Happiness // Honest Tea Talk | Season 1 Episode 13
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 มิ.ย. 2024
- In this episode, we discuss the topic of happiness.
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About Honest Tea Talk
with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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These ladies represent their religion so well. I know nothing about Muslim or being one but their talks are starting to make me think there must be something great there because of these ladies.
there are definitely gems within the religion and the community, these women are great. but also no community is perfect and as they have said in their previous videos there are lots of problems in our community we ignore and brush under the rug but its the freaking elephant in the room and everyone knows its there.
Dhynasah Çakir just because there are issues in the community it doesn’t mean the religion of Islam is flawed. Every community is flawed. But our religion is beautiful and fylosofy if your interested in islaam you should look into it, you won’t be disappointed ❤️
My X wife told me that I don't make her happy . I explained to her that she has to find her own happiness. I can make you smile , tell a joke , take you out for dinner but that's not where you're going to find your happiness. If you're constantly following behind someone waiting for them to drop a piece of their happiness so that you can pick it up , that's never going to happen.
True but maybe you should have just asked her about what was it that makes her happy and then help her help herself find that happiness together.
@@kumbacham6205 : believe me I tried, she couldn't let go of the hardships of her past to embrace or attempt to find her happiness.
I pray that she finds it.Sometimes that’s all we can do.
@@kumbacham6205 : me too.
imaslowlerner you sir did what you could and that is all you can do. happiness in this life has become a tarnished concept. Happiness for Muslims means we know for a fact that we are walking on a Path that leads to Allah and that we will be satisfied if He is pleased with us. But the actual feeling of pleasure, lack of anxiety, lack of sadness, and everything we can associate with « happiness » has nothing to do with the higher state we should be aspiring to. I have a clinical condition that messes with my brain chemicals and hormones, a condition solely attached to the body and not who I inherently am, but my core as a soul and human is joy and bliss because all I care about is to Know Allah. And I know His path is the straight path. My point is, sometimes we think that happiness can be found in things or people but that becomes a mere distraction for what is fundamentally more important: His satisfaction with us. And I cannot begin to tell you how that is a thousand times better. I hope we all understand this one day because this way, life trials become absolutely bearable and meaningful.
I heard a great piece of wisdom: keep the dunya in your hand and the akhira in your heart.
Personally what truly gave me happiness is my journey with the Quran. Spending time with it every day towards the goal of memorizing it changed my life.
"It could have been worse"- the words of a Believer.
These talks are absolutely brilliant! So much inspiration and food for thought! We need more content like this on social media! Thankyou to everyone working on this, in front of and behind the scenes, God bless you all!
I wish i could sit with you guys and talk for hours .
Happiness is transient, just like grief, anger, disappointment etc... just like Aliyah said, it can not be found in people or things. Of course there are people who will bring us much joy and happiness... but these same people have the capacity to bring us much sadness and heartache. There are several definitions of happiness... contentment, a sense of well being, a sense of peace... but you can have a sense of peace even though your circumstances are NOT good.
As Muslims, when we focus on our Salah (even on the days when Salah seems SO hard to do) we can have a mind set that says " I trust you Allah, my life is tough, I feel lost but I trust you " , and this is enough. We live in a world that screams at us to "be entertained, give me things, give me status, distract me, make things easy" and we have lost a very basic disposition of being human... NOT ALL TIMES IN OUR LIVES WILL BE GOOD, PRODUCTIVE, AMAZING, SUCCESSFUL... Sometimes the "dark night of the soul" is where we need to be to regroup and refocus and go back to basics.
You know, some days I feel ALL I can do is breathe... I don't even know how to organise the thoughts in my brain... I can even be TOTALLY blank.... TOTALLY.
Thank you all for sharing this, it's a very important topic... not the achieving of happiness but the chosing to be content within the trials and to live in reality... to draw back the curtains of "striving to get to the better place" because we can MISS so much and waste SO much time AND worse, we can overlook what Allah Subhanuhu wa ta'ala wants to teach us.
That was well put. M'A. Jazakallah kahir
Fact saying my dia... May Allah grant us happiness throughout our lives. Aaameen
Perfectly said
Well stated
This was perfectly written. Thank you❤
what I realised from my life experience and - I could be wrong - is that, social life does contribute to one's happiness. I realised when I was in Africa with difficulties and hardship life, we had so much social life, our doors were open for each other in the community. poor life but more happiness I experienced back then. what I wished back then which I thought was going to make me perfectly happy and more happy, I got them in my adult life however the happiness wasn't present. that's why they've introduce this social media network for happiness but still can never be compared to the social life I had as a child.
