How to Stop Being Needy with Girls When Flirting - Subtleties That Ruin Attraction 1 - Fearless Man
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- If you've ever been talking and flirting with a girl and you're working REALLY HARD but nothing comes of it, it's because you've been using those subtle behaviors that RUIN attraction. Coming across a certain way turns women off, and if they're still talking with you, your flirting goes nowhere and you quickly end up in the "friend zone".
In the first of this video series on how to approach girls and the subtleties that ruins attraction, we cover one of the MAJOR TURNOFFS for women - being needy. We reveal how neediness will have women running away from you and why it's an attraction killer, and most importantly, what you can do to reverse that and have them chase YOU.
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This is gold, and many men don't realise. The energy that you project, and slow voice, the secure gaze and the subcomunication of "if you don't welcome me, I'm leaving, no dramas" is the real key. Forget the fancy pick up lines.
Pau Bañón Pérez This comment is gold as well, thanks for sharing!
At age 26 I found the key to unlock any woman. It's simple if you have courage to do this. Whisper in her ear ... "I want to pleasure you for hours." The secret is it has to be done with confidence and without hesitation, so you can stumble or say umm, and for God's sake without breathing or blowing in her ear or you'll become the freaky pervert.
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P Jones none of this shit works if your not physhally attractive
epakerd really hope your mindset has improved since making this comment lol
@@epakerd incel detected
@@epakerd Maybe but at the same time not all girls are physically attractive either. But you can best at your league, if that makes sense to you.
@@epakerd if you think physical attractiveness is the key and that you don't have it, you send "im not good enough for you" vibe, and that instantly kills your attractiveness. you can choose to stick with your belief if you want to, but you will never be successful with women if you do.
This shit is gold! Women are highly intuitive and only react to the vibration(vibe) you give off.
Brian the goat 🐐
So if you are in a state of wanting, you push away, and if you're in a state of gratitude, that everything is a part of what you have, then it just comes to you... Secret of life, why did it take so long to figure out something so simple, lol
Because you were told lies your whole life. We all were. The amount of lies people believe is truly terrifying.
Being desperate ruins attraction 🔥
Being real short man ruins attraction to with women.
@Déjà vu The problem is now that the short women want tall men. I seen a little person with a guy that was 6'0 plus
Dude, you’re everywhere 😂
Being not perfect ruins attraction
having bad breath or being overly-flatulent ruins attraction too~
I've been doing the 'needy' subconscious body language for years. This video gave me some really good insights, Thanks Brian!
Same bro…. Its just out of my control sometimes
A lot of ppl talk about body language but don’t really go into deeply about what they are talking about as well as actually show it, great vid
Your indifference to outcome and neediness on the contrary actually come out well on camera! I notice and admire your awareness to your nervous system Brian, I've actually got stories now since I've been letting myself be vulnerable, stepping into tension and appreciating with my eyes thanks to you! Great video can't wait for the rest of the miniseries!
@Justin Draxx you have a whole life ahead of you and that is a loaded question. Here is a video I did about what I would tell my younger self - th-cam.com/video/YyD6HIGG0Dg/w-d-xo.html , but what I would say is experience as much as possible and don't be afraid to make mistakes thats how you'll learn
Justin Draxx You should just know that life doesn’t work the way you think it does. Enlightenment is something you have to go through on your own. If it were as simple as somebody telling you and then boom you’re enlightened the world would be a very different place.
in my opinion the main thing that makes us appear needy in front of a woman is the deep desire to have sex and having a woman in front of you is a chance that no straight man wants to ever blow away, and then we try harder than we should thinking we are doing it right when in reality we couldn’t be doing it any more wrong, thats why men who are having sex more regularly or have a former relationship are more appealing to women and they go for them
True. Also my experience is that NoFap really helps with that in two ways:
First, you desexualise women and start seeing them as a human beings, you enjoy more their company, you put more attention on what they tell you, you enjoy more the interaction and the sexual tension per se; and not only as a mean to obtain sex.
Secondly, it teaches you that you can go along with sex. Is the same as fasting (that teaches you that you can keep going without food), NoFap makes you realise that if there is no sex in the end, or you'll have to wait, that is fine. You have been fighting the temptation to smash your sardine for weeks, now you know how to keep that need under control. Also is worth noting that, even though when you start NoFapping you have more sexual energy/libido, you learn how to keep it under control, and that is power.
Well they have so many rules wtf do you expect? Apparently now we have to look for subtleties while thinking of something to say n Fearless thinks he's helping? Best thing to do is give up till they stop the cruel mind games
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What did you mean by ‘have a former relationship’? I don’t understand the context. You mean an ex they go back to?
