My wife once asked why I do things like this for her. Walk closer to the road, open her door, etc. She said she is capable of all those things and she's not weak. I told her, "I don't protect you because you're weak, I protect you because you're important." She and her sister both swooned in unison. That's why we do it.
I am not a young man - I'm a baby boomer and therefore not the focus of this channel. However, cheers to you James, for attempting to keep chivalry and gentlemanly behavior alive. Covering her with your umbrella during a rain storm is also an appreciated act of chivalry.
@davidbiagini9048 I had that opportunity once a few years ago...I was leaving work, and it was pouring rain. A lady just ahead of me didn't have a bumbershoot with her, so I offered to hold mine over her until she got to her car, and inside it. Very much appreciated.
I'm an English man living in Prague. I helped a young woman carry her pram, with her daughter inside, up the stairs. When she thanked me I said happy to help. She then said , " You English men have such nice manners."
I can confirm that Englishmen make superior gentlemen. I'm an American man living in Germany at the moment. It's a very polite country, but not proactively helpful. On a holiday to the UK meanwhile, I had someone helping me out with my heap of kids daily. Hats off.
Well, nice to hear that, I am from czech republic so your comment touched me, I am asking people if they want to help with the pram when they are stepping inside public transport.
A few years ago, i was at the mall for an eye exam. I held the mall door open for a young, pink haired woman. Expecting a thank you, i was surprised that she snapped at me - "Im quite capable of opening a door myself!" She scolded me. I was so shocked that i couldn't think of a reply. But i hold doors open for everyone! Young or old, male or female. Just how i was raised.
Women like that are ruining chivalry for the rest of women out there. Feminine women appreciate it and will make it known. Never stop doing it cause of rude girls like this one.
One act of chivalry I learned a year ago-and that I haven’t seen many people know about-is that when you’re going upstairs, you should walk behind the lady, and when going downstairs, you should walk in front of her. The idea is that if she falls, you can catch her.
I was always taught that as a man you should walk in front of her or by her side when walking up the stairs, as to open doors for her. It also has a second layer to it, as when you are not behind her, she is reassured you aren't checking out her legs/rear. Kinda sad that this second meaning had to be added...
thanks for bringing this one back brother! I have always supported this one but can you PLEASE help me with the next one... what to do if the lady has a mini skirt going up the stairs ... do i inform her once more that Iam behond her for her safety when going up and mention that i will keep my head down? looking forward to you answer PS excuse me Gents GREAT VIDEO BTW > salute!
@@tytusdezoo5097 Regardless what she's wearing. If she has the higher ground, she could never blame you by faking a "fall"; or if she really honestly did trip or fall or her heal broke, or her shoe strap snapped, you can prevent her fall. Its not your fault if she chose to wear a mini-skirt. Maybe she wants to be attractive that way.
In a restaurant, cafe or even a pub, I always make sure my wife has the nicest seat at the table. It's the one with the best view, the one which won't get bumped by people walking past.
I do the same. My wife once said, "This is a really nice place, but I guess I took the seat with the better view since your back is to it." I replied, "I disagree. I think I have the better view."
As a woman, I enjoy your videos!! Thank you for educating young men in this generation on how to be gentleman!!! We need more of that and not degenerate ‘Pop the Balloon’ content 😭. Yes, majority of women appreciate a gentleman, feminism has killed simple acts of chivalry where women get offended when a man opens the door for them…please, take several seats. That’s not the kind of woman you want anyways! If you’re a lover boy, you need to be with a LOVER GIRL. That’s the only way it’s going to work in this messed up generation. Rejection is Gods protection, don’t ever let anyone tell you your expectations are too high simply because that person cannot meet them. What one person can’t do, another will + go above and beyond…just you wait. Chivalry is still alive, gentlemen will follow the sidewalk rule, open doors, pull out your chair, pay for dates, buy you flowers without having to ask and do other sweet things for you just to see you smile. Don’t do a disservice to yourself by settling for less than you deserve all because you’re desperate and worried your person isn’t out there. Trust me, they are praying to meet you one day. It’s perfectly natural to yearn for romance and affection but as lover girls and lover boys, we have to guard our hearts even though we have so much love to give.
Thanks for leaving this wonderful comment, LadyKoko.. I hope you are right about, waiting... But, it seems you're. While, many a moment goes by when, those little acts of chivalry go unnoticed, as it should be. The other day, and today. I had a few moments that come alive. The smile on her face, when I half opened her door was gladsome to behold. Then, it happened again today. So, there is life in this tradition yet. So, I am glad grandma lets me hold her purse, and gives me little quests. And thank you for believing, that good exists in the opposite sex, Fair Lady Koko.. goodbye..
After I was married, I made it my task to empty the diaper pail every week into the washer because the smell was so nasty. A couple years after our second child was born, I was on an extended business trip. During our phone call, my wife told me in disbelief that after 3 years, it was only then that she realized she didn't know how to unlock the lid so she could empty it herself.
Thank you for this! I grew up in the United States in the 70's and 80's, prime years for feminist ideology. I remember on more than one occasion, I opened doors for women, which is kind of automatic for me, and was met with a very negative response, such as "I am not helpless or weak". I felt shamed. I am happy to say that I now live in Latin America, where chivalry is alive and well. My gestures of respect are appreciated here. I open doors, help with chairs, and give compliments. I feel that this is appreciated. I see many men here doing the same here.
I was raised to be kind and gentlemanly, until it was necessary not to be. I once commented to a feminist while admonishing me for holding a door for her. In my best southern drawl "Ma'am, if I did not hold the door for you, my ancestors would rise from the grave and haunt me until I repented" Her gobsmacked reaction was priceless
I'm proud of myself for unconsciously doing most of these things without even being aware that it is chivalry, some stuff I just havent got the chance to do yet, while others I do!
Whenever possible, I open the car door for any female in my presence. I do this for elderly women, my sister, mom, friend's wife and even their 10 year old daughter. Of all these my mother is the most important, I honour her most, she deserves that for raising me. Many years ago while visiting my sister and her fiance, we were invited to go fishing an their friend's boat. My sister unwittingly went in her bikini top, the wind blowing over that water was freezing, I gave her my shirt to wear. I was freezing all the time and at the end of the day also badly sunburnt. Her fiance didn't offer her anything, he's an experienced fisherman and was kitted head to toe. Some things seem quite obvious, why is it that men don't do these things anymore? Good encouraging comments that offer valuable insight, thank you gentlemen for sharing your experiences.
When I first began to go out as a teenager I bought a copy of "Miss Emily's Etiquette". After I added two more books. All of the points you mentioned are covered in the books so fortunately learned early. My friends thought I was odd for opening a door for a girl. Still do it any many more expression of good manners. Enjoyed thank you.
What a fantastic channel for you young men! I’m 62 but I noticed that many young men didn’t practice chivalry back when I was in my 40’s. Good for you man and keep up the good work.
I appreciate the help at a grocery store when I am reaching for something on a high shelf. I will ask for help from a taller person, but it is always nice when a man observes the problem and offers his help. By the way, as I age I find that heavy doors are a challenge. Opening a door for me is appreciated far more now than ever before. It is perhaps a tired example, but it a common opportunity to be of service to another person.
