1-needing to re-set 2-loud talking 3-overexplaining 4-overpreparing for social events 5-indecisiveness 6-hyperawarenss of smells 7-inconsistent skills 8-brutally honest 9-unique thought patterns 10-echolalia 11-"acting" trying to be normal 12-1talking to yourself 13-difficulty in starting tasks 14-preparing for every possible outcome which leads to you procrastinating other tasks (I have an appointment later in the day so I don't want to start any new tasks that might get my mind off the appointment) 15-memorization of odd thing 16-clumsy 17-overly litera 18-disliking sounds 19-struggling with unwritten rules 20-stickler for fairness
that's why I like talking to healthcare providers. they use very precise language and will answer any question I have regarding my health (within their speciality ofc)
@@Taurusboy07 the more I learn the more about autism, ADHD, PMDD and perimenopause, the more I wonder if I have any free will at all! Where is my personality fit in amongst all of these neurological and endocrine systems that rule my life??
@ I get it. I also have ADHD. I agree, it feels as if the free will that the world of neurotypical people created or expect us to have is damn near impossible. We have to go accordingly to our bodies. Sometimes our nervous system is overwhelmed and riddled with anxiety and or depression. That goes to say that when we are under such pressure and stress, we can not willfully give our best when our best is suppressed by many internal forces.
@@Taurusboy07 Exactly! Except neurotypical people must be as controlled by their neurotype as much as us. They can no more will themselves to experience lights and sounds physically hurting, or being physically unable to start a mundane task than we are to wish these experiences away. But imagine explaining to neurotypicals that being able to use a calendar to organise their life is NOT a tool they learned, but their neurotypical brain has an innate, evolved ability to use calendars, just like how hands have an innate, evolved ability to grasp things...! That would go down as well as trying to explain to the average man, who think hormones only affect women's moods, that they every mood or thought they have ever experienced involved hormones.
@ Great points that I totally agree with. Everything works Simultaneously together but unfortunately the neurotypical people out numbers the neurodivergent people which makes us have to suffer from the enforced nature of their world.
Going with flow often causes internal exhaustion. Unconsciously speaking loudly has gives me memory blushes decades later. Overexplain, don't get me started. My family camping skill is legendary, prepared for anything. Saved family Queenslander from burning down because I smelt a cockroach sizzling from chewing wiring in on off box for our old ceiling fan. Avoid candle shops, instant headache. Catching balls is one of my super powers but I constantly trip over my own foot and don't use expensive glassware because I'll inevitably break it. When kids squeal in play, I feel like I'm being stabbed in my brain. Lesser high noises it's just a hammer. As you started talking about unfairness my throat started constricting. Fake politicians hurt my heart. I warn new acquaintances that I'll forget their name. Can't remember any more. Good vid, thanks Orion
Instead of ppl telling me i speak to loud i am told they can’t hear me so I keep having to repeat myself and i become very annoyed at continually having to waste my breath on repeating myself when to me i feel like i am speaking at a normal volume
Interesting! That's exactly how my father acts. It drives everyone mad - him included. But I have my very annoying habits, too. And concerning those, I feel that humanity is wrong. So... No high horses for me today, but rather a chance to eat humble pie.
Sometimes people people to it to me on purpose. Especially when I stand up for myself and they see me struggling. 'Sorry what? Oh I don't understand you, you are so difficult to understand'. But when I say what they like; I'm erudite,,well spoken...etc. people can be real cu next Tuesdays.
honestly i have a lot less problem with self-checkout than i do dealing wth the cashier & bagger. they want to chat and they put the heavy items on top of the fragile items or give you 7 bags for 10 items.
@@DJ_Black_Tourmaline I agree. I also need an earbud in with a podcast playing in order for me to go into a grocery store. Self-checkout makes it easy for me to keep the earbud in all the way through the in-store shopping experience.
I think the thing with self-checkout is that if you've never done it, for some people it's like, already implied what they have to do while you don't have an idea of what you can or cannot do, or how things are supposed to work. I hate interacting with people but self-checkout kinda intimidates me. There's a cafeteria in my university that's also supposedly self-serving and I just don't get how it works so I prefer not even going.
Yes! I know how I like my groceries bagged. I’ll be angry all day if they put like two items per bag and go slowly while they scan the items. And then they wanna converse? Nope! I can bag my groceries far more quickly and efficiently than any employee and I don’t have to interact with people
@@resourcedragon I loath self checkout. I can't do that, it's not MY job, I don't know how to do that, what if I make a mistake, what if I screw it all up, what do I do omg???? (panic attack ensues). I'll go to a line with an actual cashier even if it means standing in line 20 minutes.
Sometimes when I’m watching a movie or tv show, I’ll pause it and commentate on what I just saw, but completely in my own head. So someone could walk in on me watching a movie, pause it randomly, sit in total silence for nearly a full minute and then unpause it. I look absolutely insane but it makes sense to me.
Funny thing about perception, I don’t notice the things people want me to notice with hints and clues and cues. However, I do pick up on things that people don’t want me to pick up on.
I got such a huge wave of compassion for us watching this. The things we have to do just to get through each day. I wish more neurotypical people would watch these. When I tell someone I'm autistic they just start talking loudly and slowly like I'm deaf and stupid. I feel like we do have super powers and super challenges at the same time. I loved the bit about coffee,. hilarious. Thank you for another great video.
3. Is SOOO loaded. Once someone accused me of lying because I left out a super small detail that *I* didn't realize they needed. Phfft! I'll never do that again! Also, being constantly misunderstood and being constantly accused of bad intentions leads to over-explaining to fend off the inevitable misunderstanding, made worse by my now convoluted story that will require exhausting amounts of clarification. Also, needing all the details myself and not knowing how to cover the story without every single facet, since, in my head the simple story looks like a hellish kaleidoscope of details that no one could possibly understand without all backstory and intent described in detail in advance of the actual story itself.
Yes! Exactly! And sometimes when I think about having to explain something to a Supervisor or someone I am answering to and the amount of information I figure will be required to get them to understand just...makes...me...tired before I even start talking about whatever it is!
Omg yes!!!! 👍🏻 The “why are you yelling?”, over explaining and over preparing EVERYTHING for social events 😅 And as for spiky skill sets, I’m a scientist who can do super complex stuff but am completely banned from using photo copiers and label makers at work because it’s a disaster whenever I use them 😂🤦♀️
I had a conversation at work recently and I wasn't mad at all, not even a little bit, and someone asked me why I was so angry. And I kept insisting I wasn't angry at all and some other person said Well you sound angry, and THEN I was angry because they kept insisting I was so then I got REALLY LOUD and said there you go, NOW I'm PISSED but I wasn't pissed at all before you kept insisting I was!
I never considered I was autistic until the last few years. I have an autistic son but figured it was purely the result of a genetic disorder he has. I really appreciate videos like these. I didn’t think I was autistic. I was simply weird, socially awkward, clumsy, had verbal diarrhea, easily scared by certain noises, a perfectionist, forgetful, disorganized but also hyper-organized in certain situations, and just know what I like so I stick to the same food, routines, movies, tv and music. 😂
Adding: The over-explaining thing never stood out as unusual for me. I’m Indigenous (Canada) and relaying a story in my culture (Cree/Nehîyaw) is loaded with tangents and lots of exposition. So that never seemed odd to my family when I info dumped. 🤣
I watch these to understand my (diagnosed) husband better. The more I watch the more I’m having questions about myself. My husband has said before that he sees definite traits in me and I’m more and more inclined to agree.
A big yes to all you named here. I’m not officially diagnosed but after the intake interview for an official test they told me that I’m almost certainly autistic. I’m over sixty years old. I learned how to lie because normally I am very honest and not everyone appreciates that. And therefore I learned how to, very often, recognize if people are untrustworthy, have fake behavior. I can only remember people’s names unless I hear it repeatedly during several days combined with seeing that person. I often walk into people because I simply don’t notice them. And I often stumble over and into things. If I want to open a door and grab for the door handle and the door is opened by someone before I can get hold of that handle, I still have to finish that movement even if the door knob isn’t there anymore.
23:37 The reason why we forget names I think, at least in my case, is that we are so overwhelmed by all the sensory input from meeting a new person that how that person looks, moves, the sound, including inflection and tonality of their voice &c., while at the same time forcing ourselves to act neurotypically, that paying attention to their name when they introduce themselves is just too much information to take in. The bandwidth is already full.
Orion, I appreciate you, brother. I love this list. It is so perfect. I absolutely identify with every single number on this list, though my thought processes may differ. It's kind of freaky. Also, I often spell random words backward in my mind and may occasionally spell them out loud, almost as a kind of tic. There is no reason behind it other than an "itch" that I need to scratch.
Talking about random connections. You only have to say the word 'spell' and I go back to a spelling test in primary school where one of the words was 'exit'. I had a complete mental block and my mind went round and round not finding the correct spelling. Only after the test did I realise that there was a fire exit sign behind me.
