Yes we are really can your spirits I wonder if I’ve been on your channel before. I have a clutter problem, an overweight problem and here I am, and here you are! ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻
I'm so glad I found your video you sound like me you spoke on things I went through when trying to get motivated at others videos. I to need to get honest with myself and addictions mine is alcohol and salt and they are EXTREMELY harmful for my health bcaz I have medical issues. It's very difficult but hearing your story encourages me! Your advice I can actually use bcaz I thought to do those things but didn't know it would work,so tomorrow I'm going to start my journey! Thank you for your advice God bless you!🥰
All great advice!!! 1. Get honest with yourself. Know what foods are your triggers...the foods that you're addicted to, etc 2. Get organized. Figure out tools/plan u need 3. Commit to your plan...whatever it is 4. Know your "why". Make a list of why you're doing it 5. Have healthy foods readily available 6. Eat at home 7. Keep it simple. Find things u like n keep on repeat 8. 72-hour rule. 1st 3 to 7 days withdrawal n pain expected. (Ex. Headaches, anxiety, etc) 9. Have a support system 10. Practice extreme self care
This is HANDS DOWN the BEST video I've ever watched regarding taking steps to really lose weight. I identify with you sis! 💯. I weigh about 250, I'm 5'6 and sugar and flour are my triggers! I plan to re-watch this video every day until I finally feel like I have the consistency and momentum going to FINALLY get off the weight loss hamster wheel! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! 💖
He Jamie...just seeing this video and your comment for the first time today (Sept 20).... Question, you posted 3 months ago.... have you lost weight? What did you implement? Totally curious about the last 3 months. I, too, am 5'6...and have MUCH to lose. Thank you kindly and I wish you the best:)
My wake call was when I got on the scale. I hit the number I never wanted to see which was 365. That was it! I have since lost 145. I have another 45 to go. But I am going to get there. And I am 58. My problem was I wasn't eating enough. Went on the Micheal Thurmond diet. And its been my best friend. Granted when you look up the diet. It seems very hard. But Its not. Yes I had to tweak it a little. I eat fish and chicken. I can't have meat. Do to Arthritis. But I love the diet. Like yours, you eat real food. Only if I eat chicken I can have a little starch. If I do eat meat then I add veggie's. It was 90 pounds in 4 months, just to start. Also eating every 2 hours. The rest came off after. The main thing is "Ya gotta do what makes your body happy." But by the way, You look wonderful. You have such a pretty face. You don't look a day over 27. God Bless! Have a great day!
congratulations diane how inspiring!! good luck with the last 45...i have been holding steady but planning on releasing another 20 at least. God Bless!❤️❤️
Hi Carla! I just stumbled across your video today and so glad I did. I'm in my late 50s and while (thankfully) I am not addicted to flour at all, can take it or leave it -- I AM addicted to sugar and fat! e.g. Coffee Hagan Daaz Ice Cream is my downfall. OR 72% dark Ghirardelli chocolate mixed up with plain almond butter . . .I fool myself (sort of) by thinking that the dark chocolate and almond butter is a "healthy" treat but when I eat 900 calories of that while watching tv at night, THAT IS NOT HEALTHY. Like you said, I need to get honest. I can do great during the day, eat healthy and delicious salads with some protein, a few healthy nuts, lots of water. . . . But night hits and here I go with the additional 900-1000 calories, which then puts me over where I need to be to lose weight by 500 calories or more. Thanks for the video and I'll be watching more. I'm also starting a declutter, can't wait to see those videos, too. Thank you!
I absolutely needed to watch this video. I watched it more than once! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I actually made it to the treadmill today and walked briskly for 30 mins. I wanted to go longer, but thought -baby steps! I don’t want to get injured and lose my hunger for fitness. I broke my foot years ago and it made me quit running and eating healthy. I feel a renewed sense of self worth and your videos have been helping me in my journey. ❤️
Dina wow that means so much to me! I love that these videos are connecting me with other women who can relate to this journey!! One day at a time and one baby step at a time we just have to keep taking amazing care of ourselves bc we are worth it!! I did my walk this morning too. ☺️❤️
OMG how dare she say that! I know the feeling too well...I hate that people feel so self entitled to say comments like that...I commend you for rising above it all and taking your life in your own hands. Love the advice of being honest with yourself....sometimes thats the hardest part. You have such good energy...you are light....whoever that EX is... HE & his family are MISSING OUT LOL!!!
@unique whimsy what, really? Was the aunt obese, herself? I didn't hear her say that. She doesn't sound very nice, or socially aware, but honestly, how do you know that she herself is obese. You are like these people who claim that people who bitch about others do it because they are "jealous". When jealous and nasty are simply not the same thing.
2/1/2023…Enjoyed your video!! I recently did a 14 day challenge with no sugar and no empty carbs and boy am I thankful..it easily turned into a lifestyle change. Like you said once you get over the first 72 hours it gets easier. I no longer even crave sugar. It was done cold turkey so most definitely can be done! I leaned on my faith in Jesus for willpower, by his grace and his grace alone I’m healthier and happier 🙌🏾🙌🏾
BOSS LADY!!! And you're gorgeous too....My weight gain stems from insomnia, not being able to adapt a healthy sleep pattern for a very long time, military, night shifts, totally sleep compromised....I'm working on myself right now on a very serious level....Thanks for the inspiration ❤️
Idk if this will help you, but it helps me. Lemon balm tea at bedtime. Menopause wrecks having with sleep. You can order it online if you can't find it in a store.
In case it's helpful to anyone, I saw a sleep specialist and was shocked to learn that getting early morning sun (a common sleep tip) can actually *backfire* when first trying to change a very late sleep schedule (e.g. switching from night shift to day shift, or just routinely staying up late). He actually advised me to wear sunglasses and a hat if I have to go somewhere early during the transition! Also, melatonin timed wrong or at too high a dose can backfire. These are some things that help me: - being outside for dusk fall/sunset if possible (a zeitgeber that naturally releases melatonin) - stopping stimulants (caffeine, ADHD meds...) at your personal sweet spot so you're not wired at bedtime - physical activity so body craves sleep The *excellent* tip I don't do regularly even though I KNOW how much it helps: - waking up at the same time every day within about 30 minutes even on weekends - creating an *enjoyable* wind-down routine #TemptationBundling - setting a get-ready-for-bed alarm - stopping screens (TV, phone, computer) 60 minutes before bedtime - If thoughts keep you up: * Data dump to-dos earlier in evening to get them out of head before bedtime * Keep a notepad by the bed to jot things down * Assure yourself you can think about things tomorrow * Try a mindfulness/relaxation technique like deep breathing (counting the inhale, and making exhale a bit longer) * Learn a poem and mentally recite it 'til you fall asleep to distracts from thoughts Can learn a new one if/when it become too familiar to be distracting - track bed time, wake up time, and estimated sleep - keep a Metacognition Log of what helps or hinders - give yourself credit for every effort to improve sleep - notice the *positive* effects of your efforts - *REWARD* yourself for doing behaviors to improve sleep : - ) 😟🌄😎🗓✍🚴♂🌘😌😴🌄😃
Omg, you talking about your sugar addiction is EXACTLY how I am. I think about it nonstop and it’s exactly how you described. Wow. I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I look so puffy and i am extremely uncomfortable. Sugar is like a hard drug!
New subscriber here - how can you have only 6000 subscribers?!? Your content and delivery is impeccable. You have such a great voice and demeanor. You’re a lot younger than me (I am 70), but I feel like we can be friends! I, too, I am on a healthy eating track. Sugar for me had the same negative affects - and once I start, I need to eat it all. One thing I noticed is my ankles don’t swell up and my skin generally looks better without all that sugar. And thank you for making a point about eating full fat. Fat fills you up and keeps you satisfied. No fat/no fat foods just add a lot of sugar to make them taste like something. 🌷
Oh susan you are the best! Yes, I relate to the swelling too. Sugar just wreaked havoc on my system, but I have no problem with full fat whole foods. So glad to be off of the sugar crave binge feel awful cycle. Glad you subscribed!❤️❤️❤️
Love how sis put it. About the food addictions. Amen. For me, when my mom left my dad when i was 8, we lived the rest of our time in poverty and food was scarce. As o got older i developed a bad relationship with food where i "hoard" eat whenever there is a meal because subconsciously i think this might be my last full meal for a long while. So i developed the habit of over eating even though i haven't been in danger of not having enough food since I left my moms care. And having a naturally small frame, i never got into fitness or sports so i was already inactive. I thought sweating on purpose was gonna harm me. 😂😂😂 38 years old now, 2 kids later, and so many weight related health complications and mental health issues... im tired of being tired and feeling like life is on slow motion. Worked out and changed some eating habits and lost 6 lbs last month. I see results so i can't stop now. Lifestyle change, not weightloss. That is my goal.
I am 60 this year and I think I am going on Diet #36. (Well it feels that way anyway) And I know I have to lose weight. But having succeeded a number of times in the past, I know how hard and tedious it can be and I find myself putting off starting the process again. Of course now that I've injured my knee, it all of a sudden makes me mad that I didn't start the process before because maybe this injury might not have happened, and now it will be harder to lose weight. I know that I am supposed to love my body regardless - but it is the one positive way of thinking that I just don't believe myself saying. So wish me luck with this new round of eating.
