Dating apps allow us to find _pleasure_ not love. If anything, they have led to such a rise in expectations of people that fewer and fewer people are actually satisfied with their relationships
Well said. And this pleasure is so easily accessible, and there's so much choice; there's always someone 'better'. So it seems that more people nowadays choose serial dating (jumping from pleasure to pleasure) over actually investing in something meaningful and long term. I wonder how this'll work out over the next, let's say, 50 years.
@@DaFeanor20 fair enough..! Let's not generalize indeed. There are indeed people who have managed to find a long-term relationship through dating apps (I'm curious about the percentages, though!). All in all, it is what it is. Adapting to these new circumstances is probably the best thing we can do.
@@Einzelgänger Don’t blame the tool, blame the human fool 😂 It’s about decline of human values. The few people who have values don’t differ on or off dating apps. They are what they are ...
@@deepdiver849 What you say is true, but I do think that the existence of those tools raised the number of tempted said fools to experience those pleasures, and put it on the spotlight of how love works because they see that a lot of people are using them so they think that that is the right way.
I tend to think of love as appreciation. I love this song: I appreciate this song. I love hiking: I appreciate hiking. I love my dog: I appreciate my dog. I love you: I appreciate and value you! This simple synonym covers all the many ways we use the word love, and, importantly, also makes us question: what part of these things do we value in relation to ourselves? For a song, maybe it's the clever lyrics that evoke a memory you have. For hiking, it could be the fresh air, the exercise, the beautiful scenery, or the sense of calm it gives you. With your dog, maybe it's their innocent compassion when they try to cheer you up. In my mind, the truest love is when you can say to someone "I love you" and you mean that you love everything about them, the things they can and can't control, their body and soul, even the things you wish were different about them you can still value in a sense. How you choose to express that love is closely tied with your relationship to them. You can have a loving relationship where you hardly interact with someone because you respect their boundaries. Other times you may choose to step in and help a friend in need. You may choose to share your love with a life companion and together decide to which activities you enjoy together, possibly including sexual ones. But appreciation and enjoyment aren't exactly the same. You can appreciate something even when you are not presently enjoying its use or its presence; in much the same way, you can love without exerting your will upon another, just letting it be. This is the essence of loving without attachment. I would be remiss to speak about love without reminding you all: love yourselves! The rest will follow :)
@Proud Troll I’d like to hear why you disagree! Hearing others opinions helps me form mine. It’s an idea I had but I’m sure I’m not the first one. I think I got the idea from studying nonduality.
@Proud Troll I think we’re just referring to the same thing by different names (love, joy). By love I don’t mean romantic love or even love for a child, just pure unadulterated love without context which would make sense to me to call joy.
@Proud Troll If happiness and love feel good because of dopamine, and joy is whatever makes us release dopamine, then love and joy are the same. We can have love for nature, our hobbies, ourselves. The difference is just the context we attach. I believe anxiety and excitement are the same, it’s just whether we are anticipating something bad or good.
I'm inclined to agree that ― “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” Although I'm still exploring this idea further.
Nah I'm finding that love in relationships is a beautiful thing when its not based on attachment, expectation or possession. Even when we trust our partners we still feel entitled to their time and space, even when we want our partners to be happy the thought of them being that way with another person causes us pain, even when our partner is telling us that they believe we are amazing we still feel they don't love us enough. None of that is true love, thats attachment, seeking outside validation, and conditional. Relationships are a choice and only two people who are genuinely comfortable within their own skins, accept themselves for who they are, respect themselves are patient with themselves, fulfill their own needs, etc will be happy in relations with another person. Without that we're at the mercy of each others whims.
Love is "What each person is about" instead of "Who each person is". It's all about exchanging and sharing values as the end of the day, and if you have no values to give or share, you wont be loved. Similary if the other person has no values to give or share with you, you wont love him/her. Lust is immediate tension, chemistry and anxiety, its shallow but exciting, and in this current world of fast paced distractions, stimulations, and novelty, also with the endless search for new forms of better high all the time, lust is much more preferable to pursue than love. And that is unfortunate Ultimately though you need both lust and love in order for a relationship to survive. You can't depend solely one just one of them, that is why alot of people cheat because either they don't have the lust to feel physically connected and stimulated, or they don't have the love to feel safe, belonged and at home where they can indulge in shared activities, interests, and wisdom.
It depends on how you define relationships, sure that might be true for the norm were used to, but I find these days relationships have developed past what labels could accurately describe. Love comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes - whether that be in the shape of a friend or in the eyes of a family member.
Another amazing & insightful video, well done! As someone who has experienced all of these types of loves throughout my life, I have learned that finding a good balance is key. Anything, even love, that is done to the extreme ultimately becomes chaotic & destructive. I also agree with the advice at the very end...romantic love is not enough to maintain a long-term meaningful relationship. Caring, friendship, responsibility, sacrifice & acceptance of faults are what makes relationships blossom & persevere. I would also add, as a happily married man, that acceptance of constructive, honest criticism from your spouse is also a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship.
Recently I suffered imensely due to eros love. Your videos have helped me throught the journey of pain and made me want to try to develop a more agape love for people. Your videos are very helpfull for people struggling with hard times m8. Keep doing what you're doing ;)
Love is a bridge from here to now because the most precious thing that I can give my beloved is my present. Love is neither wise nor beautiful but rather a passion for wisdom and beauty. Actual love in itself inflames people hearts with a desire for the beautiful object not so without the hope that too the affection is mutual.
