I should have said something sooner...
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ส.ค. 2021
- The past year and half has been overwhelming. With the isolation that came along with the pandemic, the divisive nature of conversations online, and Sean and I moving halfway across the country, it's just been a lot. I have been doing my best to work through it all, but I have to be honest, I am not feeling my best. I am burnt out and need to find new ways to better care for myself, which is what I am doing now. I only shared this because I hope that anyone out there who is feeling similarly knows that they aren't alone, and nothing is wrong with us for feeling this way. It's been a tough 18 months, and I think it's normal for us to struggle as we work through it.
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I’m a flight attendant , it’s a job that lets me check the pulse of society almost every day. People are angry , lots of people, almost all of us . Over everything , just done ! I had a lady come to my back galley last week and we started talking and within a few minutes she just broke down, I mean completely sobbing, and here I am holding this lady I’ve known like 5 min. People just need each other right now and everyone has their guard up . Physically, emotionally we are all wearing “ masks” . People are just super prickly with each other , see it on the plane all the time, it needs to stop....This was a really beautiful video. We all just need to cry on each other a bit . There are people out there feeling just like you. Don’t get lost in all of this panic , find each other . Stay human .
Well said, and we all need to see faces & smiles again. I hope the federal mask mandate for airlines goes away. With the full air exchanges in an airplane…it’s actually quite safe to fly! :)
I've seen this too. I've encountered people who are angry over nothing, like theres an aggression that wasnt present before.
I'm struggling so hard to not give up on humanity.
Excellent response and I am grateful you were there for the lady in your galley.
Yes..omg we cannot loose our empathy and just go into survival mode only. The western view has always applauded independence, success, standing alone, staying positive no matter what and often looking out for #1.
But now all these need to shift.
The dysfunctional systems must be corrected with more balance.
We must remember that who we are, is linked to others, how we live, how we talk how we treat one another..so many are hurting, tired weary and scared.
Jedi hugs across the internet✌️💗
You are such a sweet person to be so drained and STILL thinking of us while you are struggling. I hope you are able to find some restoration soon.
I know how sweet a person
❤️
Agreed. Thoughts and prayers are with you :)!
I hate that I was the 666 like but couldn't agree more.
"We never beat up ourselves gently." Katie, that's a quote we often refer to in the men's group (Men Mentoring Men) I participate in. As much as you feel compassionate towards others, please do the same for yourself. Self compassion is critical for anyone's well-being. Do take care.
I'm so happy you have MMM. Men need support.
Proud of you and your efforts perhaps (not saying you exclude) but perhaps you could reach out to black communities to extend it. Just thinking of an obama fathers day speach I saw once and my experience teaching in black communities where many boots said they had no father in their life. Just a thought!
@@youtubingbabs no offense intended, but why make this about race?
@@Photosynthesislove Because mental health counseling, for the longest time (and possibly still...), was frowned upon in the black community, especially for men. You have to realize that we want to undo the damaging conditioning that has occurred in any/all communities and replace that with healthier mindsets and habits.
I watched a video and the key thing in anxiety recovery was self compassion.
I feel like people need to know that therapists are human too. Like wtf they’re no superhero?! It’s okay to feel! You’re doing such a great job. It’s amazing how many people you help!❤️
You're absolutely right. Therapists have their moments of vulnerability too just like the rest of us which is to be expected.
Exactly!!!! We need to see this
Exactly. Big Hug to Kati Morton 🤗 Take care.
Lol mental health "professionals" are some of the most unstable people on earth, under normal circumstances
The last thing they are is "superheroes"
I think someone's been on the pipe again
Jc not surprised she needs a therapist
Adjustment disorder fear of going out fear of seeing friends
What a nutcase
There is nothing more relieving than a mental health care professional opening up about their own struggles. The last two years hit me hard and I feel like everyone around me is "fine" and behave like nothing ever happened. If you need to take time for yourself, please do. I always enjoy your videos and never sense you don't love what you do. Everyone gets burnt out, drained, overwhelmed.. take care of you Kati. 💜
It's hard for me to believe others are having issues. I feel like it's only me. You stay strong thank you got your comment!!
Yeah, the fact that everybody seems completely fine is the hardest part. If we were all grieving together openly that would make this whole mess a lot easier.
I'm a therapist in private practice. I'm solo in work and in life, so it has been isolating. I love that you shared this! People tend to think us therapists are immune from pain and suffering. I appreciate your candor
Yes, I love that she spoke up and is trying to help reduce the stigma. Great example
I'm currently in school to get my professional counseling license. In fact, we use a lot of your videos in our classes, because that's just how awesome you are! That being said, thank you thank you thank you for being honest, and letting others know that therapists are humans. We get burnt out easily, and it's OK for that to happen. It takes someone who is very self-aware to say, "I need a break". You do you! Praying and sending good vibes that this rest brings all the energy, joy, and peace you deserve!
What school is that? Sounds like it needs investigating.
"I didn't really do anything to change" - made me feel better, because I'm kinda stuck. It's so difficult to really do something and I feel guilty about it. So tired. I needed to hear something like that from a person I respect. Thanks for your honesty
Dude I feel that. You can do it if you take a step back and realize where you're at. Then you can look at what you need to change and realize you've got to even if you don't have the want or motivation.
I can relate, had a recent breakup and that's what it took for me to look back and realize that I've been dealing with anx and depression and all kinds of stuff for a year but without doing enough to help myself. In those moments I thought it was fine or I was doing enough but had to realize I wasn't. I wasn't using my supports or doing things I knew I should be for my mental health.
