8:05 (For context: I'm from the Philippines) I saw my mother was watching a YT video about Investment tips, and the guy in the video (who was American) gloated about how he outsourced his labor to the Philippines because "the minimum wage there is really cheap". Watching that gave my mother and me the "ick", especially because Brain Drain (the phenomena where highly competent people migrate to other countries) has been happening to the Philippines since at least the 1960's. For historical context: The U.S. was experiencing a shortage on nurses, so they decided to advertise to developing countries (former U.S. Colony Philippines included) to take up Nursing as a job opportunity in America. This sent a wave of Philippine workers to the U.S., and is also why a Nurse working overseas is a stereotype within the Filipino Community to this day. *TL; DR:* In my experience, American-based videos on self-help or finances can sometimes feel really condescending from the perspective of someone from a developing country. So, something like "Outsource labor if you can" can come across as "Look at how little we have to pay you to do something for my benefit". (Sorry for the rant/tangent)
Yes that's gross. I briefly worked as a personal assistant for a wealthy woman who hired bookkeepers from the Phillipines for $10/hr and she was so demanding and harsh on them, making them show up to meetings on zoom when it was like 2am in their country. I remember one of them asking to be paid directly instead of through upwork and this woman said no, that that would be unethical to cut upwork out of the transaction especially since she's already paying her $10/hr! Needless to say I didn't last long there, couldn't stomach a boss who was more concerned with being ethical towards a corporation than a human being who was helping her manage her estate. Gross.
Time management angers me. Seeing my dad depressed over the fact that he cannot go on a hike, or read peacfully or watch a nice movie because he has to work 12 hours if not more to keep us afloat is painful. He loves photography, but he doesnt gave any time. Not because its not important, but because this system forces him to work under discriminatory managers in a unfulfilling dreary and physically damaging job to feed his family. It angers me that someone thinks thats 'hes just not making time' for what matters to him. Ick ick ick
Yeah. They leave out the part where you are tired as fuck or not in the mental space. It's always all about you being not good enough and not doing enough
Yeah. And, while I am unable to work a lot of people think I always own my time. I just wanna shout this: "Tell that to my body that won't let me move without disabling agonizing pain, which takes longer, unless I sit and do nothing for at least 30 min to 2 hrs EVERY morning. Tell that to the doctor appointments I have to go to for chronic illness so I can function and walk for the other half of the year. Tell that to everything that takes longer when you are disabled. Tell that to the college that keeps changing schedules without warning. Tell that to the phone calls and paperwork I have to do just to be given a chance to even have a level playing field that neurotypical able-bodied people start out with, in the first place. Tell that to any number of things outside of a disabled student's control." There are so many things that take so much longer because disabled people often have to individually adapt things and McGiver the hell out of them because society won't just accommodate us like it could and should. The things that take more time because we have medical problems, or because society would rather see us dead than see our humanity. I really hope the system changes for both the people forced to work, and those barred from it--all because of time.
Honestly, the way my therapist put it, "you're busy resting" made me feel a lot better about taking time off from stuff. It's not an optional "waste of time", it's a necessary cooldown from stress and work.
My therapist gave me an advice for positive self-talk to apply not only when i've done somethign quote-on-quote productive, but also when I've given myself opportunity to relax. It's something one should congratulate themselves for, something one should feel good about.
My therapist has told me this too and it was helpful. However, now I can't help but think that reframing resting as another task to do so that you can work effectively is still not where we need to be.
Time management is the perfect example of "cope, don't change" mentality. Are you having panic attacks from your job? Don't you ever dream of changing it. Just end the panic attack to cope with the god-awful job you have now. Does your relationship make you depressed because it's abusive? Don't change it, just cope with it by going on a walk with your partner! Sick of not having enough time for your hobbies? Just do more multitasking and get up earlier and sleep later, and you can do it-just don't you ever dare quit that job of yours because someone else is benefitting from your service! A lot of "mental help" content exploits the vulnerable by keeping them in situations that benefit other people, and I'm sick of it.
This is basically what I've been told at work when I said I was close to burning out due ro 12+ hour workday. I was hoping for some help, at least just words of encouragement. But our head of department just said something like "you are resting the wrong way. You need to learn how to re-charge yourself efficiently during your spare time". I said nothing but in my mind I was like "oh great now on top of everything else I am bad at spending my free time apparently". Then I remembered that I rarely had any free time at all
my own dad told me the same thing he brought up how he managed to take vacations and such with us as kids, but i rarely interacted with him aside from those times, and his job crippled him so was it really worth it in the end?
I think its saying the opposite. He says you are in control of time. Meaning you have control over what job you take up… so if you have panic attacks look for why and change life style accordingly. Same with time. If your job isn’t fulfilling you and you don’t have the time to live… then change that. Quit the job and find a better one or invest in yourself, work harder, struggle for that dream and launch your own business. I mean we live in a time where a lot of information is available if you ask the right questions.
"You always have control of your time" some people don't. Work, mental health problems that can knock you out without warning, ilness, relationship problems. There are so many things out of our control
Like... your power to control your own time it's dictated by a lot of things. Like your economy, your country, your family or even by your health (if you are sick, probably you don't have energy to do certain things, thus you can't choose what to do with your time). Posmodernism really messed up since it couldn't erradicate the figure of "self". The fairy tale of "self-made people" it's a real problem. Zygmunt Bauman puts in perspective the point that Elliot tries to say. Capitalism alters life, to the point that people start to act like products. Time management really responds to this economic logic since it doesn't need cohersion to convince people to exploit themselves... or others. “For what makes capitalism so powerful is its resilience and adaptability. The game is never lost, only awaiting the next spin Of the wheel. As a mode of production, capitalism is a perfect chameleon” -Tim wo
Yes! Exactly! Same with having a hobby that you are good at. Everyone automatically wants you to sell it on Etsy or sell for profit. Can’t I just have a hobby that I enjoy and that I don’t have to sell to people?
@@AndromedaCeline THIS!!! I'm an author and, although I'd like to make money from my books one day, I just write them for fun now. Every time I tell my mum I'm working on a book, she asks why we're not receiving any money from it and it makes me feel so bad. Like I'm just trying to enjoy, I don't need to be making millions rn😭
They definitely do that! We should absolutely have free time, otherwise, what is the point of money and jobs? But they make seems like is a bad thing weak minded and lazy people want.
This is so real, that Marx long already point out the fundamental right to idle time (I'm portuguese speaker so don't know if the concept of "ócio", the portugues word I know, translate fully into the word idleness). But "ócio" basically means free time to do whatever and normally cames whit a negative tone that is a poor use of time/lazy behavior, so is that what I mean by idleness. Edit: not the video starting to talk about Marx and those ideias on the exact moment I started to pay attention again and got out of the comments lol your comment got my attention and I decided to answer first and then go back to video lol But I'm gonna leave this comment here anyways, maybe still valid.
@@AndromedaCeline oh my god yes, whenever someone finds out i like to draw they tell me to sell stuff online or do comissions or whatever. nah dude i just wanna do stuff i enjoy! "Hey this Dinner was delicious! why dont you quit your job and become a professional chef?" "damn you got some moves, why dont you become a professional background dancer for music videos?"
That water heater story is infuriating to me because the truth is, if that woman's job is anything like a typical office job in America, she had to burn social capital on addressing it. She had to tell her boss and her co-workers, "I have to miss this meeting because I've got a situation with the water heater." Do you think she could tell her coworkers "I have to miss this meeting so I can train for a triathalon"? Every single week? Of course not, she'd be fired. Jobs are often patient with the occasional critical interruption, but if you push them too far, they *will* push back.
Was thinking the same thing. Also doesn’t take into account that this person likely had to use PTO or worse, just unpaid time off, to sit at home all day waiting for the repair person to show up who likely gave them a time frame of 9am-9pm. That was such a poor analogy she made, maybe she should carve out some time to write a better one.
especially if your working retail, your basically on call 24-7. your don't get time off unless you've lost a limb in a car accident, and even then you'd better have proper papers documenting it
Ach ja die Deutsche Bahn :) Bei meiner Berufsschule durfte ich dann jedes mal zum Arzt rennen und sonen Arbeitsunfähigkeits-wisch nachreichen weil es sie null interessiert hat dass meine Bahn ewig verspätet war und ich nicht einfach "eine oder zwei früher nehmen" kann. Bin dann nach wenigen Monaten in der geschlossenen Psychiatrie gelandet, super System. 😁👍 Hoffe dein Studium läuft trotz DB gut!~
@@Emma-Maze Danke, tut es! Das ist auch was mich am meisten stört. "Eine Bahn vorher" ist eine volle Stunde vorher, das ist einfach ein unrealistischer Vorschlag. Und das, wenn man nicht einmal auf dem Land lebt... Verspätungen sind an sich okay, und ich habe Verständnis dafür, dass der Zug halt nicht immer pünktlich sein kann. Aber das wird einfach immer grottenschlecht an den Nutzer kommuniziert, und es gibt kaum alternative Routen oder Ausgleiche für Verspätungen. Idiotentrupp. Ich hoffe, dir geht es heute und in Zukunft besser.
You don't when you own a car either! Commuting time by car will always be less reliable than public transit on a schedule (assuming it doesn't get stuck in traffic as well and you have bus lanes or rail).
As an hourly employee, it grates my grits to have discussions about time management, multi-tasking, and “work-life balance” with my salaried manager. She can simply say “I feel sick today” and take the day off while still getting paid the same and no impact to her yearly allotted benefits. But hourly workers who report to her feel the pressure to come in sick because their “benefits” tell them they don’t have enough time to be sick. Or, the workload is already heavy and she asks the team to “make time” for more, as if time is a commodity that we can just produce at a whim and not a constant (in the non-theoretical, quantum sense). I need to rewatch this again but I’m with you.
As a salaried employee, it isn't quite as easy as you put it. While if I am sick I can take a day, but I am expected to make up time. Also if I work over 40hrs, I don't get anything for it. Yes there are bad salaried employees, but there are also some that get screwed because we don't donate enough time.
The term "work-life balance" is like saying "banana-fruit balance". We get what people mean, but it's a false binary. Work falls under the category of life. Also, while many people want to be able to do more things outside their job, many people also associate negative feelings with their job. Trying to keep the two separate the two or add something positively associated to the negatively associated one doesn't address the problems with the latter. The latter needs to change. People need autonomy and their voice to matter and to, at least in many cases, not be paid in relation to time.
Agreed. I hate the phrase "make time", like how exactly can I make more time? And if it's to indicate that I should prioritize other things, then my prior things will suffer. The only way I've "made time" for work is by cutting back sleep, and food, but that's not good in the long term
I learned in my university psychology class that turning a hobby into work can lead to disinterest in said hobby. There truly is no shame in having a lot of downtime and filling it with a hobby you enjoy. From philosophy to dancing to surfing, there are so many ways to enjoy life. It’s far too short to be playing keeping up with the Joneses and doing things simply because society tells you to. Do what you feel is right (as long as nobody gets injured). Hopefully, to whoever reads this, you’ll feel confident in living your life your way and not take BS from anyone. Even though I’m a random person on the internet, I’m rooting for you. From one of the billions of people on this earth to another, we should never be afraid to unapologetically be ourselves. Good luck.
@@Winspur1982 I also have anecdotal evidence. Many people that I've met who turn a hobby into work end up hating it. This can be from people I've personally met, to musicians (the lyrics of some songs, check out NF if you like rap and deep lyrics), to former and current co-workers, to friends. I don't know if your comment was tongue-in-cheek or agreement, but I also wish you the best of wishes.
@@aun7106 I understand the feeling. I'm currently trying to write a novel, and the idea of doing it for money is a constant struggle. I'm considering publishing it and giving it away for free, but then there's that part of me that says "try to make money off of it". I always say I want to try and connect to someone, that if what I write impacts just one person, then it'll be a job well-done. Because I remember the magical feeling I had when I first read a captivating novel, and I want to pass that magic along to someone else. But I always question if that's what I really want, or if I really want money.
@Reed It was a sincere comment. I do like hip-hop (well, Lauryn Hill anyway ... she poured her heart and soul into her work, it's never been just a "hobby" for her).
When I first started going to school for software engineering I watched a lot of videos about how to be successful as a software engineer and one of the videos I saw was one by Tim Ferris where he talks about how to be a “digital nomad.” His advice was basically the same: as much as possible, outsource your coding jobs to free lancers in India who you can pay $5/hour for work you’re getting paid $120k+/year for and buy a home in Thailand where a 6 figure salary essentially makes you royalty. I didn’t know anything about politics or Marxism or imperialism back then, but the idea of exploiting the poor standards of living of people in third world nations for your own benefit seemed pretty unethical. Now I understand that this is the whole foundation for the wealth of the first world.
It's not exploiting. The cheaper wages is an advantage to indians to snatch jobs and earn an income. Your dollar is worth more in India. That's how they built the IT and Medicine industry but overtime it became huge.
Yeah, the west is rich because they exploit the poorer nations. Some people even believe that poor people working in sweatshops is actually good for them because it is "a way out of poverty". They would not be poor if their countries were not exploited. The problem is the greatest in Africa, because of neocolonialism. The rich countries do not let the African nations to grow their economies.
@@gabbar51ngh you can just pay them...more, thats not right, even if you are giving them a job. You should treat them better and not be a greedy money hording bastard.
This leads into a thought I've been having on how capitalists don't understand hobbies. They don't seem to realize that people can do an activity just for fun. They always tend to call you lazy for not trying to monetize something you're into or they'll call you lazy for spending any "free" time doing anything remotely "unproductive".
I know people exactly like that. It’s so true! And when you reveal that you have hobbies their usual first thought is how to monetize it by a specific timescale. I’m super careful who I reveal my hobbies to.
Im a capitalist, and I recognize the importance of hobbies. People of all ages need hobbies. It keeps the mind active, is fun, and away from doing stupid, less savory things.
People don’t seem to understand what capitalism is. Nothing about that is capitalism, it’s culture. There are capitalist countries that don’t emphasize entrepreneurship to the extent the US does
@@joiceraiana I work for myself, so in this case, yes. If you work under an employer, you dont own means of production; which btw, lets call it what it is- communism.
“At any given moment, you are doing what you most want to be doing.” From my disabled perspective, this feels so condescending and out-of-touch. I don’t spend five hours a day resting because I *want* to, I do it because my body forces me to. Not to mention the moments my ADHD makes me lose my train of thought/momentum and I forget something I was genuinely interested in.
Yes! It's like, I don't WANT to spend a few hours every week seeing doctors, but you know, I have to in order to stay alive. I don't WANT to spend 7 hours waiting in ED, but I can't control that. Such a privileged perspective that all moments are our own. Glad he's not practicing medicine anymore.
YES exactly!!! His perspective is so privileged. If you're poor or disabled you're not constantly doing what you want. You're often doing what you need to survive.
Oof i get this. When i had gotten a health condition in my hands/wrists that made it so i couldn’t rlly write or draw without pain. So, when i wanted to practice drawing i couldn’t cus otherwise it would HURT and not be good for my hands. So like.. i wasnt drawing or practicing cus i didnt want to, but instead cus i had to rest my body 😭
Thinking about how I went into rehab at 15 for a blood pressure med addiction and while I was trying to focus on keeping by blood pressure up and staying alive my mom and head counselor decided it was more important to get me to work on time management because my school work was lacking. It really doesn’t get more dehumanizing than that. My life was less important than my productivity in school. Every time I hear time management get brought up now I just kinda roll my eyes.
@@markfreeman4727 people will tell everyone "get therapy" ok if we are in a capitolistic society even if youre on ssi/ssdi and cant work , the mental health professionals say the same drivel that the people he shows in this video was spewing , i had a therapist who insisted that i "find a job" because i lost my brother to a gun homicide, im so glad i was smart enough to get a good therapist who actually helped....but i know its really bad especially social workers
Time management is something that to me, as a student with ADHD, has always been an exploitation technique. Firstly, let's just point out that children have a legally protected obligation of getting an education, so not much of a choice. And here we get to the 24 hours a day issue, because not only we don't actually get 24 hours, but 14, because children should sleep between 8 and 10 hours a day (I'm going with 10, because 10-hour-needers can't just stop needing that 2 hours). Another 8 for school classes and 2 for getting to and back from school, and in some people's cases it's more. We're left with 4 hours. And these 4 hours should compensate for doing all of our homework, housework, eating, quality time with yourself alone, friends and family, and possibly pets, socializing, relaxation, exercising, breaks, any unexpected events and all of the other stuff I can't think of to the top of my head. And every young person *has to* go through this until they're 18, but more realistically, up until they get a higher education's degree, to get a job that can pay their bills. No wonder why we are so screwed up.
oh my god exactly and then we are constantly shammed for not doing hw on time or taking care of ourselves ‘properly’, and i know a lot of kids have jobs outside of school (myself included) so there’s like no time for oneself or loved ones. its so fu*ked
Which is why I didn't do my homework or gave a sh*t about school at all. I had a much more enjoyable time hanging out with friends and making the best of my time in school... Instead of slaving away over mountains of homework and (for some reason) choosing to take honors classes as if they mean literally anything. I graduated high school with a B average and enjoyed myself doing it. College is a sham anyways so there is quite literally NO REASON to want to be overly successful in high school unless there is a field you *really* want to go into that requires college.
And that’s exactly why I wouldn’t do my homework. Teachers and my parents would be confused and frustrated cause I would still get good grades in school but would be hella reluctant to do anything outside of school.
8 hours of school for kids is too much. 6 is a maximum, and school should be within 30 mins commute. Then it would be 10h sleep, 7h school, 7h freetime. I remember in upper secondary school we had 8-hour days. Then there were 6-8 math problems and turning 8 pages of text into a mindmap for homework. I never finished mine. I could try one problem for 2 hours and give up. The classes were mostly lecturing and we didn't have much time to practise in class with assistance, added with the constant sleep deprivation.
There's a consistent point that goes around Tumblr about one person being expected to do what a community regularly did. It was never just the wife in the kitchen it was the wife and her grandmother and her daughters and maybe her sister in law. It was a whole group of men in the feild with kids chasing off birds and because of that everyone did have more time to themselves. Anyway the bit with "you spend most of your time doing what you want to do" is so ableist to me. I don't *want* to sit in my room for 3 hours having a panic attack over my executive dysfunction wanting to rip the carpet off the floor but not having the money to do so. And the cascade effect that has.
as a med student i used to love Ali's content so so much bc his study tips were so useful and straight to the point. his videos introduced me to "active recall" which is something i apply to my studies almost everyday in many different ways. but then he turned into an entrepreneur monster that thinks that everyone has the time and money to create 100 ways of passive income and his comments filled with crypto scammers and i unsubscribed :(. also the part about outsourcing work through fivver to indians: he literally is from india 😭😭 why does he think it's okay to think that way
Because it's normal in India. You dont even need to be as wealthy as many people in Western countrys to have some People employed. Many people get less than 30$ a day.
@@completelynormalhuman9882 yes, but in capitalism nearly anyone does it in some way. For example by buying cheap clothes or food. One can only escape it partially by buying second hand or growing ones own veggies etc...
YEAH that's what I was thinking lol "SURE I can choose not to help Mom with the trash bags while she cooks lunch or wash the dishes and cups myself instead of leaving them for her to wash, all while I just watch TH-cam or play games or edit a video... But there'll be consequences, such as incurring her wrath and being forced away from the computer or phone."