I cannot even begin describe how serendipitous it was to have this video recommended to me, especially on this very day. Without typing an entire book, I'll spare the details and simply say that this video was only one of several signs that God has blessed me with today. Ultimately, I see it as the cherry on top of these wonderful signs, which I can literally feel pulling me closer to self-actualization. Thank you so much, it was a tremendous help, much more than I could express in words.
In short live is a feeling that tells us as humans that, something or someone is worth our time and energy. A love for a passion A love for a person A love for anything So long as there a benefit to us mainly to our minds.
Being accepts all that is by nature of Being's very nature, and full acceptance equals Love. You are Absolute Acceptance, you are Absolute Love, which is really Absolute Truth.
I agree with the contention that these different forms of love aren’t mutually exclusive. It seems a bit more realistic to consider the possibility of balancing different elements of these types of love in order to achieve a love that is fulfilling and nourishing. Typically most human experiences rarely occur in extremes or according to concrete ideas/theories. I think the magic of the human experience is that our emotional capacities are multidimensional in nature. We can experience feelings of love and hate toward a person, simultaneously. What’s more, to experience love that is fulfilling and nourishing is to experience a type of love that is unique to one’s temperament, life circumstances, internal values, worldview, etc. And those are elements of ourselves that undoubtedly shift and change as life goes on. Which is probably why some couples fall out of love or drift apart. I think it’s key to develop self-love and self-compassion that allows you to identify and stay aligned with your internal values, needs and desires so that no matter what, when you engage in love (platonic, romantic, familial) you do so in a way that is fulfilling for you.
EROS: "Because the one thing I want... it's something I know I can't have." PHILIA: "I know how you see yourself, Dean. You see yourself the same way our enemies see you. You're destructive and you're angry and you're broken. You're... you're 'Daddy's Blunt Instrument.' And you think hate and anger, that's... that's what drives you. That's who you are. It's not. And everyone who knows you sees it. Everything you have ever done, the good and the bad, you have done for love. You raised your little brother for love. You fought for this whole world for love. That is who you are. You're the most caring man on Earth. You are the most selfless, loving human being I will ever know. You know, ever since we met and ever since I pulled you out of Hell, knowing you has changed me. Because you cared, I cared. I cared about you. I cared about Sam. I cared about Jack. I cared about the whole world because of you. You changed me, Dean." AGAPE: "But I think I know... I think I know now. Happiness isn't in the having. It's in just being. It's in just saying it. (...) I love you."
Love is a deep and incredible difficult subject to cover, so well done, great video. I have had two outer body experiences where I lost all of the experiences, conditioning, programing, emotional content and hardships of my being and felt this amazing love. It ewas just there constantly. Even though the experiences were quite short, in fact, I have no idea how long they were for, but I know they were quite short, they made me realise that we are coming baturally from a place of love, and we make our own interpretations of it through our experiences and hardships. I feel we are trying to get back to this place and all the distractions of the world keep us from finding this inside. With my meditations now,. I can reach a place of bliss and carry that through sometimes into long periods no matter what state my mind is in. So I feel love is something inside of us that does emcompass all of the points you have covered here. So thank you again. Most grateful for your research and insight. :)
Love is crazy but even with my miniscule expirience i still got some great insights from it. Before you fall in love with someone just make sure that you're ready to break it off anytime. That dosen't mean "don't be faithful" it just means "be faithful, but be prepared for the worst". Also with Phillia the most common type of love also includes this....deep empathy wich if rejected hurts just as much as the sexual pleasures. I think i've managed to balance the euphoria, care and the ability to let go if needed.
I’ve thought about this for years. To me....love means you actively have someone’s or something’s best interest in mind. Absolutely nothing to do with sexual needs or desires.
Nicely put together👍 Just one thing, we mustn't take selfless love as a compulsion to stay in an abusive relationship. Humans do look for belonging and compassion. From what I've understood so far, love is when two self-aware people make a conscious decision to respect and care for each other's well-being. For this to be fulfilling, both parties have to be on the same page or willing to make adjustments. The failure of this one condition is what we see as disharmony between parents and children, friends, or even between romantic partners. A mutually satisfying love is not possible if either of the two parties are in it for their own gratification, which is what I think might happen in eros love. So, in a way, I believe love entails friendship, understanding, and some degree of emotional maturity. One may choose to be selfless and love and care for another, but we can't really find a meaningful love connection unless all parties involved are ready to be selfless. Of course, finding this is not easy. Would like to see what others have to say about it, though. I'm exploring.
Love is beautiful but also very difficult - I find that the latter can be hard to admit sometimes, and then it's easier to associate it with eternal bliss.
This came at a perfect time. I fell for a friend but for months hesitant to express my feelings as we gotten closer, only to know yesterday she is starting to see someone
I am lost for words. This is my exact situation. Everything hurt, stomach aches, heartaches, everything and started distancing myself from her. She noticed I was distancing myself from her and she questioned me bout it. I said I was fine and was just getting my life together. We still talk and everything remained the same. What’s different is from my point of view, I put up a mask that makes me look as jolly as when i met her, but everyone who sees this probably knows i feel otherwise.
