God I just gave my cats the biggest hug possible listening to this :( I love them so much, the idea of losing them is unbearable. Sending everyone who is grieving a pet so much love ❤
The pet grief part made me cry a lot hearing Dr Honda’s story. I have 3 cats now and I’m 22, but have never experienced pet loss. I really don’t want to go through it. It’s a terrible dichotomy of loving animals so much but being so scared to one day lose them
It is a sad scary thing. I've had pets my entire life and it never gets easier but you do recognize the love is worth the loss. My fiance tho never had pets and he loves our cat (his first ever pet) fiercely and often gets sad thinking she will eventually pass. I know when the time comes it will be hard and we he will very much not be ok. I will hold him right when that time comes. It helps to have people close to you that can support you when it happens!
@@prettybyaccident This right here. I know I'll outlive my cat, obviously. I enjoy every special moment with him, like when we snuggle or he does something extra cute. I watch him age, and I know he will grow old, probably get sick and eventually die. It just means we have to make our pets' days extra amazing, because their days are much more limited than ours! They will have led a full life when they pass, and that's what should matter to us. ❤️ Most of my pets thankfully died from old age at home (some in my arms), but some died at the vet. Even then it's important to remember that this is but one moment in what was hopefully a great life. If there's a lesson here: don't tell your pets "later" when they want to play but you're busy. They don't have time for "later". 🤗
I lost three pets in one year five years ago. Lost one three years previous where the vet was crying before I was when he broke the news that he had little time left (I had only brought him to get his teeth cleaned!). Lost one in between those years where we had to do a lot of home medical care for about two months that was traumatic for all of us. Lost another I barely had a year, hit by a car, and the woman stopped and we were both crying and I was actually hugging and consoling her she was so distraught (I am still grieving the loss of that cat...how she arrived at my house was miraculous and the experience of losing her was also strangely "positive" It's been three years and I'm still shaken by it). It's nice to hear someone else talk about grieving a pet, because no one understands unless they've been through it. I spent a lot of time on a website on pet grief to try to get through the thick of it. Four of them had lived really good lives and were 14-19 years old-- they were a bit easier to take. The ones who die young (the other two) were harder. I don't think I would hold on to a pet who would have to have a lot of medical intervention where there is little to no hope...the one we went through that with, it was so sad...she was unhappy and not herself at all...it grieved me, every moment, because there was NO pleasure for her in those couple months.
I am bawling. I have not processed the grief of losing my cat very well at all. I am in therapy. I am discussing violent traumas. I still can't bring myself to dig into this wound. Thank you so much for your validation.
When my cat died, I feel like he took a part of me with him. I never felt so much pain, weirdly even more pain than when some of my actual human family members passed. I miss him dearly. But I have since adopted 2 more kittens who make me smile again💕
I had to put down my 18 year old cat yesterday. I’ve had her since I was 20 years old. I don’t recognize my life without her. What really shocked me was how my 3 year old reacted. Total hysterics yesterday and today has totally bounced back. Kids are so resilient.
Putting my dog down was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I also cried like I had never cried, just absolute heart ache. I'm now in social work and I want to do veterinary social work helping people through this process and to help vet staff through their grief. Ugh... just sitting at my desk at work sobbing... ugh. Its the worst.
Thank you also for being a kind and understanding pet parent. When you talked about your older cat at the end, I was glad that you understand when pets have accidents like throwing up etc. and you treat them with kindness. Reminded me that what bothers me is people who get mad at their pets and are mean to them for things like that. Those people I don’t understand and I don’t like them! People who deliberately cause animal suffering are evil.
Whenever Dr Honda talks about pet grief, it’s like he totally describes my emotions about it better than I can. Thank you for putting it into words. It is the hardest thing to make that decision to let your cat go, the worst! It’s something that gets better with time but I will never ever forget. Every sad thing I experience or even read about , hear about or watch is something that is always on my mind and I will think of occasionally. Veterinarians seem to have improved overall in how they deal with pets at the end of their lives. There are still a few that still seem to encourage euthanasia before other options, but I’m glad that more of them are providing pet guardians with hospice options instead of immediate euthanasia. I do agree that they are usually right but I have also experienced times when the vet was pushing euthanasia but my cat ended up rebounding for months or years. It is SO hard to make the call to do it at the right time. I would never want to prolong my cats suffering for no reason either. Thanks again Dr Honda💙
Kirk's messages to the disciplinary committee and to Simon's colleague were just PRICELESS. Also, there are not enough songs about grieving for animals. I was working on one but it's hard while bawling.
