Watch Me Get Embalmed (weirdly not clickbait)
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So I’m 15 and apparently my preschool teacher heard that I want to be a mortician. It turns out that her husband runs a local funeral home and he’s gonna give me an in-depth tour of said funeral home next week. Personally I’m excited
That’s amazing!!!
Congratulations! Telling people what you want to do & knowing people in that line of work is sooo helpful
How Exciting for you!!!!
Have fun and learn A lot!!!
Omg congrats
I’m excited for you!
Note, if the corpse explains embalming to you, don't embalm them.
For real, I never want to be embalmed!! Just throw me in the oven. Seriously. Do NOT want to be embalmed!!
Ya, I think at that point it's also called murder... But I could be wrong ;)
Yes, don't let bossy boots have their way and control things even while dead.
Omg you said it!!!
@@babycakes1402 it is murder at this point it is called murder charge of a human you are absolutely correct
Well now I don't have to fear being buried alive, seems the morticians make double sure that I'm dead.
YUP 😅
I just lost my mom to Alzheimer’s last night. She’s not getting embalmed (closed casket), but I hope she still gets a massage. She deserves one after the last eight years, and she always loved them.
hope youre dealing with grief well, my dad died back when i was 10. sending my love ❤
Hi dear @USMarshmallow, what a lovely thing to wish for your beloved Mother after you probably grieved her slowly "leaving" for 9 long years. I hope everything went as you all planned and hoped for, surrounding the farewell of your Mother. Their Passing can come with such mixed feelings of deep grief & relief, when a Loved One who suffered from any form of Dementia for many years dies.
(My sweet Mom Passed away from Alzheimer's in Feb. 2017 & my dear Dad died of Vascular Dementia in May 2019).
It was such a strange and lovely sight, for my Dad and me, to see my Mother's facial features return to her old familiar shape. After the tortured Dementia grimace, that had plagued Mom, for the last 2 years, had left her face. It once again "was her" ☺️🕊️.
I hope she got the massage
Ask A Mortician: She Keeps Her Promises
thats why we love her
23k in less than thirty minutes... 😎
24k likes.. c'mon people hit that 👍
Allways
Well yeah! I mean morticians have seen what first hand what people can do if someone doesn’t keep their promises, right?! That’d scare me straight.
"embalming coagulates proteins!" is the mortuary school equivalent to "Mitochondria are the powerhouse of the cell!"
"Emia = presence in blood"
Presenting to the emergency room, where we are now... lol
That was exactly what I thought 😆
So it cooks you a little bit? haha
Chubbyemu fans, assemble!
Starting hospice now at 38 years old with around 2-3 weeks to live. This is so helpful and needed for me to be able to make the decisions around what I want and what I can accept and what is a hard no. Knowledge is power and control, and this video improves my experience of death.
I will pray for you
❤️❤️❤️❤️ please stay as strong as you are and have been. It’s good this has given some reassurance. You are so very young I’m sorry …just don’t know what to say.
Trust in the Lord, please.
I hope it was painless and that you weren't alone and that you felt safe and that you were as comfortable as could be afforded. I hope you weren't scared. And i hope, in the case of an afterlife, that you're having the greatest fucking time where you are.
Rest In Peace
This video enabled me to have a discussion with my husband about whether or not we want to be embalmed before cremation, especially since we will be scattered on our property after cremation. Sitting in our hot tub, we made our decision, no embalming for us, also discussed finer points, like no expensive caskets etc. Thank you for providing the education that you do with hilarity, yet respect.
Hello how are you doing?
Wow can’t believe she actually died for this video, the dedication is astounding.
Wow a spa treatment
Glad she didn't ACTUALLY die!
@@geekygirl2596 what do you mean? She actually died and managed to speak, that takes talent.
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Danny devito fans unite
"Corpse Explains Embalming To You" should be the title
Hehe yeah but many people would expect to hear the deep voice of the TH-camr known as "Corpse" or "Corpse Husband" and be semi confused when realizing he wasn't in the video.
@@pinktacoofdoom440 I don’t watch him but he should do this
@@PuffleFuzz a collab would be so iconic
I mean, we're all future corpses I suppose
Corpse in progress?
Buffering corpse?
I fucking died Caitlin is so funny.
A big applause for you both! I'm 59, terminally ill, (liver), but now I'm feeling better about what happens postmortem. Thank you both deeply, Charlene aka Catlady Redd, & Felina Crimson.
You still alive?
Many prayers to you
@IamOneWithIam your ignorant af ! My grandmother didn't have a drop of alcohol in her life and she passed of cyrosis of the liver . Not everyone has to be a drunk! And your time and your relatives time will come no one is immortal
@@bloodangel19 I guess he passed on...
Could anyone tell me where they store our bodies after they are embalmed us until our funeral and burial?
