Mortician Does My Makeup for the Casket
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It's only once in a blue moon that we see Caitlin's forehead. We've all been blessed.
It is said that the Church has already called postmortem dibs on Caitlin’s forehead.
Funny 😆😆
She looks so different! I had to double take
Bless us this day our daily head
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The weirdest part of this wasn't seeing Caitlin made up to look like a corpse. It wasn't even seeing the final 80s glam look. No, the weirdest part was seeing Caitlin _without her bangs._
She looks good with a forehead.
Oh my god, that's why something felt so off...
I was beginning to suspect she didn't have a forehead.
Omg that's it! I never even realized...
This comment speaks so much truth 😂
When my dad passed. The makeup person did a great job. But the best thing was they put a closed lip smile on Daddy's face. My brother and I saw him at the viewing and my brother goes. Dad looks like he just told a dirty joke. Well that got me tickled and I was laughing and crying at the same time. People were staring but I didn't care. Funerals are for families and if I want to express my grief with laughter its ok
Fr when my dad died he wanted it to be fun so we’d crack jokes but everyone would give us the dirtiest looks😭
During my dad's viewing he had a mischievous facial expression! 😝 He did make that face a lot in life-- he was a lot of fun! I thought it was hilarious and fitting. Family giggled and cried and said, "Yep, that's him!" 🥰
When my aunt died, my great aunt kept cracking jokes about how the funeral home director pronounced “diabetes” (my aunt died from complications due to diabetes) and of course, we laughed and cried and we got stares too but we always said this is what my aunt wanted. She never wanted us to cry and hurt, she always wanted us to laugh. So that’s what I say to you, your father would’ve wanted you to laugh instead of cry. ☺️
My dad worked at the mortuary that ended up embalming and doing his funeral. So we knew they’d do a good job. But we kids actually, for my dad’s funeral, decided we wanted to remember him how he was. My dad was a funny guy who would transport a lot of the bodies to the mortuary in body bags. Sometimes if we were visiting and rode with him, we would go through a drive-thru for lunch and he would ask what I wanted to order and turn around and say, “excuse me, sir? Would you care for some lunch?” Or something like that just to make us smile. He did love that job.
💯
My mother was a beautician, the funeral home would call her to do the hair on her clients when they passed away. I remember peeking in and watching her do the hair on an elderly lady. I asked how she could stand to do that. Her reply has always stuck with me. She said, 'It's not the dead who will hurt you, it's the living you have to watch out for.'
Oh boy, she got that dead right.
When my grandmother did her makeup, she would always smudge her mascara because she had tremors. So when she passed, the person who did her makeup must have smudged it on accident. It was very comforting to see.
Someone painted my grandmother's nails a bright neon pink I could've never imagined her choosing to wear, it was quite jarring.
A good friend of mine passed away and they did her makeup all wrong... she never wore much aside from mascara, yet there she laid with pink lipstick on and rosy cheeks. It was a little upsetting.
Exactly, I couldn't agree more. My aunt passed and when I went to the viewing she had her hair parted on the side. Parted was not the word, It was a comb over.( For those that don't know, it's a style mostly used by balding men to hide a balding spot. Men try to hide the balding, by taking the hair from the non-balding side and 'combing it over' to the other side, hopefully hiding the bald spot).
It was attrouscious (sorry for the spelling) and it took away from the bereavement process and prolonged the closure of her being gone. I couldn't help but think why did her sons let her get buried looking like a totally different person. Everytime I thought of her, that comb over came back to my mind and intertwined with the good memories of her.
Please don't let your loved ones be buried looking different than what they looked like in real life. thank you. and, sorry for long comment.
@@christafurden Morticians usually paint the cheeks of the deceased a rosy color that looks unnatural due to their skin paling in color which is usually unsettling for the grieving family.
Awe..
I had a genuine feeling of concern that having a bun pinned behind the head while lying down would be uncomfortable before I remembered this would be a corpse...
Lol hey, I don't want my poor corpse to have to wear a bra. It's uncomfortable enough in life, let alone the afterlife haha
@@bethc8809 Though I think that would be necessary if you have an open casket funeral because your skin will probably sag. *I don't know how far down open caskets go as we don't do them here.
I h my gosh me to lol
Ha my mother in law has already picked out what she wants to wear in her casket but she has two outfits one for summer and one for winter bc she doesn't want to be cold 🤣
@@bethc8809 my mother in law has requested no shoes when she's buried for that reason.
Hello Caitlin's forehead, I've been a big fan of Caitlin for years now. It's nice to finally meet you!
Oh, the bangs-look is SO '80s, isn't it?
You're looking like Colton off of the Bachelor
Rick Strohbach I like Caitlins forehead. Is that weird? 😂😊
Oh geez 😂
When I went to view my father, alone. His hair was combed on the wrong side. I was amazed how emotional I got when I asked them to comb his hair correctly.
Why did you get emotional because it was on wrong side?
@@Cognitoman people want to go to viewing remembering the person as how they remember them when they're still alive.
Little signatures like always combing the hair to one side became an endearing memory of the person, hence if it's done wrong, it can give an "unfamiliar" look to the person.
People want to say goodbye to the person they know, not the person they don't know; this includes how they dress, how they do their makeups, what type of color they usually cater to, styling quirks (wearing a LOT of rings, parting hair, faux beauty marks, etc etc), because at the end of the day we know someone not just due to their faces, but also their personality and choices.
My grandma's hair was also styled really different and I cried to my mom about it. I was so mad and sad at the same time. It made me really emotional because it didn't seem like her.
I’m glad you did. ❤️
I empathize: When I viewed my mom, she had on a ton of eyeliner and mascara, something she never ever wore, and her hair was bone straight when she wore it naturally curly. I was too upset to tell them to fix it but I wish I had.
I love the way she referred to preparing the body as “taking care of someone”. Such a beautiful and respectful approach to honouring someone in death.
