Mortician Does My Makeup for the Casket
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When my dad passed. The makeup person did a great job. But the best thing was they put a closed lip smile on Daddy's face. My brother and I saw him at the viewing and my brother goes. Dad looks like he just told a dirty joke. Well that got me tickled and I was laughing and crying at the same time. People were staring but I didn't care. Funerals are for families and if I want to express my grief with laughter its ok
Fr when my dad died he wanted it to be fun so we’d crack jokes but everyone would give us the dirtiest looks😭
During my dad's viewing he had a mischievous facial expression! 😝 He did make that face a lot in life-- he was a lot of fun! I thought it was hilarious and fitting. Family giggled and cried and said, "Yep, that's him!" 🥰
When my aunt died, my great aunt kept cracking jokes about how the funeral home director pronounced “diabetes” (my aunt died from complications due to diabetes) and of course, we laughed and cried and we got stares too but we always said this is what my aunt wanted. She never wanted us to cry and hurt, she always wanted us to laugh. So that’s what I say to you, your father would’ve wanted you to laugh instead of cry. ☺️
My dad worked at the mortuary that ended up embalming and doing his funeral. So we knew they’d do a good job. But we kids actually, for my dad’s funeral, decided we wanted to remember him how he was. My dad was a funny guy who would transport a lot of the bodies to the mortuary in body bags. Sometimes if we were visiting and rode with him, we would go through a drive-thru for lunch and he would ask what I wanted to order and turn around and say, “excuse me, sir? Would you care for some lunch?” Or something like that just to make us smile. He did love that job.
💯
The weirdest part of this wasn't seeing Caitlin made up to look like a corpse. It wasn't even seeing the final 80s glam look. No, the weirdest part was seeing Caitlin _without her bangs._
She looks good with a forehead.
Oh my god, that's why something felt so off...
I was beginning to suspect she didn't have a forehead.
Omg that's it! I never even realized...
This comment speaks so much truth 😂
My mother was a beautician, the funeral home would call her to do the hair on her clients when they passed away. I remember peeking in and watching her do the hair on an elderly lady. I asked how she could stand to do that. Her reply has always stuck with me. She said, 'It's not the dead who will hurt you, it's the living you have to watch out for.'
Oh boy, she got that dead right.
I will never forget when my Gran wiped off this god awful bright pink lipstick they put on my aunt after she died. She hated it. She was a goddamn military pilot, not a Barbie doll lol.
perfect example of why the family should be involved and do the deceased's makeup
Yes. Like jeez bro chill with the color
Caitlin experienced this too in her memoir. Her grandmother was embalmed in Hawaii, so she couldn't monitor the process. They gave her bright pink lips and heavy eyeshadow.
Oh and their neighbouring viewing room lost electricity so the people next door started encroaching into theirs then tried to kick them out.
@@liriodendronlasianthus Good lord
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It's only once in a blue moon that we see Caitlin's forehead. We've all been blessed.
It is said that the Church has already called postmortem dibs on Caitlin’s forehead.
Funny 😆😆
She looks so different! I had to double take
Bless us this day our daily head
You have been visited by the Good Luck Caitlin Forehead. Press Like in the next 150,000 minutes for a year of good luck!
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When my grandmother did her makeup, she would always smudge her mascara because she had tremors. So when she passed, the person who did her makeup must have smudged it on accident. It was very comforting to see.
Someone painted my grandmother's nails a bright neon pink I could've never imagined her choosing to wear, it was quite jarring.
A good friend of mine passed away and they did her makeup all wrong... she never wore much aside from mascara, yet there she laid with pink lipstick on and rosy cheeks. It was a little upsetting.
Exactly, I couldn't agree more. My aunt passed and when I went to the viewing she had her hair parted on the side. Parted was not the word, It was a comb over.( For those that don't know, it's a style mostly used by balding men to hide a balding spot. Men try to hide the balding, by taking the hair from the non-balding side and 'combing it over' to the other side, hopefully hiding the bald spot).
It was attrouscious (sorry for the spelling) and it took away from the bereavement process and prolonged the closure of her being gone. I couldn't help but think why did her sons let her get buried looking like a totally different person. Everytime I thought of her, that comb over came back to my mind and intertwined with the good memories of her.
Please don't let your loved ones be buried looking different than what they looked like in real life. thank you. and, sorry for long comment.
@@christafurden Morticians usually paint the cheeks of the deceased a rosy color that looks unnatural due to their skin paling in color which is usually unsettling for the grieving family.
Awe..
When I went to view my father, alone. His hair was combed on the wrong side. I was amazed how emotional I got when I asked them to comb his hair correctly.
Why did you get emotional because it was on wrong side?
@@Cognitoman people want to go to viewing remembering the person as how they remember them when they're still alive.
Little signatures like always combing the hair to one side became an endearing memory of the person, hence if it's done wrong, it can give an "unfamiliar" look to the person.
