Molly is such a wonderful interviewer, she allows them to speak but adds her comments in or her personal experiences in such a balanced way. Nothing is worse than an a “mhm” interviewer that only nods and gives one worded answers. An interview that just flows and feels more like a conversation is so much better to watch. Beautiful video beautiful couple great job guys❤️
@@LoveyBicki my niece was watching this and she asked if this was a zoom lecture. I’m like what, why do you say that? She said the teacher keeps talking over the student. 🤣🤷🏻♀️
The Sign Duo! They’re so amazing and funny! One of them uses asl and chooses to not use his voice, but his girlfriend uses his voice and asl. They would love to talk with you!
I found myself laughing and crying during this video. My dad broke his neck in a college wrestling accident when he was 20 years old, and met my mom 8 years later. SO MUCH of what Hannah and Shane are describing is what my parents have experienced their whole relationship. And I often get comments like “Oh, I’m so sorry.” when I mention my dad is in a wheelchair. I just shrug and say “I mean, it’s all I know. He’s just my dad.” 🤷♀️ Thanks for doing this video! It was so refreshing!
Me too (laughing & crying)! The part at the end when Molly said we are all caretakers... it hit me and I think that is so true as well as so wise and beautiful ♡
As a disabled woman in an interabled marriage I severely appreciate this interview. I love Shane and Hannah. We watch them all the time! Love this series idea.
Shane saying to disabled people watching that if you’ve been made to feel like you could never be a meaningful partner that it’s not true I- I literally can’t see what I’m typing my eyes are so full of tears. I’m almost 30 years old and have only been in one relationship and that was 8 years ago. I haven’t even gotten on dating apps ever because I’ve always said that I want to wait until my health is more stable so I’m not as much of a burden but the reality is that with my many many ever changing chronic illnesses, every time I get one aspect somewhat under control, something else comes out of the woodwork and I’m stuck in a perpetual cycle of feeling forever alone and like nobody could ever want the dumpster fire of my life in theirs. Thank you alll so much, the three of you are some of my favorite people to watch and feel like I’m hanging out with and finally having people I can relate to (even if none of y’all know I exist) is such a special gift and I’m so thankful and proud to be in the same community ♥️♿️
My late husband was disabled, and my disabilities got worse. However, I loved him for his love, compassion, and his intelligence. Don't wait to live your life...there may be someone looking for a person just like you, REGARDLESS of your illnesses. I have several long-term conditions that are chronic, but that is not WHO I am. Blessings to you!
The way I see it, if the homeless drug addicts living on the street sleeping together can find some solace in each other, so can I and so can you lol. Not meaning it in a bad way, just cuz we know how difficult those 2 situations just separately are, yet they still found someone to be with through it.
@MandieZangora You are worthy of love and more than enough just as you are Mandie! You are not a burden! You may have different needs than others but that doesn't make you any less or not deserving. Live is a cycle of perpetual shit creeping out of the woodworks for everyone! I don't say this to diminish the hardships in your life, but to remind you that everyone has their own hardships to bear. Yours do not make you any less worthy of love or friendship than anyone else. You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are a wonderful being. Don't be selfish, Share that wonder with others. I KNOW you have SO much to give to others. Share that!
Another channel you might find helpful is Jessica Kelgren-Fozard! She is disabled and chronically ill, and she mostly talks about disability stuff and gay stuff, and several of her videos feature her wife which is always charming to watch. She is a great example of someone living their life and not putting things on hold for an illness that will never really stop or get better
The one for you will care about supporting you through the bad but they will never make you feel as if your medical history is a dumpster fire in their life. It will be just be a part of life. Talking from experience.
I love Squirmy and Grubs! You could call this series DisabiliTea... beacause you guys are giving the truth tea on what it's like living with different disabilities.
@LouiseGrazano I am shocked at the cruelty you spew! You must be a trolling hack as I cannot imagine someone could honestly say such mean and judgmental words. What a sad world you must live.
Would love to see Jessica Kellgren-Fozard on to talk about her experiences with being disabled and gay! (She also has many stories about being in an interabled marriage)
What other topics would you want to see me cover in this new series? To see a fun video with MY boyfriend, watch this next: th-cam.com/video/846UBHtbWwM/w-d-xo.html
I just yesterday talked about how people feel uncomfortable around things they don't know about . I like to watch many different youtubers with disabilites to better understand their situation and it has made me way more comfortable when I am around people with disabilities, I just think yoou have to expose yourself to things you don't know about and I love that there are people like you on here so I can learn all these great things!!!!
I experienced this for real the first time I met a trans person. I knew my weirdness was lack of knowledge or understanding, so I did lots of research and realized that they were really just a person, just like me, and that there's really no reason to feel any particular way about it. I now consider them my very good friend 😁
Hi Ruth: I think it's great that you do that. Many people do not, they would rather walk away and not move beyond their discomfort, not caring or realizing what they might have missed.
@@Nick07900 it definitely does, and I really dislike those labels. There's always so much going on within every person that nobody else can see, and to accuse someone of faking anything is really devaluing.
I’m legally blind and was the only disabled student at my school. I was never straight out bullied, but I never really had friends. I used to, and still spend breaks on my own, and at one point in elementary school, students were literally assigned to hang out with me, as if I was some kind of task they had to attend to. The teachers’ explanation was that kids wanted to run around, so they could not assign one person to Hangout with me for more than two weeks, because apparently, hanging out with me prevents them from having fun. Never mind that the whole assigning students idea was so stupid to begin with and is probably why I am in high school now and still have no friends. Students only see me as someone who might nee help, rather than someone they could possibly start a conversation with. Anyway, I remember for a while in fifth grade, there was this new kid who somehow started to willingly hangout with me during break. I actually considered her somewhat of a close friend. She was kind of looked down upon by a handful of the students, and I guess she was able to find a friend in me. We bonded pretty well. One day, during morning assembly, our home room teacher came up to me and asked me who is the student that spends the most time with me. I gave her the name of that girl. A few minutes later, during home room class, the teacher called her up in front of the entire class, and gave her a small gift. And she specifically said that it’s for hanging out with me, or something along those lines. I don’t know how to exactly translate it into English. Anyway, that same day, a student who I knew, but didn’t often talk to, suddenly decided that she wanted to walk with me during break. She did not say a word to me throughout the whole thing. I distinctly remember a boy passing next to her and teasingly saying, “what, do you want a gift?” My supposed friend still hung out with me after that, but she completely ignored me throughout middle school. She found her friend group, and completely discarded the fact that I was one of the few students who accepted her when she was new. Sorry for this long rant. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’ve been with more or less the same students for five years. I joined them in forth grade. And whatever you show a nine year old is likely to stick with them. They saw me as more of a task than just another student, and all that because of the way society perceives and approaches disability. I was stuck with almost no friends for a decent chunk of my school life. That is still going on till now, and all that because the adults in my life approached the situation from a wrong direction. If you reached this far, thanks for reading my rambling, and have a great day.
Wow, this sounds bad. So I'm from Germany and we don't have the same school system, but when I was in school I always tried to talk with the "silent ones". Most of them were pretty shy. I hang around with them at school and they were really nice people. And the best thing.. They became less self concious. So they made new friends and left me alone... So I was the person in school who helped the sad and shy ones, but ended up with only, but gladly, one lasting friend at the end of school. Now I'm trying not to do the same in university again... 😅 I still want to help everyone, but I also want to have some real friendships
Hey Tia, what a flawed system! I'm in disbelief of what you have had to endure. It sucks that humans have this great need to work for rewards. People truly can be quite unauthentic. I wish you all of the good health in this life time sis- I know it is difficult to give hugs over the internet- but here is one for you xxxx P.S I would definitely be your mate at school; you seem very deep and intelligent :)
Hi Tia, Greetings from England, you sound fabulous and I’m 100% sure you’ll find people who love you for who you are. If I grew up in your school, i would have come to speak to you 💓 x
I'm able-bodied, but in young age it's so important how adults and especially teachers behave around you. I told my teacher in second grade that I wanted to be one as well one day (I mean, how many jobs do you know as a 7 year old...) and because I was good in writing she started to call me to the front to see other students writing mistakes so I can learn how to be a teacher. Needless to say that nobody wanted to be my friend anymore for years to come and I got bullied severly for being a teachers favorite. Great times! But: it gets better, I promise! There are many things to dislike about getting older, but being able to be yourself and get comfortable with it is a huge advantage! I have a solid group of friends for over 10 years now and a wonderful husband who happens to be hard of hearing.
My heart is so full after watching this. My husband also has SMA and we have been together for almost 17 year (married for 15). We have two beautiful kids together and we have gone threw so much of the same things they talked about. I am so glad this was in the series. How have I not seen their channel! I won’t miss a video now❤️
I’d love to see you interview “Sign Duo” if you haven’t already. I love their content as well and they bring great awareness surrounding the deaf community.
