They give you the silent treatment, that's a major Red flag, give them the silent treatment forever, one thing you are responsible for your happiness, value yourself and love yourself nobody deserves that bs.👍 up Jess.
LITERALLY what I did 😂 The final rage and silent sulk was while we were on vacation. Stunning timing. That was a step too far for me, the day we flew home I dumped her and told her I never wanted to see her again. Good riddance.
Yet when they are ready to talk you had better respond pronto haste. So glad to be free of the man child. There is already trouble with the new supply and I feel vindicated.
Absolutely. It’s a delay, exactly like you said. My ex narc used to give me the silent treatment when I took on a subject that he didn’t want to discuss or wanted me to forget it all together. He then used to stop the silent treatment many days later like nothing happened, and the issue cool off so much or it felt so wrong from my part to talk about it all together that I ended up “ignoring”the problems, but then there was this tense environment, full of resentment and confusion from my part. They are toxic as f*** They are masters manipulators
Yes... I'm going to follow your lead on this one and finally do what I KNEW I should've done when it happened periodically or sporadically years ago to me
Thank you for describing exactly what it is. I almost thought I was crazy. But it IS a "power play" indeed! (This reminder will keep me strong when they call me on the phone out of nowhere after ignoring me lately for calling them out on a lie that can be verified by the internet by various sources)
5:55 "Number five.. the silent treatment is GASLIGHTING!" This is a needed deep dive into why this stuff is REALLY happening. One word says it all and I completely agree. It keeps me strong on NO CONTACT big time
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in nearly 2 years and can't see my self ever speaking to him again he ent worth my time or energy
@@carolkuhn6768 Yet, when you do what the OP does here.. like I'm going to now-- it completely destroys their misperceived sense of power. THERE IS A GOD!
When they do silent treatment, give it back to them and do your best in these moments to detached your emotions from them and to make a plan for your discard... Thx for your videos ❤️
Wish I would have done that. He shit on me so bad and discarded me. I can’t believe the person I loved so much turned into this horrible horrible person
@@antoinetterocco3701 they don't know how to love how to life... They are miserable creatures... Live your life with love and with happiness away from him and with the ones who truly loves you... They are learning lessons for us to appreciate who we really are... God bless you 🙏❤️
I lost count of his silence and disappearing during our 18 years together, it would bring me to my knees and I couldn’t function. When I woke up to his shit I prayed he would go silent or leave so I could enjoy me time!!! 14 months out of this crappy relationship, it’s heaven Narc free!! 😊
It was horrible. Nine years of it. He ignored me for months at a time. He left me and hooked up with someone else. He never looked back. He’s on his second gf now. It was devastating. Wonder how long this new gf will last. I was constantly walking on eggshells. It’s just about two years and I’m finally healing. The worst thing that ever happened to me. He badmouthed me all over social media as well as to others. He blocked me everywhere. I never saw this coming. Karma.
My ex would start a fight and then ghost for 3 days and then totally does not apologize and then brings up the pity party All about how I can step it up and spend money on him and his shallow things! Disrespectful too! I had enough for years of his tantrums so I broke up with him this time !
I love the video title of this. It's definitely a "hissy fit," come to think of it. Well, I hope that I follow my gut to give a permanent silent treatment back after having SHUT THE DOOR via CALLER BLOCK after calling them out for lying that could be verified by Wikipedia. You give me the strength to walk away from a friendship that was showing too many signs of trouble. Thank you, Jess! (Won't be calling them anymore, just to be sent to voicemail anymore. I'LL TAKE THE SO-CALLED L AND GIVE THE PERMANENT ONE BACK IN RETURN, AND TURN THEIR TYPICAL TEMPORARY ONE INTO A PERMANENT ONE)
Silent treatment for over 5 years! Glorious! It took me almost 30 years to learn and leave, and there are some things I would change, now that I have this information. But that’s all in the past. Thumbnails on the silent treatment, Jess! LOVE them! You make them almost fun to know. Thank you for such a positive way to see them. The people in the middle of that sh** will be better able to SEE the abuser for what s/he is and leave! Blessings to all, as you figure your way out and back to YOU!
No freakin reaction to their nonsense! I had to learn the hard way on that ground hog day cycle for three years! When he would hoover after silent/disappearing he used the tactic of turning it on me with an out of the blue text "Why you mad?" Like I'm the one that went silent! Jess is right - stop taking responsibility for their bull shit childish behavior. Reacting is energy for them...NO CONTACT FOREVER...
