Hear this story before, I am baffeled at how the Ex heard her Sister had an affair and lost her fiance and then gets "infatuiated" with the idea of having one herself, How the hell does that happen "I had an affair and lost of fiance because of that" "An Affair you say?..."
Her excuse is that she was just feeling excited and wanted a fling but kept on doing it until she was caught. Cheating is not a mistake, it's a choice, but if it was then the first time is a mistake but if you keep on doing it then that's unforgivable even if you use "It was a mistake" then they are always like "I don't love them, I love you! I wanted to ends things between them but I couldn't! I was about to until you caught us!"
@@shinygoomy2460 I know it's not, I'm just saying that if cheating was a mistake, which is not, but if it was then the first time would be the mistake, not saying it is because it's not but if it was then the first time is the mistake.
It's really no surprise. The problem with society today is most women grew up without any accountability. All they've ever had to do was say sorry and everything usually goes back to normal. It worked with their parents, it worked in school, it worked everywhere while they were growing up. And then a grown man comes along and says, nah your sorry's have consequences, bye. It's a sad state of affairs, but we need to change the expectations we have on each other. Accountability is something that almost all women I've come across struggle with, and they usually have no idea.
So sister warned her not to do it because she will lose everything. Then she somehow convinced herself that having an affair was actually good and even expected her husband to be happy that she was happy? Does she have the stupid?
is funny how the sister cheated, lost everything and was regretful for doing it, talked about it with the ex-wife and the ex-wife was like "so you are saying that i should cheat them?" makes me think about the patrick dense meme
I don't understand when friends and relatives in these stories try and call the victim and demand they take their cheating SO back, even cursing them out, that would just make me more opposed to get back with the SO.
Ex wife was next level of dumb. Sister: Sis! don't make the same mistake i did OP's Ex: Affair you said? Sister: NO!! don't make it Op's Ex: i will do it ♥ Sister: i guess not having a brain runs in the family.
the thing with women like these, is that they think they can eat the cake and have it too. they want both, and dont register that the moment they pick cheating, the option of keeping their family is locked down and unavailable
The sister TOLD her that's how she lost her fiance and the wife instead of just being there for the sister gets infatuated with the idea and had the gall - not sure how you spell that - to think "even if he found out he'd be okay with it cause of how happy it made her" like what.?! Not once did she ever think of anyone else's feelings. Not once did she try to see it from her husband's perspective. Instead she thought her husband wouldn't leave her and would support her affair. The chick is delusional.
Not to mention she decided to have a fantasy of having an affair after her sister talks about how it ruined her relationship. That's some level of fucked up. Turning something that hurt your own family into a fantasy where everything goes well.
The standard "concessions" cheaters always offer are so dumb. "You will have full access to all my devices and conversations". What adult wants that? I want a partner, not a child I have to constantly keep tabs on to prevent them from doing something dumb. "You can have a one sided open marriage". As if I'm as heartless and selfish as they are and I've have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship for these past years for no reason. "We can go to marriage counseling". Oh wow what a treat! Can I really take time out of my day and money out of my pocket in order to talk to somebody whose trying to convince me to trust a cheating w*&%e and call her my wife? "I'll block AP on all devices. As if this is any sort of reassurance they wont either contact the AP a different way or just start an affair with somebody different.
He even left the lawyers paperwork on the table. How disconnected was she, not to notice it. At least the guy checked for STDs for himself and DNA for the kids in case their was a medical history he wasn't aware of. Good on him.
Good advice at the end he says find a person who'll love you little does he know love is dead, loyalty is dead, their isnt person like that that exists anymore
They exist, the problem is that there are SO many bad people with horrible morals that people get ridiculously pessimistic and are afraid of fully committing, which ruins relationships
There are good women out there, but they are just few a far between...western world is rotten so finding a good one in US is almost impossible it seems, western Europe is also on its way like US...traditional, feminine and loyal women are like diamonds in coal mine
@@AleV69692 There is a reason people say life is hard, some things are outside of your control, you just need to have the strength to survive the bullshit and get on with your life, it's not a problem with a solution, no matter what you do, you can still get hurt.
I hate that people always contact the person who was cheated on saying they should give the cheater a second chance. If they were in the same position they would not do that so I don't know why they always someone else to. Also having cheated once maybe maybe there's a way of getting passed that but having a 7 month relationship with someone else is not forgivable
Yeah I got cheated on 2 times, the best answer to the "How can I fix this?" Is Unfuck him. They just look baffled, try and argue for a real answer, once they realize that "unfuck him" was a real anwer and that it's impossible to go back the shitshow stops.
