11 Parenting Mistakes That Ruin a Child’s Growth
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 พ.ค. 2024
- All parents have their own - unique - way of bringing up their kids. Many of them work in order to be able to buy new toys for them, others are strict because they want their children to be disciplined and goal-oriented, others give their children a choice and teach them to make decisions on their own. Every family has its own ways of upbringing, but there is one thing that all parents have in common: when they look back, they all want to fix some of the mistakes they made in the past.
The first years of a child’s life are a magical time that you should enjoy. Because in the future, you might regret some lost opportunities. So, take a look at the things that many parents regret in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes.
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TIMESTAMPS:
They scolded their children too often 0:22
They missed out on the most important moments 1:09
They didn’t play enough creative games 1:55
They didn’t take enough photos and videos 2:39
They didn’t take their child’s opinion into account 3:23
They didn’t enjoy communicating with their child 4:18
They didn’t educate them about money 4:57
They didn’t make their child happy enough 5:50
They didn’t hug their children often enough 6:35
They weren’t consistent 7:20
They often followed someone else’s advice 8:13
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SUMMARY:
- Reprimanding a child for something they did wrong is totally normal. But sometimes parents go overboard and it turns into nitpicking.
- Even if you think you have a good reason to miss your child's school play, do your best to be present. Find time to visit grandma, go to the theatre, decorate your house for the holidays.
- Of course, simply playing creative games with your kids won’t necessarily make them great artists or musicians in the future. But, hey, there’s always a chance. Doing this has a lot of other advantages as well.
- Obviously, not taking photos won’t have any bad impact on your kids’ lives. But it’s the best way to capture amazing moments that you don’t want to forget.
- “You’re too young to decide”, “Adults know better” are probably phrases you heard quite often when you were a kid. But this kind of attitude from parents can have a serious impact on a kid’s future.
- Communication between parents and kids is probably the most important thing in upbringing. So if you don’t put aside enough time for it, one day you’ll wake up and realize that your child has grown up already and is living their own life.
- Without education on personal finance and responsible spending, children don’t understand the real worth of money. And when they grow up, they find it hard to manage their own income.
- Good memories from our childhood are a real treasure for most of us. We like to go back in our mind to that time when we were carefree, and quite often every day was filled with doing something for the first time.
- Hugs are not only a perfect way to show affection, but also scientifically proven to be good for our health, because they help protect against stress.
- Kids get confused about what’s allowed and what’s not. Without clear boundaries, they probably won’t behave the way you want them to, and obedience issues become inevitable.
- Never forget that YOU are the parent, so it’s up to you to decide what’s best for your kids. Also, don’t let strangers scold your child for misbehaving.
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Hey there, BrightSiders, how many children would you like to have?
umm...a long way until that happens.
12
5 in a year xD
0 LOL
umm 1 boy and 1 girl👶👩
I was heavily abused as a child, both mentally and physically from most of my family. Now I’m growing up realizing that this is not only affecting me but the way I treat others. So I’m sitting here educating myself, watching video after video so I don’t grow like my family.
There is nothing wrong with re-educating yourself. I hope the person reading this and trying to be the best they can, I hope you succeed.
*hugs* may you heal and find love in the world. Learn to love yourself first, then learn to love others as well.
Same childhood as me.
i was beaten by stick on daily basis by mother and my father left us in childhood😢😢
i hope u feel better and i hope u will be the best mom ever ❤
Same
Another toxic trait of parents are they scold their children in front of strangers or their friends and they have no idea how embarrassing that is for a child. 😭
At least they got parents to scold and embarass you, you should be glad you are not orphans
A person can't grasp what they can't understand. Most of our reality is outside of people's perception. @@IamtheMan1111
"another toxic traits of a parent is when they are more concern on what others might say, rather than listening to their children explanation."
RIGHT! Most of the times when I make a mistake my parents don't care about the mistake i made but rather they are more worried about what other people will say. And then they put out that frustration of what other people will think on me
True, if I did my mum would say that I'm talking back and just get angry at me, so I'm not experienced with serious arguments....
that was me w my mother
Yeah right
Yup that's my mom she cares more about her reputation than me the younger child and said I'm not normal like other kids and cares so much about what other people will think of her when they see me......
