I like the good doctor’s take on this message. The only thing I would add, which my mentor gave me years ago, would be if you don’t have four hours find 30 minutes; every day. That made all the difference especially with a fully time job and three, very young kids. The flip side is that if you don’t make the time, you won’t have that time.
What great advice! This is definitely a struggle for us. My wife and I both have had setbacks in life that basically bankrupted us and we had to start over in our mid 30's. Now in our mid 40's we have things on track but it has come at the expense of just work, work, work, all the time. Having our ducks in a row, enjoying our golden years with young kids, seems to be a mirage that we never reach. I get this "Cat's in the cradle" feeling that we will never have time for them until they're adults and out of the house. We need change but it's hard, we're still having to work all the time to keep the lights on.
Well, if I spend some of my evening time watching your videos, is the time really lost? I don't t think so. That being said, you speak words of wisdom. I found your channel one weak ago and it is amazing.
I knew immediately what you meant when you said it. I want to be free of the 9 to 5 but figuring out a skill I can do on the side is....difficult to say the least
Thank you for this video. There is a lot of truth in it. But I personaly love my job, and I am more motivated when I work, because I do something meaningful. I don't have more energy on weekends and holidays, but less somehow. I am happy to be a doctor. And it was good, that I could work even in Covid pandemic. I would have gone mad without it.
I agree on the What, but now talk more about the How. How do you resolve the issue of working for a living wage (practical) vs living for yourself (ideal)?
This one is a crusher. I normally don't think this way. Apart from starting my own business, or working a part time job or I guess having funky work hours to preserve my "golden hours" what could I do to put myself first?
Yeah, i have the same question. I understand the issue but we need a practical soloution. And i don’t think quitting your 9 to 5 would be easy and wise
I used to charge more for my "brightest hours" and less for my "dumb hours", in cases where I can control the charging. But at the end I still got crumbs!
I've often thought that the 8 hour work day was curated to get the maximum amount of work out of a person, whilst leaving them just enough free time to carry out personal tasks.
It's not easy to do, but it is possible. The issue is that most people can't start it all at once. They first need to create the structure that can support this possibility -- which can take years. But if it's going to take a while, you might as well get started. Your best bet would likely be to liberate your earning from your time, which would probably entail starting your own business. It's very hard to not eat crumbs when you have a full-time job. Developing a part-time income stream to replace the day job will take a while, but that would also mean that the childcare will decrease commensurately as the kids grow, enter school, and become more self-sufficient.
This video is great.... After watching a few other it's evident you're too deep to see clearly. As an intelligent person I hope your perspective shifts closer to reality. I hope you have mental health professionals for yourself. We all benefit from them, no matter who you are. Its alarming to hear your view of things. I've tried really hard to be respectful, to put it plainly your perspective is dangerous and antiquated. When was the last time you took a vacation or went somewhere you got to experience a different way of life? Too much time in our own bubble can be detrimental. Here's the bit of snark I have, go touch grass. I'm making assumptions but wish you are emotionally intelligent enough to read this as it's intended.
888 8 hours of personal (play, chores, hobbies) 8 hours of public contribution (work) 8 hours of sleep/healing/recharging THAT is life balance. Anything else is fucked up.
This channel is a hidden gem. I have learnt soo much. Thank you sir!
Thanks for the praise, lost soul. I hope you'll keep coming back and help spread the message to others.
@PsycHacks I have been watching lots of your videos lately particularly with regards to relationship and I absolutely concur, its a gem
Agreed. So helpful ! I particularly liked ‘The complaint of modern women’
Same
This is a gem I’ve been watching and sharing this videos every day, love and respect to him 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
2:02: "people give the best hours of their day, for the best years of their lives, to somebody else.."
well, yeah! that is the point
@@nonedermis4611 He's juxtaposing a person giving these premium life hours to the world, vs how much they give to themselves. Moment to reflect.
I like the good doctor’s take on this message. The only thing I would add, which my mentor gave me years ago, would be if you don’t have four hours find 30 minutes; every day.
That made all the difference especially with a fully time job and three, very young kids.
The flip side is that if you don’t make the time, you won’t have that time.