And when you stop realizing just how in a hole you are and that you're not helping yourself, that's when things just get worse. Because you don't end up doing anything to change it. You make excuses or deny it's that bad.
Isolation has been a big stink for me too. But I have to admit it's been self induced too, because even before the pandemic I kinda did it. Didn't get support from the ppl who were there.
I learned better now. I'm gonna take steps to really improve what I do for me, so I can be happy. Not just ignore shit and let it get worse
Hey Kati! Thank you for sharing. You’re not alone. This pandemic was and still is very traumatic to literally everyone. It’s okay to feel that. If you need to take time off TH-cam and just focus on yourself and family, please do that! We will all be here when you’re ready and physically and mentally recovered:) we love you and appreciate everything you do ❤️
Thank you Charlotte :) xoxo
It's really powerful to hear a therapist admit this. That even though you know the theory....it may not always be applied. Thanks for being honest. I underestimated the effect of the pandemic on myself because I wasn't as badly effected as other people... I too told myself i didn't have a right etc. 😕
I agree with you and glad she posted this
I totally agree too
I wish the focus of this video had been "I pledge to take better care of myself" instead of "sorry if you have felt my overwhelmed state in my content"
Please don't apologise for your state of exhaustion, sweetheart. At least you acknowledge it now, recognise the extent of stress you have been under and are starting to build up your coping mechanisms anew!
You are always enough, Kati, and you are so loved by me and many xxxx💜😘💕
Don't call someome you don't know 'sweetheart'. That violates their boundaries and is very condescending to a professional. She is not your friend.
@@sneakerbabeful not everyone feels that way, to some it's endearing. Just food for thought, I know you're trying to protect people but everything isn't offensive. Sometimes we just have to let people be who they are, it's clear they are just concerned for her and are trying to offer support.
@@sneakerbabeful I think you’re just looking for a reason to be mad
This broke my heart knowing you can be there for us but we can't be there for you in the same way. I want to send all my nice words and try my best to comfort you from the comment box in your video but I can't do for you what you do for all of us every day in your videos. I want to hug you and help you feel okay. I hope this video has taken some of the pressure off not being able to vent and I hope you take the time to fill your cup without the guilt. The guilt is completely unwarranted, you've given more than enough, please please think of you too ❤️
48 seconds in- thank you for talking. I too have been struggling so much this year.
xoxo
Same my gf broke up with me, i had to move and my brother burned our apartment. I also had to quit school and work.
This is a collective global trauma, even if you didn’t lose loved ones or your job. This is upheaval. A complete upheaval of life’s routines and support systems.
Stay strong and keep reaching out. Know your work makes a huge difference, and we care as much about you as you do for us.
Kati, I literally was riding waves of tears .. as a therapist …feeling totally overwhelmed and burned out and honestly like a saving grace your video was here. It’s hard enough for us to say when we’re struggling as humans, but especially as therapists. I have followed you for a while and have always appreciated how approachable and relatable you make this work feel. Thank you for this gift, this video of real, raw, sharing… which as a therapist going through it… and from a therapist going through it…. means more than I can even express in words right now. We deserve care, so freaking much of it, especially through this global trauma that doesn’t seem to end ♥️ I see your accountability and I join you there to pour into ourselves… with gentleness and love. Thank you for pouring into me.
Dania, I’m not a therapist but one thing I respect is therapists are normal human beings too. Meaning they have challenges and have “bad days” like anyone else. For me reading through comments from this video, Kati shared, helps me know I’m not alone with the struggles that this time brought into everyone’s life.
Dania, if there isn't one already, we need a worldwide "Hug (virtual) Your Therapist Day"!!! I for one would not be surviving this traumatic event without my lifeline to my therapist. I want to thank all of you for pouring out your cups for us. You are truly our frontline workers/angels! 👼👼👼
If you cant handle the job then do something else
I think I speak for 99% of us, when I say. “We are guilty of knowing what’s best for us, but rarely do we take our own advice!
Hang in there!!!! Make time for yourself PLEASE! You deserve it! 💖
“I think we are just all angry because we’ve been isolated” 💯💯
You’re not alone ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
It’s okay, I never felt that way about your videos. But don’t worry for us- we just want you to be okay too! We are all gonna make it!! NO ONE is at their best right now, we are in extreme times and we are all in this together.
It’s painful for everyone of us, so yeah…. It’s true
I don't feel anger in this at all.
Take your time, your doing it just allow it to cover and take it as slow as you need to, your papers will get written, love and peace.
I meant to say allow it to come to you .. also don't forget how music saves the soul, it can literally change moods, use that powerful stuff to keep positive and upbeat ❣️🙂
Oh man, I feel you, Kati. I'm a therapist in Canada and I can really relate to everything you're saying. One of the hardest things about our job is staying present for our clients when we, ourselves, are feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, sad, or whatever else is going on for us in the moment. It's been quite a year and a half. Thank you for sharing this.
Your vulnerability, while baring the reality of the pain, is so human, and so beautiful. This is probably one of the most therapeutic videos of yours I’ve watched - it’s a great reminder that it’s OK to be human, and even more than that, *how* to be human, too. Your video made me cry. I relate. Going through this together, as a collective, and being vulnerable together, is probably one of the most healing things we can all do. ♥️
"Going thorough this, as a collective, and being vulnerable together"
JFC 🤦♀️
Oh stop 😅
Other people’s pain does not negate your pain.
I want to give you the biggest mental and emotional hug! You’re right, we don’t realize the small traumas that hit us every day. They build up behind the scenes, and sometimes they tip the scales toward a very hard breakdown.