Thank you for this video. I lost my mom during the height of COVID. I was in bed sick, she was in the hospital and died alone. (Did get to FaceTime her about 2 hours before she passed). The funeral parlor advised that she could not be embalmed and it had to be a closed casket. I have been emotionally tormented over that for nearly 2 years. This video actually gave me some peace. She didn’t need to be embalmed. I’m glad she didn’t have to go through that. Thank you for your professionalism and compassion
Claudia Pozzuolo, I’m so sorry about your mom! I lost my son and we opted out of embalming his body because it felt like abuse of a corpse. I also have a friend who lost her mom, during COVID high point, and the funeral parlor made everyone sit in their cars as they buried her mother. Her mom did not have COVID and they still did this! My friend, like you and me are all still traumatized, but knowing we can talk to other people who’ve been through similar losses, temporarily does help. - Terri Kendall, Nashville, TN
My condolences sweetheart. My mom got Covid a few weeks after my dad was diagnosed with cancer and had been sleeping with him the whole time. By the grace of God she made it through and my dad has been cleared from his cancer so far.
@@Pebbles523
Praise the Lord!
I’m so happy you still have your parents!
You have a great testimony. 🙏❤️
@@floydkendall2703 TY so very much. My parents are in their late 70's and they are my best friends and when they are gone, I feel I'm gonna die of a 💔.
@@Pebbles523
I’m so sorry. I pray 🙏 you will have parents that live at least another 30 years.
We all Fred losing our parents. It just doesn’t feel fair, but I know God will receive them if that’s any comfort. 🙏❤️
I keep forgetting that Caitlin isn’t short and is actually an Amazonian death woman
😂
New name for my band: Amazon Death Woman.
This made me google it and I was not prepared, why are all my favorite content producers so tall?
Okay, was anybody gonna tell me that Caitlin is 6'1", or was I supposed to find that out from a TH-cam comment myself?
@@clickhere2d1e wait, she’s 6’1!?
Caitlin: "How was your pandemic?"
Monica: "We survived!"
Caitlin (weird facial expression and tired voice): "Exactly"
Dear Death Momma I think we can *ALL* relate to how you're feeling here. 😔
#FückCovid19
Yeah I felt that, however difficult it was (still is here in the UK, where MiniTrump rules supreme) for most of us, it cannot compare to those in the healthcare and deathcare industries. Amazing people who did more than anyone has a right to expect.
I felt her pain and hesitancy in that moment for sure.
@@katbairwell So true!! Respect forever
@@katbairwell I think they all deserve a month at their favorite/dream vacation spot.
I work at a coroner's office and I investigate deaths and I actively participate in autopsies from a forensic perspective. I appreciate these videos and explanations because I can learn and appreciate the expertise, skills, and compassion that those in the embalming and funeral professions possess. I tie off the neck arteries at autopsies so embalming is easier. I have never witnessed the embalming process or a cremation. The reason that I searched and found this series is because I had a lady who was mummified last week and I was curious about the physiology. The only insects were "coffin flies" (Megaselia scalaris) and a slight decomp odor. I am a career police officer since 1973 and have been doing medicolegal death investigtions for 12 years and I have yet to puke. I approach decomposition from the attitude that everything that is organic dies and that decomposition is a natural process. Further, I do an investigation or assist in an autopsy, it is to provide answers to the families and friends. Monica Torres, who embalms and attempts to present decomposed bodies for viewing, is a saint! Thank your for sharing. Your videos are enlightening and educational for me. Not morbid curiosity.
Only you two can make an embalming look like a spa day!
I suppose it is a spa day for them. I adore this industry
@@Falanu I grew up in the atmosphere of a family run funeral home. We actually used to have family reunions (the ones where nobody actually died) there.
@@kdbee6086 that's great! Those buildings are conducive to hosting, entertaining, living, and "unliving" or whatever it is they do ☺️
@@Falanu As kids, we used to play hide and seek all over the building (except the "work room". We were never allowed in there. I had one crazy aunt who decided to test the coffins out one year for comfort and she actually took a cat nap in one.
@@kdbee6086 omg it's my dream to buy one of these places one day and change NOTHING but the zoning. I'll have a coffin in the bedroom, the workroom will stay as is, and a plastinate that may have to nap there since a coffin won't hold two. 🧛🏾⚰️☠️🩸🪦❤️🧟
"You can't embalm a living person on TH-cam, come on! That's only for my Patreon... kidding! I'm kidding!" - It's actually for her OnlyFans.
got a Necrobabes vibe from that xD
Dark af😂😂😂
LMAO You won this comment section!
