Same! I had a tutor pushing me to do them when I was kid and I thought it was the dumbest thing. 20 years later, I’ve realised it truly is powerful lol
@@sweetdreams62728 There’s a lot to it, I think, but the main thing is you have to feel it. Just repeating sentences that you don’t have any positive emotions for won’t do anything, imo. When I first start with an affirmation for something, I use it almost more for analysis. I notice all my negative feelings around a sentence. Why do I not believe this sentence, and is it REALLY not true or is it just my lack of confidence? How could this sentence actually be true? I feel the feelings of it actually being true, and after a while it gets easier and easier to believe the sentence. Then usually I have to do some action based off that to prove to myself that it’s true, and by then I’m golden.
The problem with "I" affirmations is there's also another part of your mind (the Unconscious) that will say, "No You're Not". Because if you've never believed or done a specific task which requires you have the kind of self-confidence needed to achieve a specific task, your Unconscious will prove you wrong. The interesting thing about your mind is it cannot tell the difference between: what you're rehearsing and what you're practicing - it just recognizes patterns and repetition. And if you're investing a lot of time and emotion into what you're constantly repeating, (like self-loathing, self-hate, and etc.) it will give you that. It just recognizes you're rehearsing or practicing something in the moment, and it will gladly try to be helpful and assist with what you obviously want - not necessarily with good timing and that is really helpful to you. So what can you do? It's far better to use "You" than "I" because we normally don't refer to ourselves as (You), this also causes your unconscious mind to open itself to accept any new suggestions and new affirmations, while associating them to "You" - which it can't obviously disagree with. So rather than "I am self-confident" replace with "You are self-confident". "Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your (Unconscious) and even your body doesn't know the difference. Your words can shape your reality. Change the way you speak about yourself and you can learn to control your thoughts as possible as you want. And, what you're not changing, you're choosing; and you're also allowing yourself to believe it's true.
This is such useful info, thank u! So that’s why there are both “I am” and “You are” affirmation videos on TH-cam. I will choose the “you are” ones then :)
I agree, I started with “you” statements but now that I’ve developed a bit of confidence that I’ve never had in my life I feel great saying “I” statements now
Show me scientific evidence that there is such a thing as an “unconsciousness”, or a “consciousness” Like, if that works for you, then that is great, but everything you just said is babble. None of it has scientific backing based in research. We have a subjective experience of consciousness, but what it is, how it works is a mystery. So to speak of an “unconscious” is meaningless. If consciousness is a thing we don’t understand then it would be its shadow.
Yes! I was taught directly and indirectly my whole life that self love was bad because we need to be humble, when the truth is that true self love and self compassion gives you the ability to truly excel in every area of life because you are no longer looking, waiting and performing based on other's stamps of approval. You have your own back, and you are there to guide yourself through the tough times and lessons. Self love and compassion has been THE difference maker in my outlook on everything, including a DEEP love and genuine appreciation from others.
Ugh yes love this. I felt like I was dying earlier this year, super unmotivated and depressed, unemployed, could barely get out of bed. One of the things that helped me get up again were the self loving affirmations even when I wasn’t feeling it. It was like speaking to my inner child and soothing her bc no one else was going to do it but me.
Gods, this is so hard sometimes. Especially when there's so little you can control with certain things like how people feel about you despite everything you try to do to get better. Thanks, Anna. I'm gonna do this. I am successful, I can be even more successful, I'm charming and witty and smart and everything I wish to be and will be more as time goes on.
I was exactly the same a year ago. It was hard, but the hard was worth pushing through. You get stronger and stronger and you begin to truly believe you are enough. You'll make it ❤
Soooo perfectly said!!! Thank you for this. I’ve heard this a million times and yours may be the one that tips the scale! Thank you. I’ve been flooded with self doubt again recently and really need this reminded.
I’ve come to realize the opposite makes you mentally healthier and happier. Accepting who you are - your strength and your flaws make you whole. Self compassion. Being your authentic self.