I love you, and you have helped me be truly understood by my family for the first time. It always feels like you're talking about me, and have been in my room observing me in secret. lol
Just a shout out here for those of you with Autism & ADHD. Yes, you can have both! And yes it's absolute chaos. 😂 So, I check most of these boxes but... My ADHD masks it so much more. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago (at 36 woo) & with Autism this year (just around my birthday actually lol) at 38. Never thought I'd be Autistic. But this channel really helped me to finally see it. My Psych thought it was anxiety at first but really it was my Autistic side coming out more when I started having my ADHD meds. My ADHD brain chilled out a little & my Autism side was like "Finally! The monkey is also! We can get all this stuff done that we keep procrastinating on!!" Suddenly it became harder to put things away or let things go. It became harder to deal with noises that I used to ignore up until a certain point or until I couldn't handle it anymore. But it was really hard to figure out the autistic side. What really highlighted it was that the anxiety medication didn't work & messed me up - a lot more than the Psych had seen before. But he's also only an ADHD Psychiatrist, not an Autistic one. Now I think they really need to be both. But the Psych did suggest the idea of being possibly also Autistic. To look into it a little & then if I wanted I could get an assessment. I had only known the non functioning autism so I thought it wasn't likely. But I came across this channel (and Autism on the Inside) and it was able to explain it to me better. I also looked up about girls with autism - didn't have as much on females, but went through the girls with autism & looked at it with the perspective of my childhood. And holy cow it was a really nice learning experience for me haha. One thing that really helped was going through the symptoms you listed, and another channel had called "autism bingo" - but my partner and I went through it together. I really needed his perspective on it because it turns out I have awful self awareness 😅 So, going through the autism symptoms helped, I found a lot of things I did as a child, dredged up some fun memories that had been forgotten of trying to communicate with my parents and just melting down and crying because I couldn't understand why everyone was mad at me... Why no one was understanding what I was trying to say, why everyone thought I was "being smart" or "playing everyone". Yeah, pretty sure that has little T triggers for me now too. Yay for rejection sensitivity! Anyhow I went through the Autism Assessment and man it's harder for people later in life. But I found out I had low self awareness, I can't read more complex facial expressions and I also have the whole word thing where I get mixed up with words, regardless if they are similar or if they just sound the same, and I wish forget words. But these traits are pretty common with people with Autism as well. Anyhow, I just wanted to share this all with everyone. Especially for those of you who might be thinking you relate to some things but not all parts of Autism. Especially if you have ADHD. For me, the ADHD side was much more pronounced than my Autistic side. But I'm absolutely glad to have gone through both diagnoses because I am able to understand myself so much better now because if it. ❤ So, thank you Orion Kelly!! ❤ it's been a huge help!!
Thank you so much Mr. Kelly for a hilarious but extremely accurate description of our autistic world. You nailed it in this video. I love your sense of humor that is wrapped in truth.
I'm 50 was diagnosed as a child. I was reading, writing and doing mathematic s at 3 y.o. I am a terrific problem sol er and yet I can't tie my shoes properly. 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🥴
@@Capricornrose73 I still can’t tie my shoes the way everyone kept trying to teach me. When I was 9 my dad showed me the “bunny ears” way and I finally “got it”. 🤣 I still can’t do the loop-swoop-and-pull shoe tying technique.
Tie my shoes....it took me weeks and months of practice until i was able to do it. Same was with riding a bike....While others simply sat on the saddle and pedaled, I kept falling over to the side 😒 But give me something with numbers or problem solving and my brain sees only a long list of possible solutions and delivers ideas and suggestions like an erupting volcano and it looks like a never ending pool.
Okay so all of the above lmaooo but oh god going w the flow is a nightmare. If something goes off script enough, I sometimes feel like I literally need to either just go to bed and start over tomorrow or just do literally nothing whatsoever while internally combusting and wanting everything to be so reset that I practically want to flee the state are just restart my entire life lmao
I'm able to start work well because of the urgency of it and vital need to pay bills and rent but everything else is so hard to begin. I experience every thing on this list. I was diagnosed at 38 three years ago, after having a bit of a meltdown during covid I had to figure out what was wrong and after watching one of your videos I sought help. So powerful was the effect of the video that I immediately stopped watching anything to do with autism because I was afraid I might affect the results of their assessment. I should not have worried because it was the only test I've ever passed so well. Sorry it has taken three years for this but thank you for your channel and understanding.
I do not care if strangers or mere colleagues lie to me... but if my inner circle DARES without a DARN GOOD reason... that is something completely different. But over-sharing or extreme emphasising on one specific truth, also pisses me off grandly!
Yes. I've literally stopped talking to and spending time with supposed friends over a single lie. Lying fills me with visceral rage. I sort of tolerate white lies as an idiotic social construct, but lying to my face? Absolutely not.
I just found your channel yesterday and immediately became a fan. You are so pleasant to listen to and have a lot of valuable information to share. Your unedited/unscripted/unmasked videos are so nice ❤ So yeah I just ordered your book 🥰 lots of love from Denmark
1. definitely. I have to put aside the entire day for one thing that knocks my schedule out. Tomorrow it'll be my bone density scan in the morning. This day is a write-off. Other days I do my best to minimise interruptions. 2. OMG "Why are you yelling?" "Why are you always trying to start an argument with me?" If I'm doing this, I'm passionate about something, and this is my expression coming out because I'm tone-deaf. 3. Over-explain 100%. 4. "Been there and done it before it's happened". And if something is out of place, it's time to leave or hide away somewhere. 5. I know the menu before I go. And if I can't get my hands on it, I'll need to go and get a copy from the joint before I go there on my planned outing. 7. Yes amazing at some things and very poor at some basic things that make no sense. If I can't pay cash at the self checkout (because the machine is not working), I'll drop my stuff and leave despite having a card I can use. And if a staff member should try to talk to me at self-checkout, I'll drop my stuff and leave. I am at self-checkout so I don't have to chit-chat. Leave me alone (for crying out loud). 8. Too honest. I tell people what I see/think/have been told. People don't tell me things any more as a result. And they say that I should know not to tell other people despite them not having told me that it was a secret. You can tell me whatever you want as long as you lay down the ground rules. I can keep a secret, if you tell me it's a secret. I mean if you don't, how on earth should I know? I'm not a mind reader. If I was, I'd be in a different profession. 10. I'll often repeat the last few words of a persons sentence, and I'll get accused of something, typically that I'm trying to annoy the person that's talking to me. 11. I'm not fake in any way. I will not laugh at a joke that I don't get (and that's quite often). 12. Who doesn't talk to themselves? 13. Starting, and finishing. 14. Always. As with no 1. 15. Who doesn't memorise licence plate numbers or phone numbers without even wanting to? My memory is otherwise very poor with most things that people expect me to remember. 16. "Hip and Shoulder people" lol. I knocked a person unconscious in the street once. Out like a light. Shoulder to the face. I don't even know how it was possible. 17. Coordination has always been poor. I thought it was on account of Klinefelter Syndrome. Perhaps not. 18. I have a sensitivity to quiet sounds that other people usually don't hear. Voices in other rooms, snakes in the grass. 19. I'm at my mates place and he comments on how good my hair looks. I say thank you. His wife says "And now you're supposed to comment back on how his hair looks". What? Why would I do that? I tell you what, by not commenting on his hair, well that's a comment in itself, because if I comment on anything, it's usually because I dislike it. My non-comment is a compliment in itself. 20. The cut in line I can relate to. I'll have a full blow out.
Oh, the person who cuts in! I had someone do that to me a couple of months ago, and I was shocked by how much it upset me. I vented to a couple of people about it and thought that would "get it out of my system" but I was still angry and venting the best part of a fortnight later.
I feel truly seen in every way! I talk so much to myself and narrate everything. I will even sing about what I am doing. Even while watching this video, I stopped this a few times to reflect on a few conversations I have had in the past about how literal I tend to be. When people do not ask, I do not share and they want me to READ in between the lines or assume I understand what they mean, when I really don't. When masking I use to "assume" I understood a lot only to be left confused and angst. Also the part about inconsistent skills and clumsy is a definite one for me as well. Thank you for this video and for all the comments. These comments and hearing other people experience and stories make me feel seen and not alone on this journey of discovery.🥰
Even long after a situation, like 10+ years after, I will STILL go over every other possible outcome, especially when the actual event didn't go smoothly.
Remembering names is so hard. When I meet someone for the first time and they introduce themselves, I repeat the name a couple of times in my head. Completely useless offcourse as I've completely forgotten it a minute later. But I can remember random details connected to the conversation I've had with that person. It can range from what the person was wearing to a recollection of the weather that day or to remembering having difficulties finding a parking spot and finally finding a parking spot. So if I was to meet that person a couple of months later, I'm able to recollect the entire conversation by tapping into that specific drawer of memories. I just don't recall the name 😂
I recall a few traits explained to me at my assessment. The lady assessing me said there are some traits that don't get put online or in books in order to afford more reliable screening. One of the things I was asked in the assessment was if I carry something on my person always. When I asked 'like what?', she gave a list of seemingly random small items, the last of which was a stone or pebble. I then took a Welsh snow quartz pebble from my pocket and showed it to her, a little embarrassed 😂. Apparently this is a common theme noticed in recent years among autists. Another I recall was syntax - sentence structure - which deviates from the native dialect, that is. Adjoined to this is misuse of pronouns; not gender pronouns, necessarily, but saying 'you' and 'we' instead of 'I', or 'your' and 'our' instead of 'my'. That kind of idea. The only lesser-known traits she explained to me where the ones I exhibited first.
I was watching the part about the ‘taking things more literally’ and you literally said ‘It’s Logic & Science’ right after me 🤣🤣 Great literal logical minds think alike 😉😝
Yep lol. Talking about one topic opens up 10 browser tabs and usually the songs that topic reminds me of, and each open tab opens up another tab, and another tab, and another tab, and another song, and then I'm showing them pictures on my phone or things from my childhood.
I relate to most of these as an audhd adult female but the two things a little different for me is my voice being too quiet unless I am trying to whisper rather than loud and having the ability to fake giggle at others jokes as a way to mask/avoid conflict. As an autistic woman, these have then come across as flirting when it is indeed a mask that young girls are given (regardless of nuerotype). It's always interesting to me to see how much I relate but also the differences that can happen just based on the way someone is brought up/gendered as Orion has explored on the channel before.