When your parents share your embarrassing moments to your relatives and always compare you to your cousins that they think are "better" than you 😣
Exactly that so true they even compare me with my friends in school like why they do that if they really love us they really need to show us the real love and don't compare us with others
🥺🥺🥺🥺as a young mom i won’t compare my kids to anyone but I’ll make them feel that I’m proud of them 🥰in anyway.
That is very really true
True
My mom does this saying"don't think I'm comparing" clearly her blind spot.
My mom made everything magical. Even going to the market seemed like a great adventure. She taught us while we were out. She gave us clipped coupons and had us find the items in the market so we could learn to shop. She always hugged and kissed us. I love my mom and feel very fortunate to have her.
So beautiful. What a great idea with the coupon! Thank you for sharing ❤️
That’s amazing that’s the kind of mom I’m trying to be for my daughter ❤️
You're so lucky, I would always cry to sleep and pretend I have someone to tell my pain to. 😔🥲😭
U r so lucky
i also love my mom, even if I feel the the supermarket is just a boredom station
My dad scolded me big time during my childhood and many yrs later I still haven't forgotten. As a result I am cold towards him, yes he tries to maintain a relation but I am just unable to feel a connection. Please do yourself a favor and let a child be a child and learn things at his or her own pace, show love and attention and great things will happen later on.
Exactly, my dad yells and gets mad at me for the dumbest things. Both my parents make me insecure and confused about myself, so I don't really know how I feel about them. I know I don't like my father at all though for plenty of reasons. He also only got with my mom and had kids in hope of one of us signing his papers 😒 only if he treated me better then yes I probably would in the future. 😬😔
I just GIVE THEM DA SLIENT TREATMENT
Same in my case also
Joana ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ same its bad those
Dad's are the worst to us ever.
I've been scolding my baby boy often but after watching this, I stand corrected. Thanks alot for this information.
U r a great parent... 🙂❤️
BABY!? *sloaaapppppp*
I'm proud of you for watching a video like this and even taking it into consideration 👏🏽
i wish my mom can understand it 💔
@@qaiserraza7866 go talk to her
Too late for me, sadly I learned what NOT to do with my kids from my parents.. so far I think I’m on the right track ! Neglect and lack of interest was horrible but it definitely helped me understand how important a mother’s love and attention is to a growing child
I never got attention, my mom would always be on her phone when I would say Mama, she would say Okay, I wish I wasn't lonely or ignored. At the park I saw a mother and a daughter playing with each other I was like awww I wish that would be me.
You need to learn the positive side too. You can't learn everything from the negative
Careful not to take it too far the other way and be too clingy and emotionally needy from them. Does just as much damage in other ways.
Wow you are absolutely right, I need to take a moment and reflect on that one..
Me too
I hate about my parents is comparing me to someone..
Same story
that is so wrong.
Me too
Same
I think everyone experience it
My favorite childhood memory is the summer of 1988. I was turning 8 and it was just me and my mom. She bought me my favorite record album which was Lisa Lisa & the cult jam!!! She also bought me a stereo. We had the best time ever.. I remember really really starting at my mother and thinking how much I love this woman what would I do with out her. She’s my everything..
nini D 🥰 I think about giving to many material things to my daughter sometimes. I think to myself , she would remember a trip with the family more than she would remember a doll or something that I got her and she just throws down 10 mins after getting it. But after reading your comment I think that some material things can indeed be apart of a memory as well, especially if I show interest in it with my daughter. Thanks for sharing your memory and giving me something to ponder.
Your mom sounds like an amazing mother
My aunt woke us up at night and played wonderful songs from the old radio beckz she got the frequency and we danced loved her for that...same aunt once made unlimited omlettes and served us in leaves i wil always love her for thatty
I miss my old Jutebox
That’s a beautiful memory to have. She sounds like she’s an amazing mother.
You're such a wonderful child😊😊😘 😘
I think it's so important for parents to have support from grandparents, aunt, neighbors or friends etc. in raising kids. When you have to raise a child by your own or just with the husband, the tiredness builds up and after years you start losing patience. When you have a community around you it's different. You can always take 30 minutes for a nap or even have time to take a shower without your toddler knocking at the door constantly...