This reminds me of something Lisa Presley said of how Michael Jackson disappeared on her for over six weeks and didn't see him then proposed to her on live telly
if only i could take back my words from her telling "im sorry if i had done anything stupid" back then. but never mind,,, stay silent now, i'm enjoying the silence. now just giving me these chuckles like you do jess once these crazy things in the past with her reminds me. thank you jess as always! stay awesome!
All the time when I think I "know everything" you teach me something new which just makes absolutely sense! I know there is not such a thing as "knowing anything." But, you know.... when you think you heard enough to reach a level of wisdom, and boom, you upload a new video and I realize we are not even close to knowing everything that these idiots (narx) are capable of! 🤦♀️🙏❤️
Thank you Jess, I love your videos. I got the silent treatment because I had not text him straight away after I got back from my daughters wedding. I told him he could have text me and I got a load of abuse! So I decided to do the same to him and give him the silent treatment forever. The silence is lovely no more negativity and all his crap.
Hi Jess! This video certainly sounds like life in the “old days“! Thankfully, hopefully soon it will all be a thing of the past! Thanks for everything Jess! ❤️🙏🏻🕊
My sister older by 10 yrs is being described on this video to a T. I am an empath and constantly walking on eggshells with her, not provoking etc...... After viewing your video, I get reaffirmation that going No Contact! Was the best thing I did. I have peace of mind!
My Narc Dad likes to poke and gaslight so I'm giving him the silent treatment before he even got a chance to hit me with the it and the trifecta so I couldn't be happier. I just want peace!
I LOVE the silent treatment! I'm going through a divorce while still living with my narc (kids...house sale...etc.) and it is SHEER BLISS not having to talk with this "wittle baby narc" at all. So peaceful.
You're a bad azz man. I wish I can build that strength. It's 1 am in Texas and I went to check on my ex narc at her house - not there --- at her office not there. She's been shitty but I still want her. That's messed up
I’m going through the silent treatment now. He purposely caused an argument a few weeks ago, knowing I was grieving the loss of my brother in January and now it’s the silent treatment. I can’t contact him because as usual when this happens he blocks my number so I can’t call him, I’ve also heard along the grapevine he’s moved house in this time and it’s closer to where I live. But I’m not sure exactly where, just that it’s not far from me and I drive past the area 2 to 4 times a day as it’s on my way to work and the beach I walk at every day. I’m so over his little hissy fits. I’ve been hurting so much and now I’m trying to get myself together and move on. Not easy but I’m trying
There is a maturity firstly after receiving self entered text i called this person three times no answer I texted them end no contact and blocked. I filled with the powers that be inappropriate attorney conduct! So my point is not all situations concur!
You Are So Knowledgeable on Narcacism. I have been dealing with one for 20 some Years on And Off!! He Makes Me Sick!! But im i Consider Myself a very Empathic Person. And it Boggles My Mind how Someone has No Empathy has no Love just a Hollow Souless person!! The A** H*** Suckers Me All The Time!!!
I'm listening. I here you speaking. Why do I not feel even the least bit of empathy for these fools? Oh Yeahhhhh...I don't care about the narcs ittle bittle feewings!!! LOL 😆😆😆
kinda funny. I'm past all this. my ex would get butt hurt and do the silent treatment or like one word answers anything I did he or said would get turned down. until I finally asked what's wrong then boom. always something ridiculous. like not helping him get his fishing gear unpacked....it wasn't mine. or if I didn't help him putting grocerys in his truck and taking then out. knowing I have back issues. or unpacking his camping gear. when im unpacking my kids gear first. just stupid and selfish crap that I'm so glad I don't have to deal with the toxic swamp of poo from him anymore.