I was once hanging out with a group of Orthodox Jews (I’m Jewish but not particularly religious) and one of those Christians came over and started praying for us. At the top of her lungs. At Six Flags. That was fun. 🙄
This collab is so wonderful! Thank you, thank you! Your conversations were so honest & open; as an ally for people with any disabilities, I hope people view this, & minds are enlightened, & hearts are opened
Of the important things my dad does for me none of them is physical. He loves me, he counsels me, he always picks up the phone, he jokes around with me, he tells me stories, he loves and supports my mom. Shane is gonna crush it in all of those arenas.
@Yugo_Mon Why? There are many so called able bodied people who are not fit to be parents! They will be able to work things out, so that they can get help with the kids if Hannah has to be gone. He, at least will be a kind, loving, parent.
@@erictrumpler9652 You should not watch any of their content, if you want to see the real truth. Do some research instead and you will find that Shane has got a history of making money with hot girls online...
Man, people really hate seeing people happy. Who the F cares if he's "really" funny or not - SHE likes him and that's the point of a relationship?? Not the approval of faceless TH-cam commenters 🙄 And you're proving the sentiment of the video where people discount interabled relationships simply because they are different and it makes you uncomfortable.
Great collab of some of my regularly watched TH-camrs! You guys are awesome and put out such important messages to change the narrative around disabled people.
I remember being stopped by my parents because I was becoming friends with a girl who was in a wheelchair while we were in a train trip. They were intimating that I shouldn’t want to do that. It seemed ridiculous to me but I was a kid then. Now, I’m so amazed by how welcoming my disabled friends have been in my life. Everyone has a different path in life but that doesn’t make them less worthy to travel it
I’ve never clicked so fast! Molly I am seriously so excited you did this collab, Hannah & Shane are some of the most amazing humans on TH-cam & I’m just so happy y’all are having these amazing conversations in this space! Love you all ❤️💞
The way Hannah looks at Shane if people can't see that they genuinely love each other and can't hear their love. It is right there 💖 their love is so sweet
Shane and Hannah have a healthier relationship than so many “typical” relationships. Love the two of you so much and are so grateful for what you’ve shared and educating society!
These stories reminds me of me and my husband - i was newly diagnosed with ulcerative colitis, and pretty quick he had to help me and when that became clear, I had to bite the bullet and show him just how much blood came out when I went to the toilet ( no lie, the ENTIRE toilet was blood red on the inside) And it’s been almost 23 years now, and he has been here through every new diagnosis and every weird thing that popped up through the years!! Love that you talked to Shane and Hannah - I’ve been following them for a few years and they are just amazing!!
My boyfriend was diagnosed with UC when we were in college. Right around when he turned 21. He is 23 now and recently had his colon removed since it got so bad so fast and nothing was helping. It's been awful watching him go through multiple surgeries and having ostomy complications and losing lots of self-confidence. But I wouldn't change our experience for the world (as much as I wish he didn't have to go through any of this) - caring for one another is our top priority.
my husband grew up with a hypokondrisk mom, and was afraid of me bring sick because - He thought it would result in me complaining all the time.... I’ve had both good and addictive days, weeks, months, but I keep fighting and he is right beside me every step of the way!! I believe he got the wife he needed to work through the things he experienced in his childhood, and I got the husband I needed to keep my head in ‘the game’, and not fall in to despair.... the best partners are those who support you through everything and still let you fight your own battles...
That's really good to hear 🥺. I don't have a diagnosis yet but I've been experiencing symptoms that align with UC/Crohn's for a while. Bathroom issues are pretty taboo and I find it hard to talk about even with close family and friends. Idk how I will have the guts (no pun intended) to bring it up to a partner.
@@sliceofbread6929 it’s really not about guts, it’s about honesty... think about it.... do you want a partner where you have to hide, or a partner where you can be wholely yourself?? I have learned through time that for me it works to talk about it... not in a ‘ oh it so sad, feel sorry for me’way, but in a ‘ this is my reality, and yes, it can be horrible, but I can laugh about it even when I don’t feel like it’... I choose when I found out how liberating it was to talk honestly to my husband, to keep it honest everywhere... For example, I can’t drink alcohol anymore, it gives me an instant bellyache, and we have friends who like to party... I go to these party’s and participate, but when they offer me a drink or try to pressure me ( in a friendly way, but it’s still pressure) I just tell them that because of my condition I can’t, because I really want to be here and enjoy this time with them, instead of hiding on the toilet with raging diarrhea.... of course I say it with a smile/laugh to take the sting off, but that usually stops them ;) I even talk freely with my clients ( I’m a hairstylist) and that have given me a very loyal client base that have found me even when I have been away from the business for years... they know what I have, and they know that I will listen to ANY of their stuff, and be supportive, even when the world around them is not....
My daughter introduce me to your channel a few months back and to be honest, there's many subjects that as a dad (or man) doesn't attract me to watch. However i am a big fan of Hannah and Shane and was pleasantly happy to see that you all contributed to each others channels. :) This said... I got to admit Molly, you are one very talented woman and if I had the ability to make something happened, I would definitely have you on your own mainstream tv talk show. Your interviiwing skills are through the roof and really enjoyed watching this and appriciated your prepareness, how your deovered your questions and hadoc interaction with Hannah and Shane. Great job from a fellow Canadian to an amazing Canadian gal! (loll)
Molly I love you so much! I do not have a physical disability but my mental ones you have helped so much with your kind and loving words. I just wanted to thank you for everything you've done and I wish you nothing but the best!!
I'd love to see you interview some of the "kids" (they're all adults now, 18-20something) from 6 blind kids. David is a college student, Hannah works at a bakery, Bethany is working on job skills, Abbi is working on life skills and independence, and Jessie and Obed are doing home schooling and various at home therapies
They did a collaboration with Roll with Cole and Charisma about a year and a half ago. Both channels have their own videos of the experience on their channels. They were both good.
Shane, thank you for your words of encouragement at the end to disabled folks like me. After my first serious relationship that ended this year, I’ve been uncomfortable about putting myself out there to date again because I’m scared of meeting more ableist people like my ex and his family. Thanks for reminding us that we are in fact valuable partners and having disabilities doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy of love. Also, your comment on parents of SOs not approving of you because of your disabilities really hit me hard. My ex’s family was like that towards me and my ex would parrot their thoughts at me. Should have been a big warning sign that this wasn’t the right relationship for me. I kept telling myself that I wasn’t dating his family, I was dating him. But the fact he believed their ableist views in some way should have been a red flag.
I recommend Jo Beckwith from the TH-cam channel Footless Jo for this series! She's amazing. She is a below-the-knee amputee and a trauma survivor of complex trauma of many forms (which she has a separate channel for in addition to her Footless Jo channel called Trauma Talk) as well as a migraineur and beyond with well over 100k subscribers on here. She had an elective amputation below the knee due to 14 years of many failed ankle surgeries after her horseback riding accident and the fact that amputation was eventually inevitable and delaying it for an ankle that wasn't working and was massively painful when she had the opportunity to be more functional and potentially have reduced pain with use of a prosthetic leg, she decided to have the amputation in advance of when it was absolutely emergent. She's absolutely incredible and just recently got to run for the first time at 29 years old since her horseback riding accident at 13! She had a total of 2 amputations, both on the same leg over the past couple of years since she was 27.
I didn't realize how much I would get from this interview. I have a lot of mental illnesses, PTSD being the most debilitating, and I worry so so much about being unlovable and not a good partner because of it. What Shane was saying about all the other interabled couples they've met was really comforting to me.
A MESSAGE FOR MOLLY: Hi Molly! I think it's so awesome that you're doing this, but I have a request for some girls you should talk to. They have a channel "Carmen and Lupita" they are conjoined twins and I watch them all the time and I think you guys would love each other!!!!
@Caramel Cupcake I haven't had a chance to check out their channel yet, but I did watch Abbi and Brittany's documentaries. They've faced access issues regarding education, getting their driver's licenses, and employment/salary because they are conjoined. While I'll never assign people labels, I would say conjoined twins are qualified to be a part of these conversations.
@Caramel Cupcake they are disabled. They have two legs between them, and are permanently connected to one another. Navigating the world attached to your twin and having one leg each has numerous daily challenges and it must qualify as a physical disability. A single person with a missing limb is considered disabled, so certainly conjoined twins, each with a missing limb, has to qualify. I can't imagine that it wouldn't.
Molly, this is great content and I'm loving this new series. I'm not much for watching couple's daily life videos, so I had not been watching your channel as much (not because I don't think it's great you found someone, just because I found myself looking at my recommended videos while "watching them" and clicking off. I'm very happy you're happy, though!). This has reignited my interest in your channe!