I was a slave to this time management ideology when I worked as a programmer. I worked at least 10hrs per workday and I felt guilty if my weekends/holidays are spent without doing anything. This was my 20s. Now in my 30s, I regret so much it cost me my health. The money I saved over the years is nil due to health problems/emergencies. I am lucky enough to quit my job and even though I am unemployed/housewife, I feel much healthier and I am starting to reclaim my quality of life wasted on my 20s.
I'm glad that you've left this comment. I'm studying to be a programmer and I've been very hooked on productivity and time management ever since this video. I hope that I won't feel guilty abt not being dedicated enough or productive enough in my free time. I wish you a good day
I'm glad you got out of that rut and are doing better now. I used to work two jobs despite being disabled. I was told at home that I wasn't working hard enough or making more money, but at work I literally would never be punished for being late or calling out last second because I was in such poor health that my coworkers constantly feared that my body had finally given out & that I had fainted and fell into traffic. My managers would literally send someone to pick me up when I was running late not because they needed me sooner, but because I sounded so exhausted that they didnt think it was *safe* for me to walk the rest of the way. Then I started getting this regular customer who worked as a delivery driver. Found out after a while that he used to work *five* jobs. On his way to work one day from his third shift to his fourth, he blacked out behind the wheel. All the money he had saved from working 10-16 hour work days had to be spent on emergency medical expenses and covering his bills while in recovery. He told me he was just glad to be alive and able to regain full movement in his body after a few years of physical therapy. After that, I coaxed my boss at my easier job to give me longer hours so I could quit my second job. Every time I get shamed for not working enough, every time I consider getting a second job, I remember that man and how the fact he was alive to give me that advice was nothing shy of a miracle.
I love how their solution is “just exploit people you feel superior to.” Also, the idea that a person just found 7 hours in a week to handle an emergency somehow equates to you can always find time in a week if you want it bad enough is ludicrous. I would love to hear what other tasks that person had to put off or reschedule in order to take care of this whether using vacation time or finding someone to watch your kids or having to sacrifice sleep and your health for that week. I love finding hacks to better organize my time and life which hopefully translates to saving time when I’m performing future labor, but usually just ignore the other messaging. It’s all the same thing just said differently. Basically if you can’t get where you want it’s your fault. I had a boss who told me to better manage my time when I came to them saying I have too much to do. I came back the next month with an outline of all my tasks and the time it takes to complete each task (I did a time study using Lean principles - something my organization loved and tbh there’s some good tools there) and it showed I needed something like 20 more hours in a week to get everything done by their deadlines. Then I asked how I can make this happen and it was all Pikachu face. I’m good at finding my own solutions, but hire more people or better manage your expectations. There’s only so much I can do. Like having to manage up is so annoying. Anyway, LOVE this video. It really resonated. Thank you!
great anecdote! you did a great job of standing up for yourself while being helpful in providing the realities of the situation in a logistical way. i'd probably have just sulked! glad you liked the video, pleasure as always
This is a really interesting and powerful strategy I absolutely commend you on standing up for yourself. I'm dying to know, what was the outcome? Did they actually reduce your workload/hire more people or just replace you with someone who won't complain?
I did something similar, but at the time I was an hourly employee fresh out of high school. The boss wanted me to stock the areas I was responsible for in a certain order, but that order was impossible due to the truck being unloaded at the same time. Basically, they wanted me to pull backstock from shelves that involved using the electric pallet jack, but the aisle in question was where the truck was being staged. Pulling backstock before stocking new freight would have made sense if there weren't the small problem of an entire truck's worth of new freight being directly in the way of said backstock. When I expressed that the order they wanted me to do my job was logistically implausible, I was told to "just do it". I suspect they already didn't like me and were trying to manufacture an excuse to let me go, so they presented me with an impossible problem. So for me the result was I got to find another job.
@@leahg.3393 My manager was fairly receptive. For some things they adjusted deadlines and for other tasks they redistributed it so it wasn’t just one person doing it. They had a bad habit of giving a deadline and then asking for a completed project a week early so it was difficult to actually prioritize projects because everything became high priority as you never knew when they’d ask for something. Still got some of that, but not nearly as often. Having more realistic deadlines and sticking to them helped.
@@Sljm8D That sucks. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I hate it when management is inflexible about things they don’t need to be. There’s no reason to not give you control on the order tasks are completed in, especially when there’s an unmovable issue blocking you from doing the task well. Why make people’s jobs harder than they need to be? I’ll never understand this mindset.
thank you for eloquently putting what I've been trying to vocalize for years. I used to feel guilty for going on walks to nowhere for hours or leisurely spending longer at the grocery store even if I'm just picking up a few things. I feel like there is so much joy people lose in their life and in small moments when they micromanage their time. As I've gotten older the time I "wasted" doing silly stuff is my most cherished
Isn't it weird that we are simultaneously told that the time we allow for ourselves to breathe is time wasted, and to focus on *our* goals, and *our* path on the race to success at the expense of having empathy for others? (no it's not)
Your fellow man _HATES_ this one weird trick! ...love it was inside us the whole time! _"The ultimate hidden truth of the world is that it is something we make and could just as easily make differently."_ - the late great David Graeber now ignore all that, get in Fiver, and start transforming these Filipinos into oompa loompas! and dollars, obviously, all possibility must be strictly bound to profitability! GRIND SET GRIND SET GRIND SET #laborarbitrage4allwhowantit Follow this advice and soon you tpoo can own a generic shitty techg sttartup (probably) and/or perceive life through as excel sheet. No it's fun though I swear, and my god _you get so much done!_ But seriously, don't we love it folks? Just the general state of the world? Don't we love how stupid and bad it is? But you know what they say, he who makes a machine out of himself, gets rid of the pain of being a late capitalist sigma grinder.
we need that time. without it, we would all go nuts. The whole idea of making yourself successful without minding others is definitely related to that. People who are not giving themselves a time to breathe just so they would be "successful" are the most useful to the capitalists. The whole idea of them working as hard to make it better for others, on the other hand needs to be squashed.
also, it starts as soon as you start school. In order to take academic rest, you need to manage your time to finish tasks and so on and some parents would encourage you to take advanced work or reading, especially if the parents expect their child/ren to have straight A grades or honors or be higher at rankings, which is helpful in plain sight but no, it just harms the work-life relationship bc the child is always pressured to do something about their academics or else, they will feel like "they're not managing their time well"
For this reason, I'm trying to see how I can let 10 year old know that I don't care about her grades...while also letting her know I care that she tries. She's gonna be doing exams this year and I'm not sending her to after-school lesson (because she doesn't want to go lol). I need to make sure I have money so she can not care about grades lol
I nearly went crazy in high school because my homework load was insane. Despite working diligently I felt like I was drowning in assignments. Eventually developed a bad relationship with sleep and the constant feeling I shouldn’t relax.
I think highschool was just a way to teach you how to function while running on 5-6 hours of sleep and now as an "adult" I get even less they didn't even prepare me properly for this smh
This reminds me of the concept of homework in case like really you force kids to give up most of their lives allready yet you deliberately make them give up more
@@JohnDoe-ph6ifThey have an extremely high poverty rate, meaning bad living conditions and if they or a family member get sick they're simply screwed. His "outsourcing" means he's taking advantage of that situation, paying them less than he would pay someone from his own country, thereby not remotely paying them enough to be free and escape poverty, just enough so they can stay afloat for a while longer. It's exploitative and akin to modern day slavery. It's what clothing and tech companies have been doing with sweatshops just to a lesser degree and at a smaller scale.
@@Emma-Maze yes i know all that, but im not sure how this is exploitative in itself? First of all he pays them 7$/hr. which is WAY above local average afaik, Secondly i don't think anybody would take up the job if the pay is too low, assuming there are other jobs (of course if the job market is bad that's the fault of their government, and Filipino should hold them accountable, it's not like they're forced into slave labor like in Congo, etc.) Of course in the ideal world wages would be the same globally, but any global unionization initiative is an unimaginably hard undertaking. Keep in mind that Cost of living for the same living standard also varies HUGELY and affects wages as well as other many factors. It's such a complex question that to say that outsourcing is *evil* is naive imo
this conversation hits home and I have 2 examples of my "poor time management" that come to mind. 1. Boss schedules me for a 9-5 shift. I used to show up between 8:30 and 8:45 because I've always been taught that it's "better to hurry up and wait than to hurry up and be late." But I noticed that getting there ahead of time just meant that I was working 8:30-5 but getting paid from 9-5. When I noticed this I decided to allow some more time to myself in the mornings by showing up at 8:55 for my 9 o'clock shifts. My boss noticed and said I was late. I didn't defend myself because that's considered talking back and I can't afford to lose this job. But how could I be considered late when I am in fact not only always on time, but still showing up ahead of time. 2. These days I am a night owl. Which is problematic because I also have to be a morning person in order to show up to my job late but on time. The adults in my life say " if you're always so tired, you should go to bed earlier." But the evening/night time is the only time I don't have someone or something immediately demanding my time and attention. So why wouldn't I want to prolong that time to myself? I don't actually mean to stay up so late so I guess one could argue that I have poor time management since I so easily lose track of that time. But it's the only time I can finally focus on my hobbies and passions without being interrupted or made to feel guilty for it. Thank you for providing this space for my little rant/tangent.
I solved this problem by going to bed early as fuck and waking up at 4 or 5 for my 9 o'clock gig. I use the extra time to clean, practice guitar, play video games, and usually get high as hell. You know, "me" time. It's probably not gonna fix your whole life but you should give it a shot.
Revenge bedtime procrastination is the term for your second point. Unfortunately its “solution” still blames the person for not sleeping that realizing people need time to themselves while awake.
*Worker gets to the end of a 12 hour shift at the factory* "Well, I sell my labor just to barely survive while bosses profit off of it, but at least I'm doing what I'd most like to be doing with my time." It appears what poor people would most like to be doing at any given moment is not dying.
This video hits close to home. I haven’t even started working yet, but I’m in the IB program and they’re already starting to condition us into this mindset. They give us huge quantities of work, with deadlines overlapping and then get disappointed when we don’t hand everything in on time and tell us we need to manage time better. Sometimes it’s true, but sometimes we aren’t given any time to manage in the first place. And we’re not just working machines, but people with families, friends, girlfriends or boyfriends, pets, talents, hobbies, adverse live events, responsibilities and interests. We’re not robots, and I’m tired of being treated like one just so some people in Wales can make money off of my diploma.
I heavily relate to this. I'm a freshman in college (I just finished my first semester a few weeks ago btw) and I always complain about why in the world are we receiving task after task with overlapping deadlines and studying some subjects that we don't actually need after we graduate?
Could you track the time that you work on projects and submit an invoice for your work? If you're challenged, ask your instructor if they've heard of the Triple Constraint. Bonus points if you do this in a Project Management class.
i dropped out of the IB programme two months ago and I feel you. their whole thing is that "don't worry as long as you manage your time!" but that doesn't matter if you live far from school or have extracurriculars or are mentally ill or are neurodivergent. when I spoke to some teachers about it, one of them asked me why I would sleep in the bus instead of listening to the audiobook if I didn't have time to read it for my next assignment. it's almost like I'm living on 3 hours of sleep because their workload is hell and i need the damn sleep to even function in class; just my personal experience though. the classes were fun
I'd argue that no, time isn't flexible, but people can be when faced with a crisis. We can stretch to unbelievable accomplishments when something demands our immediate attention. But just like the rubber band, when just stretched and stretched we eventually break. That's why you can't keep finding extra 7 hours in your week, week after week. You can't keep up with that level of stress.
The “you own your time” argument really does fall apart the moment you consider mental illness or neurodivergence or any external circumstances. I’ve been on a productive journey myself and I’ve gotten miles ahead in learning how to listen to myself, what I need and tending to my problems than attempting to conceptualize “owning my time” and getting nowhere. Certainly much further than I have when I was listening to the self help gurus years back. The self help guys platforms are usually a business of sorts and we shouldn’t be taking anything they say to heart when it comes to dictating what’s going to work for us. Especially when so many of them come from such limited perspectives.
Perhaps it is also you who come from a limited perspective. There is no totalizing or strict sense that these people are referring to. It's a baseline of "advice" to mold into what you could use as potential. Are you restricted because of xyz things? How can you reframe the situations to compensate for xyz things and also try to push your own boundaries? And so on. And let me tell you, as someone who'd been disabled for 5 years due to failing health, this was the only things that allowed me to figure out what the ever living fuck to do to help that. Reframing is the simplest and most powerful tool anyone could use. But most of y'all just bitch about things being "ableist" or whatever. Those 5 years were more hell for me than working and feeling fully exhausted due to constant physical pains and my limitations. Life still sucks. These problems have been with me since I was a child. I hate being autistic. I wish I could just exist without the bipolar constantly scraping at me. But damn, I can work again (and have been for about a year and half now). I am volunteering as a mentor, and doing my best to keep things going...even though more than half of my existence wants to just be dead.
I had a similar experience. Trying to follow the advice of self help gurus didn't help, even following standard CBT advice from my therapist didn't. I later got an ADHD diagnosis, an unofficial autism diagnosis and figured out I'm trans - and gosh am I realizing how much was really gender dysphoria holding me back. I'm having more energy, a much more comfortable emotional experience, and a much more comfortable experience in my body.
I feel like time management is something that's also really couched in being neurotypical. I cannot always do the thing that I most want to be doing - whether executive dysfunction gets in the way or something else blocks my ability to start/switch tasks - and so the idea that I just need to manage that better is insulting
Agreed. Neurodivergents need a different approach to doing things and it's never just a case of "you should do better/try harder". It's such a backwards way of thinking and further puts the onus of "not living up to a standard" to the neurodivergent, which just calls for unwarranted frustration to onseself. A neurodivergent's brain is just wired differently and they are indeed superbly capable of doing things, hence there is no cookie cutter way of doing things like most productivity gurus claim so (because they mainly cater to the neurotypicals as their target demographic).
I suppose being neurotypical means being more naturally predisposed to tolerating doing things you don't want to do. That's been my experience with whatever my novel-length psych evaluation found in me. If anyone figures out the failsafe way for me to do the same, I'll be looking out for it.
@@farlado5459I wouldn’t say it’s failsafe by any means but as someone with ADHD, I’ve found that fear is an incredible motivator. There’s some neuroscience to back this up as well, neurotypical or not, nothing motivates us like fear. To get things done, I try to leverage that sense of fear of not living up to my expectations. Whenever I don’t want to do something I try to think “do you really not want to succeed at X, think of your future self” You could argue that it’s basically falling into the capitalistic time management trap/mindset and a bit toxic, but we live in this world and need to make do. I’ve found the joy of getting things done to be an adequate reward for the “negative” motivation.
@@nada3131 i think there are people who can hardwire themselves to use fear as a motivator but at the same time, overexposure to a certain 'feeling' can become negative, depending on that person's mindset and experiences
@@The_Jazziest_Coffee I think this is a very reasonable concern. Even if you're able to leverage fear as a motivator, it's quite easy to become very anxious all the time. I wish we had something simple that worked for everyone with fewer risks.
I had a thought back in high school. (When I was in school and working) how school was like training for work. And not actually about gaining knowledge or teaching future generations to be better and inspire them. Its like the teach you very basics for you to be a useful worker. They gutted the art programs, don't at all talk about philosophy, and taught the very surface level of history.
@The Academic Fix I am taking about public schools they type of schools most ppl go to and college isn't an option for everyone given how ridiculously overpriced it is. And ppl who choose to go that don't come from well to do families ended up drowning in debt not to mention these degrees are not benefiting most ppl in the way that it once did.
that's the exact thought process and function that companies that had assembly lines paid and funded the usa department of education to set up a curriculum to provide them workers it's deliberately made to be a drone production factory, only taught enough to do the basic work, not question it, and not be taught the success skills that would let them find a way out of the system they are corralled into
Ali's fundamental grasp on time is a perfect display of the difference between the mindset of someone who is working class versus someone who is a part of the owner class. He literally spells it out when talking about paying someone less works out great for him. This is why working hours and paid time off had to be achieved literally with blood in the previous century as our grandparents and great grandparents had to use organized labor, which was violently attacked by the state, to achieve the 8 hour day and 5 day work week (which by the way is still not entirely a thing). Even companies that saw an INCREASE in productivity and employee well-being through working remotely, or working 4 day weeks, still forced everyone to return to the office, because they want to control every aspect and every moment of that time they are paying you for. If you are at work, but you finish your work early and are just relaxing a little, they can give you an extra task to do, despite the fact you've already finished an extra task for tomorrow to get ahead.
Funny you say that about finishing tasks. We've been conditioned to work over our contracted day to get work done usually for no extra pay. Yet if we finished our task early and was actually more productive they wouldn't let us leave early (unless you had a lovely boss). It's a one way street!
I work in a high school, and I can see clear as day how students are programmed to utilize every waking moment to work on their studies. I feel bad for the teachers too, because they are overworked to hell. A 4 day school week would be magical.
I used to think that if I don't use my time efficiently and mostly on resting and sleeping that's next to my work, I would not "live my life to the fullest". Please don't be like me, I am so much more functional and alive when I get my rest and naps and had to deal with burnout and massive fatigues afterwards because these capitalists told me that I'm not enough if I do otherwise 💀aghhhhh
Ever think that instead of blaming muh capitalists, you should reflect inward and accept that you were pretty idiotic for thinking exchanging sleep for productivity was a good idea. This is coming from someone who has done the exact same thing, but I am not sitting here blaming the invincible capitalists for my idiotic decisions. This whole comment section just sounds like a bunch of leftists complaining about having to work, muh capitalism, and how other people are more privileged then them. Very little if any of these people seem to even understand the concept of time management or their own control and ownership over their time.
@@bobbilly87 i mean, if it was like a random suggestion/advice, i would be like "ah ok let's try that, if it fails, that's fine, i can just not do that advice anymore because it doesn't work for me", however, I am criticizing capitalism because, let's be real, what i listed is not a random advice, it's a thing that is kinda pushed on the society and young people as a whole, specifically the sacrifice your sleep and rest for da greater work (when it's just excessive labour disguised as a promise to get success). You do feel like this doesn't work but then you ask your peers and people that are supposed to guide you when you're in your teens/early 20s, you're fed this idea that you're supposed to ignore your needs and work harder, at least that's what my case looked like, it's not just "stupid decisions", yes, i did decide those in the past, not anymore though because I escaped that cycle luckily and now I'm more happy than ever before. I criticise capitalism because that's what we live in mostly and generally the capitalistic idea is to encourage unlimited exploitation.
@@bobbilly87 If the people are anything like me, then we have reflected inward, this is exactly why we are writing those comments now. We reflected inward, figured out that we were right but people gave us shitty advice all the time, and instead of listening to ourselves we just listened to others. We figured that trying to suppress our thoughts and feelings lead us to have our boundaries violated, to have people trampled all over us. So now we're listening to ourselves and are vocal about it. We learnt that our anger is legitimate, and that instead of letting it destroy us it is more productuve to seek community and to be political about it. I think that while you only hear complains, you are not realizing that we are doing the personal work of setting boundaries, of not taking shit from other people any more.