I took most of the first year of the pandemic in stride, but this recent shift is devastating.
You’re human too girl; I cannot speak for everyone, but I hope I can speak for many when I say that we love you and we want you to care for yourself as you would encourage any of us to do as well.
Take time for you and your well-being. We’ll be here for you always ♥️
Katie, I have learned in my 61 years when you open up and are vulnerable, it enables other people to open up too!! You go girl! You are awesome ❤❤❤❤
Hey Kati, thanks for sharing this and showing emotional vulnerability. I can relate a lot to what you're feeling and am grateful that you are so strong to talk about it. This inspires me to be in touch with my emotions more and feel more "ok" with not feeling "ok". I hope that you can take some time to recharge and "breathe in". Lots of hugs from a long time follower.
Hi Leyla :) Wonderful to see you! Thank you for the kind words. Hope you're doing well :)
I can’t imagine being a therapist trying to get people through the same trauma you’re experiencing. I was in therapy when the pandemic started and did things to make my therapist laugh.
I think you’re wonderful, Kati. I’m also a TH-camr and I had a goal of uploading every day during lockdown to lift people’s spirits, but then it went on for much longer than I ever imagined and my cousin got covid (longterm), my kids became depressed, my mom’s health went downhill, another cousin died of covid, and then there was everyone fighting all the time about masks, lockdown, etc., followed by outrage and riots, the election, January 6th, constant contention about vaccines, and so much more! My mom was hospitalized twice this summer and it was horrible because she could only have one visitor a day. I’m terrified she will end up in a nursing home and that she will be completely locked down.
Prayers for you, Kati!
I'm sorry you've gone through such a rough rollercoaster!
Hope you can enjoy the peaceful quiet moments in between. Stay strong.
@@karincornejo8585 Thank you so much! 🥰
"The Pandemic was...." It is not past tense , we are still in the middle of it
Some places have lifted all lockdowns, vaccine is nearing completion and cases continues to fall. The pandemic is nearing the end.
@@trayas2272 i don't know where you live, but here in the US cases are definitely not falling. the delta variant is raging through the country.
That is a matter of which lense you look through. Government measures are certainly not through everywhere.
I hope you’re okay, you’re a human being. Life can get tough especially through these times. My prayers are with you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼💛💛
oh dear sweet kati.Do you know how much courage you have to have to "share"?And do you know by how many other people you are showing right now,that is is okaye not to be okey.you re only human...and you exist and breathe like all of us..this only shows how sincere,passionate and committted kind of person you truly are.Tears is not a weakness.And accepting your shortcommings and mistakes(which you have not done at all)...it just shows what strong compassionate person you are .To make everybodu happy and giving qll of your very best in what ever circumstances ..You are trying to be a superwoman for the whole world out there! while neglecting your own needs,your own difficulties,your own concerns,and are exhausting yourself ,becausesthat is where your heart is.Your community,your listeners and friens and patients.....Breathe....Just Breathe once more so that we all can know it did happen :-) thankyou for being human and sharing something from yourself.We are also hear to listen. and comment and "hold hands as Kati Morton's" community"and that includes you.You are the "grout" that keeps us alltoghether,wanting to hear more and more,but we want you to! always take care off yourself as wellou ynow please all'yof we love you kati.we love you are for of joys and tears,hand anger,sadness,excitement,hope...aneven when you feel less likedown...it makes us feel more human too.just know...some may have notice and made you aware that they could see you dont seem to !that is probably a handlful of people in a great big world.the rest of us have notices nothing g,but you true sparkling self.Sss!ssooooo nooo!!!!!!you've got this Just.! be the kati Morton we all came to love and listen and join and subscribed quickly.smile...do you thing.we believe in you and we love listing talking and sharing with you...so many if us would have been totally lost during this time,without you being there to bind us all together and give as hope and encouragement to stand tall.land have encouragement hugs.we love you kati..
I, 100%, resonate with all that you mention here. “There is just no break” That’s exactly how I feel. Everything you mention here is me too. :(
Thank you for being so real, Kati. It makes a world of difference. All of us who have benefited so much from your work want you to take your time, do whatever you need to do to find your balance, and know you are so appreciated. Much Love.
🌸 It’s definitely been very traumatic! Your feelings are valid and you have every right to feel what you feel.🌸
Amen to that sister!🙌
Dear Kati, thanks for being so brave and sharing this! You are really not alone in this. Many therapists (me included ✌️) feel burnt out even depressed. Sharing how you are feeling is the best thing you could have done for your community. You will be ok! ♥️
Psychotherapist and yoga teacher here. I totally get knowing and not doing. Loving work and getting lost. This is part of it all Kati - it just looks different right now- you know this ;) Your authenticity is truly gold. 💗🙏🏼
Dear Kati… thank you for being so authentic about how you are feeling and showing how difficult these times can be. I have always loved watching your TH-cam videos because there are so many times I feel certain things or struggle to deal with but just can’t express. I feel comforted knowing that what I feel is real. The past year and a half has been really difficult for me too, there were so many times I felt overwhelmed, couldn’t keep up with the pace of everything and the demands of college life and would eventually break down. It’s really difficult to deal with pressure for me and I have had times when I have cried a lot and just couldn’t handle it all anymore. Thank you for sharing this video and for letting us know we are not alone. It means a lot . . ..
