Women are conditioned to endure nonsense and forgive. People underestimate how well narcs brainwash. A lot of us don’t talk because people don’t believe us. I can handle shame. Nothing hurt more than not being believed.
Yes, having to explain yourself gets old... If I know that person will come in contact with the person I know, I'm like Ok wait on it... As long as I try to live my life with the Lord, I know He will reveal that mess eventually. I've seen it happen!
@@JWW77 Yess, in order to move forward I had to tell myself, tho others didnt believe me (mostly women/other flying monkeys) God witnessed it all and he heard all the crying I had when I dealt with that narc.
So True!!! Men don't prey on the weak, they prey on our kindness. You know what you're dealing with when the guy's parent tells you "My son has no conscience."
@@JenniferRose-_- No they don't. They prey on the ignorant and on people who are doormats, tend to be more submissive and disregard the red flags. They surround themselves with enablers. All the narcissists that have crossed my path hate me because I call them out on their bs and I don't allow them to walk all over me. I lay down boundaries from the start. Narcs despise boundaries. They will run like the wind if you lay the law down and call them out from the start. They know they can't manipulate you easily. They want easy targets. Problem is, women are people pleasers by nature and many people don't know what personality disorders are.
Ressa was a brave person to tell her story. I have gone thru very similar experiences with two men, ex husband and an ex fiance. What she did is therapeutic and helps with healing. The broken promises of houses, cars, big weddings that didn't happen messed me up and caused a trigger BUT now when someone says they want to do x y z, I don't get excited. I wait for the word to turn into action. I am in observation mode in order to protect myself.
@@JWW77 yep with people think she is either lying, or calling her stupid, etc. Instead of judgement, people need to look within and determine what is the takeaway lesson and if they have learned it or not yet in their own life. My ex husband has mental health issues to this day he is not getting treated for it. My ex fiance also has serious mental health issues. The common theme is Mental Health.
@summerchanel4297 Social media has taught me a lot about perception... I just hope it helps who it is meant to help. I hope she isn't triggered and embarrassed. She owned her mistakes and can't even catch a break. The trending topic should be why would he prey on her. That's why taking responsibility in public can get tricky... The focus tends to be misplaced. I was young and "in love" still in my teens when I fell. That mistake cost me long-term.
@@JWW77 and it does. I have many triggers now because of what men like that did as well as PTSD which all I have been working thru and healing with professional help. Social media is very very toxic. I only have Facebook and TH-cam. I had Instagram but pulled completely away from it. Too much illusions and smoke.
The narcs are not men or women..but they REALLY are DEMONS..& the more evil they do the more demons they invite in so that they can do more & more evil ..thru them..That's why only GOD can RID us for good of them..This Is a Spiritual Battle..& ONLY GOD can heal & deliver us from them..if we FORGIVE ...then he can move us totally away from them...
An ex of mine had most 9f his family corroborate his lies cause he was their breadwinner. It's crazy. Never ever will my mom blatantly help me sustain a lie. I never knew these type of ppl existed.
Yep, mine faked a fatal car accident while supposed to be on the way to see me. Had me lookin crazy callin his mama, to deliver the bad news and whole time he was at his friends house laughing. he threatened his lil bro not to tell, but eventually his mom got him to admit that he was playing with me and he was in fact down the street at his homeboy house.
@SthandwaM thank you! Im just grateful I got away with minimal damage and no pregnancy! And I was 19 so i considered myself lucky that I learned early on vs in a marriage or at 50 or something.
Great observation Dr. Rose. Many women have experienced this and to have the confidence to walk away is viewed as a source of guilt or shame by the partner, relatives, friends and society. However practicing self-love by enjoying one's own time is a priceless gift that everyone should give themselves.
The pain of detaching is far less impacting than the scar of long term disrespect. Teach people your worth and how to treat you. NEVER SEEK THAT WORTH THROUGH THRIR VALIDATION OF YOU
I appreciate how transparent she is and I’ve experienced a lot of what she went through. Many women won’t admit it. I wish her and anyone in this situation all the best.
I had to pause at 7:20 to take in that humility piece and say 52 WHERE!? I usually don’t like people implying people look drastically younger than they are or find it necessary to equate youth with beauty but I really would have thought you were 44, 45. What a testament of how self love shines through and preserves. Subscribed! ❤️
I can attest to this in my most recent relationship. I won't say he preyed on me but I did go through the lessons of learning to be my own company. I was someone who always needed to have someone accompany me somewhere. Through trials and tribulations with him, he taught me how to entertain myself and be content within myself and my own company. I am forever grateful. Now I enjoy my own company and my "me time" is divine. I do a lot alone but there are some things I am cautious of because there are too many horror stories when traveling alone. I exercise discernment and pray for confirmation.
