Don't forget the "So you expect me to work and pay all the bills while you get to sit at home all day?? What are you, a golddigger?” as if that's not exactly what they wanted their "trad wives" to do in the first place. Must be fun to pretend the house becomes spotless and dinner gets magically cooked on its own!
@@Jamesxx15 that’s kind of the point of the video. As soon as this type of guy is faced with trad husband responsibilities (like working to support the family on only their income), they backtrack on wanting trad wives/households
People that demanding other to fit in their view, but never want to fit in other view. It remind me to people who always moaning about "we need more of this kind person in the world" but never try to be one themself. I definitely not talking about my coworker.@@dancingpixies93
@@dancingpixies93My wife makes more than me. I'm scared of her losing her income, lol. Some dishes and a couple hours with the baby (what a terrible curse, to spend time with our own child! lol) is but a small, small price to pay. Apparently, people have interpreted this comment as meaning that I'm scared of my wife leaving. I joked about her making more than me, that doesn't mean I think she'll leave. Maybe I should have clarified that better?
@@tiagodecastro2929 spending time with your own child? What are you, a babysitter?! (obv joking lol, you two clearly have a very practical marriage and make decisions based on common sense)
It's so annoying when they constantly talk about how men are career fields a lot more, and build infrastructure its like.... for thousands of years you said that's mens work. Now you're shaming women because there's not many of them in those fields. Wtf do you want.
Exactly, like surely he can’t be bad at all forms of housework. Gotta find the thing he is at least half decent at. And if he does genuinely struggle with all types of housework even with teachings of how to do them properly (cooking, cleaning, laundry), then there should be discussions of reasonable accommodations, like splitting up the housework to smaller steps so everyone contributes to everything (like him chopping up the vegetables while she puts them on the pan, or her tying up the trash bag and he drags it out front). And if *that* doesn’t work out, then they should discuss hiring a housekeeper
Yeah, it doesn't stop with this either. When my husband retired(I retired before him so I did much of the housework) I told him he would be splitting the housework now. He told me he wanted to enjoy his retirement! and not do any work! I asked him when I was going to be able to retire?? His brain practically melted, but he managed to see my point.
What's sad is that you even had to point this out. The older I get and the more I see, the more I think that men in general have been too spoiled for too long.
@@AngryReptileKeeper I wish I hadn't either. but he saw the light when pointed out. We're Boomers. My generation is better than those before, at least a bit. My mom didn't even try to convince her husband to do housework. His share was to take out the trash.
When my dad told my SAH mom he was going to retire from the military at 55, mom replied she was going to retire too. Dads reply of ‘retire from what?’ was not the correct retort. After this conversation I was shocked to see him making breakfast for the two of them EVERY morning and cleaning up everything after dinner (mom was a very messy cook - seemed to dirty every dish and pot they owned that was never put away!). And they had a housekeeper in every week. Didn’t hurt him a bit. He turned 99 last week!
I know, like I have to live with one foot in the fifties and another in the 2020s while you get to park your behind all in the modern era, both asscheeks and everything.
@@MatthewJarvis-zw2sz "He wants all the benefits" reminds me a french expression : "he wants the butter, the butter's money and the butt of the butter's lady (the lady who makes the butter) " 😅 Basically : he wants everything without doing any effort to get it.
Sooo many men want a bangmaid who also works full time so she can pay half the bills. It's always the laziest dudes in the world that behave like this, too. Ugh.
I’m 68 now and (by mutual agreement, I might add), I was a “trad wife”. I looked after almost everything, including two children, while his job in the RAF took him around the world. After 23 years of marriage he left me for a younger woman, having grown resentful, saying that I didn’t have a brain and that I was “no spring chicken”. So, young women considering being a “trad wife”, he will never be content with anything you do so get on out there and just look after YOU and don’t ever rely on a man to look out for your best interests. (Apologies to the genuinely GOOD men out there, you are worth your weight in gold). P.S. I’ve been happily alone for another 23 years now. He did me a favour when he left!
Being a trad wife wouldn’t be for me either way, but the vulnerability scares me. My dad left my mum a fortune so she was fine after he passed so she was fine but I wouldn’t be. For 99% of the people out there it’s terrifying to solely rely on one person’s career. Whether they leave by choice or otherwise.
If he were living alone, he'd have 1 income & have to cook, shop, clean, organize, plan etc. all for himself. These are *adulting* skills, not gendered ones. With 2 incomes, 2 adults, the household labor needs to be split equally. Add a kid in the mix and suddenly there's 24/7 childcare that needs splitting, too.
True. It always bugged me when my sister's or friend's husbands would say, "why do I have to babysit" when they wanted to go out. It isn't babysitting, it's parenting when they are your children. Geesh.
@@dianagarland4907 And why should he get free time, when she doesn't? Why should he get to go out, but he complains when she goes out? That's not equality.
They don't clean or cook. They nail sheets to the window instead of buying curtains, they don't change their bedsheets, they run one load of laundry through the washer dryer then dress out of the laundry basket, they skip breakfast order pizza and make sandwiches and eat chips dont eat anything with green
When my parents got married in the 80's my dad went into it having these kind of expectations of my mom. One day she grabbed a piece of paper and started writing. He asked what she was doing and she said "I'm writing up my resignation since you want me to work full time at home." That one fixed that!
I'm so glad, in retrospect, that I grew up in a household with a father who also helped around the house and with childcare since my mother worked as well. That's probably why they're still happily married after 47 years.
@@AngryReptileKeeperSame, my grandparents were baby boomers and they split housework and taking of the kids (and later me) equally. They had the happiest marriage I've ever witnessed, and I didn't realise how rare that was until I got older
@@jtl-en4yx Women suffer financially more than men post-divorce; judges can be sexist, too. The primary earner has to pay alimony (in rulings with fair judges) bc the labor at home went unpaid. This prevents secondary earners (usually women) from living in even more poverty than they statistically do already.
And yet it is the dominant structure in modern American life :( Even women who are the primary or sole source of income do more housework on average! It’s a barrier to gender equality just as large as the wage gap, but so much more difficult to address- how would domestic labor laws be enforced?
@legrandfromage9682 Sorry not all of us want to eat off moldy dishes and sit in shit on the toilet seat lmao. Most women are just asking for the bare minimum, like load the dishwasher, help fold communal laundry, clean up after yourself.
@@legrandfromage9682 I promise you if women were less 'neurotic' about housework (most) men live in absolute filth and think it's completely fine, which it's not.
They want the wife to be both traditional and non traditional, only when it benefits him. And so he does nothing Ladies, time to take a solo vacation and see how he handles everything. Then pack up and leave if he’s still not contributing
If my boyfriend ever pulled a stunt like this (which he wouldn't, thankfully), I'd take off and visit my parents across the country for a solid month. Since I'm on disability, I'm in a position where I can just drop everything and f*ck off while maintaining an income. Then he could go to work for 13 hours a day, come home and take care of the (large) garden, the yard, the 13 chickens, the 4 cats, the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry and the errands by himself. Meanwhile, I'd be chilling at my parents' place doing a fat load of nothing. And I'd better not come home to a disaster and a garden full of dead plants.
My dad set such a high standard for me. He worked while my mom stayed home with us kids AND did his share of the housework. He cooked, he cleaned, he got my siblings and I out of the house when my mom needed to rest, and he emphasized that we couldn't just leave all the housework to mom.
@@umani9983yeah, that's the core issue. Their mother treated them way too well and they search for someone that is like that but fail to realize that their mother literally sacrificed herself for them, which is an unhealthy relationship. Not only for a normal relationship but also for a parent. There always need to be some borders so the other person realizes you're a human and not just an extension of their needs
Same type of guy where if he made enough to actually have a wife who stays home taking care of the house for him, he’d be complaining how she’s a lazy leech with no job.
I once dated a girl who came from a relatively (for our area) wealthy circle. She was cool, her parents were pretty cool, but her parents' friends were unbearable. One of the women never worked a day in her life and constantly complained about lazy people who just want a free meal ticket. She contracted almost everything out to maids, child care, etc. Her days were spent "working" on her passions, like painting ugly dog portraits or playing socialite.
@@andrewhooper7603 lol I love how it’s so often either people who have never worked a day in their lives or only have had privileged, well-connected cushy jobs who say this. Especially when they had to marry their way into wealth and didn’t come from much themselves. Like ma’am, you are just as much of a grifter/ social climber as these people you’re insulting 😂
Honestly if I could support me and a partner with my job and she would literally handle all the house (except maybe cooking because I like to do that...and things that are more strenuous for someone weaker like carrying heavy things) duties, ESPECIALLY cleaning then I'd be more than happy to just come home from work and chill out. I can't stand work that I perceive as being preparation. Even when cooking, prepping everything suuuuucks I just wanna DO.
Reminds me of when my college boyfriend asked me why I never did the dishes. I told him I did, he just wasn't usually home when I did them, which was true. Then I asked him why he never cleaned the bathroom, and he said "Because that's your area." I had an 'area.' He didn't.
@@DeathnoteBB Why the object permanence issues? My last ex claimed he couldn't find me if I took a phone call in the bedroom of our very tiny apartment. I'm like dude, how do you completely lose a full grown woman because the door closes? The only reason I was going in there to talk in the first place was because he hated the noise of the conversation taking place in the same room as him. Like, you asked for this, how can this be a surprise? Suddenly you have no idea where I went? BS. I'd worry about his intelligence, but he's someone else's problem now.
