AMA question - what kinda things do you guys fight about? both of you seem so well-adjusted, so it's hard to imagine the issues that can crop up that turn into fights
Happy anniversary!! I really enjoy watching your vlogs!! Watching em give me hope that romance isn’t dead and it’s possible to find love 🥹 Anyway, some questions for the AMA: 1. How do y’all know that your partner’s the one for y’all? 2. Throughout the 15 years, do y’all have thoughts of exploring outside the relationship? 3. Did y’all ever experience the 7th year itch? 4. Was there ever a point in your relationship y’all feel like y’all outgrow each other? If yes, how did y’all navigate through that?
Hi John & Pat, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! This question is directed at John. As an entrepreneur, you navigate through many challenges, including the daily operations and financial stresses. How do you manage to set aside quality time for Pat, even with the demands of your business constantly looming?
Hi Pat and Jon! I love watching you both and would like to know how u both settle finances as a couple for eg for renovation, household expenses, utilities and groceries, how did u all decide who pay for what
AMA: some people might say a marriage is not just between two person but two families. Are there any stories on differing family culture and how did you guys overcome them together?
Happy anniversary!!! I Love watching the content put out by y'all on this channel! For some context for my question, I have been following your content on real talk for awhile and i remembered john mentioning the differences in religion at the start of your relationship. AMA: 1) How did you guys navigate the issue of differing religion in the earlier stages of your relationship? 2) How did your family reacted to it? (Converting to a different faith)
Happy Anniversary!! So sweet of Pat to surprise John. During my hub’s tough time at work, i popped by his office during lunchtime but he was like “y u come all the way? I dont have much time for lunch. Dont waste transport $.” 😒 But i know he appreciated it 🤭 It’s true that small simple celebrations are still essential n more sustainable in a rs. We shouldnt take each other for granted. I always tell my hub i wana leave before him (of course not something we can control) so ya, show each other that u appreciate each other everyday ❤️
Oh ya i forgot to add too that the florist at Tiong Bahru market, @natureharvestfloral also does bouquets according to budget n the young lady boss is very pleasant so another option to go for beautiful flowers!
AMA: The two of you have been together for so long already but are still behaving like you guys are in your honeymoon phase. Is this genuinely how your relationship still is at this point or are most other relationships not normal when as the couple spend more time together the relationship somewhat settles into a more "comfortable" phase where there is no longer a need to meet everyday, call each other everyday etc
Hello! We are definitely not doing it for the gram luh. I feel that every relationship is different. I am just a bit more sticky and became very comfortable with John. So much that i need to see him everyday and be connected. I do have girlfriends who dont find the need to meet or call their bf everyday too. So everyone's different eh. - Pat
AMA: how do you set boundaries with your own/each other's friends of the opposite sex, and are there specific boundaries that y'all crossed previously which you weren't aware of?
AMA: 1. What is one advice that you will give to married couples? 2. How do you know if each other was the one? And when? Happy Anniversary btw!! Really like your contents and sharing ❤
Hello John, I always feel intrigued by your amazing videos, you guys are good role models for people trying to maintain a healthy & harmonious relationship with their spouse. 😊
Something that I ask many ppl around me, AMA question: which scenario would you forgive your spouse for? Have to choose either 1. Physical Affair (only xxx and no emotions involved), Emotional Affair (no xxx but emotionally involved) In both scenarios, spouse confesses and ask for forgiveness. Which would you forgive and accept
Were there any differing values between the both of you and your parents? What were some challenges that you guys have with your in-laws that were overcame or still in the process of resolving?
How do u know if ur partner is the one for you?? Sometimes I find that he's not as capable as I am but in every other aspect he treats me really well Would also appreciate some ldr tips!!
No la, too capable also got problem ah, i think the intellectually smart people are manipulative leh from personal experience, is abit intimidating, but i get what you mean.