Organized crime's found that term's the most empathic in their line of work, so...okay then.
@@scotcarr3390 Most of all good morticians do have respect for the deceased, it's kind of part of the job. I know I have respect for the deceased and I'm sure I will when I get my degree as well.
@@thorn6032 I meant no disrespect, as I was merely cracking wise. I tend to do such. Part of my personality & all. Were I to get my degree, I'd probably do the same, but never to the family, friends or loved ones of the person I'd be servicing. That would be hurtful, disrespectful & wrong.
I actually have great respect for those in the funeral trade. I used to write obits back in the day & was on very good terms w/many directors. They were very compassionate to their clients & great w/them all around. They did demonstrate to me that, as folks in any profession do, they coped w/everyday job stresses w/a great degree of dark humor. We'd crack wise on the phone & try to outdo each other's mordant wit. Good times.
@Tabora Terrible then, that you like-bombed something in order to BE it! Be original &/or creative, okay? Sorry if I sound mean but you were the last in a long line of like-bombing I've seen. I'm sure you're clever too. Just show it on something so momentous. Hope you see this in the spirit it was meant to be...🙃
I have dealt with a couple morticians over the years and they tend to be the most respectful, empathetic, caring people I have talked to, in all reality. I would think they would be hard and cold, but the opposite has been true each time; they really care about your pain and do their best to ease it.
The funeral home that has buried most of my family and ancestors, let me fix my mother's hair. I did her hair most of my life so it meant the world to me do it one last time.
That's wonderful. The home that did my sister didn't do such a great job. My other sister and I had brought some things and made it much better, which would have mattered alot to our sister.
So that means you fucked her hair up 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
What a beautiful last thing you did for her. She would have been so grateful that you were able to show your love and devotion like that.
I did my best friend's hair for hers. I used to do her hair so her husband asked me too. I wouldn't turn it down, it also give me alone time to say good bye
I want to do the same one day when my mother passes away I want to be able to do her hair too.I am the youngest and the closest to my mom.
When my Grandma passed, I asked the funeral home if they would colour her hair for her. She always coloured her hair and didn't do so for the weeks/months leading up to her death. They were completely open to it and just asked me to buy the colour for them. She looked so good. They did a fantastic job on her.
Funeral home's employees doing great I see!
Me. I cant believe w all that $$$$ her mom spent they buried Susie w Roots!
My best friend yes "but that was Susie wasnt it? 😂"
So happy for you
May Her Memory Be a Blessing
I'm so glad to hear that...
My mom would often do my Grandma's hair as she got older. When she passed away, my mom did her hair and makeup for the final time, and I got to go and paint my Grandma's fingernails. I painted my nails to match. It was a very interesting and lovely experience.
That’s Beautiful!
That’s beautiful
Caregiving thing here and nails and all that that's sort of the female thing you know and it's okay somebody's got to do it
@@tomstulc9143 da fuq dude?
"I'm a mortician, not a magician"
Isn't that necromancy?
A magic mortician! I see what u did there lol. But not quite black magic!
Mom: "It's so hard to raise a family these days."
Necromancer: "Not if they're buried close enough together."
Mom: "What?!"
Necromancer: "What?"
😭😭😭
Oooh... that should have been "Dammit Jean, I'm a mortician, not a magician!" in her best Dr. Leonard Mccoy voice...
@@K_i_t_t_y84 Ooh, that joke's so good! Thank you!
I'm really frustrated that these two women care so much. I wish I could have worked with them. So many people are NOT like them. I had to fight to be involved in the process of my son's death. My son had cuts on his face from the breathing equipment in ICU. The Care Center first made him completely tan face. My son was always pale due to his heart defects. We had them remove the makeup and make him look more pale, like normal. They never covered the cuts and I got judged from family members like it was MY fault. I wish more people would allow parents/family members to be involved in the death process. I would have been with my son through EVERYTHING if I would have been allowed.
People in this line of work need to understand that we can't get these moments back. It's so upsetting.
I am so sorry for your terrible loss, and that your grief was compounded by what happened. It is the worst thing to lose a loved one, and more so, a child. I have not had that trauma in my life, but having been with beloved ones, during their final moments, and after, I know how difficult it is to have anything that went wrong keep playing in your head, which can seriously impede the journey through grief. I do not have anything that can help, but can only say my heart goes out to you and yours. (I basically tell my brain to STFU, when it wants to replay the negative crap it plays around a death, and make it focus toward the full and best life I shared with the beloved. Doesn't always work, but is something I do. Just an aside.)
I know this is going to get lost in translation but I really want to say this to you in my culture and language we say "I pray for the coolness of your heart and eyes" when someone is in grief we say their heart and eyes are hot and when someone finds so much happiness, genuine bliss and peace we say their heart and eyes are cool and I pray for that for you, love.
I pray for the coolness of your heart and eyes
@@carabiner7999 Thank you. Grief is SOOOO hard.
@@imnotaregularmomimacoolmom6069 This is a beautiful saying. Thank you. ❤️
this sounds so painful I hope you’re doing well now
My grandma was 79 when she was hit & killed instantly by a car while crossing the street to check her mail (she was 79, but still drove, went shopping, went to church, etc. on her own whenever we weren’t around) in Feb. 2015. At her funeral, they had to reconstruct her arms & torso area under her clothes because all of those bones were severely broken. My grandma was 5 feet, maybe 80-90 pounds & she was struck at about 65-70 mph. So her body flew over a 100 ft. It still hurts so much to think about it & that someone so full of life would have to go out that way. Her face had so much makeup on it to cover the bruising and everything from being hit. She looked beautiful & like a movie star, but my grandma never wore makeup other than lipstick so seeing her with foundation on was different, but I'm very grateful to be able to remember her looking like a movie star. The only thing I regret is I was in cosmetology school during this time & my grandma had been waiting for me to get out of the classroom part to the floor to start taking clients. She was so excited to be my first perm. I never got a chance to give her that perm. Sometimes I regret not offering to do her hair for the funeral. I'm so sorry Grandma. I miss you so much & I hope I get to give you that perm in heaven one day.