The roller coaster that we call life, just enjoy the ride. Dips and jumps are exhilarating. If you are always seeking to be happy. You are constantly disappointed.
I went on a dating app. Very recently. I'm single for few years now. The app generates so painful emotions. I didn't like it at all. Some time ago I would passively let myself be overcome by those emotions and thoughts. This time I've noticed them. Then I've noticed your video. Then I found the answer in it. Thank you man.
Dating apps are dangerous if you ask me. People take big risks of getting scammed, catfished, and played, as well as even worse risks. I would never try them.
This is a question I have found myself asking ever since my puberty kicked in. It's a complex somewhat mess. Then again I've not had any real examples of love in terms of attraction. I've was in a relationship with someone for about 2 1/2 years and in the grand scheme of things, we didn't really do anything more than we did when we were friends other than discussing sexual things. Now that I think over it, I have experienced all three types of love. Loyalty to my friends, the seemingly incessant need to help my friends and carry their burdens, and finally the head over heels kind and experienced the delerium. Ultimately the last one for me has been false experiences, an illusion in an attempt to fill a hole or heal a wound.
Relationships keep you seeking love outside of yourself when really you should be having a relationship with yourself. Love is a hormone and an emotional and psychological desire for people who are empty inside and need to be filled from within. Relationships are lessons often painful for those who haven't learned to love themselves yet. People who haven't learned are codependent and receive their feelings of love, acceptance, worthiness, etc from others, thereby giving power over themselves to others. When people have learned to forgive and love themselves, accepting their strong points and weaknesses, they have learned unconditional love of self and therefore can offer it to others without expectation of reciprocation simply because it feels good to love. Love is a gift that we give to ourselves and it inadvertently becomes a gift to others. Understanding that karma which is the energy that we put out coming right back to us, we love others through not wanting to put out negative energy towards them knowing that it will come back to us eventually. Karma is the self-governing law that goes hand in hand with the law of free will. It is the other side of the weighted scale of justice.
@@DaFeanor20 You're nit picking about language. Cause and effect, karma, eye for an eye, all of these are the boomerang of energy. Energy does not have emotion, which means there is no retribution or vengeance with energy. That is an attribute placed on their belief in a God. Energy does not care if you are retaliating or defending yourself, it doesn't matter if you're in the "right" (according to your perspective) and the other person is in the wrong, you get back what you put out. If the energy is put out with negative intent that's what you will get back in some form or another. The universe is so generous it gives us what we put out. That's the law of attraction. People think if they put out positive energy and intention towards obtaining a million dollars (you have to be in a VERY high vibration to obtain anything like this) they're going to get that but don't realize that if they think negative thoughts and energy towards another they're not going to get that. Then they blame others when that energy boomerangs back.
@@vijaysaini1537 Howa is like a crush Sabwa is when flirtation starts Shaghaf is becoming fond of them Wajd feelings reach the heart and you start thinking about them Kalaf is starting to become preoccupied Ishq is deep love when sacrifices start Najwa is missing them when apart Shawq is nostalgic longing when apart Wassb is getting love sick Istikana is becoming weak and submissive Woud comes after togetherness where love is expressed through daily actions Ishra is when you spent so much time together you cannot be separated or separation is very hard like in marriage Walah is becoming obsessed Hiyam is becoming mad and completely losing the mind
Dear God Be with my family and friends who are in quarantine Protect the ones who are going to their jobs. Please God, show an end to this storm and place your peace in our hearts.
I've just seen you're not that far from having 1 million subscribers. That's awesome! You surely help us with these videos and I'm sure the world is grateful for it... I know I am! :)
Love is a result of evolution. We feel love to our family and friends because social bonds increased our chances of survival and reproduction. Romantic love, though a lot more complicated, is also a result of evolution. We chase love because the security of a relationship makes it so that we can maximize our chances of reproduction
U really do know what is in my head is stuck on these days. Whenever i overt think of something u also release a video about it. Lol. What a timely coincidence.
Man what a great video your amazing, shoutout to my kind christian friends, my kind bhuddist friends, and my kind philosopher friends,always showing and spreading love.
for me, I always start a relationship with that insane passionate feeling. like, don't want to do anything else but be with that person. That has always faded for me and if the philia isn't there then there just isn't a relationship.
The timing of this is frightening. I was thinking of this lol. I have a stutter and it makes me think what really is love and is that the reason why I'm still single? Is it unconditional acceptance? And other things since I suffer from the other side of normal. Thx for the vid!
I can relate to the speech impediment ordeal. Just calm your nerves and process information longer before conveying your thoughts. I hope this falls on willing ears.
Agape is the what I would consider real, true love, for there is no gain for oneself when they are willing to sacrifice their lives in return of others including others pleasure and romantic love
//truths is simple and straight like this : In order to make other away from truth you categorize things. Like in video. Reality is here. Oxytocin +testosterone or estrogen=love
There is no absolute love in this era and never was ...there is always a deep motive behind our actions which sometimes we don't even know unless it's pointed by some person which we won't accept right away. The love concept was always stupid all the time for whic the present era is an example. Presently the movies and stupid quotes inspire people to love but the soft and unrealistic nature present in those words or that scene where he dies to save her is something illogical and never happens at least most of the time in real life. The love is just excuse to increase the population of humans which is fundamental rule of life in other words its to reproduce.