And here Iam sitting in a train, giggling xD
Also currently streaming on Twitch 😂
As an embalmer who painted my boots pink, I just to say that her colorful instruments are goal ♥
Go! Yes get your happy on :) love it! I LOVE it! It’s a little different but similar in that they are tools I use, I’m a disabled chick and I HATE Hospital grey’ so get your happy whatever that looks like 💖
If my embalmer isn’t covered in rhinestones I don’t want them.
@@gotmybootyout5793 looks like you wont be embalmed then
@@kyupified2440 -A 5-lbs bag of rhinestones and a gallon jug of cyanoacrylate glue disagrees with you.-
the way she was really putting all those sharp things near you was just killing me. you're so brave
I remember when my grandmother had cancer. Towards the end she was emaciated and extremely yellow from jaundice. When I saw her at the funeral she looked pink and plump as she had in life and I wondered how she was transformed. Thank you for clearing up my confusion.
Mortician Spa, where you rest in peace. Makeovers and massages.
TAKE MY MONEY!
❤
I feel like Monica's choices of phrasing and her hand movements, even when not touching the body, reveal a great respect for the body and the person who used to be...
Absolutely, I mean not many people would dedicate their lives to a career like this without having some respect for it
I totally agree. The other lady seems to
Take everything as a JOKE and it seems so DISRESPECTFUL.
@@synthiabouda1096 I've seen a lot of her videos and I don't get disrespect from her. I see that she's trying to make the processes around death less "taboo," and knowledge is power. I get that it's less palatable to some, though...
@@kristenh1316
Part of the training.
@@janosk8392 obviously but still there are careless and foul people out there who don’t care like this
As a hospice nurse my work can involve post-mortem care. As I wait for the funeral home to arrive the post-mortem care can involve bathing, addressing odors, applying simple cosmetic, and dressing the body, especially in situations when the body is going to a direct cremation provider. In other words, this will be the last time loved ones see the body.
Thank you for providing better understanding of funeral director services.
I was grateful for the car our hospice nurse took with my dad. She changed his clothes shaved him. Washed his hair. So thankful.
I was a nursing assistant in a full-care facility. We always honored our patients by lovingly washing them, dressing their hair, and changing them into fresh clothing before the mortician arrived. Of the several deaths I attended over the years, no family members were present, but if they had been, I would have asked if they wanted to participate. There is something deeply spiritual about taking care of a body after its soul has peacefully departed.
On the other hand, despite having been present for dozens of human and animal deaths, when I found my brother's body following his suicide, I could not bring myself to even get close enough to verify that he was truly deceased and not revivable. The person who had searched with me did it instead. My daughter, who had also searched with us, protected and honored his body by throwing rocks at people who showed up to rubberneck when the emergency personnel arrived.
My dad passed away from cancer just a little bit ago and it had left him looking aged and sickly beforehand. We had him embalmed and the mortician did a wonderful job making him look bright and healthier like before he had cancer. This video was not just informative but surprisingly helpful and therapeutic in this time.
Since it says "not clickbait", for a fleeting second I thought Caitlin had pre-recorded an intro so when she died her embalming would be filmed, thus, this video. First, I'm relieved that Caitlin is thankfully still amongst the living, and then I remembered that she wouldn't be embalmed in the first place if she were dead. My bad.
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Honestly? I wouldnt put it past her
Patreon only exclusive 😂 if it should happen
@@grrfilter No please 😂😂😂😂
Watch me be wrapped in linen and eaten by gentle foxes
I'm a simple Deathling - I see a Caitlin Doughty notification and I click.
Same
I'm 11 turning 12 in like, 12 days and I've always loved the idea of being a mortician, and just having the power to help families and work with bodies. You're content makes me excited to learn about it. Thank you! Xx
Just the age for Addams Family reruns.
What a great path to follow! Just don’t fall down the hole of greed. Remember why you started. And you’ll do great 💜
@@katscratchfever3506 thank you. I definitely won't haha, I've been set on being a mortician for 2-3 years now, and money just doesn't seem like a big thing to me at the moment.
@@aaronfreeman5264 pardon? I don't get what you're trying to say.
You will always have work.
I seriously thought about becoming a mortician years ago, but I changed my mind after doing so much research. For me it was too personal, and my personality clashed with what it takes. So with a lot of respect I walked away lol, morticians are some thing special...like me I’m a trucker always have been and that’s where I belong.
Trusting someone enough to let them gesture with a scalpel that close to the off button.
I choked at off button. Thank you.
I could literally never trust someone that much, that's a whole new level right there
So I guess I don't have to be afraid anymore of being accidentally buried alive. I just have to be afraid of being trocar-ed alive.
The was en episode of "Bones" where that happened, except the trocar was all wrong.