I had to divest from men in 2005 because all the Lies and immaturity from men That’s not my life I have no regrets I have no kids and No man in My house 20 years in Life is awesome ❤
I'm so glad this is coming out, and I really like how some people are not trying to tear Reesa Tessa down. She made a mistake, just like we all have. Most of us are not with the original partners we started with. Why is that? Because something happened. We definitely didn't break up if things were perfect.
I haven't seen the videos but I have seen clips on TH-cam. You gave an excellent commentary. What this young woman was brave enough to do has changed the whole trajectory of her life. I am 57, and trust me, I can say, "I have been there, done that, got the the T-shirt to prove it" Thank you Lord for your deliverance. Thank you for wisdom and healing and discernment.
Thank you for sharing your insight . I almost married the wrong man due to the 3 reasons you stated. Thankfully he dumped me because I couldnt let go . Once he did i felt relief and made the decision to close that chapter. Of course he begged to come back once he realized I was done . The minute I did that my life opened up .😊❤
I really appreciate your insight Dr... especially the parts on doing things alone, DATing for DATa, and what being a judgemental person really means...You have gained a new subscriber!
Thank you Dr.Rose for your genuine and compassionate takeaway. You said a mouthful… & Yes Resatessa story was so healing and most if not all of us could relate to something she said in her 50 parts…I know I most certainly could…❤
It took 10 years for me to find the strength to get away from MY Legion, so I can't judge, and to be honest, I'm still embarrassed that I allowed it to go on for so long and for allowing the behavior in the first place. I still haven't fully forgiven myself...
When you think of a controlling person as a spell caster or demonic spirit you feel a whole lot better. When someone deceives and or lies to you (narc or worse) it’s like a tangled web that weaves around you and it’s very difficult to escape. This is described in the Bible as ensnarement.
Not only did I love her truth, I loved the story layout! It was like a book I couldn’t put down ❤ I should have ran early on when he mentioned my underwear didn’t match 😒😂 among other narc slights thereafter. His didn’t match either 😅it’s BEEN over. Been single for YEARS and I love it truly. I always look back like “dang what was I thinking?”
Sadly so many women are closeted Reesa Teesa’s suffering in silence and shame of being human - making a mistake/misjudgment or being victimized. Narcissists prey on the weak and vulnerable and hone in on what you most fear…then attack what’s left of your self-worth. I settled for just finally escaping my miserable ex and leaving him to God’s judgment. I applaud her courage to expose not only “legion”, but her own pride and vulnerabilities. Good for her turning her pain into profit & purpose.
New subscriber, I want to thank you for your gentle and empathic heart. We all in life sometime didn't know our worth. When we got played, it was a lesson learned and wisdom.With our testimony shared and ask God first for guidance and an a understanding heart. Out here in these streets it survival like the airline's say but your own oxygen mask on first. ❤
That'll be absolutely amazing if someone ethically and honestly buys her story so she can get lifetime royalties! She could demand executive producer credit too! The least profitable is someone giving her a one time payment for all the rights to her story 🙏🏾
Loved your observations and insight! I like you wish Reesa all the success she can muster- her story resonates because of her willingness to be vulnerable, her authencity even in the face of judgement. That to me is true strength and character. Legion didn't deserve her, he knew it and thankfully she came to know it as well, Bravo Reesa!!
Am so proud of u...your comments are powerful as a professional and a woman....thank u....Reesa Tessa great job....proud of u.... U will safe allot of women
I'm in the not being believed part of my life, with my relationship. So I stopped speaking and I am moving in silence and it hurts, a lot, because I need to vent but people take it as well just deal with it. I am doing a lot of healing and getting help. People judge, no matter what you do. I'm doing for me now.
I don't know what happened to you, but whatever it is I believe you. You can tell me if you want to. Save your story for people who will believe you. The right people will believe you. You'll help someone. Whatever happened, you didn't go through it for nothing because you're stronger now.
You don’t have to say anything to anyone. Moving in silence is your blessing. I moved in silence when I put him out and moved on with my kids in silence. It leaves them making up lies which your true family and friends will see thru. Do what’s best for you and stop worrying about what others think. Real women know women don’t give up good men. Make that executive decision and go live your best life.
Omg! I tell so many people that they can’t enjoy other people’s company if they can’t enjoy their own. I go almost everywhere by by self,I’ve been told I am crazy for going to the movies alone,just late February I took myself to the theater and very well enjoy the play all by myself. You see others differently,you enjoy their presence differently when you learn how to love you,your space and time with yourself.
It's not ONLY women who have had these experiences. Many men have had these unfortunate encounters also and. have remained silent and dealt with the emotional pain and "masculine" shame in silence.
Hi. I came across your channel and enjoyed listening to your commentary. As I’m listening to what your saying about those 3 reasons that clouded Reesa Tessa’s judgement, I gotta say, the assignments that you say that you have given your clients, I’ve already done for myself. I was one of those people who didn’t want to do things solo, but I came to the conclusion that that I will no longer wait .. I’m living for NOW! So I’ve started dining solo, going to see a movie , solo /‘d now looking for lobbies or groups to join to meet new and like minded people.