Who says a surgeon will never need a surgery in the future? even when you start to cry, you're teaching us that's okay to cry and sharing our negative feelings that would help us feel better. Your videos have helped me a lot. Hope see you smiling and delighted again dear Kati. (I wish I could cry easily like you ladies LOL such a blessing)
Kati, this huge to see a therapist put herself completely out there and be so transparent. I have had FOGO since the lockdown. I was getting out to appointments and now I’m back to being scared to go out because of the delta variant. I’m beyond fed up. You’re right isolation is so hard. Covid traumatized me first and then the Isolation traumatized me also! I live ALONE without friends nearby. I’m fully vaccinated, but still nervous. I’m a NAMI facilitator and a NAMI Educator so I’m with public at least virtually which is what I live for. I help people but I must also help ME too. Thanks for the reminder!!
I also live alone with friends a ways away from where I am. It is really lonely.
I am a RN. PLEASE don't fret over Delta variant since you're vaccinated!!
@@MNP208 I am 6 months and 2 days vaccinated. Sooner or later, my immunity from Covid will wane. THAT is what I’m worried about.
My mental health lately have shoved itself to the forefront of my life and it's very difficult to control it anymore! The frustration and anger is slowly taking over. Usually I have somewhere to go to separate myself from it and align myself and then get back to life, but the chaos is impossible to escape because it's f ing everywhere! Just can't find any motivation to keep going, even though I know what needs to be done, absolutely no motivation! That has never been me, I'm one of the most resilient beings I know, if I'm this broken, I'm scared for others around me.
i’m a mental health provider and i can relate 100 percent. thank you for sharing your truth! you are not alone. 💕
Oh Katie, my heart breaks for you. Therapists have had to hold space for their clients, with all our normal issues, and then add the pandemic on top of it. I wish I could give you a big hug. Thank you for being open, honest, and vulnerable. We love you❤️
This was so inspiring and really validating. Everyone's been through so much the last year! Thankyou for being so honest!!
I’ve felt very similar… thank you for shedding light on how this year has affected you. You’re definitely not alone.
I cant thank you enough for sharing this. It's so real all our emotions. I feel the same way and this helps me so much to see I'm not alone out there. I have been thinking that this Pandemic was a trauma I didnt handle this year well at all. I'm not the same person I was a year and a half ago and am on a totally different trajectory in my life. Thank you so much for being real with us. You are the best teacher we could all ask for. We love you. 💓💓💓🌌🌌🌌🙏🙏🙏
"Two more weeks!" I feel gaslit for a year. The never ending confusion and stress. The last almost 2 years has been e x h a u s t i n g. Its still not over. But thats okay, we will persevere.
How come people don't wanna take the vaccines
The entire thing is like being with a narcissistic relationship
Yes Eddie good question those not doing will prolong this thing ugh
Take it easy Kati. In life we need adjustment periods and that's ok.
xoxo
Kati I am currently booked off work due to burn out too. Its been a very traumatic time. I worked all the way through (only one in the office) and felt like I came out of it ok...until everyone around me at work started to return and the reality of it all hit me, the fall out financially and the reality of life during this has been a huge shock. I also haven't seen my children or family in over 2 years as they live overseas. And the uncertainty of when I may be able to travel to see them is not known. I took a week off to have a "holiday" at home and it was a disaster
So I totally get you. Thank you for this video!.
Sending so much love. You have been such a great help to so many, and this video was exactly what I needed right now. I've been feeling the same way. Not being able to connect with people, having these huge life changes, and still feeling like we have to do and be at a certain level...it's so overwhelming. Thank you for sharing.
I’ve never commented on a TH-cam video before and am not really sure how it works, but I wanted to say that I hear you and I appreciate your honesty. You’re definitely not alone. Your videos are an inspiration and you deserve any patience you require. Thank you for everything you do.
@matthew Curran glad you did comment it was enjoyable 😉
Sending you so much love!!! I definitely relate, thank you for your courage to be vulnerable on this platform with us and for being real. You've got this, and I can see that you know your worth and importance. May God bless you abundantly with your heart's desires!
Beautiful, honest, and real. It's so hard pretending like everything is ok, while we all sit in a space of loneliness, discontent, and lack of connections. You are not alone ❤
I totally feel this Kati. I can resonate and relate to every word. Honestly, I wish I could promise to take better care of myself, but I don't even know where to start. I can't seem to do even simple things, like drink more water, exercise more even though I bought a treadmill and new exercise equipment. I know what to do but I just can't seem to do it. The burn out, the head fog....it's all a bit too much. So, I totally hear you. I hope that you're able to find an amazing therapist and I hope you can find some good, fun ways to care for yourself. You deserve all the compassion and love that you pour out to others. I hope you find the people who help to fill up your cup. You deserve it. ❤️
I'm finding I'm struggling more with it coming out of lockdown (I'm in UK) and the pressure is off now, than when it was in lockdown.
Please don't give up
Oof me too! Make a routine & do it. You’ll feel so good & powerful when you get on that treadmill. Watch inspiring or funny shows when you work out to lift your mood. I watched Queer Eye at first which was great because a lot of the people they help were feeling the same low confidence I was feeling.