I agree with all the points. Adding to opening the car door and helping her inside: if once inside she reaches over and opens the drivers side door for you she appreciates you as much as you show you appreciate her. This one is worth keeping.
As a 60 year-old feminist, I approve your message. Your channel is a delight. I would add that Chivalry is NOT dead. I was shopping for a Thanksgiving turkey the other day and struggling to maneuver the big frozen bird into my cart. A young man rushed over and offered to assist. Since my has hair has gone grey, I have been offered seats on public transport many times. This usually takes me by surprise because I don’t think of myself as someone for whom a seat should be surrendered, but I appreciate the kind gesture and I always express my gratitude.
Two top tips 1) when helping a lady on with her coat the final part of the proces should be to stand behind her and lift the edges of the coat and then let them resttle on her shoulders. You can even smooth the shouldsers down if you wish. 2) show some acts of chialry to other perons - the recipient will like it, you will like it and yor lady love it.
I remember decades ago in NYC seeing two Ladies decked out walking down the street during a light rain. Was in a taxi - had him stop and I rushed out and up to the Ladies and gave them My umbrella. They declined but I insisted. They were REALLY grateful saying They were on their way to an interview. I told them they'd do fantasically and went back to the taxi. Why'd I do it? Honor. Respect. Value. To ME it doesn't matter who She 'is' but she IS someone's Daughter, Mother, Sister, or whatever. My Grandpa taught Me that. Haven't missed that $75 umbrella but have thought of that Moment when two Ladies just minding their business and I had an Encounter and I got to make their Life a little easier. Their gratitude changed My Life FOREVER. Always Honor what You Value...
I think that is a little excessive. I know many of us can ill afford to give away $75 umbrellas, let alone own one in the first place. All my umbrellas are old hand-me-downs and cheap.
@@iPlayOnSpica It's not excessive for him obviously. No one is demanding you give away a $75 umbrella lol. He said "Always Honor what You Value." That's the important part, not the umbrella. The effect of the gesture and the memorable moment it created is what mattered most. Don't miss that part of his story for the sake of the part about money. I thought it was beautiful!
I'm all for being chivalrous, but a lot of modern women seem to think that they're entitled to it because of their gender. Chivalry was always reserved for ladies, not women.
I totally agree with that statement as I have been roasted for holding a door for a woman and she came out with I am not an invalid etc. The opposite of this is the off hand attitude of not even acknowledging the gesture.
@@richjohn11 Indeed, these days you're damned if you do hold the door and damned if you don't. I'm in my 50s and just old enough that I remember when I was in my 20s there was still an older (pre-feminist) generation of women alive that greatly appreciated chivalrous acts like held doors, help with coats and the like. As for the younger ones, even by that time, the fix was already in, the nastiness had already shown up.
@haydenglatemore I was on the fence over this. As an American, I understand the reasoning behind this as a great number of women here don't appreciate or even notice when a man performs a chivalrous act. However, I am reminded of a quote, "It matters not what others do, what matters is what you do."
As a lady I would like to add that it is very much appreciated when a gentleman helps you if you accidentally have dropped something on the floor and have to pick it up.
Women want this kind of attention from men IF they find that man desirable in some way. If a woman has no interest in a man, and the man does any of this, he'll be labeled a 'creep'.
As a commenter said: I don't do things like this because (my wife or any woman...) it's necessary or she is weak but because I find our women important and was taught this in n the south as a way to act with all women... so I don't care if I am considered a "creep" and I will leave a woman alone if she expresses distaste or distain for me or my actions... but that's me.
Loving the Brooks Brothers herringbone sport jacket! A classic staple. I reside in an apartment complex and it's ALWAYS ladies first into the elevator and ladies out first in addition to holding the various doors (ladies first).
Thank you, Walter. I also live in a high rise and observe this rule. However, I’m sure you’ve also seen that many men have zero elevator etiquette today.
1) Walk or drive your date home at the end of the night. 2) Open the door for her and offer her your hand for support. 3) Offer her your coat or jacket. 4) Take out the trash. 5) Walk on the dangerous side of the sidewalk.
Bringing flowers, for special occasions or just because! I did it and she LOVED it. Said no other guy had ever done that for her, even in serious relationships.
That's why you should be prepared, this way you can put that shining armor to it's proper use. Shining armor is fine, but she will love those scratches and dents when she knows those were in service to her safety.
@@Gent.Z ... in case ... you may have some dry and not very sweet biscuits in reserve ... together with the black and bitter espresso you can offer her an original italian colazione ... with the sorriso of a cavaliere
I was dating a man for a few weeks and he showed up to my work with a hot chocolate (I don’t drink coffee) and a muffin. It was a really thoughtful gesture and it made me appreciate him so much more. It’s a shame we didn’t work out but I won’t forget about his chivalry…he opened doors, paid for dates and held hands with me in public. Grateful I got to experience this for the first time with him, let’s me know that chivalry is very much still alive 😊
I am guilty of all 5 but I am 67. I had escorted a younger lady to the Kentucky Derby. It was pouring rain and our seats were nowhere near cover. I noticed she was starting to shiver. Without hesitation I immediately gave her my raincoat. I didn't expect anything in return. I know she appreciated me doing so.
Lending a jacket or sweatshirt to a gal is a great feeling, plus you get to watch her be cute wearing your stuff 😍 Absolutely, chivalry is for any lady, not just one you want to woo. I agree with everything except the feminism bit. Feminism is ordered towards women being their own man instead of going for the traditional complementary dynamic. Chivalry is anti-feminist, but it’s pro-woman, pro-femininity.
I love holding the car door open for her, especially in inclement weather, holding an umbrella over her head, etc. The worse the weather, the more romantic it is. And while this one may not quite meet the definition of chivalrous, I've also started hiding little Post-Its around the house that say "I love Beth". Whenever she finds one, it's a sweet, unexpected little gesture of my love for her.
Great video! Well done. Feminism is about framing facts in a particular way, this is rooted in logic and system 2 thinking. For all people, including feminists, feelings are much more powerful than logic and this is where chivalry has its impact. We all have three compelling psychological needs, to be liked, to feel important, and to belong. Chivalry addresses one or more of these needs. I go out of my way to perform acts of kindness for any and everyone, male and female alike, and women and men’s needs are different.
Being conscientious at all times and looking for ways to help is the key takeaway - it should be selfless acts, not trying to get something from someone
Interesting that other men never fail to be thankful for the door being opened for them. Luckily for me, most women I've held the door open for were decent human beings, too. Sorry you had to go through that.
Here in America men are having a hard time getting themselves dressed let alone help someone else with anything. Sad state affairs. Thanks for this. Way too few of us actually do these things.
I have done all of these for my Wife for the past 37 years, it is my duty and pleasure as her husband and protector. One thing I do that is not listed is when we are seated at a restaurant I make certain that she is seated first then I sit between her and the entrance and rest of the people. she is safe behind me and I am in a position to provide both cover and protection if necessary.
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah... but... IS THAT A SOCK TIE!?? I loved my sock ties back in the day. My Dad bought them for me for Christmas just after college. So, YT pushed this to me, and wow, I've been waiting for the pendulum to swing this way. Good for you for promoting old school decent man-hood.
