Though this is about women feeling threatened by other women, I wanted to share that I, a cis man, felt better after watching this. I was feeling self-conscious of my gender and of my traits, and, being reminded what's good about them does not take away what's good about me felt... Really nice. 😊 I'm not sure who this message would reach, but I wanted to express my gratitude.
There was a time when I diminished myself, bowing to the pressure of others who felt uneasy in my presence or perceived me as behaving in a particular manner. However, this is a phase we all go through, and eventually, we outgrow it, evolving into individuals who are admired and envied. It is all part of the natural process of growth.
I really liked your take on this, I’m 29 and started struggling with this recently, which is weird because you’d think that as we grow older we become more confident, I got married last year and sometimes I catch myself comparing with other women around me, afraid my husband will feel attracted to them, it’s so twisted but it’s true, when I think out it rationally I understand that this is just about me but I can’t help feelings these things, I’m trying though 😁
Yes, while those feelings are unpleasant, they’re there for a reason. And it’s amazing that you’re able to self-reflect, because that leads to inner work which can help you and your relationship flourish on another level. Thank you for sharing and being so honest! ❤️
When I was very young I was always uncomfortable around beautiful women and thought they were better than me. But when you grow up you realize how ridiculous that is. Someone being pretty has nothing to do with me. I still stare at beautiful women. But I don't think they're better. They're just beautiful. I will say, a lot of beautiful people don't know they're beautiful, and to me that's kind of said. They get flak for being beautiful but don't get to see it.
It takes a lot of growth and maturity to get to that place, but it is very freeing to actually get there. And yes, so many beautiful women don’t even realize how beautiful they are. Confidence has nothing to do with looks and everything to do with self-perception. Thank you for sharing!
I do believe confidence is the ultimate life changer when you learn to stop caring for the right things, yet stay caring enough to be kind and understanding to those who need it.
I loved your video! I found it by chance, and it was really nice because I've just finished the book "The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women" and you synthesize a remarkable part of this book. We constantly need to be exposed to these thoughts so that actually not comparing ourselves with someone becomes a natural process for us.
When your friends are happy its all good but I really get triggered when people brag. It takes me a long time to get over and I feel worthless because I can never say anything good about my self.
I think that you are beautiful and wise, I'm happy that I've found your channel. I find your videos so helpful and I realate to so many things you are talking about ❤
I think a big part that has played a role in why I feel inferior around prettier women is because much throughout hs I was bullied by girls who I did indeed think where prettier than me. Obviously this is silly because I’m older now and I recognize my unique beauty. I’m also queer so it plays a huge part in my attraction to women as well. It’s hard because I have that intimidation and fear of women already despite me also having romantic attraction towards them. It’s really hard and I’m trying to fix it with shadow work. I want to be a safe space for women and I want to experience a strong sisterhood with no judgment and no competition, but this inherit envy/jealousy/insecurity that I feel really weighs it down.
I think ppl compare vevause the fallen world is like a shop, ppl r trying to find thenselves because they tried to shut down the true soul. So thats how comparing may hav started...
I have never felt equal to other women but somehow I've always felt equal to men... whenever I want to dress femininely I feel like a child or boy in women's clothing 🥲
Though this is about women feeling threatened by other women, I wanted to share that I, a cis man, felt better after watching this. I was feeling self-conscious of my gender and of my traits, and, being reminded what's good about them does not take away what's good about me felt... Really nice. 😊
I'm not sure who this message would reach, but I wanted to express my gratitude.
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle." - Christian D. Larson
Beautiful quote!
And when you're homeless and these 'woemen' are the reason you are🙄?
There was a time when I diminished myself, bowing to the pressure of others who felt uneasy in my presence or perceived me as behaving in a particular manner. However, this is a phase we all go through, and eventually, we outgrow it, evolving into individuals who are admired and envied. It is all part of the natural process of growth.
I really liked your take on this, I’m 29 and started struggling with this recently, which is weird because you’d think that as we grow older we become more confident, I got married last year and sometimes I catch myself comparing with other women around me, afraid my husband will feel attracted to them, it’s so twisted but it’s true, when I think out it rationally I understand that this is just about me but I can’t help feelings these things, I’m trying though 😁
Yes, while those feelings are unpleasant, they’re there for a reason. And it’s amazing that you’re able to self-reflect, because that leads to inner work which can help you and your relationship flourish on another level.
Thank you for sharing and being so honest! ❤️
When I was very young I was always uncomfortable around beautiful women and thought they were better than me. But when you grow up you realize how ridiculous that is. Someone being pretty has nothing to do with me. I still stare at beautiful women. But I don't think they're better. They're just beautiful. I will say, a lot of beautiful people don't know they're beautiful, and to me that's kind of said. They get flak for being beautiful but don't get to see it.
It takes a lot of growth and maturity to get to that place, but it is very freeing to actually get there. And yes, so many beautiful women don’t even realize how beautiful they are. Confidence has nothing to do with looks and everything to do with self-perception.
Thank you for sharing!
I do believe confidence is the ultimate life changer when you learn to stop caring for the right things, yet stay caring enough to be kind and understanding to those who need it.
Precisely, very well said!
Confidence only matters if she already likes you.
I loved your video! I found it by chance, and it was really nice because I've just finished the book "The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty Are Used Against Women" and you synthesize a remarkable part of this book. We constantly need to be exposed to these thoughts so that actually not comparing ourselves with someone becomes a natural process for us.
Thank you for sharing! I’m intrigued by the book, sounds like an interesting read
When your friends are happy its all good but I really get triggered when people brag. It takes me a long time to get over and I feel worthless because I can never say anything good about my self.
Keep singin u got it
I think that you are beautiful and wise, I'm happy that I've found your channel. I find your videos so helpful and I realate to so many things you are talking about ❤
That’s so kind! Thank you ❤️
key word, celebrate
Thank you!!!!❤
Thank you for your honesty 💓
Thank you for watching! 🤍
I think a big part that has played a role in why I feel inferior around prettier women is because much throughout hs I was bullied by girls who I did indeed think where prettier than me. Obviously this is silly because I’m older now and I recognize my unique beauty. I’m also queer so it plays a huge part in my attraction to women as well. It’s hard because I have that intimidation and fear of women already despite me also having romantic attraction towards them. It’s really hard and I’m trying to fix it with shadow work. I want to be a safe space for women and I want to experience a strong sisterhood with no judgment and no competition, but this inherit envy/jealousy/insecurity that I feel really weighs it down.
same here. you’re not alone
😎 ❤❤❤listening
I think ppl compare vevause the fallen world is like a shop, ppl r trying to find thenselves because they tried to shut down the true soul. So thats how comparing may hav started...
I have never felt equal to other women but somehow I've always felt equal to men... whenever I want to dress femininely I feel like a child or boy in women's clothing 🥲
Interesting. Yes I too have felt mails give me room to be vs other woemen. I don't understand it maybe I have more of a mail spirit? 🤷