In 1992 I was a huge, rabid, R.E.M. fan after the huge success they had with "Out of Time" as an album and "Losing My Religion" as a single. I was 14 years old. In April of that year my 17 year old brother died in a car accident. In October R.E.M. released "Automatic For the People". I bought it the day it was released, discovered this song and cried my eyes out for a week. It was literally a 'Your music saved me' moment.
I read a nonfiction book about people that jump from the Golden Gate Bridge. One of the jumpers left a note that said 'I'm gonna walk all the way there. If just one person smile at me on the way, I won't do it'. They fished that person's body from the bay three days later.
Going through too much....the word in it "why?" . I don't understand WHY someone doesn't care, I thought did and I sure do ccry, thank you:) Need a hug!@@carolynquinn8325
When the first "Hold on" hits along with the string section, I always get chills. If I'm not already crying, that's usually when it starts. It's a song about sadness. It's also about hope because you are not alone. I always thought everyone getting out of their cars at the end is them finding another way. We can sit here stuck in sadness or, we can get up and move forward. A traffic jam is a great metaphor for things that hold us down. This song helps me deal with sadness sometimes. It's dark, touching and beautiful. That ending is so uplifting and triumphant. Gets me every time.
For you, my best friend Meredith. Died April 1997 aged just 34 from non Hodgkins Lymphoma leaving 2 little girls. She chose this for her funeral as soon as she knew she was terminal. I miss you every day still my darling friend.
I feel for you my friend. I was diagnosed with hodgkin's lymphoma in 1979. It reoccured years later. They found it when I was pregnant with my son. I played to God to let me live to see him grow up. He is turning 43 this year and I am still here. I wish that would have happened for your friend. Love and prayers to you and her family ❤❤❤
@@SueHolmgren-rp7jj I am so glad that you are still here. Meredith is a grandma now, and those children are growing up without their hysterically funny, sassy and beautiful grandmother. The two little girls are just like her too, sassy themselves. Oh I miss her.
@@billmatthews5877 thank you so much. She was a best friend to me, loyal, creative, talented, loving, no bullshit and hysterically funny. Left such a huge hole in so many lives when she died. My whole family adored her and she them. My grandparents were devastated when she died, and my grandma said she would have taken Merri’s place, as grandma had had her life and a Merri hadn’t. I appreciate your kindness very much.
According to REM this beautiful song was written in an attempt to reach teenagers contemplating suicide. I thing it’s fair to say it impacted the population at large that heard it. I don’t know anyone that has heard this song that is not affected by it. ❤️
@@marniethedyslexic6445- This makes 3 of us. I feel this song saved my life in a way too when I was in an abusive relationship as a freshman in HS. I could hear Stipe singing "Hold On..." and somehow I did; thankfully I found my way out of it & I credit the song giving ne the courage I needed to get out of it.
That's the singer, Michael Stipe, driving. I was watching an unknown group at a small club at SWSW years ago, and he just walks in and stands next to me, watching the same performance. I was stunned to be so close to such a great talent.
Went to college in SC from 1988-92 and spent many trips to Athens, GA (REM's original hometown) to see bands play, especially at The 40 Watt, as it was only an hour away and had great music. Pretty much would see most of the band at every show. Had been listening to them since early high school, so of course fun to look up to see one member or another standing near. Good memories 😊 This song just helped me now, 32 years later. you don't know what someone is going through.
Your reaction of sitting back & taking a deep breath was the reaction of all of us when we first heard this song. Michael Stipe (the lead singer) is truly a beautiful soul. I'm a Gen Xer who grew up near where R.E.M. got their start & was privileged to see this incredibly talented band long before they "became mainstream".
When i came back from iraq, i found my wife was cheating on me, i couldn't adapt to civilian life, i had no one to talk to. That was when this song came out. Needless to say i was at that point of joining the 22 a day. This song actually helped me, i still cry when i hear it. 100%truth. A simple hello, a simple smile goes a long way. You never know what someone is going through. Now, at 53, i have a great daughter ( sophomore at Penn St), I'm with a woman i truly love, I'm an instructor ( electrician- giving the youth a future) and life is ok ( I'll never say good-a lot of ghost in the head). But thanks, i haven't heard this song in years.
Not surprised you got this song & had such a good reaction. You know, I’m a full time carer to my dad, who has dementia, it’s hard & it gets lonely. I went to the supermarket the other week & the young woman on the checkout started chatting, showing an interest & even gave me a compliment. That didn’t just make my day, it made my week! A few kind words go a very long way
Prayers for you and your father. I know how difficult it is to have to take care of a parent. Been taking care of both of mine almost by myself for 8 months now. Was running myself ragged, had to finally start taking every other day off, it was starting to effect my own health. Reach out to someone. I believe there are support groups for caregivers out there. Just remember, you are important, too.
This song saved so many people...its one you can play over and over if you're in a dark place and gives you reason/hope to hold on...the last scene symbolized how much more noticeable it would be if lots of people disappeared at the same time compared to one here and there..
I'm in that dark place right now with my 3 dogs. My 14 year old cat Latika took her last breaths in my bedroom 4 days ago. I've never felt more broken or lost. The absence is so loud. She was with me through so much and held on for me until I was cancer free, happy and in my dream university. She held on for me and I'm so grateful. This song is getting me through ❤🐾💔
@@queenie.lawyergirl.pittymom I know the feeling all too well :/ our pets are like family to us and there is nothing like the pain of losing such a source of unconditional love and companionship...you are not alone I promise. Latika got to see you through all that so you know she's proud of you. My profile pic is of my cat Ezra...he passed away in 2017 after being with me through a lot. He is still my profile pic and lock screen on my phone, that is how much he meant to me.