AMA what is the format of your make up quarrel for filming sop ? cos somewhere in the last vid both of you brought up some vaild points. This is much more for couples who have couple social media .
happy anniversary 🎉 ama question (not sure if it’s been asked already) - people always say we should date more when we’re younger to explore what we like/dislike/ appreciate in a partner. For both of you who have been committed to each other for so long, what do yall think about this? Did either of you ever feel like you could find something better with someone else or that you’re missing out the opportunity to explore with other people ? 🤔
Hello, thank you for the question. For me, I've dated a few guys to know John is the one when we were a few years into the relationship. But John only had 1 other gf before me. I dont think either of us felt like we were missing out because we really enjoyed each other's company and cannot imagine life without each other. -Pat
Hello! Hmmmm. We don't always have things to do luh. Work takes up a lot of our time during the week. So we do enjoy weekends lazing around the house doing our own things. John is a fun guy to be around even when we are doing nothing. :) - Pat
Hello! This one hard. Both of jobs not that interesting leh. A day in John's life will be meetings after meetings. Hahahha! While mine, I will just be on the computer. :D - Pat
AMA: 1) How do y’all manage your finances! 2) How do you guys see your future ie retirement? Do y’all want to spend your later years in the same way or do y’all have conflicting wishes? And happy 15th anniversary!!! 💖
Happy anniversary!! Q: Has there been a situation where Pat may be tired of guiding/teaching John how to love her in her way (like layaning her phone calls every night, surprises etc)? Is that something John learnt himself from friends/family/online? How did you guys commit to Pat being patient and John being willing to learn?
Interesting to see both of you love languages, Pat is someone who uses gifts - to please the partner - Jon's love language is food, and words of assurance. I really respect both of you, i don't think i can last that long with anyone hahahah - how do you handle both of your mental health issues as a couple? Especially since Jon is an entrepreneur, i am pretty sure along the way there are ups and downs - how do you both navigate the mental health challenges, cause you both too zen already.
This is not really an AMA comment, but, I just hope to see you guys do well IRL. Based on the trends, for couples to do YT channels/videos of their lives, there has been more sad stories than successful ones. So when I first heard you guys started a channel, I was worried for you guys. Hope the channel will make you guys grow deeper and ignore all the negativity!
Honestly, we were a bit apprehensive at first too. But we told ourselves that we will stop if this channel starts to strain us instead of enrich us. So far we still having fun luh. Thank you for your support! - Pat
Happy anniversary! 1) 15 years on, do you find you need to put in more effort to be loving and romantic, or is it still as easy as it was back in the day? 2) What are both of you doing from a personal finance (investing, insurance, budgeting) standpoint? Has it changed over time or has being together since secondary school helped keep it fairly consistent all this time?
Hello! We will usually try to talk it out. But if we cannot resolve, then we will give each other space and wait out a bit (cool down) before we hash it out again. Not to the extent of cold war (a bit hard since we staying together) luh. Communication is very important. - Pat
What I like about them is that the girl also returns the favor and do the same to guys, what the guy do for her. Like even proposed to him ! Wow…Most ladies I know expects the guy to do all the work like buying flowers etc .. but never do for the guy.
AMA Question: Actually after Pat rejected you and flew off, your heart nv die meh? Like what was your state of mind then, and when she sort of came back, you got play hard to get a not ~
LOL!!! it's ok la, pat too chio liao~@@JOHNPATCROSS last question, can talk about how you managed to get to where you are now or maybe get into being a business owner from always being broke. The social mobility story would be inspirational to people without "direct access" to opportunities. Also kpo from my end, always being a salaryman... never really dared or want to be an owner
AMA Question: Any advice for a 32yo male who is evergreen and is struggling to find a gf/partner and has been going on countless of first dates only to be friendzoned right after?
We did Engaged Encounter which is a mandatory workshop of sorts for catholics. You literally have to do this before you can get married in church. We both found it to be super exhuasting and important. Its like 1% religious and 99% marraige prep course.
AMA question - what kinda things do you guys fight about? both of you seem so well-adjusted, so it's hard to imagine the issues that can crop up that turn into fights
Happy anniversary!! I really enjoy watching your vlogs!! Watching em give me hope that romance isn’t dead and it’s possible to find love 🥹
Anyway, some questions for the AMA:
1. How do y’all know that your partner’s the one for y’all?
2. Throughout the 15 years, do y’all have thoughts of exploring outside the relationship?
3. Did y’all ever experience the 7th year itch?
4. Was there ever a point in your relationship y’all feel like y’all outgrow each other? If yes, how did y’all navigate through that?