I am a little concerned with myself. The last few months of my relationship with my ex , I couldn't get any response out of Her , If She made Me angry or did something nasty , She absolutely refused to talk to Me. Didn't argue , would look at Me like a deer in the headlights . I started pulling away because I wanted Her to show Me that she actually cared . I knew by this time that She was seeing someone else , but I still wanted to see if She cared at all ! The weekend before We broke Up , I acted like a baby . Even though I wanted to see Her , I forced Myself to wait for Her to make the first move , She didn't . that Sunday I didn't hear from her until the afternoon ( We always texted first this in the morning , with at least a " Good Morning " ) I was pissed because I knew She didn't want to be with Me and I couldn't bring myself to " chase " her anymore . I didn't respond to Her all day , She did sent two text. Her very famous " Helllloooooo?? " and The " Are You a live ? " . I text Her the next morning and told Her " we need to talk , because I don't think We are on the same page " and that was all She needed for the discard . She said , " there is no need to talk , go play games with someone else " This really pissed Me off because she was the one who started playing the games . She always has a way to make me break up with her. She would piss Me off , go to far , not talk to me about a problem and I would just walk out . She set this up 3 times in the last 6 months , but I stayed for reason of my own . My concern is that since I have been dating Her ( 6.5 years ) especially after learning a lot about nacs , I have found that in a lot of ways . I also can behave like them as well . petty , spiteful , immature ways of communicating . Not with everyone , just with the Narc. It's like leaning a whole new means of communicating with a person who speaks a completely different social language then myself . It becomes very draining . I am sure a lot of you know what I mean . I am afraid that I will only find Narcs attractive and/or I will always treat my new S/O as if they are Narcs or at best see Narcs everywhere . Sorry this is so long winded.
isn't it funny that they are all cast out of the same mould, seems there must be a narc school that these people graduate from, because what you have said basically was the exact same for me, they seem to have a way to make you look like the one that left, but infact its them that left you.
Yeah, all I find are narcs; it’s the strangest damned thing! To me lying is a tell tell sign. You don’t need to lie if you don’t need to control. They have a need to control. I wonder if I’ll ever meet anybody normal? It’s feels like the Christian rapture happened and I am left behind with all of the narcs, lol!
I was dropped like yesterday’s mashed potatoes. It’s been 3 months now. I’m being punished. Ur soo right Jess!! However I have moved on with a flourish
I’m a precarious situation that I wish someone would cover in a video such as this one. The adult narcissistic child. My oldest son’s mother is narcissist who would use the silent treatment on my relentlessly. As this video states the only way to deal with it is not to acknowledge it. Of many reasons why the relationship didn’t work, the silent treatment is likely the primary. She simply never changed even when I told her that I was no longer gonna tolerate it. Now my adult son uses the exact same tactics to the point where we haven’t spoken in years. There are people who have told me that I need to reach out and that I should be doing something to try “fix” the relationship. NO. One thing I realize is that when it comes to narc you can never fold and give in to their manipulations. Even if it’s a child of yours.
Going thru separation with a narcist, constant silent treatment and anger burst. What makes it worst she is the mother of my 2 year old son and has him. No way to communicate at all or know about him until she decides to stop punishing me for what I said that was wrong in her eyes. I worry about my son, she has anger issues and afraid she will take it out on him at times. She does with our dog.
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD truth be told, my beloved sister Jess Stanley, my son of a bastard narcissistic father could give me the silent treatment !!!!! i so much don't want to have anything to do with that evil jackass maniac. you are so awesome Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
What is the differences between a silent treatment and a shut down? I’ve been dealt with the silent treatment from my brothers and other family members. I’ve asked why and get no answer, but they felt entitled to my things, verbally, emotionally and physically abused me, so I’ve shut down with ever wanting to know, so I’ve been able to ignore what they expect or want. I’ve literally do not care one way or another what happens to them. I don’t care about the why’s anymore, because there is nothing that I did to deserve it, except say no to their demands and control.
Ex-narrc is giving me the silent treatment right now I think it's been 3 weeks now but he keeps up with me and watches me on social media and we never had an argument he just said I love you like 1:45 a.m. in the morning and then nothing
My FIL continues to ignore and give the silent treatment to my DH (and is even worse towards ME...he'll literally stop talking many times if my face shows up in the screen of a webcam chat with my husband). His fragile ego was hurt years ago when we didn't bow and scrape to him and when we dared to give The Golden Child (youngest son/brother-in-law) free reign to act as shitty toward us as he wanted. FIL seems to try to live vicariously through his drunken, womanizing, egotistical man-child of a son and so when we called BIL out on his bad behavior FIL threw a huge hissy fit that has lasted YEARS now. Personally, I think it's adorable that I bother him so much that he'll stop talking and get all red in the face just to see me. It's a shame he has essentially cut off my husband, but he was never very communicative with my husband even in the best of times (my husband had the audacity to choose his wife (me) all on his own without King Daddy's permission. The nerve, right?!). FIL has never forgiven him for that, nor for choosing a wife who doesn't jump through hoops to try to get the in-laws' approval. I'm always cordial and even friendly, but that will never make up for me having my own mind, apparently. Oh well. Again, not a great loss, but it's cute that FIL thinks this "punishment" of his is going to change anything after nearly 20 years that we've been (HAPPILY!!!) together.