The trocar was after the blood replacement with the embalming fluids in the arteries, wasn't it? After the massage to ease the rigor mortis and the cleaning. They make the cut by the neck and place the little bomb to extract the blood. THEN, it's the trocar action, if I'm not mistaken. But I get it. I was afraid of the cut, and of waking up too late to stay alive any longer.
Yeah, that was some trip😯
Well, the upside is you won't be "alive" for long past the first trocar insertion ;)
She recently did a thing on that about a person with disabilities.
This is really interesting, but has also REALLY solidified my decision in favour of a green funeral. I know I won't really be there to experience it, but even still the idea of someone doing this to my body is utterly horrifying.
What is horrifying? You won't be there, won't have knowledge of it nor would you feel a thing!
I agree I'd rather just turn to dust and be spread somewhere beautiful back in nature
We just buried my grandfather, and we chose not to have him embalmed, in part because of what I learned from you both. Thank you for your knowledge, enthusiasm, humor, and empathy.
I can't believe you made this. This is why we stan.
I don't have any friends because they are ashamed of the videos I upload. Are they really that bad, dear mi
Who's stan?
What does stan mean? I heard this on another video and I don't get it.
@@coyoteartist Basically fanboy / fangirl, but I think the term comes from the Eminem song of the same name.
@@coyoteartist stalker + fan = stan. Also comes from the song “Stan” by Eminem who’s about an obsessed fan. Most people when they use it use it in a more fun way to say “this is why I’m a total fanboy/girl.”
“Weirdly not clickbait” lol. ❤️
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My prof in my Death and Dying in Cross Cultural Perspectives class sent us here to learn things but little does she know that she's started an obsession in me♡
Caitlin,
I am beyond grateful for your channel. I joined your Patreon on the 16th because of how much your channel helped me to overcome my extreme fear of dead bodies. How could I have known that just two days later I would be faced with the loss of my brother and have to truly confront that fear.
Because of you, I was able to be in the room with him, touch and hold him, and say goodbye the way I wanted to, not the way my fear would have forced me to.
I understood what was going to happen to his body, helped my parents make informed choices, knew to expect delays to have the cremation, it made everything easier because it wasn't mysterious.
I don't know if anyone could express how vital this was to the grieving process. Thank you, thank you, thank you. We celebrated his life yesterday and will lay him to rest next month when his body is ready. As you say, death isn't an emergency, we have time to honor him in our own way.
That is beautiful and well put. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother and hope you are slowly healing ❣️
such a beautiful comment and experience. i'm glad you were able to spend time with him and i'm of course so sorry for your loss
Always forget how tall Caitlin is until she's standing next to someone who isn't six feet tall. Tall goth queen!
A lot of "Miranda" vibes.
🤫 Shhhh, we mustn't let Markiplier find out 😳
She’s tall, but where I’m from she wouldn’t really stand out.
The AVERAGE heights over here in 2018 were 181.95 cm = 5’-11.6” for men, and 168.6 cm = 5’-6.4” for women.
Is she really 6 feet tall or is the other women really short?
@@elizabethkeen7851 She's really six feet tall. Watch her Ted Talks
Caitlin on table: "How long is this gonna take?"
"And the nominees for Pushiest Corpse Of The Year are..." [cue same 70s soft porn music used in embalming demo] Was Monica thinking at that moment: "A corpse has NEVER asked me that before!"
"Karen, if you don't settle down and behave, we'll put you RIGHT back among the living!"
I have places to go and things to do ... Oh wait ...
Licensed massage therapist here and it’s so awesome that this video helps inform that you should always massage toward the heart because it helps blood flow! That is one of the BIGGEST things I tell people when they’re learning massage from me, even on a casual basis just to help friends and family. Always always ALWAYS massage toward the heart!! (Also going the other way on extremities normally strips muscle but that’s a different comment for a different day)
I want to publicly thank you for your honest and open discussion of death and the funeral industry. I never knew that watching your videos (and your appearances elsewhere) could be so helpful. My wife recently passed away and the things I learned from you helped me navigate my way through her final arrangements. She had asked to be cremated,which I honored. I was able to make many of the other necessary choices more easily because of your videos.
C: "¿How was your pandemic?"
M: "We survived"
Best short straight answer.
In the case of the UK "so far". Sigh.
@@starlinguk Same in the US, even though everyone is behaving as though it never happened.
@@starlinguk as in Australia we are going into lockdowns in some states again, not long untill a full lockdown
@@annieinwonderland694 Damn.. I can actually say that it's being going really good here in Norway. It's not long ago at all we got out of lockdown, and especially in the capitol of Norway where I live, Oslo, ad well as the other big cities, and a few small ones, lockdown have lasted just about almost two straight years now, leaving out a few reopening periods that never lasted more than a couple of weeks (except summer of 2020 for about 2 months or so..). So we've had HARD restrictions from early on, way before it even reached the US and started spreading there, so... yup. Fun times.
