26 years of ADHD: Here's what I learned
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 3 มิ.ย. 2024
- If you want to learn how to focus, stay consistent and build fulfilling relationships (despite your adhd) follow these life lessons.
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0:00 - Lesson Overview
1:02 - Lesson 1: Dopamine
4:08 - Lesson 2: People
5:47 - Lesson 3: Novelty
7:21 - BONUS Lesson
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In this video Nik goes over how to beat procrastination, executive paralysis, low motivation and focus, and what he learned after 26 years of having adhd. He hopes this video was able to boost your dopamine.
Disclaimer: All my content is based on my own experience and/or research/observations from licensed professionals. Just because you do these things, doesn’t necessarily mean you have ADHD. If you think you might have it, please look to get officially diagnosed by a professional.
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Friends! Should I upload more long form content like this?
Yes pls! And thank you! 🙏🏽
👍 yes
Any content from you is great!
Definitely helps a lot thank you
Yes please!
“Your brain is allergic to boredom” - I hadn’t thought of it that way… I like it!
That is the main thing of ADHD. You need action, you need danger, then you are best version of you. I loved army and succeed there, because it was never boring, always was something going on. There was so many peoples in small spaces in the barracks/tents we lived in the wintery forests and so many things to laught, that brain stimulation was 24/7, and i got to drive a heavy battle tank :D Good times! Greeting From Finland to all of You Fellow Squirrels out there 🐿
I saw that and went, "Oh. Oh, my. That makes so much sense."
I dont know if i have adhd but this comment resonates with me. Now im out of the navy and I feel bored and directionless. Im used to moving all the time and constantly doing interesting stuff. And suddenly thats gone. Ive even thought about moving cities again or doing extended travel for something new and exciting again. @@GolfinKunnanMestari
The best way for me to get natural Dopanine , is dancing around in my home with happy music and the interactions with my two dogs and two cats... 😊
🎶😺😺😊
I compose.
Happiness creates dopamine, do something that makes you happy and the dopamine will happen simultaneously, and that will keep neuroscientists happy.
I do that too but sadly my two 🐶🐶 passed away in my arms within 3 months 😢 one was 15 & was slowing down more everyday so it was expected. The other was misdiagnosed which I learned afterwards. Anyway I had no idea doing this dancing released dopamine! I just knew all 4 (1 😻) were having fun. I just found this fella here looking forward ADHD help. Just from this video he has helped!He’s so calming & gives so much hope to me. Can’t wait to listen to him more 😊
Love this!! Thank you!!
I’m a ghoster. I’ve let many friendships go across my lifetime and I have so much guilt and shame and sadness. 😢
I also use to remove those friends who leave me on read
As have I. At 60 I’m letting that guilt go & being kind to myself. I remind myself I am of a generation that didn’t recognize ADD/ADHD in girls or women. We just had to muscle through moment by moment, carrying the shame of being different. I’ve done my best & suffered enough. My plate was full & I was so very exhausted & anxious most of the time. Now I need to live.
You did the best thing for both sides. You can't keep up with the friendship and they would feel hurt from being ignored so it's better to move on. Even without ADHD, friends and relationships come and go. Learn to be kinder and forgive yourself.
@@amilee7580 thanks for your kind and wise words xx
I'm more of a squirter myself
Holy!!! The older I get, the more ADHD takes over my life! I lived a normal life and when I get my 50's all hell broke loose. This is all me!
Right, I am 44 and I think it has been the worst it has ever been for me, it's causing me some real problems now... maybe I didn't care so much when I was younger, I am not sure but it's really getting in my way recently.
Literally sitting here dealing with this right now trying to explain to my husband that even I don't understand why I am happy some weeks and then sad for weeks. The roller coaster is so absolutely exhausting.
That's me too, and that feeling that you're never relaxed and content well for a moment, like I might be in the park, listening to the birds with the sun shining and it's all bliss but then i come out of that and it's like I am in and out of work, what's exciting now? And then I wasted hours just chatting on social media because I felt alone and wanted dopamine but even when you're with someone it's not the answer as I still feel like I am not in control
@@deanVodkahouse I can relate completely. I'm my relationship I feel I at least have an equal amount of control, but even then it's so lonely if youre not truly connected. I wish I knew who I really was when I got married. We were both in full fledged addiction and so disfunction al back then. Thank God we're both over 5 yrs sober, but we're absolutely nothing alike and have nothing in common but the love for our son. Wow didn't expect to go on that rant lol. I do believe in miracles though so I am still holding out for one for our marriage. Best of luck to you 🍀
@@sherileyva5908 go for it, it's good to let it out to others who can understand. All ill say is you don't always need to share lots of the same interests as what's important is sharing that connection with one and another. Good luck to you too x
I know… same. I feel like a crazy person
The husband is the head. The woman is the neck that turns it.