What great advice! This is definitely a struggle for us. My wife and I both have had setbacks in life that basically bankrupted us and we had to start over in our mid 30's. Now in our mid 40's we have things on track but it has come at the expense of just work, work, work, all the time. Having our ducks in a row, enjoying our golden years with young kids, seems to be a mirage that we never reach. I get this "Cat's in the cradle" feeling that we will never have time for them until they're adults and out of the house. We need change but it's hard, we're still having to work all the time to keep the lights on.
Thanks
Well, if I spend some of my evening time watching your videos, is the time really lost? I don't t think so.
That being said, you speak words of wisdom.
I found your channel one weak ago and it is amazing.
I knew immediately what you meant when you said it. I want to be free of the 9 to 5 but figuring out a skill I can do on the side is....difficult to say the least
Its going to be interesting to see this guy hit 100k subs, which I'm confident that he will
He will. He’s just one video away from blowing up.
@@ABC-jq7ve I will be happy to be here for the day that he is on Jordan petersons podcast.
@@psidianculpa5929 Should be any time now haha.
I just found your channel and I love the way you teach. Subscribed. Continue the great work!
Thanks, Mae. I hope you enjoy the content!
3:17: "Examine whether you're getting a fair trade for those hours..."
Thank you for this video. There is a lot of truth in it. But I personaly love my job, and I am more motivated when I work, because I do something meaningful. I don't have more energy on weekends and holidays, but less somehow. I am happy to be a doctor. And it was good, that I could work even in Covid pandemic. I would have gone mad without it.
Thank you so much I needed to hear this.
I agree on the What, but now talk more about the How. How do you resolve the issue of working for a living wage (practical) vs living for yourself (ideal)?
I agree totally. Examining alternatives
Thank you for this.
This one is a crusher. I normally don't think this way. Apart from starting my own business, or working a part time job or I guess having funky work hours to preserve my "golden hours" what could I do to put myself first?
Yeah, i have the same question. I understand the issue but we need a practical soloution. And i don’t think quitting your 9 to 5 would be easy and wise
so true! thank you for reminding me
Great message. Thanks!
Great idea, but could you please provide an example of how to do this?
Brilliant!
Gold!
So true
I thought you'd appreciate this one :)
Nailed it. Good video.
Love this! Thank you so much! Your channel is so helpful to me.
Anybody wanna go for a hike!? I love to spend my time doing that. In nature. It’s absolutely the best. Wanna go?
I used to charge more for my "brightest hours" and less for my "dumb hours", in cases where I can control the charging. But at the end I still got crumbs!
I've often thought that the 8 hour work day was curated to get the maximum amount of work out of a person, whilst leaving them just enough free time to carry out personal tasks.
Very insightful!
Man I wish I realized this 10 years ago!!!!!!
I'm definitely going to change my availability at my job to 11-7 or 12-8
I like the title
I’d love some examples of how to do this when you work full time and are raising children.
It's not easy to do, but it is possible. The issue is that most people can't start it all at once. They first need to create the structure that can support this possibility -- which can take years. But if it's going to take a while, you might as well get started.
Your best bet would likely be to liberate your earning from your time, which would probably entail starting your own business. It's very hard to not eat crumbs when you have a full-time job. Developing a part-time income stream to replace the day job will take a while, but that would also mean that the childcare will decrease commensurately as the kids grow, enter school, and become more self-sufficient.
I am a student that lives in india going through lots of difficulties, i need to talk to you but your consultation is absolutely unaffordable for me
This video is great....
After watching a few other it's evident you're too deep to see clearly. As an intelligent person I hope your perspective shifts closer to reality. I hope you have mental health professionals for yourself. We all benefit from them, no matter who you are. Its alarming to hear your view of things. I've tried really hard to be respectful, to put it plainly your perspective is dangerous and antiquated.
When was the last time you took a vacation or went somewhere you got to experience a different way of life? Too much time in our own bubble can be detrimental. Here's the bit of snark I have, go touch grass. I'm making assumptions but wish you are emotionally intelligent enough to read this as it's intended.
You're so good looking
That is capitalism.built of exploitation..Don’t expect less..Maybe if we can open out eyes for better system..
888
8 hours of personal (play, chores, hobbies)
8 hours of public contribution (work)
8 hours of sleep/healing/recharging
THAT is life balance.
Anything else is fucked up.