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"where were you when I was at my worst Wasn't there for me That's the part that hurts Where were you When I was scared to trust (mom and dad) I still opened up (with my mom and dad) Guess I'm just too much (for my mom and dad)"
Exactly, for me it feels like being thrown out like I just don't matter, and being told so, won't mention Exactly what was said, but I'm still here! Thanks citizen soldier for all these helpful songs❤
This album keeps getting better and better! This song reminds me of my own family. They never helped. It took my husband to finally help me start healing. Thank you Citizen Soldier
same except both me and my wife come from abusive homes the only difference is when i confronted my family about the abuse they realized what they did and are actively trying to do better. My wife's family on the other hand is a complete 180 from mine and I hate it. but we have our own family and she has decided life is to short for toxic family.
Not only did mine not help. They stole $26,000 from my savings and bought them selves a new house while I was deployed comming up on the end of my contract and I went homeless for 4 months upon getting out.
I keep getting burned but I always try to trust again even though I know that eventually they will turn against me. I keep holding on to hope that there will be somebody who will really be there and stay
@@jessicaadams2914 Its good that you’re holding on hope, I suggest standing up for yourself more and not letting it get to that point if it’s possible.
Ppl with the most caring hearts always seem to be the ones that get theirs broken... but hugs to u just remember if we have to be broken at least we can be broken together
Who abandoned me? My friends, my family. They kept saying "we will give you time" or "do sth with yourself" when I just needed someone to be with me. Amazing song, it really makes me cry but not in the bad way^^ Really thank you for another masterpiece!
"I'm nowhere close to healing" That line rings so true, especially since even when im at my worst i choose to neglect myself so i could make sure that those i care about are happy.
Citizen Soldier doesn't need click bait... As soon as I see a new upload I am clicking on it immediately knowing I am going to severely enjoy the next few minutes. You may not realize how much good your songs do to the world. I literally changed a few habits in my life just reflecting to your songs. Let the world know their name.
You guys really manage to discribe my inner pain in a way I will never be abel to. "I don't need someone to preach to me" "I just need a little empathy" but "this (feels) so one-sided' cause when you needed me I'd never hesitste" "so in the end it's probably best to say nothing" I know that my best friend is going through a lot herself so I don't want to burden her with my own problems too. 'Specialy because my problems don't feel that bad compared to others. That's why I always feel so guilty when I think of my "problems"... My friend told me that she can't talk with me about her stuff either but once we did talk a little and well.... I tried to explain to her what my heavy anxiety feels like and she just gave me sayings like "Yeah, wait till school is over. It will get better." But my anxiety is not just based on school! Anytime I try to talk with someone it's like the air is being sucked out off my lungs! I'm scared of opening up again and recieving the same answer... "so in the end it's probably best to say nothing" If you read this to the end.... Thank you❤ That felt really good
I'm 32, and relationships aside, this song helps me sort through my truth that these feelings started with my parents. Still, they are nowhere to be seen when I need someone. I'm grateful for all of Citizen Soldier's music. It helps me sort through my pain and grow. 🖤
When the monsters in my head keep screaming at me telling me I'm worthless, I'm a burden so just do everyone a favour and end it. When every breath is a struggle and every heartbeat hurts. And I constantly stare at myself in the mirror and tell myself to just hold on just a little bit longer and at the same time I'm begging God to just stop my heart from beating. Just to make the pain go away and the voices to stop. But still I get up, put on the full armor of God and prepare to fight through the tears and the pain. I'm tired but I can't quit.
I have been there too, some days I still am, so when I say I know it's hard but keep fighting know that I am not saying that lightly. I know the weight and how exhausting the fight is, but just take it one day at a time. You can do this. 🙂
I'm disabled and doing pretty well on a day to day basis, but I've always struggled with feeling like a freak: different, inadequate, lonely, misunderstood. It's hard for me to open up to people. A couple of years ago I had a few so-called "friends" who claimed to understand me and be there for me yet they walked away. I don't think about them anymore but I wish I had this song to turn to then. Citizen Soldier's music is a great outlet for all my deeply hidden emotions. It feels like you guys get what it's like to be me. Thank you ❤
This one hits hard as hell, I have really bad abandonment issues, and this one just puts so many words into what I can't, thank you so much for this wonderful song, I've been looking forward to it a lot since the first teaser!
I think so many people are trying to watch this at the same time that it's crashig... (or at least for me it is) Thank you for this song, Citizen Soldier! Your art is amazing. You never disappoint, you're out there saving lives. I hope you know just how loved you are!
Just when I think I've heard your Best, you blow it out of the water with more Amazinggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg Songs. Jake you are so Talented and your Lyrical ability is out of this World. Thank You for speaking to the Wounded Souls and For the non stop just amazing Music. Forever a Soldier for the Citizen
Instantly my new favorite CS song of all time I've never related to anything more in my entire life Thank you for letting our souls scream with you, Jake
Thank you citizen soldier this song goes out to the person who I thought was my best friend jake voice at the end makes me wanna cry it is so beautiful
Thank you. It's a slap in the face when everyone tells you how you are always so strong and reliable ... yet where are they when your world shatters. Thank for saying the things so many survivors think while trapped in hell. For a few minutes we are not forgotten.
"You can "always" reach out to me." Then they ghost you and act like you're inconveniencing them. My "friend" turned on me for being depressed and lonely.
You can forgive if you can’t forget. Nobody tells you to forget. These are the memories that make each and every one of us the beautiful people that God sees ❤ I’m not asking you to forget…
who abandoned me? I'm.. not sure about that.. I don't even know who I should expect not to abandon me... but.. no one will do it again... for sure. Cool song, Thanks CS
1:04 is my favorite part. Even that hallway looks familiar to my past. And the lyrics are so damn true. Back then I had Three Days Grace to help me through this. Citizen Soldier is like a new era Three Days Grace for me with similar music. Everything is different but still the same. Your music is helping me and others heal. Please keep it up. I want to see you guys live someday.