I came to believe that you're either "poor" with social life or "rich" with no social life.
Its like that Pakistan, whenever I go there, openess of the land, the smiley people, the children running in and out of houses, and friends poppying by and just sitting there....with all the time in the world, no rush to do anything....
I have been there 4 times, its amazing. I thinking of moving there if we earn an income there. I am British born.
I love Sumayahs perspective in every talk! Great talks sisters
Absolutely!! She has a podcast too which is brilliant, called 'sincerely, sumayyah', if you're interested 😊 I love it.
Me too..... masha'Allaah she's so mature and her responses resonate with me
Allah bless these ladies
@@amala1874 Hi! I just went to check Sumayyah's podcasts upon your suggestion. I picked one to listen to, her talk on the trust in Allah, and that we plan but Allah plans too.
I must say I was a bit disappointed. Sumayyah does not display in this talk the level of maturity that I expect from her, she comes out more like a young teenager bedazzled by the big world of politics, diplomats, best hotels, glamor of the rich and famous... it's understandable to be grateful to Allah for healing her after the loss of a baby by events that happen afterwards, but all these wows and wows and dozens of it was amazing it was amazing and how much she was impressed with the glitzy world she happened to be in.... yes it's all fine and dandy for a young person to enjoy it, but not be in the seventh heaven because of it, oh no... especially after.... and especially not for a pious woman....
Me too I like how she observe and respond to things. May Allah increase her in knowledge Aameen
😭 this show gave me life. Finally a tea talk with sisters! Thank you so much! Its not vulgar or gossipy and keeps reminding you of your values with God! Alhumdulliah
She said "Happiness equals Presence and Presence REQUIRES Awareness!" I felt that.
For me, i think that happiness exists in this life as well as in the Akhirah.Because we know how it feels and that's why we are in search for it.But the difference is that it doesn't last forever in this Dunya.
Secondly, happiness is found through Allah, through his obedience, through his worship, through all that's pleases Him.And yeah, through being positive about life and about people's behaviors towards you.Through being forgiving, being loving and being caring regardless of how cruel the world around you might be.There might be hard times but that's where patience is required, so no problem cuz it's not gonna last forever.Hope in God works wonders too! And yeah, Smiles work too☺
Gratitude the key to happiness.
May ALLAH shower blessings on sisters wherever they are!
Aameen 🤲🤲
I dont think Allah wants us to be unhappy or mesirible on this earth , however there are some tests and its not 100% happy all the time
Very Postive Comment Indeed
Agree! This world has its happy moments but its ultimately designed to break your heart! Yes we have every right to ge happy in the dunya also....however it wasn't meant to be exactly jannah either!
Happiness is from worshipping and knowing of Allah.
Omg why am I just now finding this channel!!! So so juicy conversations!!! Maa shaa Allah!! These sisters are so beautiful with amazingly open minds!!!! I can’t get enough 🥰
I know, just found today and can't get enough of these talks
"Happiness isn't something that you can precisely pursue...you shouldn't pursue what should be a side effect of other pursuits...
...it's something that you accept with good graces when it happens to descend upon you"
Love seeing women like this.
Women being like this.
Instead of promoting narcissism..these sisters talk about the real deal. Sincerity is everything..if people would know this..and be it. Practice it every day..we would have more happiness in this world.
But integrity and true sincerity is hard to find.
But I want to give these sisters props..for at least a drop of realness in the drop of this pool of fakeness.
I believe 90% of humans arent strong enough..dont know themselves enough to be able to even handle the internet.
I have even removed whatsapp. Since many people abuse it..even close family! They feel after sending a hollow sentence..that they have made contact..it is not. And months go by like this and years. I have been ill and alone..and no one of 3 sisters have come visited me now for years. It is insane.
Thats why people in villages are more happy..thats one of the reasons..sincerity and more.true connections.
In villages they are aware of one meal.. here we hurry up making the meal nowadays. With tv on..phone etc.
People are good at fooling themselves..manipulating themselves so well.