When I stand up for myself and refuse to be disrespected or demand that my boundaries be respected...watch the fuck out here comes the maniac 😂🤣 I’ve come to realize the only way out is silence
So if they say they have been busy, do I say, well yes so have we.... because I would love to say that to her....she thinks she's the only one that is busy....it's been 9 months! It doesn't wash with me.... It's a family relative...
My narcissistic ex-wife is the queen of the silent treatment. I have to continue to deal with her because of our daughter and she likes to regularly make me join what she calls the block party haha. These people are complete lunatics🤣
Jesus look I get the no contact thing! But to what okay mind games I’m not a therapist nor do I want too. If these people want to be part of our society at least try?! I’m on disability I’ve had to report this estate attorney I’m going through each state he’s licensed with a predator ☹️🙄but. I’m doing it because of other victims!
From my understanding, true alphas, male or female.. are protectors. The alpha wolf is a protector, walking at the back of the pack, watching over the young the old and the sick. They are positive people, uplifting people. I don't put much stock in all that alpha stuff but in my opinion I'd have to say no. A true alpha wouldn't have high levels of narcissism.
This friend of mine isn't even good at her game😁 she didn't make sure she secured her future Supply with me before she went silent after I told her I had feelings for her, as if I was being punished for that. She gave me enough time to figure her out and I'm sure she doesn't know, probably still thinks I'm attached🏞
I got ghosted for 2 weeks for no reason at all as her friend. I still am not sure if she was totally oblivious or if she knew what she was doing it but I knew then something was wrong. It was a first Glimpse I got of who she really was now I find all these narcissism videos that explain everything perfectly. I thought I was in love with her but something totally different was happening. she's in a relationship. I'm glad I didn't get sexual with her it could have been a nightmare of just taking on her pain🤕🏞🏞🏞🏞
Some people really overvalue their own company. It's not a punishment to be shunned by assholes.
So glad I got away from this crap. I turned his last silent treatment into my silent treat. 🤫🤣🤷🏼♀️
They give you the silent treatment, that's a major Red flag, give them the silent treatment forever, one thing you are responsible for your happiness, value yourself and love yourself nobody deserves that bs.👍 up Jess.
LITERALLY what I did 😂
The final rage and silent sulk was while we were on vacation. Stunning timing. That was a step too far for me, the day we flew home I dumped her and told her I never wanted to see her again. Good riddance.
@@AlastairjCarruthers good for you, enjoy your new life 👍
The silent treatment by my workplace Narc is a reward, not punishment. More please!😂
Amazing how silent/distant they/she has become when boundaries are set and maintained.
But, I am sure I am the BAD person.
I don't CARE!
Silent treatment is the biggest blessing for us it allows us to breathe and move accordingly!!
Silent treatment and ghosting is punishment and or control.
Yet when they are ready to talk you had better respond pronto haste. So glad to be free of the man child. There is already trouble with the new supply and I feel vindicated.
Absolutely. It’s a delay, exactly like you said. My ex narc used to give me the silent treatment when I took on a subject that he didn’t want to discuss or wanted me to forget it all together. He then used to stop the silent treatment many days later like nothing happened, and the issue cool off so much or it felt so wrong from my part to talk about it all together that I ended up “ignoring”the problems, but then there was this tense environment, full of resentment and confusion from my part. They are toxic as f***
They are masters manipulators
Silent treatment has been a deal breaker for me since Jr. High school. They can take their power play and go kick rocks.
