Coming Out
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 ต.ค. 2024
- Indigenous Teen Nex Benedict was born on January 11, 2008 and died February 8, 2024. They loved drawing, reading, video games, and especially their pet cat Zeus. They were bullied relentlessly for their Gender Identity of Non Binary and Two Spirit, and it was because of this they were targeted. Nex should be alive.
For more information: www.them.us/st...
LGBTQ individuals are at shockingly high risk of death via violence.
In reference to a study conducted in 2019 "It found that members of such communities, referred to as sexual and gender minorities, experienced a rate of 71.1 violent victimizations per 1,000 persons a year, compared with 19.2 per 1,000 a year among non-sexual and gender minorities." - www.pbs.org/ne...
We are just as deserving of life as anyone else. I will no longer hide in fear. I will be myself, authentically, for those who no longer can.
I came to this video from the proposal video. It was so perfect, I thought to myself, "This can't be real. No woman could be so loving, and not have a hangup, elsewhere. There's got to be _some_ catch, right?" Well, here it is.
This chick went from, like, a princess to coming out as an utterly brain-washed "it" in under two years' time. I can't help but feel this whole thing was a convoluted route taken for maximum malicious potential; to make him SO HAPPY, just to absolutely annihilate his dream... How can that _not_ be malice? Even if he already knew she was "nonbinary", it's a sure thing that he hoped it would just never physically manifest. Now his dream woman has been figuratively killed off. For all the dudes who were legitimately envious of her fiance for how "lucky" he was, understand that _this_ is what modern culture and social media have taken from you -- The type of woman she _appeared_ to be does not exist, any more.
Miserable truth: With females, there is ALWAYS a catch.
I've been out to my fiance as nonbinary since the beginning. It's all of yall strangers I wasn't out to because you love to judge what you don't understand. He makes my dreams come true Every Single Day and I am in heaven because he is mine. Don't speak on things you know nothing about
He proposed KNOWING I was nonbinary. And our happiness only grows and grows every day. I hope you find someone who makes you feel as loved and accepted as he makes me, then you won't have to hide behind ignorance.
@@autumnskylardoeseverything I recognize your claim that you were "out" to your fiance from the "beginning", and I fully hope that's the truth. If you're both truly happy, that's wonderful. My comment was made toward the males watching, in general: You may serve as something of a "cautionary tale" for them.
See, being as forward as you (allege to) have been with your fiance is not how all women are; There are women (and I'd wager the overwhelming majority, actually) who would intentionally keep such feelings a secret, then springing them on the man when he was locked into the relationship. You may - by some _astounding_ coincidence - be the possibly singular exception, but that doesn't prove the rule.
I disagree with the whole "nonbinary" concept, in its entirety, but I do still hope you both truly love each other -- I'm not against that. I also appreciate your hope that I "find someone who makes [me] feels as loved and accepted as he makes [you]." It's a kind thing to say, especially in this comment section full of people seemingly attacking you. I doubt that's most commenters' intent here; I think most people just believe that they would feel "betrayed" in this situation, not fully understanding the dynamic you and your fiance have privately. It may be ignorance; it's certainly bias... but not everyone who disagrees with you - including myself - is against _you specifically._ I loathe of the possibility of this ever happening with a woman I proposed to, so it's difficult for me to accept it, even for others. That doesn't affect your love for one another, however, and I'm allowed my opinion, and the expression of that opinion.
If you read back my original comment, while _referring to you,_ it wasn't _directed at you._ You couldn't possibly understand the process a man goes through trying to find the "right woman", anyway. It would be like ME trying to tell YOU what it's like being "nonbinary". Again, and most importantly, if you two are happy with each other, then I'm happy for you.
As an aside -- even though we're, like, "internet enemies", now: You have fantastic grammar, punctuation, and diction. Most would fail to even recognize that, but not I. Good on you. 😄
Same here, I can't believe it. This is so fucked up, poor guy
I was raised Catholic and despise this choice of lifestyle. At the same time, though, I have to respect people's choices.
Thank you for having that respect. The Bible says love thy neighbor and love the sinner, that's always been my belief. Or at the very least accept everyone's right to individuality. Thanks again for the respectful take
How many other channels did you try before this one.
