As more I'm listening to you as more I realise how many toxic people I've got around me and I keep pretending they are not . Now , at least I can start creating my shield ... . There is no chance to get rid of all of them ...life will give me at least one , just to keep me busy😟
Just leaving a role, resigning tomorrow, I held for 9 years in management due to toxic culture, I thought I could work within and make a difference, it really made such a negative huge impact on my mental health. This is a brilliant reminder to restore me back to my true self. Thankyou so much for this content, hugely appreciated 💖
i was just taking a course on belief reprogramming where it was said that it's the meanings we give to situations/criticism that trigger us, and then you released this video saying the same :)
I strongly believe that as we change and evolve we “prune” the garden of our life. We need to set healthy boundaries with people around us, including family and friends. Thank you team for your insight 🌸☀️. Have an amazing day
Be aware of other people's me filters...grow yourself...take control of your reality 🤞Thank you so much Tim you are amazing and always have such a unique and positive insight into all the challenges we face - including ourselves 👏👏👏
You speak such truths that our family is so thankful for. We are all doing your program and already have felt liberated from the shackles of toxic thinking within ourselves and others. Thanks for creating a tool that works. 💓
Tim, your speeches are so practical and fact. I love your sincerity during your encouragements. I can see that you were grown up in challenging childhood upbringing. I am not a international speaker like you but I usually do for my colleagues in smaller group. Tim, thank you very much changing peoples life. Truly appreciated Br
8:15 "We grow from lifting those heavy weights. These situations in your life that seem heavy? Understand that's life trying to grow you right now. So, understand it's a true gift and a blessing. It might not make sense to you right now, in terms of why you are in this moment, but maybe you decide to grow yourself even stronger as a result of enduring all of this and maybe six months down the line, you'll be saying, "Thank goodness! I truly decided to change myself as a result of that. Look who I've become in that process--I've become even more positive, I've become even more compassionate, and I'm now truly able to lead my life even more, because I've used every single moment that I've had with difficult people as a moment I can actually begin to take control of my psychology even more." ...That's what I wish for you."
Wow! 😲😳 THIS Is The Message! Thank You For THIS!!! I Have Been Struggling With Family Members And Now I Realize It's Because I'm Growing Up And It's Making THEM Uncomfortable 🥵 I Now Understand They Want Me To Stay The Same, But I Was Thinking They WOULD Want Me To Grow And Improve But Instead They Are Intimidated Because Now It Is Shinning A Light🕯️ On Their OWN Excuses And Lies They Have Told Themselves For Where They Are At In Life 🤔. To Thine Own Self Be True! $tay Focused, $tay Blessed 🙏
I have a very,very toxic partner who really knows how to make feel small and irrelevant just by how he speaks to me. And he constantly complains about EVERYTHING, mind you he does all this in front of our young kids with no care whether they hear him or not. This video has helped me have a more understanding about toxic people like him. Thankyou for explaining 🙌
I almost never subscribe after one video, so thank you. I have been telling myself much of what you have said, but you make it so much more meaningful. Wth
I think it can be dangerous to categorize other people as "toxic" because all of us are capable of evil. However, what I believe defines toxic people is the people who do not reflect on how they themselves are evil and hence easily judge others and consider them to be inferior. Those people do not see themselves as toxic but rather keep blaming others, and that is what defines toxicity
Nope don’t agree, I’m a mild mannered nice natured person and I find it interesting objectively observing how aggressive ppl react or get triggered by me being submissive. What u said is not true, if that was the case u are saying a caring beautiful nurse is on the same wavelength as hitler /someone evil. There are Bad evil ppl. Individuals are not as grey and mix of evil and benevolence as u are making out.