I partially agree with you however what you're missing is the fact that there a motives hidden and unhidden behind your oppinion about love due to past conditionning so believing there is love or there isn't both are simply futile because there's no clarity in oppinion only a projection of one's psyche so the fact is we can never understand anything about life beyond the mechanical if we have a pre conceived idea about it. Whether there's such a thing such as love is impossible to know as long as we haven't understood ourselves completely.
Maya (/ˈmɑːjə/; Devanagari: माया, IAST: māyā), literally "illusion" or "magic", has multiple meanings in Indian philosophies depending on the context. In later Vedic texts and modern literature dedicated to Indian traditions, Māyā connotes a "magic show, an illusion where things appear to be present but are not what they seem". Māyā is also a spiritual concept connoting "that which exists, but is constantly changing and thus is spiritually unreal", and the "power or the principle that conceals the true character of spiritual reality". In Advaita Vedanta school of Hindu philosophy, Maya is "the powerful force that creates the cosmic illusion that the phenomenal world is real." In Hinduism, Maya is also an epithet for goddess Lakshmi, and the name of a manifestation of Lakshmi, the goddess of "wealth, prosperity and love". Also, Maya refers to wealth or treasure itself. There are many examples of hidden treasures guarded by visible or invisible supernatural powers.
Love is not something you should define rather something to experience in every way companions or family lovers and friends it's something that brings each person place and being to each other like a magnetic pull . But in truth I think don't try just do it will come in selfless actions and opening with out fear and can can come from anyone
Dating apps allow us to find _pleasure_ not love. If anything, they have led to such a rise in expectations of people that fewer and fewer people are actually satisfied with their relationships
They treat love like going to the supermarket and finding the product you like the most
Well said. And this pleasure is so easily accessible, and there's so much choice; there's always someone 'better'. So it seems that more people nowadays choose serial dating (jumping from pleasure to pleasure) over actually investing in something meaningful and long term. I wonder how this'll work out over the next, let's say, 50 years.
@@DaFeanor20 fair enough..! Let's not generalize indeed. There are indeed people who have managed to find a long-term relationship through dating apps (I'm curious about the percentages, though!). All in all, it is what it is. Adapting to these new circumstances is probably the best thing we can do.
@@Einzelgänger Don’t blame the tool, blame the human fool 😂 It’s about decline of human values. The few people who have values don’t differ on or off dating apps. They are what they are ...
@@deepdiver849 What you say is true, but I do think that the existence of those tools raised the number of tempted said fools to experience those pleasures, and put it on the spotlight of how love works because they see that a lot of people are using them so they think that that is the right way.
"When you love yourself you love the world."
i learned this on a psychedelic trip 3 days ago hahah
@@iameternalsunshine Very nice
I hate shit
And When you love the world, you love yourself.... then you'll realize that you are the world
When you change yourself you change the world
“Slow down and enjoy the journey right now. Take time for people in your life. They won’t always be there.” 🙏🏽
I see u in every esoteric videos. Peace 🕊️
Damn u are everywhere my friend. SPREADING PEACE AND LOVE TO ALL MY FELLOW KINGS AND QUEENS 👑 ❤ LETS GET IT
yo i see this guy in almost every youtube channel i watch.damn great minds think alike.
Preach
Baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me... NO MORE
came just to like this comment
Came here just to comment this
@@MonkMode thats why i liked it.
Lol, exactly :D
Dagnabbit! You beat me to it! Wink 😉😜
I tend to think of love as appreciation. I love this song: I appreciate this song. I love hiking: I appreciate hiking. I love my dog: I appreciate my dog. I love you: I appreciate and value you! This simple synonym covers all the many ways we use the word love, and, importantly, also makes us question: what part of these things do we value in relation to ourselves? For a song, maybe it's the clever lyrics that evoke a memory you have. For hiking, it could be the fresh air, the exercise, the beautiful scenery, or the sense of calm it gives you. With your dog, maybe it's their innocent compassion when they try to cheer you up. In my mind, the truest love is when you can say to someone "I love you" and you mean that you love everything about them, the things they can and can't control, their body and soul, even the things you wish were different about them you can still value in a sense. How you choose to express that love is closely tied with your relationship to them. You can have a loving relationship where you hardly interact with someone because you respect their boundaries. Other times you may choose to step in and help a friend in need. You may choose to share your love with a life companion and together decide to which activities you enjoy together, possibly including sexual ones. But appreciation and enjoyment aren't exactly the same. You can appreciate something even when you are not presently enjoying its use or its presence; in much the same way, you can love without exerting your will upon another, just letting it be. This is the essence of loving without attachment.
I would be remiss to speak about love without reminding you all: love yourselves! The rest will follow :)
This was a wonderful reframe of how to view love.Well done
Love is one of the two true emotions: Love and Fear. Every negative emotion is a subset of Fear and every truly positive one is a subset of Love.
@Proud Troll I’d like to hear why you disagree! Hearing others opinions helps me form mine. It’s an idea I had but I’m sure I’m not the first one. I think I got the idea from studying nonduality.
@Proud Troll I think we’re just referring to the same thing by different names (love, joy). By love I don’t mean romantic love or even love for a child, just pure unadulterated love without context which would make sense to me to call joy.
@Proud Troll What is the difference between love and joy?
