You had me on the verge of tears Van as you were speaking. Everybody needs a hug sometimes. You just don't know when. Be observant folks, especially to those close to you. Don't be afraid to hug someone if you think they need it. I remember once my brother gave me a hug when I didn't expect it. Somehow he knew I needed it, and it made such a difference that day. Thank god!
I hear you saying you struggle with showing certain feelings simply because you weren't raised that way. I personally feel you're pretty open. In the first 2 minutes of this video you were super vulnerable and open. Thats super hard to do. Give yourself the credit you deserve. 🖤
Nut punch ! :) LOL dont be so hard on urself all good things in TIME MY GOOD SIR !@ greetings fellow earthling :) ! hello there .. everything happens for a reason in life .. not knowing why is a puzzle ..TILL you figure it out ... and sadly WE all do ,,, it just when we do ... :| peace + love keep moving forward ,,,, thought id share that :)
Gen X really needed this song. We were all taught to "suck it up" and "walk it off." My dad was a Vietnam Vet, and depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses were not "real. " I know that i can never understand what my father went through at 22, but everybody hurts
😢This song has SAVED so many lives....including mine...in so many dark and hopeless times.💔 It has been used a lot in suicide awareness campaigns - it's heart-breaking, but somehow gives you hope? Such an important song for so many people. Like the song says Everybody Hurts & some of us almost take that final step. Michael Stipe was a good friend of Kurt Cobain, and was devastated when he committed suicide just a year after this single was released. But as we know, for some people, the PAIN is just too much 🖤 R.E.M. will always be remembered for giving people this timeless saviour.
The beauty of this song is that is basically says we are in all in the same boat. Every single one of us is going through some shit, and it's not about comparing shit - who is worse off etc - it's about just realizing everyone you meet is going through something that means EVERYTHING to them. You may have gone through worse, but they haven't, and it's killing them inside. Just be a good bastard to everybody you possibly can be a good bastard too!
This song was played to me when I was struggling to get clean and sober and that was 29yrs ago and as you said it was the hug 🤗 I needed and Iv not looked back, love from Scotland 🏴
@@matimus100 You my friend need to find Jesus if you don't think praying can make a difference. I have seen many people brought from dark places through the power of prayer and supplication in the name of Jesus Christ children included.
I’ve seen my father cry once, when his mom died. My brother doesn’t cry either. I, on the other hand, cry frequently. It’s cleansing and I always feel better afterward. Food for thought. 😘
A lot of men self soothe, the number of times I’ve cried on my own but never in front of anyone. It’s the equivalent of burying your head in the pillow or under the covers.
Some of us try and want to, but nothing comes out. Sometimes I use anger as a release. A lot of us don’t know any other way, and now we’ve come down the road so far we can’t find our way back. It sucks to be numb.
I highly recommend checking out the video for this song. It complements the song perfectly. It’s about a bunch of people stuck in a traffic jam (separate but together) and subtitles showing their personal thoughts and struggles, then they all just get out of their cars at once and start walking together. It is absolutely beautiful.
It's funny you say that. I started watching reactions because it's nice to interact with adults (stay at home mom), but I've really enjoyed learning about other people's perspectives throughout the country. It's really a blessing to be able to do this.
My boys from Athens Georgia. This song is so powerful....back in 80s it single handedly spiked suicide hotlines. Crying is not a sign of weakness but of strength.....so hold on and let it out brother 😓🙏🤴💗🕊️
My dad's mother died when he was 17 from a long battle with cancer. His dad came home and said - mother is dead, we don't cry and walked away. My dad didn't mourn his mother until he was 50 when his father passed. He balled his eyes out at the funeral, not over his dad but over his mother, he only had anger left for his dad….. I think me and my sister's life would have been better if my grandfather had satt with him that day and cried together. We need the release tears bring, it's immensely important for your well being. I really liked what you said in the beginning of the video. I started watching reaction videos specifically by black americans as I didn’t know how else to show my support from the other side of the world. Plus all I ever knew was about the suffering and musical culture, this way I somewhat get to know you as people as well (sorry if that sounded ignorant, but we are all out here learning). Much love from Sweden
I have watched your reactions before and many of your sons. I don’t pretend to know what’s going on in your life, but I want to say that I saw your heart today and know what a good man you are. This song has helped so many have hope, even myself at 16 years old when this song was released. It’s been on repeat so many different times in my life. They’ve received thousands upon thousands of letters letting them know that they didn’t commit suicide because of hearing this song. I believe like you said, one of the greatest messages here is to really talk to each other, to reach out and check on the others and to share our real feelings when we need to. No matter who we are, what color we are, or what we believe,We’ve all been experiencing the same emotions as human beings. You are not alone. You are loved, you are important, and you are valued. You are enough for whatever your face.
I've watched many of your reactions and enjoyed them. But, this one showed your heart to me. Just know that you have a real fan now. God Bless and keep up the good work son. From an old white lady who now has your back in prayer.
Van, sharing your vulnerability is absolutely beautiful. ❤ My husband "had enough" and hung himself at 45 yrs old recently. I'm lost. This song is extremely personal for me. Thank you Van.