Cheaters never think of the consequences of their actions as they are 100% sure they won't get catched. I have come to the conclusion that part of healthy long term relationship is not giving your partner the safety of feeling they can get away with it. Keep em on edge, keeps em honest
I hope that she never finds any happiness ever again because she doesn't deserve it. I am sick of people saying that cheating is a mistake. No it is a choice.
This woman had so little respect for him that she thought he will just forgive me, stay and never look for another woman and the moment he told her he decided to divorce her she realized that the control she thought she had over him was lost she had a mental breakdown, had he been a man with a strong character she would have been crying and asking for a second chance from the beginning.
If I remember this story correctly, I think they reconciled. He broke it off with Monica saying she wasn’t his type and is now living with his wife, kids & sister in law. He was saying in the comments that it was for the kids. He deleted that last post though so who knows. She probably got caught cheating again.
He said that there is no valid reason for cheating. The reason my man is that she wanted to have sex with another person. She figured she could do that, and have mind blowing sex with someone different and experience all the thrills of dating someone new again, while also having the great home you have now. That was as much thought as she put in to it. Then as time wore on, she and the other man had a choice. They could break away or go back to their families. She chose to go back as the fling was over. If you had not noticed, she would be the "happy wife" for a while. But then the next Chad would come along, and it would be easier this time because everything worked out last time. You just caught her at the moment when the affair fizzled out and she was thinking about going back to her happy family. Now should he work this out? I probably would but you see he knows he has another woman waiting in the wings, so he is now thinking his life will be fine because he has a monkey branch success waiting in the wings. If he didn't have this? Would he be acting the same?
OP needed to re-evaluate his situation. Why wait on the divorce to begin seeing Monica? His ex ruined the marriage by seeing another man behind his back, so why should he feel obligated to wait until his divorce was finalized before HE moves on. His ex was a cake-eater, and intended to take her affair to the grave. She admitted to LOVING him, all while engaging in s-x with her AP. As far as I'm concerned, OP should have ignored his ex's requests to reconcile, pushed forward with the divorce, and begun seeing Monica as much as he wished. Why wait for the state to provide a piece of paper to signify you can move forward? These types of women are all too common. Once caught, they admit they never stopped loving their husbands while allowing another man inside them... getting as close as two people can possibly get. Furthermore, they admit to not being able to tolerate their husbands doing the same to them, had things been reversed.
Dude it is all about court. He doesn't want "He also cheated" to be thrown in his face in the courtroom and have divorce dragged out because some judge decide that they should try to reconcile first.
I just didn't know what AP mean because people do tnlike to write words out....some if us read proper English not gibberish abbreviations invented by the lazy....hint hint
The moment I heard the soon-to-be ex-wife took full accountability for her cheating, I was like damn, this is a fake story. Granted there are stuff in the story before that, that could lead you towards that conclusion, but I tend to give these stories the benefit of the doubt, why else would I be listening to them. But full accountability?? Come on man, that's just a step too far. Even when lying, a cheater never takes the full blame, partial sure, majority is doubtful but could happen. Never the full blame.
This saga ended because reddit tore them both a new one, him for taking his cheating wife back because Monica turned out to be crazy, her for being desperate enough to ruin her family again by going back to the family she threw away, and how they cared more about their own image and self righteousness than doing what was best for their children. Story got deleted not even 24 hours after they got blasted cause weakness OP took her back.
da fuq. Lady. You don't cheat behind someone's back and expect mercy. If you want an open relationship, you freaking talk about it with your partner and if they are not okay with it, THEY ARE NOT OKAY WITH IT. End of Story. o_o *facepalm*
But she only wanted an open marriage on her side. She wanted him to stay faithful. So she opened her end without telling him. She's obviously an idiot since she thought if he found out he'd be happy for her because of how happy she was..
There's the wife's version of this story, but I can't seem to find it. It's pretty much the same as OP has said, just with more explanation from her end.
It's cheater rhetoric, once caught you say you only love the person you're with. They think it will make the person they cheated on rethink the whole situation. Like "Okay, if it was only sex." Thinking it absolves them of the lying and stuff they did in the first place.