Facts, it takes a village
Hahahahahaha practise what you preach. Maybe this distopian dream will become a reality.
I developed social anxiety from my mom and dad yelling at me as a child, spanking me in front of guests, placing me in a corner. Ive worked really hard to break my social anxiety I’ve had to break through all the discomfort. I don’t yell at my daughter because of this.
Wow that’s an awesome testimony
Wow
Exactly my problem also
Exactly, first the parents lower your self esteem by constantly yelling at you and criticizing you in front of others, and then they compare you with other kids for not being extroverted and competitive like them.
This video is being watched by more *children and teens* than *parents* . Hahaha.
Very true.... Hope those people future will be bright..
Yea, -_- im 11
Yeah its true
@@inspired9191 Yes I J-Hope.
True and I am 14
I think another thing is patience. I've seen a lot of family members give up when they don't know what to do and just give their children a tablet or phone. Spending time with them and taking time doing things will definitely help raise a hally and fulfilled family.
When i was a child my mother always used to scold me in front of many and until now she still doing it to my niece and nephew which is very wrong and toxic. I said to myself I will never do that to my son.
Get out of the house your mom is toxic
Absolutely right👍🏻
You are an amazing Mother.
People think I'm crazy when I say my kids opinion matters. They are capable of saying what they like an don't care for. I often laugh at people in their face when they say it because they dont have a clue. This video definitely shows how I parent. Thanks to my mom and dad. I love seeing my kids make important decisions.
Those ridiculous people who say kids don't have a clue obviously don't have a clue themself.
In my childhood once the dentist pull up my teeth and I was crying for pain and my father was holding me with his chest and he was also crying for my pain.. thanks to my Allah for the most precious gift He has gifted me.. my mom and dad.. ❤❤
🦷💙 😁
I had a dentist pull my teeth out before, nobody cared :)
Then the dentist was your gift.. 😂😂
@@duck.quack_hi4126 That’s just sad:’)
When I went to the dentist I always held my mother's hand when it hurt I would squeeze it tightly.
This confirms my belief that my parents failed me as a child.
No wonder I'm so stressed and insecure as an adult. 😕
Charissa Henderson I could say that I feel the same way but I can assure that it’s not every mistake on the video and you have to remember that our parents were children too and only reflected the behaviour to us. So it’s up to us how we deal with this and either we let these things define the person and identify of who we are and at the end of the day behind all the egoism a parent can have they will still love their children unconditionally in their own unique way
Same here and It affected me alot.
Mine too 😔
Don't feel bad....life is good...do good in rest of your life with your family and children....make friends.
Same girl.
Another toxic parents is that they want you to control over your happiness and financial just to meet their desires for their own purposes but not yours 🥺🥺.
like manipulating?
@@editzz.of.randomyep
I am happy to take notes from this video as mother of a 5 year old boy. I'm always trying to do my best at raising him to be confident and feel loved.
I'm sure you are a brilliant parent.
@@funforkidsforever Thank you ❤️
It's Saddening that I learned everything from the media at a young age instead of my parents teaching me :,)
Well same
Same
Yooo. Saame. It's sad tho
Same
Same.
I loved sitting on my dad's lap. I asked him a million questions and he tried to answer them all.
Me too! !
LOL
That sounds like an amazing parent :)
Sweet
That’s the kind of dad I want to be but of course as they get older learn how to slowly find out on there own to be excited to find out about things
I remember being a little girl and wanting my dad to hug me. He never would, and On the rare occasions he did when I was much older, he purposefully pounded my back with his fist. It was so unenjoyable, and inauthentic. Never did my father show any respect or affection when I was a child and yes you take it with you into adulthood. My son gets as many hugs as he wants, and most of the time I need them more ❤️
In my memory, my mom picked me up and hugged me once , only once, when I was 8 years old, after we hadn’t seen each other for 2 weeks. She let go after 5 seconds, I wish it was longer! I still remember that hug so well, feel like yesterday. Now I hug and kiss my daughter everyday! She is also 8.