@@3generboiler Thank you. Struggling at the moment. October, used to be my favorite month as a child, has become a series of traumatic flashbacks and trauma. Suicides, deaths, and violence. Last suicide attempt less than a yr ago. I'm 59 and understand my illness well. My Profession is in Forensic Psychiatry ironically. Plead for help at a Compass Health Network here in Columbia MO, last week. I'm physically disabled and was told I would receive a Case Manager to help me get to my Psychiatric and Psychological appointments. However, because I don't have a drug addiction I don't "qualify". I'm beside myself as I face the abyss of October...again, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💜✌
Nothing wrong with getting emotional once in a while. Yesterday I watched a documentary about british fighter pilots who met their German enemies about 70 years later. Those brave men cried. And I truly consider them to be some of the toughest guys this world have ever seen. Keep up the good work and enjoy every day.
Empathy, Things like this...they not only remind us all of the moments when we have hurt and how we held that pain... But they also remind us that sometimes the kindest thing that we can do for other people is let them get through their pain too, and be there...just be there.
Lost my mam just over a month ago she was 80 and it still hurts like hell. To see your reaction proves we are not alone and we all have our own pain to shoulder. Take care my friend you bring joy laughter and have touched so many people all around the world. Thank you for letting us be a part of your life. Slainte from ireland take care.
R.E.M is one of the best bands to come out of the 80s. Personally I think the time around this album is some of their finest work. "Find the River" and "Nightswimming" from the same album are amazing songs.
I’ve got some real heavy shit on my shoulders right now and it is very moving to see someone connect with a beautiful song like this. We’ve all been there at various times. We all need some reassuring comfort.
This song got me through so much pain, so many bad times, so many attempts to... well. It helped to remember that I wasn't the only one hurting in the world.
Music is a universal language that transcends. Superfiicially, neither of us would think that four white boys from Georgia could elicit these feelings in us. I am 72 years old and my mother made sure I was exposed to all music and performers as a child. I grew up with 50s doo-wo-, rockabilly, ballads, and so on into the 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, and so on. Raising my kids, it was important to me to take them back and expose them to all that music and encourage them to stay current.in their lifetimes. Through music we can feel what the performer feels or what they want to convey. Some have more to say or say it better, but they all should get a chance to grab you. You are never too old to experience new feelings, meet new realities, expand your perceptions and understanding of your fellow man. I enjoy seeing your sincere efforts to give music a chance to expand your consciousness.
Van, I don't know what your situation is, but in my almost 70 yrs on this earth I've learned that everything changes. Time heals all wounds. Sometimes scars are left behind, but the pain does fade away. And the scars become like badges of courage. Reminders of how strong we really are, and what we've already been able to overcome......hang in there brother, our thoughts are with you........
It's called common ground. No matter our culture we all have that common ground. Sorrow, hope, depression. Happiness, joy and delight. We have more in common then differences. Thank you.
Wow- " you figured out your 'Why? '"... That is just amazing! Wish more people did what you're doing- listening and learning to appreciate someone/something different. Cuz that's the real path to peace and love and understanding! 🥰
This is what music is all about to me. Music will always have your back, it will bring out emotions and you need to give in to them unreservedly. Much love to you my man.
The current state of this nation of ours is making everyone hurt... If we just shut out the divisive media and start listening and talking to each other again, we're all good. We have to look at each other's eyes and not just yell at each other on social media, however. I can tell you have a warm and open spirit and aura through these videos. You are communicating who you are every time you look into the camera. Thanks ~ ♥
I was raised the same way. When I saw this video, I started crying. Hard. Still makes me cry. I let myself cry more now. That shit feels great. Thanks for posting even tho it got blocked.
It doesn't matter how many times I listen to this song, or watch people react to it, it still brings me to tears, knowing so many people suffer on an every day basis.......Loved your honest reaction, and love your wanting to bring us all together, that would be such a wonderful thing!!! Crying is not only tears, it's a feeling that can be held inside, or let flow on the outside........
Michael Stipe had/has the ability to express complex feelings in very simple terms. He's as much a poet with his lyrics as Jim Morrison was. Van, this is a song that will essentially always make me cry. I'm 47. I'm not talking bawling my eyes out, but tears will flow pretty freely. A few different things make that happen. Displays of selflessness, even in movies or video games, are a big trigger. As a kid I was... an empath. I could always feel for myself what people around me were feeling. Even in scenarios I was imagining, I could feel fear, or grief, or joy, or whatever, and music is an enormous stimulant. Then when I was 10, I had a really rough year. Thought a lot about what the world would be like if I wasn't in it. Through necessity, and a lot of effort, I shut off the part of me that was feeling all of those extra, outside things because I couldn't cope with the things that were being specifically aimed at me AND the things I was picking up 2nd hand from around me. While I had people to talk to, I didn't take advantage of them because I didn't want to burden them with something I felt like I should be able to handle. Plus I didn't have the tools to discuss them. As a result of shutting that part of me off, throughout my teens and my 20s I was, as my mother put it, a cavalier little bastard. But now, as a settled, mature-ish adult, I have the coping mechanisms that I didn't have as a child. I can feel the things that make me cry, and allow myself to do so, without being overwhelmed. The hardest part of it, though, was giving myself permission to be the feeling person I was born to be. You're a good man. Don't hold yourself captive to your upbringing. If you don't want to, I mean.