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JazakAllah khair thank you all for your efforts.This episode resonated with me,so much honestly I was brought to tears during some moments. I love you all for the sake of Allah. May Allah bless you and preserve you all.
My virtual sisters xxxx
Subhana Allaah...i see happiness like sadness, anger ect. These are emotions and emotions come and go it should not be the goal...personally I seek contentment and Allaah gives that to whom HE pleases. It is HOW we choose to take things...you can be positive or negative...you can give ithers the benefit of the doubt or assume the negative. We have to make the conscious choice to be positive and have a good opinion about Allaah and what we face from 1 day to the next...and Allaah knows best. Jazakillaahu khayr great talk
Aliyah is the energy of this program
I genuinely think you can get happiness in this life, if you work for it and desire and pray for it. Insha'Allah we get it in the next too, but nowhere does it say that we spend this life under duress 24/7 and being miserable and unhappy
Am obsessed with this serie... May Alalh bless me and anyone with such a broad minded Muslimah women like you peole... ameen.
I haven't finished watching to the end. I just enjoy listening to you guys, and would love to meet you 3 in person, you send positive energy of muslim sisterhood which we're in dire of need today.
الله يجعل في ميزان حسناتكم يارب.
To reiterate my beautiful sister, I would also love to meet the 3 dear sisters, they bring positive energy to sisterhood.
Much needed discussion. I hope your circles grow. Much room for growth and expansion, and contribution from others.
I think mainly sisters watch this. It's probably the type of dialogue mainly sisters watch.
This is my first time watching and I really enjoyed masha Allah please do more videos like this may Allah bless you
Call me superficial but possessing and looking at my makeup makes me happy😊
There's nothing superficial in it sister. what makes you happy is the possibility makeup brings to you. It can be the ability to have fun with yourself by changing looks, may be the feeling of being beautiful you get from it or anything else. I don't wear makeup but it would actually be very superficial and ignorant of me to think that love of make up is superficial. Just make sure that the feeling you get from it doesn't come from a place of insecurity where you think you can fit in better or be more acknowledged by the people surrounding you with makeup. If it's not and is coming from a genuine place, I say good for you sis go on..
@@thanimoinamkou8372 Thank you for your kind, intelligent and inspiring words sister. May we meet in Jannah one day insha'Allah☺
This is officially my favorite channel. I feel I'm having a genuine talk with you all, one that I'm supposed to have everyday with people around me . My eyes are opened after every video. For the first time I can relate to alot of what you sisters say, and it made me realize , we as humans are similar. Espically when one of you sisters mentioned on an earlier video about how she hugged her father for the first time at 21! I thought I'm the only one dealing with this sort of incompassion. Please make videos about relationships ( how to deal with an abusive parent, finding the right partner , how to deal with a family member you hate)
Ma shaa Allah wonderful talk Allahumma Baarik 😍 We shouldn’t look happiness in the Dunya because we can’t find it here but instead happiness will find us when we do everything that pleases Allah swt because righteousness comes with contentment at the same time there’s happiness in hardships as well because knowing the fact that you’re being tested because Allah swt loves you as He tests the believers that He loves the most hence that itself cultivates a sense of happiness to the human hearts !
Jazakhallahkhair for your talk girls🥰🥰
At a specific moment of your video i stopped it asked my mum to go for a little walk with her and just enjoy the moment. My mum has been very ill recently and just being able to walk with her is a huge blessing
Happiness is indeed in the present😎
Happiness is the state that one choose or decide. Practice gratefulness and you would be happy
I enjoy listening to these discussions...even if I disagree with some of the points...because here I feel like the difference between a Muslim's perception of happiness and a non-Muslim's is that even if we are not constantly striving for it- because we believe that we must earn it- when it comes our way we can feel as though we have done something right to deserve it. With hardship comes ease, as it says in the Qur'an- there might be many times of hardship and difficulties, but Allah will always give you the small moments of happiness and peace. That is at least how I see it.
After 2-3 hours of studying, once children have fallen asleep, I turn to these talks before heading to sleep. I find this to be much more productive and calming than watching other videos on TH-cam, many of which waste time but have no benefit.
The Keys to Hapiness by Ibn al Qayyim. Amazing book.
Don't know how this came in my recommendations but glad it did 🙌 #newsubscriber
Hanna mee too!!