Hi John & Pat,
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! This question is directed at John. As an entrepreneur, you navigate through many challenges, including the daily operations and financial stresses. How do you manage to set aside quality time for Pat, even with the demands of your business constantly looming?
i love pat's energy! really - how do u keep so hyped up so energized so motivated ?
Hello! Thank you! I try my best luh. I am learning to find joy in everything I do. No joy = dont do. Hahaha!
- Pat
Hi Pat and Jon! I love watching you both and would like to know how u both settle finances as a couple for eg for renovation, household expenses, utilities and groceries, how did u all decide who pay for what
AMA: some people might say a marriage is not just between two person but two families. Are there any stories on differing family culture and how did you guys overcome them together?
Happy anniversary!!! I Love watching the content put out by y'all on this channel!
For some context for my question, I have been following your content on real talk for awhile and i remembered john mentioning the differences in religion at the start of your relationship.
AMA: 1) How did you guys navigate the issue of differing religion in the earlier stages of your relationship?
2) How did your family reacted to it? (Converting to a different faith)
Happy Anniversary!! So sweet of Pat to surprise John. During my hub’s tough time at work, i popped by his office during lunchtime but he was like “y u come all the way? I dont have much time for lunch. Dont waste transport $.” 😒 But i know he appreciated it 🤭 It’s true that small simple celebrations are still essential n more sustainable in a rs. We shouldnt take each other for granted. I always tell my hub i wana leave before him (of course not something we can control) so ya, show each other that u appreciate each other everyday ❤️
Thank you! I’m sure deep down, he’s very touched luh. Just didn’t want to trouble you. But you’re so sweet! Effort is 💯
- Pat
Oh ya i forgot to add too that the florist at Tiong Bahru market, @natureharvestfloral also does bouquets according to budget n the young lady boss is very pleasant so another option to go for beautiful flowers!
AMA: The two of you have been together for so long already but are still behaving like you guys are in your honeymoon phase. Is this genuinely how your relationship still is at this point or are most other relationships not normal when as the couple spend more time together the relationship somewhat settles into a more "comfortable" phase where there is no longer a need to meet everyday, call each other everyday etc
Hello! We are definitely not doing it for the gram luh. I feel that every relationship is different. I am just a bit more sticky and became very comfortable with John. So much that i need to see him everyday and be connected. I do have girlfriends who dont find the need to meet or call their bf everyday too. So everyone's different eh.
- Pat
Pat is the cutest! I love that you guys are doing this couple channel!
Happy anniversary Jon n Pat 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
AMA: how do you set boundaries with your own/each other's friends of the opposite sex, and are there specific boundaries that y'all crossed previously which you weren't aware of?
love the reflected inputssss :)!
AMA:
1. What is one advice that you will give to married couples?
2. How do you know if each other was the one? And when?
Happy Anniversary btw!! Really like your contents and sharing ❤
Hello John, I always feel intrigued by your amazing videos, you guys are good role models for people trying to maintain a healthy & harmonious relationship with their spouse. 😊
Something that I ask many ppl around me,
AMA question: which scenario would you forgive your spouse for? Have to choose either 1.
Physical Affair (only xxx and no emotions involved), Emotional Affair (no xxx but emotionally involved)
In both scenarios, spouse confesses and ask for forgiveness. Which would you forgive and accept
Were there any differing values between the both of you and your parents? What were some challenges that you guys have with your in-laws that were overcame or still in the process of resolving?
How do u know if ur partner is the one for you?? Sometimes I find that he's not as capable as I am but in every other aspect he treats me really well
Would also appreciate some ldr tips!!
No la, too capable also got problem ah, i think the intellectually smart people are manipulative leh from personal experience, is abit intimidating, but i get what you mean.
happy anniversary !! ❤ AMA: what’s ur love language? ; hugs or kisses?
AMA what is the format of your make up quarrel for filming sop ?
cos somewhere in the last vid both of you brought up some vaild points.
