Do you have to put underwear on the deceased

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  • In this video Tracy answers questions about putting underwear, or more specifically, shapewear on the deceased, and it seems these aren't the only difficult garments she has had to dress people in for their viewings, coffins and services. It's an interesting question and something for us all to consider - what would we want to be dressed in, when the time comes?
    Thanks so much for your questions, keep them coming and we look forward to bringing you the first of our Melbourne videos very soon.
    Til next time,
    Stay safe,
    T&T xx
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  • @rp5820
    @rp5820 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

    I live in the U.S. and when my mom died the funeral director asked that we bring in underwear and a bra for her. He also asked if she had a favorite lipstick and nail polish and to bring that in also. She always had a handkerchief she would keep in her pocket or up the sleeve of her long sleeved top, and so I brought in a brand new handkerchief that I had given her for Christmas which was placed up the sleeve of the left arm of her dress. I took several pictures of her in the casket and one of the photo's shows the handkerchief which was tucked up the sleeve. I often view that photo which is downloaded on my laptop as it brings me great comfort and peace. Thanks for the work that you do.

    • @bernadetteherpakglisan7498
      @bernadetteherpakglisan7498 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I thought that you sewed nipples together instead of wearing a bra at least in the states that’s what I have seen done . Now I wonder because gravity takes it toll on the boobies.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you for sharing your story ☺️ beautiful ❤️❤️

    • @catrina7083
      @catrina7083 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My father regularly left restaurants with the coffee spoon in his shirt pocket. He was buried with a spoon for his coffee in heaven. 🥄

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How special and a little quirky ❤️❤️

  • @bellfordmarshall1289
    @bellfordmarshall1289 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    My sister purchased some fancy shoes for a party we had some years ago. They were a tad pricey as well as the dress she wore. She would joke that when she passed, she wanted to wear that dress and the shoes. Fast forward to me making arrangements for her funeral. I gave the dress to the mortician. I just figured i would put the shoes in the coffin, but when i went to the florist, he asked me to bring them to him. The night of the service, one of the floral arrangements included those beautiful silver shoes. Perfect display. When the services were over, the mortician helped me remove the shoes from the arrangement and we put them into the casket. I felt really good about delivering what she requested. ☺️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh wow how wonderfully beautiful ❤️ That is so very special. So sorry for the loss of your sister 🙏😞❤️❤️

  • @karenglenn6707
    @karenglenn6707 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    My beautiful best friend Meredith died in 1997 aged just 34 of non Hodgkin lymphoma. She had asked me beforehand to make sure that her make up was done properly. It is one of the hardest things that I have ever done, seeing my darling sassy friend laying there. Her make up was all wrong. I asked them to change it and went back and she looked gorgeous!! I kissed her face and stroked her hand and put on a watch of mine that she had always loved. Her face had been bloated from the cortisone but it all disappeared and she looked like the Merri that I loved so much. I miss that girl with my soul every day of my life.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      So very sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend 😔
      Sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
      Thank you for sharing your story ❤️❤️

    • @RubySue12
      @RubySue12 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Meredith was blessed to have you as her best friend. Even death couldn’t break the loving bond you shared, and you honored her to the end, seeing to her makeup and gifting her with your watch. My heartfelt condolences on your loss. I hope memories of happier times have brought you smiles and comfort over all these years. ❤

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤️❤️

    • @karenglenn6707
      @karenglenn6707 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@RubySue12 thank you so much, but I was blessed to have her. It just wasn’t long enough. She had the most loving soul and was adored by my whole extended family. My grandma said that she would have gone instead of Merri as she had had her life and Merri was leaving 2 beautiful girls, the youngest only 2. My best memory is of her one night all at a country Aussie pub, trying to play the bagpipes on the main road in the dark with a large crowd from the pub as her audience. We all laughed so much our stomachs hurt. She couldn’t play the bagpipes. It sounded like cats being murdered 🤣 Strong willed, creative, talented and was full of life, I used to wonder how I had found such a loyal and loving bestie but oh it still makes my heart ache. We talk about her a lot still, she’s always with us. ❤️

    • @karenglenn6707
      @karenglenn6707 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you so much for your kindness

  • @deanieedwards8117
    @deanieedwards8117 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    Hey yall. I wish i had found this channel and others ones before my father passed. As heartbroken as I was, i remember taking clothes that included underware and socks. In my mind, i gave me a sense of confort to know he was "dressed". Thank you for all you do.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Hi, sorry for the loss of your father 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
      It does bring family a lot of comfort knowing that the family members are well cared for 🤗 and that's one of the most important parts of this job. It's a privilege to care for others, take care ❤️❤️

    • @eileenmcdonald1599
      @eileenmcdonald1599 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same. But I do know all the clothing brought to put on my father. Were put on my father. When I die. Please no bra. Hate them.