My happiness come out from the joy of being on my purpose (by my Creator) that I feel a sense of satisfaction. Even seeing you sisters doing such a life fulfilling work brings me happiness, may Allah preserve and increase you, ameen.
Happiness equals Satisfaction and appreciation what you have.
I should try some of these techniques they mentioned. Absolutely brilliant! .. Meditation is a neglected sunnah. We all need to come back to it, especially in our age where distractions are everywhere.. that we can't even hear our own thoughts anymore.
Happiness to me is a flourishing condition of the soul. Its very difficult to rise above the effects of our conditions/ circumstances but i believe the only way to rise above ones conditions is a change of outlook on life or a change of attitude cause as the saying goes " Our thoughts control our feelings and our feelings control our behavior"
Great video sisters.👋👋👋
This conversation is like food to the soul❤
For me, I think I need to work on being present in the moment as well. It's so difficult at times with all of the responsibilities one has to do or just even... seeing the face of the person who's hurt you... thoughts just come racing to you.
The dua part is what I felt the most. SubhanaLlaah I can completely relate.
"'Ajaban li amri al-mu'min. Inna amrahu kullahu lahu khair - wa laisa dhalika li ahadin illa al-mu'min: In asaabat-hu sarraa' shakara fakaana khairan lahu, wa in asaabathu dharraa' sabara fakaana khairan lahu." "How amazing is the affair of the believer. Everything is good for him - and that is for no one but the believer: If good times come is way he is thankful and that is good for him, and if hardship comes his way he is patient and that is good for him." [1]
I think Happiness is the way u think of Allah, they way u think of any situation u might be because Allah says in Hadith Qudsi 'I am What my servants thinks of me' if u thinks things will be terrible all the time, then it means u are thinking bad of Allah. And one of the things i learned from the wise saying of scholars is that worrying and being sad will never change any situation you are in u rather need to think logical and start praying ..I know sometime it might be difficult not to be unhappy ..but being unhappy can't change any situation.. I always say that to my self.
and we have a lot of teachings in Islam that help us to be happy. The scholars say the amount of Qur'an u read that's the amount of happiness u get. When the prophet(s.a.w) was in the cave with abubakar(r.a) He said to abubakar 'Don't be sad Allah is with us'. So any Muslim out there who might be unhappy or sad I want to tell them the same thing 'Don't be sad Allah is with us did he not say it in Qur'an that He will be with the believers? So think good of Him and don't be unhappy or sad this dunia in few days we going to depart soon so be patient Oh believers just a little more is remaining.The nature of the world is that one day it will be for u and other days they will be against u.' I Love u all for the sake of Allah..I really appreciate Honest Tea Talk and the sisters may Allah bless u for doing this.
May Allah bless you dear
Jazakh'killah khair sisters I love these deep discussions SubhanAllah I really like the way all 3 of you bring different views to the table. Please do continue Insha'Allah.
Of course there is happiness in dunya; it is in our mindsets. If you see the negatives only then you will never be content or happy. In our religion we are encouraged to be positive and be content. God does not want us to be miserable. And, when trials hit us you can find peace ans acceptance by remembering that all is temporary. I think a better word for happiness is peace and contentment. Isnt that why we say 'peace be upon you'.
May Allah give you all sakina, selaam, and the gift of finding joy in small things and moments.
And, don't worry; we are all in good hands. Just relax, smile and be positive.
Hang in there, sisters!
Sisters!!!! These are such brilliant episodes! Please keep it up!!!
What an amazing episode. So relevant and so powerful. One of my favourite so far. May Allah honour you all x
It's interesting listening to these practising sisters, ma-sha-Allah. They give me insight into how to understand women and it helps me to better my relationship with my wife.
I love these talks. I now listen to them everyday while I'm eating breakfast. Alhmadulillah, please sisters and others a part of this lovely team, make some more!
It is the most beautiful conversation about happiness. Thank you sisters .
One of the best episode of this season !! Thank you sisters
My favorite one so far. I needed this. Jazak Allahu khayr.
Allah is what we expect Him to be. If you are going through problems, and you decide to settle and believe that things are not going to get better, opting to wait for the hereafter to be happy, then your life may well continue to be full of problems, because this is what you expect from Him. That is your defining of your faith in Him.
