3 UPDATES: I Make The Mistake By Expecting My StepDad To Treat Me The Same As My Step Sis On My Bday

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  • @safespacebear
    @safespacebear 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Pretty typical mom behavior when an affair is involved.

  • @American_Liberty
    @American_Liberty 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    OPs mother is a heartless witch! 😢 I am glad OP has more support now.

  • @supremeturtle1186
    @supremeturtle1186 2 ปีที่แล้ว +105

    Courts really have to stop automatically siding with the mom even when they're clearly not fit to be parents. Also all she did was tell the truth

    • @Zminator1986
      @Zminator1986 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I say we should stop incentivizing broken families and reward held together families
      And for divorce cases, full background check and psychological evaluation to see who is better suited to raise children.

    • @rogerrabbit80
      @rogerrabbit80 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      In 90% of cases in the US, custody is settled by the couples without intervention by mediators or courts. Courts only decide custody in 4% of cases.

    • @jackchop1576
      @jackchop1576 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      One of my aunts was one of those women in love with a guy that she let abuse her kids. She never got abused at all or anything either. She kept them from their dad out of spite.

    • @johnjr7070
      @johnjr7070 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      There should be responsibilities for the consequences of their decisions

    • @shells500tutubo
      @shells500tutubo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I really want to know why OP's Dad didn't have custody. Courts do NOT automatically grant custody to the mother. All things being equal they grant 50:50. But if the father doesn't think to ask for it then it won't happen.

  • @Baptisteog18
    @Baptisteog18 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    So glad OP managed to get some revenge against her mother and stepfather. Plus it's always good to see a cheater get theirs in the end. One thing that sticks out is the fact that OP mentioned Stepfathers as well as her maternal grandparents are very conservative so if that's the case wouldn't they cut them off because of their infidelity?

    • @zitronentee
      @zitronentee 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Some conservatives aren't really conservatives. They're just self-righteous narcissistic people who just use religion for their own benefit.

  • @whitneybennett4857
    @whitneybennett4857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I'd bet my life that when half-sister turns 18, there will be absolutely no mention of trying to "teach her how to be an adult." On a side note, though: I don't want to nit-pick but how do all of these people seem to not know the difference between a half-sibling and a stepsibling?

    • @amarie8769
      @amarie8769 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I was thinking the same thing.

    • @rogerrabbit80
      @rogerrabbit80 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      In this case, I think the error is understandable. She's his stepfather's daughter, so OP thinks of her as a stepsister, as opposed to being a half-sister.

    • @mariposaorofusionfoodchann7573
      @mariposaorofusionfoodchann7573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly what I thought!

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mariposaorofusionfoodchann7573 I predict that, the mother will look at pics OP walking across the stage at her college graduation, pics of OP celebrating her fresh start in Australia (and, as an Australian citizen), pics of OP at her wedding and baby shower with her replacement family (her husband, friends and in-laws who treat her better), and pics of OP with her husband and their new baby, go on Reddit, and not only ask why OP went full NO CONTACT with her, the new husband, their daughter a.k.a. "golden child", but also ask why OP left her out of those important milestones, and chose to include her bio-dad, his family, his friends, and her maternal relatives, instead.⚠️

    • @raggarbergman
      @raggarbergman ปีที่แล้ว

      As someone with a half brother, it is kind of a pet peeve here to when people seem to confuse the terms.

  • @flawfuljinx
    @flawfuljinx 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    OP's parents are hilarious expecting the inheritance even though they treat everyone like trash, especially the stepdad for thinking what happened to him wasn't his fault even though they had an affair lol

  • @amberleeannalee1999
    @amberleeannalee1999 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I hope OPs grandparents send them a 20 dollar bill in a white envelope with a letter that says “Get Bent and pound sand”

    • @whitneymcclendon16
      @whitneymcclendon16 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Nah $20 is too much. You can buy a 1/8th of weed with that give them $2 cuz thats 2-4 honey buns from the liquor store.

  • @anggamaulana3498
    @anggamaulana3498 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Story 1: It seem the only reason OP's grandparents didn't cut off OP's mother all this years because they're worried with OP situation in that house.
    Since the stepdad and mother had decided to kick OP out from the house, there's no more reason for them to be in the grandparents will.
    Now OP can have a new fresh start in college.