I wish I could send this to the woman who yelled at me for calling at 7am when I was freezing to death on the streets after being abused by a stranger. (the lyrics fit flawlessly, love that of this band's music that it brings such solidarity, comfort and healing by just stating thire experiences that just line up with so many others) AFTER she said she would do her best to be there for me. Happy to stand in as a mother figure. She didn't answer but the next day called me and yelled at me for calling so early and didn't care it was because I needed serious help. It wasn't the only time she left me hanging but then she later got angry at me when I broke contact with her and had the decency to politely tell her so. Didn't even accuse or articulate why. Just said we disagreed on too many life matters I no longer knew how to remove that fact from us seeing each other. She never responded. Not even to confirm she accepted the request to not be in contact anymore. Then when we met months later she got angry that I asked to stop being friends and claimed texts were sent that never were and denied sending the ones she did send. Not once the whole time ever asking if I was okay. I survived my ordeal but alone. Suffering further from it. I guess at least she respected that much about me by not reply before but it remains so sad what your closest friends and family get away with. I have worse horror stories from worse than her but it still leaves a mark. 😢 If you have someone abusing you, letting you down or doing anything that just hurts you and they don't care, acknowledge or apologise. Leave them. It hurts but staying only breeds new scars. No longer having them around lets the ones they already have made. Heal.
I'm so sorry you had to endure all that alone. Sounds to me like she was a narcissist - they never accept responsibility for anything. They just blame their victims. You were wise to cut contact. I hope you have better people in your life now. Everyone deserves to have at least one true friend that will stand by them.
@@ednafitzgerald3792 Thank you for your compassion. I agree and yes, I have one now. Ironically they all keep trying to tear us apart, always saying that he is no good to me just because he is unwell. Like everyone does, we have fights and disagree, but afterwards he owns his actions and apologies. (something they never have done in over a decade of knowing them. They are older and healthier but don't treat either of us right) He actually has a condition where he isn't in control of his own mind and cannot understand all the time when a phrase offends or hurts someone but he apologizes later and strives to understand and do better. If a man without full control of his own mind with added memory issues can still own his own mistakes (even if he cannot remember making them) apologize and try to do better what in the frig does it say about the ones we know that have no mental health issues and cannot under any circumstances it seems own or acknowledge that they hurt you? Even when you point it out to them they just turn it back on you. I really don't think he is the issue here. You're right about getting away from them being the best idea. I tried to reconnect recently and it went so wild and horrible. It's like trying to communicate with a pack of ferral selfish immature ally cats! (and that's an insult to cats) My point is it was really bad. So yeah sticking with the good one only. If nothing else he's earnt more of the right to be in my life than any of them ever can. All the best you too. Thanks again for your reply.
@ednafitzgerald3792 Thank you for your compassion. I agree and yes, I have one now. Ironically they all keep trying to tear us apart, always saying that he is no good to me just because he is unwell. Like everyone does, we have fights and disagree, but afterwards he owns his actions and apologies. (something they never have done in over a decade of knowing them. They are older and healthier but don't treat either of us right) He actually has a condition where he isn't in control of his own mind and cannot understand all the time when a phrase offends or hurts someone but he apologizes later and strives to understand and do better. If a man without full control of his own mind with added memory issues can still own his own mistakes (even if he cannot remember making them) apologize and try to do better what in the frig does it say about the ones we know that have no mental health issues and cannot under any circumstances it seems own or acknowledge that they hurt you? Even when you point it out to them they just turn it back on you. I really don't think he is the issue here. You're right about getting away from them being the best idea. I tried to reconnect recently and it went so wild and horrible. It's like trying to communicate with a pack of ferral selfish immature ally cats! (and that's an insult to cats) My point is it was really bad. So yeah sticking with the good one only. If nothing else he's earnt more of the right to be in my life than any of them ever can. All the best you too. Thanks again for your reply.
@@WriterDreams44 Don't mention it! When you were 'raised' by a narcissist, you learn to spot the signs. They are immature, spoiled, entitled, self-righteous people. You can't trust a word they say. They act like their feelings and opinions are the only ones that count and if you disagree with them about anything - you're wrong. They demand you make changes to accommodate them but will never seek to improve themselves because they are NEVER the problem. They want you to think of them as perfect, selfless individuals - yet in truth they're only using you to make them feel better about themselves. They LOVE to play the victim card, but it's all just a web of lies to manipulate people into feeling sorry for them and giving them what they want. Nothing but a lot of "woe is me! Life is so unfair!" self-pitying nonsense. Whatever she blamed you for or accused you of was a bunch of malarkey. SHE is the problem. She's the one that needs to make changes and take responsibility for her cruelty; not you. A real friend doesn't lie or make excuses for themselves when you tell them they've hurt you, nor do they don't blame you for being hurt; they apologize and try to avoid making the same mistake in the future. Don't listen if someone tells you that your feelings aren't important, or that you don't have the right to be in pain over something someone did or said to you (even if it's been YEARS and the wounds still linger). Contrary to popular belief, time does NOT heal all wounds. It's possible to forgive someone without allowing them to stay in your life and continue to abuse you. Reconciliation and forgiveness are NOT the same thing. It doesn't help anyone to LET them abuse you. You have a right to set boundaries. Don't let anyone guilt you into letting them back into your life on the grounds you owe them for something (that's emotional extortion and it's an evil practice). I'm glad to hear you have someone who genuinely cares about you now! I hope the two of you can support each other during the hard times and get through challenges together! Putting others first is good, but try not to forget that YOU matter too! You can't pour from an empty cup, so please take care of yourself! If no one has asked you in a while, it's good to stop and ask yourself, "How AM I doing right now?" If you're stressed out or in pain, take a moment for you and give yourself permission to cry. You've been badly hurt and you're allowed to cry sometimes. It's not weakness; it's self-care. You are valuable - not because of the things you can do or what others can GET out of you. You are valuable because of who you are. Even if you had never accomplished anything, your life would still be precious because you are a human being. That makes you worthy of loyalty. Worthy of love. Worthy of life.
