Anything you do that is outside of their control, or that is different from what they expected or planned for… will make them panic. They have to have control at all times.
Spot on🎯 my friend. Narcissists crave control, and anything unexpected threatens their fragile ego. Standing firm and setting boundaries is how survivors reclaim their power.
Thank you ! I find out they were lying to me and went behind my back.... they panic. I say I'm tired of dealing with the constant disrespect.... they panic. I go somewhere for 20 mins... they panic and call ppl. We have an argument and I say I need to cool off a bit and not talk so it doesn't get worse...they panic and call ppl outside the relationship to tell all our business. Sick people yo.
I noticed that narc's have it all backwards (once their mask slips off). My idea of a nice night: relaxing looking at the moon together and talking about chill stuff, or playing a video game together The narc's idea of a fun night: telling you to submit or suffer. Throwing themselves onto the floor in defiance, like a toddler and you don't even know what's wrong at all. Gossiping openly about you for no reason. Getting jealous over who knows what. You are kind to them and they become angry at your kindness and tell all their friends how awful you are. You then feel legit confused about reality slipping away, because with a narc, it's an alternate reality. It's the twilight zone.
It’s literally the freaking twilight zone 😂. I can laugh now but when I was in that relationship, there was no rest for me physically, mentally or spiritually
I work with a narcissist and cant get rid of them. They have manipulated those around me to point me as the bad guy.I think it inevitably means I got to quit.Such a toxic person.
" The way narcissist rage over stuff that aren't even a big deal at all. " Omg thank you lol. Just listening to this video im re-living the whole thing all over again. Every single section.
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
Some have a phone book full of friends. Today it's through the phone. Hundreds of people they barely know. Just to show they have the appearance , of having HUNDREDS of unknown or barely known friends
She's happy (supposedly) with her new supply! As soon as I said I had a new partner, she sent a message mocking me! Lol! Deep down, she's probably overthinking she's now lost complete control over me!
Beating a narc in super smash bros was quite the experience. They got up immediately and went to the bathroom for 10 minutes. I knew they were throwing a tantrum because he couldn't accept losing to me in anything. When he finally came back into the room, he looked like he had seen a ghost. Completely demonic energy.
LOL reminds me of my ex BPD.... She got me into... Fortnite... hah. She would get ANGRY that I was getting kills, would get angry and throw tantrums about stealing kills. I honestly thought she was kidding at first...But then LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO.........laughing now but yeah...Year of hell
Completely accurate. This is directly over target 🎯. I would add #11, if you recognize, identify and call one out, especially on point #10, then you will be attacked and role reversal will be initiated. You Will be accused of being the issue and the Problemed Person. Reactive Abuse tactics will usually be how they counter attack.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
I make good money and recently got paid again so I went out and bought a couple of nice steaks and what not from the local meat store and spent $100. come home to my covert narc wife for her to tell me I need to stop spending so much money 😂 . Last weekend she spent almost $400 on facial treatments!!!!!!
Your loyalty is traded for their lies. Your love is true but they are not capable of pair bonding. Your trust is their game. You are they toy. When they've had enough of you, you can expect to be discarded without notice.
Everything terry says here Is all correct. Because, you're such a normal good person, that they seek to Blame you Try to point at you, to blame someone ,,, For anything For whatever . Whatever issue , or many issues. We should note that usually, There's many problems, conglomerated , that they lump together and blame on you
Terry, thank God for you are here for us. Everything you say about narcissistic is so true, I deal with my sister in my whole life, I am alone no children, she always call for help and blame on others, she can't drive on freeway, she can't go to doctor clinic for checkups alone, she told her children how bad of among them and how terrible others are, she wants everyone to be good to her but nothing for each others! She makes sure I reported to her every week, otherwise she raise hell, first she hang up my phone, then says why didn't you do this or that.., she even threat to kill herself! I finally realized this need to stop after 40 more years, I didn't call back at all for months but still I am waiting expecting the other shoe to drop..
“If you breathe the wrong way-“ Literal, one night she flipped out on me, screamed at my for over an hour, because my head was against the wall and I was laying on my side, and so my breathing made more noise. One time, she berated me and reprimanded me again, with shouts and insults for over an hour because I dropped my keys on the top of a large Tupperware container and they landed loudly. 😵💫 It’s madness. It’s torture. It’s a nightmare.