Yeah. People who are all in on this concept are horrendous. They don't believe they can fail and they look down on you for "giving up" when there just isn't a solution to a problem yet. I'm disabled and no amount of believing I can do everything will change that. It's just not medically possible right now. And humans are super susceptible to confirm bias of wrong beliefs. She's basically brainwashing herself into believing in something that isn't true, and the deeper you go the harder your brain fights to prove what you believe
I recently have been aware of how POWERFUL our beliefs are and how they literally control our perception and brains. This is so amazing. thanks for the reminder.🙌🏽
this is very much needed, thank you so much. lacking confidence has always been a thing for me that has caused me so many problems and it destroyed me so much. i love this, the idea of self-affirming. and i think ive been coming closer and closer to getting better, and ive been growing. and i feel like im in a place where i can see thag this makes sense. i want to be more confident, i want to take care of myself and believe in myself. i want others to believe in themselves, take care of themselves, and become happier and stronger in themselves too. to try to keep going and believe in their strengths no matter what adversities they face
affirmations and things like these are legit conscious mind work 💯 I never realized that until I learned that being angry and sad are way much easier than staying realistically hopeful/positive despite adversity
Girl, you about to make me cry. I have a hard time doing affirmations because if I don't believe what I'm saying I'll look away from myself or start crying. It definitely shows where I need to build. But, you know...I still do it with tears in my eyes because I want to believe in myself. I will believe in myself. And I know I DO BELIEVE in myself because I'll never stop putting in the work for ME!
Thank you, had to watch this after I noticed most people in my office just speak to me any kind of way. And need to put this to an end. I will be respected
Believing in myself has always been my biggest problem lol^^ no matter what I achieved, it doesn‘t persuade me that I am capable of something … but I‘m working on it.. it’s good to be reminded of this.. might aswell start mirror work.
Damn this overwhelmed me I cried, I'm really depressed and finding the confidence to get up everyday is really hard but just those simple words ,"i can do it" are so meaningful when all my brain will do is tell myself otherwise
I used to be absolutely confident, but I went through a period in my life when huge and frequent failures started bombarding me, despite my confidence. I no longer believe I can do anything I set my mind to
For me it’s hard affirming while validating. I’m trying to believe that my pain and stress are real things but still believing that I’m capable even with my pain and stress.
The idea of having to be the best enforces, a belief that we are competing with each other and ourselves This mindset can put expectations that are difficult to keep up with and let you down when you don’t live up to it. As an alternative, you may look at anything as practice. The more practice you get think about the feelings that come along with it. You usually get better at whatever it is. And the anxiety that you felt from trying something new goes down because that action is no longer new. You may have made some new connections in the process and some new friends. Taking a look at the little things that show your progression over time. shows growth. So it’s not about being the best it’s about seeing that you overcame something that was difficult or seemed difficult at one time. And you don’t have to be perfect. That is true confidence.❤
Self-Affirmations can be life-changing for most people, if you make a pattern of repeating them to yourself, any time you face a challenge or a task that you're not 100% confident about. It should be noted that self-affirmations to build confidence toward success, is NOT the same thing as pride, arrogance, or ego (all of which are excess forms of an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities). The distinction is very clear... very black and white. Confidence says "I can do it and do it well... I got this!" Pride/Ego/Arrogance says "I can do this better than everyone else, I can do it easily, and I can do it without any preparation, research, or practice."
Every time I even begin to do this,I just feel the WORST like the shame of believing a lie gets worse with every new try,just feeling so obnoxious and entitled and icky and all the bad things I think of myself double and counter whatever I'm trying and I end up feeling so much worse
@@longsnoutpug7248 I am glad. 🌝Therapists may be well intended but dont know everything. No one knows you better than you. Not sure what your diagnoses is... but several great sources on you tube have been helpful for mr. Try some different ones out. I like one called crappy childhood fairy but there are many other really good ones. Healing is a lifelong journey with its ups and downs... things can be frustrating at times but be compassionate with yourself. And slways remember, ...you're not alone as we sometimes feel... you deserve healing and peace. Dont ever give up on yourself. ❣🌻🥂
Balance between harmony humbleness, daring competition towards the harsh conditions and allowing yourself to be content if loosing but learning lessons and experience is a skill.👋😐🤠✌️💪💀😁👍
I was resistant to this, and have always been overcritical of myself. 7 years ago, it finally occurred to me that affirmation (or mirror work, you call it?) is a way to self-hack your own cognitive biases -- specifically things like frequency bias, recency bias. Still working on internalizing this, making it reflexive. And for me, it helps and it has to go hand in hand with iterations of doing actual work, achieving small measurable milestones that provide a tangible basis for me to believe in my own further self-affirmation. (otherwise it's just building a castle in the clouds for myself)
To summarize: Be an actor & pretend 24/7 being self-confident. Bullshit. Be strong no matter whether you feel comfortable or not in a situation. It’s ok to feel unsecurity / fear / etc as long as you overcome this feeling’s.