@@bobbilly87 I swear. It's like people think that in a communist society, there would be no work hours and everyone would be prancing around in lush meadows and skipping over rainbows. When a good look around and at history shows otherwise. People blame capitalism for pretty much anything even though these problems are intrinsic to any modern human society and have nothing to do with capitalism. People do it simply so that they don't have to be accountable for their actions. It's always someone else's fault and they're always the victim and the system is rigged so no point trying. There. Problem solved.
As an autistic person, laying out my shedule helps me a lot. It helps me remember when I need to clean, cook, take care of myself, ect. Keeping a notebook and to do list also reminds me to do things such as call the dr. I get overwhelmed when too many tasks pile up. But your time shouldn't be worth more or less than anyones, if you want to spend your free time doing things that people would consider "unproductive" that's okay. I don't do shedule blocks as usual and find they do not work for me, but laying out the things I must do for the day help me.
The problem is that this video was made for nothing. If the time management stuff doesn’t apply to you, then don’t listen. If it does, it can be extremely valuable. If you decide to give yourself time to relax, it’s not inherently wasted, and it is a critical component of time management!!! This video serves no one because it was made out of incomprehension of the intended message.
@@h.perso.5389 The problem with time management speeches is that threy are aimed to get people to do things more efficiently so they can spend more time on those other peoples bullshit. It is never just to put an order up in your life. It is never that simple. Most people giving you time management lessons want some of your time as well.
I'm not surprised that doctor became an entrepreneur. All I could think about while watching him speak was, "Wow, imagine self-reporting yourself for exploiting people worse off than yourself"
It’s sad because that indicates low satisfaction with what he does have because he keeps wanting more to fill whatever void he has…. But that doesn’t make it right for him to take advantage of anyone because he has a void to fill. Its the entire system that needs changed..
I remember working as a new professor and the doctor telling me I needed to exercise regularly. He was like, "just go to the gym before or after work." And I was like "I already stay home just long enough to see my daughter wake up before I leave, then I get home with an hour to spare before she goes to sleep. Then I grade after she sleeps. When do I exercise." The real source of unhealthiness wasn't my weight.
The issue of managing one's time through outsourcing reminds me of (one of) my gripes with women's magazines: the target audience seems to be upper-middle class people with a certain amount of resources and social capital. It also reminds me of the positive thinking craze. When you research the authors of those books you find that they had certain benefits starting out that allowed them to do what they did. I found when reading these books and magazines that they made me feel bad about myself until I realised that I wasn't the target audience. It's basically a con that allows some people to make money out of other people. (What actually made me realise I wasn't the target audience happened when I was reading a magazine article about saving money because I needed to save money. I noticed that all of the tips of where to cut back were for luxuries I couldn't afford.)
You just described my twenties. I'm glad to have survived that time and all the mistakes I made listening to bad advice that has nothing to do with my reality.
God, as an autistic/adhd person, trying to manage time when my brain *can barely conceptualize it to begin with* is HELL Thanks for the video! God, I swear managing my time is one of my biggest sources of anxiety.
It poisons the way you think even outside of the workforce, never thought I’d live to see the day I berated myself for underproducing milk and called myself pathetic at time management for my ml/minute output, I am an exploited dairy cow rn and I need to start seeing my contentment as valuable and stop attaching my worth to my timed output/production. Can’t wait to hear what points you make in this one.
Well said. As some who is disabled and neurodivergent--there is so much crap I have to jump through because so many things were either not made for me or unwilling to accommodate the system itself, resulting in me having to take out 2-3 times as much of my time as others without my issues just to set in stone accommodations I need to even attempt their level of neurotypical and able-bodied starting point. Never mind that universal design has been proven to work for all students in a school setting...including neurotypicals.
im job hunting atm and this is not encouraging me but i feel very seen. im struggling with feelings of resentment and anger at being forced to sell my time. i want to contribute to making a better society, not sell my time in order to live.
The whole system needs to be brought down and reworked. I know no young adult my age that enjoys there life right now. This is not how it’s meant to be
@@kaishel3037 then do something about it. Your own failures to navigate life and find fulfillment aren’t inextricably tied to capitalism. I can almost guarantee you don’t understand or can define the system, let alone figure out a replacement. It truly is a new level of arrogance and privilege to think brining down a system that has brought millions out of poverty and created such a surplus of resources and wealth would be something viable. Maybe you don’t enjoy life because of your own failures to find a meaningful contribution to society that someone else would be willing to exchange resources for. Maybe your life is miserable because you lack the discipline and skills needed to make it better, which is ultimately your responsibility to develop. I am 21 and enjoy my life and so do millions of other people my/our age. Maybe ask yourself why you are so miserable and why everyone you know is so miserable. It’s honestly sad and frightening to hear how you live.
This idea that you are somehow coerced to sell your time is laughable. Whether we are in this system or any other, you would be required to contribute value to society. You would be forced to do something in order to justify the resources to keep you alive. Even if you were alone, with no system, you would need to exchange time for resources. If people aren’t willing to exchange capital for your value, then you most likely haven’t contributed much to society. Stop being a helpless and control how you spend your time by contributing something to society in exchange for capital from which you can do whatever you want. Otherwise, how else do you justify the resources others have exchanged their time for to keep you alive.
There is no work life balance. I work from home and 5 hours is not enough time. People who work in the office get less time than me. We have to take into account going to the gym, taking care of bills, taking care of other responsibilities, taking out the trash, cooking, cleaning, etc. After doing all of that, you don’t have enough time to relax doing what you want like reading a book or watching your favorite show. You may get an HOUR maybe TWO at best to do what you enjoy. For me, I schedule everything I have to do each day and I schedule my free time as well. I always wanted a part time job that pays for ALL of my bills so that I can have more time to myself. I want to go swimming, relax on my patio more, read more books, spend more time with family, spend more time with my boyfriend, and travel more. I also noticed that he said that he hired someone to clean his house. The rest of us can’t afford to do that and have to spend TIME cleaning our own homes after work and during the weekend. He has more TIME than the average person
I really do hate the “you have control over your own time” shit. Like, no, we fundamentally do not. In order to live in a capitalist society (which I kinda have to-the other choice is just death), I have to make money. I don’t *want* to make money. I *have* to. So it’s not that I don’t “prioritize” making music or hanging out with friends or whatever. It’s that I’m prioritizing making money, which allows me to stay alive and comfortable in our current world. I would love nothing more than to forget about money and just literally do whatever I want with my time. But I *can’t* do that. Saying I have control of my time is like saying a bank teller being robbed at gunpoint has control over what they do with the money. Sure, they could refuse to give it up to the bank robber. But there’s the threat of death if they don’t. And the bank teaches them before they start the job that they’re supposed to give the money up. Similarly, money is necessary to survive. We are taught from a young age that it’s something we need to think about. And if we stop making money, comforts and necessities start to get taken away. Say goodbye to your car, your house, your land, your food, and your rights. And then, guess what? You fucking die. You starve, or you get severely ill and have no way to pay for a doctor, or you’re left exposed to the elements without shelter. If we treat time as a commodity, then I do not own my time. It belongs to my employer, or my school, or whatever thing I’m doing that I wish I didn’t have to do. Rarely do I actually get to do what I want to do.
As a person with a physical disability and mental health issues , this comment really hit home for me … I appreciate when people like you can take the time to eloquently state something that I can’t seem to collect into words for other people.
@@baby.nay. It’s taken years of thinking about it to actually be able to put it into words. But when it comes down to it, it’s really just as simple as: I didn’t ask to be here, so I deserve to use my time how I want. The world we live in doesn’t allow me to do that, and that problem is made even worse by the fact that I’m mentally ill. That needs to change, and I’m angry about it.
@@jacklandismusic I completely agree . I’m sorry to hear your struggling … I hate that mental health is not dealt with like physical health issues … the whole system and world is fucked… I kinda would like to be a totalitarian world leader… I could push my agenda and get sick people what they need for a more fulfilling life 😅
No, you're wrong. Getting yelled at by customers 9 hrs a day gives meaning to my otherwise pointless existence. To earn $3 an hour for a full time, graveyard shift position, 40 hours a week with Pee-Mobile is a great privilege for someone in the Philippines such as myself. For context, I'm supposed to be grateful that I earn $400 a month in a place where monthly rent costs $250 - $300 for a decent studio apartment (you can find places within $100-$150 but you NOT feel like a human being living in such a place). Food costs in the PH is pretty much the same as in the US.
Relaxing or taking care of myself feels like a waste of time when that's the core of our existence. Managing time is nice but there's only so much we can do with the time you have. As a kid i used to study for a much smaller time period than my peers and still got straight A's, that's bc i was actually concentrating back then and i was aware of my style of studying. We're made to believe that the more time we spend on something the better we would be at it but you could spend a single hour studying something fully focused or hours studying the same thing without paying any attention, and the more time you spend the more you'll get tired, our brains need rest and breaks. The education systems don't really encourage students to understand their style of studying and forces us to adapt to their rigid rules. But that's a conversation for another day
@lilyrose and your reply made me realize that we already are living in a dystopia. now i don't have to be scared of how worse the future can be because we're already there. have a good day/night stranger
I suffered the most asinine schedule imaginable during the Pandemic, 12 hours a day, 1 hour commute to and from home, 6 days a week. Since I barely had time left outside of work I'd exchange my sleep schedule with it and ultimately suffered insomnia and psychosis because of it, I was malnourished too because I never felt I had the time to cook. Winter would roll around and my S.A.D. would amplify my insomnia and psychosis to the point I'd spend entire weeks awake, I did this all while trying to keep a calm collected attitude until I broke after being promised I'd have my birthday off only to be called in anyway. I'd nearly decided to kill myself from the constant stress by freezing myself outside in a druken haze, my folks pulled me out every time but still blamed me instead of assisting my mental state. After so many of these events I'd missed work for I eventually got fired when spring was finally rolling around and felt I was at my lowest, none of my friends wanted to talk to me, my folks were already pissed off at me, and the online relationship I had broke apart because she couldn't handle my stress anymore, it truly felt like rock bottom so I figured might as well try offing myself one last time, alone in the woods without anyone knowing where I was. Since I thought it was defiantly the last time I figured I might as well try shrooms and pot at least once having no understanding of their potential effects; I was still around the next day with a new outlook on everything, and spent a few months just chilling in the woods on drugs, and now I'm going back to school for a degree in something I genuinely enjoy, using my time for me instead of for work. All it takes is the decision to cut yourself from those shitty systems holding you back, don't give them your fucking time.
Boundaries and the word no is your friend...this is how you make time for yourself. Glad you stuck around dear, at the end all you get is a story, make yours a good one.
Used to work on the wards as a clinician. Being told that my “time management skills” were subpar because of the most random things happening throughout the shift was something I never really understood. Even working in Australia for a government-run organisation I've always felt like just a wage slave having every ounce of my productivity being squeezed out of me while getting no rewards besides the intrinsic want I had to help people. I moved into a role without the chaos of direct clinical work and suddenly I’m great at “time management”. Everything is a lie
“You can get a consultation and admin done in 7 mins” “You must ask the patient about their ideas, concerns, and expectations” “You shouldn’t drink water in front of patients. It’s not professional.” “You shouldn’t let your UTI/shingles/c-word progress to the point where you’ve collapsed on site.” Tldr I hope you’re getting a better feeling from your current work. It really sucks that this drives away good people.
Love this video. The little pithy idea that's stuck with me for years on this subject is that the bourgeois have convinced the rest of us to become little corporations unto ourselves in order to survive and thrive. By "managing" our time, we self-commoditize the grounds of our own existence. One of my favorite books about this is called Leisure, The Basis Of Culture. I'd recommend it to anyone interested in thinking about this beyond just class dynamics (which are also important).
My relationship with time management has been so wild. When I was younger, I loved the idea of scheduling time and getting things done (not even in just getting work done but also setting time for fun stuff). As I got older and had more schoolwork and responsibilities, time management actually made me anxious. I was afraid to manage my time because if I attempted to and I still couldn't meet the crazy expectations set for me then I would truly be a failure. And now, I can't say I'm not anxious still about planning things out, but I'm more mindful of when I need to and when I don't need to, as well as when I'm taking on so much that I'm unable to attempt to plan for fun things. Time is not something you can perfectly manage, it's just a tool people use to measure life, and I think that should be taught more. You can't always make time and that should be expected and okay.
My problem with time management is that it gives you the message that only time that you use efficiently has value, and that doing nothing is a waste of time. But for your (mental) health it is very important to sometimes be lazy and do nothing. Being efficient is also not great for creativity
I can't believe that water heater example. That actually happened to a colleague of mine, he had a plumbing emergency in his house and took time to fix it obviously. But he didn't "find seven hours" he missed work and got behind on tasks as a result of it
Yeah, honestly the idea that you own your time just completely ignores the fact that at any moment you could have a life-changing (or at least schedule altering) emergency, like a water heater breaking, and it's impossible to anticipate every single possible issue that might come up.
Thing I would like to add ... Time itself is rather a factor that just exists, independently of out actions and the physical world we exist in. When talking about the "time", it serves as a measurement, but the phenomena of time naturally cannot be controlled. Instead, I prefer to use the term "energy", which is actually something that is elastic and one has some control over it. BUT, just like with the time, energy cannot be commodified either, as it relies on vast majority of both internal and external factors (helath condition, sleep quality, friendly environment, etc.) and comes in different levels and kinds that have different ways and potentials for utilization (such as physical energy, focus, mental capacity, even emotional state if you will). Time (as it flows independently, disregarding the physical world) can be divided into equal immutable chunks. Energy cannot. Doing an activity can change how you perceive and can do the following activity. If you feel exhausted, you effectiveness during the second activity is impacted. And now we're getting to the context of the capitalist society, in which energy is almost never considered at all. Every task, every contract, everything within the job market (and outside) is based on time and what one can do within that time, but never (or rarely at best) on energy. And that's not only highly production-ineffective (unless you measure effectiveness with man-hours, instead of production output), as the worker achieves poor results and their output quality declines with time (more time = more exhaustion), not to mention being more prone to errors and accidents. I dare to say it's even inhumane. By not considering people as individuals with different needs and capabilities, we neglect their well-being and deny existence of some serious problems (being exhaused is seen as nothing more than a pathetic excuse). I am physically pretty weak, but as it's nothing I would have in my medical record, in the capitalist world it doesn't exist, and no one gives it any significance. The pandemic showed us what exhaused doctors and nurses look like, yet the exhaustion is nothing exceptional and is way more common than that, we just don't see it, we perceive it as normal because it's so common it is embedded into our regular ordinary lives. If one notices some irregularities, they label it as "just a bad day that happens from time to time". Time management is more than just propaganda, it's an insult and a denial of human nature. If someone spreads the word about managing your time, keeping your work-life balance, and following the 8-8-8 day, they completely ignore the fact that people have energy, and once they spend it during the first 8 hours (as businesses demand), they can barely do anything the next 8 hours. That's why people don't engage in social affairs (from socializing to participating in governing). That's why people don't educate themselves further. That's why people just spend the rest of their day half-awake, sipping beer, and watching sport matches and terrible soap operas. And that's why people can do nothing more than watching self-help videos that give them nothing but a slight dopamine shot in form of "it can be better" message.
I used to manage my free time really strictly result: it drained my passion for what I was making and also my creativity. Your videos are necessary! Thank u! workers of the world, unite!
It's important to understand rest and play is actually important for "productivity" and to accept that some days, just won't be "work productive" but will be "rest productive" and punishing ourselves more for not being productive is just detrimental to our mental health and ironically, our work productivity. (I say this but sometimes it's hard to apply to yourself).
As someone who is dealing with a lot of stress and pressure, but also a very busy schedule, I know I need a good routine for time management, just to make sure I don't forget anything. But at times I do wish I was able to have some more free time between tasks, because it can be draining in the longer run. I think planning well so you are sure urgent tasks get done, like going to work or paying a bill, is a goo reason to consider time management, but the second it becomes your entire life, I think you will feel more anxious than in control.
I absolutely cannot believe this dude straight faced says "just hire poor people from impoverished situations so you can pay them barely anything and be just slightly north of slave labor" omg
Honestly, take the time management tips with a grain of salt and use what is most useful to you and don't use what isn't. That being said, don't give up on doing things that you like because of the realization that the system is stacked against you. Just because there is a lower chance that you will succeed than what you were told doesn't mean there is no chance.
Oh, that TED talk...A teacher of mine once told that story to us, and I remember thinking about it only to conclude it was a pretty shitty story. I'd like to talk to that woman, and ask her about that week, how stressed she was, how overwhelmed she got, or what things she didn't do those days to make time. And most importantly, if she would be willing to go through that same stress every single week of her life. Yeah she could make time by shifting her priorities, but what were those priorities? Sleep? Eating well? Time with family? A good long relaxing shower? We can all make time if we want, but should we? This story is just very infuriating to me, and I just wished I had confronted my teacher about it. Knowing now he just stole the story from a TED talk I wonder if he would be able to defend his point lol.
That's so funny that your teacher stole the story. If he was going to plagiarize, he should have at least make the situation in the story a non-emergency to make the point better.
Ive been trying to "manage my time effectively" since middle school. Im well out of school now and still struggle to get the basics done and my self esteem is trashed because all i can think is "if only i could find 7 hours to take care of myself". But now i have 5 hrs of free time after work to do cooking, cleaning, shower + other hygiene things, take care of my cats, spend time with my partner, and also maintain my hobbies that take 3 hrs of me focusing on them to actually enjoy them... I just dont have time and as i get older i get less time as i have other household maintenance to do like making sure bills are paid or my car registration is renewed... It makes me want to just unalive myself thinking about it all. And i only have 5 hrs to do it unless its the weekend. Then on the weekend i have to do all the daytime errands i couldnt do after work like grocery shopping, oil change in the car, etc. Its just impossible. As you get older you get more and more on your plate. Things demand more ofnyour monthly income so you cant even take a days break let alone take a week vacation. Just.... Holy shit.... What an unliveable existence this is. Whats the point in all of us working together if we all are forced to drown alone in all this bullshit All of this and i didnt mention how often i literally break down into tears while im stuck at work because all i can think of is all the places i wont have TIME to go to. Even if i was able to afford it. I CANT GOOOOO. IM TRAPPED
I thought this was only me feeling this way and feeling like I’m getting unhappier and having a harder time with time as a adult but idk capitalism is just meant to suck the life out of adults. And this is life. It’s not like you can escape it. It makes me just want to unalive myself. I can just hope we can keep pushing to change things somehow
same here. i don't work, but still go to school where I'm literally almost every day from 8 to 3. now, i commute a lot of time every day and by the time i come home, i just have four to five hours to do everything i'd want on a workday. it's crazy. good luck out there xx
We got a new senior manager who insisted we all participate in a time management course. It consisted of several videos and exercises and would have taken up about two hours. After the first few minutes I realised it was very low-level do-your-job propaganda. When the video facilitator said "now just take a couple of minutes to think how you might do these tasks more efficiently" I paused my video and went to the managers office. I explained thus "We have spent 12 years streamlining and automating tasks and we are constantly short-staffed because we are no longer an employer of choice. You cannot squeeze any more productivity out until you can find an AI that can place information in the correct data points without adding comments about Hitler. As far as time management goes, now I am twenty minutes behind and will have to work back to make it up."