Great comment Shelly I was thinking the same thing just stumbled onto this wonderful channel Dr. definitely resonated with me new subscriber great content! Gratitude from Cali🙏🏾🥰
Amen, a lot of people will judge but this is not uncommon. And yes people always think something just wouldn’t happen to them, and hopefully it doesn’t. But you gotta stay humble.
Doc, You are AWESOME! Your words here will definitely help Tessa and others along in their healing and to learn from hers and their own situations. God Bless You! 🦉🌹💜
Thanks so much for sharing your professional opinion. I'm one of the blessed one's but I soooo appreciate the transparency of Ressa Tessa. The story has really opened my eyes on what to pay attention to if I decide to get back out in the Dating world. Thank you brave Ressa for bringing awareness with your story.
My story is worse than hers! 38 years of marriage and recently found out he's been cheating with a man for at least 6 years. I look back and see enough red flags to light up a city! Gaslighting, degrading, talking about me to others etc. He never met a lie he didn't embrace. He's still competing through the divorce process.
Society assumed and expected women and girls to put up with OTHER PEOPLE's toxicity and gaslighting for centuries. Gotta show them that there's a new sheriff in town.
Thank you, God, that I never had to deal with no man on that type of level as Ressa Tessa. That man had a serious mental problem. I know men lie, but that type of lying nobody can help but a doctor and medication and a little trip to the ward.
Also safety is another reason why some women do not come forward and speak on situations like this! A women is queens is brain dead because she had a platform and spoke on her married just like Reesa and she ended up really really hurt while her children watched smh so I'd past on sharing my traumas with the world for now!
Thank you for studying all of those years and creating a channel for people to absorb the good they can. I wonder, since narcissism is an actual mental illness should they really be villainized? I hope they heal from whatever is causing it.
While I can relate to having met pathological liars and probably narcissists, I never ignored it and stayed there. It has never progressed more than a meeting or a date or two. I think that's what most women are saying when we say we can't relate. We can't relate to the decisions and thought processes that took place.
@@TalkswithBellaTT I think the difference is simply that I don't care if someone thinks they are better than me. It changes nothing in my life and it doesn't make it true. We judge each other daily and that judgment is essential to truly discern whether we are engaging with the right people or not. I think we should be judging people way more.
@@eboni7083thank you I’m so sick of the “don’t judge” nonsense. Judging having discernment is an essential life skill. Sadly when most people say don’t judge what really mean is “don’t hold me accountable for my part of the mess”.
I used to be a Reesa Teesa too!! Once I found that the validation I yearned from externally that I can give to myself internally baby I elevated and ascended in so many ways that I know I can’t be fucked with. The happiness that I have found and given to myself trickles down to others who have the privilege of being in my presence 🤞🏼🥰💚💕
4:03 YESSSSS AMEN!! 🙏🏽 I remember having a conversation with a married friend of mine who made fun of at the time “single me” for going out to eat by myself, going to plays and concerts by myself and just being totally ok going places by myself… She’s divorced now. I’m going on 16 years of a stable marriage not to toot a horn because trust AND believe it’s ALL by the grace of God and the man I married. but…. I consistently prayed and sought God first and I learned to love me and get to know me, enjoy my own company and enjoy just being with me. I learned to date and collect data differently and it led to better results. I was ok with walking away from men who I KNEW didn’t suit me. So I absolutely agree with you….IF more women would be 💯 honest they’d admitted they got in and stayed in relationships/situation-ships that did not or do not serve them. I’ve been with an abusive compulsive liar and an abusive bonafide narcissist so yes that struggle is real! But… it’s so NOT worth it!
@@BlessedVivi we married 2 years from the date we met. I started making my relationship with God a priority in 2004. We met in 2006. Married in 2008. For me it is still God first, my husband, and then everyone else. I had to learn to shift what is most important in this life and for me that’s God but …. I had to get to that station in life. Blessings to you 🤗
Women need to stop being ashamed and embarrassed over how these men choose to show up with them. Hold then accountable for how they choose to show up. Stop taking on their burdens.
I met and married my husband three years ago at the age of 53( we celebrated our anniversary on 2/28) and before we got married, I often went to dinner by myself and to the movies. I wanted to be able to share experiences as a single woman with my future husband 😍.
The Reesa Teesa (pronounced REE-SUH TEE-SUH) was definitely a video full of reminders and triggers that reminds me where my mindset was, how I behaved as a result of that "I just want to be married", the pit falls I fell into because of it, the time wasted, etc...and what I learned about myself...I've learned and will do better by knowing my worth first.