This tactic is so childish & petty
Yes... I'm going to follow your lead on this one and finally do what I KNEW I should've done when it happened periodically or sporadically years ago to me
Thank you for describing exactly what it is. I almost thought I was crazy. But it IS a "power play" indeed! (This reminder will keep me strong when they call me on the phone out of nowhere after ignoring me lately for calling them out on a lie that can be verified by the internet by various sources)
I’ve been on the silent treatment for 2.5 years going on 3 years. I’m thankful 🥲
5:55 "Number five.. the silent treatment is GASLIGHTING!" This is a needed deep dive into why this stuff is REALLY happening. One word says it all and I completely agree. It keeps me strong on NO CONTACT big time
The last time he decided to dish out the silent treatment I decided to play him at his own game and told him if he wants the silent treatment he can have it permanently I havent uttered a word to him in nearly 2 years and can't see my self ever speaking to him again he ent worth my time or energy
It's. Cruel and makes them feel powerful
@@carolkuhn6768 Yet, when you do what the OP does here.. like I'm going to now-- it completely destroys their misperceived sense of power. THERE IS A GOD!
When they do silent treatment, give it back to them and do your best in these moments to detached your emotions from them and to make a plan for your discard... Thx for your videos ❤️
Wish I would have done that. He shit on me so bad and discarded me. I can’t believe the person I loved so much turned into this horrible horrible person
@@antoinetterocco3701 they don't know how to love how to life... They are miserable creatures... Live your life with love and with happiness away from him and with the ones who truly loves you... They are learning lessons for us to appreciate who we really are... God bless you 🙏❤️
I am doing this now, no contact. I no longer care about him, silence forever would be great, he can go to hell for all I care.
@@catlady6938 good for you and God bless you 🙏
Silent treatment is a silent treat!!. I actually learned to love it.. Not dealing w the bull sh!+.. no asking for money.. Just sweet silence♡
I lost count of his silence and disappearing during our 18 years together, it would bring me to my knees and I couldn’t function. When I woke up to his shit I prayed he would go silent or leave so I could enjoy me time!!! 14 months out of this crappy relationship, it’s heaven Narc free!! 😊
Enjoy your new life 👍
the 3rd or 4th time boyfriend did this to me, I left the relationship. I went No contact, and moved forward.
He got mad at me confronting his behavior in 2018 and hasn't spoken to me since. Good riddance!
Lmao 😂 literally the same
It was horrible. Nine years of it. He ignored me for months at a time. He left me and hooked up with someone else. He never looked back. He’s on his second gf now. It was devastating. Wonder how long this new gf will last. I was constantly walking on eggshells. It’s just about two years and I’m finally healing. The worst thing that ever happened to me. He badmouthed me all over social media as well as to others. He blocked me everywhere. I never saw this coming. Karma.
Mine did 2...who cares anymore?? All they can do is play dirty.
I think when you don't care... they leave you alone. No supply.
Sigh deeply, roll your eyes and say: "whatever..."
Narrassist know u can get something great but they want u to lower ur standards even more
My ex would start a fight and then ghost for 3 days and then totally does not apologize and then brings up the pity party
All about how I can step it up and spend money on him and his shallow things!
Disrespectful too! I had enough for years of his tantrums so I broke up with him this time !
I love the video title of this. It's definitely a "hissy fit," come to think of it. Well, I hope that I follow my gut to give a permanent silent treatment back after having SHUT THE DOOR via CALLER BLOCK after calling them out for lying that could be verified by Wikipedia. You give me the strength to walk away from a friendship that was showing too many signs of trouble. Thank you, Jess! (Won't be calling them anymore, just to be sent to voicemail anymore. I'LL TAKE THE SO-CALLED L AND GIVE THE PERMANENT ONE BACK IN RETURN, AND TURN THEIR TYPICAL TEMPORARY ONE INTO A PERMANENT ONE)
Silent treatment is abuse. It's disgusting and childish behaviour. Run and don't go back ❤ it's the best thing you will ever do.
Silent treatment for over 5 years!
Glorious!
It took me almost 30 years to learn and leave, and there are some things I would change, now that I have this information. But that’s all in the past.
Thumbnails on the silent treatment, Jess! LOVE them! You make them almost fun to know. Thank you for such a positive way to see them.
The people in the middle of that sh** will be better able to SEE the abuser for what s/he is and leave!
Blessings to all, as you figure your way out and back to YOU!
Its been 4 months of silent treatment. In the same home!!
Omg...how fuqn juvenile!!
Time bomb
I think mine is almost that same amount of time… btw.. he cheated but I get the silent treatment 🤣🤣🤣🤣
No freakin reaction to their nonsense! I had to learn the hard way on that ground hog day cycle for three years! When he would hoover after silent/disappearing he used the tactic of turning it on me with an out of the blue text "Why you mad?" Like I'm the one that went silent! Jess is right - stop taking responsibility for their bull shit childish behavior. Reacting is energy for them...NO CONTACT FOREVER...
