We Can Finally Discuss This Incident
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I’m so sorry you have to deal with low life people like that. What type of person even does that? What kind of vial disgusting individual finds someone’s number, continually harasses them and then makes physical threats? It’s unbelievable and so disheartening to hear that you have to deal with this. I love your channel and thank you for sharing your life with us 😊💜.
I would never DREAM of infringing upon someone’s anniversary trip. I don’t even infringe upon an anniversary day. We’re scheduled to have a game night with friends on their anniversary, and I was happy to reschedule so that they can have the weekend to themselves. The nerve of that lady to weasel her way into her parents anniversary vacation…
You guys are so real. If I could fill my day with people like you, I’d like people better and would want to spend more time with them. Honest!!
Jane is an A-h for being immature, presumptuous and spoiled. The mom is an A-h for not having enough fortitude to shut down her daughter’s overstep. The dad is an A-h for his secretive flip-flopping. SIL is an A-h for yelling at his generous in-laws on the phone. Shane’s right EVERYONE is the A!!! Sorry, Grandkids. You’re walking in the footsteps of 2 generations of A-hs.
Well, now I don't need to leave a comment because you said it all. Preach!
40th anniversary romantic trip. NO KIDS OF ANY AGE. PERIOD
Preach it, sister! It sounds to me like mom and dad were wishy-washy like this when they raised Jane, letting her get her way far too often, and now Jane assumes she can get away with it. Such unmitigated gall she has! And I agree that dad handled it poorly, almost passive-aggressively (which may be another trait that runs in this family). I don;t have any grandchildren, but I have two grown daughters, and neither of them would ever DREAM of imposing upon my wife and me like this.
Nope. Only the daughter is the a-hole.
@@alekhidell3644don't give the gma a pass for being a spineless weakling then blaming it on others
I laughed out loud when you said you were waiting outside with the people that were there to see you 😂
When we invite my mom to travel with us, it's to take her ON VACATION. Her own room. If the kids want to bunk one or two nights with her, they have to ask her. Jane is a huge ah and a brat. Also, phew! Fear makes us panic and act out of sorts!
Suggestion ... consider hiring a 'security' person to cover your meet up sessions. Perhaps you can find a person at each location, once you get the route established, with stops reserved and confirmed. Don't be scared, be prepared (a la Ryan Hall, Y'all) - be safe!
I would and I think many more would offer to be your security at no charge....
Shane, ask around.....
Love Ryan Hall!
@@marlenetobin3242 they would need someone trained in security
Great advice🎉
@allisontaylor1818...I owe it all to "Ryan Hall, Y'all"! for his fantastic weather reporting! thru all the tornado and other wicked weather events here in ARkansas!
When the father initially put his foot down and told his daughter this was an anniversary trip for just her parents, she should have shut it, backed off and even apologized for presuming she could weasel her way in. Daughter is the a-hole, and the wife/mother borders on being an a-hole by conceding when she knew better.
J aimerais bien que ce soit traduit en Français, pour comprendre, merci, vous êtes un couple formidable, j aime bien vous regarder. Je vous embrasse tous les deux. 🙏❤
DAUGHTER A-HOLE... she wanted a free vacation and a free nanny... so entiteled brat... daughter super A-hole!
@@chantalpajot2388 clic droit pour traduire en français
One of the most genuine, real, down to earth awesome people to walk this planet! I just love, adore & admire yall like CRAZY! Been watching/following you 2 for sooooo dang long it's nutso, and have to say its been so awesome to watch yall grow & to see just how far yall have come, both as individuals & as a beautiful couple! Cannot wait to see what's to come! Thank you both for all the hard work, dedication & the many late nights *as I can only image the work it takes*!
Sending ❤️
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Good luck on your Book Tour - may you have much success with your sales and your trip! The troll story and library meet-up...so sorry for the angst you had to endure. Amazing what you go through when being famous! Finally, It is so hard to know the all-round dynamics of such an extended incident that was described in the final segment of your podcast here. One wishes everyone could do the right thing each moment...perhaps the best lesson is to remember the story and try and catch ourselves to do the right thing in the moment. Thanks as always for your sharing your lives. Your humor and good nature is always uplifting.
I love Shane’s humor 😂
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I loved your Gulfport meetup! 😊 Would go to another. I will say the entire segment devoted to talking about that meetup I had a strong irrational fear that it was something I did 😂 Like maybe something I said was unacceptable or unintentionally ableist or I asked too many questions cause I love you guys! Deep sigh of relief it wasn’t me lol.