This is where I go to get my daily dose of imposter syndrome. They say when you meet one autistic person, you've met one autistic person. Each case is different. And then they give a list of autistic traits, few of which sound familiar. It's like there's a secret instruction book on how to be autistic that I've never seen. I can't be a regular human and I can't be autistic. I get a few. I provide my own sound effects, and I think out loud. I'm too isolated from human thought to be able to remember names, except my own. Usually. I do carry identification, just in case. I don't stumble into things. Not too much. But I have trouble learning physical skills. Literal thinking is a wobbler. I do think very literally, but I also understand figurative speech, and find the contrast amusing. If you say it's raining cats and dogs outside, I'm not going to run outside to see, but I will say, "I just stepped in a poodle." By all evidence, I am autistic, but apparently I'm not the right kind. I'm not sure what to do about that.
It's a spectrum, we're all different and there is no "right kind." A lot of similarities, but the community is incredibly varied. Not all of us will have the same exact struggles and may struggle in other places or even have strengths in places others aren't going to. Figurative speech is something I can understand, especially because I read a lot of fiction and I enjoy poetry. Saying that, it takes me a moment to try to figure out what is meant if it's a term I haven't heard often. (and then I can quickly file it away for use in future conversations if I think it's clever.) I often miss jokes and take those too literally, which angers people apparently. But I also have been told I'm quite funny because I joke around a lot, it's just usually dry/sardonic humor delivered dead-pan. A lot of people don't realize I'm even autistic unless I tell them, but that's because I'm so high-masking. I guess everyone just thinks I'm weird instead. All that to say: we're all different and you belong to the community too. You're enough and you're valid. These types of lists are just general things that a lot of different people can identify with (and generally are things the presenter does), but not everyone is going to identify with all of them.
In many ways I also suffer from Imposter Syndrome, very easy to do when you haven't been officially diagnosed, but there are so many traits that I relate to that those other traits I don't aren't a big deal.
@@lumabi25 I score really high on all the surveys on the reputable psych sites, but the therapist I saw said at my age a proper diagnosis would be more difficult and expensive than it would be worth. But I sure seem autistic to her, so let's go with that. Thanks for the undiagnosis, Doc.
@JustClaude13 I'm 53 and also score highly on those questionnaires. My sister-in-law who works with special needs children suggested I might be autistic, and a psychiatrist felt the same. Not proper diagnoses but feelings. At an older age I think it's harder to diagnose because of decades of learned masking.
Sitting here with this on as loud as possible trying to drown out the crunching of my partner's chips. I'm so freaking angry and trying to not throw them across the room. It literally is painful. Please believe your family and friends and patients and clients and coworkers. We can get through this together
Overexplaning... loud voice... yep. I try to control this, but it often dosn't work. I never mentally run events on beforehand through my mind, because it always turns out different and gets me in more trouble. Btw, @Orion: your book just arrived to me in Belgium, and I love it. The content, very personal and easy to read, but foremost: the way it's written, with sidenotes with arrows and all... it kinda represents how I or my brain operates!!! ❤❤❤❤ Edit: echolalia, in my case is NOT soothing, it's irritating: I go to sleep with it, and it's the first thing in my brain when I wake up... for days, sometimes weeks... and it's always BS: songs I hate, a fragment of the news, a name that suddenly pops to mind, the sound of sandblasting... that kind of trash, never "benevolent" 😢
Hi Orion, I hope you read this. It is not regarding this episode, it is a past one where you were talking about feeling badly about yourself for messing things up with other people a lot. Yesterday I thought something my daughter said was literal (when it wasn't) I got all sad and insulted. Then my husband told me she hadn't said anything. I thought he meant she literally did not say anything. I thought he was gaslighting me and telling me she never said it. She was quiet and did not say anything at this point. So I left very upset that my daughter thought this horrible thing of me (that she was joking about) and that my husband was lying to me. Between autism and past abuse, I was open for this misunderstanding to happen. Anyway, I went away and cried and felt alienated from my family. Then instead of the usual thinking I shouldn't be here on this earth, maybe I should do something about it, I remembered an episode where you said you sometimes have conflicts and misunderstanding and didn't always know why and felt bad about yourself because of it. I thought of course a lovely person like Orion, and all the other autistic content creators are struggling the same way. They have some extra trouble in their family life due to speaking and understanding in an autistic rather than NT way. I could easily see that you and others had every right to be here and make the world a better place despite these moments (meltdowns, shutdowns, misunderstandings), so I know I do to. I feel more confidence than I ever have. Anyway, my husband came to see what was going on and it turns out that "she didn't say anything" did not mean that she didn't say the words she said, he meant she didn't say anything to be offended by because it was obvious it was a joke. What? I guess that is NT speak and beyond me. " She didn't say anything" meant "she didn't say anything meant to hurt you" and that was somehow implied. So to everyone reading this, we can all see that people like Orion make the world a better place even if he is autistic, and maybe because of it. The good stuff like honesty, integrity and just our way of being is necessary in this world even if we don't get some jokes and take things literally and it causes some conflicts or misunderstanding. I mean we value you content creators and you go through this stuff, so we should value ourselves as well.
Related to taking things literally, I strongly prefer autological to heterological. I can manage "hello" and "good bye". (Can't remember "merry Christmas", "happy Easter" & other random ones.) But I remember arguing with my mother as a very small child that "please" and "thank you" made no sense.
Omg most of these for me. But the memorizing part--songs! I can sing all the words and notes to almost every song I've ever heard. I thought it was just a strange skill that not many people have.
I have conversations in my head before... and even moreso after, I replay the interaction, even small ones in my mind. If anything went the wrong way, I play through how I wish it would have gone as well. It's automatic it seems.
Have Bn getting a lot of it at work . Lot not listening n I go mute , cause they ignoring when know machine better th n them. I have now a WHN a working health nurse n she helping me with my autism n other health issues but in January am meant to get my assessment fr adult autism , Bn two year wait. But your videos have really helped me , thank you
1 - Yep. My one hour unpaid lunch break where I can unplug for work helps with resetting. 2 - YEP! The worst thing is I took Drama in school so I also project my loud voice far and wide. 3 - Yeah. But it is an asset when I'm training people and creating training documentation. 4 - Ugh. I hate this. So much. Ugh. 5 - I need to know ahead of time what I want or I can spend hours trying to decide. Also, trying to decide WHERE to order from... 6 - I discovered this the other day. I could smell wet carpet on the other side of a floor, my trainee could not. Ya know.... I'm going to stop now...
Taste is heavily connected to smell. Flavour is essentially volatile molecules that are released from food in the form of vapor that are picked up by receptors in your nose. That signal is sent to a part of the brain that speaks directly with memory. That's why smell is such a massive trigger of memory.
As I'm sure you know, having kids is the most unpredictable thing ever and I feel exhausted every time my kids do anything, even just ask a question. And there's no time for breaks. So it's just running on the stress train until they are finally asleep or at day care etc. I don't talk that loud, I talk super super quiet. When I do yell it gives me anxiety
Oh my. I didn't have an assessment to tell me I could be on the spectrum but I highly resonate with most of the items in the list. I always thought I'm just weird, as I always stood out like a sore thumb. Fairness, narrating to myself, smells and sounds sensitivity, and taking forever to start something. The only thing I'm not fitting is being clumsy, as I think I'm quite ok in this area. I really think I should get a diagnose, though I'm not sure what good would that do, other than piece of mind that I'm not alone in this.
So much is soooo true. I actually got travel mugs to use for my coffee all the time at home so they have lids. No more spilled coffee. Though I still will tip it too much and dribbled it down my shirt
1. Absolutely. I have no words to describe how much this describes why I am how I am when stuff goes wrong, even at work. 2. Usually no but if I'm emotionally invested in something, yes. 3. Yes. I don't need to over explain that though 😆 4. I was gonna say yes and no then realised I've literally got a (decent) reputation for my style of dress. Uh yes, definitely yes.
5. Menus suck at restaurants nowadays. I love my local Wendy's for still having the same menus and style from the 2000s. I'm somewhat willing to try new stuff, and that's led to a lot of my safe foods, but it's also led to a lot of single bite unfinished meals. 6. Soooort of. I can also deal with smells that other people can't. I worked in a meat room for a while, and that didn't bother me. More with sounds. 7. Yes, definitely. I Can diagnose car problems and do political and news analysis along with doing my day job but can't go get groceries, go to the doctor, or do my taxes. 8. I have the opposite problem usually, but I've definitely had the problem of being too honest. 9. That's been my problem with social interaction my whole life. Thought patterns. 10. Yes, its how I adopt accents quickly. Also phrases that make me sound normal. 11. I've finally gotten to the point where the social cue struggle is secondary to instead just anticipating reactions. The struggle is on whenever I'm wrong. 12. Yes, and I literally have gotten to the point of going "don't mind me, I'm talking to the paintbrush". Thankfully the guy I work with is like 99% ND, so he doesn't mind. 13. Unlucky 13, and yeah. Climbing the wall of actually starting a task is...yeah you just mentioned the hyper focus. Literally me putting off cleaning forever until I finally come home from work and don't even change, just buzzing through it while I have the energy and intent. 14. Uh, I'm so perfectionist I literally bought my own brushes after a single day using someone else's after starting my current job. I figured out the perfect way to wrap paint brushes (with the exact length of plastic I need to wrap them airtight). I could go on 😆 I think it applies, I just might not have given a great example. 15. I literally watch Question Period sometimes. Equivalent to CSPAN for Americans. And then rant about it. Names, numbers, sources, etc. I'll remember them after a couple takes. But faces? Tying past job sites to locations? I'm hopeless. 16. Flat feet, leg and back problems have been my excuse since I was young. Doesn't excuse how often I injure my hands and arms though. Never had coordination outside of a small stint in volleyball when I was in grade 7. 17. Yes, and I use it to my advantage to make statements more impactful. On the other hand it's frustrating when I take things too literally, but I work with construction workers. Sink or swim. 18. I mentioned it earlier but I'm more sensitive to sound than smell. But weirdly. I actually love the sound of an old CRT TV, that high pitched whine. 19. How many times have I been told not to swear in a certain environment? But unwritten rules are dumb. Also my standard hello has been 343 Guilty Spark's slightly distracted "oh, hello", or a contracted "ohello" or "hello, hello" online for years, and either that or the local "whaddaya at b'y" that I don't have to think to say face-to-face. I can sort of learn them but they take me way too much time and...impersonation of personalities? I disagree a bit on principle though with your coffee rant. I see the purpose and benefit of being nice and doing stuff for other people, and I'm on that side, especially if I'm gonna do it for myself anyway. I just find it tiring, especially when it extends social interaction. 20. Uh yeah. That's he whole reason I pay attention to world news and politics. Because unfairness and inequality don't just annoy me, they make me want to go to war, and I tamp that down by keeping my family who listens somewhat informed about whats going on.
