How to Respond to Racism
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Ignoring racism won't make it go away, 🤷🏾♂️🤷🏾♂️
We’ve been addressing it for centuries and that won’t make it go away either
Then can you tell me how to respond to this? Why no single comment actually write in details? And plus, I know that in america they are promoting antiracism, asian lives matter, so have you even posted that you advocate this on your instagram or actually joined the protesters?
But you shouldn’t give people what they want.
@Geniusmind14 we haven't that's the thing. This a pretty recent thing of standing up against racism. And you've seen the effect with the civil rights movement.
That's what I've been saying for years, that just let's them get away with it!!!!
As a black person I completely disagree, you have to confront racism or it will follow you forever. Casual racism eventually becomes violent and is extremely dangerous to everyone. It has the potential to be damaging in your career especially in an office environment.
Exactly!! If you are calm and relaxed about it, racism virus will never stop inside someone's veins.
Notice how he didn't mention black people. It kinda came off as him saying other minority don't practice this behavior.
@@blackloki9He did.
Elias8294. You ain’t wrong. The way I see it negative situations need to be avoided. Or there will be huge regrets. It really is part of life. Abuse should be avoided..
As another black person, I would say don't confront it because 9 times out of 10 it's either some worthless dreg you will never meet again or another black person.
You make it sound like you're fighting real oppression from a white majority when we both know other minorities (that black people are racist to) and other black people are the most racist people you will run into on average.
Having racist values passed to you by your parents/peers/siblings is NOT an excuse for racism. It is a big deal and people need to know when they're crossing the line.
When you are young like you, it's easier to recover from racism. After years of enduring the same behavior, it wears you down. You come to the realization that it's never going to end. I can feel it making me physically ill.
This is how I feel. It is like I have to deal with it my whole life. Very exhausting.
I’m so sorry you feel this way. You matter so much and an important soul above everything always remember. Don’t feel let down by humanoids who have 0 rhythm lol. And they won’t try to tear us down if we weren’t a threat
Yeah
You cant ignore it you got to stand up for yourself and your people. No African American is going to be quiet when they get called the N word so same thing should go to Asian Americans.
YES!! THIS , IGNORING IS GOING TO MAKE THE PROBLEM WORST.
And natives and everyone else lol
And white people have not been given an easy role of taking care of all other people as watching SOME work hard and SOME hardly work. Standing up for your own is admirable but we all need to consider the others roles here…no matter how many people we provide for wether through taxes or donations or time, sacrificing time even lives for others go totally unrecognized…what? Just hand over the country…lol is this a robbery…more? Shameful actions…is it racist to observe the actions of a group well that makes me racist then I don’t care ..I’ll take the word, at least it’s better than living a lie. I had many family members die for others freedom ..repetition anyone?some of the most racist are ones pointing fingers…I think racism comes from blame, want, envy, and mistrust and misunderstanding hatred for all that. Crimes against others are shameful ugly acts done in past and also today.
That’s some toxic positivity bs.
Racism should never be tolerated period. Disappointing when people give advice who do not have expertise in this area.
How can you not take it personally? They are degrading you. Even though they got their values from their family they still know better. I personally would do my best to not be around them. Also being racist does make you not only wrong but stupid!!! I appreciate your thoughts though.
"Racism is not a big deal" huh? PERIOD.
"don't take it personally"
sounds like my toxic friend.
mom*
I think there are good messages in what you say but you are wrong when you say that it ain't a big deal. It's a huge deal, but we also indeed need to not lower ourselves to their levels, be polite and to have a real conversation of how we are feeling and what is right and wrong.
WRONG!
IT IS A BIG DEAL
it's not personal, It's not about you.
It's about the person doing the behavior.
I thought this video would give me some helpful tips but It doesn’t. His methods are the same mistakes I did when dealing with racists, and it did not end well.