Now tho, only young people are left to be vacvinated and it's going good, I had my 1st Phizer-shot just about a week ago. Now finally, we've actually reopened most places to at least near full capacity or even full capacity, depending on how many people are gathering. Mask mandates have finally dropped as well! As long as our young population continues getting vaxxed, it really does seem like it's as close to over as we can get.. ***knock on wood, holy smokes..*** the Delta variant is scary tho, considering both young people and vaccinated people gets much more easily infected by that variant.. sheesh. Let's just hope that our young population continues being highly willing to cooperate as we've been really good at the entire time, this can turn out great for us! This is the FIRST TIME I've felt even a glimmer of hope, and I'm actually seeing a light at the end of the tunnel now. We're so close, and it's so incredibly great!
I've gotta say, I'm really proud of how we've all managed to stick this through, despite having such huge lockdowns for 2 years now. Truly. We managed so well to be selfless enough, (almost) each and every one of us to work hard to get to where we are now. Taking this as seriously as we did, especially us in Oslo who's had THE WORST outbreak and restrictions from the very beginning is such a good accomplishment. Each and every one of us really stepping up to the plate without making a fuzz about it, just knowing that we're doing this as a community service; all for one, one for all really made the fight so much easier. Gosh, I'm proud of you Oslo!! And the rest of the country of Norway as well, tho lol.. just think that we, the people of Oslo, have done the most hard and sufficient work, allowing me to give myself and the rest of my city's people extra credit. That credit surely is as due as it gets. Well done to us, and to everyone else still doing our part for our city, our country, and all of our globe. We're not done and out of the trenches until we all are, united. We can't forget that.
Can't have been bad for business...
The “Golden Trocar” sounds like a special service award.
The name of the trophy given to the Mortician of the Year.
I have always thought a trocar sounds like a type of spear used by Roman soldiers. 😂 Either way, blood and fluids ARE the end result.
@@joanodom2104 "trocar" in portuguese means to switch or to change. So it would be the golden switch/change? Sounds weird
Or a tool you'd get in a strange version of Animal Crossing
Or an Alt Rock band.
I hope my brother got treated this well. Massages and everything. He looked pretty handsome
This girls are so funny and intelligent, they made my day.
All the episodes with Monica Torres are great.
She has a channel too!
Yeah, I want to get that massage though on the beach.
@@TheJer1963 Nuh uhhh… Not this 😭
I also enjoy videos w/Monica Torres, also.
Gotta admit I ship them :p
"Golden Trocar" very much sounds like a type of coinage in a fantasy novel.
Or a death god's relic. Both would work!
either that of the books McGuffin. for example: "We must form a band of mighty warriors to strom the castle of the Dread Lord and finally reclaim the Golden Trocar"
I think this is a great rock band name!
Should put a notch on it for each embalming completed.
Would have made Golden Compass a bit more awkward: "Lyra… where exactly did a little girl like you get a trocar?"
This episode was really hard on me . I lost my 26 year old son from cancer 2 years ago . They took him from me and brought him back 2 1/2 hours later . I didn’t know what they had done to my baby . His name was Jeffery 😢💔😢
I'm sorry for your loss.
@@shelleycurreen1182 thank you very much 🙏
Cat, I'm so very sorry. No parent should ever have to endure that.
I hope you find comfort in your memories. ❤️🙏
@@nicolepsy thank you very much . It is still very hard .it feels like it happened only a couple of days ago. So so unfair 😢😭😢
So sorry 4 your loss. He was 2 young.
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The moment you realize the person holding the tray of tools next to your immobile body is completely qualified to really shorten your day, haha
I love how they both work for very different situations but they don't step on each other toes and respect each other's way of working. Those funeral industry people hating Caitlin must be fuming
Knowing the embalming process really is an excellent argument for organ donation because a lot of people cite wanting to be buried with all their parts as a reason to not donate organs. Considering what the trocar does that's not happening anyway.
I’ve had two liver transplants I’m so thankful
Thats exactly what I thought! They get ruined anyway. Let someone else make use of them.
Wow. I used to want to be a transplant coordinator. That's not happening now but I wonder if they ever use that argument when talking to bereaved families. If not, they should.
True, I changed my view with this video.
@@once.5746 same!
That must have been such a bizarre experience. It was for me just watching it but still very interesting and she has such a way of explaining what she’s doing while “showing” it as well.
I’m so grateful for this channel. I’ve been interested in death care for a long time and the idea of what makes a good death. My Nan passed away recently with my mum holding her hand and I was honoured to have spent a week by her side, holding her hand, swabbing her mouth and helping her ease into her final days. It was the most perfect death and your videos really helped me to understand and be ok with everything that was happening.
“Oh, I don’t know, Janice. A little thing called THE PANDEMIC.”