Well you look fabulous and will FEEL fabulous with your new start. I wrote down all the reasons why I wanted to live this new way and they got started once I mentally prepared. I'm sending you lots of luck!! It's not easy but it is worth it!! 💕💕💕
You're gorgeous! And I can absolutely relate, when I was bigger I really thought I was able to hide it because I was wearing baggy clothes but it's only when I started slimming down that I realised how bad it was 💀. Thank you for the tips, very practical.
Your truth is similar to my truth, flour based foods are my weakness! But I’m committed to losing 50lbs and keeping it off. Love that your tips are practical! Btw that aunt was super rude.
I am committed to the same thing! It takes a lot of work to lose weight and I do not want to gain it back. I have more to lose and I’ve plateaued. Going to start a work out plan to take things to the next level. Thanks for watching Presh!!
I was researching flour and sugar addiction and your video came up on my timeline. Spot on. I have struggled with this for most of my life but it intensified during para-menopause and now post. I did this two years ago and felt great but treated it like a diet not a lifestyle. Thanks for the emphasis on writing down what flour and sugar does to me. That was eye opening.
Thank you carla I am on a weight loss journey myself have lost 12 twelve pounds from 268 to 256 I'm 5ft4 and l am still going and even though this not my 1st time I'm realizing stuff I hadn't before and now I'm being very real with myself and I'm about to turn 67 years old and I want to stop all this knee pain I know it's my weight and I want to live a long time and get off blood pressure meds and watch my grandkids have they own families but mostly I want to feel good again and have energy to do things like go the park and even walk to the neighborhood store which not that far which I used to be able to do a decade earlier when I used to weigh far less. At that time I worked and then retired I didn't realize how active I was and how good that was for me. I'm finally changing my lifestyle..get moving and eat right and know what I got to avoid and stay away from. With me it's sugar and I'm an emotional eater. I'm facing it. Thank you Carla.
My mother is your age with knee pain from RA..I wish she would consider losing weight as it was suggested ( as well as not smoking ). She won't listen at all.
Try cod liver oil 1 teaspoon daily and a tumeric supplement....both help with inflammation...my pain has been gone for 3 month now...used to have to take Aleve daily!!!
This is one of the best videos I've seen in a very long time! I struggle with chronic pain, as well. I could relate to just about every single thing you said. I was in my 40's too, 20 years ago!🤩 👩🏼👵🏻
😂😂 well 60’s is the new 40’s!!! Thank you for your beautiful comments! This is definitely my most personal video by far. Chronic pain doesn’t make this journey any easier but we CAN do it!💕💕💕💕
I did similar to what you did. Started right at the beginning of COVID (I mean, where was I going? :-) I was sitting at home) I started at 253 lb and today I am 153 lb. I initially dropped 106 lb so, I am teetering between 148 and 153ish. But I did it slow. I started with low carb eating, cutting out the carbs and the sugar. I really didn't realize that cutting out the carbs meant cutting out sugar. It didn't dawn on me until Easter 2021. I baked a cake to take to an event, and I got ready to cut me a slice and I thought to myself you know I haven't ate a piece of cake in about 8 months.? It was a weird feeling but it was okay because by that point I had dropped almost 50 lb. And like you, I am 5 ft 6 in and I was thinking of getting down to about 170 lb. But in going low carb and cutting out the flour and the sugar I didn't realize that I was fasting as well as I'm not a breakfast eater. Everyday I was eating in a 12-hour window and I just stuck to that. Then 12 hours turned into 14 hours, turned into 15 hours, turned into 16 hours and that's kind of what I'm stuck at. I have an 8 hour eating window, and that puts me at eating about two meals per day. I do not count calories. I used to track but I no longer do that. I wish I could add a picture here for you to see because I've been tracking my progress, but one of my work study students said to me the other day you don't even look the same anymore :-). She wasn't saying it to be rude however I agree I don't. In my lifetime...In my lifetime I have never been a size 8... never. I am very comfortable with the way that I am. I'm simply sticking to what works, and living my new lifestyle. There are people who do not agree with how I have lost the weight, but that's okay. Because, I did not lose it quickly it has taken me approximately 2 years to do so. I feel great, now, I didn't have any health ailments but I like the fact that I can do 10 push-ups or 10 burpees without getting out of breath. Anyway, your story is inspiring. Keep up the great work!
What a great video, I saw you on the Clutterbug podcast, so I'm watching some older videos. I can identify with your experience when a rude person made a negative comment about your weight on Thanksgiving. Something similar happened to me, some woman who I thought was a friend commented on my stomach. I pretty much cut her out of my life, but isn't it ironic that these rude people, in a mean way, call attention to a problem that we end up paying attention to and ultimately address by habit changes. It's like I really dispise these rude people, but at the same time, if it weren't for them, we wouldn't have a seed planted to give us a kick start on a path to better health.
That's wonderful that you were able to get control of your food addiction. Many people don't take it serious, but it's as bad as any other addiction. Best Wishes!
Yes! This video has helped me! Thank you so much Carla! I’m currently addicted to sugar and flour myself and have been almost my entire adult life. 10 years ago I lost 82lbs. I am now 252 again which is my highest weight. I’m so uncomfortable and unhealthy. 12/25/23 was my last day of soda. I was addicted to Mt. Dew! 😬 At the beginning of your video I was thinking to myself “oh man what does she do around the holidays and her birthday when family recipes and favorite desserts are made!?” Ah! I love to cook and bake which I actually haven’t done in over a year because of my narcissistic ex-husband killing everything in me except my physical heart beat. That’s a whole other story! Anyway I’m desperate for a lifestyle change again so I’m going to check out the resources you’ve left for us! Thank you again Carla! I’m loving your channel! - New subscriber. ❤
Yes, keep going! Giving up that soda is a huge first step. I had a narcissistic ex, who completely destroyed my spirit and getting out of that relationship is the best thing that ever happened to me five years ago. Sending courage and success for your journey!!
Ma’am… let me just say T H A N K Y O U for making this video lol. So relatable as a foodie. So relatable to someone who has struggled with weight, lost it, regained it, and now trying to lose and keep it off for good!
You are speaking to my heart all the way across the U.S. in little east TN ❤️. I started my journey in late August 2020 after my son became sick with covid (he was fine,thank God) it just really hit me, I'm so unhealthy, this damn thing could take me out and I was 36 at the time, and just placating my anxiety and worries with massive quantities of sugar and fast food. I've not had fast food since end of August 2020, and I have tried so hard to better my health these past several months. It is true, cut the foods you know you are addicted to 👏👏👏. Love your videos ❤️
Thank you so so much for your message! Giving up the fast food took me forever to do but I remind myself that I was addicted to the drugs in the food!! I would rather have my freedom than to feel ruled by the cravings (which made me crazy and always wanting more). It gets easier over time. Glad to have you here from East Tennessee!!! I have dear friends in Chattanooga💕💕💕
Having gone through a lifestyle change to reverse pre diabetic sugar levels… I can say your tips are so spot on! And maintenance is absolutely a separate things especially through holidays and stressful times. Thanks so much for the video it’s a good reminder to get on track again.
Omg! I’m totally fangirling over you. Have the same issues (sugar-flour ADDICTION), years of yo-yo-ing with my weight due to repeated loss & gain, and I’m also in my 40s. A lot of your tips I have learned the hard way, but it was so refreshing to see another beautiful black woman put out a video with these tips. I cannot do sugar-bread “moderation.” That’s MY truth. It always bites me in the ass in the end, so here I am: back again at the 72-hr knuckle down experience of detoxing from sugar and processed foods. I will take your advice about getting a therapist or coach because while the journaling is crucial and so helpful, it isn’t enough. Sometimes it does help to have another person to talk to.
YES!! We need that support and accountability to manage this issue and it has to be ongoing...that's the thing! It never really goes away...just have to manage it best we can. Hang in there with those withdrawals!!! xo
For me it's carbs or sugar + grain too. I'm not addicted in the way that I can't stop. But they are the ones I gain weight from, when eating them regularly. Bread for example. I'm from Germany, where the breadculture is very big..
You are the only person that to me I can completely relate with. You hit every step with honesty and real life experiences that are my same struggle. It’s not just about the outside physically for a true reinvention of one self. Doing the inward work as well has a complete over all life style benefit. 1st step “GET HONEST” …. I truly feel this will course correct my codependency of putting other first and increase my self worth by putting myself 1st so my self worth won’t be tied up in to how many many I can help. Thank you 🙏
Oh wow I'm so happy the algorithm brought me to you and your channel. I relate to your story so much. I'm 56 and have started my diet today as feeling aches and pains all over struggle walking backache. Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I've just done my big shop of protein and vegetables and salad to get started. Thank you for sharing your story and the hints and tips to help us 🤗
Yes! Those first 3-7 days of change are the hardest! My husband always says I'm a sugar addict.... had to stop it, journey is going well so far. Trimming after 40 is harder for sure.
Thank you!!! its like no one that I know understands the sugar and flour addiction and the struggle and here you say it just perfectly and I can tell that you GET it! thank you for the tips and encouragement!
Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. I have been on my journey for a couple of months. I weigh 153 and my first goal is 135. Im only 5’. Though I carry this weight well from being athletic built but I am not comfortable in my own skin. I am trying to learn the steps of liking myself again. You are so inspiring and uplifting. I truly needed to hear this. Thank you again for your transparency. Blessings to you ❤️. Much love from SoCal.
Great video and great job finding what works for you. I’m an inch or so taller than you and quite a few years older but I too stepped up and made the decision to lose the baggage. I made similar lifestyle changes about a year ago and have lost 65ish pounds so far. I would like to drop another 15 or so but I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished and if where I’m at is as far as I get I’m ok with that too. I’m really enjoying your content and hope I can get my home decluttered using your easy to follow tips.
THANK YOU for posting this video about your experience with sugar and flour ADDICTION, and your journey to overcome them! Also, noting that changes after a certain age are more difficult, but not impossible. Journaling, organizing, and support are some of the things which especially stood out to me. Thanks again, Carla!!
Thank you…I needed to hear that…”be honest with yourself”. That is a hard one! Here I go…thanks for the inspiration! You are beautiful and congratulations on your lifestyle change!
What really intrigues me is what does and doesn't work for each person. The only time I really lost weight was with the calorie counting, it was motivating and such an instant gratification that I kept on it for a while. I don't like exercising especially intensely so watching what I eat is better for me. The IF is naturally how I eat, I hate breakfast and eating in the morning I always have so I use that to my advantage. The thing is what works for others didn't work for me and visa versa. One quote that I really had to learn to accept was, I didn't gain the weight over night it's not going to go away over night. Also it's like you said it has be a permanent decision to focus on being healthy vs a quick fix, which I thought ok I lost weight I'm good and went right back to my old ways and gained it back. I am so in agreement with you on knowing yourself and what the struggle is and how to avoid them. I spent so much time researching and trial and error I think this time I'm ready to start organizing my time and food areas and mind set to treat my body better so I can feel better, looking better will be the cherry on top.
yes i just want to feel amazingly well and wonderful with excellent sleep and good energy throughout the day. lately i love the simplicity of just eating the same three meals day after day. salad for lunch daily and protein and veggies for dinner. simple does it xo
Im sooo happy I came across this video!! I developed such a crazy relationship with food to the point where I’d keep cooking and eating even if I wasn’t hungry. Constantly thinking about my next meal. Just eating and eating, it was scary. I FINALLY have control of my cravings and binge eating with intermittent fasting! It’s been changing!! 🙌🏾
Thank you for this. I am struggling hard to loose weight and keep it off. Everything you said really resonates with me. You’re my favourite TH-camr and I appreciate all of your content.
New to your channel, you are a beautiful soul. Broke all 3 bones in my ankle 2 years ago and my weight has gone up and up since them I needed to here this. Have been getting rid of stuff because when you are my age you do not want to leave that burden for your kids which has helped get me up. But yes i love the sugar and bread. Thank you for doing this video.
Thank you sooo much for your message! Being injured or in pain makes everything harder so I applaud you for wanting to take care of the weight and declutter too! It's not easy but it is SO worth it!! We got this!! 💕💕💕
Hi! Nice meeting you! I'm at the age, too, where I'm trying to totally get rid of things and everything feels so hard. I broke all three bones in my ankle on December 14, 2015. That was a crazy ride! I have fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis, etc. but breaking my ankle and having the surgery really about did me in. I can't believe I found someone else that broke all three bones in their ankle! I didn't even know the ankle consisted of three bones until I broke them all! I, too, don't want to leave all this mess for my kids to deal with. And I do not eat flour anymore because of the gluten in it but I am so addicted to sugar. I have been since I was 14. That's all for now it's the middle of the night I need to shut my eyes. I just ran across the channel in I watched one video which was great but then I noticed a video about weight loss and I wanted to check it out. Take Care, nan
Good morning I am a year late but your video is totally a game changer. I have lost weight and gained it back because I tell myself one donut won't hurt, some rice won't etc but if you are addicted once is all it takes right. I love your honest and vulnerability to be very clear that it's Hard when the food makes you feel great. I wrote down everything you said. I already exercise but the food have me locked almost where at times I just can't break it but I will. Thank you so much. My goal is 150. Have a great day!!
I randomly found your video, and I tried that dress on in Target and looked like that at about 240, it's eerie. I'm on my journey, walking a lot, eating whole foods, stopped take out and sugar, down 20lbs. Keep it up😊
The ex-fiance's Auntie reminds me of the typical African Auntie. They have no problem making comments about one's weight but mostly it's a sign that one is not lacking or living in poverty. I had this one guy's Mum ask me when she 1st saw me what am I eating!? I told her kindly, "EVERYTHING!" 😁
My retort would have been “obviously not as big as your mouth”. Seriously tho, this clip has given me just the motivation I needed. You have addressed your issues very sensibly and have given the best advice by sharing your story. Thank you
With all due respect, my parents are Kenyan and I am proud to say I have African Aunties, Uncles, and cousins. None of them are the same body size. They all struggle with health like anyone in the world. I'm first generation American and have struggled with my weight my entire life. I was also diagnosed with obesity which was caused by my birth control. I bounced back and worked the weight off. Its not one nation that struggles with weight, it's all nations. So no your example is highly triggering for me and disrespectful towards African women.
I just started watching your channel and I love your energy! Something that rings so true on my weight loss journey is the 3 Day Rule- this is absolutely accurate. If you can muscle through those 3 days things will get easier!
1 get honest with yourself. 2 get organized. 3 commit to your plan 4 know what your WHY is. 5 keep foods you like onhand. 6 eat at home as much as possible 7 keep it simple. 8 the first 72 hours will be the hardest. Sometimes it stretches as long as 7 days. 9 use support systems, online or in person and step your way into your new life one step at a time. 10 extreme selfcare. Treat yourself extremely gently, give yourself lots of love.
This is such GREAT advice! I've gained all my weight back after weight loss - and then some :( So starting the journey again is definitely feeling overwhelming. This was exactly the advice I needed to hear :) Thank you for sharing! Xx
This sounds so familiar to me. As a lifelong overeater, I have never been at an ideal weight. You hit it when you talked about sugar addiction. The only time I have ever successfully lost was on the 17 Day Diet, and the doctor who wrote it said first thing is to remove sugar. Those first 3-4 days, my whole system is going crazy. But then I start to feel so much better.
YES!! I've realized I can't be at a healthy weight and eat sugar and flour. I also just felt so crap eating those....buy yes, it only takes a bit of withdrawal to get to the other side. I'm a year off sugar. Might do a video on all the changes and benefits since giving it up!! Thx Debra❤️❤️
Absolutely I've gained weight again after losing a good amount of weight I stop the drinking now I am addicted to sugar but I got this I overcome everything I will overcome this sugar addiction 🙏🏽
This is so similar to myself & my ex's sister in how she treated me after meeting them 3-4 years after we started dating. What your man should of done was stood up & say how beautiful & proud he was to be with you & put the aunt in check. I always hoped for this from my ex, but not once in 13 years together did he ever stand up to any of his friends or family for me, I was always in the wrong. What she did was try to make you feel less than, and I'm sorry, but not acceptable. You stay strong, you are beautiful & you deserve the best life has to offer, every woman should feel this way about themselves!!!
You are so right. My ex would criticize my weight though so he was never gonna stand up for me. Toxic relationship and at the time I was making bad choices to stay. Live and learn…sometimes the hard way!! They have to live with themselves though…not very happy or kind people. And things people do or say are all about them and their insides. My side of the street is clean. Sending you love! 💖
Hi my name Is Dorcas after watching your videos i finally found a channel that I can actually relate to I hit that sub button so fast. I really needed to hear this I'm over 40 and its bout time I start being honest with my self.
I completely understand where you are coming from!!! Thank you for making this video! I finally got my act together this year when my Doctor asked me what the he'll I was doing about my weight!!! That woke me up big time!!! I'm like you where carbs were and are a big trigger for me! Crackers, cookies, anything that had flour, and sugar too!! Stopped it all! I've lost weight, not as much as you but I have a goal and I am going to meet it!! Thank you so much for everything you are sharing!!❤ It helps so much!!❤❤❤
Thank you for watching and for your message Pamela! So glad you can relate. I have more to go as well. I’m just happy the scale is going down (even staying the same) and not up!!
I can relate to the sedation thing, I always can fall asleep so much better once I eat something. Maybe I do need to think about changing my eatting. Issue I have is significant who WON'T hear me when I say STOP getting me thing, food, decor, cloths, snacks, whatever it is, he feels like he's showing me he loves me. Go figure
I got divorced years ago after a very hard but committed relationship on my part. My mother asked me why I was still with him. Part of that change, which was extremely difficult with 4 children, I changed my name. Was Pat, but having felt PATronised and PATted on the head, I used a variation if that birth name. I lost weight and realized how much my situation was affecting me. 56 pounds went. I cannot go back to that point ever again. Thank you Carla. Best wishes from Devon UK
Firstly, homegirl is very pretty, natural beauty. Second, i needed to see this. Im literally watching as i work out. Same weight as the before pix, and i never knew 50lbs could make such a visible difference. This took a huge pressure off me, i thought i needed a 100lbs loss to see a difference because my pre-baby weight was like 150-160. Thanks for sharing sis
This is super helpful. I’ve watched a lot of videos on weight loss and it’s all the same diet strategies, you touch on mental health and focus on your mind set and that is what I needed to hear. Thank you! You did an amazing job explaining everything.