I know most of these stories are fake as hell but as with most lies there is a lot of truth in here. Like how she cheated just because, no reason other than pure selfish desire, thought she "deserved" an affair, thought the husband would actually support the affair and be happy for her if he knew (yet she never told him) and the final "closure" BS convo where nothing is resolved, no good reasons are given, just pain and sadness for the couple and their kids. The family dynamic is altered for the worse never to be the same again. The fact that OP thinks his wife has been crying for a week and that somehow makes it real remorse is laughable. Sure she was upset but why exactly is a total mystery. It's likely that she was upset because she was going to lose a family, possibly some friends and suffer some social repercussions. There is zero reason to believe she was that devastated over losing OP. Hell she didn't even notice that OP had completely checked out of the marriage for months prior. That takes a special amount of detachment from your partner.
I remember this story from Reddit. He posted. She posted. It was sad. It's been a few years since I checked, but last I checked his comments, I was disappointed: He decided "Monica" was superficial and wasn't pursuing anything with her. The divorce was on hold. He was dealing with some unspecified lawsuit that wasn't connected to the divorce. He had decided to "do what was best for his family." The WW and SIL were living back in his house. At that point, it had been a year since he last commented. Reading between the lines, it looks like he took the cheater back. He only had the balls to act while "Monica" was in the picture. As soon as he was faced with being alone, he caved.
Maybe it’s the way the story is written, or the tone of the narrator but the OP comes off as a pretentious douche bag..I really dislike everyone in this story
Hear this story before, I am baffeled at how the Ex heard her Sister had an affair and lost her fiance and then gets "infatuiated" with the idea of having one herself, How the hell does that happen "I had an affair and lost of fiance because of that" "An Affair you say?..."
Her excuse is that she was just feeling excited and wanted a fling but kept on doing it until she was caught. Cheating is not a mistake, it's a choice, but if it was then the first time is a mistake but if you keep on doing it then that's unforgivable even if you use "It was a mistake" then they are always like "I don't love them, I love you! I wanted to ends things between them but I couldn't! I was about to until you caught us!"
probably the same mentality of "i can fix him"
@@Nameless82284 Nah, even if its just once it is unforgivable.
@@shinygoomy2460 I know it's not, I'm just saying that if cheating was a mistake, which is not, but if it was then the first time would be the mistake, not saying it is because it's not but if it was then the first time is the mistake.
It's really no surprise. The problem with society today is most women grew up without any accountability. All they've ever had to do was say sorry and everything usually goes back to normal. It worked with their parents, it worked in school, it worked everywhere while they were growing up. And then a grown man comes along and says, nah your sorry's have consequences, bye. It's a sad state of affairs, but we need to change the expectations we have on each other. Accountability is something that almost all women I've come across struggle with, and they usually have no idea.
“OH NO!!! It’s the CONSEQUENCES of my horrible ACTIONS!!”
QUICK EVERYONE HIDE!
Call my affair partner to help me oh no he ghosted
she told everyone what she did, and her family started contacting him to curse him out? Gee, I wonder what she told them ... ¬.¬
Probably not the truth.
So sister warned her not to do it because she will lose everything. Then she somehow convinced herself that having an affair was actually good and even expected her husband to be happy that she was happy? Does she have the stupid?
She has the stupid^2.
Cheaters don’t have brain cells and don’t think about the consequences of their actions lmao 🤣
this man deserves all the respect he can get, he dealt with everything calmly while focusing on the kids when most would probably be histerical
cheaters after they got caught "i will never love anyone again, never to have sex with anyone, blalalalalala."
Then sleeping with someone within a week
Funnily enough, a lot of people who get cheated on do exactly that, what the cheaters claim. Trust in people can be lost forever.
is funny how the sister cheated, lost everything and was regretful for doing it, talked about it with the ex-wife and the ex-wife was like "so you are saying that i should cheat them?" makes me think about the patrick dense meme
I don't understand when friends and relatives in these stories try and call the victim and demand they take their cheating SO back, even cursing them out, that would just make me more opposed to get back with the SO.
Victim blaming is crazy
It's amazing when people cheat and say they didn't think it would hurt anyone
Ex wife was next level of dumb.
Sister: Sis! don't make the same mistake i did
OP's Ex: Affair you said?
Sister: NO!! don't make it
Op's Ex: i will do it ♥
Sister: i guess not having a brain runs in the family.