People want to say goodbye to the person they know, not the person they don't know; this includes how they dress, how they do their makeups, what type of color they usually cater to, styling quirks (wearing a LOT of rings, parting hair, faux beauty marks, etc etc), because at the end of the day we know someone not just due to their faces, but also their personality and choices.
My grandma's hair was also styled really different and I cried to my mom about it. I was so mad and sad at the same time. It made me really emotional because it didn't seem like her.
I’m glad you did. ❤️
I empathize: When I viewed my mom, she had on a ton of eyeliner and mascara, something she never ever wore, and her hair was bone straight when she wore it naturally curly. I was too upset to tell them to fix it but I wish I had.
My mom would often do my Grandma's hair as she got older. When she passed away, my mom did her hair and makeup for the final time, and I got to go and paint my Grandma's fingernails. I painted my nails to match. It was a very interesting and lovely experience.
That’s Beautiful!
That’s beautiful
Caregiving thing here and nails and all that that's sort of the female thing you know and it's okay somebody's got to do it
@@tomstulc9143 da fuq dude?
"My embalmer is coming back ... there is my embalmer!"
What no mortician would want to be greeted with, coming back from a break 🤪
The urban legend continues ..
I had a genuine feeling of concern that having a bun pinned behind the head while lying down would be uncomfortable before I remembered this would be a corpse...
Lol hey, I don't want my poor corpse to have to wear a bra. It's uncomfortable enough in life, let alone the afterlife haha
@@bethc8809 Though I think that would be necessary if you have an open casket funeral because your skin will probably sag. *I don't know how far down open caskets go as we don't do them here.
I h my gosh me to lol
Ha my mother in law has already picked out what she wants to wear in her casket but she has two outfits one for summer and one for winter bc she doesn't want to be cold 🤣
@@bethc8809 my mother in law has requested no shoes when she's buried for that reason.
The relief I felt when she said "Caitlin's personal makeup" is in indescribable.
Wait why
@@ReubenWalton people are paranoid
@@ReubenWalton the biggest way for a person to get an infection is through sharing make-up.
@@ReubenWalton because the makeup they use for corpses are too toxic for a living person.
@@theautisticartist9370 I'd more call them paint or dyes than make-up tbh.
My grandfather had battled stage 4 cancer for over a year and was skin and bones by the time he died. At the funeral I can remember thinking that I was grateful to see him laying there as my last memory of him. He looked almost like his old self and not the shadow of a man cancer had beaten him into. Thank you for everything you do. ❤️
I love the way she referred to preparing the body as “taking care of someone”. Such a beautiful and respectful approach to honouring someone in death.
Organized crime's found that term's the most empathic in their line of work, so...okay then.
@@scotcarr3390 Most of all good morticians do have respect for the deceased, it's kind of part of the job. I know I have respect for the deceased and I'm sure I will when I get my degree as well.
@@thorn6032 I meant no disrespect, as I was merely cracking wise. I tend to do such. Part of my personality & all. Were I to get my degree, I'd probably do the same, but never to the family, friends or loved ones of the person I'd be servicing. That would be hurtful, disrespectful & wrong.
I actually have great respect for those in the funeral trade. I used to write obits back in the day & was on very good terms w/many directors. They were very compassionate to their clients & great w/them all around. They did demonstrate to me that, as folks in any profession do, they coped w/everyday job stresses w/a great degree of dark humor. We'd crack wise on the phone & try to outdo each other's mordant wit. Good times.
@Tabora Terrible then, that you like-bombed something in order to BE it! Be original &/or creative, okay? Sorry if I sound mean but you were the last in a long line of like-bombing I've seen. I'm sure you're clever too. Just show it on something so momentous. Hope you see this in the spirit it was meant to be...🙃
I have dealt with a couple morticians over the years and they tend to be the most respectful, empathetic, caring people I have talked to, in all reality. I would think they would be hard and cold, but the opposite has been true each time; they really care about your pain and do their best to ease it.
Jeffree Star - Cancelled
James Charles - Rececitated
Caitlyn - Deceased
Monica Torres - the beauty guru we deserve
Tylon Bordeaux Jawbreaker Palette whomst? I’m here for formaldehyde rejuvenation.
@@sarahdoe6945 WHOMST KLJFDGLKJLSDFKJGLSKDJFGLK;
what is rececitated?
@@amandamfds Probably misspelled version of resuscitated?
Hotel - trivago
I made sure my Mom had lipstick on for her viewing, because even though she never wore makeup she never walked out the door without her lipstick being applied. I personally cut my Daddy's hair for him after he died so that it would be exactly like he always liked me to do it!!! He passed away 23 years ago today in 1998!!!! Pretty darn different that I am watching this young lady's videos on the anniversary death of someone I love, but here I am!!!!!!