Single shaming is a thing! I am so good on my own and weary not being alone but I get weary of having to justify to other people My lifestyle my peacefulness my gratitude for being alone. People need to stop trying to make single hood and illness they need to solve or heal by injecting someone into someone's life.
I didn’t want my kids to be without their father especially both being special needs …but he ended up leaving and abandoning them for another woman anyway.
Good video. And if I were Reesa, I would just be in an unmarried committed relationship. She's famous now and will gain financially so there will be new, smarter levels of male leeches and narcissists👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
RE: Dating yourself in the single season I don't mind enjoying activities by myself but when I tell you, it's so awkward sitting in restaurants with 3 other empty chairs...baby, it's awkward! 😂😂😂
Yes. I was definitely too embarrassed with my last situation because it was seen worldwide and the one before because it was in my church. I wrote about it only to find out I couldn't publish it until they die...
I was married to a narcissist. After a couple of weeks in our marriage I knew I had made a mistake of marrying him. I stayed because I was embarrassed to leave. Eventually I asked him to move out after 1.5 years. I should have broken up earlier. I look back and somewhat angry with the friend who discouraged me from leaving earlier. But at the end of the day I made that decision to stay with him. Im soooooo blessed to have left him, now happily divorced. Great she shared her story. Many lessons to be learnt.
People want to judge Ressa Tessa her for her mistakes and make it about her flaws. To be scammed, 3 things need to happen. 1) somebody doesn't have something they want, 2) they are motivated to get it and 3) lack of exposure to the scam. People who get scammed often don't alert others because of the secrecy, judgment, and shame. By sharing this, she is helping #3) for many people.
I was a RT😢 25yrs ago.I was married to a real live monster for 1yr.Some People don't understand the how's and why we stayed.But there are men out here who are pros at brainwashing.
Women are conditioned to endure nonsense and forgive.
People underestimate how well narcs brainwash.
A lot of us don’t talk because people don’t believe us. I can handle shame. Nothing hurt more than not being believed.
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So true. Not being believed was the worst pain ever.
Yes, having to explain yourself gets old... If I know that person will come in contact with the person I know, I'm like Ok wait on it... As long as I try to live my life with the Lord, I know He will reveal that mess eventually. I've seen it happen!
@@JWW77 Yess, in order to move forward I had to tell myself, tho others didnt believe me (mostly women/other flying monkeys) God witnessed it all and he heard all the crying I had when I dealt with that narc.
Omg ur so right!!!😮
God, that level of bravery Tessa Ressa showed was next level.
Absolutely!!
May God bless you
And thank you ❤
“Dating to collecting d-a-t-a.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Men like that prey upon the weak. I’m glad she came forward and released this …. Somebody gonna be helped by her testimony
So True!!! Men don't prey on the weak, they prey on our kindness. You know what you're dealing with when the guy's parent tells you "My son has no conscience."
They prey on everyone…
This so true that hate went you told no
@@JenniferRose-_- No they don't. They prey on the ignorant and on people who are doormats, tend to be more submissive and disregard the red flags. They surround themselves with enablers.
All the narcissists that have crossed my path hate me because I call them out on their bs and I don't allow them to walk all over me. I lay down boundaries from the start. Narcs despise boundaries. They will run like the wind if you lay the law down and call them out from the start. They know they can't manipulate you easily. They want easy targets.
Problem is, women are people pleasers by nature and many people don't know what personality disorders are.
I was totally a Ressa Tessa! I finally left 23 years later.
Better late than never. (I guess) Best of luck in your future relationships.😊
Amen! Good for you mama😊
I know it wasn’t easy. Bravo 👏🏾 to you!
Me too..mine included physical abuse.
I was also her, I left after a 18 year marriage
These are the types of conversations and stories needed.
Much agreed.
Ressa was a brave person to tell her story. I have gone thru very similar experiences with two men, ex husband and an ex fiance. What she did is therapeutic and helps with healing. The broken promises of houses, cars, big weddings that didn't happen messed me up and caused a trigger BUT now when someone says they want to do x y z, I don't get excited. I wait for the word to turn into action. I am in observation mode in order to protect myself.
Very brave because the backlash that she's getting is one of the reasons victims don't speak up
@@JWW77 yep with people think she is either lying, or calling her stupid, etc. Instead of judgement, people need to look within and determine what is the takeaway lesson and if they have learned it or not yet in their own life. My ex husband has mental health issues to this day he is not getting treated for it. My ex fiance also has serious mental health issues. The common theme is Mental Health.
@summerchanel4297 Social media has taught me a lot about perception...
I just hope it helps who it is meant to help. I hope she isn't triggered and embarrassed. She owned her mistakes and can't even catch a break. The trending topic should be why would he prey on her. That's why taking responsibility in public can get tricky... The focus tends to be misplaced.
I was young and "in love" still in my teens when I fell. That mistake cost me long-term.