My ex - even as an intelligent malignant narcissist who can easily blow people away, he does still have the typical characteristic of a narcissist: a fragile ego with specific weak spots. When you know them long enough, and you have known them in phases of severe narcissistic injury, you can detect the wounded person under the mask. This is an insecure little boy that can quite easily be broken. It's not even an adult man. If you can make them your puppet so that they rely on your opinion, you can make or break their confidence. This may be a dangerous game. Just beware. Making my narcissistic ex very small in my mind, helps me to diminish his importance and allow healing, without the need of blocking him off. I first went no contact, but now as a next step I want to achieve indifference while being able to look at him (figuratively, as we only communicate by text message) - not while looking away or avoiding him.
Good topic for today's video. You make a good point about narcissists struggling to be independent and take care of themselves. Keep up with the new upcoming videos.
I saw something similar about the lack of dependence from my EX. I thought it was odd. A 40+ year old woman telling me "I need a plan for the day, what's the plan?" Would explain her jumping from marriage to marriage I guess? And I hope this insight is true because it would explain a lot of things. We had a miscommunication one day and I never seen a woman so emotionally charged during the discussion about. It was crazy. I was shocked by her behavior.
As evil as they may be, not all narcissistic people are consciously behaving this way. Remember that they were treated very badly, usually by someone close like family. Their minds have been hijacked and they see even good people as a threat now, they see danger in everyone, everyone that they cannot control. I’ve been there, always expecting rejection or betrayal. They need healing and deliverance, we need to continue to love them, set healthy boundaries, tell them “no, this is not ok.”, bring awareness, and most importantly pray for their souls. So don’t take their mistreatment personally even if it is directed at you. God help us all.
5:40 yup I did lol I would always baby sit my neighbors 4 year old and 6 year old sons back when I was 14 , they would pay me a lil cash to , my parents would leave me at the house at times when I was like 6-8 , times are definitely different , I would think if I open the door to anyone I would die 😂😂😂
I was with my older sister and brother years ago at my nephew's birthday. Somebody came up and said "Are you from South X MY CITY?' They were staring at me. I was so nervous and he said SOUTH X and I said no. He asked me about Junior High and he had been in my Divion and I hadn't seen him in about 20 years. They stared at me as I talked him and never even talked, they just stared. Later on the phone, my sister said "When you said you weren't from South X, You Sounded So Stupid. YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT. IT IS SO PSYCHOTIC AND I NEVER EVEN SAW IT.
it's my sister too. :( it's taken me a very long time to figure her out. Devastating impact on the family. There is only two of us, 10 months apart (grew up like twins) when my dad was dying * knowing he would pass within a couple of days, she left town for a friend's wedding. Weirdly seemed excited to tell the wedding party that our dad died while she was there... Playing victim Look At Me... She is living with my mom now (I only started this 'narc discovery the year they decided to live together 😢 ... my sister has convinced my moms counselor that mom needs antiphychotic meds because she gets so angry (after years of belittling she is trying to defend herself, it's called reactive/defensive abuse) I'm trying to teach my mom about all this stuff to try and save her. 😢 Spoke to her counselor myself to tell her the Truth about my sister. You know what?? She still believes my calm, confident, well spoken sister. When you are the victim of the narc you second guess yourself, grow up with nervous energy, people tend to second guess you 🤯 Educate yourself as much as possible.. with knowledge you win. ... but be prepared to mourn. Accepting the reality is a brutal process. Big hug.
@@kelleyreid-rose6775 Thanks so much. I am sorry for your mother. The last thing they want you to do is defend yourself. I have actually gone thru something really major. I am not in contact with anyone anymore. They nearly drove me to the edge. I literally have no choice. My sister wrote me the other day. I feel badly because we are all in our senior years but there is no way I could even go near them. Everyone believes them. Sometimes, I think the Therapists are Narcissists, too. They seem to just see what they want to see. I really believe the No Contact may be the only way to go but it is so hard to do. But, honestly, my personal situation didn't leave me with any other choice. Good luck to you. I hope thinks work out, as well as they can, anyway. Happy New Year. 💛
That thing of them not wanting you to talk to somebody else absolutely spot on. There is this little twit narc at work that if I go to have a conversation about anything to somebody else just work related that little twerp is like Johnny on the spot, like right there. The interesting thing is, the other night one of the girls at work called this little twerk out and told him that he was acting dumber than dirt ...all he did was displlay that snarky narc smirk.