I constantly quote "I'd rather hear your hell than see your funeral." i have always felt like this, i only have 1 friend that has stuck with me through everything, and a lot of my old friends took their own lives so i constantly remind my best friend that they are never a burden to me and they can always talk to me, or even just not say anything, i will be there whenever they need it
Infinitely love you my Rock Gods🩵💯 You can always give me words to express emotions i didnt have words for & your music continues to save my life with every new song🩵💯
Where were you? This song is definitely a bit different than what I expected, but I'm not disappointed by that, it matches, every lyric is there and every beat has that touch that just says everything Every album just gets better and better to the point I don't know what to say. Thank you❤
I think I may have found a new favorite band. You put everything in my head into words. My first suicide attempt was on February 4th of 2024 and every single one of your songs simply screams the emotions in my head. Thank you for putting these words into song and allowing people like me to hear we're not alone and begin to heal through your music.
Dang this song hits to close to home for confort.....I had no one growing up from ages to 3 to 8 sometimes even now i dont have people(im 14) but i always make sure im their when someone else needs me because im scared their feel what i felt
I just found this band out other day from a friend. Ive never cried so much and appreciated music so much. Were not fighting this battle alone. Stay strong everyone. Thank you Citizen Soldier.
What hurts the most is giving someone your all, they tell you they love you and will always be there but they move on to be with someone else saying they are still here for support but you can’t help but hurt as you look at them or talk to them because they still have all your heart but you don’t have theirs
Is it crazy that I relate this song to myself? Asking myself where was I when I needed myself to be there FOR myself the most? Sometimes that is one of the hardest things to do, being there for yourself. Thanks for another treasure Citizen Soldier 🖤
This song hits hard for so many people i opened up and trusted,turn their backs on me when i needed someone when i was in a dark place but need me to be there for them
this is the song i needed.. currently going through this exact thing.. i can feel every lyric in this song... this is the exact thing I feel right now.. biggest one being "this was all one sided, 'cause when you needed me, i'd never hesitate.. but that don't reciprocate"
This~ really cuts deep.. I feel abandoned, alone, but it’s really no one’s fault that I have to much interference to hear clear, or trust fully. I love how this track came out ~ sounds amazing 🎉
yep, that hits home. could be dedicated to BOTH my parents. glad i can say that "i'm nowhere close to healing" is no longer relatable though. on a side note, this song also a total banger. those instrumentals are just ~chefs kiss~
Damn this song is so good I love it so much it describes so many peoples pain yall are literally a citizen soldier you all fight for people and give them reasons to stay and songs to cope yall really saved many peoples lives
March 31, 2024. Today im dropping this comment to let you know that im gonna be a big shot artist soon. My songs will be bangers shortly. And when that happens, I'll make sure to slide back here and leave a comment, so that all you guys who believed in me can be proud. I wish you all the best and don't mistake my confidence for arrogance. Peace out 🙏🏼
This song reminds me of a lot of people with trust issues. And I am the only one that those people can trust. I also have struggled with the fear of abandonment. So this song means a lot. Thank you, citizen soldiers ❤❤❤
I love all of your songs, they hit me at a personal level. This song reminds me of when I was first dealing with depression back in middle school. When I told my friends, they didn't react how I thought they would. They replaced me. When I went through a tough break up, they weren't there to comfort me. I had no shoulder to lean on then and through all of high school. Music is what helps me. I love this song so much. I'd love to go to one of your concerts some day.
This song makes me heal, My mom hasn't been a part of my life for 25 years and never even put an effort to see her children. And I've been in a lot of relationships that were painful growing up. Thank you, Citizen Soldier for healing my heart!
what i wouldnt give to be able to hear you live.. its insane how deep more or less all your songs connect with ppl and how much many of us can relate to the lyrics.. ill never hope you stop makeing music about things like this.. citizen soldier is a gift for everyone that dont have anyone to talk to or dont understand how hard stuff like this actually is to live with.. whenever i need to get words on how i feel this is where im at listening to this band.. i really hope you understand how much you actually help ppl with your music..
I'm not depressed anymore, but I still love listening to these songs and reading the comments. Admittedly, there are the most hurt people here, but at the same time the kindest. Take care.
As one of us who are going through really hard times or those who have gone through it, i would just like to thank you for the amazing songs. I found this group by accident last year and i am thankfull for it. As someone who sings for the voiceless and the ones suffering i do really hope you understand the level of hope and help you are providing to us all. These songs do help us heal little by little and it gives us strength to continue. Keep up the good fight, and if life ever gets hard for you once more i do hope you believe in yourself as you believe in us all
Guys, your songs keep hitting some of the hardest points for me to confront. I still feel wired for worthless, but this music is better expressing where I’m at these last couple years than I could with my own words. So thank you to the entire band, Citizen Soldier, for giving me something to help me cope and vent it out. You really are doing more for me than you probably realize. Or maybe you do. Regardless, you’re heroes to me, speaking just for myself.
Thank you, guys, so much. There are literally no words for what impact you guys have on not just my life but EVERYONE's. This song is an absolute necessity for anyone going through a rough spot. Especially people like me, dealing with such people, and asking myself such questions.
How is it every time you release a song, it’s the perfect song that I needed right then and it’s perfect for my situation? I’ve been here since Let it Burn, and I’ve never commented until now, but I just want to say that I really appreciate you guys. You have saved me from the ledge so many times with so many of your songs and whenever I realize that I’m slipping again I come back and listen to you guys so I know that I’m not alone. Thank you Citizen soldier so much for everything you’ve done and everything you will do. Words just cannot express how much you’ve done for others and for me. Thank you.
I have learned that I don’t have to be loved in return to love unconditionally. It helps me manage expectations because I know no one will ever feel what I feel for them. It took me a long time to realize that. But if I can manage my expectations and just let my heart love then I have more peace and cry less.