@Stranger I felt I was the only one and kept hating myself for this
@Stranger that’s a good analogy. Operant Conditioning at work? I can’t tell you how many traumatic experiences I’ve had in my lifetime, but when I’ve tried I’ve found people don’t believe me. They just don’t buy that life can be that challenging for anyone because their own lives haven’t been filled with trauma. As much as I hate referencing TV shows/movies for ANYTHING, the past decade for me has been like Sons of Anarchy. After the third season, the protagonist (or least antagonistic of antagonists?) suffers blow after blow of bad sh*t to the point where it started to cause me real anxiety. I told my wife, “If something good doesn’t happen for Jax in the next episode, I’m done with this show. Nobody’s life is THAT bad…”
I got through the show. I don’t remember if stuff actually started looking up for that character or not. But I did realize, looking back on my own life, that people DO face deep, serious shit in this world and someone somewhere is right now enduring what they believe is just one part an endless string of ass-kickings they’ll face. We’re tougher than we’ve ever been and yet still showing the cracks - which is testament NOT to our weakness, but to the massive, exponential growth and power of the modern experience. We are often compared to the “Greatest Generation” and found lacking. In some ways, we are. But it’s better to remember that while traversing the many challenges and pitfalls of World War II would require incredible resilience and fortitude, World War II was the only major event for most Americans. It’s much easier to band together when there is a single, common goal. In modern America, life has become infinitely more complex and when multiple facets of that complexity strike negative blows simultaneously, it’s not only overwhelming, it can be deadly. The lack of parity among families facing multiple difficulties only amplifies the incredible strain those difficulties impose upon the victims. For instance, the family car’s AC breaks down, the rent is due, you suffered a slight shaving of hours this month, one of the kids needs a new laptop for school, both kids need braces, your mother-in-law is showing signs of dementia and can no longer live alone, and “hustle” (which sounds to you an awful lot like the desperate, unethical, maybe even immoral response of a street thug) is not in your DNA. You, after all, are a highly educated, professional man/woman whose job should be enough but hasn’t been since Reagan gutted the American labor movement in 1980. I’m sorry, Granddad. I know you flew against Hitler back in the day and nobody would challenge that World War II was an easy feat in any way.
But, you didn’t have to worry much about your kids being homeless, not getting the proper orthodontia, lacking the tools for school, facing other kids with iPhones and MacBooks and Jordan’s and BMWs. The US Army Air Corps certainly didn’t make you rich, but by God it made you whole in the most important ways. And the benefits carried you successfully through the rest of your life: home ownership, education, etc.
You had one job, retired with a full pension, and lived out your golden years in sunny Southern California. Not too shabby. Now, pension is a myth less tangible than a unicorn, the idea of retirement rests entirely on the luck of some unseen force of the stock market and the management of a 401(k), a pittance from the Social Security administration (which won’t come close to being equal to your contributions), a general preference for a young, cheap, single, exploitable workforce, and a constant barrage of propaganda that has half of America convinced their lives and futures are in their own hands… it’s changed. A lot. And in a huge number of not good ways. We have billionaires like we haven’t had since you were a kid and that will likely end in the same way it did in your youth. But not until we either suffer a greater calamity than the Great Depression or the other half suddenly gains a whole lot more intelligence. Either way, the prospects aren’t good.
We work harder, longer, faster, and with 4x the productivity of the last generation, but we get less, have to pay for much, much more, and suffer the endless indignity of a society conditioned to blame and demand and covet and cancel. If any of the rat bastards in the top 14% of normal households (excluding the uber riche) took just one minute to acknowledge reality, we’d all be better off. But so convinced are they that if they stand in solidarity to recover the American Dream for the majority that they’ll lose what they’ve got, they defend their positions like mother grizzlies - eviscerating everyone that approaches them. The people with the power to revitalize the real America have no incentive to do so because greater wealth is their only incentive to do anything. And God knows, fixing the economy would mean they don’t get to shoot for those further billions. Meanwhile, millions of Americans worse off than I am worry about keeping a roof, eating more than 3x a week, and raising kids that have a snowball’s chance in Hell of making a great life.
Kati, oh honey… You are so brave to make this video. Give yourself from some grace, be gentle with you. You have held space for so many during this pandemic and I so hope you have someone to hold that space for you. I so appreciate your willingness to be human on TH-cam. And don’t should on yourself, your doing a wonderful job. Take care of you!!! You Got this Girl.
Girl, feel better thank you for your honestly. I so enjoy hearing you. much love and take good care.
Wow- thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing. You are a precious treasure!! This validated even more so how very aware you are and gives us tangible connection to how we feel as well. You're amazing! Listen to your own advise-its outstanding!! 💜💚💜virtual hug to you!
This is so validating to hear from a therapist as someone who is also completely burnt out and drained. Everyone has gone through repeated trauma throughout the pandemic and still this year (millions now have undiagonsed CPTSD I suspect). We have never lived through a time like this where we experieced a pandemic, social unrest, multiple man made diasasters and the ongoing effects of climate change all in just one year. Being physically isolated from our friends and loved ones for so long, loosing loved ones, etc... It's overwhelming. Many are trying to solider through all of this but trying to power through, or worse ignore it, without pausing and processing everything going on is unhealthy and just compounds the problem.
Take all the time you need. Taking time for ourselves and putting our mental health first needs to be normalized.
Your realness speaks volumes to the community. This is a journey and I appreciate the vulnerability and courage you share.
"Courage Starts With Showing Up & Letting Ourselves Be Seen." Brene Brown
Yesss I wish I could give this more than one thumbs up!!!
Even aside from the emotions about the pandemic, there is so much power in being able to share in this moment with such a leader in the mental health community. This video personally has helped me (and at the perfect time) to see someone I respect and admire be so vulnerable and courageously open up (something I struggle to do even in therapy.) Vulnerability is SO scary! To have a role model like Kati to take the first step and show me the way has truly changed my life today!
Thank you Kati!!!!!