  • @adriett4596
    @adriett4596 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Hey r/girl I just wanted yo say that this video I've noticed the sudden expression that you have put into reading for the video. It feels alot more emotive and sounds great.

  • @naptime1900
    @naptime1900 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Take a picture of the 20 and letter and send it to everyone. Move as soon as possible.

  • @lukejackson2354
    @lukejackson2354 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Story 1: Poor OP wasn’t supported by anyone cause they didn’t want to take in a minor.
    Story 2: That woman is deranged for entertaining her friend when it was her own daughter’s wedding.

    • @shaynethegmann
      @shaynethegmann 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's not how it works the legal system failed op of the first story

  • @JasperCatProductions
    @JasperCatProductions 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Story on….your shocked? They never loved you, you knew they I didn’t. Your 18 go be with your dads family, and you never need to speak to these people ever again.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It sounds like they never mistreated him, but simply withdrew love.

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed. Or better yet, OP should just move to another country; e.g., Australia, apply for Australian citizenship, go to college there, grow her own family, consisting of supportive friends, a trustworthy therapist, and a warm-hearted boyfriend whose family are good people, and cut off contact with her mother and stepfather. She can invite her bio-dad, and his family to visit her in Australia, any time she wants.

  • @bodnica
    @bodnica ปีที่แล้ว

    Poor child,

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I bet op mom is going to regret her decision when she realizes that her husband cost her everything in life story 1

  • @Gloria-ro4vn
    @Gloria-ro4vn ปีที่แล้ว +1

    She''s your HALF-sister NOT step-sister.

  • @MrBeevee5
    @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Story 1 - If I am reading the story right, that is his half-sister, not step-sister. Since OP was this close to leaving anyway for college, the evil parents jumped the gun presenting that note on his birthday. However, I knew a guy who parents kicked him out on his 18th birthday without warning on April 1st, a couple of months shy of high school graduation. He was never able to recover mentally to get his high school diploma. I allowed him to live in my extra room until he was killed in an accident at age 23.

    • @Ladywizard
      @Ladywizard 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      could have had both since sounded close in age on her and stepsister and both stepdad and mother had spouses they cheated on

    • @bodnica
      @bodnica ปีที่แล้ว +1

      So sad

  • @honeypot8524
    @honeypot8524 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Last story: NTA, OP told absolutely facts so no it wasn't at the wives expense because they literally did the same thing that day. It's only different because the brother is married to one of them

  • @shadmtmtn1603
    @shadmtmtn1603 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 1 : OP, you are right all along. NTA
    The fact that you half-sis and you are less than 2 years gap (her 16th being before your 18th...) shows how your 'religious mom' didn't care a bit about her wows before God when betraying your father. Maybe talk about this to her church's members and priests.
    The fact that you had to endure the silent treatment for 16 years is also very talkative, to say the least...
    Your father is also at fault, maybe you want to forgive him, but it is a risky road (i've been there, the disappointement on the 2nd time was way worse). He wasn't there, not even checking up on you, perhaps believing all was good for you, but never verifying his beliefs while living his best life child-free. Take what he really gives, but you shouldn't trust him beyond him being a pride-wounded selfish person going as far as possible so as to not suffer from the situation. He is not a Dad, just a sperm donor, so far.
    Your grand-parents on both sides are also at fault, a fault they try to correct with drastic measures, but they witnessed you suffering for 16 years and didn't lift any criticism, not a single argument against your mother and FIL. They are as the 3 legendary monkeys, don't see, don't hear, don't talk. Probably to keep a clean public image ? Same as for your father, take it all, but don't trust them beyond reasonnable limits, as they will use your case to show how they 'feel for you' and 'took every possible step' to get you out of this mess...
    Now, just for you to know, i would return the 20$, just for your 'Mom' to understand how her greed and lack of motherhood hurts you : "you served H-sis with a princess' birthday, while serving me an eviction notice and a tip for mine, as if i were your waitress in a restaurant. You've decided 17 years ago my father wasn't your husband, and so i wasn't your daughter, but an invading room-mate. Give this to the house cleaner, i'm done serving your public image's purposes."
    Fing Bible belt, the word is "love your neighbor as yourself", nowhere it is said "except if you want to cheat, you are greedy or just willing to destroy your family", and certainly not "hate your children if they are on the way to your undeserved money"
    Be the change you want for the world, take care of yourself and your beloved ones ! 👍❤🖖
    Edited for grammar