  • @k_a_t_e__x
    @k_a_t_e__x 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Just cremated my Sister a few hours ago.....
    Heartbroken 💔
    7 weeks she's been gone. Coroner....police.... still no cause of death.... suspicious activity.
    By the time she was in the chapel of rest, i couldn't even hold her hand....she'd be gone 5 weeks and i was advised against it.
    My light has gone out

    • @diannelavoie5385
      @diannelavoie5385 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I'm so sorry to hear of the heartbreak that you're feeling. Not being able to see her one last time is unimaginable, but under the circumstances, unavoidable. Praying that the authorities can determine what happened and hopefully give you the closure you need ❤

    • @nekodragon1249
      @nekodragon1249 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Prayers if you would like. I am so sorry for your loss hope for answers for you soon❤

    • @Tember58
      @Tember58 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm so very sorry 😪
      Losing a sister is the most difficult time I ever went through in my life. My sister Kelly was my best friend. It takes time to mend a heart this broken and though it will never be the same...the pain becomes duller in time. Life is a challenging process. Really takes our breath at times. You will get through this difficult time. Your light will return in time. Prayers for your strength. 😪❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😔💔❤️❤️

  • @Tember58
    @Tember58 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    Momma always said wear nice underwear in case you get in an accident or something. If I am deceased...who cares? What ever is easier for the Mortician...I'm all in. Like I won't be there anyway. 🤷🏼‍♀️😂❤

    • @kimglass4851
      @kimglass4851 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Mine always said that too and my response was Why? If that happens I would probably shirt myself anyways" lol

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      😆❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      My mum used to say the same too, it's a mum thing 😉❤️❤️

    • @Tember58
      @Tember58 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@kimglass4851 🤣❤️👍

    • @joannmetz4413
      @joannmetz4413 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think all moms said that because mine said it too

  • @mariel3243
    @mariel3243 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    You're both fantastic so don't change a thing! If you use the word nappies and people are bothered they can decide not to watch. People need to stop being tools and trying control and censor what they don't like.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you for all your support love it 🥰❤️❤️

  • @ellesea123
    @ellesea123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I first came across your channel when I had a case with a massive head wound trauma from a car accident. She was a childhood best friend to one of the Funeral Directors, and the family insisted on viewing. I held the FD's hand as we opened the bag from the coroner's. I deemed her as unviewable (nearly every bone was shattered and she had missing fragments of her skull) and tried to offer other suggestions, such as having her head covered, but allowing for them to at least hold her hand. Still, the family insisted. It took me about 3 days to get her "viewable." I did everything I could. I did not have the resources to do what you shared in that video. She was one of the last cases I did before semi-retiring. It haunted me until very recently. I know I did well.
    My apologies for the loggohrea. That case was my introduction to your channel.
    As for this video, I found it amusing that you spoke about getting hit by the decedent. There have been so many times I experienced that! 😅
    As for undergarments, I would order them in case the family did not provide them. I was never passed on instructions that they did not wear any.
    Also, the bras and gravity... and the clothing being too small. It is a challenge.
    I have also gained weight since semi-retiring. Being a mortician really is strenuous.
    Are you on-call all the time? (I think that is what led me to take time off. Although I miss it and may go back.)
    I remember my professor saying that most people in the industry get burnt out around the 5 year mark. I did take a year off previously, around 10 years, and this one at about 20 years.
    How do you manage burn-out?
    Thank you for your videos.
    Your kindness and empathy are very well expressed.❤