I honestly do feel slightly bad about that because I know how much mine were looking forward to being grandparents, but I'm obviously not going to bring a human life into the world out of a sense of obligation lol. And no fucking way would I ever get married or have kids willingly, I find the idea horrifying at the best of times, in this day and age frankly I'd rather cover myself in honey and get jiggy with a beehive...
Man here, I feel the same way! my last long-term relationship was so terrible, and the women I have tried to work with have been so toxic that I do not even want a relationship with a woman anymore. I would like to have sex as much as any other man, but women have for the most part rejected me, and the though of paying someone for sex is repulsive to me. I'm just gonna stay mgtow from here on out.
@@ElyR-rt4sw Literally anything you say to a wo man if you are not handsome or tall is pestering to them, so no a do not have any unnecessary contact with them. They on the other hand can treat us like absolute trash, and never have any consequences!
I married the right man 😂 my husband literally saw all his laundry was folded (just felt like helping) and said “love, you didn’t have to do that but thank you I really appreciate it” and I was like “well I’m your wife so it’s normal if I help” His response: “but it’s not your job so don’t feel like you have to” We’ve been together for 14 years 🥰 we do tons of cleaning together and I do stuff that I can do when he’s at work and I’m off and vice versa. Teamwork guys.
My husband busts his azz 70 hours a week at work and I do everything at home (though some is delegated to our children simply because they need to learn how to do these things...not because I can't or don't want to do them myself) as well as homeschool our children because *that's my job.* To each their own. As long as what you're doing works and everyone is happy, who gives a fig. I'm glad you found what works for you. May your marriage be forever blessed ❤
Mine too. Team work wins!! Who ever goes home early starts the dinner and the other one does the dishes. Same with our kids routine , we always alternate so that it doesn’t get too much for a single person
@@katie7748”As long as what you’re doing works and everyone is happy” 100% this. No shame if people do want to lean a more traditional or non traditional route; it’s their lives after all and they shouldn’t be told to do y instead if x is already good for them and they’re not being taken advantage of (or taking advantage of their spouse)
Also, some people don't understand that an 8h workday is not the same as 24h/7days a week housework and kids. So even when a husband works, and the wife doesn't and stays home, he still should help with some chores.
Exactly! Plus you always should be a real dad when you have kids. Not only to support your wife but mostly for your kids. Kids need a dad who is truly involved.
Yess!! I'm a student and end up staying at home during breaks from school, including summer. I got a really great husband who takes our son on his days off and in the morning so I can get a break. Obviously I give him time to himself as well, it's give and take. But the biggest thing is that he gets a change of pace. I don't. And I hate being a stay-at-home. He loves his job. So we talked and decided it was important for him to help me out. Because there was a time it was all me 24/7, no breaks, no days off, and I actually became extremely mentally ill to a very concerning point. People don't get that stay-at-home moms almost never get time to themselves. Every day at all hours we are taking care of and living for others. That is hard!
@@anonomous8649 It sounds very hard to keep it together when "on call" constantly, especially with nobody but kids to talk to. I think anyone would suffer like that. I'm glad your husband stepped up like they all should and hope your schooling is going well!
@@anonomous8649 I think more people need to be aware of the "on-call" expectations of motherhood. You never fully get to relax, and when you look at labor laws ~ they address that interrupted breaks need to be paid accordingly, and with additional time off in certain cases. It is not responsible to have a single person on call 24/7 for ANYTHING, let alone caring for a small helpless human(s).
@@kinseylise8595 Yes, it can be very mentally draining to be with the "brain damaged" little ones day in and day out with very little time with other adults. Then add in another demanding to be served adult to the mix. It's no wonder why one partner is upset enough not to want to be "close" to the other. Having "relations" with someone you are mad at is emotionally unhealthy.
Dog these kinds of people could be making six figures and they'll still just be emotionally stunted manchildren. If it isn't their wife's income triggering their insecurity, it will be something else.
My wife is probably as close to trad wife as you can get but when she did work, we split things pretty evenly. If anything I probably did more. She had the physical labor job and I had the desk job. When she worked, Some people we knew would criticize her for not helping out more at home. When she became a stay at home wife then mom, people criticized her for not working. Just can’t win
Wild that people can think this way. Like at least in the past women were not expected to work so it wasn’t work and house chores at the same time. Now people are more used to and accepting of the idea of women working but because traditional gender expectations have not completely vanished, it becomes this thing where one person is expected to do the jobs two people did in the past…
This is how it’s supposed to be; splitting the work depending on the situations! I’ve been with my soon-to-be-wife for over 16 years and we’ve switched roles several times depending on the situation. When I was working on my Masters degree and she had a day job we split housework evenly. When covid hit I dropped my degree to work because she was at risk and so she took on 85-90% of the housework while I took on anything that required me to be outside/near people. Now she’s working full time but my mental health has been getting bad so even though I’m at home all day we split housework 60-40 (her doing 40%) while I work on getting better.
"I don't want to get into all the ways I'm just now realizing my argument is full of holes, so let's just move on under the assumption that I'm right."
My own father did the dishes when he came home AND took the time to play with us kids individually. He was a wonderful husband to my mother and a great father. We fought tooth and nail for him to live peacefully with us after being diagnosed with ALS
@@WisdomAndWar133 I'm sure people don't regularly get diagnosed with ALS. Randomly saying "Bad stuff happens to everyone" does not work here. It's an understatement. 😶
After decades of doing it all myself while holding a full-time job, I told my husband that either he pitches in or he can move out and clean up after himself, and I won’t have to clean up after an extra person. He shaped up right away and is now helping cooking and cleaning with a smile. I’m old. I’m tired I’m done. I need help and if you can’t help me then you can go help yourself. You must remember that you bring a value that they rely on. They know they’re getting a benefit and they’re taking advantage of you. It’s time to remove that benefit and it needs to be an equal household situation. You can’t have a relationship where one person gives and the other receives. It must be balanced. Where both people give, and both people receive.
I was a sahm and I did EVERYTHING! I paid the bills/tax returns, I eliminated rats, birds, mice, fleas ans head lice. I did all the shopping, cooking from scratch, I ran it on a very low budget, I took out the trash, took the kids to school, appointments, sports, planned the holidays. I always gave bjs regularly (it was not reciprocated) i did the laundry and bought the clothes, repaired the clothes. The only I didn’t do was cut the grass. My husband called me lazy.
Love how it isn't even like she stays home 100% of the time (more reasonable for him to say this), but she works. Sorry, but when you both work, household chores should be the responsibility of both. If you wanna have the luxury of relaxing after work, you'll have to afford enough to make your wife be able to stay at home.
Exactly. My wife and I don’t have kids and both work so we just split all our chores. We both like working so we like this arrangement. Not to say there is anything wrong with the trad wife dynamic, if it makes you both happy then that’s awesome. But I see these guys on the internet who want to have their cake and eat it too. If she pays half the mortgage, you better be doing a couple dishes
@@theslappablejerkYou seem like a great husband and a good man, your wife is lucky to have you. I personally would prefer the "trad" dynamic when I get married to my boyfriend simply because I would love to be closer to our future kids and I also believe he is a hardworking man who does a lot for me and it'd be a way of me showing appreciation towards him. HOWEVER, I am getting a college degree right now and we'll only have this dynamic when kids come along, therefore, I will work for a few years, then do this. It isn't a good idea to jump into this without some sort of experience or education. By the way, I am very honored to get a reply from you!
@@theslappablejerkyeah I prefer it. I paid for the rent and bills with my previous girlfriend and she paid for groceries. She wasn’t lazy and would go out in the day and get new foods and picked out the fresh ones and good products. And she would cook most of the time, do cleaning washing etc but I still helped with washing clothes taking out bins and 9/10 was the one who did the dishes after she cooked so she could rest after cooking dinner. It worked well for us.
@@cherryhazard8002 Make sure to have a secret account to use in case bro goes crazy or switches shit up, a prenup, and make sure he puts money away for you.
@@cherryhazard8002 Okay, but be careful and make sure you have some kind of financial back-up plan in case things go south. Obviously it would be wonderful if your relationship works for the rest of time, but there's also no guarantee that it will, and the last thing you want to happen is for your partner to divorce you, and you suddenly find yourself without any kind of financial safety net to support your kids and yourself.
What makes me pissed is that men actually don't give a sh*t about clean space. They wouldn't be bothered by living in a literal trash can. But they act like concerned about dishes, dust etc, just the sake of make their wives miserable. This is just evil.
I was married to it for 14 years. The only time he would do minimal housework without throwing a fit is when I had 2 jobs and he didn’t have any. He refused to apply for any job that he felt wasn’t good enough for him, even though my morning job was cleaning houses and my afternoon/evening job was retail. So then I’d come home, he would have done minimal housework, and want emotional support for how bad he felt being unemployed.
I swear there aren’t enough oil rigs and construction sites in the world to employ all the men who claim they’re working a 14 hour shift while their wives eat bon bons all day.
@bettybunbun9664 If she works full time you know damn well her money is "their " money and his money is "his " money...video games, golf, boys' weekends, whatever. I've seen a lot of divorces because of that shit.
I never dated anyone like this, but i had a roommate who treated his gf like this (he groomed her btw). And then he tried to pull it with me (he told my bf he needed to control his woman, referring to me), mind you I’m usually not confrontational, I used to be timid and he _tried_ to take advantage of that. Acting passive aggressive and bossy (wanting me to clean dishes not of my making) and what not. I told my boyfriend not to interfere because it was my business to deal with and one day I just snapped and blew up on him, calling him all sorts of things. He never did it again to me and he moved out shortly after. All it took was standing up for myself a single time. I am not a straight woman who just settles for any fragile man who sometimes treats me like a person, and I certainly would never be in a relationship with a lazy weasel, and I will definitely never be a mouse again towards men like that. And am no longer afraid of (metaphorically) whacking a mole back into place
My family has this rule too! My mom and I tend to do most if not all of the cooking. Unfortunately my siblings haven’t been following the rule lately so I also do most of the dishes.