I set up a tea/coffee area with an electric tea kettle, & I keep the kettle full, with cups nearby, so if my guests want a hot drink they can make their own. Any friend who has been here more than once knows where everything is and that I am not likely to offer to make them a drink just because I want one.
There’s a vast difference between my paying attention coordination and grace… and what happens when I’m not. Can I catch a tiny object mid flight without fumbling? Yep! Do I also drop random things, miss my mouth while drinking water, and walk into door frames? Also yes.
24:03 This is correct to 100%. (The whole video is of course correct to 100% but this really jumped out at me emotionally so that I had to write this comment.) Remembering people's favourite cheese is also important so as to be able to bring this up when making casual conversation a month later because you're apparently not allowed to always talk about the works of Prof. J.R.R. Tolkien.
I didn't know I was autistic when I was pregnant with both my kids, but especially my first pregnancy my sense of smell drove me INSANE. I couldn't be around my brother unless he was freshly out of the shower. I had to change my cats' litter box after only a single use. I couldn't be around bread or shop anywhere near the bread aisle at the store. I couldn't stand any laundry soaps and had to make my own with a vinegar base. It was like 30 times worse than average scent sensitivities.
Both me and my daughter are extremely uncoordinated in/around my home. It's really contradictory for me, because I've always been incredibly agile and I did really well at sports I was forced to participate in growing up, and even though I only took ballet for I think 2 years as a young child, I would literally land in ballet positions if I tripped or jumped from something. It's SO strange, and it's my own body. My daughter is all around uncoordinated, though, poor thing. An interesting note, though, for any parents that have autistic daughters, my daughter was super clumsy 1 week of every month and her equine therapist about 6 yrs ago suggested I keep an eye on the dates when that happens because it might be an indicator of her future menstruation cycle, and yep, sure enough, my daughter's spells of extreme clumsiness coincided with her cycle when she started puberty.
At the beginning of 2024 I figured there was a minor possibility I’m autistic but I wasn’t sure at all. After a year of research, watching videos and SM content, reviewing my own behaviours and struggles, and now watching this video I’m pretty sure I’m autistic. If only the NHS waiting lines weren’t so long…. I could make it official. Ppl on the outside may think autism is a super power but I personally don’t find it to be a super power for me. Maybe it’s like being strong like hulk whilst also being afraid of mice or ants lol Spiky skill profiles! Love the list, you nailed it! (Sorry I love my expressions). When it comes to social conventions, I remember back when I was 16yo, I was in the car with my gran and sister. I had a small bag of nuts and they both had a go at me for being selfish cuz I didn’t offer any nuts to them. My logical brain’s thinking “are you nuts?! This isn’t a sharing bag! There’s barely enough here for me, and I’m really hungry. Get your own!”. Ofcuz I tried to explain myself but it just made things worse. Fast forward to 2024, I asked my husband about this. Turns out I’m expected to share and offer what I have to others, out of the kindness of my heart and I should genuinely offer too. There’s no doubt why for the longest time I believed I was selfish and why I struggled to build and maintain friendships. Looking back most of the friendships I’ve built are with people who are also likely to be neurodivergent.
I talk out loud, and my mom talks out loud to herself, but my dad hates it because it breaks him out of his chill when people talk. And it’s hard to know if mom is talking to you because she’s talking all the time, so I have to ignore her to have any space to think. We’re a mess 😅
Relate to a lot of these :,) I used to have a very strong sense of smell, but then i got a very bad flu and hurt the inside of my nose because i kept sneezing. Since then i lost a portion of my sense of smell and ho boi it’s been a bliss, because i used to sniff everything everywhere i go since i often pick up unpleasant smells. I was like “oh wow I finally have a “normal” sense of smell” And the memorizing random things is very real. I just tell people my brain only remember things it deems interesting, if it’s not it’s like my brain rejects it :(
I am the 'smeller' at home. So growing up, we always ate soup in the evening (like a starter). My parents and siblings were eating like crazy and I would go *sniff* *sniff*. Guys, this soup has gone bad...they didn't even taste it because I often smelled it as it was just about to go bad. I still do that, whenever I am in doubt, I will take an extra sniff, and I will sniff out when food has gone bad (talking about fresh food like soups and meat).
I really appreciated this and it's so spot on.... But I'm hoping you'll also do a rundown on the positive traits that can help us spot what's OK about being autistic cause there are those of us ( because of the neurotypical in our lives) that don't think it's good or even okay to be autistic If there are traits that anyone in the world could see as a pretty good trait to have, it could help. Some are in this list we can see that way, being sooooo fair for example. But how about something like are there any autistic serial killers. I've no idea but I can't picture it from myself or the autistics I know. So are we in some ways a benefit to society? Can they count on us being... This or that... Positive... thing, one everyone can count on us for. Rather than what's wrong with you?!? Something more like what's right with us. Many seem to need this, autistics get so beaten down by the world, we need some positive recognition. And maybe a list that everyone can see as
Unfairness... Wish I could let things slide! It was one thing to be enraged by someone's dog shitting right below the 'NO DOGS' sign, onto a flower; it was a whole other thing to legally pursue my workplace for 3 years, because I couldn't let them get away with harassment... Making life hard for myself 💯 😅
Halfway through and every one of these is me. The only one that’s a little off is the laughing at jokes because I can mirror real hard. So if everyone is laughing, or if the person telling the joke laughs, my brain goes “oh shit! I’m supposed to do that!”
Yes! Perfume and the stinky candles! And animal protein cooking! I do not like the aftereffect of cooking bacon or ground beef and other meats. Ugk! I can carefully set a glass on the counter/bench and promptly knock it over and off the counter/bench - even if I watch my hand carefully place it there. People pushing metal chairs with plastic feet over linoleum flooring! Crackling chip/crisp packages. I have to follow the rules, why shouldn't everyone else have too also. That's fair. The coffee thing was great!
@MARCIA.ZZZZZZ I know the feeling all too well. It's beyond depression. But never give up... at the moment that you least expect it, something wonderful pops up and gets you out of that misery. The wait for that is the true hell. And the repetition of it all over time ssssssucks too. But whatever you do, do not give up. That's too easy! ❤️
I'm insecure about my autism. How do I feel better about myself when there's always a new trait popping up for whatever reason and everyone's given up trying to understand me? Telling me I'm making excuses to not help myself, when all I'm trying to do is explain?
(I mean I'm crying inside because not mastering how to dance, especially when combined with feeling a sickening aversion to the loud music volume and other sensory overloading factors in clubs and discos, at least when I was young, was a near perfect assurance you wouldn't get to have sex with a girl.)
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1-needing to re-set
2-loud talking
3-overexplaining
4-overpreparing for social events
5-indecisiveness
6-hyperawarenss of smells
7-inconsistent skills
8-brutally honest
9-unique thought patterns
10-echolalia
11-"acting" trying to be normal
12-1talking to yourself
13-difficulty in starting tasks
14-preparing for every possible outcome which leads to you procrastinating other tasks (I have an appointment later in the day so I don't want to start any new tasks that might get my mind off the appointment)
15-memorization of odd thing
16-clumsy
17-overly litera
18-disliking sounds
19-struggling with unwritten rules
20-stickler for fairness
No time stamps? Slacker. :p
that's why I like talking to healthcare providers. they use very precise language and will answer any question I have regarding my health (within their speciality ofc)
Thank you for your service o7
For me:
1, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 9, 11, 13, 14, 15, 17, 18, 19, 20 - very much
2, 7, 10, 12, 16 - no, never or rare
Spot on. The more I learn about Autism the more my entire life makes sense from a toddler to an adult.
So same
@@Taurusboy07 the more I learn the more about autism, ADHD, PMDD and perimenopause, the more I wonder if I have any free will at all! Where is my personality fit in amongst all of these neurological and endocrine systems that rule my life??
@ I get it. I also have ADHD. I agree, it feels as if the free will that the world of neurotypical people created or expect us to have is damn near impossible. We have to go accordingly to our bodies. Sometimes our nervous system is overwhelmed and riddled with anxiety and or depression. That goes to say that when we are under such pressure and stress, we can not willfully give our best when our best is suppressed by many internal forces.
@@Taurusboy07 Exactly! Except neurotypical people must be as controlled by their neurotype as much as us. They can no more will themselves to experience lights and sounds physically hurting, or being physically unable to start a mundane task than we are to wish these experiences away.
But imagine explaining to neurotypicals that being able to use a calendar to organise their life is NOT a tool they learned, but their neurotypical brain has an innate, evolved ability to use calendars, just like how hands have an innate, evolved ability to grasp things...! That would go down as well as trying to explain to the average man, who think hormones only affect women's moods, that they every mood or thought they have ever experienced involved hormones.
@ Great points that I totally agree with. Everything works Simultaneously together but unfortunately the neurotypical people out numbers the neurodivergent people which makes us have to suffer from the enforced nature of their world.