So happy I just found your channel! Finally someone who is speaking my language! I’m ready. Ready to loose this 30lbs my way. You are a breath of fresh air and absolutely beautiful ❤❤❤
I saw your kitchen declutter video today and subscribed immediately! You are an amazing woman, and I admire you for your determination to make your life work the best for you! I look forward to seeing more of your videos! God bless you for sharing your journey with all of us!
I agree with the eating simple foods and meals on repeat. For years, my weight stayed the same, one thing I did was to eat simple and easy meals at home. However after 50 I started to gain a bit every year, but I noticed I moved les and less, so right now I am focusing on moving every day and eating more veggies. I try to keep the sugar to a minimum since I am addicted to sugar. I dont limit the fats too much but I never eat deep fried stuff. I use butter and olive oil , I dont use margarine at all, no hydrogenated oils. You are an inspiration, keep it up. I say it is better to get off the sugar addiction than getting bad health in our later years, it makes for a better life overall.
I just want to say this is probably the best weight loss video I’ve watched! Outlining the steps that helped you was great, i will start with figuring out my “truth”. Thank you!
Thank you for this! What you say resonates so much! You are spot on about being honest with yourself. That is such an important step. Mental health is also a big player. If you don't address the why's of over-eating you set yourself up for failure. I took myself to a psychologist and we've been doing brainwave recursive therapy and Cognitive behavioural therapy and it's done wonders. I totally know that these options are not available to everyone, but even if you do self-analysis you're taking a step in the right direction. In January I had a physical and blood tests done, to find out I had high blood pressure (thanks COVID stress), high insulin (baked goodies I'm looking at you) and elevated cholesterol. My mom had a heart attack a few years back, so all this was the wake up call I desperately needed. Since January I've lost 8kg. It's been slow going and I have another 30kg to go. Sucks being 40+ and trying to lose weight, plus pesky pre-menopausal hormones.... It's not easy but I will get there. Please keep posting these inspirational videos
It’s SO much harder after 40!!! I used to lose weight so fast. But yes you are right on. The inner work is the real work. Mentally emotionally spiritually. The no sugar is just for the physical cravings to go away but I can’t stay away unless I work on all the other stuff. Thanks love!!🙏🏾❤️
Carla, I love your channel. Totally connect with you. This video on weight loss is awesome. Love the tips. I’m writing them in my journal. Which is my new hobby. I’m down 20 lbs. Thanks for sharing your truth. I’m a devout follower. Look forward to hearing more. ❤
Congratulations! That has to feel amazing!! I just started strength training last week, so I’ll definitely be updating on the channel as I incorporate more fitness into my weight loss journey❤️❤️
I absolutely loved this video! You're such a beautiful woman and you're very inspirational. I'm a sugar-addict and I'm going to seek out a support group for accountability!
All these comments about that aunt. This video may not have existed if that comment wasn't made . Now you're better than ever...for yourself. You're the one winning actually. 🙂
You are a beautiful woman now. I lost 12kgs doing intermittent fasting, so you just have to find the right answer for weightloss that works. I also had to reduce sugar, as I love chocolate but I can still have it on weekends without feeling guilty. Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺
this is great! i think one of the most important things is letting go of the 'gotta lose it fast' mentality that keeps us on all the yo-yo diet cycle. small, sustainable lifestyle changes is the way to go! if you can't maintain that change for life, you aren't going to maintain the resulting weight loss for life either. such a simple concept but yet we all seem to struggle with it! right now I'm mostly just focusing on eating real food at home, walking regularly and not denying or restricting to help repair my relationship with food. I'm down almost 30lbs :)
Totally agree! This is the first time I’ve maintained my weight loss for so long!! It doesn’t matter how much longer it takes me to lose the next 10 to 20 pounds because I feel good I like my food and I can fit in my clothes 😄 way better than crash diets and regaining
So inspiring! I know I'll come back to this video again and again and again. Can you do a full-length video on treating yourself like a newborn? Those of us who put everyone and everything before ourselves would love to learn more.
The struggle is real, ups and downs as always for me too. Thank you for posting, you have a calming and warm presence yet motivating and inspiring, thank you. Your videos helped me get through many hard days😘
This makes total sense and came at just the right time. When you said you are a sugar addict, it just clicked for me. That’s my problem. And flour. Also, that food helps me sleep. I stopped snacking 2 nights ago and what a struggle! I was hyper and couldn’t sleep. I just put in a grocery order for real foods. Eliminated the sugar and snack items. I’m going to try to snack healthy and just buy healthy foods I like (limited ☹️). And I’m going to start getting medical massages again to get back into self care. I’m going to try to substitute doing things that make me feel good for eating things that I’m addicted to. Please wish me luck. 🙏🏻
I am wishing you so much luck!! And yes food was a sleeping pill and pain pill for me too. I would use it for everything. When I got off sugar and flour I had so much trouble sleeping that first week I had to take a sleeping pill. I had to do whatever I could to make it through. my body was WIRED without the sedation. The medical massages sound like wonderful self care ❤️😊❤️😊
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I'm so glad I found your video you sound like me you spoke on things I went through when trying to get motivated at others videos. I to need to get honest with myself and addictions mine is alcohol and salt and they are EXTREMELY harmful for my health bcaz I have medical issues. It's very difficult but hearing your story encourages me! Your advice I can actually use bcaz I thought to do those things but didn't know it would work,so tomorrow I'm going to start my journey! Thank you for your advice God bless you!🥰
All great advice!!!
1. Get honest with yourself. Know what foods are your triggers...the foods that you're addicted to, etc
2. Get organized. Figure out tools/plan u need
3. Commit to your plan...whatever it is
4. Know your "why". Make a list of why you're doing it
5. Have healthy foods readily available
6. Eat at home
7. Keep it simple. Find things u like n keep on repeat
8. 72-hour rule. 1st 3 to 7 days withdrawal n pain expected. (Ex. Headaches, anxiety, etc)
9. Have a support system
10. Practice extreme self care
Don't worry ms. Carla more of us love you more than you know!!!!! Keep going , you're making it happen!!!!!!
This is HANDS DOWN the BEST video I've ever watched regarding taking steps to really lose weight. I identify with you sis! 💯. I weigh about 250, I'm 5'6 and sugar and flour are my triggers! I plan to re-watch this video every day until I finally feel like I have the consistency and momentum going to FINALLY get off the weight loss hamster wheel! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! 💖
Thank you Jamie you get it that’s exactly where I started. Make it the top priority and it will happen!!💗💗💗
He Jamie...just seeing this video and your comment for the first time today (Sept 20).... Question, you posted 3 months ago.... have you lost weight? What did you implement? Totally curious about the last 3 months. I, too, am 5'6...and have MUCH to lose. Thank you kindly and I wish you the best:)
My thoughts exactly!!
@Jamie Hannah..Great advice. Watching this video often will definitely help. Thank you for sharing. 💕
Look up Dr. Berg channel
My wake call was when I got on the scale. I hit the number I never wanted to see which was 365. That was it! I have since lost 145. I have another 45 to go. But I am going to get there. And I am 58. My problem was I wasn't eating enough. Went on the Micheal Thurmond diet. And its been my best friend. Granted when you look up the diet. It seems very hard. But Its not. Yes I had to tweak it a little. I eat fish and chicken. I can't have meat. Do to Arthritis. But I love the diet. Like yours, you eat real food. Only if I eat chicken I can have a little starch. If I do eat meat then I add veggie's. It was 90 pounds in 4 months, just to start. Also eating every 2 hours. The rest came off after. The main thing is "Ya gotta do what makes your body happy." But by the way, You look wonderful. You have such a pretty face. You don't look a day over 27. God Bless! Have a great day!
congratulations diane how inspiring!! good luck with the last 45...i have been holding steady but planning on releasing another 20 at least. God Bless!❤️❤️
@@TheCarlaProject Yes 'releasing' that's the best word to use! Thanks. Language is so important
Kudos to you! What an achievement 🎉❤
Hi Carla! I just stumbled across your video today and so glad I did. I'm in my late 50s and while (thankfully) I am not addicted to flour at all, can take it or leave it -- I AM addicted to sugar and fat! e.g. Coffee Hagan Daaz Ice Cream is my downfall. OR 72% dark Ghirardelli chocolate mixed up with plain almond butter . . .I fool myself (sort of) by thinking that the dark chocolate and almond butter is a "healthy" treat but when I eat 900 calories of that while watching tv at night, THAT IS NOT HEALTHY. Like you said, I need to get honest. I can do great during the day, eat healthy and delicious salads with some protein, a few healthy nuts, lots of water. . . . But night hits and here I go with the additional 900-1000 calories, which then puts me over where I need to be to lose weight by 500 calories or more. Thanks for the video and I'll be watching more. I'm also starting a declutter, can't wait to see those videos, too. Thank you!
