How to Stop Worrying Whether or Not They Like You
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- We spend an inordinate amount of time concentrating on the question of whether or not we are liked. It would be a great deal wiser to put our energy into actually proving likeable and persuading our audience of our affection for them.
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“One of the most acute questions we ask ourselves in relation to new friends and acquaintances is whether or not they like us. The question feels so significant because, depending on how we answer it in our minds, we will either take steps to deepen the friendship or, as is often the case, immediately make moves to withdraw from it so as to spare ourselves humiliation and embarrassment.”
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How many relationships (romantic or not) have started just because one person shows an interest in the other one and the other one is just like: "cool, let's give it a go!"
We like to be liked!
That's actually really thought provoking, and very encouraging. I might be afraid of rejection because, I don't nessisarly continue the small talk they usually start. Idk I essential reject people but I want more friends? That's stupid of me to think, but this video and comment reminds me I should just take risks
Too true! A woman once told me a long time ago that it was how I made her feel that interested her in me. I didn't do anything to purposely affect her emotions.
Quick Fix - Thought Provoking Videos 👍☺ true. It has happened to me zillions of times. 💓
I was the always the one who initiated friendships and now I've wonderful friends!!
S P well, don't smell them. (Specially those who forgot to apply their deodorant. ) 😅 Scan them! Just try to learn how to be more selective w the relationships and friends you choose. It works better in more ocassions. Good luck! 💓
I struggled with this til I was about thirty, when I realised exactly what is described so clearly here. If you act as if you like someone, and help them in some way, and they still don't like you, then you can just move on.
@@liorsmith why we can't move on from someone if we are at work? I mean, it is just co-worker after all. I'd like to hear your perspective on this since I haven't graduate. In my house, I don't like my mom and dad, but yeah...arguments are huge, but in the ends, we are back again to being kids-parents relationship.
@@Elwen-xs7gr -- maybe move on from them in a personal sense, but definitely not in a professional sense. You can still have a smooth, non-awkward business relationship even after they reject your offers of personal friendship.
The problem is, we're never taught *how* to do that.
Very true
How do you do this when it comes to family members, especially the in-laws?
@@lozzylols If in-laws don't like you then that potentially poses practical challenges, as well as emotional ones.
However, their opinion of you shouldn't matter emotionally. It's your partner's opinion that matters. And if your partner backs you even against their parents, then you have a really special relationship.
in the 7th grade I asked this kid if i could be his friend. He just smiled and replied "Sure kid". We were the best of friends until he died some 50 years later.
that sad
@@janiyamcduffie9997 It's quite moving, but sad that he's died though. How many of us have lifelong friends?
Aw Lifelong friendships are hard to find ❣
Awwww
Rip to your friend ❤
Despite how open, peaceful, and loving you attempt to be, people can only meet you, as deeply as they've met themselves. ~Matt Kahn.
Profound, yet so simple. And obvious too, once it’s been pointed out. Thanks Matt, and well deduced.
@@0reozsgaming995 when people don't like you and you don't like them that's life am I right 😊
Good stuff!👌
It’s hard, but realizing that some people just won’t like you.. Is the key. With some people it’s hard work just to keep a conversation civil.
@markj6700 If you'r unable to befriend someone just because he/she is a Trump supporter, than you'r the one who is in the wrong. Trump may not be the best, but he isn't the next Hitler or something. We are all getting played by politcs, its stupid to let it stand in the way between friendships.
993727 People choose not to befriend a person over far less. If you have nothing in common regarding politics, religion, etc.. Then why bother being "friends". Now being cordial and getting along on the job with people who share different views is simply being professional. But one shouldn't feel obligated to befriend a Trump supporter if they don't want to.
Like a guy I currently work with.
I'm a heroine junkie. I love all strong women. @markj6700
@markj6700 grow up dude that is a pathetic way to live
I honestly think one of the most valuable lessons to learn in life is that not everyone is going to like you and that's OK, to be a people pleaser and to put way too much emphasis on what others think is a road to misery, we can't be everything to everyone and still be true to ourselves.
