Dealing with Body-Shaming Moms, Activism Roots, Imposter Syndrome | Jameela Jamil: Ask Me Anything
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ต.ค. 2024
- In this episode of her AMA series, Jameela gives advice on overcoming the long-lasting trauma of family body shaming, what it's like to watch herself on camera, how she got started in her activism, and her experiences with imposter syndrome.
ABOUT THE SERIES
Jameela answers questions from her followers for this unfiltered series, 'Ask Me Anything.'
CREDITS
Producer: Sophia Jennings
DP: Maria Rusche
Editor: Kieran Coyne
Assistant Editor: Louisa Phillips
GFX: SocialQ Agency
Filmed at TH-cam Space NYC.
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Founded in March 2018 by Jameela Jamil, I Weigh is a community allyship platform built to share ideas and stories that ultimately mobilize activism. Growing beyond our original Instagram community, we now offer a place for original content that explores social issues that stem from mental health to climate change to the representation of marginalized groups. Through this powerful content we’re committed to breaking down different stereotypes in the world; teaching each other how to practically and effectively use our time and energy to make actual change both in our own communities and globally.
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“People who feel bad about themselves make bad decisions” so true
I HAVE NEVER HEARD A CELEBRITY SAY THEY WERE BAD AT SEX. i am choking. I love you Jameela!!!!!
@viking song, ummm yes you're right, she is so not a famous person with a huge following who works in entertainment, o wait-
I can't believe she said that!
The number of times I've heard female singers talking or singing about how amazing they are in bed would make me feel self conscious and like a loser. This is the first time a woman I look up to is being honest about herself in this topic. I love her so much!
Well from a guy's point of view, there no such thing as bad sex. But with that said, it is amazing how down to earth this lovely beautiful woman is. And now that I have found out what all she has gone through and how she wants to help others, it makes her more beautiful.
"this is a body that has to get me from a to b and do what i want.
and if i choose to , i can dress it up in colourful, fun, arty things.
but beyond that, it's just a body that is here to support my brain.
and my brain is the thing that matters the most to me."
YES. just YES.
"I reserve the right to protect myself"
What a goddamn powerful statement
*I didn't sleep with anyone to get it. Because I'm not very good at sex. That would've not gotten me the job.* 😂 😂 😂
She’s so beautiful, inside out, I love listening and watching her
I honestly hope that I don’t ever body shame my future children, despite having endured body shaming from my own mother. She grew up rather thin and didn’t start gaining more weight until after having kids. She would go back and forth between being on weight watchers or trying some kind of new diet trend and tried as much as she could to instill in me that I should be “healthy and active.” I do resent her behavior towards my body and how I choose to approach my health since it doesn’t reflect the standards of diet culture. She might feel that it is some kind of moral failing on her as a parent that her children aren’t perceived as “healthy” just because we carry more fat and weren’t as
active in sports when compared to other people, especially other family members. And with some family weddings coming up, including my brother’s, she has already started her “let’s lose weight together” talks, even though I do have my own routine that I follow to keep my body feeling good and I don’t need any added stress of worrying about what others think about my weight.
I cannot properly express how much I fucking love and appreciate Jameela Jamil. I am so grateful that she uses her vulnerabilities and experiences to speak out for others, and that she actively works to make our world more equitable.
Beauty is only skin deep. But looking at the totality of this woman trying to help others, her beauty is to the core.
Jameela, you are truly inspirational!
I am seriously love you so much Jameela! Your podcast is something I listen to almost everyday, and I learnt a lot of things thanks to you and other incredible activists. Love love love you and please, as long as you would want, NEVER shut up about how toxic it is that the media and fashion industry is making women feel about their body
Her tips how to deal with imposter syndrome are my favourite!
Jamila, you said something really memorable for me on Trevor Noah's show. You said that had you experienced a tremendous amount of shame in your feminism journey, you wouldn't have become the person you are today. I have never thought of that before I saw you on that show and it has been revolutionary for me. Now I know how atrocious shame can be in individuals. Thank you, I respect you and appreciate you so much!