Yeah my mom and all of her sisters had this kind of husband too, my mom like most woman worked and took care of us and the house it was depressing to see growing up because i am a girl too and i tought i had to have that future of a slave but i decided i will forever be single to rather do everything for a guy
I literally met a guy like this. He was insisting his girlfriend wanted to be a “freeloader” by staying home when they get married and have kids, but he was also raving about how he wanted her to be a “tradwife.” Long story short, that relationship didn’t work out and that guy is not my friend.
Bonus points if they think their wives' money should be spent on bills and groceries and the like, but the money they earn themselves should only be spent on fun things for themselves.
As a trad wife who went back to work PART TIME for 6 months, i do not understand how some people expect this. When i was working and my husband was away for school, i was struggling horribly. Im back to staying home and my husband provides for us and our toddler. Im happy to do the majority of housework and meals knowing that i DONT have to worry about working. Insane how any woman working is expected to keep house.
The sad truth is that in the US, the average working wife does 90% of the housework. And since most women work, it's the reality for most of us 🫠 I hope that someday things get better
@@lauraanderson8785 We don't have to just hope! We can teach women to keep some savings on the side and to have an escape route in case he gets violent no matter how wonderful he is right now (Even if he's perfect what if he gets a head injury and becomes violent? That's totally possible even for the best man so why not be prepared?). Then they'll be in the position to put their feet down when men do this. If a boyfriend does this and doesn't want to change, just leave him. If a husband does this then there's a fight ahead, but we can support women through it! I also hope the status quo improves but I think we can inspire independent spirits and self-respect in women, especially young women, to combat this. Even just recognizing chores as work is a huge mindset shift. Then there's the further shift of realizing men avoid chores because they think drugery belongs to women and that work should be the only unfun thing they have to endure. But even just teaching financial safety is so huge.
But you ARE working dear. Domestic work and child care is work. And yes it's insane to expect anyone to work and then do majority of the child care and house work it's exploiting. I personally belive domestically working mom's should be protected by the law more and compensated more including by the government. This thing of disregard the value and necessity of domestic work and child care is disgusting and disrespect. Respect to you for being a SAHM.
This is so common nowadays, so glad you're calling these good-for-nothings out (though those who need this are basically all too dense to realize it applies to them )
They’re not too dense; it’s a game. Men are smarter than they appear. They pretend they don’t understand why you don’t want to do 12 hour days and weekends while they do 8. It works sometimes for awhile but the woman grow to have little respect for them. Been there done that.
@@shmataboro8634A good mom makes you do that, because she's actually teaching you life skills and not doing all of that for you and stunting your growth. Guys that SlappableJerk are portraying want women like their own moms; maids, seeing how they seemed to be brought up that way.
A trad wife still does the lions share of the work. I don't know when trd wife was something women started to aspire to. It's still basically a shit deal
I love how you snuck in that his job is at Best Buy. So, not only does she work, she also probably makes more money than him too. But he still expects her to come home, cook, and do all the housework. I wish this were just comedy but there are actually men out there like this.
I work in a factory. Manuel labor for 3 years, now I’ve been helping in the office for the last few months. Two different kinds of exhausting, but exhausting none the less
I work in a library. It’s mostly desk work, yes, but tomorrow I’m going to spend the day moving boxes up and down a ladder. But he’d tell me it wasn’t manual labor, right?
Ha, my husband wanted me to be a trad wife and work. I said, "How about this? When you can make enough money for me to stay at home and take care of the kids, laundry, dishes, pets, food etc then I will be happy to be a stay at home wife and do all those things." Then if course he says that I have to work because in this economy one income isn't enough. All I said to him after that was, then don't expect me to work and be a trad wife if you can't even be a trad husband.
Yeah working at Best Buy totally counts as manual labor 🤣🤣🤣 Imagine he works for the geek squad and is complaining about his wife being on the computer
I told my husband this. If he expects me to do all the work at home then I expect him to get a 2nd job to maintain the lifestyle to which I have become accustomed. He don't get both.
I had a coworker who was complaining about how working evening shift is stressful cause she can’t make dinner for her family and her husband was getting annoyed, I took it as “she cooks he cleans” and told her why don’t you cook in the morning, she said no the food is already cooked… The waste of space she’s married to got annoyed because he has to heat up his and his kids dinner, I honestly can’t believe I got through that conversation with my sanity intact.
When you ask your "trad" husband to fix a leaky shower and he says he'll call a plumber. He doesn't do blue collar jobs, they aren't intellectually stimulating.
@@cee-emm see, there is a risk of making an error that could lead to a costly mistake. my deal is, if i have the money, ill let qualified people who do this for a living do it, and then i have their guarantee on the work. not having to make a big home insurance claim because i pinched a gasket and now my bathroom floor has water damage. i could probably learn it, but why risk it when i could have qualified workers and a guarantee. the first comment was kind of denigrating workers, my deal is i know people have their specializations and people should play to their strengths.
@@ryanweible9090 Not really; general plumbing is very straight forward. If it's not septic or well or water softener all you need is a an auger and some caulk maybe pvc and pipe tape pretty much. The auger for clogged pipes is an investment (like 300 bucks) but even if you only ever use it one time you just saved 400 bucks on a plumber. Subfloor in a bathroom is just plywood and maybe a polymer lining- why would you make an insurance claim for a wet subfloor in the smallest room in the house? I am doing this myself in my kids' bathroom and I bought all the materials for cheap (it is quite a small bathroom even for a bathroom though so I am taking a crack at it). You make an error you just fix it (also have a shopvac lol). Turning the water off before plumbing is not too difficult to remember. I think we are far more capable than the experts who bank on our ignorance would lead us to believe. Being handy is awesome. We felt like idiots in our first year of owning a house but we pretty much fear nothing now. I am even halfway done replacing all of the electrical outlets. I never thought I was capable of doing any of this before. Most of it is so easy - faucets are easy; toilets are easy etc. The issue (in my opinion) is not having the time to do these things, not the incapability.
This is so well done. If the husband not seeing a problem with making a comparison to his parents didn't make the point clear enough, him saying "we're living in different times" really spelled it out. You're good at _your_ job, that's for sure Jack
Men these days expect a woman to work and contribute financially 50/50 but they also expect the woman to do the cooking, cleaning and child rearing in addition to working full time. Once my children are raised I will never be in a relationship again. The expectation of being an unpaid servant while working full time and raising kids is just ridiculous.
@@TheKingLikesArt You won't see the men announcing they are like that on the first date or have it in their bio. Sometimes the good guy mask drops when he feels he has her trapped via financial insecurity, children and marriages and getting away becomes uphill battle.
@@InternetNonsense Granted you may not be able to see it on the first date or even during the first months of dating, especially if they're a manipulative personality. But if you can't see the red flags well beyond the point of a committed relationship or even marriage, then you have to start considering the possibility that you may just be naive and willfully ignored A LOT of telltale signs, warnings from friends/family etc. Or you kept telling yourself that "he will change for me", which also puts you at fault. There are A LOT of good men out there who are perfectly willing to have a eye level relationship, so I won't allow you to trash all men based on your obviously warped view. The problem I see is that those men usually do not catch women's attention that much because they are not flashy enough or do not cater to the primal brain. But again, it is your responsibility to use your intelligence to correct for that primal brain.
My mom did all housework, cooking, cleaning, plus being by far most present when it came to raising 3 children, while also working full time. When I asked her as a kid why the house work wasn't more equally split between her and dad she said "Idk, never really thought about that". My partner and I now try to split everything equally, while helping each other when one of us is extra tired or something. Because I really thought a lot about this
Im so glad someone addressed this. There's this guy who talks about gf not wanting to behave like trad wives, cooking for him etc. If he truly understood what a trad wife was, he wouldn't be expecting his gf to do wifey behaviors BEFORE marriage.
If most nen knew the responsibilities of a trad husband we would not be having this conversation. It's a transactional service of the man doing all the traditional male gender rolls so the traditional wife doesn't have to worry about doing anything more than her part of the deal. Cook, clean and childcare and for that he has to afford her a comfortable life style with no financial worries, they are his problem. Guys won't fully sign up for that these days. It is to much for them to keep up their end of the deal and they complain that you don't pay them enough attention because your busy. Been there on the failed exercise and he could not handle the responsibility.
This is WAY too accurate and on point, you have to decide between having a job and having a job at home, if you have a job, you are "modern woman" and are "putting the man down" but if you dont, you are "goldigger" who "only wants money". These are always told by men who aren't trad husbands themselves, and expect the wife to do everything, because they have never even interacted with a woman, let alone dated one
Even if she didn’t work, if he’s at work 9-5 and she’s taking care of the house and kids 9-5, bro, you’re helping around the house. I ain’t looking after another child. As a woman who has a 4 month son, you better believe my husband and I are raising him to be a decent human being. Men, do better; women… choose better
If she's working and doing cooking, cleaning, everything, then what is he bringing to the relationship that she needs? Its certainly not his personality. This guy and the boomer would be great together. See who gets mad first.
Either worse than nothing, or the illusion of companionship, or her job doesn’t pay enough for her to afford an apartment alone and this is unfortunately the best option she had for cohabitation
@@lusciouslocks8790 never the best option for a single woman. The best option would be to find a female roommate/s were they can split rent, not play wife to some loser who clearly doesn’t respect nor love her.
