, which are surely the reason why you feel so depressed...You will find release and joy, step by step. Take Care.Feel free to keep us posted. Caryne Future
Wow, so true! I can actually attest to that. I have reached my goal and now I'm a bit depressed because I don't have a new goal (yet). I hope it will come to me soon..
Oh wow great message Dr. Taraban thanks for this video! I guess our Ego wants things in a drive-thru format, instantaneous but as you explained its a journey and it takes time.
I come back to this video whenever I am depressed or frustrated, as a woman our thinking have some differences and though I trouble getting some ideas you share on this channel but this video is one your best best, I am grateful you made this video, thanks 🙌🙌
: ) I have two Snail figures (a pottery one i keep out in my Camper, & a blown glass version on one of my patios) I'll always associate them with this from now on! Thanks. : ) I hope you will consider writing a Children's book about this! I don't have any of my own, but it would be precious for those who do. ~April L.
One of your best... and it reminds me I'm on my own path, through my own night, being my on light....But I'd like to add something. I agree with this story in the technical sense > to achieve a practical goal or skill, for example Learning a language or profession. But is there anything to achieve in the psyche? I will become peaceful, calmer or loving by a technique, a system,..... in time. Being aware of whatever state I'm in is the only logical thing to do. Spychologically Mount F. is a problem... it is merely an invention of thought. The art of repairing an engine is real, in the sense that a technique is a problem solver. Here the ideal is a fixed engine that runs perfect. If we transport this to the psyche ( as we often do and as society indoctrinated us to do ) it is a way of blinding ourselves.
According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, the highest goal is 'self-actualization'. That is when one realizes the full potential. But I think even after one realize the full potential , he or she would be still restless until realizing what is beyond that--the ultimate reality. We all have an innate need to realize the ultimate truth, but that need is hidden under the never ending worldly needs
271k way to go orion i remember it was only last june or something you were celebrating 100k lol you deserve it been here for a long time and ive been saying youre gonna be big way to go
Appreciating this really valuable message doc, you put it in a very clear, smart, intelligent and even funny way. Pleasure listening to you. Thank you for your work :)
1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family 2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup 3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process
YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE " 30" IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GET MARRIED TO BEGIN WITH. AND WHY NOT A PRENUP? USEFUL FOR BOTH PARTIES, SO THAT ONE DOESN'T TAKE EVERYTHING IF THEY WALK AWAY. ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAD ALREADY INVESTED $$ INTO THE RELATIONSHIP?????
Just work 10 hours per day 6 days per week.minimum… and one day, just one day my son, you’ll find peace. All you can hope for is to feel proud of yourself. You’re the only one who will appreciate how hard you smashed it for a dream. For glory
Your purpose should be your first goal, your purpose will never leave you, will never take half of your money, will never dissapoint you. I cant say that for females, so chase your purpose, not females. Or you will be dissapointed in life.
Tools as goals gives you infinite climb, because attaining a tool opens up further possibilities. The more versatile the tool, the broader your horizon. This is imagining not the end result, but steps along the way to changing things. Dream of hammers, not houses.
Inspired by my recent trip to Japan, I would like to share with you one of my favorite poems:
O snail!
Climb Mount Fuji
-- but slowly, slowly.
Like many haiku, there is a substantial amount of wisdom contained within these three lines, much of which pertains to the best that life has to offer. If you don't see it yet, allow me to offer three lessons contained therein to edify you. Find your Fuji, and climb it as slowly as possible.
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damn....i was excited to see Part 2 to "Women Need Game Too". When is that coming?
Even "don't worry, it's very short" is a great poem (about life).
An Old Silent Pond...
A Frog Jumps Into The Pond,
"SPLASH!" Silence again.