That's why when u see a person living alone and not relying on others and not needy that person is more safer and will not control u and stab you in the back
He introduced me that he traveled alone but behind the scene he always with the hit man gangster , but post things like travel alone. His partner is working with him but tried to deluded my mind. That’s they are alone if you react they will twist the narrative to make you like crazy.. This psychological hit man gangs do.
😊 yep that is my son 100% 26 yr buddy told me say to a narcissist you're going to get everything that is coming to you if they freak out you know they are a narcissist it's a test and it works😂😂
16.01 Yes b c they are so co dependent. Everything about them, is a connection to you. So , it's co dependent. They depend and need, other people to operate. They can't do it themselves. This is the core reality , of why they are the way they are. They need, others. They can't figure out things themselves. They are overly kind to others ( random strangers ) b c they NEED THEM. to figure out how to open a door , or find their wallet or whatever.
10:26 true nex would throw tantrum or rants even towards me then after an hour or so take a deep breath and say we are going to get qdoba and saying they love me ..
Followed in 3 countries and in my accounts at 40 bevause i like to volunteer and speak spanish but exes and ex family memvers that dint belong in my life..we need court.they cant leave people alone..still dont get it..
21 .50 Is a whole other video. Behind your back , they will belittle you ( TO OTHER PPL) trying to mess up, your reputation. That's never ok. And i consider that, a crime. No one has the right , to make up bad stuff , on you, and tell that fake info , to other people, to screw up, your reputation.
My ex would get annoyed with me for saying goodnight the wrong way lol. I would say, well, I guess I should get some sleep. Apparently not good enough. She criticized me saying it that way and said I don’t need to “mince words” essentially
I have a friend , who did 1 year military. He's opposite of narcissist. He's very good guy. I think most military people are not narcissist. They have zero Narc qualities. They are correctable , fun, sociable , strong , capable etc
How do I prove my ex had/has covert (vulnerable) narcissism disorder in a court of Law? She assaulted both me and my neighbour 2 days after my mother passed away - kind of sums her up. Every trait/behaviour pattern you speak of was there with her.
I think a lot of peoples demeanor comes from the fact that they rely on other people almost exclusively so them actually being the subject of confrontation is pretty much impossible for them to even percieve so they act as though thats the case they dont think they'll ever fight and also think there will always be someone else there to fight their battle for them so they try to sound and act as helpless as they possibly can to generate attention from a knight in shining armor to come save them same for men now as women because most men are victims of the government/governing forces so they've been largely effeminized and for most they dont even consider being more masculine to be a possibility as the consequences are so ludicrous in comparison to the forecasted potential gain that they find it foolish to even entertain such a proposition completely overlooking the point of masculinity in itself the ability to determine whats considered ludicrous and what isn't and since they're not masculine they dont get to choose whats crazy and what's not and whats the truth and what's not they have it determined for them many people aren't even capable of choosing to wait it out because that option wasn't given to them by a determining force and really truly thats where the problem is in the world everyone thinks they're benefitting from being soft but the truth is the world you could've had you didnt even get to see because it was determined based upon your actions that you weren't good enough not even just to see it to even imagine it. Your dreams are worse, your sleep is worse, your suffering is worse, your pain is worse, your depression is worse, your sadness is worse, but you can't even tell so whats it to you anyway after all I could spit on you from up here if I wanted to I just don't because I wouldn't want you coming up here wafting around that cloud of stink.
The whole being in the house thing alone has nothing to do w narcissism and its a poor example. Many ppl w mental illness can suffer from this even from trauma. Also a lack of independence is not always a red flag, a person w a chronic can lack independence, all poor and judgmental examples!