We need to think well of our Creator. I don't believe that the Most Merciful placed here to torture us. He wants us to exercise our faith and belief in Him when things get rough. Ask for the best of both worlds (the Dunya and the hereafter) or whatever it is you are trying to achieve, and be optimistic that you will get it because optimism is faith.
Whenever The Prophet (sws) got into serious problems, he didn't say, 'oh well... I got heaven guaranteed for me anyway, so khalas I am not going to make an effort here on Earth anymore.." No. The opposite. He made even more of an effort to achieve his goals regardless of his circumstances, and he succeeded.
So beautifully said mashaAllah!
The disease of all hearts is indeed headlessness..
Thank you all once again. Clever ladies. Allah will keep you long.
Helpful talk! Thank you for taking the time and effort to share with us. I will listen to it again
M speechless❤️Really need this right now.wish I can talk to mindful people.and be mindful as well.
Stay blessed
I cried while listening to this at 21.00 onwards . Beautiful sisters and true wisdom
Maa Sha Allah. Thank you all for enlightening us from different perspectives on happiness
Masha'Allah!! Jazakumulaahu khayr sisters ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thanku sisters.......jazakallah....
We will have happiness in this life but we need to seek for meaning in this life and by this way we create happiness in other’s life! A happiness can be a small thing as a watching a new movie. We should not chase for happiness, we should seek meaning . I agree happiness is found in a moment!
Thank you for making this channel sharing your thoughts with so many people you provide guidance which is needed most
Masha’Allah honestly I so happy that I come cross this video today.
First, I want you all to know. I'm happy to have come across this channel. Thank you for being open to all the possibilities of being fully engaged in the moments. Mono tasking, I see it as meditation in motion. This practice of mindful meditation in every moment and thing I do/ be causes everything to feel effortless. Thank you ladies, what an honor to be in your presence🤗
Oh man I love your talks!!!!! May Allah bless you sisters, I can’t wait for the next chat. It is much needed.
I believe that happiness is also found in sharing ours essence
I'm totally agreed with you guys that happens depends on mindfulness
This is beautiful ❤️ thank you so much
Assalaamu alaikum. Happiness is not a journey. One cannot search for it. Happiness is a state of being. When one stops looking for what they believe makes them happy, they will find that happiness as always been apart of the soul.
Thank you so much sisters
I really enjoyed this episode 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. I like how you also touched on whether happiness is made for this dunya and/or the ahkira. It’s a really vast topic but you guys covered it from many angles mashaAllah ✨💗
Thank you sisters for this wonderful content x
MashaAllah!!!! you worth my time keep it up.
Jazakum Allah khair. You speak so relatable and beneficial, may Allah bless you sisters 💖
❤ this episode.. you lot discuss some deep stuff social media n fast paced world has ruined the humans..
I think when one prays happiness comes into the heart
Alhamdulilah all very helpful tips.💜
re-watchiing
Wow how did I just discover this channel now?? This talk is amazing.
I see you everywhere girl lets be friends
@@Rayan_04689 Sure. Let's be friends 🥰. I'm guess from your name that you're Somali too?
@@Nico.Robin7 Yeah I'm half somali half sudani
Shukran my sisters i really needed to hear this.May Allah bless you all.
❤😢love the sincerity
I like these conversations and I really appreciate it so may Allah bless you and protect you wherever you are. Ameen
Amazing discussion! I am glad I came across your channel 😍
Assalamualaikum my beautiful sister
JazakAllah for a wonderful video ❤
Alhamdulillah, this is so beneficial talk. Jazakum Allah khairan
This video was so beautiful and helpful .Thank you
Wonderful video Sisters. Jazakallahuhair
AL hamdullilah I have learnt a lot today Thank u my sisters in Islam.
They suppose to talk about happiness but ended up talking about mindfulness and how this leads to happiness. This narrowed the conversation but still helpful.
Barakallahu fihi
This is so profound am just speechless....
I love your platform 👏🏾💐💓
Salaamu Alaykum, I really enjoy your conversations ladies, makes me very reflective
Thanks love your programs
Jazakallah khair ahbabi this is my first time watching and I enjoyed really . I appreciate it
You are absolutly amazing and I agree with you. Though I would say happiness can also be find in people. For example my nephew give me that absolute happiness
excellent, love you sisters...knowledge is always beautiful ....
Mash Allah