Although it sounds like a common knowledge kind of thing, that's a lesson I've had a really hard time internalizing. It comes from a place of wanting to just be nice and get along with others, but I have a horrible habit of taking things quite personally when I'm not met half way on those sentiments. Not recommended...
One of the best ways to stop worrying about what other people think about yours to just remember that those people do nothing for you in your life and don’t deserve to hold that power over you.
You're legit only commenting on all these channels so you can get subs. Fuck you.
@@lights473 theyr leaving positive advice its you thats being negative lol
Love it! Needed to read that
@@invisibleghost85 That advise isn´t very positive tho, we´re living in societies and thereby other people have an impact through being part of the system. The optimal way would be to find people who use their power to positively impact your life and minimize the interactions with people who don´t.
The best way to stop worrying is to become confident and self-aware by analysing and trusting your own skills.
@@ciraxa it is very positive actually its about telling people that ultimately your the only one in control of your happiness thats enpowering. Yes we need to let positive people into our lives and reject the negative people but even when we try to do this inevitably we will have times we need to interact with negative ppl (work etc). Its about not letting them affect our mood which is easier said than done.
A word of advice: Actively try to notice things you like about them! Focus on appreciating them, and they will naturally like being around you.
Second piece of advice: Some people are just ready to not like you, and this says much more about them than it does about you.
Won't appreciating too much make you a doormat?
@@otherpill7008 Not necessarily.
I like this, thanks :-)
Dumfries Spearhead It's not complete black and white thing, but that's usually the case. It happens most of the time when you appreciate someone's looks or clothes,but it also happens when you appreciate some specific attitude of someone. Entitlement causes that. They take it for granted. Of course, the opposite occurs when you appreciate someone's talent when they are trying to present it with the purpose to impress.
@@otherpill7008 But to me that's not true appreciation. When you TRULY appreciate someone, their qualities, way they dress, you're doing it from a place of firstly appreciating YOURSELF, feeling good in your own skin.
When that happens, people tend to reflect that back to you and you're not taken advantage of, quite the opposite.
I've experienced truly feeling appreciation for someone and TRYING to feel appreciation for wanting validation for eg.
The latter generally leads to people not responding or responding in a negative manner.
I just think of it like this: If I'm being open and authentic in my interactions and a person still judges me in a negative light and doesn't like a part of me, then that's not my problem. This means that there are some aspects of themselves that need to be adjusted if they can't take me for who I am. They'd be missing out, because I'm the prize.
assuming you're a good person then yes but if you're just abrasive and blunt then they might not like you because you've given them reason to. then again, some people appreciate that kind of unfiltered honesty.
I´ve met quite a few people who follow the same principle, but usually they´re so self-centered in their interactions that they´re unreachable.
I liked most of them, but they were hardly listening to anyone else. Usually, it´s not worth to spend time and energy to make those understand.
You for example sound arrogant (even though that might not be true). You want them to take you for who you are, but you refuse to take them for who they are.
You´re not perfect either, my friend.
@@Queef_Storm Yes, assuming you`re a person with good genuine intentions. That`s the key part actually lol
@@ciraxa Yeah, I should've been more specific. This is assuming that the persons coming from a place of good intention, and is being genuine in their interactions i.e being brave enough to open up to someone and talking openly about their fears and insecurities.
Well said I need to realize that too
“You’d care a lot less what people think about you when you realize how seldom they do”
Now how seldom they do makes me sad😭
@@utkarsh3708 I'm a Pokemon fan. I've been playing Pokemon 16 years, but I like Yugioh to as well. Mystic Elf, and Change of heart are two of my favorite cards...
Everyone hates me, I'm a metalhead and I'm goth so yeuh..
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 yugioh is so cool🤘. I also started playing duel links.
I put that 'change of heart' card in my pfp because it represents my change in personality.👀
@@utkarsh3708 Same. I'm kind of bipolar.
I also meant everyone hates me on the second part, lol. Not everyone is me.. yuck.. lol
@@thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 well.... You will always find alteast one person who won't hate you in any big group. It's alright if others don't like you. 👊
Also I don't know much about bipolar.. So take care whatever that disorder is.