~ Harry Behn (translation)
Furuike ya
kawazu tobikomu
mizu no oto
~ Bashō (1686)
This is my favourite: Thank you for sharing yours, it's tremendously good as well. I tend to like the absolute momentary nature of Haiku as an end to their meaning in themselves, but 'one' can impose one's own intellect and take things a little beyond that, such that the above Haku by Basho to me captures the experience of momentarily being alive, indirectly in this vast, vast reality in such a small vignette. As said I tend to disavow intellectual meaning in Poetry/Haiku as best. But it can be done if needed.
When we were kids, we made camps/bivouacs in the woods and learnt the building was the fun part, more than the actual using. Although if we'd built a house in a tree (aka a full and functional tree-house) it might have been the other way around: Friends, Beers, music, camp-fire and stories in the dark and more!
Hope you had a very good trip to Japan. Thank you for your work.
One of your best videos. Thank you Orion.
How do we decide what that lofty lofty goal might be?
In an Era where both men and the family unit has become almost obsolete, it’s almost paramount that you fellas find some sort of purpose or meaning in life. Most of you will never get that lovely family that you so wish for, those days are gone. Upgrade and push yourself fellas, you don’t have a choice, or risk drowning in depression.💯
Is a family something you "wish for"? Or is it a socially constructed or culturally created expectation that becomes a behavior pattern within a society that we are simply expected to follow or are "trained" to perform (per social expectations, religious teachings or cultural values, etc.)?
@@randalfordit's a side effect of succeeding and having enough prosperity to want to share it with others.
But, your definition works very well as well :)
@randalford if you think wanting to procreate and have a familial structure is creates by societal pressure and then you've fallen too far down the Woke rabbit-hole.
It's not a social construct anymore than wanting food is a social construct... though woke SJWs would have you believe you're only hungry bc society has told you you are hungry 🤣
@@randalfordIt can be both. It is both a societal expectation, but also something that a lot of us want. Nowadays, societal expectations are changing and less people are getting married and having kids. I’d argue that the expectation has shifted to that, so by your own logic, people who aren’t getting married and aren’t having kids aren’t doing that out of personal choice, but because they feel pressured by society to not get married and not have children.
Brother only in the US and Europe are women over having families. Literally everywhere else on earth it's a huge priority for most women.
Mr. Taraban! I’ve been listening to you for a while and I must say your ability to meld logic with emotional awareness is *chefs kiss* immaculate. Keep doing what you’re doing! Highly inspirational
Never seen someone able to clearly express thoughts in a way that really anyone can understand. I mean his analogies are golden!
“You will discover who you are as you climb it” - excellent
As my father told me as a young man, “you can only go as fast as you can go.”
When you try to go faster you end up making mistakes that end up costing you more time and you end up going slower.
I didn’t understand as a kid. I get it now.
"Because this my friends, is where happiness and fulfillment lie. Not in the gaining. Not in the achieving. But in the climbing. If you ever actually achieve then either the whole journey ends or you have to suffer the decline that inevitably follows"
What a great analysis for a great poem 🗻
If there was no destination, nobody would take the journey
@GoldenMushroom64 small mindset.
日本人です。
外国人の方にこうやって俳句を学んで頂けるのは嬉しいです。
やはり学の深い方には国籍を問わずに刺さる内容なんでしょうね。
I’ve never heard anything truer. It’s importants to find purpose in life especially as men that’s the only thing we have left in our control.
WHY IS IS A PURPOSE THE ONLY THING THING YOU CAN CONTROL? WHOSE TAKING YOUR CONTROL AWAY?
@@kimsmith7212 Nobody said anyone is taking our “control” away. Our purpose is the only thing we can control as that is the only thing that we can do to improve our lives. No one will save us
@@kimsmith7212 we control plenty , it’s just keeping it many times can be out of our control. Our partners could leave and take half of everything, our boss could fire us, society can just active hate men (like the past 2-3 decades). I don’t agree with the point but there’s lots of evidence for this arguement.
You're slowly (slowly :)) becoming terrific at presenting these ideas. Thanks for the consistently great content.