The person who lost their chihuahua. I'm sorry that is so sad. My heart breaks for you. Accident happen and that sucks. I've worked with animals my whole life and its tough. I told my son when we got his first pet that pets don't live as long as us and that is because we are to take care of and love lots of animals in our life. Sorry that your chihuahua only had small amount of time with you. And the coworker is a real jerk face. Go easy on yourself.
I had to recently euthanise one of my two cats. We adopted him three years ago, he lived happily with my mom and the other cat but in the last few weeks he developped an issue in his mouth and over two weeks (during which we tried treating him with antibiotics, after two vet visits) he lost nearly half his weight because he wouldn't eat anymore. We learned he was above 11-12 years old and that it could be the symptom of more serious issues than just a mouth problem. During the days we hoped the meds would help but we didn't see any improvement, I was so discouraged and sad. Couldn't decide what to eat for dinner and cried so much in the anticipation of having to put him down. He was completely lethargic on the last day, on which my mom made the appointment for the euthanesia. We concluded he suffered a lot and with little to no chance of getting better. We were both very affected. The vet and his assistant were incredibly gentle with me as I accompanied the cat to get the shots, they were really humane and I'm grateful for that. Afterwards they left me with his body for all the time I needed to grieve and to be frank, after two minutes I knew he and his personnality had exited the body and that we made the right choice for that situation. Pet death sucks. Be gentle and patient with yourself, cry all you have/want to. "Our Cat Goes To Heaven" by Margaret Atwood is a cute story that can help put a little light in that situation but as with every painful event you mostly got to give yourself time and don't over-doubt everything, because some answers just will never appear solidly before you. All my love and support to that patreon !
Anxiety and grieving pets is unfortunately something I’m very familiar with. You think you’re the only one but you’re definitely not alone. It’s helpful to talk to others to see how they’ve coped with it. There’s support groups for pet grief as well. Hope the listeners that emailed get some relief.
My mom and I just had to put down our Ca. 19 year old chihuahua (rescue) who lived such a long time. Because his health deteriorated so much and he was very old, we knew it was best for him to put him to sleep. I held him in his final moments. Absolutely nothing could’ve prepared me for the heartache of witnessing it and the grief after. I always thought, well I love him but it won’t hurt like grieving the loss of a beloved human. Boy I was wrong. Still processing this grief. Pets really are family. Hold them tight and appreciate the love you shared. They live on in pure memories and hearts.
That first question reminds me of an ex long ago. He constantly accused me of cheating when all I ever did was work and read books, and I was beginning to come to terms with my asexuality so I didn’t have the libido most do. The accusations of cheating became so ridiculous and I got tired of trying to assure him I am faithful when I had nothing to prove. Plus I am avoidant attached, I would just shut down. Eventually I did leave him. I couldn’t really understand it at the time but his attachment style now makes sense. Sadly the constant accusations did manifest his fear of loss, but in time he did get married. I hope he found some peace.
Re: Schizophrenia and Violence....My cousin was actually murdered by his roommate who had schizophrenia and wasn’t on his meds. He had access to help with his mental illness, but chose not to use it. His family owned the house and my cousin was renting a room there. Our family understood that the roommate was having a major episode and that violence isn’t “normal” for someone with schizophrenia. My cousin’s parents worked with the DA and didn’t want the death penalty, but rather wanted the roommate to get psychiatric help while in prison. He ended up getting a deal with the DA that put him in the prison hospital to get stabilized. He’s currently still in prison and I think his 1st parole hearing is in a couple years.