I agree with most of your videos, but disagree about independence. Vulnerable narcissists can crave hyper independence to the point of self-imposed isolation. It’s a mix of ultimate victimhood and a desire for self-sufficiency. Similar to avoidant behavior, but more extreme. They’ll try to smear and destroy everything they can on their way out. I’m also a little offended about your statement about independence. I lost my independence for a long time after I got a bad infection in my 20’s. I couldn’t drive, had to rely on adults, and my nervous system was stuck in 24x7 panic because of damage. It was something I had to accept but I later had to do exposure therapy to regain independence. It’s still very hard, but I’m a very empathetic person with an anxious attachment moving towards secure. Prior to this illness, I used to look down on people who didn’t know how to be independent since I was. I lived with a relative that became very dependent on me in some ways and it annoyed me. It turned out he had a neurodegenerative dementia that’s like Alzheimer’s mixed with ALS. Really terrible. So while a lack of independence can certainly be a red flag, keep in mind that that this can happen to otherwise good people by no fault of their own. Severe anxiety/panic, agoraphobia, PTSD, autoimmune disease. and brain injury are only some examples that can cause people to lose their autonomy. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.
I lost my wife to severe vulnerable narcissism. Trauma bond or not, I loved her but had to let her go after two divorces. I have to take care of my daughter now (parallel parenting), which I wasn’t sure I was prepared for. Even though she is young and was traumatized by the way the initial stage of divorce, she is an emotionally intelligent, empathetic, and secure individual now. Much more secure than I ever was, so I must be doing something right. When she was initially returned to me by court order, she was extremely excited, but there was an underlying irrational fear of losing things and losing control. The destructive traits her mom has was mildly rubbing off on her. She was young, but I am not sure if she ever expected to see me again. Admittedly, I became dependent on my wife (co-dependency as well). It was something I was ashamed of and I didn’t work hard enough to improve myself. And even though I’ve gained independence through gradual exposure therapy, I’m afraid of dating. Not everyone understands my limitations and I hate being a burden on anyone else. My ex-wife chose me knowing my limitations, so I assumed that she liked me for me. She had red flags in the way she’d treat strangers, but I thought I could fix her. I actually helped her in many respects. She genuinely didn’t know how to interact in the world before me and I felt like I had to help her. I got married but it wasn’t until she got pregnant where I truly felt like I was in love. We had chemistry before this but I felt polyamorous. And around the same time is when she started getting abusive. We had virtually no conflict for many years before we got engaged, so I saw some of her social awkwardness as forgivable or cute quirks. It felt like the most secure relationship I’ve ever been in for about 4 or 5 years. Never any fighting or bickering. I was just being my genuine self, but according to her, she wasn’t.
O I know . 50 years of marriage narcissistic wife she's going to see my 40 year old son in Canada my two kids obviously take her side don't want to know about me I am coming up 73
Anything you do that is outside of their control, or that is different from what they expected or planned for… will make them panic. They have to have control at all times.
Spot on🎯 my friend. Narcissists crave control, and anything unexpected threatens their fragile ego. Standing firm and setting boundaries is how survivors reclaim their power.
Thank you !
I find out they were lying to me and went behind my back.... they panic.
I say I'm tired of dealing with the constant disrespect.... they panic.
I go somewhere for 20 mins... they panic and call ppl.
We have an argument and I say I need to cool off a bit and not talk so it doesn't get worse...they panic and call ppl outside the relationship to tell all our business. Sick people yo.
Yesss!
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Lol oh shit lol
That's some messed up stuff bro 😅😅😅
Don't be with that one 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@shkrsimpson44 yes 💯
They are like kids perpetually living in Halloween costumes......
That's hysterical
Very astute observation
I noticed that narc's have it all backwards (once their mask slips off).
My idea of a nice night: relaxing looking at the moon together and talking about chill stuff, or playing a video game together
The narc's idea of a fun night: telling you to submit or suffer. Throwing themselves onto the floor in defiance, like a toddler and you don't even know what's wrong at all. Gossiping openly about you for no reason. Getting jealous over who knows what. You are kind to them and they become angry at your kindness and tell all their friends how awful you are. You then feel legit confused about reality slipping away, because with a narc, it's an alternate reality. It's the twilight zone.
It’s literally the freaking twilight zone 😂. I can laugh now but when I was in that relationship, there was no rest for me physically, mentally or spiritually
I work with a narcissist and cant get rid of them. They have manipulated those around me to point me as the bad guy.I think it inevitably means I got to quit.Such a toxic person.
Do what you need to do to plan your escape. Just make sure you have new work lined up before leaving your current job.
yep quit and don't look back but make sure you have a meeting (with the boss there too) to point it out in a subtle way which the narc cannot deny
I'll say it. Terry has become my favorite channel at this point. Guy just doesn't seem to miss.