I don’t know how you guys keep doing this- how you keep putting into words EXACTLY what I feel and how I’ve struggled. This is one of those songs that really resonates with me, because I’ve had to ask this question so many times. My family is never there when I really need them. They never offer to help on their own, and any time I reach out and ask for it, they tell me that I’m being overdramatic and that I’m just too lazy to do things myself. Despite that, my dad still spends dozens of hours a week helping my uncle, who openly takes advantage of his trust and lies to his face. He still takes the time to help his old coworkers, even though he’s been retired for a few years now. He would never go to those same lengths for me. One of the most painful examples of this came up half a year ago. I’m prone to fainting, and one day, I blacked out while driving. By some miracle, I didn’t veer off the road or hit anything, but that incident horrified me… and what did my family do when I told them about it? Nothing. I literally could have died, and they still couldn’t be bothered to step in and help. They still made me drive myself to work the next day, even though it could have been dangerous for me, and they never so much as mentioned it again. Not even my life being at risk was enough to make them step in.
I never really comment on anything, but this song hits home so hard. I was abandoned by my “best friend” of almost 10 years (would’ve been 10 in May). I opened up to her and she knew everything about my past, my childhood trauma, all the friends who walked out on me as soon as I opened up to them, my nightly panic attacks, even how I was manipulated throughout my entire childhood by my aunt. I did whatever I could to help her through everything I had the power to, lost countless hours of sleep, missed out on so many important moments in life that I’ll never get back, just for her to reconnect with an old friend of hers and leave. I could slowly see a difference in her mannerisms, but the thought of finally having a friend who I thought cared about me just made me want to ignore it, so I would apologize about things even as far as standing up for myself. I soon found Citizen Soldier through the song “Through Hell” and immediately fell in love with their music and their message. I can proudly say that this has been the year I finally said enough was enough and began my journey to leave a toxic “friendship” and I still feel stuck, but free at the same time. Seeing the comments of others in this community makes me realize that I’m not alone, but also that I’m stronger than I ever realized. So, I really have to say Thank you to not just CZ, but to everyone in the CZ community. None of y’all will ever know just how much you’ve saved me. In case you haven’t heard this today, I love you and I am so proud of you. 🖤
I dedicate this song to my dads family who stole all his things when he died so I couldn't have something to remember him then abandoned me 12 years ago
I found their music a few years ago and I've never looked back. I always appreciated having someone relate and be able to put into words. But holy crap this one got me. Abandoned by both, one just stayed in the house.
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❤.this song couldn't be the most truth. 😢..... where were you 😢😢
Can't fricking wait for the album. Might get merchandise for it too
"where were you when I was at my worst
Wasn't there for me
That's the part that hurts
Where were you
When I was scared to trust (mom and dad)
I still opened up (with my mom and dad)
Guess I'm just too much (for my mom and dad)"
Wish you could put extra plus sizes, some of us like oversized 😢
What hurts is not feeling seen by the people closest to you but great song
Exactly 🫶
Or the feeling of trying to reach out and even the people closest to u don't seam to notice
Exactly, for me it feels like being thrown out like I just don't matter, and being told so, won't mention Exactly what was said, but I'm still here!
Thanks citizen soldier for all these helpful songs❤
@@CitizenSoldier thank yall for making this song, it really helps describe how i feel
❤️❤️ feels
This album keeps getting better and better! This song reminds me of my own family. They never helped. It took my husband to finally help me start healing. Thank you Citizen Soldier
Appreciate you 🫶
Agreed 👍
Citizen soldiers are the reason I been feeling better because of there music & knowing I ain’t alone in the darkness
Felt that
same except both me and my wife come from abusive homes the only difference is when i confronted my family about the abuse they realized what they did and are actively trying to do better. My wife's family on the other hand is a complete 180 from mine and I hate it. but we have our own family and she has decided life is to short for toxic family.
Not only did mine not help. They stole $26,000 from my savings and bought them selves a new house while I was deployed comming up on the end of my contract and I went homeless for 4 months upon getting out.
“This was so one-sided 'cause when you needed me
I'd never hesitate but that don't reciprocate” hits so hard 😔
Indeed, that feeling of betrayal but still trust
I keep getting burned but I always try to trust again even though I know that eventually they will turn against me. I keep holding on to hope that there will be somebody who will really be there and stay
@@jessicaadams2914 Its good that you’re holding on hope, I suggest standing up for yourself more and not letting it get to that point if it’s possible.
"I'm nowhere close to healing"
Another incredible song, much love! ❤️
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The part that hurts is feeling inadequate and invisible
And knowing if I passed very few people would truly care or miss me
@@luciferpetrenkoff5040 hugs 🫂
Sending hugs 🫶
Hugs 🫂 .
it's hard to feel that way.
Ppl with the most caring hearts always seem to be the ones that get theirs broken... but hugs to u just remember if we have to be broken at least we can be broken together
Who abandoned me? My friends, my family. They kept saying "we will give you time" or "do sth with yourself" when I just needed someone to be with me.
Amazing song, it really makes me cry but not in the bad way^^ Really thank you for another masterpiece!
We hear you 🫶
I'm sorry that happened to you, just know that making it through your problems makes you stronger than those who've wronged you. Have a great day.
@@tinycoinfromholland1391 Thank you^^
Nice username and pic, tinycoin
@@1onebox902 Thanks
I’m literally in tears rn. This song opened up that wound again, but I still love it. It makes me feel I’m not the only one who went through it. 😭
"I'm nowhere close to healing"
That line rings so true, especially since even when im at my worst i choose to neglect myself so i could make sure that those i care about are happy.
This is too real... It hurts even til' this day
Sending hugs 🫂🫶
@@CitizenSoldier thank you so much. Love you lot 🫶
Was just thinking the same thing my friend
@@tayplaysgames7480 i hope it gets better for you real soon, friend ❤️
Agreed
"When i needed you there, you didnt seem to care" hit me so hard.. my dad was never there, he was an addict.. 💔
Sending hugs 🫂🫶
I feel this my dad's an alcoholic and after my mum's suicide it's like he's there physically but never there at the same time
"the trust you betrayed"is everyone in my life
things will get better
Citizen Soldier doesn't need click bait... As soon as I see a new upload I am clicking on it immediately knowing I am going to severely enjoy the next few minutes.