Fellow psychologist chiming in: in a lecture on self-compassion a few years ago the lecturer made a clear distinction between goals and directions - and he referred to something very akin to the latter part of this video. Goals are good...they provide meaning for some time. The problem comes when you achieve them: now what?
Directions are better. They provide meaning, endlessly. Being completely honest could be a direction. Being hard-working. Being kind to yourself and others. You can develop traits like these tremendously in a year or two - but you'll never be "done." You'll keep failing, now and then, and probably keep discovering new roadblocks that you weren't aware of. Or you'll become pissed, depressed, or give up, and start all over again.
Find a direction, or a few directions that align with each other. Don't choose something that you can ever be completely done with.
He is getting better at presenting. I’ll give him that!
Quite possibly my favorite of all the episodes. It really resonates with me because I am a very very slow climber, and part of the reason is, well, I like to enjoy the view on the way up and don’t want to miss anything. Thank you Dr. Taraban for bringing some much needed Eastern knowledge, wisdom and perspective to a world that simply moves too fast.
Many Thanks for your time and wisdom
7:10 exactly. “Happiness is not a destination, but a way of life.” -Unknown
Thanks for the upload. I like this because in a way it’s contrary to the ideals ingrained in a lot of us, especially in the states. It’s common to hear that “life’s too short” and so we need to make things happen, which creates haste. And often times the speed at which we can make things happen is seen as valuable. Hustle-culture, for example. It’s a status quo that I think gets ingrained so deeply, that the all value is taken out of the journey and only placed in the end goal.
It also reminds me of another belief held amongst many in Asia that’s similar: the idea of “happiness”. In the states, it sometimes feels like happiness is the only truly acceptable emotion - not always, but it’s almost like “it’s bad to be sad” (toxic positivity) maybe not in an extreme/literal sense, but being happy, seeking happiness, and avoiding sadness and distancing yourself from anything that doesn’t make you happy is a concept I’ve seen pushed a lot in my life. And a lot of us will make big, life-altering decisions chasing happiness, even if we’re unsure happiness will be the outcome of the decision.
Whereas in a lot of Asian countries, I think happiness and sadness are seen as equals, like yin and yang. Sadness is embraced, rather than avoided or buried - because really they can’t exist without the other - and even on a biological level, sadness as an emotion wouldn’t exist if it didn’t serve a purpose.
I’ll disclaim, this is anecdotal, and I could probably be mistaken on a lot of it. Hell, I think this is the premise of the Pixar movie ‘Inside Out’.
Regardless, great video as always!
Climbing slowly also means you won’t make slide down from rushing up the mountain too quickly. Climbing slowly will make you surpass almost everyone you encounter, living life with a steady foot.
This reminds me of my favorite poem ever, learned in high-school and still remembering it now at 38. It's written by Lucian Blaga, a Romanian writer and philosopher, in 1964. Here goes the original in Romanian (my English translation will follow):
== Întrebare și răspuns ==
Ce ne va tine totdeauna tineri?
Adu o jertfa zi de zi
zeitei mari, paginei Vineri!
Hraneste cald, oricare-ar fi,
un vis ce nu se va-mplini!
And here goes my (almost literal) English translation since I'm not aware of any:
== Question and answer ==
What will keep us forever young?
Make a sacrifice, each passing day
To grand goddess, pagan Friday!
Nurture slowly, whichever it might be
A dream that will never come to be!
Above, "nurture slowly" would be "nourish warm" in the original, but I don't think that conveys the intended meaning too well in English.
Also, the part about the pagan goddess Friday took me a while to understand, but in old Romanian tradition this goddess would forbid women from doing house chores on Fridays. So I presume what Blaga intended that verse to mean was: forgo some of your daily chores or obligations (which is a kind of sacrifice if you end up with a less than clean house or clothes, or eating unhealthy food maybe?) and dedicate the time to that burning passion of yours.