Ms Doughty, you really take the strange and scary out of death, without removing any of the closeness to the dead or reality of death. Your self-deprecating and impish humour and your openness about the business is immensely helpful when dealing with the road from loss to plot.
The FBI agent watching my activity:
“Uh boss, I think we need to keep our eyes on this one”
Not to worry. We're taking a break from our interview/little chat, so I'll vouch for you!
If the FBI or CIA was watching me i would have been arrested by now.
Walrus haha ikr? i'm in a grad school program currently for forensic nursing and you should see the type of horror and nastiness i like to watch on a regular basis. the govt surveillance people are probably thinking "dear god who is this psycho?..perhaps we should bring her in for questioning.."
valla yakunin mmm i dunno about that. i'm a very important person ;-)
@@HillBillyBrown same
When my Grandma passed, I asked the funeral home if they would colour her hair for her. She always coloured her hair and didn't do so for the weeks/months leading up to her death. They were completely open to it and just asked me to buy the colour for them. She looked so good. They did a fantastic job on her.
Funeral home's employees doing great I see!
Me. I cant believe w all that $$$$ her mom spent they buried Susie w Roots!
My best friend yes "but that was Susie wasnt it? 😂"
So happy for you
May Her Memory Be a Blessing
I'm so glad to hear that...
My grandmother passed Christmas Day. We had a very strong bond and I’m her only granddaughter. My family asked me to do her makeup and I’m kinda shaken up about it. I’m the only one who knows her routine front to back. I’m here trying to prepare myself so I’m don’t break down from it all.
I hope you're doing ok ❤❤ that must have been tough for you and I hope you're doing alright.
Shame on your family for pressuring you to do something you're not comfortable doing.
@@kurtsalm2155 they didn’t pressure me. They were very hesitant to ask in fact. But shame on you for assuming such a nasty thing.
Oh, I loved this video so much!! It reminded me of a chapter from one of my favorite manga series, "The Embalmer", about a goth girl who was obsessed with the idea of dying because she thought being embalmed would allow her to be beautiful forever. She snuck into an open casket viewing, and was disgusted when she saw the deceased wasn't wearing any makeup and just looked "normal". The titular embalmer explained to her that his job wasn't to make corpses "beautiful'- it was to make them look like their loved ones remembered, using makeup to make them look au natural if they didn't wear makeup when they were alive, or even painting on wrinkles and discoloration because "To the family, even the faults are dear".
The funeral home that has buried most of my family and ancestors, let me fix my mother's hair. I did her hair most of my life so it meant the world to me do it one last time.
That's wonderful. The home that did my sister didn't do such a great job. My other sister and I had brought some things and made it much better, which would have mattered alot to our sister.
So that means you fucked her hair up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What a beautiful last thing you did for her. She would have been so grateful that you were able to show your love and devotion like that.
I did my best friend's hair for hers. I used to do her hair so her husband asked me too. I wouldn't turn it down, it also give me alone time to say good bye
I want to do the same one day when my mother passes away I want to be able to do her hair too.I am the youngest and the closest to my mom.
"I'm a mortician, not a magician"
Isn't that necromancy?
A magic mortician! I see what u did there lol. But not quite black magic!
Mom: "It's so hard to raise a family these days."
Necromancer: "Not if they're buried close enough together."
Mom: "What?!"
Necromancer: "What?"
😭😭😭
Oooh... that should have been "Dammit Jean, I'm a mortician, not a magician!" in her best Dr. Leonard Mccoy voice...
@@K_i_t_t_y84 Ooh, that joke's so good! Thank you!
I sing for funerals. It is so hard to explain to people what an honor and privilege it is... comforting a family at one their most vulnerable and sad times. Funerals are sooo important for healing and closure.
Amen
I asked for the soloist to sing the Lord's Prayer at my grandsons funeral. She did, but it was a whole different melody. ?!?
@@noclue8058 So sorry... I hope you at least took solace in the words. They are beautiful too.
@@cotybare9720
I did. I was just shocked, unaware there was more than one way to sing it. I like the original version better.
@@noclue8058 I will keep that in mind for myself in future. I would hate to pick the wrong version for a family!
the fact that Monica said she's "taking care of someone" as in a body, sweet
"If you wanna see Monica embalm me, this video needs to get 150k likes."
Sitting at 150k
*Big Concern*
At the end she said a hundred and fifty thousand likes.
You guys know what embalming is, right?
@@maevocado1246 Yes, that's why I'm scared.
Sitting at 131K
@@npcmatrix. I did after I posted.
Next time, don't be so toxic.
When my abuela passed, I think it really helped my mom with grieving to be involved with how my abuela's makeup looked. My abuela also had her hairdresser, who she went to atleast once a week, do her hair for free. We wanted my abuela to be happy with how she would have looked and it helped us focus on her rather than ourselves.
I'm sorry for you loss. That was a beautiful thing for her to be able to do for Abuela! I don't know that I have the strength to do that for someone I love. I hope I'm wrong and that I can follow her example if called on. ♥ Thank you for sharing!