Tim you sent this to me at the perfect time. Thanks 🙏🏼 Love how you explain everything so one can understand & learn others toxic behaviour & move on. I completed the RAC & I loved every minute. Thank you again for sharing 🙏🏼 X
Dear Tim 😃Han Sir You are truely a Diamond💎 and a chosen one, It is very hard to deal with toxic people and toxic thoughts. Make a video on that Tim Han Sir😃.The way people show middle finger on your comments, and social media made me hurt💔 a lot, Tim Han Sir 😃you are very handsome, 🥰don't bother on your trolls😃 don't take them wholeheartedly😃😄☺😊
Hi Tim. Thank you for the gems you’re sharing. If I may I would like to follow up with the green hair analogy. What if you do have green hair and toxic people are poking fun at you because of it? In life, it is observed that toxic people actually do go for things/traits/etc that you and they know that you possess and they play with your insecurities. How do you respond to these situations? Looking forward to your insights!
I am sure that toxic people will end up alone or unhappy.. I have someone in my life who is very busy with running away when he didn't treat me right. This person does not set healthy boundaries, is ignoring other people and sometimes only sees what others doing wrong and when he's arguing with someone, in his opinion they are the ones who need to be changed and who just aren't worth that he treats them as someone valuable. But one time he told me he is unhappy with the situation and sometimes he explains that he is projecting much from his childhood to other people. He often thinks others want to manipulate him and even his beloved sister doesn't want to have contact with him anymore. He also says is breaks his heart when he treats me bad. He even has heartache sometimes and he his ashamed about how he sometimes treats me and his family. He is living a lonely life, always watching if someone could come and do harm to him, and deep inside he thinks he's not worth being loved. I'm sorry for these people. We normally don't see them how they cry alone at night about how bad they treated the ones they love. But sometimes, they do. They have to take responsibility for their behavior and whether they decide to do it or to go on projecting their problems, that is none of our business. I have the opinion that it's always worth talking with them about it. But it's their business if they want to go on running away and ending up alone and unhappy, or if they want to change. We have to take responsibility for ourselves and accept the chance to grow if we want to create a fulfilling life for ourselves. And it hurts that I am starting to understand that I have to keep these people as far away from me as possible. I sometimes felt like I was getting chained up and getting medicine that is toxic and that is killing me slowly from that person. But it is up to me if I stay near this person so he can go on doing this, or if I get up and leave. Thank you for reading this if you read till here. I hope you are taking care of you and only settling with people, who are treating you the way you deserve it. In a honest, supporting and loving way. 🙏🏼
Can you make a video about accepting childhood trauma in order to get past it.. I want to write a book about my past to help people get through the same thing.. but im not sure if it willbring negative emotions back inside myself.. Plse give me some advice on this.. thank you
People can be annoying. Incompetent. Ridiculous. But as I told my own subscribers, you have to make an attempt not to hurt them. And usually that means even their feelings. You have to understand that many will have annoying traits that are not necessarily bullying traits but just what they are--annoying. And usually this type of behavior comes from their own internal unrest. As one of my Muay Thai coaches said: if a tiger attacks you in the jungle you must draw your knife and kill it. But if a little dog was nipping at your heels would you kick it to death? No, you move it gently out of the way. And that is the effort you have to make with people. Not everyone is strong, most aren't warriors. They aren't confident therefore have to be dealt with gently like the above analogy. And if you do that daily, you will find that it reflects back and gives you only more tranquility. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
❤Building yourself up to deal with toxic people and situations. 💯 Being a star in your own movie ... every perception we have is a projection of how we perceive the person or situation. 👀
This is amazing perspective and resonates with me. Thank you for sharing. The only thing is i struggle to sit quiet when someone is being abusive regarding a minority group. . A guy at work criticised a customer who was a effeminate man, criticising his clothes the way he talked, mamnersims etc. I just said as long as he is happy I dont see any problem and this sparked him off on a rant. I find it hard to keep quiet while listening to this growing right wing voice.
What you say sounds very good, but sometimes we meet people in life that we absolutely hate. And many times it has been because they have challenged us to look closer and deeper at ourselves. Few people want to be friends with a person who is brutally honest and always says as it is and who always proves to be right and has the ability to do what is morally correct .. God so hard to have such people as friends. You can never get away with anything😂😂 For people usually say that how others treat us is a mirror of how they perceive us. They are this mirror, an answer to how good we are at dealing with other people. As with everything else, there are of course a balance between self-respect and self-criticism. But I understand your point and if you just look from your perspective, it sounds logical and a good solution👍👍👍
I work with a horrible Micromanager. He has poisoned my successful team. Trying to get rid of her by Ethics Group. Doesn’t seem to be working. I work with great people. Manager is fly in ointment. Get rid of that damn fly.