1, If you're walking her home, as soon as you get close to her door, stop five feet away from the door, and start saying your goodbyes etc. This shows a none threatening stance it also sows in her a desire to be with you. If she wants you to come in she'll ask you or even take your hand!
Recently on a bike ride, I saw a young black man walking with his girlfriend while wearing a massive puffer coat, while his girlfriend had on no coat. I could see that she was shivering, and he couldn't have cared less. It really does make all the difference.
I have been married to my lady for over 50 years. I am very happy to discover that taking out the garbage is an act of chivalry. I also do most of the dishes. I figure it’s the least I can do since she is much better at changing poopy diapers for our great grandson. It also helps to be very much in love. Love is a process that must be perfected, love is a journey that must be traveled 👍
I have lost count the number of times I have opened a door for a woman and she has refused to walk through it, or the times I have let them go first in the queue and have been faced with an acid stare. It's a shame.
I have twice been snubbed by Smart well to do young ladies, one in her late teens and the other in her early 20s when I opened a door for them. "We can open the door ourselves" each of them replied, on separate occasions. Chivalry is not dead. Young women like these have killed it. Who wants to be snubbed a third time?
5 acts of chivalry that make women MELT: 1) Taking her to very expensive restaurants 2) Buying something expensive for them 3) Spending a lot of money for a trip overseas 4) Buying expensive items for her while on that trip 5) Buying a very expensive, overpriced engagement ring. In other words, it's all about the money to women
We have come a long ways from the 1970's and the National Organization of Women when if you held the door for a lady you surely heard, "What! Don't you think I can open the door myself?" I lived through that and remained the Officer and Gentleman the Congress of the United States certified me to be in my commissioning document. 😊
I'm an American, raised by a very attentive mother. While living in Germany, my girlfriend and I went to a local outdoor Fest hosted in the village where her sister and brother-in-law lived. We were both wearing jackets and as the sun went down, the temperature suddenly dropped. At the end of the long table at which we were sitting I saw a young woman in a T-shirt, shivering. I stood up, went to the end of the table, took off my jacket and offered it to her. She seemed very surprised but also very relieved and gladly took my jacket. As I sat down next to my girlfriend she asked if I knew who that woman was. As I tried to dismiss my own shivering I said "No, but she looked cold". She explained, "That's my sister's husband's sister. I think you just made a very good impression"! A short time later a man approached the woman, looked at my jacket and seemed very curious. She pointed to me and smiled. Turns out, it was her husband and, yes, I gained quite a reputation after that small act.
3) Once at work, a co-worker was outside in the cold (middle of November) wearing a thin dressy shirt and slacks without a coat and shivering. She was on her phone to her mother. A private call. I walked outside with my A-1 leather bomber jacket and put it around her shoulders. I was uncomfortable watching her freeze! I made sure she put it on all the way. Then I went inside. She returned it to me when she got back inside and thanked me profusely.
@tomahawktactical705 I did that to a couple ladies at a local hospital where I worked...the reaction was great...one said to the other "he tipped his hat! wow!" And it was just a baseball cap I was wearing. But still...
I’m so sorry I just found out about your event in Chicago. I’d love to have attended. I am 65 years of age and have worked hard to become a gentleman. I have watched several single ladies who are in our social circle date men who have absolutely no clue how to be a gentleman. The relationships never last long for any of them. It pains me to see women these days be treated this way. I came across your channel by chance and you’ve given me hope that at least some men will listen to you and put the necessary time and effort into becoming gentlemen. Our society will be better for it. Being a gentleman requires effort. It can mean putting one’s own comfort, safety, and quite possibly one’s own life on the line to protect who are in your charge. Thanks for what you’re doing.
The tragedy in this era is that for every man extending a chivalrous gesture, which is an act of gentleness on the part of the man, an act of his "putting the sword aside", there are countless man-hating feminists that will take this as an act of weakness and turn it against the man... because in the mind of the feminist (and they are legion), they are always at war with men.
@@cuauhtemoc8350 Going to war with men was from its very inception the entire raison d'être of feminism. Betty Friedman, Bella Abzug, Gloria Steinem, that whole bunch that got it all up and running... all hysterical, paranoid man-haters.
@Leif-s9w Yeah...isn't feminism great? I had a woman tell me "I can open the door myself" in a haughty tone, so I shut it before she got close and walked to my car.
I have been opening doors for ladies for decades; not in vehicles (my wife, on occasion). I help women I know with removing or putting on their coats/jackets. Offering my jacket, I don't have much occasion, but I did once years ago, and the girl was surprised and pleased. It was cold and breezy. I do the trash all the time. And I do #5 as well. I have tipped my hat to ladies, held my umbrella open over a lady that did not have one. I've always wanted to light a woman's cigarette, but hardly any of them smoke, or they (ugh) vape. I'm also a boomer at 74 years young. I need to instill some of this in my two older grandsons who are in their mid teens.
Just this year I can remember going to another graduation for me and my ex's oldest son for another degree. I was opening the doors, pulling chairs out for them and gave my jacket to our daughter after dinner at the restaurant. Then my Ex commented to our daughter about how I still was doing the little things. Then I told her, if I did not then my Grandma Coyne would smack me from the grave. They are 19 months apart and I can remember when our daughter got attacked by 4 guys and our son attacked them, and he was 17 at the time and like 4 or 5 years younger than the other guys. he jumped them not expecting to win, only by time for her to get away. Then no one came to his help, and he fought dirty, like deciding to gouge eyes out. He put each of them into the hospital for at least a few days each and he had to just get treated and released. That was 9 years ago now, dam.
I have a question to you guys. Every moneday, me and my group of friends, including my girl, are coming back to town from a study program. I am always offers to accompany her home and she always refuses because she is saying that she wants me to arrive early to my home and go to sleep (have school the day after and usually i dont wake upin time) and saying that she has a phone and everything is allright.. Should i insist? I don't like when she is going hole alone at the dark and additionally we don't have a lot time together
I thought of it as respecting yourself as someone capable of taking care of not only yourself but also your partner, and respecting your partner for being capable of acknowledging and appreciating your care.
A positive story: I once escorted a young lady I had met only two hours before across a very wide road that did not have a road divider. I walked on her left ( the traffic side of the road ) till we reached the halfway point and then I slid to her right, again to be on the traffic side. She was from a Middle Eastern country where getting into a relationship with a foreign male could have cost her a present sentence. The Lady , whom I had known for only a few hours by then, proposed to me and cited the chivalry as the main reason.
Chivalry was a good thing. It encompassed far more than just this narrow aspect. Having said that, treating someone with compassion and respect should be universal.
I carry a handkerchief. It's never for me, it's for a lady even if I'm not knowing that I will be with one. A few nights ago I was with a lady who shared something emotional with me while we were at a restaurant. She teared up so I handed her my handkerchief. She was so stunned that she asked me if she could keep it. Of course. It was monogrammed, and she will always think of me when she sees it.