I absolutely needed to watch this video. I watched it more than once! Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I actually made it to the treadmill today and walked briskly for 30 mins. I wanted to go longer, but thought -baby steps! I don’t want to get injured and lose my hunger for fitness. I broke my foot years ago and it made me quit running and eating healthy. I feel a renewed sense of self worth and your videos have been helping me in my journey. ❤️
Dina wow that means so much to me! I love that these videos are connecting me with other women who can relate to this journey!! One day at a time and one baby step at a time we just have to keep taking amazing care of ourselves bc we are worth it!! I did my walk this morning too. ☺️❤️
OMG how dare she say that! I know the feeling too well...I hate that people feel so self entitled to say comments like that...I commend you for rising above it all and taking your life in your own hands. Love the advice of being honest with yourself....sometimes thats the hardest part. You have such good energy...you are light....whoever that EX is... HE & his family are MISSING OUT LOL!!!
LOL thank you veronica!! You're absolutely right about people feeling entitled to say whatever they're thinking. I was SHOCKED!!
You’re right Veronica, that ex is missing out! I just found this channel and Carla is fabulous! That mean aunt was just talking about herself.
Yeh and at that point her feelings would have been hurt
@unique whimsy what, really? Was the aunt obese, herself? I didn't hear her say that. She doesn't sound very nice, or socially aware, but honestly, how do you know that she herself is obese. You are like these people who claim that people who bitch about others do it because they are "jealous". When jealous and nasty are simply not the same thing.
Are u planning on losing more weight? Or is your current weight/bmi where it should be for your weight and height?
2/1/2023…Enjoyed your video!! I recently did a 14 day challenge with no sugar and no empty carbs and boy am I thankful..it easily turned into a lifestyle change. Like you said once you get over the first 72 hours it gets easier. I no longer even crave sugar. It was done cold turkey so most definitely can be done! I leaned on my faith in Jesus for willpower, by his grace and his grace alone I’m healthier and happier 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Congrats love!
Oh my. I’m so sorry she said that to you. There is never a need to be so cruel to anyone else. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
BOSS LADY!!! And you're gorgeous too....My weight gain stems from insomnia, not being able to adapt a healthy sleep pattern for a very long time, military, night shifts, totally sleep compromised....I'm working on myself right now on a very serious level....Thanks for the inspiration ❤️
Oh yes sleep deprivation is so hard! I'm glad you are working on self care. We are worth it!! Lots of love xoxo
I suffer from insomnia too. Can’t sleep without a sleep aid. It’s awful, been dealing with it for about 12 years.
You are so right. That sleep deprivation is a killer. People always assume you eat so much because of the weight gain.
Idk if this will help you, but it helps me. Lemon balm tea at bedtime. Menopause wrecks having with sleep. You can order it online if you can't find it in a store.
In case it's helpful to anyone, I saw a sleep specialist and was shocked to learn that getting early morning sun (a common sleep tip) can actually *backfire* when first trying to change a very late sleep schedule (e.g. switching from night shift to day shift, or just routinely staying up late). He actually advised me to wear sunglasses and a hat if I have to go somewhere early during the transition! Also, melatonin timed wrong or at too high a dose can backfire.
These are some things that help me:
- being outside for dusk fall/sunset if possible (a zeitgeber that naturally releases melatonin)
- stopping stimulants (caffeine, ADHD meds...) at your personal sweet spot so you're not wired at bedtime
- physical activity so body craves sleep
The *excellent* tip I don't do regularly even though I KNOW how much it helps:
- waking up at the same time every day within about 30 minutes even on weekends
- creating an *enjoyable* wind-down routine #TemptationBundling
- setting a get-ready-for-bed alarm
- stopping screens (TV, phone, computer) 60 minutes before bedtime
- If thoughts keep you up:
* Data dump to-dos earlier in evening to get them out of head before bedtime
* Keep a notepad by the bed to jot things down
* Assure yourself you can think about things tomorrow
* Try a mindfulness/relaxation technique like deep breathing (counting the inhale, and making exhale a bit longer)
* Learn a poem and mentally recite it 'til you fall asleep to distracts from thoughts
Can learn a new one if/when it become too familiar to be distracting
- track bed time, wake up time, and estimated sleep
- keep a Metacognition Log of what helps or hinders
- give yourself credit for every effort to improve sleep
- notice the *positive* effects of your efforts
- *REWARD* yourself for doing behaviors to improve sleep : - )
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Omg, you talking about your sugar addiction is EXACTLY how I am. I think about it nonstop and it’s exactly how you described. Wow. I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I look so puffy and i am extremely uncomfortable. Sugar is like a hard drug!
It is a hard drug and it hurts to come off it. You gotta detox for a week and go through the pain but it gets better💖
New subscriber here - how can you have only 6000 subscribers?!? Your content and delivery is impeccable. You have such a great voice and demeanor. You’re a lot younger than me (I am 70), but I feel like we can be friends! I, too, I am on a healthy eating track. Sugar for me had the same negative affects - and once I start, I need to eat it all. One thing I noticed is my ankles don’t swell up and my skin generally looks better without all that sugar. And thank you for making a point about eating full fat. Fat fills you up and keeps you satisfied. No fat/no fat foods just add a lot of sugar to make them taste like something. 🌷
Oh susan you are the best! Yes, I relate to the swelling too. Sugar just wreaked havoc on my system, but I have no problem with full fat whole foods. So glad to be off of the sugar crave binge feel awful cycle. Glad you subscribed!❤️❤️❤️
Love how sis put it. About the food addictions. Amen. For me, when my mom left my dad when i was 8, we lived the rest of our time in poverty and food was scarce.
As o got older i developed a bad relationship with food where i "hoard" eat whenever there is a meal because subconsciously i think this might be my last full meal for a long while.
So i developed the habit of over eating even though i haven't been in danger of not having enough food since I left my moms care.
And having a naturally small frame, i never got into fitness or sports so i was already inactive. I thought sweating on purpose was gonna harm me. 😂😂😂
38 years old now, 2 kids later, and so many weight related health complications and mental health issues... im tired of being tired and feeling like life is on slow motion.
Worked out and changed some eating habits and lost 6 lbs last month. I see results so i can't stop now. Lifestyle change, not weightloss. That is my goal.
I am 60 this year and I think I am going on Diet #36. (Well it feels that way anyway) And I know I have to lose weight. But having succeeded a number of times in the past, I know how hard and tedious it can be and I find myself putting off starting the process again. Of course now that I've injured my knee, it all of a sudden makes me mad that I didn't start the process before because maybe this injury might not have happened, and now it will be harder to lose weight. I know that I am supposed to love my body regardless - but it is the one positive way of thinking that I just don't believe myself saying. So wish me luck with this new round of eating.
Well you look fabulous and will FEEL fabulous with your new start. I wrote down all the reasons why I wanted to live this new way and they got started once I mentally prepared. I'm sending you lots of luck!! It's not easy but it is worth it!! 💕💕💕
You're gorgeous! And I can absolutely relate, when I was bigger I really thought I was able to hide it because I was wearing baggy clothes but it's only when I started slimming down that I realised how bad it was 💀. Thank you for the tips, very practical.
Your truth is similar to my truth, flour based foods are my weakness! But I’m committed to losing 50lbs and keeping it off. Love that your tips are practical! Btw that aunt was super rude.
I am committed to the same thing! It takes a lot of work to lose weight and I do not want to gain it back. I have more to lose and I’ve plateaued. Going to start a work out plan to take things to the next level. Thanks for watching Presh!!
Yes!! Auntie definitely gets the:
Super Duper Rude Award!! 🥇
Good Golly 😬
@@Nan-59 I wish I could hand her that award 😂
Thank you for this! I gained 50lbs in 7 years. I’m right there with you sugar, flour and just junk.
I was researching flour and sugar addiction and your video came up on my timeline. Spot on. I have struggled with this for most of my life but it intensified during para-menopause and now post. I did this two years ago and felt great but treated it like a diet not a lifestyle. Thanks for the emphasis on writing down what flour and sugar does to me. That was eye opening.
I’m so glad you found my video! And yes my list was so long of all the trouble those foods cause me… mentally physically emotionally. ❤️
I conquer it's a real addiction,going through menopause,l was never a fan of sugar , suddenly she is my best friend .
Thank you carla I am on a weight loss journey myself have lost 12 twelve pounds from 268 to 256 I'm 5ft4 and l am still going and even though this not my 1st time I'm realizing stuff I hadn't before and now I'm being very real with myself and I'm about to turn 67 years old and I want to stop all this knee pain I know it's my weight and I want to live a long time and get off blood pressure meds and watch my grandkids have they own families but mostly I want to feel good again and have energy to do things like go the park and even walk to the neighborhood store which not that far which I used to be able to do a decade earlier when I used to weigh far less. At that time I worked and then retired I didn't realize how active I was and how good that was for me. I'm finally changing my lifestyle..get moving and eat right and know what I got to avoid and stay away from. With me it's sugar and I'm an emotional eater. I'm facing it. Thank you Carla.