When i was a kid my father was working very far and coming home every saturday bringing us chocolates and fruits that always made us happy and excited. But it stopped when he left us with another woman and left us very sad and broken. Now i just have a baby and i wanna make sure to give him all the love and care i didnt feel before 😀
When my dad came home in the weekend I would have to retreat to my room. He lived abroad all week and was only home during weekends. It was bliss midweek with just my mom, but when he came home I knew the fun would end , that I would be scolded for simply being in the kitchen, that he wouldn't want us downstairs basically period.
My grandpa made a "deal" with me and made Tuesday McDonald's night. It gave me something to look forward to and my health appreciates the limit he set for me.
50th liker
Youre grandpa sounds like a really nice person
*Was rarely hugged.... now I hug my kids all the time....I need it more than them*
32ways me too. Plus, I’ve always known the day will come where they won’t want hugs so got to get them in now!!
It just reminds me of how much I missed to feel my mother’s love and acceptance while I was growing up but at least, according to this video, I’m doing a much better job with my child now!
Bonus * having kids before you’re physically/mentally ready. Honestly, my main issue growing up was communication. When I was younger they were to busy to hear about my day but, now that I’m older they beg me to know about my life. This video explains why grandparents are obsessed with their grandkids, they want a “2nd chance”.
I am blessed to have wonderful parents and I always safe and secure with them. I'm in my 40's and I still ask for their advice. I haven't seen them in last 6 years as they live in another country, but there is hardly any day when we don't talk to each other. Definitely all the parents can not be perfect and I also had my share, but they gave me the best whatever they could. I wish them a long life and good health. Love you mom and dad.
They taught me to become a good parent. My son is 21. We both argue, fight, hug and love each others a lot. My son listens to me and I listen to him. I advise him on many things but not try to force until I feel that is required, because sometimes we have to learn from the past experiences and no parents want their children to get hurt. I wish all parents get loved by their children and children get loved by their parents.🙂
Thanks for this video. I'm a young mum of two kids, 6&4 so I'm glad to see this video and all these comments, so I can correct my mistakes and create fun memories with my kids.
Thanks a lot! This will help me raise my only child better. I'm a single working mom and it's really hard for me to take care of my child as I wanted to. Many of these lists do really happening to me and to my child. As I am watching the entire video, it made me realize how I am lacking as her mother and feeling bad that it might happen to my child in the future if I keep doing those things, I'll regret it much! 😭😭😭 Thanks for really brightening me up!! 😊😊😊
Hope you're doing better. Your daughter is lucky to have a Mom that is willing to learn and grow to take better care of her!💕
Unfortunately, I don't have a favorite childhood moment. I missed out on a whole lot of things😔
I'm really sorry:(
@@AbdulMajeed-dd8sm thank you😊
@@heixudbjesygzghshejsjzgsvs3099 poor us😢
You are not alone with this wish you the best
@@abdulfatahyusuf7906 thank you😊😇
The part on hugging hit me hard! I can't imagine my kid won't hug me in the future!
Don’t worry, if they hug us when they are young, they will always come for a hug.
It's actually saddening that i can't remember the best time with my parents, it's actually like your own parents left you, making you depressed
My parents always made me feel that I was incapable of taking any decision and made all decisions on my behalf. As an adult I now feel that if I had been more assertive and made my own decisions using my own thinking power my life would have been different and taken a better shape. But at that age I didn't have the courage or confidence to defy my parents' decisions and/or wishes
Same same, 100% relate.
every parents should watch it
Are you a parent?
Yep
I agree my mother is like that and my father is working abroad my mother is busy in her work and they have no time for me
@@DKNex no i am just turn 24
Health Care glad u liked it! What’s the most useful tip?
My favorite growing up memory is when my dad hugged me when I was teenage.
It was the first hug I remember for long time.
sakin heart x
My dad never hugged me :-(
@@dikshasharma4716 💔
I’m so blessed to find out my parents raised me just the right way
you’re lucky
Your really lucky. I'm seeing how it can affect you as an adult and doing better for my kids
@@xoli.8780 I know you will do amazing as a parent to be and your children will be grateful for you ❤️
@@kay-wj3jx being a parent is a hard job, especially being a parent for your first child when you have absolute zero experience, but i know you’ll be an awesome parent in the future ❤️
*Being this lucky should be illegal*
this is so true, I've been insecure my whole childhood because of wrong parenting,... even thought me to lie.