Or something like that.
Craft a way to make him think it was his idea.
Or is that just a movie myth?
Men love to be persuaded, in my opinion. I'm a 61 year old adhd aspy gentleman.
Men, it's pride. What are they proud of? We're still boys.
Adhd is a wild ride. I like the tips. They really make sense.
Healthy dopamine. 👍
My favourite way of getting somewhat healthy dopamine is getting into a hyperfocus state. I can easily trigger it with studying whatever is interesting for me at the moment. It's great, I feel really good, I get insights, but - I can barely do anything about what's not interesting to me,including work, unfortunately.
Feelings are not facts. If it interferes with work, that sounds like it does not work.
@@JakeRichardsong Well it sorta works since when I'm pumped up with what interests me, I can get distractred with the actual work and do some of it. Apparently it's good enough, since I got a raise recently. But not good enough for me, I'd rather have a better solution.
On the other hand if I just push myself to do boring work, I just get miserable, zero progress and also get guilty for not being able to do anything. So that works worse.
Hyperfocus is common amongst people with ADHD. It is one the problems they have to deal with, because most often the hyperfocus is not on the things they need to do.
@@loganmedia1142 correct
@@mr_lemma I just watched a woman say that you should do things that are enjoyable before doing the hard work, as it raises the dopamine to get the difficult task done.
if someone with adhd can produce a video this high quality than life still can be good for me ❤
Actually most highly successful people you see have it.
Had to watch this three times. Got distracted
1+
That's funny. Me, too
Typical us 😂
I'm literally commenting while watching, and I'm not sure what I've missed. It's fine, I'm used to it by now.
I had to rewind, as a always do :/. I’m will do investoagstion now, I’m 28 but almost certain I have it. It would not suprise me.
Very interesting, explains why I've struggled with drug addiction for 20 years H is the only thing that slows my mind down ,8 months clean btw 😊
congrats brother!
this. I am shocked you got off of H I am proud of you. That is one hard drug to kick, I can't understand it personally, but that is amazing after 20 years. Glad you never got fentanyl and died.
Look in that mirror everyday and say out loud how proud you are to be so strong, so brave, so wonderful!
Congrats that's huge!!
You will have ups and downs, but i can tell you from personal experience, (more than 10years clean, I don't remember how long anymore and don't care😊) the more time that passes the more your body will normalize until it will be nothing more than a bad memory that you have moved past. But use it to remind yourself how prone you are to addictions. Stay with it, It's the best thing you have ever done for yourself! God bless.
running is the best source of dopamine for me, if i get up and go running in the morning, no matter how bad my day is, i can always seem to muscle through it.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporessss I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporessss
Music is my dopamine. And I love to dance with it!
Dancing By Myself to favourite music (with uplifting truth lyrics) does it for me. Moving my body in a very present way affects...I don't know... EVERYTHING
Putting my feet down onto a cold floor, drinking some cold Kefir, standing outside in the early morning, cup of coffee, feed my cats - this is how I get moving.
Why the cold floor? I do it too. Our marble entrance is always cold and always feels good.
The cold floor levels out the cortisol release from fight/flight/ freeze [stress, maybe hot flashes).
@@lynnparadis954 that is really interesting thank you
coffee is a heavily addicting drug that scams you th-cam.com/video/SBaX0jEYsjU/w-d-xo.html
I love Kerfir 😅
I'm 62 years old and just found out recently that I'm ADHD. Your content has opened my eyes, wow I wish I was told sooner. 😢
💙🙏🏼
I’m 63 and just realized!
It dawn on me about 2 years ago and I just turned 54, it has helped me, it's given new less shaming context to a lot of past failures. Now I re frame them and feel compassion for myself trying again and again and again, to a cacophony of "you just need to apply yourself"
So did you start meds?
Same. I'm 58 and am just discovered what ADHD is. It explains my life exactly.
Was diagnosed with ADHD 10 months ago now, I’m39 and struggled with motivation, depression for most of my life. 6 years ago I got into surfing with a mate of mine and since then my whole life has changed drastically. I surf about 2-3 times a week, go to the gym most other days, now living my best life!
Awesome!! 🤙🏾
that is awesome, good on you !