I am so sorry for your loss, and I hope your family found peace (as well as justice, 60-75 mph in a residential area?) in the years following her passing.
I m so sorry for your loss
Thank you so much, you guys! ❤️
Awww... 🌹
That was very beautiful im so sorry about your loss
The relief I felt when she said "Caitlin's personal makeup" is in indescribable.
Wait why
@@ReubenWalton people are paranoid
@@ReubenWalton the biggest way for a person to get an infection is through sharing make-up.
@@ReubenWalton because the makeup they use for corpses are too toxic for a living person.
@@theautisticartist9370 I'd more call them paint or dyes than make-up tbh.
When morticians talk to their corpse clients - and the corpse clients _talk back_
Hahaha
There's a few professions where you hope your client never talks back. Vet, butcher, and mortician
Amy aight imma head out
Then the other corpses die again
And the corpse also proceeds to upload a youtube video of them getting prepared for the funeral
When my abuela passed, I think it really helped my mom with grieving to be involved with how my abuela's makeup looked. My abuela also had her hairdresser, who she went to atleast once a week, do her hair for free. We wanted my abuela to be happy with how she would have looked and it helped us focus on her rather than ourselves.
I'm sorry for you loss. That was a beautiful thing for her to be able to do for Abuela! I don't know that I have the strength to do that for someone I love. I hope I'm wrong and that I can follow her example if called on. ♥ Thank you for sharing!
I hope you can do the same thing for your Madre when it's her time eventually. My Mum doesn't wear make-up, ever, so it gets tricky for her.
The FBI agent watching my activity:
“Uh boss, I think we need to keep our eyes on this one”
Not to worry. We're taking a break from our interview/little chat, so I'll vouch for you!
If the FBI or CIA was watching me i would have been arrested by now.
Walrus haha ikr? i'm in a grad school program currently for forensic nursing and you should see the type of horror and nastiness i like to watch on a regular basis. the govt surveillance people are probably thinking "dear god who is this psycho?..perhaps we should bring her in for questioning.."
valla yakunin mmm i dunno about that. i'm a very important person ;-)
@@HillBillyBrown same
I made sure my Mom had lipstick on for her viewing, because even though she never wore makeup she never walked out the door without her lipstick being applied. I personally cut my Daddy's hair for him after he died so that it would be exactly like he always liked me to do it!!! He passed away 23 years ago today in 1998!!!! Pretty darn different that I am watching this young lady's videos on the anniversary death of someone I love, but here I am!!!!!!
"My embalmer is coming back ... there is my embalmer!"
What no mortician would want to be greeted with, coming back from a break 🤪
The urban legend continues ..
When my Dad died, my sisters and I trimmed his beard and braided his beautiful long hair. It was very healing for us to care for him and it was an honor.
I am a lesbian
@@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344 _I thought you were american._
@@crystaleunoia3974 I am an African American
@@crystaleunoia3974 Black vaginas matter!!
@@batheandrelaxinmyshit6344 I was quoting an old vine, I'm sorry if I offended you. 😅
The thumbnail alone was worth it, lol. Awesome 🤣
lol 👍
Luv ur pictur
Ms Doughty, you really take the strange and scary out of death, without removing any of the closeness to the dead or reality of death. Your self-deprecating and impish humour and your openness about the business is immensely helpful when dealing with the road from loss to plot.
Speaking about "it's uncomfortable to lie on the embalming table"... I will always remember how at med school when we had to take part in a few forensic pathology dissections, after our last practical the pathologist said "I hope I'll never see any of you on my table. " It might sound creepy to an outsider, but to many of us it felt like your general "take care, stay safe" wish.
I'm in mortuary school right now and our teachers say the same thing to us. It's such a sweet thing to say and something others might turn their heads if they overheard but we get it :)
I know similar "well-wishes" from the psych ward, where their goodbye goes "I hope we'll never see you again".
I dunno if it'd sound creepy to me if I heard it in the wild without your explanation. It "sounds" like a tradition, something people in a somewhat-strange group of people with similar training/experiences would say, if that makes sense. Sort of a "break a leg" in theatre sort of thing. I think I'd pick up the meaning pretty quick.
I was an ICU nurse for 12 years in a public hospital, one of the charge nurses for 10 of those years. A nursing preceptor I had become good friends with worked there, too, and always told her group as they left on their last day not to be her patient. It made me chuckle a little the first time I heard it since I seemed to have gotten all the morose and sombre preceptors where I went to school. I also wish she had given me the same blessing as I did end up her patient there. Anyway, it is definitely a "take care, stay safe" kinda thing.
"If you wanna see Monica embalm me, this video needs to get 150k likes."
Sitting at 150k
*Big Concern*
At the end she said a hundred and fifty thousand likes.
You guys know what embalming is, right?
@@maevocado1246 Yes, that's why I'm scared.
Sitting at 131K
@@peanut2025 I did after I posted.
Next time, don't be so toxic.
Thank you so much for making these videos. Im a hairstylist and you gave me the courage to do my best friends hair color after she lost her short but horrific battle to colon cancer. I went to the funeral home after she was embalmed, played her favorite music and did my thing. I survived 12 brain surgeries and it was still the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, still I would do it again for anyone that I love. I know it meant the world to my friend and now I understand why you do what you do.