You are so right a hello can't change a life!! I worked at a grocery store and we had a lot of older people that shopped there. One lady, who had a stroke, and people avoided her cause she had some problems. I hugged this lady and talked to her when she came in. Her family didn't live close and she told me my hug was the only human contact she had. Of course we became friends!! Thus lady had lived the most fascinating life and she shared some of it with me. She had served in the Air Force during WWII and has seen stuff I couldn't imagine. Never just look at someone and assume things. Thank God her son retired from the military and he brought her to Hawaii to live with him and his family!! I met so many awesome people from smiling and saying "Hello". I have never ever met a stranger!!!😊😊
I believe this song saved my life when I was in my early 30s. I’ve struggled with depression since I was 24 years old after my first daughter was born. I have two daughters .They are the best thing I ever did in my opinion. they weren’t the cause of my depression. Postpartum depression just seems to set it off. I realize now that my mom always had depression that she let go untreated, and in those days it was looked down upon to have depression. People would say get over it get up pull your boots up and get over it. like you were just a little bit sad🤷🏻♀️ They didn’t seem to get it. I heard this song during one of my worst bouts of depression, and hearing that I wasn’t alone meant all the world to me. Thank you so much Jamal for reacting to this song. this song saves lives. I’m so glad that I’m not alone, and some people understand how I feel. it means the world to me.❤️✌️🌼
This song should be hitting the airwaves a lot right now, IMHO. We are probably in for a whole lot of hurt and shock and grief...it's coming. Be ready to comfort those who will be having a very hard time.
REM is one of my favorite bands I love pretty much all there songs I’ve listened to them since the 80s. Rapid eye movement. REM picked it out of the dictionary. This song gets me out of my depression that I have but unfortunately doesn’t cure it. It’s sad that REM disbanded.
@Spo-Dee-O-Dee That's true, unfortunately. The last album that was any good, was New Adventures in Hi-fi. I bought the album after that one as well, and I can't even remember the album title.
REM DESERVE TO BE EVEN MORE FAMOUS ... ... than they already are, just for this song alone. Deep, meaningful message that we should always remember when looking at others or ourselves.
That ending was spot on perfection . Those lyrics till the strings hit ..you can almost feel your heart beat go a little faster . Brilliant ...genuis and a song that's saved hundreds if not thousands.
REM is one of the great bands and so underappreciated. Pete Townsend (The Who) said in the '80s: "They are one of the few bands that does what they want (vs. the record company) and remain unique and independent." (to paraphrase from memory)
That song came out at a pretty dark period in my life; I had just divorced, and although I never really contemplated suicide, I recognized the pain and also the hopefulness of this song. Like all great songs, it comes from a place of truth and speaks to the hearts of the people who need it. Amazing...
You're right about a simple "Hello' having a positive effect of someone's life. And that simple hello affects not only the listener but the speaker. A warm smile helps too.
Brilliant song and brilliant reaction. Thank you. I could stay, I could remain calm. Till I saw "She's gone." In those few words I had a moment to see that man's life, his partner, his best friend. Gone now, before him, without him. And the idea of such a profound loss. Brought to mind my maternal grandmother, who lost two children to crib death and her husband to tuberculosis before I was even born. Her resilience humbled me, and I still can't get past that bit without crying.
I've listened to this song for 32 years and it always resonated with me; but watching it again here, the scene you described made the tears well up -- because I am that man now. Lost my wife three years ago after 42 years of marriage; a person Jamel described, one of those people I stay close to because they invested in me, and I in them. I have my kids and grandkids to turn to in these types of moments, but anyone who knows the love I'm describing knows it can't fill the entire void. So seeing this scene in the video, especially the flowers on the back seat, brought the grief back. Someone described the video as "dark;" I don't necessarily see it that way. There's obvious despair and loneliness and emptiness on display here but the words to the song remind us that even though we might be going through these painful experiences we're not alone in our despair, and not to give up, it gets better. In my case, it has gotten "better," but I'm starting from a very VERY low place after losing my precious Mindy, so I've got a long way to go yet. This tune will help get me there I think.
Such wise words, Jamel. And I'm sure singer Michael Stipe saved lives with this song, when singing 'Hold On'! Because he did with mine! I´m a 58 year old man with a lovely wife and two great sons (but not always lovely and not always great, nor am I!), but before april of last year - due to many reasons - I suffered from "feeling bad" during three-four years, with in the last one only black, negative thoughts - even though before those last years I had nearly always been happy and optimistic. At a certain moment only watching this clip - and that of Nightbirde (Jane Marcewski) at AGT - helped me to survive. And listening to music, my favourites from all kind of genres. But it wasn´t untill I finally searched for and found professional help (psychologist) that things got better, slowly. Talking, crying, letting all my emotions out, often I surprised myself during those sessions. Untill one day, in april last year: all the pain, anger, grief, blackness... had disappeared. For years I had thought I´d never get better anymore, but now I can scream it out: it´s so INCREDIBLY WONDERFUL to just feel good (again), I´m so glad. And even though I realise bad things will always happen (next to the good ones), I now think I will be able to face them. And, Jamel, don´t ever underestimate what people like you, with always those positive messages and attitude, mean for (sensitive) people like me!!! Thank you very much. Greetings from Belgium
First heard this song when released back in 1992, I was 37... It moved me then and now I'm watching this now in December 2024 with tears in my eyes. Not because of any problems my family or I have had, thankfully, but for all those out there that are going through life in a stressful and trauma filled life.