I used to be criticized all the time at my school because i was late to some of my classes. I never really cared about time management (and still don't to an extent but its getting to be more of an issue) and im honestly grateful for it because ive had more time to just, not care about the world at large, and thats something i need in order to function. I have autism, and if i become over stimulated or stressed, i will break down and need at least 10 minutes (sometimes more) for me to calm down and be ready to do things again. I work a job now at Starbucks and theyve really been good to me there, but if i have a breakdown, i always try to suck it up and push through because i don't want to let my coworkers down (even if we have enough people to not be swamped.) It doesn't feel good, and im trying to learn how to speak up in those instances so i can get the time i need to cool off. Plus if im having a shitty day, or just don't feel good at all (and that can really effect me), i will still go into work ""they need me there to work"" when theyve never said that before and when i have called off, ive been met with only best wishes and hopes that i get better soon. It probably isn't helped that my mom will always berate me for calling off of work for not feeling good emotionally, i think i need to confront her about that but yknow. Anyway this was a pretty bussin video and i can't wait to see what else you have in store in the future :)
Your comment gave me flashbacks to why I have shoulder problems to this day. When I was in high school in Massachusetts, the law kept trying to minimize the amount of time kids could spend walking between classes for some reason, and the schools couldn’t be allowed to decide these things for themselves apparently. I went to a high school in a massive, sprawling building. Since they squished the time from bell to bell down to three minutes, I never had time to go to my own locker. As I result I carried all my books and gym clothes everywhere and got terrible shoulder problems. the obsession with time efficiency probably has so many consequences we can’t even begin to think of them all
Yes time management, when I was a kid I was sure Satan invented that. My parents were immigrants and timelynes is an issue for Latins. I sometimes would show up 5 minutes late to school so they make me stay after school as punishment. What they didn't realize was I had to run home because I had to look after my baby sister for my mom who would then be late for her shift at the bakery.
I worked as a construction laborer for about 7 months, during period I noticed less time I had. Not being able to do things I had to do that were important to my personal life or even things I enjoy doing outside of work. And because of this, I noticed myself getting more depressed. My body was just taking toll from all that time. The pay wasn’t really worth it and depressed me even more. I quit, I wouldn’t say I’m in a better position but.. my mind has never felt clearer. My body after a couple of weeks of leaving took some time to heal but, now I’m physically better. The work environment today really isn’t something I would hold to a pedestal.
Great video, that chap casually saying 'pay people in the Philippines' is so dystopian. Yeah just get someone to do it who you can pay slave wages to, that's the solution.. Unreal. We get one life, one provable stretch of time each and anyone selling efficiency and time management are encroaching upon that time. There's become this idea that down time and relaxing for long periods is somehow sinful from the capitalists perspective, that somehow if it does nothing but feed the soul it is useless. It's a horrifying vision of life, that really we're just workers and anything outside of that is useless because the value isn't provable monetarily. I was taught as a young lad that stuff and material possessions, jobs and work were all just stuff. Fluff and bilge that doesn't matter, what matters is empathy and real human connection, laughter and dancing and music. Bless my mum for imparting that stuff but once I entered the world all of my values and desire are seen as childish or naive. Now the times I spend just being and trying live are being encroached upon by this capitalist conditioning, I feel guilt for just doing what I want, like I'm a failure because perhaps one day I just want to sit and play the playstation all day or something. I hate it, I didn't ask for that guilt, I didn't ask to be born into a capitalist state and have this very real sense that something is wrong with the way we're 'supposed' to live, but I'm here and I have to deal with it. Some of us don't want a career, some of us are just looking for work we can tolerate and be paid fairly for so that outside of work we get to do the things we actually want to do. Maybe it is childish and naive, but as a teacher some of the smartest stuff I hear week in and week out comes from young people, people not twisted and ground up by these systems and super structures. Frankly as they get older and I see the same stuff that's hurt me my whole life hurt them, my heart breaks.
Also, referring to the water heater situation: Yes the woman managed to find the time, but it probably was detrimental to her living quality and mental health
I've been feeling like this that I'm guilty bc everyone my age or younger has work and I don't. and I always think about "I should do this, do that" or "I should learn a new hobby that I could monetize later on"
this is my take on purpose, biologically if you ate food, are warm and aint gotta do shit now then thats its you did it you achieved your purpose. i mean dogs seem happy as hell and all they do is run eat and nap
Do yourself the favor of not monetizing your hobbies, because that will just turn them into work. At least until capitalism collapses, all you're going to do is ruin any joy you might have found detaching from the oppressive wage system. If you must monetize a hobby, have another hobby that you don't monetize, because you will need the break.
When I first read this title, it felt very bold and daunting. Watching the video, I understood what you meant and tried to achieve. It's comforting thinking about how we are not measured by how we use our time.
On time management: I wrote a 20 page narrative poem during the summer of 2021, from May until August of that year. It was a poem written in common meter that I wrote between days at work and days where I just didn't have the creative energy to do it. I wrote it part by part, splitting it into a trilogy filled with different specific parts. I sincerely doubt I could've written it with any sincere and straightforward time management skills in mind. I had to write it in spurts during the summer in order to finish it. It's creative endeavors like this that can't be solved by Capitalistic perceptions of time management. I can't believe that generations of labor unions and strikes are about to be undone by this gnawing hunger for crystalline time management. That we could be looking at future generations working 10, 15 hour shifts again when we used to fight against that very idea AND even said that that wasn't going to be enough. I don't wanna live in world where my time is robotic. I want my time and energy to flow where it needs to be, not be situated in it's own dark cell of repetition.
Why did that Ted speaker give an example of an emergency as a "Time Opener". Like that just speaks volumes as to how much thought was really given. I have to work, cook, clean, take care of kids. Oh look, the car has exploded. I now has all this "Free Time" to do a triatholon.... lmfao.
THANK YOU i needed some validation, as a child i was so tired of hearing "you have so many time, you can study a lot more" when i was in threating condition, i was fighting for survive and i slept 4 hours a day. Maybe someone with better health and family situation, and financial situation could do more but i was spearing every single second.
Having struggles with anxiety has made me very hyper aware of my time and how I plan it. Always want to control every minute to my liking. I’ve binged this sort of content to give myself a push, do more with my time. Trying to find some type of technique or trick, to boost my motivation and accomplish more in less time. My type of cherishing time would be to spend it doing something, but this way of thinking has let me spiral into an even more anxious mess and feeling guilty when resting, because I feel that life is short and I should be doing something.
really been feeling this lately, because I quit my job and I have found myself feeling the need to be absolutely mega productive in the time that I’m not using to find another job 🙃 there is really no escape lol. excited to see what this vid holds!!
Fellow ADHD? Refuting hustle grindset propaganda? Insta-sub. Also many thanks for directly referencing Marx. A lot of people hate capitalism but aren't equipped with Marxist theory to deconstruct capitalism because of Red Scare.
Thanks for making this vid, more people need to see this. I struggle a lot with time management but at the most basic level- getting up, making food, just constantly getting distracted, etc. So I do need help in that aspect but this hyper-productivity culture makes it really stressful and impossible feeling to accomplish “what everyone else can” when I struggle with basic functions. My friend who’s the opposite also struggles with this culture and got burnt out and needed to take a year away from his Ivy League school. I don’t know the solution but these tips are not it
I’m wary of neurotypical advice because we’ll it’s from a neurotypical perspective and when we expect of ourselves that which comes easier to others not taking into account our brain is wired totally different this can be quite devastating for the self esteem and so stuff that is great advice for most could actually be the worst for someone with adhd. I could go on & on & on abt this topic since I’m always trying to figure out how to function in the most basic of ways despite the fact I reached full neurodivergent burn out and retired at 27 lol.
thank you for this video. i'm a working class student with mental health issues and while i try not to be too hard on myself, i feel sad thinking about the fact that i still can't play my guitar well, that i don't exercise, or work more hours, or keep my house spotless all the time. but then i remember that the way i spend my free time makes me happy, for example watching a silly film while cuddling with my partner, while playing games, and learning new niche things. i'm just doing the minimum i need to do to get by right now to protect my mental health, and i know things will work out just fine.
highly recommend the book 'rest is resistance'! it is a powerful anti-grindset message. id highly rec the audiobook version too as the author did a great job reading it.
That one about the flooded basement and the "elastic time", yes she found 7 hours, but what did she sacrifice. Did she miss her lunch break? Wash she late for work or did she take time off? Did she drive or catch a taxi instead of walking or using public transport to make up time despite the added cost. Was she then unable to do things she normally did in that time, like catch up on emails or read? Did she get full nights of sleep that week? She found the time. But where did she find it. What was sacrificed - and was that something that didn't really cost her? Or something that is healthy to sacrifice in the long run?
Just because you *could* push yourself to prioritise work over idk rest, enjoying your free time, etc and even figure out a way to make it feel "not that bad" on a psychological level - still doesn't mean you *should*. I did it for most of 2022! Figured out a system to manage twice as many classes in Uni as I ever had before! Figured out how to stay busy, stay out of the house, get a few hours of studying done every day, attend all my classes, manage my caffeine and food in order to keep me going and even managed to Not get depressed and horribly anxious, like I had been a few years before when I tried to be this "productive". Lost 15kg, got average to pretty good grades, didn't fail a single class, slept 4-6h a night, cut out all the dedicated nature walks and fun kinds of exercise like skating and bouldering I picked up during zoom uni, now that I could go back in person. (Because who needs dedicated "outside" time to move and look at things further than 10 feet from me when I go outside every day to get to campus?? Running for the train while carrying a heavy af backpack, hurrying to try and squeeze some food in between classes, etc surely has the same value as those time wasting walks to the lake, learning to skate, watching the sunset while sitting on a swing!) And now... I'm getting tested for autoimmune disorders because my body is Not Okay. And I feel kind of stupid because I never ever considered the compound effect of living with chronic stress on Physical health. I have always struggled with stress psychologically, but I finally got a handle on that! ...turns out that's not the only limiting factor or way your body/brain is telling you to slow down. So yeah, I have a special hate for that TEDtalk with the "finding 7 extra hours to do more", cause I did, and I got rewarded with (drumroll) chronic health issues!! What a success story! Truly maximised my potential there 🥳
The best thing I've done for myself is work as little as possible. Most of 2022 I worked full time because my partner had brain surgery and we needed the money. But these days, and most of the 2021 I worked 4 days a week because that's simply enough to live off. It's very freeing. Now I'm working on TH-cam videos because that's been a dream of mine for literally about a decade.
Just wondering but whats the appeal of youtube? Like i watch my fair share of videos but i really cant see myself being on the other side of the screen. So like, what do you like about it?
@@WhatIsMyPorpoise my videos are critique and commentary on games. When I was a kid I definitely just wanted to do let's play and stuff like that. But these days I just like that the internet lets everyone have a voice. So I'm making essays about games. There's only 2 on my channel, and they're both about 50 minutes long. The next one I'm working on will be 3-4 hours long though. I just like that I have a place to talk all about a game, especially when people in my life don't wanna listen to me talk about Far Cry 3 for 3-4 hours. I just love art critique, so I'm going to participate in it. TH-cam allows people to potentially make a career from that. So that's cool. But I don't think I'll ever be able to do that. I'm just doing it for fun. I also loooove editing videos. So having hours of footage to edit for each project is cool.
I was in my self help self improvement side hustle era during 2020 when my job switched from in office to online. I expected to be better and able to relax more now that I was able to "schedule my time and get everything done". What happened instead was being super stressed out because I was worried about "wasting free time" and micro managing every part of my day. In addition to that, now that I was at home my parents could see what parts of my day I was working and what parts of my day were free. They were hyper productive individualistic types so there was that added pressure to use all my free time to "do something useful and forget that nonsense you're doing" (the nonsense being simply resting and watching videos and shows). Free time has been demonized so much. There is a lot of unlearning to do from toxic productivity. Sorry for the long message but I appreciate people like you who question beliefs that seems to be commonly shared by everyone. Thank you for your work!
I've tried time management, but I absolutely cannot stand it. It's why I'm aiming to be self-employed. Online classes in university where I can't like...do EVERYTHING at the start when I'm motivated/interested was difficult for me (I got through them just fine) but managing my own time? Not great, honestly. Especially after the pandemic. Last semester in my intercultural communication class, however, I learned about different time orientations in different cultures. While I was raised in a Western culture, I got a Montessori education and had freedom to get things done based more on interest, not optimization. Because of this, I think with schooling from preschool through 8th grade, I was raised with a more polychronemic time orientation (based more on seasons and crop harvesting) rather than linear/monochronemic (which is one we're familiar with if you're from the US, as it is VERY present in US workplaces). There are many cultures who have polychronemic orientations at the forefront rather than monochronemic orientations, so that's what came to mind, just starting this video. Great stuff as always!!
@@th3azscorpio Ugh, you're right. I'm self employed and a student, too, and it's really tough... I can manage everything but what I want to do for self-employment!!! 🙃
@@molliejustin1432 If self employment is what you want, you need to master self discipline. And in the beginning starting out, most of your time will not be yours. Yes its liberating to call your own shots but your aslo responsible for more as well. You actually work harder self employed than as an employee. Not trying to scare you. But its definitely worth it in the end. Wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.
I remember a similar concept during training to become a real estate agent back about 18 years ago: “we get what we want whether we think we want it or not”. Basically, if we desire some better result and we don’t reach that goal, then we didn’t want it badly enough to change what we’d have to change about ourselves and our situations to get it -therefore we didn’t actually want those things. I just wanted to be free of worry about money, but they pushed us all to envision what having wealth would be like. I printed off a picture of a green and black Camaro because that’s the car my crush liked. Manufacturing desire :/. 20 years on, I can see that this is mostly just some prosperity gospel/law of attraction/bootstraps balonium! People have unequal connections, talents, and and physical features. Whatever happened to just recognizing some people as blessed/gifted/fortunate? You can even be blessed with parents who push you to study and achieve…. if you want all that comes with that.
Time management has been a part of humanity since agriculture was invented. I understand that time management exclusively for profit is bad but not having any time management skills is worse. Time management is necessary because we all have a finite time here on earth and need to spend that time wisely. I think videos like this make it hard for non-leftists to really understand what we talk about when we deny things that are co-opted by capitalists but aren’t inherently bad. You can manage you time to allow more family time, more exercise, more therapy sessions etc. It doesn’t always have to be about starting a business and treating it like that makes us leftists seem really naive
Capitalism commodifying time itself is basically synonymous with the end of history. "Capitalist Realism" talks about this thoroughly and in incredible depth
my adhd makes execution difficult, time management is artificially induced to be yet another hoop to jump through, and feels impossible to meet the standards of. they’re unnatural. say that to any boomer and i guarantee someone will call you “lazy”… no i’m just almost 30, got a house, kid, trying to attend therapy and work without crawling in a hole first. the pressure to perform and perfect, to plan, to decide….i’m tired. the lady is wild for saying we gotta prioritize correctly…lol can they even afford it? emergencies are not goals. tf 15:30
Is it just me, or does the outsourcing of one's time seem like an MLM? If you're the one, whose value is appreciated to be less than that of someone else, you're already at the bottom of the pyramid. If so, the odds are already against you and as usual, those at the top are actually not willing to share with you. The game is rigged from the very beginning and without privilege and luck, you will not be able to "manage" your time nor create more value for yourself. Exploitation of others is the vehicle, and inequality the motor. Thank you Elliot for another thoughtful and thought provoking video, I'm so happy to have stumbled upon your channel.
Stuff like that Ted talk example always makes me think- who hurt you? Everything is supposed to be stressed like it's life or death? Emergencies suck, they're not usually empowering. You work all day, take care of yourself and your home, try to take care of your relationships, etc, and usually some things get left behind and you just hope those situations aren't burning to the ground by the time you've handled the emergency. The idea that you should work until you drop, sleep 6 hours and do it again is a psychological illness.
What I find interesting as well is that there’s a constant talk from people like Ali Abdaal about “freeing up more time” such as delegating work to others and completing your to do list faster and faster. But what do those same people then choose to do with all this free time? They add more things to do. They try and become even more productive. The more time they “free up”, the more things they add on and they’re not actually freeing up any time at all. They’re stuck in the same system that they’re promoting.
8:05 (For context: I'm from the Philippines) I saw my mother was watching a YT video about Investment tips, and the guy in the video (who was American) gloated about how he outsourced his labor to the Philippines because "the minimum wage there is really cheap". Watching that gave my mother and me the "ick", especially because Brain Drain (the phenomena where highly competent people migrate to other countries) has been happening to the Philippines since at least the 1960's.
For historical context: The U.S. was experiencing a shortage on nurses, so they decided to advertise to developing countries (former U.S. Colony Philippines included) to take up Nursing as a job opportunity in America. This sent a wave of Philippine workers to the U.S., and is also why a Nurse working overseas is a stereotype within the Filipino Community to this day.
*TL; DR:* In my experience, American-based videos on self-help or finances can sometimes feel really condescending from the perspective of someone from a developing country. So, something like "Outsource labor if you can" can come across as "Look at how little we have to pay you to do something for my benefit". (Sorry for the rant/tangent)
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can vouch as a fellow filipino, lol. that shit fucking sucks and that advice is so trash lol
bro is really out here like “yeah exploitation of the global south is a great time management strategy :)”
Yes that's gross. I briefly worked as a personal assistant for a wealthy woman who hired bookkeepers from the Phillipines for $10/hr and she was so demanding and harsh on them, making them show up to meetings on zoom when it was like 2am in their country. I remember one of them asking to be paid directly instead of through upwork and this woman said no, that that would be unethical to cut upwork out of the transaction especially since she's already paying her $10/hr! Needless to say I didn't last long there, couldn't stomach a boss who was more concerned with being ethical towards a corporation than a human being who was helping her manage her estate. Gross.
You've every right to rant/tangent there Bleep Bloop.
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Time management angers me. Seeing my dad depressed over the fact that he cannot go on a hike, or read peacfully or watch a nice movie because he has to work 12 hours if not more to keep us afloat is painful. He loves photography, but he doesnt gave any time. Not because its not important, but because this system forces him to work under discriminatory managers in a unfulfilling dreary and physically damaging job to feed his family. It angers me that someone thinks thats 'hes just not making time' for what matters to him. Ick ick ick
Yeah. They leave out the part where you are tired as fuck or not in the mental space. It's always all about you being not good enough and not doing enough
that's pure worker exploitation. I'm so sorry to hear that
Yeah. And, while I am unable to work a lot of people think I always own my time. I just wanna shout this:
"Tell that to my body that won't let me move without disabling agonizing pain, which takes longer, unless I sit and do nothing for at least 30 min to 2 hrs EVERY morning. Tell that to the doctor appointments I have to go to for chronic illness so I can function and walk for the other half of the year. Tell that to everything that takes longer when you are disabled. Tell that to the college that keeps changing schedules without warning. Tell that to the phone calls and paperwork I have to do just to be given a chance to even have a level playing field that neurotypical able-bodied people start out with, in the first place.
Tell that to any number of things outside of a disabled student's control."
There are so many things that take so much longer because disabled people often have to individually adapt things and McGiver the hell out of them because society won't just accommodate us like it could and should. The things that take more time because we have medical problems, or because society would rather see us dead than see our humanity.
I really hope the system changes for both the people forced to work, and those barred from it--all because of time.
I feel that as someone who was working 60+ hours and too tired to work on my art
Time management.