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.. Awareness of your feelings
As more I'm listening to you as more I realise how many toxic people I've got around me and I keep pretending they are not . Now , at least I can start creating my shield ... . There is no chance to get rid of all of them ...life will give me at least one , just to keep me busy😟
Life is trying to grow you. Accept it as a gift. Thank You for this 2nd reminder today ❤️
Thank you very helpful education that's where I am right now.
Just leaving a role, resigning tomorrow, I held for 9 years in management due to toxic culture, I thought I could work within and make a difference, it really made such a negative huge impact on my mental health. This is a brilliant reminder to restore me back to my true self. Thankyou so much for this content, hugely appreciated 💖
i was just taking a course on belief reprogramming where it was said that it's the meanings we give to situations/criticism that trigger us, and then you released this video saying the same :)
I strongly believe that as we change and evolve we “prune” the garden of our life. We need to set healthy boundaries with people around us, including family and friends. Thank you team for your insight 🌸☀️. Have an amazing day
Be aware of other people's me filters...grow yourself...take control of your reality 🤞Thank you so much Tim you are amazing and always have such a unique and positive insight into all the challenges we face - including ourselves 👏👏👏
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@@SUCCESSINSIDER Always! Thank you Abigail 😊
Tim your inspirational suggestions ALWAYS hit the Bull's Eye.Thankyou for being there for us !💖💖💖💐
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You are the gift and a blessing. You have no idea how much you set off a light bulb in my head about a current situation. Thank you so much. 🙏🏼
I was reluctant on clicking on this video but I've subscribed and can't thank you enough for this message. Thank you.
I've listened to 1,473 TH-cam videos on this topic. You're the ONLY one that explained it perfectly. Thank you. 💜
Thanks for this one. Sir Tim. I have a bashers and haters that will try to drag me down. So much wisdom on video and more learnings.
Thankyou very much for this. Am dealing with a toxic circle right now
Thank you
Confirmation that I’m doing quite well in dealing with the difficult people I’ve met in my life. Thank you. 🙏🏾 ♥️
Thanks for in put Tim because I have a lot of haters and I need all help I can get thru this tough time in my life!!
Can't watch one of your videos without thinking it was made just for me, thanks Tim and my follow your heart book arrived today booom yesss
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I truly needed to be reminded that. Be blessed.
You speak such truths that our family is so thankful for. We are all doing your program and already have felt liberated from the shackles of toxic thinking within ourselves and others. Thanks for creating a tool that works. 💓
thank you man. love. you are the man.
Tim, your speeches are so practical and fact. I love your sincerity during your encouragements.
I can see that you were grown up in challenging childhood upbringing.
I am not a international speaker like you but I usually do for my colleagues in smaller group.
Tim, thank you very much changing peoples life.
Truly appreciated
Br
what I heard from you really made me understand so many things I was never aware of. Thank you for doing this
8:15 "We grow from lifting those heavy weights. These situations in your life that seem heavy? Understand that's life trying to grow you right now. So, understand it's a true gift and a blessing. It might not make sense to you right now, in terms of why you are in this moment, but maybe you decide to grow yourself even stronger as a result of enduring all of this and maybe six months down the line, you'll be saying, "Thank goodness! I truly decided to change myself as a result of that. Look who I've become in that process--I've become even more positive, I've become even more compassionate, and I'm now truly able to lead my life even more, because I've used every single moment that I've had with difficult people as a moment I can actually begin to take control of my psychology even more." ...That's what I wish for you."
Brilliant ✨
I love this guy.
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Thank you :) I needed to rehear this !
Awesome!
Very practical ,
Thank you.
I needed this one today! Thank you Tim!