I rarely comment on these music channels, but you seem like a lovely caring and genuine person and I love your reactions. Much respect from an English lady ❤
True legends. I'm so happy to see them live at the concert. My favorite song - "Drive" is on that album Automatic for the People (1992), which also includes this song from reaction.
Dude, I can't tell you how much your videos mean to me. I am so sorry that you had such a a rough upbringing. But I am so glad to you came out the person that you are. I want you to know that I love you so much. You are an inspiration.
R.E.M. is my favorite band. They got their name by opening up the dictionary and picked it out!!! The lead singer, Michael Stipe, said he wrote this song targeting teenagers because they have such a high suicide rate. And you are right, Jamel, saying "hi" to someone can make a difference in their lives. R.E.M. has 15 studio albums, but they sound best live!
I’ve been known to randomly complement strangers. Always brings a smile,most times with surprise. My compliments are genuine and spontaneous and I will never hesitate to bring a smile if I can.
This song has helped me a lot. Whenever i'm feeling overwhelmed by life, this song gives me permission to cry and helps me release those emotions. It has probably saved my life a few times.
Grew up with REM Your right just saying hello can change one’s perspective in a moment I say hello and have a wonderful day to hundreds ..everyday!! You can see it in peoples eyes..the change Love your channel Jamal!! Always happy to see you!
I've been following you for years now Jamel, and your attitude and message is infectious. I'm a 50 year old man who has struggled with substance abuse and depression my whole adult life but i try and live by that same message, that just because i struggle, it doesn't mean i should not try and be a good person. I'm from Australia and a good mate once told me that you should always try and say g'day to strangers...it doesn't hurt, it makes yourself feel better and it just might make someone else feel better. Love your work mate.
The video was filmed in my hometown of San Antonio. The upper deck of the highway had just opened and passed right next to my previous office which I had moved from just a couple of weeks prior.
I love this song, and listen to it often when I feel sad or low. It helps, it mets me where I am in that moment, and allows me to be sad without having to fix it in that moment.
❤ .. love ... love .. , we all need to love each other. This song hit hard when it was released .. and it still raises the light to be aware , and care. Thanks brother.
I agree. And, the sincerity of his soul came shining through - I could practically feel his heart bleeding for the parishoners who came to him with their own pain. Seeing that performance brought me back to REM again. What an incredible gift.
Father Ray Kelly ( B.G.T.2018 ), is performing this song for his first audition. Nothing beats REM’s original but F. Ray’s interpretation of this song takes on an almost “ holy “ experience, bathed in love, humility and hope. ❤
Hey I am just popping in to tell you, we ALL appreciate you man.. the commentary, the authenticity... I am here for your reactions, have been for years. DO NOT STOP!
REM have a ton of great songs. I think they were one of the bands that got people into "alternative" music in late 80s and early 90s. Instantly recognizable.
You have such a kind gentle soul💞. So happy you were able to rise above the turmoil in your life. If everyone would adopt your attitude, what a beautiful world it would be. Thank you for sharing such wisdom.
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline This song came out April 1993. My mom committed suicide in April 1995, when I was 17. For a long time this song made my cry like a baby. It took me years to realize my mom choosing to do what she did was nobody's decision but hers. It was nobody's fault. Depression is real, and it's brutal. Know the signs, and get help! 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
I have a version of this song titled WTC remix that came out not long after 9/11. It has newscasters reporting about and from the crash sites, bystanders describing the horror of the day, police and firemen speaking from the sites, all between the speaking parts of this song - all the silent parts of the song filled with people reacting to the unimaginable horror they'd seen, filled with the sadness and hopelessness of that day. This was a perfect song to unite us and let everyone know it's ok to be sad and feel hurt. A very belated "thank you" to whoever put that mix together so beautifully. As always, thank you Jamal for your honest reaction, showing your feelings and reminding us to always "Be humble, be kind, spread joy, peace and love."
This is another one of those songs that was EVERYWHERE for a while but in middle school I couldn't really comprehend all the lyrics I knew by heart but now encountering it as an adult is haunting 😳❤️ thanks for this one
One of the greatest songs of all time, no doubt about it. Michael Stipe (lead singer and songwriter) has always had this innate gift for striking directly at your heartstrings with lyrics that turn the mundane into the poetic. Another great example that a lot of people have maybe not heard before is "No Time for Love Like Now", one of his first solo singles. He put it out in 2020 with the band Big Red Machine (Aaron Dessner from The National and Justin Vernon from Bon Iver), and its absolutely beautiful!
I believe that what we feel when listening to a song, even if it's from a language you don't understand or even just a melody, is because the music speaks to something that is inside us and sometimes we didn't even know it was there. This song really moves me, it's really incredible.❤
Love watching you discover the music I grew with, or, in this case, shared with my daughter as she grew up with it. One might think that we were born too early, or too late, for the music of a particular era, but great music is timeless, and being born somewhere on the edge of its midst, is a wonderful experience!
One of my favorite songs of all time. Has helped me through so many different stages of life. Everytime I see the video I am thankful for including people of all ages and stages of life.
Be that light for others and you will shine inside. No matter how hard of a day, time in your life, take time to smile, share a smile, a hello, and you will improve the world around you!
Not a single person that I know of who can't relate to this song. It's a rare thing when a group can write music like that. Good on you for doing this one!
