Dan Savage in This American Life: Return to the Scene of the Crime
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- In April 2009, Dan Savage paid a visit to Ira Glass' This American Life during a special filmed episode broadcast live in HD to 430 movie theaters.
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The more I see, hear, read, know of Dan Savage, the more I know myself. What a touching tribute to your mom.
This video made me cry, and when it was finished I called both my parents and my little brother.
Wow! He made laugh, tear up and everything in between. He's talking about something so serious and touching and tinges it with humor in such a way that it adds rather than takes away. I'm a big fan of Dan's and this made me love him even more.
This was beautiful! Dan can be brutally sarcastic and funny, but he is also a great storyteller and brilliant writer.
Tears are streaming down my cheeks. Thank you for sharing this story, Dan. It sounds like your mother was extremely proud of you & the man you have become..
Seeing this in 2020 and it's still a powerful speech. So raw and open. I respect Dan so much for sharing this, and showing his pain and emotion. I'm watching this half an hour before taking my mother to hospital. It's a routine appointment but with the threat of Coronavirus this really hits home. God (or any other supreme power) bless you Dan! xXx
WOW.....THAT struck a nerve! I am also a "lapsed"
Catholic, and I lost my Mother a year ago. When you
got to 11:05, I almost thought you were going to
lose it.....I almost did. My Mother was at my sister's
place, in South Carolina, when she passed away. So,
my brothers and sisters had no chance to see her,
last January (2018). I was glad that most of us were able to
see her at Christmas. But there are times, when I wish
I could call her, or see her. What I have are words of
gratitude, because she avoided the Alzheimer's my Father
got, and lived to be 98 years old. But a part of me still
regrets...if I could just have a bit more time with her.
I want to give Dan a hug. Sorry for your loss.
While I know he's probably not reading these comments: I love you, Dan Savage. Thank you for your moving honesty.
I just lost my grandmother, and it's amazing how much I identify with all of this. I hope I can be strong like Dan and continue to resist being pulled back to the church.
i needed to cry, but didnt know until i watched this. I wish more people were like Dan
All I could think of was how this related to my story. thank you Dan Savage for your bravery in speaking on this subject. Thank you.
I love Dan - he's one of the good ones. I can totally relate - I had to tell my own mother on her deathbed that we all loved her and it was time to go...it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Hearing this from Dan makes me believe there's still good in the world.
I have watched this a half-dozen times and I still choke up as I watch.
The best spoken word piece in this century.
What a wonderful story! Thank you for sharing such a personal story to all of us, Dan!
Lord, he's so well spoken. I love the man.
well shit, I guess someone has been cutting onions in my room
Wow. I can relate to this SO deeply. I cannot fake it either. Still, I lit a candle in a cathedral in Italy and so wanted my late "good Catholic", mother to see it.
words are superfluous after that rendition so we just send Hugs xx
One of my all time favorites and I still cry each and every time I hear it.
Just when I thought I couldn't love Dan Savage any more...
It's 11 years since this speech, and it still makes me want to give him the tightest hug. I know that pain, that sense of loss, that aching void of their absence. I first heard this speech 4 years after losing my Gram, 13 years after losing my Grampa. They raised me, taught me how to love and trust again after a childhood of abuse, they meant the world to me and facing that world without them seemed impossible. Now, in my 60th year, I know for a fact that Gram is still with me. It is never more evident than those moments when I hear her coming out of my mouth.
It's been almost a year since my mother died of pulmonary fibrosis, a terrible way to go. She was an outspoken and unapologetic atheist, and yet I still miss her and remember her. I also like to think that she is out there somewhere, watching me, even though she would completely scoff at that notion. I hope someone hugged you after your talk. Thank you for your bravery.
Ariel Ocker: I know a family that has had to deal with the deaths of three of their own from pulmonary fibrosis - all within one year. You are correct. It is a terrible way to go.
Dan, if you're reading this: you've helped me so much over the years; I hope you find the peace you are searching for, wherever you can :)
Thank you, Dan. Your's is one of the saner voices in the world.
Beautiful work. I heard this today on NPR and it touched me. I laughed and cried. Hits really close to home. I also lost my mom way too early 23 months ago (also to a lung disease - PH). :( So sorry for your loss.