I'm tired of these modern "women" not understanding that I can't share my 10% employee discount if I'm tired from putting dishes into the dishwasher. 🙄
When my mom had to get a job because my father’s wages couldn’t keep up with inflation, she didn’t have the time or energy to do as much housework. My father’s response was to assign it to us, the two daughters. We already helped with housework, mind you. And it wasn’t like we were lazing about. We had piles of homework from school. A little dust in the house is no big deal, people.
This is my ex. I worked 3 jobs, 1 full-time and 2 part-time. One day I worked from 7am until 9:30pm. He had been home since 4pm. When I come home he asked me what was for dinner, at almost 10pm. We split shortly thereafter.
I watched this happen personally in slow-motion to a couple that I was roommates with several years ago. At first, when I met them, they presented themselves as reasonable, generally chill folks in their mid-20s (also around my age at the time). We liked to hang out and watch movies and play video games, and we always had good times. I started noticing lots of alt-right content playing on TH-cam in the living room, and then the QAnon conspiracy theories were almost all they ever wanted to talk about. They had never been politically involved or shown interest in human or social issues, and I remember feeling confused -- this was around 2016, and I wasn't privy to the red flags yet, so I re-signed with them for another year. Not much long afterwards, they fully embraced the "Trad" lifestyle, largely based off of ultra-conservative movement, and unfortunately, a streak of White nationalism (racism). While I don't want to disparage anyone's personal relationship choices, I witnessed and intervened in several instances of emotional and physical abuse from the boyfriend. It was such a difficult situation because the girlfriend, who had been brainwashed into the lifestyle at that point, defended the abuser (which many abuse victims do), but this particular flavor of "trad" was especially difficult to dismantle. Unfortunately, it ended with him pulling a gun on a friend of his at Thanksgiving dinner (while extremely drunk) over a political conversation. He stated that the gun was not loaded, and pulled the trigger. The gun was in fact not loaded, but I don't need to tell you how incredibly dangerous and reckless that situation was. I moved out immediately and we never contacted them again. I sincerely hope that their lifestyle and hateful views changed for the better. I cannot overstate how incredibly wild it was to watch reasonable, well-adjusted people fall down this rabbit hole in the short span of two years.
When I was a kid, my dad worked and my mom got up early to make him breakfast. When I was a tween, my dad got laid off, and my mom went to work to make ends meet. I don't recall if she made him breakfast at that time but I suspect so. When my dad got into a different line of work, Mom (still working herself) got up early to make him breakfast. When he retired, and she was working, I noticed that he had never gotten up early to make *her* breakfast. Now that he's back to working, she cooks his breakfast at night (sometimes after midnight) and puts it in the fridge and gets the coffee ready so that he doesn't have to do much of anything in the morning aside from sit at the computer until it's time to go. Somewhere along the line I realized that what I had initially thought of as a reasonable division of labor (he works, she makes him breakfast) was in fact just an expectation that she would make him breakfast regardless of what else she had to do, how late it was making her, how much sleep she wasn't getting, etc. He also sometimes asks her to get him coffee as we're on the way out the door -- and she'll turn and do that for him before we leave. And if she's doing dishes while he's on the computer, he'll ask her for this or that, and she'll stop her chores to get him whatever so that he doesn't have to get up from the computer. Irritates me. And gave me some lines in the sand for if I ever find a guy.
From the first sentence he wouldn’t have been able to talk over my throwing his shit out the window, don’t allow men to act like this even for a second.
This is the type of person who can't load the dishwasher but is CONVINCED that they could of been some kind of hero in WW2
LOLLLLLL f*ck you're so right
This comment needs waaaaaay more likes! 😂
😂
"If I had been there.."
"You know the dishes are right here..."
Or a knight in medieval times. That delusion is a fun one, too. 😅
Don't forget the "So you expect me to work and pay all the bills while you get to sit at home all day?? What are you, a golddigger?” as if that's not exactly what they wanted their "trad wives" to do in the first place. Must be fun to pretend the house becomes spotless and dinner gets magically cooked on its own!
A guy thats saying that wouldn't be "trad'.
@@Jamesxx15 that’s kind of the point of the video. As soon as this type of guy is faced with trad husband responsibilities (like working to support the family on only their income), they backtrack on wanting trad wives/households
People that demanding other to fit in their view, but never want to fit in other view. It remind me to people who always moaning about "we need more of this kind person in the world" but never try to be one themself. I definitely not talking about my coworker.@@dancingpixies93
@@dancingpixies93My wife makes more than me. I'm scared of her losing her income, lol. Some dishes and a couple hours with the baby (what a terrible curse, to spend time with our own child! lol) is but a small, small price to pay.
Apparently, people have interpreted this comment as meaning that I'm scared of my wife leaving. I joked about her making more than me, that doesn't mean I think she'll leave. Maybe I should have clarified that better?
@@tiagodecastro2929 spending time with your own child? What are you, a babysitter?! (obv joking lol, you two clearly have a very practical marriage and make decisions based on common sense)
The worst is when they complain about Women having careers but if she doesn’t want to work so she can be a SAHM she’s a gold digger.
Women can't win and it's always their fault.
That's how these men think.
Yep, it’s almost like they just hate women and will happily move the goal posts to suit their worldview. 😂
@@JerryMetal 🤢🤮
@@JerryMetal SAHMs are doing the most important job in the world for no pay. They’re the opposite of gold diggers.
It's so annoying when they constantly talk about how men are career fields a lot more, and build infrastructure its like.... for thousands of years you said that's mens work. Now you're shaming women because there's not many of them in those fields. Wtf do you want.
Then he'll say "But you're better at it!" Like every woman came out of the womb knowing how to do dishes perfectly.
Exactly, like surely he can’t be bad at all forms of housework. Gotta find the thing he is at least half decent at. And if he does genuinely struggle with all types of housework even with teachings of how to do them properly (cooking, cleaning, laundry), then there should be discussions of reasonable accommodations, like splitting up the housework to smaller steps so everyone contributes to everything (like him chopping up the vegetables while she puts them on the pan, or her tying up the trash bag and he drags it out front). And if *that* doesn’t work out, then they should discuss hiring a housekeeper
um, actually darwin himself confirmed that women have been evolutionarily designed for superior dish washing ability
Weaponized incompetence
@@The_Zeta_Malelowkey cat tell if this satire or not
@@SincerelyOfficiallyBlossom it is
Yeah, it doesn't stop with this either. When my husband retired(I retired before him so I did much of the housework) I told him he would be splitting the housework now. He told me he wanted to enjoy his retirement! and not do any work! I asked him when I was going to be able to retire?? His brain practically melted, but he managed to see my point.
What's sad is that you even had to point this out. The older I get and the more I see, the more I think that men in general have been too spoiled for too long.
@@AngryReptileKeeper I wish I hadn't either. but he saw the light when pointed out. We're Boomers. My generation is better than those before, at least a bit. My mom didn't even try to convince her husband to do housework. His share was to take out the trash.
When my dad told my SAH mom he was going to retire from the military at 55, mom replied she was going to retire too. Dads reply of ‘retire from what?’ was not the correct retort. After this conversation I was shocked to see him making breakfast for the two of them EVERY morning and cleaning up everything after dinner (mom was a very messy cook - seemed to dirty every dish and pot they owned that was never put away!). And they had a housekeeper in every week. Didn’t hurt him a bit. He turned 99 last week!
@@janc4754 We love to see communication work.
@@janc4754😂❤
'we're living in different times, why can't you get that?'
The irony. I can't lmao
Yep, the hypocrisy is off the scale. He wants all the benefits of "living in a different time" but none of the responsibilities.....
GAAAAAAHHHHHH! Trying to remind myself this one isn’t real, but too many of these guys do exist
I know, like I have to live with one foot in the fifties and another in the 2020s while you get to park your behind all in the modern era, both asscheeks and everything.
It was perfect lol
@@MatthewJarvis-zw2sz "He wants all the benefits" reminds me a french expression : "he wants the butter, the butter's money and the butt of the butter's lady (the lady who makes the butter) " 😅
Basically : he wants everything without doing any effort to get it.
Sooo many men want a bangmaid who also works full time so she can pay half the bills. It's always the laziest dudes in the world that behave like this, too. Ugh.
My favorite is when they get mad when their ideal woman is defined as “a mom they can sleep with”
They want traditional women yet can’t be traditional men, because 90% of the time they’re terminally online and don’t even know what manual labor is
@@thiccchungo1041 REAL
soulmaid
Bangmaid? Well I didn't before, but when you put it like that...
This made my heart rate go up 💀 the acting is TOO GOOD
Thanks bud!
This mf act really well every character he does, he needs to be in a movie fr
Mine too! Gosh I was ready to yell.
@@bereczkizalan nah they might ask him to shave off that facial hair 😂
I feel like he is not acting
I’m 68 now and (by mutual agreement, I might add), I was a “trad wife”. I looked after almost everything, including two children, while his job in the RAF took him around the world. After 23 years of marriage he left me for a younger woman, having grown resentful, saying that I didn’t have a brain and that I was “no spring chicken”. So, young women considering being a “trad wife”, he will never be content with anything you do so get on out there and just look after YOU and don’t ever rely on a man to look out for your best interests. (Apologies to the genuinely GOOD men out there, you are worth your weight in gold). P.S. I’ve been happily alone for another 23 years now. He did me a favour when he left!