😂😂🤣😁💀
The relatives always shock me
the thing with women like these, is that they think they can eat the cake and have it too. they want both, and dont register that the moment they pick cheating, the option of keeping their family is locked down and unavailable
The sister TOLD her that's how she lost her fiance and the wife instead of just being there for the sister gets infatuated with the idea and had the gall - not sure how you spell that - to think "even if he found out he'd be okay with it cause of how happy it made her" like what.?! Not once did she ever think of anyone else's feelings. Not once did she try to see it from her husband's perspective. Instead she thought her husband wouldn't leave her and would support her affair. The chick is delusional.
Not to mention she decided to have a fantasy of having an affair after her sister talks about how it ruined her relationship. That's some level of fucked up. Turning something that hurt your own family into a fantasy where everything goes well.
These nasty cheating women always get the good men. Why?
They settle for them. The believe these good men will be oh so overjoyed they were picked and overlook any transgressions
i cannot comprehend the thought process behind blaming others for the consequences of your own actions
The wife deadass has a single braincell on thinking her family would accept her cheating because she’s happy lmao
The standard "concessions" cheaters always offer are so dumb. "You will have full access to all my devices and conversations". What adult wants that? I want a partner, not a child I have to constantly keep tabs on to prevent them from doing something dumb. "You can have a one sided open marriage". As if I'm as heartless and selfish as they are and I've have chosen to be in a monogamous relationship for these past years for no reason. "We can go to marriage counseling". Oh wow what a treat! Can I really take time out of my day and money out of my pocket in order to talk to somebody whose trying to convince me to trust a cheating w*&%e and call her my wife? "I'll block AP on all devices. As if this is any sort of reassurance they wont either contact the AP a different way or just start an affair with somebody different.
He even left the lawyers paperwork on the table. How disconnected was she, not to notice it. At least the guy checked for STDs for himself and DNA for the kids in case their was a medical history he wasn't aware of. Good on him.
Good advice at the end he says find a person who'll love you little does he know love is dead, loyalty is dead, their isnt person like that that exists anymore
They exist, the problem is that there are SO many bad people with horrible morals that people get ridiculously pessimistic and are afraid of fully committing, which ruins relationships
There are good women out there, but they are just few a far between...western world is rotten so finding a good one in US is almost impossible it seems, western Europe is also on its way like US...traditional, feminine and loyal women are like diamonds in coal mine
@@biggiecheese2004so what's the solution?
@@AleV69692 There is a reason people say life is hard, some things are outside of your control, you just need to have the strength to survive the bullshit and get on with your life, it's not a problem with a solution, no matter what you do, you can still get hurt.
Does no one think it's weird this channel doesn't have any cheating men stories??
There are a few, but it's probably 1:20. I've seen a few of them, but the algorithm will keep sending you women cheating stories once you start
I hate that people always contact the person who was cheated on saying they should give the cheater a second chance. If they were in the same position they would not do that so I don't know why they always someone else to. Also having cheated once maybe maybe there's a way of getting passed that but having a 7 month relationship with someone else is not forgivable
Damn, I'm early
Yeah I got cheated on 2 times, the best answer to the "How can I fix this?" Is Unfuck him. They just look baffled, try and argue for a real answer, once they realize that "unfuck him" was a real anwer and that it's impossible to go back the shitshow stops.
Cheaters never think of the consequences of their actions as they are 100% sure they won't get catched. I have come to the conclusion that part of healthy long term relationship is not giving your partner the safety of feeling they can get away with it. Keep em on edge, keeps em honest
I hope that she never finds any happiness ever again because she doesn't deserve it. I am sick of people saying that cheating is a mistake. No it is a choice.
She loved him so much she had an affair
five-thousand-fifty-custody lmao
This woman had so little respect for him that she thought he will just forgive me, stay and never look for another woman and the moment he told her he decided to divorce her she realized that the control she thought she had over him was lost she had a mental breakdown, had he been a man with a strong character she would have been crying and asking for a second chance from the beginning.
If I remember this story correctly, I think they reconciled. He broke it off with Monica saying she wasn’t his type and is now living with his wife, kids & sister in law. He was saying in the comments that it was for the kids. He deleted that last post though so who knows. She probably got caught cheating again.
He said that there is no valid reason for cheating. The reason my man is that she wanted to have sex with another person. She figured she could do that, and have mind blowing sex with someone different and experience all the thrills of dating someone new again, while also having the great home you have now. That was as much thought as she put in to it. Then as time wore on, she and the other man had a choice. They could break away or go back to their families. She chose to go back as the fling was over. If you had not noticed, she would be the "happy wife" for a while. But then the next Chad would come along, and it would be easier this time because everything worked out last time. You just caught her at the moment when the affair fizzled out and she was thinking about going back to her happy family. Now should he work this out? I probably would but you see he knows he has another woman waiting in the wings, so he is now thinking his life will be fine because he has a monkey branch success waiting in the wings. If he didn't have this? Would he be acting the same?