This is much more for couples who have couple social media .
happy anniversary 🎉 ama question (not sure if it’s been asked already) - people always say we should date more when we’re younger to explore what we like/dislike/ appreciate in a partner. For both of you who have been committed to each other for so long, what do yall think about this? Did either of you ever feel like you could find something better with someone else or that you’re missing out the opportunity to explore with other people ? 🤔
Hello, thank you for the question. For me, I've dated a few guys to know John is the one when we were a few years into the relationship. But John only had 1 other gf before me. I dont think either of us felt like we were missing out because we really enjoyed each other's company and cannot imagine life without each other.
-Pat
happy anniversary 🥳🥰 lovely couple🫶🏻
Thank you!! 😊
Thks Jon and Pat for this very good video. 👍👍👍
Thank you! :)
Where is your loungewear from? Looks so comfy!
Uniqlo!!
AMA: I am very curious how do u not get bored of each other or run out of things to do tgt? And have u guys gotten bored of each other before?
Hello! Hmmmm. We don't always have things to do luh. Work takes up a lot of our time during the week. So we do enjoy weekends lazing around the house doing our own things. John is a fun guy to be around even when we are doing nothing. :)
- Pat
Fun vlog. Wonder if can do like : A day in the life of ‘job type’. Or a day without driving?
Hello! This one hard. Both of jobs not that interesting leh. A day in John's life will be meetings after meetings. Hahahha! While mine, I will just be on the computer. :D
- Pat
AMA: 1) How do y’all manage your finances!
2) How do you guys see your future ie retirement? Do y’all want to spend your later years in the same way or do y’all have conflicting wishes?
And happy 15th anniversary!!! 💖
Happy Anniversary guys~
Happy anniversary!!
Q: Has there been a situation where Pat may be tired of guiding/teaching John how to love her in her way (like layaning her phone calls every night, surprises etc)? Is that something John learnt himself from friends/family/online? How did you guys commit to Pat being patient and John being willing to learn?
Bro. I everynight layan alrdy. Hahahahah
- John
Interesting to see both of you love languages, Pat is someone who uses gifts - to please the partner - Jon's love language is food, and words of assurance.
I really respect both of you, i don't think i can last that long with anyone hahahah -
how do you handle both of your mental health issues as a couple? Especially since Jon is an entrepreneur, i am pretty sure along the way there are ups and downs - how do you both navigate the mental health challenges, cause you both too zen already.
Hello! I'm sure you will one day find someone to last long with! Have faith!
- Pat
This is not really an AMA comment, but, I just hope to see you guys do well IRL.
Based on the trends, for couples to do YT channels/videos of their lives, there has been more sad stories than successful ones.
So when I first heard you guys started a channel, I was worried for you guys.
Hope the channel will make you guys grow deeper and ignore all the negativity!
Honestly, we were a bit apprehensive at first too. But we told ourselves that we will stop if this channel starts to strain us instead of enrich us. So far we still having fun luh. Thank you for your support!
- Pat
How did yall power through NS
AMA: How do y’all keep the sparks going for so long?
Lovely couple! Love ur vlog very much!❤
Thank you so much! 🙏🏼
where to go for flower? john can share here? good and cheap ones.
Happy anniversary!!!
Thank you!
When is it the time to ask your crush out on a date after knowing them?
Will there be a fan makan/recreation sports session?
Hello! Wa this could be an idea! 💡
- Pat
Happy Anniversary!!! Really love ur vlogs very much! ❤
AMA:
1. Do yall find the need to update each other very often? (when living apart)
Yes! Hahahahah. But John doesn't. :(
- Pat
AMA question - for Pat do you use Dr Secret’s for the glowing glass skin? 😊 Happy Anniversary 🎉
Happy anniversary!
1) 15 years on, do you find you need to put in more effort to be loving and romantic, or is it still as easy as it was back in the day?
2) What are both of you doing from a personal finance (investing, insurance, budgeting) standpoint? Has it changed over time or has being together since secondary school helped keep it fairly consistent all this time?
We answered this question on the next episode! Dropping this sunday!