As someone who's felt ignored as a kid, It came to me very early. Some people will like you, others won't. For the same reason you will like some people but not everyone. The worst part is, those whom you really like don't necessarily feel the same about you. There's nothing you can do about it, it's part of being a human. Love strangers unconditionally, keep going and deepen your friendship unless you're 100% certain they're not that interested, gladly walk away without hating them. It's not their fault.
as usual, school of life hitting the mark
School of Life, I love that you read my kind, but when I saw that black girl with similar hairstyle and blazer as mine, I knew this was a sign of the universe.
Me too!
Synchronicity at work
yes, it's a sign that no one likes you.
same here
@@OP-xi1hv you’re sad. Why do you have to project your insecurities on others?
The day i decided to stop caring what people think of me was the best day ever. Since then i have better friendships. Just be who you are. That's all you can be.
This makes friendship so satisfying. Simply being empathetic, thoughtful and open is generally enough to make it work.
I've been doing those things and a person i really care about just doesn't show interest at all.
Ana Morel They aren’t worth your time, maybe talk to them about this? If they seen indifferent or closed off then I wouldn’t bother trying to be friends anymore. Relationships are a two way street.
We used to think that creating new friendships is something not easy , one because we're taught since childhood that we don't" make" friends but find them and they find us. Two because no one told us when we were little to like the other person we don't know, or to approach others in kind , warm way. What I think we could do is we like ourselves first then see the beauty of every person as unique and interesting by his own, and he'll in turn like the reflection of his good self in our eyes .
Well said! I was thinking about this just the other day. Instead of getting hung up about how well or kindly to treat others or not, first build a good relationship with yourself and then you will be enabled to treat others the most authentically.
Wow, yet another thing my parents failed to teach me.
Okay this is getting weird. How does the School of Life know everything I need and release a video as soon as I need it...
Christian Putter even weirder because we are all the same yet constant trick ourselves to believe otherwise( thus anxiety and depression are born)
astrology obvs
Christian Putter answer is school life does not know everything. Never put too much confidence in pre established wisdom it leaves no room for new ideas to grow.
Christian Putter I also needed this video today
Because you are just that basic I guess lol
I've lost so many friends during my time at uni and even now because I was afraid of getting hurt, afraid of making myself vulnerable only to have the door shut in my face. It was only when I finished uni and had people crying over my going back home that I realised that maybe, despite how I see myself, I am lovable.
Stephen M Great you came to realize this Stephen. You have a great smile and I’m sure a great heart. I know it’s hard to be vulnerable but just being open can bring so much reciprocated love, gratitude and light into your life just as much as it can bring sorrow and heartbreak, but the good outweighs the bad every time.
Oh wow! You are loved. At least you have social life and I don't even have an friends until end year if my uni:(
This narrator has a nice voice 😀 I’m old and I don’t give a damn who doesn’t like me, but I used to care when I was younger, I think lots of younger folk do fret and nowadays the internet is causing them so much unnecessary anxiety and stress.
"Friendship cannot develop until one side takes a risk of showing they are ready to like even when there's as yet no evidence that they are liked back"
Who would ever want your friendship
"...concentrate on showing that _we_ like _them_ ." Someone give this man an award.
lol , good stuff
Great mindset to adopt, the don't give a hoot about whether someone likes you or not. In this world, there are some that are bound to dislike you and guess what, you don't need to spend your energy on them.
So much pressure in such a stressful world
Peace in Jesus Christ. He is the center of life itself. What's the center? Think of a nectarine. It has a pit inside the fruit that the flesh builds upon. Our society likes to build upon the appeal of other people because we are all made in the image of God and are sacred and our judgments characterize the world in which we live. Consider movie reviews or any type of review, or even movie sales. People were attracted to the film because it was a good film. Or was it? What if it was a bad film and people had poor judgment and went to see in it droves? People are malleable. There are millions of different factors occurring in life at any given moment. So often our conception of other's opinions and view of the world could be totally different than what those people actually believe.