I hope you can do the same thing for your Madre when it's her time eventually. My Mum doesn't wear make-up, ever, so it gets tricky for her.
My mother died 30 some, years ago. When my older sister told me she did our mom's make up, I was so grossed out, shocked , said, " who does that???? ". But hearing you two describe and demonstrate, makes me feel a lot better about it.
Did you apologize to your sister?
I also want to know if you apologized for what you said to your sister.
You were entitled to feel that way. Don’t let people make you feel bad for having a healthy, visceral, reaction
My mom never wore make up, and I remember laughing my ass off when I saw her with pink lipstick, blue eyeshadow and eye liner in the casket, right before the funeral.
I had baby wipes in my bag, and wiped the whole thing off.
People who were gathering at the chapel, thought I’ve lost my mind because I was laughing and crying, while wiping the make up of my moms face.
I kept laughing throughout the funeral because I couldn’t get the images out of my mind. One of the things that made the funeral a little more bearable.
Hello Caitlin's forehead, I've been a big fan of Caitlin for years now. It's nice to finally meet you!
Oh, the bangs-look is SO '80s, isn't it?
You're looking like Colton off of the Bachelor
Rick Strohbach I like Caitlins forehead. Is that weird? 😂😊
Oh geez 😂
When morticians talk to their corpse clients - and the corpse clients _talk back_
Hahaha
There's a few professions where you hope your client never talks back. Vet, butcher, and mortician
Amy aight imma head out
Then the other corpses die again
And the corpse also proceeds to upload a youtube video of them getting prepared for the funeral
People are so scared of death and the dead. Thank you both for brining another light to it as well as involving families in the process.
Something like this is my dream job. When my great grandfather died he looked nothing like himself and it was my exceptionally upsetting. I would love to be able to keep that from happening to someone else.
I'm really frustrated that these two women care so much. I wish I could have worked with them. So many people are NOT like them. I had to fight to be involved in the process of my son's death. My son had cuts on his face from the breathing equipment in ICU. The Care Center first made him completely tan face. My son was always pale due to his heart defects. We had them remove the makeup and make him look more pale, like normal. They never covered the cuts and I got judged from family members like it was MY fault. I wish more people would allow parents/family members to be involved in the death process. I would have been with my son through EVERYTHING if I would have been allowed.
People in this line of work need to understand that we can't get these moments back. It's so upsetting.
I am so sorry for your terrible loss, and that your grief was compounded by what happened. It is the worst thing to lose a loved one, and more so, a child. I have not had that trauma in my life, but having been with beloved ones, during their final moments, and after, I know how difficult it is to have anything that went wrong keep playing in your head, which can seriously impede the journey through grief. I do not have anything that can help, but can only say my heart goes out to you and yours. (I basically tell my brain to STFU, when it wants to replay the negative crap it plays around a death, and make it focus toward the full and best life I shared with the beloved. Doesn't always work, but is something I do. Just an aside.)
I know this is going to get lost in translation but I really want to say this to you in my culture and language we say "I pray for the coolness of your heart and eyes" when someone is in grief we say their heart and eyes are hot and when someone finds so much happiness, genuine bliss and peace we say their heart and eyes are cool and I pray for that for you, love.
I pray for the coolness of your heart and eyes
@@carabiner7999 Thank you. Grief is SOOOO hard.
@@imnotaregularmomimacoolmom6069 This is a beautiful saying. Thank you. ❤️
this sounds so painful I hope you’re doing well now
My grandma was 79 when she was hit & killed instantly by a car while crossing the street to check her mail (she was 79, but still drove, went shopping, went to church, etc. on her own whenever we weren’t around) in Feb. 2015. At her funeral, they had to reconstruct her arms & torso area under her clothes because all of those bones were severely broken. My grandma was 5 feet, maybe 80-90 pounds & she was struck at about 65-70 mph. So her body flew over a 100 ft. It still hurts so much to think about it & that someone so full of life would have to go out that way. Her face had so much makeup on it to cover the bruising and everything from being hit. She looked beautiful & like a movie star, but my grandma never wore makeup other than lipstick so seeing her with foundation on was different, but I'm very grateful to be able to remember her looking like a movie star. The only thing I regret is I was in cosmetology school during this time & my grandma had been waiting for me to get out of the classroom part to the floor to start taking clients. She was so excited to be my first perm. I never got a chance to give her that perm. Sometimes I regret not offering to do her hair for the funeral. I'm so sorry Grandma. I miss you so much & I hope I get to give you that perm in heaven one day.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope your family found peace (as well as justice, 60-75 mph in a residential area?) in the years following her passing.