Mine started an argument..blamed me..I said oh u must be disappearing again..sure enough..hes text 3 times..im silent
This reminds me of something Lisa Presley said of how Michael Jackson disappeared on her for over six weeks and didn't see him then proposed to her on live telly
if only i could take back my words from her telling "im sorry if i had done anything stupid" back then. but never mind,,, stay silent now, i'm enjoying the silence.
now just giving me these chuckles like you do jess once these crazy things in the past with her reminds me.
thank you jess as always! stay awesome!
I said things to my ex I wish I hadn’t but we live and learn, at least we finally get to the point when enough is enough and we move on.
All the time when I think I "know everything" you teach me something new which just makes absolutely sense! I know there is not such a thing as "knowing anything." But, you know.... when you think you heard enough to reach a level of wisdom, and boom, you upload a new video and I realize we are not even close to knowing everything that these idiots (narx) are capable of! 🤦♀️🙏❤️
Thank you Jess, I love your videos.
I got the silent treatment because I had not text him straight away after I got back from my daughters wedding. I told him he could have text me and I got a load of abuse! So I decided to do the same to him and give him the silent treatment forever. The silence is lovely no more negativity and all his crap.
Hi Jess! This video certainly sounds like life in the “old days“! Thankfully, hopefully soon it will all be a thing of the past! Thanks for everything Jess! ❤️🙏🏻🕊
He gave me the silent treatment for so many years
My sister older by 10 yrs is being described on this video to a T. I am an empath and constantly walking on eggshells with her, not provoking etc...... After viewing your video, I get reaffirmation that going No Contact! Was the best thing I did. I have peace of mind!
My Narc Dad likes to poke and gaslight so I'm giving him the silent treatment before he even got a chance to hit me with the it and the trifecta so I couldn't be happier.
I just want peace!
Wow. Outstanding video explaining what this game is and how to overcome and resolve it best for yourself. Love this.
I lasted six weeks and left. I'm really thankful I didn't put up with it for years like, evidently, many people do.
Exactly and it's a blessing in disguise my ex narc is not even checking on our unborn son his loss
I understand this tactic 100 % I see the cycle or routine of it. Thanknyou
I LOVE the silent treatment! I'm going through a divorce while still living with my narc (kids...house sale...etc.) and it is SHEER BLISS not having to talk with this "wittle baby narc" at all. So peaceful.
“Baby narc” - nah, nah, nah, nah, nah - “baby narc”! Reminds me of that kids’ song! Funny! Thanks for the laugh!
The usually make false claims in their hissy fit when you have had enough and ask them to leave
Block them and that will silence them
You're a bad azz man. I wish I can build that strength. It's 1 am in Texas and I went to check on my ex narc at her house - not there --- at her office not there.
She's been shitty but I still want her. That's messed up
Just recommended this video to a dear friend of mine.
I’m going through the silent treatment now. He purposely caused an argument a few weeks ago, knowing I was grieving the loss of my brother in January and now it’s the silent treatment. I can’t contact him because as usual when this happens he blocks my number so I can’t call him, I’ve also heard along the grapevine he’s moved house in this time and it’s closer to where I live. But I’m not sure exactly where, just that it’s not far from me and I drive past the area 2 to 4 times a day as it’s on my way to work and the beach I walk at every day.
I’m so over his little hissy fits. I’ve been hurting so much and now I’m trying to get myself together and move on. Not easy but I’m trying
I just walk away.
There is a maturity firstly after receiving self entered text i called this person three times no answer I texted them end no contact and blocked. I filled with the powers that be inappropriate attorney conduct! So my point is not all situations concur!
23 years since I heard from my son....what did I do?? No clue.
You Are So Knowledgeable on Narcacism. I have been dealing with one for 20 some Years on And Off!! He Makes Me Sick!! But im i Consider Myself a very Empathic Person. And it Boggles My Mind how Someone has No Empathy has no Love just a Hollow Souless person!! The A** H*** Suckers Me All The Time!!!
I'm listening. I here you speaking. Why do I not feel even the least bit of empathy for these fools? Oh Yeahhhhh...I don't care about the narcs ittle bittle feewings!!! LOL 😆😆😆
Apologize???? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Not ONCE in fourteen years. NOT ONCE!