One of the greatest songs ever written, imo. Michael Stipe's voice meshes with the pain and fear of the lyrics and the orchestration is so fine. Please be excellent to each other, my fellow music lovers, we're all we've got.
that was part of the video at the end, great reaction, REM have been around for ages and are really talented, I cried during this one, I dont have family or friends
Another great review. Thank you, Jamel. One of my favorites, in typical REM fashion -- long and deep sentiments. Another one of my all-time favorite REM songs is "Orange Crush." It's about the Vietnam War and speaks to the unintended victims of Agent Orange as well as the thousands of paraplegic veterans who came home after the war.
That was one of the most emotional and painful videos I have ever watched. The song is beautiful. It touched my heart because at 73 I’m completely alone, disabled and living below the poverty line. Some days don’t feel like it would matter if I woke up.
One of my favourite songs ever, beautiful music, but sad truth, especially nowadays when its getting less and less that we acknowledge strangers with a smile and greeting 😢
Your comments during the video reminded me of a girl in my high school. She was a year above me, we had never formally met, but she would smile at me every time I saw her in the hall. She had a sort of kindness -and I think bravery- that would make her connect with people briefly. And I think about her decades later. Her smile always struck me and kind and open...an energy you really express consistently in your reactions ❤
@@Corvid76yih i had the same reaction. nowhere near dark. the exact opposite of dark in fact. i got a bit upset for a second there at the thought that anyone would use the word dark to describe this beautiful song.
I have been through depression a number of times in my life and one of those times I just didn't have family to talk to. I had to see a professional psychiatrist about it and I was able to get through it all because I was totally exhausted. I was given something to help me sleep for over 24 hours. When I woke up I woke up in a blizzard and was welcomed by an angel in a long coat who turned out to be a good friend at the time. Yes she was a gorgeous woman but she really made it easy for me to get over my depression. After that I wet home and started my life over. Today I am married and have 2 beautiful children and am very happy with my life and am able to handle what life throws at me. Life is good and too short to even think of taking it away. So please live life to its fullest and peace out. ✌
This is why you are my favorite...FAVORITE...reactionist. You actual and absolute are a very good human being. Full of concern, understanding, caring and empathy. You want the best for humanity and hope for the same from it. I just keep watching and watching you. Keep it up Jamal. Love ya.
As a Veteran, there are 22 of us a day that commit suicide. Check on your active, retired and veteran friends.
We appreciate what you did for us! If there's anything you need, ask
I never served but my dad and both grandfathers did. I have friends that have served and struggled. I’ve got their 6, and I’ve got yours too, brother.
God bless you and all of our Veterans...........hang tough and know that you're not alone or forgotten.
Thank you for your service!
Please remember the new 988 suicide hotline number. Spread the word. ❤
In 1992 I was a huge, rabid, R.E.M. fan after the huge success they had with "Out of Time" as an album and "Losing My Religion" as a single. I was 14 years old. In April of that year my 17 year old brother died in a car accident. In October R.E.M. released "Automatic For the People". I bought it the day it was released, discovered this song and cried my eyes out for a week. It was literally a 'Your music saved me' moment.
That's a tragedy and I'm sorry you lost your brother. I'm glad you had music to pull you through. Thank you for being here 💚🙌🤘
So sorry about all that. God bless you, brother. This is such a powerful track, and I am glad it has had such an impact on your life
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You are right, Jamel. A simple "Hello" accompanied by a friendly smile from a stranger has brightened many a day for me. Keep spreading the love.
True. A simple effortless kindness can make someone's day. We can't always do great things. But we always can do small things with great love. ❤❤❤
I read a nonfiction book about people that jump from the Golden Gate Bridge. One of the jumpers left a note that said 'I'm gonna walk all the way there. If just one person smile at me on the way, I won't do it'. They fished that person's body from the bay three days later.
Sadly I never get that whenever I’m out in public. Everyone are on their phones and stuck in their own phone world
Hello 😊
@@RonnieG Hello 🙂
Song released 32 years ago and still has that powerful emotional feeling to it especially if you were feeling down.
Yes, that "Hold on" becomes personal
Everyone should get a hug after this song
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Going through too much....the word in it "why?" . I don't understand WHY someone doesn't care, I thought did and I sure do ccry, thank you:) Need a hug!@@carolynquinn8325
😊 Agreed !! 💗🙋🏻♀️
This song is like getting a hug when you need it most
When the first "Hold on" hits along with the string section, I always get chills. If I'm not already crying, that's usually when it starts. It's a song about sadness. It's also about hope because you are not alone. I always thought everyone getting out of their cars at the end is them finding another way. We can sit here stuck in sadness or, we can get up and move forward. A traffic jam is a great metaphor for things that hold us down. This song helps me deal with sadness sometimes. It's dark, touching and beautiful. That ending is so uplifting and triumphant. Gets me every time.
Yes the music at the outtro resolves into dmajor g major chords which creates a very uplifting feeling
Yep every time
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For you, my best friend Meredith. Died April 1997 aged just 34 from non Hodgkins Lymphoma leaving 2 little girls. She chose this for her funeral as soon as she knew she was terminal. I miss you every day still my darling friend.
I feel for you my friend. I was diagnosed with hodgkin's lymphoma in 1979. It reoccured years later. They found it when I was pregnant with my son. I played to God to let me live to see him grow up. He is turning 43 this year and I am still here. I wish that would have happened for your friend. Love and prayers to you and her family ❤❤❤
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@@SueHolmgren-rp7jj I am so glad that you are still here. Meredith is a grandma now, and those children are growing up without their hysterically funny, sassy and beautiful grandmother. The two little girls are just like her too, sassy themselves. Oh I miss her.