I remain chivalrous man simply because it's the way I was raised. My dad said, treat every woman like she's going to be my wife someday. She turns out to be a knucklehead, it ain't your fault. I live by that.
quite frankly, I'm amazed that these acts even need to be mentioned! Granted, there are plenty of situations where one might even be sorry to have been chivalrous... but it is better to forget them as soon as possible
Married 22 years. Gen X. Always allow your wife to sit before you do. Assist with her coat or jacket. Whenever she rises to go to the ladies room, you rise as well. Whenever she returns, rise to greet her. Always carry a handkerchief. 2 at funerals or weddings. Once offered, never ask for them back. Always, always pick up the tab. No exceptions. Open the car door for her unless a valet has the job. Don’t interrupt her in conversation. Listen.
Driving, so she doesn't have to worry about the traffic, weather, time of day/darkness etc, or, in cases where she expresses a wish to drive, yield to her wish to do so and happily riding along.
Im French born in 1960. Chevalerie goes to women, good manners to other people (ie: elderlies, fragile or savant people, give your seat to a pregnant woman). Be notificabily condescendent to rough people, my pleasure... (having the sens of "repartie" I learn good manners from little boy in a blue colar factory workers, simple people family, very traditional. I got that since in my DNA. I reconize my natural behaviours in this video. I have to awoue that give me a sens of comfort and create an atmosphere of confidence around me for myself and for with who im with. I have spend one year in Russia and their elegant manners was like a appreciated pass to go through the society. In any unexpected situation, if it is no etiquette in place, simply keep it light, goes by some élegant common sens and maybe a pointe of humour... (ladies know very well themself...) $ doesn't buy good manners, neither their unexpected rewards... Enjoy your life and merry Xmas
I love how even the comment section is so wholesome. Lads chivalry is not dead. Is always been here, we forgot to be chivalrous, when the stadium or arenas got loud. And by we I mean me. But, what a wholesale goods shop of refreshing thought is this comment section.
After a night at the bars on Halloween, I ran into this girl who had a little too much to drink and escorted her to her Uber by walking on the side of the sidewalk closest the road and her on my left, not to mention having her hold onto me for support as she struggled to walk in her heels and being impaired.
the key is mindset. Would you do these things for someone you're not dating? I open doors for everyone; girls, guys, grandmothers, their emotional support pets, everyone. My extra gesture though is I always make sure when working late that my coworkers leave safely. Even if they wave me on to my car and I go to it, I will not actually leave the area until I know they have all made it to their vehicles safely.
Always present your date with flowers. If you are meeting her at a destination and she will have to bring the flowers home, present her with a small arrangement. However, if you escort her from her home, you can present her with a larger bouquet. That way she can leave it at home while you enjoy the evening together.
One summer there was a power outage in my neighborhood, which was an excuse for the neighbors to come out and share a few drinks and commiserate. I noticed this one guys wife was literally sitting on the pavement, so I got a folding picnic chair out the trunk of my car for her. As soon as I set it down, her husband sat in it! I had to remind the lad that his wife was sitting on the sidewalk
I bring 19l water bottles to the stand near the administrative office room (only woman works in this department in my workplace). The water bottles are stored pretty far away and you have to go up the stairs with the bottles.
Walking outside of the sidewalk is something always appreciated. Taking the trash out... of course!,... sure Adam was doing that went the snake talked to Eve. About cars, in the military the lower ranks enters first so when the car arrives to destination, the senior officer gets out of the car first. That is a detail to consider if she is the "main character" at destination. A 6th tip to consider is using your body as a shield for her. I do not consider this as a protection but to give comfort. As a rescuer I used to stand between the victim and the wind in a blizzard, or to cast my shadow on the victim in a sunny day or to swim between the victim and the waves in the sea. Those are natural threats, but there are urban threats such us disturbing people, dogs behind a fence, construction sites, traffic or wind in a rainy day, intense sun in summer, etc... acting natural to shield her adds comfort to the situation, and sometimes that will be noticed and appreciated.
I must have been 15 or 16. Grade 10 science class. We were waiting for our teacher to arrive and one of my classmates walked in. I believe her name is Sydney. She used to live a few houses down from my parents place. Anyways, she walked up to her spot at the table and I pulled her chair out for her to sit down. The way she looked at me is burned into my memory. I think about that moment often.
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My wife once asked why I do things like this for her. Walk closer to the road, open her door, etc. She said she is capable of all those things and she's not weak. I told her, "I don't protect you because you're weak, I protect you because you're important." She and her sister both swooned in unison. That's why we do it.
Wow! That is brilliannt thing to say! Respect indeed.
simping at its peak
Fabulous response!
@@criticalanalysisbull tf? kid grow up, its his wife
@@divyansh2890 so what? a simp is a simp. also its funny how you upload pubg videos on ur channel and still have the audacity to call me a kid lmao
I am not a young man - I'm a baby boomer and therefore not the focus of this channel. However, cheers to you James, for attempting to keep chivalry and gentlemanly behavior alive. Covering her with your umbrella during a rain storm is also an appreciated act of chivalry.
Thank you, David! Glad to have you here. Great tip with the umbrella
@davidbiagini9048 I had that opportunity once a few years ago...I was leaving work, and it was pouring rain. A lady just ahead of me didn't have a bumbershoot with her, so I offered to hold mine over her until she got to her car, and inside it. Very much appreciated.
A very basic one.
Opening a door and allowing her to pass through it first.
I'm an English man living in Prague. I helped a young woman carry her pram, with her daughter inside, up the stairs. When she thanked me I said happy to help. She then said , " You English men have such nice manners."
Glad to see chivalry is alive and well in Prague. How do you find living there?
I can confirm that Englishmen make superior gentlemen. I'm an American man living in Germany at the moment. It's a very polite country, but not proactively helpful. On a holiday to the UK meanwhile, I had someone helping me out with my heap of kids daily. Hats off.
Well, nice to hear that, I am from czech republic so your comment touched me, I am asking people if they want to help with the pram when they are stepping inside public transport.
Well done that man.
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A few years ago, i was at the mall for an eye exam. I held the mall door open for a young, pink haired woman. Expecting a thank you, i was surprised that she snapped at me - "Im quite capable of opening a door myself!" She scolded me. I was so shocked that i couldn't think of a reply. But i hold doors open for everyone! Young or old, male or female. Just how i was raised.
Men far more experienced and cleverer than myself have written this rule, which I follow religiously: be wary of women with brightly colored hair!
Me too!!
I used to work with "that woman."😒
Women like that are ruining chivalry for the rest of women out there. Feminine women appreciate it and will make it known. Never stop doing it cause of rude girls like this one.
One act of chivalry I learned a year ago-and that I haven’t seen many people know about-is that when you’re going upstairs, you should walk behind the lady, and when going downstairs, you should walk in front of her. The idea is that if she falls, you can catch her.
Very nice!
I was always taught that as a man you should walk in front of her or by her side when walking up the stairs, as to open doors for her. It also has a second layer to it, as when you are not behind her, she is reassured you aren't checking out her legs/rear. Kinda sad that this second meaning had to be added...
thanks for bringing this one back brother! I have always supported this one but can you PLEASE help me with the next one... what to do if the lady has a mini skirt going up the stairs ... do i inform her once more that Iam behond her for her safety when going up and mention that i will keep my head down? looking forward to you answer PS excuse me Gents GREAT VIDEO BTW > salute!
Addendum: keep some distance when going upstairs behind her, lest you appear obtrusive.