But I still appear needy even if I know "I don't give a shit if I blow it way!" Thinking you'r trying is different than actually trying. That would be my take on it lol
Truly gifted teacher who can demonstrate the needy and then the confident approach. Thanks for sharing the valuable insights.
Being creepy around Arya can be a dangerous business. I'd urge you to ask Walder Frey for confirmation, but word has it that he's indisposed at the moment
To avoid being creepy is to just feel comfortable and confident. I know it's easier said then done but it is possible
This video was very informative. I'm in a long-term relationship and I find myself still doing this. Looking for validation from my partner
love it Brian ,keep em comin
There are so many out there speaking about what you have to do, what to say or even how to think, but no one's told you how important is what you feel. I have never thought about that aspect of our being - the soul... Until I found this briliant man! Thank you, Brian! You are a geanius!
Well thank you! Glad this connected and hope we meet you at an event! TheFearlessMan.com/events
Please include camera angles where you can see more of yalls faces. Amazing video, well done.
I thought you wanna see a more clear angle of her ass😂
Great energy ! Only the confident really live 👏 No fear 🦁
Looking forward to the next ones!
Aria projects a warm, magnetic energy on this video.
Love the new format of videos Brian and love the demonstrations as well. I tend to find myself approaching women with that underlying sense of taking or neediness and I'm not sure how to get from a place of neediness to a place of abundance but I've almost read Letting Go the when way through and it's given me some great insights and the technique, while I'm not perfect at it, certainly helps me to move into a more comfortable and peaceful state of mind when approaching social situations and challenges in my life. Thanks again for all your work :)
Marvelous series - thank you
Great value!
I'm a bit worried I will forget to not be needy by watching your example of needyness, because that situation is so relatable to me
thanks a lot its so inspireing
Great stuff here
This video was very helpful in telling me how to not act creepy and Just Enjoy her and have a Good time. And to ultimately love myself and Bring her into the fun of being nervous around her
Aria is great!!
I love this video, great work Brian!
Glad you enjoyed!
TFM is so freakin awesome, great videos man!
Glad you’re enjoying! Hope we see you at an event! TheFearlessMan.com/events
So helpful. This is gold. Thank you!!
Very cool👌🏽
Crystal clear, thanks, awesome! :)
This really was something I needed. Goning to need help practicing.
This is my biggest wall I’ve made for myself and it’s definitely holding me back from a lot.
Damn I was so hungry after this type of videos... It´s always refreshing to remind my self the right energy in my body. Thanks man ... Great video as always
You are welcome there's more coming stay tuned
What a woman! Not needy, just an honest statement. Keep up the good work! ✌
Best coach , mann i had recently came across this channel and i m in love with it , there is much to relate , how to ground , how to be a man it helps not only in dating but also in daily life 💓 thanks for spreading such amazing content..✨✨
Excellent man, thanks! - Andrew, TFM Team
❤ so powerful Brian. When I first watched you I knew it was the missing link to dating I needed. You rock mate
This is different than RSD and the like. I'm liking this approach big time!
This is gold brothers, one more sub here.
Have no expectations
Hey thanks for the video. I’m sure you are teaching something which will get us to the next level. Approaching is hard enough so I must tell you though, you are highly discouraging new comers to approach girls because this will cause self doubts in approaching girls.
Your concluding remarks were great
I loved the video, do you have a product on how to improve my masculine energy and be better?
he knows how to pick women...she is perfect for this role, and just the right level of attractiveness that she is humble (or even unaware) about it. i love this guy's work and his attitude..thank you thank you, sir.
Absolutely love your work Brian, hope I can meet you someday. Do you think you will ever come down to Mexico?
You are welcome. Never say never. But at some point we want to do bootcamps in different places other than LA, NYC, MIami and Bucharest
to (loosely?) quote Zan Perrion, "vulnerablility is the pinnacle of masculinity" ...and she did react well to that. noted. good stuff.
this is amazing. And feels so
sincere. wow. and it works. I am so happy my journey led me here
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Some would say that your not needy but for the man to not to do all the work. Its ok to let her talk and pauses make her raise her level and it puts some responsibility for her to talk and carry the conversatoin. That a lot of girls need to be taught how to have a conversation because they are so used to guys doing it all they don't put in any effort or know
How. Thoughts?
I like this approach
I've been practicing Game for a year and it does have a lot to do with how relaxed you are during your interaction. I have been flirting with a family friend and she noticed a big change in my vibe ever since I started this journey. She even came up and a light punch in the arm and said that's how I express myself lol. Any physicality at all from a girl is positive. During our interaction, I was constantly leaning on stuff and had slighter wider stances when I stood up. After a while in a grounded myself even more and then she came over to me. You just gotta play around with the energy and see how grounded you need to be. I flirt with a lot of girls at work too so I'm used to it. I don't do physicality though. I let them do it and they usually do eventually. You shouldn't have to try. It will just happen naturally.