My anxiety got so bad last year i just didn't go to take my finals even tho i worked hard for them and now i'm retaking this year and i still get just as scared it sucks
It's very hard to have that pressure and it's normal to feel stressed out. When I was in college some personal issues stole all my focus, I failed a class and had to retake it. I tried to stick to the positive thoughts, about how I had more time to study the subject and so would do just fine. Let youself feel hopeful although anxiety makes one used to consider only the worst "what if". I'd bet you've overcome many things until now, and that's likely just the next one you're going to succeed at ! ❤
@@slavbarbie I'm probably considering that cause last week I walked out while we had an exam and I had a full on panick attack and it was so embarrassing even the teacher is weirded out and doesn't understand why I get that stressed for a stupid exam . And honestly I don't either . Btw thanks for the advice
"if I just had gone to the vet sooner" That made me cry so hard. I have been dealing with this as well. I had seen some subtle signs that there was something going on. I hate myself for it. But I also tell myself to be realistic. There was something very wrong and it probably wouldn't have mattered if I went to the vet a little sooner.
Great 👍🏽 podcast valuable topics here to talk about, the pet thing aughhhh... my chihuahua is a senior and it sucks because like you said pets do not live long and it hurts when they leave us 🖤 I have fear of grief with my pets and most of all my family members. I’m not scared of death but I don’t want to feel the pain of anyone I love pass away on me. I don’t want to feel the pain, I sometimes fantasize the grief in order to like prepare to feel less pain if and when it were to occur. It’s weird but humans do weird things smh 🤦♀️
Just finished listening to this episode and the pet grief part really got to me. The first ever dog I had (she was a small dog) was attacked by two big dogs that were of a friend of mine. I was ten at the time and was with my mom when the attack happened. My friend and her parents were also there but nobody really did anything but scream. It was awful. My dog died later that day because of her injuries. I still remember all of it. My dog was just five years old at the time and it was a very traumatic experience for me. My heart goes out to everyone who’s had similar experiences, you’re not alone❤️pet grief is no joke at all
I am suffering from the loss of my little R in May. He was my most precious little boy, he was different from all of my other cats (yes, I have 7) but he was like my child. I can’t explain our relationship. but he suddenly took sick, he was only 9 and we thought it was because his teeth cleaning had been delayed but it turns out he was in kidney failure. We rushed him to the emergency hospital and they kept him over night and then the next night, asked me to rush him to the vet college where they decided to operate and they did a kidney bypass which seemed to work. Except the next day the bypass developed a blockage and they had to take him back into surgery but though the surgery worked, he aspirated and developed pneumonia and sepsis. I can’t go a day without thinking how I failed him. It was during corona and they refused to let me see him or talk to him. He was completely bonded to me and he refused to eat , they wouldn’t listen and I know he died thinking I had abandoned him. The last time he heard me was right before they intubated him, he searched around for me and we were on Facetime and he was so scared. He thought I had left him with them to die so he didn’t fight to survive. I hate myself for letting this happen. They lied and said they would play my voice for him but they never did. They wouldn’t give him my tshirt so he could smell me and be comforted. His terrified face haunts me. It was exactly 6mons ago right now, almost to the minute that I last held him on the way to the college, that I last kissed him on his nose and told him I would see him again. And they never let me, I broke the most important promise I made to be with him at the end, and now he is gone. He was alone without me to keep him safe and give him comfort. My heart still physically hurts for him and I can never forgive myself for not fighting to be with him. I know he would have survived if he knew I was here waiting for him, holding the phone next to me every second waiting for news on his progress. It will be exactly 6mons tomorrow at 750pm that they let him go and at 10pm was the last time I held his little lifeless body.
I'm so, so sorry you went through this. It's really heartbreaking and I can't find any words that could comfort you well enough for the trauma what you describe. The vets sound absolutely incompetent and uncompassionate and you are entirely justified to have some anger about how they handled things. Of course the moments of sickness and the medical procedures are horrible and the last events that he lived, however I hope you can find peace in knowing that while you were able to give him the best life you could, you did. We are truly powerless towards sickness sometimes (and the restrictions that can be justified or just pretexted by the pandemic), and you tried your best giving him the best treatment/care that you could find : you're remarkable for this, and he was lucky to have you, and your other cats are lucky to have you too. ❤❤❤ I also hope that with time, the guilt you feel will fade so that you can remember more fondly the happy memories you shared with your cat before his sickness. Please take care of yourself. I wish you all the best, especially peace and resilience ❤
Wow, this is so very awful and traumatic. I am so, so very sorry that this happened to you. You truly deserve to unpack and heal from this. Your little R knows that you love him and he will always be with you! You did not fail him.