Thank you so much for making this video! As a disabled woman engaged to an able bodied man, there was a lot in this video that I needed to hear. I truly appreciate what all of you are doing for the disabled community! 🖤🖤🖤
This is the reason why I follow you Molly. You've helped me learn so much. Thank you for making and sharing these kind of videos, always being super informative, realistic, respectful. I loved what you said about if you don't see you, you need to be you.
Peddler's village ahahaha I knew that would come up! You can't go long without mentioning that place! Honestly though I love Hannah and Shane's videos and I completely agree with Molly's perspective. I absolutely no longer see Shane's disability but I see the obvious chemistry they have! They're just a lovely couple. I hope they gain so many more viewers from this and I wish you all the best!
Hannah and Shane are so cute and even when interacting mainly with you, Molly, they clearly show how much they love the other one. I'm so glad that you and your boyfriend found each other, Molly. Man, I hate inspiration porn!! And ablebodied people seem to think it's not actually as bad as it is. I don't have a physical disability, but I have ADHD and Autism. And I definitely worry what will happen if i get a partner and potentially don't mask in public. I know that there could be the fact that people honestly don't know to not do weird stuff, but there is no excuse for not researching and actually talking to disabled people and asking how they want to be treated. This conversation was so needed and I hope we as a whole can get the able-bodied and Neurotypical communities to treat us like normal humans who just need a little extra support.
This is such an awesome video! I greatly enjoyed the exploration of interabled couples, a term I hadn't really heard before. I know a few people who are together where one person is disabled while the other is able-bodied. I think it's so important to normalize that kind of pairing.
I’m so glad that your doing these interviews with other disabled people molly! My initial reaction to Shane and Hannah’s relationship was not very respectful because I just have never been educated on stuff like this but after watching it I feel so much more educated and frankly I think their such a great couple. Their personalities blend together so well.
Something I noticed is that Shane mentioned a few different times that he understands that he is worthy and valuable as a partner, but I found myself hoping that he would have also said that he understands his worth as a human being, too. I'm sure it was implied, but especially after what he said about people not ever referring to him as human in hate comments, it would have been really cool to reinforce the message that disabled people are just as worthy and valuable as people, rather than just as partners.
In order to draw a line between caregiving and couple time entirely, Shane would have to shut off being disabled and it doesn’t work that way. It is just a reality and part of both of their lives as a married couple. It is a challenge but also something that makes them both stronger more kind humans. If they had a line, that would freak me out personally more than having no line at all lol. Hope that makes sense. Just like others say I “talk about arthritis or my heart troubles too often”. What is too often when it infiltrates almost all activities? To shut it off or never talk about it, would be to turn off a chronic daily occurrence with no perfect cure. Not exactly a thing! But I’ll try to remind those dorks to ONLY visit me when I am “healthy”. That way I do not have to deal with them at all hahahaha.
Honestly the line doesn’t exist for friends either. My friends generally have this line with other friends they don’t cross but with me it really doesn’t exist. I tell them very private things because it is important that they know and plus it’s honestly not even weird. I do mention about bowl movements often but for one to have it less awkward so that if I do have an issue they don’t feel so weird about it because I’ve prepared them. I have to tell them scary things because even tho I may not want to think about it it has to be acknowledged and they should be prepared. Plenty of times I just end up laying down on a floor because my body is done and at this point my friends just make me comfortable and understand that I’m okay. This line that people make up is insane. Being honest and just accepting that the line actually doesn’t exist is best for everyone even people who don’t have disabilities.
This is so inspiring, I am disabled and in a wheelchair, I have always been told that no one could ever love someone like me but seeing the love between Hannah and Shane has made me believe that it is possible. This video is amazing and I love both channels
I honestly love this new series Molly, not only because I am meeting this amazing people but also as a non-disabled person I’m learning so much and I’m really happy I’m able to be educate and hopefully be less ignorant about disability. So thank you so much love you Molly ❤️🇺🇾
The way she looks at him is sooo sweet, it’s obvious she’s in love and people saying there’s ulterior motives is truly awful. They’re such a good, loving couple and I’m glad they found each other
Oh God. Christians praying over disabled people in public. Welcome to my ted talk. I've seen this as a bystander, as a caregiver to a disabled person, and recently experienced this myself for the first time when my hip pain was flaring up and I was walking with a cane and limping in the grocery store (I'm 21) Look--your heart is in the right place and your actions might seem to be in good faith. But not only is this an incredibly uncomfortable experience for the disabled person due the attention it draws, it can be very demoralizing. One client turned to me after this exchange had happened to her practically in tears and said "I thought I was walking pretty well today." The more disabled you look, the more often it happens to the point it becomes a frequent barrier to accomplishing things like going to the store and getting groceries or ordering your coffee or getting gas--things that having a disability may already make more difficult, you're now being interrupted in order to be the object of someone else's religious expression. And I use that word very intentionally because it does feel objectifying and dehumanizing. The way I felt when this happened to me was not "God is going to cure my pain" or "what a kind woman." The way I felt was, do I look that abnormal and that noticably wrong that this woman feels compelled to stop what she's doing and ask the Holy Savior to fix me? Damn. These needs to end. It's so uncomfortable
I had literally never heard of this before today and that is absolutely baffling. I can't wrap my mind around what would motivate someone to loudly pray at another person. And it's a regular thing?? Would anything be effective as a bystander or are people who do this generally to determined to be deterred? Like could I tap someone on the shoulder and say "sorry to interrupt but I think they're trying to get at the milk and I think God will still hear your prayers if you say them at home"?
You brought up some great points. I'm a mostly homebound Christian and my relationship with God very special to me. It has been the single greatest reason for me to keep smiling and trying to help others despite my own increasing illness and disability. I became very sick at the age of 13 and more than two decades later, things are very complicated, but I'm thankful for the lessons I've learned about life, love, and God that I never would have experienced at this age were I healthy. I wasn't expected to live this long, so it's hard, but also something that I've come to terms with and have a lot to be thankful for. (And for those wondering, I do actually totally believe that God could completely cure me instantly if it is the best plan for my good at that time, but since it hasn't happened yet, I figure I have a lot more to learn.) So God and I are on good terms with all of this. I've been the recipient of many attempted faith healings by complete strangers while out in public. I'm visably unwell now due to slowly limping along with a walker to remain upright for the past five years, so I'm a clear "target. Almost every time I go out (very rarely!) I get a lot of looks and a few brave people come up to ask where I got my cool walker since they know someone who needs one. Out of seven incredibly notable attempted faith healing interactions, one was physically violent, and actually hurt me as they grabbed my weak arms and shook me almost paralyzing me with pain and causing me to nearly collapse. Lesson learned, and both my husband and I are MUCH more proactive about making sure people stay back a bit pandemic or not. And yes, if you intend touch me without my consent, I now will alert you that there will be consequences. Several of the episodes were very alarmingly furious when it became clear that I couldn't suddenly skip back to my chores afterwards. And several of the episodes were just very emotionally draining, which leads to being physically draining and making it exceptionally hard to get safely back to the car. My advice to all spiritual people of any denomination who possibly have tender hearts and see somebody who is struggling is this: ASK if they would like help. ASK if they would like a prayer. ASK if they would like a hug. Make your interaction very short and sweet. You can always pray for them when you get elsewhere if you feel led to do so. If you believe that God is omnipotent, He certainly doesn't need your help to heal someone. And if you see a disabled person who looks to be terrified or in agony during one of these events, yes, politely going up to the "healer" and interrupting them might to ask the disabled person if they are okay with this would be an incredible kindness.
@knovikov38 when they talked about the horrible comments I almost had trouble believing them and then I saw this. I’m sorry that you view people and the world as so selfish and horrible that someone who is young and pretty can’t love someone like him and I hope you find someone one day and you realize how this can be real.
@knovikov38 belive it or not some people have a lot of love in their hearts and by the video they are such a cute couple, and I hope one day you won’t see the world as such a selfish place because their are some incredible people and couples.
I think you hit the nail on the head when talking about how partners care for each other. Too often relationships are dysfunctional and there is no caring for each other, just some sort of codependency or one party afraid to be alone so they stay and are alone but in a “relationship”. So they look at relationships like yours, or Shane and Hannah’s and can’t understand two partners actually taking care of each other ALL the time.
I absolutely loved this video and new series as a able bodied 20 year old TH-cam tends not to recommend these channels to me but I really like to educate myself and learn more and when I found you and your content was immediately drawn to your amazing way of educating but also just the fashion vids (cause I LOVE clothes lol) I will definitely be binge watching there vids !!!!!!! Love you molly keep doing you!! Toronto represent eh!!