I was surfing every day for almost 30 years and it kept my ADHD in check , now I’ve moved to a landlocked state and I’m finding it very difficult to find new ways to manage it.
Get a skateboard 🛹🛹🛹
@@mikedavidson1970 been skating , and have an amazing park , but it’s AZ , so a few months of the year are difficult
Meditation for at least 30mins a day is an absolute game changer!!!
@@jamesshepard4743hiking bro, I’m in Tucson and hike at least twice a week
Nothing replaced the sea, the sand and the waves. Try to move back where you can surf again
Cutting out sugar and adding saffron to my diet has reduced my depression.
Saffron ?
Yup, look it up - it’s a biggie…
the sugar thing is so conflicting, it's either people encourages you to leverage it for dopamine or tell you to avoid it
@@kamote192 Processed sugar causes significant inflammation
I have saffron, how much you take?
I haven't been diagnosed with adhd but I have discovered I am an infp personality type and its crazy how similar the two are. I get low energy quick and overstimulated and overwhelmed by people and the environment. I'm needing breaks whenever I start to feel irritated or flustered or completely depleted. So videos like this are beneficial even though I haven't actually been diagnosed with adhd. 😊
Omg I'm an infp too and think I have adhd too. I get torn between spending time with my best friend on the weekend and just staying home and doing nothing
I am an INFP too and I agree. The personality traits feel so similar.
I ghost as it helps me lose toxic relationships, i focus, so I am super competitive at work, and I can meditate (and develop faster) for hours. I've used my adhd productively and travelled, lived and worked around the world. Keep well all use your brain to get the most out of life.
What job you guys do? I still struggle to focus and find a meaningful job that pays well and give me enough freedom to be able to travel and do other things around.
@@jillmariaplatteaux6083Project Manager
I'm called the Block Queen 😅, had no idea why not why waste time on bad relationships when you can focus time and energy on people who really value you
Lmaoooo the post-it notes *everywhere* IS LITERALLY ME I feel exposed 😭😭😭
I work in a paperless office and I don't care how many screens I have, I want to write to details of a case down on one page.
I’m sitting here with post-it notes, 2 kinds. 😂❤
Lawn care for me gets my dopamine going. It’s something I can do at my own pace with no outside pressure. N it slowly gets better so even on the days I don’t get to mow I notice the lawn improving n that is dope boost to. N it’s just zen bein in the yard!
Wow. This is a good video. I'm 54 and have "achieved nothing" but I am on one level relieved (and proud?) of myself for not being in debt, not addicted to anything, not overweight. My job is really boring and going to a pilates class at lunch time helps me tolerate it.
Geez yeh I have ghosted a friend, but she wasn't out of my mind. I do get that leaving it too long thing. I am friendly with a lot of people buy I don't really have a close circle. I have gone through phases of being really inactive, messy, solitary. Right now I am feeling capable and energised. I will subscribe.
64 year old male, and can relate to just about everything you say, especially the achieved nothing bit, ironically I can get really good at just about anything I enjoy and focus on. Best wishes to you.
Sitting in bed trying to get up to go to work watching this. I’ve been beating myself up trying to figure out why I can’t get up. Ghosted all friends and family. Extremely successful until 3 years ago. I’m 56 and decided to get the ADHD test after watching this. Thank you!
PS I need to find my keys and my backup keys lost a few days ago.
I’m 62 and have struggled with ADHD my whole life. I recently retired so I have to stay busy or I will die of boredom. Gym in the morning, lifelong learning/self-improvement/growth oriented activities, volunteering, helping elderly parents, socializing with friends and family. I also started taking Wellbutrin because I had depression related to my ADHD. Seems to help.
I would love to get to know you. You sound just like me including the wellbutrin. I'm in Utah
Does Wellbutrin help, I have been thinking about taking medication for ADHD? Any weird side effects?
Scrolling through comments and replaying the video again is the most common symptom of ADHD😂
I sat in on the supposedly “live” webinar which in fact was not live at all. Basically a 2 hour prerecorded video to warm you up to buying a product at the end. I don’t mind if people try to sell something but when there are lies involved, I’M OUT.
Same here. Seems like a scam model. Also not answering to mails an questions about the payment method… be careful
He’s a scammer, he’s blowing his own trumpet for 1 hour straight. His comments and views are paid for. I’m starting to think he’s not neurodivergent at all. Just milking it by trapping poor adhd people.