@@karenglenn6707Meredith's essence lives on through you, and her family, for eternity. You're still a good friend to her, today 😊
@@billmatthews5877 thank you so much. She was a best friend to me, loyal, creative, talented, loving, no bullshit and hysterically funny. Left such a huge hole in so many lives when she died. My whole family adored her and she them. My grandparents were devastated when she died, and my grandma said she would have taken Merri’s place, as grandma had had her life and a Merri hadn’t. I appreciate your kindness very much.
According to REM this beautiful song was written in an attempt to reach teenagers contemplating suicide. I thing it’s fair to say it impacted the population at large that heard it. I don’t know anyone that has heard this song that is not affected by it. ❤️
It stands for Rapid Eye Movement. Something that actually happens to all of us when we're asleep and dreaming.
Originally it was for Rapid Ear Movement, then just R.E.M
This song has saved my life on a number of occasions. No greater praise can be given to it.
We're glad you're still here. Stay awhile...
I cry every time...every time I hear this. If we could only take away the pain we've caused.
Every time!
Agree 100% I echo every word you've said 😔
😢... me too, but after that I feel better than before.
This song saved my life when I was a teenager.
I’m so glad it did. It saved my life when I was in my early 30s. I’m so glad we’re both still here.❤️✌️🌼
@@marniethedyslexic6445- This makes 3 of us. I feel this song saved my life in a way too when I was in an abusive relationship as a freshman in HS. I could hear Stipe singing "Hold On..." and somehow I did; thankfully I found my way out of it & I credit the song giving ne the courage I needed to get out of it.
me too.
Karen Carpenter my life from an abusive father.
We're so glad you're all here. Thanks for pushing through.
The humanity in this song.
That's the singer, Michael Stipe, driving. I was watching an unknown group at a small club at SWSW years ago, and he just walks in and stands next to me, watching the same performance. I was stunned to be so close to such a great talent.
The whole band is in that one car.
@@amyholman354 Yup.
Went to college in SC from 1988-92 and spent many trips to Athens, GA (REM's original hometown) to see bands play, especially at The 40 Watt, as it was only an hour away and had great music. Pretty much would see most of the band at every show. Had been listening to them since early high school, so of course fun to look up to see one member or another standing near.
Good memories 😊
This song just helped me now, 32 years later. you don't know what someone is going through.
Your reaction of sitting back & taking a deep breath was the reaction of all of us when we first heard this song. Michael Stipe (the lead singer) is truly a beautiful soul. I'm a Gen Xer who grew up near where R.E.M. got their start & was privileged to see this incredibly talented band long before they "became mainstream".
When i came back from iraq, i found my wife was cheating on me, i couldn't adapt to civilian life, i had no one to talk to. That was when this song came out. Needless to say i was at that point of joining the 22 a day. This song actually helped me, i still cry when i hear it. 100%truth. A simple hello, a simple smile goes a long way. You never know what someone is going through. Now, at 53, i have a great daughter ( sophomore at Penn St), I'm with a woman i truly love, I'm an instructor ( electrician- giving the youth a future) and life is ok ( I'll never say good-a lot of ghost in the head). But thanks, i haven't heard this song in years.
Thanks for this insight into your life. All the best.
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I'm glad you're around.
It's a reminder...you are not alone. Blessings sent to you sir and THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE.
I’m glad you’re still here brother. Hold on ❤
Not surprised you got this song & had such a good reaction. You know, I’m a full time carer to my dad, who has dementia, it’s hard & it gets lonely. I went to the supermarket the other week & the young woman on the checkout started chatting, showing an interest & even gave me a compliment. That didn’t just make my day, it made my week! A few kind words go a very long way
Much respect for taking care of your father!
Prayers for you and your father. I know how difficult it is to have to take care of a parent. Been taking care of both of mine almost by myself for 8 months now. Was running myself ragged, had to finally start taking every other day off, it was starting to effect my own health. Reach out to someone. I believe there are support groups for caregivers out there. Just remember, you are important, too.
This song saved so many people...its one you can play over and over if you're in a dark place and gives you reason/hope to hold on...the last scene symbolized how much more noticeable it would be if lots of people disappeared at the same time compared to one here and there..
I'm in that dark place right now with my 3 dogs. My 14 year old cat Latika took her last breaths in my bedroom 4 days ago. I've never felt more broken or lost. The absence is so loud. She was with me through so much and held on for me until I was cancer free, happy and in my dream university. She held on for me and I'm so grateful. This song is getting me through ❤🐾💔
@@queenie.lawyergirl.pittymom I know the feeling all too well :/ our pets are like family to us and there is nothing like the pain of losing such a source of unconditional love and companionship...you are not alone I promise. Latika got to see you through all that so you know she's proud of you. My profile pic is of my cat Ezra...he passed away in 2017 after being with me through a lot. He is still my profile pic and lock screen on my phone, that is how much he meant to me.