Going with flow often causes internal exhaustion. Unconsciously speaking loudly has gives me memory blushes decades later. Overexplain, don't get me started. My family camping skill is legendary, prepared for anything. Saved family Queenslander from burning down because I smelt a cockroach sizzling from chewing wiring in on off box for our old ceiling fan. Avoid candle shops, instant headache. Catching balls is one of my super powers but I constantly trip over my own foot and don't use expensive glassware because I'll inevitably break it. When kids squeal in play, I feel like I'm being stabbed in my brain. Lesser high noises it's just a hammer. As you started talking about unfairness my throat started constricting. Fake politicians hurt my heart. I warn new acquaintances that I'll forget their name. Can't remember any more. Good vid, thanks Orion
This is me exactly!
Exactly me too
Instead of ppl telling me i speak to loud i am told they can’t hear me so I keep having to repeat myself and i become very annoyed at continually having to waste my breath on repeating myself when to me i feel like i am speaking at a normal volume
Interesting! That's exactly how my father acts. It drives everyone mad - him included. But I have my very annoying habits, too. And concerning those, I feel that humanity is wrong. So... No high horses for me today, but rather a chance to eat humble pie.
@@sksk-bd7yv thank you for sharing that! Very interesting, are you and/or ur father ND , or NT?
I’m a mix of both, too loud (a lot of the time) and too soft spoken (often enough) that people ask me, to say it again.😅
Sometimes people people to it to me on purpose. Especially when I stand up for myself and they see me struggling. 'Sorry what? Oh I don't understand you, you are so difficult to understand'. But when I say what they like; I'm erudite,,well spoken...etc. people can be real cu next Tuesdays.
@aslpanda Both ND! But as he has zero adhd and I have a 50-50 combo audhd we often clash.
honestly i have a lot less problem with self-checkout than i do dealing wth the cashier & bagger. they want to chat and they put the heavy items on top of the fragile items or give you 7 bags for 10 items.
@@DJ_Black_Tourmaline I agree. I also need an earbud in with a podcast playing in order for me to go into a grocery store. Self-checkout makes it easy for me to keep the earbud in all the way through the in-store shopping experience.
Whereas I can't handle self-checkout, _I've only got two hands._
I think the thing with self-checkout is that if you've never done it, for some people it's like, already implied what they have to do while you don't have an idea of what you can or cannot do, or how things are supposed to work. I hate interacting with people but self-checkout kinda intimidates me. There's a cafeteria in my university that's also supposedly self-serving and I just don't get how it works so I prefer not even going.
Yes! I know how I like my groceries bagged. I’ll be angry all day if they put like two items per bag and go slowly while they scan the items. And then they wanna converse? Nope! I can bag my groceries far more quickly and efficiently than any employee and I don’t have to interact with people
@@resourcedragon I loath self checkout. I can't do that, it's not MY job, I don't know how to do that, what if I make a mistake, what if I screw it all up, what do I do omg???? (panic attack ensues). I'll go to a line with an actual cashier even if it means standing in line 20 minutes.
Sometimes when I’m watching a movie or tv show, I’ll pause it and commentate on what I just saw, but completely in my own head. So someone could walk in on me watching a movie, pause it randomly, sit in total silence for nearly a full minute and then unpause it. I look absolutely insane but it makes sense to me.
I seem to need a few days to process an outing.
Just a trip to the store
I seem to need a few days to process an outing.
Just a trip to the store.
MEDITATION allows me to just go with the flow
I seem to need a few days to process an outing.
Just a trip to the store.
MEDITATION allows me to just go with the flow
Wait… Other people don’t normally do that?
Funny thing about perception, I don’t notice the things people want me to notice with hints and clues and cues. However, I do pick up on things that people don’t want me to pick up on.
So true. Like fully getting the curse of Cassandrs greek myth style
I got such a huge wave of compassion for us watching this. The things we have to do just to get through each day. I wish more neurotypical people would watch these. When I tell someone I'm autistic they just start talking loudly and slowly like I'm deaf and stupid. I feel like we do have super powers and super challenges at the same time. I loved the bit about coffee,. hilarious. Thank you for another great video.
3. Is SOOO loaded.
Once someone accused me of lying because I left out a super small detail that *I* didn't realize they needed. Phfft! I'll never do that again!
Also, being constantly misunderstood and being constantly accused of bad intentions leads to over-explaining to fend off the inevitable misunderstanding, made worse by my now convoluted story that will require exhausting amounts of clarification.
Also, needing all the details myself and not knowing how to cover the story without every single facet, since, in my head the simple story looks like a hellish kaleidoscope of details that no one could possibly understand without all backstory and intent described in detail in advance of the actual story itself.
Yes! Exactly! And sometimes when I think about having to explain something to a Supervisor or someone I am answering to and the amount of information I figure will be required to get them to understand just...makes...me...tired before I even start talking about whatever it is!
This is why I barely talk to people anymore. It’s useless because people will always assume I mean something bad. It’s impossible.
Omg yes!!!! 👍🏻 The “why are you yelling?”, over explaining and over preparing EVERYTHING for social events 😅 And as for spiky skill sets, I’m a scientist who can do super complex stuff but am completely banned from using photo copiers and label makers at work because it’s a disaster whenever I use them 😂🤦♀️
I had a conversation at work recently and I wasn't mad at all, not even a little bit, and someone asked me why I was so angry. And I kept insisting I wasn't angry at all and some other person said Well you sound angry, and THEN I was angry because they kept insisting I was so then I got REALLY LOUD and said there you go, NOW I'm PISSED but I wasn't pissed at all before you kept insisting I was!
I never considered I was autistic until the last few years. I have an autistic son but figured it was purely the result of a genetic disorder he has. I really appreciate videos like these.
I didn’t think I was autistic. I was simply weird, socially awkward, clumsy, had verbal diarrhea, easily scared by certain noises, a perfectionist, forgetful, disorganized but also hyper-organized in certain situations, and just know what I like so I stick to the same food, routines, movies, tv and music. 😂
Adding: The over-explaining thing never stood out as unusual for me. I’m Indigenous (Canada) and relaying a story in my culture (Cree/Nehîyaw) is loaded with tangents and lots of exposition. So that never seemed odd to my family when I info dumped. 🤣
I watch these to understand my (diagnosed) husband better. The more I watch the more I’m having questions about myself. My husband has said before that he sees definite traits in me and I’m more and more inclined to agree.
A big yes to all you named here. I’m not officially diagnosed but after the intake interview for an official test they told me that I’m almost certainly autistic. I’m over sixty years old.
I learned how to lie because normally I am very honest and not everyone appreciates that. And therefore I learned how to, very often, recognize if people are untrustworthy, have fake behavior.
I can only remember people’s names unless I hear it repeatedly during several days combined with seeing that person.
I often walk into people because I simply don’t notice them. And I often stumble over and into things.
If I want to open a door and grab for the door handle and the door is opened by someone before I can get hold of that handle, I still have to finish that movement even if the door knob isn’t there anymore.
23:37 The reason why we forget names I think, at least in my case, is that we are so overwhelmed by all the sensory input from meeting a new person that how that person looks, moves, the sound, including inflection and tonality of their voice &c., while at the same time forcing ourselves to act neurotypically, that paying attention to their name when they introduce themselves is just too much information to take in. The bandwidth is already full.
Orion, I appreciate you, brother. I love this list. It is so perfect. I absolutely identify with every single number on this list, though my thought processes may differ. It's kind of freaky.
Also, I often spell random words backward in my mind and may occasionally spell them out loud, almost as a kind of tic. There is no reason behind it other than an "itch" that I need to scratch.
Talking about random connections. You only have to say the word 'spell' and I go back to a spelling test in primary school where one of the words was 'exit'. I had a complete mental block and my mind went round and round not finding the correct spelling. Only after the test did I realise that there was a fire exit sign behind me.
I love you, and you have helped me be truly understood by my family for the first time. It always feels like you're talking about me, and have been in my room observing me in secret. lol
Just a shout out here for those of you with Autism & ADHD. Yes, you can have both! And yes it's absolute chaos. 😂
So, I check most of these boxes but... My ADHD masks it so much more. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago (at 36 woo) & with Autism this year (just around my birthday actually lol) at 38.
Never thought I'd be Autistic. But this channel really helped me to finally see it. My Psych thought it was anxiety at first but really it was my Autistic side coming out more when I started having my ADHD meds. My ADHD brain chilled out a little & my Autism side was like "Finally! The monkey is also! We can get all this stuff done that we keep procrastinating on!!"
Suddenly it became harder to put things away or let things go. It became harder to deal with noises that I used to ignore up until a certain point or until I couldn't handle it anymore.
But it was really hard to figure out the autistic side. What really highlighted it was that the anxiety medication didn't work & messed me up - a lot more than the Psych had seen before. But he's also only an ADHD Psychiatrist, not an Autistic one. Now I think they really need to be both. But the Psych did suggest the idea of being possibly also Autistic. To look into it a little & then if I wanted I could get an assessment.
I had only known the non functioning autism so I thought it wasn't likely. But I came across this channel (and Autism on the Inside) and it was able to explain it to me better.
I also looked up about girls with autism - didn't have as much on females, but went through the girls with autism & looked at it with the perspective of my childhood. And holy cow it was a really nice learning experience for me haha.
One thing that really helped was going through the symptoms you listed, and another channel had called "autism bingo" - but my partner and I went through it together. I really needed his perspective on it because it turns out I have awful self awareness 😅
So, going through the autism symptoms helped, I found a lot of things I did as a child, dredged up some fun memories that had been forgotten of trying to communicate with my parents and just melting down and crying because I couldn't understand why everyone was mad at me... Why no one was understanding what I was trying to say, why everyone thought I was "being smart" or "playing everyone". Yeah, pretty sure that has little T triggers for me now too. Yay for rejection sensitivity!
Anyhow I went through the Autism Assessment and man it's harder for people later in life. But I found out I had low self awareness, I can't read more complex facial expressions and I also have the whole word thing where I get mixed up with words, regardless if they are similar or if they just sound the same, and I wish forget words. But these traits are pretty common with people with Autism as well.