Same a daily watch for me
Ya he's good for sure.
Practice makes perfect.
I concur.
" The way narcissist rage over stuff that aren't even a big deal at all. "
Omg thank you lol. Just listening to this video im re-living the whole thing all over again. Every single section.
For no good reason at all!
If you want revenge don't. If it is NPD let them be they will overplay their hand. Focus on yourself. Check yourself. Heal
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
Some have a phone book full of friends. Today it's through the phone.
Hundreds of people they barely know. Just to show they have the appearance , of having HUNDREDS of unknown or barely known friends
The hallmark of someone who is not mentally well is that they can’t be alone.
She's happy (supposedly) with her new supply!
As soon as I said I had a new partner, she sent a message mocking me! Lol!
Deep down, she's probably overthinking she's now lost complete control over me!
They love to mock you
they'll be "happy" until the supply becomes old and then rinse and repeat
Beating a narc in super smash bros was quite the experience. They got up immediately and went to the bathroom for 10 minutes. I knew they were throwing a tantrum because he couldn't accept losing to me in anything. When he finally came back into the room, he looked like he had seen a ghost. Completely demonic energy.
LOL reminds me of my ex BPD.... She got me into... Fortnite... hah. She would get ANGRY that I was getting kills, would get angry and throw tantrums about stealing kills. I honestly thought she was kidding at first...But then LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOO.........laughing now but yeah...Year of hell
You're the realest guy on TH-cam. God Bless you and your family ❤
They want a puppet and a punching bag.....
Drama
Completely accurate.
This is directly over target 🎯.
I would add #11, if you recognize, identify and call one out, especially on point #10, then you will be attacked and role reversal will be initiated. You Will be accused of being the issue and the Problemed Person. Reactive Abuse tactics will usually be how they counter attack.
I don’t know how you became so wise at a young age, I’m so appreciative of you for making these videos.
Just breathing the wrong way disrupts them. They will end up mimicking you if its bad enough. 😮💨
😔, yep, true. I've had the toxic person I'm divorced from do that.
The breathing, the in the out....lol
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
I make good money and recently got paid again so I went out and bought a couple of nice steaks and what not from the local meat store and spent $100. come home to my covert narc wife for her to tell me I need to stop spending so much money 😂 . Last weekend she spent almost $400 on facial treatments!!!!!!
Total contradiction
Dude how are you so good w this topic ur literally describing my ex gf .Everything is point on .
Your loyalty is traded for their lies. Your love is true but they are not capable of pair bonding. Your trust is their game. You are they toy. When they've had enough of you, you can expect to be discarded without notice.
Everything terry says here
Is all correct.
Because, you're such a normal good person, that they seek to
Blame you
Try to point at you, to blame someone ,,,
For anything
For whatever . Whatever issue , or many issues. We should note that usually,
There's many problems, conglomerated , that they lump together and blame on you
Terry, thank God for you are here for us. Everything you say about narcissistic is so true, I deal with my sister in my whole life, I am alone no children, she always call for help and blame on others, she can't drive on freeway, she can't go to doctor clinic for checkups alone, she told her children how bad of among them and how terrible others are, she wants everyone to be good to her but nothing for each others! She makes sure I reported to her every week, otherwise she raise hell, first she hang up my phone, then says why didn't you do this or that.., she even threat to kill herself!
I finally realized this need to stop after 40 more years, I didn't call back at all for months but still I am waiting expecting the other shoe to drop..
“If you breathe the wrong way-“
Literal, one night she flipped out on me, screamed at my for over an hour, because my head was against the wall and I was laying on my side, and so my breathing made more noise.
One time, she berated me and reprimanded me again, with shouts and insults for over an hour because I dropped my keys on the top of a large Tupperware container and they landed loudly.
😵💫
It’s madness.
It’s torture.
It’s a nightmare.
this video is 100% real
My ex - even as an intelligent malignant narcissist who can easily blow people away, he does still have the typical characteristic of a narcissist: a fragile ego with specific weak spots. When you know them long enough, and you have known them in phases of severe narcissistic injury, you can detect the wounded person under the mask. This is an insecure little boy that can quite easily be broken. It's not even an adult man. If you can make them your puppet so that they rely on your opinion, you can make or break their confidence.