You are so right a hello can't change a life!! I worked at a grocery store and we had a lot of older people that shopped there. One lady, who had a stroke, and people avoided her cause she had some problems. I hugged this lady and talked to her when she came in. Her family didn't live close and she told me my hug was the only human contact she had. Of course we became friends!! Thus lady had lived the most fascinating life and she shared some of it with me. She had served in the Air Force during WWII and has seen stuff I couldn't imagine. Never just look at someone and assume things. Thank God her son retired from the military and he brought her to Hawaii to live with him and his family!! I met so many awesome people from smiling and saying "Hello". I have never ever met a stranger!!!😊😊
I believe this song saved my life when I was in my early 30s. I’ve struggled with depression since I was 24 years old after my first daughter was born. I have two daughters .They are the best thing I ever did in my opinion. they weren’t the cause of my depression. Postpartum depression just seems to set it off. I realize now that my mom always had depression that she let go untreated, and in those days it was looked down upon to have depression. People would say get over it get up pull your boots up and get over it. like you were just a little bit sad🤷🏻♀️ They didn’t seem to get it. I heard this song during one of my worst bouts of depression, and hearing that I wasn’t alone meant all the world to me. Thank you so much Jamal for reacting to this song. this song saves lives. I’m so glad that I’m not alone, and some people understand how I feel. it means the world to me.❤️✌️🌼
This song should be hitting the airwaves a lot right now, IMHO. We are probably in for a whole lot of hurt and shock and grief...it's coming. Be ready to comfort those who will be having a very hard time.
REM is one of my favorite bands I love pretty much all there songs I’ve listened to them since the 80s. Rapid eye movement. REM picked it out of the dictionary. This song gets me out of my depression that I have but unfortunately doesn’t cure it. It’s sad that REM disbanded.
Ditto
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me too ❤
@Spo-Dee-O-Dee That's true, unfortunately. The last album that was any good, was New Adventures in Hi-fi. I bought the album after that one as well, and I can't even remember the album title.
@@Spo-Dee-O-Dee True
Song still as deep today as it was when the video first came out. Relates to our new world of social media even more.
REM DESERVE TO BE EVEN MORE FAMOUS ...
... than they already are, just for this song alone.
Deep, meaningful message that we should always remember when looking at others or ourselves.
This was the first song from REM that I ever heard. The next day I was buying Automatic for the People CD. I love that whole CD.
Under rated for sure
There is something about Michael Stipe's voice, that really makes you feel it....... it is his gift, & ours 💗💗💗
😢 this is a song that hits me every time I hear it. Smile and make someone know they are heard, seen and loved.
That ending was spot on perfection . Those lyrics till the strings hit ..you can almost feel your heart beat go a little faster . Brilliant ...genuis and a song that's saved hundreds if not thousands.
An Irish priest did this on Britain's Got Talent and he ended it by saying " you're not alone"
REM is one of the great bands and so underappreciated. Pete Townsend (The Who) said in the '80s: "They are one of the few bands that does what they want (vs. the record company) and remain unique and independent." (to paraphrase from memory)
That song came out at a pretty dark period in my life; I had just divorced, and although I never really contemplated suicide, I recognized the pain and also the hopefulness of this song. Like all great songs, it comes from a place of truth and speaks to the hearts of the people who need it. Amazing...
I'm 57 and listen to all music of all decades and this song is the one with the biggest message of all, hands down.
I remember this when it was all over MTV. It's a good music video the way they did it with the people in the cars
You're right about a simple "Hello' having a positive effect of someone's life. And that simple hello affects not only the listener but the speaker. A warm smile helps too.
Brilliant song and brilliant reaction. Thank you. I could stay, I could remain calm. Till I saw "She's gone." In those few words I had a moment to see that man's life, his partner, his best friend. Gone now, before him, without him. And the idea of such a profound loss. Brought to mind my maternal grandmother, who lost two children to crib death and her husband to tuberculosis before I was even born. Her resilience humbled me, and I still can't get past that bit without crying.
I've listened to this song for 32 years and it always resonated with me; but watching it again here, the scene you described made the tears well up -- because I am that man now. Lost my wife three years ago after 42 years of marriage; a person Jamel described, one of those people I stay close to because they invested in me, and I in them. I have my kids and grandkids to turn to in these types of moments, but anyone who knows the love I'm describing knows it can't fill the entire void. So seeing this scene in the video, especially the flowers on the back seat, brought the grief back.
Someone described the video as "dark;" I don't necessarily see it that way. There's obvious despair and loneliness and emptiness on display here but the words to the song remind us that even though we might be going through these painful experiences we're not alone in our despair, and not to give up, it gets better. In my case, it has gotten "better," but I'm starting from a very VERY low place after losing my precious Mindy, so I've got a long way to go yet. This tune will help get me there I think.
Sorry for your loss. Cherish the memories.
Such wise words, Jamel. And I'm sure singer Michael Stipe saved lives with this song, when singing 'Hold On'! Because he did with mine! I´m a 58 year old man with a lovely wife and two great sons (but not always lovely and not always great, nor am I!), but before april of last year - due to many reasons - I suffered from "feeling bad" during three-four years, with in the last one only black, negative thoughts - even though before those last years I had nearly always been happy and optimistic.
At a certain moment only watching this clip - and that of Nightbirde (Jane Marcewski) at AGT - helped me to survive. And listening to music, my favourites from all kind of genres. But it wasn´t untill I finally searched for and found professional help (psychologist) that things got better, slowly. Talking, crying, letting all my emotions out, often I surprised myself during those sessions. Untill one day, in april last year: all the pain, anger, grief, blackness... had disappeared. For years I had thought I´d never get better anymore, but now I can scream it out: it´s so INCREDIBLY WONDERFUL to just feel good (again), I´m so glad. And even though I realise bad things will always happen (next to the good ones), I now think I will be able to face them. And, Jamel, don´t ever underestimate what people like you, with always those positive messages and attitude, mean for (sensitive) people like me!!!
Thank you very much. Greetings from Belgium
This song has saved my life more than once. True.