Anyhow, I just wanted to share this all with everyone. Especially for those of you who might be thinking you relate to some things but not all parts of Autism. Especially if you have ADHD. For me, the ADHD side was much more pronounced than my Autistic side. But I'm absolutely glad to have gone through both diagnoses because I am able to understand myself so much better now because if it. ❤
So, thank you Orion Kelly!! ❤ it's been a huge help!!
Having both is exhausting 🥴.
I too am late diagnosed. 48 Adhd 49 ASD, I'm currently 51.
It took me until your explanation of neurotypical thinking to understand why associating books and summer wasn't normal, haha
Summer was reading frenzy time
Thank you so much Mr. Kelly for a hilarious but extremely accurate description of our autistic world. You nailed it in this video. I love your sense of humor that is wrapped in truth.
I'm 50 was diagnosed as a child. I was reading, writing and doing mathematic s at 3 y.o. I am a terrific problem sol er and yet I can't tie my shoes properly.
🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🥴
@@Capricornrose73 I still can’t tie my shoes the way everyone kept trying to teach me. When I was 9 my dad showed me the “bunny ears” way and I finally “got it”. 🤣 I still can’t do the loop-swoop-and-pull shoe tying technique.
Tie my shoes....it took me weeks and months of practice until i was able to do it. Same was with riding a bike....While others simply sat on the saddle and pedaled, I kept falling over to the side 😒
But give me something with numbers or problem solving and my brain sees only a long list of possible solutions and delivers ideas and suggestions like an erupting volcano and it looks like a never ending pool.
I'll often quote Mommie Dearest. Christina: Why did you tell her I got expelled?! Joan: Because you did get expelled!!
Okay so all of the above lmaooo but oh god going w the flow is a nightmare. If something goes off script enough, I sometimes feel like I literally need to either just go to bed and start over tomorrow or just do literally nothing whatsoever while internally combusting and wanting everything to be so reset that I practically want to flee the state are just restart my entire life lmao
The bulk of these definitely resonate with me, particularly the idea that most people were given the rule book for life, but I never got it.
I'm able to start work well because of the urgency of it and vital need to pay bills and rent but everything else is so hard to begin. I experience every thing on this list. I was diagnosed at 38 three years ago, after having a bit of a meltdown during covid I had to figure out what was wrong and after watching one of your videos I sought help. So powerful was the effect of the video that I immediately stopped watching anything to do with autism because I was afraid I might affect the results of their assessment. I should not have worried because it was the only test I've ever passed so well. Sorry it has taken three years for this but thank you for your channel and understanding.
Does anyone else get triggered by lies? It's a big trigger for me
Truths can trigger me, too... so do - obvious - lies!
I do!
Oh my God, at my core! Hate lies.
I do not care if strangers or mere colleagues lie to me... but if my inner circle DARES without a DARN GOOD reason... that is something completely different. But over-sharing or extreme emphasising on one specific truth, also pisses me off grandly!
Yes. I've literally stopped talking to and spending time with supposed friends over a single lie. Lying fills me with visceral rage. I sort of tolerate white lies as an idiotic social construct, but lying to my face? Absolutely not.
I am LOVING your wardrobe choices.
I just found your channel yesterday and immediately became a fan. You are so pleasant to listen to and have a lot of valuable information to share. Your unedited/unscripted/unmasked videos are so nice ❤
So yeah I just ordered your book 🥰
lots of love from Denmark
1. definitely. I have to put aside the entire day for one thing that knocks my schedule out. Tomorrow it'll be my bone density scan in the morning. This day is a write-off. Other days I do my best to minimise interruptions. 2. OMG "Why are you yelling?" "Why are you always trying to start an argument with me?" If I'm doing this, I'm passionate about something, and this is my expression coming out because I'm tone-deaf. 3. Over-explain 100%. 4. "Been there and done it before it's happened". And if something is out of place, it's time to leave or hide away somewhere. 5. I know the menu before I go. And if I can't get my hands on it, I'll need to go and get a copy from the joint before I go there on my planned outing. 7. Yes amazing at some things and very poor at some basic things that make no sense. If I can't pay cash at the self checkout (because the machine is not working), I'll drop my stuff and leave despite having a card I can use. And if a staff member should try to talk to me at self-checkout, I'll drop my stuff and leave. I am at self-checkout so I don't have to chit-chat. Leave me alone (for crying out loud). 8. Too honest. I tell people what I see/think/have been told. People don't tell me things any more as a result. And they say that I should know not to tell other people despite them not having told me that it was a secret. You can tell me whatever you want as long as you lay down the ground rules. I can keep a secret, if you tell me it's a secret. I mean if you don't, how on earth should I know? I'm not a mind reader. If I was, I'd be in a different profession. 10. I'll often repeat the last few words of a persons sentence, and I'll get accused of something, typically that I'm trying to annoy the person that's talking to me. 11. I'm not fake in any way. I will not laugh at a joke that I don't get (and that's quite often). 12. Who doesn't talk to themselves? 13. Starting, and finishing. 14. Always. As with no 1. 15. Who doesn't memorise licence plate numbers or phone numbers without even wanting to? My memory is otherwise very poor with most things that people expect me to remember. 16. "Hip and Shoulder people" lol. I knocked a person unconscious in the street once. Out like a light. Shoulder to the face. I don't even know how it was possible. 17. Coordination has always been poor. I thought it was on account of Klinefelter Syndrome. Perhaps not. 18. I have a sensitivity to quiet sounds that other people usually don't hear. Voices in other rooms, snakes in the grass. 19. I'm at my mates place and he comments on how good my hair looks. I say thank you. His wife says "And now you're supposed to comment back on how his hair looks". What? Why would I do that? I tell you what, by not commenting on his hair, well that's a comment in itself, because if I comment on anything, it's usually because I dislike it. My non-comment is a compliment in itself. 20. The cut in line I can relate to. I'll have a full blow out.
Oh, the person who cuts in! I had someone do that to me a couple of months ago, and I was shocked by how much it upset me. I vented to a couple of people about it and thought that would "get it out of my system" but I was still angry and venting the best part of a fortnight later.
No one ever follows the script!!!!
Sooo damn relatable. Thank you for helping us feel a little less alone, Orion!
Thank you! I love videos like this about autistic traits😊I pretty much skip social events bc my scripts don't work. I avoid them like the plague.
I feel truly seen in every way! I talk so much to myself and narrate everything. I will even sing about what I am doing. Even while watching this video, I stopped this a few times to reflect on a few conversations I have had in the past about how literal I tend to be. When people do not ask, I do not share and they want me to READ in between the lines or assume I understand what they mean, when I really don't. When masking I use to "assume" I understood a lot only to be left confused and angst. Also the part about inconsistent skills and clumsy is a definite one for me as well. Thank you for this video and for all the comments. These comments and hearing other people experience and stories make me feel seen and not alone on this journey of discovery.🥰
Even long after a situation, like 10+ years after, I will STILL go over every other possible outcome, especially when the actual event didn't go smoothly.
Thanks for the validation. Always felt like there was nobody else like me.
Remembering names is so hard. When I meet someone for the first time and they introduce themselves, I repeat the name a couple of times in my head. Completely useless offcourse as I've completely forgotten it a minute later. But I can remember random details connected to the conversation I've had with that person. It can range from what the person was wearing to a recollection of the weather that day or to remembering having difficulties finding a parking spot and finally finding a parking spot. So if I was to meet that person a couple of months later, I'm able to recollect the entire conversation by tapping into that specific drawer of memories. I just don't recall the name 😂
I can't remember human's names. But if they tell me their dog's name I can remember it 3 years later.
Orion watching you on this made me think of me past and now thankyou
I recall a few traits explained to me at my assessment. The lady assessing me said there are some traits that don't get put online or in books in order to afford more reliable screening. One of the things I was asked in the assessment was if I carry something on my person always. When I asked 'like what?', she gave a list of seemingly random small items, the last of which was a stone or pebble. I then took a Welsh snow quartz pebble from my pocket and showed it to her, a little embarrassed 😂. Apparently this is a common theme noticed in recent years among autists. Another I recall was syntax - sentence structure - which deviates from the native dialect, that is. Adjoined to this is misuse of pronouns; not gender pronouns, necessarily, but saying 'you' and 'we' instead of 'I', or 'your' and 'our' instead of 'my'. That kind of idea. The only lesser-known traits she explained to me where the ones I exhibited first.
Yep, there are so many of these that apply to me. Only got a tentative diagnosis at age 57 but it explains so many things.
I was watching the part about the ‘taking things more literally’ and you literally said ‘It’s Logic & Science’ right after me 🤣🤣 Great literal logical minds think alike 😉😝
Yep lol. Talking about one topic opens up 10 browser tabs and usually the songs that topic reminds me of, and each open tab opens up another tab, and another tab, and another tab, and another song, and then I'm showing them pictures on my phone or things from my childhood.
I relate to most of these as an audhd adult female but the two things a little different for me is my voice being too quiet unless I am trying to whisper rather than loud and having the ability to fake giggle at others jokes as a way to mask/avoid conflict. As an autistic woman, these have then come across as flirting when it is indeed a mask that young girls are given (regardless of nuerotype). It's always interesting to me to see how much I relate but also the differences that can happen just based on the way someone is brought up/gendered as Orion has explored on the channel before.
7:46 I also want all the details from the menu the same I want all the details from everything. I realise people in general don't read the copyright (©️) information. I read the copyright (©️) information because I want and need to read everything or I feel unwell psychologically. I read the copyright (©️) informationon placards at museums. Some allistic people get angry with me at museums because I spend an extremely long amount of time (by their standards) reading everything including the copyright (©️) information on all the placards of all the available languages or at least English and the local language, though sometimes of all the languages, as well as spending several minutes studying the details extremely well of the displayed object because I won't go to the museum every day and I don't want to miss out on anything.
This is where I go to get my daily dose of imposter syndrome.
They say when you meet one autistic person, you've met one autistic person. Each case is different.