Well done, helpful and well presented
Wow! 😲😳 THIS Is The Message! Thank You For THIS!!! I Have Been Struggling With Family Members And Now I Realize It's Because I'm Growing Up And It's Making THEM Uncomfortable 🥵 I Now Understand They Want Me To Stay The Same, But I Was Thinking They WOULD Want Me To Grow And Improve But Instead They Are Intimidated Because Now It Is Shinning A Light🕯️ On Their OWN Excuses And Lies They Have Told Themselves For Where They Are At In Life 🤔. To Thine Own Self Be True! $tay Focused, $tay Blessed 🙏
i needed this today. Thanx
I have to stop arguing with toxic people
Wow, that is so true, thank you
U have no idea how much I 💕 and appreciate ur videos 🙏
Great thanks
I have a very,very toxic partner who really knows how to make feel small and irrelevant just by how he speaks to me. And he constantly complains about EVERYTHING, mind you he does all this in front of our young kids with no care whether they hear him or not. This video has helped me have a more understanding about toxic people like him. Thankyou for explaining 🙌
I know you have a valid point. I can see what your meaning is .
Thank you will take it on board
This is an other big lesson .
Superb 😃Knowledgeable and helpfull video😃💕
Excellent advice - thank you!
Always in for success insider.. great work mate.! ❤
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I almost never subscribe after one video, so thank you. I have been telling myself much of what you have said, but you make it so much more meaningful. Wth
Needed this! - Thank you
Very good thanks 😊
Thxs this helped me a lot
I think it can be dangerous to categorize other people as "toxic" because all of us are capable of evil. However, what I believe defines toxic people is the people who do not reflect on how they themselves are evil and hence easily judge others and consider them to be inferior. Those people do not see themselves as toxic but rather keep blaming others, and that is what defines toxicity
Nope don’t agree, I’m a mild mannered nice natured person and I find it interesting objectively observing how aggressive ppl react or get triggered by me being submissive. What u said is not true, if that was the case u are saying a caring beautiful nurse is on the same wavelength as hitler /someone evil. There are Bad evil ppl. Individuals are not as grey and mix of evil and benevolence as u are making out.
Very good. Like the pink hair example.
Jon Siddons
Dude a good dude.
Thank you sir....live a long and god bless
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Thank you!!!!!!!
If I want to help others I need to remember this.
😘😘 thanks alot sir.... Really appreciate
Tim you sent this to me at the perfect time. Thanks 🙏🏼
Love how you explain everything so one can understand & learn others toxic behaviour & move on. I completed the RAC & I loved every minute.
Thank you again for sharing 🙏🏼 X
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SUCCESS INSIDER thank you Abigail 🙏🏼❤️ I’m grateful for your much needed advice & I loved the RAC challenge X
You are right
Awesome thank you
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Problem a gift ,well said Sir.Liked your talks immensely,your talks deserve million likes. 👏👍☺️
Dear Tim 😃Han Sir You are truely a Diamond💎 and a chosen one, It is very hard to deal with toxic people and toxic thoughts. Make a video on that Tim Han Sir😃.The way people show middle finger on your comments, and social media made me hurt💔 a lot, Tim Han Sir 😃you are very handsome, 🥰don't bother on your trolls😃 don't take them wholeheartedly😃😄☺😊
awesome video
Hi Tim. Thank you for the gems you’re sharing.
If I may I would like to follow up with the green hair analogy. What if you do have green hair and toxic people are poking fun at you because of it? In life, it is observed that toxic people actually do go for things/traits/etc that you and they know that you possess and they play with your insecurities. How do you respond to these situations?
Looking forward to your insights!
This is a hard lesson for people who victimize themselves at all turns
Ok Tim, what if the toxic person is your Spouse!
I am sure that toxic people will end up alone or unhappy.. I have someone in my life who is very busy with running away when he didn't treat me right. This person does not set healthy boundaries, is ignoring other people and sometimes only sees what others doing wrong and when he's arguing with someone, in his opinion they are the ones who need to be changed and who just aren't worth that he treats them as someone valuable.
But one time he told me he is unhappy with the situation and sometimes he explains that he is projecting much from his childhood to other people. He often thinks others want to manipulate him and even his beloved sister doesn't want to have contact with him anymore.
He also says is breaks his heart when he treats me bad. He even has heartache sometimes and he his ashamed about how he sometimes treats me and his family.