  • @joshguerrero8760
    @joshguerrero8760 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The mom is going to start cheating on the stepdad. She will find someone with money. Stepdad will end up broke

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well said. And then, the next with money will cheat on her, SHE'LL end up broke...and homeless; when that happens, she'll try to contact OP, and not only beg her to forgive her, but also to also take her in, but to no avail, because OP will move to another country, change her phone number, delete her social media accounts, and get a P.O. box, plus she'll have to ask her "golden child" to take her in. Karma will knock on her door, before she knows it.⚠️

  • @jemase7931
    @jemase7931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    At 18, OP can go live with the father.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Legally anyway.

    • @danacarter9147
      @danacarter9147 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Unfortunately, that's impossible, because the father lives in another country; OP should should go live with her friends, or boyfriend.

  • @margaretowens3524
    @margaretowens3524 ปีที่แล้ว

    Throwing your 18 year old out is not normal, your x-parents are toxic as hell!! Stay strong and don't give in to these people.

  • @whitehazegruntz250
    @whitehazegruntz250 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She never went no contact. She didn't block them or change her number
    Allowing them to text is still contact even if u dont reply. U atleast probably seen part of the messages

  • @oneuup2490
    @oneuup2490 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    1st story: what did you expect from two people that blew up their own family, a man that gave up his own kids to be with a woman that he was cheating with an expected her to give up her child, her cheating ALSO because he did?
    It is pretty pathetic how stupid people is thanking because that a new relationship with people that pulled this kind of stuff was going to be any different from their meaning the person that's being mistreated perspective.
    This is what Opie get for expecting more from people who are worth nothing.

  • @standinthegsp6858
    @standinthegsp6858 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    FYI: your mom is not conservative. If she was she wouldn’t have committed adultery, divorced your dad-breaking up TWO families, married her conspirator in adultery, allowed you to be treated how the adulterer treated you nor treated you that way herself.
    I hope both paternal & maternal grandparents stick to their guns about disinheriting her/them & no longer supporting them in any way.
    Have your dad recommend an attorney & get a will so they have no legal right to anything of yours. Also keep an eye on all your accounts/credit/ID etc... have all your electronic devises checked in case they have installed anything on them. Secure all your accounts, even if you have to change banks.

  • @elsadakota1021
    @elsadakota1021 ปีที่แล้ว

    True. Brother sucks, but you should’ve left her out of it. OR- he should’ve realized his house of glass and not left a pile of rocks nearby

  • @rongarrett1366
    @rongarrett1366 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    If a parent has a child with another person it is a half-sibling, not a step-sibling.

  • @chasefrost1401
    @chasefrost1401 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The last story, she could have come back with "I have something better than a job, passive income." That would've been far better.

  • @chasefrost1401
    @chasefrost1401 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's confusing when the first story op says stepsister instead of half sister.

    • @safespacebear
      @safespacebear 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Aye but in OPs case it seems fitting lol

    • @chasefrost1401
      @chasefrost1401 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah after processing it, I can see it really fits better than the proper title

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I see this mistake a lot and I'm beginning to think people are confused about it.

  • @franniefargo9454
    @franniefargo9454 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Big difference between a step sister and a half sister.

  • @unicornjennie
    @unicornjennie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    S2 NTA you didn't take the photo at the wedding your not obligated to take the photo down.

  • @LattePunch
    @LattePunch 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Whether you like your kid or not I can never understand these stories where the second their child smacks 18 they tell them to either pack their bags within 30 days, less then that, or that same day with zero prep.
    This is obviously something you had to have contemplated a long time ago. What is so hard with telling them the second they hit the legal working age of 15 or 16 that you want them to find a job cause you want them to pay rent or move by 18?
    Yes being an adult can have unexpected twists and turns which is why your whole job as a parent is to prep them not just give them 20 bucks then yeet them out the door at the last second.