I work at a bookstore in NYC and have been a supporter of yours for years! If you guys come to NY on a book tour I would love to help facilitate an event with you :)
I am supporting the book tour idea, especially if each stop has a chocolate fountain for attendees to enjoy!
Don’t forget Allentown ,Pa
Hi Hanna and Shane from North Dakota. I have been watching and 100% enjoying you videos for at least a couple of years - this is the first time leaving a comment. We have/had 2 young women with disabilities and find it so refreshing to hear the honesty of life with challenges and those that care and love unconditionally. When you do your book tour and should you decide to come to North Dakota, we would be front and center. Am sure you've already thought of this but will throw it out anyway. If you'd check with the support agencies in each state you visit - would get lots of people tha 25:26 t are dealing with the same issues as you - to come and be part of the event.
I really just love you two! You were meant to be on this earth TOGETHER! Thank you for sharing. I think Josh Blue would be the perfect comic to start your book signing extravaganza!
They were right to spend time alone. Me and my husband celebrated our 40th anniversary and 8 months later he passed away. Nov will be 2 years he passed
I’m sorry for your loss of your husband.💔😭
The best part of your podcasts 22:46 is how real and genuine you both are. So, to all the hidden trolls out there, waste your time else wear. It's great just to laugh at stupid situations.
Shane’s hair looks good like that. I would definitely attend your book signing. That would great! Texas here 🤍
We're in Fairbanks, Alaska. Make a stop here!
Yeah I definitely don't think he's the asshole , good for him. Jane is 100% the A-hole . Love you guys . And if you do a book tour come to Oregon 🥰🥰🥰 .
I love all of your videos. You are both so natural and REAL. I don't know how anyone can think that your love is not real. Ignore those comments. Thank you for sharing. Xoxo ❤❤
Shane- you should be a sit-down comic!!!!
Haha ! I think He already is !
You both have such loving hearts, souls and spirits....thank you for sharing who you are, and your journey, with the world💞💞💕💕💕💕💕💕♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Wish you both good health.
Hey Shane and Hannah, Your account of the meet up was nerve wracking. I'm relieved to know that the troll did not present himself. I appreciate your candour and humour as you share aspects ofyour lives. Very Courageous, Kudos. Norm
Jane and her husband who wanted to tag along for a free vacation and to use the grandparents as babysitters knowing it was their 40th Anniversary, were the A-h. The father just wanted this Anniversary to be special . The mom of course broke down because she always gives to others and wants to make sure everyone is happy. So, the father decided to give the kids what he thought they wanted, which was a free vacation, but also do something special for his wife. This trip was about the two of them, not a family vacation and for Jane and her husband to take that away and think the vacation was going to be all about them and use the parents for babysitting service on their 40th was so very selfish ...
If you look at it that way he probably was trying his best, but he still should have told them plans had changed in advance.
I would travel out to California from Ohio just to meet you guys in person! You guys are awesome and ive enjoyed watching your videos and following your journey. Also I must say that I have obtained the inspiration from you guys to start my own blogging and then write my first book at some point. Keep on shining a light on an otherwise dark world we live in. You both are amazing and very inspiring.
I'm watching from a country town in South Australia 🇦🇺
I Love watching you both, you always make me smile!!!
I hate the negative things that people say/message to you, that Hannah reads out ~ Happy you both laugh at them and don't let it bother you!!!
Can't wait to read your book, will Definatly buy one/some ~ will be good for chrissy presents 😊
Keep being yourself!! Love you Both ❤
The book tour story gave me my first ( and probably my only) laugh of the day…..thank you…love you ❤️❤️
Watching you together is like a masterclass in "complicité".
The guy is definitely NOT the A-hole! A person shouldn’t put their expectations on another person, and be rude a forward enough to invite themselves with the expectation of her parents babysitting while on their 40th wedding anniversary trip! In a heartbeat I would have done the same thing by changing the plans. Sadly so the daughter sounds very self entitled and selfish, plus childish for not speaking to her parents after the trip. She shouldn’t have gone on the paid for trip if she felt so strongly about the outcome!
On another note, thank you both for sharing your lives with us, I absolutely enjoy watching you two🥰
Please do not underestimate your drawing power on your book tour. I can see easily a couple hundred people at each stop. You guys are great and people are excited to meet you.
You guys should never do anymore meet and greets without having some security personal, especially with the times today. Criminal behavior has no bounds, you are always responsible for your own safety at All Times no matter time or place.