I personally have invisible disabilities so people can’t always tell that I am disabled. When people find out they either don’t believe me or they treat me as if I’m a problem in people’s lives. The most common thing I hear people say to my mother is “I’m so sorry you have to deal with all of this” completely disregards I’m the person struggling and that I’m even a person at all. It’s as if I did this to my family and I’m just a problem. It’s not right how people treat others with disabilities. The amount of nasty looks I get when using my wheelchair out in public is unreal. I don’t particularly look sick and sometimes it makes me feel as if I should. I have a port to help me get fluids. It seems even family members seem to think I got it for fun basically. Like yes I got a surgical procedure for fun and I get poked weekly for fun and yes I bare the risk of getting bad infections ALL FOR FUN AND ATTENTION. If being sick isn’t already bad getting treated can be just as bad but people making it even worse just hurts. I do know for a fact my dogs and cat love to take care of me and try to help me in every way they can. They are my best friends and treat me with love and respect. There are so many people who don’t care if you are sick or don’t look sick they accept you as you are. I just wish there wasn’t so many people so ignorant and cruel. I hope you continue this series even if it isn’t super popular because those who find it may learn something new.
I understand where you're coming from. I'm also disabled and get told that my entitlement is through the roof and I need to get a job and do things for myself. I'm also treated like I've chosen to be disabled. I hate it. My two cats are my lifesavers.
@@crystald3655 They must not know that disability payments are not very much. You cannot get rich off of it, and you are not allowed to save more than a couple thousand dollars. I am not disbled, but I know, and am friends with, many disabled people.
I developed a disability last year and seeing you and others living their best lives really helps to remind me that my life is not over, and I can still contribute to society and follow my dreams. It's really important and I really appreciate it. Thank you so much!
Love this video. I love Shane and Hannah too. Been watching them over a year. Can you interview Cole and Charisma? Another one of my favorite inter able couples on TH-cam.
OMG, I've been NEEDING this collab. I love both channels and all of you are such fun relatable people even though I don't share some of the same lived experiences that ya'll do.
Love this interview Molly! Squirmy and Grubbs are such a breath of fresh air for the world right now, they make me laugh most every time I watch them. And the world can always use more laughter!
Hi molly!!! I love you and I love this series! I love how we get different points of view on different disability’s and you are helping us understand the disabled community! Love you ❤️❤️❤️
Hi Molly: I'm a bit behind on your videos, but I watched this and loved it. I think it's great you are doing a series wherein you have conversations with other disabled people--and of different disabilities beyond blindness. I only learned of Shane and Hannah's channel a few months ago; their videos kept popping up on my recommendations so I finally clicked on one. I was immediately taken by Shane's hilarious sense of humor, Hannah's sweet voice and loving energy, and their chemistry together. To me, Shane is as much a human as the next person, and it never occurred to me to wonder at the validity of their relationship or how they do things. I have since read two of Shane's books: Laughing At My Nightmare, and Strangers Assume My Girlfriend Is My Nurse. Brilliantly written, they were wonderful reads, filled with Shane's wit, honesty, and wisdom. I thought this video covered many deep and important topics. While it comforted and filled me with joy to know that I'm not alone in my frustration with society's attitudes, it deeply saddens me to be reminded of the still common belief that as disabled people, we are less than human, that our needs are not as important as others'. Yet the reality is anyone can join the disability community... at anytime. Its not a tragedy or an end but a human condition. Thank you for doing this series, for helping to amplify voices that need to be heard, and for bringing forward a truth that needs to be acknowledged: Disabled people matter, too and deserve to be respected, valued, heard, and given a chance.
❤️ (heart emoji) Squirmy & Grubs. I was on a live stream earlier with ‘Footless Jo’ and she said she’d love to collaborate with you. Jo would be an awesome guest on this series.
I’m happy to see a relationship that is all about love. Looking at my community, I find people have strong ideas about romantic relationships that are so focused on deficit in partners rather than just enjoying one another.
I totally agree with you! Showing a partner all facets of a disability creates a strong bond that can’t be explained. In my first relationship I tried to hide so much in the first months. At the time I started dating an other man I was confident enough to show every part of my live. And I feel like every time I opened up he loves me even more and it helps him so much to understand my journey and my way of living.
It makes me really happy to see people share their stories like this. It really gives me perspective. I’ve always tried to befriend people regardless of their physical abilities as well as some mental health stuff. Connecting with people is really important. It’s what life is all about. Hopefully we can all learn from these videos. Love conquers all 💕
Thanks so much Molly! It was a pleasure chatting with you!
I'm so thrilled to see my TH-cam worlds colliding for this collaboration! 😍😍 Love you both so much, been following for a long time.
This was such an insightful & amazing conversation. ☺️
Love you guys too huge fan from Venezuela 🇻🇪
Peddlers village!?! Come visit me!! Love you guys🥰
AHHHHH ICONS COLLABING
I already watch both of your channels! So excited to watch this collab!
Me too! ❤
Same! 😊
Yes, me tooOooo!!!!
Same!!!@
Same
Molly is such a wonderful interviewer, she allows them to speak but adds her comments in or her personal experiences in such a balanced way. Nothing is worse than an a “mhm” interviewer that only nods and gives one worded answers. An interview that just flows and feels more like a conversation is so much better to watch. Beautiful video beautiful couple great job guys❤️
Totally agree
I disagree, but I think it’s because she is used to being the main speaker for audiences. She does have great stories and insight though
@@LoveyBicki my niece was watching this and she asked if this was a zoom lecture. I’m like what, why do you say that? She said the teacher keeps talking over the student. 🤣🤷🏻♀️
What... I am gonna stop the video because Molly is just the usual blah blah blah
I was just thinking that!
The Sign Duo! They’re so amazing and funny! One of them uses asl and chooses to not use his voice, but his girlfriend uses his voice and asl. They would love to talk with you!
Yes! They would be awesome! Great suggestion!
YES PLEASE
YES YES YES I love them!!!
YES I LOVE THEM. Great suggestion!
Yes! They're so funny, and their dog is so cute!
"If you don't see you, you need to be you." Deserves its own T-shirt.
Yes yes yes.
Completely agree!
I found myself laughing and crying during this video. My dad broke his neck in a college wrestling accident when he was 20 years old, and met my mom 8 years later. SO MUCH of what Hannah and Shane are describing is what my parents have experienced their whole relationship. And I often get comments like “Oh, I’m so sorry.” when I mention my dad is in a wheelchair. I just shrug and say “I mean, it’s all I know. He’s just my dad.” 🤷♀️ Thanks for doing this video! It was so refreshing!
Me too (laughing & crying)! The part at the end when Molly said we are all caretakers... it hit me and I think that is so true as well as so wise and beautiful ♡
Exactly this! When it’s all you know it’s not a sad thing and it’s always felt so weird when people say stuff like that
😂 what a lie
@@denisewoodell7543 Wow! You sure are a negative Nancy!
@@elouise5593 people will NOT stay with a disabled person unless money or fame is involved
As a disabled woman in an interabled marriage I severely appreciate this interview. I love Shane and Hannah. We watch them all the time! Love this series idea.
Knovikov38. You are so wrong. You are jealous that is all.
@knovikov38 I don’t know if she’s for the money and fame. Shane’s ugly he looks like a talking machine with a wheelchair
@knovikov38 and I don’t think Molly looks blind
I think u missed the whole point of their videos guys...
@@kikifox7111 Yeah the whole point of their videos is to make money from gullible people online...
Shane saying to disabled people watching that if you’ve been made to feel like you could never be a meaningful partner that it’s not true I- I literally can’t see what I’m typing my eyes are so full of tears.
I’m almost 30 years old and have only been in one relationship and that was 8 years ago. I haven’t even gotten on dating apps ever because I’ve always said that I want to wait until my health is more stable so I’m not as much of a burden but the reality is that with my many many ever changing chronic illnesses, every time I get one aspect somewhat under control, something else comes out of the woodwork and I’m stuck in a perpetual cycle of feeling forever alone and like nobody could ever want the dumpster fire of my life in theirs.
Thank you alll so much, the three of you are some of my favorite people to watch and feel like I’m hanging out with and finally having people I can relate to (even if none of y’all know I exist) is such a special gift and I’m so thankful and proud to be in the same community ♥️♿️
My late husband was disabled, and my disabilities got worse. However, I loved him for his love, compassion, and his intelligence. Don't wait to live your life...there may be someone looking for a person just like you, REGARDLESS of your illnesses. I have several long-term conditions that are chronic, but that is not WHO I am. Blessings to you!
The way I see it, if the homeless drug addicts living on the street sleeping together can find some solace in each other, so can I and so can you lol. Not meaning it in a bad way, just cuz we know how difficult those 2 situations just separately are, yet they still found someone to be with through it.