@@JWW77 and it does. I have many triggers now because of what men like that did as well as PTSD which all I have been working thru and healing with professional help. Social media is very very toxic. I only have Facebook and TH-cam. I had Instagram but pulled completely away from it. Too much illusions and smoke.
We already heard from another ex of his and she knows of 2 more…1 man like this could damage dozens of women if he gets a new one every year or 2.
Then you still have men who are surprised that women are wary & mistrusting.
@beewest5704 or worse they get mad when we say we don't need a man. Like why would I NEED this kind of crazy!!?!
The narcs are not men or women..but they REALLY are DEMONS..& the more evil they do the more demons they invite in so that they can do more & more evil ..thru them..That's why only GOD can RID us for good of them..This Is a Spiritual Battle..& ONLY GOD can heal & deliver us from them..if we FORGIVE ...then he can move us totally away from them...
There was a girl who wanted him 😢 after all this revelation he was appealing to her 😒
@@TheodoreBakesexactly!
Ressa opened many closed pain hearts of women
My ex made up a fake murder…. Plus he had some friends help him with his scams…. Men will help other men do this …. Their fake skits and scams.
An ex of mine had most 9f his family corroborate his lies cause he was their breadwinner. It's crazy. Never ever will my mom blatantly help me sustain a lie. I never knew these type of ppl existed.
Yep, mine faked a fatal car accident while supposed to be on the way to see me. Had me lookin crazy callin his mama, to deliver the bad news and whole time he was at his friends house laughing. he threatened his lil bro not to tell, but eventually his mom got him to admit that he was playing with me and he was in fact down the street at his homeboy house.
So sorry you can into contact with such evil. I send blessings and healing 🩷
@TheodoreBakes I'm actually gobsmacked. That is absolutely disgusting. So sorry you had to experience that.
@SthandwaM thank you! Im just grateful I got away with minimal damage and no pregnancy! And I was 19 so i considered myself lucky that I learned early on vs in a marriage or at 50 or something.
I loved the stand she took for telling the truth
Me tooo
Great observation Dr. Rose. Many women have experienced this and to have the confidence to walk away is viewed as a source of guilt or shame by the partner, relatives, friends and society. However practicing self-love by enjoying one's own time is a priceless gift that everyone should give themselves.
The pain of detaching is far less impacting than the scar of long term disrespect.
Teach people your worth and how to treat you. NEVER SEEK THAT WORTH THROUGH THRIR VALIDATION OF YOU
I appreciate how transparent she is and I’ve experienced a lot of what she went through. Many women won’t admit it. I wish her and anyone in this situation all the best.
This experience is way too normal unfortunately.
Every single woman i know has a legion. I have about 4 of them.
Especially black women
Marriage is a legally binding contract and can be the difference of a bad decision and a bad life.
This is the realest comment ever! 👏🏼 👏🏼👏🏼
She’s on point. I love travelling solo, going to restaurants and the theatre by myself. I’m my best friend and company.
This is me all day!!!! I took myself out last night to a movie and we had a dern good time. I love me some ME!!! KEEP LOVING YOU.
Same here!
We as people need to be more quick to show people grace when someone is telling their story to help others.
I had to pause at 7:20 to take in that humility piece and say 52 WHERE!? I usually don’t like people implying people look drastically younger than they are or find it necessary to equate youth with beauty but I really would have thought you were 44, 45. What a testament of how self love shines through and preserves. Subscribed! ❤️
I paused too. She can easily pass for 42. She looks awesome. A self-care tips video would be great.
@@ba-xr8fh definitely!
I can attest to this in my most recent relationship. I won't say he preyed on me but I did go through the lessons of learning to be my own company. I was someone who always needed to have someone accompany me somewhere. Through trials and tribulations with him, he taught me how to entertain myself and be content within myself and my own company. I am forever grateful. Now I enjoy my own company and my "me time" is divine. I do a lot alone but there are some things I am cautious of because there are too many horror stories when traveling alone. I exercise discernment and pray for confirmation.
That’s why they try to rope you into a relationship quickly. Joke is on them when you’ll walk away even if it’s been a couple weeks
Many legions in many forms and levels
THIS
Spot on👌🤗
PREACH
I had to divest from men in 2005 because all the Lies and immaturity from men
That’s not my life
I have no regrets
I have no kids and
No man in My house
20 years in
Life is awesome ❤
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
same here. I divested in 2017 but I'll never go back.
I'm so glad this is coming out, and I really like how some people are not trying to tear Reesa Tessa down. She made a mistake, just like we all have. Most of us are not with the original partners we started with. Why is that? Because something happened. We definitely didn't break up if things were perfect.
I haven't seen the videos but I have seen clips on TH-cam.
You gave an excellent commentary.
What this young woman was brave enough to do has changed the whole trajectory of her life.