I’ve been out of touch with this content, but it’s like coming back to an old friend. Catching up on the deeply introspective self improvement monologue of Anna. ❤
Being cautious about change, I once used the affirmation 'Life is a positive force in me and I welcome its flow'. Followed by three days of diarrhea. Clearly the Universe has a dark sense of humour.
Adversely, if someone keeps putting themselves down by constantly telling themselves "I can't do it...", "It's impossible...", "That' will never happen..." it will come to fruition. Personal affirimations is a two-way street and ultimately it is up to the individual which way it should go.
My affirmation is "I will survive this and grow from it because I will stand on the graves of those who would be pleased by my failures" This is my version of pettiness
I realllllly struggle with affirmations, I’ve been in the process of trying to believe them when I tell myself without feeling like a fraud and that im full of it 😅 slowly but surely!
Reminds me of Marissa Peers advice "Tell yourself a better lie". The negative self talk isn't necessarily true, so why not talk to yourself positively even if it isn't necessarily true, but you could make it come true. Also, about sports it's so true that confidence in sports is key.
I used to be sooo skeptical of things like affirmations, but man. Done properly, they really make THE difference in changing your life.
Same! I had a tutor pushing me to do them when I was kid and I thought it was the dumbest thing. 20 years later, I’ve realised it truly is powerful lol
😯 The self-affirmation that self-affirmations work, is what makes self-affirmations work.
@@chillaxTF hmmm… idk about that, weird way of putting it. Subconscious beliefs strongly dictate our reality seems better.
sorry, do you have some tips for doing them properly?.?
@@sweetdreams62728 There’s a lot to it, I think, but the main thing is you have to feel it. Just repeating sentences that you don’t have any positive emotions for won’t do anything, imo.
When I first start with an affirmation for something, I use it almost more for analysis. I notice all my negative feelings around a sentence. Why do I not believe this sentence, and is it REALLY not true or is it just my lack of confidence? How could this sentence actually be true? I feel the feelings of it actually being true, and after a while it gets easier and easier to believe the sentence.
Then usually I have to do some action based off that to prove to myself that it’s true, and by then I’m golden.
The problem with "I" affirmations is there's also another part of your mind (the Unconscious) that will say, "No You're Not". Because if you've never believed or done a specific task which requires you have the kind of self-confidence needed to achieve a specific task, your Unconscious will prove you wrong.
The interesting thing about your mind is it cannot tell the difference between: what you're rehearsing and what you're practicing - it just recognizes patterns and repetition. And if you're investing a lot of time and emotion into what you're constantly repeating, (like self-loathing, self-hate, and etc.) it will give you that. It just recognizes you're rehearsing or practicing something in the moment, and it will gladly try to be helpful and assist with what you obviously want - not necessarily with good timing and that is really helpful to you.
So what can you do? It's far better to use "You" than "I" because we normally don't refer to ourselves as (You), this also causes your unconscious mind to open itself to accept any new suggestions and new affirmations, while associating them to "You" - which it can't obviously disagree with.
So rather than "I am self-confident" replace with "You are self-confident".
"Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your (Unconscious) and even your body doesn't know the difference. Your words can shape your reality. Change the way you speak about yourself and you can learn to control your thoughts as possible as you want. And, what you're not changing, you're choosing; and you're also allowing yourself to believe it's true.
This is such useful info, thank u! So that’s why there are both “I am” and “You are” affirmation videos on TH-cam. I will choose the “you are” ones then :)
I agree, I started with “you” statements but now that I’ve developed a bit of confidence that I’ve never had in my life I feel great saying “I” statements now
Show me scientific evidence that there is such a thing as an “unconsciousness”, or a “consciousness”
Like, if that works for you, then that is great, but everything you just said is babble. None of it has scientific backing based in research.