@@tytusdezoo5097 Regardless what she's wearing. If she has the higher ground, she could never blame you by faking a "fall"; or if she really honestly did trip or fall or her heal broke, or her shoe strap snapped, you can prevent her fall. Its not your fault if she chose to wear a mini-skirt. Maybe she wants to be attractive that way.
In a restaurant, cafe or even a pub, I always make sure my wife has the nicest seat at the table. It's the one with the best view, the one which won't get bumped by people walking past.
Very good tip. Thank you for sharing
I do the same. My wife once said, "This is a really nice place, but I guess I took the seat with the better view since your back is to it." I replied, "I disagree. I think I have the better view."
My wife and I play along opening the car door, I open and she extends her hand. It always crack a laugh after 5 years of marriage.
Sounds like a nice part of your happy marriage
As a woman, I enjoy your videos!! Thank you for educating young men in this generation on how to be gentleman!!! We need more of that and not degenerate ‘Pop the Balloon’ content 😭.
Yes, majority of women appreciate a gentleman, feminism has killed simple acts of chivalry where women get offended when a man opens the door for them…please, take several seats. That’s not the kind of woman you want anyways!
If you’re a lover boy, you need to be with a LOVER GIRL. That’s the only way it’s going to work in this messed up generation.
Rejection is Gods protection, don’t ever let anyone tell you your expectations are too high simply because that person cannot meet them. What one person can’t do, another will + go above and beyond…just you wait. Chivalry is still alive, gentlemen will follow the sidewalk rule, open doors, pull out your chair, pay for dates, buy you flowers without having to ask and do other sweet things for you just to see you smile.
Don’t do a disservice to yourself by settling for less than you deserve all because you’re desperate and worried your person isn’t out there.
Trust me, they are praying to meet you one day. It’s perfectly natural to yearn for romance and affection but as lover girls and lover boys, we have to guard our hearts even though we have so much love to give.
Thanks for leaving this wonderful comment, LadyKoko..
I hope you are right about, waiting...
But, it seems you're. While, many a moment goes by when, those little acts of chivalry go unnoticed, as it should be. The other day, and today. I had a few moments that come alive. The smile on her face, when I half opened her door was gladsome to behold. Then, it happened again today. So, there is life in this tradition yet. So, I am glad grandma lets me hold her purse, and gives me little quests.
And thank you for believing, that good exists in the opposite sex,
Fair Lady Koko.. goodbye..
After I was married, I made it my task to empty the diaper pail every week into the washer because the smell was so nasty. A couple years after our second child was born, I was on an extended business trip. During our phone call, my wife told me in disbelief that after 3 years, it was only then that she realized she didn't know how to unlock the lid so she could empty it herself.
Thank you for this! I grew up in the United States in the 70's and 80's, prime years for feminist ideology. I remember on more than one occasion, I opened doors for women, which is kind of automatic for me, and was met with a very negative response, such as "I am not helpless or weak". I felt shamed. I am happy to say that I now live in Latin America, where chivalry is alive and well. My gestures of respect are appreciated here. I open doors, help with chairs, and give compliments. I feel that this is appreciated. I see many men here doing the same here.
I was raised to be kind and gentlemanly, until it was necessary not to be.
I once commented to a feminist while admonishing me for holding a door for her. In my best southern drawl "Ma'am, if I did not hold the door for you, my ancestors would rise from the grave and haunt me until I repented"
Her gobsmacked reaction was priceless
@@shadowulf Excellent response! Firm, diplomatic, and still chivalrous. I love it. I too am a southerner.
I'm proud of myself for unconsciously doing most of these things without even being aware that it is chivalry, some stuff I just havent got the chance to do yet, while others I do!
Whenever possible, I open the car door for any female in my presence.
I do this for elderly women, my sister, mom, friend's wife and even their 10 year old daughter. Of all these my mother is the most important, I honour her most, she deserves that for raising me.
Many years ago while visiting my sister and her fiance, we were invited to go fishing an their friend's boat. My sister unwittingly went in her bikini top, the wind blowing over that water was freezing, I gave her my shirt to wear. I was freezing all the time and at the end of the day also badly sunburnt.
Her fiance didn't offer her anything, he's an experienced fisherman and was kitted head to toe.
Some things seem quite obvious, why is it that men don't do these things anymore? Good encouraging comments that offer valuable insight, thank you gentlemen for sharing your experiences.
I open my car door for anyone I'm taking with me.
When I first began to go out as a teenager I bought a copy of "Miss Emily's Etiquette". After I added two more books. All of the points you mentioned are covered in the books so fortunately learned early. My friends thought I was odd for opening a door for a girl. Still do it any many more expression of good manners. Enjoyed thank you.
Are these Emily Post books?
@@Gent.Z Yes they are her books. Everything you mentioned is covered in them.
I was taught this while in kindergarten. It has paved my way ever since
What a fantastic channel for you young men! I’m 62 but I noticed that many young men didn’t practice chivalry back when I was in my 40’s. Good for you man and keep up the good work.
I appreciate the help at a grocery store when I am reaching for something on a high shelf. I will ask for help from a taller person, but it is always nice when a man observes the problem and offers his help.
By the way, as I age I find that heavy doors are a challenge. Opening a door for me is appreciated far more now than ever before. It is perhaps a tired example, but it a common opportunity to be of service to another person.
Thank you, Crystal. You are right, it is always kind to help someone who needs a hand with something small. It goes a long way!
@@crystalfrancis3211 yet women only show chivalry towards men of his status......care to tell me y?
I agree with all the points. Adding to opening the car door and helping her inside: if once inside she reaches over and opens the drivers side door for you she appreciates you as much as you show you appreciate her. This one is worth keeping.
As a 60 year-old feminist, I approve your message. Your channel is a delight. I would add that Chivalry is NOT dead. I was shopping for a Thanksgiving turkey the other day and struggling to maneuver the big frozen bird into my cart. A young man rushed over and offered to assist. Since my has hair has gone grey, I have been offered seats on public transport many times. This usually takes me by surprise because I don’t think of myself as someone for whom a seat should be surrendered, but I appreciate the kind gesture and I always express my gratitude.
feminists don't deserve sh*t. anyone who even thinks of being chivalrous with a feminist b*tch is a simp
You don’t deserve chivalry as a feminist
Thank you, Christine. I’m glad to hear you are still experiencing chivalrous behavior, even from young men.
A properly reared man would offer his seat to any woman standing.
and it shouldn't be the color of your hair or your age that makes a man a Gentleman do things for you.
Two top tips 1) when helping a lady on with her coat the final part of the proces should be to stand behind her and lift the edges of the coat and then let them resttle on her shoulders. You can even smooth the shouldsers down if you wish. 2) show some acts of chialry to other perons - the recipient will like it, you will like it and yor lady love it.
Good tip Steve! And yes, chivalry isn’t exclusively for a romantic interest. Your lady will love seeing you be helpful and kind to strangers.
I remember decades ago in NYC seeing two Ladies decked out walking down the street during a light rain. Was in a taxi - had him stop and I rushed out and up to the Ladies and gave them My umbrella. They declined but I insisted. They were REALLY grateful saying They were on their way to an interview. I told them they'd do fantasically and went back to the taxi. Why'd I do it? Honor. Respect. Value. To ME it doesn't matter who She 'is' but she IS someone's Daughter, Mother, Sister, or whatever. My Grandpa taught Me that. Haven't missed that $75 umbrella but have thought of that Moment when two Ladies just minding their business and I had an Encounter and I got to make their Life a little easier. Their gratitude changed My Life FOREVER. Always Honor what You Value...