I deliberately scrolled to look for a review of the webinar! Thank you for saving me 2 hours of my life!!! The couple minutes that I watched were so stiff (and obviously not live which is fine, but why not call it what it is?) What was he trying to sell? What was the "answer"? He really hooked me at the end of the TH-cam video. I'm falling behind in my business because of struggling to focus and be motivated and I'm scared!
Yes this is SCAM. The bonus SPRINT technique link is 2 HOURS of FAKE LIVE event where he spends most time promising to reveal something if you stick to the end. Typical marketing funnel. Stay away from this charlatan.
If I haven't watched your video a week ago, I would be suffering for my whole life.
I always knew that there is something different with me which I couldn't understand. But after watching your videos(i watched all of them) I got all my answers and I now look at it as a gift.
Thanks man.
You remind me so much of my grandson who my daughter turned against me 😢
He is 29 yrs old and has dealt with ADHD all his life. I have shared your videos with him and hope he follows you ❤
I am a huge Lord of the Rings fan. When Nik was talking about taking advantage of mental sprints, I immediately thought: "...I'm wasted on cross country.... we dwarves are natural sprinters! Very dangerous across short distances!"
P.S. I call boredom my "nemesis", so it was extremely validating to hear boredom described as an allergy 👏👏
There are many benefits to boredom.
It's the opposite for me. Boredom is my power. Once I remove all distractions and reach boredom, that's when my projects get done.
Boromir
Playing my flute and piano gives me great joy and I could play for hours nonstop. My church has fabulous acoustics and it’s heavenly what the acoustics do to my sound! I am often struck by feelings of dysphoria, but never while playing music. I can be working on some other hobby like sewing, gardening,etc and all of a sudden (and it is literally like hitting a wall) and I have to immediately quit and retreat. But never with music. I thank God for my gift of musical talent and LOVE for it! Finding your videos has changed my life. I thought that I was just a freak before and now I know there are lots more like me. Thank you.
My ways of getting healthy dopamine: cleaning my space, doing yoga, following schedule
are you still suffering with adhd
Gardening..washing my truck.. going to the gym..
And driving.
You are teaching me so much
Damn it, this one really cut deep. It basically described most of my internal struggles around shame and self doubt to a tee.
You just summarised 32 years of my life.
What to do is still not clear
Same for me, I've been switching jobs not reaching anywhere, high time I need help
Post it notes...they fall onto the floor, disappear, etc. So I have a plan of dry erase boards in every room..well not the bathroom. But my ex would yell at me for forgetting, yet he never reminded me, and not having a notebook with me everywhere....the bathroom, in bed, eating, etc
I have a lot of alarms on my phone problem is my brain tunes them out.
A wave of emotion and tears came rolling down with the whole explanation! I have been pin pointing the routines I keep falling into and this just helped me with the missing pieces I needed to “control” the low lows I keep having
Midnight prayer provides me healthy dopamine
I'm 47, been struggling bad for years. Even though I have a home and a wife and 5 kids. This video explains everything exactly. This is my brain for sure. I only accepted the fact that I have ADHD once my oldest daughter started talking about it and got diagnosed.
And she's almost a genius at school etc.
Subbed!!
This stuff is really helping me
as I’ve felt in a constant battle with myself whereby I mainly lose. Like there are two ‘me’s’, the me that wants to do things and be productive and the ‘me’ that seems to sabotage it by making it virtually impossible to do simple, ordinary everyday tasks. I thought I was losing my mind until finding this and the low dopamine thing makes so much sense 😊
My latest healthy dopamine fix is gardening. I spent most of the day in the garden pulling up weeds and triangulating where to plant vegetables. It's taken half a year to motivate myself to start, but now I'm loving it. My others are playing guitar and spicy food
My daily dopamine booster is combining my balance board, standing desk and some great music to get my brain to maximum cruising altitude. I don’t care who sees me; I’m flexing that board and drumming (quietly) on my desktop. Anything seems possible once I’m dialed in.
What you said at the end is absolute key. We are best at sprints not marathons! Excellent video.
I struggle with all the lessons you mentioned Nik, out of sight out of mind, novelty, boredom, procrastination, indecision, chopping and changing. I really love the gym and running. love running but can’t run at the moment as I’ve sprained my ankle about 3 weeks ago and it’s still repairing. My son, husband and I went for a walk on a mountain bike and horse trail near our home, in my new shoes of course, while galloping like a horse and racing my son 😂 I am competitive. Thank you for your channel I enjoy.
Weight lifting / cardio first thing in the morning!