#1- they scolded their children too often
#2- they missed out on the most important moment in their lives
#3- they didn’t play enough creative games with them
#4- they didn’t take enough photos and videos
#5- they didn’t take their child’s opinion into account
#6- they didn’t enjoy communicating with their child. Communication with their children is the most important part of an upbringing
#7- they didn’t educate them about money
#8- they didn’t make their child happy enough.
#9- they didn’t hug their children often enough
#10- they weren’t consistent. Be consistent with them throughout their childhood
thanks. saved me 10 minutes
#5 into account?😊
You forgot #11
Gina Lee mine too & I’m sorry to hear that.. but this presents a great opportunity for you to not repeat it with your kids or niece or nephews 🤗
vrinjan thank you time saver! God bless you
I remember when a scammer called my parents saying your Bank Account is to be closed if you don't give us your Bank account details. I told them it's just a scam and my parents told me: "You will not know about it. If my accounts get locked will you be able to handle it, no right??" And when I went out thinking that nothing bad will happen my parents will handle it and came back all the saved money was taken by the scammers.
Moral: try to take opinions from your kid sometimes. They might know some thing or two.
How old were you that time?
Grew up with my mother a single parent and although she messed up a lot and we no longer talk. She always gave me a roof over my head and always gave me a hug. Sadly those things alone don't amount to much. She sadly never made me her friend instead just having me around was enough. At 30 I tried to rekindle the bond only to find out she is jealous of how I live now married with my wife, child have my own house and living in a new estate. Instead of being proud she just resorted to her condescending nature and changed the topics and focused on small talk as that's all she knew. I know my mother is the product of her life messing her up so I dont blame her, but I will certainly not expose myself to her toxic ways. Burning bridges is sometimes best however sad it may be.
I m a mother of 4 year old son bt still my mother's lap is my favourite place to relax.
I dont remember any good moments from my childhood. There were no hugs, no love and no talking, the only conversation was comparing me to my cousin or to ppl that were better than me or yelling. I was 24/7 under some kind of punishment. Rest of the time I was alone. Now I'm 20 and I'm dealing with so many mental disorders, ilnesses and phobias that I cant even count. I started my theraphy 2 years ago and I dont think I'll be done with it for another 30years at least. This video was hard to watch for me. But I hope some ppl may take a lot from it and be better parents. Childhood is the most important part of our lives, it impacts our future a lot.
Stay strong buddy! Im here for you
That is abuse and your parents should be in jail.
Also try meditation that targets the unpleasant memories in your subconscious mind and the one that helped me A LOT thus recommending it to you is called the the ho'oponopono method ..search it on youtube many people who have tried EVERYTHING and for MANY YEARS said this was about the only thing that actually helped. Enjoy :)
Thnx a lot.
Same with me bro.
I was never ready to be a dad but took to it well so glad I'm doing all these things love spending time with my son best thing in the world.
My favorite memories: Christmas eve, family beach vacations, playing in the woods surrounding our home. Dad building a huge snowman slide. Visiting aunts uncles and cousins. Sleeping outside in the summer. 4th of July blowouts!
this made me cry and changing my life slowly now. i want everyone to share this video itll make the world a better place.
🌹🌹🌹
All true. God help me to raise my kids well. I want them to look back when they're grown and bless me
Nah I think you just did it
Kendall Derequesens what he/she meant is that his/her family was raised with God’s teachings.
Some of it may be true but not all of it just because you do or don't do some of the things on this video does not mean that you are a bad parent or Messing your kids up if you are a parent you should know by now that no two children respond and learn the same
Kemi Lawal AMEN!!!🙏🏽❤️
Yes me too Lord help me to raise my kids well...