I remember you from your T4 days and I don't recall you being shit! Also, I love your take on impostor syndrome, when I first started my 'career job' I thought it would go away at some point, but I'm finally learning to accept I will always feel it. From now on I will try and look at it through the lens of 'hehe I'm getting away with it', rather than 'oh no I don't belong'!
Wow. Just wow. Glad I watched this. Loved the imposter syndrome trick.
Love you 💕 I’m a student dealing with imposter syndrome in the 3rd year of my medical degree! Thanks for talking about what you talk about. It’s fantastic to see increasing representation of South Asian women in the mainstream media, especially when the representation takes your form! You’re lovely!
Your work truly inspires me to continue educating myself and the ones around me and it also makes my recovery journey easier and for that I thank you!
Thank you so much for making for making this video. I've been body shamed for almost everyone in my life and I'm still carrying that inside my mind and it really has ruined my personality and my mental health. And most of that body shaming has been done by my own family members and friends and it hurts man. It seriously does.
I can't believe how perfectly you put into words what I want everybody in my family and friends circle to know! THANK YOU!
Thank you for talking about these issues Jameela, I have a thyroid disease and weight has always been an issue. Parents should never shame their children. I too hate hearing/seeing myself. Sending love and light - again - thank you for spreading kindness.
Thanks to you and iWeight the unintentional body shaming my family does not affect me that much, but I behave like a lioness for my sisters. Thank you for helping me to help them. ❤❤❤
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. No one is allowed to talk about my body, especially family. I won't tolerate any further abuse and will be having a very serious conversation with my controlling mother. THANK YOU!
She’s literally one of the most gorgeous women I’ve ever seen I can’t believe people treated her so badly
You make the world a better place, thank you!
Thank you so much for everything you do
I've got a grandma whose constant focus in our interactions was how much I weigh/how heavy I look. It's taken me a really, really long time to A) get enough understanding of her to get that in her own warped worldview weight & looks are so important she is probably actually thinking she is being helpful by (only) commenting on how I look so much. B) develop security in asserting that other's opinion on my physical appearance (and also the part of my thoughts that developed due to/in anticipation of outside judgement) was gonna rank really low on my goals scale and rather I would strive for having a healthy body & mind. And who would have thought - my way really works better. I do have a side goal of losing a bit of weight (bc I'm in the adipositas-range and as that is statistically associated with adverse physical & mental health outcomes I would like to get out of there), but I do check in with myself to make sure I don't get my appearance/weight tangled up with any weird idea of worth, but rather it stays a self-set goal as it is supposed to.
My father used to body shame me. He also would sexually harass me. Needless to say once I realized what he was doing was abusive and he didn't want to change I've cut him off to maintain my barriers and my own mental health.
Congrats for cutting him off!
@@Belacroix5 Thank you!
so proud of you, sometimes cutting off family members is the only thing you can do
Fuck. I love everything you're saying. We need more unapologetic role models like you who are speaking on their experiences while empowering the younger generation. I'm 28. I'm a minority. I've suffered with body issues my whole life. And I'm a recovering people pleaser. I have finally setting boundaries with the people around me and I love not giving a flying fuck what people think. ❤️
wow, I really needed to hear this. Thank you ❤
You're such an amazing person Jameela !!
I love you listen to you speak.. Not just because you have a lovely diction but also there's so much power and knowledge in your words.
Love from India
There was an ad for Nutrisystem on this video, tf! It literally highlights what Jameela was talking about
Your thoughts on imposter syndrome....I've just got my bachelor's and now I feel like I'm more unqualified than before I began the program......which is strange but it has been preventing me from wholehearted apply and looking for jobs which caused me to start this journey. lol. Thank you!
Thank you! Great video!
Great video! Thank you!
"I decided that is not allowed to dictate if I should still go foward, I look at impostor syndrome as a challenge, you know it doesn't matter if I should deserve to be here or not , I'm here now let's see how happy I can be and how much I can learn"
The body-shaming question had a very powerful answer and I hope it helps someone that is struggling.
She is my favourite now
Love your videos. Your personaility is cool and i love how outspoken you are ❤❤❤
I like waking up and watching her vids 💜 nourishes the mind.