Thank you for your kindness, I'm at a moment in my life where I'm ready to leave this world and it was going to be today. I have struggled with what I have for an years and I'm tired. I needed someone and I tuned in to your channel and while you were talking I saw compassion. I now can say I'm going to hold out for a bit and see what happens. I know one thing, today I saw you and listened to you and saw so much love and compassion. I needed it today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and may God bless you.
I can't make things better for you. Please hold on. One day I hope you find peace and happiness here in this life. Hold on and know you are not alone. My prayers are with you
The song is "like a hug". Indeed it is, it says each one of us is not alone, if we look around we'll see a smile, a word of trust. Trust things will get better, they don't stay the same forever. When I first heard this song and the video I cried, I still do. I know hurt but I trust I'm not alone. My friend, I pray you will feel peace, joy. Just trust, you are not alone. A hug from Porto, Portugal.
This song always moves me but your words gave me chills mate. I hope you can get through whatever it is that you're going through with the love and support of your family and friends.
Man I needed this song! Sometimes don't even know what emotion to show and I turn on music and a song comes along that gets me and I just cry. I'm a very strong and reserved guy, don't show those emotions in front of people much, not because I'm trying to be macho but because I'm usually the one giving others support so I am the strong one. But every once in a while I can't hold it back and in the quiet of my kitchen late at night, listening to music, many times reactions I just lose it. Don't know what you're going through my friend but much love and support and a big ol' hug from the midwest!! We DO need each other, more than many know. It's time we listen to each other, support each other, have one another's backs. We're all in this together...let's show it!
God loves you. We are his kids. Watching you being so touched by this song while going through it brings tears. The road can be rocky but we are not alone my friend. I've been there.
This is a prime example of the skillfull use of written lyrics to accomplish the main Important aim of producing art that of causing a reaction, touching the soul, connecting, acknowledging, commenting and voicing concern. This song has saved many, many peoples lives since its release, proven by vast amounts of letters received over the years by the group /lyric writer. This song should be listened to at least once during everyone's life. If anyone listens to this and is never effected they must seriously be dead inside. As a suffered of depression and suicidal ideation this song has saved me many, many times.
This song saved my life too. Going through the motions, hurting inside, unable to cry. Driving to work one day and the song came on. I started sobbing in the middle of traffic during rush hour on the toll road. When I got to work I called a doctor and got help.
Man, you are an inspiration. Your positivity and energy always makes my day. And as I have watched your reactions I have learned not just about you and your culture, but about the people who request the songs that you react too. It's a big circle on this tiny planet that we are floating through space on. If we could all just realize that we have more in common than we have differences, this world would be a greater place for it. Keep up the great work.
It’s not any individual person’s fault that art from other cultures is shunned by our ancestors. It’s our job to break those walls! You are solid Van! Respect ✊ ❤️☮️
I bought the album in the nineties, and I loved this song, and in the 2000 I lost some good friends, through accidents, suicide, drug overdoses and I lived in a town of 6000 people, I lost atleast 8 friends, two sets of brothers. And this song brings back good times of when they were alive. RIP all my friends.
My first comment was right at the beginning of the video. Having heard the rest, I would like to pray for you, and your family. Whatever is going on, I can assure you, is in God's hands. Let it out, cry, scream, do what you need to do. At the end of the day, break out that good book, read your favorite passages, reflect on how it makes you feel, and what those passages and words made you feel the first time you read them. Then find something new, flip the pages, find new favorite passages, ones that will only make sense once you let them. Godspeed my friend, his word will heal you, along with prayer from yourself, family, and others. You are a great man, and a great father. I will be keeping that in my prayers for you and your family.
I feel you brother. We were raised not to show emotion or any weakness. It came in handy at times …. Other times it was a curse. We’re old enough now to let it hang out and be ourselves. And show ourselves. I’m no hippie but peace and love to you!
I never used THIS song in particular, but I used to make mixed "tapes" (showing my age lmao, the tapes later became cds!😉) to show love, a crush, I'm sorry... etc It's so fantastic, that we will ALL share this one thing in common: that music is magic & anyone can connect thru it!♥️
I felt like throwing my hands today and instead I listened to this as an old song from the early 90’s. My teen years. Bless your heart for wanting to learn more. This is quite beautiful. I love all y’all, humans tho y’all are crazy as heck! 💁♀️
I’ve been an REM fan since the early 80s and appreciate all their art, both the music and the videos……but what I appreciate even more is seeing the message and meaning getting through to someone new and the emotional effect it has. So don’t apologise for anything, show your feelings and don’t hold back. Keep up the great work on here my friend from afar……
Man….that thing sharing ones self with others is the most beautiful thing i have heard in a while. I think you have a real contribution to make that everyone can benefit from!
I love that you found your why! Much love to you! I'm a 48 year old white woman and I have trouble crying too. I suffered a trauma in my life and I ignore my emotions. The look on your face says it all to me.
I love that: "It's like a hug". - Great description. I have trouble dropping a tear, the only time my two late teenage children have witnessed a tear is when my border collie, Tara, died. She broke my heart.