This dood doesn’t know what real racism is
How
My name is Khalil. I work in an office space where everything is relaxed. Last week I heard a colleague refer to me as being part of Hamas (the terrorist organization) at the time I brushed it off my shoulders and didn’t think much because the person immediately ran out and went home. In retrospect I feel bad for this person. I wonder why ppl do not like Muslims and Jewish ppl and the crazy thing is that I am Christian…
Feeling discriminated is the worst, this video made me feel better , thank you
Abuse doesn’t happen just from other races but yes can be bad. Sometimes it’s people in same race. All negative situation need be avoided.
Oh he's advocating for pushover mentality. Worst, he's rationalizing the other sides behaviour for them. Bye.
I used to live with someone who couldn’t afford buying a house for her and her son. One day, she mentioned this to me directly and says, because all your Chinese come here buying so many houses, now the government raising the housing price up which made me as a local can’t afford to buy one, instead of renting paying someone else’s mortgage. She just keep blaming on me repeatedly. WTF... 😒
What can I say to that? By the way, I’m renting too.
She's a peasant
call that racist bitch out
She can’t blame anyone else but herself 😂 what has she been doing for all her life? No wonder she can’t afford a house, especially with that mindset.
Angelaxu are you in U.K.?
At a point of time you realize that racists or bigots, can’t hold themselves accountable they blame others for the shortcomings when historically they’ve had ample opportunity to get their life together, but they rather criticize all the time and have a negative outlook for things instead of being positive or having anything positive to say, its really mental illness but it it covered by “racism”
This guy has no experience of racism.
Yes
I agree.
True
@solt solt
Racism against asians is cute, try being an Arab in the Middle East.
I know ot doesn't make sense but the middle east even have tribe racism lol.
@@thewiseass895 “racism is cute” girl what the hell are you okay? please get help 💀👍🏿
if someone influenced them to have this kind of mind set, Then you can influence them back and show them that this is not acceptable. you can do it either verbally or physically... everyone learns differently if you know what I'm saying.
Words don’t mean much -- think of how many people have heard the word’s I love you and then find out that love was not the truth…but actions of wanting to take what you own or some advantage over another -hurting another’s body is a criminal act and should be taken somewhat differently (thinking of a case of a child) but also love and forgiveness of the offended person expressing that toward the racist after apology both actions of the racist and the victim of racism is act of love. Racism should be stopped at childhood age…it’s very judgmental …I would also like to add that there are those that provoke racist feelings and that is also worse than has been spoken about before…I have seen that done on both sides it’s very ugly. Nothing good comes from these feelings acted out to hurt each other. I’m always happy when I see the strength of the bullied take the better road..
I love your tips. I should start listening more often to advice from people with asian origin. You have such a wonderful way of being... The most productive and upbeat people in the room. I have to listen more often to your ways of thinking and give them to my child.
I like the 4 Agreements, but at a certain point, you really do need boundaries. Don Miguel Ruiz talks about cutting ties w/hypocrisies because it only hurts you in the end.
If African Americans didn’t “take it personally” (racism, oppression) they would’ve still endured the worst kinds of physical, mental, and financial enslavement of the colonial past.
At a certain point, you gotta say No when No means NO!
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
This happens a lot within the woo woo world.... a misunderstanding spiritual and philosophical concepts. Transpersonal awarenesses, meaning not taking it personal, understanding the bigger picture, not demonizing perpetrators and forgiveness is for your personal and emotional healing. This is internal work for your well-being. This does not mean perpetrators (of any kind) should not be held accountable or addressed.
I don’t “take it personal” when someone attacks me. I still address it and hold them accountable socially and legally when it’s applicable.
No significant social injustices are rectified until they are called out and perpetrators are held accountable.
Transpersonal tactics are not effective in dealing with behavioral actions. Use the right tools for the right task.
Its hard to ignore it when you're already going through a ton of cr*p and have no support system.