Honestly, the way my therapist put it, "you're busy resting" made me feel a lot better about taking time off from stuff. It's not an optional "waste of time", it's a necessary cooldown from stress and work.
those three words just gave me so much relief
Your therapist sounds lovely! lol
The fact that many of us need a therapist to tell us this is downright dystopian.
My therapist gave me an advice for positive self-talk to apply not only when i've done somethign quote-on-quote productive, but also when I've given myself opportunity to relax. It's something one should congratulate themselves for, something one should feel good about.
My therapist has told me this too and it was helpful. However, now I can't help but think that reframing resting as another task to do so that you can work effectively is still not where we need to be.
Time management is the perfect example of "cope, don't change" mentality. Are you having panic attacks from your job? Don't you ever dream of changing it. Just end the panic attack to cope with the god-awful job you have now. Does your relationship make you depressed because it's abusive? Don't change it, just cope with it by going on a walk with your partner! Sick of not having enough time for your hobbies? Just do more multitasking and get up earlier and sleep later, and you can do it-just don't you ever dare quit that job of yours because someone else is benefitting from your service!
A lot of "mental help" content exploits the vulnerable by keeping them in situations that benefit other people, and I'm sick of it.
This is basically what I've been told at work when I said I was close to burning out due ro 12+ hour workday. I was hoping for some help, at least just words of encouragement. But our head of department just said something like "you are resting the wrong way. You need to learn how to re-charge yourself efficiently during your spare time".
I said nothing but in my mind I was like "oh great now on top of everything else I am bad at spending my free time apparently". Then I remembered that I rarely had any free time at all
my own dad told me the same thing
he brought up how he managed to take vacations and such with us as kids, but i rarely interacted with him aside from those times, and his job crippled him so was it really worth it in the end?
yes
I think its saying the opposite. He says you are in control of time. Meaning you have control over what job you take up… so if you have panic attacks look for why and change life style accordingly. Same with time. If your job isn’t fulfilling you and you don’t have the time to live… then change that. Quit the job and find a better one or invest in yourself, work harder, struggle for that dream and launch your own business. I mean we live in a time where a lot of information is available if you ask the right questions.
"You always have control of your time" some people don't. Work, mental health problems that can knock you out without warning, ilness, relationship problems. There are so many things out of our control
Like... your power to control your own time it's dictated by a lot of things. Like your economy, your country, your family or even by your health (if you are sick, probably you don't have energy to do certain things, thus you can't choose what to do with your time).
Posmodernism really messed up since it couldn't erradicate the figure of "self". The fairy tale of "self-made people" it's a real problem. Zygmunt Bauman puts in perspective the point that Elliot tries to say. Capitalism alters life, to the point that people start to act like products. Time management really responds to this economic logic since it doesn't need cohersion to convince people to exploit themselves... or others.
“For what makes capitalism so powerful is its resilience and adaptability. The game is never lost, only awaiting the next spin
Of the wheel. As a mode of production, capitalism is a perfect chameleon”
-Tim wo
Yes.
So many
Yeah lol sometimes I get the feeling they make having free time seem like a bad thing 💀. Like can't I have an unclaimed slot of my day without guilt?
Yes! Exactly! Same with having a hobby that you are good at. Everyone automatically wants you to sell it on Etsy or sell for profit. Can’t I just have a hobby that I enjoy and that I don’t have to sell to people?
@@AndromedaCeline THIS!!! I'm an author and, although I'd like to make money from my books one day, I just write them for fun now. Every time I tell my mum I'm working on a book, she asks why we're not receiving any money from it and it makes me feel so bad. Like I'm just trying to enjoy, I don't need to be making millions rn😭
They definitely do that! We should absolutely have free time, otherwise, what is the point of money and jobs? But they make seems like is a bad thing weak minded and lazy people want.
This is so real, that Marx long already point out the fundamental right to idle time (I'm portuguese speaker so don't know if the concept of "ócio", the portugues word I know, translate fully into the word idleness). But "ócio" basically means free time to do whatever and normally cames whit a negative tone that is a poor use of time/lazy behavior, so is that what I mean by idleness.
Edit: not the video starting to talk about Marx and those ideias on the exact moment I started to pay attention again and got out of the comments lol your comment got my attention and I decided to answer first and then go back to video lol But I'm gonna leave this comment here anyways, maybe still valid.
@@AndromedaCeline oh my god yes, whenever someone finds out i like to draw they tell me to sell stuff online or do comissions or whatever. nah dude i just wanna do stuff i enjoy!
"Hey this Dinner was delicious! why dont you quit your job and become a professional chef?"
"damn you got some moves, why dont you become a professional background dancer for music videos?"
That water heater story is infuriating to me because the truth is, if that woman's job is anything like a typical office job in America, she had to burn social capital on addressing it. She had to tell her boss and her co-workers, "I have to miss this meeting because I've got a situation with the water heater." Do you think she could tell her coworkers "I have to miss this meeting so I can train for a triathalon"? Every single week? Of course not, she'd be fired. Jobs are often patient with the occasional critical interruption, but if you push them too far, they *will* push back.
Was thinking the same thing. Also doesn’t take into account that this person likely had to use PTO or worse, just unpaid time off, to sit at home all day waiting for the repair person to show up who likely gave them a time frame of 9am-9pm. That was such a poor analogy she made, maybe she should carve out some time to write a better one.
Exactly
especially if your working retail, your basically on call 24-7. your don't get time off unless you've lost a limb in a car accident, and even then you'd better have proper papers documenting it
@@TheNamesJER She probably worked from home. This is such a stupid example still though. Training for a triathlon would take way more time and energy.
Let's not forget the amount of stress she probably experienced
As a German who relies on public transportation to get to uni classes, I can tell you that I do not own my time
Ach ja die Deutsche Bahn :) Bei meiner Berufsschule durfte ich dann jedes mal zum Arzt rennen und sonen Arbeitsunfähigkeits-wisch nachreichen weil es sie null interessiert hat dass meine Bahn ewig verspätet war und ich nicht einfach "eine oder zwei früher nehmen" kann. Bin dann nach wenigen Monaten in der geschlossenen Psychiatrie gelandet, super System. 😁👍 Hoffe dein Studium läuft trotz DB gut!~
And If you owned a car, you would own your time even less.
@@Emma-Maze Danke, tut es!
Das ist auch was mich am meisten stört. "Eine Bahn vorher" ist eine volle Stunde vorher, das ist einfach ein unrealistischer Vorschlag. Und das, wenn man nicht einmal auf dem Land lebt... Verspätungen sind an sich okay, und ich habe Verständnis dafür, dass der Zug halt nicht immer pünktlich sein kann. Aber das wird einfach immer grottenschlecht an den Nutzer kommuniziert, und es gibt kaum alternative Routen oder Ausgleiche für Verspätungen. Idiotentrupp.
Ich hoffe, dir geht es heute und in Zukunft besser.
@@_EatCrow meanwhile you would own less money
You don't when you own a car either! Commuting time by car will always be less reliable than public transit on a schedule (assuming it doesn't get stuck in traffic as well and you have bus lanes or rail).
As an hourly employee, it grates my grits to have discussions about time management, multi-tasking, and “work-life balance” with my salaried manager. She can simply say “I feel sick today” and take the day off while still getting paid the same and no impact to her yearly allotted benefits. But hourly workers who report to her feel the pressure to come in sick because their “benefits” tell them they don’t have enough time to be sick. Or, the workload is already heavy and she asks the team to “make time” for more, as if time is a commodity that we can just produce at a whim and not a constant (in the non-theoretical, quantum sense).
I need to rewatch this again but I’m with you.
As a salaried employee, it isn't quite as easy as you put it. While if I am sick I can take a day, but I am expected to make up time. Also if I work over 40hrs, I don't get anything for it. Yes there are bad salaried employees, but there are also some that get screwed because we don't donate enough time.
The term "work-life balance" is like saying "banana-fruit balance". We get what people mean, but it's a false binary. Work falls under the category of life.
Also, while many people want to be able to do more things outside their job, many people also associate negative feelings with their job.
Trying to keep the two separate the two or add something positively associated to the negatively associated one doesn't address the problems with the latter. The latter needs to change. People need autonomy and their voice to matter and to, at least in many cases, not be paid in relation to time.
Arent hourly employees paid more because they get no leave?
Agreed. I hate the phrase "make time", like how exactly can I make more time? And if it's to indicate that I should prioritize other things, then my prior things will suffer. The only way I've "made time" for work is by cutting back sleep, and food, but that's not good in the long term
Do you think a lack of capitalism would save you from having to work harder than your boss?
I learned in my university psychology class that turning a hobby into work can lead to disinterest in said hobby. There truly is no shame in having a lot of downtime and filling it with a hobby you enjoy. From philosophy to dancing to surfing, there are so many ways to enjoy life. It’s far too short to be playing keeping up with the Joneses and doing things simply because society tells you to. Do what you feel is right (as long as nobody gets injured). Hopefully, to whoever reads this, you’ll feel confident in living your life your way and not take BS from anyone. Even though I’m a random person on the internet, I’m rooting for you. From one of the billions of people on this earth to another, we should never be afraid to unapologetically be ourselves. Good luck.
Yep, it's amazing how psychology education is tearing capitalism to shreds right now. Best of wishes to you in the coming weeks.
Yeah, I have degree in design and I'm really guilty of producing stuff that only me can enjoy. I feel like I need to make money everyday
@@Winspur1982 I also have anecdotal evidence. Many people that I've met who turn a hobby into work end up hating it. This can be from people I've personally met, to musicians (the lyrics of some songs, check out NF if you like rap and deep lyrics), to former and current co-workers, to friends. I don't know if your comment was tongue-in-cheek or agreement, but I also wish you the best of wishes.
@@aun7106 I understand the feeling. I'm currently trying to write a novel, and the idea of doing it for money is a constant struggle. I'm considering publishing it and giving it away for free, but then there's that part of me that says "try to make money off of it". I always say I want to try and connect to someone, that if what I write impacts just one person, then it'll be a job well-done. Because I remember the magical feeling I had when I first read a captivating novel, and I want to pass that magic along to someone else. But I always question if that's what I really want, or if I really want money.
@Reed It was a sincere comment. I do like hip-hop (well, Lauryn Hill anyway ... she poured her heart and soul into her work, it's never been just a "hobby" for her).
When I first started going to school for software engineering I watched a lot of videos about how to be successful as a software engineer and one of the videos I saw was one by Tim Ferris where he talks about how to be a “digital nomad.” His advice was basically the same: as much as possible, outsource your coding jobs to free lancers in India who you can pay $5/hour for work you’re getting paid $120k+/year for and buy a home in Thailand where a 6 figure salary essentially makes you royalty. I didn’t know anything about politics or Marxism or imperialism back then, but the idea of exploiting the poor standards of living of people in third world nations for your own benefit seemed pretty unethical. Now I understand that this is the whole foundation for the wealth of the first world.
But here's the thing- you're actually providing an opportunity for that coder simply because they probably wouldn't have a job otherwise
It's not exploiting. The cheaper wages is an advantage to indians to snatch jobs and earn an income. Your dollar is worth more in India.
That's how they built the IT and Medicine industry but overtime it became huge.
Exactly this. Digital nomads are the new colonizers.
Yeah, the west is rich because they exploit the poorer nations. Some people even believe that poor people working in sweatshops is actually good for them because it is "a way out of poverty". They would not be poor if their countries were not exploited. The problem is the greatest in Africa, because of neocolonialism. The rich countries do not let the African nations to grow their economies.
@@gabbar51ngh you can just pay them...more, thats not right, even if you are giving them a job. You should treat them better and not be a greedy money hording bastard.
This leads into a thought I've been having on how capitalists don't understand hobbies. They don't seem to realize that people can do an activity just for fun. They always tend to call you lazy for not trying to monetize something you're into or they'll call you lazy for spending any "free" time doing anything remotely "unproductive".
I know people exactly like that. It’s so true! And when you reveal that you have hobbies their usual first thought is how to monetize it by a specific timescale. I’m super careful who I reveal my hobbies to.
Im a capitalist, and I recognize the importance of hobbies. People of all ages need hobbies. It keeps the mind active, is fun, and away from doing stupid, less savory things.
People don’t seem to understand what capitalism is. Nothing about that is capitalism, it’s culture. There are capitalist countries that don’t emphasize entrepreneurship to the extent the US does
@@th3azscorpio do you own the means of production?
@@joiceraiana I work for myself, so in this case, yes. If you work under an employer, you dont own means of production; which btw, lets call it what it is- communism.
“At any given moment, you are doing what you most want to be doing.” From my disabled perspective, this feels so condescending and out-of-touch. I don’t spend five hours a day resting because I *want* to, I do it because my body forces me to. Not to mention the moments my ADHD makes me lose my train of thought/momentum and I forget something I was genuinely interested in.
Yes! It's like, I don't WANT to spend a few hours every week seeing doctors, but you know, I have to in order to stay alive. I don't WANT to spend 7 hours waiting in ED, but I can't control that. Such a privileged perspective that all moments are our own. Glad he's not practicing medicine anymore.
Totally agree! It does not make any sense.
YES exactly!!! His perspective is so privileged. If you're poor or disabled you're not constantly doing what you want. You're often doing what you need to survive.
Oof i get this. When i had gotten a health condition in my hands/wrists that made it so i couldn’t rlly write or draw without pain. So, when i wanted to practice drawing i couldn’t cus otherwise it would HURT and not be good for my hands. So like.. i wasnt drawing or practicing cus i didnt want to, but instead cus i had to rest my body 😭
My ADHD brain with ADHD paralysis does not want to be sitting on the couch but I am forced to.
Thinking about how I went into rehab at 15 for a blood pressure med addiction and while I was trying to focus on keeping by blood pressure up and staying alive my mom and head counselor decided it was more important to get me to work on time management because my school work was lacking. It really doesn’t get more dehumanizing than that. My life was less important than my productivity in school. Every time I hear time management get brought up now I just kinda roll my eyes.
That's so sad 😢
you've basically nailed it on the head
life family and happiness all come second to 'productivity'
@@markfreeman4727 people will tell everyone "get therapy" ok if we are in a capitolistic society even if youre on ssi/ssdi and cant work , the mental health professionals say the same drivel that the people he shows in this video was spewing , i had a therapist who insisted that i "find a job" because i lost my brother to a gun homicide, im so glad i was smart enough to get a good therapist who actually helped....but i know its really bad especially social workers
Time management is something that to me, as a student with ADHD, has always been an exploitation technique. Firstly, let's just point out that children have a legally protected obligation of getting an education, so not much of a choice. And here we get to the 24 hours a day issue, because not only we don't actually get 24 hours, but 14, because children should sleep between 8 and 10 hours a day (I'm going with 10, because 10-hour-needers can't just stop needing that 2 hours). Another 8 for school classes and 2 for getting to and back from school, and in some people's cases it's more. We're left with 4 hours. And these 4 hours should compensate for doing all of our homework, housework, eating, quality time with yourself alone, friends and family, and possibly pets, socializing, relaxation, exercising, breaks, any unexpected events and all of the other stuff I can't think of to the top of my head. And every young person *has to* go through this until they're 18, but more realistically, up until they get a higher education's degree, to get a job that can pay their bills. No wonder why we are so screwed up.
Right? That's insane when you start counting!
oh my god exactly and then we are constantly shammed for not doing hw on time or taking care of ourselves ‘properly’, and i know a lot of kids have jobs outside of school (myself included) so there’s like no time for oneself or loved ones. its so fu*ked
Which is why I didn't do my homework or gave a sh*t about school at all. I had a much more enjoyable time hanging out with friends and making the best of my time in school... Instead of slaving away over mountains of homework and (for some reason) choosing to take honors classes as if they mean literally anything. I graduated high school with a B average and enjoyed myself doing it. College is a sham anyways so there is quite literally NO REASON to want to be overly successful in high school unless there is a field you *really* want to go into that requires college.
And that’s exactly why I wouldn’t do my homework. Teachers and my parents would be confused and frustrated cause I would still get good grades in school but would be hella reluctant to do anything outside of school.
8 hours of school for kids is too much. 6 is a maximum, and school should be within 30 mins commute. Then it would be 10h sleep, 7h school, 7h freetime.
I remember in upper secondary school we had 8-hour days. Then there were 6-8 math problems and turning 8 pages of text into a mindmap for homework. I never finished mine. I could try one problem for 2 hours and give up. The classes were mostly lecturing and we didn't have much time to practise in class with assistance, added with the constant sleep deprivation.
There's a consistent point that goes around Tumblr about one person being expected to do what a community regularly did. It was never just the wife in the kitchen it was the wife and her grandmother and her daughters and maybe her sister in law. It was a whole group of men in the feild with kids chasing off birds and because of that everyone did have more time to themselves.
Anyway the bit with "you spend most of your time doing what you want to do" is so ableist to me. I don't *want* to sit in my room for 3 hours having a panic attack over my executive dysfunction wanting to rip the carpet off the floor but not having the money to do so. And the cascade effect that has.
Remember folks doing something that makes you happy isn’t actual productivity
as a med student i used to love Ali's content so so much bc his study tips were so useful and straight to the point. his videos introduced me to "active recall" which is something i apply to my studies almost everyday in many different ways.
but then he turned into an entrepreneur monster that thinks that everyone has the time and money to create 100 ways of passive income and his comments filled with crypto scammers and i unsubscribed :(.
also the part about outsourcing work through fivver to indians: he literally is from india 😭😭 why does he think it's okay to think that way
Exactly. Me as well. The productivity stuff was great. This new stuff reeks of elitism
Capitalism, that's why
Because it's normal in India. You dont even need to be as wealthy as many people in Western countrys to have some People employed. Many people get less than 30$ a day.
@@veroboro4035 still he is exploiting on that fact.
@@completelynormalhuman9882 yes, but in capitalism nearly anyone does it in some way. For example by buying cheap clothes or food. One can only escape it partially by buying second hand or growing ones own veggies etc...
"Sure you have a boss and parents but ultimately you are in control of your own time" bro said consequences arent real
YEAH that's what I was thinking lol
"SURE I can choose not to help Mom with the trash bags while she cooks lunch or wash the dishes and cups myself instead of leaving them for her to wash, all while I just watch TH-cam or play games or edit a video... But there'll be consequences, such as incurring her wrath and being forced away from the computer or phone."
when you are rich, consequences aren't real
The guy's extremely privileged, unbelievably so.
Be accountable? Lol yall want the world just handed to u
@@dabza5524 Yeah, I feel so irresponsible because I didn't choose to be born rich... oh, wait.
I was a slave to this time management ideology when I worked as a programmer. I worked at least 10hrs per workday and I felt guilty if my weekends/holidays are spent without doing anything. This was my 20s. Now in my 30s, I regret so much it cost me my health. The money I saved over the years is nil due to health problems/emergencies. I am lucky enough to quit my job and even though I am unemployed/housewife, I feel much healthier and I am starting to reclaim my quality of life wasted on my 20s.
I'm glad that you've left this comment. I'm studying to be a programmer and I've been very hooked on productivity and time management ever since this video. I hope that I won't feel guilty abt not being dedicated enough or productive enough in my free time. I wish you a good day
I'm glad you got out of that rut and are doing better now. I used to work two jobs despite being disabled. I was told at home that I wasn't working hard enough or making more money, but at work I literally would never be punished for being late or calling out last second because I was in such poor health that my coworkers constantly feared that my body had finally given out & that I had fainted and fell into traffic. My managers would literally send someone to pick me up when I was running late not because they needed me sooner, but because I sounded so exhausted that they didnt think it was *safe* for me to walk the rest of the way.