This is SO me! Thank you for sharing!! 🥰
My mother is your age with knee pain from RA..I wish she would consider losing weight as it was suggested ( as well as not smoking ). She won't listen at all.
Try cod liver oil 1 teaspoon daily and a tumeric supplement....both help with inflammation...my pain has been gone for 3 month now...used to have to take Aleve daily!!!
You’re gorgeous! You look so much younger… Health over everything is my mantra for my life… Congratulations on your health journey
This is one of the best videos I've seen in a very long time!
I struggle with chronic pain, as well. I could relate to just about every single thing you said.
I was in my 40's too, 20 years ago!🤩 👩🏼👵🏻
😂😂 well 60’s is the new 40’s!!! Thank you for your beautiful comments! This is definitely my most personal video by far. Chronic pain doesn’t make this journey any easier but we CAN do it!💕💕💕💕
I love the way you explain your tips. I had several 'ah ha' moments while listening!! Thank you for sharing your journey!
Your weight story is so close to mine, you got me in tears. Thank you for being so open and honest.
thank you for sharing with me!!❤️❤️❤️
I did similar to what you did. Started right at the beginning of COVID (I mean, where was I going? :-) I was sitting at home) I started at 253 lb and today I am 153 lb. I initially dropped 106 lb so, I am teetering between 148 and 153ish. But I did it slow. I started with low carb eating, cutting out the carbs and the sugar. I really didn't realize that cutting out the carbs meant cutting out sugar. It didn't dawn on me until Easter 2021. I baked a cake to take to an event, and I got ready to cut me a slice and I thought to myself you know I haven't ate a piece of cake in about 8 months.? It was a weird feeling but it was okay because by that point I had dropped almost 50 lb. And like you, I am 5 ft 6 in and I was thinking of getting down to about 170 lb. But in going low carb and cutting out the flour and the sugar I didn't realize that I was fasting as well as I'm not a breakfast eater. Everyday I was eating in a 12-hour window and I just stuck to that. Then 12 hours turned into 14 hours, turned into 15 hours, turned into 16 hours and that's kind of what I'm stuck at. I have an 8 hour eating window, and that puts me at eating about two meals per day. I do not count calories. I used to track but I no longer do that. I wish I could add a picture here for you to see because I've been tracking my progress, but one of my work study students said to me the other day you don't even look the same anymore :-). She wasn't saying it to be rude however I agree I don't. In my lifetime...In my lifetime I have never been a size 8... never. I am very comfortable with the way that I am. I'm simply sticking to what works, and living my new lifestyle. There are people who do not agree with how I have lost the weight, but that's okay. Because, I did not lose it quickly it has taken me approximately 2 years to do so. I feel great, now, I didn't have any health ailments but I like the fact that I can do 10 push-ups or 10 burpees without getting out of breath. Anyway, your story is inspiring. Keep up the great work!
What a great video, I saw you on the Clutterbug podcast, so I'm watching some older videos. I can identify with your experience when a rude person made a negative comment about your weight on Thanksgiving. Something similar happened to me, some woman who I thought was a friend commented on my stomach.
I pretty much cut her out of my life, but isn't it ironic that these rude people, in a mean way, call attention to a problem that we end up paying attention to and ultimately address by habit changes. It's like I really dispise these rude people, but at the same time, if it weren't for them, we wouldn't have a seed planted to give us a kick start on a path to better health.
Maybe if people were honest in a loving way we wouldn’t cut them out of our lives.
That's wonderful that you were able to get control of your food addiction. Many people don't take it serious, but it's as bad as any other addiction. Best Wishes!
truly is just as bad. thank you!
Yes! This video has helped me! Thank you so much Carla! I’m currently addicted to sugar and flour myself and have been almost my entire adult life. 10 years ago I lost 82lbs. I am now 252 again which is my highest weight. I’m so uncomfortable and unhealthy. 12/25/23 was my last day of soda. I was addicted to Mt. Dew! 😬 At the beginning of your video I was thinking to myself “oh man what does she do around the holidays and her birthday when family recipes and favorite desserts are made!?” Ah! I love to cook and bake which I actually haven’t done in over a year because of my narcissistic ex-husband killing everything in me except my physical heart beat. That’s a whole other story! Anyway I’m desperate for a lifestyle change again so I’m going to check out the resources you’ve left for us! Thank you again Carla! I’m loving your channel! - New subscriber. ❤
Yes, keep going! Giving up that soda is a huge first step. I had a narcissistic ex, who completely destroyed my spirit and getting out of that relationship is the best thing that ever happened to me five years ago. Sending courage and success for your journey!!
Love how the side effect of your new life is weight loss. That is awesome!
It's all connected, right!?!❤️❤️
Ma’am… let me just say T H A N K Y O U for making this video lol. So relatable as a foodie. So relatable to someone who has struggled with weight, lost it, regained it, and now trying to lose and keep it off for good!
Amen.
You are speaking to my heart all the way across the U.S. in little east TN ❤️. I started my journey in late August 2020 after my son became sick with covid (he was fine,thank God) it just really hit me, I'm so unhealthy, this damn thing could take me out and I was 36 at the time, and just placating my anxiety and worries with massive quantities of sugar and fast food. I've not had fast food since end of August 2020, and I have tried so hard to better my health these past several months. It is true, cut the foods you know you are addicted to 👏👏👏. Love your videos ❤️
Thank you so so much for your message! Giving up the fast food took me forever to do but I remind myself that I was addicted to the drugs in the food!! I would rather have my freedom than to feel ruled by the cravings (which made me crazy and always wanting more). It gets easier over time. Glad to have you here from East Tennessee!!! I have dear friends in Chattanooga💕💕💕
Having gone through a lifestyle change to reverse pre diabetic sugar levels… I can say your tips are so spot on! And maintenance is absolutely a separate things especially through holidays and stressful times. Thanks so much for the video it’s a good reminder to get on track again.
You look great and 170 is a very good goal.Even at 193 you look awesome way to go!
Thank you! My lowest weight was 140 but that was yearssss ago! 160 might be the lowest I go. Right now I'm a size 12 which feels good! :)
Omg! I’m totally fangirling over you. Have the same issues (sugar-flour ADDICTION), years of yo-yo-ing with my weight due to repeated loss & gain, and I’m also in my 40s. A lot of your tips I have learned the hard way, but it was so refreshing to see another beautiful black woman put out a video with these tips. I cannot do sugar-bread “moderation.” That’s MY truth. It always bites me in the ass in the end, so here I am: back again at the 72-hr knuckle down experience of detoxing from sugar and processed foods. I will take your advice about getting a therapist or coach because while the journaling is crucial and so helpful, it isn’t enough. Sometimes it does help to have another person to talk to.
YES!! We need that support and accountability to manage this issue and it has to be ongoing...that's the thing! It never really goes away...just have to manage it best we can. Hang in there with those withdrawals!!! xo
For me it's carbs or sugar + grain too. I'm not addicted in the way that I can't stop. But they are the ones I gain weight from, when eating them regularly. Bread for example. I'm from Germany, where the breadculture is very big..
Has that commenting ‘lady’ seen you since you lost the weight. Bet she’d be shocked. Your 10 tips are spot on. Thank you.
You are the only person that to me I can completely relate with. You hit every step with honesty and real life experiences that are my same struggle. It’s not just about the outside physically for a true reinvention of one self. Doing the inward work as well has a complete over all life style benefit. 1st step “GET HONEST” …. I truly feel this will course correct my codependency of putting other first and increase my self worth by putting myself 1st so my self worth won’t be tied up in to how many many I can help. Thank you 🙏
Well said!! I’m also healing decades of codependency. It’s worthwhile and my life is getting better all the time ❤️❤️❤️ you’ve got this!!
Carla, you are such a vibe. I have so much peace listening to you.
Thank you so much 🥹❤️
Oh wow I'm so happy the algorithm brought me to you and your channel. I relate to your story so much. I'm 56 and have started my diet today as feeling aches and pains all over struggle walking backache. Sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I've just done my big shop of protein and vegetables and salad to get started. Thank you for sharing your story and the hints and tips to help us 🤗
This is the most honest video ever!!!!
One of the most sensible weight loss videos I've ever seen. Thank you so much for the motivation. Looking forward to seeing your other videos.
Yay! Thank you!❤️
Yes! Those first 3-7 days of change are the hardest! My husband always says I'm a sugar addict.... had to stop it, journey is going well so far. Trimming after 40 is harder for sure.
The very best advise I’ve received in a long time.
Thank you!!! its like no one that I know understands the sugar and flour addiction and the struggle and here you say it just perfectly and I can tell that you GET it! thank you for the tips and encouragement!
Glad it was helpful!❤️
Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. I have been on my journey for a couple of months. I weigh 153 and my first goal is 135. Im only 5’. Though I carry this weight well from being athletic built but I am not comfortable in my own skin. I am trying to learn the steps of liking myself again. You are so inspiring and uplifting. I truly needed to hear this. Thank you again for your transparency. Blessings to you ❤️. Much love from SoCal.
Much love back to you!! Just keep on the journey one day at a time and keep loving YOU!!