Love y'all please make safety a priority for events 💞 it's better to be safe than sorry💞
The sound quality was excellent. Far better than previous episodes. I usually have a hard time understanding Shane. This senior enjoyed the entire broadcast. What ever you did, keep it up. I enjoyed the story and will try to watch for you on meetup in the South California area. I look forward to seeing you face to face. I wish you well.
Plot twist: It was him. He was both people communicating through different online names.
Yes they lost their babysitters and they knew it was their 40th anniversary and the kids and their kids should have been happy to go but know that they would need to let there be some space for the love birds to celebrate and not just be the care for them. I really think that good for Grandmas husband :)
And the daughter kinda forced herself in so to many people take to many people for granted. Loved this. hugs
I can’t judge theme because I had a similar incident after my first grandchild was born. She was born in Minnesota in October and they had 36 inches of snow still on the ground at Thanksgiving. My husband is from Michigan and we were going to drive up over the 4 day holiday, he was used to snow. My parents wanted to see their first great granddaughter. THEY decided they would rent a motor home since my Mom had health issues. I really didn’t want to change our plans and they didn’t let us know they had already rented the RV. We went and were there for Thanksgiving dinner with my daughter-in-laws step mom and our son and new baby. The weather news peas on and lots more snow was predicted for the day we were to start home. I was furious when we had to leave the next morning! I went for my little granddaughter and I had not had enough time with her! I pouted in the rear of the RV all the way home
Looking back I realize I was the a___ hole. My Mom saw her first grgreat grandchild 3 months before she died. Seeing her was the highlight of my Moms last few weeks. There is always two sides of each story.
Keep on mak😊ing everyone laugh. I wish I could be at a book signing but I live so far in the country in Texas that you would have to come to Waco, TX for me to see you.❤️
Why did you have to leave?
@@outoftheklossetThere was a lot more snow forecast, and I'm assuming they couldn't drive the RV in the snow, so they had to leave sooner than planned. Still, maybe Grandma could've stayed and flown back later?
NTA most people don't want to provide childcare on a romantic once in a life time trip.
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Lots of snow was predicted again so we didn’t want to be stranded. It took away my visiting time. Selfish, yes. My Mom had health issues and couldn’t have flown. Had to forgive my parents but I needed their forgiveness for pouting all the way back home.
I’m dying 😂😂😂. You guys are great. I’m exactly that awkward hahahaha. I can’t get the image of you guys just hanging out silently with the crowd that was there to see you 😂😂😂😂 you guys will be laughing about this for the rest of your lives lol
Well Shane there are wheelchair accessible RV's reach out to companies that do them , maybe they would give you one to use during duration of tour as sponsor and bring awareness that there are RV's for everyone 😉 worth a try
You two are AWESOME! You often make my day lighter and put smile on my face. Thank you Shane 😊
Thank you Hannah😊
As usual you two are adorable. Thanks! Ha. Hope you eventually make it to Kansas.
Come to Cleveland!! I’d love to see your outrageously expensive book tour! Plus, Hannah, we have awesome pierogi here! And sausages! Come come come!!
Shane you are so funny…”a family dinner”…love you guys!!!
The daughter should not want to go with her parents on their trip. Love watching you'll. Blessings to you both 🙏🏾
It would be so rad to meet you both, I hope this dream is realized.
Please come to Iowa! Would love to come to your book tour and meet you guys! 😩❤️❤️
I don't put any personal info online. A few years ago when I signed up for Facebook I listed the year I was born as 1900. Every year I get Birthday wishes from friends. They don't catch the fact that I would be 123 years old this year!
I would love if you did a book tour!!
Honestly, would be glorious to see if Josh Blue would be able to open for yal! Stand up comedian that absolutely mastered being able to elicit laughter for everyone! Wishful thinking of course, but when you said disable comedian he came to mind! He is great!!
Josh came to mind for me, too!
@SomeKindOfHalfsie yes!! I'm so glad you thought of him too! I know he does shows all over, but if this book tour ever went to Denver he is right there!! I unfortunately don't know any other disabled comedians!
love you guys so much.... loved your last book shane. RV book tour sounds amazing, please come to canada. i'd happily host your book reading!
I'd 100000000 percent join the book tour. Your banter very similarly mirrors mine. I work remote, am great at promoting, business minded, I sing and rap, and am a grrrrreat hilarious road dog sooooooo I'm just saying!
Love you guys talking about Swift and Kelce. Funny!
Oh yes, it ‘s a yes from me. I’m with Shane 100% on this. The grandfather was sleezy to change plans last minute and not tell anyone. It was his, or the grandparents responsibility to set boundaries with the adult children if they didn’t actually want it to be a whole family trip. Yeah I’d be pissed if my parents told me yes, it was planned a family trip and then backed out last minute. Nope nope nope!