@MandieZangora You are worthy of love and more than enough just as you are Mandie! You are not a burden! You may have different needs than others but that doesn't make you any less or not deserving. Live is a cycle of perpetual shit creeping out of the woodworks for everyone! I don't say this to diminish the hardships in your life, but to remind you that everyone has their own hardships to bear. Yours do not make you any less worthy of love or friendship than anyone else. You are beautiful. You are amazing. You are a wonderful being. Don't be selfish, Share that wonder with others. I KNOW you have SO much to give to others. Share that!
Another channel you might find helpful is Jessica Kelgren-Fozard! She is disabled and chronically ill, and she mostly talks about disability stuff and gay stuff, and several of her videos feature her wife which is always charming to watch. She is a great example of someone living their life and not putting things on hold for an illness that will never really stop or get better
The one for you will care about supporting you through the bad but they will never make you feel as if your medical history is a dumpster fire in their life. It will be just be a part of life. Talking from experience.
I love Squirmy and Grubs!
You could call this series DisabiliTea... beacause you guys are giving the truth tea on what it's like living with different disabilities.
I feel like the word ‘tea’ has been mashed into so many different TH-cam series, it’s starting to feel cringey.
@LouiseGrazano What a hateful thing to say. Shane is very funny, and they are both lucky to have each other.
@LouiseGrazano I am shocked at the cruelty you spew! You must be a trolling hack as I cannot imagine someone could honestly say such mean and judgmental words. What a sad world you must live.
@LouiseGrazano yikes. Projecting much? They clearly have great chemistry and I certainly think he’s funny
@LouiseGrazano I guess you’re the reason for their recent debunking myths video...
Would love to see Jessica Kellgren-Fozard on to talk about her experiences with being disabled and gay! (She also has many stories about being in an interabled marriage)
This needs so many more likes!
YES!
Yes!
I love Jessica! She is so lovely and I love how she uses her platform to educate others.
Yes!!!!! I love her videos!
What other topics would you want to see me cover in this new series?
To see a fun video with MY boyfriend, watch this next: th-cam.com/video/846UBHtbWwM/w-d-xo.html
ADHD with HowToADHD
I will also happily speak about having ADHD
Could you interview a blind cook 💕👍
Hi molly!!!!
Turetts would be interesting. But also
Speaking out with... Would be great for a name
I just yesterday talked about how people feel uncomfortable around things they don't know about . I like to watch many different youtubers with disabilites to better understand their situation and it has made me way more comfortable when I am around people with disabilities, I just think yoou have to expose yourself to things you don't know about and I love that there are people like you on here so I can learn all these great things!!!!
I experienced this for real the first time I met a trans person. I knew my weirdness was lack of knowledge or understanding, so I did lots of research and realized that they were really just a person, just like me, and that there's really no reason to feel any particular way about it. I now consider them my very good friend 😁
@@kiliesmom that's great!! I think it's just important to recognize when you feel weird about something and work on it!!
Hi Ruth:
I think it's great that you do that. Many people do not, they would rather walk away and not move beyond their discomfort, not caring or realizing what they might have missed.
I hate when people consider mental illness fake or insane too, you can't see it but it exists!
@@Nick07900 it definitely does, and I really dislike those labels. There's always so much going on within every person that nobody else can see, and to accuse someone of faking anything is really devaluing.
I think disability dialogue could be a cool name for the series seeing as its opening a dialogue on disabilities and topics surrounding it.
The way Hannah looks at him, I don't see how anyone could question her love for Shane. 😍
She looks at me the same way when I book her on a friday night 😅
@@MM-gp9mb hahahaha. She's an amazing actress. I can't believe people fall for their crap. Molly shouldn't be giving them clout
@@andreavasiljevic2104 Yet here you are watching them…
Woah seeing u with them...it's like my two youtube worlds are colliding
Same!!!
Same 🎉
Same!
Right? So weird.
same!!
I’m legally blind and was the only disabled student at my school. I was never straight out bullied, but I never really had friends. I used to, and still spend breaks on my own, and at one point in elementary school, students were literally assigned to hang out with me, as if I was some kind of task they had to attend to. The teachers’ explanation was that kids wanted to run around, so they could not assign one person to Hangout with me for more than two weeks, because apparently, hanging out with me prevents them from having fun. Never mind that the whole assigning students idea was so stupid to begin with and is probably why I am in high school now and still have no friends. Students only see me as someone who might nee help, rather than someone they could possibly start a conversation with.
Anyway, I remember for a while in fifth grade, there was this new kid who somehow started to willingly hangout with me during break. I actually considered her somewhat of a close friend. She was kind of looked down upon by a handful of the students, and I guess she was able to find a friend in me. We bonded pretty well. One day, during morning assembly, our home room teacher came up to me and asked me who is the student that spends the most time with me. I gave her the name of that girl. A few minutes later, during home room class, the teacher called her up in front of the entire class, and gave her a small gift. And she specifically said that it’s for hanging out with me, or something along those lines. I don’t know how to exactly translate it into English. Anyway, that same day, a student who I knew, but didn’t often talk to, suddenly decided that she wanted to walk with me during break. She did not say a word to me throughout the whole thing. I distinctly remember a boy passing next to her and teasingly saying, “what, do you want a gift?”
My supposed friend still hung out with me after that, but she completely ignored me throughout middle school. She found her friend group, and completely discarded the fact that I was one of the few students who accepted her when she was new.
Sorry for this long rant. I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’ve been with more or less the same students for five years. I joined them in forth grade. And whatever you show a nine year old is likely to stick with them. They saw me as more of a task than just another student, and all that because of the way society perceives and approaches disability. I was stuck with almost no friends for a decent chunk of my school life. That is still going on till now, and all that because the adults in my life approached the situation from a wrong direction.
If you reached this far, thanks for reading my rambling, and have a great day.
Wow, this sounds bad.
So I'm from Germany and we don't have the same school system, but when I was in school I always tried to talk with the "silent ones". Most of them were pretty shy.
I hang around with them at school and they were really nice people. And the best thing.. They became less self concious. So they made new friends and left me alone...
So I was the person in school who helped the sad and shy ones, but ended up with only, but gladly, one lasting friend at the end of school.
Now I'm trying not to do the same in university again... 😅
I still want to help everyone, but I also want to have some real friendships
Hey Tia, what a flawed system!
I'm in disbelief of what you have had to endure. It sucks that humans have this great need to work for rewards. People truly can be quite unauthentic.
I wish you all of the good health in this life time sis- I know it is difficult to give hugs over the internet- but here is one for you xxxx
P.S I would definitely be your mate at school; you seem very deep and intelligent :)
Hi Tia,
Greetings from England, you sound fabulous and I’m 100% sure you’ll find people who love you for who you are. If I grew up in your school, i would have come to speak to you 💓 x
Sorry to hear about this. You sound like a really cool person though, wish you went to my school😊😊😊
I'm able-bodied, but in young age it's so important how adults and especially teachers behave around you. I told my teacher in second grade that I wanted to be one as well one day (I mean, how many jobs do you know as a 7 year old...) and because I was good in writing she started to call me to the front to see other students writing mistakes so I can learn how to be a teacher. Needless to say that nobody wanted to be my friend anymore for years to come and I got bullied severly for being a teachers favorite. Great times! But: it gets better, I promise! There are many things to dislike about getting older, but being able to be yourself and get comfortable with it is a huge advantage! I have a solid group of friends for over 10 years now and a wonderful husband who happens to be hard of hearing.
OMG the collab I never thought would happen but am SO HAPPY it did
My heart is so full after watching this. My husband also has SMA and we have been together for almost 17 year (married for 15). We have two beautiful kids together and we have gone threw so much of the same things they talked about. I am so glad this was in the series. How have I not seen their channel! I won’t miss a video now❤️
you won't regret it, their channel is one of the best out there
I love this video and this series!! 💜 Thanks for doing these, Molly!
Aaaaa
Maybe Molly could interview Jo for this series? That would be awesome!
@@alternativeprincess4783 yeeeees!
I'm happy you found the series!!! Looking forward to seeing you on it someday! 🙂
Awww
I’d love to see you interview “Sign Duo” if you haven’t already. I love their content as well and they bring great awareness surrounding the deaf community.
Yess I love Sign Duo!
Yes yes yes yes yesss!
yess i love them!
Yessss please 💚💚💚
I love Squirmy & Grubs! I love this series that you’re doing and that you were able to interview them!
I was once hanging out with a group of Orthodox Jews (I’m Jewish but not particularly religious) and one of those Christians came over and started praying for us. At the top of her lungs. At Six Flags. That was fun. 🙄
This collab is so wonderful! Thank you, thank you! Your conversations were so honest & open; as an ally for people with any disabilities, I hope people view this, & minds are enlightened, & hearts are opened
That light purple is Molly’s colour. 😍😍😍😍
Of the important things my dad does for me none of them is physical. He loves me, he counsels me, he always picks up the phone, he jokes around with me, he tells me stories, he loves and supports my mom. Shane is gonna crush it in all of those arenas.