I love it so much because in just 5 verses it manages to touch on a lot of important issues in life: you'll feel young and motivated if you have a passion; a passion will require some sacrifices; you have to cultivate that passion, but not too hastily or so much that it either dies of malnutrition or of being overfed and then you're left out without a dream to pursue. A small objection here is that one might then switch to another passion, to which someone might object that if you burn through a passion so quickly, you don't get to explore its full potential, its full richness of pleasures that it can reward back to you.
Anyway, it's a poem I love :)
Today’s lesson
Psychacks, is my favorite
Bar none, thank you!
Slowly, slowly also means: focus, concentrate to now moment and do climbing at the best you can. It not only destination is the measure of traveller's spirit, but also quality of effort to present task extending your quality qualification.
Thank you Orion, I love this so much. Progress in my life has been so painstakingly slow, and I never feel like it’s fast enough. This is great perspective.
This is great, Orion… it’s not in the achieving, it’s in the doing! Takes care of “fear of failure resistance” & self- condemnation for “failure” to reach goals. Thank you!
great episde. For me the important part is also to recongnize that Mount Fuji isn't just about status, or money or job title. It can and should also be about being the best husband/ wife, father/ mother/ and friend etc... The quest to be the best person you can be in ALL the relationships that matter to you is never ending and the goal perhaps even higher than Mount Fuji.
You have set very limited goals. Listen to the video again. Orion as talking not only about family, relationships, love, but also something that is called different names in the various wisdom traditions:
Attainment of Buddhahood
Union with the Godhead
The ATMAN, or "Self'
The Oversoul
etc. etc.
These are the highest goals one can conceive. Embracing these puts all mundane objectives into perspective, and makes their attainment much easier. Check out the AQAL chart (Google it) to work out where you are and what is the next concrete step.
There is no such thing as perfection, only the continued climb for excellence!!!
Perfection exists in e.g. mathematics
and no matter how slowly one goes its still progress !!
Love the first two points. Strive for the highest goal and do it according to your unique characteristics.
Thanks!
Thank you, wonderful poem, wonderful essay.
This video reminds me of the tales involving alchemists or wizards turning lead into gold. It's not about base metals. Really a metaphor for a man's life. Thank you for this video.
Dr. Taraban, you are doing a massive service to a lot of people through your youtube posts. God bless you!
Thanks!
Funny enough, though your relationship videos are a true game changer, this video is a lifechanging piece. A gem
Thanks!
I lived there for three years. It is a wonderful culture.
Thank you Doc Orion, you've nailed exactly what I needed, what was disturbing my mind and my life lately. It's such a relief! I have always been very goal and purpose orientated, but lately, particularly after experiencing a family loss + other issues, I had lost my drive, meaning, purpose and excitment for my goals. Also the time they're taking me to achieve was causing discouragement....Everything is crystal clear now. And I feel so much peace after watching carefully your video. . My joy is coming back. At last. Thank you again Dr Taraban🎉.
A wonderful dissection about looong climbing, I think it's exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Thank you, Jamie, for sending it to me.
Takk!
Valeu!
Wow. Never knew how much I needed this episode. Thank you brother.
Thanks
Preciate you sharing the wisdom.
As you have said it in your other videos, that why there are so few people watch your channel even your content is so valuable, full of knowledge and so easy to understand.
It amazes me that few people noticed your wonderful content.
this is one of your best best video, so good explanation and clarity
The patience of Dr. Orion is legendary
¡Gracias!
I'm kind of a late bloomer and I think I do pretty well for myself, but after recently turning 34 I can't help having a 60 second or so existential panic every other morning I wake up and feeling like I'm so far behind other people. Maybe I'm just inside my own head too much. I don't know. Not sure what the answer is, but this episode helps a lot. Thanks Orion.
If everyone seems ahead of you, that means you're in a good social circle, doesn't it? You wouldn't want to be surrounded by losers.
Wow, I like all of your videos, but I really needed to hear this right now. It's spot on for me.
Thank you for sharing your ideas with us and please keep on doing!