    • @karenglenn6707
      @karenglenn6707 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      My darling nephew took his own life with a gun aged just 18. They had covered his head but we could still hold his hand and kiss it, and put letters in there with him. That was enough for us. We did not want anyone attempting the impossible so that we could see him. It was hard enough as it was. Love you our beautiful Christophor ❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh wow sounds like you did an outstanding job with that reconstruction it can take several days and weeks to do such work, you should be forever proud of yourself for doing such a difficult job in helping that family get closer, it's so important to the family what ever you can do helps, amazing well done.
      Oh yes been hit by the deceased, you have to giggle when it happens 😉
      Burn out is a major thing in our industry. Luckily we are only on call every 6 weeks and that just a Friday 4.30pm till the Sunday 4.30pm so it's not too bad I have been working in this small family business for 4 years now so not to burned out here yet 😬.
      I used to work for a big corporate company for 8 years and I asked to be taken off the on call roster after 1 year because I used to give my weekends away to other staff members who used to want to work the on call all the time, crazy, so I was lucky and got taken off the on call roster so never did it for 7years. I think this helps you not to burn out because you know yourself how much more physical and mentally draining the work is in the Mortuary compared to the other roles in the funeral industry.
      I am getting older and not sure how much longer my body will allow me to work in this physical and emotional roll, I find it harder every year now on my body, it takes me longer to recover from very busy days at work. It sucks getting older 🥴
      Thank you for sharing your story 🙏 you take good care of yourself and always be kind to yourself too ❤️❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      So very sorry for the loss of Christophor 😞 take good care ❤️❤️

  • @AmourTheCat
    @AmourTheCat 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    No matter what the topic is - both of you cover it with soooo much dignity❤. Thank you!!

  • @cyndyfisher
    @cyndyfisher 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Wow! Great video. I can’t imagine putting spanx on someone! Because my mom was Mormon, ladies from her church dressed her & because I had been Mormon long ago they allowed me & my daughter to help put her “temple” garments/clothing on. It was not easy!! She only had plastic knee pants on. She had a lot of edema too which made things harder. It’s not something I’d ever want to do again. ❤ Big respect to you Tracey!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Thank you Cyndy 🥰
      But lovely you got to help dress your mom ❤️❤️

  • @janh5199
    @janh5199 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Mom had entered her second childhood before she passed and couldn’t dress herself. She insisted on wearing shoes, not slippers even though she was wheelchair bound, so we bought her a pair of white tennis shoes (trainers) from Walmart. She was so proud of them and would always show them off to her visitors, so I asked that they be buried with her. The mortician let us know they were able to actually put them on her. It was a strange comfort to me.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is so special. A good memory to hold on to forever ❤️❤️

  • @robinriley-sloan3986
    @robinriley-sloan3986 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I did it when it would add to a pleasing appearance of the deceased. I expected the family sometimes would give me input & instructions. As for infants I always used a disposable diaper with a popular baby lotion. A pamper always gave the soft sound which families appreciated..

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Very special ❤️ thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

  • @Missy-vm8fr
    @Missy-vm8fr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    3 funerals in two weeks. I have observed a puppy mourning her deceased at a funeral home , and (this will make you smile) her granddaughter was upset because they “put grandmother in the trunk (aka hearse).”

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      🤣🤣 the truck love it.
      Oh wow that's a few services in a short time period ❤️❤️

  • @oraclehealerandrewdeappolonia
    @oraclehealerandrewdeappolonia 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Oh gosh trace you need a medal ! Such physical work 😢

  • @catherinex6114
    @catherinex6114 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    At about 6 minutes in . It's so funny call's face at this conversation he looks so shocked 😂😂😂 ❤

    • @plasticbutcher
      @plasticbutcher 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Glad to know I'm not the only one to notice Kals expression lol
      Rick B

  • @kimglass4851
    @kimglass4851 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Ive never thought about this but I havent wore a bra for 30 yrs. Ive switched to
    tank tops so thats what I will be sporting with my nappies lol Thanks ladies! Xoxo

  • @karenboouk531
    @karenboouk531 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hello lovely ladies I can imagine how difficult dressing a deceased person must be. As they are unable to help. Thank you for videos very interesting. Huge hugs to you both. 🇬🇧🌹🌹🌹

  • @darcye7629
    @darcye7629 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You ladies crack me up. My mom wasn't a big bra wearing person. But I did supply them with her underwear along with her outfit.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      And sure your mom looked beautiful 🥰❤️❤️

  • @Grumpykitty2023
    @Grumpykitty2023 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    What two beautiful/caring/compassionate ladies you are. Found your channel and subscribed. Sending love to you both from Lincolnshire UK xx

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you so much! Welcome to the channel 🤗 take good care out in beautiful Lincolnshire UK ❤️❤️

  • @elderlypoodle9181
    @elderlypoodle9181 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Fascinating! Never thought of that. Back in day, didn’t the morticians cut the back of the back of the clothes then tuck?
    Crazy thought , shoes I bought had by tried on by Aunt Helena at the funeral home! 😂🐩

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Sometimes we do cut clothes but only with permission from the family. We like to ask first in case the family wants to bring in other clothes that fit better. ❤️❤️