So sorry for your loss. Life is precious.
that is so beautiful i have so much respect
I'm sure your friend would thank you for your kindness if she could. 💜
Morgan, 12 brain surgeries? Oh my lord, I am SO sorry that you have suffered through that HELL and I am so sorry that you lost your dear friend to such a nasty form of cancer. You are beyond brave and the AMAZING strength you have is INCREDIBLY inspirational. I think your friend is very happy that you did that for her as difficult as it was AND thankful for having you as such a WONDERFUL friend in you. I truly hope that you are okay and live a long, happy life as you certainly deserve it! 💕
Morgan Dee wow you’re an awesome person. I’m sure your friend was so happy that you took the time to do this for her, and to play her favorite music! I hope she was there in spirit dancing and singing along❤️
My grandfather had battled stage 4 cancer for over a year and was skin and bones by the time he died. At the funeral I can remember thinking that I was grateful to see him laying there as my last memory of him. He looked almost like his old self and not the shadow of a man cancer had beaten him into. Thank you for everything you do. ❤️
To be honest, I am so happy that you finally made this. Monica is so damn talented.
SHES AMAZING
I agree and she is so caring too.
When I die I would love for her to do my makeup!
"Debbie's head" ! Wow!!! I'm pretty sure that's the ultimate honor on this channel. Congratulations Debbie!!!
I will never forget when my Gran wiped off this god awful bright pink lipstick they put on my aunt after she died. She hated it. She was a goddamn military pilot, not a Barbie doll lol.
perfect example of why the family should be involved and do the deceased's makeup
Yes. Like jeez bro chill with the color
Caitlin experienced this too in her memoir. Her grandmother was embalmed in Hawaii, so she couldn't monitor the process. They gave her bright pink lips and heavy eyeshadow.
Oh and their neighbouring viewing room lost electricity so the people next door started encroaching into theirs then tried to kick them out.
@@liriodendronlasianthus Good lord
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Oh, I loved this video so much!! It reminded me of a chapter from one of my favorite manga series, "The Embalmer", about a goth girl who was obsessed with the idea of dying because she thought being embalmed would allow her to be beautiful forever. She snuck into an open casket viewing, and was disgusted when she saw the deceased wasn't wearing any makeup and just looked "normal". The titular embalmer explained to her that his job wasn't to make corpses "beautiful'- it was to make them look like their loved ones remembered, using makeup to make them look au natural if they didn't wear makeup when they were alive, or even painting on wrinkles and discoloration because "To the family, even the faults are dear".
"lazy eye and mouth slightly open" that's just me on the regular
Punk Rock Poser same
I have a lazy eye on my left lol
LOL!
Me right now with allergies and a migraine! XP
Same tho
I remember when my dad passed away we didn't think about giving directions about hairstyle and the funeral home gel'd his hair back. I just remember thinking, 'oh man he is going hate that'.
I agree about how important makeup artistry is with the deceased. When my Mom died in 2009, the funeral home did such a wonderful job on her I was shocked. She not only didn't look dead, but she looked beautiful and that wasn't a word that I had ever thought to describe her previously. The last time I saw her in full makeup was probably when I was in Jr. High in the mid 70's. But now my last memory of her was seeing her at her viewing and she was beautiful. I am still in awe on the work they did on her. Kudo's to Mulkey Mason in Denton, Texas for an absolute A+++ job.
All that torture to ur mother´s body for you all to satisfy ur selves!!!😡
The funeral home did the same with my mom when she passed away as well.
@@aneesaali780 it's not torture, honey. im sure she would've loved getting dolled up :)
@@aneesaali780 If you think a face of makeup is torture, I don't know what to tell you. And as for "to satisfy yourselves", what do you think funerals are for? You're there to celebrate and remember, and if someone feels comforted seeing her mom looking her best, there's nothing wrong with some makeup.
I live next to denton, will keep that name in mind (:
I sing for funerals. It is so hard to explain to people what an honor and privilege it is... comforting a family at one their most vulnerable and sad times. Funerals are sooo important for healing and closure.
Amen
I asked for the soloist to sing the Lord's Prayer at my grandsons funeral. She did, but it was a whole different melody. ?!?
@@noclue8058 So sorry... I hope you at least took solace in the words. They are beautiful too.
@@cotybare9720
I did. I was just shocked, unaware there was more than one way to sing it. I like the original version better.
@@noclue8058 I will keep that in mind for myself in future. I would hate to pick the wrong version for a family!
Eats breakfast sandwich while watching a corpse makeover. My death positivity has come a long way.
Wow. Congratulations. 👏
You were eating while watching a living person get their makeup done on TH-cam. Big whoop. 🙄
@@Hollypenopepper That's not very nice.
@@Hollypenopepper you're a jerk
Omg! Me too! Heehee! 😄
Hollypeno Pepper And you felt the need to reply with a nasty comment? 🤠👏🏻
It would be amazing if you could do a vid about the intro of universal precautions in the 80's, the reasons behind it and lack of oversight before, and the small town funeral directors who were exposed at the beginning of the AIDS crisis.
Caitlin please do this one!!!!!!
Pretty, pretty please do a vid on this
This IS a good idea!
Don't underestimate our like power
That's the kinda determination I'm talkin about!
Muahahahaha!
*continues to make 100 accounts*
Haha yes 😂
The mutter museum has said some about likes.
My mother died 30 some, years ago. When my older sister told me she did our mom's make up, I was so grossed out, shocked , said, " who does that???? ". But hearing you two describe and demonstrate, makes me feel a lot better about it.
Did you apologize to your sister?
I also want to know if you apologized for what you said to your sister.
You were entitled to feel that way. Don’t let people make you feel bad for having a healthy, visceral, reaction
I lost my mother to a tragic car accident 8 months ago. (1 week before Christmas) Your videos have truly helped me to understand the post mortem part of it and I’m grateful for that. My mother was not embalmed when I saw her body. She was cremated after we had our chance to see her. I’ve had so many questions about what I saw and what happened to her body which is how I found you. These types of videos make me want to do this as a profession. Losing her makes me want to understand everything that happens after we die. Weird, I’m sure. But I’m grateful for you.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you a huge hug. Hope you continue to heal.