Hannah will too, of course!
@Yugo_Mon Why? There are many so called able bodied people who are not fit to be parents! They will be able to work things out, so that they can get help with the kids if Hannah has to be gone. He, at least will be a kind, loving, parent.
@Yugo_Mon You’re the only one here being emotional, bro.
They are such a CUTE COUPLE! #SQUIRMY&GRUBS!
You've got it completely wrong.... watch more of their content...
@@erictrumpler9652 You should not watch any of their content, if you want to see the real truth. Do some research instead and you will find that Shane has got a history of making money with hot girls online...
@Karpal_Seijiin72 just stop keep your opinions to yourself
@LouiseGrazano would you stop trying to spread that hatefulness by copy/pasting your theories under every comment please, it's getting kind of old
Man, people really hate seeing people happy. Who the F cares if he's "really" funny or not - SHE likes him and that's the point of a relationship?? Not the approval of faceless TH-cam commenters 🙄
And you're proving the sentiment of the video where people discount interabled relationships simply because they are different and it makes you uncomfortable.
Great collab of some of my regularly watched TH-camrs! You guys are awesome and put out such important messages to change the narrative around disabled people.
Disability and sex is such a taboo subject. People always ask "how" and its obviously none of their business yet they still ask
I remember being stopped by my parents because I was becoming friends with a girl who was in a wheelchair while we were in a train trip. They were intimating that I shouldn’t want to do that. It seemed ridiculous to me but I was a kid then. Now, I’m so amazed by how welcoming my disabled friends have been in my life. Everyone has a different path in life but that doesn’t make them less worthy to travel it
A collab I didn’t know I needed until now! I love you both and I think this is incredible!!!
Molly if you'd ever consider a mother with an invisible illness (narcolepsy) I'd love to be considered for your series.
I would love to see that.
Ahh! Im glad yall think this would be a good idea!
Would love to see this!
It would be awesome if Molly interviewed people with invisible illnesses! It's the Endometriosis for me.
What about mental illness to invisible illness suck because every one thinks yours Fakeing it
I’ve never clicked so fast! Molly I am seriously so excited you did this collab, Hannah & Shane are some of the most amazing humans on TH-cam & I’m just so happy y’all are having these amazing conversations in this space! Love you all ❤️💞
Love them so much!
I love them! And I squealed with excitement when I saw this collab!!
@@MollyBurkeOfficial @Molly Burke great video with Hannah
@@MollyBurkeOfficial @Molly Burke will you get to hang out with Hannah in her home sometime
@@MollyBurkeOfficial @Molly Burke Can you sometime???????????????????
They rock!!! The next couple should be Rolling with Cole and Chrisma.
Yes! Cole and Charisma are so much fun, they would be amazing!
Yes!
Yes!
Yesssss
Yes!!!
The way Hannah looks at Shane if people can't see that they genuinely love each other and can't hear their love. It is right there 💖 their love is so sweet
@Yugo_Mon how sad your life must be.
Shane and Hannah have a healthier relationship than so many “typical” relationships. Love the two of you so much and are so grateful for what you’ve shared and educating society!
These stories reminds me of me and my husband - i was newly diagnosed with ulcerative colitis, and pretty quick he had to help me and when that became clear, I had to bite the bullet and show him just how much blood came out when I went to the toilet ( no lie, the ENTIRE toilet was blood red on the inside)
And it’s been almost 23 years now, and he has been here through every new diagnosis and every weird thing that popped up through the years!!
Love that you talked to Shane and Hannah - I’ve been following them for a few years and they are just amazing!!
My boyfriend was diagnosed with UC when we were in college. Right around when he turned 21. He is 23 now and recently had his colon removed since it got so bad so fast and nothing was helping. It's been awful watching him go through multiple surgeries and having ostomy complications and losing lots of self-confidence. But I wouldn't change our experience for the world (as much as I wish he didn't have to go through any of this) - caring for one another is our top priority.
my husband grew up with a hypokondrisk mom, and was afraid of me bring sick because - He thought it would result in me complaining all the time.... I’ve had both good and addictive days, weeks, months, but I keep fighting and he is right beside me every step of the way!!
I believe he got the wife he needed to work through the things he experienced in his childhood, and I got the husband I needed to keep my head in ‘the game’, and not fall in to despair....
the best partners are those who support you through everything and still let you fight your own battles...
That's really good to hear 🥺. I don't have a diagnosis yet but I've been experiencing symptoms that align with UC/Crohn's for a while. Bathroom issues are pretty taboo and I find it hard to talk about even with close family and friends. Idk how I will have the guts (no pun intended) to bring it up to a partner.
@@sliceofbread6929 it’s really not about guts, it’s about honesty... think about it.... do you want a partner where you have to hide, or a partner where you can be wholely yourself??
I have learned through time that for me it works to talk about it... not in a ‘ oh it so sad, feel sorry for me’way, but in a ‘ this is my reality, and yes, it can be horrible, but I can laugh about it even when I don’t feel like it’...
I choose when I found out how liberating it was to talk honestly to my husband, to keep it honest everywhere...
For example, I can’t drink alcohol anymore, it gives me an instant bellyache, and we have friends who like to party... I go to these party’s and participate, but when they offer me a drink or try to pressure me ( in a friendly way, but it’s still pressure) I just tell them that because of my condition I can’t, because I really want to be here and enjoy this time with them, instead of hiding on the toilet with raging diarrhea.... of course I say it with a smile/laugh to take the sting off, but that usually stops them ;)
I even talk freely with my clients ( I’m a hairstylist) and that have given me a very loyal client base that have found me even when I have been away from the business for years... they know what I have, and they know that I will listen to ANY of their stuff, and be supportive, even when the world around them is not....
My daughter introduce me to your channel a few months back and to be honest, there's many subjects that as a dad (or man) doesn't attract me to watch. However i am a big fan of Hannah and Shane and was pleasantly happy to see that you all contributed to each others channels. :) This said... I got to admit Molly, you are one very talented woman and if I had the ability to make something happened, I would definitely have you on your own mainstream tv talk show. Your interviiwing skills are through the roof and really enjoyed watching this and appriciated your prepareness, how your deovered your questions and hadoc interaction with Hannah and Shane. Great job from a fellow Canadian to an amazing Canadian gal! (loll)
Molly I love you so much! I do not have a physical disability but my mental ones you have helped so much with your kind and loving words. I just wanted to thank you for everything you've done and I wish you nothing but the best!!
OMG so happy this collab happened! Both such great channels
Woah two of my worlds colliding!! I never would have guessed this I’m so happy!! I love them and you!
Dude we commented like the same thing within 10 seconds of each other
I'd love to see you interview some of the "kids" (they're all adults now, 18-20something) from 6 blind kids. David is a college student, Hannah works at a bakery, Bethany is working on job skills, Abbi is working on life skills and independence, and Jessie and Obed are doing home schooling and various at home therapies
Six blind kids would be great!
They did a collaboration with Roll with Cole and Charisma about a year and a half ago. Both channels have their own videos of the experience on their channels. They were both good.
Shane, thank you for your words of encouragement at the end to disabled folks like me. After my first serious relationship that ended this year, I’ve been uncomfortable about putting myself out there to date again because I’m scared of meeting more ableist people like my ex and his family. Thanks for reminding us that we are in fact valuable partners and having disabilities doesn’t mean we aren’t worthy of love.
Also, your comment on parents of SOs not approving of you because of your disabilities really hit me hard. My ex’s family was like that towards me and my ex would parrot their thoughts at me. Should have been a big warning sign that this wasn’t the right relationship for me. I kept telling myself that I wasn’t dating his family, I was dating him. But the fact he believed their ableist views in some way should have been a red flag.
This is my favorite chat ever! Two of my favorite TH-camrs 🤩
I recommend Jo Beckwith from the TH-cam channel Footless Jo for this series! She's amazing. She is a
below-the-knee amputee and a trauma survivor of complex trauma of many forms (which she has a separate channel for in addition to her Footless Jo channel called Trauma Talk) as well as a migraineur and beyond with well over 100k subscribers on here. She had an elective amputation below the knee due to 14 years of many failed ankle surgeries after her horseback riding accident and the fact that amputation was eventually inevitable and delaying it for an ankle that wasn't working and was massively painful when she had the opportunity to be more functional and potentially have reduced pain with use of a prosthetic leg, she decided to have the amputation in advance of when it was absolutely emergent. She's absolutely incredible and just recently got to run for the first time at 29 years old since her horseback riding accident at 13! She had a total of 2 amputations, both on the same leg over the past couple of years since she was 27.