I think that is a little excessive. I know many of us can ill afford to give away $75 umbrellas, let alone own one in the first place. All my umbrellas are old hand-me-downs and cheap.
@@iPlayOnSpica It's not excessive for him obviously. No one is demanding you give away a $75 umbrella lol. He said "Always Honor what You Value." That's the important part, not the umbrella. The effect of the gesture and the memorable moment it created is what mattered most. Don't miss that part of his story for the sake of the part about money. I thought it was beautiful!
I'm all for being chivalrous, but a lot of modern women seem to think that they're entitled to it because of their gender.
Chivalry was always reserved for ladies, not women.
I totally agree with that statement as I have been roasted for holding a door for a woman and she came out with I am not an invalid etc. The opposite of this is the off hand attitude of not even acknowledging the gesture.
Well put.
@@richjohn11 Indeed, these days you're damned if you do hold the door and damned if you don't.
I'm in my 50s and just old enough that I remember when I was in my 20s there was still an older (pre-feminist) generation of women alive that greatly appreciated chivalrous acts like held doors, help with coats and the like. As for the younger ones, even by that time, the fix was already in, the nastiness had already shown up.
I agree, this behavior should be reserved for ladies, who will appreciate it.
@haydenglatemore I was on the fence over this. As an American, I understand the reasoning behind this as a great number of women here don't appreciate or even notice when a man performs a chivalrous act. However, I am reminded of a quote, "It matters not what others do, what matters is what you do."
As a lady I would like to add that it is very much appreciated when a gentleman helps you if you accidentally have dropped something on the floor and have to pick it up.
I love these videos, they are like calming piano music. These plus my morning coffee, are a great way to start off the day
Women want this kind of attention from men IF they find that man desirable in some way. If a woman has no interest in a man, and the man does any of this, he'll be labeled a 'creep'.
As a commenter said: I don't do things like this because (my wife or any woman...) it's necessary or she is weak but because I find our women important and was taught this in n the south as a way to act with all women... so I don't care if I am considered a "creep" and I will leave a woman alone if she expresses distaste or distain for me or my actions... but that's me.
Loving the Brooks Brothers herringbone sport jacket! A classic staple.
I reside in an apartment complex and it's ALWAYS ladies first into the elevator and ladies out first in addition to holding the various doors (ladies first).
Thank you, Walter. I also live in a high rise and observe this rule. However, I’m sure you’ve also seen that many men have zero elevator etiquette today.
1) Walk or drive your date home at the end of the night.
2) Open the door for her and offer her your hand for support.
3) Offer her your coat or jacket.
4) Take out the trash.
5) Walk on the dangerous side of the sidewalk.
... the trash makes so much sense as she is usually the food prep person. I want her hands clean and she likely washes them a lot already.
Chivalry is a system that expects certain behaviors from ladies, as well.
Lady Z channel coming soon hopefully 😂
@@rykerblade_snb it'll be shut down by feminists
@@rykerblade_snb GREAT IDEA ! Hopefully Gent Zed could find a lady who could do that
Ah but they don't want to talk about that m8
@rickdecastro4584 and that kind of behaviour is rarer than you think, these days.
Bringing flowers, for special occasions or just because! I did it and she LOVED it. Said no other guy had ever done that for her, even in serious relationships.
Random flowers are quite underrated, my lady always complains and asks me why saying that I didn't need to/shouldn't etc...
She loves it 😂
Great tip
The Chivalric Code goes way beyond "doing nice stuff for women". A knight in shining armor hasn't seen combat.
That's why you should be prepared, this way you can put that shining armor to it's proper use. Shining armor is fine, but she will love those scratches and dents when she knows those were in service to her safety.
Bring her coffee in the morning. This is big, believe me.
Squeeze made a song about it many moons ago, though musically it was one of their worst pieces in my opinion.
Yes indeed. An espresso machine is a good addition to any gentleman’s kitchen.
@@Gent.Z ... in case ... you may have some dry and not very sweet biscuits in reserve ... together with the black and bitter espresso you can offer her an original italian colazione ... with the sorriso of a cavaliere
I was dating a man for a few weeks and he showed up to my work with a hot chocolate (I don’t drink coffee) and a muffin. It was a really thoughtful gesture and it made me appreciate him so much more. It’s a shame we didn’t work out but I won’t forget about his chivalry…he opened doors, paid for dates and held hands with me in public. Grateful I got to experience this for the first time with him, let’s me know that chivalry is very much still alive 😊
@@Theladykokoso you basically took advantage of the man and were just a taker.
My wife likes the fact that I open door for her. It a a simple gesture which reminds her how much I value her
I am guilty of all 5 but I am 67. I had escorted a younger lady to the Kentucky Derby. It was pouring rain and our seats were nowhere near cover. I noticed she was starting to shiver. Without hesitation I immediately gave her my raincoat. I didn't expect anything in return. I know she appreciated me doing so.
I was posted to Europe as a young man. Kissing a woman on the hand in greeting was a thing then. I still do it on occasion, and they love it!
@timothyarndt3281 I don't think my wife would like me kissing another woman's hand.
I never sit down before all the ladies at the table have taken their seat.
Lending a jacket or sweatshirt to a gal is a great feeling, plus you get to watch her be cute wearing your stuff 😍
Absolutely, chivalry is for any lady, not just one you want to woo. I agree with everything except the feminism bit. Feminism is ordered towards women being their own man instead of going for the traditional complementary dynamic. Chivalry is anti-feminist, but it’s pro-woman, pro-femininity.
I love holding the car door open for her, especially in inclement weather, holding an umbrella over her head, etc. The worse the weather, the more romantic it is. And while this one may not quite meet the definition of chivalrous, I've also started hiding little Post-Its around the house that say "I love Beth". Whenever she finds one, it's a sweet, unexpected little gesture of my love for her.
That's very sweet, Paul. Sounds like you two have a great relatonship.
5:30 women vote for that
I do these types of things naturally for some reason didn't know it was like chivalrous
It’s great that you’re naturally a gentleman! Keep it up
Great video! Well done. Feminism is about framing facts in a particular way, this is rooted in logic and system 2 thinking. For all people, including feminists, feelings are much more powerful than logic and this is where chivalry has its impact. We all have three compelling psychological needs, to be liked, to feel important, and to belong. Chivalry addresses one or more of these needs. I go out of my way to perform acts of kindness for any and everyone, male and female alike, and women and men’s needs are different.
Five common sense behaviors that always get a an endearing response. I wouldn’t want to go out with a woman who didn’t appreciate them.
I did get a chuckle at the 60s vintage clips.
Being conscientious at all times and looking for ways to help is the key takeaway - it should be selfless acts, not trying to get something from someone
I once held a door open for a woman in an Ottawa shopping mall - and she called me a male chauvinist pig. That was me told
Interesting that other men never fail to be thankful for the door being opened for them. Luckily for me, most women I've held the door open for were decent human beings, too. Sorry you had to go through that.
Great advice!!! I have always tried to follow that advice for my 86/7 years.