Yes. Straight out of bed and after a short visit to the bathroom I go outside to jog, do pushups pullups, anything I come across where I run. After I'm back home I reward myself with a few berries (strawberries, blueberries, etc) which, yes it's sugar, but it's natural sugar and has very high amounts of vitamins. After that I prepare my breakfast, I only eat natural organic foods, no refined sugar whatsoever. And I switched to low carb recently, which also made a huge difference. I quit rice and pasta, mostly I just eat fish, meat, eggs, nuts, and TONS of vegetables. Also, caffeine/coffee are a no-go.
@@gaynzz6841 Are you medicated by chance? How tf can you workout fasted without any caffeine? T-T
@@cheyennechavez9313 No meds, but many years ago I did used to always have a redbull /some large caffeinated soda, and a banana before going to the gym (first thing in the morning too). I guess the habit just stuck. I would mostly wake up at 3-4 AM since gyms are nice and empty. So I always did it like this... Now I just dropped the caffeine and the sugar. Also in my case this works well because once i have food in my belly I get slow and sluggish lol. It probably takes some getting used to but honestly I can't imagine it doing it any different way. Get a workout in, and the rest of the day is yours, and you retain that good feeling that you "already achieved something today". I'd definitely recommend trying it!
@@cheyennechavez9313 If you think about it, "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries. The only way to have "breakfast" after waking up (best case) is if you'd set a trap/snare some days before and it actually caught something. But even so, you would have to walk over there to get it, prepare the meat, etc. What really clicked for me was when I found a documentary on the Hadza hunter gatherer people (it's here on YT). I have been trying to change my lifestyle to theirs - despite living in a Western country. And the results really are great. I used to have stomach issues (IBS syndrome) which went away, I feel more energized. Sleep improved. And no, this is without any medications.
@@cheyennechavez9313 Many years ago I was absolutely addicted to huge amounts of sugar AND caffeine, which caused lots of damage. I always used to work out after waking up though, I guess the habit just stuck. And if you think about it this is the most natural way. "working out" fasted is how humans have operated for hundreds of thousands of years until there was agriculture. If in 20,000 BC you wanted food, you had to go hunt, or find some berries FIRST. I saw a documentary about the Hadza hunter-gatherer people and that changed everything. the more I change my lifestyle to theirs, the more my lifestyle improves. My stomach issues (IBS) caused by my lifelong sugar addiction finally went away, I feel more energized, sleep improved. Honestly I would just try it and see what happens.
Thank you so much for this video, it's incredibly inspiring. I'm a new YT subscriber but I've been a TikTok follower for years. Your videos (and others) made me seek an ADHD diagnosis at age 52. When perimenopause started for me, all my ADHD symptoms got so much worse but thankfully, becoming self aware has helped tremendously. It makes me sad that it happened so late but then I remind myself, it could have never happened and that would be a true tragedy. Thank you for your content.
The insight you have shared has given me so many A-Ha moments. Throughout this video ( and many of your others), I kept saying to myself " That's why that happens. Now I get it." I am very appreciative of your posts. I discover something new about myself every time I view them.
Dear Nick, you are the goat. I'm tired of all the psychologists who don't have any experience are real knowledge about adhd.
You are a blessing, because you overcame the challenges and help other people. you dove deep into the topic. those academic and unaffected people don't know much about the topic and more importantly how to adress the cause, because they are trained to only dim the symptom. You are more valuable than any doctor, prescribing light heartedly prescription drugs. This topic is so loaded for me -.- :(
This is one of the best videos Ive watched on ADHD. You seem to have effortlessly explained traits of ADHD people that most people wouldnt know was associated to ADHD (like ghosting). Then you went on to explain what can be done about it. Awesome stuff.
What a great video! Thank you! I just got diagnosed at 37 and I am so thankful. It explains so much. Sadly, years of anxiety and depression, now make sense. I now exercise and lift weights to get that much needed dopamine. I’m finally feeling the happiest I have ever felt in my life understanding all of this. Thank you for these videos!!!!
This is literally made me cry at some point. I always knew that something is there which is not understood well with me, thanks to you know I am closer than ever to figure out how I am functioning. Thanks a lot for making those LIFE CHANGING videos about ADHD! God bless you man.
BTW: I just realized that I started doing cold showers at home after a case where I was hosted in a guest house and they forgot to switch on warm water, but I did a shower anyways which made a click - having a cold shower made me feel wonderful despite my hangover.. since than I am doing cold showers at home and it just INSTANT WONDERS!
Since the past 2 years I am going to sauna regularly and it always made me feel better. but I could not figure out why especially. Know I know. Thanks for that. :)
I love the last Lesson a lot!!