I am 57, and trust me, I can say, "I have been there, done that, got the the T-shirt to prove it"
Thank you Lord for your deliverance.
Thank you for wisdom and healing and discernment.
Thank you for sharing your insight . I almost married the wrong man due to the 3 reasons you stated. Thankfully he dumped me because I couldnt let go . Once he did i felt relief and made the decision to close that chapter. Of course he begged to come back once he realized I was done . The minute I did that my life opened up .😊❤
I really appreciate your insight Dr... especially the parts on doing things alone, DATing for DATa, and what being a judgemental person really means...You have gained a new subscriber!
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Reesa Tessa was absolutely brave to tell her story. I commend her for purging and sharing her story. I truly wish her well going forward.
I volunteered at 2 psychiatric hospitals. Some of the patients were very convincing.
Thank you Dr.Rose for your genuine and compassionate takeaway. You said a mouthful… & Yes Resatessa story was so healing and most if not all of us could relate to something she said in her 50 parts…I know I most certainly could…❤
It took 10 years for me to find the strength to get away from MY Legion, so I can't judge, and to be honest, I'm still embarrassed that I allowed it to go on for so long and for allowing the behavior in the first place. I still haven't fully forgiven myself...
When you think of a controlling person as a spell caster or demonic spirit you feel a whole lot better. When someone deceives and or lies to you (narc or worse) it’s like a tangled web that weaves around you and it’s very difficult to escape. This is described in the Bible as ensnarement.
I can relate.i got out early tho..I pray for others to get loose too
You are such a beautiful and smart woman, thank you for covering this issue. God bless
Not only did I love her truth, I loved the story layout! It was like a book I couldn’t put down ❤ I should have ran early on when he mentioned my underwear didn’t match 😒😂 among other narc slights thereafter. His didn’t match either 😅it’s BEEN over. Been single for YEARS and I love it truly. I always look back like “dang what was I thinking?”
Sadly so many women are closeted Reesa Teesa’s suffering in silence and shame of being human - making a mistake/misjudgment or being victimized. Narcissists prey on the weak and vulnerable and hone in on what you most fear…then attack what’s left of your self-worth. I settled for just finally escaping my miserable ex and leaving him to God’s judgment. I applaud her courage to expose not only “legion”, but her own pride and vulnerabilities. Good for her turning her pain into profit & purpose.
New subscriber, I want to thank you for your gentle and empathic heart. We all in life sometime didn't know our worth. When we got played, it was a lesson learned and wisdom.With our testimony shared and ask God first for guidance and an a understanding heart. Out here in these streets it survival like the airline's say but your own oxygen mask on first. ❤
That'll be absolutely amazing if someone ethically and honestly buys her story so she can get lifetime royalties! She could demand executive producer credit too! The least profitable is someone giving her a one time payment for all the rights to her story 🙏🏾
Loved your observations and insight! I like you wish Reesa all the success she can muster- her story resonates because of her willingness to be vulnerable, her authencity even in the face of judgement. That to me is true strength and character. Legion didn't deserve her, he knew it and thankfully she came to know it as well, Bravo Reesa!!
Am so proud of u...your comments are powerful as a professional and a woman....thank u....Reesa Tessa great job....proud of u....
U will safe allot of women
I'm in the not being believed part of my life, with my relationship. So I stopped speaking and I am moving in silence and it hurts, a lot, because I need to vent but people take it as well just deal with it. I am doing a lot of healing and getting help. People judge, no matter what you do. I'm doing for me now.
I don't know what happened to you, but whatever it is I believe you. You can tell me if you want to. Save your story for people who will believe you. The right people will believe you. You'll help someone. Whatever happened, you didn't go through it for nothing because you're stronger now.
I don't know what you are going through but just have to ask- have you thought about just ending this relationship?
You don’t have to say anything to anyone. Moving in silence is your blessing. I moved in silence when I put him out and moved on with my kids in silence. It leaves them making up lies which your true family and friends will see thru. Do what’s best for you and stop worrying about what others think. Real women know women don’t give up good men. Make that executive decision and go live your best life.
52 looks great on you. Thank you for your insight!
I am SO grateful that this video popped up on my timeline. 🙏🏻🙌🏼💚
Sooo true! Shame will keep you where you don’t need to be. ❤️
Omg! I tell so many people that they can’t enjoy other people’s company if they can’t enjoy their own.
I go almost everywhere by by self,I’ve been told I am crazy for going to the movies alone,just late February I took myself to the theater and very well enjoy the play all by myself.
You see others differently,you enjoy their presence differently when you learn how to love you,your space and time with yourself.
It's not ONLY women who have had these experiences. Many men have had these unfortunate encounters also and. have remained silent and dealt with the emotional pain and "masculine" shame in silence.
Unfortunately I can certainly relate to her story. Much respect to Reesa Teesa for sharing her story.
This is one of the more useful commentary on this subject.