Well there’s my new favourite saying.
And intonation and inflection are SO vital when you say it. 😉
New? This has been a catch-phrase for so many people for far too long. Have you been living as a shut-in for the past year?
BC of Caitlyn... Every female will now be Janice!! Karen is dead... Long live JANICE!
Caitlin helped to educate me, so when my Mom passed from COVID in January, we were aware that we did not need to spend a fortune on her corpse. It was a terrible ordeal, but going in to the mortuary armed with education made things a little easier. We chose no embalming and the most basic container for the cremation. Everyone has their own ideas on how they want their passed loved ones handled, which I absolutely respect. We just wanted my Mom's ashes. Thank you, Caitlin. ❤
Did you get alot of push back from the funeral director?
@@cflotronsong No, we didn't get much push back at all. My father and I discussed what we wanted beforehand and kept on track. The funeral director respected our choices once she understood we knew what we wanted.
Sorry for your loss
Sorry for your loss :( may she rest in peace
I'm so glad our local funeral director is a family friend so he's never been a dick about any funeral cost but my Grandpa passed away when he was visiting my Aunt in another province and the funeral director there told my Aunt she "must not love her father if she wants only the basic package!"
He wanted to be cremated he didn't want us to spend money on a casket and he'd had an Urn custom made for him and my grandma (who passed before him). All that was required from the funeral home was the cremation process and a container to take the ashes home on the plane and he was a total f**cking dick.
Not sure how this popped up in my feed but this was interesting. I've had the unfortunate experience of attending a lot of funerals during my lifetime, as I have a very large family. I've also lost some friends along the way. One thing I've noticed is that the friends I've lost... their faces looked very flat, after the embalming process and when a friend of mine passed most recently , it almost didn't look like her at all in the casket. On the other hand, the vast majority of my family have been taken care of by the same funeral home, and even after the embalming process they still looked very much like themselves, as if they were just sleeping. My family lives in a different state than I do, and I don't think that matters much, but it's just something I observed at the funerals I've been where I live, versus how my family members have looked where they lived at. Is this a "skill thing"? What do you think they are doing differently from each other that creates such a marked difference? Just curious.
Hypnotising. Wow, i was not expecting this to be this interesting, this confronting and this impressive. Thanks so much for the respectful tour.
Me either 😮
* sees tittle *
* drops everything I have *
Oh, I gotta see this.
Gotta love tittles
Literally
What did you drop though? 🤔
@@Day1onDay1 Hahah, a shovel (don’t ask what for)😅
@@emilycottingham99 🤣🤣🤣❣️
Is “embalming coagulates protein” the mortuary school version of “the mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell”?
LOVE IT
@@erinhowett3630 -McDonald’s slogan 🎶
There is no preservation without aggradation, Like charges repel, Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell, and Embalming coagulates protein. Thanks, this is all I need to know to graduate college
@@clottedscream ur username is rad
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monica NEEDS to start doing asmr omg her voice and movements are soooo soothing
Caitlin, since I’ve started watching your videos, it’s helped me to deal with my husband’s and moms passing a bit better. I sincerely thank you. I absolutely love the Deathling Den! ❤️❤️❤️
Hello how’re you doing?
"Keep away from children"
*Mortician looking at the dead kid on the table*
"Hmmm.."
This is my kind of humor.
Good Lord in heaven
HA!!!
I childproofed MY home! Not one of the little buggers can get in...
🤣🤣🤣 dead
It would be awesome if Monica went to LA to have Catlin demonstrate how she as a mortician would care for her
I think this would be epic!
It's like that show Wife Swap, but for funerals!
Yes!!!!!
yes i love that idea
Also.... Caitlin got a massage, so it's only fair she gives a spa day in return (I assume there's not as much massaging involved, but I'm sure there's essential oils and nice pillows)
Thank you for your education on death and burial options. I cannot tell you how much it helped when my daddy died in June. I knew what our options were. The pain is still there, but you’ve literally been cathartic. The death of a parent was my worst fear.
is it just me or is their friendship and respect for each other kinda cute? also im loving the glam embossed embalming tool
It is soooooo frickin adorable ❤
The way Monica asked Caitlin at the end "you're all done, how do you feel?" was so natural that you'd think she asks that every time.
She might do exactly that. Sounds odd, but I'm sure if that were my occupation, I'd probably talk to my "client" as well. As long as I am not expecting an answer in return....
It reminds me of how a Barbour/hairstylist will ask "how do you like the cut?"
@@falcon.heavy. exactly!
She may ask that every time but how many of her clients give her an answer?
@@dayaautum6983 They all give her the same answer
My dad passed away last month.He had skin cancer tumors on the right side of his face.He didn't want people to see it when he alive, and especially after he died. someday.They did a wonderful job removing the tumors and rebuilding his face.I just wish he would have got to see how good it looked.