I can really relate with the school anxiety email. I had a ton of anxiety related around school. Even after graduating college I still feel the remaining anxiety consistently. I have an understanding as to why I have anxiety related to school due to some negative experiences in school as a child. I did my capstone research on this topic.
I sobbed when you talked about having to put cats to sleep. I have been there, and I am not far from being in that in the near future. It's HEART BREAKING agony. What you said helped me.
I appreciate your taking the time for this type of content even tho the 90 day fiance react type of videos seemingly get a lot more views. I can't handle those types of shows so thanks for the variety.
As a person who has had animals put to sleep as well as let them die on their own as well as someone who has euthanized animals. It is always awful just know that. Unfortunately with our pets when they are finally showing that they are sick they are VERY sick. Due to the nature of animals they do not show sickness. This is because their nature is to not show weakness if the animal does they fall prey to another animal. Euthanasia is awful. You did the right thing. It is also awful to watch animals die. It is awful to have them die unexpectedly. Having pets die is awful. Try not to beat yourself up. The vet cares and knows. I'm just sorry. Euthanasia is done out of kindness remember that.
a great episode!! i related so much it will be a year in february that i had to put my american bulldog, Sammy, to sleep also because of fluid in lungs and abdomen. he was my baby and protector and was fine til he wasn’t, 3 days of symptoms and took him in, i was told the same thing and was shocked. i am going to listen to the pet grief podcast when i’m alone haha. thank you for all that u do!! 🥲♥️♥️♥️
Stacy & Dr. Kirk: have you tried Slippery Elm for your cat? It's very effective with stomach problems in cats as the elm soothes the upset stomach and protects it from irritation. Must be the Slippery Elm Bark, though, not regular elm! Please try it if you haven't already, you can also use it yourselves. I've had many cats benefit greatly from that! ❤️
Dr Kirk, *please* start reacting to *1000-Lb Sisters*, I'd be REALLY interested to hear your thoughts on that relationship and their history and struggles!
Pets-- we recognize that there is a time we spend together and we make that time joyful and intimate. If we didn't have them in our homes and lives, they might not have had a life as good as we gave them. We made their lives special as much as they made ours special. This isn't hyperbole. When we look at our pets, we can know this. All they ask of us is to love them, and we do. I know not everyone believes in God, but I think when we care for our pets, the Creator is happy-- we stewarded His creation well. That is the gift and honoring of that gift 💗
@@HappyDia01 this person appears to have some major hard on for putting down Dr Honda (total speculation) and is trying to get other people to get on the bandwagon but so far nobody is biting 😂
Dr Kirk the way you react to any criticism online in such a hostile ans defensive manner makes me believe you are higher on the narcissism scale than you give yourself credit for.
@@JackBrady because he's an annoying condescending person and everyone worshipping him is feeding his narcissism and god complex. I listen to a podcast where he received a negative email and the hissy fit he threw was unbelievable.
God I just gave my cats the biggest hug possible listening to this :( I love them so much, the idea of losing them is unbearable. Sending everyone who is grieving a pet so much love ❤
The pet grief part made me cry a lot hearing Dr Honda’s story. I have 3 cats now and I’m 22, but have never experienced pet loss. I really don’t want to go through it. It’s a terrible dichotomy of loving animals so much but being so scared to one day lose them
It is a sad scary thing. I've had pets my entire life and it never gets easier but you do recognize the love is worth the loss. My fiance tho never had pets and he loves our cat (his first ever pet) fiercely and often gets sad thinking she will eventually pass. I know when the time comes it will be hard and we he will very much not be ok. I will hold him right when that time comes. It helps to have people close to you that can support you when it happens!
@@prettybyaccident This right here. I know I'll outlive my cat, obviously. I enjoy every special moment with him, like when we snuggle or he does something extra cute. I watch him age, and I know he will grow old, probably get sick and eventually die. It just means we have to make our pets' days extra amazing, because their days are much more limited than ours! They will have led a full life when they pass, and that's what should matter to us. ❤️
Most of my pets thankfully died from old age at home (some in my arms), but some died at the vet. Even then it's important to remember that this is but one moment in what was hopefully a great life.