Not sure what you're going through, Van, but songs like this really hit you. My dad passed away last November and it's been really weird, but songs like this, although they sound sad, have a certain uplifting feeling. ✌
Great description of this song "a hug"! Exactly right! I cry every time I hear this song. It's incredibly moving & everyone should hear it..at least once~
I was in college when this song came out, and I had been a huge R.E.M. fan for many years before this song came out. I have sooo many good memories associated with this song! I think your review did it justice. You just can't listen to this song and not be affected. Whatever it is that's bothering you, we've got your back. Sending you and yours love from southern Virginia.
Thanks brotha! This song hit me a few times when I been needing a friend and it’s got some kind of presence in it... I dunno, I genuinely felt like I had the presence of a true friend while the song was playing. Really saved me then. Watching you experience this for the first time took me straight back into that memory, and with all that is going on in my life and in the world today. You were dead on with it being like a hug. Thanks for sharing!
Wise words right there. I think an openness to learning more about others is such a beautiful quality. You're better able to understand, empathize, and even identify with those who may have had completely different life experiences from your own. ❤ Not sure what you're going through rn, but I'm sending all my positive juju your way. One thing I'm sure of...you're what my Momma used to call "good people". Take care, man!
Your intro before you played the song is the best words I’ve heard in a long time. To get along we must first respect and understand each other. You are amazing!
We understand. Loved your description of the song ! It is about reaching out to others . So easy to forget that we are all so connected by the same experiences. Hold on
I can tell this hit you. It does me every time I hear it. Then I remember, so I will tell you. You are appreciated, you are great whoever you choose to be, and even though we all hurt and all cry, most importantly, you are loved.
This was very deep. I think that we can learn so much from each other. We don’t have to be alike to understand and care for each other. What a great way of thinking.
Is a universal truth....we all have same things to go thru just circumstances and players differ but at end of day we are all on same boat....Bright Blessings to all
I have two sons 24 and 26 and taught them that they can show their feelings however society has taught them differently and it is hard. If you want to hear the song again watch it with the actual music video. A hug to you from my family, keep doing what your doing you are awesome.
YOU NEED TO SEE THE VIDEO. This song alone has saved me from ending my life. I can't listen to it without crying. I share it all the time on FB because I want it to save someone like it did me.
NBL for you man, I'm 41 and I have the same hard time. I'm glad you make yourself so vulnerable now, I'm working on it. I, like you, also find music as a way to unleash that emotion. Keep it 100% man you're doing it right.
I love when the strings come in, so uplifting and hopeful, reinforcing the 'hold on' message. John Paul Jones of Led Zeppelin did the string arrangements on this and a few other tracks on this album. It's a beautiful album.
I love what you just said about “why.” As l’ve been watching your and some other reactors a thought occurred to me, “wow what a beautiful way to unite people!” You’re helping to change the world.
I remember hearing this song for the first time. I remember the first time I saw the video. It still holds the same power. Michael Stipe is an incredible artist. Their 2003 live in Glastonbury performance of this song is so powerfully.
*THANK YOU GUYS FOR BEING THE BEST SUPPORTERS IN THE 🌍‼️‼️*
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one love!
This is why you are my favorite
U the man Van love all ur work and dedication to all of music fans everywhere. Much ❤️ from Iowa
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“Like a hug” What a great way of describing this song. Thanks Van
DITTO! 🥰
Yes I agree that was perfectly worded, thank you
I was thinking the same thing!
Big hugs. Semper Fi
You had me on the verge of tears Van as you were speaking. Everybody needs a hug sometimes. You just don't know when. Be observant folks, especially to those close to you. Don't be afraid to hug someone if you think they need it. I remember once my brother gave me a hug when I didn't expect it. Somehow he knew I needed it, and it made such a difference that day. Thank god!
This song was released in 1993. My mom committed suicide on 4-20-95. I was 17. This song makes me cry every time, but the words keep me going.
I’m so very sorry 🙏❤️
I’m still alive bc of my daughters
My sister did this too and I saw my mom collapse when she heard. I’m just now really dealing with it a decade later.
I hear you saying you struggle with showing certain feelings simply because you weren't raised that way. I personally feel you're pretty open. In the first 2 minutes of this video you were super vulnerable and open. Thats super hard to do. Give yourself the credit you deserve. 🖤
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Can I get an AMEN?!
Nut punch ! :) LOL dont be so hard on urself all good things in TIME MY GOOD SIR !@ greetings fellow earthling :) ! hello there .. everything happens for a reason in life .. not knowing why is a puzzle ..TILL you figure it out ... and sadly WE all do ,,, it just when we do ... :|
peace + love keep moving forward ,,,, thought id share that :)
“If no one got you, I got you”
You have a bunch of people supporting you right now. We got you Fam.
Gen X really needed this song. We were all taught to "suck it up" and "walk it off." My dad was a Vietnam Vet, and depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses were not "real. " I know that i can never understand what my father went through at 22, but everybody hurts
The song is an anti suicide anthem. If you feel emotion it's a good thing. Never be ashamed to feel.
Pretty ironic when you realize Kurt Cobain killed himself listening to this.
I always feel better if I hear this song.
😢This song has SAVED so many lives....including mine...in so many dark and hopeless times.💔 It has been used a lot in suicide awareness campaigns - it's heart-breaking, but somehow gives you hope? Such an important song for so many people. Like the song says Everybody Hurts & some of us almost take that final step. Michael Stipe was a good friend of Kurt Cobain, and was devastated when he committed suicide just a year after this single was released. But as we know, for some people, the PAIN is just too much 🖤 R.E.M. will always be remembered for giving people this timeless saviour.