My mom and I are parallel to your story. I love you Daniel. You have always been a warrior to me.
I keep coming back to this video. Having recently lost my mum, I am not sure if it's torture, or for validation that someone else went through the same things I am. All I can say though is thank you Dan Savage!
He's awesome. How brave of him to tell this story.
Oh, Dan. I'm listening to the podcast from the very beginning, and went on a search tonight for the story of what happened to your amazing mother after your break from the podcast after her loss. I am so very sorry. I love the way you share though. I just want to go back and hug you.
Wow. That was so touching. Thank you for posting!
Here I am at 4 am in the morning,crying my eyes out,.....Loveyou Dan
I remember when I heard this on the podcast. On a trip to the Rocky Point beach and loved his story.
omg, your Mother rocks , Dan ..I see where you got your humor from. I am not gay but was raised in a Catholic school/Church and I so understand. My Mother too, was a perfect Catholic with a Irish sense of humor. R.I.P. to both our Moms.
Keep being you.
Dan Savage is brilliant!
I am so very very sorry about your mother. my mom still alive is on the same road though, suffering from emphysema each day we can tell its getting worse. it's hard to take and see but we must.
I came out to my mother, who was raised a born again Christian. I did not ever hear a word about hell, or sin, or wrath, or shame come out of her lips. She gave me a hug. I know how much it had to worry and bother her, I saw the sadness in her eyes , the AIDS pamphlet in her purse. Not a word of judgement. She left us all twenty years ago. One of the last sentences before she died was to call me 'blessed'. She did the best she possibly could to surround me with love, when the world attacked me. .
Sobbing. All lapsed Catholics feel this. Dan Savage, I love u!!
I tried to hold it my tears back, but I exercised one of my therapy sessions of “it’s okay to griefs” so I cried silently.
What an amazing mother.
Brilliant, brilliant, and more brilliant !
thank you Dan.
He's a special guy !
Masterful as usual. Thanks for the video!
So amazing.
Dan Savage is a national treasure.
I love Dan Savage. This is my favorite of his contributions to TAL.
The best writer, the kindest person
so powerful!
Wow, powerful stuff!
so touching .every wor; all I saw was my mother's face, each day closer to the inevitable for her too.
I want to hug DAN!!!
I have so much love for Dan. I wouldn't have been able to make it through that.
I luv dans writing,omg he is hawt too :)
Oh Dan, I can feel your pain... I'm so sorry for your loss! However, I'm glad that you didn't lapse back into catholicism with all its evil preachings. And thank you for mentioning Christopher Hitchens, makes me love you even more. Keep up all the good work you do, and may peace be in your heart.
Bless Dan Savage. So moving.
Good God, Dan Savage is not transphobic.
Such a strong individual. Feel the pain, it does ease eventually. At least you will have grieved. Religion denies that to people.
this is when Dan & his bf were buff .. love all his talks
I cried!
made me laugh, made me cry. it's better than....well, almost everything
who needs therapy with genius' like Dan to put 'shit' into perspective.
thanks for posting this.
I hope someone was there to hug him when he stepped off stage.
great man.
OMG ... i put this in my watch later list for a while just liking dan savage and storytelling. But the church he is referring to is ACROSS the street from a house I grew up in for years! Crazy
I routinely watch this and am always moved to tears. Shit.
those damn cutting onions ninjas! *tears*
I cried with you, Dan savage
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 I watched my Mom almost die 3 times over 7 years that she wasted away from Parkinsons in a nursing home because I wasn't rich and couldn't keep her at my home with round the clock care. A BIG hunk of your heart & soul die when your Mother does if you loved her and she was a good Mother. Saying goodbye to her is HELL ON EARTH.
Well...that was...killer. I admire him for sharing this. I lost my mother 4 months ago. Hard times.
St Ignacius de Loyola said ' Give me the boy, and I will give you the man' Dan, you were that boy.
I found Dan Savage's piece particularly moving. It also made me wonder if Dan Savage had ever considered Unitarian Universalism. I'm sure I'm not the first to suggest it. But hey, Dan - if you ever find yourself in DC, come check out All Souls Church. You won't be sorry.