  • @vreisdorf4805
    @vreisdorf4805 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    My grandfather just passed and he made all of us promise to take his tie off before he was buried.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Love that ❤️ hope you did 😉❤️❤️

  • @pattijareo7423
    @pattijareo7423 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is good to know! I certainly never thought about it before. The general public would never think about this. Thanks for the clarity, dear ladies! 💕💕

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful! 🤗❤️❤️

  • @tonyjake3936
    @tonyjake3936 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You guys are so educational. When both my parents died I sent underwear to the funeral parlor. I never thought how hard it would be to get them on. When I and my husband die I will remember to tell my children to forget about it. I thought not sending them the mortician would think we were terrible people not sending them.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We would never think badly of someone not sending underwear, we are often quite happy with that 😉❤️❤️

  • @barbaratankersley7117
    @barbaratankersley7117 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hi beautiful ladies
    It's nice to hear u explain about putting clothes on our loved ones and we can smile every now and then
    Thank you for sharing and taking care of our loved ones
    U beautiful ladies have big hearts
    Thank you for being you

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you too for always being so kind 🥰❤️❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That's so funny because when we watched the video back to check it, we thought the same 😄💀❤️❤️

  • @susanweiss1439
    @susanweiss1439 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    When my dad died, mortician joked about my dad being in boxers. Best thing ever.
    Heaven forbid a Union suit - adult oneself with a drop flap for the backside.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😉❤️❤️

    • @nekodragon1249
      @nekodragon1249 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I never knew my dad wore boxers till I had to care for him 24/7

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🤗❤️❤️

  • @marciadichiara5688
    @marciadichiara5688 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Very informative. Thanks to you both. My favorite channel

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awesome, thank you! 🥰❤️❤️

  • @tracymcgrath1192
    @tracymcgrath1192 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    ❤❤❤❤ you two look amazing !!

  • @puppawallace
    @puppawallace 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Another great subject and video, thanks ❤

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You are so welcome! 🤗❤️❤️

  • @lindagallaway-moore4158
    @lindagallaway-moore4158 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What a great question. I wouldn't make this type of request because we cremate without viewing . Track suits more our speed. Do the families check? Have a lovely day ladies. ❤😊

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you. Yes I am sure some families have checked but that ok I don't mind them doing that at all. You have a wonderful day too Linda ❤️❤️

  • @Colin_Richard
    @Colin_Richard 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    👏👏👏 for the hard work you put in as a mortician, Tracy.
    As for nappies and diapers, when you say “nappy” (because we’re British English speakers) can’t people just say in their heads “ah yeah, a diaper to us because we speak American English”? In a future video, say “fanny” and wait for the comments to come rolling in! 😉😂

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      🤣🤣🤣 yip can you imagine the comments 😉❤️❤️

  • @hayleymorris6294
    @hayleymorris6294 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Sorry to ask, but do you think it was OK that my mam was in her nightdress?
    My poor mam lost so much weight before she passed that only her nightdress fitted.
    I pray that she didn't take offence with me and my dad 🙏
    Thank you again for EVERYTHING. xxxxxx

    • @suzanne529
      @suzanne529 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I think it is perfectly fine and just think she is so comfy!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Agree ❤️❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It's totally fine I dress so many people in their nightgown and pj's. I always think they look so comfy and peaceful 🤗❤️❤️

    • @RhondaofTheVale
      @RhondaofTheVale 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      My mum loved a pretty nightie, so I took one she hadn't worn. I said it probably won't fit because the aged care home fed her too well, so OK to cut it down the back. Also took her lipstick and the staff member said she would put it in the coffin. Mum would have liked that, she always had to have her lippy on.

  • @faithfloyd4480
    @faithfloyd4480 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great fun video, I enjoyed this one 😊. Trish I am with you, I will never look at trying on and buying shoes again lol. Weird question that sprung up when watching this. Do you ever have people that do not want to be dressed in any clothes? When we are born we are naked, so I was wondering if anyone has wanted to be buried the same way. Thanks for another great video ladies 🤍🤍

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 😊
      Yes, many people go out the way they came in naked ❤️

  • @francisjohnson665
    @francisjohnson665 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi ladies , Ya'll look pretty . Interesting video. I am wondering how long it's been since Tracy has had her cut .