If there's a lesson here: don't tell your pets "later" when they want to play but you're busy. They don't have time for "later". 🤗
I lost three pets in one year five years ago. Lost one three years previous where the vet was crying before I was when he broke the news that he had little time left (I had only brought him to get his teeth cleaned!). Lost one in between those years where we had to do a lot of home medical care for about two months that was traumatic for all of us. Lost another I barely had a year, hit by a car, and the woman stopped and we were both crying and I was actually hugging and consoling her she was so distraught (I am still grieving the loss of that cat...how she arrived at my house was miraculous and the experience of losing her was also strangely "positive" It's been three years and I'm still shaken by it). It's nice to hear someone else talk about grieving a pet, because no one understands unless they've been through it. I spent a lot of time on a website on pet grief to try to get through the thick of it. Four of them had lived really good lives and were 14-19 years old-- they were a bit easier to take. The ones who die young (the other two) were harder. I don't think I would hold on to a pet who would have to have a lot of medical intervention where there is little to no hope...the one we went through that with, it was so sad...she was unhappy and not herself at all...it grieved me, every moment, because there was NO pleasure for her in those couple months.
I am bawling. I have not processed the grief of losing my cat very well at all. I am in therapy. I am discussing violent traumas. I still can't bring myself to dig into this wound. Thank you so much for your validation.
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When my cat died, I feel like he took a part of me with him. I never felt so much pain, weirdly even more pain than when some of my actual human family members passed. I miss him dearly. But I have since adopted 2 more kittens who make me smile again💕
I had to put down my 18 year old cat yesterday. I’ve had her since I was 20 years old. I don’t recognize my life without her. What really shocked me was how my 3 year old reacted. Total hysterics yesterday and today has totally bounced back. Kids are so resilient.
Sorry for your loss ❤️
Putting my dog down was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I also cried like I had never cried, just absolute heart ache. I'm now in social work and I want to do veterinary social work helping people through this process and to help vet staff through their grief.
Ugh... just sitting at my desk at work sobbing... ugh. Its the worst.
Thank you also for being a kind and understanding pet parent. When you talked about your older cat at the end, I was glad that you understand when pets have accidents like throwing up etc. and you treat them with kindness. Reminded me that what bothers me is people who get mad at their pets and are mean to them for things like that. Those people I don’t understand and I don’t like them! People who deliberately cause animal suffering are evil.
Whenever Dr Honda talks about pet grief, it’s like he totally describes my emotions about it better than I can. Thank you for putting it into words. It is the hardest thing to make that decision to let your cat go, the worst! It’s something that gets better with time but I will never ever forget. Every sad thing I experience or even read about , hear about or watch is something that is always on my mind and I will think of occasionally. Veterinarians seem to have improved overall in how they deal with pets at the end of their lives. There are still a few that still seem to encourage euthanasia before other options, but I’m glad that more of them are providing pet guardians with hospice options instead of immediate euthanasia. I do agree that they are usually right but I have also experienced times when the vet was pushing euthanasia but my cat ended up rebounding for months or years. It is SO hard to make the call to do it at the right time. I would never want to prolong my cats suffering for no reason either. Thanks again Dr Honda💙
Kirk's messages to the disciplinary committee and to Simon's colleague were just PRICELESS. Also, there are not enough songs about grieving for animals. I was working on one but it's hard while bawling.
Why not call it "It's hard while bawling"? 🤷🏻♀️ We understand.
The person who lost their chihuahua. I'm sorry that is so sad. My heart breaks for you. Accident happen and that sucks. I've worked with animals my whole life and its tough. I told my son when we got his first pet that pets don't live as long as us and that is because we are to take care of and love lots of animals in our life. Sorry that your chihuahua only had small amount of time with you. And the coworker is a real jerk face. Go easy on yourself.
I laughed so hard at the end of this episode! I think it’s time officially become a patron.