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I didn't realize how much I would get from this interview. I have a lot of mental illnesses, PTSD being the most debilitating, and I worry so so much about being unlovable and not a good partner because of it. What Shane was saying about all the other interabled couples they've met was really comforting to me.
A MESSAGE FOR MOLLY: Hi Molly! I think it's so awesome that you're doing this, but I have a request for some girls you should talk to. They have a channel "Carmen and Lupita" they are conjoined twins and I watch them all the time and I think you guys would love each other!!!!
I second this! More people need education on others that live “differently”
ahhh i watch them too
@Caramel Cupcake ye, but alot of people stare and think it's weird :(
@Caramel Cupcake I haven't had a chance to check out their channel yet, but I did watch Abbi and Brittany's documentaries. They've faced access issues regarding education, getting their driver's licenses, and employment/salary because they are conjoined. While I'll never assign people labels, I would say conjoined twins are qualified to be a part of these conversations.
@Caramel Cupcake they are disabled. They have two legs between them, and are permanently connected to one another. Navigating the world attached to your twin and having one leg each has numerous daily challenges and it must qualify as a physical disability. A single person with a missing limb is considered disabled, so certainly conjoined twins, each with a missing limb, has to qualify. I can't imagine that it wouldn't.
Molly, this is great content and I'm loving this new series. I'm not much for watching couple's daily life videos, so I had not been watching your channel as much (not because I don't think it's great you found someone, just because I found myself looking at my recommended videos while "watching them" and clicking off. I'm very happy you're happy, though!). This has reignited my interest in your channe!
Thank you so much for making this video! As a disabled woman engaged to an able bodied man, there was a lot in this video that I needed to hear. I truly appreciate what all of you are doing for the disabled community! 🖤🖤🖤
This is the reason why I follow you Molly. You've helped me learn so much. Thank you for making and sharing these kind of videos, always being super informative, realistic, respectful. I loved what you said about if you don't see you, you need to be you.
You’re involving squirmy and grubs??? That’s awesome
Peddler's village ahahaha I knew that would come up! You can't go long without mentioning that place! Honestly though I love Hannah and Shane's videos and I completely agree with Molly's perspective. I absolutely no longer see Shane's disability but I see the obvious chemistry they have! They're just a lovely couple. I hope they gain so many more viewers from this and I wish you all the best!
Hannah and Shane are so cute and even when interacting mainly with you, Molly, they clearly show how much they love the other one. I'm so glad that you and your boyfriend found each other, Molly.
Man, I hate inspiration porn!! And ablebodied people seem to think it's not actually as bad as it is. I don't have a physical disability, but I have ADHD and Autism. And I definitely worry what will happen if i get a partner and potentially don't mask in public. I know that there could be the fact that people honestly don't know to not do weird stuff, but there is no excuse for not researching and actually talking to disabled people and asking how they want to be treated.
This conversation was so needed and I hope we as a whole can get the able-bodied and Neurotypical communities to treat us like normal humans who just need a little extra support.
Love this video and all the thoughtful discussions about disability and relationships. Thanks for sharing! 💕
Omg I love both creators so excited to see this collab!🤍😍
This is such an awesome video! I greatly enjoyed the exploration of interabled couples, a term I hadn't really heard before. I know a few people who are together where one person is disabled while the other is able-bodied. I think it's so important to normalize that kind of pairing.
I’m so glad that your doing these interviews with other disabled people molly! My initial reaction to Shane and Hannah’s relationship was not very respectful because I just have never been educated on stuff like this but after watching it I feel so much more educated and frankly I think their such a great couple. Their personalities blend together so well.
@Yugo_Mon you have made many negative comments on this video. Get some help.
Something I noticed is that Shane mentioned a few different times that he understands that he is worthy and valuable as a partner, but I found myself hoping that he would have also said that he understands his worth as a human being, too. I'm sure it was implied, but especially after what he said about people not ever referring to him as human in hate comments, it would have been really cool to reinforce the message that disabled people are just as worthy and valuable as people, rather than just as partners.
In order to draw a line between caregiving and couple time entirely, Shane would have to shut off being disabled and it doesn’t work that way. It is just a reality and part of both of their lives as a married couple. It is a challenge but also something that makes them both stronger more kind humans. If they had a line, that would freak me out personally more than having no line at all lol. Hope that makes sense. Just like others say I “talk about arthritis or my heart troubles too often”. What is too often when it infiltrates almost all activities? To shut it off or never talk about it, would be to turn off a chronic daily occurrence with no perfect cure. Not exactly a thing! But I’ll try to remind those dorks to ONLY visit me when I am “healthy”. That way I do not have to deal with them at all hahahaha.
Honestly the line doesn’t exist for friends either. My friends generally have this line with other friends they don’t cross but with me it really doesn’t exist. I tell them very private things because it is important that they know and plus it’s honestly not even weird. I do mention about bowl movements often but for one to have it less awkward so that if I do have an issue they don’t feel so weird about it because I’ve prepared them. I have to tell them scary things because even tho I may not want to think about it it has to be acknowledged and they should be prepared. Plenty of times I just end up laying down on a floor because my body is done and at this point my friends just make me comfortable and understand that I’m okay. This line that people make up is insane. Being honest and just accepting that the line actually doesn’t exist is best for everyone even people who don’t have disabilities.
Honestly, anyone who says you talk about your chronic illnesses too often has no concept of “you have it 24/7”.
@@allisond.46 Amen, thank you, I needed to hear that today ❤️
@@SuperYellowcats Could not agree with you anymore ❤️💜
This is so inspiring, I am disabled and in a wheelchair, I have always been told that no one could ever love someone like me but seeing the love between Hannah and Shane has made me believe that it is possible. This video is amazing and I love both channels
I honestly love this new series Molly, not only because I am meeting this amazing people but also as a non-disabled person I’m learning so much and I’m really happy I’m able to be educate and hopefully be less ignorant about disability. So thank you so much love you Molly ❤️🇺🇾
You guys are awesome! I watch both of your channels. Thank you for raising awareness, as a person with a disability you make me feel less alone.
Well done Molly. I love this series.
My favorite youtubers all in one video!!! Omg! :') love you guys
Three of my favorite TH-camrs! Seeing younger disabled people like myself will never get old. It always makes me feel seen. ❤
The way she looks at him is sooo sweet, it’s obvious she’s in love and people saying there’s ulterior motives is truly awful. They’re such a good, loving couple and I’m glad they found each other
Mollie is such a great interviewer, love these!
This is so fantastic, thank you Molly
Oh God. Christians praying over disabled people in public. Welcome to my ted talk.
I've seen this as a bystander, as a caregiver to a disabled person, and recently experienced this myself for the first time when my hip pain was flaring up and I was walking with a cane and limping in the grocery store (I'm 21)
Look--your heart is in the right place and your actions might seem to be in good faith. But not only is this an incredibly uncomfortable experience for the disabled person due the attention it draws, it can be very demoralizing. One client turned to me after this exchange had happened to her practically in tears and said "I thought I was walking pretty well today."
The more disabled you look, the more often it happens to the point it becomes a frequent barrier to accomplishing things like going to the store and getting groceries or ordering your coffee or getting gas--things that having a disability may already make more difficult, you're now being interrupted in order to be the object of someone else's religious expression. And I use that word very intentionally because it does feel objectifying and dehumanizing.
The way I felt when this happened to me was not "God is going to cure my pain" or "what a kind woman." The way I felt was, do I look that abnormal and that noticably wrong that this woman feels compelled to stop what she's doing and ask the Holy Savior to fix me? Damn.
These needs to end. It's so uncomfortable
I had literally never heard of this before today and that is absolutely baffling. I can't wrap my mind around what would motivate someone to loudly pray at another person. And it's a regular thing??
Would anything be effective as a bystander or are people who do this generally to determined to be deterred? Like could I tap someone on the shoulder and say "sorry to interrupt but I think they're trying to get at the milk and I think God will still hear your prayers if you say them at home"?
@@harmonicaveronica Yes, I would agree! That seems so embarrassing and uncomfortable for the person on the recieving end.
You brought up some great points. I'm a mostly homebound Christian and my relationship with God very special to me. It has been the single greatest reason for me to keep smiling and trying to help others despite my own increasing illness and disability. I became very sick at the age of 13 and more than two decades later, things are very complicated, but I'm thankful for the lessons I've learned about life, love, and God that I never would have experienced at this age were I healthy. I wasn't expected to live this long, so it's hard, but also something that I've come to terms with and have a lot to be thankful for.
(And for those wondering, I do actually totally believe that God could completely cure me instantly if it is the best plan for my good at that time, but since it hasn't happened yet, I figure I have a lot more to learn.) So God and I are on good terms with all of this.