Glad you liked it!!
@@adhdvision
I just realized this is your first video after 10 months. Is everything alright?
My source of novelty is trying new foods. For example, going into an Asia Shop or an Afro Shop or a shop for pakistani kitchen, buying things that are new for me and interesting for me, looking for recipes for this food and cooking. It also works with supermarkets with a big sortiment.
Or I read about the kitchen of Central Asia, of Norway, of Japan, etc. and try to get the ingredients and then try new recipes.
So I get new experiences and new tastes and often learn to know new parts of the city when going to a special shop.
@adhdvision my guy thank you, it’s a 2 week cycle, this type of real content, it’s a lifeline for the neurodivergent, add a dash of perfectionism that really spices things up… keep up the good work
Im going through a diagnosis right now at nearly 48 i think ive always known it,playing my guitar and singing really helps me,watching your videos has really helped me thanks i spoke to my mum for the first time in 2 years it was such a realease thanks again,🙏❤ adhd vision
💙 that’s amazing
Nik, your style of delivery and your passion for helping us ADHDers is much appreciated. YES! YES please continue. I'm gaining a sense of hope for my future. (Diagnosed at 62, and I'm very familiar with paralysis, guilt, shame over ghosting and more). Thank you.
I won't go into why but this video may have saved my life. Touching on dopamine, you explained certain concepts in a way even my doctor never could and I needed to hear it. Thank you.
I had a vision after a remark by a friend who told me that : "If you don't want to lose yours stuff, it's just a question of Will and habits". After stopping crying, I thought : "Really ? ". So I went to my doctor who advise me to see a specialist.
I'm at the beginning of my journey of diagnostic and understanding of the mechanism of my brain and yours videos confort me in my process. It was such a relief, because for the first time, I didn't feel alone and guilty of my misses, and also see the beauty of my brain. So thank you.
Yes I like the long form info and can use all the information ICan get!
Did your friend mean well when she said that? Because "it's a question of will and habits" would feel very cruel to me. I virtually cannot form habits, and will has nothing to do with it. How can you will yourself to do or not do something you did. even notice or register in the first place? Wishing you success in your journey.
@@normabaker5837 I think it's more an remark without thinking. It's a Guy who fought for what he has so it's difficult sometimes for him to understand that for some people it's not so obvious.
It's not that it's not obvious to you, if you have ADHD it might be that it's not useable advice for you. If you have executive dysfunction then /adding more will/ won't help.
Hi adhd vision, i am watching this now , after the 38 seconds you post this, warm love from Indonesia & from me the same adhder
Thank you for watching!
I have seen videos from and subscribed to a few of the other ADHD channels out there, and I think yours is the best for sharing with loved ones to help them understand our ADHD plights, both those that are long and short term! Thank you so much for sharing all of this!
Does this influencer use adhd meds?
This is by far the most resonating, insightful and action oriented video that I have seen.
Gives me hope that my son will live a better life... thx
Although I appreciate the work you do, I was diagnosed myself, but I never listened to them over the years. I found out there’s 3 very important things that we must consider. Did we learn how to prioritize? when we were little kids and what was our diet and also did we learn how to focus or to calm our mind? the answer in my case is absolutely not. My house was full of sugary stuff, and my parents didn’t give a lick teaching me to prioritize or focus. I taught myself these things and now I can say no physician can diagnose me with ADHD. ❤
I’m 73, and still have a hard time prioritizing.
Watching your videos has been an absolute life saver for me Nik. Thank you
Music gives me a huge boost and now that I started going to the gym I've noticed the difference in how I feel.
I've used an Apollo Neuro wearable for over a year now. It sends vibrations to : give energy, help focus, socialise, de-stress, unwind, go to sleep etc and has been a game changer for me. I did cold water showers for years But the regular suffering aspect would make me avoid it, despite how incredible I feel after. Great, energetic and varied music most days is as essential as my wearable. I vary my headphone output to comedy podcasts, deep conversations and intriguing topics like Jungian psychology etc too. That new drink Neutonic is incredible too. Been a regular customer since it first launched. Non jittery focus and a bunch of focus encouraging supplements all in one.