We have a subjective experience of consciousness, but what it is, how it works is a mystery. So to speak of an “unconscious” is meaningless. If consciousness is a thing we don’t understand then it would be its shadow.
This is extremely useful. Thank you ❤
This is extremely useful, thank you so much,you is far better from my own experience
Yes! I was taught directly and indirectly my whole life that self love was bad because we need to be humble, when the truth is that true self love and self compassion gives you the ability to truly excel in every area of life because you are no longer looking, waiting and performing based on other's stamps of approval. You have your own back, and you are there to guide yourself through the tough times and lessons. Self love and compassion has been THE difference maker in my outlook on everything, including a DEEP love and genuine appreciation from others.
Absolutely needed to hear this right now 😫🙌🏾
Ditto
Same here
Ugh yes love this. I felt like I was dying earlier this year, super unmotivated and depressed, unemployed, could barely get out of bed. One of the things that helped me get up again were the self loving affirmations even when I wasn’t feeling it. It was like speaking to my inner child and soothing her bc no one else was going to do it but me.
we have to be it for ourself
I hope things are much better for you now❤
Gods, this is so hard sometimes. Especially when there's so little you can control with certain things like how people feel about you despite everything you try to do to get better.
Thanks, Anna. I'm gonna do this. I am successful, I can be even more successful, I'm charming and witty and smart and everything I wish to be and will be more as time goes on.
All the best!
I was exactly the same a year ago. It was hard, but the hard was worth pushing through. You get stronger and stronger and you begin to truly believe you are enough. You'll make it ❤
yes you are
Hell yeah!!! Fun fact: I’m an immensely talented artist destined to succeed no matter what’s thrown at me
“It’s just what I do” 💁🏻♀️ I love that lol
Hell yes!!
Soooo perfectly said!!! Thank you for this. I’ve heard this a million times and yours may be the one that tips the scale! Thank you. I’ve been flooded with self doubt again recently and really need this reminded.
I’ve come to realize the opposite makes you mentally healthier and happier. Accepting who you are - your strength and your flaws make you whole. Self compassion. Being your authentic self.
Yeah. People who are all in on this concept are horrendous. They don't believe they can fail and they look down on you for "giving up" when there just isn't a solution to a problem yet. I'm disabled and no amount of believing I can do everything will change that. It's just not medically possible right now. And humans are super susceptible to confirm bias of wrong beliefs. She's basically brainwashing herself into believing in something that isn't true, and the deeper you go the harder your brain fights to prove what you believe
I agree but I wouldn't say its the opposite at all. Affirming oneself is a step toward accepting yourself, "flaws" and all
Yeah nah these aren't opposites at all, they're actually inextricably intertwined
You have really really come into your own these last couple years. In awe, tbh. Thanks for sharing some power.
Tears.
Thank you for this.
I recently have been aware of how POWERFUL our beliefs are and how they literally control our perception and brains. This is so amazing. thanks for the reminder.🙌🏽
this is very much needed, thank you so much. lacking confidence has always been a thing for me that has caused me so many problems and it destroyed me so much. i love this, the idea of self-affirming. and i think ive been coming closer and closer to getting better, and ive been growing. and i feel like im in a place where i can see thag this makes sense. i want to be more confident, i want to take care of myself and believe in myself. i want others to believe in themselves, take care of themselves, and become happier and stronger in themselves too. to try to keep going and believe in their strengths no matter what adversities they face
I was just asking the universe from a positive word because my confidence has been taking a hit. Thank you for sharing❤
affirmations and things like these are legit conscious mind work 💯 I never realized that until I learned that being angry and sad are way much easier than staying realistically hopeful/positive despite adversity
Have Been Working On My Flow State Too !!!!
God Bless Your Beautiful, Precious Soul 🙏💗🙏💗
Girl, you about to make me cry.
I have a hard time doing affirmations because if I don't believe what I'm saying I'll look away from myself or start crying.
It definitely shows where I need to build.
But, you know...I still do it with tears in my eyes because I want to believe in myself.
I will believe in myself.
And I know I DO BELIEVE in myself because I'll never stop putting in the work for ME!