People desire appeal of others to gain glory because we were designed to increase in life. People are the natural medium of Earth's experience. The Bible discusses otherworldly beings including God, angels, the devil and demons and other miscellaneous beings both good and evil. But the only being that is designed to see the Earth in a natural way are human beings. We are the only being that is made out of Earth that understands Earth the way it was meant to be understood. Except there's the sin element which hinders people from truly seeing the cosmos and life in the way we were naturally designed to it. The beginning of the regeneration of the human condition is to regain Yahweh God. You can only reconnect with God through Christ because God expressed love in the story of Christ in a way that love was truly objectively and defined by the idea of sacrificing one's life to provide life to another. God is love.
That takes me back to the initial point of center. The pit was always there inside the nectarine, it simply requires looking deeper than the flesh.
much* pressure
So true
I always dissect every word I said wondering what I might have said wrong. Or maybe I didn't say enough?🤔😅😂
Don't do that. That's a terrible habit to have.
Are you a scorpio?
@@rojocali1259 Sag, why?
Sebastian Elytron I do the same thing. I was just curious👀
I do the same damn thing (and before it's asked, I'm a Libra lol)
I almost find these comments as a kind of group therapy because I know I'm not alone in feeling this way. It's amazing how you can have an aha moment in the video or someone says something. I need to watch these several times for it to really soak in. Thank you for all these wonderful videos!
I always think that I'm not likeable, or that I don't deserve to be someone's friend because they're nice and genuine and I'm not like that so I move away from friendships. All my friendships are strained. I can't be honest and upfront towards those I actually like because I'm afraid of coming off as repulsive. Relationships are easy to form and really hard to maintain 😅
They have a video on this subject for you.
Bruh sameeee 😂
How we think about ourselves and others can completely shape and change our lives and our relationships. Unfortunately thoughts like these can become self prophesying. Practice positive affirmation and gratitude! I’m sure you have amazing qualities, remember that you are loved no matter what despite your flaws. Once you learn to truly embrace yourself for who you are and allow yourself to be vulnerable, you will see a huge change in your life. Take things a day at a time, you can do it!
Probably you're an awesome person and friend.
I have the same problem...people always think im mean! I dunno how to act in front of strangers 🥲
This is honestly so eye opening. I sometimes seem friendly but also reserved. But then complain about people not interacting with me a lot, instead of just showing a lot of warmth towards people!!!
This video speaks my life. Making friends as an adult is hard 😩
This is more than about trying to be liked by someone -- it is about holding the same level of expectations you have of others to yourself and being nicer to yourself. This positive thinking is at the HEART of getting through social anxiety, and on a larger sense, becoming a more confident individual.
"Concentrate on showing...that WE like THEM"... that is so powerful.
Thank you. I had just been searching your videos for something on this topic when this was uploaded.
I haven't really had a proper friendship since I was 13, and recently determined that it was because whenever I'd meet someone new I'd be constantly convinced that no-one could ever really like being friends with me, and so unless I had irrefutable evidence otherwise (which, for reasons you explained in your video, never really happened), I'd not take the risk and just withdraw instead.
I'm perfectly happy in my own company, I don't need to be as social as much as most other people do, and I do get on with other people fine... but it's long past time I actually found other people I can connect with.
Ceridwen Aeradwr--can we be besties?
bit difficult when you have social anxiety :/
Oooof
EXACTLY
So true.
maryamh true...
my brain: you need to take your friends up on that offer and go to the party
Also my brain: no, you are going to be an anxious, awkward mess, don't go!
gets lonely :/ gotta keep trying though, right?
When someone doesn't like you, most often than not, you can feel it
im always the one to talk first and to DO first. Unfortunately, I've been taken advantage of. Which is why now, i have set boundaries
I appreciate that you guys used all dark skinned characters in this episode
Racist
Not racist, he’s acknowledging that people of color (like myself) can be underrepresented in media and that it’s refreshing and empowering to see diverse cultures on the screen. Check yourself before unloading such a harsh judgement on someone.
Decimalar= RACIST😂
Decimalar dumb
I was so happy to see that as well! How refreshing!!