@Proud Troll If happiness and love feel good because of dopamine, and joy is whatever makes us release dopamine, then love and joy are the same. We can have love for nature, our hobbies, ourselves. The difference is just the context we attach. I believe anxiety and excitement are the same, it’s just whether we are anticipating something bad or good.
“Many a man in love with a dimple makes the mistake of marring the whole Girl”
― Stephen Leacock
I'm inclined to agree that ― “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” Although I'm still exploring this idea further.
@@DaFeanor20 yes that's a very a good point. Perhaps not 'essential' but an important part of one's own happiness. Definitely food for thought!
@@DaFeanor20 true
I like the idea. I think it's only problematic when the sentiment is not mutual, or when it requires unhealthy sacrifice.
Nah I'm finding that love in relationships is a beautiful thing when its not based on attachment, expectation or possession. Even when we trust our partners we still feel entitled to their time and space, even when we want our partners to be happy the thought of them being that way with another person causes us pain, even when our partner is telling us that they believe we are amazing we still feel they don't love us enough. None of that is true love, thats attachment, seeking outside validation, and conditional.
Relationships are a choice and only two people who are genuinely comfortable within their own skins, accept themselves for who they are, respect themselves are patient with themselves, fulfill their own needs, etc will be happy in relations with another person. Without that we're at the mercy of each others whims.
Love is "What each person is about" instead of "Who each person is". It's all about exchanging and sharing values as the end of the day, and if you have no values to give or share, you wont be loved. Similary if the other person has no values to give or share with you, you wont love him/her.
Lust is immediate tension, chemistry and anxiety, its shallow but exciting, and in this current world of fast paced distractions, stimulations, and novelty, also with the endless search for new forms of better high all the time, lust is much more preferable to pursue than love. And that is unfortunate
Ultimately though you need both lust and love in order for a relationship to survive. You can't depend solely one just one of them, that is why alot of people cheat because either they don't have the lust to feel physically connected and stimulated, or they don't have the love to feel safe, belonged and at home where they can indulge in shared activities, interests, and wisdom.
great explanation!
Thank you for your explanation
It depends on how you define relationships, sure that might be true for the norm were used to, but I find these days relationships have developed past what labels could accurately describe. Love comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes - whether that be in the shape of a friend or in the eyes of a family member.
Every Beeing has its Values to give. It is about Finding them.
Another amazing & insightful video, well done! As someone who has experienced all of these types of loves throughout my life, I have learned that finding a good balance is key. Anything, even love, that is done to the extreme ultimately becomes chaotic & destructive. I also agree with the advice at the very end...romantic love is not enough to maintain a long-term meaningful relationship. Caring, friendship, responsibility, sacrifice & acceptance of faults are what makes relationships blossom & persevere. I would also add, as a happily married man, that acceptance of constructive, honest criticism from your spouse is also a fundamental aspect of any healthy relationship.
Recently I suffered imensely due to eros love. Your videos have helped me throught the journey of pain and made me want to try to develop a more agape love for people. Your videos are very helpfull for people struggling with hard times m8. Keep doing what you're doing ;)
Love is feeling happy, sad, responsible, careless, stress, thankful, scared, hope, longing, and grateful...
Did you get that from your instagram feed? Lol
Love is a Siren, in your mind. Nature's biological high.
Don’t deny your emotions as reductionist chemical reactions, we don’t actually know if it truly is just that
When I was a child, I asked mother, “what is love?” She had the best answer: “ LOVE IS NATURES TRICK”
Well you can outsource it like any product
(Sigh) That sounds about right. I wish humans didn't have such self-awareness. That way we wouldn't feel like tools in life.😢
@Haus I believe Agape is a concept. I have no evidence unconditional love exists.
Love is a bridge from here to now because the most precious thing that I can give my beloved is my present.
Love is neither wise nor beautiful but rather a passion for wisdom and beauty.
Actual love in itself inflames people hearts with a desire for the beautiful object not so without the hope that too the affection is mutual.
I cannot even begin describe how serendipitous it was to have this video recommended to me, especially on this very day.
Without typing an entire book, I'll spare the details and simply say that this video was only one of several signs that God has blessed me with today.
Ultimately, I see it as the cherry on top of these wonderful signs, which I can literally feel pulling me closer to self-actualization.
Thank you so much, it was a tremendous help, much more than I could express in words.
Lol I’m glad I’m not the only one who got that song stuck in their head immediately after reading the title 🤣
real happiness comes when u feed poor kids and physically challanged people..that is ultimate love
In short live is a feeling that tells us as humans that, something or someone is worth our time and energy.
A love for a passion
A love for a person
A love for anything
So long as there a benefit to us mainly to our minds.
Damn it I was too late for the “baby don’t hurt me” joke dam.
Its too late for "baby don't hurt me" nowwwww, its too lateeeee
Charles Bukowski worded it perfectly "Love is a form of prejudice"
You don't fall in love, instead you rise in love - A wise man
Alan Watts..
@@97amron I was hoping that someone recognised those words. I love Watts
You dont fall in love. You grow into love
For a woman, love is resurrection and salvation-Fyodor Dostoevsky
Being accepts all that is by nature of Being's very nature, and full acceptance equals Love. You are Absolute Acceptance, you are Absolute Love, which is really Absolute Truth.