Same I don’t understand how anybody could not love this song because all that does is give people hope
The beauty of this song is that is basically says we are in all in the same boat. Every single one of us is going through some shit, and it's not about comparing shit - who is worse off etc - it's about just realizing everyone you meet is going through something that means EVERYTHING to them. You may have gone through worse, but they haven't, and it's killing them inside. Just be a good bastard to everybody you possibly can be a good bastard too!
I'm not a patreon, but I imagine you have someone going though the big C, and I'm so sorry for that. Or whatever it may be if not that.
This song was played to me when I was struggling to get clean and sober and that was 29yrs ago and as you said it was the hug 🤗 I needed and Iv not looked back, love from Scotland 🏴
We all hurt and we need to stop hurting each other. 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
yeah good luck with that
Praying or Karma doesn't save innocent children's lives
@@matimus100 You my friend need to find Jesus if you don't think praying can make a difference. I have seen many people brought from dark places through the power of prayer and supplication in the name of Jesus Christ children included.
I’ve seen my father cry once, when his mom died. My brother doesn’t cry either. I, on the other hand, cry frequently. It’s cleansing and I always feel better afterward. Food for thought. 😘
A lot of men self soothe, the number of times I’ve cried on my own but never in front of anyone. It’s the equivalent of burying your head in the pillow or under the covers.
I bottle emotions and havent cried in years it'll happen at some point
Some of us try and want to, but nothing comes out. Sometimes I use anger as a release. A lot of us don’t know any other way, and now we’ve come down the road so far we can’t find our way back. It sucks to be numb.
Some think and others feel... Us feelers cry often so we don't murder.🤘
I love your comment so much man! 🙏🙌 what a… just wow! I just love this comment so much!
even if you are enjoying the good times, this song makes you think, and consider those that arent in a good place. Such a work of art.
I highly recommend checking out the video for this song. It complements the song perfectly. It’s about a bunch of people stuck in a traffic jam (separate but together) and subtitles showing their personal thoughts and struggles, then they all just get out of their cars at once and start walking together. It is absolutely beautiful.
I’m so happy you mentioned this. I feel the same way. When you read some of these “thoughts” it’s heart breaking and really emphasize the message.
It's funny you say that. I started watching reactions because it's nice to interact with adults (stay at home mom), but I've really enjoyed learning about other people's perspectives throughout the country. It's really a blessing to be able to do this.
My boys from Athens Georgia. This song is so powerful....back in 80s it single handedly spiked suicide hotlines. Crying is not a sign of weakness but of strength.....so hold on and let it out brother 😓🙏🤴💗🕊️
It was released in 1992
@@jcdvt1 oh sheesh I'm getting old. Could've sworn it was late 80s 🤦
Absolutely beautiful and powerful song! Thanks Van.
Never be afraid to cry. We are human, it's a natural reaction to the world we are living in.
It is so nice that we have people like you trying to bring us together in spite of our politicians, celebrities and media trying to divide us.
If this song connects with you, it connects with most of humanity
The person who can't cry, is one who has never stopped hurting.
My dad's mother died when he was 17 from a long battle with cancer. His dad came home and said - mother is dead, we don't cry and walked away. My dad didn't mourn his mother until he was 50 when his father passed. He balled his eyes out at the funeral, not over his dad but over his mother, he only had anger left for his dad….. I think me and my sister's life would have been better if my grandfather had satt with him that day and cried together. We need the release tears bring, it's immensely important for your well being.
I really liked what you said in the beginning of the video. I started watching reaction videos specifically by black americans as I didn’t know how else to show my support from the other side of the world. Plus all I ever knew was about the suffering and musical culture, this way I somewhat get to know you as people as well (sorry if that sounded ignorant, but we are all out here learning). Much love from Sweden
That's so sad about your father's loss. Every generation gets better. Thanks for sharing. Hello from Pittsburgh, PA USA.
@@loriwishman1866 thank you :)
This song tells us all that we are brothers and sisters that need each other. Awesome reaction. Prayers for you my brother.
This song screams empathy...everybody hurts sometimes even if they aren't saying that out loud...exacly Van 😔💔💚💪💪
When you open your mind, you open your heart.
I have watched your reactions before and many of your sons. I don’t pretend to know what’s going on in your life, but I want to say that I saw your heart today and know what a good man you are. This song has helped so many have hope, even myself at 16 years old when this song was released. It’s been on repeat so many different times in my life. They’ve received thousands upon thousands of letters letting them know that they didn’t commit suicide because of hearing this song. I believe like you said, one of the greatest messages here is to really talk to each other, to reach out and check on the others and to share our real feelings when we need to. No matter who we are, what color we are, or what we believe,We’ve all been experiencing the same emotions as human beings. You are not alone. You are loved, you are important, and you are valued. You are enough for whatever your face.
If some songs can punch you straights in the feels, then "Everybody hurts" Is the Mike Tyson of songs.
I've watched many of your reactions and enjoyed them. But, this one showed your heart to me. Just know that you have a real fan now. God Bless and keep up the good work son. From an old white lady who now has your back in prayer.