AMA : (to answer separately by John & Pat) - Name your favourite singer/bands
Waaaa. I think my fav singer is Adele. Band will be My Chemical Romance.
- Pat
AMA - how do you manage finance as a couple
We answered this question on the next episode! Dropping this sunday!
Singapore is very dry and humid - Pat
HAHAHAHAHA OMG IS IT I SAY WRONG?! 🫢 More like humid luh right 😆
- Pat
Will you keep a pet (dog cat rabbit?) as a child?
I think having a pet is high commitment. We both have quite busy schedules so I think better not.
- Pat
Please let me know what’s your solution to re apply sunblock through the day under makeup because I have THE EXACT SAME QUESTION
I also want to know! Hahahahah!
- Pat
John hair look like he wearing cap. The visor like macam on point only.
AMA
1 How do you handle your finances as a couple?
2 If you could do anything within the last 15 years cdifferently, what would that be?
AMA: Is Pat Catholic/Christian as well?
I wasn't born a Catholic. I converted 6 years after dating John.
- Pat
AMA: how do you guys settle/handle after a fight? My partner is someone who avoids and cold War, but I am someone who wants to talk it out.
Hello! We will usually try to talk it out. But if we cannot resolve, then we will give each other space and wait out a bit (cool down) before we hash it out again. Not to the extent of cold war (a bit hard since we staying together) luh. Communication is very important.
- Pat
Can u share ur experience on going through ns as a couple? Help a navy nsf gf out 😢
We covered this in our AMA! Should be out soon! :)
- Pat
❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
What I like about them is that the girl also returns the favor and do the same to guys, what the guy do for her. Like even proposed to him ! Wow…Most ladies I know expects the guy to do all the work like buying flowers etc .. but never do for the guy.
Must be fair luh right. Hahah! Thanks for your support! 🙏🏼
- Pat
Both of you guys are great ! ;) love your videos and love how pat also “chase” after John. So rare and so participative.
AMA Question: Actually after Pat rejected you and flew off, your heart nv die meh? Like what was your state of mind then, and when she sort of came back, you got play hard to get a not ~
I'm a dog la. Hahahahha. It's not like she migrated, she just went for a holiday for a week!
- John
LOL!!! it's ok la, pat too chio liao~@@JOHNPATCROSS last question, can talk about how you managed to get to where you are now or maybe get into being a business owner from always being broke. The social mobility story would be inspirational to people without "direct access" to opportunities. Also kpo from my end, always being a salaryman... never really dared or want to be an owner
AMA: What are yguys love languages and how do yall make each other feel loved if its not the same love language as yours?
We answered this question on the next episode! Dropping this sunday!
AMA - If you were to give a hall pass to each other, who would you choose and why?
Wah dangerous.
Algooooooooooooooooo
AMA: Have yall been tempted before or considered what could have been?
Wa not for me leh. I'm a scaredy cat. hahahahh! Also, i cant see myself dating out there anymore. A bit tired. Hahah!
- Pat
singapore is dry and humid? ler kong simi, so no matter what just put la issit
AMA: What would you think is the reason IF there comes one day both of you can no longer be together?
death
AMA Question: Any advice for a 32yo male who is evergreen and is struggling to find a gf/partner and has been going on countless of first dates only to be friendzoned right after?
I would say, take up classes you enjoy and make friends from there. I think it's easier to click with people of same interest. All the best!
- Pat
What if I don't enjoy anything @@JOHNPATCROSS
but how can singapore be dry and humid 🤦♂️
HAHAHAAHA! Sorry luh. 🫢
- Pat
AMA- when are yall panning to have kids?
Maybe next year, maybe never. :(
Any faith/religion that you guys fall back to for advice? Marriage counselling by a senior?
We did Engaged Encounter which is a mandatory workshop of sorts for catholics. You literally have to do this before you can get married in church. We both found it to be super exhuasting and important. Its like 1% religious and 99% marraige prep course.
So have you decided for now to stop trying for kids? How did you arrive at that conclusion?
We are still on the fence but currently obviously childless la. hahah. We're do a full ep on that!
@@JOHNPATCROSS ok will wait!! Thanks for replying!