I had to recently euthanise one of my two cats. We adopted him three years ago, he lived happily with my mom and the other cat but in the last few weeks he developped an issue in his mouth and over two weeks (during which we tried treating him with antibiotics, after two vet visits) he lost nearly half his weight because he wouldn't eat anymore. We learned he was above 11-12 years old and that it could be the symptom of more serious issues than just a mouth problem. During the days we hoped the meds would help but we didn't see any improvement, I was so discouraged and sad. Couldn't decide what to eat for dinner and cried so much in the anticipation of having to put him down.
He was completely lethargic on the last day, on which my mom made the appointment for the euthanesia. We concluded he suffered a lot and with little to no chance of getting better. We were both very affected.
The vet and his assistant were incredibly gentle with me as I accompanied the cat to get the shots, they were really humane and I'm grateful for that. Afterwards they left me with his body for all the time I needed to grieve and to be frank, after two minutes I knew he and his personnality had exited the body and that we made the right choice for that situation.
Pet death sucks. Be gentle and patient with yourself, cry all you have/want to.
"Our Cat Goes To Heaven" by Margaret Atwood is a cute story that can help put a little light in that situation but as with every painful event you mostly got to give yourself time and don't over-doubt everything, because some answers just will never appear solidly before you.
All my love and support to that patreon !
Anxiety and grieving pets is unfortunately something I’m very familiar with. You think you’re the only one but you’re definitely not alone. It’s helpful to talk to others to see how they’ve coped with it. There’s support groups for pet grief as well. Hope the listeners that emailed get some relief.
I have so much fucking pet grief.. these stories hurt so much. I've never gotten over it.
My mom and I just had to put down our Ca. 19 year old chihuahua (rescue) who lived such a long time. Because his health deteriorated so much and he was very old, we knew it was best for him to put him to sleep. I held him in his final moments. Absolutely nothing could’ve prepared me for the heartache of witnessing it and the grief after. I always thought, well I love him but it won’t hurt like grieving the loss of a beloved human. Boy I was wrong. Still processing this grief. Pets really are family. Hold them tight and appreciate the love you shared. They live on in pure memories and hearts.
That first question reminds me of an ex long ago. He constantly accused me of cheating when all I ever did was work and read books, and I was beginning to come to terms with my asexuality so I didn’t have the libido most do. The accusations of cheating became so ridiculous and I got tired of trying to assure him I am faithful when I had nothing to prove. Plus I am avoidant attached, I would just shut down. Eventually I did leave him. I couldn’t really understand it at the time but his attachment style now makes sense. Sadly the constant accusations did manifest his fear of loss, but in time he did get married. I hope he found some peace.
Re: Schizophrenia and Violence....My cousin was actually murdered by his roommate who had schizophrenia and wasn’t on his meds. He had access to help with his mental illness, but chose not to use it. His family owned the house and my cousin was renting a room there. Our family understood that the roommate was having a major episode and that violence isn’t “normal” for someone with schizophrenia. My cousin’s parents worked with the DA and didn’t want the death penalty, but rather wanted the roommate to get psychiatric help while in prison. He ended up getting a deal with the DA that put him in the prison hospital to get stabilized. He’s currently still in prison and I think his 1st parole hearing is in a couple years.
That ending was the most wholesome thing possible.
My life's title lol
Facts! I was about to post the same thing! 😆
Yup same
I was thinking the same when I saw the title
Omg me too 😅
Hahahaa
My anxiety got so bad last year i just didn't go to take my finals even tho i worked hard for them and now i'm retaking this year and i still get just as scared it sucks
It's very hard to have that pressure and it's normal to feel stressed out. When I was in college some personal issues stole all my focus, I failed a class and had to retake it.
I tried to stick to the positive thoughts, about how I had more time to study the subject and so would do just fine. Let youself feel hopeful although anxiety makes one used to consider only the worst "what if". I'd bet you've overcome many things until now, and that's likely just the next one you're going to succeed at ! ❤
Are you on any medication? In my experience it helps with anxiety. Antidepressants and beta-blockers for example.
@@slavbarbie my family don't believe in therapy they think I'm exaggerating, and it's not real and they think meds don't work so yeah..