  • @marcycollinshtd4life
    @marcycollinshtd4life 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    1st story, not your step bits your half sister

  • @Mrwillie95
    @Mrwillie95 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This aunt was acting like a 5 year old of wedding photo 🤦 story 2

  • @ravenfox926
    @ravenfox926 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    S1: I'd have left after opening that envelope, I'd have made alternate arrangements, packed my stuff, gone outside and told the egg donor and her affair partner that I HATED them and had for many years and that they were both pathetic, neglectful POS's. Of course this will result in mom now trying to contact OP now that she's been excommunicated. I'd have also have ripped that $20 up in front of them.

  • @ajb7530
    @ajb7530 ปีที่แล้ว

    1st story, OP, this is what you do. After you move out, go to college, get your dream career, find and marry your true love, become successful and have your own family. When you do this your mom will want to be at your wedding, see your kids, but don't let her. Just remove her and your step dad from your life. Live your best life.

  • @jemase7931
    @jemase7931 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Story 3. Mind your own business. Leave your SIL alone. The situations are different. The young wife has decided on her future path and is living it. You have no path and are just loungng around

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      So is the brother.

  • @bcase5328
    @bcase5328 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Get a job and a bank account solely in your name. Have your pay direct deposited into that account. You will need that money even with your grandparent's help. Guard yourself against trouble from your mom and stepfather.
    No, your mother and stepfather's behavior isn't normal for a loving family, but it is too common in an affair marriage. You didn't need to act like their behavior is something you should be fine with. Move on and live your best life you can as an adult.

  • @JeanyyBee
    @JeanyyBee ปีที่แล้ว

    What the hell did i just listen to

  • @gottathinkupanewone
    @gottathinkupanewone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Last story: OP, your brother may not WANT a wife to whom he has to relate as an equal. He frankly sounds like one of those guys who wants someone to whom he can condescend and look down on. He does it to you, so there's little doubt he'll also do it to her. Could it be that his earlier marriage failed for these very reasons?

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It is a possible "controlling" situation for him.

  • @jesperhjensen1978
    @jesperhjensen1978 ปีที่แล้ว

    1st story. The dad didnt have to work
    over seas, he chose to do that,that lame excuse might fly with a kid,but when you grow up,you find out he didnt have to work far away

  • @abubarrie88
    @abubarrie88 ปีที่แล้ว

    Lol love how her mom is sooo conservative but was not so conservative to have an affair with her boss and get pregnant. Lol

  • @DisneyChar
    @DisneyChar 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Nta. You dont sound greedy you sound abused.

  • @davidnash8208
    @davidnash8208 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish OP would get to the point, too much useless verbiage.

  • @freyasslain2203
    @freyasslain2203 ปีที่แล้ว

    I would like to see a darker version of this story . The O.P. returns to the house . Step-dad slips a roofie in the O.P.'s drink , and then he slits the O.P.'s throat . Runs her body through a meat saw . Grinds her body to a 1000 pieces and drops her remains into a trash dump .
    Parents collect 200,000 dollars in life insurance.

  • @SonicdaShapeshifter
    @SonicdaShapeshifter 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I have never heard someone pronounce Pikachu so badly. Are you really that unaware of POKEMON?

  • @ninaross211
    @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว

    YOU MUST BE EXTREMELY BEAUTIFUL ! ONLY YOU ! AUNT WANTS YOUR PICTURES DOWN

  • @karenturner7556
    @karenturner7556 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    St1 I thought you cut contact but you still interacting

  • @ninaross211
    @ninaross211 ปีที่แล้ว

    MAKING YOU KNOW YOU WERE UNLOVED & BEAR WITNESS 2 SPECIAL TREATMENT & LOVING GIRL 2 MOON 🌙 & BACK IS 4 ADULTHOOD ! MOTHER & DUDE. ONLY DAW YOU AS A CHECK ! ENJOYING WATCHING YOUR HEART ❤️. BEING BROKEN DAY AFTER DAY !!!!! MONTH AFTER MONTH !!!!!! YEAR AFTER YEAR !!!