Silent treatment in the form of waiting, waiting, waiting, waiting.
kinda funny. I'm past all this. my ex would get butt hurt and do the silent treatment or like one word answers anything I did he or said would get turned down. until I finally asked what's wrong then boom. always something ridiculous. like not helping him get his fishing gear unpacked....it wasn't mine. or if I didn't help him putting grocerys in his truck and taking then out. knowing I have back issues. or unpacking his camping gear. when im unpacking my kids gear first. just stupid and selfish crap that I'm so glad I don't have to deal with the toxic swamp of poo from him anymore.
You would think just manwise there would be too much internal shame in expecting your girl to layout your jammy jams.
Their EQ is so low.
Difference between silent treatment and no contact by the survivor
I am a little concerned with myself. The last few months of my relationship with my ex , I couldn't get any response out of Her , If She made Me angry or did something nasty , She absolutely refused to talk to Me. Didn't argue , would look at Me like a deer in the headlights . I started pulling away because I wanted Her to show Me that she actually cared . I knew by this time that She was seeing someone else , but I still wanted to see if She cared at all !
The weekend before We broke Up , I acted like a baby . Even though I wanted to see Her , I forced Myself to wait for Her to make the first move , She didn't . that Sunday I didn't hear from her until the afternoon ( We always texted first this in the morning , with at least a " Good Morning " ) I was pissed because I knew She didn't want to be with Me and I couldn't bring myself to " chase " her anymore . I didn't respond to Her all day , She did sent two text. Her very famous " Helllloooooo?? " and The " Are You a live ? " .
I text Her the next morning and told Her " we need to talk , because I don't think We are on the same page " and that was all She needed for the discard .
She said , " there is no need to talk , go play games with someone else " This really pissed Me off because she was the one who started playing the games .
She always has a way to make me break up with her. She would piss Me off , go to far , not talk to me about a problem and I would just walk out . She set this up 3 times in the last 6 months , but I stayed for reason of my own .
My concern is that since I have been dating Her ( 6.5 years ) especially after learning a lot about nacs , I have found that in a lot of ways . I also can behave like them as well . petty , spiteful , immature ways of communicating . Not with everyone , just with the Narc. It's like leaning a whole new means of communicating with a person who speaks a completely different social language then myself . It becomes very draining . I am sure a lot of you know what I mean .
I am afraid that I will only find Narcs attractive and/or I will always treat my new S/O as if they are Narcs or at best see Narcs everywhere .
Sorry this is so long winded.
I read this. instant flash back to mine. and he is a dude. its kinda funny how predictable the games are. im sorry your going through this.
isn't it funny that they are all cast out of the same mould, seems there must be a narc school that these people graduate from, because what you have said basically was the exact same for me, they seem to have a way to make you look like the one that left, but infact its them that left you.
Yeah, all I find are narcs; it’s the strangest damned thing! To me lying is a tell tell sign. You don’t need to lie if you don’t need to control. They have a need to control. I wonder if I’ll ever meet anybody normal? It’s feels like the Christian rapture happened and I am left behind with all of the narcs, lol!
I was dropped like yesterday’s mashed potatoes. It’s been 3 months now. I’m being punished. Ur soo right Jess!! However I have moved on with a flourish
I’m a precarious situation that I wish someone would cover in a video such as this one. The adult narcissistic child. My oldest son’s mother is narcissist who would use the silent treatment on my relentlessly. As this video states the only way to deal with it is not to acknowledge it. Of many reasons why the relationship didn’t work, the silent treatment is likely the primary. She simply never changed even when I told her that I was no longer gonna tolerate it. Now my adult son uses the exact same tactics to the point where we haven’t spoken in years. There are people who have told me that I need to reach out and that I should be doing something to try “fix” the relationship. NO. One thing I realize is that when it comes to narc you can never fold and give in to their manipulations. Even if it’s a child of yours.
Exactly how my guy was.
All of this happened to me
Yes!
I would text him “ where are you?
He texted back “ where are you ?????”
He was a sarcastic asshole !!!
I hated being treated like this I finally divorced him and went no contact I ignored him.
Going thru separation with a narcist, constant silent treatment and anger burst. What makes it worst she is the mother of my 2 year old son and has him. No way to communicate at all or know about him until she decides to stop punishing me for what I said that was wrong in her eyes. I worry about my son, she has anger issues and afraid she will take it out on him at times. She does with our dog.
