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I routinely watch this and am always moved to tears. Shit.

Thank you, Dan. Your's is one of the saner voices in the world.

I was raised an Anglican (Catholic Lite) but when I evolved into an atheist I had no issue reconciling the deaths of my parents and some friends with the idea of no death after life. So I guess I dodged a bullet by not being born a catholic.

The best writer, the kindest person

It's 11 years since this speech, and it still makes me want to give him the tightest hug. I know that pain, that sense of loss, that aching void of their absence. I first heard this speech 4 years after losing my Gram, 13 years after losing my Grampa. They raised me, taught me how to love and trust again after a childhood of abuse, they meant the world to me and facing that world without them seemed impossible. Now, in my 60th year, I know for a fact that Gram is still with me. It is never more evident than those moments when I hear her coming out of my mouth.

Dan Savage is a national treasure.

My mom and I are parallel to your story. I love you Daniel. You have always been a warrior to me.

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔 I watched my Mom almost die 3 times over 7 years that she wasted away from Parkinsons in a nursing home because I wasn't rich and couldn't keep her at my home with round the clock care. A BIG hunk of your heart & soul die when your Mother does if you loved her and she was a good Mother. Saying goodbye to her is HELL ON EARTH.

Brilliant, brilliant, and more brilliant !

Lord, he's so well spoken. I love the man.

I tried to hold it my tears back, but I exercised one of my therapy sessions of “it’s okay to griefs” so I cried silently.

Seeing this in 2020 and it's still a powerful speech. So raw and open. I respect Dan so much for sharing this, and showing his pain and emotion. I'm watching this half an hour before taking my mother to hospital. It's a routine appointment but with the threat of Coronavirus this really hits home. God (or any other supreme power) bless you Dan! xXx

One of my all time favorites and I still cry each and every time I hear it.

I came out to my mother, who was raised a born again Christian. I did not ever hear a word about hell, or sin, or wrath, or shame come out of her lips. She gave me a hug. I know how much it had to worry and bother her, I saw the sadness in her eyes , the AIDS pamphlet in her purse. Not a word of judgement. She left us all twenty years ago. One of the last sentences before she died was to call me 'blessed'. She did the best she possibly could to surround me with love, when the world attacked me. .

Wow. That was so touching. Thank you for posting!

When I watched this, it made me think of my own Mother...also a devout Catholic...who had died. Sometimes I think the same thing. "Shit".

~ A decade later, still even more relevant. Thank you, Dan Savage. Religion is toxic, period. Cheers, DAVEDJ ~

I have watched this a half-dozen times and I still choke up as I watch.

He's a special guy !

The scene of the crime was at the supreme court and the supreme court committed the crime. It made a political decision, not a constitutional decision as required by the constitution. This has happed before.

WOW.....THAT struck a nerve! I am also a "lapsed" Catholic, and I lost my Mother a year ago. When you got to 11:05, I almost thought you were going to lose it.....I almost did. My Mother was at my sister's place, in South Carolina, when she passed away. So, my brothers and sisters had no chance to see her, last January (2018). I was glad that most of us were able to see her at Christmas. But there are times, when I wish I could call her, or see her. What I have are words of gratitude, because she avoided the Alzheimer's my Father got, and lived to be 98 years old. But a part of me still regrets...if I could just have a bit more time with her.

Masterful as usual. Thanks for the video!

I pray that Dan Savage comes to know the love of Jesus Christ.

Bless Dan Savage. So moving.

OMG ... i put this in my watch later list for a while just liking dan savage and storytelling. But the church he is referring to is ACROSS the street from a house I grew up in for years! Crazy

I have so much love for Dan. I wouldn't have been able to make it through that.

I want to hug DAN!!!

thank you Dan.

All I could think of was how this related to my story. thank you Dan Savage for your bravery in speaking on this subject. Thank you.

heartbreaking

Dan Savage is brilliant!

Unlike his usual confrontational gay bravado (which I also like), this level of honesty is why I love Dan Savage. The biceps and cute mug don't hurt either (sorry Terry, I'm happily married too). Wish I'd had those final moments with my mom, and wish she'd jumped on the PFLAG bandwagon when I came out, but it didn't go that way. In fact, thanks to a barrage of conservative propaganda against my ilk, she passed from this life more confused and frightened by my existence than when I came out 24 years ago. Those talking points created a veritable border wall between us (the gays paid, if you're wondering) that became too high for either of us to scale. Maybe Ma Savage can explain things to her now that they're sharing space in the afterlife? Oh, I forgot. There is no afterlife. Shit.

welp, I'm crying.

I KNOW THE CASE OF A 7 YEAR OLD BOY WHO HANGED HIMSELF IN ORDER TO GO TO JESUS....

this is when Dan & his bf were buff .. love all his talks

Oh, Dan. I'm listening to the podcast from the very beginning, and went on a search tonight for the story of what happened to your amazing mother after your break from the podcast after her loss. I am so very sorry. I love the way you share though. I just want to go back and hug you.

well shit, I guess someone has been cutting onions in my room

I found Dan Savage's piece particularly moving. It also made me wonder if Dan Savage had ever considered Unitarian Universalism. I'm sure I'm not the first to suggest it. But hey, Dan - if you ever find yourself in DC, come check out All Souls Church. You won't be sorry.

Beautiful work. I heard this today on NPR and it touched me. I laughed and cried. Hits really close to home. I also lost my mom way too early 23 months ago (also to a lung disease - PH). :( So sorry for your loss.

I want to give Dan a hug. Sorry for your loss.

I cried!

I love you...

This is a very moving video. Obviously Dan is a very troubled man. But this video is not the real Dan. The man in this video deserves our sympathy and love. The real Dan is evil and his words burn in the ears of decent people.

I luv dans writing,omg he is hawt too :)

this is too moving

St Ignacius de Loyola said ' Give me the boy, and I will give you the man' Dan, you were that boy.

Such a strong individual. Feel the pain, it does ease eventually. At least you will have grieved. Religion denies that to people.

so powerful!

so touching .every wor; all I saw was my mother's face, each day closer to the inevitable for her too.

I am so very very sorry about your mother. my mom still alive is on the same road though, suffering from emphysema each day we can tell its getting worse. it's hard to take and see but we must.