Here in America men are having a hard time getting themselves dressed let alone help someone else with anything. Sad state affairs. Thanks for this. Way too few of us actually do these things.
When she leaves, keep a close eye on her stuff.
Good tip!
I have done all of these for my Wife for the past 37 years, it is my duty and pleasure as her husband and protector.
One thing I do that is not listed is when we are seated at a restaurant I make certain that she is seated first then I sit between her and the entrance and rest of the people.
she is safe behind me and I am in a position to provide both cover and protection if necessary.
Yeah, Yeah, Yeah... but... IS THAT A SOCK TIE!?? I loved my sock ties back in the day. My Dad bought them for me for Christmas just after college.
So, YT pushed this to me, and wow, I've been waiting for the pendulum to swing this way. Good for you for promoting old school decent man-hood.
My wife likes a hug when I hug her from the back.
In my era, it was an act of chivalry to light two cigarettes and then hand one to your lady.
its great. Don't know why but a woman who smokes is extreme unattractive/ugly to me. its subjective i guess.
Share the cancer with your lady. 😂
If you’re going to smoke, that’s how to do it like a gentleman!
1, If you're walking her home, as soon as you get close to her door, stop five feet away from the door, and start saying your goodbyes etc. This shows a none threatening stance it also sows in her a desire to be with you. If she wants you to come in she'll ask you or even take your hand!
Drawing the chair out is something I have done .
Recently on a bike ride, I saw a young black man walking with his girlfriend while wearing a massive puffer coat, while his girlfriend had on no coat. I could see that she was shivering, and he couldn't have cared less. It really does make all the difference.
I have been married to my lady for over 50 years. I am very happy to discover that taking out the garbage is an act of chivalry. I also do most of the dishes. I figure it’s the least I can do since she is much better at changing poopy diapers for our great grandson. It also helps to be very much in love. Love is a process that must be perfected, love is a journey that must be traveled 👍
Cool. Can we also bring back old school women who appreciate these things?
I have lost count the number of times I have opened a door for a woman and she has refused to walk through it, or the times I have let them go first in the queue and have been faced with an acid stare.
It's a shame.
I have twice been snubbed by Smart well to do young ladies, one in her late teens and the other in her early 20s when I opened a door for them. "We can open the door ourselves" each of them replied, on separate occasions. Chivalry is not dead. Young women like these have killed it. Who wants to be snubbed a third time?
5 acts of chivalry that make women MELT:
1) Taking her to very expensive restaurants
2) Buying something expensive for them
3) Spending a lot of money for a trip overseas
4) Buying expensive items for her while on that trip
5) Buying a very expensive, overpriced engagement ring.
In other words, it's all about the money to women
We have come a long ways from the 1970's and the National Organization of Women when if you held the door for a lady you surely heard, "What! Don't you think I can open the door myself?" I lived through that and remained the Officer and Gentleman the Congress of the United States certified me to be in my commissioning document. 😊
When seated in a restaurant with my wife, I always stand when a lady stops at our table to say hello.
This is one that every guy used to do - I never see this done now though
I'm an American, raised by a very attentive mother. While living in Germany, my girlfriend and I went to a local outdoor Fest hosted in the village where her sister and brother-in-law lived. We were both wearing jackets and as the sun went down, the temperature suddenly dropped. At the end of the long table at which we were sitting I saw a young woman in a T-shirt, shivering. I stood up, went to the end of the table, took off my jacket and offered it to her. She seemed very surprised but also very relieved and gladly took my jacket. As I sat down next to my girlfriend she asked if I knew who that woman was. As I tried to dismiss my own shivering I said "No, but she looked cold". She explained, "That's my sister's husband's sister. I think you just made a very good impression"! A short time later a man approached the woman, looked at my jacket and seemed very curious. She pointed to me and smiled. Turns out, it was her husband and, yes, I gained quite a reputation after that small act.
3) Once at work, a co-worker was outside in the cold (middle of November) wearing a thin dressy shirt and slacks without a coat and shivering. She was on her phone to her mother. A private call. I walked outside with my A-1 leather bomber jacket and put it around her shoulders. I was uncomfortable watching her freeze! I made sure she put it on all the way. Then I went inside. She returned it to me when she got back inside and thanked me profusely.
In order for a man to be chivalrous, a woman needs to show she is worth it. If she is not gracious she is not worthy
Agree 👍🏼
Add taking your hat off for greeting a lady
Looks good shows respect and keeps the hat brim from hitting her face when you hug
@tomahawktactical705 I did that to a couple ladies at a local hospital where I worked...the reaction was great...one said to the other "he tipped his hat! wow!" And it was just a baseball cap I was wearing. But still...
@@tomahawktactical705 bro is living in the 50z
I’m so sorry I just found out about your event in Chicago. I’d love to have attended.
I am 65 years of age and have worked hard to become a gentleman. I have watched several single ladies who are in our social circle date men who have absolutely no clue how to be a gentleman. The relationships never last long for any of them. It pains me to see women these days be treated this way. I came across your channel by chance and you’ve given me hope that at least some men will listen to you and put the necessary time and effort into becoming gentlemen.
Our society will be better for it. Being a gentleman requires effort. It can mean putting one’s own comfort, safety, and quite possibly one’s own life on the line to protect who are in your charge.
Thanks for what you’re doing.
The tragedy in this era is that for every man extending a chivalrous gesture, which is an act of gentleness on the part of the man, an act of his "putting the sword aside", there are countless man-hating feminists that will take this as an act of weakness and turn it against the man... because in the mind of the feminist (and they are legion), they are always at war with men.
A few are like that. Most feminists are not at war with men, from personal experience.
@@cuauhtemoc8350 Going to war with men was from its very inception the entire raison d'être of feminism. Betty Friedman, Bella Abzug, Gloria Steinem, that whole bunch that got it all up and running... all hysterical, paranoid man-haters.
@@cuauhtemoc8350the most vocal feminist are
@@rift6126 Maybe so.
@Leif-s9w Yeah...isn't feminism great? I had a woman tell me "I can open the door myself" in a haughty tone, so I shut it before she got close and walked to my car.
I have been opening doors for ladies for decades; not in vehicles (my wife, on occasion). I help women I know with removing or putting on their coats/jackets. Offering my jacket, I don't have much occasion, but I did once years ago, and the girl was surprised and pleased. It was cold and breezy. I do the trash all the time. And I do #5 as well. I have tipped my hat to ladies, held my umbrella open over a lady that did not have one. I've always wanted to light a woman's cigarette, but hardly any of them smoke, or they (ugh) vape. I'm also a boomer at 74 years young. I need to instill some of this in my two older grandsons who are in their mid teens.
Make no mistake about it Gents; this is ONLY for Ladies, NOT for Vixens!
Just this year I can remember going to another graduation for me and my ex's oldest son for another degree. I was opening the doors, pulling chairs out for them and gave my jacket to our daughter after dinner at the restaurant. Then my Ex commented to our daughter about how I still was doing the little things. Then I told her, if I did not then my Grandma Coyne would smack me from the grave. They are 19 months apart and I can remember when our daughter got attacked by 4 guys and our son attacked them, and he was 17 at the time and like 4 or 5 years younger than the other guys. he jumped them not expecting to win, only by time for her to get away. Then no one came to his help, and he fought dirty, like deciding to gouge eyes out. He put each of them into the hospital for at least a few days each and he had to just get treated and released. That was 9 years ago now, dam.