Older men look repulsive - way worse than a woman of the same age
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Being a trad wife wouldn’t be for me either way, but the vulnerability scares me. My dad left my mum a fortune so she was fine after he passed so she was fine but I wouldn’t be.
For 99% of the people out there it’s terrifying to solely rely on one person’s career. Whether they leave by choice or otherwise.
If he were living alone, he'd have 1 income & have to cook, shop, clean, organize, plan etc. all for himself. These are *adulting* skills, not gendered ones.
With 2 incomes, 2 adults, the household labor needs to be split equally. Add a kid in the mix and suddenly there's 24/7 childcare that needs splitting, too.
True. It always bugged me when my sister's or friend's husbands would say, "why do I have to babysit" when they wanted to go out. It isn't babysitting, it's parenting when they are your children. Geesh.
@@dianagarland4907 And why should he get free time, when she doesn't? Why should he get to go out, but he complains when she goes out? That's not equality.
They don't clean or cook. They nail sheets to the window instead of buying curtains, they don't change their bedsheets, they run one load of laundry through the washer dryer then dress out of the laundry basket, they skip breakfast order pizza and make sandwiches and eat chips dont eat anything with green
When my parents got married in the 80's my dad went into it having these kind of expectations of my mom. One day she grabbed a piece of paper and started writing. He asked what she was doing and she said "I'm writing up my resignation since you want me to work full time at home."
That one fixed that!
Iconic move!
What a boss! 😂❤
What a boss bitch, I love it
I'm so glad, in retrospect, that I grew up in a household with a father who also helped around the house and with childcare since my mother worked as well. That's probably why they're still happily married after 47 years.
@@AngryReptileKeeperSame, my grandparents were baby boomers and they split housework and taking of the kids (and later me) equally. They had the happiest marriage I've ever witnessed, and I didn't realise how rare that was until I got older
I showed my husband this and he said "that man is gonna be found at the bottom of the harbor."
Damn, sounds like you got a good one
He has good insults like damm
After he jumps when his wife divorces him and gets everything
@@jtl-en4yx Women suffer financially more than men post-divorce; judges can be sexist, too. The primary earner has to pay alimony (in rulings with fair judges) bc the labor at home went unpaid. This prevents secondary earners (usually women) from living in even more poverty than they statistically do already.
@@celisewillis If you're going to lie, at least tell a lie that can't be easily falsified.
So 2 people work jobs but one does all the housework? Sounds really fair and not exploitative at all.
And yet it is the dominant structure in modern American life :( Even women who are the primary or sole source of income do more housework on average! It’s a barrier to gender equality just as large as the wage gap, but so much more difficult to address- how would domestic labor laws be enforced?
And yet it’s the life that we’re supposed to strive for 🙄 No thanks
@@spencerfair7505women should just be less neurotic about housework tbh
@legrandfromage9682
Sorry not all of us want to eat off moldy dishes and sit in shit on the toilet seat lmao.
Most women are just asking for the bare minimum, like load the dishwasher, help fold communal laundry, clean up after yourself.
@@legrandfromage9682 I promise you if women were less 'neurotic' about housework (most) men live in absolute filth and think it's completely fine, which it's not.
They want the wife to be both traditional and non traditional, only when it benefits him. And so he does nothing
Ladies, time to take a solo vacation and see how he handles everything. Then pack up and leave if he’s still not contributing
If my boyfriend ever pulled a stunt like this (which he wouldn't, thankfully), I'd take off and visit my parents across the country for a solid month. Since I'm on disability, I'm in a position where I can just drop everything and f*ck off while maintaining an income. Then he could go to work for 13 hours a day, come home and take care of the (large) garden, the yard, the 13 chickens, the 4 cats, the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry and the errands by himself. Meanwhile, I'd be chilling at my parents' place doing a fat load of nothing. And I'd better not come home to a disaster and a garden full of dead plants.
@@AngryReptileKeeperif your boyfriend "pulled" a stunt like that? Do you think you're his mother or something. What a weird thing to say.
@ShayPatrickCormacTHEHUNTER
You haven't heard of weaponized incompetence?
@@popcornandcherries1817 Does that justify such weird language according to you?
What was wrong with the phrasing and how would you word it then
My dad set such a high standard for me. He worked while my mom stayed home with us kids AND did his share of the housework. He cooked, he cleaned, he got my siblings and I out of the house when my mom needed to rest, and he emphasized that we couldn't just leave all the housework to mom.
Sounds an amazing guy who understood being a shm is a 24/7 job
These kind of guys don't want a traditional relationship, they want a nanny
Even a nanny has a better deal: she gets paid and doesn't have to pay 50% of the bills.
They want a slave
Even more...they want/demand/expect a non-human entity (not BEING) and all WITH A SMILE.
Nah, they want a mommy. One that will pay for things and do all everything for him.
@@umani9983yeah, that's the core issue. Their mother treated them way too well and they search for someone that is like that but fail to realize that their mother literally sacrificed herself for them, which is an unhealthy relationship. Not only for a normal relationship but also for a parent. There always need to be some borders so the other person realizes you're a human and not just an extension of their needs
Same type of guy where if he made enough to actually have a wife who stays home taking care of the house for him, he’d be complaining how she’s a lazy leech with no job.
I once dated a girl who came from a relatively (for our area) wealthy circle. She was cool, her parents were pretty cool, but her parents' friends were unbearable. One of the women never worked a day in her life and constantly complained about lazy people who just want a free meal ticket. She contracted almost everything out to maids, child care, etc. Her days were spent "working" on her passions, like painting ugly dog portraits or playing socialite.
@@andrewhooper7603 lol I love how it’s so often either people who have never worked a day in their lives or only have had privileged, well-connected cushy jobs who say this. Especially when they had to marry their way into wealth and didn’t come from much themselves. Like ma’am, you are just as much of a grifter/ social climber as these people you’re insulting 😂
You can’t win with abusive men 😂it’s crazy making
A la Stephen crowder.
Honestly if I could support me and a partner with my job and she would literally handle all the house (except maybe cooking because I like to do that...and things that are more strenuous for someone weaker like carrying heavy things) duties, ESPECIALLY cleaning then I'd be more than happy to just come home from work and chill out. I can't stand work that I perceive as being preparation. Even when cooking, prepping everything suuuuucks I just wanna DO.
Reminds me of when my college boyfriend asked me why I never did the dishes. I told him I did, he just wasn't usually home when I did them, which was true. Then I asked him why he never cleaned the bathroom, and he said "Because that's your area." I had an 'area.' He didn't.
wow the first man to never poop
I swear men don’t see something happen and assume it must never happen
@@DeathnoteBB Why the object permanence issues? My last ex claimed he couldn't find me if I took a phone call in the bedroom of our very tiny apartment. I'm like dude, how do you completely lose a full grown woman because the door closes? The only reason I was going in there to talk in the first place was because he hated the noise of the conversation taking place in the same room as him. Like, you asked for this, how can this be a surprise? Suddenly you have no idea where I went? BS. I'd worry about his intelligence, but he's someone else's problem now.
Did he think the dishes magically cleaned themselves? 💀What an idiot
Hahahaha. You better have cleaned the bathroom
And that’s why my parents won’t be grandparents. Celibacy isn’t frightening anymore, it’s a relief
I honestly do feel slightly bad about that because I know how much mine were looking forward to being grandparents, but I'm obviously not going to bring a human life into the world out of a sense of obligation lol. And no fucking way would I ever get married or have kids willingly, I find the idea horrifying at the best of times, in this day and age frankly I'd rather cover myself in honey and get jiggy with a beehive...
Man here, I feel the same way! my last long-term relationship was so terrible, and the women I have tried to work with have been so toxic that I do not even want a relationship with a woman anymore. I would like to have sex as much as any other man, but women have for the most part rejected me, and the though of paying someone for sex is repulsive to me. I'm just gonna stay mgtow from here on out.
I'm just here to chuckle at the replies to your comment
@@jtl-en4yx that's fine as long as you actually GYOW and live your life without pestering the innocent women around you
@@ElyR-rt4sw Literally anything you say to a wo man if you are not handsome or tall is pestering to them, so no a do not have any unnecessary contact with them. They on the other hand can treat us like absolute trash, and never have any consequences!
I married the right man 😂 my husband literally saw all his laundry was folded (just felt like helping) and said “love, you didn’t have to do that but thank you I really appreciate it” and I was like “well I’m your wife so it’s normal if I help”
His response: “but it’s not your job so don’t feel like you have to”
We’ve been together for 14 years 🥰 we do tons of cleaning together and I do stuff that I can do when he’s at work and I’m off and vice versa.
Teamwork guys.
My husband busts his azz 70 hours a week at work and I do everything at home (though some is delegated to our children simply because they need to learn how to do these things...not because I can't or don't want to do them myself) as well as homeschool our children because *that's my job.*
To each their own. As long as what you're doing works and everyone is happy, who gives a fig. I'm glad you found what works for you. May your marriage be forever blessed ❤
Mine too. Team work wins!! Who ever goes home early starts the dinner and the other one does the dishes. Same with our kids routine , we always alternate so that it doesn’t get too much for a single person
@@katie7748”As long as what you’re doing works and everyone is happy” 100% this. No shame if people do want to lean a more traditional or non traditional route; it’s their lives after all and they shouldn’t be told to do y instead if x is already good for them and they’re not being taken advantage of (or taking advantage of their spouse)
Amazing 🥰🤌
You found a rare guy who actually loves women, congratulations!
Also, some people don't understand that an 8h workday is not the same as 24h/7days a week housework and kids. So even when a husband works, and the wife doesn't and stays home, he still should help with some chores.
