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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 มิ.ย. 2024
- In this video, I discuss why men don't approach women in 2024.
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“Just be like duke Dennis bro he’s funny & has charisma bro! Don’t matter if he’s good looking & tall it’s his aura!”
Haha auramaxxing!
coping
@@ascended266 Hey in your exp, can women tell you were a late bloomer who looksmaxxed into Chad? If the answer is yes, do they care? Or is the answer no, and most girls assume you’re a player? I ask because I’m a late bloomer myself and lost my v card at 23 and was wondering if women will overlook my inexperience (i prob won’t tell them that I lost my v card at 23 anyway) if I looksmaxx
@@dorikin333Man i face the same issue you do but in diferente age, i am 16 kisseless (i was sub five manlet), i was obese and now after leanmaxx and some jaw work (i am at least chadlite). I am Very bad with women, since they ALL rejected me when i was Younger, now i Just don't know to talk to them. I never flirted with a woman or something, most of them give me choosing signals (there were girls calling me hot in the middle of School), like i never passed the another stage, i never rizzed up a girl nor kisses and at my age by the way i look, most of them think i am experienced, but when i start talking... Do you have any tips for me? Basically i recive choosing signals, but i am scared How Will girls react If they know It is my First time (don't miss i got Halo effect)
@@guilalves tbh I’ll give you advice if a woman is throwing the pussy TAKE IT. I fumbled so Hard because dating is only gonna get harder tbh oofy doofy is law you might get lucky.
The #1 reason I don't approach is lack of opportunity. When out in public I simply don't encounter many women. When you do she has here earbuds in and is on her phone. People in general, not just women, think its weird for a stranger to talk to them. Been to a bar lately? everyone is there with their own friends and nobody talks to each other. I went to this coffee shop twice a week for 1 year. I had 3 conversations with women, got one number, one date, went nowhere. Total cost of this? $1200. Approaching is a meme in 2024
Yep, most people go places with their already existing social circle, and have no plans to meet and speak with new people.
@@renegade2325 so true. The boomers tells me " just smile at people". The reality is, when people are out and about, they are there to do something and leave ( pick up coffee, work, read, study). I do not think people really expect to just hang out and make small talk with total strangers. You either hang out with your friends, or you are there for a sole purpose and leave.
However, the idea that back in the youth of boomers, they did just go to places with the intention of making small talk with strangers is kind of cute. I suppose with how experimental the 1970s were, maybe people were more open to hanging out with strangers..... it was "far out man"
@@renegade2325 i remember the 90s, you could small talk with strangers for absolutely no reason (maybe because i was a kid). People don't talk anymore especially in the west.
@@warlord1207they only talk on social media
great points man, the risk reward is totally shifted! I like your perspective on the problem - rejection is one thing but shame is another
Thanks man! Agreed.
And this is why men are embracing artificial relationships
Im 6’6
I've been single for almost a year, and I absolutely dread reentering the modern dating market. It's a dark and chaotic abyss.
Yeah, it's definitely much more competitive than in the past.
It's been 7 years
@@fernandomescalito5307 been 10 years
@@ascended266 Yep. And the fact that 5's and 6's think they're 10's amplifies the issue.
Cold approaching in 2024 is done. Finished. As a matter of fact, it can be dangerous for men nowadays. Approaching when receiving positive signals is a different story though.
"Just get out there and approach more, bro."
Eh even choosing signals means fuck all anymore lol
@SartorialisticSavage65 Well, for certain guys it's worth it.
"Just be confident bro!"
ok tyrone keep slaying
@@SartorialisticSavage65 choosing signals aren't perfect but a much safer bet than say "shooting your shot" lol.
I have a pretty good looking friend, no job, lives with parents; and the last three women that I really wanted asked about him instead.
This is a great example of the black pill. Looks over everything.
@@renegade2853 as far as getting laid, going on dates, and starting relationships, it was easy. His last gf who he lived with he cheated on her. He said getting chicks was easier than writing papers in college.
I had “friends” who knew I don’t get chicks so one of them wanted me to try to get girls numbers at the mall they were laughing before I approached BRUTAL🤣
That's brutal! With friends like that, who needs enemies lol
stay away from this kind of shitty friends
I wonder if Jeremy Meeks ever needed to approach women in his life. He literally lives an entire different existence than a lot of us unattractive men. Based on his looks only
I know I’m a ugly guy myself
He probably never had to and women probably came to him in 95% of cases most likely.
i have never approached a woman but about 4 have approached me and im 15. but im just average looking with a good haircut and style i have prettybky appewl
One of my friends i met in HS was a textbook Chad.