Thank you, had to watch this after I noticed most people in my office just speak to me any kind of way. And need to put this to an end. I will be respected
Yes, self confidence is good. One thing some people must be wary of though is not improving and instead telling themselves they are already perfect
Thank you for this, I also believe that affirmations can be life changing.
Believing in myself has always been my biggest problem lol^^ no matter what I achieved, it doesn‘t persuade me that I am capable of something … but I‘m working on it.. it’s good to be reminded of this.. might aswell start mirror work.
I needed to hear this for a while now - thank you so much ❤❤❤❤❤
Damn this overwhelmed me I cried, I'm really depressed and finding the confidence to get up everyday is really hard but just those simple words ,"i can do it" are so meaningful when all my brain will do is tell myself otherwise
Truth here. Positive self talk is powerful. Just be humble with others.
Thank you, your testimony has moved me to try it
I love this ted talk. At a time, I was listening it every day ✨☺️
Thanks Anna! You are brilliant and so am I.
Thank you for this reminder
AMEN !!!, " i have brilliant dbt coping skills " aka reduce stress, emotion regulating..
THANK YOU ANA AKANA.. 👏🏻👏🏻🎉🎉
I used to be absolutely confident, but I went through a period in my life when huge and frequent failures started bombarding me, despite my confidence. I no longer believe I can do anything I set my mind to
True, the sound you make determines the outcome
But why are you so amazing? Thank you SERIOUSLY! Most people don’t share these secrets/tips! Thank youuuuu
You don't know how much I need it, I love you so much.❤
I'm ready for this now.. I've had to reduce shame, help regulate my nervous system, affirm my needs first.
I agree with this and thank you for reminding me once again...
Uuu rrr pretttyyy sooo prettyyy❤
Absolutely!!!
Thanks for sharing this 💐
Wow I definitely needed to hear that ❤😢
Yes, always be positive is the best way to help ❤❤💙💙
For me it’s hard affirming while validating. I’m trying to believe that my pain and stress are real things but still believing that I’m capable even with my pain and stress.
The idea of having to be the best enforces, a belief that we are competing with each other and ourselves This mindset can put expectations that are difficult to keep up with and let you down when you don’t live up to it.
As an alternative, you may look at anything as practice. The more practice you get think about the feelings that come along with it. You usually get better at whatever it is. And the anxiety that you felt from trying something new goes down because that action is no longer new. You may have made some new connections in the process and some new friends. Taking a look at the little things that show your progression over time. shows growth. So it’s not about being the best it’s about seeing that you overcame something that was difficult or seemed difficult at one time. And you don’t have to be perfect. That is true confidence.❤
I love these shorts. Very good advice
Thank you!! These are really wise words!
Self-Affirmations can be life-changing for most people, if you make a pattern of repeating them to yourself, any time you face a challenge or a task that you're not 100% confident about.
It should be noted that self-affirmations to build confidence toward success, is NOT the same thing as pride, arrogance, or ego (all of which are excess forms of an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities).
The distinction is very clear... very black and white.
Confidence says "I can do it and do it well... I got this!"
Pride/Ego/Arrogance says "I can do this better than everyone else, I can do it easily, and I can do it without any preparation, research, or practice."
Every time I even begin to do this,I just feel the WORST like the shame of believing a lie gets worse with every new try,just feeling so obnoxious and entitled and icky and all the bad things I think of myself double and counter whatever I'm trying and I end up feeling so much worse
You are encountering resistance. Thats normal. Keep affirming yourself consistently and the backlash will weaken when you dont give it attention.
@@PerseWilder Ayo you just gave me better advice than my therapists 😂
@@longsnoutpug7248 I am glad. 🌝Therapists may be well intended but dont know everything. No one knows you better than you. Not sure what your diagnoses is... but several great sources on you tube have been helpful for mr.
Try some different ones out. I like one called crappy childhood fairy but there are many other really good ones. Healing is a lifelong journey with its ups and downs... things can be frustrating at times but be compassionate with yourself. And slways remember, ...you're not alone as we sometimes feel... you deserve healing and peace. Dont ever give up on yourself. ❣🌻🥂
Ahhh, so she discovered the reality of the subconscious mind - and how to properly program it?
Kudos!