You’re back! Love your content thanks for making it
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Started working Sunday morning on a project with very soon deadline, worked until monday evening. I took one single break Sunday night taking cold shower. Working process was super productive, progress was super satisfying, but this phase was absolutly insane for sleeping phases - work was done to tuesday morning, results are great - worth it. I love my brain
I got recently diagnosed. But received the news somethings make sense -ish. But with this video, I want to cry. There are so many things that are related to how my brain is that I didn't know about. The harder is to accept it and use it as an advantage
I totally loved this! So many videos are A LOT of talk without info. It has become so bad, I actually watch most videos at faster speeds and they sound normal to me. I do have to say, though, the times I have heard that female ADHD can be a little different still rings true. Women are measured by their ability to do wonderfully mundane tasks like HOUSEWORK! I have literally had men tell me, "What are you good for, then?" I said, "I guess you will never know." Also, a majority of my stimulation doesn't come from physical activities, but mental. I LOVE mentally stimulating conversations... it is like internal fireworks ❤ I do love travel, but my lifestyle doesn't accommodate that. So I have to mentally travel. I can do highly mundane projects where the actions are automatic because then I can allow my mind to wander. These are a couple of the things that I have noticed a difference in.
Oh my! I do this too! Watch videos at 2X the speed ! Thanks for commenting! I learned something.
Thank you so much for your inspired comment. I am a woman with undiagnosed ADD and a Stay at home mom who is failing miserably at housework. I was just thinking how can I get myself to consistently do those mundane chores that I avoid and after reading your comment I realized the only times I have been able to be consistent is when I'm listening to a mentally stimulating podcast. I didn't realize I was hacking my brain doing that. Definitely going to use that as a tool for productivity now.
Bro, you know you’re asking a bunch of ADHD people to finish this video, go over to your sign up page, sign up, and go through the whole of your free workshop right?
Exactly and he didn’t even provide a comprehensive list. I stopped watching it.
This video literally made me cry.... this is everything I have ever struggled with in my life! I have always felt broken 🥲 Wow 🤯 thank you for making this... 💜
Brilliant. Excellent. Yes long content is good. Your summary was good, overviews and structure left me wanting more. I did obviously listen at 1.5 speed but I've now got time for another half video before more procrastination and guilt.
Yes please! Sometimes if I only listen to short form I can get very agitated. Sometimes if there’s VERY long form content (like Gabor Mate close to 2 hour long lectures) I either wander away from the device, or fall asleep, or pick up a different device and start another activity. Multiple options help. Today the VERY Reason I chose to watch your video instead of the one I came to watch was specifically because I saw the length of the video and thought that has a good amount of time for me today right now. I love your stuff thank you!
I agree, Mel Robinson has some videos about adhd and procrastination, and I've watched the first 9 minutes of all of them 😂
My man going all in with this video 💪
You already know!
Really loved the video. Already been incorporating the cold showers first thing in the morning and natural light. One additional is delaying caffeine intake for 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up. I have been taking antidepressants for years to ward off anxiety and depression, but this last year they stopped being affective. Took me over a year to pivot to a new thought that I may be ADHD. So lowered my Wellbutrin and removed Anafranil and added a 10MG of adderall. I’ve seen drastic improvement which I would like to say is the adder-all, but the physical changes, routine and new workouts consistently are likely a bigger factor in my recovery.
M8..... great vid as usual, so glad people like yourself exist,,,
Music gets me fired up,
I'll be in that state of guilt, thinking about doing things but not doing anything cos of the amount of things buzzing around my mind,
Then as soon as I put some great music on, I'll be grooving around the house like a crazy man,,, the side of me no one else see's.
Mostly still not getting much done, only bits and bobs, but music is literally like the best drug,,, for myself,, its remembering to use it. . . .
I hate sitting in front of laptop for 8hrs
Having adhd and hate school, college and university including normal jobs :(.
Yes, please do! I’m retired…and bored out of my mind! I moved six yrs ago, I’m an artists, but I’m overwhelmed with ideas and, trying to maintain my creative space…
Thank you!
Excellent! My natural dopamine at the moment is dancing to three songs in the morning right after I wake up. Now I understand why I love it so much, and after this video I think I will also try walking in the morning and singing more often during the day.
Me: Starting a new project for the sake of dopamine. Now my life is full of unfinished projects and it stresses me out.
Also me: Starting to implement a new routine. Giving up after 2 weeks. Now my self-doubts are killing me.
You: make it all sound so easy and everyone approves. Now, it buffles me 😅
What is the difference between adhd and depression? how can I know the difference ?
I think this is a really good question and I’m not a therapist so I don’t really know the correct answer. However for me with ADHD I feel that if something is new or interesting enough then I can apply myself 💯 and even more until that thing is no longer ‘new’. I just cannot tolerate mundane things needed to function in everyday life unless I break them down into more manageable chunks. If something new sparks my interest then I’m on it. I would imagine depression is more consistent without those spikes.