I m so sorry for your loss
Thank you so much, you guys! ❤️
Awww... 🌹
That was very beautiful im so sorry about your loss
most of these comments are making me shed a tear, sending a hug to all of you 😔❤️
I usually don’t wear make-up much less have my fingernails painted. When the day comes, just cover up any old-age spots, any acne scarring I know I have, don’t overdo pink because I’m naturally pale, make sure my mouth and eyes are glued closed, dress me black, straighten my hair like Morticia Addams, then to finish it up, put my goddamn glasses on (I frequently end up sleeping with them on, might as well go under wearing them).
Oh that's a good thought I'm never without my glasses I'd probably look weird to my family without them.
@@violetskies14
Lol having never seen my Gramma without her glasses, we thought we had entered the wrong room! We all agreed to put them on her. Finally, she looked like the Gramma we knew and loved!
Late 80's Caitlyn: 😲🤩
Corpse Caitlyn: 🥺😢😭
Quite literally "late" 80s Caitlin! :-)
@@celticmomhere4430 😬🤣
Death by door knob to the eye?
Speaking about "it's uncomfortable to lie on the embalming table"... I will always remember how at med school when we had to take part in a few forensic pathology dissections, after our last practical the pathologist said "I hope I'll never see any of you on my table. " It might sound creepy to an outsider, but to many of us it felt like your general "take care, stay safe" wish.
I'm in mortuary school right now and our teachers say the same thing to us. It's such a sweet thing to say and something others might turn their heads if they overheard but we get it :)
I know similar "well-wishes" from the psych ward, where their goodbye goes "I hope we'll never see you again".
I dunno if it'd sound creepy to me if I heard it in the wild without your explanation. It "sounds" like a tradition, something people in a somewhat-strange group of people with similar training/experiences would say, if that makes sense. Sort of a "break a leg" in theatre sort of thing. I think I'd pick up the meaning pretty quick.
I was an ICU nurse for 12 years in a public hospital, one of the charge nurses for 10 of those years. A nursing preceptor I had become good friends with worked there, too, and always told her group as they left on their last day not to be her patient. It made me chuckle a little the first time I heard it since I seemed to have gotten all the morose and sombre preceptors where I went to school. I also wish she had given me the same blessing as I did end up her patient there. Anyway, it is definitely a "take care, stay safe" kinda thing.
If viewing was part of my funeral plan I'd 100% insist my loved ones hire Monica. There is a compassion in her and her love of her work that makes me feel at ease.
"We'll pretend I'm a mother who's died and her family wants to see her"
Me, whose mom died three years ago: Thaaaat hit home 😢😢
Don't underestimate our like power
That's the kinda determination I'm talkin about!
Muahahahaha!
*continues to make 100 accounts*
Haha yes 😂
The mutter museum has said some about likes.
That's one talkative corpse! ❤️❤️
"Be quiet... You are supposed to be dead"
I was hoping for that line to be said.
"You're a mortician, not a magician." ✨
Thank you so much for this video. When my mom passed away the mortician made her look so close to her beautiful self. She had struggled with an aggressive cancer and it had significantly discolored her skin, not to mention other issues that were awful. It meant so much to my family to see our mom again looking like herself when we said good bye and laid her to rest. Your work is so healing & appreciated.
When my Dad died, my sisters and I trimmed his beard and braided his beautiful long hair. It was very healing for us to care for him and it was an honor.
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@@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344 _I thought you were american._
@@crystaleunoia3974 I am an African American
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@@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344 I was quoting an old vine, I'm sorry if I offended you. 😅
"lazy eye and mouth slightly open" that's just me on the regular
Punk Rock Poser same
I have a lazy eye on my left lol
LOL!
Me right now with allergies and a migraine! XP
Same tho
I wish they did something like this in the 60s. I was 9 and my big brother was 20 and he was killed in a car accident. The steering wheel got him good and when I went to see him he looked like a copper penny. I felt mixed up like it was not really him in the casket. :(
Wait what??
I’m so sorry. Sending love to you and your family ♥️
@@hisgraceissufficient5323 mean his face was flat I think.
@@naeemami8011 oh wow. That is sad!
I'm so sorry you lost your big brother at such a young age.
she actually looks really nice in the old photo, the hairstyle definitely says it's the 80's
Eats breakfast sandwich while watching a corpse makeover. My death positivity has come a long way.
Wow. Congratulations. 👏
You were eating while watching a living person get their makeup done on TH-cam. Big whoop. 🙄
@@Hollypenopepper That's not very nice.
@@Hollypenopepper you're a jerk
Omg! Me too! Heehee! 😄
Hollypeno Pepper And you felt the need to reply with a nasty comment? 🤠👏🏻
The thumbnail alone was worth it, lol. Awesome 🤣
lol 👍
Luv ur pictur
My grandma died when my sister and I were 19 and 15. To be able to have time with her corpse, to paint her nails and do designs like she always did gave us peace. To this day little things always connect us to her. ❤️
Thank you so much for the videos I went yesterday to do my grandmothers make up and she looked amazing when I got done. It was incredibly healing for me.