Then I started getting this regular customer who worked as a delivery driver. Found out after a while that he used to work *five* jobs. On his way to work one day from his third shift to his fourth, he blacked out behind the wheel. All the money he had saved from working 10-16 hour work days had to be spent on emergency medical expenses and covering his bills while in recovery. He told me he was just glad to be alive and able to regain full movement in his body after a few years of physical therapy. After that, I coaxed my boss at my easier job to give me longer hours so I could quit my second job. Every time I get shamed for not working enough, every time I consider getting a second job, I remember that man and how the fact he was alive to give me that advice was nothing shy of a miracle.
I love how their solution is “just exploit people you feel superior to.” Also, the idea that a person just found 7 hours in a week to handle an emergency somehow equates to you can always find time in a week if you want it bad enough is ludicrous. I would love to hear what other tasks that person had to put off or reschedule in order to take care of this whether using vacation time or finding someone to watch your kids or having to sacrifice sleep and your health for that week.
I love finding hacks to better organize my time and life which hopefully translates to saving time when I’m performing future labor, but usually just ignore the other messaging. It’s all the same thing just said differently. Basically if you can’t get where you want it’s your fault.
I had a boss who told me to better manage my time when I came to them saying I have too much to do. I came back the next month with an outline of all my tasks and the time it takes to complete each task (I did a time study using Lean principles - something my organization loved and tbh there’s some good tools there) and it showed I needed something like 20 more hours in a week to get everything done by their deadlines. Then I asked how I can make this happen and it was all Pikachu face. I’m good at finding my own solutions, but hire more people or better manage your expectations. There’s only so much I can do. Like having to manage up is so annoying.
Anyway, LOVE this video. It really resonated. Thank you!
great anecdote! you did a great job of standing up for yourself while being helpful in providing the realities of the situation in a logistical way. i'd probably have just sulked! glad you liked the video, pleasure as always
This is a really interesting and powerful strategy I absolutely commend you on standing up for yourself. I'm dying to know, what was the outcome? Did they actually reduce your workload/hire more people or just replace you with someone who won't complain?
I did something similar, but at the time I was an hourly employee fresh out of high school.
The boss wanted me to stock the areas I was responsible for in a certain order, but that order was impossible due to the truck being unloaded at the same time. Basically, they wanted me to pull backstock from shelves that involved using the electric pallet jack, but the aisle in question was where the truck was being staged. Pulling backstock before stocking new freight would have made sense if there weren't the small problem of an entire truck's worth of new freight being directly in the way of said backstock.
When I expressed that the order they wanted me to do my job was logistically implausible, I was told to "just do it". I suspect they already didn't like me and were trying to manufacture an excuse to let me go, so they presented me with an impossible problem.
So for me the result was I got to find another job.
@@leahg.3393 My manager was fairly receptive. For some things they adjusted deadlines and for other tasks they redistributed it so it wasn’t just one person doing it. They had a bad habit of giving a deadline and then asking for a completed project a week early so it was difficult to actually prioritize projects because everything became high priority as you never knew when they’d ask for something. Still got some of that, but not nearly as often. Having more realistic deadlines and sticking to them helped.
@@Sljm8D That sucks. I’m sorry you had to deal with that. I hate it when management is inflexible about things they don’t need to be. There’s no reason to not give you control on the order tasks are completed in, especially when there’s an unmovable issue blocking you from doing the task well. Why make people’s jobs harder than they need to be? I’ll never understand this mindset.
thank you for eloquently putting what I've been trying to vocalize for years. I used to feel guilty for going on walks to nowhere for hours or leisurely spending longer at the grocery store even if I'm just picking up a few things. I feel like there is so much joy people lose in their life and in small moments when they micromanage their time. As I've gotten older the time I "wasted" doing silly stuff is my most cherished
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Isn't it weird that we are simultaneously told that the time we allow for ourselves to breathe is time wasted, and to focus on *our* goals, and *our* path on the race to success at the expense of having empathy for others? (no it's not)
Your fellow man _HATES_ this one weird trick!
...love
it was inside us the whole time!
_"The ultimate hidden truth of the world is that it is something we make and could just as easily make differently."_ - the late great David Graeber
now ignore all that, get in Fiver, and start transforming these Filipinos into oompa loompas! and dollars, obviously, all possibility must be strictly bound to profitability! GRIND SET GRIND SET GRIND SET #laborarbitrage4allwhowantit
Follow this advice and soon you tpoo can own a generic shitty techg sttartup (probably) and/or perceive life through as excel sheet. No it's fun though I swear, and my god _you get so much done!_
But seriously, don't we love it folks? Just the general state of the world? Don't we love how stupid and bad it is? But you know what they say, he who makes a machine out of himself, gets rid of the pain of being a late capitalist sigma grinder.
we need that time. without it, we would all go nuts. The whole idea of making yourself successful without minding others is definitely related to that. People who are not giving themselves a time to breathe just so they would be "successful" are the most useful to the capitalists. The whole idea of them working as hard to make it better for others, on the other hand needs to be squashed.
Excuse me, YOUR goals? You gave those up when you decided to be born into a capitalist society.
"time is supposed to be cherished, not managed" this is so simple, yet revolutionary
also, it starts as soon as you start school. In order to take academic rest, you need to manage your time to finish tasks and so on and some parents would encourage you to take advanced work or reading, especially if the parents expect their child/ren to have straight A grades or honors or be higher at rankings, which is helpful in plain sight but no, it just harms the work-life relationship bc the child is always pressured to do something about their academics or else, they will feel like "they're not managing their time well"
Bro why do I feel called out by this? LOL
For this reason, I'm trying to see how I can let 10 year old know that I don't care about her grades...while also letting her know I care that she tries. She's gonna be doing exams this year and I'm not sending her to after-school lesson (because she doesn't want to go lol). I need to make sure I have money so she can not care about grades lol
I nearly went crazy in high school because my homework load was insane. Despite working diligently I felt like I was drowning in assignments. Eventually developed a bad relationship with sleep and the constant feeling I shouldn’t relax.
I think highschool was just a way to teach you how to function while running on 5-6 hours of sleep and now as an "adult" I get even less they didn't even prepare me properly for this smh
This reminds me of the concept of homework in case like really you force kids to give up most of their lives allready yet you deliberately make them give up more
the way I gasped when he mentioned the people in the Philippines, how can he say that at loud and not realize what the problem is💀
is there another problem beside people having low wages there?
same here lol he only sees from one perspective
@@JohnDoe-ph6ifThey have an extremely high poverty rate, meaning bad living conditions and if they or a family member get sick they're simply screwed. His "outsourcing" means he's taking advantage of that situation, paying them less than he would pay someone from his own country, thereby not remotely paying them enough to be free and escape poverty, just enough so they can stay afloat for a while longer. It's exploitative and akin to modern day slavery. It's what clothing and tech companies have been doing with sweatshops just to a lesser degree and at a smaller scale.
@@Emma-Maze yes i know all that, but im not sure how this is exploitative in itself? First of all he pays them 7$/hr. which is WAY above local average afaik, Secondly i don't think anybody would take up the job if the pay is too low, assuming there are other jobs (of course if the job market is bad that's the fault of their government, and Filipino should hold them accountable, it's not like they're forced into slave labor like in Congo, etc.) Of course in the ideal world wages would be the same globally, but any global unionization initiative is an unimaginably hard undertaking. Keep in mind that Cost of living for the same living standard also varies HUGELY and affects wages as well as other many factors. It's such a complex question that to say that outsourcing is *evil* is naive imo
@@JohnDoe-ph6if It being the fault of the government doesn't make taking advantage of that not exploitation though?
this conversation hits home and I have 2 examples of my "poor time management" that come to mind.
1. Boss schedules me for a 9-5 shift. I used to show up between 8:30 and 8:45 because I've always been taught that it's "better to hurry up and wait than to hurry up and be late." But I noticed that getting there ahead of time just meant that I was working 8:30-5 but getting paid from 9-5. When I noticed this I decided to allow some more time to myself in the mornings by showing up at 8:55 for my 9 o'clock shifts. My boss noticed and said I was late. I didn't defend myself because that's considered talking back and I can't afford to lose this job. But how could I be considered late when I am in fact not only always on time, but still showing up ahead of time.
2. These days I am a night owl. Which is problematic because I also have to be a morning person in order to show up to my job late but on time. The adults in my life say " if you're always so tired, you should go to bed earlier." But the evening/night time is the only time I don't have someone or something immediately demanding my time and attention. So why wouldn't I want to prolong that time to myself? I don't actually mean to stay up so late so I guess one could argue that I have poor time management since I so easily lose track of that time. But it's the only time I can finally focus on my hobbies and passions without being interrupted or made to feel guilty for it.
Thank you for providing this space for my little rant/tangent.
I solved this problem by going to bed early as fuck and waking up at 4 or 5 for my 9 o'clock gig. I use the extra time to clean, practice guitar, play video games, and usually get high as hell. You know, "me" time. It's probably not gonna fix your whole life but you should give it a shot.
@@zed739 Thankyou! I'll probably end up trying this soon 🙏🏻
@@zed739 this is great advice because you end up tired during work instead of ruining your free time with the tiredness
It's practically wage theft if your boss claims you are late if you go before the time.
Revenge bedtime procrastination is the term for your second point. Unfortunately its “solution” still blames the person for not sleeping that realizing people need time to themselves while awake.
*Worker gets to the end of a 12 hour shift at the factory*
"Well, I sell my labor just to barely survive while bosses profit off of it, but at least I'm doing what I'd most like to be doing with my time."
It appears what poor people would most like to be doing at any given moment is not dying.
This video hits close to home. I haven’t even started working yet, but I’m in the IB program and they’re already starting to condition us into this mindset. They give us huge quantities of work, with deadlines overlapping and then get disappointed when we don’t hand everything in on time and tell us we need to manage time better. Sometimes it’s true, but sometimes we aren’t given any time to manage in the first place. And we’re not just working machines, but people with families, friends, girlfriends or boyfriends, pets, talents, hobbies, adverse live events, responsibilities and interests. We’re not robots, and I’m tired of being treated like one just so some people in Wales can make money off of my diploma.
I heavily relate to this. I'm a freshman in college (I just finished my first semester a few weeks ago btw) and I always complain about why in the world are we receiving task after task with overlapping deadlines and studying some subjects that we don't actually need after we graduate?
Could you track the time that you work on projects and submit an invoice for your work? If you're challenged, ask your instructor if they've heard of the Triple Constraint. Bonus points if you do this in a Project Management class.
as an IB junior, good god this hits hard
IB makes you burn out before you even finish school. Shit ruined my life and now I'm trying to put it back together.
i dropped out of the IB programme two months ago and I feel you. their whole thing is that "don't worry as long as you manage your time!" but that doesn't matter if you live far from school or have extracurriculars or are mentally ill or are neurodivergent. when I spoke to some teachers about it, one of them asked me why I would sleep in the bus instead of listening to the audiobook if I didn't have time to read it for my next assignment. it's almost like I'm living on 3 hours of sleep because their workload is hell and i need the damn sleep to even function in class; just my personal experience though. the classes were fun
I'd argue that no, time isn't flexible, but people can be when faced with a crisis. We can stretch to unbelievable accomplishments when something demands our immediate attention. But just like the rubber band, when just stretched and stretched we eventually break. That's why you can't keep finding extra 7 hours in your week, week after week. You can't keep up with that level of stress.
100% what I was going to say
The “you own your time” argument really does fall apart the moment you consider mental illness or neurodivergence or any external circumstances. I’ve been on a productive journey myself and I’ve gotten miles ahead in learning how to listen to myself, what I need and tending to my problems than attempting to conceptualize “owning my time” and getting nowhere. Certainly much further than I have when I was listening to the self help gurus years back. The self help guys platforms are usually a business of sorts and we shouldn’t be taking anything they say to heart when it comes to dictating what’s going to work for us. Especially when so many of them come from such limited perspectives.
Agreed. The only self help that truly helped me is how to make friends.
I agree. I just don't have the same time as other people because it takes me longer to accomplish tasks.
Yea my immediate reaction to that clip was that it's ableist af
Perhaps it is also you who come from a limited perspective.
There is no totalizing or strict sense that these people are referring to. It's a baseline of "advice" to mold into what you could use as potential.
Are you restricted because of xyz things? How can you reframe the situations to compensate for xyz things and also try to push your own boundaries? And so on. And let me tell you, as someone who'd been disabled for 5 years due to failing health, this was the only things that allowed me to figure out what the ever living fuck to do to help that. Reframing is the simplest and most powerful tool anyone could use. But most of y'all just bitch about things being "ableist" or whatever.
Those 5 years were more hell for me than working and feeling fully exhausted due to constant physical pains and my limitations.
Life still sucks. These problems have been with me since I was a child. I hate being autistic. I wish I could just exist without the bipolar constantly scraping at me. But damn, I can work again (and have been for about a year and half now). I am volunteering as a mentor, and doing my best to keep things going...even though more than half of my existence wants to just be dead.
I had a similar experience. Trying to follow the advice of self help gurus didn't help, even following standard CBT advice from my therapist didn't. I later got an ADHD diagnosis, an unofficial autism diagnosis and figured out I'm trans - and gosh am I realizing how much was really gender dysphoria holding me back. I'm having more energy, a much more comfortable emotional experience, and a much more comfortable experience in my body.
I feel like time management is something that's also really couched in being neurotypical. I cannot always do the thing that I most want to be doing - whether executive dysfunction gets in the way or something else blocks my ability to start/switch tasks - and so the idea that I just need to manage that better is insulting
Agreed. Neurodivergents need a different approach to doing things and it's never just a case of "you should do better/try harder". It's such a backwards way of thinking and further puts the onus of "not living up to a standard" to the neurodivergent, which just calls for unwarranted frustration to onseself. A neurodivergent's brain is just wired differently and they are indeed superbly capable of doing things, hence there is no cookie cutter way of doing things like most productivity gurus claim so (because they mainly cater to the neurotypicals as their target demographic).
I suppose being neurotypical means being more naturally predisposed to tolerating doing things you don't want to do. That's been my experience with whatever my novel-length psych evaluation found in me. If anyone figures out the failsafe way for me to do the same, I'll be looking out for it.
@@farlado5459I wouldn’t say it’s failsafe by any means but as someone with ADHD, I’ve found that fear is an incredible motivator. There’s some neuroscience to back this up as well, neurotypical or not, nothing motivates us like fear. To get things done, I try to leverage that sense of fear of not living up to my expectations. Whenever I don’t want to do something I try to think “do you really not want to succeed at X, think of your future self” You could argue that it’s basically falling into the capitalistic time management trap/mindset and a bit toxic, but we live in this world and need to make do. I’ve found the joy of getting things done to be an adequate reward for the “negative” motivation.
@@nada3131 i think there are people who can hardwire themselves to use fear as a motivator
but at the same time, overexposure to a certain 'feeling' can become negative, depending on that person's mindset and experiences
@@The_Jazziest_Coffee I think this is a very reasonable concern. Even if you're able to leverage fear as a motivator, it's quite easy to become very anxious all the time. I wish we had something simple that worked for everyone with fewer risks.
brooo...literally taking advantage of people's economic position. this is a CEO mindset, disgusting
So happy to see CEO mindset as a negative 🙏
CEO mindset 🤮
And they are getting worse by the day!
W CEO mindset💪💪
@@Dimitri791 SET GOALS. HAVE A TEN YEAR PLAN. INVEST. WAKE UP EARLY. CEO MINDSET.
All your friends are in hell yet you smile.
I had a thought back in high school. (When I was in school and working) how school was like training for work. And not actually about gaining knowledge or teaching future generations to be better and inspire them.
Its like the teach you very basics for you to be a useful worker. They gutted the art programs, don't at all talk about philosophy, and taught the very surface level of history.
Depends on the school you go to and majors and minors you take in college
i think that school is treated like work, with the way that you can't disrespect teachers or the things they do even if they're unfair
@The Academic Fix I am taking about public schools they type of schools most ppl go to and college isn't an option for everyone given how ridiculously overpriced it is. And ppl who choose to go that don't come from well to do families ended up drowning in debt not to mention these degrees are not benefiting most ppl in the way that it once did.
that's the exact thought process and function that companies that had assembly lines paid and funded the usa department of education to set up a curriculum to provide them workers
it's deliberately made to be a drone production factory, only taught enough to do the basic work, not question it, and not be taught the success skills that would let them find a way out of the system they are corralled into
@@arsenal4444 same with bullying , oh they'll claim "stop bullying" as a prop...the "no snitching" narrative isnt just a "gang" thing
Ali's fundamental grasp on time is a perfect display of the difference between the mindset of someone who is working class versus someone who is a part of the owner class. He literally spells it out when talking about paying someone less works out great for him. This is why working hours and paid time off had to be achieved literally with blood in the previous century as our grandparents and great grandparents had to use organized labor, which was violently attacked by the state, to achieve the 8 hour day and 5 day work week (which by the way is still not entirely a thing). Even companies that saw an INCREASE in productivity and employee well-being through working remotely, or working 4 day weeks, still forced everyone to return to the office, because they want to control every aspect and every moment of that time they are paying you for. If you are at work, but you finish your work early and are just relaxing a little, they can give you an extra task to do, despite the fact you've already finished an extra task for tomorrow to get ahead.
True. My job can be fully remote, yet we're forced to work 2 days in the office WHILE everyone above us complains about the office bills...
Funny you say that about finishing tasks. We've been conditioned to work over our contracted day to get work done usually for no extra pay. Yet if we finished our task early and was actually more productive they wouldn't let us leave early (unless you had a lovely boss). It's a one way street!
I work in a high school, and I can see clear as day how students are programmed to utilize every waking moment to work on their studies. I feel bad for the teachers too, because they are overworked to hell. A 4 day school week would be magical.
I used to think that if I don't use my time efficiently and mostly on resting and sleeping that's next to my work, I would not "live my life to the fullest". Please don't be like me, I am so much more functional and alive when I get my rest and naps and had to deal with burnout and massive fatigues afterwards because these capitalists told me that I'm not enough if I do otherwise 💀aghhhhh
Ever think that instead of blaming muh capitalists, you should reflect inward and accept that you were pretty idiotic for thinking exchanging sleep for productivity was a good idea. This is coming from someone who has done the exact same thing, but I am not sitting here blaming the invincible capitalists for my idiotic decisions. This whole comment section just sounds like a bunch of leftists complaining about having to work, muh capitalism, and how other people are more privileged then them. Very little if any of these people seem to even understand the concept of time management or their own control and ownership over their time.
@@bobbilly87 i mean, if it was like a random suggestion/advice, i would be like "ah ok let's try that, if it fails, that's fine, i can just not do that advice anymore because it doesn't work for me",
however, I am criticizing capitalism because, let's be real, what i listed is not a random advice, it's a thing that is kinda pushed on the society and young people as a whole, specifically the sacrifice your sleep and rest for da greater work (when it's just excessive labour disguised as a promise to get success). You do feel like this doesn't work but then you ask your peers and people that are supposed to guide you when you're in your teens/early 20s, you're fed this idea that you're supposed to ignore your needs and work harder, at least that's what my case looked like, it's not just "stupid decisions", yes, i did decide those in the past, not anymore though because I escaped that cycle luckily and now I'm more happy than ever before. I criticise capitalism because that's what we live in mostly and generally the capitalistic idea is to encourage unlimited exploitation.