Omg, such great points. I especially agree with the one about the hugs, you can never give your kiddo too much love ❤️
I recall my earliest childhood memories consisted of both my parents going to work while my maternal grandmother was the babysitter all day. It often made me feel left out because my classmates always had their mom or dad take them to school and pick them up while my grandmother was the only one available. There were also moments where my grandma ended up bringing along my cousins to my house because my aunts and uncles couldn't get a babysitter on their own time and asked her last minute to watch them. It was one thing for my parents to not be home due to work, but it was so annoying how those moments made my house feel like a play area because my grandmother pretty much allowed them to do whatever they wanted just so she could keep up with housework. My parents always paid her to do so but never my aunts and uncles.
I experienced a number of these parenting mistakes and I made a promise to myself that I would listen to my children when they are hurting and that I will give them time. I do not want them to have the same childhood I had. I really want the best for those future kids
4:33
*Bye, dad. Thanks for nothing*
So relatable.
Just Some Guy without a Mustache i hate my dad
Centipede is a Maniac yes! Same
I see u watch all kind of things as well
Big same
Hey!!! Jellal nice to meet you here...
11 PARENTING MISTAKES THAT RUIN A CHILD'S GROWTH:
Having kids for the sake of having kids.
So very true!!!!
Yeah that’s true ..... at least as a Latina , latinos believe that having more than 2 kids is better for the kids and makes them feel comfortable but at the end all the struggle comes to the older son or daughter or the parents
Yep!
YES
Yes. Or having kids to save a marriage. Bad idea
This is perfect! This is a short to the point reminder. Thank you!
I agree with not scolding another person's child but when the parent refuses to discipline their own child, It's time to scold the parent instead.
My parents never teach me how to say "sorry" and "thanks". I rarely heard them saying those words.
As an Asian, i never got hugs growing up from my family. But I'm still a good man. 😆
This is exactly what a bad person would say 🤣
Ahahahaha I am Asian and I get hugs daily.
Ya, me too... No affection whatsoever, at all.. No praises, no nothing.. Just work, obey, etc
Don‘T said that, those western/american mindset people will be angry at you.
Only "They" know how to bring up your children.
@@vicsy426 hahaha agree
I always wait for your videos as they are so informative and effective. Thank you for always sharing the correct information. Keep posting.
So true.... One way or the other, some of us have experienced such . parents should learn to be supportive, attentive and always take your child's opinion seriously
I agree with this. My favorite 2 was, taking more pictures and albums and not allowing strangers or other people to scold your children. Even as a teacher, I ask students what would your parents say or think before going off the deep end.
Shariffa Martinez you are a nice teacher. Most teachers ruin the lives of the kids and they are the real reasons why parents scold kids so much!
I wish these kinds of videos were available when I was younger,
I feel like the relationship between my mom and I is tarnished , she's kinda harsh . Even my kids notice
@Teela Tequila
Yes
Protect your kids from foreign or domestic threats
@Teela Tequila dont let your mom be harsh to your kids.. domestic threats. Get it now
@Teela Tequila well im a parent of five kids. 4 girls and 1 boy. The girls are 21yr - 18yr - 6yr and 7months. My son is 4. I know that some family members overstep their boundaries.. so grandparents uncles whoever will get checked when it comes to mine. So i was just adding my 2cents to you. Harsh is a strong description so i went from there.
8:45 it touched me... I got tears.. bcoz they very rarely stood for me. Instead, if possible they'll throw the blame on me..saying it's ok coz I'm young as if I don't get hurt.
My parents didn't give me their undivided attention but i guess i'm fine with it...
Teaches me how to be independent and living without them
I grow up not needing them
They don't appreciate my talents and hardwork but i'm okay with that, because of their ignorance i learned how to live without love, i learned how to not get hurt when rejected, i learned how to get through the pain. I'm done crying, that was eight years ago, i've grown numb now so i don't care.
But i will promise this to myself
I'll make sure that i'll do the things they never make me feel in my childhood days to their future grand kids, i'll make sure they grow with love and happiness into their adulthood, i'll make sure they'll never turn out like me... A failure of a human being. I'll teach them things i learned and support them to the fullest, because what a child need is only their parents' love and affection.
I feel the same way
Exactly me
Same
I understand if my mom can't attend any important matters like educational events. I used to be an awardee student but my mom is working outside the Country for me. I love her and respected her so much.
Yeah I know it is fine for me.