I get too scared even in the presence of women. How to stop it?
Here is the like # 600 for this video. You are a solid guy Brian, keep up the wonderful work :-)
Awesome awesome awesome!
Lover her giggle when he was playing nervous.
Second part please
Your content is awe some awe like
I don't know how you do it guys in studio to show how this look like but reaction of girl is amazising.
You are very helpful and good and it's fun to learn from you, I have an idea for you, a recommendation, if at the end of your video you make a short 15 second summary of what you talked about and go over it quickly to remember and refine
Did anyone watched that how turned on she was when he was near her.Now thats art.
:)
Absolutely!! She was getting uncomfortably comfortable!! 👍🇳🇮
5:11 Brian: "I'm getting in state, by the way.."
Aria: "Me too." 😂
Remove the need for validation with: owning your personal power/ authority/presence, gain tolerance with attention, gain tolerance with exposure, claim your worthiness to exist, battle the superiority/inferiority dynamic and replace it with dominance play. Still see people as equal, but realize that social dominance is a game. It's malleable. Winning a prominent place in the conversational frame will create opportunities for you.
I’m either needy or walled off I can’t find the middle ground
Matthew Scanlon I feel the same way , I fluctuate pretty frequently between being overly anxious and avoidant / dismissive in my relationship. I am starting to incorporate a regular meditation practice into my daily routine in order to get more emotionally grounded, however at times I get anxious and feel like it’s not “working” effectively or fast enough. @Fearless Man, any advice on finding middle ground?
Get your nervous energy down so you can just be normal, like how you are with your friends. Meditation and no fap
This is the video they don’t want you to see
lmfao
Lool
Really great content and valuable by her reactions...It's all foggy to me though. Do you have something more basic for someone who has no clue?
Crazy how when he gives them that eye contact all the girls look down afterwards.
What makes them looking down?
Could be a combination of things, but what comes to mind is she is showing signs of submission. Other things could be that she is bashful, embarrassed, or flattered.
Landon, TFM
So I've been having lots of success lately when applying what you teach, even my work life has improved, but I do have one question because it's where I primarily struggled in the past. (Not necessarily now)
How do you carry the same type of things into texting and phone conversation? Phone I feel is simpler than texting but definitely feel myself going back into my head when it gets to that point.
Your girl comes across a little bit insecure but in a cute way...
she cute like my hamster :3
I really think offering a handshake works really well. I've been reluctant to give out handshakes when introducing myself due to the stoopid c0v1d-19 crap, but people in this moment in time (December of 2021) are far less fearful of germs than they were a year ago and most won't mind shaking your hand. Just make sure they're clean and not sweaty! A confident handshake is really the key to initiating that first contact. You can touch the person and it's a natural welcomed gesture in American culture. So, I highly recommend guys work on their handshakes! Remember, give out a firm but not bone-crushingly firm handshake! You're not trying to break her hands but let her know you're confident and trustworthy!
What do you do when you can’t feel people? I see and hear the difference between each interaction but when you ask “Can you feel her pull away?” I see it but I don’t feel it.
It’s a shame that men have to go through this trying to “get” girls that bring nothing to the table.
Fortunately we don't actually. - Andrew, TFM Staff
Ok i just i really need some coaching
She still looked a little uncomfortable when you touched her...
Both times was creepy. Specially with the touching right away. Wtf.
Aria seems like a really attractive lady. Plus, she seems to like Brian because she kept playing with her hair especially during the end of the video.
I prefer his old girl forgot her name. But she was really cute..
Confused now. Previous videos, Brian said to step into tension, but here Aria said she felt safe. Wassup with that?
Ironically, I felt uncomfortable as a guy watching her fidget around
She’s really uncomfortable about something. Could be being filmed or something else.
Hi What do you think of the painting? What painting? I don't see any painting.
Brian you are amazing. Im quite hopeful you will be able to help me in the future. Im gonna look up your European sessions. Im listening to "Letting go" this week as you recommended. It s excellent. Any other book suggestions on opening up to vulnerability/decrease validation seeking please?
@HF we will be in Europe all May and June and later in there - defiantly come check us meet us - thefearlessman.com/events -
What do i do if i feel myself thinking when in an interaction instead of just being present and enjoying her?