So sorry for your loss. Skin cancer and cancer in general is sneaky and cruel.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Remember your daddy as happy as he was before stupid cancer. God bless you!
Imma bet that he is already impressed(in the afterlife) as heck with his mortician's work.
If you don't mind me asking, why couldn't he have the tumor removed when he was alive?
Even if they could've removed it,he had leukemia nearly twenty years,and had just gotten diagnosed with lymphoma in his lungs.He was a fighter.I'm just glad his viewing went as he would've wanted it to.
Some days I have terrifying anxiety about my death and the death of my loved ones, so bad that I just panic. Some days I feel so unbothered by the fact that we all die. I’m always scared about confronting death though, because I’m sure I’ll be sad if I do see it. I kind of wish the world would just blow up while I’m asleep so I never have to think about death
Being reminded that everything dies is never a comfort and thought but it's not about death It's about the life that you have before the death. It's about the life that you live now because even if they're truly is a afterlife that doesn't matter. Death is inevitable. Someday everyone will die. But I think people's fear of death and losing their loved ones comes from the fact that people are actually scared of dying. People aren't scared of death they're scared of dying. They're scared of not having any more time. But the thing is you can refocus that fear and that anxiety into making sure that you make time.
This is ridiculously fascinating I would have had no idea how in depth this process truly is. Thank you so much for sharing
Yelp review of embalming: 5 stars (1 review)
All corpses:
Caitlyn: "I'm not going to lie, this is so relaxing and nice. I'm having a great time." (4:55)
*slow clap*
My father just passed and because of you and me watching you, I knew our options for burial so well it scared people. My family didn’t know we could go the straight to cremation, no embalming route. They also didn’t know you could attend the cremation. Thank you. It made a terrible process better
I'm sorry you lost your father. 😞 My mother just passed a few weeks ago and same here. I've learned so much from Catlin. We donated my mom because they can learn from her body and due to pandemic we had no money for cremation. With the donation program it is free and they will cremate her and send her home when they finish.
Cremated without the need to be embalmed. I'll take it
I lost my mom a couple years ago an I was able to have her aqua-cremated. I attended the procedure. It was oddly healing and I have no regrets. Caitlin was a huge part of my comfort in the whole process.
I'm sorry for your loss . . . I hope you find peace.
My dad was cremated and I don't know if I could have attended that for a few reasons.
Sorry for your loss.
Thank you, ladies for taking the time to do 4 videos that explain what goes on "behind the scenes". My grandmother is in the end stages of Alzheimer's and we are starting to look at funeral planning. Watching this series as really helped me in understanding the process so that I feel better informed for our upcoming conversations.
This is such an ironically comforting experience - appreciate all that the "death industry" workers do to make the living left behind, who are their real clients, feel beautiful closure thank you!
Nothin like having a custom, engraved, golden, organ vacuum spike.
It’s already on my Christmas list.
I was surprised by how much of embalming is corpse massage!
You two make a great team. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.
I love Monica. She's so professional, caring and charming!
So you're telling me that any zombies who arise from the dead ready to chew my brains literally could not open their mouths because they are sown shut? Good to know.
Well if they‘re embalmed yes! BUT what if they just die on the street? We‘ll never be safe
And I must scream lol
Actually, a Deseco needle injector is used to secure the mouth.
It reminded me of the zombie in Hocus Pocus. I always wondered why he had to cut his mouth open...
They also couldnt possibly come back to life if embalmed
I guess I’ll donate my organs then. No points in keeping them if they are not coming with me.
right? they will become a mush anyway, definitely would make the mortician's work easier lmao
Nobody is cutting me open
@@calipigenia Yes, I thought embalming was less invasive than it is. At least I’ll be ending other people’s suffering instead of making organ juice.
@@SamuelBlack84 make sure you let someone you trust know, so they can intervene in your name if needed
@@once.5746 mmmmmm organ juice tasty
This was actually very healing, it helps so much to have a better idea of what all happened to my loved ones before viewings while I was growing up
This is such a respectful, complete, and informative video that explains the process really clearly. It's a great tool to give people the information and context to decide and advocate for themselves and/or their loved ones in a process that is already very emotional and difficult. Thank you both!
1:12
"Exactly"
The tone in her voice is a woman who has seen some serious stuff this last year
When?
@@Julleo12 1:09 and further
“Thats only for my patreon”
Me, alone on a boat with half a nectarine in my mouth
“I love you”
Embalming OnlyFans?
This was absolutely fascinating, thank you for posting this!
I just love this channel so much and it's been refreshing and educational
The Golden Trocar is going to be the name of my Death Cleric Guild in my campaign.