I'm fairly old now and don't care whether people like me or not. I don't try to cultivate friendships and am often surprised when told that I was liked by people I had recently encountered. When I was much younger I was self-conscious and tried to make an impression - it often didn't work. That's life - when you want something you don't get it. When you don't care you do get it.
“Whether or not a person likes us is a reflection of what they mean to us” I’ll just have to drill that sentence in my brain and never forget it tbh
So happy to see an animation with solely people of color. Don't see that often.
"I'm a racist" is really all you just said
Alana Herlands most definitely ...been a big fan of this channel for awhile now and I believe this is the first time they've used us 😎
@@Decimalar As soon as you read the comment you just know it's not even a "person of colour" that wrote that...
no they didnt, they didnt include white, middle eastern, asians and most importantly, marsians
why does it even matter for a video of this kind?
Wow this video is so helpful. I've recently been going through another painful patch in life where I've become so nervous about how someone thought about me that I closed myself off from them and drove myself into despair. After seeing this, I'll try to be more open and trusting to them. Take it easy and see where it goes. Hopefully I might be able to get out of this horrible cycle I've gotten myself into.
Damn. Just as I was being hated on today this video is being uploaded 😂😂 great timing
Never worry if people like you cause in reality most won't it is the sad truth. Being yourself your true self will not be pleasing to others if you try to please others all you will be doing is ruining your life. Be happy and like yourself believe in yourself. Don't care about what others think. Cause if you do you will never know for sure who likes you or not because people lie. I don't think this is easy for people to learn but they must learn it.
What about if someone has heavy social anxiety due to abusive and overprotective parents, and exclusion from its environment and never had any real friends yet he is about to work in office he graduate?
I'm 18 years old this year. Recently, the thought not being likable bother me a lot. People my age that I saw on the internet, they have friends and are living their best life while I'm here sitting in my room wondering if my friends even like me or not. School also has been very hard and I don't really have anyone to talk to, internet is the only place I can freely express myself as no one really know me or bother to even care. I just hope I can be happy again.
Right when I needed this...I feel like you guys know me and my life
Accept the fact that you can't get EVERYONE to like you. Stop trying to please everyone. Be yourself
Great feedbacks if you work people who are authentic and don’t always have an agenda . It seems most people are so self absorbed these days and there is so much phoniness that come along with that . The key is to be kind and not care about everyone’s opinion of you
I couldn't be more grateful for your existence. I never really imagined before that i'll find someone who'll manage to put the most complex abstract human attitude into words. And now, every time i'm faced with a dilemma, existential crisis, anxiety or depression, i come running to ur channel looking for ur comforting voice decoding matters to settle my inner issues. It's like a safe corner for me now.. a place where i feel like I'm completely understood.. You have my deepest gratitude.. i really really really can't thank you enough
I have come back to this video because I simply must thank you. This video changed my life... I know you must hear that thrown around a lot, but it *really* has changed my perspective so incredibly much, so thank you School Of Life, thank you.
Everyone Hates me so i really needed this Thanks!
Jimmy The Gent I don’t hate you random stranger!!!! Stay strong!!!
Hey Jimmy, I don’t hate you at all. You’re probably a really cool dude :)
I really like your channel because you get straight to the point and don't have a dreadful introduction
The lesson of this essay is true, friendship can only develop when someone takes a risk. But for me the first thing I need to figure out is weather I like them or not, not at all what the video assumes everyone does. I know I'm likable and I'm a great friend. The question to me is what do THEY add to my life and why should I make an effort?
Lol oh yeah true 😅😅
Nobody has to like us. They don't owe you anything. Remember!! Even if you are nice to them, they dont have to be nice to you.
There will always be people who won't like us. And sometimes it's not about us. It's about them.
Maybe what they see in you is something they are jealous of.. or maybe you resemble them someone they used to dislike..or maybe they have misunderstood your intentions.. it can be anything, literally. But don't care what they don't like. You can't change yourself just because a person doesn't like you. Just keep going until you find someone who accepts you just the way you are.
It takes time to find the real one.