You may not realize how much good your songs do to the world. I literally changed a few habits in my life just reflecting to your songs.
Let the world know their name.
Appreciate those words 🫶
You guys really manage to discribe my inner pain in a way I will never be abel to. "I don't need someone to preach to me" "I just need a little empathy" but "this (feels) so one-sided' cause when you needed me I'd never hesitste" "so in the end it's probably best to say nothing"
I know that my best friend is going through a lot herself so I don't want to burden her with my own problems too. 'Specialy because my problems don't feel that bad compared to others. That's why I always feel so guilty when I think of my "problems"...
My friend told me that she can't talk with me about her stuff either but once we did talk a little and well.... I tried to explain to her what my heavy anxiety feels like and she just gave me sayings like "Yeah, wait till school is over. It will get better." But my anxiety is not just based on school! Anytime I try to talk with someone it's like the air is being sucked out off my lungs!
I'm scared of opening up again and recieving the same answer... "so in the end it's probably best to say nothing"
If you read this to the end....
Thank you❤ That felt really good
I'm 32, and relationships aside, this song helps me sort through my truth that these feelings started with my parents. Still, they are nowhere to be seen when I need someone. I'm grateful for all of Citizen Soldier's music. It helps me sort through my pain and grow. 🖤
Truly believe everyone blooming leaves! Memories are forever, people aren’t. Thanks for this beautiful song❤️❤️
Much love 🫶
When you're in that deep dark spot the silence hurts the most.... even more so when you heard their voice from that same hole.
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Nothing hurts more than getting disappointed by the people you trust ❤ beautiful song
We hear you 🫶
@@CitizenSoldieryou reply to so many people. Not just a heart reaction. You guys really do care. Fucking amazing
Hear you still finding it hard the people who you thought were tight arent
Oh...
When the monsters in my head keep screaming at me telling me I'm worthless, I'm a burden so just do everyone a favour and end it. When every breath is a struggle and every heartbeat hurts. And I constantly stare at myself in the mirror and tell myself to just hold on just a little bit longer and at the same time I'm begging God to just stop my heart from beating. Just to make the pain go away and the voices to stop. But still I get up, put on the full armor of God and prepare to fight through the tears and the pain. I'm tired but I can't quit.
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I’m proud of you
I have been there too, some days I still am, so when I say I know it's hard but keep fighting know that I am not saying that lightly. I know the weight and how exhausting the fight is, but just take it one day at a time. You can do this. 🙂
Beautiful. Sometimes just writing it helps. Sometimes sharing it hurts more.
“Am I an inconvenience!?” that hit very close to home for me, thank you for the awesome new song guys, this is going straight on my playlist ❤️
This song is painfully relatable. My last relationship that just ended was much like this. Now I am just trying not to cry listening to it on TH-cam.
Sending hugs 🫂🫶
I'm disabled and doing pretty well on a day to day basis, but I've always struggled with feeling like a freak: different, inadequate, lonely, misunderstood. It's hard for me to open up to people. A couple of years ago I had a few so-called "friends" who claimed to understand me and be there for me yet they walked away. I don't think about them anymore but I wish I had this song to turn to then. Citizen Soldier's music is a great outlet for all my deeply hidden emotions. It feels like you guys get what it's like to be me. Thank you ❤
I am disabled to so I agree and I understand that feeling
Same here 🥴 But always here if you wanna talk
I would give anything to not be pushed away from everyone. I just never deserved anything good , is my conclusion to this.
@@PrincessGinaVonSachsen-Altenbu I know that feeling... You deserve the world ❤️ We all do. Maybe we just haven't found the right people yet.
my heart is bursting with tears... these are too accurate and familiar thoughts.
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This one hits hard as hell, I have really bad abandonment issues, and this one just puts so many words into what I can't, thank you so much for this wonderful song, I've been looking forward to it a lot since the first teaser!
Appreciate those words 🫶
I think so many people are trying to watch this at the same time that it's crashig... (or at least for me it is)
Thank you for this song, Citizen Soldier! Your art is amazing. You never disappoint, you're out there saving lives. I hope you know just how loved you are!
Love you back 🫶
Yep. I often have to leave and come back to be able to see the new comments.
Just when I think I've heard your Best, you blow it out of the water with more Amazinggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg Songs. Jake you are so Talented and your Lyrical ability is out of this World. Thank You for speaking to the Wounded Souls and For the non stop just amazing Music. Forever a Soldier for the Citizen
Appreciate you 🫶
AMEN
Instantly my new favorite CS song of all time
I've never related to anything more in my entire life
Thank you for letting our souls scream with you, Jake
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Thank you citizen soldier this song goes out to the person who I thought was my best friend jake voice at the end makes me wanna cry it is so beautiful
Sending hugs 🫂🫶
Same. Alot coming to light.
@@bradlines5494 thank you
You have all of us here. 🫂
AMEN!!!!
Thank you. It's a slap in the face when everyone tells you how you are always so strong and reliable ... yet where are they when your world shatters. Thank for saying the things so many survivors think while trapped in hell. For a few minutes we are not forgotten.
This goes out to all those "friends" who said they would be here when I broke!!!!
"You can "always" reach out to me."
Then they ghost you and act like you're inconveniencing them. My "friend" turned on me for being depressed and lonely.