Van, sharing your vulnerability is absolutely beautiful. ❤ My husband "had enough" and hung himself at 45 yrs old recently. I'm lost. This song is extremely personal for me. Thank you Van.
Hugs I understand... mine was 38
Hope you are ok … I’m sorry for your loss
@@3generboiler Thank you. Struggling at the moment. October, used to be my favorite month as a child, has become a series of traumatic flashbacks and trauma. Suicides, deaths, and violence. Last suicide attempt less than a yr ago. I'm 59 and understand my illness well. My Profession is in Forensic Psychiatry ironically. Plead for help at a Compass Health Network here in Columbia MO, last week. I'm physically disabled and was told I would receive a Case Manager to help me get to my Psychiatric and Psychological appointments. However, because I don't have a drug addiction I don't "qualify". I'm beside myself as I face the abyss of October...again, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💜✌
REM had so many hits in the late 80's and the entire 90's!!! That's definitely a rabbit hole you wanna dive into!
Nothing wrong with getting emotional once in a while. Yesterday I watched a documentary about british fighter pilots who met their German enemies about 70 years later. Those brave men cried. And I truly consider them to be some of the toughest guys this world have ever seen. Keep up the good work and enjoy every day.
Empathy,
Things like this...they not only remind us all of the moments when we have hurt and how we held that pain...
But they also remind us that sometimes the kindest thing that we can do for other people is let them get through their pain too, and be there...just be there.
Lost my mam just over a month ago she was 80 and it still hurts like hell. To see your reaction proves we are not alone and we all have our own pain to shoulder. Take care my friend you bring joy laughter and have touched so many people all around the world. Thank you for letting us be a part of your life. Slainte from ireland take care.
So sorry for your Loss. 🖤
@@LFRFAMILY thank you shes at peace now. Keep doing your thang my friend.
Love u my dude🤘
I used to play this when I was having a rough day when I was younger. R.E.M. has some super solid tracks.
I was taught that it takes a strong man to cry. There's nothing wrong with showing emotion.❤️
amen
R.E.M is one of the best bands to come out of the 80s. Personally I think the time around this album is some of their finest work. "Find the River" and "Nightswimming" from the same album are amazing songs.
Find the river is pure poetry and perfection in every way
Yes Find a river is perfection
I’ve got some real heavy shit on my shoulders right now and it is very moving to see someone connect with a beautiful song like this. We’ve all been there at various times. We all need some reassuring comfort.
Since my sister passed I still can't hear this and not cry. Thank you.
This song got me through so much pain, so many bad times, so many attempts to... well. It helped to remember that I wasn't the only one hurting in the world.
You found one of the great ones. This song saved my life once when I was a kid.
Music is a universal language that transcends. Superfiicially, neither of us would think that four white boys from Georgia could elicit these feelings in us. I am 72 years old and my mother made sure I was exposed to all music and performers as a child. I grew up with 50s doo-wo-, rockabilly, ballads, and so on into the 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, and so on. Raising my kids, it was important to me to take them back and expose them to all that music and encourage them to stay current.in their lifetimes. Through music we can feel what the performer feels or what they want to convey. Some have more to say or say it better, but they all should get a chance to grab you. You are never too old to experience new feelings, meet new realities, expand your perceptions and understanding of your fellow man. I enjoy seeing your sincere efforts to give music a chance to expand your consciousness.
Van, I don't know what your situation is, but in my almost 70 yrs on this earth I've learned that everything changes. Time heals all wounds. Sometimes scars are left behind, but the pain does fade away. And the scars become like badges of courage. Reminders of how strong we really are, and what we've already been able to overcome......hang in there brother, our thoughts are with you........
THANK YOU REX. That was very nice. Much Love
It's called common ground. No matter our culture we all have that common ground. Sorrow, hope, depression. Happiness, joy and delight. We have more in common then differences. Thank you.
One of the best songs of all time in my opinion. Is in my book , Love it Thank you.
Wow- " you figured out your 'Why? '"... That is just amazing! Wish more people did what you're doing- listening and learning to appreciate someone/something different. Cuz that's the real path to peace and love and understanding! 🥰
This is what music is all about to me. Music will always have your back, it will bring out emotions and you need to give in to them unreservedly. Much love to you my man.
The current state of this nation of ours is making everyone hurt... If we just shut out the divisive media and start listening and talking to each other again, we're all good. We have to look at each other's eyes and not just yell at each other on social media, however. I can tell you have a warm and open spirit and aura through these videos. You are communicating who you are every time you look into the camera. Thanks ~ ♥
Well said ❤🤘
I was raised the same way. When I saw this video, I started crying. Hard. Still makes me cry. I let myself cry more now. That shit feels great. Thanks for posting even tho it got blocked.
It doesn't matter how many times I listen to this song, or watch people react to it, it still brings me to tears, knowing so many people suffer on an every day basis.......Loved your honest reaction, and love your wanting to bring us all together, that would be such a wonderful thing!!! Crying is not only tears, it's a feeling that can be held inside, or let flow on the outside........
Dont know what was better the song or the genuine emotional reaction to it. Big ups fella.
I heard it said that "big boys don't cry, but men do".