Exactly! Plus you always should be a real dad when you have kids. Not only to support your wife but mostly for your kids. Kids need a dad who is truly involved.
Yess!! I'm a student and end up staying at home during breaks from school, including summer. I got a really great husband who takes our son on his days off and in the morning so I can get a break. Obviously I give him time to himself as well, it's give and take. But the biggest thing is that he gets a change of pace. I don't. And I hate being a stay-at-home. He loves his job. So we talked and decided it was important for him to help me out. Because there was a time it was all me 24/7, no breaks, no days off, and I actually became extremely mentally ill to a very concerning point. People don't get that stay-at-home moms almost never get time to themselves. Every day at all hours we are taking care of and living for others. That is hard!
@@anonomous8649 It sounds very hard to keep it together when "on call" constantly, especially with nobody but kids to talk to. I think anyone would suffer like that. I'm glad your husband stepped up like they all should and hope your schooling is going well!
@@anonomous8649
I think more people need to be aware of the "on-call" expectations of motherhood.
You never fully get to relax, and when you look at labor laws ~ they address that interrupted breaks need to be paid accordingly, and with additional time off in certain cases.
It is not responsible to have a single person on call 24/7 for ANYTHING, let alone caring for a small helpless human(s).
@@kinseylise8595 Yes, it can be very mentally draining to be with the "brain damaged" little ones day in and day out with very little time with other adults. Then add in another demanding to be served adult to the mix. It's no wonder why one partner is upset enough not to want to be "close" to the other. Having "relations" with someone you are mad at is emotionally unhealthy.
can't stand these guys
They think they could’ve fought in WW2 but can’t change a tire
Then sit them idk :)
@@Lernos1 i was initially gonna make a joke like this but i couldn't think of what to say fast enough
@@theslappablejerk it's okay, they swear they can bench more than whoever they're talking to
@@theslappablejerkI’m not certain I could’ve fought in WW2 but I have Changed a tire so I’ve got that at least!
Maybe he should quit his 15$ an hour job at best buy I don't think he's makes more income than her
Yeah but she has a “cushion” job
As a Geek Squad Home Theatre installer at Best Buy, I feel for this poor man.
💀@@southtexasobserver3306
$15*. Dvmb ass
Dog these kinds of people could be making six figures and they'll still just be emotionally stunted manchildren. If it isn't their wife's income triggering their insecurity, it will be something else.
My wife is probably as close to trad wife as you can get but when she did work, we split things pretty evenly. If anything I probably did more. She had the physical labor job and I had the desk job. When she worked, Some people we knew would criticize her for not helping out more at home. When she became a stay at home wife then mom, people criticized her for not working.
Just can’t win
Women just can’t win in this world, you’re right on the money. We receive ridicule for everything and anything we do. (I say this being AFAB)
Wild that people can think this way. Like at least in the past women were not expected to work so it wasn’t work and house chores at the same time. Now people are more used to and accepting of the idea of women working but because traditional gender expectations have not completely vanished, it becomes this thing where one person is expected to do the jobs two people did in the past…
This is how it’s supposed to be; splitting the work depending on the situations! I’ve been with my soon-to-be-wife for over 16 years and we’ve switched roles several times depending on the situation. When I was working on my Masters degree and she had a day job we split housework evenly. When covid hit I dropped my degree to work because she was at risk and so she took on 85-90% of the housework while I took on anything that required me to be outside/near people. Now she’s working full time but my mental health has been getting bad so even though I’m at home all day we split housework 60-40 (her doing 40%) while I work on getting better.
@@autumn7157 That's beautiful. Keep supporting each other.
At least the two of you understood and were doing what you needed.
This is why there’s a saying going around, it’s “men, you are not competing with other men. You are competing with the peace in your absence.”
I love this!
Ooh that's a good one!!
"I don't want to play semantics with you" triggers a core memory I never knew existed
Same.
Same
A phrase exclusively used by people when you point out the logical inconsistencies of their statements.
"I don't want to get into all the ways I'm just now realizing my argument is full of holes, so let's just move on under the assumption that I'm right."
What they say when they have no argument at all and begin to understand you have a whole logic ready to be explained
My own father did the dishes when he came home AND took the time to play with us kids individually. He was a wonderful husband to my mother and a great father. We fought tooth and nail for him to live peacefully with us after being diagnosed with ALS
Your father was a wonderful man :)
He sounds like a wonderful man, husband and father.
@annistar9693 Bad stuff happens to all people, but when it happens to good people, others care and try to help.
@@WisdomAndWar133 I'm sure people don't regularly get diagnosed with ALS. Randomly saying "Bad stuff happens to everyone" does not work here. It's an understatement. 😶
I'm jealous, not because your father contributed to the chores, but that he was loving to you guys while mine was just distant on an autistic level...
Doesn't have the energy to wash up but willingly argues about it instead. Classic
exactly! that kind of energy is why wives used to always have a cast iron skillet handy.
He would've been halfway done with the dishes by now, especially if they had a dishwasher.
After decades of doing it all myself while holding a full-time job, I told my husband that either he pitches in or he can move out and clean up after himself, and I won’t have to clean up after an extra person. He shaped up right away and is now helping cooking and cleaning with a smile. I’m old. I’m tired I’m done. I need help and if you can’t help me then you can go help yourself.
You must remember that you bring a value that they rely on. They know they’re getting a benefit and they’re taking advantage of you. It’s time to remove that benefit and it needs to be an equal household situation. You can’t have a relationship where one person gives and the other receives. It must be balanced. Where both people give, and both people receive.
I was a sahm and I did EVERYTHING! I paid the bills/tax returns, I eliminated rats, birds, mice, fleas ans head lice. I did all the shopping, cooking from scratch, I ran it on a very low budget, I took out the trash, took the kids to school, appointments, sports, planned the holidays. I always gave bjs regularly (it was not reciprocated) i did the laundry and bought the clothes, repaired the clothes. The only I didn’t do was cut the grass. My husband called me lazy.
Oof. I’m glad you said “was”. I hope your life today is much brighter!
Why accept that? It's better to stay single
Oh, boy - I hope he is no longer?! And what did he bring to the table? I think I already know the answer, but I’ll give the benefit of the doubt.
Yikes. Hopefully that's an ex...
Lazy?? Guess he was projecting. Also, sex isn't a "chore" that needs to be done, and I hope every man who thinks that way steps on legos.
Men: Be a traditional housewife
Women: Ok be a traditional provider
Men: Wow ok golddigger
Nowadays it's just an excuse to not even be your own definition of a real man
The economy & job market: Haha, you thought!
@@kavky irrelevant! Work 90 hour weeks! /sarcasm in case it’s not obvious lol
They really don't understand that at that point they ARE the job.
@@daffadillynah you should be working 100 hours a week and the 68 other hours should be used cleaning!! dont be lazy!!
It's sad that there are genuinely people who have this level of awareness and comprehension.
He probably also wants to do married people things and expects her to take care of the baby.
That was my dad until, "the event"
@@DRourkey May I ask what 'the event' is?
@@Fenta-Soda noodle incident
@@Fenta-Soda bite of 87
Love how it isn't even like she stays home 100% of the time (more reasonable for him to say this), but she works. Sorry, but when you both work, household chores should be the responsibility of both. If you wanna have the luxury of relaxing after work, you'll have to afford enough to make your wife be able to stay at home.
Exactly. My wife and I don’t have kids and both work so we just split all our chores. We both like working so we like this arrangement. Not to say there is anything wrong with the trad wife dynamic, if it makes you both happy then that’s awesome. But I see these guys on the internet who want to have their cake and eat it too. If she pays half the mortgage, you better be doing a couple dishes
@@theslappablejerkYou seem like a great husband and a good man, your wife is lucky to have you. I personally would prefer the "trad" dynamic when I get married to my boyfriend simply because I would love to be closer to our future kids and I also believe he is a hardworking man who does a lot for me and it'd be a way of me showing appreciation towards him. HOWEVER, I am getting a college degree right now and we'll only have this dynamic when kids come along, therefore, I will work for a few years, then do this. It isn't a good idea to jump into this without some sort of experience or education. By the way, I am very honored to get a reply from you!
@@theslappablejerkyeah I prefer it. I paid for the rent and bills with my previous girlfriend and she paid for groceries. She wasn’t lazy and would go out in the day and get new foods and picked out the fresh ones and good products. And she would cook most of the time, do cleaning washing etc but I still helped with washing clothes taking out bins and 9/10 was the one who did the dishes after she cooked so she could rest after cooking dinner. It worked well for us.
@@cherryhazard8002
Make sure to have a secret account to use in case bro goes crazy or switches shit up, a prenup, and make sure he puts money away for you.
@@cherryhazard8002 Okay, but be careful and make sure you have some kind of financial back-up plan in case things go south. Obviously it would be wonderful if your relationship works for the rest of time, but there's also no guarantee that it will, and the last thing you want to happen is for your partner to divorce you, and you suddenly find yourself without any kind of financial safety net to support your kids and yourself.
What makes me pissed is that men actually don't give a sh*t about clean space. They wouldn't be bothered by living in a literal trash can. But they act like concerned about dishes, dust etc, just the sake of make their wives miserable. This is just evil.
I was married to it for 14 years. The only time he would do minimal housework without throwing a fit is when I had 2 jobs and he didn’t have any. He refused to apply for any job that he felt wasn’t good enough for him, even though my morning job was cleaning houses and my afternoon/evening job was retail. So then I’d come home, he would have done minimal housework, and want emotional support for how bad he felt being unemployed.