Reminds me of the past. But even when everyone ignores you, it only takes one person's kindness to change a life❤
This is the hardest I've cried listening to a song for the first time. Thank you Citizen Soldier🖤
You can forgive if you can’t forget. Nobody tells you to forget. These are the memories that make each and every one of us the beautiful people that God sees ❤ I’m not asking you to forget…
Yes! Finally one of the 1st!! I love you Citizen Soldier! ❤❤
Love you back 🫶
Every new song is better than the last. God, how I love you! Keep in that way. ❤️🩹
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who abandoned me? I'm.. not sure about that.. I don't even know who I should expect not to abandon me... but.. no one will do it again... for sure. Cool song, Thanks CS
1:04 is my favorite part. Even that hallway looks familiar to my past. And the lyrics are so damn true. Back then I had Three Days Grace to help me through this. Citizen Soldier is like a new era Three Days Grace for me with similar music. Everything is different but still the same. Your music is helping me and others heal. Please keep it up. I want to see you guys live someday.
I wish I could send this to the woman who yelled at me for calling at 7am when I was freezing to death on the streets after being abused by a stranger. (the lyrics fit flawlessly, love that of this band's music that it brings such solidarity, comfort and healing by just stating thire experiences that just line up with so many others) AFTER she said she would do her best to be there for me. Happy to stand in as a mother figure. She didn't answer but the next day called me and yelled at me for calling so early and didn't care it was because I needed serious help.
It wasn't the only time she left me hanging but then she later got angry at me when I broke contact with her and had the decency to politely tell her so. Didn't even accuse or articulate why. Just said we disagreed on too many life matters I no longer knew how to remove that fact from us seeing each other. She never responded. Not even to confirm she accepted the request to not be in contact anymore. Then when we met months later she got angry that I asked to stop being friends and claimed texts were sent that never were and denied sending the ones she did send. Not once the whole time ever asking if I was okay. I survived my ordeal but alone. Suffering further from it.
I guess at least she respected that much about me by not reply before but it remains so sad what your closest friends and family get away with.
I have worse horror stories from worse than her but it still leaves a mark. 😢
If you have someone abusing you, letting you down or doing anything that just hurts you and they don't care, acknowledge or apologise.
Leave them.
It hurts but staying only breeds new scars. No longer having them around lets the ones they already have made. Heal.
I'm so sorry you had to endure all that alone. Sounds to me like she was a narcissist - they never accept responsibility for anything. They just blame their victims. You were wise to cut contact. I hope you have better people in your life now. Everyone deserves to have at least one true friend that will stand by them.
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Thank you for your compassion. I agree and yes, I have one now. Ironically they all keep trying to tear us apart, always saying that he is no good to me just because he is unwell. Like everyone does, we have fights and disagree, but afterwards he owns his actions and apologies. (something they never have done in over a decade of knowing them. They are older and healthier but don't treat either of us right) He actually has a condition where he isn't in control of his own mind and cannot understand all the time when a phrase offends or hurts someone but he apologizes later and strives to understand and do better. If a man without full control of his own mind with added memory issues can still own his own mistakes (even if he cannot remember making them) apologize and try to do better what in the frig does it say about the ones we know that have no mental health issues and cannot under any circumstances it seems own or acknowledge that they hurt you? Even when you point it out to them they just turn it back on you. I really don't think he is the issue here.
You're right about getting away from them being the best idea. I tried to reconnect recently and it went so wild and horrible. It's like trying to communicate with a pack of ferral selfish immature ally cats! (and that's an insult to cats) My point is it was really bad. So yeah sticking with the good one only. If nothing else he's earnt more of the right to be in my life than any of them ever can. All the best you too. Thanks again for your reply.
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Thank you for your compassion. I agree and yes, I have one now. Ironically they all keep trying to tear us apart, always saying that he is no good to me just because he is unwell. Like everyone does, we have fights and disagree, but afterwards he owns his actions and apologies. (something they never have done in over a decade of knowing them. They are older and healthier but don't treat either of us right) He actually has a condition where he isn't in control of his own mind and cannot understand all the time when a phrase offends or hurts someone but he apologizes later and strives to understand and do better. If a man without full control of his own mind with added memory issues can still own his own mistakes (even if he cannot remember making them) apologize and try to do better what in the frig does it say about the ones we know that have no mental health issues and cannot under any circumstances it seems own or acknowledge that they hurt you? Even when you point it out to them they just turn it back on you. I really don't think he is the issue here.
You're right about getting away from them being the best idea. I tried to reconnect recently and it went so wild and horrible. It's like trying to communicate with a pack of ferral selfish immature ally cats! (and that's an insult to cats) My point is it was really bad. So yeah sticking with the good one only. If nothing else he's earnt more of the right to be in my life than any of them ever can. All the best you too. Thanks again for your reply.
@@WriterDreams44 Don't mention it! When you were 'raised' by a narcissist, you learn to spot the signs. They are immature, spoiled, entitled, self-righteous people. You can't trust a word they say. They act like their feelings and opinions are the only ones that count and if you disagree with them about anything - you're wrong. They demand you make changes to accommodate them but will never seek to improve themselves because they are NEVER the problem. They want you to think of them as perfect, selfless individuals - yet in truth they're only using you to make them feel better about themselves. They LOVE to play the victim card, but it's all just a web of lies to manipulate people into feeling sorry for them and giving them what they want. Nothing but a lot of "woe is me! Life is so unfair!" self-pitying nonsense. Whatever she blamed you for or accused you of was a bunch of malarkey. SHE is the problem. She's the one that needs to make changes and take responsibility for her cruelty; not you. A real friend doesn't lie or make excuses for themselves when you tell them they've hurt you, nor do they don't blame you for being hurt; they apologize and try to avoid making the same mistake in the future. Don't listen if someone tells you that your feelings aren't important, or that you don't have the right to be in pain over something someone did or said to you (even if it's been YEARS and the wounds still linger). Contrary to popular belief, time does NOT heal all wounds. It's possible to forgive someone without allowing them to stay in your life and continue to abuse you. Reconciliation and forgiveness are NOT the same thing. It doesn't help anyone to LET them abuse you. You have a right to set boundaries. Don't let anyone guilt you into letting them back into your life on the grounds you owe them for something (that's emotional extortion and it's an evil practice). I'm glad to hear you have someone who genuinely cares about you now! I hope the two of you can support each other during the hard times and get through challenges together! Putting others first is good, but try not to forget that YOU matter too! You can't pour from an empty cup, so please take care of yourself! If no one has asked you in a while, it's good to stop and ask yourself, "How AM I doing right now?" If you're stressed out or in pain, take a moment for you and give yourself permission to cry. You've been badly hurt and you're allowed to cry sometimes. It's not weakness; it's self-care. You are valuable - not because of the things you can do or what others can GET out of you. You are valuable because of who you are. Even if you had never accomplished anything, your life would still be precious because you are a human being. That makes you worthy of loyalty. Worthy of love. Worthy of life.