Michael Stipe had/has the ability to express complex feelings in very simple terms. He's as much a poet with his lyrics as Jim Morrison was.
Van, this is a song that will essentially always make me cry. I'm 47. I'm not talking bawling my eyes out, but tears will flow pretty freely. A few different things make that happen. Displays of selflessness, even in movies or video games, are a big trigger. As a kid I was... an empath. I could always feel for myself what people around me were feeling. Even in scenarios I was imagining, I could feel fear, or grief, or joy, or whatever, and music is an enormous stimulant.
Then when I was 10, I had a really rough year. Thought a lot about what the world would be like if I wasn't in it. Through necessity, and a lot of effort, I shut off the part of me that was feeling all of those extra, outside things because I couldn't cope with the things that were being specifically aimed at me AND the things I was picking up 2nd hand from around me. While I had people to talk to, I didn't take advantage of them because I didn't want to burden them with something I felt like I should be able to handle. Plus I didn't have the tools to discuss them. As a result of shutting that part of me off, throughout my teens and my 20s I was, as my mother put it, a cavalier little bastard.
But now, as a settled, mature-ish adult, I have the coping mechanisms that I didn't have as a child. I can feel the things that make me cry, and allow myself to do so, without being overwhelmed. The hardest part of it, though, was giving myself permission to be the feeling person I was born to be.
You're a good man. Don't hold yourself captive to your upbringing.
If you don't want to, I mean.
Thank you for your kindness, I'm at a moment in my life where I'm ready to leave this world and it was going to be today. I have struggled with what I have for an years and I'm tired. I needed someone and I tuned in to your channel and while you were talking I saw compassion. I now can say I'm going to hold out for a bit and see what happens. I know one thing, today I saw you and listened to you and saw so much love and compassion. I needed it today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart and may God bless you.
I can't make things better for you. Please hold on. One day I hope you find peace and happiness here in this life. Hold on and know you are not alone. My prayers are with you
The song is "like a hug". Indeed it is, it says each one of us is not alone, if we look around we'll see a smile, a word of trust. Trust things will get better, they don't stay the same forever. When I first heard this song and the video I cried, I still do. I know hurt but I trust I'm not alone. My friend, I pray you will feel peace, joy. Just trust, you are not alone. A hug from Porto, Portugal.
This song always moves me but your words gave me chills mate. I hope you can get through whatever it is that you're going through with the love and support of your family and friends.
Losing My Religion is another great REM song.
Man I needed this song! Sometimes don't even know what emotion to show and I turn on music and a song comes along that gets me and I just cry. I'm a very strong and reserved guy, don't show those emotions in front of people much, not because I'm trying to be macho but because I'm usually the one giving others support so I am the strong one. But every once in a while I can't hold it back and in the quiet of my kitchen late at night, listening to music, many times reactions I just lose it. Don't know what you're going through my friend but much love and support and a big ol' hug from the midwest!! We DO need each other, more than many know. It's time we listen to each other, support each other, have one another's backs. We're all in this together...let's show it!
This whole album "Automatic For The People" takes you to another place. I hope whatever your going through, gets resolved soon. Hang in there.
The world would be a much better place if everyone "lived" by this philosophy
God loves you. We are his kids. Watching you being so touched by this song while going through it brings tears. The road can be rocky but we are not alone my friend. I've been there.
This is a prime example of the skillfull use of written lyrics to accomplish the main Important aim of producing art that of causing a reaction, touching the soul, connecting, acknowledging, commenting and voicing concern. This song has saved many, many peoples lives since its release, proven by vast amounts of letters received over the years by the group /lyric writer. This song should be listened to at least once during everyone's life. If anyone listens to this and is never effected they must seriously be dead inside. As a suffered of depression and suicidal ideation this song has saved me many, many times.
This song saved my life too. Going through the motions, hurting inside, unable to cry. Driving to work one day and the song came on. I started sobbing in the middle of traffic during rush hour on the toll road. When I got to work I called a doctor and got help.
Man, you are an inspiration. Your positivity and energy always makes my day. And as I have watched your reactions I have learned not just about you and your culture, but about the people who request the songs that you react too. It's a big circle on this tiny planet that we are floating through space on. If we could all just realize that we have more in common than we have differences, this world would be a greater place for it. Keep up the great work.
This song is genuine. Open. Vulnerable. 'a hug' is perfect.
Thanks R.E.M for this song! Everybody out there: hang on!!!
It’s not any individual person’s fault that art from other cultures is shunned by our ancestors.
It’s our job to break those walls!
You are solid Van! Respect ✊ ❤️☮️
I bought the album in the nineties, and I loved this song, and in the 2000 I lost some good friends, through accidents, suicide, drug overdoses and I lived in a town of 6000 people, I lost atleast 8 friends, two sets of brothers. And this song brings back good times of when they were alive. RIP all my friends.
That one always gets you in the feels no matter how many times you hear it! Heard this song 100s of times and it never gets old.
Music is a fantastic way to connect every person! Yes!
My first comment was right at the beginning of the video. Having heard the rest, I would like to pray for you, and your family. Whatever is going on, I can assure you, is in God's hands. Let it out, cry, scream, do what you need to do. At the end of the day, break out that good book, read your favorite passages, reflect on how it makes you feel, and what those passages and words made you feel the first time you read them. Then find something new, flip the pages, find new favorite passages, ones that will only make sense once you let them. Godspeed my friend, his word will heal you, along with prayer from yourself, family, and others. You are a great man, and a great father. I will be keeping that in my prayers for you and your family.