I have had multiple. I had one in childhood, one in early teens, one in later teens, and now this one in my twenties.
If youtube channels is what you are referring to
You went from crying at the ring your fiance gave you to blowing his heart out with a hand cannon
I've been out to my fiance for years. He knew when he proposed I was genderfluid/nonbinary lmao. It's the rest of the world I wasn't out to yet
Right? Used to be such a sweet girl. Now it doesn't even think it's female anymore.
GIRL what about your fiancé?
My fiance has known for years. It was the rest of the world that did not. He loves me all the same because I am just the same as I was. I've always been this way, it took a long time to come to terms with. I judged myself and hated myself for being this way, but I am done with that. I am genderfluid, and I am me.
@@autumnskylardoeseverything wtf 💀
You can judge all you like, you can disagree with how I present myself, but that does not mean my experiences are invalid or stop existing. Educate yourself on Trans and Nonbinary experiences.
Hopefully he ditches her while he still can.
@@autumnskylardoeseverything woman u're ill
As long as you happy with yourself. You and your fiancé love each other thats all it matters. Thats great he known before he proposed. Love has no limits. Be proud of who you are.
Thank you for such a kind and loving comment
@@autumnskylardoeseverything you definitely welcome
Thats horrible to what happened to the victim, but i still stand on there is only 2 genders, but this bullying harrasment is not the way.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!! GET A LIFE!
I'm lucky to have one. Nex is not. And thousands upon thousands of others have passed from similar circumstances, all due to gender identity. If someone else's identity bothers you so much, maybe the problem lies with you rather than them
@@autumnskylardoeseverything If been to thirty funerals in my life time. twelve I could not bring my
self to go. Did you give a darn about me. Sorry if I don't any sleep. You ain't important enough te me.
*Fake hate/ troll accounts* ☝️
@@JulsLittleBeirutAnarchy I'm a Punk from 1976 LA Sunset blve. Whiskey A Go Go... I am not a troll young'en
lol /vomit
Take a good look in the mirror. I'm out and am the happiest I've been in a long time because I no longer am hiding myself. If my happiness brings you disgust, that has more to do with you than me.
@@autumnskylardoeseverything"and to prove how happy I am, I'm going to announce it to the world while trying desperately to justify my stance and position while also claiming to not care what others think of me. At the same time I will also respond to comments with the same vapid bullshit that I pulled from a Google generated list of responses"
So pretty & nice voice ❤❤💋💋
Very kind of you 😊
My pleasure 💋💋
So am i🏳️⚧️ a transgender supporter❤ and a lover of both women and transgender women 😊 I am so proud of you autumn skylar❤
Thank you so much
@@autumnskylardoeseverything we support you
Why are you proud?
@theincrediblefella7984 pride of all humans and sexes what are you?
A Neanderthal of ignorance?
DONT YOU EVER EVER QUESTION ME LIKE THAT AGAIN!!!!
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We need more light about each other. Light creates understanding, understanding creates love, love creates patience, and patience creates unity.
Malcolm X
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Wtf are these cult symbols you're throwing out?
@@theincrediblefella7984 they are not cult symbols!
@@mm72213then you will answer my questions. Or you will remain silent until I give you permission to speak.
Nex Benedict threw water at another student which started the fight. Their death was later revealed to be not related to the fight
Their death was related. Even if they did not die from injuries sustained, it is then likely it was suicide a direct result. Throwing water does not deserve 3 vs 1 attack especially slamming their head against the ground repeatedly. We have not recieved the autopsy report, just have heard from police who have proven useless in this situation. They blamed Nex, as you do, and it is disgusting
@@autumnskylardoeseverything okay white saviour every time the police do something you don’t have to call them useless. They were rushed to the hospital and just had a cut and bruise. No need for police
@@autumnskylardoeseverything whenever indigenous people die you make this 100 times bigger than it is. We have actual mmiw’s and murdered indigenous women and 2spirit people yet I don’t see you utter a single word about that
@WhatsUp-nx1hf I am confused about what you are speaking about. Nex was indigenous and 2spirit and Lost their life. I failed to mention this in the original video as it wasn't released until later and thus I changed my description to match this. I also have constantly shared about the murdered and missing indigenous women on my other social media platforms. You are inferring things based on no evidence
@@autumnskylardoeseverything oh really? I can’t see anything on them. Your a yt saviour who believes everything our evil western media puts out
Jesus this comment section is half filled with folks who choose to hate/fear what they don't understand. I'm glad you felt you were able to come out, though the situation that triggered your decision to do so is terrible. I hope you aren't letting the assholes below effect you. You are your authentic self way more than they are.