I constantly quote "I'd rather hear your hell than see your funeral." i have always felt like this, i only have 1 friend that has stuck with me through everything, and a lot of my old friends took their own lives so i constantly remind my best friend that they are never a burden to me and they can always talk to me, or even just not say anything, i will be there whenever they need it
I identified a lot with this song! It's enough to give you goosebumps, Citizen Soldier never disappoints! Thank you for your songs. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Glad to hear that 🫶
Every new song makes me look forward to the concert so much. I'm not crying, you're crying.
Infinitely love you my Rock Gods🩵💯 You can always give me words to express emotions i didnt have words for & your music continues to save my life with every new song🩵💯
Much love to you 🫶
Agreed
Thank you for this song. I absolutely love it..❤❤
Glad to hear that 🫶
your lyrics and music are always mesmerising
Hope it helps 🫶
it does thank you
The feeling of betrayal is overwhelming. Thanks for putting it in words and make it real. When it gets a name, you can fight it.
I found this while listening to the song “Dupe - Presidencial” 😅😅
This song resonates so much with me. So many friends and family say there are there for me but when I do need them… they are no where to be found.
Another amazing song. You guys are just amazing!! Thank you all for putting in so much time, effort, and energy into these beautiful songs.💙💙💙💙
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This song makes me think of my family. Because after I was attacked they all comforted him and left me to deal with the fallout on my own
Where were you?
This song is definitely a bit different than what I expected, but I'm not disappointed by that, it matches, every lyric is there and every beat has that touch that just says everything
Every album just gets better and better to the point I don't know what to say. Thank you❤
We hear you 🫶
that is so real
@waiter5292 when I was scared to death still I opened up...
Guess I'm just too.muchhhh
I think I may have found a new favorite band. You put everything in my head into words. My first suicide attempt was on February 4th of 2024 and every single one of your songs simply screams the emotions in my head. Thank you for putting these words into song and allowing people like me to hear we're not alone and begin to heal through your music.
Dang this song hits to close to home for confort.....I had no one growing up from ages to 3 to 8 sometimes even now i dont have people(im 14) but i always make sure im their when someone else needs me because im scared their feel what i felt
Great song, its been on repeat all day. This hits close to home after a death in the family and no one could bother being there when I needed someone.
I just found this band out other day from a friend. Ive never cried so much and appreciated music so much. Were not fighting this battle alone. Stay strong everyone. Thank you Citizen Soldier.
What hurts the most is giving someone your all, they tell you they love you and will always be there but they move on to be with someone else saying they are still here for support but you can’t help but hurt as you look at them or talk to them because they still have all your heart but you don’t have theirs
"When I needed you there, you didnt seem to care" hit me the most 😭...
My feelings got like this a lot nowadays
We hear you 🫶
Is it crazy that I relate this song to myself? Asking myself where was I when I needed myself to be there FOR myself the most? Sometimes that is one of the hardest things to do, being there for yourself. Thanks for another treasure Citizen Soldier 🖤
Good ass song thank you guys again for keeping me going in life❤😊
I relate to this song 😢
Hope it helps 🫶 Sending hugs 🫂
@@CitizenSoldierthank you😭🤗
This song hits hard for so many people i opened up and trusted,turn their backs on me when i needed someone when i was in a dark place but need me to be there for them
this is the song i needed.. currently going through this exact thing.. i can feel every lyric in this song... this is the exact thing I feel right now.. biggest one being "this was all one sided, 'cause when you needed me, i'd never hesitate.. but that don't reciprocate"
This~ really cuts deep.. I feel abandoned, alone, but it’s really no one’s fault that I have to much interference to hear clear, or trust fully. I love how this track came out ~ sounds amazing 🎉
LOVE IT!!!!❤❤
Love that 🫶
yep, that hits home.
could be dedicated to BOTH my parents. glad i can say that "i'm nowhere close to healing" is no longer relatable though.
on a side note, this song also a total banger. those instrumentals are just ~chefs kiss~
Beautiful song! ❤
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You're one of the very few that are actually helping heal heart's and open eye's in this world💚 continue to be safe led and kept by GOD💚
Feeling invisible hurts only spoken to when you are needed life sucks
I know how you feel
Firefighter who’s delt through PTSD and personal struggles. Your music has brought me peace through some dark times. Thank you
THANKS FOR SAVE ME ... ❤
Much love 🫶
@@CitizenSoldier ❤️🔥
Damn this song is so good I love it so much it describes so many peoples pain yall are literally a citizen soldier you all fight for people and give them reasons to stay and songs to cope yall really saved many peoples lives
Best song ever ✝️
Glad to hear that 🫶
"you" was never a person just that missing strength to fight another day :)
March 31, 2024. Today im dropping this comment to let you know that im gonna be a big shot artist soon. My songs will be bangers shortly. And when that happens, I'll make sure to slide back here and leave a comment, so that all you guys who believed in me can be proud. I wish you all the best and don't mistake my confidence for arrogance. Peace out 🙏🏼
I’m your first comment- but I wish you luck :D
The best of lucks to you my friend, i believe in you
Good luck
Good luck with your work I will be sure to check it out
Good luck to you!! 😊❤😊❤
Dude I've been waiting for so long to hear the full song and I'm so hooked on it.