Horrifying and disgusting. Exceptional work.
I love that this sentence makes no sense outside of Slappable Jerk content, but within it's the perfect encapsulation of his entire oeuvre
Every "hmm" he makes just pisses me off more and more each time, like, holy shit 😖...!
ikr i was trying so hard to not throw my phone 😭
😂😂😂😂the battle of the sexes continues
"we're living in different times. why cant you get that?" BRO. THE HYPOCRACY OF THAT LINE IS HUGE.
I swear there aren’t enough oil rigs and construction sites in the world to employ all the men who claim they’re working a 14 hour shift while their wives eat bon bons all day.
When it enrages you through every fibre of your being, you know the acting is spot on
These are the people who think they're the cutting edge of wit and sophistication for commenting "Women ☕" on every video.
Or commenting "women complain all the time"...
They usually have the pfp of Nietzsche so this comment is extra funny
Men☕
Men🍼
Men 🧂
You forgot the part he calls her a "golddigger" for his Best buy discounts
As soon as the first "hmmm" happened I'd be like okay get outta my gd house.
Who says it's your house?
@bettybunbun9664 If she works full time you know damn well her money is "their " money and his money is "his " money...video games, golf, boys' weekends, whatever. I've seen a lot of divorces because of that shit.
My stomach would do that sudden flex tight in anger.
I never dated anyone like this, but i had a roommate who treated his gf like this (he groomed her btw). And then he tried to pull it with me (he told my bf he needed to control his woman, referring to me), mind you I’m usually not confrontational, I used to be timid and he _tried_ to take advantage of that. Acting passive aggressive and bossy (wanting me to clean dishes not of my making) and what not. I told my boyfriend not to interfere because it was my business to deal with and one day I just snapped and blew up on him, calling him all sorts of things. He never did it again to me and he moved out shortly after. All it took was standing up for myself a single time.
I am not a straight woman who just settles for any fragile man who sometimes treats me like a person, and I certainly would never be in a relationship with a lazy weasel, and I will definitely never be a mouse again towards men like that. And am no longer afraid of (metaphorically) whacking a mole back into place
😂
Cooks don't clean in my house. If you cooked the meal, I'll do the dishes etc.
I love that!
Ick 😂
My family has this rule too! My mom and I tend to do most if not all of the cooking. Unfortunately my siblings haven’t been following the rule lately so I also do most of the dishes.
That's the rule in our house too. Only seems fair.
@@AntiFeministWoman4FreedomYou're insufferable
This might be the single most annoying character you’ve ever portrayed, great job man 👏
The sad thing is I have many friends whose husband’s are like this..slappable jerks
Yeah my mom and all of her sisters had this kind of husband too, my mom like most woman worked and took care of us and the house it was depressing to see growing up because i am a girl too and i tought i had to have that future of a slave but i decided i will forever be single to rather do everything for a guy
@K.C-2049referring to hiring a housekeeper?
The acting is so good I have to remember everytime the actor is actively criticizing those characters lol
That line at 0:18 ... i would be dead before i got the whole sentence out. The acting and cringe level is unparalleled, well done
I literally met a guy like this. He was insisting his girlfriend wanted to be a “freeloader” by staying home when they get married and have kids, but he was also raving about how he wanted her to be a “tradwife.” Long story short, that relationship didn’t work out and that guy is not my friend.
Bonus points if they think their wives' money should be spent on bills and groceries and the like, but the money they earn themselves should only be spent on fun things for themselves.
As a trad wife who went back to work PART TIME for 6 months, i do not understand how some people expect this. When i was working and my husband was away for school, i was struggling horribly. Im back to staying home and my husband provides for us and our toddler. Im happy to do the majority of housework and meals knowing that i DONT have to worry about working. Insane how any woman working is expected to keep house.
The sad truth is that in the US, the average working wife does 90% of the housework. And since most women work, it's the reality for most of us 🫠 I hope that someday things get better
@@lauraanderson8785 We don't have to just hope! We can teach women to keep some savings on the side and to have an escape route in case he gets violent no matter how wonderful he is right now (Even if he's perfect what if he gets a head injury and becomes violent? That's totally possible even for the best man so why not be prepared?). Then they'll be in the position to put their feet down when men do this. If a boyfriend does this and doesn't want to change, just leave him. If a husband does this then there's a fight ahead, but we can support women through it! I also hope the status quo improves but I think we can inspire independent spirits and self-respect in women, especially young women, to combat this. Even just recognizing chores as work is a huge mindset shift. Then there's the further shift of realizing men avoid chores because they think drugery belongs to women and that work should be the only unfun thing they have to endure. But even just teaching financial safety is so huge.
But you ARE working dear. Domestic work and child care is work. And yes it's insane to expect anyone to work and then do majority of the child care and house work it's exploiting. I personally belive domestically working mom's should be protected by the law more and compensated more including by the government. This thing of disregard the value and necessity of domestic work and child care is disgusting and disrespect. Respect to you for being a SAHM.
You both look so cute all the best to your family and baby
Is that you and your husband in your profile picture? You look so cute!
This is so common nowadays, so glad you're calling these good-for-nothings out (though those who need this are basically all too dense to realize it applies to them )
They’re not too dense; it’s a game. Men are smarter than they appear. They pretend they don’t understand why you don’t want to do 12 hour days and weekends while they do 8. It works sometimes for awhile but the woman grow to have little respect for them. Been there done that.
That guy sounds like a "mature" manchild.
God dammit.
Manchild meets manipulative ex
I love that lol
That means he's a great actor
A manteen
That type of guy IS a ““mature““ manchild.
They don‘t want a wife they want a fuckable mom that takes care of them for no cost or return.
A man who wants a trad wife without providing is basically wanting a mommy.
A man who wants a trad wife while providing is a partnership.
💯
A mommy makes you clean your room, set the table, help with dishes and take care of your cat's litter box.
@@shmataboro8634A good mom makes you do that, because she's actually teaching you life skills and not doing all of that for you and stunting your growth. Guys that SlappableJerk are portraying want women like their own moms; maids, seeing how they seemed to be brought up that way.
A trad wife still does the lions share of the work. I don't know when trd wife was something women started to aspire to. It's still basically a shit deal
I love how you snuck in that his job is at Best Buy. So, not only does she work, she also probably makes more money than him too. But he still expects her to come home, cook, and do all the housework. I wish this were just comedy but there are actually men out there like this.
Gotta appreciate the irony of the "we live in different times" argument because it goes both ways. Share the job market, at home and at work.
ive never wanted to taze a character more
I work in a factory. Manuel labor for 3 years, now I’ve been helping in the office for the last few months. Two different kinds of exhausting, but exhausting none the less
Thank you!
I work in a library. It’s mostly desk work, yes, but tomorrow I’m going to spend the day moving boxes up and down a ladder. But he’d tell me it wasn’t manual labor, right?
Yeah exhausting to your mind is a different thing. Not to mention sitting a lot is not actually very great.
Ha, my husband wanted me to be a trad wife and work. I said, "How about this? When you can make enough money for me to stay at home and take care of the kids, laundry, dishes, pets, food etc then I will be happy to be a stay at home wife and do all those things." Then if course he says that I have to work because in this economy one income isn't enough. All I said to him after that was, then don't expect me to work and be a trad wife if you can't even be a trad husband.
Oh, this man would get dumped so quickly after this argument.
It’s always we need to work together, til it ain’t.
I wish I was kidding, but I have had flatmates who genuinely had a conversation exactly like this....
Yeah working at Best Buy totally counts as manual labor 🤣🤣🤣
Imagine he works for the geek squad and is complaining about his wife being on the computer
well those guys have to go to people’s houses and install home theater systems and stuff, feel like he’s just helping people to their cars
I told my husband this. If he expects me to do all the work at home then I expect him to get a 2nd job to maintain the lifestyle to which I have become accustomed. He don't get both.
Exactly!!! If they want a housewife they better be making housewife money.
i dont need to do cardio anymore i just need this guys videos to raise my heartrate
The line at the end sums up his hupocrisy so perfectly. Chef's kiss.
this one actually got me a little heated
It's probably because you've know someone like this in real life
Self awareness hurts.
@@bec7080 my stepmom lmfao
“If you were single you’d have to do all the cleaning anyway.”
But when you have a partner, you have at least twice the mess to clean up.
👍
If he was single he'd have to go to work anyway, so it's not special!
I had a coworker who was complaining about how working evening shift is stressful cause she can’t make dinner for her family and her husband was getting annoyed, I took it as “she cooks he cleans” and told her why don’t you cook in the morning, she said no the food is already cooked… The waste of space she’s married to got annoyed because he has to heat up his and his kids dinner, I honestly can’t believe I got through that conversation with my sanity intact.
The tone of voice is too good. You have truely earned your username.
When you ask your "trad" husband to fix a leaky shower and he says he'll call a plumber. He doesn't do blue collar jobs, they aren't intellectually stimulating.
To be honest the qualified plumber won’t mess it up. (I ruined a toilet once because I thought I could fix it)
@@gabriellehitchins9182 true, but it’s still hypocritical on the husband’s part. He wants to be trad? Learn how to fix everything.
My husband will watch yt tutorials and buy his own equipment instead of calling a plumber. It has saved us a bunch of money.
@@cee-emm see, there is a risk of making an error that could lead to a costly mistake. my deal is, if i have the money, ill let qualified people who do this for a living do it, and then i have their guarantee on the work. not having to make a big home insurance claim because i pinched a gasket and now my bathroom floor has water damage. i could probably learn it, but why risk it when i could have qualified workers and a guarantee. the first comment was kind of denigrating workers, my deal is i know people have their specializations and people should play to their strengths.