I have a question to you guys.
Every moneday, me and my group of friends, including my girl, are coming back to town from a study program.
I am always offers to accompany her home and she always refuses because she is saying that she wants me to arrive early to my home and go to sleep (have school the day after and usually i dont wake upin time) and saying that she has a phone and everything is allright..
Should i insist? I don't like when she is going hole alone at the dark and additionally we don't have a lot time together
I thought of it as respecting yourself as someone capable of taking care of not only yourself but also your partner, and respecting your partner for being capable of acknowledging and appreciating your care.
A positive story: I once escorted a young lady I had met only two hours before across a very wide road that did not have a road divider. I walked on her left ( the traffic side of the road ) till we reached the halfway point and then I slid to her right, again to be on the traffic side. She was from a Middle Eastern country where getting into a relationship with a foreign male could have cost her a present sentence. The Lady , whom I had known for only a few hours by then, proposed to me and cited the chivalry as the main reason.
@Gent.Z what type of trousers are you pairing with that shirt and jacket combination?
Awesome video, an act of chivalry I do a lot often is opening the door of a car or building for anyone even strangers.
Chivalry was a good thing. It encompassed far more than just this narrow aspect. Having said that, treating someone with compassion and respect should be universal.
I carry a handkerchief. It's never for me, it's for a lady even if I'm not knowing that I will be with one. A few nights ago I was with a lady who shared something emotional with me while we were at a restaurant. She teared up so I handed her my handkerchief. She was so stunned that she asked me if she could keep it. Of course. It was monogrammed, and she will always think of me when she sees it.
It's so sad chivalry being seen as a sign of simping these days.
Yeah it is
It is indeed. Men need to remember the value in being a gentleman.
Because it is.
@@Gent.ZThey don’t. Women these days are not ladies. They are flat out hoes. Where the fuck have you been?!
@@cactaceous it shouldn't be. And in reality it is not. But unfortunately that's how it's seen.
Ok the arm extention suggestion was helpful.
Glad to hear it
I remain chivalrous man simply because it's the way I was raised. My dad said, treat every woman like she's going to be my wife someday. She turns out to be a knucklehead, it ain't your fault. I live by that.
quite frankly, I'm amazed that these acts even need to be mentioned! Granted, there are plenty of situations where one might even be sorry to have been chivalrous... but it is better to forget them as soon as possible
Married 22 years. Gen X.
Always allow your wife to sit before you do. Assist with her coat or jacket.
Whenever she rises to go to the ladies room, you rise as well.
Whenever she returns, rise to greet her.
Always carry a handkerchief. 2 at funerals or weddings. Once offered, never ask for them back.
Always, always pick up the tab. No exceptions.
Open the car door for her unless a valet has the job.
Don’t interrupt her in conversation. Listen.
Driving, so she doesn't have to worry about the traffic, weather, time of day/darkness etc, or, in cases where she expresses a wish to drive, yield to her wish to do so and happily riding along.
I ALWAYS open a door for ANY woman. ALWAYS. Since I was 10 years old (I’m 53 now).
Im French born in 1960.
Chevalerie goes to women, good manners to other people (ie: elderlies, fragile or savant people, give your seat to a pregnant woman).
Be notificabily condescendent to rough people, my pleasure... (having the sens of "repartie"
I learn good manners from little boy in a blue colar factory workers, simple people family, very traditional. I got that since in my DNA.
I reconize my natural behaviours in this video. I have to awoue that give me a sens of comfort and create an atmosphere of confidence around me for myself and for with who im with.
I have spend one year in Russia and their elegant manners was like a appreciated pass to go through the society.
In any unexpected situation, if it is no etiquette in place, simply keep it light, goes by some élegant common sens and maybe a pointe of humour... (ladies know very well themself...)
$ doesn't buy good manners, neither their unexpected rewards...
Enjoy your life and merry Xmas
I love how even the comment section is so wholesome. Lads chivalry is not dead. Is always been here, we forgot to be chivalrous, when the stadium or arenas got loud. And by we I mean me.
But, what a wholesale goods shop of refreshing thought is this comment section.
After a night at the bars on Halloween, I ran into this girl who had a little too much to drink and escorted her to her Uber by walking on the side of the sidewalk closest the road and her on my left, not to mention having her hold onto me for support as she struggled to walk in her heels and being impaired.
And your reward was to pay for the uber!😂😂😂😂😂 Nice guys always finish last,females made that rule many years ago..
the key is mindset. Would you do these things for someone you're not dating? I open doors for everyone; girls, guys, grandmothers, their emotional support pets, everyone. My extra gesture though is I always make sure when working late that my coworkers leave safely. Even if they wave me on to my car and I go to it, I will not actually leave the area until I know they have all made it to their vehicles safely.
Give her flowers for no particular reason.
Chivalry in its true form comes with masculinity. Weak men are not chivalrous.
I like how these examples show naval officers showing how its done
Most of those clips look like US Naval Academy training films from the 50’s or 60’s when officers were still styled as “officers and gentlemen “.
Always present your date with flowers. If you are meeting her at a destination and she will have to bring the flowers home, present her with a small arrangement. However, if you escort her from her home, you can present her with a larger bouquet. That way she can leave it at home while you enjoy the evening together.
One summer there was a power outage in my neighborhood, which was an excuse for the neighbors to come out and share a few drinks and commiserate. I noticed this one guys wife was literally sitting on the pavement, so I got a folding picnic chair out the trunk of my car for her. As soon as I set it down, her husband sat in it! I had to remind the lad that his wife was sitting on the sidewalk
One way to impress her is when something breaks, fix it. When a plan falls apart, be unfazed and have a backup.
Doors: Stand up: Walk along Curb near to road: Stand when lady approaches: Acknowledge her respectfully.
I bring 19l water bottles to the stand near the administrative office room (only woman works in this department in my workplace). The water bottles are stored pretty far away and you have to go up the stairs with the bottles.
Walking outside of the sidewalk is something always appreciated. Taking the trash out... of course!,... sure Adam was doing that went the snake talked to Eve. About cars, in the military the lower ranks enters first so when the car arrives to destination, the senior officer gets out of the car first. That is a detail to consider if she is the "main character" at destination. A 6th tip to consider is using your body as a shield for her. I do not consider this as a protection but to give comfort. As a rescuer I used to stand between the victim and the wind in a blizzard, or to cast my shadow on the victim in a sunny day or to swim between the victim and the waves in the sea. Those are natural threats, but there are urban threats such us disturbing people, dogs behind a fence, construction sites, traffic or wind in a rainy day, intense sun in summer, etc... acting natural to shield her adds comfort to the situation, and sometimes that will be noticed and appreciated.
I must have been 15 or 16. Grade 10 science class. We were waiting for our teacher to arrive and one of my classmates walked in. I believe her name is Sydney. She used to live a few houses down from my parents place. Anyways, she walked up to her spot at the table and I pulled her chair out for her to sit down. The way she looked at me is burned into my memory. I think about that moment often.
Indeed, teach.
Classy!