He is living a lonely life, always watching if someone could come and do harm to him, and deep inside he thinks he's not worth being loved.
I'm sorry for these people.
We normally don't see them how they cry alone at night about how bad they treated the ones they love.
But sometimes, they do.
They have to take responsibility for their behavior and whether they decide to do it or to go on projecting their problems, that is none of our business.
I have the opinion that it's always worth talking with them about it.
But it's their business if they want to go on running away and ending up alone and unhappy, or if they want to change.
We have to take responsibility for ourselves and accept the chance to grow if we want to create a fulfilling life for ourselves.
And it hurts that I am starting to understand that I have to keep these people as far away from me as possible.
I sometimes felt like I was getting chained up and getting medicine that is toxic and that is killing me slowly from that person. But it is up to me if I stay near this person so he can go on doing this, or if I get up and leave.
Thank you for reading this if you read till here.
I hope you are taking care of you and only settling with people, who are treating you the way you deserve it. In a honest, supporting and loving way.
🙏🏼
If you change your perspective.
Your life will change with it.
Can you make a video about accepting childhood trauma in order to get past it..
I want to write a book about my past to help people get through the same thing.. but im not sure if it willbring negative emotions back inside myself..
Plse give me some advice on this.. thank you
Fab!
People can be annoying. Incompetent. Ridiculous. But as I told my own subscribers, you have to make an attempt not to hurt them. And usually that means even their feelings. You have to understand that many will have annoying traits that are not necessarily bullying traits but just what they are--annoying. And usually this type of behavior comes from their own internal unrest. As one of my Muay Thai coaches said: if a tiger attacks you in the jungle you must draw your knife and kill it. But if a little dog was nipping at your heels would you kick it to death? No, you move it gently out of the way. And that is the effort you have to make with people. Not everyone is strong, most aren't warriors. They aren't confident therefore have to be dealt with gently like the above analogy. And if you do that daily, you will find that it reflects back and gives you only more tranquility. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles
I think this man might be a Christian. All these truths are in the Bible. It's refreshing to hear people in our world give out healthy insights.
❤Building yourself up to deal with toxic people and situations. 💯 Being a star in your own movie ... every perception we have is a projection of how we perceive the person or situation. 👀
This is amazing perspective and resonates with me. Thank you for sharing.
The only thing is i struggle to sit quiet when someone is being abusive regarding a minority group. . A guy at work criticised a customer who was a effeminate man, criticising his clothes the way he talked, mamnersims etc. I just said as long as he is happy I dont see any problem and this sparked him off on a rant. I find it hard to keep quiet while listening to this growing right wing voice.
What you say sounds very good, but sometimes we meet people in life that we absolutely hate. And many times it has been because they have challenged us to look closer and deeper at ourselves. Few people want to be friends with a person who is brutally honest and always says as it is and who always proves to be right and has the ability to do what is morally correct .. God so hard to have such people as friends. You can never get away with anything😂😂
For people usually say that how others treat us is a mirror of how they perceive us. They are this mirror, an answer to how good we are at dealing with other people.
As with everything else, there are of course a balance between self-respect and self-criticism.
But I understand your point and if you just look from your perspective, it sounds logical and a good solution👍👍👍
My opinion about the friends topic: Quality over Quantity! ☺️
Ignore, be very mindful of who and what deserves your energy. A little laughter never hurts also. Peace🙏
Really needed this one
Itis true what you are saying
If you didn’t have hard times you don’t no what good life is.
My dad is a very negative & difficult person. I just give him food and ignore when he belittles ME :o) SAeeD
I live with toxic people
I always attract toxic men.. they get all my energy and gives me headache and anxiety
But I do have green hair.
True that real motherfuckin talk bro👌
I work with a horrible Micromanager. He has poisoned my successful team. Trying to get rid of her by Ethics Group. Doesn’t seem to be working. I work with great people. Manager is fly in ointment. Get rid of that damn fly.
I don't have green hair. 🥲 :))
Never roll in the mud with pigs, you both get muddy and pigs like it!!
One way I'm growing myself is joining the military