@@ryanweible9090 Not really; general plumbing is very straight forward. If it's not septic or well or water softener all you need is a an auger and some caulk maybe pvc and pipe tape pretty much. The auger for clogged pipes is an investment (like 300 bucks) but even if you only ever use it one time you just saved 400 bucks on a plumber. Subfloor in a bathroom is just plywood and maybe a polymer lining- why would you make an insurance claim for a wet subfloor in the smallest room in the house? I am doing this myself in my kids' bathroom and I bought all the materials for cheap (it is quite a small bathroom even for a bathroom though so I am taking a crack at it). You make an error you just fix it (also have a shopvac lol). Turning the water off before plumbing is not too difficult to remember. I think we are far more capable than the experts who bank on our ignorance would lead us to believe. Being handy is awesome. We felt like idiots in our first year of owning a house but we pretty much fear nothing now. I am even halfway done replacing all of the electrical outlets. I never thought I was capable of doing any of this before. Most of it is so easy - faucets are easy; toilets are easy etc. The issue (in my opinion) is not having the time to do these things, not the incapability.
This guy is so good at portraying the most unlikeable characters ever.
This is so well done. If the husband not seeing a problem with making a comparison to his parents didn't make the point clear enough, him saying "we're living in different times" really spelled it out. You're good at _your_ job, that's for sure Jack
Men these days expect a woman to work and contribute financially 50/50 but they also expect the woman to do the cooking, cleaning and child rearing in addition to working full time. Once my children are raised I will never be in a relationship again. The expectation of being an unpaid servant while working full time and raising kids is just ridiculous.
It says more about you if you only get into relationships with these kinds of men and therefore believe there IS only this type of man.
@@TheKingLikesArtno it doesn't. Shut up
@@TheKingLikesArt You won't see the men announcing they are like that on the first date or have it in their bio. Sometimes the good guy mask drops when he feels he has her trapped via financial insecurity, children and marriages and getting away becomes uphill battle.
@@InternetNonsense Granted you may not be able to see it on the first date or even during the first months of dating, especially if they're a manipulative personality. But if you can't see the red flags well beyond the point of a committed relationship or even marriage, then you have to start considering the possibility that you may just be naive and willfully ignored A LOT of telltale signs, warnings from friends/family etc. Or you kept telling yourself that "he will change for me", which also puts you at fault. There are A LOT of good men out there who are perfectly willing to have a eye level relationship, so I won't allow you to trash all men based on your obviously warped view. The problem I see is that those men usually do not catch women's attention that much because they are not flashy enough or do not cater to the primal brain. But again, it is your responsibility to use your intelligence to correct for that primal brain.
She's working in an office and he's a sales associate at Best Buy, I guarantee she's bringing home the bulk of the rent money, too.
LOL "we're living in different times."
That's right, bucko.
I KNEW it was going to be a retail job. You're very good at these characters.
MAKE THIS A SERIES! "Trad hypocrite husband"
i second this!
My mom did all housework, cooking, cleaning, plus being by far most present when it came to raising 3 children, while also working full time.
When I asked her as a kid why the house work wasn't more equally split between her and dad she said "Idk, never really thought about that".
My partner and I now try to split everything equally, while helping each other when one of us is extra tired or something. Because I really thought a lot about this
Im so glad someone addressed this. There's this guy who talks about gf not wanting to behave like trad wives, cooking for him etc. If he truly understood what a trad wife was, he wouldn't be expecting his gf to do wifey behaviors BEFORE marriage.
If most nen knew the responsibilities of a trad husband we would not be having this conversation.
It's a transactional service of the man doing all the traditional male gender rolls so the traditional wife doesn't have to worry about doing anything more than her part of the deal.
Cook, clean and childcare and for that he has to afford her a comfortable life style with no financial worries, they are his problem.
Guys won't fully sign up for that these days.
It is to much for them to keep up their end of the deal and they complain that you don't pay them enough attention because your busy.
Been there on the failed exercise and he could not handle the responsibility.
Never thought I'd see my step dad on this channel
The reference to lifting 40 pounds to qualify for Best Buy employment was too perfect. I laughed out loud.
You're killing me with 2 minutes 8. It's so painful.
(good job)
This is WAY too accurate and on point, you have to decide between having a job and having a job at home, if you have a job, you are "modern woman" and are "putting the man down" but if you dont, you are "goldigger" who "only wants money". These are always told by men who aren't trad husbands themselves, and expect the wife to do everything, because they have never even interacted with a woman, let alone dated one
Even if she didn’t work, if he’s at work 9-5 and she’s taking care of the house and kids 9-5, bro, you’re helping around the house. I ain’t looking after another child. As a woman who has a 4 month son, you better believe my husband and I are raising him to be a decent human being. Men, do better; women… choose better
These characters are too real, it's amazing how uncomfortable and infuriated you can make me!
If she's working and doing cooking, cleaning, everything, then what is he bringing to the relationship that she needs? Its certainly not his personality.
This guy and the boomer would be great together. See who gets mad first.
"If she's working and doing cooking, cleaning, everything, then what is he bringing to the relationship that she needs?"
Another mess to clean up.
Either worse than nothing, or the illusion of companionship, or her job doesn’t pay enough for her to afford an apartment alone and this is unfortunately the best option she had for cohabitation
@@lusciouslocks8790 never the best option for a single woman. The best option would be to find a female roommate/s were they can split rent, not play wife to some loser who clearly doesn’t respect nor love her.
I'm tired of these modern "women" not understanding that I can't share my 10% employee discount if I'm tired from putting dishes into the dishwasher. 🙄
Yup! It has to go both ways. I'm a homemaker and my husband provides. If I worked full time, we would split housework 50/50.
When my mom had to get a job because my father’s wages couldn’t keep up with inflation, she didn’t have the time or energy to do as much housework. My father’s response was to assign it to us, the two daughters. We already helped with housework, mind you. And it wasn’t like we were lazing about. We had piles of homework from school.
A little dust in the house is no big deal, people.
Dude. I had to pause and remember it’s a character. Bravo
Really living up to your channel name with this one 😭 I was seething the whole time
"Why can't you get that" Even tho he is the one not getting it lmao
He does get it, he's just being abusive.
I have to stop myself from developing negative feelings towards a FICTIONAL person in like 30 seconds this guy does characters so well
This is my ex. I worked 3 jobs, 1 full-time and 2 part-time. One day I worked from 7am until 9:30pm. He had been home since 4pm. When I come home he asked me what was for dinner, at almost 10pm. We split shortly thereafter.
good he aint deserve you
I watched this happen personally in slow-motion to a couple that I was roommates with several years ago. At first, when I met them, they presented themselves as reasonable, generally chill folks in their mid-20s (also around my age at the time). We liked to hang out and watch movies and play video games, and we always had good times. I started noticing lots of alt-right content playing on TH-cam in the living room, and then the QAnon conspiracy theories were almost all they ever wanted to talk about. They had never been politically involved or shown interest in human or social issues, and I remember feeling confused -- this was around 2016, and I wasn't privy to the red flags yet, so I re-signed with them for another year.
Not much long afterwards, they fully embraced the "Trad" lifestyle, largely based off of ultra-conservative movement, and unfortunately, a streak of White nationalism (racism). While I don't want to disparage anyone's personal relationship choices, I witnessed and intervened in several instances of emotional and physical abuse from the boyfriend.
It was such a difficult situation because the girlfriend, who had been brainwashed into the lifestyle at that point, defended the abuser (which many abuse victims do), but this particular flavor of "trad" was especially difficult to dismantle.
Unfortunately, it ended with him pulling a gun on a friend of his at Thanksgiving dinner (while extremely drunk) over a political conversation. He stated that the gun was not loaded, and pulled the trigger. The gun was in fact not loaded, but I don't need to tell you how incredibly dangerous and reckless that situation was. I moved out immediately and we never contacted them again. I sincerely hope that their lifestyle and hateful views changed for the better.
I cannot overstate how incredibly wild it was to watch reasonable, well-adjusted people fall down this rabbit hole in the short span of two years.
"well now you're just being patronizing" 😂😂😂 i can't
So much truth in this! Thanks for the sketch.
When I was a kid, my dad worked and my mom got up early to make him breakfast.
When I was a tween, my dad got laid off, and my mom went to work to make ends meet. I don't recall if she made him breakfast at that time but I suspect so.
When my dad got into a different line of work, Mom (still working herself) got up early to make him breakfast.
When he retired, and she was working, I noticed that he had never gotten up early to make *her* breakfast.
Now that he's back to working, she cooks his breakfast at night (sometimes after midnight) and puts it in the fridge and gets the coffee ready so that he doesn't have to do much of anything in the morning aside from sit at the computer until it's time to go.
Somewhere along the line I realized that what I had initially thought of as a reasonable division of labor (he works, she makes him breakfast) was in fact just an expectation that she would make him breakfast regardless of what else she had to do, how late it was making her, how much sleep she wasn't getting, etc.
He also sometimes asks her to get him coffee as we're on the way out the door -- and she'll turn and do that for him before we leave. And if she's doing dishes while he's on the computer, he'll ask her for this or that, and she'll stop her chores to get him whatever so that he doesn't have to get up from the computer.
Irritates me. And gave me some lines in the sand for if I ever find a guy.
From the first sentence he wouldn’t have been able to talk over my throwing his shit out the window, don’t allow men to act like this even for a second.