And this is why I generally love animals over people. My human circle is very small- quality over quantity… and I couldn’t be more content. The ones who accept me as my authentic self are appreciated and those who don’t are just noise. Not everyone is going to like me and that’s okay 👌
Thank you, this slowed down my heart rate a little bit.
You must tell yourself to try your best in every situation to build with the other person. Don’t battle with them to see who’s going to show the most interest first. It’s really tough but the moment you feel like withdrawing that’s when you don’t and persevere. After that and it no avail it’s okay to give in. I had to do this myself because I would leave at the first sign of you not liking me. This was my cope out to being an adult and blaming others for why I’m alone. But also understand it’s fully okay for people not to choose you. It could be because of you or it might not. Don’t spend time thinking about that though. Continue becoming a better person. The people in your life now are the right people.
Gosh I needed this today... anyone ever felt like an outsider at work? Everywhere else/every other workplace has been absolutely fine, but, just this one workplace, where you love the job but don’t quite fit in. It’s all very surface level nice to me, but seeing others connecting and confiding and, I try to connect and get very little back... It has got me nervous to speak to anyone!
'Ne te quaesiveris extra. (Do not seek for things outside of yourself)' - Ralph Waldo Emerson
if you never feel lonely i guess that advice is okay.
RonasD94 True, it ain’t for everyone, but it’s done me plenty of good from my experience.
Thanks for an all-colored cast. You guys are awesome
You can only do so much though, and then the ball is really in the other person's court. You can't force these things. You should never chase someone's affection. You shouldn't fight to be friends with someone when they're showing little to no sign of wanting to be friends with you. It's one thing making the first move, but then you need to leave it up to the other person to reciprocate.
This channel is seriously life changing.
There's also a trust element on this... Bond between 2 people usually start with judging you can trust the person or not...
This is so simple i Never looked that way
School of Life is my therapist , who works in mysterious ways and pops a video in my recommendations whenever I am going through similar period of problems.
I just got a Job involving Socializing and Interacting with another Person on a daily basis and I really feel nervous and unsure about it, I needed this kind of Video, Thank You!
TL;DR To make friends, you must first be friendly. Good stuff
You can not be more spot on with my life...
I always showed people I liked them and get rejected all the time so now I just keep to myself. It sucks either way imo. But when someone reaches out to me then I can get along easily
And so glad 2 see a School of Life video with Black & Brown people!! 🙏🏻
And what about when you think you’re friends with someone and then you find out they don’t consider you their friend? This happens to me so frequently that putting myself out there again is too big of a risk. Thrice bitten...
Hey let be friends. I won't let you down 😂
This is true. I may not like someone for example because of what they are to me, however they may like me and I may not even know unless I trust and open up my personality just to not care for being liked.
Fantastic. I am just about to translate from English to Portugueses for me to show to my Brazilians friends!
My experience says that friendship can not be built and developed. It's an imperceptible yet powerful sense of likeliness that brings two people together when they meet for the first time.
As for being open and caring to someone, if one does so all he is going to get is sypathy and respect at best and despise with disrespect in general. If have experienced it.
The place where I work, I tried to make friendship with many ignoring the one because I didn't get the vibes of alikeness. Yet he would call me quite often and wish me on many occasions. Now I have not made a friend out of anyone but feel good about this guy. And let me make it clear after several hangouts together I haven't yet felt like a friend with him.
That's free will for ya! It's very freeing as well, as it means there's nothing we can do to make people like or love us. If we could, life would be very painful, and real love wouldn't exist.
Why are these uploads always perfect timing 😂
When it comes to life, every one of their video is perfect timing
I can't express how much this channel has helped me. Being on the spectrum, understanding other people's emotions is naturally difficult for me. But by watching these videos, i have been able to learn how to be a good friend and partner. Thank you so much, you've helped me develope my emotional intelligence.
These videos are heartwarming
I feel personally attacked by this video. This is exactly what I do and constantly feel like I'm not good enough.
I feel the same way
Heres the secret, we all do. But as you get older you wont care. Just be kind and helpful and everything will fall into place.