I have but not at this level. The love booming and moving so fast is something to be weary of.
Hi. I came across your channel and enjoyed listening to your commentary. As I’m listening to what your saying about those 3 reasons that clouded Reesa Tessa’s judgement, I gotta say, the assignments that you say that you have given your clients, I’ve already done for myself. I was one of those people who didn’t want to do things solo, but I came to the conclusion that that I will no longer wait .. I’m living for NOW! So I’ve started dining solo, going to see a movie , solo /‘d now looking for lobbies or groups to join to meet new and like minded people.
Great comment Shelly I was thinking the same thing just stumbled onto this wonderful channel Dr. definitely resonated with me new subscriber great content! Gratitude from Cali🙏🏾🥰
My ex lied about a car wreck.... Sent pictures, the works!
After reesa teesa coming forward I see how common this stuff is!
Scary!!
I came across your channel today and you’re great! I’m subscribed! Thank you !
Amen, a lot of people will judge but this is not uncommon. And yes people always think something just wouldn’t happen to them, and hopefully it doesn’t. But you gotta stay humble.
I’m so thankful…. I’ve never met or dealt with someone like that thank you Jesus 🙌🏽
Doc, You are AWESOME! Your words here will definitely help Tessa and others along in their healing and to learn from hers and their own situations. God Bless You! 🦉🌹💜
Fantastic video. I have to look up Tess Tesa. I’m curious to hear her story.
*I love everything you said!* 🎬
I clicked on because I wanted to hear your take on reesateesa, but Sis it gave me so much more. Thank you! ❤
Thanks so much for sharing your professional opinion. I'm one of the blessed one's but I soooo appreciate the transparency of Ressa Tessa. The story has really opened my eyes on what to pay attention to if I decide to get back out in the Dating world. Thank you brave Ressa for bringing awareness with your story.
My story is worse than hers! 38 years of marriage and recently found out he's been cheating with a man for at least 6 years. I look back and see enough red flags to light up a city! Gaslighting, degrading, talking about me to others etc. He never met a lie he didn't embrace. He's still competing through the divorce process.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom. We'll stated and so profound, and you delivered your message without judgment but clarity.
Can you do a hair video! Your locs are life! Was your hair super curly? Has it been locked for a while? The curls make it look new. So pretty
Society assumed and expected women and girls to put up with OTHER PEOPLE's toxicity and gaslighting for centuries. Gotta show them that there's a new sheriff in town.
Thank you, God, that I never had to deal with no man on that type of level as Ressa Tessa. That man had a serious mental problem. I know men lie, but that type of lying nobody can help but a doctor and medication and a little trip to the ward.
Also safety is another reason why some women do not come forward and speak on situations like this! A women is queens is brain dead because she had a platform and spoke on her married just like Reesa and she ended up really really hurt while her children watched smh so I'd past on sharing my traumas with the world for now!
Thank you for studying all of those years and creating a channel for people to absorb the good they can. I wonder, since narcissism is an actual mental illness should they really be villainized? I hope they heal from whatever is causing it.
its not a mental illness its a personality disorder that cannot be healed or changed.
Thank you so much for making this response video
I agree with every point you made here.
While I can relate to having met pathological liars and probably narcissists, I never ignored it and stayed there. It has never progressed more than a meeting or a date or two. I think that's what most women are saying when we say we can't relate. We can't relate to the decisions and thought processes that took place.
@@TalkswithBellaTT I think the difference is simply that I don't care if someone thinks they are better than me. It changes nothing in my life and it doesn't make it true. We judge each other daily and that judgment is essential to truly discern whether we are engaging with the right people or not. I think we should be judging people way more.
@@eboni7083thank you I’m so sick of the “don’t judge” nonsense. Judging having discernment is an essential life skill. Sadly when most people say don’t judge what really mean is “don’t hold me accountable for my part of the mess”.
@@brooklynforever1990exactly. Plus we’re human. Judgement isn’t always a bad thing. It depends on what place it’s coming from I’d say as well.
New Subscriber!!!! Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!! ❤
This is sound, solid advice and insight🥂
Dr. Rose, Can you please do a hair tutorial on this hairstyle 😍?
....and skin routine ❤❤❤
....and skin routine ❤❤❤
This was so great!! I wished she could see this video ❤
I used to be a Reesa Teesa too!! Once I found that the validation I yearned from externally that I can give to myself internally baby I elevated and ascended in so many ways that I know I can’t be fucked with. The happiness that I have found and given to myself trickles down to others who have the privilege of being in my presence 🤞🏼🥰💚💕
Wow! I so appreciate the way your verbalized this message! 💕
Subscribed. Thank you for your insight. BTW, you are beautiful, sis❤🥰…52 where?