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well funny you mention that Francis, it's been 4 years since I had my hair cut 😬 but I had an appointment today for the first time in forever. I was so looking forward to it as my hair is far too long. Then I got a message from the hairdresser to say she had to cancel my appointment 😔 as she is unwell 🤷‍♀️ So I am hoping to have it cut in the next few weeks 🤗❤️❤️

    • @divahc1
      @divahc1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Areyoudyingtoknow Funnily enough, as I was listening to you, I was imagining you with a style cut. Something around shoulder length, with light layering to really bring out your curls. I can't wait to see what you decide to do!

  • @teresagray1477
    @teresagray1477 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You both look extra pretty.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well thank you so kind ❤️❤️

  • @aprylranck909
    @aprylranck909 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just love the both of you ! Thank you ❤

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much! 🤗❤️❤️

  • @davehavice9640
    @davehavice9640 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I really like your show lady’s please keep them coming

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you so much 🤗❤️❤️

  • @jackiesmithsmetaldetecting
    @jackiesmithsmetaldetecting 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Both my parents passed 7 years apart Mum just recently, same funaral home did both, They insited we brought underwear for Dad and Mum. Just normal ones they were. Both a buriel, Mum thought it strange they wanted underwear but he did have his suit and shoes too

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing lovely 🥰❤️❤️

  • @crystalgoodall9164
    @crystalgoodall9164 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Having buried 2 sons back in the States…..I had idea no idea what you go through. I thank you

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So very sorry 2 sons lost 😞 sending you big hugs ❤️❤️

  • @susanbeard4502
    @susanbeard4502 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Saying someone else is crass is the epitome of crassness and classlessness.

  • @RhondaofTheVale
    @RhondaofTheVale 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    There was a viewing for my FIL - family only. He wore his everyday clothes: pull-on work pants, blue checked flannelette shirt, white terry bucket hat spattered with house paint on his chest, bare feet. Comfy!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Special just how you remember him ❤️ take good care ❤️❤️

  • @aqua46784
    @aqua46784 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just found your channel. You two are awesome in the humor and common sense you bring to the topics. My grief has me researching mortuary science for some reason.
    My father passed away here on hospice eight days ago. For some reason, as I gathered an outfit to send off with him to the funeral home, I had to include a pair of boxers. Just didn't seem right not to include them.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Firstly we both want to send you our deepest condolences 😔 so sorry to hear you have just lost your father 💔 Big hugs.
      Welcome to the channel ☺️
      Look after yourself and please take good care ❤️❤️

  • @CarolBileau
    @CarolBileau 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As usual, that was very interesting. God bless! Carol

  • @JanHurstonHolland
    @JanHurstonHolland หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was really interested in this question. I forgot to give underwear to the mortuary for my mother-in-law’s viewing. So that’s all I was thinking about during the funeral, the viewing and even after she was buried. I think about it now, that she met her Maker while she was commando! Jan in Alabama again.

    • @JanHurstonHolland
      @JanHurstonHolland หลายเดือนก่อน

      Also, my mom wanted to be buried in this two-piece hot pink lace nightgown. She tried it on so my sister and I could see it and we told her she looked like a hooker. That was the end of that idea.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Jan, nothing wrong with being commando 😉🤗 thank you for sharing ❤️❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Oh dear, hope you found something else instead 😊🤗🩷🩷

  • @davidmiller6981
    @davidmiller6981 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nappies Diaper's what's the big deal we all come into the world wearing them and go out the same way enjoy the ride

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yip totally agree 🤗❤️❤️

  • @emilydowey1431
    @emilydowey1431 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I love you guys, I’m from the USA, South Carolina. ❤

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Awww thank you so much 🥰❤️❤️

  • @SHELLEYPAULL-iy1du
    @SHELLEYPAULL-iy1du 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i am that “nan” ! i didn’t take underwear in for my son... and i hope my kids decide the same for me! :)

  • @peteanderson6113
    @peteanderson6113 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ll watch this when I get home this afternoon x x

  • @lindak1768
    @lindak1768 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I thought they cut the back of the clothes and put them on the body. I think they did that with my step mom. I hate bras, I only put them on if leaving the house or if having company.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sometimes clothes are cut but I prefer not to were possible, if I have to cut will ask the family if that's ok or do they want to bring in another outfit. ❤️❤️