Really sorry for your mom, but I think she lived a great life with you because you seem like a really nice person. Hope the best for you!
It’s not weird. When my father passed, I saw him before they embalmed. I had to. He had a heart attack, so there wasn’t trauma. I can only imagine what you went through.
Britney Rene - So very sorry for your loss. I recently found this channel and I’ve found the same interest in learning everything I can. I lost my father to suicide on Christmas Eve. These videos have put me at ease while also answering many questions.
Nothing but the best for you!
I'm sorry for you're loss Britney, my condolences go to you and you're family, I hope you and family are healing well ❤️😊
Jeffree Star - Cancelled
James Charles - Rececitated
Caitlyn - Deceased
Monica Torres - the beauty guru we deserve
Tylon Bordeaux Jawbreaker Palette whomst? I’m here for formaldehyde rejuvenation.
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@@amandamfds Probably misspelled version of resuscitated?
Hotel - trivago
Hi Caitlin. I recently experienced a death in my family. I'm so happy I have been following your channel. Outside of the usual grief, I actually found comfort in my own death positivity. Having your videos as a foundation really helped me through a difficult time. Thank you so much for everything you do.
Austin Fernandez I also just lost a family member and I whole heartedly agree. Also the information about talking about what they want before they pass also helps greatly.
Im sorry for your loss, friend.
My grandmother passed Christmas Day. We had a very strong bond and I’m her only granddaughter. My family asked me to do her makeup and I’m kinda shaken up about it. I’m the only one who knows her routine front to back. I’m here trying to prepare myself so I’m don’t break down from it all.
I hope you're doing ok ❤❤ that must have been tough for you and I hope you're doing alright.
Shame on your family for pressuring you to do something you're not comfortable doing.
@@kurtsalm2155 they didn’t pressure me. They were very hesitant to ask in fact. But shame on you for assuming such a nasty thing.
"You really should get a spa treatment!"
"Over my dead body! ...oh."
Late 80's Caitlyn: 😲🤩
Corpse Caitlyn: 🥺😢😭
Quite literally "late" 80s Caitlin! :-)
@@celticmomhere4430 😬🤣
Death by door knob to the eye?
Thank you so much for sharing this info. My granddad's mouth had a stretched expression that looked like a weird smile, and his skin was orange. We were left thinking this was the work of a dodgy mortician, who had maybe sewn the mouth together funny in an attempt to hide ageing or distress - and had maybe applied foundation in too dark a shade. To realise now that these were more likely natural effects of dying, and more so an absence of rejuvenating techniques rather than a botched job, is really really comforting.
Kaitlin...that '80's photo is a dead ringer for Pat Benatar 😂😂
John I thought she looked more like Stevie Nicks? Linda Ronstat?
@@alphagt62 Yes , I see Linda Ronstadt and Stevie Nicks as a possibility. This is the first time that I have seen her forehead! Gives a whole different take on Kaitlin! Wow!!☺☺
I was thinking the same. My grandmother's mouth was just as you describe your granddad's. I'm grateful to know it was most likely not a lack of respect to her corpse.
People are so scared of death and the dead. Thank you both for brining another light to it as well as involving families in the process.
That pic from the 80s is absolutely gorgeous!
I really think it was a joke, Wade. I'm 40 and Caitlyn is younger than I am. I was 10 in 1989, so you do the math. ;)
SpacePriestess I don’t even know what you’re talking about. I gave her (what I thought) was a very nice compliment. Whether or not the pic was actually from the 80s is completely irrelevant. But hey, I’m always glad to see the self righteous Internet is alive and well.
Wade James Kill em with kindness...
The picture looks like Linda Ronstadt
@@2Sparrows4aFarthing Came here to say that!
when my dad passed away the embalmer did a good job. he looked like his navy picture. the only thing missing was his beautiful smile.
I was grateful when my grandmother passed for the person who did her hair, makeup, and dressed her. She looked peaceful. It was a good memory of her during a very sad time.
Good video, excellent points!
the fact that Monica said she's "taking care of someone" as in a body, sweet
That's one talkative corpse! ❤️❤️
"Be quiet... You are supposed to be dead"
I was hoping for that line to be said.
Aw, I wish Debby's head and Bentham's head could meet irl 💖
stella omg I need a Debbie’s head sticker!!!!!
Bentham’s head
🎶DeBbY’s hEaD🎶
Bentham’s head. LOL
CAITLIN Go to London or where ever benthem's head was from and bring Debbie!!!
Damn Caitlin you must have broke a lot of hearts in the 80's.
She was beautiful then and is beautiful now.
@@bunkyman8097 Lol I'm pretty sure that's a photoshopped image, b/c for her to look that old in the 80s Caitlyn would be in her 50s by now😂.
Still a great photo though.
A really good photo!
Brie B well you never know..I’m 46 and people think I’m in my early 20s.some people are just like that 🤷♀️
In 1989 she was 4-5. She was born in August 1984. It was mentioned in the peat mummy video
Thank you so much for this video. When my mom passed away the mortician made her look so close to her beautiful self. She had struggled with an aggressive cancer and it had significantly discolored her skin, not to mention other issues that were awful. It meant so much to my family to see our mom again looking like herself when we said good bye and laid her to rest. Your work is so healing & appreciated.
This channel is so calming tbh. It makes me feel good that I will be cared for and taken care of so well after I die.
Turquoise Cheetah I think it’s more of a culmination of life. I agree that the unnaturalness of modern funerals isn’t my first choice. But to be cared for after death is a reflection of one’s life. It’s more for the living than the dead, but it’s nice to know someone cares after you’re gone.
Adopted Divide I’d like to think all mortuary staff are this respectful.
Turquoise Cheetah that’s actually partially how I would like to be buried. Here are 2 ways I would like to be buried:
1) be cremated into ashes and have the ashes of me be planted as nutrients for a tree in a dying forest or maybe in a close family member’s yard.