It's simple one question we teach students to get out of their is instead of getting stuck in your head ask yourself - "what do I like about her" " what do I appreciate about her?" don't be analytical about it, just find something that you appreciate about the person in front of you. Once you do that she'll notice that you are enjoying her
Question for you, so I have spent the last year honing in on my social skills, I have been in a few relationships over the past 6 years, socialize well, generally approach with an abundance-centered mindset, love interacting with women-but have gotten told that I’m intimidating to talk to by quite a few of the ones I’m attracted to: even after building good rapport, sharing solid eye contact (which is when I’ve gotten told this on occasion), and introducing calibrated physical touch (this being the area that needs the most work atm.) Do you think there is a factor of me not establishing comfort soon enough that might bring girls this feeling? Or maybe something in my sub-communication that I’m unaware of?
I also notice sub-communications from women on a semi-frequent basis (quick-glances, lookaways, intentionally looking another direction, quickly distracting themselves) that seem to support this.
Good question because I feel that to. The difference they don't tell me but I can look at their body language and tell something isn't right. But its usually because of how I feel on the inside. True before you enter any where you have to feel comfortable and confident so maybe that might be it
Could you do a kino scalation
I couldn't really see the differences, it was all way too subtle. Does anyone mind explaining?
The thing is you can’t always approach a girl face to face like this. For some girls approaching head on creates too much tension.
Damn typos mine is tiger or ninja. We are talking magical names do you all talk to text so I apologize about these typos sometimes
All good, except the fact that you touch here when initiating contact, which is pretty creepy and needy at that stage, man!
I'm thinking if you ask their name first, they think you want something. What if you reversed it: 1. What do you think of the painting? 2. By the way, what's your name?
Hey Brian, I started off very well with a girl I've now asked to be my girlfriend. I was never needy and our conversations were great. I'm having trouble now getting back to a point where she's the one that wants to initiate conversations and we can just talk for hours. The energy isn't there and I know it's my fault. It's also long distance most of the time. I want to get her back to where she's the one bugging me and wanting attention all the time, but I don't know how to spike her interest again, and keep it, without being needy. Advice?
She also came closer when he was doing it right at around 7:50, subconscious sign
If that creepy scary bold guy all dressed in black with the horror movie cross and the pervert-chainsmoker voice can be a master in the art of making girls chase him, just imagine what normal men are capable of being!!
patoloco1000 he looks like a bootleg johnny sins but creepy lmfao
He is hot and beautiful 💖 imho and it's a normal Cross so while you are entitled to your opinion I disagree.
He has a very good voice. You sound jealous.
Well, I may be offing myself soon at this point. I guess there’s just some part of me that refuses to accept and like myself. Insecurities completely controlling my every impulse at this point. Just very fatigued. Not sure I’ll ever feel good enough as I am. Extremely shocked I’m at this point in life. Not doing this for attention. Just getting this off my chest because I’ve never talked to anyone about it. Good luck to those who are making this journey as well.
How you doing brother?
Hi brian. Is their a way i can release on being needy?
owen 123 this is a really good question
Have an abundance mindset...
The biggest reason for neediness is overthinking.
Think of solutions yourself
@owen 123 yes check out our playlist on releasing and go through the videos and keep a look out we should be releasing a releasing audio soon - th-cam.com/play/PLuXeW0mZF4UyYe1jeaXZ64ZT0FX4-nfnZ.html
Aria nice model gorgeous best one yet
What is the difference between seeking validation (“please like me”) and a self-fulfilling prophecy “oh she is not going to like me”?caring about validation and concluding it’s going to fail leading us to validation-seeking? Or the other way around? So because we are seeking validation at firs, we give up and whenever we do an interaction we foresee our failure. It doesn't even matter whether she likes you or not. Your brain already decided it's all a waste. What would you title this eternal affirmation then?
when you come off as too indiferent, it's not good either. She need to feel attraction from your side but not neediness and that where i don't know how to apply it
There’s a difference between indifference and relatability, I believe you’re mixing the two
Can you enjoy the crashing waves of the ocean or a beautiful piece of artwork without needing anything from it?
Theres a girl in my neighborhood she fell excited when i am excited but she close when i am anxious, its very clear how she feel me at distance... Should i hold atention in bely and lower?
This take some time i guess. Thing is when you in front of a beautiful woman that you really like, you are somehow going to be nervous because of your turn on. So subconsciously the neediness its going to show at that moment
Brian good actor skills. Me as an actor i can tell you are doing. you put pressure
on her. hilarious
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Hi Brian do you do yoga? I have a theory yoga opens people up energetically and you look like you might so wanted to see.
Last year I had a chance encounter with Brian at a cafe and we ended up chatting for some time that day. I don't think he does yoga.
But I personally have done yoga and I'd say that make sure all the asanas that you do leave you grounded in the end with a clear sense of opening in your chakras. And by doing Sarvangasana I was able to feel energy flow from head to toe in my body, resulting in a powerful grounding.
Another piece of kind advise- if you're a beginner, don't do yoga on your own, could be harmful. Get an instructor 🙂
@@manusharma1518 thanks man!
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