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YESSSSS AMEN!! 🙏🏽
I remember having a conversation with a married friend of mine who made fun of at the time “single me” for going out to eat by myself, going to plays and concerts by myself and just being totally ok going places by myself…
She’s divorced now. I’m going on 16 years of a stable marriage not to toot a horn because trust AND believe it’s ALL by the grace of God and the man I married.
but…. I consistently prayed and sought God first and I learned to love me and get to know me, enjoy my own company and enjoy just being with me. I learned to date and collect data differently and it led to better results.
I was ok with walking away from men who I KNEW didn’t suit me.
So
I absolutely agree with you….IF more women would be 💯 honest they’d admitted they got in and stayed in relationships/situation-ships that did not or do not serve them.
I’ve been with an abusive compulsive liar and an abusive bonafide narcissist so yes that struggle is real!
But… it’s so NOT worth it!
How long after leaning on God did you meet your husband?
@@BlessedVivi we married 2 years from the date we met. I started making my relationship with God a priority in 2004. We met in 2006. Married in 2008.
For me it is still God first, my husband, and then everyone else. I had to learn to shift what is most important in this life and for me that’s God but …. I had to get to that station in life. Blessings to you 🤗
@@joycewatt800 that's awesome
I just came across your page and I love what you said great
Women need to stop being ashamed and embarrassed over how these men choose to show up with them. Hold then accountable for how they choose to show up. Stop taking on their burdens.
I've always been content in whatever relationship status I have been in. I still have been in bad relationships anyway.
Sometimes your peace literally irritates people to the point that they want to come into your life and ruin it.
I met and married my husband three years ago at the age of 53( we celebrated our anniversary on 2/28) and before we got married, I often went to dinner by myself and to the movies. I wanted to be able to share experiences as a single woman with my future husband 😍.
The Reesa Teesa (pronounced REE-SUH TEE-SUH) was definitely a video full of reminders and triggers that reminds me where my mindset was, how I behaved as a result of that "I just want to be married", the pit falls I fell into because of it, the time wasted, etc...and what I learned about myself...I've learned and will do better by knowing my worth first.
This was so true! I can definitely relate.....you are right there are many Ressa Tessa's in the world!
I know this could happen at any time, but I'm very interested, from a psychological perspective, of how covid lockdowns changed people.
I’ve dated 4 narcissist compulsive liars. It traumatized me and I never want to date again
FACTS!!!!! Don't forget the threats to ruin your reputation! 😡!
RUN PEOPLE RUN NO MATTER WHAT!
Speak truth Dr Moten, love it!
Single shaming is a thing! I am so good on my own and weary not being alone but I get weary of having to justify to other people My lifestyle my peacefulness my gratitude for being alone. People need to stop trying to make single hood and illness they need to solve or heal by injecting someone into someone's life.
I truly appreciate this review! ❤
I didn’t want my kids to be without their father especially both being special needs …but he ended up leaving and abandoning them for another woman anyway.
I was blown away, by how blown away he was when I chose to walk away... No matter the cost to me socially.
Love your thoughts! Inspiring to women.
Yes! I applaud her as well. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Good video. And if I were Reesa, I would just be in an unmarried committed relationship. She's famous now and will gain financially so there will be new, smarter levels of male leeches and narcissists👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
RE: Dating yourself in the single season
I don't mind enjoying activities by myself but when I tell you, it's so awkward sitting in restaurants with 3 other empty chairs...baby, it's awkward! 😂😂😂
I just eat at the bar. 😊
@@wisdomdantecourt8179 think I might try that instead!! 🤔
Yes. I was definitely too embarrassed with my last situation because it was seen worldwide and the one before because it was in my church. I wrote about it only to find out I couldn't publish it until they die...
I was married to a narcissist. After a couple of weeks in our marriage I knew I had made a mistake of marrying him. I stayed because I was embarrassed to leave. Eventually I asked him to move out after 1.5 years. I should have broken up earlier. I look back and somewhat angry with the friend who discouraged me from leaving earlier. But at the end of the day I made that decision to stay with him. Im soooooo blessed to have left him, now happily divorced. Great she shared her story. Many lessons to be learnt.
There are so many times women settle for ok and good , and not wait for the great. Great can take a minute, you will not be skipped over.
People want to judge Ressa Tessa her for her mistakes and make it about her flaws.
To be scammed, 3 things need to happen. 1) somebody doesn't have something they want, 2) they are motivated to get it and 3) lack of exposure to the scam. People who get scammed often don't alert others because of the secrecy, judgment, and shame. By sharing this, she is helping #3) for many people.
Desperation and fear of being alone and wants to get married . 😊😊😊
I was a RT😢 25yrs ago.I was married to a real live monster for 1yr.Some People don't understand the how's and why we stayed.But there are men out here who are pros at brainwashing.
Yep. Blame avoidant types are the worst. They gaslight the hell out of you even when it’s totally unnecessary.
Yes many women of all sizes have experienced this.