  • @mjleger4555
    @mjleger4555 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It's been many years, but I can't remember the mortician asking for a bra for my mom when she died, they asked us to bring in clothes for her and I picked her favorite blue suit, but we couldn't find what I thought was an appropriate blouse so I used the one I had on, my favorite blouse and I took it in to them with a picture that they asked for to show how she wore her short hair and they copied the picture perfectly. I'm sure there are ways of fixing or taping the breasts so they look natural under the clothes. because I recall them as looking very natural under her clothes.
    When Daddy died suddenly at age 62, of a dissecting aortic aneurysm, I remember going in to see him first by myself, with a medically expert eye before the rest of the family went in, and I told the mortician that Daddy's complexion wasn't pale, it was more ruddy, and they fixed it to look like his natural color. We had to wait for almost a week for his funeral, he was a physician and had put several young men through medical school, one came from Africa, another from Europe and one missionary doctor from the north above Alaska. They all wanted to speak at the funeral, their eulogies were profoundly touching, I had no idea how many people my father had helped out in life, he paid tuition for some children through high-school and college and now, which we children didn't know, through medical school as well!
    I've always found all the people concerned at the mortuary, to be so kind, they spoke in a natural but soothing voice, made suggestions when needed and we were very grateful for their professional help for both of my parents.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing, glad to hear your parents were well cared for ❤️❤️

  • @nataliebrauer
    @nataliebrauer 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Girls, another great video! Thanks!So this video really made me think… i mean no disrespect, but may I ask, do you dress people who get cremated or do people get cremated naked? And if you do…what about the shoes?? Does it not leave a residue?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Hi Natalie, yes everyone is dressed no matter what kind of service is happening burial, cremation and shoes if that's what the family wants. ❤️❤️

    • @diannelavoie5385
      @diannelavoie5385 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank you for this info. Both my hubby and myself will be cremated when we pass on. Good to know.

    • @rhondahulett9763
      @rhondahulett9763 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@AreyoudyingtoknowWow, I figured it was naked

  • @nancyjohnson50
    @nancyjohnson50 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Just a few weeks ago I told my daughters that if they bury me with a bra, I will haunt them!😂😂😂

  • @sharlenecochrane3689
    @sharlenecochrane3689 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    What i want to know is: I don't want a viewing. In fact I don't want my coffin at the memorial service. My people need to celebrate my life. I won't beed to be dressed because I will be cremated. Can this he done? They might have different ideas but this is my preference.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes of course it can be done. We do these services all the time. A memorial service is usually without the deceased person there, cremation has already taken place. Just make sure your family and friends know your wishes. ❤️❤️

  • @kimcat7320
    @kimcat7320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I want to be cremated, no service. no embalming.But if I was to be buried. I would want to be in a pretty night gown, no undergarments

    • @suzanne529
      @suzanne529 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      My mom told me she wanted to be buried in her pajamas and a robe, but my sister vetoed the idea and bought her a long formal dress. Poor mom.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes lots of people get dressed in their nightgown and pj's ❤️❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ooh no poor mom 😔 ❤️❤️

    • @kimcat7320
      @kimcat7320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@suzanne529 I don't understand why people do not follow the wishes of the person.

    • @kimcat7320
      @kimcat7320 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@suzanne529 That is sad

  • @elizabethmcglothlin5406
    @elizabethmcglothlin5406 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Oh my word

  • @jamescarpenter275
    @jamescarpenter275 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nappy is a nappy some people can be so precious!

  • @LauraKnotek
    @LauraKnotek 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What kind of clothes would be put on a John or Jane Doe who wasn't identified and had no family do their funeral?

    • @ellesea123
      @ellesea123 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      There are usually some donated clothes we can use. If not, a hospital gown will be sufficient.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yip ❤️

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Hi, I would either use a shroud and like @elleseal23 said we have donated clothes. ❤️

  • @robinbarrett5301
    @robinbarrett5301 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ohhhh, there going to hate me! I have along purple Ren. Dress I want to be buried in.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Definitely not going to hate you at all. You will look beautiful ❤️❤️ but not for a while yet xx

  • @connie3941
    @connie3941 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Interesting...most cut clothes up the back..tuck under

  • @TheDaftTurnip
    @TheDaftTurnip หลายเดือนก่อน

    My eldest has told me that when I go. She’s going to tell the undertaker mum said she came into the world naked so she is going out of it naked but have this for her modesty and give them a blanket!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  หลายเดือนก่อน

      😁 love that, I care for lots of people that chose this way too. Going out the same way they arrived, but always done with dignity and respect ❤️❤️

  • @joannebriscoe2906
    @joannebriscoe2906 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m going to be cremated - but if my family wants a viewing before hand, I think I’d be more cozy in a night flannel nightgown. I’ll let my family know to forget my panties.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sounds very comfortable 🤗❤️❤️

  • @lucilledaub5991
    @lucilledaub5991 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love learning about what you talk about after death. Very interesting.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you so much 😊❤️❤️

  • @jamesspencer1463
    @jamesspencer1463 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You guys are great 😊

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you ❤️❤️

    • @jamesspencer1463
      @jamesspencer1463 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Areyoudyingtoknowyour very welcome hope your weekend is going well

    • @jamesspencer1463
      @jamesspencer1463 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is thank you, hope yours is going well to.