This may be a dangerous game. Just beware.
Making my narcissistic ex very small in my mind, helps me to diminish his importance and allow healing, without the need of blocking him off.
I first went no contact, but now as a next step I want to achieve indifference while being able to look at him (figuratively, as we only communicate by text message) - not while looking away or avoiding him.
Good topic for today's video. You make a good point about narcissists struggling to be independent and take care of themselves. Keep up with the new upcoming videos.
What about stonewalling? Being ignored as punishment... I'm not a narcissist but that tends to make me freak out too.
I saw something similar about the lack of dependence from my EX. I thought it was odd. A 40+ year old woman telling me "I need a plan for the day, what's the plan?" Would explain her jumping from marriage to marriage I guess? And I hope this insight is true because it would explain a lot of things. We had a miscommunication one day and I never seen a woman so emotionally charged during the discussion about. It was crazy. I was shocked by her behavior.
Yes my ex narc would hate being alone and get angry whenever I went to
The office or the football
This is raw truth about narcissist 🎯💯
Thank you for these videos.
You could buy them a Private Island and they would still abuse you 😂
You're very wise.
As evil as they may be, not all narcissistic people are consciously behaving this way. Remember that they were treated very badly, usually by someone close like family. Their minds have been hijacked and they see even good people as a threat now, they see danger in everyone, everyone that they cannot control. I’ve been there, always expecting rejection or betrayal. They need healing and deliverance, we need to continue to love them, set healthy boundaries, tell them “no, this is not ok.”, bring awareness, and most importantly pray for their souls.
So don’t take their mistreatment personally even if it is directed at you. God help us all.
5:40 yup I did lol I would always baby sit my neighbors 4 year old and 6 year old sons back when I was 14 , they would pay me a lil cash to , my parents would leave me at the house at times when I was like 6-8 , times are definitely different , I would think if I open the door to anyone I would die 😂😂😂
1 yes it shocked me the anger when I shut down her control 2
Pressing like always before listening😂🎉
I was with my older sister and brother years ago at my nephew's birthday. Somebody came up and said "Are you from South X MY CITY?' They were staring at me. I was so nervous and he said SOUTH X and I said no. He asked me about Junior High and he had been in my Divion and I hadn't seen him in about 20 years. They stared at me as I talked him and never even talked, they just stared. Later on the phone, my sister said "When you said you weren't from South X, You Sounded So Stupid. YOU ARE EXACTLY RIGHT. IT IS SO PSYCHOTIC AND I NEVER EVEN SAW IT.
it's my sister too.
:( it's taken me a very long time to figure her out. Devastating impact on the family. There is only two of us, 10 months apart (grew up like twins) when my dad was dying * knowing he would pass within a couple of days, she left town for a friend's wedding. Weirdly seemed excited to tell the wedding party that our dad died while she was there... Playing victim Look At Me... She is living with my mom now (I only started this 'narc discovery the year they decided to live together 😢 ... my sister has convinced my moms counselor that mom needs antiphychotic meds because she gets so angry (after years of belittling she is trying to defend herself, it's called reactive/defensive abuse) I'm trying to teach my mom about all this stuff to try and save her. 😢 Spoke to her counselor myself to tell her the Truth about my sister. You know what?? She still believes my calm, confident, well spoken sister. When you are the victim of the narc you second guess yourself, grow up with nervous energy, people tend to second guess you 🤯
Educate yourself as much as possible.. with knowledge you win. ... but be prepared to mourn. Accepting the reality is a brutal process. Big hug.
@@kelleyreid-rose6775 Thanks so much. I am sorry for your mother. The last thing they want you to do is defend yourself. I have actually gone thru something really major. I am not in contact with anyone anymore. They nearly drove me to the edge. I literally have no choice. My sister wrote me the other day. I feel badly because we are all in our senior years but there is no way I could even go near them. Everyone believes them. Sometimes, I think the Therapists are Narcissists, too. They seem to just see what they want to see. I really believe the No Contact may be the only way to go but it is so hard to do. But, honestly, my personal situation didn't leave me with any other choice. Good luck to you. I hope thinks work out, as well as they can, anyway. Happy New Year. 💛
5.00 - because, they can't do it themselves.
They need someone to do it for them.