This video was worth the 20 minutes. Those 10 tips were so helpful! I took notes! Can’t wait to start my journey. Super inspiring and real video!
Thank you friend you're the best!!
Great video and great job finding what works for you. I’m an inch or so taller than you and quite a few years older but I too stepped up and made the decision to lose the baggage. I made similar lifestyle changes about a year ago and have lost 65ish pounds so far. I would like to drop another 15 or so but I’m proud of what I’ve accomplished and if where I’m at is as far as I get I’m ok with that too.
I’m really enjoying your content and hope I can get my home decluttered using your easy to follow tips.
That is incredible!! You’ve inspired me!!
THANK YOU for posting this video about your experience with sugar and flour ADDICTION, and your journey to overcome them! Also, noting that changes after a certain age are more difficult, but not impossible. Journaling, organizing, and support are some of the things which especially stood out to me. Thanks again, Carla!!
Yes gotta have those structures in place for our support. It’s more difficult but very possible. I’m starting to lose the next 20 right now!!
I am going to start my battle against sugar and white flour tomorrow, thank you for this very inspirational video💖 Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮
Hello in Finland!! On my wish travel list! You can do it!! Every day gets easier and easier (but be prepared for the first week to be tough)!! 💕💕💕
Thank you…I needed to hear that…”be honest with yourself”. That is a hard one! Here I go…thanks for the inspiration! You are beautiful and congratulations on your lifestyle change!
We can do it Cheryl Ann!! Thanks for your beautiful comment!!❤️❤️❤️
What really intrigues me is what does and doesn't work for each person. The only time I really lost weight was with the calorie counting, it was motivating and such an instant gratification that I kept on it for a while. I don't like exercising especially intensely so watching what I eat is better for me. The IF is naturally how I eat, I hate breakfast and eating in the morning I always have so I use that to my advantage. The thing is what works for others didn't work for me and visa versa. One quote that I really had to learn to accept was, I didn't gain the weight over night it's not going to go away over night. Also it's like you said it has be a permanent decision to focus on being healthy vs a quick fix, which I thought ok I lost weight I'm good and went right back to my old ways and gained it back. I am so in agreement with you on knowing yourself and what the struggle is and how to avoid them. I spent so much time researching and trial and error I think this time I'm ready to start organizing my time and food areas and mind set to treat my body better so I can feel better, looking better will be the cherry on top.
yes i just want to feel amazingly well and wonderful with excellent sleep and good energy throughout the day. lately i love the simplicity of just eating the same three meals day after day. salad for lunch daily and protein and veggies for dinner. simple does it xo
Im sooo happy I came across this video!! I developed such a crazy relationship with food to the point where I’d keep cooking and eating even if I wasn’t hungry. Constantly thinking about my next meal. Just eating and eating, it was scary. I FINALLY have control of my cravings and binge eating with intermittent fasting! It’s been changing!! 🙌🏾
Thank you so much for your honesty Carla this is where the magic happens from our honesty to ourselves.
Yes it does thank you so much kaz ❤️
Thank you for this. I am struggling hard to loose weight and keep it off. Everything you said really resonates with me. You’re my favourite TH-camr and I appreciate all of your content.
I'm so glad! Thank you Tiffany!!
New to your channel, you are a beautiful soul. Broke all 3 bones in my ankle 2 years ago and my weight has gone up and up since them I needed to here this. Have been getting rid of stuff because when you are my age you do not want to leave that burden for your kids which has helped get me up. But yes i love the sugar and bread. Thank you for doing this video.
Thank you sooo much for your message! Being injured or in pain makes everything harder so I applaud you for wanting to take care of the weight and declutter too! It's not easy but it is SO worth it!! We got this!! 💕💕💕
Hi! Nice meeting you!
I'm at the age, too, where I'm trying to totally get rid of things and everything feels so hard.
I broke all three bones in my ankle on December 14, 2015. That was a crazy ride!
I have fibromyalgia and osteoarthritis, etc. but breaking my ankle and having the surgery really about did me in. I can't believe I found someone else that broke all three bones in their ankle! I didn't even know the ankle consisted of three bones until I broke them all!
I, too, don't want to leave all this mess for my kids to deal with.
And I do not eat flour anymore because of the gluten in it but I am so addicted to sugar. I have been since I was 14.
That's all for now it's the middle of the night I need to shut my eyes. I just ran across the channel in I watched one video which was great but then I noticed a video about weight loss and I wanted to check it out.
Take Care, nan
Good morning I am a year late but your video is totally a game changer. I have lost weight and gained it back because I tell myself one donut won't hurt, some rice won't etc but if you are addicted once is all it takes right. I love your honest and vulnerability to be very clear that it's Hard when the food makes you feel great. I wrote down everything you said. I already exercise but the food have me locked almost where at times I just can't break it but I will. Thank you so much. My goal is 150. Have a great day!!
Good Luck
I randomly found your video, and I tried that dress on in Target and looked like that at about 240, it's eerie. I'm on my journey, walking a lot, eating whole foods, stopped take out and sugar, down 20lbs. Keep it up😊
omg that is crazy!! similar paths for sure. yes keep going feels amazing!!❤️
The ex-fiance's Auntie reminds me of the typical African Auntie. They have no problem making comments about one's weight but mostly it's a sign that one is not lacking or living in poverty. I had this one guy's Mum ask me when she 1st saw me what am I eating!? I told her kindly, "EVERYTHING!" 😁
I love your response!! Yea I wish I would’ve smiled and said THANK YOU!! 😂😂😂
Just tell her FOOD.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 my uncle told my dad that I "carried my weight well" 😒😳🙄😔
My retort would have been “obviously not as big as your mouth”.
Seriously tho, this clip has given me just the motivation I needed. You have addressed your issues very sensibly and have given the best advice by sharing your story. Thank you
With all due respect, my parents are Kenyan and I am proud to say I have African Aunties, Uncles, and cousins. None of them are the same body size. They all struggle with health like anyone in the world. I'm first generation American and have struggled with my weight my entire life. I was also diagnosed with obesity which was caused by my birth control. I bounced back and worked the weight off. Its not one nation that struggles with weight, it's all nations. So no your example is highly triggering for me and disrespectful towards African women.
I just started watching your channel and I love your energy! Something that rings so true on my weight loss journey is the 3 Day Rule- this is absolutely accurate. If you can muscle through those 3 days things will get easier!
YES!! And it works anytime you need to refresh or restart!! Thank you so much for watching!!❤️❤️
1 get honest with yourself.
2 get organized.
3 commit to your plan
4 know what your WHY is.
5 keep foods you like onhand.
6 eat at home as much as possible
7 keep it simple.
8 the first 72 hours will be the hardest. Sometimes it stretches as long as 7 days.
9 use support systems, online or in person and step your way into your new life one step at a time.
10 extreme selfcare. Treat yourself extremely gently, give yourself lots of love.
This is such GREAT advice! I've gained all my weight back after weight loss - and then some :( So starting the journey again is definitely feeling overwhelming. This was exactly the advice I needed to hear :) Thank you for sharing! Xx
I’ve been there!! You’ll get back. Maintenance is the real challenge ❤️
I saw the words "sugar addiction" and I knew I came to the right place. Subbed!
This sounds so familiar to me. As a lifelong overeater, I have never been at an ideal weight. You hit it when you talked about sugar addiction. The only time I have ever successfully lost was on the 17 Day Diet, and the doctor who wrote it said first thing is to remove sugar. Those first 3-4 days, my whole system is going crazy. But then I start to feel so much better.
YES!! I've realized I can't be at a healthy weight and eat sugar and flour. I also just felt so crap eating those....buy yes, it only takes a bit of withdrawal to get to the other side. I'm a year off sugar. Might do a video on all the changes and benefits since giving it up!! Thx Debra❤️❤️
Yes please do a video about the benefits you’ve enjoyed since changing your lifestyle.
Thanks for your transparency. Chocolate is my addiction, and I am committed to embracing my healthy best life.
Yes to embracing your healthy best life you got this beautiful!!
Absolutely I've gained weight again after losing a good amount of weight I stop the drinking now I am addicted to sugar but I got this I overcome everything I will overcome this sugar addiction 🙏🏽
This is so similar to myself & my ex's sister in how she treated me after meeting them 3-4 years after we started dating. What your man should of done was stood up & say how beautiful & proud he was to be with you & put the aunt in check. I always hoped for this from my ex, but not once in 13 years together did he ever stand up to any of his friends or family for me, I was always in the wrong. What she did was try to make you feel less than, and I'm sorry, but not acceptable. You stay strong, you are beautiful & you deserve the best life has to offer, every woman should feel this way about themselves!!!
You are so right. My ex would criticize my weight though so he was never gonna stand up for me. Toxic relationship and at the time I was making bad choices to stay. Live and learn…sometimes the hard way!! They have to live with themselves though…not very happy or kind people. And things people do or say are all about them and their insides. My side of the street is clean. Sending you love! 💖
Hi my name Is Dorcas after watching your videos i finally found a channel that I can actually relate to I hit that sub button so fast. I really needed to hear this I'm over 40 and its bout time I start being honest with my self.
Hi Dorcas! Thanks for your message. I'm cheering you on!!❤️❤️❤️
I love that, reinventing yourself!!