Off topic question but just curious what was you favourite champion from LoL
Noted. Thank you 🙏
Great piece of advice, thanks so much. You posted 7 years ago and it serves me today. Yes, you are right. There is nothing to do with me, it is them. Personally, I choose to forgive and forget. I live my life in peace.
My advice. Any negative situation. Get the F out or it will get worse. From experience.
nah if someone is racist im fighting thme
Im the supervisor and I received a comment. But I ignored it and told them to get back to work. IM the boss here😭
Not really helpful at all!
You have to make it a BIG deal and it is a BIG deal. If we are not stand up for ourselves and confront racisim headon, we are not doing ourselves a favor. Ppl who have racist opinions are not going to be educated just because you are negotiating with them and finding out why they do that. These ppl do that because they are just racist. I don't mean you have to use violence or anything against the law, you must be firm, calling them out, making them realize that it is not acceptable behavior. You may not change ppl's view straight away, but you need to make it clear to them that it is very wrong and they need to shut up.
Then you tell me, how do you stand up? I want to hear some ‘success’ stories, not just a criticism towards him.
Very helpful thank you🔥
No and No and No.
Stand the fuck up for yourself
confront racists expose them and if needed fight them.
I am dealing with racism on the job. I even have recording submitted ot to the EEOC, and 2 other people reported it to the EEOC. And the crazy part I have emails and recording and I still have to report to him and they won't fire him. I reported it the the director of HR and the president of the company nothing happened
I completely disagree. You're saying that you shouldn't take it personal. You assume that people take it personally. I think you actually don't understand what racism is. Racism is not aimed at the individual. So you can't take it personally. Racism is aimed at a GROUP. If someone said something unkind to me personally, it would become an insult. But when it's something unkind about the group I belong to, it's racism. Racism hurts more than personal insults. You just don't understand.
Nerimank regardless all negative abuse need avoided. It affects mental health. Narcissistic, racists, extreme racists, absolute nutters!
thank you as a qasimi this helped me a lot
How you feel about the Fox news China town segment? That stuff used tired stereotypes and intermingling China with Karate and a Korean dojang.
1:43 but if you never blame anyone it never stops. Because those people will get it from their parents and so on you have to start blaming the person being racist and making them take responsibility for their actions that's the only way people MIGHT learn.
What if they were talking about chasing you and burning your home while in the restaurant?
What if you tell administration but they don't do nothing about it ? It can escalate in that form and you still don't get anywhere.
I'm sorry dude. You are clearly not the person to talk about this. Not reacting, not taking it personally is part of the problem. I know this video is a little old so I hope you are more educated on this matter now. Racism is a BIG Deal! Your air quotes does not help the matter. Please don't preach without knowing the implications of your words.
My bully has autism so everything I ask him to stop he gets lost
👉Solution: GoPro camera and 24/7 Livestream, followed by lawsuits or settlements.💫
There’s a guy in my friends comment section that told him to go back to Pakistan, and said that he supports Osama Bin Laden, is a terrorist etc. I tried to back him up but now the racist guy’s turning on me. He even brought my parents into this.
My friends channel: Gameswithzee
Video: no building challenge.
It would be appreciated if some of you guys with experience helped :).
Redo this question. In today's weird upsidedown world, as opposed to 7 years ago, it isn't slurs anymore. It's elimination. From colleges and universities. From land. From others telling me how to feel about myself as a woman, or man, or child playing dressup. It isn't slurs anymore. The world has gone way passed that.
Yep I am cause they tried to pick on a SP Ed but I'm a cb I won
I'm talking about racist towards religion
Don't encourage ignorance! Stand up to racism! If someone calls you N....... call them racist!!!
Ignoring racism doesn't make it better
HashTag#Accountability....
It becomes personal once they are racist in my face
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I don't think i'm getting bullied but there is one guy in my class who tries to bully me with the fact that i'm chinese. today i was about to lose my temper and was about to hit him...