Love the transparency. Thank you for sharing this with us Kati. We appreciate all the content that you put out for us! 💞
During the UKs second lockdown, I had a breakdown due to complete burn out. My daughter was born in January 2020 and so all the postnatal stuff was swirling round, having to teach online, I just broke, completely burnt out, and so many people still are. Most people I know are just pissed off, at so many different things. Your videos have literally saved my life. You are a truly amazing person Kati and I will be eternally grateful for you. Obv this is from August last year, but I really hope you're still taking care of yourself. Also your book Traumatised is great! Thank you xx
I feel this so much. I'm also a healthcare practitioner and last year was often spent trying to hold myself together in order to help my patients keep it together. I'm finding this year I am completely exhausted, burned out, and have barely begun to process all the insanity and trauma that's occurred this past year and a half. I'm learning to take better care of myself this year too. It's hard and you're right - we're not done with all the stress and uncertainty yet either.
Take care of yourself. You're not alone.
Thank you for all you have done during this crazy time. I can't even imagine how burnt out you feel, especially considering a lot of this is preventable. Stay strong and safe and know that people appreciate all the work you've put in ♥️
@@juliamallik9316 - thank you so much. You take care of yourself as well. 😊
Keep up the amazing work you do. I am a nurse and have seen some horrific and sad things in my time (23 years plus) the worst being called back into work after not long finishing a night duty, to go work in the trauma centre straight away, following the 2011 Christchurch earthquake here in New Zealand. The quake destroyed our city and killed almost 200 souls and injuring 1,500 - 2,000 of our citizens. This was horrific for me, haunting me each time I closed my eyes. Not only did I have damage to my own home, the city damaged beyond repair, streets un usable, most shops, supermarkets closed, no power for days and no water or sewer for months. I was dealing with the fallout of the loss of my city, home and those souls that lost their lives that day. The injuries were in bad shape and the haunted looks in the eyes of those who where pulled out of buildings, still in their civilian clothes, with blood, Ruble in their hair and dust covering them from head to foot. We had not water to clean their tear streaked faces, only bottled water to drink. The injuries kept of coming on the backs of 4x4s, cars anything that could get them to our orthopaedic trauma centre. The screams and terror from
The patients as each after shock struck throughout that afternoon and night, were in the dozens, hundreds in the following weeks as patients recovered from their injuries, but will never heal from
Their fractured minds. Loosing colleges who had died next to them in the rubble waiting for rescue. The days and weeks were long and hard. Everyone in such shock. Everywhere you went the damage was there. Houses on their sides, powerlines down everywhere, high rise buildings reduced to rubble. That time in my life was horrendous. I had delayed PTSD diagnosed. I’d had to keep it together, as my partner being in the military and in the epicentre at the time of the quake as thrown into first response and was co ordinating retrieving survivors and then body recovery. He was having nightmares after the things he saw. Was dealing with his own PTSD. It was a difficult time. Each of us has a story and it doesn’t matter what it is, if enough emotional stress is placed on someone, then they have every right to need time to reflect, recover or reach out for professional help on how to deal with these true feelings you do feel. None of us are immune to suffering. Covid has been extremely taxing on people’s mental and physical health and I can not imagine what those of you in the northern hemisphere have been through with so many deaths and lockdowns for moths. We have not been effected here in New Zealand, we got lucky with this.lockdown was only 6 weeks and a small amount, only 3,000 cases and only 26 deaths here. We have lived normally without the need of masks of panic. I can not imagine how stressful it has been for those of you living it. It has been terrible to watch from where we are down here - down under. We are very blessed to have gotten off lightly due to our isolated position in the world and a brilliant prime minister who put our lives first and shut the county up right. My heart goes out to you and it is great you are sharing your story. It’s been rough in the states with not only covid but the elections and the riots as well. I have family in Cal and they have had enough they say people have changed and there is a different feeling in the air now. I pray for you and your recovery and healing from this. Everyone has their own battles some big some small but whatever is real for them
Then we must acknowledge and hello those who are struggling. We must come together as a untitled force to offer love and understanding, not hate and anger, it is making life so much harder. Turning people against each other, this is not the solution. My thoughts snd prayers to everyone out there hurting right now, for whatever reason. Be kind to one another, offer guidance, support, help, snd love. Xx peace xx
We are all in this together. We're all feeling burnt out and anxious about the world with you. Thank you for setting a great example and showing us we're not alone.
Thank you, Katie. I agree with you so much! I have been happy to find your channel during the last year and a half. "I feel completely burned out." is what I've been saying for the last 4 months. I really do think it is the fallout of pushing through the stress of the shut downs and changes abd threats all the while feeling isolated and somehow very unheard. Thanks for sharing and I hope you find a ways to fill your cup and get to the other side because that will give a lot of hope. Youve already done so much for so many people. It's time to get some care going your way now. 💝
I frickin love you for being so open to share how you feel. It is so endearing.
It’s nice to know no ones alone in this ❤️. My social anxiety has gotten worse than it was pre pandemic and I’m definitely struggling.
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I’m also a mental health professional and I totally resonate with this and you. We’re so good at helping others but not always ourselves. Look after yourself hun xx
Thank you for sharing this Kati, this really resonates with me. You are not alone in this feeling.
Thank you Kati 💖😊 Hope the best for you and yours. Thank you for your generosity and care in all the work you have done and still do.
I really relate to the “FOGO” aspect. The thing that bothers me is I used to thrive off being social and now I don’t even have a desire to connect with people anymore.
right, mines been bad too. its a real thing
I feel that too. I really start feeling super uncomfortable in social situations and don't ever wanna go out to see people or even larger groups of people e.g. when going to the cinema etc. It's just super hard to do things all of my friends are doing right now that were normal before - but for me they aren't anymore
This is heartbreaking! I am SO sorry you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed. You are so precious and special. Your true followers want you to take care of yourself before you help us. Thank you for being vulnerable and open, that is never easy. Take all the time you need and know we will always be there for you too! Much love. -Oscar
Thank you Oscar :) xoxo
My heart feels for you ❤️ you are so intelligent and seem like a very kind human. Thank you for opening up and sharing your feelings. I feel like most(if not all) of us can completely relate in our own ways! This last year or two has been so hard on myself as well.