The one person on the planet who doesn't know what R.E.M stands for and I love him for it :)
First heard this song when released back in 1992, I was 37... It moved me then and now I'm watching this now in December 2024 with tears in my eyes. Not because of any problems my family or I have had, thankfully, but for all those out there that are going through life in a stressful and trauma filled life.
One of the best REM videos and they have even more great videos
This song has carried me through alot of heartaches.
Jamel, you are a credit to the human race. There are too few people on the planet who care about helping others, keep doing what you do.
The band I’ve seen the most, from small venues to big stadiums. Fantastic band. 😊
I rarely comment on these music channels, but you seem like a lovely caring and genuine person and I love your reactions. Much respect from an English lady ❤
True legends. I'm so happy to see them live at the concert. My favorite song - "Drive" is on that album Automatic for the People (1992), which also includes this song from reaction.
My favorite on Automatic is The Sidewinder Sleeps Tonite
I'm jumping in to say Drive and The Sidewinder Sleeps Tonight are my TWO favorites from Automatic for the People!
Dude, I can't tell you how much your videos mean to me. I am so sorry that you had such a a rough upbringing. But I am so glad to you came out the person that you are. I want you to know that I love you so much. You are an inspiration.
Yeah...this song is deep. I'm tearing up right now just thinking about how deep it is. Who can't relate to the words???
R.E.M. is my favorite band. They got their name by opening up the dictionary and picked it out!!! The lead singer, Michael Stipe, said he wrote this song targeting teenagers because they have such a high suicide rate. And you are right, Jamel, saying "hi" to someone can make a difference in their lives. R.E.M. has 15 studio albums, but they sound best live!
It was written by R.E.M. drummer Bill Berry
@@gotham61 Bill may have had something to do with the music, but Michael did write the lyrics
I’ve been known to randomly complement strangers. Always brings a smile,most times with surprise. My compliments are genuine and spontaneous and I will never hesitate to bring a smile if I can.
This song has helped me a lot. Whenever i'm feeling overwhelmed by life, this song gives me permission to cry and helps me release those emotions. It has probably saved my life a few times.
wonder how many lives this song saved. so powerful , well done to R.E.M. this song should be heard least once a week.
Grew up with REM
Your right just saying hello can change one’s perspective in a moment
I say hello and have a wonderful day to hundreds ..everyday!!
You can see it in peoples eyes..the change
Love your channel Jamal!!
Always happy to see you!
I've been following you for years now Jamel, and your attitude and message is infectious. I'm a 50 year old man who has struggled with substance abuse and depression my whole adult life but i try and live by that same message, that just because i struggle, it doesn't mean i should not try and be a good person. I'm from Australia and a good mate once told me that you should always try and say g'day to strangers...it doesn't hurt, it makes yourself feel better and it just might make someone else feel better. Love your work mate.
The video was filmed in my hometown of San Antonio. The upper deck of the highway had just opened and passed right next to my previous office which I had moved from just a couple of weeks prior.
This is such an amazing song and video. Everyone would benefit from watching and listening. Thanks for this.
I love this song, and listen to it often when I feel sad or low. It helps, it mets me where I am in that moment, and allows me to be sad without having to fix it in that moment.
❤ .. love ... love .. , we all need to love each other.
This song hit hard when it was released .. and it still raises the light to be aware , and care.
Thanks brother.
great band, this is one of their masterpiece
Father Ray Kelly an Irish priest, sang this REM song on Britain's Got Talent. Give it a listen, just for fun. Thx for the music reactions.
It's a lovely rendition, his voice had the audience enraptured.
I agree. And, the sincerity of his soul came shining through - I could practically feel his heart bleeding for the parishoners who came to him with their own pain. Seeing that performance brought me back to REM again. What an incredible gift.
Father Ray Kelly ( B.G.T.2018 ), is performing this song for his first audition. Nothing beats REM’s original but F. Ray’s interpretation of this song takes on an almost “ holy “ experience, bathed in love, humility and hope. ❤
Father ray kelly bgt 2018
Hey I am just popping in to tell you, we ALL appreciate you man..
the commentary, the authenticity... I am here for your reactions, have been for years.
DO NOT STOP!
REM have a ton of great songs. I think they were one of the bands that got people into "alternative" music in late 80s and early 90s. Instantly recognizable.
You have such a kind gentle soul💞. So happy you were able to rise above the turmoil in your life. If everyone would adopt your attitude, what a beautiful world it would be. Thank you for sharing such wisdom.
"You never know what's going through a person's mind"....thank you for reminding us of that.
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline This song came out April 1993. My mom committed suicide in April 1995, when I was 17. For a long time this song made my cry like a baby. It took me years to realize my mom choosing to do what she did was nobody's decision but hers. It was nobody's fault. Depression is real, and it's brutal. Know the signs, and get help! 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
My dad committed suicide o 9/11/91 song still makes me cry.
Lost my brother to suicide. Seven years ago and hurts like it was last night.
I remember when they filmed this video in San Antonio, where I live, shut down the highways, but it was a big deal, and this song always gets me.
I have a version of this song titled WTC remix that came out not long after 9/11. It has newscasters reporting about and from the crash sites, bystanders describing the horror of the day, police and firemen speaking from the sites, all between the speaking parts of this song - all the silent parts of the song filled with people reacting to the unimaginable horror they'd seen, filled with the sadness and hopelessness of that day.
This was a perfect song to unite us and let everyone know it's ok to be sad and feel hurt. A very belated "thank you" to whoever put that mix together so beautifully.
As always, thank you Jamal for your honest reaction, showing your feelings and reminding us to always "Be humble, be kind, spread joy, peace and love."