It would be amazing if you could do a vid about the intro of universal precautions in the 80's, the reasons behind it and lack of oversight before, and the small town funeral directors who were exposed at the beginning of the AIDS crisis.
Caitlin please do this one!!!!!!
Pretty, pretty please do a vid on this
This IS a good idea!
To be honest, I am so happy that you finally made this. Monica is so damn talented.
SHES AMAZING
I agree and she is so caring too.
When I die I would love for her to do my makeup!
During embalming video:
“200K likes if you wanna see Monica crema.... WHOOOOA!”
Sorry, my Mother just passed, and it KILLED me just looking at the outfit we picked out and picking out her photo. NO WAY could I have done her makeup.
I understand. I just lost my wife.
@@daviddonaghy6494 I am so sorry
@@daviddonaghy6494 sorry for your loss 🥺
"Debbie's head" ! Wow!!! I'm pretty sure that's the ultimate honor on this channel. Congratulations Debbie!!!
"You really should get a spa treatment!"
"Over my dead body! ...oh."
Wow, Monica did an amazing job replicating you with the photo.
I was afraid to have a view of my late daughter. I wanted to remember her as she was alive.
JaneyD, I hope you are comforted by happy memories of your daughter.
@@sharppointy1 thank you 😊 for your comment.x I have her 2 children who visit regularly. We all miss her and I think of her every day. I have to be thankful to have had her and the children in my life. I plan to make a collage of her from throughout her life. And I hope it helps us all to appreciate the beautiful soul that she was. It was Easter Monday 2020 she passed. It would be her birthday 🎂 coming up in a few days. So I will try to get a cake and say happy birthday to her in heaven. And hopefully 🙏 she may be looking down. Many many thanks for your kind comment it makes a difference. Best wishes.x
You did what was right for you, I regret seeing my grandfather again after he died (I saw him the evening he died when he looked 'normal') but I had to take my grandmother, the man in the coffin was nothing like my grandad and it was deeply upsetting for me - I hope you remember your daughter exactly how she was, she knows you loved her either way
@@rheanathan4189 thank you so much. I have her last photo displayed and it was taken by me.. its 15 months since she passed and I believe I'm going through different phases in my grief. I told her tonight I need her back. The longer it is the more I.want to see her. I'm afraid it's becoming a distant memory. I need an update which obviously isn't possible. .xxxx
@@rheanathan4189 hi again Reah, you did a good deed for your grandma. She may not have been able to go by herself. Maybe if you find a happy smiling foto of your grandad you might want to display it and try to remember him looking like that. Blessings to you and your family.xxxx
Thank you so much for making these videos. Im a hairstylist and you gave me the courage to do my best friends hair color after she lost her short but horrific battle to colon cancer. I went to the funeral home after she was embalmed, played her favorite music and did my thing. I survived 12 brain surgeries and it was still the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, still I would do it again for anyone that I love. I know it meant the world to my friend and now I understand why you do what you do.
So sorry for your loss. Life is precious.
that is so beautiful i have so much respect
I'm sure your friend would thank you for your kindness if she could. 💜
Morgan, 12 brain surgeries? Oh my lord, I am SO sorry that you have suffered through that HELL and I am so sorry that you lost your dear friend to such a nasty form of cancer. You are beyond brave and the AMAZING strength you have is INCREDIBLY inspirational. I think your friend is very happy that you did that for her as difficult as it was AND thankful for having you as such a WONDERFUL friend in you. I truly hope that you are okay and live a long, happy life as you certainly deserve it! 💕
Morgan Dee wow you’re an awesome person. I’m sure your friend was so happy that you took the time to do this for her, and to play her favorite music! I hope she was there in spirit dancing and singing along❤️
I remember when my dad passed away we didn't think about giving directions about hairstyle and the funeral home gel'd his hair back. I just remember thinking, 'oh man he is going hate that'.
It's so cool how much skill goes into makeup, dead or alive.
You have to find colours and tones that match the skin.
If there isn’t glitter somewhere on my post mortem face I’ll be coming back as a glitter-Geist to cause some problems. 🤷♀️ ✨ 🪦
Aw, I wish Debby's head and Bentham's head could meet irl 💖
stella omg I need a Debbie’s head sticker!!!!!
Bentham’s head
🎶DeBbY’s hEaD🎶
Bentham’s head. LOL
CAITLIN Go to London or where ever benthem's head was from and bring Debbie!!!
Sees that the last video got 99k likes so offers to get embalmed at 100k next time?
Girl R.I.P 😂
150k
That picture of you from the late 80’s brings back some great memories from my younger days just seeing the makeup and hair styles from my late teens. Kind of funny considering great memories was the last thing I thought I’d get from watching this 😆
My 83 yr old mother looked like a teenager thanks to her funeral home make up girl. My sister and I nearly fell into the casket with her trying to make sure it was her. I love your "let's par-tay" look. I see you got 180,000 likes!