Your followers really empathize with you and hope you know that we appreciate you.
You are a lovely person. Thankyou so much for being so honest. I've had a nervous breakdown , and in all honesty it was the build up of isolation and not seeing family and friends, going through a breakup. Also, currently not working.I have to learn to get to safety too. This is a beautiful honest video . (And the fogo developed!). You are spot on and very talented.
it was traumatizing to me. My anxiety levels went off the roof. The level of fear injected in all of us was so much more than this virus was. Not just stressed; it was totally traumatizing, even if I questioned things, we were all shut down and incommunicated from our regular worlds in many ways. I believe I was traumatized.
We appreciate your openness and honesty. Love this style of video as well
xoxox
Thanks for sharing, so many are going through this, even the ones that helps us.
Katie, thanks for your transparency! You are definitely not alone. This really reminded me that we are human and sometimes when we are in a position/field of helping others we forget that we also need to take care of ourselves. Wishing you better days soon. Take all the time you need!
Burnout is a HUGE issue for therapist. We all have to look at it closely and come up with a comprehensive plan to to self-nurture and recoop and rejuvenate your mental,physical and spiritual energy.We all know we need to do this but actually doing it and making yourself a priority is difficult.THANK YOU Katy for sharing so openly your vulnerability in this area.Your a CHAMP! ❤💙💜💖💗💘
Oh gosh, I too felt like I couldn’t express my discomfort because I had a baby and was able to work from home, so there were so much to be happy about. But my therapy was taken away and became phone calls and my swimming was taken away. It’s been very hard - not being able to express what has felt traumatic. The uncertainty of everything has been overwhelming
Yes!! It still feels so uncertain!! And omg so overwhelming. Thank you so much for sharing your experience too xoxo
Try to be grateful. Some can't have babies
OMG same thing happened to me last year, that uncertanty was killing me, I had just had a baby, then I returned to work, was able to do It from home, then I had to have an emergency surgery, I crumbled, i was so nervous at the hospital for fear of getting covid, I couldnt hire a nurse or a Nanny to help, It was awful, thankfully my mom helped me, my husband was with me but he still had to work, 2 months later i got covid, OMG, and I still felt like I was probably overreacting to everything, the hormons, idk , it' been so hard, and just started therapy 3 weeks ago, I dont know why I didnt do It sooner, it' s been helping a lot! Wish you feel better.
@@bbghoul_x if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.
@@susannechickenmom5621 Thank you. My thoughts exactly.
Thank you for sharing, and for being real! Your words have helped me with my own trauma based situations! ❤️
Thank you, this honest commentary is so helpful in acknowledging the trauma we all are going through.
Mental health professionals have been hit with a secondary wave of trauma helping other people work through their trauma. Thank you for taking the time to take care of yourself, because you deserve the same kindness you ask us to give ourselves.
It is honestly so reassuring to see someone I respect so much going through the exact same thing as me. I was starting to doubt myself a lot. We should learn to take breaks and be nicer to ourselves. Shit's confusing man, I feel like the world is on fire but I'm trying to get ready for college at the same time. Thanks for making this video Kati.
I've thought a lot about therapists, counselors, pastors, facilitators, empaths, infjs, caregivers, drs., nurses, etc. through the pandemic/post pandemic and I sensed fatigue in so many pros and semi-pros...myself, included. I am glad I reached out for help and shared with my counselors just how I appreciated their help. We all need help through this,but recognize how those pros need help and appreciation...and rest...a must is lab work...and a physical...
Thank u for sharing! I have been struggling with the same thing. This was very helpful.
It breaks my heart to see you crying and being sad, because you are such a good and genuine person, always thinking about other people and helping them. Sending you lots of love and positive energy xoxoxoxox Also, why would anyone hate you? You're doing such a great job educating and helping people! I literally passed my psychology exams, because I was watching your videos! You taught me so much! So thank you, Kati, I love you so much xoxoxox
When everyone experiences varying degrees of the same trauma, it becomes difficult to talk about it. Recognizing and sharing what you did brings the reality of it in it's proper place. Our coping mechanisms were forced to change and our supports were limited. The only thing that has helped is going internal and doing work healing my mind and emotions - videos like yours have helped me find new ways to cope and think. Thanks for all you do!
I realised that as unique as you are as your fingerprint, your problem is also unique and it requires a very personalised solution. The moment you yourself dismissed your own problem by saying “Get over it, everybody is facing the same thing”, you literally just made it harder to fix things because it is impossible one person to fix the problem that everyone is facing eg. the pandemic. You need to be VERY specific so that you can fix it yourself.
Thank you! Your example is tremendously real and so helpful to me…..You are a value to all who are lucky enough to hear this. So much to maneuver through…. It is difficult times right now and not what we were made for. Pray often for strength, wisdom, joy and power, whatever you need…. Life will become much more bearable!
I can relate to how you are feeling with how this past year+ has been stressful and work has caused an even greater level of burnout than I have ever felt before. I'm glad that you are bringing this up. And yes, I am still feeling overwhelmed with life and work.