2) be buried in a biodegradable coffin ( like a fancy cardboard box ) and be wrapped in linen, with a headstone so in case someone encounters my dead body for some reason, it wouldn’t be suspected as a murder.
My father asked me to do my Grandmother's makeup. Turns out, the mortician was a perfectionist who only needed the reference photo I kept in my wallet.
God bless you for all that you do for grieving families.
I had blunt cut bangs for the first 17 years of my life and I was finally forced to clip them back for a high school play. My classmates and cast members said it was like discovering another universe seeing my forehead for the first time. Seeing Caitlin’s forehead for the first time...I now understand.
My mom never wore make up, and I remember laughing my ass off when I saw her with pink lipstick, blue eyeshadow and eye liner in the casket, right before the funeral.
I had baby wipes in my bag, and wiped the whole thing off.
People who were gathering at the chapel, thought I’ve lost my mind because I was laughing and crying, while wiping the make up of my moms face.
I kept laughing throughout the funeral because I couldn’t get the images out of my mind. One of the things that made the funeral a little more bearable.
Next episode: GRWM death edition (how I get ready for my viewing)
Omg that's the best!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Lol
I found this fascinating. When I clicked, I never thought it would remind me of anyone. But as I watched, I got a glimpse into just how they made my sister look so amazing. She’d been terminally ill since, well, 2 days old, but she made it to 26yo. And she had survived one of the worst cases of infant jaundice ever recorded, so she was yellow her entire life. Her face was distorted from wearing a heavy, rigid ventilator mask 24/7 for 13 years and she had a large benign tumor in her cheek from the mask as well. But at the funeral she looked stunning. Her face was softened, the jaundice appearance was nearly gone, even the tumor looked half its size. The mortician had even styled her curls to look thicker than they were and she put on a small tiara for our princess. I hadn’t been happy to hear her mom had gone for open casket but she looked amazing and I couldn’t be more grateful. To the pros out there, what you do helps heal the grieving. Thank you.
100k likes? Hold my formaldehyde. ..
Gordon Reiher Hahahahahaha! That was GOOD
*drinks*
And I oop-
Gordon Reiher well done sir
🤣lol
Hahah i love!!! it
If viewing was part of my funeral plan I'd 100% insist my loved ones hire Monica. There is a compassion in her and her love of her work that makes me feel at ease.
"you're a mortician, not a magician"
Smoooooothhh
“I don’t really have to deal with a lot of the social relationships you have to deal with on a daily basis” currently switching careers
seriously considering it
Yeah she was like "better than working with living ppl" there lol
Kid you not, i have been recently been considering this career and then i get this video in my recommend
Right?! 😊
I need to take a 80's glam photo for my family to take to the mortician after I pass just to confuse the crap out of them.
Mortician: but...she was born in 1987?
😂 Still laughing!
"yes, we want her to look like a baby again,. A dazzling 80's baby"
Thank you so much for the videos I went yesterday to do my grandmothers make up and she looked amazing when I got done. It was incredibly healing for me.
Im a makeup artist and my grandma loves getting her makeup done by me, she recently told me while I was doing her makeup that she loved how I hade her look because she feels young and beautiful.
She wants me to do her makeup for her funeral and It was a really tough thing to think about since she's only 65 but it's a reality ill eventually have to come to terms with when she passes away. She suffers from Alzheimer's disease and I don't know which paperwork we need to get done before she's on a more advanced stage of Alzheimer's. I would appreciate some advice to make my grandmother's post death wishes true.
Thank you so much for the content you put out into the world and for educating all of us on such a serious and tabu topic.
best regards,
-Alexander.
She actually recently posted an answer about the kind of paperwork you can file to protect your death wishes. You can find the video here: th-cam.com/video/PVgumSUZQRI/w-d-xo.html
I want you to do my make up too and make me look you and beautiful.
this is so sweet, i approve
@shell company what?
@shell company a guy i believe.
I was patiently waiting for Bentham's head... then we got Debbie's head instead 😂🤣
I unironically love the 'late 80's' portrait.
*same*
Reminds me of Kate Nash for some reason
most of these comments are making me shed a tear, sending a hug to all of you 😔❤️
Sees that the last video got 99k likes so offers to get embalmed at 100k next time?
Girl R.I.P 😂
150k
I love how you can have fun and be a little silly while also being so respectful. It shows the level of passion, respect, and compassion you both have for your professions and the families you work with.
I had the blessing to fulfill my friends final wishes before she passed.
I’m not a cosmological mortician. Just a regular cosmetologist.
Needless to say I was Scared. I was sad ...and scared. After a half hour of jitters, I finally went into the room where she lay. She had already been dressed and a peace came over me.
I prayed for her and myself to be able to get through this, to guide me and do what she would of liked.
Her words, “ I want to look like a beautiful doll! I not felt like doing my hair or makeup for years. So just make me beautiful.”
I curled her hair in a gentle forward style, so that her hair looked fuller.
And because I’d not seen her makeup Ever, I used soft pinks and browns. I also lightly gave eyebrows;which were very sparse.
I would have to say that was the most difficult part. Not making them look “make-uped” , just a natural gray. I then applied a soft pink with just a hint of gloss. So it looked like she had just licked her lips.
I then did her hands. Thinking back, I wish I would have polished her nails a light pink.
I was so calm! And was shockingly aware of it. Even to myself.
It was an honor to do this for her. And her friends, husband and children hugged me with gratitude that she, “ Looked natural and beautiful!”
I’m unsure if I’ll ever do this again. But it’s an experience I will never forget.
Thank you for your videos that helped me immensely.
♥️,
A Dorothy In Kansas
A Freak In Red Mary Janes
Everyone should have a friend like you. Bless you.