They did all the 11 mistakes to me.
Am still wondering why 😭
It’s really sad and sometimes I get depressed about it.
Now am a mother of 2 ,I love 💕 them more than anything.
No two children respond and learn the same you should know that by now also when you see your grown children and they have a family of Their Own independent reliable functioning human being Society can count on and they call text and visit every chance they get that is how you know you didn't ruin your kids.
Well go to their house and talk about your feeling
Austin Cooper 😂😂am on my way!!!
@@austincooper1958 It's too late now. They didn't listen to you at that time. Why should they listen and understand you now? If they could, the would have already changed their attitude towards you upbringing
Thanks for this very correct video I fully agree with all statements and advice, but when my son was a child, I didn’t know about some of them unfortunately.
I think that permanent communication between parents and kids is the most important thing in upbringing, so all parents have to find enough time for it.
And I want to add my own advice: don’t not require your child to meet all your expectations and don’t compare her or him with other children. Each child has own characteristics!
My favorite childhood memory was living in Annandale VA around the year 2004 and playing with my siblings and friends!!! My school and neighborhood was awesome and everyone was always happy. It was a great time to be alive for sure.
My favorite childhood memory? LEAVING "HOME". and, yes, my parents broke all of these suggestions and more. I chose at an early age to be opposite of my mother - now I have great relationships with my children and their spouses and my grandchild. Happy Ending!!!
Pezled , u did great, planning to do that soon
Same i want to leave home for college and live that country, I'm not coming back until they are on their grave beds, besides it's easier for them how everything can affect their children and teens, you can't expect your children to be that "someone" when you just don't know how to emotionally nurture and grow with them. If that's how my family was, I'm not gonna take that back just for my family needs. I'm 15 and I can't wait to graduate soon for college in Japan. Guess i had to study enough for my Waseda University.
I already want to leave
This is sad. I don’t remember any good childhood memories.
Mine are limited too😩 So, I make up for it with my children
My best memories r when I would have the house to my self for a month at a time.
Thank you for this awesome video!! Definitely did a lot of reflection on my parenting skills!
Thank you so much.....am glad I found this so early on in my child’s life....
My mom does half of these.
But still I love her😘
Great to see you are better than 99% of commenters here, who just blame their parents, and demand everything, without trying to understand their parents are humans.
The first one is so true I remember when I was in the 5th grade and my mom worked really hard I wanted her to come home to a Clean apartment so I cleaned everything and me being young i cleaned a picture of her and my lil brother and the picture starting running with ink and I didn’t understand why the picture was doing that. She got home and I got a horrible whooping for messing up the picture on accident and all I was trying do was make her happy
awww I'm sorry same happens to me
Ok that made me cry
So sorry.
I feel you
Awe! That's sad!
I love going home for vacation when i was in university, I didn’t realize how I comfortable I felt at home till I left home. So much easier to converse with my mom than other people, except a few friends I have….
Such a inspiring video.Thank you !
I wish my parents see this and I want them to redo everything .. the things they say about bad parenting is all true.. I'm one such kid cos my childhood was very worse than anything.
I'm sorry 😞 for you
Cheer up
What happend...?
My Childhood isn't entirely bad, because I had cousins and friends that helped me forget I had a really messy family.
Same
I teach parenting classes and was skeptical when I saw this title. It was actually good! Thanks for putting this out. 😁
Who teaches you to teach?
Are you on youtub
Colleen A so, you are the only one who knows how...
john0805 I am trained and certified. Anyone can be a good parent.
Thanks for the wonderful information 🙏
Thank you for that knowledge!
Thanks alot for these information. My son is just 15mths old. I vl surely take note of all these....
How about limit screen time/electronics and actually spend quality time! Don’t yell stay calm and before you know it your child will be an adult! Love, nurture, guide, teach, and be a positive roll model!💗
Thanks those words are encouraging for me. I have three kids, am a single mom and in school. Sometimes just putting those things in front of them seems easy but I guess not bc they are not gaining that educational time with me.
Lynnesa Ricks or just don’t give kids electronics! That’s a great idea!
@@Gumball-em6xm I hope your joking. You cannot cut off your kid from the world only bc in ur times it was better without it.