3.14
Bingo. Wow , you described it ! Maybe a bit edzadgerated, but basically, it covers what this is.
You nailed it 👍 🇬🇧
That thing of them not wanting you to talk to somebody else absolutely spot on. There is this little twit narc at work that if I go to have a conversation about anything to somebody else just work related that little twerp is like Johnny on the spot, like right there. The interesting thing is, the other night one of the girls at work called this little twerk out and told him that he was acting dumber than dirt ...all he did was displlay that snarky narc smirk.
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Yep, Narcs caste shade upon you, to however will listen to their story.
That's why when u see a person living alone and not relying on others and not needy that person is more safer and will not control u and stab you in the back
He introduced me that he traveled alone but behind the scene he always with the hit man gangster , but post things like travel alone. His partner is working with him but tried to deluded my mind. That’s they are alone if you react they will twist the narrative to make you like crazy.. This psychological hit man gangs do.
😊 yep that is my son 100% 26 yr buddy told me say to a narcissist you're going to get everything that is coming to you if they freak out you know they are a narcissist it's a test and it works😂😂
your son? 😅 mmm. Comes from the mother & father..
Based on what you have said about covert narcissists I’m wondering if you used to be with my wife 😂😂
16.01
Yes b c they are so co dependent.
Everything about them, is a connection to you.
So , it's co dependent.
They depend and need, other people to operate.
They can't do it themselves. This is the core reality , of why they are the way they are. They need, others. They can't figure out things themselves.
They are overly kind to others ( random strangers ) b c they NEED THEM. to figure out how to open a door , or find their wallet or whatever.
10:26 true nex would throw tantrum or rants even towards me then after an hour or so take a deep breath and say we are going to get qdoba and saying they love me ..
Walk away and no contact
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Followed in 3 countries and in my accounts at 40 bevause i like to volunteer and speak spanish but exes and ex family memvers that dint belong in my life..we need court.they cant leave people alone..still dont get it..
Well, all right now let's check it out.
Social media addictions at a young age is what happened.
What's crazy is they are all alike same behaviors 🤯🤪🙄
21 .50
Is a whole other video.
Behind your back , they will belittle you ( TO OTHER PPL)
trying to mess up, your reputation.
That's never ok. And i consider that, a crime. No one has the right , to make up bad stuff , on you, and tell that fake info , to other people, to screw up, your reputation.
How do you cut someone like this out when they married a family member?
Narc central over here 👈🏽
My ex would get annoyed with me for saying goodnight the wrong way lol. I would say, well, I guess I should get some sleep.
Apparently not good enough. She criticized me saying it that way and said I don’t need to “mince words” essentially
Hey man, it is what it is.
Hahaha good video title !!! They just don't seem to be able to chill out do they
Tez you gotta eat that pumkin bro
I have a friend , who did 1 year military.
He's opposite of narcissist. He's very good guy. I think most military people are not narcissist. They have zero
Narc qualities. They are correctable , fun, sociable , strong , capable etc
100%
How do I prove my ex had/has covert (vulnerable) narcissism disorder in a court of Law? She assaulted both me and my neighbour 2 days after my mother passed away - kind of sums her up. Every trait/behaviour pattern you speak of was there with her.
How in the hell can you not be left alone in your own house 😂
They have the "God Complex"...........
u mean "satan complex".....
Theres a lot of younger ones . And theres older ones too , like parents that got that issue.
I think a lot of peoples demeanor comes from the fact that they rely on other people almost exclusively so them actually being the subject of confrontation is pretty much impossible for them to even percieve so they act as though thats the case they dont think they'll ever fight and also think there will always be someone else there to fight their battle for them so they try to sound and act as helpless as they possibly can to generate attention from a knight in shining armor to come save them same for men now as women because most men are victims of the government/governing forces so they've been largely effeminized and for most they dont even consider being more masculine to be a possibility as the consequences are so ludicrous in comparison to the forecasted potential gain that they find it foolish to even entertain such a proposition completely overlooking the point of masculinity in itself the ability to determine whats considered ludicrous and what isn't and since they're not masculine they dont get to choose whats crazy and what's not and whats the truth and what's not they have it determined for them many people aren't even capable of choosing to wait it out because that option wasn't given to them by a determining force and really truly thats where the problem is in the world everyone thinks they're benefitting from being soft but the truth is the world you could've had you didnt even get to see because it was determined based upon your actions that you weren't good enough not even just to see it to even imagine it. Your dreams are worse, your sleep is worse, your suffering is worse, your pain is worse, your depression is worse, your sadness is worse, but you can't even tell so whats it to you anyway after all I could spit on you from up here if I wanted to I just don't because I wouldn't want you coming up here wafting around that cloud of stink.