"you're a mortician, not a magician"
Smoooooothhh
I need to take a 80's glam photo for my family to take to the mortician after I pass just to confuse the crap out of them.
Mortician: but...she was born in 1987?
😂 Still laughing!
"yes, we want her to look like a baby again,. A dazzling 80's baby"
I love you guys. Handing power back to the family and helping them prep their dead is so rare 🖤
This video really hit home for me. My son recently went to wake his mother up and he came into my room saying that she wouldn’t wake up. At one point Caitlin looked exactly like my wife when we found her. Same facial expression and color.
I'm really sorry. Sounds Iike your child was young for such an experience. I hope you are hanging in there.
@@samanthathompson9812 He is 30. This has been a difficult thing to get used to.
@@daviddonaghy6494 How awful. Age makes little difference to such a shocking experience. I don't think it's something you can ever get over completely. Wishing you both some kind of peace.
I agree about how important makeup artistry is with the deceased. When my Mom died in 2009, the funeral home did such a wonderful job on her I was shocked. She not only didn't look dead, but she looked beautiful and that wasn't a word that I had ever thought to describe her previously. The last time I saw her in full makeup was probably when I was in Jr. High in the mid 70's. But now my last memory of her was seeing her at her viewing and she was beautiful. I am still in awe on the work they did on her. Kudo's to Mulkey Mason in Denton, Texas for an absolute A+++ job.
All that torture to ur mother´s body for you all to satisfy ur selves!!!😡
The funeral home did the same with my mom when she passed away as well.
@@aneesaali780 well think about this. Would you rather see a blue pale and yellow dead body? Or see someone who looks alive with makeup? Huh?
@@aneesaali780 it's not torture, honey. im sure she would've loved getting dolled up :)
@@aneesaali780 If you think a face of makeup is torture, I don't know what to tell you. And as for "to satisfy yourselves", what do you think funerals are for? You're there to celebrate and remember, and if someone feels comforted seeing her mom looking her best, there's nothing wrong with some makeup.
Damn Caitlin you must have broke a lot of hearts in the 80's.
She was beautiful then and is beautiful now.
@@bunkyman8097 Lol I'm pretty sure that's a photoshopped image, b/c for her to look that old in the 80s Caitlyn would be in her 50s by now😂.
Still a great photo though.
A really good photo!
Brie B well you never know..I’m 46 and people think I’m in my early 20s.some people are just like that 🤷♀️
In 1989 she was 4-5. She was born in August 1984. It was mentioned in the peat mummy video
Thank you for making this it reminds me of when my mother died and I wanted to help but they told me "no, you need a license" I wish I could have helped I felt robbed also I feel it atributed to my now dead body phobia
Fascinating, and a blast. Thank you both
I was patiently waiting for Bentham's head... then we got Debbie's head instead 😂🤣
I lost my mother to a tragic car accident 8 months ago. (1 week before Christmas) Your videos have truly helped me to understand the post mortem part of it and I’m grateful for that. My mother was not embalmed when I saw her body. She was cremated after we had our chance to see her. I’ve had so many questions about what I saw and what happened to her body which is how I found you. These types of videos make me want to do this as a profession. Losing her makes me want to understand everything that happens after we die. Weird, I’m sure. But I’m grateful for you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you a huge hug. Hope you continue to heal.
Really sorry for your mom, but I think she lived a great life with you because you seem like a really nice person. Hope the best for you!
It’s not weird. When my father passed, I saw him before they embalmed. I had to. He had a heart attack, so there wasn’t trauma. I can only imagine what you went through.
Britney Rene - So very sorry for your loss. I recently found this channel and I’ve found the same interest in learning everything I can. I lost my father to suicide on Christmas Eve. These videos have put me at ease while also answering many questions.
Nothing but the best for you!
I'm sorry for you're loss Britney, my condolences go to you and you're family, I hope you and family are healing well ❤️😊
I love all of your videos, but this one was especially informative and compassionate. Thank you for showing us this side of your process.
loved this video!! im an esthetician & have always wondered about this & embalming. It is so incredibly sweet the dead are given post-mortem facials with such love & care♡ thanks for making this video!!💕
Next episode: GRWM death edition (how I get ready for my viewing)
Omg that's the best!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Lol
when my dad passed away the embalmer did a good job. he looked like his navy picture. the only thing missing was his beautiful smile.
I love both of you! Thank you for your programs. Helping remove societal fright around death is a public service as far as I'm concerned.
This Video was suprisingly wholesome. To know someone like you is taking care of the body of a deceased make the world a much better place :) thank you so much for the highly educational video
If I had this job, I think it’d be cool to ask the family what kind of music the person liked to play while I worked
That’s a beautiful gesture. 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this info. My granddad's mouth had a stretched expression that looked like a weird smile, and his skin was orange. We were left thinking this was the work of a dodgy mortician, who had maybe sewn the mouth together funny in an attempt to hide ageing or distress - and had maybe applied foundation in too dark a shade. To realise now that these were more likely natural effects of dying, and more so an absence of rejuvenating techniques rather than a botched job, is really really comforting.
