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Some men can shower you with affection and gifts in the first few months or years but the moment you deeply fall for them, you start to see their red flags and rude behavior. You keep trying, hoping you get them back as they used to be. Eventually, you realize they were just wearing a mask to get you hooked.
I bet it’s because even after showering with affection and gifts she never reciprocated and showered him with oral and anal. It’s pretty simple ladies that’s all we’re after. Period. All the other crap is for you.
Thank you so much for the tip ☺❤. I have a Question. what should I put on my bumble dating intention section? Should I put marriage? Does it sound desperate if I put marriage? or do you think I should put long-term relationship instead?
Theres lots of good advice here from the looks of it but i dont think it answers the title. I did admittedly skim through the vid but fully watched the last two chapters. The changing perspective chapter i agree with it all, but the more critical thing for this segment would be to encourage reflection as to how it came to be that these perspectives exist. Like it's all well and good to consciously focus on changing that perspective (and maybe what im about to say is discussed earlier in the video which if it is, this comment means nothing but i find this unlikely), but my point is that if the perspective isnt understood, i think this hinders the ability for the perspective to change. Especially if the reasons the perspective exists just gives you more ammo for not changing the perspective and just reinforces the one already there. This is actually one of many key problem areas in dating to the point where if a man aware of dating dynamics, which is probably at the very least approaching a majority of men now, when we hear "men suck, wheres all the good men gone, fk men", this is a red flag... As what we actually hear, is "i continuously pursue men i have extreme attraction towards, oblivious to the fact that i'm just one of many, and im an idiot for continuing to pursue these scenarios and refuse to acknowledge whats happening and why, because i am unable to be introspective and will happily ignore relationship red flags at a chance to satiate my desire which surfaces for reasons i have no idea of", or "guys dont pick me because i am unable to make myself a better relationship prospect, i may have X or Y traits that make me unappealing but society and my friends all tell me im a 10/10 queen in all facets so why would i work on myself like that? it's the mens fault for picking other women with qualities they prefer those pigs"
Facts! It’s crazy how many of us chubby out of shape people still want a bangin model. It’s never goona happen guys get it togeher you have to be what you want.
How do I communicate my needs and boundries (he has to make the plans, pick me up, check in again, pay for the dates ..) without sounding needy and too demanding?
We know your needs, it’s the same for all humans, food water shelter. Don’t rely on another for those, communicate your WANTS, those are different for every person.
If these are your needs at the initial phase of dating, then you will always be in a short term relationship. If you want someone for long term, then don’t be dependent on someone for these kind of needs. You gotta be independent and then search for someone with high values and integrity. Chivalry comes out of a man naturally if they think the women they are dating genuinely wants a man’s companionship and not their resources. Otherwise every guy will think you are a gold digger or just a fling type of girl and treat you that way.
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Some men can shower you with affection and gifts in the first few months or years but the moment you deeply fall for them, you start to see their red flags and rude behavior. You keep trying, hoping you get them back as they used to be. Eventually, you realize they were just wearing a mask to get you hooked.
Seems rude
I bet it’s because even after showering with affection and gifts she never reciprocated and showered him with oral and anal. It’s pretty simple ladies that’s all we’re after. Period. All the other crap is for you.
Thank you so much for the tip ☺❤. I have a Question. what should I put on my bumble dating intention section? Should I put marriage? Does it sound desperate if I put marriage? or do you think I should put long-term relationship instead?
Very useful!!❤
🔥🔥🔥 Great IRL Advice
love the window analogy
Such a helpfull video. I went thought a lot of things my life but I would rather to hear these advices before.
Theres lots of good advice here from the looks of it but i dont think it answers the title. I did admittedly skim through the vid but fully watched the last two chapters. The changing perspective chapter i agree with it all, but the more critical thing for this segment would be to encourage reflection as to how it came to be that these perspectives exist. Like it's all well and good to consciously focus on changing that perspective (and maybe what im about to say is discussed earlier in the video which if it is, this comment means nothing but i find this unlikely), but my point is that if the perspective isnt understood, i think this hinders the ability for the perspective to change. Especially if the reasons the perspective exists just gives you more ammo for not changing the perspective and just reinforces the one already there. This is actually one of many key problem areas in dating to the point where if a man aware of dating dynamics, which is probably at the very least approaching a majority of men now, when we hear "men suck, wheres all the good men gone, fk men", this is a red flag...
As what we actually hear, is "i continuously pursue men i have extreme attraction towards, oblivious to the fact that i'm just one of many, and im an idiot for continuing to pursue these scenarios and refuse to acknowledge whats happening and why, because i am unable to be introspective and will happily ignore relationship red flags at a chance to satiate my desire which surfaces for reasons i have no idea of",
or
"guys dont pick me because i am unable to make myself a better relationship prospect, i may have X or Y traits that make me unappealing but society and my friends all tell me im a 10/10 queen in all facets so why would i work on myself like that? it's the mens fault for picking other women with qualities they prefer those pigs"
If a person can't meet their own standards for a romantic partner, don't date them.
Facts! It’s crazy how many of us chubby out of shape people still want a bangin model. It’s never goona happen guys get it togeher you have to be what you want.
How do I communicate my needs and boundries (he has to make the plans, pick me up, check in again, pay for the dates ..) without sounding needy and too demanding?
We know your needs, it’s the same for all humans, food water shelter. Don’t rely on another for those, communicate your WANTS, those are different for every person.
If these are your needs at the initial phase of dating, then you will always be in a short term relationship. If you want someone for long term, then don’t be dependent on someone for these kind of needs. You gotta be independent and then search for someone with high values and integrity. Chivalry comes out of a man naturally if they think the women they are dating genuinely wants a man’s companionship and not their resources. Otherwise every guy will think you are a gold digger or just a fling type of girl and treat you that way.
I think if you want this guy then wait for him, hard to make someone into this guy. These guys are out there
Morning from Hawaii good advice on dating
Im 25 and only had ina situationship so😅
Gracias que buen video
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