I noticed he would get it thrown at him. Ex. He’d open snaps of girls sending unprompted bikini pics to seduce him.
I think he only had to put more work when the girl was very attractive/popular herself, safety concerns or the logistics were iffy.
The problem is the social stigma that rejection can create for a man.
Yeah, the social stigma could be brutal esp in high school.
there are countries out there, where it feels good to be rejected because it's done nicely.
There’s a difference between being rejected & being humiliated lol
Yeah, agreed!
Not really. It's no different than say a hiring manager saying "get lost creep, we don't want you here" or "we will let you know". Either way, you are clearly not wanted however you say it lmao.
@@mrtblackmann9874 I don’t care about not being wanted I know I’m ugly but laughing at me or treating me like shit before you ultimately tell me no is the issue.
@@mrtblackmann9874
If you’re Humilated from a polite rejection you just have a fragile ego
@@maenad1231 please read above thanks.
Even if men stopped approaching I highly doubt it will cause women to start approaching men for once
Yeah, very true!
They would explicit more interest tho
I don’t take rejection well. I believe in geomaxing because the competition is ridiculous. If you have to approach women then it is already over. If a woman had interest you wouldn’t even need to approach.
Agree with this. If a woman wants you, she'll let you know. PUAs know but don't tell that to their clients.
Most of them are narc enough to still demand that chad approaches lol
Not entirely, alot of women refuse to approach men as well.
@@suberon9173 in my experience is still true. They want a chad that has the enough masculine energy to still ask her out although she already has her eyes on him. Apart from looks, drive.
A filter of a filter if you will
@@gj9157you’re right. They refuse to approach nonchads who they are absolutely disgusted by, but they will always approach Chad. I’m surprise you guys still have hope. They are all hiding Chads and Tyrones in their closet.
I don't because of how I look (underbite) and when you approach you make yourself vulnerable and weak and I prefer that my intentions stay unclear.
Women are going to have to put their big girl pants on and blatantly express their interest in men because we're not going to risk being thrown in jail and lose everything for absolutely nothing.
Its very simple - if you are chad she will be flattered, if you are normie or sub5 she will claim harassment.
To an extent, this is true. For average looking guys that approach, it's mostly a quick chat but no attraction generated.
Great video really enjoyed it!!! Do you think men should cold approach or wait for choosing signals?
The 'labeled as creep' is one of the reasons why I was very 'overplanning' when approaching.
I knew subconsciously that enough approaches will label you as pushy and FUCKING HELL I HATED THAT FEELING 😢😢😢
1. I had a girl scream and run away from me in front of class.
2.I had a girl shoo me away in front of everyone at the bar.
3. Had two women just start laughing at the sight of me when I approached.
4. I returned a wallet to the owner. I was called a stalker because I looked at the address on her license.
Yeah even if you do get the number she still has options
Yeah definitely!
Bro listening to your voice calms me down and kinda gives me dopamine!
Ah too kind man! I appreciate that. I will be making a video on the voice halo effect soon.
Hey Ascended, ik that you went the hair transplant route and I saw your "Should You Get a Hair Transplant" video but I could use your and everyone else's advice? I started losing my hair in college (I'm in my late 20s rn) but started trimming it down to a buzz cut with a skin fade about 2 years ago. I'm at about a Nordwood 3.5 to 4, so at this point, do you think I can just start fully shaving my head completely (I don't have any bumps on my head, I have a decent full beard, and I'm somewhat lean/athletic fit. I'm at 16% BF but will be cutting down soon and I'm 5'10'' at 166Ibs so I "think" I can pull it off, especially when I lean out?) or should I look into taking Rogaine and finasteride (I'm just worried about the side effects). Also after watching that video, I do not want to pursue the hair transplant route.
Although, rejection can also give you the strength and will power to start changing all those things that might be holding you back. instead of complaining about not getting chicks
I got some numbers at the bar they all flaked the next day 😂 n I’d say I’m a decent looking guy with above average height
Brutal
Rejection is already bad enough on it's own, but dealing with HR rejecting/firing you all because some douchebag decided to get clout at your expense is even worse.
Yeah, that's true!
Love the dbdresque video thumbnails 🤣. Keep up the vids brother 👍
Thanks man! Lol
How do you overcome rejection instead of overthinking it?