And then they give a list of autistic traits, few of which sound familiar. It's like there's a secret instruction book on how to be autistic that I've never seen. I can't be a regular human and I can't be autistic.
I get a few. I provide my own sound effects, and I think out loud. I'm too isolated from human thought to be able to remember names, except my own. Usually. I do carry identification, just in case.
I don't stumble into things. Not too much. But I have trouble learning physical skills.
Literal thinking is a wobbler. I do think very literally, but I also understand figurative speech, and find the contrast amusing. If you say it's raining cats and dogs outside, I'm not going to run outside to see, but I will say, "I just stepped in a poodle."
By all evidence, I am autistic, but apparently I'm not the right kind. I'm not sure what to do about that.
It's a spectrum, we're all different and there is no "right kind." A lot of similarities, but the community is incredibly varied. Not all of us will have the same exact struggles and may struggle in other places or even have strengths in places others aren't going to. Figurative speech is something I can understand, especially because I read a lot of fiction and I enjoy poetry. Saying that, it takes me a moment to try to figure out what is meant if it's a term I haven't heard often. (and then I can quickly file it away for use in future conversations if I think it's clever.) I often miss jokes and take those too literally, which angers people apparently. But I also have been told I'm quite funny because I joke around a lot, it's just usually dry/sardonic humor delivered dead-pan. A lot of people don't realize I'm even autistic unless I tell them, but that's because I'm so high-masking. I guess everyone just thinks I'm weird instead. All that to say: we're all different and you belong to the community too. You're enough and you're valid.
These types of lists are just general things that a lot of different people can identify with (and generally are things the presenter does), but not everyone is going to identify with all of them.
In many ways I also suffer from Imposter Syndrome, very easy to do when you haven't been officially diagnosed, but there are so many traits that I relate to that those other traits I don't aren't a big deal.
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I score really high on all the surveys on the reputable psych sites, but the therapist I saw said at my age a proper diagnosis would be more difficult and expensive than it would be worth.
But I sure seem autistic to her, so let's go with that.
Thanks for the undiagnosis, Doc.
@JustClaude13 I'm 53 and also score highly on those questionnaires. My sister-in-law who works with special needs children suggested I might be autistic, and a psychiatrist felt the same. Not proper diagnoses but feelings. At an older age I think it's harder to diagnose because of decades of learned masking.
I had the same problem only yesterday at Lorne Street park. I was an over explainer to the neighbours, to Michael and to Jackie.
Great content!
I got diagnosed last week. Everything feels weird now.
Sitting here with this on as loud as possible trying to drown out the crunching of my partner's chips. I'm so freaking angry and trying to not throw them across the room. It literally is painful. Please believe your family and friends and patients and clients and coworkers. We can get through this together
Thank you for these videos
Thank you so much for your videos 🩷
Overexplaning... loud voice... yep. I try to control this, but it often dosn't work. I never mentally run events on beforehand through my mind, because it always turns out different and gets me in more trouble.
Btw, @Orion: your book just arrived to me in Belgium, and I love it. The content, very personal and easy to read, but foremost: the way it's written, with sidenotes with arrows and all... it kinda represents how I or my brain operates!!! ❤❤❤❤
Edit: echolalia, in my case is NOT soothing, it's irritating: I go to sleep with it, and it's the first thing in my brain when I wake up... for days, sometimes weeks... and it's always BS: songs I hate, a fragment of the news, a name that suddenly pops to mind, the sound of sandblasting... that kind of trash, never "benevolent" 😢
Hi Orion,
I hope you read this. It is not regarding this episode, it is a past one where you were talking about feeling badly about yourself for messing things up with other people a lot. Yesterday I thought something my daughter said was literal (when it wasn't) I got all sad and insulted. Then my husband told me she hadn't said anything. I thought he meant she literally did not say anything. I thought he was gaslighting me and telling me she never said it. She was quiet and did not say anything at this point. So I left very upset that my daughter thought this horrible thing of me (that she was joking about) and that my husband was lying to me. Between autism and past abuse, I was open for this misunderstanding to happen. Anyway, I went away and cried and felt alienated from my family. Then instead of the usual thinking I shouldn't be here on this earth, maybe I should do something about it, I remembered an episode where you said you sometimes have conflicts and misunderstanding and didn't always know why and felt bad about yourself because of it. I thought of course a lovely person like Orion, and all the other autistic content creators are struggling the same way. They have some extra trouble in their family life due to speaking and understanding in an autistic rather than NT way. I could easily see that you and others had every right to be here and make the world a better place despite these moments (meltdowns, shutdowns, misunderstandings), so I know I do to. I feel more confidence than I ever have. Anyway, my husband came to see what was going on and it turns out that "she didn't say anything" did not mean that she didn't say the words she said, he meant she didn't say anything to be offended by because it was obvious it was a joke. What? I guess that is NT speak and beyond me. " She didn't say anything" meant "she didn't say anything meant to hurt you" and that was somehow implied. So to everyone reading this, we can all see that people like Orion make the world a better place even if he is autistic, and maybe because of it. The good stuff like honesty, integrity and just our way of being is necessary in this world even if we don't get some jokes and take things literally and it causes some conflicts or misunderstanding. I mean we value you content creators and you go through this stuff, so we should value ourselves as well.
I love your shirt ❤ Beautiful combination of colors.
Related to taking things literally, I strongly prefer autological to heterological.
I can manage "hello" and "good bye". (Can't remember "merry Christmas", "happy Easter" & other random ones.) But I remember arguing with my mother as a very small child that "please" and "thank you" made no sense.
Thank You
Omg most of these for me. But the memorizing part--songs! I can sing all the words and notes to almost every song I've ever heard. I thought it was just a strange skill that not many people have.
I have conversations in my head before... and even moreso after, I replay the interaction, even small ones in my mind. If anything went the wrong way, I play through how I wish it would have gone as well. It's automatic it seems.
Have Bn getting a lot of it at work . Lot not listening n I go mute , cause they ignoring when know machine better th n them. I have now a WHN a working health nurse n she helping me with my autism n other health issues but in January am meant to get my assessment fr adult autism , Bn two year wait. But your videos have really helped me , thank you
I am self diagnosed and again feel understood (good sequel by the way). Yes, 19 and 20 makes me annoyed too.
1 - Yep. My one hour unpaid lunch break where I can unplug for work helps with resetting.
2 - YEP! The worst thing is I took Drama in school so I also project my loud voice far and wide.
3 - Yeah. But it is an asset when I'm training people and creating training documentation.
4 - Ugh. I hate this. So much. Ugh.
5 - I need to know ahead of time what I want or I can spend hours trying to decide. Also, trying to decide WHERE to order from...
6 - I discovered this the other day. I could smell wet carpet on the other side of a floor, my trainee could not.
Ya know.... I'm going to stop now...
Taste is heavily connected to smell. Flavour is essentially volatile molecules that are released from food in the form of vapor that are picked up by receptors in your nose. That signal is sent to a part of the brain that speaks directly with memory. That's why smell is such a massive trigger of memory.
If I had a nickel for every time someone asked, "What's wrong with you?" I'd be rich. Orion, you are awesome! I am so much this too.
I could feel my own hawaiian shirt fixation wanting to info dump when you started talking about that ahaha
As I'm sure you know, having kids is the most unpredictable thing ever and I feel exhausted every time my kids do anything, even just ask a question. And there's no time for breaks. So it's just running on the stress train until they are finally asleep or at day care etc. I don't talk that loud, I talk super super quiet. When I do yell it gives me anxiety
Oh my. I didn't have an assessment to tell me I could be on the spectrum but I highly resonate with most of the items in the list. I always thought I'm just weird, as I always stood out like a sore thumb. Fairness, narrating to myself, smells and sounds sensitivity, and taking forever to start something. The only thing I'm not fitting is being clumsy, as I think I'm quite ok in this area. I really think I should get a diagnose, though I'm not sure what good would that do, other than piece of mind that I'm not alone in this.
So much is soooo true. I actually got travel mugs to use for my coffee all the time at home so they have lids. No more spilled coffee. Though I still will tip it too much and dribbled it down my shirt
1. Absolutely. I have no words to describe how much this describes why I am how I am when stuff goes wrong, even at work.
2. Usually no but if I'm emotionally invested in something, yes.
3. Yes. I don't need to over explain that though 😆
4. I was gonna say yes and no then realised I've literally got a (decent) reputation for my style of dress. Uh yes, definitely yes.
5. Menus suck at restaurants nowadays. I love my local Wendy's for still having the same menus and style from the 2000s. I'm somewhat willing to try new stuff, and that's led to a lot of my safe foods, but it's also led to a lot of single bite unfinished meals.
6. Soooort of. I can also deal with smells that other people can't. I worked in a meat room for a while, and that didn't bother me. More with sounds.
7. Yes, definitely. I Can diagnose car problems and do political and news analysis along with doing my day job but can't go get groceries, go to the doctor, or do my taxes.
8. I have the opposite problem usually, but I've definitely had the problem of being too honest.
9. That's been my problem with social interaction my whole life. Thought patterns.
10. Yes, its how I adopt accents quickly. Also phrases that make me sound normal.
11. I've finally gotten to the point where the social cue struggle is secondary to instead just anticipating reactions. The struggle is on whenever I'm wrong.
12. Yes, and I literally have gotten to the point of going "don't mind me, I'm talking to the paintbrush". Thankfully the guy I work with is like 99% ND, so he doesn't mind.
13. Unlucky 13, and yeah. Climbing the wall of actually starting a task is...yeah you just mentioned the hyper focus. Literally me putting off cleaning forever until I finally come home from work and don't even change, just buzzing through it while I have the energy and intent.
14. Uh, I'm so perfectionist I literally bought my own brushes after a single day using someone else's after starting my current job. I figured out the perfect way to wrap paint brushes (with the exact length of plastic I need to wrap them airtight). I could go on 😆 I think it applies, I just might not have given a great example.