Spot on from my personal experience. Quantum computing is a difficult subject I have tackled. It demands enlisting all my faculties to make learning progress.
Danke!
Live an epic life,exactly
I'm glad that I encountered this video a month ago. In my case, the purpose that gives me a smile on my face every day, that makes me want to be a better person every day is my love for a specific man. I'm grateful that God brought this man into my life. I've never felt this before. In my heart, that person comes before me. It really doesn't feel as good when I only think about myself and act on my own interest.
Love this poem and the interpretation! One of your best videos to date. ❤
This does fit with my own thinking but you have described it so much more eloquently. Thank you. 😊
What a master piece, thank you
"The struggle itself toward the heights is enough to fill a man's heart."
- Jean Paul Sartre
So, the answer is God, the only infinite and eternal Goal... But, of course, that means that, within yourself, the road is also infinite, the road to perfecting yourself in virtue and knowledge (of self and God). And, also, that means generosity to your fellow men, because,vyou don't advance, if you disregard them. Finally, if you are a working person in the world, with a family, you need to set yourself to achieve in the family and professionally, also, because it's a road to attaining virtues and good things for the people you love. GREAT VIDEO, I learned a LOT, thank you
My wife and I fought a lot. We made difficult life choices. But we stayed for the sake of attaining the highest possible goal we could think of because we shared the same. We haven't achieved it yet, but only the micro-steps needed to get there. The process itself is what bound us together in fulfillment and continues to make that bind stronger. We would've felt nothing if it was just given to us on the spot.
With all us comparing with others each day, this is like a reminder: who cares who is first. We all gonna die. Journey is what really matters.
I love real talk. Love is anxiety. Attachment is suffering. Life is suffering. In the end nothing matters. Enjoy today and live how you choose. Tomorrow is not promised. Tomorrow does not exist. We have limited time. Once you hit mid 40’s you are on borrowed time
Doc i have been following your channel for a couple months and the way you simplify the concepts is amazing. I am lost in my life, i dont really feel joy in anything. I feel so desparate that i can not focus on one goal for even a week. I dont know what to do. But anyway your videos are great. Keep going
Hi AmeerHamza, you're brave. Keep fighting : follow therapy, even different kinds at the same Time. Go all in. Start for instance with psycho-energetic therapies like EMDR, EFT, MASSAGES, or ACCESS 32 BARS. They're really efficient. They will help you heal from past traumas, wounds, which are surely the reason why you feel so depressed...You will find release and joy, step by step.
Take Care.Feel free to keep us posted.
Caryne Future
Wow, so true! I can actually attest to that. I have reached my goal and now I'm a bit depressed because I don't have a new goal (yet). I hope it will come to me soon..
Best words have heard om goals... Well done sir
"The Goal is beyond you, but the means are within You."
Bars
Oh wow great message Dr. Taraban thanks for this video! I guess our Ego wants things in a drive-thru format, instantaneous but as you explained its a journey and it takes time.
Thank you ❤
“One must imagine Sisyphus happy…”
Thank you chéri. Like listen to you!
Much Love from South of France
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I come back to this video whenever I am depressed or frustrated, as a woman our thinking have some differences and though I trouble getting some ideas you share on this channel but this video is one your best best, I am grateful you made this video, thanks 🙌🙌
: ) I have two Snail figures (a pottery one i keep out in my Camper, & a blown glass version on one of my patios) I'll always associate them with this from now on! Thanks. : ) I hope you will consider writing a Children's book about this! I don't have any of my own, but it would be precious for those who do. ~April L.
One of your best... and it reminds me I'm on my own path, through my own night, being my on light....But I'd like to add something. I agree with this story in the technical sense > to achieve a practical goal or skill, for example Learning a language or profession. But is there anything to achieve in the psyche? I will become peaceful, calmer or loving by a technique, a system,..... in time. Being aware of whatever state I'm in is the only logical thing to do. Spychologically Mount F. is a problem... it is merely an invention of thought. The art of repairing an engine is real, in the sense that a technique is a problem solver. Here the ideal is a fixed engine that runs perfect. If we transport this to the psyche ( as we often do and as society indoctrinated us to do ) it is a way of blinding ourselves.