@@bobbilly87 If the people are anything like me, then we have reflected inward, this is exactly why we are writing those comments now. We reflected inward, figured out that we were right but people gave us shitty advice all the time, and instead of listening to ourselves we just listened to others. We figured that trying to suppress our thoughts and feelings lead us to have our boundaries violated, to have people trampled all over us. So now we're listening to ourselves and are vocal about it. We learnt that our anger is legitimate, and that instead of letting it destroy us it is more productuve to seek community and to be political about it.
I think that while you only hear complains, you are not realizing that we are doing the personal work of setting boundaries, of not taking shit from other people any more.
@@bobbilly87 I swear. It's like people think that in a communist society, there would be no work hours and everyone would be prancing around in lush meadows and skipping over rainbows. When a good look around and at history shows otherwise. People blame capitalism for pretty much anything even though these problems are intrinsic to any modern human society and have nothing to do with capitalism. People do it simply so that they don't have to be accountable for their actions. It's always someone else's fault and they're always the victim and the system is rigged so no point trying. There. Problem solved.
As an autistic person, laying out my shedule helps me a lot. It helps me remember when I need to clean, cook, take care of myself, ect. Keeping a notebook and to do list also reminds me to do things such as call the dr. I get overwhelmed when too many tasks pile up. But your time shouldn't be worth more or less than anyones, if you want to spend your free time doing things that people would consider "unproductive" that's okay. I don't do shedule blocks as usual and find they do not work for me, but laying out the things I must do for the day help me.
The problem is that this video was made for nothing. If the time management stuff doesn’t apply to you, then don’t listen. If it does, it can be extremely valuable. If you decide to give yourself time to relax, it’s not inherently wasted, and it is a critical component of time management!!! This video serves no one because it was made out of incomprehension of the intended message.
@@h.perso.5389 The problem with time management speeches is that threy are aimed to get people to do things more efficiently so they can spend more time on those other peoples bullshit. It is never just to put an order up in your life. It is never that simple. Most people giving you time management lessons want some of your time as well.
I'm not surprised that doctor became an entrepreneur. All I could think about while watching him speak was, "Wow, imagine self-reporting yourself for exploiting people worse off than yourself"
it seems like he's become a doctor to pursue money instead of helping people. He had a respectable job, yet he couldn't help himself exploit others.
It’s sad because that indicates low satisfaction with what he does have because he keeps wanting more to fill whatever void he has…. But that doesn’t make it right for him to take advantage of anyone because he has a void to fill. Its the entire system that needs changed..
I remember working as a new professor and the doctor telling me I needed to exercise regularly. He was like, "just go to the gym before or after work." And I was like "I already stay home just long enough to see my daughter wake up before I leave, then I get home with an hour to spare before she goes to sleep. Then I grade after she sleeps. When do I exercise."
The real source of unhealthiness wasn't my weight.
The issue of managing one's time through outsourcing reminds me of (one of) my gripes with women's magazines: the target audience seems to be upper-middle class people with a certain amount of resources and social capital. It also reminds me of the positive thinking craze. When you research the authors of those books you find that they had certain benefits starting out that allowed them to do what they did. I found when reading these books and magazines that they made me feel bad about myself until I realised that I wasn't the target audience. It's basically a con that allows some people to make money out of other people.
(What actually made me realise I wasn't the target audience happened when I was reading a magazine article about saving money because I needed to save money. I noticed that all of the tips of where to cut back were for luxuries I couldn't afford.)
Where does one find anything where one is the target audience, though?
There's thus book called "The Secret" that springs to mind
@@handsomesquidward5160 absolutely
You just described my twenties. I'm glad to have survived that time and all the mistakes I made listening to bad advice that has nothing to do with my reality.
@@demivydE I think we all go through that stage, but it sucks :(
God, as an autistic/adhd person, trying to manage time when my brain *can barely conceptualize it to begin with* is HELL
Thanks for the video! God, I swear managing my time is one of my biggest sources of anxiety.
I still believe managing time is important. It just needs to be done realistically, and be done flexibly to allow for changes.
It poisons the way you think even outside of the workforce, never thought I’d live to see the day I berated myself for underproducing milk and called myself pathetic at time management for my ml/minute output, I am an exploited dairy cow rn and I need to start seeing my contentment as valuable and stop attaching my worth to my timed output/production. Can’t wait to hear what points you make in this one.
Well said. As some who is disabled and neurodivergent--there is so much crap I have to jump through because so many things were either not made for me or unwilling to accommodate the system itself, resulting in me having to take out 2-3 times as much of my time as others without my issues just to set in stone accommodations I need to even attempt their level of neurotypical and able-bodied starting point.
Never mind that universal design has been proven to work for all students in a school setting...including neurotypicals.
im job hunting atm and this is not encouraging me but i feel very seen. im struggling with feelings of resentment and anger at being forced to sell my time. i want to contribute to making a better society, not sell my time in order to live.
I'm right there with you, friend. I wish you all the luck.
@@kieranblazier4058 thank you! ❤
The whole system needs to be brought down and reworked. I know no young adult my age that enjoys there life right now. This is not how it’s meant to be
@@kaishel3037 then do something about it. Your own failures to navigate life and find fulfillment aren’t inextricably tied to capitalism. I can almost guarantee you don’t understand or can define the system, let alone figure out a replacement. It truly is a new level of arrogance and privilege to think brining down a system that has brought millions out of poverty and created such a surplus of resources and wealth would be something viable. Maybe you don’t enjoy life because of your own failures to find a meaningful contribution to society that someone else would be willing to exchange resources for. Maybe your life is miserable because you lack the discipline and skills needed to make it better, which is ultimately your responsibility to develop. I am 21 and enjoy my life and so do millions of other people my/our age. Maybe ask yourself why you are so miserable and why everyone you know is so miserable. It’s honestly sad and frightening to hear how you live.
This idea that you are somehow coerced to sell your time is laughable. Whether we are in this system or any other, you would be required to contribute value to society. You would be forced to do something in order to justify the resources to keep you alive. Even if you were alone, with no system, you would need to exchange time for resources. If people aren’t willing to exchange capital for your value, then you most likely haven’t contributed much to society. Stop being a helpless and control how you spend your time by contributing something to society in exchange for capital from which you can do whatever you want. Otherwise, how else do you justify the resources others have exchanged their time for to keep you alive.
There is no work life balance. I work from home and 5 hours is not enough time. People who work in the office get less time than me. We have to take into account going to the gym, taking care of bills, taking care of other responsibilities, taking out the trash, cooking, cleaning, etc. After doing all of that, you don’t have enough time to relax doing what you want like reading a book or watching your favorite show. You may get an HOUR maybe TWO at best to do what you enjoy. For me, I schedule everything I have to do each day and I schedule my free time as well. I always wanted a part time job that pays for ALL of my bills so that I can have more time to myself. I want to go swimming, relax on my patio more, read more books, spend more time with family, spend more time with my boyfriend, and travel more. I also noticed that he said that he hired someone to clean his house. The rest of us can’t afford to do that and have to spend TIME cleaning our own homes after work and during the weekend. He has more TIME than the average person
I really do hate the “you have control over your own time” shit. Like, no, we fundamentally do not. In order to live in a capitalist society (which I kinda have to-the other choice is just death), I have to make money. I don’t *want* to make money. I *have* to. So it’s not that I don’t “prioritize” making music or hanging out with friends or whatever. It’s that I’m prioritizing making money, which allows me to stay alive and comfortable in our current world. I would love nothing more than to forget about money and just literally do whatever I want with my time. But I *can’t* do that.
Saying I have control of my time is like saying a bank teller being robbed at gunpoint has control over what they do with the money. Sure, they could refuse to give it up to the bank robber. But there’s the threat of death if they don’t. And the bank teaches them before they start the job that they’re supposed to give the money up. Similarly, money is necessary to survive. We are taught from a young age that it’s something we need to think about. And if we stop making money, comforts and necessities start to get taken away. Say goodbye to your car, your house, your land, your food, and your rights. And then, guess what? You fucking die. You starve, or you get severely ill and have no way to pay for a doctor, or you’re left exposed to the elements without shelter.
If we treat time as a commodity, then I do not own my time. It belongs to my employer, or my school, or whatever thing I’m doing that I wish I didn’t have to do. Rarely do I actually get to do what I want to do.
Thinking you can literally control and manage time is kinda the height of hubris imo 🤷♂️😂😭 its a ridiculous idea when you take a step back
Exactly, well said!
As a person with a physical disability and mental health issues , this comment really hit home for me …
I appreciate when people like you can take the time to eloquently state something that I can’t seem to collect into words for other people.
@@baby.nay. It’s taken years of thinking about it to actually be able to put it into words. But when it comes down to it, it’s really just as simple as: I didn’t ask to be here, so I deserve to use my time how I want. The world we live in doesn’t allow me to do that, and that problem is made even worse by the fact that I’m mentally ill. That needs to change, and I’m angry about it.
@@jacklandismusic I completely agree . I’m sorry to hear your struggling … I hate that mental health is not dealt with like physical health issues … the whole system and world is fucked… I kinda would like to be a totalitarian world leader… I could push my agenda and get sick people what they need for a more fulfilling life 😅
No, you're wrong. Getting yelled at by customers 9 hrs a day gives meaning to my otherwise pointless existence. To earn $3 an hour for a full time, graveyard shift position, 40 hours a week with Pee-Mobile is a great privilege for someone in the Philippines such as myself.
For context, I'm supposed to be grateful that I earn $400 a month in a place where monthly rent costs $250 - $300 for a decent studio apartment (you can find places within $100-$150 but you NOT feel like a human being living in such a place). Food costs in the PH is pretty much the same as in the US.
Relaxing or taking care of myself feels like a waste of time when that's the core of our existence. Managing time is nice but there's only so much we can do with the time you have. As a kid i used to study for a much smaller time period than my peers and still got straight A's, that's bc i was actually concentrating back then and i was aware of my style of studying. We're made to believe that the more time we spend on something the better we would be at it but you could spend a single hour studying something fully focused or hours studying the same thing without paying any attention, and the more time you spend the more you'll get tired, our brains need rest and breaks. The education systems don't really encourage students to understand their style of studying and forces us to adapt to their rigid rules. But that's a conversation for another day
@lilyrose and your reply made me realize that we already are living in a dystopia. now i don't have to be scared of how worse the future can be because we're already there. have a good day/night stranger
I suffered the most asinine schedule imaginable during the Pandemic, 12 hours a day, 1 hour commute to and from home, 6 days a week. Since I barely had time left outside of work I'd exchange my sleep schedule with it and ultimately suffered insomnia and psychosis because of it, I was malnourished too because I never felt I had the time to cook. Winter would roll around and my S.A.D. would amplify my insomnia and psychosis to the point I'd spend entire weeks awake, I did this all while trying to keep a calm collected attitude until I broke after being promised I'd have my birthday off only to be called in anyway. I'd nearly decided to kill myself from the constant stress by freezing myself outside in a druken haze, my folks pulled me out every time but still blamed me instead of assisting my mental state. After so many of these events I'd missed work for I eventually got fired when spring was finally rolling around and felt I was at my lowest, none of my friends wanted to talk to me, my folks were already pissed off at me, and the online relationship I had broke apart because she couldn't handle my stress anymore, it truly felt like rock bottom so I figured might as well try offing myself one last time, alone in the woods without anyone knowing where I was. Since I thought it was defiantly the last time I figured I might as well try shrooms and pot at least once having no understanding of their potential effects; I was still around the next day with a new outlook on everything, and spent a few months just chilling in the woods on drugs, and now I'm going back to school for a degree in something I genuinely enjoy, using my time for me instead of for work. All it takes is the decision to cut yourself from those shitty systems holding you back, don't give them your fucking time.
I'm glad that you're still with us, and I'm relieved that you're on a healthier, happier path in life
Boundaries and the word no is your friend...this is how you make time for yourself. Glad you stuck around dear, at the end all you get is a story, make yours a good one.
U seem like genuinely interesting person to talk with. Can we talk about all these stuff?
Used to work on the wards as a clinician. Being told that my “time management skills” were subpar because of the most random things happening throughout the shift was something I never really understood. Even working in Australia for a government-run organisation I've always felt like just a wage slave having every ounce of my productivity being squeezed out of me while getting no rewards besides the intrinsic want I had to help people. I moved into a role without the chaos of direct clinical work and suddenly I’m great at “time management”. Everything is a lie
“You can get a consultation and admin done in 7 mins”
“You must ask the patient about their ideas, concerns, and expectations”
“You shouldn’t drink water in front of patients. It’s not professional.”
“You shouldn’t let your UTI/shingles/c-word progress to the point where you’ve collapsed on site.”
Tldr I hope you’re getting a better feeling from your current work. It really sucks that this drives away good people.
@@demeterontheinternet all of this
Love this video. The little pithy idea that's stuck with me for years on this subject is that the bourgeois have convinced the rest of us to become little corporations unto ourselves in order to survive and thrive. By "managing" our time, we self-commoditize the grounds of our own existence.
One of my favorite books about this is called Leisure, The Basis Of Culture. I'd recommend it to anyone interested in thinking about this beyond just class dynamics (which are also important).
Check out Byung-Chul Han. Eg, his book, "The Burnout Society", or more recently, "Psychopolitics".
@@rgzhaffie Thanks! I certainly will
My relationship with time management has been so wild. When I was younger, I loved the idea of scheduling time and getting things done (not even in just getting work done but also setting time for fun stuff). As I got older and had more schoolwork and responsibilities, time management actually made me anxious. I was afraid to manage my time because if I attempted to and I still couldn't meet the crazy expectations set for me then I would truly be a failure. And now, I can't say I'm not anxious still about planning things out, but I'm more mindful of when I need to and when I don't need to, as well as when I'm taking on so much that I'm unable to attempt to plan for fun things.
Time is not something you can perfectly manage, it's just a tool people use to measure life, and I think that should be taught more. You can't always make time and that should be expected and okay.
My problem with time management is that it gives you the message that only time that you use efficiently has value, and that doing nothing is a waste of time. But for your (mental) health it is very important to sometimes be lazy and do nothing. Being efficient is also not great for creativity
I can't believe that water heater example. That actually happened to a colleague of mine, he had a plumbing emergency in his house and took time to fix it obviously. But he didn't "find seven hours" he missed work and got behind on tasks as a result of it
Yeah, honestly the idea that you own your time just completely ignores the fact that at any moment you could have a life-changing (or at least schedule altering) emergency, like a water heater breaking, and it's impossible to anticipate every single possible issue that might come up.
Thing I would like to add ...
Time itself is rather a factor that just exists, independently of out actions and the physical world we exist in. When talking about the "time", it serves as a measurement, but the phenomena of time naturally cannot be controlled.
Instead, I prefer to use the term "energy", which is actually something that is elastic and one has some control over it. BUT, just like with the time, energy cannot be commodified either, as it relies on vast majority of both internal and external factors (helath condition, sleep quality, friendly environment, etc.) and comes in different levels and kinds that have different ways and potentials for utilization (such as physical energy, focus, mental capacity, even emotional state if you will). Time (as it flows independently, disregarding the physical world) can be divided into equal immutable chunks. Energy cannot. Doing an activity can change how you perceive and can do the following activity. If you feel exhausted, you effectiveness during the second activity is impacted.
And now we're getting to the context of the capitalist society, in which energy is almost never considered at all. Every task, every contract, everything within the job market (and outside) is based on time and what one can do within that time, but never (or rarely at best) on energy. And that's not only highly production-ineffective (unless you measure effectiveness with man-hours, instead of production output), as the worker achieves poor results and their output quality declines with time (more time = more exhaustion), not to mention being more prone to errors and accidents. I dare to say it's even inhumane. By not considering people as individuals with different needs and capabilities, we neglect their well-being and deny existence of some serious problems (being exhaused is seen as nothing more than a pathetic excuse). I am physically pretty weak, but as it's nothing I would have in my medical record, in the capitalist world it doesn't exist, and no one gives it any significance.
The pandemic showed us what exhaused doctors and nurses look like, yet the exhaustion is nothing exceptional and is way more common than that, we just don't see it, we perceive it as normal because it's so common it is embedded into our regular ordinary lives. If one notices some irregularities, they label it as "just a bad day that happens from time to time".
Time management is more than just propaganda, it's an insult and a denial of human nature. If someone spreads the word about managing your time, keeping your work-life balance, and following the 8-8-8 day, they completely ignore the fact that people have energy, and once they spend it during the first 8 hours (as businesses demand), they can barely do anything the next 8 hours. That's why people don't engage in social affairs (from socializing to participating in governing). That's why people don't educate themselves further. That's why people just spend the rest of their day half-awake, sipping beer, and watching sport matches and terrible soap operas. And that's why people can do nothing more than watching self-help videos that give them nothing but a slight dopamine shot in form of "it can be better" message.
Beautifully written.
I used to manage my free time really strictly result: it drained my passion for what I was making and also my creativity. Your videos are necessary! Thank u! workers of the world, unite!
It's important to understand rest and play is actually important for "productivity" and to accept that some days, just won't be "work productive" but will be "rest productive" and punishing ourselves more for not being productive is just detrimental to our mental health and ironically, our work productivity. (I say this but sometimes it's hard to apply to yourself).
As someone who is dealing with a lot of stress and pressure, but also a very busy schedule, I know I need a good routine for time management, just to make sure I don't forget anything. But at times I do wish I was able to have some more free time between tasks, because it can be draining in the longer run. I think planning well so you are sure urgent tasks get done, like going to work or paying a bill, is a goo reason to consider time management, but the second it becomes your entire life, I think you will feel more anxious than in control.
I absolutely cannot believe this dude straight faced says "just hire poor people from impoverished situations so you can pay them barely anything and be just slightly north of slave labor" omg
Honestly, take the time management tips with a grain of salt and use what is most useful to you and don't use what isn't. That being said, don't give up on doing things that you like because of the realization that the system is stacked against you. Just because there is a lower chance that you will succeed than what you were told doesn't mean there is no chance.
im doomed
Oh, that TED talk...A teacher of mine once told that story to us, and I remember thinking about it only to conclude it was a pretty shitty story. I'd like to talk to that woman, and ask her about that week, how stressed she was, how overwhelmed she got, or what things she didn't do those days to make time. And most importantly, if she would be willing to go through that same stress every single week of her life. Yeah she could make time by shifting her priorities, but what were those priorities? Sleep? Eating well? Time with family? A good long relaxing shower? We can all make time if we want, but should we?
This story is just very infuriating to me, and I just wished I had confronted my teacher about it. Knowing now he just stole the story from a TED talk I wonder if he would be able to defend his point lol.
That's so funny that your teacher stole the story. If he was going to plagiarize, he should have at least make the situation in the story a non-emergency to make the point better.