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One of the ones that compare and hit in the feels, one of my favorites
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This song reminds me of a lot of people with trust issues. And I am the only one that those people can trust. I also have struggled with the fear of abandonment. So this song means a lot. Thank you, citizen soldiers ❤❤❤
Kool. This rock. 💛💛💙💙💙💛💛💛💛
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I love all of your songs, they hit me at a personal level. This song reminds me of when I was first dealing with depression back in middle school. When I told my friends, they didn't react how I thought they would. They replaced me. When I went through a tough break up, they weren't there to comfort me. I had no shoulder to lean on then and through all of high school. Music is what helps me. I love this song so much.
I'd love to go to one of your concerts some day.
Under 1 hour gang 👇
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when a song hits so close to home it feels like you're the one who wrote it 💔
Probably cheating 😢😡
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Indeed😔💔❤️🩹
This reminds me of my father. He was never there when I was at my lowest. Thank you for making this song.
This gave me chills, I'm so sorry others have been through this too🥺🫶🏻
I've never related to a song more. I love yalls songs so much ❤
This song makes me heal, My mom hasn't been a part of my life for 25 years and never even put an effort to see her children. And I've been in a lot of relationships that were painful growing up. Thank you, Citizen Soldier for healing my heart!
what i wouldnt give to be able to hear you live.. its insane how deep more or less all your songs connect with ppl and how much many of us can relate to the lyrics.. ill never hope you stop makeing music about things like this.. citizen soldier is a gift for everyone that dont have anyone to talk to or dont understand how hard stuff like this actually is to live with.. whenever i need to get words on how i feel this is where im at listening to this band.. i really hope you understand how much you actually help ppl with your music..
I'm not depressed anymore, but I still love listening to these songs and reading the comments. Admittedly, there are the most hurt people here, but at the same time the kindest. Take care.
As one of us who are going through really hard times or those who have gone through it, i would just like to thank you for the amazing songs. I found this group by accident last year and i am thankfull for it. As someone who sings for the voiceless and the ones suffering i do really hope you understand the level of hope and help you are providing to us all. These songs do help us heal little by little and it gives us strength to continue. Keep up the good fight, and if life ever gets hard for you once more i do hope you believe in yourself as you believe in us all
Guys, your songs keep hitting some of the hardest points for me to confront. I still feel wired for worthless, but this music is better expressing where I’m at these last couple years than I could with my own words. So thank you to the entire band, Citizen Soldier, for giving me something to help me cope and vent it out. You really are doing more for me than you probably realize. Or maybe you do. Regardless, you’re heroes to me, speaking just for myself.
Thank you, guys, so much. There are literally no words for what impact you guys have on not just my life but EVERYONE's. This song is an absolute necessity for anyone going through a rough spot. Especially people like me, dealing with such people, and asking myself such questions.
How is it every time you release a song, it’s the perfect song that I needed right then and it’s perfect for my situation? I’ve been here since Let it Burn, and I’ve never commented until now, but I just want to say that I really appreciate you guys. You have saved me from the ledge so many times with so many of your songs and whenever I realize that I’m slipping again I come back and listen to you guys so I know that I’m not alone. Thank you Citizen soldier so much for everything you’ve done and everything you will do. Words just cannot express how much you’ve done for others and for me. Thank you.
I have learned that I don’t have to be loved in return to love unconditionally. It helps me manage expectations because I know no one will ever feel what I feel for them. It took me a long time to realize that. But if I can manage my expectations and just let my heart love then I have more peace and cry less.
I don’t know how you guys keep doing this- how you keep putting into words EXACTLY what I feel and how I’ve struggled. This is one of those songs that really resonates with me, because I’ve had to ask this question so many times.
My family is never there when I really need them. They never offer to help on their own, and any time I reach out and ask for it, they tell me that I’m being overdramatic and that I’m just too lazy to do things myself. Despite that, my dad still spends dozens of hours a week helping my uncle, who openly takes advantage of his trust and lies to his face. He still takes the time to help his old coworkers, even though he’s been retired for a few years now. He would never go to those same lengths for me.
One of the most painful examples of this came up half a year ago. I’m prone to fainting, and one day, I blacked out while driving. By some miracle, I didn’t veer off the road or hit anything, but that incident horrified me… and what did my family do when I told them about it? Nothing. I literally could have died, and they still couldn’t be bothered to step in and help. They still made me drive myself to work the next day, even though it could have been dangerous for me, and they never so much as mentioned it again. Not even my life being at risk was enough to make them step in.
YES IT'S FINALLY HERE!!!! I've been waiting for this song to realse ever since I heard the short
I never really comment on anything, but this song hits home so hard. I was abandoned by my “best friend” of almost 10 years (would’ve been 10 in May). I opened up to her and she knew everything about my past, my childhood trauma, all the friends who walked out on me as soon as I opened up to them, my nightly panic attacks, even how I was manipulated throughout my entire childhood by my aunt. I did whatever I could to help her through everything I had the power to, lost countless hours of sleep, missed out on so many important moments in life that I’ll never get back, just for her to reconnect with an old friend of hers and leave. I could slowly see a difference in her mannerisms, but the thought of finally having a friend who I thought cared about me just made me want to ignore it, so I would apologize about things even as far as standing up for myself. I soon found Citizen Soldier through the song “Through Hell” and immediately fell in love with their music and their message. I can proudly say that this has been the year I finally said enough was enough and began my journey to leave a toxic “friendship” and I still feel stuck, but free at the same time. Seeing the comments of others in this community makes me realize that I’m not alone, but also that I’m stronger than I ever realized. So, I really have to say Thank you to not just CZ, but to everyone in the CZ community. None of y’all will ever know just how much you’ve saved me.
In case you haven’t heard this today, I love you and I am so proud of you. 🖤
I dedicate this song to my dads family who stole all his things when he died so I couldn't have something to remember him then abandoned me 12 years ago
Thank you so much for continuing to make such relatable music. Sometimes, I feel like your music is all that's holding me together.
I found their music a few years ago and I've never looked back. I always appreciated having someone relate and be able to put into words. But holy crap this one got me. Abandoned by both, one just stayed in the house.