Thank you so much. Luckily I've gotten used to hate comments and it doesn't bother me, but rather I keep commenting back so anyone in a similar position to me sees that they don't have to take that BS. Thank you for your love and support, I'm happy to be out about my identity 😊
Nobody fears transgenders or "they/thems" lol
Not a single one. These people do nothing to scare us. They simply inconvenience us with their stupidity and the fact that they make this their whole personality. Or use it to get attention, like this video.
"thankfully this comment section is full of people who understand how reality works"
I fixed your comment for you.
@@autumnskylardoeseverythingdeleting comments is cowardly and you will cease this behaviour immediately. I know for a fact it's you because none of them are comments that would be held by TH-cam (I have a lot of experience figuring that shit out). And they're all comments calling out your foolishness. Rather than responding, like you claim to be so brave to do, you delete them and run away lol
Don't worry autumn skylar
You got a friend who cares
I'm like you I'm different
And I'm proud to be different ❤
Everyone is different. You're not special just because you're different. You're not her friend, you're some random asshole on the Internet who she doesn't know, will never know, and doesn't care about.
As long as you believe in God, it matters not what your gender or sexuality is. That is all I have to say.
lol
You can be whatever you feel. I just hope it isn't at the expense of a future with your fiance. Happiness together is just as good as self happiness.
If my fiance did not accept me for who I was, he wouldn't be my fiance. When I say that, what I mean is that he knew long before that proposal how I felt. I came out to him about my experiences years ago. Happiness in a relationship is also reliant on self happiness, you can not trade one for another. I appreciate that you think what you are saying is helpful it actually furthers the narrative that people such as myself have to mold ourselves into people we aren't to recieve love. The fact you jump to the assumption my fiance isn't okay with this, as if that changes who I am inside, is an unfair jump to make. No one should ever have to hide who they are because someone else is "uncomfortable" with who they are. He accepts me and loves me unconditionally. If he judged me for being genderfluid that would be a conditional love, and no one should ever have to be in a conditional relationship. There is nothing wrong with me. The most important thing is that I am honest with myself and happy within myself. Otherwise I could never be truly happy. I hope every single person on this planet can live a life authentic of who they are and not be afraid of being rejected, just like I am lucky enough to do with my fiance.
@autumnskylardoeseverything You misunderstand, I wasn't saying you should mold yourself to his liking. I was actually implying more that I hope your position doesn't change your want to marry him. I wasn't really implying that he would take issue with who you are. The proposal was very touching, and I saw a man who loved and accepted you for who you are unconditionally. Why would I think that he would take issue with your gender identity??
Could you be a tad bit on a hair trigger defensive? Maybe. I get it, other folks on here aren't exactly being kind. I assure you, I wasn't being condescending.
@@jessemoore7081 it can sometimes be hard to get meaning over text. I jumped to the conclusion I did because the majority of comments I get are asking if my fiance is OK with this or saying my fiance should leave me, on a video that had nothing to do with him, so when he was brought up again I jumped to the defense
@@autumnskylardoeseverything No worries. If you're happy and he's happy and you're both happy together with big dreams, then absolutely the best of luck for you both. That's all that matters. Honestly, I wouldn't even concern myself with anyone else about what they think. You two are good to go to live your lives on your terms.
I just watch some vids on your old channels, how did such a breathtakingly beautiful young woman turn into a delusional them/they/it thing. My heart aches with the deepest of sorrows for you poor husband.😢
I was always this way. The entire time you were actually watching someone who doesn't identify as a woman! That must be so hard for you, probably gonna need a lifetime of therapy to get over this right?
I may not always agree with you, but Autumn you are right on about this situation- thanks
The other student survived because maybe they didn’t provoke them
Awesome 👍
Why is It awesome? I always ask your kind these questions but none of your cult ever seems to have proper answers.