Where's mommy 😂 omg they are ATTACHED 🎯
He's describing the vast majority of women.
Frrr what happened ?!
2:40 🤯
Up the volume somehow I can't hear it. Maybe in editing , or some way to max the volume , my vol is maxed out and I can barely
hear you
Maybe the girl suffered from abandonment trauma.
The whole being in the house thing alone has nothing to do w narcissism and its a poor example. Many ppl w mental illness can suffer from this even from trauma. Also a lack of independence is not always a red flag, a person w a chronic can lack independence, all poor and judgmental examples!
Like a tapeworm......
They just don't pay for jack shit and need to pay some taxes their bums bro😊 who knows a Record label owner here ??
Who got me😮
Dude 45 years of this abuse
Holy shit
❤🎉!
I agree with most of your videos, but disagree about independence. Vulnerable narcissists can crave hyper independence to the point of self-imposed isolation. It’s a mix of ultimate victimhood and a desire for self-sufficiency. Similar to avoidant behavior, but more extreme. They’ll try to smear and destroy everything they can on their way out.
I’m also a little offended about your statement about independence. I lost my independence for a long time after I got a bad infection in my 20’s. I couldn’t drive, had to rely on adults, and my nervous system was stuck in 24x7 panic because of damage. It was something I had to accept but I later had to do exposure therapy to regain independence. It’s still very hard, but I’m a very empathetic person with an anxious attachment moving towards secure. Prior to this illness, I used to look down on people who didn’t know how to be independent since I was. I lived with a relative that became very dependent on me in some ways and it annoyed me. It turned out he had a neurodegenerative dementia that’s like Alzheimer’s mixed with ALS. Really terrible.
So while a lack of independence can certainly be a red flag, keep in mind that that this can happen to otherwise good people by no fault of their own. Severe anxiety/panic, agoraphobia, PTSD, autoimmune disease. and brain injury are only some examples that can cause people to lose their autonomy. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.
I lost my wife to severe vulnerable narcissism. Trauma bond or not, I loved her but had to let her go after two divorces. I have to take care of my daughter now (parallel parenting), which I wasn’t sure I was prepared for. Even though she is young and was traumatized by the way the initial stage of divorce, she is an emotionally intelligent, empathetic, and secure individual now. Much more secure than I ever was, so I must be doing something right. When she was initially returned to me by court order, she was extremely excited, but there was an underlying irrational fear of losing things and losing control. The destructive traits her mom has was mildly rubbing off on her. She was young, but I am not sure if she ever expected to see me again.
Admittedly, I became dependent on my wife (co-dependency as well). It was something I was ashamed of and I didn’t work hard enough to improve myself. And even though I’ve gained independence through gradual exposure therapy, I’m afraid of dating. Not everyone understands my limitations and I hate being a burden on anyone else. My ex-wife chose me knowing my limitations, so I assumed that she liked me for me. She had red flags in the way she’d treat strangers, but I thought I could fix her. I actually helped her in many respects. She genuinely didn’t know how to interact in the world before me and I felt like I had to help her. I got married but it wasn’t until she got pregnant where I truly felt like I was in love. We had chemistry before this but I felt polyamorous. And around the same time is when she started getting abusive. We had virtually no conflict for many years before we got engaged, so I saw some of her social awkwardness as forgivable or cute quirks. It felt like the most secure relationship I’ve ever been in for about 4 or 5 years. Never any fighting or bickering. I was just being my genuine self, but according to her, she wasn’t.
you're just talking about every single woman on this planet
O I know . 50 years of marriage narcissistic wife she's going to see my 40 year old son in Canada my two kids obviously take her side don't want to know about me I am coming up 73
But didn’t God give every human being a spirit? Just because someone is demon possessed doesn’t mean they don’t have a spirit still.
JUST DO NOT WORRY ….NO WOMAN WILL COME IN YOUR LIFE .
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This guys videos are horrible, don’t listen to him.
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