You were able to do one last kindness to a great friend. And in doing so you discovered something that we, as a society has lost with the mechanisation and commercialisation of death. Years ago we would have laid out and dressed people at home as part of the mourning process. I think it’s very healthy and important to be able to do this one last service to our family and friends. And yes, regardless of religious beliefs it is a very spiritualised moment you’ll always remember.
❤️
WOW!!!!!!! You both are the MOST loving and thoughtful people In how you carry out your job! When my granddaddy died, my family was DEVASTATED! The funeral home was so kind to us and allowed us to spend time with him alone, individually. It’s people like you who are angels in a dark/sad time! Thank you and God bless you for all that you do!
i was thinking about applying for mortuary cosmetology and this is the video that decided it for me. applying first thing tomorrow 😌
The very best of luck to you! :)
Cassie Byrne good luck!
Awesome!
That's awesome good luck :-)
Good for you! Best of luck!
Everyone gangsta until the body says " a little more to the left sweety "
This made my day. Thank u, From the bottom of my casket.
cocogomez1987 sorry for your (own) loss
It's so cool how much skill goes into makeup, dead or alive.
You have to find colours and tones that match the skin.
I was raised by my Irish ICatholic grandparents and was going to funerals since I was in 2nd grade.
I remember touching the body "so they don't come back and haunt you." And telling the mortician "You did nice work."
Lol, damn I’m 34 and still scared of dead bodies
@@Cognitoman I’ve only seen one body, a family friend who was Irish Catholic and had an open casket viewing. I was 15 and remember thinking “wow, he just looks like he’s sleeping, he doesn’t look dead” which was really weird, like seeing someone sleeping in front of a room celebrating them
Well, that's one thing I've never been told at a funeral 😂. But to each their own. Although that was sweet to tell the mortician they did good work. When one of my grandpas died, my mom made me touch his hand in the casket & it absolutely freaked me out!! I was not prepared for how stiff he'd be, or how weird the makeup & stuff would look. (Granted, I was only about 8, and hadn't experienced death before).
Well, hopefully this'll shut all the "Caitlyn wears a wig" conspiracy theorists up.
That's a thing?!
@@juliahodgskin-rossouw6089 yeah, since she has really nice hair, a lot of people are convinced it must be fake.
It's been confirmed...it's a wig
Like it even matters if her hair is real or not. Gaw people, go find a life and focus on things that matter. *eye roll* (not criticizing those here, just irritated with all the trolls in the world on the internet. XD
@@llamasandanime it's really sad that people will think hair is fake purely because it's healthy. We're so used to looking at hair that's been destroyed by processing that healthy hair seems like a miracle. I used to be a hairdresser, so I can easily spot her roots when they start to grow out, despite the fact that her natural color isn't much lighter than the black. I'd say I want to know what products she uses, but some people just have really shiny hair.
Woo, didn't know jaundice sits on the skin. Cool! Also, it's interesting how most people only get a professional make up job done on them after death.
Always thought the whole thing of viewing the corpse is creepy !
@Ligeia D.Aurevilly Didn't say they were, just the custom of "viewing" the dead body.
A corpse is creepy for someone that has not seen a dead body before.
@@lynchet4532 i went to an open casket funeral only once and I honestly was really uncomfortable with the embalmed body in there with the casket open the whole time and the whole service was just weird and i dont know
I didn't know jaundice sits on the skin either. Very interesting. Always thought it's in the blood
I love both of you! Thank you for your programs. Helping remove societal fright around death is a public service as far as I'm concerned.
I know one advantage of being a cadaver makeup artist... you don't get any complaints from your clients. 😀
But you could get complaints from the family!
@@phoenixdavida8987 True.
I mean, I'd be the type to offer them a mirror even though they're dead😂😂😂 if they move I'm going to end up dying too
@@ryder4709 I can imagine how that goes down. 😀
Mortician: Okay, the makeup is done.
Corpse: (grabs mirror) Let me see.
Mortician: *caveman grunt of surprise and confusion, a la the dad from Home Improvement*
@@BennyLlama39 😂😂😂 that's probably the best reference I've ever read lmaooooo
If I had this job, I think it’d be cool to ask the family what kind of music the person liked to play while I worked
That’s a beautiful gesture. 😊
My sons hands had my focus when he was in his casket. He had beautiful hands and I just wanted to hold them one more time 💔😢💔
I miss so many things special to my Jaie 💕
I am so sorry that you had to go through that
I am so sorry. I cannot imagine your pain.
So sorry for your loss 🥀 I was the same with my grandad, I couldn’t stop looking at his hands but I don’t know why it just had my attention 😟
I'm so sorry for your loss. A mother burying her child isnt the right order of things and I can't imagine your pain.
I held my grandfather's hand as he passed. His big, strong hands that held me through the best and worst parts of my life felt so small and fragile in mine.
Watching the two videos in preparation for doing my sister’s makeup in a few days, thanks for making this light-hearted! It helps a lot. She will have a base on so foundation won’t be needed. She’ll be prepped in a way that lets my mom and I do the rest of the makeup that brings my sister back for the final viewing.
When my sister passed from cancer 3 years ago , when I went into view her before the funeral she looked so beautiful after fighting cancer her face looked wonderful , they even painted her nails .
When Catilin puts out a likes challenge:
Viewers & followers: challenge accepted
🤣🤣🤣
I kept seeing Caitlin moving juuuuuust slightly since she's, you know, not actually dead. All I could think was that if I was Monica it would have been FREAKING ME THE HELL OUT, like, she must be so used to working with perfectly still bodies and now she can see twitching out of the corner of her eye lol.