Your voice and tone are a delight to my ears. Thank you
I agree with this for the most part. However, some people just won't like or connect with us no matter what we do. In this case, there's nothing we can do about it. All we can do is remind ourselves, it's not personal. Other's opinions of us are not about us.
Be happy with ur self FIRST and foremost...
Like/love urself!
If u make friends great - if you don’t enjoy ur own company.. I do 😃
In relationships, sometimes those who genuinely like us are the ones who sometimes leave because they are afraid they will hurt us.
Take full responsibility and go for it!!! If there in for you they'll tell you right away, if not ask the real questions and be prepared to also listen some answers that you do not want to hear... But in the end you will truly know...
You know what, I will. I'll try not to be so afraid of showing them how much I like them.
As my dad would say: You have to be a friend to have friends.
This channel has all playlists on my own conflicting thoughts and existential crises
Other peoples opinions have nothing to do with us.
@Damnjan Pelivanovic He probably meant on personal level,because it talks about friendship, not work-related person.
Yes it does....their opinions are either correct or incorrect that is the impact....
Well, a complete asshole, is a complete asshole though, so dellusion isn't the way to go either! I usually do look through the other person's eye, evaluate what they know, see, mood, situation we're in, what they might be looking for at any given moment, and I try to be honest, not blatant, but I don't blow them, compliment when it's due though, give them an idea what I could offer to them, how I could enhance their life, be supportive. If all of that fails, just throw in the towel, you tried, you were considerate, basic antipathy can not be overcome, in fact, sometimes it actually comes from envy - you might have something they so much wish they had themselves (healthy weight, they might crave for your working class roots even, while you are aware of your own shortcomings compared to them) enough other doors to knock at! Remember, trying is never in vain, it's a learning experience for you, and one day you migh cross paths again, if only in their minds. When you end up a grain of sand in their gears, that alone might turn out very efficient!
Neither friend nor foe. Indian wisdom.
One of your best videos I think
This is a good way to end up with two-faced friends cos liking people doesn't guarantee they'll like you back. #TrueStory
The school of life . On more than one occasion I'd be thinking about a topic then check my phone to find a notification that a video is out on the same topic. It seems like a sign to me.
Okay. I have finally experienced a bit of serendipitous timing with a School of Life video. This could not have come at a better moment.
I recently met some new people and felt like we really hit it off. But now I find myself at the stage of "acquaintance" where I'm not sure if some of them would really like to hang out again (I know at least one person who does; which I'm psyched about), or if we just shared a really nice, but strictly limited, time together that was never intended to be repeated.
Wow. I discovered this channel more than a year ago and to be honest, you guys always come up with the right lessons when i need them the most. You've helped me realize a lot of important things. I've had a lot of trouble with meeting new people lately because of social anxiety and bad inner thoughts, but now that i saw this I'm aware socializing is not that terrible. Also the visuals and the concepts are ALWAYS on point. Thank you for the REALLY AWESOME work
Some people will like you, some people will not & a very few people will love us unconditionally. Embrace the last and forget the rest. They will certainly not be thinking of you for long.
Rupal” ain’t any of my g/d business of what others think of me!
Snap.
You may not respond but, thank you for the video. I'm struggling to keep a conversation going these days and I can may tell sometimes someone really wants to be my friend cause I kind of never had one, that's why I'm so quiet all the time in school, so thank you very much!
It’s weird how whenever I wake up early with an issue on my mind that’s really bothering me the school of life always puts something out that morning/day to make me feel better.🤔🤔
Just 40 secs, and i am already in love w it
It's not just about liking and being liked. How interesting you are also matters or it just doesn't work out.
Basically Mark Bowden theory of everyone is indifferent to you unless you appear familiar in a good way which makes you likeable otherwise you're a threat and therefore have to prove yourself to be otherwise though body language and such
This is RIDICULOUS how did you know i needed this....
Very truely. I feel the scripts are complicated. But concepts are good
We don't live to please them...
Neil Angelo Soliven then you won’t have any friends
Pochuharu well.. I tried that for a while and found myself very lonely.
Neil Angelo Soliven but we do. Sadly
These videos give me hope that life could be easier even while feeling like its the end of the world