It is so good to have a good man out there. Thank you for what you do. God Bless you and yours.
This is another one of those songs that was EVERYWHERE for a while but in middle school I couldn't really comprehend all the lyrics I knew by heart but now encountering it as an adult is haunting 😳❤️ thanks for this one
I couldn’t read the comments through my tears and I’ve heard this song many many times over the years. So grateful for music both happy and sad
This song breaks me everytime. Brings back so many memories of pain at the time this song came out.
Love you SO MUCH! Keeping things civil and full of thoughtfulness.
New Zealand used this track during the holidays as a don’t drive while drinking.
Most powerful message.
I still watch it from time to time.
Jamal, I am a huge REM fan for many years (fan club member) and to see you watch this was cathartic. Peace to you mate.
One of the greatest songs of all time, no doubt about it. Michael Stipe (lead singer and songwriter) has always had this innate gift for striking directly at your heartstrings with lyrics that turn the mundane into the poetic.
Another great example that a lot of people have maybe not heard before is "No Time for Love Like Now", one of his first solo singles. He put it out in 2020 with the band Big Red Machine (Aaron Dessner from The National and Justin Vernon from Bon Iver), and its absolutely beautiful!
I believe that what we feel when listening to a song, even if it's from a language you don't understand or even just a melody, is because the music speaks to something that is inside us and sometimes we didn't even know it was there. This song really moves me, it's really incredible.❤
Love watching you discover the music I grew with, or, in this case, shared with my daughter as she grew up with it.
One might think that we were born too early, or too late, for the music of a particular era, but great music is timeless, and being born somewhere on the edge of its midst, is a wonderful experience!
Jamel, your thoughts on this song, and your experiences and philosophy, are a value to all of us. Thanks from a Canadian who enjoys your reviews.
One of my favorite songs of all time. Has helped me through so many different stages of life. Everytime I see the video I am thankful for including people of all ages and stages of life.
Be that light for others and you will shine inside. No matter how hard of a day, time in your life, take time to smile, share a smile, a hello, and you will improve the world around you!
Not a single person that I know of who can't relate to this song. It's a rare thing when a group can write music like that. Good on you for doing this one!
One of the greatest songs ever written, imo. Michael Stipe's voice meshes with the pain and fear of the lyrics and the orchestration is so fine.
Please be excellent to each other, my fellow music lovers, we're all we've got.
that was part of the video at the end, great reaction, REM have been around for ages and are really talented, I cried during this one, I dont have family or friends
Such an iconic song. Saved me not so long ago when I was dragged into something traumatic. Take each day. I wale up, thanking that I'm still here.
This song is a great example of how powerful and important music is. Jamel, keep spreading you message of kindness and love.
Another great review. Thank you, Jamel. One of my favorites, in typical REM fashion -- long and deep sentiments. Another one of my all-time favorite REM songs is "Orange Crush." It's about the Vietnam War and speaks to the unintended victims of Agent Orange as well as the thousands of paraplegic veterans who came home after the war.
One of the best bands in concert ever!
That was one of the most emotional and painful videos I have ever watched. The song is beautiful. It touched my heart because at 73 I’m completely alone, disabled and living below the poverty line. Some days don’t feel like it would matter if I woke up.
I love your willingness to listen to different music and best of all your insight!!!!!! You catch on QUICKLY to what an artist is trying to say. ❤
One of my favourite songs ever, beautiful music, but sad truth, especially nowadays when its getting less and less that we acknowledge strangers with a smile and greeting 😢
Your comments during the video reminded me of a girl in my high school. She was a year above me, we had never formally met, but she would smile at me every time I saw her in the hall. She had a sort of kindness -and I think bravery- that would make her connect with people briefly. And I think about her decades later. Her smile always struck me and kind and open...an energy you really express consistently in your reactions ❤
awesome song, great that you reacted, they have more great songs also
Songs like this have a way of finding the people who need to hear the message at that exact moment. The healing power of music is real.
This song makes you feel less alone, it’s beautiful and comforting ❤
You are a beautiful person Jamal, ty
Hugs for you good sir! This has always been a fabulous song of introspection and hope. Glad you enjoyed it.
This song is the shining example why REM were first ballot hall of famers in the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame back in 2007.
this song is a classic. it’s very dark but very relatable!
Dark? It's entirely uplifting.
Like the song Where Is This Love by The Payolas.
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@@Corvid76yih i had the same reaction. nowhere near dark. the exact opposite of dark in fact. i got a bit upset for a second there at the thought that anyone would use the word dark to describe this beautiful song.
I have been through depression a number of times in my life and one of those times I just didn't have family to talk to. I had to see a professional psychiatrist about it and I was able to get through it all because I was totally exhausted. I was given something to help me sleep for over 24 hours. When I woke up I woke up in a blizzard and was welcomed by an angel in a long coat who turned out to be a good friend at the time. Yes she was a gorgeous woman but she really made it easy for me to get over my depression. After that I wet home and started my life over. Today I am married and have 2 beautiful children and am very happy with my life and am able to handle what life throws at me. Life is good and too short to even think of taking it away. So please live life to its fullest and peace out. ✌
For me this song has always made me feel my hurt and sometimes even tears but a great message just the same.
I love REM, and this song is a must listen if you’re going to take the dive. Great video also…
This is why you are my favorite...FAVORITE...reactionist. You actual and absolute are a very good human being. Full of concern, understanding, caring and empathy. You want the best for humanity and hope for the same from it. I just keep watching and watching you. Keep it up Jamal. Love ya.