15. I literally watch Question Period sometimes. Equivalent to CSPAN for Americans. And then rant about it. Names, numbers, sources, etc. I'll remember them after a couple takes. But faces? Tying past job sites to locations? I'm hopeless.
16. Flat feet, leg and back problems have been my excuse since I was young. Doesn't excuse how often I injure my hands and arms though. Never had coordination outside of a small stint in volleyball when I was in grade 7.
17. Yes, and I use it to my advantage to make statements more impactful. On the other hand it's frustrating when I take things too literally, but I work with construction workers. Sink or swim.
18. I mentioned it earlier but I'm more sensitive to sound than smell. But weirdly. I actually love the sound of an old CRT TV, that high pitched whine.
19. How many times have I been told not to swear in a certain environment? But unwritten rules are dumb. Also my standard hello has been 343 Guilty Spark's slightly distracted "oh, hello", or a contracted "ohello" or "hello, hello" online for years, and either that or the local "whaddaya at b'y" that I don't have to think to say face-to-face. I can sort of learn them but they take me way too much time and...impersonation of personalities? I disagree a bit on principle though with your coffee rant. I see the purpose and benefit of being nice and doing stuff for other people, and I'm on that side, especially if I'm gonna do it for myself anyway. I just find it tiring, especially when it extends social interaction.
20. Uh yeah. That's he whole reason I pay attention to world news and politics. Because unfairness and inequality don't just annoy me, they make me want to go to war, and I tamp that down by keeping my family who listens somewhat informed about whats going on.
I set up a tea/coffee area with an electric tea kettle, & I keep the kettle full, with cups nearby, so if my guests want a hot drink they can make their own. Any friend who has been here more than once knows where everything is and that I am not likely to offer to make them a drink just because I want one.
There’s a vast difference between my paying attention coordination and grace… and what happens when I’m not. Can I catch a tiny object mid flight without fumbling? Yep! Do I also drop random things, miss my mouth while drinking water, and walk into door frames? Also yes.
24:03 This is correct to 100%. (The whole video is of course correct to 100% but this really jumped out at me emotionally so that I had to write this comment.) Remembering people's favourite cheese is also important so as to be able to bring this up when making casual conversation a month later because you're apparently not allowed to always talk about the works of Prof. J.R.R. Tolkien.
I didn't know I was autistic when I was pregnant with both my kids, but especially my first pregnancy my sense of smell drove me INSANE. I couldn't be around my brother unless he was freshly out of the shower. I had to change my cats' litter box after only a single use. I couldn't be around bread or shop anywhere near the bread aisle at the store. I couldn't stand any laundry soaps and had to make my own with a vinegar base. It was like 30 times worse than average scent sensitivities.
Both me and my daughter are extremely uncoordinated in/around my home. It's really contradictory for me, because I've always been incredibly agile and I did really well at sports I was forced to participate in growing up, and even though I only took ballet for I think 2 years as a young child, I would literally land in ballet positions if I tripped or jumped from something. It's SO strange, and it's my own body. My daughter is all around uncoordinated, though, poor thing. An interesting note, though, for any parents that have autistic daughters, my daughter was super clumsy 1 week of every month and her equine therapist about 6 yrs ago suggested I keep an eye on the dates when that happens because it might be an indicator of her future menstruation cycle, and yep, sure enough, my daughter's spells of extreme clumsiness coincided with her cycle when she started puberty.
😂" I'd like to see a menu please" so true
At the beginning of 2024 I figured there was a minor possibility I’m autistic but I wasn’t sure at all. After a year of research, watching videos and SM content, reviewing my own behaviours and struggles, and now watching this video I’m pretty sure I’m autistic. If only the NHS waiting lines weren’t so long…. I could make it official.
Ppl on the outside may think autism is a super power but I personally don’t find it to be a super power for me. Maybe it’s like being strong like hulk whilst also being afraid of mice or ants lol Spiky skill profiles!
Love the list, you nailed it! (Sorry I love my expressions).
When it comes to social conventions, I remember back when I was 16yo, I was in the car with my gran and sister. I had a small bag of nuts and they both had a go at me for being selfish cuz I didn’t offer any nuts to them. My logical brain’s thinking “are you nuts?! This isn’t a sharing bag! There’s barely enough here for me, and I’m really hungry. Get your own!”. Ofcuz I tried to explain myself but it just made things worse.
Fast forward to 2024, I asked my husband about this. Turns out I’m expected to share and offer what I have to others, out of the kindness of my heart and I should genuinely offer too.
There’s no doubt why for the longest time I believed I was selfish and why I struggled to build and maintain friendships. Looking back most of the friendships I’ve built are with people who are also likely to be neurodivergent.
I'd rather hear a horrible truth than believe a lie!
I ALWAYS narrate myself. My daughter, who's also autistic, will sometimes respond "okay" and I'll have to tell her I'm just talking to myself.
I laughed out loud at spilling the coffee because a half full cup just won’t do. Absolutely! 19 out of 20.
2:04 How do you roll with a punch? I'm trying to envision the scenario in my head but I'm getting a syntax error from my internal GPU.
I talk out loud, and my mom talks out loud to herself, but my dad hates it because it breaks him out of his chill when people talk. And it’s hard to know if mom is talking to you because she’s talking all the time, so I have to ignore her to have any space to think. We’re a mess 😅
Relate to a lot of these :,)
I used to have a very strong sense of smell, but then i got a very bad flu and hurt the inside of my nose because i kept sneezing. Since then i lost a portion of my sense of smell and ho boi it’s been a bliss, because i used to sniff everything everywhere i go since i often pick up unpleasant smells. I was like “oh wow I finally have a “normal” sense of smell”
And the memorizing random things is very real. I just tell people my brain only remember things it deems interesting, if it’s not it’s like my brain rejects it :(
I am the 'smeller' at home. So growing up, we always ate soup in the evening (like a starter). My parents and siblings were eating like crazy and I would go *sniff* *sniff*. Guys, this soup has gone bad...they didn't even taste it because I often smelled it as it was just about to go bad. I still do that, whenever I am in doubt, I will take an extra sniff, and I will sniff out when food has gone bad (talking about fresh food like soups and meat).
I really appreciated this and it's so spot on.... But I'm hoping you'll also do a rundown on the positive traits that can help us spot what's OK about being autistic cause there are those of us ( because of the neurotypical in our lives) that don't think it's good or even okay to be autistic If there are traits that anyone in the world could see as a pretty good trait to have, it could help. Some are in this list we can see that way, being sooooo fair for example. But how about something like are there any autistic serial killers. I've no idea but I can't picture it from myself or the autistics I know. So are we in some ways a benefit to society? Can they count on us being... This or that... Positive... thing, one everyone can count on us for. Rather than what's wrong with you?!? Something more like what's right with us. Many seem to need this, autistics get so beaten down by the world, we need some positive recognition. And maybe a list that everyone can see as
My brain remembers the flavors and combinations of spices in food dishes. Even individual herbs.
Roll with the punches? Who do you think we are, Mike Tyson?
Smells !!! Yup - coffee brewing, oranges being peeled !!!
Smells: yep; garlic!!! 🤢
This is funny to me, Orion is like an observational stand up comedian.
But that doesn’t mean I’m autistic…
right?
My biggest struggle is social acceptability for both myself and my autistic child. 😢
Unfairness... Wish I could let things slide!
It was one thing to be enraged by someone's dog shitting right below the 'NO DOGS' sign, onto a flower; it was a whole other thing to legally pursue my workplace for 3 years, because I couldn't let them get away with harassment... Making life hard for myself 💯 😅
Halfway through and every one of these is me. The only one that’s a little off is the laughing at jokes because I can mirror real hard. So if everyone is laughing, or if the person telling the joke laughs, my brain goes “oh shit! I’m supposed to do that!”
You make my day 😅
I hate how youtube places ads when content creators use the phrases" and now let me explain/and next, i will...' BAM double ads
Yes! Perfume and the stinky candles! And animal protein cooking! I do not like the aftereffect of cooking bacon or ground beef and other meats. Ugk!
I can carefully set a glass on the counter/bench and promptly knock it over and off the counter/bench - even if I watch my hand carefully place it there.
People pushing metal chairs with plastic feet over linoleum flooring! Crackling chip/crisp packages.
I have to follow the rules, why shouldn't everyone else have too also. That's fair.
The coffee thing was great!
I can't get myself to leave my house anymore. I want to give up even trying. I'm so unhappy.
You sound like you are in burnout.
@@DiscordBeing I am. But I've been like this now for 2 years.
@MARCIA.ZZZZZZ I know the feeling all too well. It's beyond depression. But never give up... at the moment that you least expect it, something wonderful pops up and gets you out of that misery. The wait for that is the true hell. And the repetition of it all over time ssssssucks too. But whatever you do, do not give up. That's too easy! ❤️
@Vicious-Spiral thank you 🥰
My spouse is the opposite. He is quiet.
Are these available in a list? I think I checked off all but one.
I was recently diagnosed ADHD and am battling for the ASD diagnosis.
+orionkelly *I HAVE to take exception to the oversensitivity to scents:* UNDERsensitivity is part of my tempered routine.
I've started saying "Stuff you!" since I've been watching your channel.
I'm insecure about my autism. How do I feel better about myself when there's always a new trait popping up for whatever reason and everyone's given up trying to understand me? Telling me I'm making excuses to not help myself, when all I'm trying to do is explain?
25:52 ... and dancing (cries inside).
(I mean I'm crying inside because not mastering how to dance, especially when combined with feeling a sickening aversion to the loud music volume and other sensory overloading factors in clubs and discos, at least when I was young, was a near perfect assurance you wouldn't get to have sex with a girl.)
2:22 ❤😂😢🎉😂 🙏 shhhhhh ❤
So true !