Depression is hating yourself and life in general and not wanting to do anything because nothing seems to be worth it.
ADHD is wanting to do a million things at a time, you are enthousiastic and interested but you cannot bring yourself to start.
As a result you feel awful and if you don't know the cause it can lead to depression.
@@dorotheakenneweg I think this is a really really good answer ❤️
Holy heck i was feeling exactly like he described lately and i was thinking there is something wrong with me, that i have to discipline myself harder to do the same things over and over again. Now i know its completely normal. Thank you so much and also come on algorithm gods, nice timing right here
I fought the diagnosis for a long time (I was a ritalin kid - before ADHD it was "hyperactive") and then accepted it around 40.
I've tried stims off and on for several years and have finally decided I will not medicate my way into a life I want so am exploring how my fellow ADHDers are "coping" and thriving.
Love this channel so far! Thank you.
The reason why we work in short bursts is because the info is being arranged in the background. Our unconscious mind is solving the problem in the meantime our conscious mind is playing angry birds or watching funny dog videos. Another characteristic that you may have already talked about in other videos is that we have very vivid dreams that we can actually remember; this is another resource the brain has to increase dopamine levels naturally, even when the dream was not a pleasant one.
I don't dream often at all
I always wondered about those dreams, some of them feel so real, and when I wake up, I usually have such a good feeling, dreamt with friends who passed away, dreamt of being a secret agent, dreamt of being in another different world and more, our minds are so interesting.
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@@charliebee5154Well like most content creators these days he started a business to make money. At least he’s offering his online video for free, although it’s likely to build his email list and has advice already available on YT or the internet for free. 😅 At best we can hope for in the sea of ADHD content is to grasp a few helpful tips. I try to also follow the doctors who have already lived real significant medical careers and are just on here to help people vs making money. Like Russell Barkley. He seems to be officially retired now and has gotten serious about his YT channel and giving out as much useful information as he can. He backs it up with research articles as well.
Very well timed for me personally. You adhd patterns are almost exactly the same. I was headed this direction but you have put it together so well that you saved me a lot of aggravation had I just dine this all myself. Thanks!
54 and just diagnosed with combined ADHD, I pretty much knew, but hearing it hit different. Now I want to know how to make my life easier.
Him… im a nurse, every day I go to work is NEVER the same, it fast speed days and you have always things to do. I can se why my ADHD brain like that job …. XD
Thank you so much for doing this channel. Obviously there are so many of us who need to learn and understand ourselves to be kinder to ourselves and more patient.
I am 36 and last year i found out i have adhd and dyslexia it was. Crazy to know i am not useless. Dumb and waste of space . i have a problem and i can get better ❤
I follow you on tt and I‘m glad that you’re now here! Because as we all love the fast content on tt I love TH-cam videos and they are not that dangerous and addicting. Somehow I am able to control my consuming on TH-cam.
So thankful for your work! Still waiting for my diagnosis but I can handle my adhd brain sm better! 🇩🇪
This video is absolutely perfect. Thanks for your work and dedication to ADHD cause!
No way… I thought I heard it all the generic Adhd advice which feels/ seems way further from reach than my own body almost.. but noo this video totally validates the productivity issues I am dealing with whole life ( though ADD not adhd).. thank you soo much for this. Definitely subscribed after!❤
Yes! More content! Also, your voice is so calming when you talk about all this stuff. It was a balm to my brain.
I am SO grateful I found you.
38 and have had ADHD since I was I can rmbr. Never took medicine but once and I told my mom I didn't like it so she said ok....I spent the rest of my life drinking, fucking, eating trash and smoking weed. I had so many highs and lows and never seemed to be consistent. I'm still not on meds but I'm thinking about it. I finally quit weed and booze though and I feel better. Just more anxiety...I'm here because I want to find a new way to find dopamine!
Ps what you said about traveling and new experiences...it's so important I have learned now when I'm about to go into what I call a FUNK. I withdraw and my anxiety gets so high. ..before this happens I'll start to sigh a lot become more frustrating and irritable than usually...then I'll start googling everything I think is wrong with me and my usually routine becomes mundane. Most ADHD ppl can't just do the same thing all the time every day..same shows, games, work etc. ..that's why most ADHD ppl are so inconsistent and when we force it he start to breakdown. This anxiety for me has physical symptoms..like a constant feeling being off balance physically, dizzy. And muscle pains. It's real y'all.
This is describes my brain exactly. Thank you for your content… definitely needed this.