I agree with the contention that these different forms of love aren’t mutually exclusive. It seems a bit more realistic to consider the possibility of balancing different elements of these types of love in order to achieve a love that is fulfilling and nourishing. Typically most human experiences rarely occur in extremes or according to concrete ideas/theories. I think the magic of the human experience is that our emotional capacities are multidimensional in nature. We can experience feelings of love and hate toward a person, simultaneously. What’s more, to experience love that is fulfilling and nourishing is to experience a type of love that is unique to one’s temperament, life circumstances, internal values, worldview, etc. And those are elements of ourselves that undoubtedly shift and change as life goes on. Which is probably why some couples fall out of love or drift apart. I think it’s key to develop self-love and self-compassion that allows you to identify and stay aligned with your internal values, needs and desires so that no matter what, when you engage in love (platonic, romantic, familial) you do so in a way that is fulfilling for you.
EROS: "Because the one thing I want... it's something I know I can't have."
PHILIA: "I know how you see yourself, Dean. You see yourself the same way our enemies see you. You're destructive and you're angry and you're broken. You're... you're 'Daddy's Blunt Instrument.' And you think hate and anger, that's... that's what drives you. That's who you are. It's not. And everyone who knows you sees it. Everything you have ever done, the good and the bad, you have done for love. You raised your little brother for love. You fought for this whole world for love. That is who you are. You're the most caring man on Earth. You are the most selfless, loving human being I will ever know. You know, ever since we met and ever since I pulled you out of Hell, knowing you has changed me. Because you cared, I cared. I cared about you. I cared about Sam. I cared about Jack. I cared about the whole world because of you. You changed me, Dean."
AGAPE: "But I think I know... I think I know now. Happiness isn't in the having. It's in just being. It's in just saying it. (...) I love you."
As a person who constantly studies the art and concept of Love, I find this very helpful! Thank you very much
Einzelgänger!
"Love is a form of connection". The depth of connection determines the depth of love...!
Love is a deep and incredible difficult subject to cover, so well done, great video. I have had two outer body experiences where I lost all of the experiences, conditioning, programing, emotional content and hardships of my being and felt this amazing love. It ewas just there constantly. Even though the experiences were quite short, in fact, I have no idea how long they were for, but I know they were quite short, they made me realise that we are coming baturally from a place of love, and we make our own interpretations of it through our experiences and hardships. I feel we are trying to get back to this place and all the distractions of the world keep us from finding this inside. With my meditations now,. I can reach a place of bliss and carry that through sometimes into long periods no matter what state my mind is in. So I feel love is something inside of us that does emcompass all of the points you have covered here. So thank you again. Most grateful for your research and insight. :)
Love is crazy but even with my miniscule expirience i still got some great insights from it. Before you fall in love with someone just make sure that you're ready to break it off anytime. That dosen't mean "don't be faithful" it just means "be faithful, but be prepared for the worst". Also with Phillia the most common type of love also includes this....deep empathy wich if rejected hurts just as much as the sexual pleasures. I think i've managed to balance the euphoria, care and the ability to let go if needed.
I’ve thought about this for years. To me....love means you actively have someone’s or something’s best interest in mind. Absolutely nothing to do with sexual needs or desires.
Nicely put together👍 Just one thing, we mustn't take selfless love as a compulsion to stay in an abusive relationship. Humans do look for belonging and compassion. From what I've understood so far, love is when two self-aware people make a conscious decision to respect and care for each other's well-being. For this to be fulfilling, both parties have to be on the same page or willing to make adjustments. The failure of this one condition is what we see as disharmony between parents and children, friends, or even between romantic partners. A mutually satisfying love is not possible if either of the two parties are in it for their own gratification, which is what I think might happen in eros love. So, in a way, I believe love entails friendship, understanding, and some degree of emotional maturity. One may choose to be selfless and love and care for another, but we can't really find a meaningful love connection unless all parties involved are ready to be selfless. Of course, finding this is not easy. Would like to see what others have to say about it, though. I'm exploring.
Love is beautiful but also very difficult - I find that the latter can be hard to admit sometimes, and then it's easier to associate it with eternal bliss.
He love's her,she loves him and he love's somebody else. Love stinks yah yah.
This came at a perfect time. I fell for a friend but for months hesitant to express my feelings as we gotten closer, only to know yesterday she is starting to see someone
I am lost for words. This is my exact situation. Everything hurt, stomach aches, heartaches, everything and started distancing myself from her. She noticed I was distancing myself from her and she questioned me bout it. I said I was fine and was just getting my life together.
We still talk and everything remained the same. What’s different is from my point of view, I put up a mask that makes me look as jolly as when i met her, but everyone who sees this probably knows i feel otherwise.
The roller coaster that we call life, just enjoy the ride.
Dips and jumps are exhilarating. If you are always seeking to be happy. You are constantly disappointed.
Love is but an attachment to someone; image of someone that we created for ourselves, which is not true in reality.
love is an illusion
@@nathaliasobrinho8924 love is magic, but magic is just an illusion
Technically everything we’ve ever known is an image of what that thing is. So yes, it’s just perception.
I went on a dating app. Very recently. I'm single for few years now. The app generates so painful emotions. I didn't like it at all.
Some time ago I would passively let myself be overcome by those emotions and thoughts.
This time I've noticed them. Then I've noticed your video. Then I found the answer in it. Thank you man.