JustZheng stay strong bro.
thanks...
but getting picked on is a natural part of growing up, not serious insults but joking and playing around isn't much of a deal
PAPike yeah but this guy is being picked on just for being Chinese. That's serious
Poke Man not really
Thanks for your video, Richard, you're the best :)
I’m black people are making racist comments about me any tips?
Shit, be racist back
@@Zero_Punch yes
Yep I made history
So there’s this guy, he says he is white and says the N word, says KKK for life, and says the black people are a mistake. How do I respond to that? (And by the way he said it online, not face to face)
Didn’t you just say the nword wtf
wtf this guy just laughed
Nah!
I won’t accept racism. Words carry weight. I will make the racist know how heavy those words are by ruining them
How could you say the n word that is not your word to say
Not your word? Haha.... when asians are called chinky eyes in black hiphop songs with all those distorted sexuality towards asian women... please direct your anger to white ppl, not a fellow attacked victims
@@yeongseolee NOBODY can say the n word except black people it's literally a racial slur
Thanks recommended lol
There so many racist in canada and it's really bad.
Girlfriends brother is hella rasist and the longer we stay together the more im gonna have to see him ;-;
What does your girlfriend say about this? If she's allowing this to happen she's not for you.
@@tomatobastardo2637 nope she really wants me to stay away for the most part, like shielding me from him but i met him already, I assured her it was better now than never and we went to her house, I actually met him and he was actually nice to me which was a shocker
Doesn't sound like you've actually suffered from it and you're giving advice. As an asian female who has accent, I do get affected in many ways. Microaggression with deceiving smiles is more common than name calling or straight up bullying, and people have to suck it up or fight for their small rights just because we're colored living in North America. Maybe the racistic treatments have not been as evident to you as to the people who has lived in Asia longer than you did and shows more asian culture or accents. So you might not be the most suitable person to give advice since you don't even understand the suffering people go through because of this
It is a big deal, my son was told at school go hop on the border. So I told my son next time a white kid tells you that, tell them to find their 🚢 and seal away
As a black player I know how to respond to racesim
Loads glock*
@@ita9550 …….
Sure. Troll.
Chooses the wrong subject to try and be an influential social media you should have talked about something else brother
This is the most asinine advice on racism yet. How can you ignore the psychological abuse that destroys a person from the inside out? Remove this video immediately.
Great video, and so true! Thank you for sharing
This is extremely disappointing advice. It gaslights the victims of racism and spiritually bypasses the vey real implications and suffering that racist behavior causes. My husband and I were victims of a hate crime at our home on Christmas Eve and we had to fight for our lives. Speaking in a loving way to our attacker was not an option and actually can endanger someone further. You should really be more informed and actually speak to victims of racism before belittling their experiences and telling them to be more compassionate to their attackers. I am appalled by this video and ashamed that it is coming from a fellow AAPI during a time of so much racism and violence targeted towards our communities.
Did... he just say the n word...
So what? Other races say chinky chong those things. It’s the same, do not over protect a certain race, not only black lives matter but all lives matter too.
freakin coward. guess this guy will just be a bystander when he encounters a racist incident. he won't help.
Agreed.
You don't know what racism actually is.
I experienced racism recently. An oriental man (maybe he was Indian or Chinese, I dont know, something weird like that) spoke to me but he didn't refer to me as "lord", "master", "king", "bossman", nothing. I was literally shaking. Now I know the true meaning of racism
I'm racist because of racist abuse
Sorry, but this is useless stuff. Telling people to "not take it personally," is not equipping them with the tools for DEALING with those situations. And, expecting to actually engage with someone resorting to racist slurs?? What a joke!!
But, who they are is racist. . . Why would you accept that? Casual name calling can be the most harmful. Sooo. . . You've never experienced racism. You shouldn't speak on things that you don't know about.
This is what your dad told you when you got roasted by kids at school :)
My Dad told me to beat the shit out of those mother fuckers lol
What a donut 😂
Really bad at explaining...
Uhm your cute 😍
This dood doesn’t know what real racism is