Everything REM touches is brilliant!!! Love these guys
I feel you brother. We were raised not to show emotion or any weakness. It came in handy at times …. Other times it was a curse. We’re old enough now to let it hang out and be ourselves. And show ourselves. I’m no hippie but peace and love to you!
I never used THIS song in particular, but I used to make mixed "tapes" (showing my age lmao, the tapes later became cds!😉) to show love, a crush, I'm sorry... etc
It's so fantastic, that we will ALL share this one thing in common: that music is magic & anyone can connect thru it!♥️
I felt like throwing my hands today and instead I listened to this as an old song from the early 90’s. My teen years.
Bless your heart for wanting to learn more. This is quite beautiful. I love all y’all, humans tho y’all are crazy as heck! 💁♀️
R.E.M is one of my favourite bands. So good.
I’ve been an REM fan since the early 80s and appreciate all their art, both the music and the videos……but what I appreciate even more is seeing the message and meaning getting through to someone new and the emotional effect it has. So don’t apologise for anything, show your feelings and don’t hold back. Keep up the great work on here my friend from afar……
Man….that thing sharing ones self with others is the most beautiful thing i have heard in a while. I think you have a real contribution to make that everyone can benefit from!
Your authentic honesty is contagious 💫
I love that you found your why! Much love to you!
I'm a 48 year old white woman and I have trouble crying too. I suffered a trauma in my life and I ignore my emotions. The look on your face says it all to me.
I love that: "It's like a hug". - Great description. I have trouble dropping a tear, the only time my two late teenage children have witnessed a tear is when my border collie, Tara, died. She broke my heart.
Not sure what you're going through, Van, but songs like this really hit you. My dad passed away last November and it's been really weird, but songs like this, although they sound sad, have a certain uplifting feeling. ✌
SO SORRY Your Dad Passed. THANK YOU FOR BEING AWESOME
Its like listening to a hug for sure. But its also like listening to pain explained. Great song. Great group.
Great description of this song "a hug"! Exactly right! I cry every time I hear this song. It's incredibly moving & everyone should hear it..at least once~
I was in college when this song came out, and I had been a huge R.E.M. fan for many years before this song came out. I have sooo many good memories associated with this song! I think your review did it justice. You just can't listen to this song and not be affected. Whatever it is that's bothering you, we've got your back. Sending you and yours love from southern Virginia.
Thanks brotha! This song hit me a few times when I been needing a friend and it’s got some kind of presence in it... I dunno, I genuinely felt like I had the presence of a true friend while the song was playing. Really saved me then. Watching you experience this for the first time took me straight back into that memory, and with all that is going on in my life and in the world today. You were dead on with it being like a hug. Thanks for sharing!
Wise words right there. I think an openness to learning more about others is such a beautiful quality. You're better able to understand, empathize, and even identify with those who may have had completely different life experiences from your own. ❤
Not sure what you're going through rn, but I'm sending all my positive juju your way. One thing I'm sure of...you're what my Momma used to call "good people". Take care, man!
Your intro before you played the song is the best words I’ve heard in a long time. To get along we must first respect and understand each other. You are amazing!
We understand. Loved your description of the song ! It is about reaching out to others . So easy to forget that we are all so connected by the same experiences. Hold on
I can tell this hit you. It does me every time I hear it. Then I remember, so I will tell you. You are appreciated, you are great whoever you choose to be, and even though we all hurt and all cry, most importantly, you are loved.
Your description of this song is basically what Made the Beatles so great. So many of their songs were basically lyrical hugs
This was very deep. I think that we can learn so much from each other. We don’t have to be alike to understand and care for each other. What a great way of thinking.
Is a universal truth....we all have same things to go thru just circumstances and players differ but at end of day we are all on same boat....Bright Blessings to all
I have two sons 24 and 26 and taught them that they can show their feelings however society has taught them differently and it is hard. If you want to hear the song again watch it with the actual music video. A hug to you from my family, keep doing what your doing you are awesome.
YOU NEED TO SEE THE VIDEO. This song alone has saved me from ending my life. I can't listen to it without crying. I share it all the time on FB because I want it to save someone like it did me.
This song saved my life. This is a great song .Thanx for revieving it .
NBL for you man, I'm 41 and I have the same hard time. I'm glad you make yourself so vulnerable now, I'm working on it. I, like you, also find music as a way to unleash that emotion. Keep it 100% man you're doing it right.
I love when the strings come in, so uplifting and hopeful, reinforcing the 'hold on' message.
John Paul Jones of Led Zeppelin did the string arrangements on this and a few other tracks on this album. It's a beautiful album.
I didn't know that, thanks for that tidbit
I love what you just said about “why.” As l’ve been watching your and some other reactors a thought occurred to me, “wow what a beautiful way to unite people!”
You’re helping to change the world.
I remember hearing this song for the first time. I remember the first time I saw the video. It still holds the same power. Michael Stipe is an incredible artist.
Their 2003 live in Glastonbury performance of this song is so powerfully.
Such a good song. My favorite REM song is Stand.