As someone with kids, I can see the desire to have parents come along. Again if they didn’t actually WANT to come then it’s THEIR responsibility to hold that boundary, not just say they will go and back out last minute and not even communicate that. Coward move. I get why they haven’t answered calls and texts.
Not the a-hole. Not even close! And Shane, you could never be the A hole! 😊 Love you guys ❤
I LOVE the AITA segments!! Keep finding good ones! Love you guys ❤️💖❤️💖
Come to Wilmington, NC! I'll be there.
Omg its my new dream to open with comedy on a tour of you ❤❤
30:59 who wants to go on a second honeymoon trip with their parents? I gave my parents a basket of stuff for a candlelit meal for their 25 anniversary. My mom insisted I join them...I still tease her about how awkward it was! For their 30th my brother and I went in together on a night at a bed and breakfast for just them.
Oh, you guys! What a stressful day! I don't understand why people think you are not married or are scamming in some way. That AITA happened to my mom. She was invited to go to Spain with some friends. They had two kids. Mom paid her own way, got her own hotel room and was excited to see the sights with her friends and their kids. The friends asked her to watch the kids one day as they wanted some alone time and she agreed. pretty soon the parents started leaving the kids with her every day. Mom realized they invited her just to watch the kids. She ended up telling them she would not watch the kids and she took off for another city. and having a fun time in Spain alone.
I would never assume that my parents would care for my children on a family trip!!!
Y’all better do a book tour!! I literally can’t wait!!
I'd love to meet you two. Sorry Shane, I agree that Appetizers would be best and easier to mingle and not just meet people at your particular table. I have spina bifida and my husband doesn't have a disability. We just celebrated 20 years of marriage last week. I love hearing about your travels and can relate to your daily regimen.
AITA: I actually agree with Shane. I'm glad the wife wasn't angry, but I definitely would have been after finding out my husband changed everything without consulting me, especially the destination. BUT the daughter was completely out of line and entitled forcing herself along in the first place, and then explaining she basically just was thinking of herself and not her parents anniversary at all. I think they're both the assole.
I never had heard of this AITA stuff, now I had to look it up and listen to them on TH-cam, thanks🤣. Love listening to you're videos, you two are great fun.
😂Josh Blue is an American comedian. He was voted the Last Comic Standing on NBC's reality show Last Comic Standing during its fourth season, which aired May-August 2006. Blue has cerebral palsy, and much of his self-deprecating humor is centered on this. Wikipedia
I always find telling the trolls what they want to hear is a great policy. They just want to argue, so they never expect someone to be like, "Whoa. This changes everything. I've been such a fool!"
Yay! Junkyard mayhem is back!
Come to St. Louis for the book tour!! Spine Indie Book Store and Cafe has a nice indoor stage and seating area and there are nice boutique hotels nearby!
2:40 alaska is a state, don't forget us. Just in case you forget, you said all 50 states. Come in the summer, the polar bears will be too busy with the tourists 😂
I love you to your personalities and humor is so refreshing
100% with Shane. The daughter when she first asked, like Hannah did with her parents, was okay. She was A-hole for begging until dad relented. (But of course he really didn't.) However, the dad "ghosting" them after giving in, makes him a much bigger one.
He broke his word, which Should be reliably trusted as a binding promise. Not telling anyone was VERY disrespectful to every one involved, his wife, his daughter, her husband and especially the grandkids.
Did his wife really have such a wonderful time knowing this major change in plans made their daughter and her entire family unhappy? If I had been this man's wife I think I'd still be as angry with this control freak as all the others are!
I hope your book tour includes Shane’s hometown of Bethlehem , PA. I will be living there by then.
Please come to Ontario Canada for the tour!
I genuinely loved the idea of an opener! If you come to Maine please definitely go to Portland! Population wise it's your best bet and better than assuming you'll pick up the mainers in Boston because we won't travel in that traffic... It has nothing to do with how much time it takes in more to do with how dangerous the traffic is! I know you'll probably end up doing something in Boston but you might want to take transportation either public or otherwise to get there because it still gives me nightmares. ( I've driven in New York and that's definitely worse but I'd say it's the next best worst lol )
The daughter and son were and remain the a-holes. They shouldn't have invited themselves. They shouldn't have repeatedly pushed the issue until the parents relented. This is clearly the daughter's historical manipulation, or the dad wouldn't have felt the need to do what he did. The dad knew his wife wanted the field trip but was worn down by the daughter. Yes, as Shane said, it might have been good to let everyone know sooner, but the dad knew if he did, it wouldn't have turned out to be the great second honeymoon that it was. The dad even says money was an issue, so it wasn't like the mom and Dad had the option to replace their own trip. They would have been babysitting their ungrateful daughter's kids again, with no couple trip to look forward to.