Balance between harmony humbleness, daring competition towards the harsh conditions and allowing yourself to be content if loosing but learning lessons and experience is a skill.👋😐🤠✌️💪💀😁👍
So well said Anna!!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
This channel is a blessing
Thanks for this Anna I really needed this ❤️
Girl you're literally amazing....you're a perfectionist i can tell....please be aware....all i see in you is perfection 😘
Thank you for this message. Needed it.
I’m sorry but YOUR GORGEOUS OMG LIKE IDK HOW YOU LOOK THIS GOOOOOOD
you're*
good grammar is hot
I love Anna so much especially when she makes this kind of videos
I was resistant to this, and have always been overcritical of myself. 7 years ago, it finally occurred to me that affirmation (or mirror work, you call it?) is a way to self-hack your own cognitive biases -- specifically things like frequency bias, recency bias.
Still working on internalizing this, making it reflexive. And for me, it helps and it has to go hand in hand with iterations of doing actual work, achieving small measurable milestones that provide a tangible basis for me to believe in my own further self-affirmation. (otherwise it's just building a castle in the clouds for myself)
You are ooooh!!!! phenomenal and gorgeous very smart and strong!
Thank you for this! Great advice!
I needed to hear this. So much. I just wished I was able to hear such amazing advice when I was younger.
Just the message I needed today, thanks :)
Anna I needed this. Love you thanks!
Gold!! I think i saw that Ted talk, but you've just reminded me of it and given me the best little summary and take-away. Thanks.
Which one is it?
Omg thank you much ma'am for giving me courage again
Wow watta look i Love it!!! ❤
To summarize: Be an actor & pretend 24/7 being self-confident. Bullshit. Be strong no matter whether you feel comfortable or not in a situation. It’s ok to feel unsecurity / fear / etc as long as you overcome this feeling’s.
Thank you for this message
I’ve been out of touch with this content, but it’s like coming back to an old friend. Catching up on the deeply introspective self improvement monologue of Anna. ❤
I needed this at this right moment.
Thank you Anna, I needed that! 😢
Thank you so much for sharing this!!
i love those shorts thank you for it ❤❤❤❤❤
Damn I needed this, thank you for sharing ❤
I love your videos, thank you!!
Well, DUH Anna! What makes you think you are NOT?! You are a brilliant and creative person!
Honestly so moving rn i really needed this
I for one def always come on top. Tyvm
Thank for you introducing me to this! I've been doing more research about it and decided to ultimately try it out! You're amazing Anna!
Needed this!!! Thanks Anna ❤
Omg!! This was so motivational!
You can effing do it, self. I believe in you!
Being cautious about change, I once used the affirmation 'Life is a positive force in me and I welcome its flow'.
Followed by three days of diarrhea.
Clearly the Universe has a dark sense of humour.
Goddd this hair color looks perfect on you
Adversely, if someone keeps putting themselves down by constantly telling themselves "I can't do it...", "It's impossible...", "That' will never happen..." it will come to fruition. Personal affirimations is a two-way street and ultimately it is up to the individual which way it should go.
so happy to see something a bit, so life goes on 😉
I needed to hear this. Thank you
I am so good at making people read what I write. You are literally reading it right now.
Hahaha
You are very good indeed.
Literally believe it Literally
A person who can think critically will have the confidence to hold on to uncertainty.
My affirmation is "I will survive this and grow from it because I will stand on the graves of those who would be pleased by my failures"
This is my version of pettiness
The hoodie 😭 I found out today you did a voice in Oni, I love that show so much!! Also great point about self affirmation
I needed this. Like... right now more than ever.
“They will come on top”
My filthy brain: *oh myyyy* 😏
I needed this ❤love you
Your recent photo collection is so lovely. Loved the cheeks! Thank you
I love this! ❤✨✨✨
this ACTUALLY helped me 😦
I realllllly struggle with affirmations, I’ve been in the process of trying to believe them when I tell myself without feeling like a fraud and that im full of it 😅 slowly but surely!
Belief in yourself is everything
Almost like having faith in yourself. With a little faith you can move mountains.
Love this. Thanks Anna!
Reminds me of Marissa Peers advice "Tell yourself a better lie". The negative self talk isn't necessarily true, so why not talk to yourself positively even if it isn't necessarily true, but you could make it come true.
Also, about sports it's so true that confidence in sports is key.
Sounds like the philosophy of blue lock.