You talking about this makes me feel that I am not alone. Really appreciate it. Hope you get better and take care of yourself :) Hope you find a therapist soon
Honestly, I have been watching your videos for years and I haven’t noticed you not seeming like you are enjoying it. I’m not saying this to be kind but to give you an honest opinion and I bet I’m not alone in thinking that. I’m so mad at the person for saying that about your content.
Sending you lots of understanding and love 💕
1000%.
I’ve seen your videos over the years and appreciate your openness. It takes a lot to deal with all that went on.
Burnout is normal 🙏... I keep going thru the same thing thru 18yrs of social work. I love you. You are amongst the sweetest, cutest person I've ever heard off...
Please try to love yourself, as much you love others...
Make sure you use video calls, to connect with people who are your community / people
I love you more than you'll ever know! You are an angel for me, at least...
No one has been trained to deal with a pandemic, our coping skills, distress tolerance skills and relaxation skills can fail us...
You are so so cool being so vulnerable... That's why you're so goddess like for us
Kati, I never noticed from your vids that you were having an enthusiasm crisis, but you would not be such a wise counselor without taking an occasional ride on the struggle bus yourself. Thanks for being who you are, thanks for being so honest and thanks for being human.
I feel this so deeply. My trauma this year was teaching 6th graders in-person. Every single day I went to school I had the thought, “is today the day I get sick?” Add to that the pressure of keeping all of my students safe and healthy and enforcing very strict rules about social distancing and mask wearing. I still have a few weeks of summer break left and already I am starting to feel the fear creep back in. But I have more coping strategies now than I did before (exercise, diet, hobbies, clear boundaries between work and school, among others) and I started taking medication for anxiety so I’m hoping the fear is easier to deal with this year. I’m happy to hear you’ll be giving to yourself more so you can continue to give of yourself to others. All the best.
I hope you're feeling better now. Thankyou for being so strong
@@tranlenamphuong6192 thank you so much that’s sweet. Yes I am feeling much better now 💜 Thanks for reaching out.
I’m a substitute teacher and a mom and I stopped working as soon as this all started (schools closed and I was a single mom at the time so I had to stop working). I’m thinking about going back, I hope that things will be more normal soon 💕 good for you for being there for those kids through the hard stuff 💕. I think this next year will be better 🙌
You’re an angel. Teachers are the backbone of our communities 💙
@@emalynicole1006 thank you! I know a lot of people who are in your similar situation. All the best.
Awww bless. Thank you for being so real. I think this raw video is your most powerful one yet. Your channel is amazing!
Thank you for sharing. I'd been feeling this myself and needed it put to words to see it. Thank you so much.
i was indeed wondering, i thought to myself: "she has two podcasts, a patreon, a main channel, she is writing a book" and who knows what else that we don't even know about!
i'm soooo glad to know you'll be taking care of yourself!! don't feel bad for taking a step back and evaluating what you like to do and what wears you out.
You’re describing my feelings exactly. The uncertainty and the fact that it’s still happening… there’s no relief or end in sight. Thank you for sharing 💕 Do what you need to take care of yourself
Thank you Kati for charing ♥️ it makes you human and helps me/us also valide our own feelings
Bless you dear Katie. You are a gem. Thank you for being a light & sharing your vulnerable truth. You speak for so many who can't articulate the complex feelings of the last 18 months into words. Be gentle with yourself as you regain your ground. One day at a time, one loving choice at a time. We are all rooting for you. 🥰
It's difficult to be someone who's entire being is about having the answers and realize (before it's too late) that there comes a time when we don't need to have the answers when it comes to ourselves.
I appreciate your honesty. Coming from another therapist, I feel the same way. My coping skills haven’t been utilized for a while and this video made me realize I need to take better care of myself. Thank you, Kati!
I was okay then lost it in the last month! But I feel it is a collective anxiety I'm picking up on.
It’s ok... you’re a beautiful soul and have overwhelming emotions just like we all do. Thanks for sharing and showing us you do the work with us.❤️
It really means a lot to me to see others being vulnerable. It makes me feel that I am not weak and should be ashamed of it. I remember once I watched a movie called The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. Wondered if u have watched it, but if not, it was a story about the time after ww2. I still remember that the protagonist sat by the bar, and looked at all the dancing and singing, people laughing and enjoying the night . And she wondered how come that everyone except her had already moved on from the trauma of the war. I guess I feel the same too. To me, the pandemic really was a war and trauma.Back in the begining of the pandemic, everyday I was exposed to negative news report, how many people were confirmed, how many deaths,how the medical workers were struggling, etc. I tried to turn off my feeling when I heard the news but obviously numbing one feeling will also shut down all the others. I was so afraid when the pandemic first broke out in Wuhan, because we didn't know what it was, what would happen if we got affected. I kept scrolling social media everyday on my bed for the latest news and information, and couldn't fall asleep until the sun rises. Even though it has been 2 years now, whenever I hear news about the pandemic home and abroad, even though I am not in the breakout center, I will still feel anxious and dizzy. My point is ,I can totally relate to your feelings Kati. And as someone who suffers from agoraphobia, I know how depressing it can be to be stuck at home without support. In this video you were constantly saying, "I am sorry if you notice." It brokes my heart because like you said, you are human as well, and I can see how hard you beat yourelf up and feel like you don't deserve to feel down. It's so not true and you have every right to feel all these. I can assure u that millions of times if you'd like. Thank u for sharing, for saying u love us so sincerely. (Since i just saw this video from 6 months ago, I hope that you are feeling much better now😃）
The circumstances have been hard for quite a while. Don't feel bad for feeling overwhelmed, it's totally compreensible. Take the time you need to take care of yourself Kate, physically and mentally. We are all here cheering for you!