@@slavbarbie I'm probably considering that cause last week I walked out while we had an exam and I had a full on panick attack and it was so embarrassing even the teacher is weirded out and doesn't understand why I get that stressed for a stupid exam . And honestly I don't either . Btw thanks for the advice
Pets are a blessing ❤️
"if I just had gone to the vet sooner"
That made me cry so hard. I have been dealing with this as well. I had seen some subtle signs that there was something going on. I hate myself for it. But I also tell myself to be realistic. There was something very wrong and it probably wouldn't have mattered if I went to the vet a little sooner.
Great 👍🏽 podcast valuable topics here to talk about, the pet thing aughhhh... my chihuahua is a senior and it sucks because like you said pets do not live long and it hurts when they leave us 🖤
I have fear of grief with my pets and most of all my family members. I’m not scared of death but I don’t want to feel the pain of anyone I love pass away on me. I don’t want to feel the pain, I sometimes fantasize the grief in order to like prepare to feel less pain if and when it were to occur. It’s weird but humans do weird things smh 🤦♀️
The end of this was perfection 👌 that insensitive idiot co-worker deserved that response and more!
Dr Kirk, thank you so much for covering these heavy topics. I didnt know I needed to hear these things.
Just finished listening to this episode and the pet grief part really got to me. The first ever dog I had (she was a small dog) was attacked by two big dogs that were of a friend of mine. I was ten at the time and was with my mom when the attack happened. My friend and her parents were also there but nobody really did anything but scream. It was awful. My dog died later that day because of her injuries. I still remember all of it. My dog was just five years old at the time and it was a very traumatic experience for me. My heart goes out to everyone who’s had similar experiences, you’re not alone❤️pet grief is no joke at all
I am suffering from the loss of my little R in May. He was my most precious little boy, he was different from all of my other cats (yes, I have 7) but he was like my child. I can’t explain our relationship. but he suddenly took sick, he was only 9 and we thought it was because his teeth cleaning had been delayed but it turns out he was in kidney failure. We rushed him to the emergency hospital and they kept him over night and then the next night, asked me to rush him to the vet college where they decided to operate and they did a kidney bypass which seemed to work. Except the next day the bypass developed a blockage and they had to take him back into surgery but though the surgery worked, he aspirated and developed pneumonia and sepsis. I can’t go a day without thinking how I failed him. It was during corona and they refused to let me see him or talk to him. He was completely bonded to me and he refused to eat , they wouldn’t listen and I know he died thinking I had abandoned him. The last time he heard me was right before they intubated him, he searched around for me and we were on Facetime and he was so scared. He thought I had left him with them to die so he didn’t fight to survive. I hate myself for letting this happen. They lied and said they would play my voice for him but they never did. They wouldn’t give him my tshirt so he could smell me and be comforted. His terrified face haunts me. It was exactly 6mons ago right now, almost to the minute that I last held him on the way to the college, that I last kissed him on his nose and told him I would see him again. And they never let me, I broke the most important promise I made to be with him at the end, and now he is gone. He was alone without me to keep him safe and give him comfort. My heart still physically hurts for him and I can never forgive myself for not fighting to be with him. I know he would have survived if he knew I was here waiting for him, holding the phone next to me every second waiting for news on his progress. It will be exactly 6mons tomorrow at 750pm that they let him go and at 10pm was the last time I held his little lifeless body.
I'm so, so sorry you went through this. It's really heartbreaking and I can't find any words that could comfort you well enough for the trauma what you describe. The vets sound absolutely incompetent and uncompassionate and you are entirely justified to have some anger about how they handled things.
Of course the moments of sickness and the medical procedures are horrible and the last events that he lived, however I hope you can find peace in knowing that while you were able to give him the best life you could, you did. We are truly powerless towards sickness sometimes (and the restrictions that can be justified or just pretexted by the pandemic), and you tried your best giving him the best treatment/care that you could find : you're remarkable for this, and he was lucky to have you, and your other cats are lucky to have you too. ❤❤❤
I also hope that with time, the guilt you feel will fade so that you can remember more fondly the happy memories you shared with your cat before his sickness.
Please take care of yourself. I wish you all the best, especially peace and resilience ❤
Wow, this is so very awful and traumatic. I am so, so very sorry that this happened to you. You truly deserve to unpack and heal from this. Your little R knows that you love him and he will always be with you! You did not fail him.