Unlike his usual confrontational gay bravado (which I also like), this level of honesty is why I love Dan Savage. The biceps and cute mug don't hurt either (sorry Terry, I'm happily married too). Wish I'd had those final moments with my mom, and wish she'd jumped on the PFLAG bandwagon when I came out, but it didn't go that way. In fact, thanks to a barrage of conservative propaganda against my ilk, she passed from this life more confused and frightened by my existence than when I came out 24 years ago. Those talking points created a veritable border wall between us (the gays paid, if you're wondering) that became too high for either of us to scale. Maybe Ma Savage can explain things to her now that they're sharing space in the afterlife? Oh, I forgot. There is no afterlife. Shit.
Buddy Akin
Bob Head Yes?
MUMS LIVE ON FOREVER DAN!!! CHERISH HER MEMORY!!!
Yearning for the divine...the deepest of all human aspirations...may he find it, in whatever form it comes to him.
Fuck's sake, people.
Did you just watch a video about a man dealing with his faith, his love for his family, and his mother's death? I did. How about we all stop getting into little shitty snits about who's more right than everyone else?
I saw this when it showed in theaters, such an awesome show. How did you get this?!
If it wasn't dan savage, I really wouldn't have. But the most respectful thing you can do for Dan Savage is call a bigot out when they pop up.
Samuel Adams: But just because someone disagrees with you does not make them a bigot.
Damn it, who's cutting onions in here?
Absolutely. But call that person out for their bigotry. Don't shit on them for being religious, because you are then shitting on all the religious people who agree with you (i.e. Dan Savage's mom).
Look at the arguments happening on this page -- it's all "religious people are stupid!" and "non-religious people are stupid!"
How about we stop calling each other stupid? The fact it's not so cut and dry is what I got from Dan's video, am I alone here?
zammerjammer: You are not alone.
I love you...
welp, I'm crying.
That was incredibly inspiring.. Also, did anyone catch Ira saying "Fred Savage" at the end? Or was I just mishearing?
Difference is HE cares he is gay. He has every right to fight for what is right.
The scene of the crime was at the supreme court and the supreme court committed the crime. It made a political decision, not a constitutional decision as required by the constitution. This has happed before.
been searchin' the interwebs for this but i cant find the whole show anywhere :( anyone know how to get it?
heartbreaking
Those damn onions!
@jasonsaroyan Yeah, his grade school is St. Ignatius in Chicago, but the "modernist Catholic chapel" in Seattle he referred to I think may be the Chapel of St. Ignatius at Seattle University. I thought it was funny because Seattle U is really proud of the chapel's architecture, and I agree with his assessment of it, that it looks like the Brady house with a crucifix in it. Though aspects of it are beautiful.
When I watched this, it made me think of my own Mother...also a devout Catholic...who had died. Sometimes I think the same thing.
"Shit".
How many of us have trod this same path? Perhaps it could be addressed by... nah.
Hey, do you work out?
I was raised an Anglican (Catholic Lite) but when I evolved into an atheist I had no issue reconciling the deaths of my parents and some friends with the idea of no death after life. So I guess I dodged a bullet by not being born a catholic.
damn i look up to this guy sfm. i know he fucked up a few time but he's still a brilliant, brilliant guy
he's like the thinking man's david sedaris
"SHIT!" oxo
@najtrows looks like amazon is your best bet -- if you wanna just listen, google and you can listen to the entire show for free
omg woah. his story about how he went from catholic to atheist is so like mine, only without the sql for future priests and change being gay for just knowing gay people, and voilla. *sigh*
his mother tho :((
Science is based on the search for truth. For me, it means constantly questioning, reproducing, critiquing and attacking my own conclusions. It means the willingness to acccept conclusions that are unwelcome to me, and accepting the possibility that I'm wrong about literally everything. And on the rare occasion that I say something even a tenth as stupid as what you just said, I get embarrassed and delete it. I'd only ever be that idiotic in anger, and if someone did see it, I apologize.
If that's really the only sentiment you can offer after something so eloquent and humanizing, I truly feel sorry for you.