Okay... NTA - and here is why...
I have grandkids. Sometimes we go on family vacations.
Any babysitting we do is discussed and agreed on - not assumed. Just like I didn't assume my older kids would watch the younger ones without consent. No one is your built in, consent free babysitter.
My husband and I now go away for a couple days for our anniversaries. The older we get the more we value that time focused on each other.
I'd have set the boundary long before the dad did. But I gather mom isnt great with boundary setting - so Dad took the guilt away from Mom having to set the boundary. Codependent yes. Ahole, no.
It’s interesting to hear Shane go into the details of Babysitting (which is caregiving) and is calling the Father the asshole even though they got
To go on a paid resort vacation. Shane can travel the world but needs constant care giving. I’m afraid to make comments on this channel because I feel if I disagree with Shane and his not so friendly personality I am automatically a troll. When in reality at first I was very intrigued with the couple. But Shane is very judge mental and rude. Sometimes I can see the disagreements in Hannah’s eyes but she always remains composed. Regardless I fought for this country for everyone to have freedom and the pursuit of happiness. Now I am disabled by an IED and am struggling not to mention my alcoholism. I hope one day I can be as happy as them or anyone.
YES,, Come to Boise, Idaho!! I absolutely love you both!! ❤️
Please do get to either Waco or Austin Texas!
Love his humor
You two are great! Once again come to Dubuque I will make all the arrangements for you speech where it would take place the advertising etc.
This may be the most charming couple ever.
There's a great comedian with CP named Josh Blue😅
If you need an opening act, I recommend Josh.
Also, if you want a babysitter on vacation, then bring a BABYSITTER! Don’t use your parents and make them pay for your vacation too!
Yay book tour!! Would be great if you could get Maysoon Zayid, a Palestinian-American actor and comedian with CP, for at least one of the stops.
Come to Boston!!!!
Just love ur joy happiness and fun u make me giggle so much...sooo good for soul so funny
I need to get going and buy Shane's books. Are they on audible books? I don't have time to read, but I can listen.
Then I can join the tour 😊😅
If you need person security, I got you. I was a casino security guard for 18 years..
Comedian Josh Blue would be a great opener.
If you ever visit Portland OR, I'd be there, first in line 😊
Eva Abley is a hilarious disabled comedian, or Lost voice guy is equally as hilarious and disabled… Just please also come to Australia. I am in a wheelchair too and your relationship makes me have faith in humanity that my time will come.
Be careful of these types of trolls. These are the crazy stalkers who can do bodily harm. Thats the negative thing of exposing yourself on TH-cam or Tim tok, all the crazies. Its become the most popular form for predators etc. Just stay safe
The Dad is NTA. He could have canceled all the travel arrangements and just rebooked for himself and his wife. Instead, he decided to ensure both he and his wife had the 2nd honeymoon they originally desired while still gifting his daughter’s family a vacation. It was extremely presumptuous for the daughter and SIL to assume her parents would babysit - especially considering the purpose of the trip was to celebrate her parents’ 40th anniversary. Daughter and SIL are entitled AHs, Mom is a pushover, and Dad had difficulty with boundaries.
the Adult kids are the A-holes. For taking advantage of her parents 40th. Anniversary trip & wanting to use them as baby sitters so they can have fun instead. If their Daughter is mad, let her be, she'll get over it, IF she loves & respects her parents.
omfg the episode this time was hilarious! I'm sorry that it was such a stressful time for you, dealing with a deranged stalker like that but I'm glad it's a funny story now haha I definitely relate to being an awkward potato when meeting up with people for the first time 😂
also i remember reading the anniversary story on reddit the other day! daughter was definitely the asshole
As a L.E.O. in another country, my protective nature is riled up right now.
If I had been there, I would have protected you both.
@24:53. He solved the problem himself, right there. They are just suffering the consequences of what THEY raised. I’m thinking that Mom has never told Jane “No”, and Dad never “put his foot down” or addressed the problem. 😂. You know what they say about reaping what you sow……
Guys this is sweet u guys are so sweet. U guys deserve to be together forever
Please come to Portland! Powells books would love to have you!
Come back to Utah!!!!! Health stole you from Utah and I missed you both!
Come do a book tour in Toronto Canada‼️💯 🇨🇦 I’d definitely be interested in seeing you both 💯🙏🏻