19:22 LOL, the way he says it...
I think I heard this story somewhere else. Doesn't he take her back at the end?
OP needed to re-evaluate his situation. Why wait on the divorce to begin seeing Monica? His ex ruined the marriage by seeing another man behind his back, so why should he feel obligated to wait until his divorce was finalized before HE moves on. His ex was a cake-eater, and intended to take her affair to the grave. She admitted to LOVING him, all while engaging in s-x with her AP. As far as I'm concerned, OP should have ignored his ex's requests to reconcile, pushed forward with the divorce, and begun seeing Monica as much as he wished. Why wait for the state to provide a piece of paper to signify you can move forward?
These types of women are all too common. Once caught, they admit they never stopped loving their husbands while allowing another man inside them... getting as close as two people can possibly get. Furthermore, they admit to not being able to tolerate their husbands doing the same to them, had things been reversed.
Dude it is all about court. He doesn't want "He also cheated" to be thrown in his face in the courtroom and have divorce dragged out because some judge decide that they should try to reconcile first.
I just didn't know what AP mean because people do tnlike to write words out....some if us read proper English not gibberish abbreviations invented by the lazy....hint hint
The moment I heard the soon-to-be ex-wife took full accountability for her cheating, I was like damn, this is a fake story.
Granted there are stuff in the story before that, that could lead you towards that conclusion, but I tend to give these stories the benefit of the doubt, why else would I be listening to them.
But full accountability?? Come on man, that's just a step too far.
Even when lying, a cheater never takes the full blame, partial sure, majority is doubtful but could happen. Never the full blame.
This saga ended because reddit tore them both a new one, him for taking his cheating wife back because Monica turned out to be crazy, her for being desperate enough to ruin her family again by going back to the family she threw away, and how they cared more about their own image and self righteousness than doing what was best for their children. Story got deleted not even 24 hours after they got blasted cause weakness OP took her back.
da fuq. Lady. You don't cheat behind someone's back and expect mercy. If you want an open relationship, you freaking talk about it with your partner and if they are not okay with it, THEY ARE NOT OKAY WITH IT. End of Story. o_o *facepalm*
I have so much respect for this guy.
But she only wanted an open marriage on her side. She wanted him to stay faithful. So she opened her end without telling him. She's obviously an idiot since she thought if he found out he'd be happy for her because of how happy she was..
There's the wife's version of this story, but I can't seem to find it.
It's pretty much the same as OP has said, just with more explanation from her end.
why did she cheat if loved him i am confused?
It's cheater rhetoric, once caught you say you only love the person you're with. They think it will make the person they cheated on rethink the whole situation. Like "Okay, if it was only sex." Thinking it absolves them of the lying and stuff they did in the first place.
I think Monica can help
I know most of these stories are fake as hell but as with most lies there is a lot of truth in here.
Like how she cheated just because, no reason other than pure selfish desire, thought she "deserved" an affair, thought the husband would actually support the affair and be happy for her if he knew (yet she never told him) and the final "closure" BS convo where nothing is resolved, no good reasons are given, just pain and sadness for the couple and their kids. The family dynamic is altered for the worse never to be the same again.
The fact that OP thinks his wife has been crying for a week and that somehow makes it real remorse is laughable.
Sure she was upset but why exactly is a total mystery. It's likely that she was upset because she was going to lose a family, possibly some friends and suffer some social repercussions. There is zero reason to believe she was that devastated over losing OP.
Hell she didn't even notice that OP had completely checked out of the marriage for months prior. That takes a special amount of detachment from your partner.
I remember this story from Reddit. He posted. She posted. It was sad. It's been a few years since I checked, but last I checked his comments, I was disappointed: He decided "Monica" was superficial and wasn't pursuing anything with her. The divorce was on hold. He was dealing with some unspecified lawsuit that wasn't connected to the divorce. He had decided to "do what was best for his family." The WW and SIL were living back in his house. At that point, it had been a year since he last commented.
Reading between the lines, it looks like he took the cheater back. He only had the balls to act while "Monica" was in the picture. As soon as he was faced with being alone, he caved.
Maybe it’s the way the story is written, or the tone of the narrator but the OP comes off as a pretentious douche bag..I really dislike everyone in this story