+Jess Stanley Praise the LORD truth be told, my beloved sister Jess Stanley, my son of a bastard narcissistic father could give me the silent treatment !!!!! i so much don't want to have anything to do with that evil jackass maniac. you are so awesome Jess Stanley. God bless. Agape love
Well done love you
What is the differences between a silent treatment and a shut down? I’ve been dealt with the silent treatment from my brothers and other family members. I’ve asked why and get no answer, but they felt entitled to my things, verbally, emotionally and physically abused me, so I’ve shut down with ever wanting to know, so I’ve been able to ignore what they expect or want. I’ve literally do not care one way or another what happens to them. I don’t care about the why’s anymore, because there is nothing that I did to deserve it, except say no to their demands and control.
Ex-narrc is giving me the silent treatment right now I think it's been 3 weeks now but he keeps up with me and watches me on social media and we never had an argument he just said I love you like 1:45 a.m. in the morning and then nothing
My FIL continues to ignore and give the silent treatment to my DH (and is even worse towards ME...he'll literally stop talking many times if my face shows up in the screen of a webcam chat with my husband). His fragile ego was hurt years ago when we didn't bow and scrape to him and when we dared to give The Golden Child (youngest son/brother-in-law) free reign to act as shitty toward us as he wanted. FIL seems to try to live vicariously through his drunken, womanizing, egotistical man-child of a son and so when we called BIL out on his bad behavior FIL threw a huge hissy fit that has lasted YEARS now.
Personally, I think it's adorable that I bother him so much that he'll stop talking and get all red in the face just to see me. It's a shame he has essentially cut off my husband, but he was never very communicative with my husband even in the best of times (my husband had the audacity to choose his wife (me) all on his own without King Daddy's permission. The nerve, right?!). FIL has never forgiven him for that, nor for choosing a wife who doesn't jump through hoops to try to get the in-laws' approval. I'm always cordial and even friendly, but that will never make up for me having my own mind, apparently. Oh well. Again, not a great loss, but it's cute that FIL thinks this "punishment" of his is going to change anything after nearly 20 years that we've been (HAPPILY!!!) together.
Thanks haha it did not work in my life I left him after doing it the second time
When I stand up for myself and refuse to be disrespected or demand that my boundaries be respected...watch the fuck out here comes the maniac 😂🤣 I’ve come to realize the only way out is silence
Yeah. Until I hand over cash is right.
So if they say they have been busy, do I say, well yes so have we.... because I would love to say that to her....she thinks she's the only one that is busy....it's been 9 months! It doesn't wash with me.... It's a family relative...
My narcissistic ex-wife is the queen of the silent treatment. I have to continue to deal with her because of our daughter and she likes to regularly make me join what she calls the block party haha. These people are complete lunatics🤣
I was married to a narcissistic child
You are amazing! What's your cashapp or paypal???
Jesus look I get the no contact thing! But to what okay mind games I’m not a therapist nor do I want too. If these people want to be part of our society at least try?! I’m on disability I’ve had to report this estate attorney I’m going through each state he’s licensed with a predator ☹️🙄but. I’m doing it because of other victims!
Can alpha females be narcissistic as well?
From my understanding, true alphas, male or female.. are protectors. The alpha wolf is a protector, walking at the back of the pack, watching over the young the old and the sick. They are positive people, uplifting people. I don't put much stock in all that alpha stuff but in my opinion I'd have to say no. A true alpha wouldn't have high levels of narcissism.
@@JessStanley Thank you! For answering Ms. Stanley I truly appreciate it.🌺💕
Silent treatment = Adult timeout. Qlowns
They play this game bc they are petty…ignore & enjoy
Find better partner
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Who cares?..
This friend of mine isn't even good at her game😁 she didn't make sure she secured her future Supply with me before she went silent after I told her I had feelings for her, as if I was being punished for that. She gave me enough time to figure her out and I'm sure she doesn't know, probably still thinks I'm attached🏞
I got ghosted for 2 weeks for no reason at all as her friend. I still am not sure if she was totally oblivious or if she knew what she was doing it but I knew then something was wrong. It was a first Glimpse I got of who she really was now I find all these narcissism videos that explain everything perfectly. I thought I was in love with her but something totally different was happening. she's in a relationship. I'm glad I didn't get sexual with her it could have been a nightmare of just taking on her pain🤕🏞🏞🏞🏞