  • @CatCmdr
    @CatCmdr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Good Heavens….there should be instructions!! 😮😅

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You got that right! Sometimes I do need instructions 😉❤️❤️

    • @CatCmdr
      @CatCmdr 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow You don’t, WE do!! The “What not to bring in clothing for the deceased” manual!! 😂

  • @michellesorenson1292
    @michellesorenson1292 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bless your heart Trace! I'm taking note. Just toss me in the fire!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That's what I say too 😉❤️❤️

  • @louisecolin7882
    @louisecolin7882 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Love you ladies.x UK

  • @tstarr8314
    @tstarr8314 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I definitely don't want to be buried wearing a bra but I do want fluffy socks because I hate having cold feet 😂

  • @carolgillis5265
    @carolgillis5265 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi Ladies yall work hard.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you Carol 🤗❤️❤️

  • @esthersmart1351
    @esthersmart1351 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I did put undies and socks for hubby but he would have wanted to be all dressed. No shoes though but his favourite hat.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww that's special 🤗❤️❤️

  • @RealMelodyBlue
    @RealMelodyBlue 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't want underwear or socks or shoes. Just a pair of shorts and a t-shirt

  • @TheVideoGamesHistorian
    @TheVideoGamesHistorian 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The undertakers put my dads suit on him but left his shoes under the blanket they had on him, lol

  • @sharonbuffett
    @sharonbuffett 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have a linen top and bottom (already purchased) - wanting them to just "cut it up the back" if it doesn't fit.

  • @beinspired6429
    @beinspired6429 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello and thank you for your informative contents, but I have a Queen, is it possible to turn back the womb of a woman who has been in the mortuary for 6 months?
    A woman’s womb was turned backwards after her 14th child, so that she will not be able to get pregnant again in 1988, one of her death wishes is to have her womb turned back to normal after she dies. She died January 8 2024, and has also been kept at the mortuary up to this minute, before one of her son remembered the conversation with the mother about her womb and what needs to happen after she dies. Is that procedure medically possible? Will the womb still be there and can it be turned back to Norman 6 months after death?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi, I am not a surgeon so would not have a clue to that answer but I can tell you after 6 months dead without Embalming the internal organs including the womb would be extremely decomposed. Take care 😊💚

  • @RosieM1970
    @RosieM1970 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I can’t even wear spanx! If I do, they stay on till it’s time to get undressed. Awful!!

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yip they are not for everyone ❤️

  • @sherylheidecker9025
    @sherylheidecker9025 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg! I could never do what you do.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's not for everyone ❤️❤️

  • @belindajaneharris2579
    @belindajaneharris2579 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your blooming Tricia xx❤

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww thank you so much don't feel it 🥰

  • @bevhaywood3558
    @bevhaywood3558 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hilarious content! Bev from South Africa

  • @raeven1937
    @raeven1937 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi ladies, what do you do if the smoking , for example, just doesnt fit anymore, but just al little tight, do you cut it open in the back?
    They did that with my fathers clothes, but told us honestly, so were ok with that.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes that's what we do. We inform the family and ask permission to cut the clothes and they're usually ok with that 🤗❤️

  • @SuperMissblueeyes
    @SuperMissblueeyes 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How about putting a sports bra on? Would that be easier or more difficult?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Depends on the type of sports bra but usually they are a bit more flexible 😉❤️❤️

  • @carolejackson8521
    @carolejackson8521 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bless you

  • @mistresskelly5084
    @mistresskelly5084 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    hi i want to know whats the weirdest clothes request to put on someone

    • @marcse7en
      @marcse7en 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'd like to be buried in a tight one-piece black latex rubber suit! 👍🤣

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Had a few dressed in star Trek outfits and star wars outfit. Nothing really weird just different. 😊❤️

  • @sherylbrown6943
    @sherylbrown6943 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love you ladies ❤ I don’t do tik tok . I’m old . 😘