0:40 - Not really. A rejection is a woman saying no. It doesn't _necessarily_ have anything to do with genes. It could be for any number of reasons. Yes, it _could_ come down to genes, but it could also be that she has her eyes on someone else instead, for example. And that could be for any number of reasons too.
I’m 5”7 but girls are looking for a 6”7 guy
broootal, im also 5,7
So, 0.02% of the male population
I can identify with your experiences approaching women as a sub five. Ive experienced on more than one occasion the same kind of rejection.
Potential legal problems, unpleasantness of rejection, potential social ridicule, and financial cost.
All very valid points!
Is that Malta at the beginning?
It's the Amalfi Coast in Italy!
I feel like you should improve your looks and get your online dating profile set up before you cold approach.
Agreed!
Great video man. But l guess all these above points, apart from getting humiliated, happens to Chads too.
But Chads get rejected far less.
Thanks Hunter! Yes, this is definitely true. I will be making your video suggestion soon on ghosting and being flaked on.
@@ascended266 yeah man thanks for remembering that. Mostly I wanted you to touch upon the fact that when you are going through a dating slump, suddenly your esteem drops and you feel kind of unwanted. How to deal with that
0:37 - 0:44 brutal
LOL
Agreed about dating apps. Most men complain about them but that’s because they don’t know what they’re doing. I’ve met many good women on them.
Cuz you're exactly what they want. Don't dismiss us.
I'm glad that you have had good experience with dating apps. I have as well and met some really good women/relationships.
lol
OR because they are not “good looking” lol. What “you do” and “how you do it” is cope. This has been proven time and time again your looks are what gets you results.
Spoken like a true out of touch neurotypical normie. You're good looking, that's why you get results.
Hey bro when women throw signals, is it conscious or subconcious????
Mostly subconscious but some women are conscious about giving signals.
The only way to get chicks at( least in high school) now is to have social media be decent height and just look good. It really sucks
Yeah, social media is so huge nowadays.
Yeah I don't approach when I go out because one of the guys that I hang out with keeps pointing it out! One night he saw me getting rejected 3 times in a row and he made a joke out of it. So I stopped approaching. Then few weeks later he points out that he never saw me getting with a girl... how am I supposed to pull without being rejected? Now I won't approach even when I get IOI, in case I fumble and he has more smart comments to make.
He has a girlfriend so he won't chat up girls himself. He keeps evaluating us lol.
It's really pissing me off now and I don't know what to do because I have no one else to go out with/approach with.
He is a great guy otherwise too I actually like him
I gave up on dating when i started to go bald. Have tried finasteride and other medications but didn't work for me in end. So i just buzzed my hair and stopped talking to women at all
Gotcha! Yeah, going bald was brutal for me but I hopped on Fin and it was effective for me.
Great advice except the part where you tell guys to “go for it” and approach women in public who look attractive. Absolutely do not do this unless you’re a Chad (8-10) OR she’s giving choosing signals-smiling at you and so on. Doing it out of nowhere is a waste of time and makes you a nuisance at best and a threat at worst.
If you really want to help yourself and your thinking, you gotta remember; at the end of the day the worst thing she can say is no 🤷♂️
It's truly over when u're first commenting
Over for first commentcels
@@ascended266Broooooootal
It's Joever, I'm Bidone
for sure
wassup with the name change
Tbh I always thought the name Chadlite was very cringy. I chose it because it matched my physical appearance and their were no channels named Chadlite but I always thought it was a narcissistic name. It's also cringy when people outside of the BP/RP/manosphere ask me my channel name and I respond by saying "Chadlite" lol
man i thought the name was cool lol @@ascended266
I can't take rejections ,i made less than 15 approaches in college.
defo had the small town creep rejection infact they get a thrill out of it.sorta like the villiage humiliation ritual thays why i want out of there.
I’m honestly scared of falling in love again and having sex because of past heartbreak, and sexual abuse.
I never really like approaching women
"Sometimes you need to make the first move."
So my parents and extended family end up high and dry when you sue the pants off of me for calling you the wrong word? No thanks I'd rather die alone, I dont care that I have undeniable proof that shes an angel, I worked to hard for my job I'm not about to have it taken away by the internet. When pigs fly.
i hear dogmaxxin or catmaxxin works wonders not sure that i believe that doe
no matter how rejection affect me or me being incel i will never sympathize with all of u because of ur looks/rejections nor i will ever join u period
What's your take on this underdog guy? th-cam.com/video/uyQDEAXL0bc/w-d-xo.html
I find it hard not to believe that he's definitely either massivesly embellishing the truth or straight up lying for views since his claims of getting frequently cold approached by women simply don't add up based on his overall phyisical attractiveness.