Kaitlin...that '80's photo is a dead ringer for Pat Benatar 😂😂
John I thought she looked more like Stevie Nicks? Linda Ronstat?
@@alphagt62 Yes , I see Linda Ronstadt and Stevie Nicks as a possibility. This is the first time that I have seen her forehead! Gives a whole different take on Kaitlin! Wow!!☺☺
I was thinking the same. My grandmother's mouth was just as you describe your granddad's. I'm grateful to know it was most likely not a lack of respect to her corpse.
This is an excellent, very educational video. Thanks to both of you.
My husband's good friend passed from an overdose. She was very young and it was such a sad funeral. Unfortunately, the mortician who did her makeup either didn't listen or the family chose an old picture of her and her makeup was NOTHING like her usual routine. A lot of her close friends were very distraught over it because she didn't seem herself. :(
I am glad to see that there are people like Caitlin and Monica in the world who make it so important to be involved. It prevents so much unnecessary sadness!!
Watching Caitlin's videos actually makes me happy because it's obvious they are trying to make funerals more open casket than closed. I have been very, very fortunate that all of my family passing has been open but I am stunned at how uncommon it is in my friend circle. Thank you Caitlin (and Monica!) for taking the time to talk about death and bringing normalcy to it.
....I do feel like I should start wearing more makeup now for the sake of my friends and family! 😅
Everyone gangsta until the body says " a little more to the left sweety "
So like, we're totally shipping Debbie and Bentham right? #debtham
#debthamslove
Bentham's head!
Its the love story of a generation!
Watching the two videos in preparation for doing my sister’s makeup in a few days, thanks for making this light-hearted! It helps a lot. She will have a base on so foundation won’t be needed. She’ll be prepped in a way that lets my mom and I do the rest of the makeup that brings my sister back for the final viewing.
In life, my aunt loved to wear body glitter & blue eyeshadow (this was the early 2000s). And at her viewing they that on her as well. It's the little things that matter, she really looked like herself. Thank you to all in the funeral business who help the families during such horrible times.
That pic from the 80s is absolutely gorgeous!
I really think it was a joke, Wade. I'm 40 and Caitlyn is younger than I am. I was 10 in 1989, so you do the math. ;)
SpacePriestess I don’t even know what you’re talking about. I gave her (what I thought) was a very nice compliment. Whether or not the pic was actually from the 80s is completely irrelevant. But hey, I’m always glad to see the self righteous Internet is alive and well.
Wade James Kill em with kindness...
The picture looks like Linda Ronstadt
@@2Sparrows4aFarthing Came here to say that!
Im a makeup artist and my grandma loves getting her makeup done by me, she recently told me while I was doing her makeup that she loved how I hade her look because she feels young and beautiful.
She wants me to do her makeup for her funeral and It was a really tough thing to think about since she's only 65 but it's a reality ill eventually have to come to terms with when she passes away. She suffers from Alzheimer's disease and I don't know which paperwork we need to get done before she's on a more advanced stage of Alzheimer's. I would appreciate some advice to make my grandmother's post death wishes true.
Thank you so much for the content you put out into the world and for educating all of us on such a serious and tabu topic.
best regards,
-Alexander.
She actually recently posted an answer about the kind of paperwork you can file to protect your death wishes. You can find the video here: th-cam.com/video/PVgumSUZQRI/w-d-xo.html
I want you to do my make up too and make me look you and beautiful.
this is so sweet, i approve
@shell company what?
@shell company a guy i believe.
Honestly I had no idea it took so much work to do make up on the dead it really is a huge process I have so much respect for these ladies
Imagine the dead comes to life just to say "Yeah this ain't the right color"
Sounds like a great premise for a sitcom. A mortician who can speak with the dead and chats with them while preparing them for burial
100k likes? Hold my formaldehyde. ..
Gordon Reiher Hahahahahaha! That was GOOD
*drinks*
And I oop-
Gordon Reiher well done sir
🤣lol
Hahah i love!!! it
I had blunt cut bangs for the first 17 years of my life and I was finally forced to clip them back for a high school play. My classmates and cast members said it was like discovering another universe seeing my forehead for the first time. Seeing Caitlin’s forehead for the first time...I now understand.
I love the care and respect you give the deceased and the family and friends.
Caitlin, I am so thankful I found you online, as you are first, so professional with an excellent character and personality to discuss a subject that is UNAVOIDABLE for all of us!!! You are helping me decide the details of my ultimate choices with direct crematiion, vs embalming and viewing. After watching the process of embalming, I am definitely not wanting to go that route!!! I look forward to continuing to learn so much through your humorous yet candidly honest and professional knowledge!!!