Marek. Kostanty uh I was born in the 2000’s so I had electronics lol. And I’m talking about kids. 0-12. Maybe 10 and up you can have iPads to play on. But little kids don’t need electronics. They have toys and TV. Then when they have electronics have limits on them. My little cousins had iPads from they were 1 years old, and my aunt complains about how they don’t play with their toys and hangs out with family... maybe you shouldn’t give little kids electronics in the first place!
Yeah, I felt that way when I had a small accident and was brought to the hospital.
My mum asked me "And what should I do with that information, I'm at work". I could have really needed her.
Luckily my aunt had time to come, I was quite thankful to her ... =)
Wow. Just fantastic tips. Thx so much
Some parents do not discipline their children and eventually the child will be scolded by someone other than a parent.
Parenting today has gone to the wayside.
Agreed
True
I know too many kids that need scolding because parents are idiots.
@@mydear6788 hahahaha true!!
The older I get, the more hugs I want... 😂
XD
I know because when I was 5 I hated being hugged but now I’m 10 and I love being hugged.
the older i get the less hugs i want.
When I was younger too, I don’t want hugs. Now, I want to get hugs every second( yes, I know it’s weird but it’s true.)
The older I get the more hugs I want, the less people will hug me 😭 so now I don't want
After watching this, I sure know am doing great as a PARENT!
Thanks for sharing...♥️👏🏾
Thank you so much! This is the best side for all parents :)
I have 2 son's a 4 yr old and a 10 month old, I work a lot so when I come home I'm really tired from being out in the heat but thanks up this video I think I'm going to try harder and spend time with my oldest son
Keep it up
Road trips with family. Most important reason of our strong bond. Blessed.
My sons are 17 and 21 and still love hugs from Mum!
I'm realizing now as an adult with my own child, that my parents did all these things to us, and still do. It makes more sense as to why I am the way I am... it's actually quite scary. I want so much more for my baby, and I'm going to try my best every day
I don't get it... Whenever I accidentally broke one of my moms glasses I used to faint like 7 times out if fear before she came home😂😂😂
😆
😅😅
Wow you must have been a bad kid then
Sad and funny, but more sad, cuz i experienced it and i understand you😫
😄
My parents never scolded me as they scolded my elder brother a lot and felt they did wrong to him. So I was raised with explaining the things not scolding
My mom still says "I control everything about you, your body, your behaviors, everything. " I find that annoying. I'm 15 and she's been eating this for like 3-4 years now every argument.
I think the biggest thing that helped my relationship with my kids is fixing all the damage my parents did to me.
My parents do all of that sometimes i feel they aren’t my parents anymore…🥺 sometimes i feel they’re just stranger in the house
Mine do the same and don't trust me to do anything. My mom has the password to everything. Snapchat, Instagram, my phone, email, etc.
@@stellabella0984 I'm sorry to hear that... hope you'll find the strength to tell her how you feel one day!
@@gnewsburst Thanks! It's hard when I'm still only 15 though :(
That’s so sad
@@stellabella0984 At your age....she needs to have that this information. You may think your grown up but you are not. If you want to throw out how grown you are then don't use words. Use actions. Get a job and your own way to work. Save up money to get your OWN place and pay all your own bills. Then change ALL the passwords and codes.
I guess I don't have any good childhood memories, all I remember is dad scolding, dad arguing, dad not listening to me, dad being a dictator, dad not loving enough.
Thank you dad for nothing
😔
John smith no one blames you
My mom abused me psychologically. I didn't talk to her for over 5 years after I moved out. Then I heard she was dying of cancer.
Sending you am hug...
@John Smithy Forgive and take control of this area of your life. Call him tell him how you feel calmly... before someone dies. He will not be the person that you may want .He may listen or He may not. But do call and forgive. This way you take control. This is for you...to have peace.
What ever he did or did not do or what he said.or whatever it was. Just forgive.. replace pain with peace and strength and let it go !
Pastor Joyce Mayer forgave her father for the unthinkable. You can do it! Be the better person...before someone dies..
Thank you for this very helpful info, so that we don't repeat this mistakes to our children.
Thanks for your teaching