I strive to love others unconditionally. The highest form of love. How can I give love rather the seek to receive it? This is much more satisfying.
Love is when you want the highest good for someone else.
Love is a strange thing; it escapes every corrective, and no system of understanding can reduce it
Yessss that is true ! The way we find love has changed drastically
Which is fake mostly
@@mariarick3210 It is mostly a smokescreen to get laid or gain resources.
"Love is composed of a single souls inhabiting two bodies." -Aristotle
I would recommend a book "The Art of Loving" by Erich Fromm to all the viewers to understand the true concept of love.
hearing your blissful voice is love
Dating apps are dangerous if you ask me. People take big risks of getting scammed, catfished, and played, as well as even worse risks. I would never try them.
When both have the other persons best interests at heart .. that is love ... remember i said BOTH ..
This is a question I have found myself asking ever since my puberty kicked in. It's a complex somewhat mess. Then again I've not had any real examples of love in terms of attraction. I've was in a relationship with someone for about 2 1/2 years and in the grand scheme of things, we didn't really do anything more than we did when we were friends other than discussing sexual things.
Now that I think over it, I have experienced all three types of love. Loyalty to my friends, the seemingly incessant need to help my friends and carry their burdens, and finally the head over heels kind and experienced the delerium. Ultimately the last one for me has been false experiences, an illusion in an attempt to fill a hole or heal a wound.
I can't believe this legend just read my mind
Love is a state of happiness
These words exist as everyday words in modern Greek language as well.☺☺😉😉..." Φιλία- Έρωτας-Αγάπη"
Relationships keep you seeking love outside of yourself when really you should be having a relationship with yourself. Love is a hormone and an emotional and psychological desire for people who are empty inside and need to be filled from within. Relationships are lessons often painful for those who haven't learned to love themselves yet. People who haven't learned are codependent and receive their feelings of love, acceptance, worthiness, etc from others, thereby giving power over themselves to others. When people have learned to forgive and love themselves, accepting their strong points and weaknesses, they have learned unconditional love of self and therefore can offer it to others without expectation of reciprocation simply because it feels good to love. Love is a gift that we give to ourselves and it inadvertently becomes a gift to others. Understanding that karma which is the energy that we put out coming right back to us, we love others through not wanting to put out negative energy towards them knowing that it will come back to us eventually. Karma is the self-governing law that goes hand in hand with the law of free will. It is the other side of the weighted scale of justice.
@@DaFeanor20 🤷
Well said.
@@DaFeanor20 You're nit picking about language. Cause and effect, karma, eye for an eye, all of these are the boomerang of energy. Energy does not have emotion, which means there is no retribution or vengeance with energy. That is an attribute placed on their belief in a God. Energy does not care if you are retaliating or defending yourself, it doesn't matter if you're in the "right" (according to your perspective) and the other person is in the wrong, you get back what you put out. If the energy is put out with negative intent that's what you will get back in some form or another. The universe is so generous it gives us what we put out. That's the law of attraction. People think if they put out positive energy and intention towards obtaining a million dollars (you have to be in a VERY high vibration to obtain anything like this) they're going to get that but don't realize that if they think negative thoughts and energy towards another they're not going to get that. Then they blame others when that energy boomerangs back.
Love is a specific state of feeling only having been found on the highest upgrading level over time of human species ....
I really do appreciate your insight and wisdom you share with us. It helps tremendously, thank you.
Few hours back i was thinking that i should search whether you have any video regarding this topic and here it is. What a pleasant surprise!!!
In Arabic there are 11 words for love.
Classified according to the strength of emotion.
Can you mention these words and there meaning
@@vijaysaini1537
Howa is like a crush
Sabwa is when flirtation starts
Shaghaf is becoming fond of them
Wajd feelings reach the heart and
you start thinking about them
Kalaf is starting to become preoccupied
Ishq is deep love when sacrifices start
Najwa is missing them when apart
Shawq is nostalgic longing when apart
Wassb is getting love sick
Istikana is becoming weak and submissive
Woud comes after togetherness where love is expressed through daily actions
Ishra is when you spent so much time together you cannot be separated or separation is very hard like in marriage
Walah is becoming obsessed
Hiyam is becoming mad and completely losing the mind
the one i know is HOUB
I love you = ana bahibak
@@sofimazi555
Correct!
That is everyday arabic.
The eleven words are in old fashioned literature.
@@lamaelcharif1523 yes, el fousha wil amiye.
such rich and beaufiful language!
ana bamout fil loura el arabiya.
"Love is just a chemical. We give it meaning by choice." -Eleanor Lamb, BioShock 2.
Wonderful content as always!
Can you imagine Love that's proud? You never have to question why or how.
"Love is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed"
Rick Sanchez
So I presume Rick Sanchez didn't love his children? His dog? His parents? Get the fuck out of here...
Yesssss
@@TimMer1981 he’s a cartoon character from Rick and morty sweetheart
@@TimMer1981 he’s a sociopath alcoholic scientist who travels to different dimensions
@@misanthropic985 Who has infinite daughters and grandchildren lol
Dear God
Be with my family and
friends who are in quarantine
Protect the ones who are going
to their jobs. Please God, show
an end to this storm and place
your peace in our hearts.
I wanted to know what 'love' is, so I got on TH-cam and now I'm here.
*Son:* DAD! DAD! What is love?