I can really relate with the school anxiety email. I had a ton of anxiety related around school. Even after graduating college I still feel the remaining anxiety consistently. I have an understanding as to why I have anxiety related to school due to some negative experiences in school as a child. I did my capstone research on this topic.
I sobbed when you talked about having to put cats to sleep. I have been there, and I am not far from being in that in the near future. It's HEART BREAKING agony. What you said helped me.
I appreciate your taking the time for this type of content even tho the 90 day fiance react type of videos seemingly get a lot more views. I can't handle those types of shows so thanks for the variety.
The closing of this episode is my new favourite thing ever ❤
Thanks for the episode
The endinnnnng! 😂 "Because you deserve it. You really, really do." *music* I could not
That sign off was the greatest thing. I spit coffee all over my roommate.
Loved it too!
As a person who has had animals put to sleep as well as let them die on their own as well as someone who has euthanized animals. It is always awful just know that. Unfortunately with our pets when they are finally showing that they are sick they are VERY sick. Due to the nature of animals they do not show sickness. This is because their nature is to not show weakness if the animal does they fall prey to another animal. Euthanasia is awful. You did the right thing. It is also awful to watch animals die. It is awful to have them die unexpectedly. Having pets die is awful. Try not to beat yourself up. The vet cares and knows. I'm just sorry. Euthanasia is done out of kindness remember that.
Couldn’t have put it better. Nice words
@@sarahp8937 I agree 100% 🤗
a great episode!! i related so much it will be a year in february that i had to put my american bulldog, Sammy, to sleep also because of fluid in lungs and abdomen. he was my baby and protector and was fine til he wasn’t, 3 days of symptoms and took him in, i was told the same thing and was shocked. i am going to listen to the pet grief podcast when i’m alone haha. thank you for all that u do!! 🥲♥️♥️♥️
Stacy & Dr. Kirk: have you tried Slippery Elm for your cat? It's very effective with stomach problems in cats as the elm soothes the upset stomach and protects it from irritation. Must be the Slippery Elm Bark, though, not regular elm!
Please try it if you haven't already, you can also use it yourselves. I've had many cats benefit greatly from that! ❤️
I feel so sorry for Simon ❤️
Dr Kirk, *please* start reacting to *1000-Lb Sisters*, I'd be REALLY interested to hear your thoughts on that relationship and their history and struggles!
and I thought I couldn't like Kirk any more :'D the ending was amazing!
When i ended up in ER after a sui***e attempt, my treatment was decreased after they reviewed my medical history. 🙄
Best ending 😂👏
21:20 test anxiety
Pets-- we recognize that there is a time we spend together and we make that time joyful and intimate. If we didn't have them in our homes and lives, they might not have had a life as good as we gave them. We made their lives special as much as they made ours special. This isn't hyperbole. When we look at our pets, we can know this. All they ask of us is to love them, and we do. I know not everyone believes in God, but I think when we care for our pets, the Creator is happy-- we stewarded His creation well. That is the gift and honoring of that gift 💗
Did all three and feel great,
I feel like without my baby Oliver who’s my cat I would not feel the will to live.
Please comment on the riot in Washington D.C.
Damn. Honda don't fuck when it comes to animals.
I've noticed he always says 'people' when he's being condescending.
The system isn't broken people etc.
Can you explain this? How is using the word people condescending in any way?
@@HappyDia01 this person appears to have some major hard on for putting down Dr Honda (total speculation) and is trying to get other people to get on the bandwagon but so far nobody is biting 😂
Id say he says 'people' when he's exclaiming or emphasizing. Nothing condescending about it from my perspective.
Dr Kirk the way you react to any criticism online in such a hostile ans defensive manner makes me believe you are higher on the narcissism scale than you give yourself credit for.
Abigail Coffey why would you write this comment? I don't understand.
@@JackBrady because he's an annoying condescending person and everyone worshipping him is feeding his narcissism and god complex. I listen to a podcast where he received a negative email and the hissy fit he threw was unbelievable.
@@JackBrady nevermind I looked through your comments and your clearly one of his sycophants
I couldn’t disagree with this statement more.
@@Yourmom_dotcom another dr Kirk sycophant, amazing.