  • @shadmtmtn1603
    @shadmtmtn1603 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 3 : you say you don't work, but you have a small business... I don't understand : does your business rolls all by itself ? If not, you are working ! Not hourly or salaried, of course, but you have to do whatever you have to, so as to keep your business from failing. It is work, imho, weither you gain a few bucks each month or a few thousands a day : you make efforts, and every effort deserves payement...
    Your call, of course, but don't underestimate the value of your time !
    That being said, if your brother thinks it is different because she leeches out of him while you live from your inheritance, well yes, there is a difference, she is a (future) soccer mom, while you know how to run a business and not being dependant of a sugar daddy...
    It wouldn't be a good idea to throw their truths in their faces, but you have to shut them down before their abuses go too far. They are the ones living on outdated principles. Think about low/no contact, will you ? 🖖

  • @w7100
    @w7100 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    s1: this story doesnt make a lick of sense, she knew a lot about what happened when she was less than 2, why would she not want a not want a 16th birthday? thinking it would make the 18th better? she cut contact completely but still know their reactions to stuff?
    S2: that wasn't really a story that was more of an anecdote really

  • @birdybanks5819
    @birdybanks5819 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    s1, Imagine the stepfather chomping at the bits for 16 years just to get rid of OP, who should go no contact with both.
    s2, The photo-taking situation needs better management. If the couple wants to be first to post, why are people such a-hole and steal that from them? Just post after they do.
    s3, I can see the 22-year-old sister-in-law leaving the controlling brother when she grows up.

    • @MrBeevee5
      @MrBeevee5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Why is posting first a thing? Not sure I understand the competition.

    • @birdybanks5819
      @birdybanks5819 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@MrBeevee5 Just like the baby's mother wants to be the first to post about the birth as opposed to other family members.
      This matters to many and iron curtains have come down on people who break this unwritten rule. In cases like that, let them post first. Why fight with the crazy.

  • @jostrad1352
    @jostrad1352 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Story 1. This is not normal in anyway. Sorry to say this but your mom is the type that just mimics her man behavior cause she can't be alone for some unknown reason that will only make sense to her. Unfortunately people like these never make good partners or parents let alone friends the problem with them is that they are so good at pretending to be good people that is really hard to know what you getting into.

  • @josephmclearwatertheprophe276
    @josephmclearwatertheprophe276 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    you are the AH, you are just jealous that your brother got a non-feminist wife and would rather love her husband than to compete for power and end up divorced...

  • @k70freeman
    @k70freeman 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Story 1 - MID YTA. The sister is his child unlike Op. you are not owed gifts. All they did was buy my cloths, food and etc. Op is full of shit. you know who really made of birthday bad ? it was Op. She could have had a party, BUT she told her friends to cancel it. the friends where probably going to buy her cake for the party. BUT she didn't want it. Op wanted the rich person to do it all. You get to make some BS logic. Op sense i didn't have a sweet 16 (by her choice), i get a bigger sweet 18. That is not a thing. oh yes because tenants don't only live for free but also have other roommates pay for food,clothes and etc /s. Just not expensive birthday parties, friends willing to do that for, get a ot gifts from other family members and friends, cloths, food shelter, and etc. The abuse /s. privileged abuse. they had nerve to deny op getting spoiled/s Reddit's logic - abused by not getting spoiled by being privileged, viewed as lesser than because of being privileged, evil, ist phoic and etc.

    • @arleneclark6369
      @arleneclark6369 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What about the mother though?? Both children are hers biologically, OP was only asking to be treated the same as the sister. I think OP is a boy hence his resemblance to the father, the stepfather didn't treat OP like crap because they weren't their biological child, they did it simply because of the resemblance to the bio father, if u don't want a stepchild that looks like their bio father, then maybe don't have an affair with a married woman. Mom and Stepdad are the AH'S

    • @k70freeman
      @k70freeman 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@arleneclark6369 The stepdad still bought he cloths, food and etc, when the bio father couldn't. The step father doesn't have to pay for lavish parties and big gifts. THings she is not owed. i noticed the Bio father did jack shit for Op's birthday. It 's the parents of the child. It's funny that a stepparent is only seen in the parental role. when he/she has a lot of money.

    • @lydiacraig4351
      @lydiacraig4351 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are only looking at this from face value. This person has been treated as an unwanted and unneeded burden there entire life by there entire family. They obviously don’t care if there stepdad and mom have money and it was explicitly stated that the father was living in another country , they never stated that they have ever even had a party during their 16th birthday, and there are many other contradictions to what you have said. You need to stop just seeing the surface of the story and look deeper