I've been the recipient of many attempted faith healings by complete strangers while out in public. I'm visably unwell now due to slowly limping along with a walker to remain upright for the past five years, so I'm a clear "target. Almost every time I go out (very rarely!) I get a lot of looks and a few brave people come up to ask where I got my cool walker since they know someone who needs one.
Out of seven incredibly notable attempted faith healing interactions, one was physically violent, and actually hurt me as they grabbed my weak arms and shook me almost paralyzing me with pain and causing me to nearly collapse. Lesson learned, and both my husband and I are MUCH more proactive about making sure people stay back a bit pandemic or not. And yes, if you intend touch me without my consent, I now will alert you that there will be consequences.
Several of the episodes were very alarmingly furious when it became clear that I couldn't suddenly skip back to my chores afterwards.
And several of the episodes were just very emotionally draining, which leads to being physically draining and making it exceptionally hard to get safely back to the car.
My advice to all spiritual people of any denomination who possibly have tender hearts and see somebody who is struggling is this: ASK if they would like help. ASK if they would like a prayer. ASK if they would like a hug. Make your interaction very short and sweet. You can always pray for them when you get elsewhere if you feel led to do so. If you believe that God is omnipotent, He certainly doesn't need your help to heal someone.
And if you see a disabled person who looks to be terrified or in agony during one of these events, yes, politely going up to the "healer" and interrupting them might to ask the disabled person if they are okay with this would be an incredible kindness.
@@mungbean345 Wow... Just wow. Thanks for sharing and for giving clear advice! God help this world!
Our disabilities don’t define us it is something we deal with yes but it isn’t who we are we are not our disabilities. You guys rock
I totally forgot Molly was blind for the first part of this video
LOL
Same lmao
@knovikov38 whats your problem? his looks do not define his worth as a person or a partner.
@knovikov38 when they talked about the horrible comments I almost had trouble believing them and then I saw this. I’m sorry that you view people and the world as so selfish and horrible that someone who is young and pretty can’t love someone like him and I hope you find someone one day and you realize how this can be real.
@knovikov38 belive it or not some people have a lot of love in their hearts and by the video they are such a cute couple, and I hope one day you won’t see the world as such a selfish place because their are some incredible people and couples.
I think you hit the nail on the head when talking about how partners care for each other. Too often relationships are dysfunctional and there is no caring for each other, just some sort of codependency or one party afraid to be alone so they stay and are alone but in a “relationship”. So they look at relationships like yours, or Shane and Hannah’s and can’t understand two partners actually taking care of each other ALL the time.
You should talk to cole and charisma. they are a vlogging couple and they are an interracial inter abled couple
I absolutely loved this video and new series as a able bodied 20 year old TH-cam tends not to recommend these channels to me but I really like to educate myself and learn more and when I found you and your content was immediately drawn to your amazing way of educating but also just the fashion vids (cause I LOVE clothes lol) I will definitely be binge watching there vids !!!!!!! Love you molly keep doing you!! Toronto represent eh!!
I personally have invisible disabilities so people can’t always tell that I am disabled. When people find out they either don’t believe me or they treat me as if I’m a problem in people’s lives. The most common thing I hear people say to my mother is “I’m so sorry you have to deal with all of this” completely disregards I’m the person struggling and that I’m even a person at all. It’s as if I did this to my family and I’m just a problem. It’s not right how people treat others with disabilities. The amount of nasty looks I get when using my wheelchair out in public is unreal. I don’t particularly look sick and sometimes it makes me feel as if I should. I have a port to help me get fluids. It seems even family members seem to think I got it for fun basically. Like yes I got a surgical procedure for fun and I get poked weekly for fun and yes I bare the risk of getting bad infections ALL FOR FUN AND ATTENTION. If being sick isn’t already bad getting treated can be just as bad but people making it even worse just hurts. I do know for a fact my dogs and cat love to take care of me and try to help me in every way they can. They are my best friends and treat me with love and respect. There are so many people who don’t care if you are sick or don’t look sick they accept you as you are. I just wish there wasn’t so many people so ignorant and cruel. I hope you continue this series even if it isn’t super popular because those who find it may learn something new.
Wow That’s horrible that people have treated you that way but that’s so sweet about your dog and cat
I understand where you're coming from. I'm also disabled and get told that my entitlement is through the roof and I need to get a job and do things for myself. I'm also treated like I've chosen to be disabled. I hate it. My two cats are my lifesavers.
@@crystald3655 They must not know that disability payments are not very much. You cannot get rich off of it, and you are not allowed to save more than a couple thousand dollars. I am not disbled, but I know, and am friends with, many disabled people.
I developed a disability last year and seeing you and others living their best lives really helps to remind me that my life is not over, and I can still contribute to society and follow my dreams. It's really important and I really appreciate it. Thank you so much!
Love this video. I love Shane and Hannah too. Been watching them over a year. Can you interview Cole and Charisma? Another one of my favorite inter able couples on TH-cam.
OMG, I've been NEEDING this collab. I love both channels and all of you are such fun relatable people even though I don't share some of the same lived experiences that ya'll do.
MY TWO FAVOURITE TH-camRS YES YES YES
Okay Molly is actually a great interviewer. I could really get into more content like this from her.
I HAVEN’T WATCHED YET BUT OMG YOUR HAIR MOLLY!!?? I love it!!!!
Love this interview Molly! Squirmy and Grubbs are such a breath of fresh air for the world right now, they make me laugh most every time I watch them. And the world can always use more laughter!
I think you should do an episode with Roll with Cole and Charisma!
Wow! Your hair looks amazing! Love love love
Would love to see Footless Jo! Love this series
There’s so much love in Hannah’s eyes every time she looks at Shane. I love it. ❤
The series should be a take on BBCs Living Differently, and call it Thriving Differently!
I love this series and you!
Hi molly!!! I love you and I love this series! I love how we get different points of view on different disability’s and you are helping us understand the disabled community! Love you ❤️❤️❤️
These two have SUCH chemistry!! The way they look at each other says it all. This is an awesome series, Molly - thanks for doing this!
Hi Molly:
I'm a bit behind on your videos, but I watched this and loved it. I think it's great you are doing a series wherein you have conversations with other disabled people--and of different disabilities beyond blindness. I only learned of Shane and Hannah's channel a few months ago; their videos kept popping up on my recommendations so I finally clicked on one. I was immediately taken by Shane's hilarious sense of humor, Hannah's sweet voice and loving energy, and their chemistry together. To me, Shane is as much a human as the next person, and it never occurred to me to wonder at the validity of their relationship or how they do things. I have since read two of Shane's books: Laughing At My Nightmare, and Strangers Assume My Girlfriend Is My Nurse. Brilliantly written, they were wonderful reads, filled with Shane's wit, honesty, and wisdom.
I thought this video covered many deep and important topics. While it comforted and filled me with joy to know that I'm not alone in my frustration with society's attitudes, it deeply saddens me to be reminded of the still common belief that as disabled people, we are less than human, that our needs are not as important as others'. Yet the reality is anyone can join the disability community... at anytime. Its not a tragedy or an end but a human condition.
Thank you for doing this series, for helping to amplify voices that need to be heard, and for bringing forward a truth that needs to be acknowledged: Disabled people matter, too and deserve to be respected, valued, heard, and given a chance.
Molly is such a great interviewer! Perfect balance of questions, responses and her adding personal experiences to complement their answers. 10/10
I would love to see an interview with Cole and Charisma!
They are fake too
Denise Woodell how?
Omg Molly your hair looks amazing!
❤️ (heart emoji) Squirmy & Grubs. I was on a live stream earlier with ‘Footless Jo’ and she said she’d love to collaborate with you. Jo would be an awesome guest on this series.
I love Hannah and Shane! Both of your channels have taught me so much about how to act as an abled person towards disabled people. Thank you guys!
Another great couple to interview, if you don't already have on your list: Roll with Cole & Charisma.
I’m happy to see a relationship that is all about love. Looking at my community, I find people have strong ideas about romantic relationships that are so focused on deficit in partners rather than just enjoying one another.
Literally three of my favorite TH-camrs together 💖💙🎊🎉🎉
I totally agree with you! Showing a partner all facets of a disability creates a strong bond that can’t be explained. In my first relationship I tried to hide so much in the first months. At the time I started dating an other man I was confident enough to show every part of my live. And I feel like every time I opened up he loves me even more and it helps him so much to understand my journey and my way of living.
Hey molly! I love this series and i had an idea for the name, you said it at one point and it is
"Adding to the Conversation"
It makes me really happy to see people share their stories like this. It really gives me perspective. I’ve always tried to befriend people regardless of their physical abilities as well as some mental health stuff. Connecting with people is really important. It’s what life is all about. Hopefully we can all learn from these videos. Love conquers all 💕
OMG I’m so excited to see this collaboration!