I struggle with imposter syndrome at my own achievements and your perspective on it has just made me giggle! I shall take it upon myself to giddily laugh at what I've gotten away with instead from now on! Thanks J xx
Thank you for this 💛🌻
I needed to hear this. Thank you 💞
I love you! You are such an inspiration and you are essential. 🤗
Truth that everyone needs to hear👏🏻
This is so true!! People are definitely sick, society needs to change Now👊
You are my role model!!! Love from India🌻🌻
Your speaking facts to be honest ❤️
This is the best!!
i, too, look up to an actress, radio presenter, model, writer and activist when it comes to health advice.
i was pretty much neutral about my body until my mother started shaming me. i was borderline anorexic at age 12 because she criticised my stomach constantly, and i'm still not good about my body years later. i think about how different my relationship with my body would be if it were for her, and simply put, a lot better.
I really enjoy watching your videos because at every single one I learn something new.
I would like to suggest you invite Little Mix girls on your channel since they are really big advocates about women's rights, lgbtq, mental health, bullying & rasim in the music industry & in the world generally.
So please consider contacting them 🙏🥰
True!!! That's a great idea!
Love Jameela
thank you for this
I love this.
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH
My body id here to get me to point a to b....to carry my brain...it doesn't have to please me.
That. We need that out there. On shirts, and billboards, in the media! For men, and women, boys, and girls, for all the people who exist.
What an effing fabulous video
My mum not only body shamed me but insisted that I ate more food than I wanted to. Seriously fucked up! When she was about to start the same thing to my daughter, I put my foot down. I wouldn't allow her to do that to my lovely girl.
Just here to say i fucking love u and stay doing what r u doing!!!!!!!!! U r so right about body shaming i could so relate to it
I have told my mom off of for telling me what to eat and what not to eat or drink.
Whenever I ate more food than my mom thought I should she would always say: “do you want to end up looking like me?” (Bc she’s large) and now I don’t eat unless I’m really hungry and feel like I’m going to pass out
I absolutely love The Good Place, but I’m a fan yours because you as an actual person are awesome. （╹◡╹）♡
Hey, I’m a Big fan, hugs from Brasil 🇧🇷
The fact that my whole family shamed me and I developed anorexia and body dismorphia teaches me that my next generation of my family shouldn't face it let them be whatever they want to be .
Her advice and style of expression is like 1 on the only ones that apply is reality.
Is that kamillahs sister?!?!?!
What are your thoughts on the request for images of the applicant with resumes/CVs?
I love this lol
my best ever crush
❤️☮️..
♡
I love this badass 💞
make a podcast with Marina Diamandis
❤️❤️❤️
Did she have a modeling career? I love her accent
What is imposter syndrome?
What if your Mum laughs at you/makes excuses, when you tell her she's making your heart hurt?
Wow
Is anyone else seeing a diet add in the middle of this 😜😢
Is it just me or is this partnership a bit strange? Iweigh is about humanization of the body and playboy the opposite?!
You should have Billie eilish on the show!
Why is she always posting fashion pictures on social media if she hates looking at herself? Nothing about her adds up.
Fat shaming is bad but fat acceptance is equally as bad.
"Exercising more than is good for your body." 🤣🤣🤣 Please stop giving terrible, life threatening advice Jamil.
I'm confused about what your issue is with this quote?
@@Selfsewsunday There are many people who are oblivious to the fact that what they believe is healthy fits the confines of body dysmorphia, muscle dysmorphia, bigorexia and other forms of obsessive-compulsive and addictive behavior with respect to their appearance and concepts they believe to be "healthy", when in fact they are detrimental to their health. They are so obsessed about working out, subscribe to mantras such as "no pain, no gain" and eat unhealthy diets in an effort to produce a physical appearance which might satisfy their inherent goal and depiction of what a healthy, fit human body looks like. Anyone else who doesn't subscribe to their skewed version of reality is considered radical and unhealthy.
She really needs to work on her self if she has body dysphoria. She seems like a bundle of contradictions
She's saying that she doesn't want anyone else to experience it. It's an admirable goal and she's wonderful and I look up to her.♥️
YUCK... can’t stand this Jammeel fraud!
Anita White shh