I think such lies could hurt a lot of young guys who take his claims to heart and assume that because they aren't getting regularly approached they must be ugly and decide to give up when the truth is everyone short of the top .001 aren't going to be regularly getting cold approached women while out in randpm public settings.
He also spreads the myth that having lots of haters = being attractive when at least my irl observations have been that there's a direct correlation between popularity and physical attractiveness.
I will check him out later!
One reason nobody will accept is that a man chooses not to approach. Also a man may have a couple adult children and doesn’t want anymore children. Most women I see giving hints and clues are at the baby rabies age. I steer way clear of that. Not interested.🤷🏻♂️🤷🏻
There are just a lot of good options besides dating as well. Video games of all kinds have never been this accessible to average people, and a lot of guys just enjoy discovering new things in general. Passport stuff has definitely made an impact. Like many men discover that they are much more valuable on a worldwide level(if you have the looks, etc). Lastly...most guys are in debt(but also women), and frankly, they don't want to pay for 80$(plus tip fee) and up dinners for a OF/IG model who is 2/10 but has armies of men(if we could call them that) who validate her every existence and has the self entitled attitude and intelligence of a suburban sink.
Passportbro stuff only tends to makes things worse because all it does is spread hookup nonsense elsewhere.
Most men don’t know this secret tip to getting any woman’s number that shows confidence & charisma. Here it goes: insult her about her appearance as a joke that shows you have confidence Fr most men would give nice compliments but your will be the different it works 80% of the time.
This sounds like PUA cope
@@Trynottoblink somewhat yeah funny enough it works for decent looking guys but sub5s you’ll just be put in your place.
It does work but still man those 20% still affects me. I'm scared nowadays cause I've already been falsely accused so I gave up cause I'm not going to prison for someone's lies
@@leonnaranjo8682 it’s funny you say that too cause someone will say “ah it’s a victim mentality brah don’t let that hold you back from spitting game” until you bring up how it almost fucked your life up. It’s not worth it nowadays man.
Man i downloaded three dating apps here in nz, alots of women there are still wating for chads there 26 and above, take note i made filter 19 to 45 and median age are 26 to 35. These are leftover women with epiphany phase. With alpha widow. The prediction o morgan stanley by 2030 45 percent of women will become single age 25-45
I always tell Normies or Sub 5 “Do not get personal with me” and they get the clue. Only Chads are acceptable. Money, muscle and high education are accessible but most men are lazy.
Maybe many of them do not have what it takes to get that
Show us your picture, are you a stacy?
@@josephcieplak8920 incel.
😂😂😂
Is that Italy? Along the coast in the summer time. It is a coomer's delight.
Yep! It's the Amalfi Coast in Italy!
Girls is scary (26Y M)
lmfao this shit has to be satire
@VergilClapsSuccubiCheeksstill stuck in the black pill basement dweller? 😂
Clubs&bars is the only way for normies and above
Cute girl approached me today. Asked me to take a picture of her and her friends. I had just gotten on the water and was still soaking wet. I told her no. She didn't bother asking anyone else and sulked off. I thought it was pretty funny but regret it now because she was cute and probably really sweet I just hate that she was indirect.
I don't like rejection
Yeah, rejection is brutal.
I've been single for 3 years
This guy is literally spitting garbage. Let me put you on some game, a women rejecting is not a personal attack, it can't be because she doesn't even know you. A women rejecting you can be anything from a bad day at work to her dog dying. Knowing how to talk to women with confidence in yourself and playing the numbers game balances all that out.
This has been the same since the test of time. I stopped approaching after getting rejected a million times because I figures out that since I'm below average I'll only get like 2 options in my entire lifetime. I'd rather sit and wait then embarrass myself over and over approaching chicks. That's way less stressful and I'm fine with that. Even when I see a hot chick out and about I just stop myself because I don't want to deal with the negative feedback, and I know every attempt fails bruh. Every girl I ever liked rejected me, and that's just not something I want to keep pursuing. At least know I'm in touch with reality that most men have zero options lmao. If all else fails I'll ask my parents for an arrange marriage bruh. Every time I'm out, I'm invisible to women, every time I approach It's automatic disinterest from women. So Now I really don't care.