I completely understand where you are coming from!!! Thank you for making this video! I finally got my act together this year when my Doctor asked me what the he'll I was doing about my weight!!! That woke me up big time!!! I'm like you where carbs were and are a big trigger for me! Crackers, cookies, anything that had flour, and sugar too!! Stopped it all! I've lost weight, not as much as you but I have a goal and I am going to meet it!! Thank you so much for everything you are sharing!!❤ It helps so much!!❤❤❤
Thank you for watching and for your message Pamela! So glad you can relate. I have more to go as well. I’m just happy the scale is going down (even staying the same) and not up!!
Thank for sharing. It's great to see women in their 40s who are trying to maintain / lose weight naturally and conquering the struggle.
I can relate to the sedation thing, I always can fall asleep so much better once I eat something. Maybe I do need to think about changing my eatting. Issue I have is significant who WON'T hear me when I say STOP getting me thing, food, decor, cloths, snacks, whatever it is, he feels like he's showing me he loves me. Go figure
I know that’s tough with people you love… especially food it’s what we used to show love to others. It’s deeply ingrained. ❤️❤️
I got divorced years ago after a very hard but committed relationship on my part. My mother asked me why I was still with him. Part of that change, which was extremely difficult with 4 children, I changed my name. Was Pat, but having felt PATronised and PATted on the head, I used a variation if that birth name. I lost weight and realized how much my situation was affecting me. 56 pounds went. I cannot go back to that point ever again. Thank you Carla. Best wishes from Devon UK
Loved this video. I totally relate to focusing on the lifestyle rather than trying to lose weight. It’s still something I am working on. Thank you 👍🏾
Firstly, homegirl is very pretty, natural beauty. Second, i needed to see this. Im literally watching as i work out. Same weight as the before pix, and i never knew 50lbs could make such a visible difference. This took a huge pressure off me, i thought i needed a 100lbs loss to see a difference because my pre-baby weight was like 150-160. Thanks for sharing sis
I share almost the exact same story from beginning to end and lost 80 pounds doing everything you shared, recipes and all except the squash lol💜
Lol that’s incredible!!
I love your hair. The color is wonderful on you. Love the dark and then the color of your highlights. Very flattering.
Thank you so much!
This is super helpful. I’ve watched a lot of videos on weight loss and it’s all the same diet strategies, you touch on mental health and focus on your mind set and that is what I needed to hear. Thank you! You did an amazing job explaining everything.
Honesty doesn’t have to be brutal. Gentle compassion is the only way to make permanent healthy change.
I love your way of life and your mindset. You're such a sweet person. You have good energy around you.
you are so sweet thank you kristina!!
Thank you for confessing your sugar addiction. A lot of people deny that and it's a problem for a lot more than we know.
yes it is a true addiction thanks for watching!!
Thanks for these tips! As a current sugar addict I am ready to make these changes- thank you for the inspiration!!
Thanks for watching! Just know the first few days are the hardest so be really really gentle with yourself. There is light on the other side!!💕💕💕
So happy I just found your channel! Finally someone who is speaking my language! I’m ready. Ready to loose this 30lbs my way. You are a breath of fresh air and absolutely beautiful ❤❤❤
I saw your kitchen declutter video today and subscribed immediately! You are an amazing woman, and I admire you for your determination to make your life work the best for you! I look forward to seeing more of your videos! God bless you for sharing your journey with all of us!
Wow what a lovely message Leslie!!! Happy to have you here! Thank you for making my day!🥰🥰🥰🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I agree with the eating simple foods and meals on repeat. For years, my weight stayed the same, one thing I did was to eat simple and easy meals at home. However after 50 I started to gain a bit every year, but I noticed I moved les and less, so right now I am focusing on moving every day and eating more veggies. I try to keep the sugar to a minimum since I am addicted to sugar. I dont limit the fats too much but I never eat deep fried stuff. I use butter and olive oil , I dont use margarine at all, no hydrogenated oils. You are an inspiration, keep it up. I say it is better to get off the sugar addiction than getting bad health in our later years, it makes for a better life overall.
I just want to say this is probably the best weight loss video I’ve watched! Outlining the steps that helped you was great, i will start with figuring out my “truth”. Thank you!
so happy!! thank you!!xo
Hey Carla, Your ex's aunt was wrong on soo many levels for making that negative comment. Thank you for such an inspirational video. 🙂
Thank you for this! What you say resonates so much! You are spot on about being honest with yourself. That is such an important step. Mental health is also a big player. If you don't address the why's of over-eating you set yourself up for failure. I took myself to a psychologist and we've been doing brainwave recursive therapy and Cognitive behavioural therapy and it's done wonders. I totally know that these options are not available to everyone, but even if you do self-analysis you're taking a step in the right direction. In January I had a physical and blood tests done, to find out I had high blood pressure (thanks COVID stress), high insulin (baked goodies I'm looking at you) and elevated cholesterol. My mom had a heart attack a few years back, so all this was the wake up call I desperately needed. Since January I've lost 8kg. It's been slow going and I have another 30kg to go. Sucks being 40+ and trying to lose weight, plus pesky pre-menopausal hormones.... It's not easy but I will get there. Please keep posting these inspirational videos
It’s SO much harder after 40!!! I used to lose weight so fast. But yes you are right on. The inner work is the real work. Mentally emotionally spiritually. The no sugar is just for the physical cravings to go away but I can’t stay away unless I work on all the other stuff. Thanks love!!🙏🏾❤️
When you said focus on the life not the weight, that really hit deep! Thanks for the video ❤
Carla, I love your channel. Totally connect with you. This video on weight loss is awesome. Love the tips. I’m writing them in my journal. Which is my new hobby. I’m down 20 lbs. Thanks for sharing your truth. I’m a devout follower. Look forward to hearing more. ❤
Congratulations! That has to feel amazing!! I just started strength training last week, so I’ll definitely be updating on the channel as I incorporate more fitness into my weight loss journey❤️❤️
I absolutely loved this video! You're such a beautiful woman and you're very inspirational. I'm a sugar-addict and I'm going to seek out a support group for accountability!
All these comments about that aunt. This video may not have existed if that comment wasn't made . Now you're better than ever...for yourself. You're the one winning actually. 🙂
You are a beautiful woman now. I lost 12kgs doing intermittent fasting, so you just have to find the right answer for weightloss that works. I also had to reduce sugar, as I love chocolate but I can still have it on weekends without feeling guilty. Cheers from Australia 🇦🇺
You look 10 years younger since losing weight. You go girl! Super cute yellow linen jumper. Where'd ya get it?
Thanks love! Got it online at everlane!!
Hello, your looking good and going for more. You go girl.
Aw thank you Delia!! It’s going slow but I’ll probably start a workout challenge this summer!😊💕💃🏽
this is great! i think one of the most important things is letting go of the 'gotta lose it fast' mentality that keeps us on all the yo-yo diet cycle. small, sustainable lifestyle changes is the way to go! if you can't maintain that change for life, you aren't going to maintain the resulting weight loss for life either. such a simple concept but yet we all seem to struggle with it!
right now I'm mostly just focusing on eating real food at home, walking regularly and not denying or restricting to help repair my relationship with food. I'm down almost 30lbs :)
Totally agree! This is the first time I’ve maintained my weight loss for so long!! It doesn’t matter how much longer it takes me to lose the next 10 to 20 pounds because I feel good I like my food and I can fit in my clothes 😄 way better than crash diets and regaining
I needed this right now 🥰 Thank you for sharing your pain and your progress
You are so welcome thank you for watching!❤️
So inspiring! I know I'll come back to this video again and again and again. Can you do a full-length video on treating yourself like a newborn? Those of us who put everyone and everything before ourselves would love to learn more.
Omg. Thanks for sharing your journey. You look amazing.
Thank you so much Kienna!! 💕☺️
The struggle is real, ups and downs as always for me too.
Thank you for posting, you have a calming and warm presence yet motivating and inspiring, thank you. Your videos helped me get through many hard days😘
Im so happy to hear that!!❤️❤️
Love this video especially about creating a mental event. You look great! Love your asides, too. Lol
haha thank you sooo much!!
This makes total sense and came at just the right time. When you said you are a sugar addict, it just clicked for me. That’s my problem. And flour. Also, that food helps me sleep. I stopped snacking 2 nights ago and what a struggle! I was hyper and couldn’t sleep. I just put in a grocery order for real foods. Eliminated the sugar and snack items. I’m going to try to snack healthy and just buy healthy foods I like (limited ☹️). And I’m going to start getting medical massages again to get back into self care. I’m going to try to substitute doing things that make me feel good for eating things that I’m addicted to. Please wish me luck. 🙏🏻
I am wishing you so much luck!! And yes food was a sleeping pill and pain pill for me too. I would use it for everything. When I got off sugar and flour I had so much trouble sleeping that first week I had to take a sleeping pill. I had to do whatever I could to make it through. my body was WIRED without the sedation. The medical massages sound like wonderful self care ❤️😊❤️😊
@Carolyn Bulson - It's 7-23-22 and I'm wishing you luck wherever you are in your journey. : - )