Ive been trying to "manage my time effectively" since middle school. Im well out of school now and still struggle to get the basics done and my self esteem is trashed because all i can think is "if only i could find 7 hours to take care of myself". But now i have 5 hrs of free time after work to do cooking, cleaning, shower + other hygiene things, take care of my cats, spend time with my partner, and also maintain my hobbies that take 3 hrs of me focusing on them to actually enjoy them... I just dont have time and as i get older i get less time as i have other household maintenance to do like making sure bills are paid or my car registration is renewed... It makes me want to just unalive myself thinking about it all. And i only have 5 hrs to do it unless its the weekend. Then on the weekend i have to do all the daytime errands i couldnt do after work like grocery shopping, oil change in the car, etc. Its just impossible. As you get older you get more and more on your plate. Things demand more ofnyour monthly income so you cant even take a days break let alone take a week vacation. Just.... Holy shit.... What an unliveable existence this is. Whats the point in all of us working together if we all are forced to drown alone in all this bullshit
All of this and i didnt mention how often i literally break down into tears while im stuck at work because all i can think of is all the places i wont have TIME to go to. Even if i was able to afford it. I CANT GOOOOO. IM TRAPPED
I thought this was only me feeling this way and feeling like I’m getting unhappier and having a harder time with time as a adult but idk capitalism is just meant to suck the life out of adults. And this is life. It’s not like you can escape it. It makes me just want to unalive myself. I can just hope we can keep pushing to change things somehow
There are socialist countries where you would likely feel much happier. It’s not impossible to move to those places. It’s worth looking into.
same here. i don't work, but still go to school where I'm literally almost every day from 8 to 3. now, i commute a lot of time every day and by the time i come home, i just have four to five hours to do everything i'd want on a workday. it's crazy. good luck out there xx
We got a new senior manager who insisted we all participate in a time management course. It consisted of several videos and exercises and would have taken up about two hours. After the first few minutes I realised it was very low-level do-your-job propaganda. When the video facilitator said "now just take a couple of minutes to think how you might do these tasks more efficiently" I paused my video and went to the managers office. I explained thus "We have spent 12 years streamlining and automating tasks and we are constantly short-staffed because we are no longer an employer of choice. You cannot squeeze any more productivity out until you can find an AI that can place information in the correct data points without adding comments about Hitler. As far as time management goes, now I am twenty minutes behind and will have to work back to make it up."
I used to be criticized all the time at my school because i was late to some of my classes. I never really cared about time management (and still don't to an extent but its getting to be more of an issue) and im honestly grateful for it because ive had more time to just, not care about the world at large, and thats something i need in order to function.
I have autism, and if i become over stimulated or stressed, i will break down and need at least 10 minutes (sometimes more) for me to calm down and be ready to do things again.
I work a job now at Starbucks and theyve really been good to me there, but if i have a breakdown, i always try to suck it up and push through because i don't want to let my coworkers down (even if we have enough people to not be swamped.) It doesn't feel good, and im trying to learn how to speak up in those instances so i can get the time i need to cool off.
Plus if im having a shitty day, or just don't feel good at all (and that can really effect me), i will still go into work ""they need me there to work"" when theyve never said that before and when i have called off, ive been met with only best wishes and hopes that i get better soon.
It probably isn't helped that my mom will always berate me for calling off of work for not feeling good emotionally, i think i need to confront her about that but yknow.
Anyway this was a pretty bussin video and i can't wait to see what else you have in store in the future :)
Your comment gave me flashbacks to why I have shoulder problems to this day. When I was in high school in Massachusetts, the law kept trying to minimize the amount of time kids could spend walking between classes for some reason, and the schools couldn’t be allowed to decide these things for themselves apparently. I went to a high school in a massive, sprawling building. Since they squished the time from bell to bell down to three minutes, I never had time to go to my own locker. As I result I carried all my books and gym clothes everywhere and got terrible shoulder problems. the obsession with time efficiency probably has so many consequences we can’t even begin to think of them all
Yes time management, when I was a kid I was sure Satan invented that. My parents were immigrants and timelynes is an issue for Latins. I sometimes would show up 5 minutes late to school so they make me stay after school as punishment. What they didn't realize was I had to run home because I had to look after my baby sister for my mom who would then be late for her shift at the bakery.
I worked as a construction laborer for about 7 months, during period I noticed less time I had. Not being able to do things I had to do that were important to my personal life or even things I enjoy doing outside of work. And because of this, I noticed myself getting more depressed. My body was just taking toll from all that time. The pay wasn’t really worth it and depressed me even more. I quit, I wouldn’t say I’m in a better position but.. my mind has never felt clearer. My body after a couple of weeks of leaving took some time to heal but, now I’m physically better. The work environment today really isn’t something I would hold to a pedestal.
Great video, that chap casually saying 'pay people in the Philippines' is so dystopian. Yeah just get someone to do it who you can pay slave wages to, that's the solution..
Unreal.
We get one life, one provable stretch of time each and anyone selling efficiency and time management are encroaching upon that time. There's become this idea that down time and relaxing for long periods is somehow sinful from the capitalists perspective, that somehow if it does nothing but feed the soul it is useless. It's a horrifying vision of life, that really we're just workers and anything outside of that is useless because the value isn't provable monetarily.
I was taught as a young lad that stuff and material possessions, jobs and work were all just stuff. Fluff and bilge that doesn't matter, what matters is empathy and real human connection, laughter and dancing and music. Bless my mum for imparting that stuff but once I entered the world all of my values and desire are seen as childish or naive.
Now the times I spend just being and trying live are being encroached upon by this capitalist conditioning, I feel guilt for just doing what I want, like I'm a failure because perhaps one day I just want to sit and play the playstation all day or something.
I hate it, I didn't ask for that guilt, I didn't ask to be born into a capitalist state and have this very real sense that something is wrong with the way we're 'supposed' to live, but I'm here and I have to deal with it.
Some of us don't want a career, some of us are just looking for work we can tolerate and be paid fairly for so that outside of work we get to do the things we actually want to do.
Maybe it is childish and naive, but as a teacher some of the smartest stuff I hear week in and week out comes from young people, people not twisted and ground up by these systems and super structures. Frankly as they get older and I see the same stuff that's hurt me my whole life hurt them, my heart breaks.
Loved this response, wow.
Amazing commentary. It touched my soul
u know u can play their own game and be a buisness owner
Also, referring to the water heater situation: Yes the woman managed to find the time, but it probably was detrimental to her living quality and mental health
I've been feeling like this that I'm guilty bc everyone my age or younger has work and I don't. and I always think about "I should do this, do that" or "I should learn a new hobby that I could monetize later on"
this is my take on purpose, biologically if you ate food, are warm and aint gotta do shit now then thats its you did it you achieved your purpose. i mean dogs seem happy as hell and all they do is run eat and nap
Do yourself the favor of not monetizing your hobbies, because that will just turn them into work. At least until capitalism collapses, all you're going to do is ruin any joy you might have found detaching from the oppressive wage system. If you must monetize a hobby, have another hobby that you don't monetize, because you will need the break.
@@Sljm8D thank you
Same. I relate to this so so so hard.
@@Sljm8D
I hate capitalism
Even him saying time is worth this much money says it all 😭
Seriously, if his hours are literally worth $25 each, someone could buy 100 years worth of his hours to justify killing him.
That’s crazy.
When I first read this title, it felt very bold and daunting. Watching the video, I understood what you meant and tried to achieve. It's comforting thinking about how we are not measured by how we use our time.
On time management: I wrote a 20 page narrative poem during the summer of 2021, from May until August of that year.
It was a poem written in common meter that I wrote between days at work and days where I just didn't have the creative energy to do it. I wrote it part by part, splitting it into a trilogy filled with different specific parts.
I sincerely doubt I could've written it with any sincere and straightforward time management skills in mind. I had to write it in spurts during the summer in order to finish it.
It's creative endeavors like this that can't be solved by Capitalistic perceptions of time management. I can't believe that generations of labor unions and strikes are about to be undone by this gnawing hunger for crystalline time management. That we could be looking at future generations working 10, 15 hour shifts again when we used to fight against that very idea AND even said that that wasn't going to be enough.
I don't wanna live in world where my time is robotic. I want my time and energy to flow where it needs to be, not be situated in it's own dark cell of repetition.
“hire people whose time is worth less than yours” oooof! This video is so great
Why did that Ted speaker give an example of an emergency as a "Time Opener". Like that just speaks volumes as to how much thought was really given. I have to work, cook, clean, take care of kids. Oh look, the car has exploded. I now has all this "Free Time" to do a triatholon.... lmfao.
THANK YOU i needed some validation, as a child i was so tired of hearing "you have so many time, you can study a lot more" when i was in threating condition, i was fighting for survive and i slept 4 hours a day. Maybe someone with better health and family situation, and financial situation could do more but i was spearing every single second.
Having struggles with anxiety has made me very hyper aware of my time and how I plan it. Always want to control every minute to my liking.
I’ve binged this sort of content to give myself a push, do more with my time. Trying to find some type of technique or trick, to boost my motivation and accomplish more in less time.
My type of cherishing time would be to spend it doing something, but this way of thinking has let me spiral into an even more anxious mess and feeling guilty when resting, because I feel that life is short and I should be doing something.
really been feeling this lately, because I quit my job and I have found myself feeling the need to be absolutely mega productive in the time that I’m not using to find another job 🙃 there is really no escape lol. excited to see what this vid holds!!
Taking "Time is Money" to the logical conclusion is such a mindfuck
It does seem to capital. For them, they are equivalent and exchangable means of production
Fellow ADHD? Refuting hustle grindset propaganda? Insta-sub.
Also many thanks for directly referencing Marx. A lot of people hate capitalism but aren't equipped with Marxist theory to deconstruct capitalism because of Red Scare.
Wait. Is the Red Scare the reason why the number of deaths for communism is fudged up?
Lazy culture lmao
Thanks for making this vid, more people need to see this. I struggle a lot with time management but at the most basic level- getting up, making food, just constantly getting distracted, etc. So I do need help in that aspect but this hyper-productivity culture makes it really stressful and impossible feeling to accomplish “what everyone else can” when I struggle with basic functions. My friend who’s the opposite also struggles with this culture and got burnt out and needed to take a year away from his Ivy League school. I don’t know the solution but these tips are not it
I’m wary of neurotypical advice because we’ll it’s from a neurotypical perspective and when we expect of ourselves that which comes easier to others not taking into account our brain is wired totally different this can be quite devastating for the self esteem and so stuff that is great advice for most could actually be the worst for someone with adhd. I could go on & on & on abt this topic since I’m always trying to figure out how to function in the most basic of ways despite the fact I reached full neurodivergent burn out and retired at 27 lol.
thank you for this video. i'm a working class student with mental health issues and while i try not to be too hard on myself, i feel sad thinking about the fact that i still can't play my guitar well, that i don't exercise, or work more hours, or keep my house spotless all the time. but then i remember that the way i spend my free time makes me happy, for example watching a silly film while cuddling with my partner, while playing games, and learning new niche things. i'm just doing the minimum i need to do to get by right now to protect my mental health, and i know things will work out just fine.
highly recommend the book 'rest is resistance'! it is a powerful anti-grindset message. id highly rec the audiobook version too as the author did a great job reading it.
That one about the flooded basement and the "elastic time", yes she found 7 hours, but what did she sacrifice. Did she miss her lunch break? Wash she late for work or did she take time off? Did she drive or catch a taxi instead of walking or using public transport to make up time despite the added cost. Was she then unable to do things she normally did in that time, like catch up on emails or read? Did she get full nights of sleep that week? She found the time. But where did she find it. What was sacrificed - and was that something that didn't really cost her? Or something that is healthy to sacrifice in the long run?
Just because you *could* push yourself to prioritise work over idk rest, enjoying your free time, etc and even figure out a way to make it feel "not that bad" on a psychological level - still doesn't mean you *should*.
I did it for most of 2022! Figured out a system to manage twice as many classes in Uni as I ever had before! Figured out how to stay busy, stay out of the house, get a few hours of studying done every day, attend all my classes, manage my caffeine and food in order to keep me going and even managed to Not get depressed and horribly anxious, like I had been a few years before when I tried to be this "productive". Lost 15kg, got average to pretty good grades, didn't fail a single class, slept 4-6h a night, cut out all the dedicated nature walks and fun kinds of exercise like skating and bouldering I picked up during zoom uni, now that I could go back in person. (Because who needs dedicated "outside" time to move and look at things further than 10 feet from me when I go outside every day to get to campus?? Running for the train while carrying a heavy af backpack, hurrying to try and squeeze some food in between classes, etc surely has the same value as those time wasting walks to the lake, learning to skate, watching the sunset while sitting on a swing!)
And now... I'm getting tested for autoimmune disorders because my body is Not Okay. And I feel kind of stupid because I never ever considered the compound effect of living with chronic stress on Physical health. I have always struggled with stress psychologically, but I finally got a handle on that! ...turns out that's not the only limiting factor or way your body/brain is telling you to slow down.
So yeah, I have a special hate for that TEDtalk with the "finding 7 extra hours to do more", cause I did, and I got rewarded with (drumroll) chronic health issues!! What a success story! Truly maximised my potential there 🥳
Time management is definitely a way to shift the blame onto the individual employee or just person.
The best thing I've done for myself is work as little as possible. Most of 2022 I worked full time because my partner had brain surgery and we needed the money. But these days, and most of the 2021 I worked 4 days a week because that's simply enough to live off. It's very freeing. Now I'm working on TH-cam videos because that's been a dream of mine for literally about a decade.
Just wondering but whats the appeal of youtube? Like i watch my fair share of videos but i really cant see myself being on the other side of the screen. So like, what do you like about it?
@@WhatIsMyPorpoise my videos are critique and commentary on games. When I was a kid I definitely just wanted to do let's play and stuff like that. But these days I just like that the internet lets everyone have a voice. So I'm making essays about games. There's only 2 on my channel, and they're both about 50 minutes long. The next one I'm working on will be 3-4 hours long though. I just like that I have a place to talk all about a game, especially when people in my life don't wanna listen to me talk about Far Cry 3 for 3-4 hours. I just love art critique, so I'm going to participate in it.
TH-cam allows people to potentially make a career from that. So that's cool. But I don't think I'll ever be able to do that. I'm just doing it for fun.
I also loooove editing videos. So having hours of footage to edit for each project is cool.
@@goosewithagibus cool to know
I was in my self help self improvement side hustle era during 2020 when my job switched from in office to online. I expected to be better and able to relax more now that I was able to "schedule my time and get everything done". What happened instead was being super stressed out because I was worried about "wasting free time" and micro managing every part of my day. In addition to that, now that I was at home my parents could see what parts of my day I was working and what parts of my day were free. They were hyper productive individualistic types so there was that added pressure to use all my free time to "do something useful and forget that nonsense you're doing" (the nonsense being simply resting and watching videos and shows). Free time has been demonized so much. There is a lot of unlearning to do from toxic productivity. Sorry for the long message but I appreciate people like you who question beliefs that seems to be commonly shared by everyone. Thank you for your work!
I've tried time management, but I absolutely cannot stand it. It's why I'm aiming to be self-employed. Online classes in university where I can't like...do EVERYTHING at the start when I'm motivated/interested was difficult for me (I got through them just fine) but managing my own time? Not great, honestly. Especially after the pandemic.
Last semester in my intercultural communication class, however, I learned about different time orientations in different cultures. While I was raised in a Western culture, I got a Montessori education and had freedom to get things done based more on interest, not optimization. Because of this, I think with schooling from preschool through 8th grade, I was raised with a more polychronemic time orientation (based more on seasons and crop harvesting) rather than linear/monochronemic (which is one we're familiar with if you're from the US, as it is VERY present in US workplaces). There are many cultures who have polychronemic orientations at the forefront rather than monochronemic orientations, so that's what came to mind, just starting this video.
Great stuff as always!!
As someone who is self employed- if you cant manage your time well, you will not make it. Time management is a discipline you have to master.
@@th3azscorpio Ugh, you're right. I'm self employed and a student, too, and it's really tough... I can manage everything but what I want to do for self-employment!!! 🙃
@@molliejustin1432 If self employment is what you want, you need to master self discipline. And in the beginning starting out, most of your time will not be yours. Yes its liberating to call your own shots but your aslo responsible for more as well. You actually work harder self employed than as an employee. Not trying to scare you. But its definitely worth it in the end. Wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.
@@th3azscorpio Yes, I do know this much. Thank you for the advice and encouragement!!
I remember a similar concept during training to become a real estate agent back about 18 years ago: “we get what we want whether we think we want it or not”. Basically, if we desire some better result and we don’t reach that goal, then we didn’t want it badly enough to change what we’d have to change about ourselves and our situations to get it -therefore we didn’t actually want those things. I just wanted to be free of worry about money, but they pushed us all to envision what having wealth would be like. I printed off a picture of a green and black Camaro because that’s the car my crush liked. Manufacturing desire :/. 20 years on, I can see that this is mostly just some prosperity gospel/law of attraction/bootstraps balonium! People have unequal connections, talents, and and physical features. Whatever happened to just recognizing some people as blessed/gifted/fortunate? You can even be blessed with parents who push you to study and achieve…. if you want all that comes with that.
Time management has been a part of humanity since agriculture was invented. I understand that time management exclusively for profit is bad but not having any time management skills is worse. Time management is necessary because we all have a finite time here on earth and need to spend that time wisely. I think videos like this make it hard for non-leftists to really understand what we talk about when we deny things that are co-opted by capitalists but aren’t inherently bad. You can manage you time to allow more family time, more exercise, more therapy sessions etc.
It doesn’t always have to be about starting a business and treating it like that makes us leftists seem really naive
Capitalism commodifying time itself is basically synonymous with the end of history. "Capitalist Realism" talks about this thoroughly and in incredible depth
It's like that dismissive "We all have the same 24 hours!"
"Time is supposed to be cherished, not managed." AMEN.
my adhd makes execution difficult, time management is artificially induced to be yet another hoop to jump through, and feels impossible to meet the standards of. they’re unnatural. say that to any boomer and i guarantee someone will call you “lazy”… no i’m just almost 30, got a house, kid, trying to attend therapy and work without crawling in a hole first. the pressure to perform and perfect, to plan, to decide….i’m tired.
the lady is wild for saying we gotta prioritize correctly…lol can they even afford it? emergencies are not goals. tf 15:30
Is it just me, or does the outsourcing of one's time seem like an MLM? If you're the one, whose value is appreciated to be less than that of someone else, you're already at the bottom of the pyramid. If so, the odds are already against you and as usual, those at the top are actually not willing to share with you. The game is rigged from the very beginning and without privilege and luck, you will not be able to "manage" your time nor create more value for yourself. Exploitation of others is the vehicle, and inequality the motor.
Thank you Elliot for another thoughtful and thought provoking video, I'm so happy to have stumbled upon your channel.
Stuff like that Ted talk example always makes me think- who hurt you? Everything is supposed to be stressed like it's life or death? Emergencies suck, they're not usually empowering. You work all day, take care of yourself and your home, try to take care of your relationships, etc, and usually some things get left behind and you just hope those situations aren't burning to the ground by the time you've handled the emergency.
The idea that you should work until you drop, sleep 6 hours and do it again is a psychological illness.
What I find interesting as well is that there’s a constant talk from people like Ali Abdaal about “freeing up more time” such as delegating work to others and completing your to do list faster and faster. But what do those same people then choose to do with all this free time? They add more things to do. They try and become even more productive. The more time they “free up”, the more things they add on and they’re not actually freeing up any time at all. They’re stuck in the same system that they’re promoting.
Water heater lady didn't FIND 7 hours, she USED 7 hours to take care of the emergency ISNTEAD of other things