*Dad:* _Baby don't hurt me._
*Son:* Don't hurt me?
*Stare Dad:* . . .
_NO MORE!_
On my notifications I have a music channel that uploaded a What is love remix and then I got another notification for this video on What is love, lmao
Damn it, beat me to it.
Damn it, you beat me to the joke lol
good advice
"My love is vengeance that's never free"
- Pete Townshend
I lost it after seeing two lady bugs getting it on.
Minor correction: Kirkegaard's love for Olsen was NOT unrequited.
I've just seen you're not that far from having 1 million subscribers. That's awesome! You surely help us with these videos and I'm sure the world is grateful for it... I know I am! :)
Love is a result of evolution. We feel love to our family and friends because social bonds increased our chances of survival and reproduction.
Romantic love, though a lot more complicated, is also a result of evolution. We chase love because the security of a relationship makes it so that we can maximize our chances of reproduction
"If you love someone, you are prepared to let them go"
i can´t believe i found such a good description about love..
U really do know what is in my head is stuck on these days. Whenever i overt think of something u also release a video about it. Lol. What a timely coincidence.
Man what a great video your amazing, shoutout to my kind christian friends, my kind bhuddist friends, and my kind philosopher friends,always showing and spreading love.
for me, I always start a relationship with that insane passionate feeling. like, don't want to do anything else but be with that person. That has always faded for me and if the philia isn't there then there just isn't a relationship.
" I Love You As A Friend"
I love your pronunciation of love 😊 LOV
"Bring me a higher love"
Steve Winwood
Check out "the four loves" by c.s. lewis.
Also “The Road Less Travelled” by M. Scott Peck
Funny to see this comment, just started reading it today! Love Lewis.
Love is what you make out of it.
Thank you for putting in time!
The timing of this is frightening. I was thinking of this lol. I have a stutter and it makes me think what really is love and is that the reason why I'm still single? Is it unconditional acceptance? And other things since I suffer from the other side of normal. Thx for the vid!
I can relate to the speech impediment ordeal. Just calm your nerves and process information longer before conveying your thoughts. I hope this falls on willing ears.
Thanks for making this material and for uploading it.
Missing someone is love ❤️
Agape is the what I would consider real, true love, for there is no gain for oneself when they are willing to sacrifice their lives in return of others including others pleasure and romantic love
THANK YOU EINZELGANGER.
//truths is simple and straight like this :
In order to make other away from truth you categorize things. Like in video.
Reality is here.
Oxytocin +testosterone or estrogen=love
just start watching you're video men the philosophy and explanation and even the editing i love it keep up all the love from morocco
Excellent Excellent
Beautifully explained.
Ten out of ten.
The Greeks had one more word for love - “storge”. The feeling of affection we have for children and animals.
Nice Upload on my Marriage Anniversary Thank my fav utuber
love is the bridge between you and the universe...Rumi....
Sometimes, my words fail to explain what love is...
Excellently explained!
I was just reflecting on this question after deleting all my dating apps 🤣 And this video appears 👍🤝🙏🥰
There is no absolute love in this era and never was ...there is always a deep motive behind our actions which sometimes we don't even know unless it's pointed by some person which we won't accept right away. The love concept was always stupid all the time for whic the present era is an example. Presently the movies and stupid quotes inspire people to love but the soft and unrealistic nature present in those words or that scene where he dies to save her is something illogical and never happens at least most of the time in real life. The love is just excuse to increase the population of humans which is fundamental rule of life in other words its to reproduce.
I partially agree with you however what you're missing is the fact that there a motives hidden and unhidden behind your oppinion about love due to past conditionning so believing there is love or there isn't both are simply futile because there's no clarity in oppinion only a projection of one's psyche so the fact is we can never understand anything about life beyond the mechanical if we have a pre conceived idea about it. Whether there's such a thing such as love is impossible to know as long as we haven't understood ourselves completely.
when love depends on something
gone the thing, gone love
and love that does'nt depend on a thing
always remains
פרקי אבות
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Maya (/ˈmɑːjə/; Devanagari: माया, IAST: māyā), literally "illusion" or "magic", has multiple meanings in Indian philosophies depending on the context. In later Vedic texts and modern literature dedicated to Indian traditions, Māyā connotes a "magic show, an illusion where things appear to be present but are not what they seem". Māyā is also a spiritual concept connoting "that which exists, but is constantly changing and thus is spiritually unreal", and the "power or the principle that conceals the true character of spiritual reality". In Advaita Vedanta school of Hindu philosophy, Maya is "the powerful force that creates the cosmic illusion that the phenomenal world is real." In Hinduism, Maya is also an epithet for goddess Lakshmi, and the name of a manifestation of Lakshmi, the goddess of "wealth, prosperity and love". Also, Maya refers to wealth or treasure itself. There are many examples of hidden treasures guarded by visible or invisible supernatural powers.
Love is not something you should define rather something to experience in every way companions or family lovers and friends it's something that brings each person place and being to each other like a magnetic pull . But in truth I think don't try just do it will come in selfless actions and opening with out fear and can can come from anyone
BABY DONT HURT ME
Don't hurt me..
No more
😂😂😂😂
What is love?
BABY DONT HURT ME
...If it's not with you, I know that in your heart you feel it too.
"Baby don't hurt me no more" - My philosophy teacher probably.