But to be serious for a moment (mood whiplash ahoy)
It's really heartening to see two people so committed to respecting the family and the deceased. It's been a while since my grandma passed, but I still remember very clearly being made so comfortable by the knowledge that the people looking after her knew her and would take good care of her. She had lived in the same small town all her life, and thefuneral director knew her well. He had also worked with her on my grandpa a few years prior. Her hair was styled by the same lady who had done it for her weekly for years. I think there's a natural human reaction right after someone passes to not want to leave them and let them go to be prepared, at least I felt like that. She was gone but only just, still looked and felt very much like her, and it was almost a "don't take my grandma away" kind of reaction that hit me very strongly, even more so than when we left her in the coffin to be buried. Embalming can seem really scary, even when you know what's involved, because it's one of the first major moments after death when you're entrusting your loved one to someone else. It means the world to be able to think, "okay, I have to let them take her BUT I know that they're going to take good care of her." Major, major props two you two and to anyone else in the funeral industry who understands how much the bereaved still think of the deceased as a person and who respect that, I can't even begin to tell you the difference it makes. Yikes, I'm tearing up writing this, and I haven't cried over my grandma's death in years. But it's kind of a good cry, you know? A relief at remembering that the painful bits were mixed in with love and kindness.
Blessings to you.
The thing that everybody notices about dead bodies is how still they are - no human alive is that still. Military snipers at their best are not as "motionless" as an actual corpse. Even little kids sense it immediately and are disturbed. Humans are not meant to be totally motionless, even while sleeping.
I love you guys. Handing power back to the family and helping them prep their dead is so rare 🖤
When my uncle died of drowning, he didn't by all means smell any different (by that I mean he didn't stink of death. More so he smelled so much like fresh water with a tinge of lavender). No sign of discoloration in his skin whatsoever and his hair was absolutely so fluffy.
He didn't get embalmed because that was not how we prepare a dead body and was just laying in a retractable bed in the living room. I remember passing by that room thinking he was just asleep because he was still as pinkish and still looked a bit alive with a bit of shine glistened on his cheeks.
Her mother self isolated herself in the praying room, at peace and wishing her son's spirit a safe journey to wherever he wished he would head to, though she cried silently for the last time during the second day.
By the third day, my grandfather's brothers had arrived and prepared my uncle for a shower.
After cleaning him from head to toe, trimming his nails and a bit of his hair, they've had wrapped him in a white cotton/silk fabric and placed him once more in the retractable bed. By the fourth day, they've had prepared his burial grounds with his feet supposedly facing the sun. Six feet from the ground, they made a bed at the side with the dirt they've had dugged the grave from and had him facing his left side before shutting that side with the excess fabric wrapped around his body and was secured with a few sticks that were pierced on the soil.
The brothers recited a verse from the holy book and finally had gently thrown back the dirt to seal the grave.
The crowd slowly made their way back to the entrance of the forest cemetary and I asked to be left behind..
I had no idea why I had the sudden urge to cut one of rose branches near his grave and stuck it in the dirt.. After a month I came back to expect a silent empty grave, but was greeted by a rose garden instead.
His grave smelt so much of fresh roses and everything was green, and I bet he'd have loved that.
Two months pass and the only issue I've had within the people in the cemetary was they were disrespectful. They left trash pieces behind and crumpled the specific path of grass that I planted..
With complete rage, I prayed for the rose bushes to grow furiously instead, and it did. It created a barrier that had made people stay away from his grave to leave it in pristine condition.
Your uncle must be a very kind person, how was he when he was alive or what kind things he likes to do?
I'm praying for your uncle to be happy in afterlife
this is such a cool story-- thank you for sharing.
Of course he didn't smell of death after that period of time 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@@SantaFishes101 and it was just that... a story! I hope you didn't seriously believe that a rose garden could grow from a rose put in a grave. Lmao
Lmao. What a "story". Sorry but before you made up that rose garden story you should have used your brain or tried to educate yourself on how roses grow or a whole fucking rose garden. Let me tell you..definatley not gonna happen because of a rose 😂🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
no one:
my recommended videos: mortician does my makeup for the casket
Ikr like wtf is that all about???
@@girlynoob325 she's pretty amusing actually
Ah, this reminds me of back when I first subscribed to her. I got the video recommendation out of the blue.
Are you dissapointed though?
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Our voices have been heard! Thank you, death mother, for listening to our lowly wishes!
OK! All right! You have proof beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are the bravest creator on, TH-cam! I am completely freaked out!
"Needle phobes, avert your eyes"
Caitlin, you're amazing! Thank you so much for that! So many people don't realise that one can be extremely phobic of needles...
I have to do my own injections and I STILL freak out at lab appointments. Very much appreciate the heads up, too!
@@tinamarie2121 I also give myself injections but mine is insulin for Diabetes Type 1. What about you? If you don't mind sharing it with me...of course.
Pinupgirl don’t mind at all! I have rheumatoid arthritis. I’m currently taking Satan’s Saliva (more commonly known as Enbrel, but its like injecting lava, hence my nickname for it!)
Needles nooooo
@@tinamarie2121 wow that sounds pretty painful! My dad has had rheumatoid arthritis since he was 31 years old! Used to be on a lot of prednisone until he found out that he also had gout! He found out that a lot of his pain was actually from the gout and not from the rheumatoid arthritis. So he was able to go down on the prednisone which is good and he always tells others that have rheumatoid arthritis to check to see if they might have gout.
You should do a video on Chernobyl’s dead
This is a topic i didnt know i needed covered! :D
That would be an interesting video! Especially with the penetrating power the isotopes had.
Weren't there like only 2 people who died tho? I know thousands passed within days/weeks/months/years... but from radiation poisoning/cancer. I'd assume she's already done video's on these subjects?
john despard officially like 32.
I would definitely watch
Soo there’s 100k likes....gurl u should have thought that through more
She said 150,000 at the end so she still has some time haha
I did my part! Up over 102k! Love you Caitlin! ❤️
104k now!
Over 110k👍 now!!!
Okay so about that embalming process in full....
loved this video!! im an esthetician & have always wondered about this & embalming. It is so incredibly sweet the dead are given post-mortem facials with such love & care♡ thanks for making this video!!💕