I'm sorry, but I'm also stealing this idea for my next Grave Cleric. It's such a good idea
The funeral home was absolutely brilliant with my dad, especially considering that the hospital left him in his room unrefrigerated for 8 hours before they were able to pick him up. Not only did they PERFECTLY balance his skin against any discoloration, they allowed me to check how he looked before my mom saw him. I am forever grateful to them. It's a true art.
That's pretty sad that he was left unrefrigerated for 8 hours before pickup, and I'm sorry to hear about your dad. But it's lovely to know they did an amazing job regardless. If I might ask, was he a COVID casualty, or was it another cause of death? Did he at least die peacefully?
Oh that's rough, I'm so sorry. Good on you for protecting your mother. Are YOU okay? Make sure you talk to friends or even a therapist if you need to. I'm sorry for your loss. ❤
I was hired at a mortuary which I found out left their bodies in the hot crematory (the room, not the retort chamber) for days on end. I reported them to the state funeral board and was blown off. They were in cahoots with them as the owner had a family friend on the board 🙄 Nothing was done and all I could do was quit. No other entity cared either. Worst state funeral board in the nation by far. Very negligent and repulsive 😡
@@shawnaaustin3396 Utterly disgusting!! Thank you for speaking up and reporting them!!
@@shawnaaustin3396 what is the name? Start name dropping it online like this and start getting people demanding accountability from them, or at least forcing some action by 2ay of reducing income and customers to their facility
Thank you! Thank You , Thank You! I enjoy watching you, Everything is truthful and I love Truth! You make things exciting to watch.
I am a mortician in SC. I absolutely love this channel and started watching when I decided to go to mortuary school. I thought I was the only one who felt embalming was overused.
It is so heartwarming to see how gently Monica placed your hands at the end of the video, with so much care and respect - this made me a bit emotional) because this shows that she treats all of her clients like that and it's great to have your loved ones in such caring hands after they passed...
Embalming tools: Normal cosmetic surgery, but if you do it to a live human, they die!
If you embalm a living person twice the second time will always work
“My Instagram face.”…gosh, I enjoy your videos so much. You make death and what comes after in the physical world so very understandable and natural, if that’s the right word.
This was so informative. Knowledge Replaces Fear is so true! Well done !
This is why i love Catlin. She is actually lying on the table where embalming is done. Amazing! She kept her word.
Golden Trocar would be the BEST band name ever.
Death Metal??? 😜🤣🤣🤣🤣😉👍💖
@@badkitty4922 I’d name a ska or swing band like that since most people don’t seem to actually know what a trocar is. It would make the band’s name memorable once people found out. LoL
You are a real Trooper! Although I cringed and held my chest area, I found this video informative. My adopted dad is a funeral director and it gives me insight of his work. Thank you so much
Amazing Katelin well done! and so informative.
People will totally freak out over the idea of having their organs removed for donation to save someone's life, but then turn around be like, "I'm getting embalmed so my family can see me how God made me" and not even acknowledge their organs are going to get liposuctioned out after a dye job.
Yeah cause we're largely uninformed. I'm a registered organ donor, but like... so reluctant about it. It honestly freaks me out so much, but I also think once I die it probably won't bother me and it could make a huge difference to someone, so... well, here I am. I'd prefer to be cremated "intact" and not be allowed to decompose or be cut into, but if it saves a life and I don't need it and I'm just gonna burn it, like... I'm SO creeped out but how can I say no?
@@bumblebee560 Exact same here! Something about being fully cremated sounds best because at least ill know all of my body is in one place and no pieces are lost, but its odd how it seems less scary when id be dead anyways lol. I think its just freaky to imagine my body ever being separate and not intact, its like the moment my physical form doesnt exist is when im forced to imagine myself as truly dead.
I'll donate it so I could live on one way or another 😃👍
@@disgusted2704 That's a good way of thinking about it!
No i dont think it's that it's more the fact the thought of being completely cut open and sewn back together. I think alot of people want to be remembered and last after they are gone (weird thing) yet most of us will be forgotten in 3 generations. It's a but like being scared of planes yet it's more likely you'll get in a car crash........ irrational thoughts usually because of fear
So technically if there were zombies, embalmed bodies wouldn't be very bitey..
Certainly a technicality overlooked in zombie movies.
Just untie the little present in the nose ;)
@@PersonalitySituation This is so damn funny djdndjdndj
They covered this on Fear the Walking Dead this season... A room full of embalmed zombies, tied up by their wrists, mouths sewn shut. They eventually worked their lips loose as the "protagonists" worked their way thru the room...
Had a person tell me they were afraid of zombies. I told them they were safe because zombies only eat brains.
Monica just seems like a warm genuine person!
She was so respectful in explaining and caring for deceased loved ones. Thank you so much for the work you do.