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We can't workout how to use tix tok were old too 🤣🤣🥰❤️❤️

  • @julieohara5466
    @julieohara5466 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Tracy 👋🏻 I just really wanted to know where you originally come from....I am wondering if it is the North East of England? I'm dying to know ☠️💀
    Love you guys 🫶🏻

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi Julie, yes I am from the North East, Stanley Co Durham 😊
      Big love and hugs back to you ❤️❤️

    • @julieohara5466
      @julieohara5466 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm from Sunderland 😊 not far away

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Not far at all, my husband is from Sunderland 🤗❤️❤️

    • @julieohara5466
      @julieohara5466 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Isn't it a small world haha, he must be a canny lad Tracy 😉

  • @glenn5903
    @glenn5903 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just cover me with a sheet and let me go !😂😂😂

  • @missmerrily4830
    @missmerrily4830 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I suppose that for people with religious convictions it might seem disrespectful to send someone offoff to the supreme bing with no knickers.

  • @dorothyschneider8213
    @dorothyschneider8213 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Dignity

  • @cyndyfisher
    @cyndyfisher 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Why do my comments not post sometimes?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi, not sure sometimes when we approve them TH-cam somehow makes them disappear 🤷‍♀️ we can never work it out. X

  • @patriciasaario7371
    @patriciasaario7371 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Adult undergarments.

  • @joannmetz4413
    @joannmetz4413 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When my exhusband passed away in 2021 someone in the family told me that it was the rule the funeral home went by
    That they put underwear on everyone.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi, only if the family supplies underwater, not everyone likes to be wearing underwear. 🤗❤️❤️

  • @rhondahulett9763
    @rhondahulett9763 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do you even wrangle people into this stuff, I thought after embalming they're stiff & that all clothes were split up the back??

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      No not at all. After Embalming the body should be still flexible if the bodies very still think that a little over embalmed🤔

  • @debbiegriinke4973
    @debbiegriinke4973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I can't believe they want loved ones in shapeware WTH?!?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It happens 🤷🏻‍♀️ ❤️❤️

    • @debbiegriinke4973
      @debbiegriinke4973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow As someone that has previously worked in aged care. I certainly feel for you in those circumstances. I'm curious who would do this? Younger people?

  • @samanthabradfield6401
    @samanthabradfield6401 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if the deceased all ready has clothing on them? Or do they come with nothing on?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sometimes with clothes, sometimes without. It just depends where they are coming from but ultimately it just depends in the family's wishes what we dress them in 💜

  • @brietydorahy159
    @brietydorahy159 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Hi beautiful lady’s

  • @ralphbenites1312
    @ralphbenites1312 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Do the desceast soil them self in after life?

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hi sometimes but not always. ❤️

  • @davidwoodard2967
    @davidwoodard2967 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do you manage to get the spanks and other garments on if theres skin slipping ?...

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      After I treat, seal and bandage the skin slip then I can pop them on ☺️❤️

  • @glenn5903
    @glenn5903 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bikini!!!😮😮😮Oh Lord?😂😂😂

  • @Bethlam
    @Bethlam 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I plan on being cremated or made into something (I’ve seen corpse diamonds or being made into compost). I don’t care what I wear. If I’m not recycled I want to be dumped in my two favorite great lakes (Superior and Huron). I don’t want some hole in the ground.

  • @oldgraveyardhistoryinscotl9818
    @oldgraveyardhistoryinscotl9818 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well is it about time they make underwear for the dead

  • @RebeLeigh
    @RebeLeigh 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if i dont want underwear? I cant imagine being stuck in a bra for eternity lol serious though i dont want underwear

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      don't send any to the Mortician when the time comes. Easy we are happy not to put underwear on and we are happy to put it on if needed. It's all down to family preferences ❤️❤️

  • @YomeidaGarza-ku4dx
    @YomeidaGarza-ku4dx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I ALL READYPAID DOR EVERY THING N.GOING TO BY MY P J N UNDER SEAR IT WOULD BE NICE

  • @susanjones1887
    @susanjones1887 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Blonde is so crass.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      And that's not a nice thing to say. It cost nothing to be kind ❤️

    • @user339
      @user339 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How about not saying anything, at all? It's crass to make comments like yours.

    • @Areyoudyingtoknow
      @Areyoudyingtoknow  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ❤️

    • @user339
      @user339 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Areyoudyingtoknow You both seem like very kind people and as you explain things, I have the impression that you don't cut corners, but do everything in the best possible way. That must be very hard work at times.