This is the best video on here. The snail poem beats all.
According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, the highest goal is 'self-actualization'. That is when one realizes the full potential. But I think even after one realize the full potential , he or she would be still restless until realizing what is beyond that--the ultimate reality. We all have an innate need to realize the ultimate truth, but that need is hidden under the never ending worldly needs
271k way to go orion i remember it was only last june or something you were celebrating 100k lol you deserve it been here for a long time and ive been saying youre gonna be big way to go
entertaining, educating, inspiring
form and function in conjunction
this is a piece of art
You have giddy smile for the snail poem. I really enjoyed the poem too!
You’ve explained why I get a big let-down after achieving a major goal. Facing this right now. It’s Time to refocus on the next big goal
Appreciating this really valuable message doc, you put it in a very clear, smart, intelligent and even funny way. Pleasure listening to you. Thank you for your work :)
Thanks Doc. I will keep this priceless lesson close to heart, those three lines and your take on them is just golden.
so much wisdom!
Hey bro, thanks for making my life better. This made me feel good about being me.
Beautiful poem and beautiful interpretation.
fantastic!Thank You my friend!
As a mountain climber, I can relate😂 the solution is to climb another mountain, and then another. It never gets old.
1. Aim for a lofty goal, e.g. starting a family
2. Do it on your terms, e.g. don't get married or get a pre-nup
3. Take your time, e.g. don't worry about age 30 as being a deadline. It takes as long as it takes to build yourself up, find someone, vet someone, etc. Enjoy the process
Starting a family isn’t lofty enough it’s easy. Being the best man possible for your family though that’s a lofty goal.
Any idiot can start a family
Rates of genetic disorders rise with men's age. Exponentially. Enjoy your autistic leukemia kids lol
YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT THE " 30" IF YOU'RE NOT GOING TO GET MARRIED TO BEGIN WITH. AND WHY NOT A PRENUP? USEFUL FOR BOTH PARTIES, SO THAT ONE DOESN'T TAKE EVERYTHING IF THEY WALK AWAY. ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAD ALREADY INVESTED $$ INTO THE RELATIONSHIP?????
@@kimsmith7212 some people do worry about 30 as they see life as some sort of race. I actually meant get a pre-nup.
Berrific, Magnificent!!!
I finally get why Sisyphus is happy 😮 this video blew my mind a lil bit 🖖🏽❤️
And this video deserves a big LIKE 👍🏼
Another banger. Thanks Orion.
His videos are truly remarkable. ❤ life lessons.
"I prefer to aim high and fail than to aim low and succeed"
Wonderful.
As always dropping bombs of Wisdom. Thank you
Just work 10 hours per day 6 days per week.minimum… and one day, just one day my son, you’ll find peace.
All you can hope for is to feel proud of yourself. You’re the only one who will appreciate how hard you smashed it for a dream. For glory
We need to try bring more good and wisdom into this world. Like dr. Orion. It goes beyond personal purpose.
Awesome content Orion. Keep it coming. Love your name as well, very cool!
Thank you.
I like this poem a lot.
Beautiful painting. You have a great thumbnail artist.
Your purpose should be your first goal, your purpose will never leave you, will never take half of your money, will never dissapoint you. I cant say that for females, so chase your purpose, not females. Or you will be dissapointed in life.
Disappoint*
Thank you so much for this. I really need to listen more like this.
Best video ever! It is exactly what i need!
The snail is never going to get close to the top of Mt Fuji 😅
This is awesome. Thanks man. Im off to grab lunch. Slowely.
Tools as goals gives you infinite climb, because attaining a tool opens up further possibilities. The more versatile the tool, the broader your horizon. This is imagining not the end result, but steps along the way to changing things. Dream of hammers, not houses.